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  • @peepalfarm
    @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +760

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    • @prakash-ry9ot
      @prakash-ry9ot 3 роки тому +2

      What happened to yr sister@ Robin bhai

    • @vanitasinha4373
      @vanitasinha4373 3 роки тому +9

      Absolutely true!And this guilt is very draining. Thanks .

    • @Newfunnycomedy1
      @Newfunnycomedy1 3 роки тому +9

      आप ग्रूप बनाने की बात कर रहे थे उसकी लिंक भी शेयर कीजीए हम जूड़ना चाहते हमारे यहां बिशनोई जिन गावो मे रहते है वहा हर तीन गांवो के बिच एक गौसाला है जिन मे आवारा पशूओं को रखने की वयवस्ता है और हम भी बोहोत योगदान करते है लेकिन हमारे यहां जानवरों का डाक्टर नहीं है जिससे की हम जानवरो का ईलाज करवा सकें

    • @tradingwizard562
      @tradingwizard562 3 роки тому +6

      Bahut sahi aur badia baat ki aapne.

    • @neerajsoni3015
      @neerajsoni3015 3 роки тому +11

      Main To jina chahta hoo mere Ghar wale bus paisa ke sath hai

  • @devushkachannel
    @devushkachannel 3 роки тому +628

    Heal before having children so your children don’t have to heal from having you as parents

    • @ravindrakale4214
      @ravindrakale4214 3 роки тому +23

      सही है मैडम
      माँ बाप अगर सुलझे हुए नही होंगे तो बच्चों को उनका अज्ञान झेलना पड़ता है और जब तक बच्चे खुद सुलझते नही है तब तक बहोत वक्त निकल चुका होता है।

    • @rohitmehta1216
      @rohitmehta1216 3 роки тому +1

      Wow... great thought devushka

    • @YogeshKumar-qo4zg
      @YogeshKumar-qo4zg 3 роки тому

      Hi

    • @SouravDey55500
      @SouravDey55500 3 роки тому

      Well said!

    • @YogeshKumar-qo4zg
      @YogeshKumar-qo4zg 3 роки тому

      @my opinion hi

  • @samimanasrin5215
    @samimanasrin5215 2 роки тому +479

    he is so courageous to talk about imperfections in his life. other UA-camrs fake happiness n create a so called perfect life

    • @Balabalare
      @Balabalare 3 місяці тому +6

      And it's fine.....he doing it a great thing ... doesn't make everyone obligated to speak up. People have their own way to deal with grief and shame its subjective...... kindly don't compare

    • @bindishathapa8735
      @bindishathapa8735 2 місяці тому

      ​@@Balabalarewell said dear. A good reminder for me. Thanks

  • @mohitkothiyal3481
    @mohitkothiyal3481 3 роки тому +139

    You had a tough childhood,but you have brought happiness and comfort in the life of many living beings, and gave them a new life.

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +20

      :) thank you! I try and now it's good to have a whole family at peepal farm dedicated to the same cause.

  • @palakjain1099
    @palakjain1099 3 роки тому +91

    That "unknown" sent chills down my spine.
    Strength to you and your family, Robinji.

  • @ashutoshaswal5745
    @ashutoshaswal5745 3 роки тому +17

    आपने पारिवारिक संबंधों व जीवन की परिस्थितियों का बहुत सटीक आकलन प्रस्तुत किया और उसको बोलने की हिम्मत जुटाई इसके लिए आपका धन्यवाद🙏👍

  • @amitbelwal8552
    @amitbelwal8552 3 роки тому +138

    मैं भगवान से प्रार्थना करता हूँ कि आपकी दीदी ये वीडियो देख कर आपसे मिलने आ जाये।

    • @PriyankaKumari-qj8tj
      @PriyankaKumari-qj8tj 3 роки тому +1

      She died how can she come back.

    • @jafree95
      @jafree95 3 роки тому

      @@PriyankaKumari-qj8tj no body knows...

