JUST WANTED TO TELL EVERYONE: Thank you in advance for the advice and I truly appreciate arguments from both sides. LOVE YOU GUYS! THANK YOU SO MUCH! 🥹🩷🙏
Samantha, have you heard "The Big Push" song they do live called 'Wade in the Water'? I RARELY request songs and I would be honored to see you react to it. ❤ I love your reactions so much. They are THE BEST AND MOST GENUINE I've ever seen on UA-cam. 💪😘
Don't you dare invite that child. You will essentially be telling your daughter her feelings don't matter. I would also go to the principal and report the teacher.
Your kids are lucky to have a mom that cares so much! Wish I had some golden nugget of an answer for you Sam but whatever you do let light be the guide. If you’re doing it to protect your daughter vs be mean to someone that was mean to you…. It all really comes down to the true motive behind it and that I have no doubt in your ability to navigate. You’re a good person, go with your heart and you’ll do just fine! ❤
You're so right Michael and I can't tell you how much that means to me. I wish they came with instructions sometimes Michael! But they don't. I'm lucky to have people like you to give me advice and help guide me. It helps more than I can say 🥹🙏🩷
Oh sammy, great reaction and YOU DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT TO YOU. I dont think there's much of a wrong answer here hun. You're a great mom and I totally get it girl. Great song. Great reaction! 😘
I really love this one along with Ocean they did together. Lovely reaction. My daughter is a teacher in the UK with 30, 10-year-olds, the bitchiness never stops, the boys just throw punches. Invite her and show you are the bigger person, and in your own home show her that she only rules the classroom in her little mind and not your home. Good luck.
Thank you so much Ginge. You're awesome, I SO APPRECIATE the advice my friend. I wish they came with instructions sometimes 😂😭 but they don't, so the feedback is so helpful beyond words my friend 🥹🙏🩷
So first, another great reaction; I actually hadn't heard this one before, so it was great to see a new Ren. Pain is definitely humbling; I liked your point about the relationship with the pain is important. If we run or hide from these pains, they actually drag us down. Making room and getting an understanding of it, learning something from it, and accepting it is how we can move on from it. ❤ So my thoughts on your situation; I went to private schools from 1st - High school. While most of my classmates had parents with a lot of money. My dad was a mechanic and put in a ton of overtime to make it so we could go to these schools. Now, granted, there absolutely were some kids that were spoiled brats, and their folks were the type that they felt superior to others because of their money. Yes, there were kids like that.. but I also had several who were self conscious about their family situation. Some had family situations that the parents jobs were so demanding of their time that they would try to make up for it by getting them these expensive toys or gadgets and their peers would be jealous of these items. Other kids would assume they had perfect lives, and it ended up creating an identity for them.. they basically became the cliche.. I remember one kid who came to another friend's birthday party.. initially, he was talking about how much better his parties were and how lame it was ect..ect.. my buddy said you are welcome to leave. But the kid backed down, and after a while, he actually had a good time. Well, his dad called; something came up and asked if someone could give him a ride home. My mom volunteered, and my mom is a talker.. peppered him with questions, and we learned he had a lot of accomplishments.. we were telling him how great that was, etc.. I didn't think too much of it. Dropped him off, and his attitude was different, but he still didn't think much more about it went about the weekend. Monday at school suddenly he wants to be buddy's. At some point, I'm not sure how many days later it was. But I asked him why he was a jersey before? He didn't know.. he said, "Just thought that's what people thought of him, so that's how he acted. I thought that was odd, so I pointed out a couple situations he had been awful to other classmates.. he didn't have an answer.. but I remember him looking at me like he was trying not to get emotional.. and he says, "You know you're lucky right? I asked, "How's that? He says your family loves you. I stayed quiet, and after a few seconds, he says, your mom was far more excited about my accomplishments than my parents ever have been. They just buy me shit, thinking that it makes me happy.. and those things are OK, but you have fun with your family, I never do. He says that day with your mom, she made me feel really good about the stuff I do.. says with my folks, they only tell me I have to do better, then have fancy gatherings and brag about me to their friends. Like this kid was amazing really, turned out he was this accomplished pianist, but he never knew that. He was high up in cub scouts, he did chess tournaments and had won several big events.. I didn't know any of that until my mom drew it out of him. I think he liked my family more than me. 