Pastor is right… My 21year old son gets ridiculed and challenged for being his age, handsome, focused on his career in school but still a virgin. I raised my son right. My son values his body and goals. To this day he doesn’t care what others say and I’m grateful. As a single mom raising a man is not easy to God be the glory.
I was like your son young living for God focused on school finished got the 6 figure career got married at 34. I was a virgin utill then. I was ridiculed sometimes in my younger years but as I got older it never really came up. Raised by a single mother. God did it.
@@MrAntdog102688❤encouraging and I’m going to share this comment with my son so he can see this testimony. Really appreciate you sharing! God continue to bless you and your family! Thank you 🙏🏾
A man’s character, integrity, and respect for a woman are priceless. No amount of money or “things” can compare to a man who is truly committed to the Lord.
Hello hope you’re doing great I had been watching your prod cast how you are using it to reach out to the world that was so amazing but am sincerely want to asked this question after watching your future wifey I had this voice telling me to message you and asked you this questions which said Why are you afraid of commitment forgotten that no one is perfect You have to seek God’s face and asked him to help you see the right person he made for you because you need to shown examples of how you were transformed and get your own wifey you can’t continue to run away from it Settle down you are due for marriage trust me getting all the information how people connected married will not solve your problem you had to get married so this platform can be completed God bless you
I just came out of a relationship with a man that had potential. He was broken and I believed that God led me to him. He ended up breaking my heart and admitting that he wasn’t the man I thought he was and he never broke up with his previous girlfriend. I ended our engagement and recommended counseling. Most women have been wounded by broken men. I believe we all need to get the help needed before coming into a relationship.
I am lead to believe that many women “Mother” men. They stay in relationships, that we’re draining us for the wrong reasons. I don’t think many women went to the father God, about the relationship and his approval.
I had similar trauma I'm still tryna heal from. I never was soooooo sad in my life as I was after my break up. I really felt it had to be me and did a lot of soul searching and research on how to pick better and how to be better so I'm my type's type lol no luck so far but I trust God if it's in the cards for me it'll happen.
If “forever growing” is the potential we’re talking about for a man who is emotionally, mentally healthy, balanced with good work ethic and loves the Lord, then I’m completely down for potential! Nothing less!!
I think that people have to stop finger pointing and acting as if everything we do and has done was perfect! Sometimes just listening and self-reflection yields a truth even we have suppressed for fear of what it will say about self (accountability).
@@JM-qg9bo You're the only one "finger pointing "... she's obviously reflecting because she stated an issue and followed it up with the solution. How about YOU take your own advice??? Hush and listen.
There are plenty of good men out here these sistas don’t want them. Lame, short, corny, not alpha, doesn’t groom or dress the best. Women look for the wrong things in men. However in this safe space of a channel, they’ll delete my comments and continue to wonder why they struggle. Accountability is your friend.
Be anxious for nothing but with prayer and supplication make your request known unto God. Make peace with being a whole single person full of God's grace and peace.
@ladyloveishere1838 Right. Most of the time he's not. Be busy building yourself up in every way. And while you are out and about, walking in your calling. He will see you or if you will see him first. Then present that you are interested. Then let the man respond after that.
When the discussion shifted towards having children in your 40s, I lost it 😢. Ashaala Shanae expressed her thoughts with such eloquence and grace. Blessings to this sister. This encouraged me as I navigate my own journey, by God's grace.
Hands down the most entertaining and informative episode in a while. This was so good. We need part 2 from Bishop and this same panel. Great mix. I really love how the moderator keeps things flowing and fully loaded.
My sister in the green jacket said it well! Women should not be the ones responsible for " healing" the men. Broken men need the ear, support of their healed brothers to help them come to a great understand of who they are, and how to grow as faithful, strong men of God. The men have to go first! Please stop asking us women to be everything you need when your strenght and growth and wisdom can only be obtained from God, we have our own work to do.
Women understand the value of partnership. I think it's about TRUST, HONESTY AND INTEGRITY of the covering, partner, friend that leads to a solid God-lead marriage.
@@nikkibeee8191There are plenty of good men. They just don’t fit your standard of swag, height, etc. I’m a God fearing man, no one was checking for me until I was in my 40s. Then I was approached by women trying to beat the buzzer.
At 40 I gave up on marriage and children. I accepted that it wouldn't happen especially as I am not even seeing any single men within the Christian community. At almost 43 God said to me, "But I never said it wouldn't happen. It will." It's bee. 2.5 years since then and I'm still holding on that promise. It is hard watching the years come and Shanae's statement is so true, it can make you consider other options especially for children. BUT!! God is not a man, he cannot lie. So I'm going to keep trusting and believing for the promise.
People don't realize that it's OKAY to be single and Child-FREE. I am and I don't regret it. Most people who have children, do so for extremely selfish reasons (to have someone to take care of them in old age, to have a little 'mini-me', etc.ETC.) The 4B Movement is on the rise all over the world. 💯
When you are listening from a place of healing you can receive what's being said. I heard everything that the pastor said from a place of healing and it blessed my soul. Thank You!! Wow
@NonameNoname-lm2zg before going on a journey to forgive and heal I couldn't receive this type of info/teaching because I was broken and it made me the victim in my own eyes now, it didn't excuse the other person's part in the situation but I only saw their faults and not mine, that was the worse place I've ever been in because it made me so miserable. I have more self-awareness now and that helps me to make better choices along with trusting God the results are better than before because I'm viewing things through the healed version of myself. This was really good teaching for me
I’m so glad the ladies on the panel were not letting up on the “potential” conversation. I think the confusion is the use of the word potential. Someone not being in an ideal position but they have a certain mindset to want more is what a women should look at , not potential . The graveyard is full of people with wasted potential
34 and a half years, until she went to Glory on June 29th... through all the Changes of life, for better or worse, till death came between us lifting her to her rightful place in the Lord. I never stopped Loving her Body, her Mind, and her Spirit. To God be all the Glory...
I’ve been through the home going of my late husband. You will be in my prayers. 🙏 I loved him more each year we were married until the Lord called him home. God is and will be faithful.🙌
I don’t think most women are out here damaging men! Men need to be responsible for their own healing. As a society and Christian church needs to stop putting this onto the woman. EVERY please do your work and then we can both be whole and join together.
Potential is not the problem. Inability to execute is the problem. There has to be proof in one or more areas the person can execute from their skills, talent, and gifting. Capable Potential is fertile ground for planting "potent seed."