    • @aloksrivastava2797
      @aloksrivastava2797 3 роки тому

      She's gone

    • @PriyankaKumari-qj8tj
      @PriyankaKumari-qj8tj 3 роки тому

      @@jafree95 but she wrote like ki meri maut ka zimmedar koi nahi hai baki pata nhi jo gaya sach use hi pata hoga...

    • @jafree95
      @jafree95 3 роки тому

      @@PriyankaKumari-qj8tj hope one day she will be back... I keep always hope

  • @tiwari3006
    @tiwari3006 3 місяці тому +2

    Bahut himmat chaiye ye sab sabke samne kahne ki, isi bahane apna dil bhi halka hua, or kisi ka bhala bhi jarror hoga, aap khush rahen, sab khush rahen, yahi Prarthana hai meri, mere Ram Ji se, Jai Siya Ram bhai. 🙏

  • @yogijangid3262
    @yogijangid3262 3 роки тому +17

    आपकी ‌कहानी‌ सुन के बहोत दुःख हुआ 🥺😣🙏🏻📿
    बहोत सारा प्यार भाई आपके ओर आपकी बहन के लिए ❤️🥺

  • @deeptifeb15
    @deeptifeb15 3 роки тому +36

    Your authenticity is infectious!
    Truth oozes out from you with such simplicity & spontaneity.
    As it is rightly said...TRUTH HURTS BUT IT SETS YOU FREE
    आपको देखकर/सुनकर बस कृतज्ञता, सम्मान और प्रेम की भावना ही उमड़ती है।
    Loads of gratitude, respect & love to you!

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +1

      Aw, thanks Deepti! It does indeed set you free. So many times we think, ki unhen pata lag jaayega jo woh kya sochenge. Earlier I used to think...yaar, they will judge me. Now, I feel, that some may...but a lot will relate, and those are the only ones i should care about. And that's not just liberating, but empowering.

    • @deeptifeb15
      @deeptifeb15 3 роки тому

      @@peepalfarm Thanks for responding dearest Robin!
      And you well said that, it is also empowering!

  • @ashaverma686
    @ashaverma686 3 роки тому +21

    This society made so called normal life norms making us empty from inside and hats of to u sir to talk about this.

  • @sajeevramakrishnan1408
    @sajeevramakrishnan1408 3 роки тому +7

    Thanks for sharing brother. I hope wherever ur sister is she is in peace. The world need more people like you.

  • @sidb9257
    @sidb9257 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, @ROBHIN Sir, for opening up about your journey. It's heartwarming to see your resilience and positivity even in tough times.

  • @anoop1629
    @anoop1629 3 роки тому +7

    I'm really sorry to hear about your story, but the bright side is you are now helping so many souls with your organization.

  • @seujparankakoti
    @seujparankakoti 11 місяців тому +2

    Sir you are a strong man no one can say by looking at your eyes that you have gone through so much, i respect what you are doing for innocent animals🙏🏻

  • @sidtewari5746
    @sidtewari5746 3 роки тому +6

    Bhai
    U r so positive U remained positive
    And.... U r spreading positivity
    U r a winner U chose to react to ur situation so differently
    I can relate to ur situation
    It was so hard for me
    Eshwar did help me to come out of all tricky situations
    My relatives aunt Uncles etc almost convinced me that I was no better than a bootpolish wala or chaiwala
    Though They took great care of their own kids
    I try to avoid bad memories but they keep coming back
    But... I promised to myself that I will be a good father
    I proved it with the help of Ramji

  • @ashutoshpattanaik3650
    @ashutoshpattanaik3650 3 роки тому +53

    sir ajj samvedana to jataneka matlab nehin banega , but i promise that , main ek responsible bhai,beta aur baap banunga.... ajj ye sikh mere life ke valuse main add hogeye..
    ajj apse connected feel hua.. main samay ko thanks kehena chahta hun ki kabhi app ki batt sun pai...

