More context: 35 year old woman kidnapped by her boyfriend who had assaulted her in their car and she attempted to flee him at the gas station. She was found alive, and her 22 year old boyfriend was arrested for kidnapping, assault, stolen vehicle, and drug paraphernalia. She looks like a child, but is a 5'1" woman who weighs 86 pounds. Edit for those upset by this comment: I was simply trying to save some people a Google search. I haven't given an opinion on the situation outside of saying the woman looks like a child in the video. Of course, any domestic violence is bad, but that is obvious, so I didn't feel it needed to be stated.
@@amusedBYfools incl. the woman who is saying what she saw and heard. Who knows what the guy said to the bystander. Maybe the guy had kids in his truck. If so their safety comes first. ?
My cousin, in Utah btw, tried helping a young lady that was getting beaten in the streets and 6 men turned on him and almost beat him to death. The evil in this world is terrible
this is why you don't go into a situation blind and / or unarmed. plus if your cousin had successfully defended himself with a gun, the police would probably arrest him and lock him up and throw away the key because even one of those men might have been of a certain protected class.
@@mgtowmonger2729One day we're all gonna die and have to be accountable for the lives we lived. Many don't think God is real, but HE IS real, and I don't wanna face Him knowing I saw evil and did nothing for MY temporary convenience.
It doesn’t work that way when you’re in that situation. You are petrified, mostly can’t function let alone think and dictate orders to pass or advise. I’m glad your comment is telling that you have never and may you never, be in this situation
@@Saiyan585 the bystander only saw the obvious. Granted, that should have been sufficient for action. But sometimes children or imbeciles need an explicit “call to action”. That’s an advertising term. People are actually more likely to do a thing if you tell them. You may already know all that but thought I’d mention it.
I intervened in a domestic violence situation many years ago after seeing a man hit a woman so hard that she flew off the sidewalk and landed in the street. I detained the assailant and called the police. Victim wouldn't press charges and I could have been charged with false arrest as a result. I was fortunate that the responding officer at least appreciated that I was able to stop the attack and everyone went on their way. What an empty feeling after taking such a risk, but at least I did what I could! Update: Since YT seems to be blocking my reply to new comments, let me just say thanks for the many kind remarks. I don't have any regrets and was only saddened by knowing that the victim will likely continue to suffer in the future. I don't know what the motivation is for some of the insults I received, but I pray that you would appreciate help from a stranger if you are ever in need!
Domestic disputes are one of the most dangerous calls for police. I know if it was someone I cared about I would want someone to help. Buuuuuuut at the same time, getting involved in other people’s foolishness can go wrong quickly. If someone is willing open to showing violence to someone they (should) care about, why would they care about doing the same or worse to you?
It might make you feel better knowing she likely didn’t press charges because she didn’t want a beating or the man made threats on her kids and family. I bet she appreciated every single thing you did, but not all situations are cut and dry.
I've heard that story a few too many times. I even heard of one case where the female victim actually started attacking the guy who was beating up her abuser. That's why I have no hard feelings for this "bystander". He was just minding his own business. She don't wanna be saved. Now if it was a child, very different story. But an adult woman? She can live with her choices.
This is why i tell my kids "YOU are the biggest defender of yourself. I can't be everywhere, dad can't be everywhere, police may not get there in time and you can't depend on strangers" It's a sad, sad world we live in.
Yep. It’s just scary how many won’t do anything when they can at least freeze things until cops get there to get stories straight n verify if danger or not.
Dudes like that don't care. He was more concerned about standing up to a dude then check in the welfare of a child. This is disgusting. This is literally less than 45 minutes from where I live so this is too close to home for me.
Disgusting to see not only a suspect be so bold and feel so comfortable stealing an adult human being in public, but for the bystander to literally do nothing and not even call 911 (since it was conveyed police were trying to locate the bystander). When you can be kidnapped in a public place, in front of people who do nothing, that is just horrific. I’m so glad there was a working camera. Should she survive that will be her only evidence in court (luckily). Update: to those saying they care about no one but themselves, pray you don’t encounter people like yourselves when you need help.
Feminism taught me you don’t need my help, something about fish and bicycles?? … if you’re not my mother, sister, or wife/girlfriend, I could give 0 F’s about your problems
No, he was being like every man, creating narratives on the situation and why he shouldn’t help a woman. If this was a little boy/little girl do you think he would have the same reaction? I’m just confused by this sort of logic.
@@danr2652 definitely nope; that man is a special kind of person to see someone being taken off like that and do nothing. He didn't even react in any way lol. Its easier to let injustice happen than to even pull out a phone to call the cops, especially for certain modern men. Like that one
No one wants to help anymore. No one wants that chance to get sued anymore. No one wants the chance to be held responsible for trying to help. This is the America we’ve all built.
So again not one situation. THIS IS THE AMERICA WEVE CREATED. Feelings matter more then a fact. Criminals have more rights then law abiding citizens. Where did our common sense go?!
@@EngageYourFrontalLobe There's always a woman close by, usually the employee, but she also picked to date a guy that no doubt displayed threatening behavior. Not his 1st time acting like that for sure.
@@darrynruzicka2883 Also in cases like that, multiple stories end with both the bf and the gf attacking the guy(it's ALWAYS a guy helping)that intervened.
I saved my neighbor & her son after she was stabbed over 11 times in a murder attempt & the son would have been kidnapped. Grabbed them & ran to my next door apt to treat. I have a barricade security bar. She had bilateral collapsing lungs from stab wounds. She survived. The jury gave her ex “not guilty” We’re more traumatized by court than by the events sometimes. That was 5 years ago. She found a better husband & now has two more children (3 total) So 4 lives saved. Do whatever is necessary. Ex Trauma Surgery RN John 15:13 KJV [13] Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
My friend once helped a girl getting beat by her boyfriend in front of a covenant store. She called the cops and had him arrested for assaulting her boyfriend. Yes, I can believe that the bystander did nothing.
Happened years ago to a friend of mine.. He grabbed the violent guy and said 'try someone your own size'. The girlfriend started screaming at him to let the boyfriend go.. He did, and said, 'you deserve him'.
I've yelled help when I was grabbed outside my workplace and almost forced into a van and nobody helped. I grabbed onto the locked newspaper machine which is bolted into concrete which was the only thing preventing my kidnapping. The cameras didn't stop him and neither did any bystander. This happened in 2006.
I helped two 16 year old girls from getting kidnapped by a guy in a truck, pulling a big, enclosed cargo trailer in Phoenix at like 1am. He claimed he was following them because they threw rocks at his truck when he was driving past them. It was obvious they didn't. After they got away I wondered if he had other girls in the trailer so I started knocking on it and asking loudly if anyone was in there. The guy took off in the truck immediately and a car that pulled up nearby during it all took off behind him. I realized they were working together. I suspect the car was driving around looking for girls, then calls in the truck and trailer combo and they snatch the girls up, throw them in the trailer and off they go. Phoenix was one of the kidnapping capitals of the world not long ago.
As a old school biker I got locked up for days after saving a teen girl from a 34 year old man. The police were more bothered about me and my brass knuckles than a pedophile trying to take a kid. Plus they messed my bike up in the impound 🤬
The bystander is a total pos this could have been preventative and she’s lucky to be alive. If she was found dead this pos bystander should be charged.
I don’t blame him at all. In America nowadays, it’s “none of my business “ to get involved into anything if one is not afraid being sued later on. A Good Samaritan may get sued by a “needed help person”.
Let’s be honest here what would you have done? You don’t know if he the dude that was kidnapping the girl had a gun. Dude was smart he should have called the cops and recorded tho
I'm sorry but you can take issue with every greedy attention seeking pos that has sued those who have tried to help. They are the ones that have taught society not to interfere.
Actually many others did call the police. He was the only coward who didn’t and now he is known as the only coward who didn’t help. It was because of other bystanders that she was found.
Good way to get kicked in the face because I’m not taking no chance I’m from the old world where people actually acted instead of watching they would’ve had to CONVINCE ME that it WASNT a prank cuz I would’ve went to town
@@g5tomahawk599 now in days is nothing like the old days. We have multiple 14 yo street assassins out here in Texas. Anyone and everyone can catch a built when stepping into situations that don't involve anyone else besides the people directly involved. You never know if anyone else is in the car with them at first reaction. She's 35 and he's 22. She knew and understood the type of man she got herself involved with. I understand and respect the old world ways. Allot more then I respect this generation. Yet those ways do not work in these new world situations.
Exactly what I thought too - it actually happened to me - I jumped in to help a woman - the police were called out and I gave them my details - five days later they came around and arrested me for assaulting the guy who was clearly beating up the woman - the guy was taken to court and fined - I was told my case was also going to court but they dropped it SIX MONTHS LATER - I will NEVER help anyone again and I don’t blame anyone else who feels the same - instead of gratitude all you get is grief - it’s just not worth it
@dirtydawg448 Yep. After ya learn those hard lessons, it makes look at the guy filling his tank alot differently. I'm sure if he saw a woman being randomly attacked by a stranger he'd surely behave differently. But yeah people are learning to leave crazy couples alone. After all most women seek that bad boy nonsense now. They love making a scene. Ain't got no time for that lol.