Reminds me of the guys that were given 5, 2 and 1 talent and the one with one did nothing with his! All of us have been given potential by God however, it's about what you do with what's given. May God give us discernment to know the difference 🙏 🙌
This was such a mature conversation. I so enjoyed this. I really pray that single women just find you something to do. Plant some flowers, do something different…. I hear people say connect and find married people and connect with them. I have heard married women and men say that they will not hang around single people. It is hard to find the secure Titus couple that are willing to help single people. Another good one Laterras👏🏾
I didn’t think about asking GOD. I did it on my own because he was in Church?! NOW I know it’s so clear but nobody said ask for this and that. Non negotiables someone who is sold out! Someone who Loves GOD like the air they breathe. Someone who could grow with me and raise our children with principles from the Word. I wished I knew my worth. I knew I was special but not worth my list. But in my heart I felt nobody is perfect but time would bring us to that point. It didn’t! We grew apart. I loved we both loved but being in love was not the level; however GOD worked it out that even though we divorced we could be friends. I tell my daughters and my son pray ask GOD waiting is Ok! Settling is not Ok. Peace is better than doubt, insecurity, and loneliness while in a relationship. This is Good!!!!!
Ashala Shanae....thank you thank you thank you for that breakdown of the broken man. I personally experienced that with the same man TWICE! OMG! I wish I could tell you my story with him. I'd speak positively into him and he would just brush it off like whatever. Then to see him treating the next 2 women better and ...It's just so much. I'm just left broken trying to help with healing this man that I love. 💔
God bless my sister (Ashayla) who understands the things of God and is not condemned by the standards of the world or swayed by the words of men who have not walked with God in the path she’s on while waiting for the Man of God for her. God is going to use this woman of God in ways she has not yet imagined. Your spirit comes through these airways and I’m feeling you. Although I’m married 40+ years there are things she can pour into other women that I may not be able because she has had to trust God for so much more in her singleness. Keep on holding on.❤
Powerful!! The High Earning Woman labeled as “crazy” because she is single!! It’s very prevalent in our community. That’s why so many are doing the cross-over to other races. Why is the automatic assumption that she is crazy….the reality is there are certain things she doesn’t HAVE to tolerate as some of our female ancestors did. Thank you for addressing this!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
The reality is that the cross-over isn't working either. They're NOT marrying bw. The other reality is that High Earning Woman doesn't equate to being a good companion! Maybe crazy is the wrong adjective to use in that situation. With the type of man that the high earning woman is going for, she most likely Unqualified and Intolerable. So an adjective along the lines of Delusional would be more befitting!
“Everything you are now, is everything that she needs from you but it has nothing to do with money. Date her not to be impressive but impactful.” L.W. 🔥🔥🔥 I married someone whose potential I perceived and worked my best to develop over almost 16 years of marriage. I did not realize when he turned against me because of the disparity between us educationally and financially in spite of so many years of marriage and 3 children. Money can always be made. A good husband is so much more than a breadwinner. The security and support that a good man brings to a woman is priceless. Never doubt that there are women that love the whole essence of a man and not just his earning potential.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
When you're in your late teens, french fries are awesome! My boyfriend and I used to go to the Chinese restaurant for our dates. Or he would take the train to pick me up from work, we would take the train back, then walk home together for an hour every night. Then he got a job at my 1st and 2nd jobs so we could go home together.
I was at the taping of the podcast. It was so great. I admired CB's humble demeanor. His countenance was meek, and his temperance was calm. Everyone on the panel was great. It was nice to meet Laterras.
When folks ramble during the questions, my skin itches… lol! They see time is ticking, and are given GENTLE reminders, YET run like a never ending fountain! Wow! Some try to control the flow bring specific as to what they want the audience to do. Hats off to LW for graciously steering the podcast! This has to be difficult! You have the fruit of the spirit in operation King!
What I saw was a man who couldn’t spit the truth for fear of losing his female audience. Given the demographics, the brotha never had a chance. A more substantial discussion would have involved men and women. You know how corporate women are afraid to offend their male bosses? Yeah, this is that.
I'm an older woman 60 yrs I've never been married, no kids. I desire to be married, and I'm okay with not having a child at this season in my life. If it's the Father's will, my suitable mate will come.
Love do I’m not judging you but do you ever ask GOD do you have a spiritual husband because a lot of Christian have spiritual husband that’s keeping them away from their husband or wife that’s why deliverance is very important in the church and same time you have to look in your bloodline to see what going
Yes!! So many people were married for years and it fall apart...then never consider if God brought that union together in the beginning. It doesn't matter how long its been....the important thing is....did God bring them together
All respect to the Bishop, but telling a woman she needs to first be "suitable" seems out of order to me. When Eve was presented to Adam, he wasn't broken and in need of fixing. He was whole and everything was already in place. He just needed help managing it. And that's why God gave him Eve as a suitable helpmeet. But her job was to help NOT fix.
And what happened, instead of being the helpmeet that GOD gave him, she desired something else & listened to Satan instead, so really who was really broken? Please reread that scripture, neither one of us come fully healed & since the fall of man in the garden, i believe GOD intended it that way, cause her response sounded she held the moral authority over a man.
@scorchedearth824 I fail to see how that negates my original point. Her job still wasn't to fix him or anything. God does the fixing. The man is the head, so order starts with him. When the fruit was eaten God didn't ask Eve where she was, He asked Adam because that's who He gave the command to: The head. And marriage is the mirror of Christ relationship with the church. Christ is the Head, the church is the bride/body. The church is not supposed to fix Christ, and the woman/wife is not supposed to fix the man/husband.
@erikamatthews3622 Who you think told Eve what GOD commanded, but did she listen to Adam, & Adam wasn't complete because everything else was being fruitful & multiplying except Adam, that's why GOD said it's not good for man to be alone. My sister think about it, Eve wanted to be the head & unfortunately that is the problem we have today within our marriages & relationships
@@scorchedearth824you clearly want to debate and I'm not on that so I'll just drop it off here before I bid you adeu: Being fruitful and multiplying has nothing to do with being complete as a person. There are plenty of broken people out here producing children. But if you go back and reread what you wrote, you'll see you inadvertently agreed with me. You identified the main problem is women wanting to be the head. And you're right, that is a problem because going back to my original point, the man is the head. But my main point (which is what you seem to be missing which is why I'm deading the conversation) is that it is not the woman's job to fix the man as the Bishop stated. Only God can fix people. And God did have everything in place and prepared for Adam, and it was AFTER that when He determined that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone and that he needed HELP... not fixing but help in managing what was there, and help in multiplying to fill the Earth. But producing people to fill the earth was not Eve fixing Adam. One has absolutely nothing to do with the other. I hope you have a wonderfully blessed day.
This was the greatest panel that truly helped me see the positiveness in marriages and relationships. Thanks Laterras for another outstanding panel and topic.
I like the comments about sowing into marriage. Two role models I consider as mentors are Pastor RC and Lady Lisa Blakes ❤. I am so glad they were featured on a past podcast!!!!!!