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +12

      Je baat! So so good to hear that bud! Aasha kartey hai aapsey aur bhi log inspire hongey. 😊

    • @thehuman2861
      @thehuman2861 3 роки тому

      Thanks 🙂

  • @ayraaman5184
    @ayraaman5184 Рік тому

    Hamare soceity ko aap jaise logo ki zaroorat hai. Taki aane wali generation aise baton ko samjhe naki family ki katputli ban ke rahe. Zindagi ko samjhe aur khush rahe apne liye,dusron ke liye nahi

  • @jagmohanrangra5070
    @jagmohanrangra5070 3 роки тому +8

    Sir your maturity level is so high.

  • @megha8033
    @megha8033 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much for coming out in the open about this issue. I too was raised in a dysfuntional family. Unfortunately, in India, mothers take advantage of the fact that society will always support them as it is believed that a mother can never harm her child. My mother treated me like a step-child, not only allowing her elder daughters to abuse me but also joined them. They made me feel unwanted all the time saying they wish I was never born, did not let me father spend any money on me for my education\ marriage, rather took all the money that I earned, made me feel guilty for anything wrong in their lives.

    • @sarikasingh254
      @sarikasingh254 3 роки тому +2

      You r just like me. At the age of 34 I went no contact after being drained emotionally and financially. Difference is just that I get beaten up by my younger brothers last time at age of 32.

  • @jitenjr798
    @jitenjr798 3 місяці тому

    It takes a lot of courage to talk with honesty, many have to lead such lives ……. Sad that some adults do more harm because for their imperfections ! Kudos to you !!!

  • @rare2698
    @rare2698 2 роки тому

    Apki awz mai jo takleef main feel ki main bayan nahi kar sakti aap apki family itne takleef se guzry main khud ko rone se ruk nai pai

  • @smileandshine1966
    @smileandshine1966 3 роки тому +5

    You are a good fighter. May God bless you.

  • @Saritasaini9146
    @Saritasaini9146 3 роки тому +5

    U r so brave..that u have told everything

  • @madhumaniar1801
    @madhumaniar1801 3 місяці тому

    बहुत बहुत आभार, जो आपने ये मुद्दा उठाया ! यहां सबको बस, अपनी पड़ी है.....😔

  • @Maurya5sk
    @Maurya5sk 3 роки тому +6

    पता नही की इस बहुत बड़े और महत्वपूर्ण सबक पर क्या प्रतिक्रिया दूं ।मगर इतना कहना चाहूंगा की ऐसा कही हद तक मेरे घर में भी हुआ है ।बताना तो चाहते हूं मगर मुझमें वो हिम्मत नहीं है जो आप में है रोबिन भाई ।
    आपकी दीदी जहा भी रहे खुश रहे यही दुआ है ।
    धन्यवाद रोबिन भाई इस सबक के लिए ।कुछ बदलाव तो ज़रूर आएगा ।🙏

  • @ansht78129
    @ansht78129 3 місяці тому

    Sir aap itne acchhe insan kaise bane main aaj samjh paya 😢🥹🙏 Aap humesha swasth rahein or apne kam ko aage badha payein yahi manokamna hai🙏🥹

  • @design.u-can
    @design.u-can Рік тому

    Me kafi prabhavit hun Robin se . Ideal man.

  • @San-dy4px
    @San-dy4px 3 місяці тому

    Just to address this issue needs lots of courage 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @tarungurraiya8748
    @tarungurraiya8748 3 місяці тому

    Prabu ki 100% kirpa hai apke upar...

  • @Swyamkeshav1123
    @Swyamkeshav1123 3 роки тому +106

    Yes sir Mere motherinlaw & sisterinlaw i ne mujhe ,mere husband ko bhi gilt mahsus kara kar Parivar se Akela Kar Diya ,samaj mein Bura banaa Diya aur Hamen Dhokha dekar Hamara hak Puri Tarah Se Chin liya. Lekin Aaj Vahi log Wapas Humse Sampark Rakhna Chahte Hain Jo Ab Ham Nahin Chahte

    • @viralplus8024
      @viralplus8024 3 роки тому +17

      Ab vo buddhe ho gaye hai isliye tumse contact karna chahte hai...aise log kabhi nai sudharte... Jaise hi unke sath rehne lag jao vaise hi rang badal jata hai