In Pennsylvania they have a Good Samaritan law where people cannot be sued or have charges pressed against them if they're attempting to help someone or are doing something which they believe is vital for the victim's safety.
The bystander either thought this was a trap or a toxic relationship unfolding that he wanted nothing to do with. Unfortunately it’s not uncommon that couples will do things like this to get someone involved and then rob them or worse.
@Celisar1 it looks obvious now, but in the moment, it's impossible to just jump into a domestic violence situation without thinking. There's just too much risk
@@Celisar1I mean, it’s not uncommon for it to go wrong for men when they step in between a DV issue they don’t know the scope of. Or have heard stories /seen videos of it happening to other men. I personally wouldn’t step into a minor DV issue for this reason but THIS scenario is different. Best “excuse” I could think of is witness is wanted. He too calm to be scared enough to not step in, He’s too nonchalant.
A lot of men are staying out of situations like this. A man in Walmart went to help a woman who was being abused by her boyfriend. The good guy was shot and died for his efforts leaving his wife and kid.
I understand both sides of the argument but in my experience when someone is this vehemently upset and is literally crying, kicking, and screaming help trying to escape someones grasp it should be questioned and not just stared at. What if this was a more severe case and she basically got trafficked or killed. In my mind thats even worse and would affect me alot. Its better to be safe than regret not doing something that could have saved someones life.
@@alanbrown901 I am not dying for someone I don't know. He could have a weapon on him. Just shoots me, takes her anyways. Last time I have been in a fight was over a decade ago in school, I am not winning.
@@fallinggravity9964 no one is expecting people to defend with fists or anything but at least call a cops if not in front of him then when he left. Idk about US but in my country you would be fined for not doing anything.
@@magnumopus7199 have you seen some of the species inhabiting this planet? There are trees that are racist! (Some trees actively communicate with eachother and if a different species of tree takes root in the area, the native trees will deliberately grow their roots around the new tree to prevent it from expanding its own roots)
@@smileychess Nobody want to be White Knight anymore? I wonder why? Few minutes later bystander will be accused of assault her "bad boy" boyfriend. No thanks.
Wrong, he could have thought it was a prank, a tv show testing him, a tomfoolery, etc.. he had zero context and you don't have the slightest clue as to what this witness has been through to not be able to act as you want him to or expect him to act. You have no say in this. Just keep scrolling.
It’s actually a fully grown woman, but it’s also ridiculous to call for pressing charges against a bystander…especially when there are many examples readily available of people trying to do the right thing and falling for a setup, or other people trying to do the right thing and later being sued over some BS.
That is no excuse for indifference. Oh my God, murderers go free everyday! Better do absolutely nothing to help someone in clear need of help! Surely that will make everything better. 🙄🤤🤤
Yeah tell us when that happened or do u just not want to help. That fine I mean no one wants you to get psychically involved. But call the cops at least like are you crazy, she could've been killed
People used to get involved, then they started getting in trouble. Now people mind their business to keep from getting involved, and they get bashed for that. This guy knew something we don’t.
Nah, the people who wanted an out and to be a coward are always going to find that out. The people who will help will always help. If you don't help, it's because you never would have, because men don't even want to admit how scared of me they are.
Imagine that guy had saved her by grabbing her legs and holding on but she found out he was a billionaire & sued him for s/a…. Or He had intervened but was killed in the process…
@@Athetos_Admech I'm not. Not everybody is like that. Some people are just insane enough to not care when they believe lives are on the line. I don't care if you believe me; I know what I'll do if/when the time comes...and I'm not the only one who feels this way. "Honor...to the end."~Optimus Prime.
@@dakotadillon5981 I believe you, I'm just not sure I'd be willing to take the same risk for someone I didn't know. Might sound strange but I don't think I'd be anywhere near as averse to aiding a stranger if being harmed was the only risk, I am more afraid I'd be jailed for 'vigilantism' or 'assault' even if I were defending someone else. Prison seems like it would be worse than being injured or even killed.
@@skp6613but what matters is that it should not have happened in the first place, maybe we can feel momentary relief for her but this happens all the time. God help us.
Bystander thinking: “Thank god it isn’t my loved one in danger” POS! Shame on you for not even calling police! Just kept pumping gas like nothing was wrong!
I was running from my abuser to the neighbor next door. He had taken my phone and I was crying and desperately trying to call anyone for help. When his friend (an older man in his 40s) answered my abuser told him to shut the door and mind his business. He did just that. I will never forget the desperation I felt in that moment. I'm glad I survived.
I went thru similar. I was being beaten I escaped the house, he had a knife chasing me down, I screamed and pleaded for help , neighbors shut the door and watched him drag me back home 😢 it was so traumatizing and I felt so helpless. I know I'd react differently should the opportunity ever arise. glad were both ok!
This is horrifying🥺 Same thing happened to me when my former drunk, abusive roommate carried me out of a car kicking n screaming. No one helped me. Also we were not dating!😤 (I'm a woman btw I'm on my guy friend's phone)
@@EdwardEismueller I can understand I guess to an extent not wanting to get hurt or killed helping someone but no one even calls the police or anything? I wouldn't be able to sleep at night
People see cases such as the Veteran being prosecuted in New York that accidentally killed a criminal by using a headlock trying to subdue him. He was just trying to protect everyone around him who admit to being scared and feeling terrorized by this crazy repeat offender and what does the DA do? Prosecute a man who risked his life to fight for our country and risked it again to protect people on a subway. When people see case after case of the good guys trying to help being prosecuted… they quit getting involved. Sad but true 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly, These Days People get Charged Criminally for Intervening and Helping the Victims of Crime, so _Why_ should Anybody Risk catching a Charge and Possibly Facing Incarceration for Trying to Help? 🤨 Why is BS like that Happening? You can Thank Leftist/Democrat Policies that Cater To aka Suck Up To, Scumbag Criminals....😉
I was kidnapped in 2014 on a busy street in broad daylight and absolutely nobody stepped in to help me. I ended up being taken back to his condo, where he assaulted me. It’s absolutely f***ing disgusting how so many people just don’t care about anything but themselves.
I am so sorry you had to go through something like that! I would've helped there is no excuse not to help someone especially when they are telling for help!
I was taken and held captive in a truck with my cousin for 7 hours on a dirt road. While 2 men in a jeep blocked off the end of dirt road to the highway. I stayed calm and continuously tried to unlock the door. Finally after 7 hours, I gave the man the right compliment that boosted his narcissistic ego and when he turned to look me in the face, I unlocked the door, swung the door open and grabbed my cousin out of truck. Then, knew we were possibly going to have to fight for our lives against 3 men. We got a dead flip phone in our pocket to come on just long enough to scream our names at the 911 dispatch and to GPS us. We needed help and my cousin went into shock taking a massive heart attack. I will never forget it. There was one fellow that followed us onto the dirt road from the same area and he walked right up to the driver's window. Asked us if we wanted a drive back into town and we were too scared to say anything. The back seat was full of weapons, guns, hatchets, you name it. We don't know if he was legit or if he was apart of it. Scariest thing was that the man wasn't even from the area he took us from and was wearing Search and Rescue clothing from the area we resided in. I cannot look at society the same way again. I have next to no trust for anyone in the emergency services at all anymore. I can't go to therapy either... Because, my only question is how to you trust society after that. No one has the answer for me.
I’m so glad you’ve survived. I have CPTSD from abuse and can only imagine what you’ve gone through trying to heal. You’re in my prayers. Continued safety, peace and healing..but also, that you are shown the way to tell between the good and bad within people and find a way to be encouraged with people again. Truly, the worst part about suffering is realizing how humanity currently accepts and encourages allowing and causing it to happen.
How do you know that this wasn't just a girl trying to get away from her parents and throwing a tenter tantrum?. I guess he could have called the police.
A daughter, influenced by tiki tok and her peers learns to yell help when she's disputing with her parents. Btw, the issue was probably caused by the gender reassignment hormones she was secretly taking. 😮
@samdoors5132 Nothing to do with cowardice. Women want to be men nowadays, so let them sort out their problems. Big respect to this guy for not helping. She should deal with the problem herself since she is a man nowadays or failing that, call the feminists.
@@mikememp3172 Sadly true. We must break that terribly destructive ideology. Do what must be done which is morally right. Then legally and verbally fight against the Negative consequences afterwards.
Lady tried to steal my son in Florida and I yelled help and ran in the store and she chased me around in the store. She called the cops on me saying my child and me were not supposed to be out so late. She then tried to get me for assault. Police were not buying her bs. Thank God.