1:13:38 a 20 yr old offering a small gesture is very different than a 35/40 yr old offering. At 20 years old, that’s all the Bishop could offer. It depends on where everyone is and what phase of life certain things should or should not be acceptable to a person.
Thank you for saying this. I felt like a bit too much time spent on finding love at 19/20 when most of the singles in the room and watching are much older. The approach simply isn’t the same. It can be close but it’s certainly different.
Folk tell me I’m unrealistic in desiring a friend, lover, husband soul-helpmate and covering all in one man…. But I believe in that… that in itself is a ministry and I wanna be with someone that can be adventurous, spiritual and normal lol that can not just be a blessing in the relationship but pour out and bless others… that only happens if the relationship is real (solid)…
I’m a man and i dont even really agree with bishop on that one, im a firm believer that as a man the only person who’s love can lift me out of my past hurt and trauma is Jesus christ! now God may direct me to therapy but definitely time in Gods presence and in worship God is a healer emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, physically, maybe i’m wrong but i don’t see God sending a wife to heal me, maybe educate me, give me a different perspective on life, etc but not healing me of trauma. Also i disagree on the “putting adam” to sleep also, what i see in the word is the first thing God did for adam is gave him assignments or work, naming all the animals and dressing and keeping the garden before he ever brought eve
I love you so much, great Bishop. Absolutely this happened to me. Pastor force me to get married to a man that I don’t even know and she told me I will be happy. I refused and she did everything to frustrate me. I’m so happy that I’m stay in the faith and I am so grateful to God for the grace he has given to me to love Jesus❤️💕😇 genuinely
Gentlemen. Please acknowledge and become healed from your woundedness. Whatever that is, whenever it occurred. God can do it if only you will let Him. Your wives and partners do not deserve to be the object of your trauma. It hurts. Literally.
I was married for the first time at 45 (someone thought I was 26 in my wedding picture) years old. I WAS NOT getting married UNLESS God wanted me to be. I wanted God to choose my husband. I am still keeping faith that God will still bless us with our own natural children, however, I feel compelled to foster and adopt.
I absolutely love this podcast very informative. At 49 years old I’m still learning and really enjoyed listening to everyone. I could listen to the Bishop all day he’s very wise and hilarious 😂😂😂. Would love to see part two with the same panel. 🙏🏼
My God This was a powerful event. I’m a Pastor’s wife and so many things resonated with me as well as stomped me. Bless you guys for using your gift, authenticity and courage to have such a hard conversation at the Faith Center. This was and is so needed!!
This was exceptionally good. From beginning to the end, every part is so valuable!!!!! Dr Lynn and CB gave me so much life. David and I have a lot to talk about tonight. ❤❤❤❤❤
Bishop used him and his wife as an example for “potential” when they were only 19 years old. Back At 19 I too was sharing a meal with my high school sweetheart because we had nothing else. You can’t expect much else at that age. HOWEVER, now at 31 years old??? Oh no, I am not looking for potential anymore, that is not in my ministry. God has worked on me too much and for too long, for me to extend my grace to someone with the POTENTIAL to set me back to the person I used to be before God worked on me. If there is potential for good, there is also potential for bad. I need me a man that is as sure and ground as God has allowed me to be.
I feel that the panel and the audience did not handle the lady with the 5 husbands with care. Such mockery she received for sharing her story. That was sad for me watch. When she does come to Dear Future Wifey, please handle her with care Lateras.
@ndalamamashabele5956. I disagree. She wanted to tell her story, they didn't have the time. That's a whole other podcast for her to tell her story. Maybe they will have another and bring her back.
Please interview K.D. Bowe he has a non-profit called “Man Up.” His group answers the charge of mentoring for other men. Please please look him up. He is very serious about the work and seeding into others..
Another great panel discussion and I love the audience questions. I have 1 suggestion for you and your team, as a presenter in higher education for senior leaders and students I present weekly. I would suggest your team give the audience a index card with their 1 question and your team reviews prior to audience Q & A. Have the audience member's understand the guidelines (prior to coming to the mic) of 20-30 seconds for 1 question on their index card for you or the panelist. Great job and I love season 9. Keep up the great work!
Excuse my French but man I laughed my A** off at this episode 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 maannnnn this was a good one! Laterras PLEASE interview that woman who’s been married 5 times. I’m interested in hearing her story
Maybe she’s picking or attracted to bad men? Most Christian marriages I know are still going after many years. There are good men out there you all pick wrong.
@@josephjohnson1057 that’s why I said that I’m interested in hearing her story! Clearly she picked wrong if she’s been married all those times 🤦🏽♀️ that doesn’t mean that God can’t use her to help single women to pick right after hearing the mistakes she has made
Wow, this Pastor just nearly on the wall amazing very right the marriage is not all about the wedding dresses or the Diamont ring marriage is more than that hallelujah thanks a bunch pastor Sir ❤❤❤
Bishop Fernandez, thank you for allowing Latteras to grace your stage with his podcast. 👍🏽❤ This panel was amazing! I have a deep love for men getting healed and transforming into the MAN God desires. Calling ALL MEN, make your way to The Potter's House of Dallss, Tx. TX. October 17th - 19th to attend the "As A Man Thinketh Conference." Bishop Jakes would love to see you. Be healed & remain blessed. ❤👑
I LOVED this panel! The realness was REAL. The one thing that I did notice is when the woman said she had been married 5 times, I do understand people reacting, especially if you have never known someone who has been married that number of times. It was announced that it was a safe space and place, but it really wasn't. I am glad she is self-assured AND unbothered!!!😂😂😂 Excellent episode, nonetheless.
WOW WOW WOW.....I just heard the intro of this woman talking and she already was DROPPIN GEMS 💎...BARS!!!!!! Now, I need to listen to the entire podcast. Thank you... L.R.W love your shows ❤️
MEN!!! You should'n't expect for somebody else's grown daughters to want you if you wouldnt want the kind of man that you are for your daughters and mother!! Trear women the way you want a man to treat your daughters! Yall keep using that couple as an example but she was only 28 when she met him. They had lots of room for growth. Most 28 yr olds are just getting a rhythm. She said was already a millionaire at 26.. But they were young back then and much much older now! The majority of people on that panel are older folks. Why are yall still talking and giving speeches as if yall are in your 20s? Why you...Bishop, keep making excuses for men in their 40s and 50s still outside playing and expect women to still want them. Know your audience and give advice accordingly.
But who else to give advice then the older folks who have achieved what you desired? I think what the bishop was trying to get across is that you have to make room for your husband's imperfections. I hear a lot of younger women wanting this fairy tale. Thinking that men w/money & degrees=successful marriages automatically. 2 people joining as 1 takes work. I believe he was trying to say don't beat down your partner & be impatient while they are building themselves. If you can't handle building w/someone good bad & ugly you shouldn't get married bc life happens.