    • @durgeshyadav9716
      @durgeshyadav9716 2 роки тому +18

      Forgive but never forget

    • @iamunknown5742
      @iamunknown5742 2 роки тому +7

      Ese log apne matlb se fir se aa jate h. Bitter h but true h

    • @sunitagohil7937
      @sunitagohil7937 2 роки тому

      क्षमा विरष्य भूषणम।

    • @mrpankaj1492
      @mrpankaj1492 2 роки тому +6

      Suno sister......agr Tumhari Mother-in-law itni hi buri hoti to bachpan me Tumhare husband ko khila pila kr or us ki Potty susu saaf kr ke or itna bada kr ke tumhare husband ko tumhe sirf pyar or isk baaji krne ke liye tumhe nhi deti smjhe aap.... Apni jimedariyo ko smjho conditions bure hote log nhi.... Log bhi conditions ke sath badl jate h..... Ek baat tum khud apne aap se puchna...... Ki kya tum wo sab kuch apne Mother-in-law ko de payi ho.... Jo ki tum apni maa ke liye dekhna cahate ho.... I mean apni bhabhi se........ Jimedari se bhago nhi unhe tan man se pura kro khud ache bne rho baad me dekho kese tumhe sab log... Kitna bahr ke pyar dege..... And wo galat bhi hoge to unhe apni galti ka ehsaas tumhari aachaiye se ho jaye ga...... God bless you 👍👍

  • @richac8998
    @richac8998 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing this 💜. Ghar wale sach mein Jane anjane guilty feel karate hai 😢

  • @sunitahirani7241
    @sunitahirani7241 3 місяці тому

    Best understanding brother 👏👏👏💫
    Thank you for bringing awareness to the world !!

  • @pradhanpethouse309
    @pradhanpethouse309 Рік тому

    Ye saari baat bolne or loogo ko samjhane ke liye bhot himmat or sahas chaiye ❤

  • @shivkagrawal282
    @shivkagrawal282 3 місяці тому

    V well expressed
    Its time maa k charnon mein swarg generation...wakes up fr their own good.
    Parentening is skill denied to almost all the indian parent...

  • @SSENTERTEMENT
    @SSENTERTEMENT 2 місяці тому

    Your nice one jo apny dukh taklif se sikh kr ladkr dusro ko sikhaty sach m wo ak powerfull insaan hota ..mai manti pain bhut h khena bhut kuch andar jaise samunder h ye whi samjh sakta h jis pr bitaa ho baki sabkly bacvas hsi..kher soryy tum ab thik ho bhehn jha wo shi jgha h thik rhyge or maa baap ki jb bnati ni to becho ko bhut servive krna pdta h ..puri family bekhr jati h fr bhar jao wha b pyar ni bhar bethy h log taklif deny kly dont be emotinol jo tum kaM kry acha h god bless you.. hum sikhny ke bad b kise se kuch na kuch shikhty h waise same he hai baat mere life ki b but thodi se alg..pr jo hai bhgwan h usy upr kuch b ni ❤... mai manti hu jo hota hai humre achy kly sikhany kly...❤

  • @vipinbhatiwal244
    @vipinbhatiwal244 3 місяці тому

    पहली बार मुझे आपके प्रति सम्मान महसूस हो रहा है।

  • @geetasdiary2274
    @geetasdiary2274 2 місяці тому

    These are the major side effects of re marriage. But your story taught a heart touching lesson bro

  • @sonamkashyap495
    @sonamkashyap495 3 місяці тому +1

    In bacho ka ful jarour milaga ma bhi yahi kaam karta hu thanks robin ji

  • @gouripatil2163
    @gouripatil2163 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much sir. I needed to hear this. My mom have always used me for her emotional need just to take out all of that aggression. I am suffering now

  • @rashmiroy7578
    @rashmiroy7578 Місяць тому

    Kaash Mera b Bhai apke jitna accha hota ❤️❤️❤️❤️ . Aap bhot courageous ho . Hats off to you bro