😂 So my thought with this would be that perhaps the teacher feels the kid somehow is misunderstood and has a reason for those thoughts. Now I agree 💯 that she hasn't approached it very well if indeed that is the case. She should have spoken only to you privately and not your daughter.. Perhaps you could meet with the teacher in an actual face to face and ask her reasoning and remain calm 😉 while expressing your concerns.. I'm not necessarily saying that her reasoning will be right; but if you hear her thoughts and she listens to you; perhaps you could come up with some type of solution.. perhaps a step after that could be asking her parents to meet with you, and the teacher can be a mediator.. now keep in mind I don't have kids, I don't know if teachers meet like that these days, I know my folks had a good relationship with all my teachers, but then again the schools were small, like 20 to 25 kids at max.. and this was the 80s, no internet. So face to face was probably far more common, and these days, the teacher may just say, "Text me.. I don't know. I tend to think turning the other cheek is good to an extent. But you can't lay down and get walked over.. you have 2 cheeks. It sounds like they slapped one. If they slap the other after you are being nice, then they had their chance. Hmmm. I'm not sure, kid.. It's definitely a pickle. I don't envy you, I mean, obviously, as any parent would, you want to protect your kids. Plus this is a different world for kids, if I did something embarrassing at school I would be convinced the whole school knew; but really it would be like 5 to 10 kids.. these days it got caught by some kid on his phone and it isn't just thinking the whole school knows, it's actually a fact that the whole school knows.. its a different kind of pressure. I definitely don't know the absolute solution, all I can offer is my experience was that some of these kids I knew that acted awful; actually were very sad, and lonely, believing friends only liked them for the stuff they had. And the lack of maturity made those emotions come out as anger. Is that the case here? No idea.. maybe that's helpful? Take care and I praying works out for you.. Take some time to pray about it. Prayer helps ❤🙏
You are so right Sam. Gosh your story sounds a lot like mine. My kids don't go to a private school but it's one of the best public school districts in Texas that we live in and I thank God for that. It's also a smaller school so they get more individualized time with the teachers and they send more kids to Ivy League schools than almost any other public school in Texas so that part is great! The drawback is the fact that we are much poorer than 99% of the people that go there and that's been a struggle with bullying for all my kids. The teachers are kind of cliqued up too and they can be really snobby and dismissive which is also hard sometimes because if one doesn't like you, most likely a whole group of them won't to stay cliqued up and on the same page. The thing is I think you're right. #1 it comes from the parents and I'm sure their home lives probably revolve more around money than around their kids which I don't know that for a fact to be true but it seems that way and that can leave a child feeling very lonely, ignored, and cause them to lash out, but I want the resolution like your story. I want them to realize they can be great friends and lean on each other instead of going into competition mode with each other or envying each other causing this rift. I am going to think hard on this because I want them both to like each other so badly! I think like you said, if they realize why they're doing it maybe it will snap them out of it. Amazing advice Sam. You're too awesome my friend. It means so much to me that you took the time to write that and it really changed my perspective on this so thank you my kind buddy. 🥹🙏🩷
@JusticeJunkies1 Well, you have some other good advice throughout this comment section. As you said, think it through, pray about it, and then trust your gut. The silver lining here is the wonderful people here who took time to share their thoughts and give you their support. ❤️ There is no manual for parents; no parenting 101 that has all the answers. You do the best you can, and let your heart lead the way. But have the knowledge to understand that no one will go forward with no problems or pains and struggles as much as we wish we could give that to them. We can help teach them how to take those aspects of life and use them as learning tools. Instill an understanding that you can't please everyone it'd a hard concept to fully grasp, especially for a child. But when I look back, I could have saved myself a lot of stress and discomfort; had I accepted that simple fact and not let others' opinions have such an effect on me. Good or bad.. That Bill Murray Documentary I mentioned to you when you were sick; it has a great story in there of the old man whose horse escapes from his pasture. His neighbor comes over and offers his condolences, and the old man shrugs his shoulders and says, "Who knows what's good or bad? The next day, the horse returns with 9 new stallions, and the neighbor comes over to congratulate the old man. He shrugs and says, "Who knows what's good or bad? The next day, his son is trying to saddle break one of the new stallions, and he is thrown off and breaks his leg. Neighbor comes to offer condolences, and again, the old man says, "Who knows what's good or bad? The next day, the army comes by to recruit men for the war; but his son has a broken leg, so he is spared. .. now this can go on forever.. the idea is that life will always have its upside and downs and things that we can't control. But the thing we can control is how we react to these things. If I had not looked at those rejections as a stain on me; but rather it tells me they have a problem and I don't feel mad or hurt.. I instead think I know I was nothing but nice. They are the ones who are missing out on a nice person in their life. I think that simple recognition that it's not my job to make people like me.. It's my job to be myself and treat others as I would like to be treated, and some will recognize that, and we will have mutual respect and friendship, and others won't, and that's ok. It's their loss. Bur.. then again took about 50 yrs to understand that for me. 😆 🤣 You understand the value of love of yourself and know the pains that can come if that is determined by someone else's view of us. Trust in your gut and heart. Hope this novel made some sense.. if you haven't watched that film it's on YT they explain the moral of the story far better than I. Might help you think it through. ❤️ 🙏
Kids are brutal. I was a sensitive kid and kids would realize this and pick on me. My 2nd grade teacher said "You have to ignore them. They just want to see your reaction." Solid,mature advice. It helped me, and at the same time I felt as though the teacher was on my side. Don't worry about who is / is not invited.