@@love7ies87 Imperfections are not you cheating, or beating us, or talking crazy to us, or wasting our money, or not cleaning up after yourself or helping with your kids.
@ReneeDeane But imperfections are just that. I don't advocate for staying w/someone who beats you & I understand some people will leave for cheating. But people want marriage not thinking of the work it takes for 2 to become 1. You come to it w/your own imperfections & work together to make it work. Sometimes women talk crazy to their spouse, nag or w/hold xes & do other imperfect things but all they see is what the man does wrong. Again it takes work to stay on the same page.
OMG....yesssss, I remember her now. I used to buy her jewelry all the time. Wowwww!!! I love how God has her speaking to my spirit now, after being drawn to her (and not even knowing why) way back then.
it will be a breath of fresh air to be received showing up in my fullness and not feeling guilty about my power and being joyful in my feminine energy. The covering, the support is a desire but 10 yrs ago God taught me, "what if you are a wife to a nightmare?" Shocked me to Wake up. In real life I get lonely. I remember Jesus is my bridge over troubled waters and my lighthouse in the storm so i am never Alone. neva...."layers and layers"😲Wow i def got wounded Lord I thank you for insight from your vessels both sides Laterras y'all showed out I need another show with each one of them on this panel💓
I love hearing older souls talk about love and what they been through the stories are funny, beautiful,wise and knowledgeable at the same time. LOVE is so beautiful, no matter my past hurts from others I still believe in love and my husband is coming this year I’m ready for you babe. ❤my advice to anyone that has been hurt, take time out to yourself, admit what hurt you day by day be committed to learning YOI all over again and this time our god in it
I really hate that people keep telling women to date struggling men without a dime. Women have been taking chances with these types of men without any positive outcomes for decades. It’s a big gamble with your future and life. People should have a solid foundation before entering into romantic relationships
Great conversation. I'm recently out of an abusive relationship (Covert Narc) it hurts just to listen to this conversation. I'll pause this until after my healing.
These men are so dismissive of the reality of women’s experiences. A lot of women waste years on potential. Men tend to dislike and reject the woman who helped them. Women with spend years 18 to 35 dating potential. Building men up and then men leave them so they have a fresh woman who looks up at them in awe. When you know the hard times, you pushed a man past his comfort level and you are 1/2 the reason he is great. Most. Do. Not. Like. It. Some won’t even allow you to help and then break up and do exactly what you were suggesting them. Then they go heal, get therapy, invest in themselves and how they look. Men have a serious issue Christian or not with using women for their gain. Although this conversation was good to hear…man 1 pastor who got married at 19(still a child), 1 who had admitted to using his ex up, 1 man who is single giving the excuse that god will tell him. The man who is on stage married that seemed to make an adult choice… contradicts the advice men are giving women. The married woman was intentional on a healed, secure, and financially stable man. I’m not saying skip potential but men have to already be on their path. Just my true belief
Pastor is right… My 21year old son gets ridiculed and challenged for being his age, handsome, focused on his career in school but still a virgin. I raised my son right. My son values his body and goals. To this day he doesn’t care what others say and I’m grateful. As a single mom raising a man is not easy to God be the glory.
AMEN QUEEN 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I was like your son young living for God focused on school finished got the 6 figure career got married at 34. I was a virgin utill then. I was ridiculed sometimes in my younger years but as I got older it never really came up. Raised by a single mother. God did it.
Amen❤! I am very proud of him and you for raising him.
@@MrAntdog102688❤encouraging and I’m going to share this comment with my son so he can see this testimony. Really appreciate you sharing! God continue to bless you and your family! Thank you 🙏🏾
I feel you my son is 19 and still a virgin too
The first wife is not “the experiment” for the second wife. No, sir.
A man’s character, integrity, and respect for a woman are priceless. No amount of money or “things” can compare to a man who is truly committed to the Lord.
Well said.
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Hello hope you’re doing great I had been watching your prod cast how you are using it to reach out to the world that was so amazing but am sincerely want to asked this question after watching your future wifey
I had this voice telling me to message you and asked you this questions which said Why are you afraid of commitment forgotten that no one is perfect
You have to seek God’s face and asked him to help you see the right person he made for you because you need to shown examples of how you were transformed and get your own wifey you can’t continue to run away from it
Settle down you are due for marriage trust me getting all the information how people connected married will not solve your problem you had to get married so this platform can be completed God bless you
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Amen❤❤❤!
I just came out of a relationship with a man that had potential. He was broken and I believed that God led me to him. He ended up breaking my heart and admitting that he wasn’t the man I thought he was and he never broke up with his previous girlfriend. I ended our engagement and recommended counseling. Most women have been wounded by broken men. I believe we all need to get the help needed before coming into a relationship.
I am lead to believe that many women “Mother” men. They stay in relationships, that we’re draining us for the wrong reasons. I don’t think many women went to the father God, about the relationship and his approval.
100%
How can that be a man of potential?????
I had similar trauma I'm still tryna heal from. I never was soooooo sad in my life as I was after my break up. I really felt it had to be me and did a lot of soul searching and research on how to pick better and how to be better so I'm my type's type lol no luck so far but I trust God if it's in the cards for me it'll happen.
If “forever growing” is the potential we’re talking about for a man who is emotionally, mentally healthy, balanced with good work ethic and loves the Lord, then I’m completely down for potential! Nothing less!!
I refuse to build another man to leave and be great for another woman. Potential is not my assignment and I’m not settling any more 🙌🏾
I think that people have to stop finger pointing and acting as if everything we do and has done was perfect! Sometimes just listening and self-reflection yields a truth even we have suppressed for fear of what it will say about self (accountability).
Amen
Exactly, the gaslighting was insane but the women saw through it😂
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You're the only one "finger pointing "... she's obviously reflecting because she stated an issue and followed it up with the solution. How about YOU take your own advice??? Hush and listen.
Agreed!!!
Single is not a disease. Enjoy your singleness!
AMEN!!!!
I'm enjoying as well and.... i have Peace 😊
And serve the Lord.😊
Amen 🙏🏽 🙏🏽
I Loveeee my singleness. When GOD sends the RIGHT GOD FEARING MAN. I will indulge in my HEALTHY SINGLENESS JOURNEY. To God be the Glory! 10/5/24
Broken is not a position to build. Fix then build. I will not be fixing men. That's for God, therapy and other men to do.
That part💯💯💯💯
Then I hope you have no sons to raise.
your single and have been for a long time aren't you?
Trouble is what do you mean by broken?Some women panelists implied there was a financial aspect.
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"your"....and what she said is 💯 TRUTH. We're not in the "Build-A-Bear/Build-A-Man" business 🙄
There a tremendous need for companionship in that church. Lord send Godly men for these women who are waiting on you.