  • @nishajain9689
    @nishajain9689 3 місяці тому

    Very sensitive , bold and honest video. Thank you, Robinji

  • @dinklethakkar6371
    @dinklethakkar6371 3 місяці тому +2

    Being a girl in a similar kind of situation, I would say that your father was equally responsible for your sister's demise. It's a man's duty to keep her wife happy. When a wife is not happy in a marriage she is badly stuck because she can't go out and tell her pain to anyone in the society including her parents ( I am talking about the social strata in which an unmarried/divorced daughter is a stigma/burden on the parents). A wounded woman ends up bleeding on her children who are the eyewitnesses of what's happening in the house. The girl child loses her faith in marriage and goes into depression eventually.
    So my msg to men: if you are married to someone stay emotionally available in the relationship.
    My msg to women: if you're not happy in a relationship please LEAVE for the sake of your future kids 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @chittaccc
    @chittaccc 2 роки тому +1

    Really really true.
    All r Masquerading in this earthly world.

  • @alankritrai2649
    @alankritrai2649 14 днів тому +1

    High emotional intelligence hai bhai apka saluting you🫡🫡

  • @robinkartik6356
    @robinkartik6356 2 роки тому

    दुःख यही तो है कि कोई किसी का दुःख समझता ही नहीं साहब

  • @ankitachamola
    @ankitachamola 3 роки тому +1

    You are brave. So happy to hear all this from you boldly

  • @sumedha5683
    @sumedha5683 3 роки тому +4

    This vedio is hertmelting ❣️🥺
    More love to peepalfarm ❣️

  • @pankajji2709
    @pankajji2709 3 місяці тому

    I am also very alone and emotionally stranded even after supporting my family..

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 місяці тому

      Sorry yaar. Loneliness ek epidemic sa ho gaya hai. Na sun-ne waale milte hain, naa samajhne waale. Bas satane waale na milen, to phir bhi kaam chala rehta hai

  • @chhayajaitwar7948
    @chhayajaitwar7948 2 роки тому

    Sir apne mere zindgi kh di.
    Thank you so much for sharing this.
    Love❤you so much sir..... 🙏🙏

  • @neerajjoshi3964
    @neerajjoshi3964 3 місяці тому

    Thank you Robin bhaiya❤🌻

  • @VAIBHAVISHARMA-di6bm
    @VAIBHAVISHARMA-di6bm 9 днів тому

    Thanx for raising this topic...it feels like hell

  • @alwayslegendary
    @alwayslegendary 3 місяці тому

    Thankyou!❤
    -From a Sister.

  • @Akanksha6752
    @Akanksha6752 3 місяці тому

    Wonderful and the family manipulation is completely true.... Lets understand the manipulation and not react adversly but anyhow we have to choose ourselves 1st beyond anything and everything and not be the victims and destroy ourselves....

  • @Brakefellpositivity
    @Brakefellpositivity 3 роки тому +9

    Indian parents have high expectation and they always want sacrifice.

  • @AbhishekKumar-cz2rx
    @AbhishekKumar-cz2rx 8 місяців тому

    U r a real fighter,...... lot of love ❤

  • @spiritual514
    @spiritual514 3 місяці тому

    After 60 years , I realized how my mother was treated by her parents emotionally used / abused. She started to do the same with the oldest daughter too. No love, care , emotional bond. But we sing happy Mother’s Day song . I do not get it.

  • @rewananadar1547
    @rewananadar1547 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for the message🌱

  • @userX1224
    @userX1224 2 місяці тому

    Yes sir I too am going thru the same being a girl I can understand the pain...it's very sickening to the gut and yes we need no enemies we become our own enemies😢😢😢😢...

  • @JainamMehta
    @JainamMehta 2 роки тому +1

    Sir I can't explain how much your words are impacting. You're so different. Kal tak me khud ko weird maanta tha. Aaj pata lag raha hai ke me akela esa nahi hun
    Aapki soch bahot upar hai. Shayad koi samaj paaye isse. Agar koi mujhse puchega ke jannat kidhar hai toh me bataaunga ke ek aadmi hai jinka naam Robin Sharma hai jo yahin iss jagaah ko jannat bana rahe hai.