Amen my friend. Just took me back when my kiddo told me that the teacher was confronting them both and pressuring my daughter to invite someone that doesn't like her to her party BUT I will absolutely tell her to ignore it and hopefully it all goes well. Thank you so much my friend. Mama-bearin' over here 😂🥹🙏🩷
You're humble girl. You're human. You're a mama bear and so am I 😂 great song! Love how you always incorporate real life situations into your reactions. It's so different and awesome 😎👍
Sam, you do what is right for your daughter. I know you definitely will. You are an amazing mom, but you do what you feel in your heart is right. P.s. Pink Floyd is THE BAND so I agree with ya 😂
I think here in Europe a common limit the amount of friends a child should invite to a birthday party is similar to the age. Sorry if you did not make the shortlist, no more places left.
I love it. So to the point, and so right. Great advice buddy it really means a lot. It's so...primitive almost because when someone is mean to me I'm okay with it, but when someone is mean to my kids the primitive MAMA BEAR comes rushing out the gate 😂😭. Thank you so much for the advice and you are so right 🥹🙏🩷
No Sammy you do what's best for you and yours. Screw what the teacher said. Why she's even getting involved in a child's birthday party is beyond me! You're awesome.
Thank you buddy. I'm taking all the advice I can get. It's silly but it also isn't because I don't want my daughter to feel sad on her day. Thank you for the advice my friend 🩷
You are a great mom. I'm a dad and my daughter was BRUTALLY picked on by a little girl too. We did EVERYTHING we could to make it stop. Talked to her, talked to teachers, talked to the mom, even invited her to 2 birthday parties and IT NEVER STOPPED. You do what feels right for you because sometimes you can talk to people until you're blue in the face to resolve it and find no resolution. Whatever you decide to do, it's the right thing to do Sam. ❤ ALSO, I'M WITH YOU. IF YOU DON'T LIKE PINK FLOYD YOU ARE CRAZY! 😂❤
@@BladeRunner-g1x thanks buddy I really appreciate that. I appreciate hearing arguments for either side. Totally open to it. I'm so sorry that happened to you and I'll take your advice my friend. Whatever feels right for us 😉🩷🥹🙏
Na you do what's right for you boo. Don't worry about the teacher. Your little girl has the right to pick who she wants to be there based on how toxic they behave towards her. Like you said, in life if someone is being mean to you, you get the choice whether or not to include them in your and your daughter's life. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Awesome reaction. So glad to throw some advice out there 😂❤
Let your daughter know that not only won't everyone like her, but she also doesn't want everyone to like her. If cruel, nasty people like me, I consider it a diss. I personally give others the same energy I receive. 🤷
Jmas you rock! Thank you so much. I agree. Not everyone is going to like you, you're not gonna like everyone and that's okay. The great part about that is you get to pick and choose what's acceptable and what's not. Thank you for the advice my friend. 🥹🙏🩷✊
My opinion on this.... I am on your side on this one. Why was it not discussed when it was the other way around. People can call it petty, but i wouldn't care less. I would tell the teacher to back off. It is none of her business. Your childs happiness is what's most important here. Although i can get the other side it could help them be friends, but does shereally want to be friends with childeren like that? Soooo....that's my 2 cent on this matter! With love ❤ from Egyptian Silk That would so be my rap name! 😄
I totally agree bestie. I think what the teacher did was totally wrong but I also want these kids to unite and maybe realize they could be friends. It's such a rock and a hard place but people like you help me to figure this stuff out Bjorn. I just love you Egyptian Silk 😉😘🥹🙏🩷
Hi Sam! Parenting is such a minefield isn't it? First of all I just want to say that you should probably trust your instincts on this above all else here, because you know your daughter and the context behind this better than anyone, and from what I know of you, you have a very good instinct for knowing the right course of action to take. All I can do is say what I would do personally in this situation if it was me. Firstly, my daughters wishes come first and if she was dead set against her coming, I would not allow it under any circumstances. No-one has the right to dictate that to you or your daughter. However, children at a young age can change very easily and from my experience my son and two daughters all had friendships that flipped from best of friends to arch enemies and back again quite often. Sometimes these can be two sides of the same coin, as kids test each other out for potential friendships. If