I agree.
In Jesus name❤🙏🏾
Amen. And Godly women for the men who desire it.
There are plenty of good men out here these sistas don’t want them. Lame, short, corny, not alpha, doesn’t groom or dress the best. Women look for the wrong things in men. However in this safe space of a channel, they’ll delete my comments and continue to wonder why they struggle. Accountability is your friend.
Sadly that’s in most African American churches. Mostly women single with/without children.😢
Be anxious for nothing but with prayer and supplication make your request known unto God. Make peace with being a whole single person full of God's grace and peace.
This is my mantra
I am 46 years enjoying life. If God brings me my person fine, if my person never comes I’m okay ❤
Same here 46, an empty nester, and enjoying life.
Me too! I will be 46 in October, & yes, enjoying life! I’m an empty nester too, & chillin’!
I love this!
People who sit back & say/believe God going to send you someone. Just know he is not. God is there to give approval.
@ladyloveishere1838 Right. Most of the time he's not. Be busy building yourself up in every way. And while you are out and about, walking in your calling. He will see you or if you will see him first. Then present that you are interested. Then let the man respond after that.
When the discussion shifted towards having children in your 40s, I lost it 😢.
Ashaala Shanae expressed her thoughts with such eloquence and grace. Blessings to this sister. This encouraged me as I navigate my own journey, by God's grace.
God loves you and he catches every last one of your tears that has dropped one more day one more step remember. I thank God for your life
Bishop Fernandez gave TRUE WISDOM & GENUINE SPIRIT. Potential Never Subtracts!!
Hands down the most entertaining and informative episode in a while. This was so good. We need part 2 from Bishop and this same panel. Great mix. I really love how the moderator keeps things flowing and fully loaded.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Agreed
My sister in the green jacket said it well! Women should not be the ones responsible for " healing" the men. Broken men need the ear, support of their healed brothers to help them come to a great understand of who they are, and how to grow as faithful, strong men of God. The men have to go first! Please stop asking us women to be everything you need when your strenght and growth and wisdom can only be obtained from God, we have our own work to do.
Social media can cause people to go outside of God's will. God's timing is everything.
Women understand the value of partnership. I think it's about TRUST, HONESTY AND INTEGRITY of the covering, partner, friend that leads to a solid God-lead marriage.
We do!! We are just not settling anymore!
@@nikkibeee8191There are plenty of good men. They just don’t fit your standard of swag, height, etc. I’m a God fearing man, no one was checking for me until I was in my 40s. Then I was approached by women trying to beat the buzzer.
@@nikkibeee8191if you use the word partnership instead of marriage, I'd argue you've already "settled" 👍🏿
“Don’t ever give up on a promise of God”….. I believe, I receive and that settles it 🙏🏽🙌🏽
At 40 I gave up on marriage and children. I accepted that it wouldn't happen especially as I am not even seeing any single men within the Christian community. At almost 43 God said to me, "But I never said it wouldn't happen. It will." It's bee. 2.5 years since then and I'm still holding on that promise. It is hard watching the years come and Shanae's statement is so true, it can make you consider other options especially for children. BUT!! God is not a man, he cannot lie. So I'm going to keep trusting and believing for the promise.
People
don't
realize
that it's
OKAY to be single and Child-FREE. I am and I don't regret it. Most people who have children, do so for extremely selfish reasons (to have someone to take care of them in old age, to have a little 'mini-me', etc.ETC.) The 4B Movement is on the rise all over the world. 💯
When you are listening from a place of healing you can receive what's being said. I heard everything that the pastor said from a place of healing and it blessed my soul. Thank You!! Wow
Who made the women experts on who needs healing and who doesn't?..
@NonameNoname-lm2zg before going on a journey to forgive and heal I couldn't receive this type of info/teaching because I was broken and it made me the victim in my own eyes now, it didn't excuse the other person's part in the situation but I only saw their faults and not mine, that was the worse place I've ever been in because it made me so miserable. I have more self-awareness now and that helps me to make better choices along with trusting God the results are better than before because I'm viewing things through the healed version of myself. This was really good teaching for me
I’m so glad the ladies on the panel were not letting up on the “potential” conversation. I think the confusion is the use of the word potential. Someone not being in an ideal position but they have a certain mindset to want more is what a women should look at , not potential . The graveyard is full of people with wasted potential
I agree. Much respect for Pastor Hernandez but that was not IT.
34 and a half years, until she went to Glory on June 29th... through all the Changes of life, for better or worse, till death came between us lifting her to her rightful place in the Lord. I never stopped Loving her Body, her Mind, and her Spirit. To God be all the Glory...
I’ve been through the home going of my late husband. You will be in my prayers. 🙏
I loved him more each year we were married until the Lord called him home. God is and will be faithful.🙌
I don’t think most women are out here damaging men! Men need to be responsible for their own healing. As a society and Christian church needs to stop putting this onto the woman. EVERY please do your work and then we can both be whole and join together.
Potential is not the problem. Inability to execute is the problem. There has to be proof in one or more areas the person can execute from their skills, talent, and gifting. Capable Potential is fertile ground for planting "potent seed."
Reminds me of the guys that were given 5, 2 and 1 talent and the one with one did nothing with his! All of us have been given potential by God however, it's about what you do with what's given. May God give us discernment to know the difference 🙏 🙌
This was such a mature conversation. I so enjoyed this. I really pray that single women just find you something to do. Plant some flowers, do something different…. I hear people say connect and find married people and connect with them. I have heard married women and men say that they will not hang around single people. It is hard to find the secure Titus couple that are willing to help single people. Another good one Laterras👏🏾
It’s the security in literally walking out that potential, we women will walk with you until the end of the earth!
I didn’t think about asking GOD. I did it on my own because he was in Church?! NOW I know it’s so clear but nobody said ask for this and that. Non negotiables someone who is sold out! Someone who Loves GOD like the air they breathe. Someone who could grow with me and raise our children with principles from the Word. I wished I knew my worth. I knew I was special but not worth my list. But in my heart I felt nobody is perfect but time would bring us to that point. It didn’t! We grew apart. I loved we both loved but being in love was not the level; however GOD worked it out that even though we divorced we could be friends. I tell my daughters and my son pray ask GOD waiting is Ok! Settling is not Ok. Peace is better than doubt, insecurity, and loneliness while in a relationship. This is Good!!!!!
I tried. I married potential in my first marriage. He subtracted. And I divided. Goodbye, sir. Ladies and gentlemen--- Be careful with potential.
Did you filed for divorced?
@@denz310
Yes. That's why she said "...I divided... Goodbye, Sir." Lol
God hates divorce but go off.