That man who did nothing to help this young woman should be ashamed of himself, and his family should not trust him to be their PROCTOR.he is a coward.
You don’t know him and you have such strong opinions about him because he decided not to risk his life for a total stranger? So he gets involved, gets shot, then what? Not every man wants to throw their life away and in the kind of society we live in now, it’s everybody’s prerogative as to what to do with their own time and life.
@freedomnanakweku I agree with you on that. He could play hero and end up being the one not making it home for dinner. He might have little ones depending on him. It looks bad though.
A bystander helped in NYC and is now facing prison time. Why would anyone want to help if the consequences for helping are being prosecuted for stepping up.
If you’re talking about the Jordan Neely case that is completely a different set of circumstances Neely himself was in danger along with the others on the subway.
@@bigisrickdude he could have at least called the police and reported that he didn't even do that don't be a coward what if it was your daughter or mother or sister these are just chumps you face them down and they're going to do nothing nine times out of 10 and doing the right thing a simple phone call dude really?
how do you know he didnt help someone before and got arrested or someone sued him? blame the democratic state of AMerica, not the people @@firemonkey1015
@@firemonkey1015The only thing less clear than the reason behind the bystander’s apprehension was the video footage. You can’t assume anything based on a ten second video that looks like it has been compressed fifty times.
In New York a man was charged for holding a man in a choke hold who was harrassing and threatening passengers with a weapon while on a subway train @@firemonkey1015
Was looking for this comment. MSM would be screaming about how he needs to be locked away for life because we can NOT tolerate vigilantes. He would have been arrested that day, and the woman's BF would sue the gas station and PD for not stopping the random dude pumping gas from hurting him.
I would much rather live in prison knowing I helped someone in that situation, than to have freedom and live my life knowing I'm a worthless piece of 💩 for just standing there watching.
She's a strong independent woman who don't need no man, remember. You need help, call the police. The cemeteries are full of white Knight men who stepped in to help a woman and paid with their lives.
I was attacked by someone as I was just peacefully dropping off a gift, I screamed and my boyfriend came to my rescue. She had me on the ground pulling my hair and the POLICE said we were being charged! This is not justice PEOPLE stand up for what is happening.
…does that matter? Also she could just be really tiny. I’m 26 and have been mistaken for a kid bc I’m not even 5ft. Either way that’s irrelevant. She’s clearly terrified and the coward did nothing to help her.
watched my parents try to intervene when some guy was abusing his girl right across the street from our house while I was a kid, she was screaming and crying and everything. my parents shouted that they had already called the police. dude drove off leaving her on the sidewalk crying. when my parents tried to help her she cussed and swore and screamed at them "why would you call the police? why would you do that???" so we all just went back in the house and when the police showed up, everyone was gone so my parents just told em what happened and that was that. so sad.
See - but because of this ☝️ is the reason why people don’t intervene because often times the woman loves the abuser n will get back with him…. Just call police n let them handle it
None of us can really say what we would have done in the situation, but I hope I would have helped out despite knowing that even cops are wary of domestic violence situations because can I pretty sure how things will go down when people are all up in their feelings. People have been shot for trying to intervene.
My parents tried to do the same thing with an old lady that was known to be kind of on the crazy side. They asked her if she needed any help or anything and that old lady just start cussing them out they just said we’re out of here so yeah, sometimes people get gun shy about helping other people like that.
I can't condemn the bystander. Good Samaritans get killed all the time! My husband has a big heart but for his sake I tell him to stand back and call the police.
I pray to God did the bystander never gets into the same situation that is so sad to see a human being in trouble and you're right there and refused to help
We had a neighbor who would get beat by her husband. One night around 2am, we heard her screaming for help. She was able to set off their car alarm. My husband called the police, but of course, she denied it all and acted like she had no idea why we would call them. Two months later, he was chasing her around outside with a knife.
Classic case of a woman in an abusive … this is why some people prefer to not get involved , had a friend who tried to stop a man from hitting a woman my friend ended getting jumped by both the man and the woman … hate yo admit it but I can see the truck driver could easily ignore the drama
This is where a lot of women choose to place themselves. Men need to stop jumping in. Too many men tried to help women from being “abused” by some boyfriend and got put in jail by both the man and woman. Look at what just happened to that blonde dude in nyc. Now he’s serving many years in prison, a former soldier to the country I believe. Men need to step back and allow women to fully utilise their autonomy, let women make their own decisions and stop ever trying to help them ever.
@@isaacennis2077 the clerk at the gas station called it into police and showed them the video. the police recognized the couple since they get so many 911 calls against them by neighbors who complain about noise, nuisance and domestic violence. nothing new, they're well known. she is 35 year old grown woman with a 22 year old abusive man. they found her hours later, 'rescued' her and she did what she always does. drops the charges on the boyfriend, pays his bail and goes right back with him. 'her body, her choice' right? or do you have a problem with that? which is it?
@@Boggyboytadno really nowadays. A lot of men have tried helping in situations but they end up getting charged with a crime so nobody wants to help anymore.
All he saw was an unruly kid. Do yours know to yell,”THIS IS A STRANGER! Call 911! Do NOT Touch Me! WHO ARE YOU?!I’m in DANGER! IHELP! Who Is This Scary Man?! POLICE!” If a kid is just yelling ,” No” it can easily look like a tantrum. TEACH YOUR KIDS.
Because it’s the “right” thing to do!! But go ahead, listen to fear… see what that does in the end. For life is always bigger than just the moment at hand.
It doesn’t surprise me at all. After being married to an abusive person - not only did male bystanders do nothing when he was abusive to us - the men also never did anything when he was abusive to THEIR kids - it was always the moms who ran to the defense of their kids - the men coward away and let their wives deal with his abuse. Same in my life the men in my life stood away and just let my abusive husband be abusive - where are the men in the world to defend women and girls?
They run the risk of getting locked up themselves for assault (the victim turning on the guy and siding with the abuser), injured, or dead. They could also be held liable if they intervene. Most men that have learned enough life lessons know not to stick their neck out for a stranger. Would more of these same men that refuse to help strangers stick their neck out for their wife, kids, and family, and close friends? Absolutely, more would. But strangers are too high risk.
To those calling the bystander "coward" no he's not, cuz if he would have done anything either he's getting shot by the man or getting a lawsuit by the woman, better safe than sorry 🗿
@TheIndigo1child Not even close. We know nothing about the bystander or their circumstances. Even in the worst case scenario, where he literally just watches and doesn't help simply because he doesn't care to, it isn't nearly as bad as what the kidnapper is doing by any means. Terrible? yes. Worse? No.
People are scared to, the government is corrupt and prosecution happy, people can't afford to get involved, they saw and understood when someone was imprisoned for being a hero, it still should have been in the man to stop it and intervene people generally don't run toward other people if it's a couples sick daily game of dysfunction and mutual combat.
I don't understand those "I wouldn't be able to look in a mirror" or "God will the to judge you" Meaning in this world, full of suffering, they need to wait for a kidnap or assault happening right in front of them? I mean, there hungry Africa, poor Palestinians, immigrants without houses and here they are, white knights being busy building their own life, waiting for an opportunity to be the man, the hero...
Stopped a domestic once, split them up was waiting for cops to show up...long story short I ended up getting beat up and arrested three months of court dates just to clear my name, on top of all the money for a Lawyer.
That’s no excuse. Men used to be willing to sacrifice their life before their honor. Any man that’s worried about possible legal ramifications from doing the right thing, certainly wouldn’t sacrifice their life. We’ve just been conditioned into being cowed and self-centered. Goes for me as well.
@@oophorror2251it’s not just the system it’s decades of women being prioritized legally, to where if ANY domestic violence occurs and the man is not severely beaten, the man will be arrested, period, regardless of the facts. if you want to stand for something stand for it. don’t act like we’ve all been cucked into some cowardice when really we just are smart enough to self-preserve ourselves so we’re around to stand for our own women and children and not some random ones.
More context: 35 year old woman kidnapped by her boyfriend who had assaulted her in their car and she attempted to flee him at the gas station. She was found alive, and her 22 year old boyfriend was arrested for kidnapping, assault, stolen vehicle, and drug paraphernalia.
She looks like a child, but is a 5'1" woman who weighs 86 pounds.
Edit for those upset by this comment: I was simply trying to save some people a Google search. I haven't given an opinion on the situation outside of saying the woman looks like a child in the video. Of course, any domestic violence is bad, but that is obvious, so I didn't feel it needed to be stated.
Thanks for the update. I was scrolling for this information.
Thanks for the information. Glad she's alright
35 and 22????? She's not too bright.
Annndddd….theyre back together? Hopefully not
What is her name
And he never even called the police afterwards. This bystander is a waste of space
And what about the other ppl at the gas station?
Anyone who saw this is did nothing is worse than a waste of space.
How do you know?
@@amusedBYfools incl. the woman who is saying what she saw and heard. Who knows what the guy said to the bystander. Maybe the guy had kids in his truck. If so their safety comes first. ?