this girl is upset at not coming to the party, there is at least a chance she might want to become friends in the future. Be guided by what your daughter wants but mindful that your daughter's ongoing well-being at school is the priority, so don't rule out an olive branch if you think it could work (but only if your daughter would be ok with this) and only on your terms. I would ask for a face to face meeting with the teacher and bring up all the concerns I have over how my daughter has been treated by this girl in the past and ask why the teacher saw fit to get involved on this particular occasion but not on any of the others (sorry, I'm probably more blunt with these things than you should be!). This is assuming the teacher was aware of issues in the past and did nothing about it. If the teacher has been unaware then it could be an opportunity to put some support/oversight in place for your daughter during school time. Finally (and this is easier said than done), it might be worth talking to the girl's mother if you think she would be reasonable about it. If establishing a relationship with her is possible, her daughter would be a lot less likely to cause problems in the future. Her daughter will take her cue from her mother, so building bridges there, if possible, could help a lot (particularly if she's a teacher at the school). Without knowing the circumstances better, it's hard to know if any of this would be useful for you, but I'm confident you'll make the right decisions! Good luck, and always feel free to bounce ideas off me if you want.
You're so sweet Sean and you're so right. Thank you for this my friend it means so much. You're right, I gotta put my daughter first so I guess I'll just let her decide and I'll respect her wishes. Parenting IS A MINEFIELD! I could not have said that better. I wish they came with instructions sometimes, but they don't 😂 thank you my sweet friend 🥹🙏🩷
Don't let someone tell you what you have to do with your baby. If she is being bullied Sammy don't feel the need to invite her. I know they're just little kids but the teacher has no right confronting them both over something that is none of their business. You do what's right for your daughter. awesome reaction ❤
You have the same problem I have with telling someone that they are not only wrong but they have overstepped their bounds…. You need to write down what you want to say in advance and memorize it…. Address her in front of the class (since she thinks speaking her mind in front of them is appropriate) This teacher is in the wrong on every level and I would have either the principal or a school administrator witness the exchange and have your phone recording the interaction for your protection as they will try to say you were cursing them or some other lies about what was said….
Matthew you're so right man. I appreciate that so much. I am. You nailed it. I'm terrible with telling someone they're being totally inappropriate so writing down my thoughts and expressing them is a great idea! Thank you so much buddy! I appreciate it more than you know! 🩷🥹🙏
I really don't have the answer to this situation, it pisses me off, and I think you should stick to your guns and do what you originally want to do. I'm pissed cause I feel like the teacher is bullying you. I think the teacher should stay out of it. She stayed out of it when your daughter wasn't invited. Maybe you should say this is your daughter's decision on who to invite. If she doesn't want the girl at her party cause she is mean to her she shouldn't go.
Thank you so much my fellow Ren supporter! I agree I thought it was WAY beyond her business and I still think that but I SO APPRECIATE your words. They help more than you know my friend 🥹🙏🩷
Thank you Jannie. Btw Jannie was my grandma's name. She was my best friend and I haven't seen that name spelled like that in a long time. 🥹🙏🩷 You're always welcome here my friend.
I do it all the time it's a terrible habit. It's something I've always done not because I'm being vain but because it's a terrible habit. I'll work on it my friend. 🩷
JUST WANTED TO TELL EVERYONE: Thank you in advance for the advice and I truly appreciate arguments from both sides. LOVE YOU GUYS! THANK YOU SO MUCH! 🥹🩷🙏
Don't let anyone make you feel bad about ANY decision you make girl. I think that teacher overstepped her boundaries BIG TIME but that's just me. ❤
Samantha, have you heard "The Big Push" song they do live called 'Wade in the Water'? I RARELY request songs and I would be honored to see you react to it. ❤ I love your reactions so much. They are THE BEST AND MOST GENUINE I've ever seen on UA-cam. 💪😘
You are a good mama Samantha 💖
Thank you so much my friend that means a lot 🥹🙏🩷
Don't you dare invite that child. You will essentially be telling your daughter her feelings don't matter. I would also go to the principal and report the teacher.