Ashala Shanae....thank you thank you thank you for that breakdown of the broken man. I personally experienced that with the same man TWICE! OMG! I wish I could tell you my story with him. I'd speak positively into him and he would just brush it off like whatever. Then to see him treating the next 2 women better and ...It's just so much. I'm just left broken trying to help with healing this man that I love. 💔
God bless my sister (Ashayla) who understands the things of God and is not condemned by the standards of the world or swayed by the words of men who have not walked with God in the path she’s on while waiting for the Man of God for her. God is going to use this woman of God in ways she has not yet imagined. Your spirit comes through these airways and I’m feeling you. Although I’m married 40+ years there are things she can pour into other women that I may not be able because she has had to trust God for so much more in her singleness. Keep on holding on.❤
Powerful!! The High Earning Woman labeled as “crazy” because she is single!! It’s very prevalent in our community. That’s why so many are doing the cross-over to other races. Why is the automatic assumption that she is crazy….the reality is there are certain things she doesn’t HAVE to tolerate as some of our female ancestors did. Thank you for addressing this!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
The reality is that the cross-over isn't working either. They're NOT marrying bw. The other reality is that High Earning Woman doesn't equate to being a good companion! Maybe crazy is the wrong adjective to use in that situation. With the type of man that the high earning woman is going for, she most likely Unqualified and Intolerable. So an adjective along the lines of Delusional would be more befitting!
Potential never subtracts 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
“Everything you are now, is everything that she needs from you but it has nothing to do with money. Date her not to be impressive but impactful.” L.W. 🔥🔥🔥 I married someone whose potential I perceived and worked my best to develop over almost 16 years of marriage. I did not realize when he turned against me because of the disparity between us educationally and financially in spite of so many years of marriage and 3 children. Money can always be made. A good husband is so much more than a breadwinner. The security and support that a good man brings to a woman is priceless. Never doubt that there are women that love the whole essence of a man and not just his earning potential.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Well said. Amen
PREACH!!!!! Personal Relationship with God!!!! That is KEY! Come on Bishop!!!
When you're in your late teens, french fries are awesome! My boyfriend and I used to go to the Chinese restaurant for our dates. Or he would take the train to pick me up from work, we would take the train back, then walk home together for an hour every night. Then he got a job at my 1st and 2nd jobs so we could go home together.
I think French fries are sweet, he thought of her while he was there and it could have been her favorite treat ❤
Awww, that’s so sweet!
I was at the taping of the podcast. It was so great. I admired CB's humble demeanor. His countenance was meek, and his temperance was calm. Everyone on the panel was great. It was nice to meet Laterras.
Hehe- hiiiiiii Charmaine!! 😂❤
When folks ramble during the questions, my skin itches… lol! They see time is ticking, and are given GENTLE reminders, YET run like a never ending fountain! Wow! Some try to control the flow bring specific as to what they want the audience to do. Hats off to LW for graciously steering the podcast! This has to be difficult! You have the fruit of the spirit in operation King!
What I saw was a man who couldn’t spit the truth for fear of losing his female audience. Given the demographics, the brotha never had a chance. A more substantial discussion would have involved men and women. You know how corporate women are afraid to offend their male bosses? Yeah, this is that.
I'm an older woman 60 yrs
I've never been married, no kids. I desire to be married, and I'm okay with not having a child at this season in my life. If it's the Father's will, my suitable mate will come.
Love do I’m not judging you but do you ever ask GOD do you have a spiritual husband because a lot of Christian have spiritual husband that’s keeping them away from their husband or wife that’s why deliverance is very important in the church and same time you have to look in your bloodline to see what going
I got u queen 🙏
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Man, Bishop was doing so well and then he lost it. Ashayla came through with a great response and the lady in green dress put the cherry on top!
He never had it as far as I'm concerned
Yes!! So many people were married for years and it fall apart...then never consider if God brought that union together in the beginning. It doesn't matter how long its been....the important thing is....did God bring them together
100 %
Can I get an AMEN?! 💯 👏🏿 🙌🏿
Simple thoughtfulness is priceless!❤
All respect to the Bishop, but telling a woman she needs to first be "suitable" seems out of order to me. When Eve was presented to Adam, he wasn't broken and in need of fixing. He was whole and everything was already in place. He just needed help managing it. And that's why God gave him Eve as a suitable helpmeet. But her job was to help NOT fix.
You better teach sis❤❤❤😂
And what happened, instead of being the helpmeet that GOD gave him, she desired something else & listened to Satan instead, so really who was really broken? Please reread that scripture, neither one of us come fully healed & since the fall of man in the garden, i believe GOD intended it that way, cause her response sounded she held the moral authority over a man.
@scorchedearth824 I fail to see how that negates my original point. Her job still wasn't to fix him or anything. God does the fixing. The man is the head, so order starts with him. When the fruit was eaten God didn't ask Eve where she was, He asked Adam because that's who He gave the command to: The head. And marriage is the mirror of Christ relationship with the church. Christ is the Head, the church is the bride/body. The church is not supposed to fix Christ, and the woman/wife is not supposed to fix the man/husband.
@erikamatthews3622
Who you think told Eve what GOD commanded, but did she listen to Adam, & Adam wasn't complete because everything else was being fruitful & multiplying except Adam, that's why GOD said it's not good for man to be alone. My sister think about it, Eve wanted to be the head & unfortunately that is the problem we have today within our marriages & relationships
@@scorchedearth824you clearly want to debate and I'm not on that so I'll just drop it off here before I bid you adeu: Being fruitful and multiplying has nothing to do with being complete as a person. There are plenty of broken people out here producing children. But if you go back and reread what you wrote, you'll see you inadvertently agreed with me. You identified the main problem is women wanting to be the head. And you're right, that is a problem because going back to my original point, the man is the head. But my main point (which is what you seem to be missing which is why I'm deading the conversation) is that it is not the woman's job to fix the man as the Bishop stated. Only God can fix people. And God did have everything in place and prepared for Adam, and it was AFTER that when He determined that it wasn't good for Adam to be alone and that he needed HELP... not fixing but help in managing what was there, and help in multiplying to fill the Earth. But producing people to fill the earth was not Eve fixing Adam. One has absolutely nothing to do with the other. I hope you have a wonderfully blessed day.
This was the greatest panel that truly helped me see the positiveness in marriages and relationships. Thanks Laterras for another outstanding panel and topic.
Go Ashaala!!!! I pray for you SO often! That GOD sends you your king! 💜
I like the comments about sowing into marriage. Two role models I consider as mentors are Pastor RC and Lady Lisa Blakes ❤. I am so glad they were featured on a past podcast!!!!!!
Great panel!!! I love this podcasts!❤ This is for EVERYONE!!👏🏽✨️
1:13:38 a 20 yr old offering a small gesture is very different than a 35/40 yr old offering. At 20 years old, that’s all the Bishop could offer. It depends on where everyone is and what phase of life certain things should or should not be acceptable to a person.