@@Michelle-fi3zeA phone call to police would not have impeded his children's safety... if that was the case.
The by stander is a coward, no shortage of those.
A man has no reason to step in the middle of a domestic dispute. The women made a poor choice in a mate. How is he a coward, he is a hero.
@@Unknown-rb3ipyep, if he help she scream SA to the police after
@@UMAD666 For real
@@Unknown-rb3ip just stay unknown lol
My cousin, in Utah btw, tried helping a young lady that was getting beaten in the streets and 6 men turned on him and almost beat him to death. The evil in this world is terrible
this is why you don't go into a situation blind and / or unarmed. plus if your cousin had successfully defended himself with a gun, the police would probably arrest him and lock him up and throw away the key because even one of those men might have been of a certain protected class.
@@mgtowmonger2729One day we're all gonna die and have to be accountable for the lives we lived. Many don't think God is real, but HE IS real, and I don't wanna face Him knowing I saw evil and did nothing for MY temporary convenience.
@@mgtowmonger2729what are the protected classes!?
@@bella_cost... anyone who isn't white, male and hetero.
The best is call police..
The bystander was just thinking "Man these youtube prank videos are getting more ridiculous by the day"
I agree those prank videos are getting people hurt and bystanders think "no, I'm not getting involved in your dumb prank video"
😂😂😂😂😂
I agree with you on this woke modern society lots of pranksters you can never tell whose serious and whose not
Not gonna lie if I saw this I would have thought the same thing
No he was just a coward plain and simple..
Two cowards, the offender and the bystander.
That dude is a.Absolute coward
He didn't want to be assaulted or charged with assault then sued over meth heads. THAT'S WHY! In this clown world we live in!
Not in this day and he isn't
Yes he's a COWARD period no excuses bro
@@darrynruzicka2883Agreed at least you're thinking realistically
But he is not in trouble, better to be a coward and get home that night to your family than playing hero and ending dead or with a lawsuit.
The bystander should write a book, "The Art of Uselessness".
😅
Don’t yell help. Instead say what’s happening and give commands such as: Call 91, I’m being kidnapped. Say your name. Say the assailant’s name.
Great advice!
Say my name say my name🎶 sorry kinda...
The bystander obviously knew most of that. She literally ran up to him and said something before being grabbed.
It doesn’t work that way when you’re in that situation. You are petrified, mostly can’t function let alone think and dictate orders to pass or advise. I’m glad your comment is telling that you have never and may you never, be in this situation
@@Saiyan585 the bystander only saw the obvious. Granted, that should have been sufficient for action.
But sometimes children or imbeciles need an explicit “call to action”.
That’s an advertising term. People are actually more likely to do a thing if you tell them.
You may already know all that but thought I’d mention it.
I intervened in a domestic violence situation many years ago after seeing a man hit a woman so hard that she flew off the sidewalk and landed in the street. I detained the assailant and called the police. Victim wouldn't press charges and I could have been charged with false arrest as a result. I was fortunate that the responding officer at least appreciated that I was able to stop the attack and everyone went on their way. What an empty feeling after taking such a risk, but at least I did what I could!
Update: Since YT seems to be blocking my reply to new comments, let me just say thanks for the many kind remarks. I don't have any regrets and was only saddened by knowing that the victim will likely continue to suffer in the future.
I don't know what the motivation is for some of the insults I received, but I pray that you would appreciate help from a stranger if you are ever in need!
Domestic disputes are one of the most dangerous calls for police.
I know if it was someone I cared about I would want someone to help.
Buuuuuuut at the same time, getting involved in other people’s foolishness can go wrong quickly. If someone is willing open to showing violence to someone they (should) care about, why would they care about doing the same or worse to you?
It might make you feel better knowing she likely didn’t press charges because she didn’t want a beating or the man made threats on her kids and family. I bet she appreciated every single thing you did, but not all situations are cut and dry.
that is why people do nothing. victim is going to refuse charges, why bother?
I've heard that story a few too many times. I even heard of one case where the female victim actually started attacking the guy who was beating up her abuser. That's why I have no hard feelings for this "bystander". He was just minding his own business. She don't wanna be saved. Now if it was a child, very different story. But an adult woman? She can live with her choices.
Yup. HAd a friend who said that her hubby attacked her. Called the cops. She blew them off.
turned out she lied about the whole thing.
Sigh.
Why would you just stand there and watch that is sickening!
Because now a days as a man your punished for trying to do the right thing
@@INERAZARFacts. We either go to jail or are killed on the spot.
He didn't want to be assaulted or charged with assault then sued, THAT'S WHY! In this clown world we live in!
this is the world feminist wanted fine you get it
Because women are Strong and independent..
Maybe the bear they prefer will help.
Absolute cowardice
This is why i tell my kids "YOU are the biggest defender of yourself. I can't be everywhere, dad can't be everywhere, police may not get there in time and you can't depend on strangers" It's a sad, sad world we live in.
Most people will help you.
This is Utah.
Cult brains.
Yep. It’s just scary how many won’t do anything when they can at least freeze things until cops get there to get stories straight n verify if danger or not.
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Yes! Absolutely & Also I teach my children to be a helper for others. Not a “bystander”
Solid advice.
he'll have to live with his cowardice the rest of his life.
Dudes like that don't care. He was more concerned about standing up to a dude then check in the welfare of a child. This is disgusting. This is literally less than 45 minutes from where I live so this is too close to home for me.
More likely, other people will have to live with his cowardice.
Yeah men like him don’t even care. Bet he forgot already
It’s not cowardice I don’t think. He probably has the same kind of morals as the man taking the women.
I bet he’s living and sleeping just fine .
Disgusting to see not only a suspect be so bold and feel so comfortable stealing an adult human being in public, but for the bystander to literally do nothing and not even call 911 (since it was conveyed police were trying to locate the bystander).
When you can be kidnapped in a public place, in front of people who do nothing, that is just horrific.
I’m so glad there was a working camera. Should she survive that will be her only evidence in court (luckily).
Update: to those saying they care about no one but themselves, pray you don’t encounter people like yourselves when you need help.
If you think it that easy, You try calling the police from arm's length of a crime actually happening,See what that get you.
Criminals know there is no punishment for anything. Why would he be afraid?
Daniel Penny. Women should defend themselves
Meth is a helluva drug!
Feminism taught me you don’t need my help, something about fish and bicycles?? … if you’re not my mother, sister, or wife/girlfriend, I could give 0 F’s about your problems
The guy filling up his gas tank was probably wondering where the cameraman was hiding.
No, he was being like every man, creating narratives on the situation and why he shouldn’t help a woman. If this was a little boy/little girl do you think he would have the same reaction? I’m just confused by this sort of logic.
@@hallec4618 Nope.
@@hallec4618.....Or possibly he's dealt with the law before and doesn't want to get involved.
@@danr2652 definitely nope; that man is a special kind of person to see someone being taken off like that and do nothing. He didn't even react in any way lol. Its easier to let injustice happen than to even pull out a phone to call the cops, especially for certain modern men. Like that one
@@nataki8776Nah, doing nothing does not make someone special.
No one wants to help anymore. No one wants that chance to get sued anymore. No one wants the chance to be held responsible for trying to help. This is the America we’ve all built.
This is one guy in one situation. He doesn’t represent all of America.
So again not one situation. THIS IS THE AMERICA WEVE CREATED. Feelings matter more then a fact. Criminals have more rights then law abiding citizens. Where did our common sense go?!
This is what you all voted for
Yup it's sad
I’m the fool who steps in and dgaf
She was actually a 35 year old woman. She was rescued by police the next morning from her kidnapping boyfriend.
Who cares how old she is...what has that got to do with her needing help??
She has already got him a lawyer and is refusing to press charges!
@@msweeman2488 It was because there was a Amber Alert. People were looking for a teen girl.
So skinny she got confused for a teenager 😭
@@msweeman2488 RIGHT, EVEN A 35 YR OLD 85LB WOMAN DOES NOT DESERVE TO LOOK THAT GUY IN THE EYES PLEADINGLY ASKING FOR HELP.
And that man by the car was just watching what a coward,
not as big a coward as the women that didn't help one of their sisters 😭😭
He didn't want to be assaulted or charged with assault then sued, THAT'S WHY! In this clown world we live in!
@@yumjoystyle2Where do you see any women in the video, other than the one being kidnapped?
@@EngageYourFrontalLobe
There's always a woman close by, usually the employee, but she also picked to date a guy that no doubt displayed threatening behavior. Not his 1st time acting like that for sure.
@@darrynruzicka2883
Also in cases like that, multiple stories end with both the bf and the gf attacking the guy(it's ALWAYS a guy helping)that intervened.
I saved my neighbor & her son after she was stabbed over 11 times in a murder attempt & the son would have been kidnapped.
Grabbed them & ran to my next door apt to treat. I have a barricade security bar.