You're awesome. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for the advice. You're awesome! 🥹🙏🩷
Your kids are lucky to have a mom that cares so much! Wish I had some golden nugget of an answer for you Sam but whatever you do let light be the guide. If you’re doing it to protect your daughter vs be mean to someone that was mean to you…. It all really comes down to the true motive behind it and that I have no doubt in your ability to navigate. You’re a good person, go with your heart and you’ll do just fine! ❤
You're so right Michael and I can't tell you how much that means to me. I wish they came with instructions sometimes Michael! But they don't. I'm lucky to have people like you to give me advice and help guide me. It helps more than I can say 🥹🙏🩷
Oh sammy, great reaction and YOU DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT TO YOU. I dont think there's much of a wrong answer here hun. You're a great mom and I totally get it girl. Great song. Great reaction! 😘
Thank you so much love I SO appreciate that. 🥹🙏🩷
I really love this one along with Ocean they did together. Lovely reaction. My daughter is a teacher in the UK with 30, 10-year-olds, the bitchiness never stops, the boys just throw punches. Invite her and show you are the bigger person, and in your own home show her that she only rules the classroom in her little mind and not your home. Good luck.
Okay that sounds like a plan Kenny and it might just work. I hope so 🤞✊🩷 thank you my friend 🥹🙏🩷
You do you!! Great song 🎉
Thank you! 🥰
Tell them no she’s not going to the party, it’s good to learn the word no and she can’t always get what she wants it’s a good life lesson
Thank you so much Ginge. You're awesome, I SO APPRECIATE the advice my friend. I wish they came with instructions sometimes 😂😭 but they don't, so the feedback is so helpful beyond words my friend 🥹🙏🩷
So first, another great reaction; I actually hadn't heard this one before, so it was great to see a new Ren. Pain is definitely humbling; I liked your point about the relationship with the pain is important. If we run or hide from these pains, they actually drag us down. Making room and getting an understanding of it, learning something from it, and accepting it is how we can move on from it. ❤
So my thoughts on your situation; I went to private schools from 1st - High school. While most of my classmates had parents with a lot of money. My dad was a mechanic and put in a ton of overtime to make it so we could go to these schools. Now, granted, there absolutely were some kids that were spoiled brats, and their folks were the type that they felt superior to others because of their money. Yes, there were kids like that.. but I also had several who were self conscious about their family situation. Some had family situations that the parents jobs were so demanding of their time that they would try to make up for it by getting them these expensive toys or gadgets and their peers would be jealous of these items. Other kids would assume they had perfect lives, and it ended up creating an identity for them.. they basically became the cliche.. I remember one kid who came to another friend's birthday party.. initially, he was talking about how much better his parties were and how lame it was ect..ect.. my buddy said you are welcome to leave. But the kid backed down, and after a while, he actually had a good time. Well, his dad called; something came up and asked if someone could give him a ride home. My mom volunteered, and my mom is a talker.. peppered him with questions, and we learned he had a lot of accomplishments.. we were telling him how great that was, etc.. I didn't think too much of it. Dropped him off, and his attitude was different, but he still didn't think much more about it went about the weekend. Monday at school suddenly he wants to be buddy's. At some point, I'm not sure how many days later it was. But I asked him why he was a jersey before? He didn't know.. he said, "Just thought that's what people thought of him, so that's how he acted. I thought that was odd, so I pointed out a couple situations he had been awful to other classmates.. he didn't have an answer.. but I remember him looking at me like he was trying not to get emotional.. and he says, "You know you're lucky right? I asked, "How's that? He says your family loves you. I stayed quiet, and after a few seconds, he says, your mom was far more excited about my accomplishments than my parents ever have been. They just buy me shit, thinking that it makes me happy.. and those things are OK, but you have fun with your family, I never do. He says that day with your mom, she made me feel really good about the stuff I do.. says with my folks, they only tell me I have to do better, then have fancy gatherings and brag about me to their friends. Like this kid was amazing really, turned out he was this accomplished pianist, but he never knew that. He was high up in cub scouts, he did chess tournaments and had won several big events.. I didn't know any of that until my mom drew it out of him. I think he liked my family more than me. 😂
So my thought with this would be that perhaps the teacher feels the kid somehow is misunderstood and has a reason for those thoughts. Now I agree 💯 that she hasn't approached it very well if indeed that is the case. She should have spoken only to you privately and not your daughter.. Perhaps you could meet with the teacher in an actual face to face and ask her reasoning and remain calm 😉 while expressing your concerns.. I'm not necessarily saying that her reasoning will be right; but if you hear her thoughts and she listens to you; perhaps you could come up with some type of solution.. perhaps a step after that could be asking her parents to meet with you, and the teacher can be a mediator.. now keep in mind I don't have kids, I don't know if teachers meet like that these days, I know my folks had a good relationship with all my teachers, but then again the schools were small, like 20 to 25 kids at max.. and this was the 80s, no internet. So