Thank you for saying this. I felt like a bit too much time spent on finding love at 19/20 when most of the singles in the room and watching are much older. The approach simply isn’t the same. It can be close but it’s certainly different.
Folk tell me I’m unrealistic in desiring a friend, lover, husband soul-helpmate and covering all in one man…. But I believe in that… that in itself is a ministry and I wanna be with someone that can be adventurous, spiritual and normal lol that can not just be a blessing in the relationship but pour out and bless others… that only happens if the relationship is real (solid)…
I’m a man and i dont even really agree with bishop on that one, im a firm believer that as a man the only person who’s love can lift me out of my past hurt and trauma is Jesus christ! now God may direct me to therapy but definitely time in Gods presence and in worship God is a healer emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, physically, maybe i’m wrong but i don’t see God sending a wife to heal me, maybe educate me, give me a different perspective on life, etc but not healing me of trauma.
Also i disagree on the “putting adam” to sleep also, what i see in the word is the first thing God did for adam is gave him assignments or work, naming all the animals and dressing and keeping the garden before he ever brought eve
I love you so much, great Bishop. Absolutely this happened to me. Pastor force me to get married to a man that I don’t even know and she told me I will be happy. I refused and she did everything to frustrate me. I’m so happy that I’m stay in the faith and I am so grateful to God for the grace he has given to me to love Jesus❤️💕😇 genuinely
I can't stop laughing at, "Give it up for my white suit. I'm trying to be a whole snack." 😂😂😂
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@@antonianahring9883 “🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩🍩” a dozen!! (Glazed, “the lights on”! Krispy Kreme)🤎🤎🤎
Listen, I’m like LRW looking good in that suit and showing chest? No undershirt, sir?
Great episode as always!
And Hunti he was the whole snack. Brother was looking so fine.
And is ....
That white suit is white suiting on tuhday
Gentlemen. Please acknowledge and become healed from your woundedness. Whatever that is, whenever it occurred. God can do it if only you will let Him. Your wives and partners do not deserve to be the object of your trauma. It hurts. Literally.
Yall are the hurt ones not men I meet a lot women that’s still making a man pay for the man of her past
@@adrianroberson903Be well in the Lord. He’s a healer!
I hear you I agree 💯
But it goes both ways ❤
The same applies to women.
Respectfully, I’m speaking from experience with physical violence. Sadly, more than 90% of perpetrators are men.
Dear Wifey Podcast seems like a mentorship platform in my opinion. It’s very educational. This was a nice show. Loved it.😊
Whew this was too good! Thanks for sharing this panel discussion with us! Much needed!
This was such an Amazing event. I was there and enjoyed it. So many gems were dropped. You're doing a great job Laterras...keep going.
I was married for the first time at 45 (someone thought I was 26 in my wedding picture) years old. I WAS NOT getting married UNLESS God wanted me to be. I wanted God to choose my husband. I am still keeping faith that God will still bless us with our own natural children, however, I feel compelled to foster and adopt.
Get a book called Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize. Praying for the regeneration and procreation of your womb🤰🤱
I absolutely love this podcast very informative. At 49 years old I’m still learning and really enjoyed listening to everyone. I could listen to the Bishop all day he’s very wise and hilarious 😂😂😂. Would love to see part two with the same panel. 🙏🏼
That wounds the woman part! Because baby the way, I'm putting dating on the back burner!
Say dat again!!!
My God This was a powerful event. I’m a Pastor’s wife and so many things resonated with me as well as stomped me. Bless you guys for using your gift, authenticity and courage to have such a hard conversation at the Faith Center. This was and is so needed!!
Definitely watching bc the lady speaking in the intro was incredibly on point! 🎯
This was exceptionally good. From beginning to the end, every part is so valuable!!!!! Dr Lynn and CB gave me so much life. David and I have a lot to talk about tonight. ❤❤❤❤❤
Bishop used him and his wife as an example for “potential” when they were only 19 years old. Back At 19 I too was sharing a meal with my high school sweetheart because we had nothing else. You can’t expect much else at that age. HOWEVER, now at 31 years old??? Oh no, I am not looking for potential anymore, that is not in my ministry. God has worked on me too much and for too long, for me to extend my grace to someone with the POTENTIAL to set me back to the person I used to be before God worked on me. If there is potential for good, there is also potential for bad. I need me a man that is as sure and ground as God has allowed me to be.
I love Tracy so much she’s so real❤❤❤
Great panel. I love Dear Future Wifey but I am at an overflow of relationship information. God bless ❤
I understand
So understandable. Thanks for sharing this comment.
My God this is amazing. I’m so grateful for this platform.
I feel that the panel and the audience did not handle the lady with the 5 husbands with care. Such mockery she received for sharing her story. That was sad for me watch. When she does come to Dear Future Wifey, please handle her with care Lateras.
I concur with your observation. Always choose harm reduction.
Yeah, it was a bit awkward.
@ndalamamashabele5956. I disagree. She wanted to tell her story, they didn't have the time. That's a whole other podcast for her to tell her story. Maybe they will have another and bring her back.
What a wholesome captivating discussion. Thanks again Latteras for your gift and bringing all these awesome gifted people we appreciate the wisdom ❤❤❤
It is not our responsibility to heal anyone but ourselves. Most times we get beat up or killed trying to "heal" broken things.
“Not fix it, lift it, shift it whatever she does is going to change” 😂🤣……straight facts Bishop has preached a whole sermon 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Why are men not being criticized for not finding the "value of partnership" in spite of their success?!?!?
Yes Bishop! Women were created to be a helpmeet!
Don't tell them that.
@@NonameNoname-lm2zg Yall arent worth helping.
Please interview K.D. Bowe he has a non-profit called “Man Up.” His group answers the charge of mentoring for other men. Please please look him up. He is very serious about the work and seeding into others..
That's my homeboy. Been knowing him for 30 years
I stood up in my home for the sister, who spoke EVERY woman's heart. Thank You, for your descernment sister.
This was a excellent episode! I truly enjoyed it.
Another great panel discussion and I love the audience questions. I have 1 suggestion for you and your team, as a presenter in higher education for senior leaders and students I present weekly. I would suggest your team give the audience a index card with their 1 question and your team reviews prior to audience Q & A. Have the audience member's understand the guidelines (prior to coming to the mic) of 20-30 seconds for 1 question on their index card for you or the panelist. Great job and I love season 9. Keep up the great work!
Excuse my French but man I laughed my A** off at this episode 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 maannnnn this was a good one! Laterras PLEASE interview that woman who’s been married 5 times. I’m interested in hearing her story
Maybe she’s picking or attracted to bad men? Most Christian marriages I know are still going after many years. There are good men out there you all pick wrong.