She had bilateral collapsing lungs from stab wounds. She survived.
The jury gave her ex “not guilty”
We’re more traumatized by court than by the events sometimes.
That was 5 years ago.
She found a better husband & now has two more children (3 total)
So 4 lives saved. Do whatever is necessary.
Ex Trauma Surgery RN
John 15:13 KJV
[13] Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
❤
Nope.
Every man for themselves.
@@Viking102938 you call yourself viking? Bro go troll someone else tf?
That's all you did? I saved 54 orphans from a fire and gave them all a college fund before the age of 18. I guess yours is alright too
Amen
You keep locking the Good Samaritan away in jail and this is what you get.
1000%
This.
Just like Daniel Penny
Most people don't get that the law system today is built for the LAWYERS, not the people. You don't become a billionaire overnight, this goes way back
This doesn’t “keep” happening. That is very rare. Sounds like a coward’s or abuser’s response.
My friend once helped a girl getting beat by her boyfriend in front of a covenant store. She called the cops and had him arrested for assaulting her boyfriend. Yes, I can believe that the bystander did nothing.
It happens more frequently than people would like to believe.
And that’s why people don’t help nomore not about to get me in trouble but this is different
Happened years ago to a friend of mine.. He grabbed the violent guy and said 'try someone your own size'. The girlfriend started screaming at him to let the boyfriend go.. He did, and said, 'you deserve him'.
Dont forget how majority of these women say they dont need men, yet want us to help them.
And that's why I never go to the covenant store.
listen. guys get shot, or arrested for getting involved these days. we've been told we're not needed. sort that mess out, maybe guys will help.
That guy is a coward. Shame on him
I've yelled help when I was grabbed outside my workplace and almost forced into a van and nobody helped. I grabbed onto the locked newspaper machine which is bolted into concrete which was the only thing preventing my kidnapping. The cameras didn't stop him and neither did any bystander. This happened in 2006.
Wow I'm glad u r well. Thats scary
Glad you made it out alive...
Omg. I could never just watch and try not to help. Even in danger
Jesus did he just give up?
😢😢😢😢🙏🏽
I helped two 16 year old girls from getting kidnapped by a guy in a truck, pulling a big, enclosed cargo trailer in Phoenix at like 1am. He claimed he was following them because they threw rocks at his truck when he was driving past them. It was obvious they didn't. After they got away I wondered if he had other girls in the trailer so I started knocking on it and asking loudly if anyone was in there. The guy took off in the truck immediately and a car that pulled up nearby during it all took off behind him. I realized they were working together. I suspect the car was driving around looking for girls, then calls in the truck and trailer combo and they snatch the girls up, throw them in the trailer and off they go. Phoenix was one of the kidnapping capitals of the world not long ago.
Wow. So scary.
I love how you said "obviously they didnt" like you have a clue.
Ty for helping them & glad you didn’t get hurt.
@@bradsanders407 Really, they’re running away from an enclosed trailer & truck @. 1 am trying obviously to get away?
Did you call authorities and give a suscripciones to track down these guys?
When men try to help, they end up in prison.
Bystander gets involved...gets hurt....they get back together 🙄👎🏽
As a old school biker I got locked up for days after saving a teen girl from a 34 year old man. The police were more bothered about me and my brass knuckles than a pedophile trying to take a kid. Plus they messed my bike up in the impound 🤬
Buddy! Join BACA
Thank you for your courage!
Sorry for the aftermath, but you done good. ❤
God saw everything don't worry ❤
sorry about your bike
We who ride are immediately stereotyped. They probably messed with the bike on purpose. You did a good thing. ☮️♥️
I can’t decide who is the bigger piece of garbage. The abusive boyfriend, or the cowardly bystander?
The bystander is a total pos this could have been preventative and she’s lucky to be alive.
If she was found dead this pos bystander should be charged.
@@P.A.M.733😂 no they shouldn’t be wth are you talking about he was smart to mind his own business
I don’t blame him at all. In America nowadays, it’s “none of my business “ to get involved into anything if one is not afraid being sued later on. A Good Samaritan may get sued by a “needed help person”.
Let’s be honest here what would you have done? You don’t know if he the dude that was kidnapping the girl had a gun. Dude was smart he should have called the cops and recorded tho
Why should he middle himself in a methhead domestic?
I'm sorry but you can take issue with every greedy attention seeking pos that has sued those who have tried to help. They are the ones that have taught society not to interfere.
Actually many others did call the police. He was the only coward who didn’t and now he is known as the only coward who didn’t help. It was because of other bystanders that she was found.
Dude just stood there? What a tool.
He didn't want to be assaulted or charged with assault then sued over meth heads. THAT'S WHY! In this clown world we live in!
I give partial blame to the stupid UA-camrs who do pranks. People have become desensitized and don’t even know what’s real anymore
Good way to get kicked in the face because I’m not taking no chance I’m from the old world where people actually acted instead of watching they would’ve had to CONVINCE ME that it WASNT a prank cuz I would’ve went to town
Facts
This was my first thought. The way things are now, you just don't know.
@@g5tomahawk599 now in days is nothing like the old days. We have multiple 14 yo street assassins out here in Texas. Anyone and everyone can catch a built when stepping into situations that don't involve anyone else besides the people directly involved. You never know if anyone else is in the car with them at first reaction. She's 35 and he's 22. She knew and understood the type of man she got herself involved with. I understand and respect the old world ways. Allot more then I respect this generation. Yet those ways do not work in these new world situations.
You have a child's view of the world. Most people don't know what a UA-cam prank even is
Stop giving criminals so many rights and bystanders will be help
Yep. After ya help, they kiss and make up and then press charges on you instead.
Exactly what I thought too - it actually happened to me - I jumped in to help a woman - the police were called out and I gave them my details - five days later they came around and arrested me for assaulting the guy who was clearly beating up the woman - the guy was taken to court and fined - I was told my case was also going to court but they dropped it SIX MONTHS LATER - I will NEVER help anyone again and I don’t blame anyone else who feels the same - instead of gratitude all you get is grief - it’s just not worth it
Stop. The guy was just a 🐈.
@dirtydawg448 Yep. After ya learn those hard lessons, it makes look at the guy filling his tank alot differently.
I'm sure if he saw a woman being randomly attacked by a stranger he'd surely behave differently.
But yeah people are learning to leave crazy couples alone. After all most women seek that bad boy nonsense now. They love making a scene.
Ain't got no time for that lol.
In Pennsylvania they have a Good Samaritan law where people cannot be sued or have charges pressed against them if they're attempting to help someone or are doing something which they believe is vital for the victim's safety.
The man standing by the truck who didn't help her should be ashamed! COWARD!
Call a bear to help. Shaming tactics don't work when people stop caring
Not his job to put himself in danger if he doesn’t want to.
A real man has family to provide for you don't risk harm to yourself when you have a family to feed.
He thought that there's a bear nearby to help her 💀
The bystander either thought this was a trap or a toxic relationship unfolding that he wanted nothing to do with. Unfortunately it’s not uncommon that couples will do things like this to get someone involved and then rob them or worse.
Good thing you’re omniscient .
Such nonsense.
It sounds as if you are trying to come up with a justification for your own previous or a anticipated failure to provide assistance.
@@Celisar1ah yes, those scenarios never happened before because you know everything about someone on the internet you’ve never met before.
@Celisar1 it looks obvious now, but in the moment, it's impossible to just jump into a domestic violence situation without thinking.
There's just too much risk
@@Celisar1I mean, it’s not uncommon for it to go wrong for men when they step in between a DV issue they don’t know the scope of. Or have heard stories /seen videos of it happening to other men. I personally wouldn’t step into a minor DV issue for this reason but THIS scenario is different. Best “excuse” I could think of is witness is wanted. He too calm to be scared enough to not step in, He’s too nonchalant.
Bystander looking like, “these junkies better not scratch my truck”.
Call the police do not get involve
😂😂😂
And rightly so.
Exactly
@@jimbotron70 Not rightly so.
A lot of men are staying out of situations like this. A man in Walmart went to help a woman who was being abused by her boyfriend. The good guy was shot and died for his efforts leaving his wife and kid.
Let the Police go after the kidnapper. Let the Police work for their $60 per hour job.
sometimes the woman will help her lover if you intervene.
@@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 Actually, police only make about $16 per hour.
We know, atleast call the police, this guy in the video did nothing.
@@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 they don't make that
“In this panicking situation, i am not sure the woman’s consent counts, so I better not get involved.” Is one of the possible thought
People on here seem more upset at the bystander than they are with the kidnapper.
I understand both sides of the argument but in my experience when someone is this vehemently upset and is literally crying, kicking, and screaming help trying to escape someones grasp it should be questioned and not just stared at. What if this was a more severe case and she basically got trafficked or killed. In my mind thats even worse and would affect me alot. Its better to be safe than regret not doing something that could have saved someones life.