  • @Gaddibaaz
    @Gaddibaaz 3 місяці тому

    Thanks brother.... I am speechless 🙏

  • @aakash7297
    @aakash7297 3 роки тому +1

    Robin, we love you. 💕

  • @ritukamal7941
    @ritukamal7941 3 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for sharin' ur experience, it's a guidance.

  • @kusumyadav7097
    @kusumyadav7097 3 місяці тому

    I salute you for Speaking about it

  • @happyhappymaths
    @happyhappymaths 3 місяці тому

    I admire your courage to be honest!

  • @lovelikegarden
    @lovelikegarden Рік тому +1

    Sach kaha aapne ty so much 🙏🏻

  • @prasoondhaka9894
    @prasoondhaka9894 3 місяці тому

    Well said but family doesn't understand
    Always they try to we have(mine) to feel guilt...

  • @HelloDaddyHow
    @HelloDaddyHow 2 роки тому +1

    Ankee kholne k liye dhynabaad....

  • @truthwall
    @truthwall 3 місяці тому +495

    A bad childhood is like a cage which never sets you free, even if you fly like a bird in sky

    • @crazycoolguy109677
      @crazycoolguy109677 3 місяці тому

      Exactly

    • @satvinderkaur983
      @satvinderkaur983 3 місяці тому +10

      Sorry not true. All the wise people like Buddha, Guru Nanak Dev ji, Jesus and so many more went through a lot of pain to but they forgave and decided to leave the past in the past and lived in the moment. We must do this to. Carrying this baggage is like you will never be able to run away because the weight is so heavy. But if you keep looking behind you, you miss what's happening in front. Drop that bag and before you forgive others forgive yourself. No human is perfect so mistakes happen and if God is giving us another morning for a new chance we should accept it. I send this message in love, I to have been hurt and talk from experience.
      I pray all my extended family on this chat can drop the weight they carry and spread their wings and fly because every second we have is another chance to live🙏

    • @neethukr4500
      @neethukr4500 3 місяці тому +3

      ​@@satvinderkaur983but unless we get correct guidance

    • @truthwall
      @truthwall 3 місяці тому +2

      @@satvinderkaur983Rightly said, It is all about awareness and willingness to overcome the beaten path. It is a life long practice that can really help you to an extent, but will it heal your inner self, that is a matter of personal experience

    • @meeraahuja1594
      @meeraahuja1594 3 місяці тому

      Children are brought up trained to be exploited, especially, girls. Life has been so painful to share. No relief anywhere

  • @CrazyMantriOfficial
    @CrazyMantriOfficial 3 роки тому +2049

    Thanks, Robin Sir! And, Well, most of the 90s kids are still facing the same thing... "Age ho gayi hai, Shadi karo, Tum jo kar rahe ho apne career me, usse tumhara kuch nahi hoga, self employed jaisi koi cheej ni hoti, 9-5 job karo, Govt job ki preparation karo, Jo hum keh rahe hain wo karo, and in the end kehte hain ki humne tumhe kabhi kuch karne se roka ni hai."... We need to understand that parents bhi insan hain and galti kar sakte hain, So even if it's hard to convince them, but don't wait for their approval... mann me aaye wo karo, sun lo unki but karo apni... Because nobody knows you better than yourself.

  • @Maitreya__
    @Maitreya__ 3 місяці тому +197

    Emotional blackmail, manipulation, humiliation, Gaslighting, aggressive behaviour and the list goes on....😭

    • @piku8700
      @piku8700 3 місяці тому +8

      Narcissism in one word

    • @bullseye6969
      @bullseye6969 2 місяці тому +3

      Nobody talks about female narcissism in family.

    • @piku8700
      @piku8700 2 місяці тому +2

      @@bullseye6969 narcissism is not related to one gender, both of my parents are narcissist
      Mother is a overt narcissist and father is a covert narcissist
      Although you are right
      Narcissism is more likely developed in females than males

    • @bullseye6969
      @bullseye6969 2 місяці тому +3

      @@piku8700 again I said nobody talks about "female" narcissism. That does not mean it's gender specific in fact male narcissist are more prevalent also its been talked about openly specifically about male quite frequently and also its been linked to males.
      But there are also female narcissists.