@@josephjohnson1057 that’s why I said that I’m interested in hearing her story! Clearly she picked wrong if she’s been married all those times 🤦🏽♀️ that doesn’t mean that God can’t use her to help single women to pick right after hearing the mistakes she has made
I absolutely, positively love Bishop Fernandez ❤ A man of wisdom. So refreshing
I had a blast.. Dr. Tracy almost had me on the floor. 😂😂
Wow, this Pastor just nearly on the wall amazing very right the marriage is not all about the wedding dresses or the Diamont ring marriage is more than that hallelujah thanks a bunch pastor Sir ❤❤❤
A DFW live is on✋🏾✋🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️ catch it by chance 2:30am🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Bishop Fernandez, thank you for allowing Latteras to grace your stage with his podcast. 👍🏽❤ This panel was amazing! I have a deep love for men getting healed and transforming into the MAN God desires. Calling ALL MEN, make your way to The Potter's House of Dallss, Tx. TX. October 17th - 19th to attend the "As A Man Thinketh Conference." Bishop Jakes would love to see you. Be healed & remain blessed. ❤👑
Thank you ladies for keeping it real on the podium cause ain’t no way💯💯💯💯🔥🔥
This was a very informative setting. I had aha moments and much laughter. I enjoyed this a podcast as always.❤
I LOVED this panel! The realness was REAL. The one thing that I did notice is when the woman said she had been married 5 times, I do understand people reacting, especially if you have never known someone who has been married that number of times. It was announced that it was a safe space and place, but it really wasn't. I am glad she is self-assured AND unbothered!!!😂😂😂 Excellent episode, nonetheless.
WOW WOW WOW.....I just heard the intro of this woman talking and she already was DROPPIN GEMS 💎...BARS!!!!!! Now, I need to listen to the entire podcast. Thank you... L.R.W love your shows ❤️
Deep!!! Great topics. Thank you everyone.
i used to be a member of the faith Center i loved it...i also attended quite a few free gospel concerts there... Bishop Fernandez is the truth!!!!
MEN!!! You should'n't expect for somebody else's grown daughters to want you if you wouldnt want the kind of man that you are for your daughters and mother!! Trear women the way you want a man to treat your daughters! Yall keep using that couple as an example but she was only 28 when she met him. They had lots of room for growth. Most 28 yr olds are just getting a rhythm. She said was already a millionaire at 26.. But they were young back then and much much older now! The majority of people on that panel are older folks. Why are yall still talking and giving speeches as if yall are in your 20s? Why you...Bishop, keep making excuses for men in their 40s and 50s still outside playing and expect women to still want them. Know your audience and give advice accordingly.
But who else to give advice then the older folks who have achieved what you desired? I think what the bishop was trying to get across is that you have to make room for your husband's imperfections. I hear a lot of younger women wanting this fairy tale. Thinking that men w/money & degrees=successful marriages automatically. 2 people joining as 1 takes work. I believe he was trying to say don't beat down your partner & be impatient while they are building themselves. If you can't handle building w/someone good bad & ugly you shouldn't get married bc life happens.
The audience doesn’t want good advice. They want the peacher to tell them what they want to hear.
@@love7ies87 Imperfections are not you cheating, or beating us, or talking crazy to us, or wasting our money, or not cleaning up after yourself or helping with your kids.
@ReneeDeane But imperfections are just that. I don't advocate for staying w/someone who beats you & I understand some people will leave for cheating. But people want marriage not thinking of the work it takes for 2 to become 1. You come to it w/your own imperfections & work together to make it work. Sometimes women talk crazy to their spouse, nag or w/hold xes & do other imperfect things but all they see is what the man does wrong. Again it takes work to stay on the same page.
OMG....yesssss, I remember her now. I used to buy her jewelry all the time. Wowwww!!! I love how God has her speaking to my spirit now, after being drawn to her (and not even knowing why) way back then.
Come on Marcus, I always love your reasoning...Its a good place to start ensuring you are ready for marriage prior to getting married.....
it will be a breath of fresh air to be received showing up in my fullness and not feeling guilty about my power and being joyful in my feminine energy. The covering, the support is a desire but 10 yrs ago God taught me, "what if you are a wife to a nightmare?" Shocked me to Wake up. In real life I get lonely. I remember Jesus is my bridge over troubled waters and my lighthouse in the storm so i am never Alone. neva...."layers and layers"😲Wow i def got wounded Lord I thank you for insight from your vessels both sides Laterras y'all showed out I need another show with each one of them on this panel💓
We have to delight ourselves in the Lord before he gives us the desires and petitions of our heart. Joy, pleasure, and satisfaction in the Lord.
I love hearing older souls talk about love and what they been through the stories are funny, beautiful,wise and knowledgeable at the same time. LOVE is so beautiful, no matter my past hurts from others I still believe in love and my husband is coming this year I’m ready for you babe. ❤my advice to anyone that has been hurt, take time out to yourself, admit what hurt you day by day be committed to learning YOI all over again and this time our god in it
You must go towards the potential. Potential means nothing if you are not going towards the potential to fulfill it.
Yes, Yes LIVING THE FAITH LIFE!!
SO GOOD!!
I really hate that people keep telling women to date struggling men without a dime. Women have been taking chances with these types of men without any positive outcomes for decades. It’s a big gamble with your future and life. People should have a solid foundation before entering into romantic relationships
I have to agree. This has to stop even with the church. These 2 women here were forced to water down their stories to not offend the church.
Great conversation. I'm recently out of an abusive relationship (Covert Narc) it hurts just to listen to this conversation. I'll pause this until after my healing.
These men are so dismissive of the reality of women’s experiences. A lot of women waste years on potential. Men tend to dislike and reject the woman who helped them. Women with spend years 18 to 35 dating potential. Building men up and then men leave them so they have a fresh woman who looks up at them in awe. When you know the hard times, you pushed a man past his comfort level and you are 1/2 the reason he is great. Most. Do. Not. Like. It. Some won’t even allow you to help and then break up and do exactly what you were suggesting them. Then they go heal, get therapy, invest in themselves and how they look. Men have a serious issue Christian or not with using women for their gain. Although this conversation was good to hear…man 1 pastor who got married at 19(still a child), 1 who had admitted to using his ex up, 1 man who is single giving the excuse that god will tell him. The man who is on stage married that seemed to make an adult choice… contradicts the advice men are giving women. The married woman was intentional on a healed, secure, and financially stable man. I’m not saying skip potential but men have to already be on their path. Just my true belief
I sure would accept the small gesture ❤. A blessing is a blessing when it’s coming from the one God has ordained
Hey, Yall, from Fort-Worth, TX
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Wow
So many precious gems dropped by this panel. I love all of them