@@alanbrown901
I am not dying for someone I don't know. He could have a weapon on him. Just shoots me, takes her anyways. Last time I have been in a fight was over a decade ago in school, I am not winning.
Oh well? We're all focused on paying bills bro, some possible crack head activity is not our concern @alanbrown901
@@fallinggravity9964 no one is expecting people to defend with fists or anything but at least call a cops if not in front of him then when he left. Idk about US but in my country you would be fined for not doing anything.
probably because it goes without saying that the kidnapper is bad so nobody felt the need to bring it up...
This entire planet needs help...
Very much so
Just the humans not the planet
No, just the USA, anywhere else, people would have helped.
@@magnumopus7199 have you seen some of the species inhabiting this planet? There are trees that are racist! (Some trees actively communicate with eachother and if a different species of tree takes root in the area, the native trees will deliberately grow their roots around the new tree to prevent it from expanding its own roots)
@@Aaron_Haymanyou need help
What a coward! Just stood there in silence!
A bear would have helped her.
@@smileychess
Nobody want to be White Knight anymore?
I wonder why?
Few minutes later bystander will be accused of assault her "bad boy" boyfriend.
No thanks.
Wrong, he could have thought it was a prank, a tv show testing him, a tomfoolery, etc.. he had zero context and you don't have the slightest clue as to what this witness has been through to not be able to act as you want him to or expect him to act. You have no say in this. Just keep scrolling.
That should be a crime to do absolutely nothing to help a child in such a desperate situation.
It’s actually a fully grown woman, but it’s also ridiculous to call for pressing charges against a bystander…especially when there are many examples readily available of people trying to do the right thing and falling for a setup, or other people trying to do the right thing and later being sued over some BS.
the thing some clown do this kind of thing as prank
She's a 35 y.o, and 35 y o is an adult not a child.
@user-fq6vs7ub5f aren’t you all strong independent women that can do anything a man can do?
It shouldn’t. That would create legal nightmares for every single crime that happens with witnesses.
I found a girl’s stolen wallet once and messaged her. She went to police who accused me of “being in possession of her property.”
Yup
And people wonder why some men don't get involved in crazy situations
And? You were trying to give it back, it’s not like she has a case against you.
I’d have said I misidentified the person and it wasn’t actually her wallet, then pocketed the cash, don’t bite the hand that feeds you
So this is why you shouldnt help a women screaming “help help help” in public? Is this your big lesson? Bye
Here's an idea
Stop helping woman your only concern should be your loved ones
That bystander has seen too many "heroes" get arrested for doing the right thing...while murderers go free every day.
Exactly
That is no excuse for indifference.
Oh my God, murderers go free everyday! Better do absolutely nothing to help someone in clear need of help! Surely that will make everything better.
🙄🤤🤤
@@Briselance
You clearly live under a rock
@@BriselanceGet lost tough guy, don't whinge when you're behind bars for your good doing to an apathetic society.
@@valentine8161better than knowing someone died when you could’ve stopped it.
Men have helped women in the past and they turn around and blame the man who helped. You can't have it both ways.
That bystander was a coward
Or an incel
This guy is the epitome of "not my business"
Smart man
Maybe he felt too scared of the boyfriend.
and thats the reason why if he needs help, no one will also help him. What comes around, goes around. People should always remember that.
@@sootuckchoong7077she has multiple boyfriend how many will he deal with. He cannot be for the streets for her
Facts
This is what happens when you prosecute good samaritans around the country for helping.
Where did that happen?
Yeah tell us when that happened or do u just not want to help. That fine I mean no one wants you to get psychically involved. But call the cops at least like are you crazy, she could've been killed
Exactly. Many people even in the comments here have experienced this.
@@spreadingthelove17its happened. Look it up
@@twwtjohnslook it up
People used to get involved, then they started getting in trouble. Now people mind their business to keep from getting involved, and they get bashed for that. This guy knew something we don’t.
That is exactly why.
Why risk being sued?
I’ve always thought good samaritans should have near immunity to prosecution.
Billy Was Undercover Field Agent 4Local State Law Enforcement ~ He Can Run After Any Women He Chooses
Nah, the people who wanted an out and to be a coward are always going to find that out. The people who will help will always help. If you don't help, it's because you never would have, because men don't even want to admit how scared of me they are.
A 911 call isn’t going to hurt anyone. The clerk at the gas station should have called if that guy didn’t have a phone.
Imagine that guy had saved her by grabbing her legs and holding on but she found out he was a billionaire & sued him for s/a…. Or
He had intervened but was killed in the process…
Yeah, maybe stop arresting and publicly shaming men that step in.
This ^
People aren't going to get involved if they are afraid that the authorities will punish them for it.
@@Athetos_Admech I'm not. Not everybody is like that. Some people are just insane enough to not care when they believe lives are on the line. I don't care if you believe me; I know what I'll do if/when the time comes...and I'm not the only one who feels this way.
"Honor...to the end."~Optimus Prime.
@@dakotadillon5981 I believe you, I'm just not sure I'd be willing to take the same risk for someone I didn't know. Might sound strange but I don't think I'd be anywhere near as averse to aiding a stranger if being harmed was the only risk, I am more afraid I'd be jailed for 'vigilantism' or 'assault' even if I were defending someone else. Prison seems like it would be worse than being injured or even killed.
@@Athetos_Admech I understand you completely. Feel free to call me naïve.
Step in anyway. You risk getting in trouble or getting hurt to do the right thing.
June 2021 - Carl Gravitt, 22, was eventually arrested and charged with kidnapping, assault, car theft, and possession of drug paraphernalia.
Wait so what happened to the girl?
Was she ok?
@@kimberlybaker3377I hope she's ok...
@@skp6613but what matters is that it should not have happened in the first place, maybe we can feel momentary relief for her but this happens all the time. God help us.
@@GamboaPX you’re absolutely right❤️
That dude just stood there! Pathetic!
He missed the part where that's his problem
@CEOmagi a real man would have done something about it besides watch what was happening, some people just have no morals!🤔
Bystander thinking: “Thank god it isn’t my loved one in danger”
POS! Shame on you for not even calling police! Just kept pumping gas like nothing was wrong!
I was running from my abuser to the neighbor next door. He had taken my phone and I was crying and desperately trying to call anyone for help. When his friend (an older man in his 40s) answered my abuser told him to shut the door and mind his business. He did just that. I will never forget the desperation I felt in that moment. I'm glad I survived.
I went thru similar. I was being beaten I escaped the house, he had a knife chasing me down, I screamed and pleaded for help , neighbors shut the door and watched him drag me back home 😢 it was so traumatizing and I felt so helpless. I know I'd react differently should the opportunity ever arise. glad were both ok!
@makeup_with_brittt5409 so scary! Yes thank goodness we are ok! 💕
This is horrifying🥺 Same thing happened to me when my former drunk, abusive roommate carried me out of a car kicking n screaming. No one helped me. Also we were not dating!😤 (I'm a woman btw I'm on my guy friend's phone)
@@EdwardEismueller I can understand I guess to an extent not wanting to get hurt or killed helping someone but no one even calls the police or anything? I wouldn't be able to sleep at night
@makeup_with_brittt5409 for the same reasons I went through I always call the police if something even remotely looks fishy!
People see cases such as the Veteran being prosecuted in New York that accidentally killed a criminal by using a headlock trying to subdue him. He was just trying to protect everyone around him who admit to being scared and feeling terrorized by this crazy repeat offender and what does the DA do? Prosecute a man who risked his life to fight for our country and risked it again to protect people on a subway. When people see case after case of the good guys trying to help being prosecuted… they quit getting involved. Sad but true 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly its not bravery, its just stupid and the law will rake you over the coals and get their money out of you.....especially NY
Yes, but this guy didn't even call the cops.
Exactly, These Days People get Charged Criminally for Intervening and Helping the Victims of Crime, so _Why_ should Anybody Risk catching a Charge and Possibly Facing Incarceration for Trying to Help? 🤨
Why is BS like that Happening?
You can Thank Leftist/Democrat Policies that Cater To aka Suck Up To, Scumbag Criminals....😉
Sad, but true. Though, he should've at least called the cops. He must've identified with the kidknapper.
Yep. When the government calls evil good, and good evil.
As feminism has taught me, if 1 male is a kidnapper, all males are kidnappers.
This guy made the smart choice by protecting himself from liability.
That bystander should be punished!
I was kidnapped in 2014 on a busy street in broad daylight and absolutely nobody stepped in to help me. I ended up being taken back to his condo, where he assaulted me. It’s absolutely f***ing disgusting how so many people just don’t care about anything but themselves.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. It is disgusting nobody helps anyone anymore.
That’s horrible. I’m a tiny woman and I would have helped. The lack of empathy these days is insane.
I am so sorry you had to go through something like that! I would've helped there is no excuse not to help someone especially when they are telling for help!