    • @piku8700
      @piku8700 2 місяці тому +2

      @@bullseye6969 I agree with you
      I think Mostly it's because we all glorify females and society always considers female as a victim without knowing the reality

  • @RajSachdeva
    @RajSachdeva 3 роки тому +1957

    Elon Musk said in an interview “My children didn’t choose to be born, I chose to have children. They owe me nothing, I owe them everything.”

    • @vishalrathour2673
      @vishalrathour2673 3 роки тому +166

      Indian Parents are just opposite.....
      Unfortunately!

    • @arushisharma32
      @arushisharma32 3 роки тому +50

      @@vishalrathour2673 Ye log toh bolte hei. Ke Hum Bhagwaan se Khud poochke aaye hei ke aise family mei janam lenge. Matlab kuch bhi.

    • @vishalrathour2673
      @vishalrathour2673 3 роки тому +105

      @@arushisharma32 Huh! APJ Abdul Kalam in his Wings of Fire said, "Your children come through you but not from you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts"
      They can never understand this!

    • @arushisharma32
      @arushisharma32 3 роки тому +28

      @@vishalrathour2673 It was taken from a Poem on Children written by a Lebanese Writer. You should read the Whole Poem. Its really Good

    • @vishalrathour2673
      @vishalrathour2673 3 роки тому +56

      @@arushisharma32 Haa. I surely will.
      When I quoted these lines to my mom.....Phir acche se gaaliya mili khane ko. Loose Motions ho gye ek dm 😶
      She was like baap na bno hmare chaar kitabein pdh ke.
      I was like..... It's hopeless. Jhelte rho bs!

  • @hemrajranwa3367
    @hemrajranwa3367 3 роки тому +1010

    ये वो ही बोल सकता हैं जिनसे वास्तविकता में जीना सीख लिया हो।

    • @harshadk3240
      @harshadk3240 3 роки тому +51

      सही कहा. पर वास्तविकता मे हम ज्यादातर इंडियन्स को आता काहा हे. बस झूट की चादर ओढे जी रहे हे खोकले संस्कार, आदर्श, जात , धर्म की चपेट मे.

    • @1ns995
      @1ns995 3 роки тому +4

      Ya shayad jise zindagi ne puri tarah se tod dia ho

    • @kuls43
      @kuls43 3 роки тому +12

      या वही बोल सकता है जिसमें ये गहराई से सहा हो। लाइफ कॉम्प्रोमाइज और सैक्रीफाइस का नाम है। जब तक लोग इस थियोरी पे चलते रहेंगे, जीवन बर्बाद होते रहेंगे। मै शादी करना नहीं चाहता या चाहती लेकिन में अपने पैरेंट्स की खुशी के लिए कर रहा हूं या रही हूं। जब आप ऐसा या सिमिलर कोई स्टेप लेते हो तब आप अपने लिए क्राइम करते हो और उस क्राइम में अपने पैरेंट्स को भी शामिल करते हो।

    • @freethinker5670
      @freethinker5670 3 роки тому +2

      @@kuls43 👍👍👍

    • @AmitKumar-ex5mu
      @AmitKumar-ex5mu 3 роки тому

      @@harshadk3240 Bhai Mai aapki bat se sehmaht Hun par Puri bat se Nahi agar aap smaj Mai raho ge to nastik ko expect sirf sanatan karta hai or mahjab Nahi jab unki population yada ho Jaye gi ya to unka mahjab sabikar karna pade GA ya Marna or dharm par chalta kon hai Jo tum dharm ko jimedar dehra rhe ho kuritya smaj Mai hai dharm Mai Nahi .

  • @Askamusk
    @Askamusk 3 роки тому +726

    Every child deserves parents but not every parent deserves a child.