face to face was probably far more common, and these days, the teacher may just say, "Text me.. I don't know. I tend to think turning the other cheek is good to an extent. But you can't lay down and get walked over.. you have 2 cheeks. It sounds like they slapped one. If they slap the other after you are being nice, then they had their chance. Hmmm. I'm not sure, kid.. It's definitely a pickle. I don't envy you, I mean, obviously, as any parent would, you want to protect your kids. Plus this is a different world for kids, if I did something embarrassing at school I would be convinced the whole school knew; but really it would be like 5 to 10 kids.. these days it got caught by some kid on his phone and it isn't just thinking the whole school knows, it's actually a fact that the whole school knows.. its a different kind of pressure. I definitely don't know the absolute solution, all I can offer is my experience was that some of these kids I knew that acted awful; actually were very sad, and lonely, believing friends only liked them for the stuff they had. And the lack of maturity made those emotions come out as anger. Is that the case here? No idea.. maybe that's helpful? Take care and I praying works out for you.. Take some time to pray about it. Prayer helps ❤🙏
You are so right Sam. Gosh your story sounds a lot like mine. My kids don't go to a private school but it's one of the best public school districts in Texas that we live in and I thank God for that. It's also a smaller school so they get more individualized time with the teachers and they send more kids to Ivy League schools than almost any other public school in Texas so that part is great! The drawback is the fact that we are much poorer than 99% of the people that go there and that's been a struggle with bullying for all my kids. The teachers are kind of cliqued up too and they can be really snobby and dismissive which is also hard sometimes because if one doesn't like you, most likely a whole group of them won't to stay cliqued up and on the same page. The thing is I think you're right. #1 it comes from the parents and I'm sure their home lives probably revolve more around money than around their kids which I don't know that for a fact to be true but it seems that way and that can leave a child feeling very lonely, ignored, and cause them to lash out, but I want the resolution like your story. I want them to realize they can be great friends and lean on each other instead of going into competition mode with each other or envying each other causing this rift. I am going to think hard on this because I want them both to like each other so badly! I think like you said, if they realize why they're doing it maybe it will snap them out of it. Amazing advice Sam. You're too awesome my friend. It means so much to me that you took the time to write that and it really changed my perspective on this so thank you my kind buddy. 🥹🙏🩷
@JusticeJunkies1 Well, you have some other good advice throughout this comment section. As you said, think it through, pray about it, and then trust your gut. The silver lining here is the wonderful people here who took time to share their thoughts and give you their support. ❤️ There is no manual for parents; no parenting 101 that has all the answers. You do the best you can, and let your heart lead the way. But have the knowledge to understand that no one will go forward with no problems or pains and struggles as much as we wish we could give that to them. We can help teach them how to take those aspects of life and use them as learning tools. Instill an understanding that you can't please everyone it'd a hard concept to fully grasp, especially for a child. But when I look back, I could have saved myself a lot of stress and discomfort; had I accepted that simple fact and not let others' opinions have such an effect on me. Good or bad..
That Bill Murray Documentary I mentioned to you when you were sick; it has a great story in there of the old man whose horse escapes from his pasture. His neighbor comes over and offers his condolences, and the old man shrugs his shoulders and says, "Who knows what's good or bad?
The next day, the horse returns with 9 new stallions, and the neighbor comes over to congratulate the old man. He shrugs and says, "Who knows what's good or bad?
The next day, his son is trying to saddle break one of the new stallions, and he is thrown off and breaks his leg. Neighbor comes to offer condolences, and again, the old man says, "Who knows what's good or bad?
The next day, the army comes by to recruit men for the war; but his son has a broken leg, so he is spared. .. now this can go on forever.. the idea is that life will always have its upside and downs and things that we can't control. But the thing we can control is how we react to these things. If I had not looked at those rejections as a stain on me; but rather it tells me they have a problem and I don't feel mad or hurt.. I instead think I know I was nothing but nice. They are the ones who are missing out on a nice person in their life. I think that simple recognition that it's not my job to make people like me.. It's my job to be myself and treat others as I would like to be treated, and some will recognize that, and we will have mutual respect and friendship, and others won't, and that's ok. It's their loss. Bur.. then again took about 50 yrs to understand that for me. 😆 🤣
You understand the value of love of yourself and know the pains that can come if that is determined by someone else's view of us. Trust in your gut and heart. Hope this novel made some sense.. if you haven't watched that film it's on YT they explain the moral of the story far better than I. Might help you think it through. ❤️ 🙏
Kids are brutal. I was a sensitive kid and kids would realize this and pick on me. My 2nd grade teacher said "You have to ignore them. They just want to see your reaction." Solid,mature advice. It helped me, and at the same time I felt as though the teacher was on my side. Don't worry about who is / is not invited.