I was taken and held captive in a truck with my cousin for 7 hours on a dirt road. While 2 men in a jeep blocked off the end of dirt road to the highway. I stayed calm and continuously tried to unlock the door. Finally after 7 hours, I gave the man the right compliment that boosted his narcissistic ego and when he turned to look me in the face, I unlocked the door, swung the door open and grabbed my cousin out of truck. Then, knew we were possibly going to have to fight for our lives against 3 men. We got a dead flip phone in our pocket to come on just long enough to scream our names at the 911 dispatch and to GPS us. We needed help and my cousin went into shock taking a massive heart attack. I will never forget it.
There was one fellow that followed us onto the dirt road from the same area and he walked right up to the driver's window. Asked us if we wanted a drive back into town and we were too scared to say anything. The back seat was full of weapons, guns, hatchets, you name it. We don't know if he was legit or if he was apart of it.
Scariest thing was that the man wasn't even from the area he took us from and was wearing Search and Rescue clothing from the area we resided in.
I cannot look at society the same way again. I have next to no trust for anyone in the emergency services at all anymore. I can't go to therapy either... Because, my only question is how to you trust society after that.
No one has the answer for me.
I’m so glad you’ve survived. I have CPTSD from abuse and can only imagine what you’ve gone through trying to heal. You’re in my prayers. Continued safety, peace and healing..but also, that you are shown the way to tell between the good and bad within people and find a way to be encouraged with people again. Truly, the worst part about suffering is realizing how humanity currently accepts and encourages allowing and causing it to happen.
Wow that guy did nothing. Useless. A coward.
Or a predator himself
How do you know that this wasn't just a girl trying to get away from her parents and throwing a tenter tantrum?. I guess he could have called the police.
Personally I’d have helped but hopefully you at least acknowledge that you have old-fashioned views about gender roles.
@@ericrener8177either way I wouldn’t just stand there as if nothing was happening in front of me
@@clayc5929they’re not old fashioned it’s called biology. Also men want to be viewed as these macho men, so act like it.
The guy standing at the truck I would say not even close to being a man watching this poor women being taken like that .
Someone who fails to report a crime can face criminal charges. This witness should be held accountable.
Just say you did not know it was a crime. Women don't need no man today and men don't need to get involved.
@rbfarrell1, yeah, because all women are the exact same. Just like all men are the exact same, right?... Think it through, lil buddy. You can do it.
Not quite man. They should be charged.
A daughter, influenced by tiki tok and her peers learns to yell help when she's disputing with her parents. Btw, the issue was probably caused by the gender reassignment hormones she was secretly taking. 😮
@@Navy_Snipe so where were her parents in the video then?
This guy took "Just minding my own business" too the next level.
Amen 🙏
He did not even twitch he was frozen with fear but then again, that’s what cowards do
@samdoors5132 Nothing to do with cowardice. Women want to be men nowadays, so let them sort out their problems. Big respect to this guy for not helping. She should deal with the problem herself since she is a man nowadays or failing that, call the feminists.
Yeah thats a bs line to begin with. The people saying that are in everybody's business
@@Njoofene
Your a coward too... Ugh
"the only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing" Edmund Burke
Good men are shamed for their nature as a man in western culture. Passivity is encouraged in the US
Or women rescued and saved by men to sue them and charge them with $exual assault
@@mikememp3172 Sadly true. We must break that terribly destructive ideology. Do what must be done which is morally right. Then legally and verbally fight against the Negative consequences afterwards.
That wasn't a real man. This is the results from no morals or standards being taught by parents anymore. Pathetic
@@kimh2330 I hear you.
They should charge that bystander with something. WOW!
It's called "depraved Indifference."
Bystander is a coward
MEN! STAND UP
Lady tried to steal my son in Florida and I yelled help and ran in the store and she chased me around in the store. She called the cops on me saying my child and me were not supposed to be out so late. She then tried to get me for assault. Police were not buying her bs. Thank God.
People are nuts.
My stars, that must've been terrifying!!!
That YOU and YOUR child wasn't supposed to be out late?? 🤔
Sounds like she done this many times chasing you in front of ppl and cameras .
Yeah thank god u had human cops eh, glad ur Sons ok. 😶🫢☹️🇦🇺🎄🎅🏻merry Christmas
Lol what kind of made up bs is this ??😂😂
That man who did nothing to help this young woman should be ashamed of himself, and his family should not trust him to be their PROCTOR.he is a coward.
Protector, not proctor, who is a test monitor
@@sandrachebogrammar police 🚔 🚓 👮♀️ 🚨 😂
You don’t know him and you have such strong opinions about him because he decided not to risk his life for a total stranger?
So he gets involved, gets shot, then what? Not every man wants to throw their life away and in the kind of society we live in now, it’s everybody’s prerogative as to what to do with their own time and life.
@freedomnanakweku I agree with you on that. He could play hero and end up being the one not making it home for dinner. He might have little ones depending on him. It looks bad though.
@@falsealarmno word. all these pissy trolls acting like men are required to be security for random chicks
I have heard atleast 200 women tell me we are strong independent women and we dont need a man....
Whats the fuss about.
But the second I give him some pew pew all of a sudden I’m the bad guy
A bystander helped in NYC and is now facing prison time. Why would anyone want to help if the consequences for helping are being prosecuted for stepping up.
Can you elaborate? I haven't heard abt that😮
I’d face jail time due to a messed up system long before I’d casually watch a woman possibly go to her death.
@@wyclefohara4169 Look up Daniel Penny, NYC subway rider 2023
What case is that ?
If you’re talking about the Jordan Neely case that is completely a different set of circumstances Neely himself was in danger along with the others on the subway.
He just stood there like there was nothing going on in front of him. What a cowardly pos
The anger and rage I feel towards thr by stander!! I can't believe that!
Get involved, get sued or even worse, charged with a crime. No thanks. Not my monkeys not my circus
Don't worry karma will hit back @bigisrick
@@bigisrickdude he could have at least called the police and reported that he didn't even do that don't be a coward what if it was your daughter or mother or sister these are just chumps you face them down and they're going to do nothing nine times out of 10 and doing the right thing a simple phone call dude really?
@@bigisrickCan you imagine if that was your sister, daughter or girlfriend. Shame...
That woman bailed him out of jail after the cops caught him.
This is the consequence of criminalising people who do get involved.
You can’t be that delusional. He clearly was just afraid to intervene
how do you know he didnt help someone before and got arrested or someone sued him? blame the democratic state of AMerica, not the people @@firemonkey1015
@@firemonkey1015The only thing less clear than the reason behind the bystander’s apprehension was the video footage.
You can’t assume anything based on a ten second video that looks like it has been compressed fifty times.
@@firemonkey1015 He was protecting himself in a reasonable and prudent way. Never involve yourself in someone else's domestic dispute.
In New York a man was charged for holding a man in a choke hold who was harrassing and threatening passengers with a weapon while on a subway train @@firemonkey1015
If he saved her the DA would have prosecuted him for assaulting an innocent rapist.
Ask Daniel Penny
Women are strong and independent. They don't need men's help.
@@obsideonyx7604 we'll see when there is something heavy to carry...
Someone is making the system crumble. As it is done on purpose. People have to start fighting and bring back the system to work for the people again.
Was looking for this comment. MSM would be screaming about how he needs to be locked away for life because we can NOT tolerate vigilantes. He would have been arrested that day, and the woman's BF would sue the gas station and PD for not stopping the random dude pumping gas from hurting him.
I would much rather live in prison knowing I helped someone in that situation, than to have freedom and live my life knowing I'm a worthless piece of 💩 for just standing there watching.
She's a strong independent woman who don't need no man, remember.
You need help, call the police. The cemeteries are full of white Knight men who stepped in to help a woman and paid with their lives.
She would call the hero a creep if he tried to help. Thats the world we live in now.
He didn't want to be assaulted or charged with assault then sued over meth heads. THAT'S WHY! In this clown world we live in!
I was attacked by someone as I was just peacefully dropping off a gift, I screamed and my boyfriend came to my rescue. She had me on the ground pulling my hair and the POLICE said we were being charged! This is not justice PEOPLE stand up for what is happening.
She looks more like a child (teenager) to me....
Yes. Either that or a very petite woman.
And they get trafficked, too.
So what? What's your point?
@@GnosticElohimyour bored aren't u😅
…does that matter?
Also she could just be really tiny. I’m 26 and have been mistaken for a kid bc I’m not even 5ft. Either way that’s irrelevant. She’s clearly terrified and the coward did nothing to help her.
watched my parents try to intervene when some guy was abusing his girl right across the street from our house while I was a kid, she was screaming and crying and everything. my parents shouted that they had already called the police. dude drove off leaving her on the sidewalk crying. when my parents tried to help her she cussed and swore and screamed at them "why would you call the police? why would you do that???" so we all just went back in the house and when the police showed up, everyone was gone so my parents just told em what happened and that was that.
so sad.
It’s how brainwashed they are the abuser makes them so co-dependent on them
See - but because of this ☝️ is the reason why people don’t intervene because often times the woman loves the abuser n will get back with him…. Just call police n let them handle it
Rats flock together sometimes
None of us can really say what we would have done in the situation, but I hope I would have helped out despite knowing that even cops are wary of domestic violence situations because can I pretty sure how things will go down when people are all up in their feelings. People have been shot for trying to intervene.
My parents tried to do the same thing with an old lady that was known to be kind of on the crazy side. They asked her if she needed any help or anything and that old lady just start cussing them out they just said we’re out of here so yeah, sometimes people get gun shy about helping other people like that.
I can't condemn the bystander. Good Samaritans get killed all the time! My husband has a big heart but for his sake I tell him to stand back and call the police.
But he didn’t even call the police after that
I pray to God did the bystander never gets into the same situation that is so sad to see a human being in trouble and you're right there and refused to help
We had a neighbor who would get beat by her husband. One night around 2am, we heard her screaming for help. She was able to set off their car alarm. My husband called the police, but of course, she denied it all and acted like she had no idea why we would call them. Two months later, he was chasing her around outside with a knife.
Thats sadly common, many abuse victims feel forced to stay and many don't have the option to leave. Its a very complex issue
Classic case of a woman in an abusive … this is why some people prefer to not get involved , had a friend who tried to stop a man from hitting a woman my friend ended getting jumped by both the man and the woman … hate yo admit it but I can see the truck driver could easily ignore the drama
@@minisnakali exactly
@@minisnakali and notice so many people blaming the woman mean hardly anyone cares to understand DV
This is where a lot of women choose to place themselves. Men need to stop jumping in. Too many men tried to help women from being “abused” by some boyfriend and got put in jail by both the man and woman. Look at what just happened to that blonde dude in nyc. Now he’s serving many years in prison, a former soldier to the country I believe. Men need to step back and allow women to fully utilise their autonomy, let women make their own decisions and stop ever trying to help them ever.
It's 2023-2024. Bruh.
MEN ARE GETTING JAILED and SUED for Helping WOMEN, that "NEEDED HELP"..
I CAN'T blame him for not getting involved.
For real, I'm 22, in 2024, I'll be 23. I can't deal with all these jedi mind tricks & mental gymnastics.
@@isaacennis2077 the clerk at the gas station called it into police and showed them the video. the police recognized the couple since they get so many 911 calls against them by neighbors who complain about noise, nuisance and domestic violence. nothing new, they're well known. she is 35 year old grown woman with a 22 year old abusive man. they found her hours later, 'rescued' her and she did what she always does. drops the charges on the boyfriend, pays his bail and goes right back with him. 'her body, her choice' right? or do you have a problem with that? which is it?
@@mgtowmonger2729 THANK YOU!!!
@@isaacennis2077 STRAIGHT FACTS!! Better off by ourselves, worried about not anyone else's business!!
I just looked the case up and she did not drop charges against him, and he was held without bail. Please try not to spread lies.
I can't believe that guy did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!! hope this never happens to his wife, sister, mother! just cowardly and despicable!!
What ??? So insensitive..such a jerk!
He not only did nothing, he didn't even contact the police. Coward!
His name and photo should be posted on every street corner in America for years named THE GUY THAT IS NOT A REAL MAN, because a man would have helped!
@@Boggyboytadno really nowadays. A lot of men have tried helping in situations but they end up getting charged with a crime so nobody wants to help anymore.
Maybe he had no mobile phone and the petrol station had no payphone. Never intervene because you will likely get arrested and sued.
All he saw was an unruly kid. Do yours know to yell,”THIS IS A STRANGER! Call 911! Do NOT Touch Me! WHO ARE YOU?!I’m in DANGER! IHELP! Who Is This Scary Man?! POLICE!” If a kid is just yelling ,” No” it can easily look like a tantrum. TEACH YOUR KIDS.
@@indridcold8433 You are just as bad as this bystander.
*WHY WOULD HE HELP SO YOU CAN PRESS CHARGES AGAINST HIM AND CALL HIM A CRIMINAL*
Stop projecting why you would do something onto women
Just like Daniel Penny
@@SkarletjonancyDaniel Penny got charged for helping out a woman
@@jimmiedmc1 Thank you, sir.
Because it’s the “right” thing to do!!
But go ahead, listen to fear… see what that does in the end. For life is always bigger than just the moment at hand.
It doesn’t surprise me at all. After being married to an abusive person - not only did male bystanders do nothing when he was abusive to us - the men also never did anything when he was abusive to THEIR kids - it was always the moms who ran to the defense of their kids - the men coward away and let their wives deal with his abuse. Same in my life the men in my life stood away and just let my abusive husband be abusive - where are the men in the world to defend women and girls?
They run the risk of getting locked up themselves for assault (the victim turning on the guy and siding with the abuser), injured, or dead. They could also be held liable if they intervene. Most men that have learned enough life lessons know not to stick their neck out for a stranger. Would more of these same men that refuse to help strangers stick their neck out for their wife, kids, and family, and close friends? Absolutely, more would. But strangers are too high risk.
"Strong and independent women don't need no man" Remember?
The bystander needs to have charges filed against him
Why so
Why?
This is what happens when you make good citizens into criminals for helping.
Yea not sorry at all. Learn to defend yourself or get kidnapped. I’m not getting involved and winding up in trouble.
@@skillethead15 you must have many friends
Nah this is what weak people use as an excuse but if your too scared to do anything than of course do not.
@@The_Only_Tracyok Superman go ahead
@@The_Only_Tracy you living under a rock? In some parts of CANADA and UK, SELF DEFENSE is somewhat not allowed.
Imagine defense for others.
When the system protects the criminal more than a hero, this is what happens.
I was thinking the same thing
That part
When a guy is a coward…
@@nancyshelton2525your right, they're cowering likely because the one who steps in ends up in prison while the actual predator walks free.
@@denabaril27when has this happened?
That guy standing there is a coward
i wonder how the bystander feels knowing the whole world thinks hes a coward geez
To those calling the bystander "coward" no he's not, cuz if he would have done anything either he's getting shot by the man or getting a lawsuit by the woman, better safe than sorry 🗿
People more outraged at the bystander than the kidnapper… YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG.
The only person who caught that! 😂
Indifference is just as bad though if not worse ya goof
Omg people know nothing about the bystander what if he had ptsd from war or something
Uh no, actually the complete indifference is just as disgusting if not more so than the crazy actions of a crazy man.
@TheIndigo1child Not even close. We know nothing about the bystander or their circumstances. Even in the worst case scenario, where he literally just watches and doesn't help simply because he doesn't care to, it isn't nearly as bad as what the kidnapper is doing by any means. Terrible? yes. Worse? No.
Bystander: "Huh, another Tiktok prank video!"
What ida thought too. Can’t ever tell these days.
That’s exactly what I was thinking
Yup 😆
Liberal women don’t need a man’s help they said.
@@dh-uo4ltwhat's politics have to do with this???!?!
Way too many people would stand there and watch that. They would tell the psycho to handle his business and they’d mind theirs. Absolutely disgusting.
It's so sad, no one wants to help anyone
It's so true. People turned a blind 👁️ these days.
Maybe because governments indoctrination has sheep acting like SHEEP.
You go to jail.
Look at New York subway situation.😢
People are scared to, the government is corrupt and prosecution happy, people can't afford to get involved, they saw and understood when someone was imprisoned for being a hero, it still should have been in the man to stop it and intervene people generally don't run toward other people if it's a couples sick daily game of dysfunction and mutual combat.
@@DonnielSeymour what happened, I’m afraid to even ask 😬
This is what you get when you put a system in place when a good samaritan can be put in jail faster then the criminal's just for helping.
I don't understand those "I wouldn't be able to look in a mirror" or "God will the to judge you"
Meaning in this world, full of suffering, they need to wait for a kidnap or assault happening right in front of them?
I mean, there hungry Africa, poor Palestinians, immigrants without houses and here they are, white knights being busy building their own life, waiting for an opportunity to be the man, the hero...
Stopped a domestic once, split them up was waiting for cops to show up...long story short I ended up getting beat up and arrested three months of court dates just to clear my name, on top of all the money for a Lawyer.
That’s no excuse. Men used to be willing to sacrifice their life before their honor. Any man that’s worried about possible legal ramifications from doing the right thing, certainly wouldn’t sacrifice their life. We’ve just been conditioned into being cowed and self-centered. Goes for me as well.
@@oophorror2251it’s not just the system it’s decades of women being prioritized legally, to where if ANY domestic violence occurs and the man is not severely beaten, the man will be arrested, period, regardless of the facts. if you want to stand for something stand for it. don’t act like we’ve all been cucked into some cowardice when really we just are smart enough to self-preserve ourselves so we’re around to stand for our own women and children and not some random ones.
This is exactly right.