Amen my friend. Just took me back when my kiddo told me that the teacher was confronting them both and pressuring my daughter to invite someone that doesn't like her to her party BUT I will absolutely tell her to ignore it and hopefully it all goes well. Thank you so much my friend. Mama-bearin' over here 😂🥹🙏🩷
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You're humble girl. You're human. You're a mama bear and so am I 😂 great song! Love how you always incorporate real life situations into your reactions. It's so different and awesome 😎👍
MAMA BEARS IN THA HOUSE! 😂🥹🙏🩷 Thank you so much for that. I wish they came with instructions! That means so much so thank you Tanya 🥰
Sam, you do what is right for your daughter. I know you definitely will. You are an amazing mom, but you do what you feel in your heart is right. P.s. Pink Floyd is THE BAND so I agree with ya 😂
You're so great Jason. Thank you so much man. I really appreciate that so much. 🥹🙏🩷
I think here in Europe a common limit the amount of friends a child should invite to a birthday party is similar to the age. Sorry if you did not make the shortlist, no more places left.
Amen my friend! Thank you so much for that! I needed to hear it. 🥹🙏🩷
That kid is a bully. So is the mum. Back your daughter and help her feel firm in her feelings. Its your family Sam. Be humble by being firm ❤❤❤
I love it. So to the point, and so right. Great advice buddy it really means a lot. It's so...primitive almost because when someone is mean to me I'm okay with it, but when someone is mean to my kids the primitive MAMA BEAR comes rushing out the gate 😂😭. Thank you so much for the advice and you are so right 🥹🙏🩷
@JusticeJunkies1 absolutely Sam! That is EXACTLY it. By example. Always by example for our kids 💙💙💙
YOU DO YOU SAM. LOVE YOUR REACTIONS ❤
Thank you love. I'm so glad you liked it! 🥰🩷
No Sammy you do what's best for you and yours. Screw what the teacher said. Why she's even getting involved in a child's birthday party is beyond me! You're awesome.
Thank you buddy. I'm taking all the advice I can get. It's silly but it also isn't because I don't want my daughter to feel sad on her day. Thank you for the advice my friend 🩷
You are a great mom. I'm a dad and my daughter was BRUTALLY picked on by a little girl too. We did EVERYTHING we could to make it stop. Talked to her, talked to teachers, talked to the mom, even invited her to 2 birthday parties and IT NEVER STOPPED. You do what feels right for you because sometimes you can talk to people until you're blue in the face to resolve it and find no resolution. Whatever you decide to do, it's the right thing to do Sam. ❤ ALSO, I'M WITH YOU. IF YOU DON'T LIKE PINK FLOYD YOU ARE CRAZY! 😂❤
@@BladeRunner-g1x thanks buddy I really appreciate that. I appreciate hearing arguments for either side. Totally open to it. I'm so sorry that happened to you and I'll take your advice my friend. Whatever feels right for us 😉🩷🥹🙏
Na you do what's right for you boo. Don't worry about the teacher. Your little girl has the right to pick who she wants to be there based on how toxic they behave towards her. Like you said, in life if someone is being mean to you, you get the choice whether or not to include them in your and your daughter's life. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Awesome reaction. So glad to throw some advice out there 😂❤
Thank you Axel. I appreciate every opinion I'm getting. It means SO MUCH to me because I'm kinda jumbled right now. Thanks buddy 🥹🙏🩷✊
Let your daughter know that not only won't everyone like her, but she also doesn't want everyone to like her. If cruel, nasty people like me, I consider it a diss. I personally give others the same energy I receive. 🤷
Jmas you rock! Thank you so much. I agree. Not everyone is going to like you, you're not gonna like everyone and that's okay. The great part about that is you get to pick and choose what's acceptable and what's not. Thank you for the advice my friend. 🥹🙏🩷✊
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My opinion on this....
I am on your side on this one. Why was it not discussed when it was the other way around. People can call it petty, but i wouldn't care less.
I would tell the teacher to back off. It is none of her business. Your childs happiness is what's most important here.
Although i can get the other side it could help them be friends, but does shereally want to be friends with childeren like that?
Soooo....that's my 2 cent on this matter!
With love ❤ from Egyptian Silk
That would so be my rap name! 😄
I totally agree bestie. I think what the teacher did was totally wrong but I also want these kids to unite and maybe realize they could be friends. It's such a rock and a hard place but people like you help me to figure this stuff out Bjorn. I just love you Egyptian Silk 😉😘🥹🙏🩷
Hi Sam! Parenting is such a minefield isn't it? First of all I just want to say that you should probably trust your instincts on this above all else here, because you know your daughter and the context behind this better than anyone, and from what I know of you, you have a very good instinct for knowing the right course of action to take. All I can do is say what I would do personally in this situation if it was me.
Firstly, my daughters wishes come first and if she was dead set against her coming, I would not allow it under any circumstances. No-one has the right to dictate that to you or your daughter. However, children at a young age can change very easily and from my experience my son and two daughters all had friendships that flipped from best of friends to arch enemies and back again quite often. Sometimes these can be two sides of the same coin, as kids test each other out for potential friendships. If this girl is upset at not coming to the party, there is at least a chance she might want to become friends in the future. Be guided by what your daughter wants but mindful that your daughter's ongoing well-being at school is the priority, so don't rule out an olive branch if you think it could work (but only if your daughter would be ok with this) and only on your terms.
I would ask for a face to face meeting with the teacher and bring up all the concerns I have over how my daughter has been treated by this girl in the past and ask why the teacher saw fit to get involved on this particular occasion but not on any of the others (sorry, I'm probably more blunt with these things than you should be!). This is assuming the teacher was aware of issues in the past and did nothing about it. If the teacher has been unaware then it could be an opportunity to put some support/oversight in place for your daughter during school time.
Finally (and this is easier said than done), it might be worth talking to the girl's mother if you think she would be reasonable about it. If establishing a relationship with her is possible, her daughter would be a lot less likely to cause problems in the future. Her daughter will take her cue from her mother, so building bridges there, if possible, could help a lot (particularly if she's a teacher at the school).
Without knowing the circumstances better, it's hard to know if any of this would be useful for you, but I'm confident you'll make the right decisions! Good luck, and always feel free to bounce ideas off me if you want.
You're so sweet Sean and you're so right. Thank you for this my friend it means so much. You're right, I gotta put my daughter first so I guess I'll just let her decide and I'll respect her wishes. Parenting IS A MINEFIELD! I could not have said that better. I wish they came with instructions sometimes, but they don't 😂 thank you my sweet friend 🥹🙏🩷
Don't let someone tell you what you have to do with your baby. If she is being bullied Sammy don't feel the need to invite her. I know they're just little kids but the teacher has no right confronting them both over something that is none of their business. You do what's right for your daughter. awesome reaction ❤
You're awesome Dale thank you. Taking ALL THE ADVICE I can get to make the right decision. Thank you buddy 🙏🩷
You have the same problem I have with telling someone that they are not only wrong but they have overstepped their bounds….
You need to write down what you want to say in advance and memorize it….
Address her in front of the class (since she thinks speaking her mind in front of them is appropriate)
This teacher is in the wrong on every level and I would have either the principal or a school administrator witness the exchange and have your phone recording the interaction for your protection as they will try to say you were cursing them or some other lies about what was said….
Matthew you're so right man. I appreciate that so much. I am. You nailed it. I'm terrible with telling someone they're being totally inappropriate so writing down my thoughts and expressing them is a great idea! Thank you so much buddy! I appreciate it more than you know! 🩷🥹🙏
I really don't have the answer to this situation, it pisses me off, and I think you should stick to your guns and do what you originally want to do.
I'm pissed cause I feel like the teacher is bullying you. I think the teacher should stay out of it. She stayed out of it when your daughter wasn't invited.
Maybe you should say this is your daughter's decision on who to invite. If she doesn't want the girl at her party cause she is mean to her she shouldn't go.
Thank you so much my fellow Ren supporter! I agree I thought it was WAY beyond her business and I still think that but I SO APPRECIATE your words. They help more than you know my friend 🥹🙏🩷
She was wrong.
Thank you Jannie. Btw Jannie was my grandma's name. She was my best friend and I haven't seen that name spelled like that in a long time. 🥹🙏🩷 You're always welcome here my friend.
Can you just stop messing with your hair!!
I do it all the time it's a terrible habit. It's something I've always done not because I'm being vain but because it's a terrible habit. I'll work on it my friend. 🩷