  • @Ish_a_n-J
    @Ish_a_n-J 3 місяці тому +28

    Not every human should be a parent. Maine bhi decide kiya hai ki agar main apne ko andar se heal nahi kr paaya, agar main apne andar ki desparations ko khaatam nahi kar paaya to apne pichhli generation ki taarah apne complexes ko aage nahi bhejunga. Kyun kisi se shaadi krke uski zindagi khraaab karni aaur kyun aage bacchhon ki bhi zindagi kharaab karni.

    • @eriol_h
      @eriol_h 14 днів тому +1

      Salute bro!👍

  • @bannie3095
    @bannie3095 3 роки тому +256

    I want to Express my pain ....mere papa hamesha mere saath misbehave karte hai ....main study krti hu..part time job aur government job ki preparation.....magar mere ghar ke financial condition bht kharab hai .... unhone zabardasti mujhse mere sare paise le liye emotional drama karke aur bole ki main wapas de dunga ..one year ke baad jab maine pucha mere paise ke bare me ...than he abused me ..and forcefully asked me to leave the house .....wo ab hamesha mujhse kehte hai bht hi abusing way me ki ghar se nikal jao..taki wo society me bol sake meri beti characterless h ...islye kisike saath bhag gayi...pura blame v mujhpr aa jaye aur unhe paise v nai lautane parenge...saath hi saath unpr meri shadi karwane ka jo pressure hai usase v chutkara mil jayega.....qk shadi karwane me toh father ko paise kharch karne hote hai....wo sirf merese Paisa lena chahte hai...dene ke liye toh ek koudi v kharch n kare ....aisa ni hai ki paise ni hai..actually intention hi ni ...extremely cheap minded person he is....but my mother always supports me ..that's why I'm able to survive here ....

    • @SmallSteps-wk2up
      @SmallSteps-wk2up 5 місяців тому +28

      Please take care of yourself bahut si ladkiyon ko ghar se bhag jane ko majboor kiya jata hai bo unse kabhi baag hi ni karte. Apni ego aur baaton ko le ke chalte hai par mene bhi yahi socha hai hum kyu bhage hum ladenge

    • @bannie3095
      @bannie3095 5 місяців тому +7

      @@SmallSteps-wk2up you're right

    • @ritikasaxena5987
      @ritikasaxena5987 3 місяці тому +15

      Amazed by your strength. May you have a wonderful life ahead.

    • @Preet-s9j
      @Preet-s9j 3 місяці тому +15

      Mere Sath bhi same chij Hai Mere father bhi bahut toxic ha. 😢

    • @theaaditech8290
      @theaaditech8290 3 місяці тому +7

      Take care yourself time hamesha ek jaisa nahi hota apna aur apni ma ka khyal rakhhe... Koi ek to hoga jo aapko pasand krta hoga jeevan me bahut mahenat kro raste khul jayenge... I am thankful by my family but while I listen to the story about this... Then I feel low... I am worried about all the girls who are in pain... God keeps giving strength to all girls which have issues about this.

  • @Pooja-fk6or
    @Pooja-fk6or 3 роки тому +121

    Sbko lgta hai maa baap ki kbhi galti nhi hoti lekin kaise wo apne baccho ko irritate hurt or negative krte rehte hai ye wo hi smjh skte he jo ise salo saal sehte rehte hai.....har baar bacche galat nhi hote.....kbhi kbhi wo bahar walo ko apna alag bhagwan jaisa roop dikhate hai or hote rakshas hai

    • @ayrans1
      @ayrans1 3 роки тому +6

      Sahi bole ap ...bacho ko inse niklna hoga

    • @tejaswini3049
      @tejaswini3049 3 роки тому +7

      U r absolutely right. Mere parents b insaan k besh me rehne waale rakshas hai. Ghar k andar rakshas aur ghar k bahar sadhu santh jaise behave karte hai. Jaise k kisi ko bura karne k baare me pata hi na ho. Saakshath Bhagwan.

    • @nidhisen8584
      @nidhisen8584 3 місяці тому +1

      Sahi kaha mere maa baap bhi aise hi hai or abhi bhi mis behave karte hai

    • @piku8700
      @piku8700 3 місяці тому +1

      Same here
      My parents are narcissist both parents

    • @kryptoniangamex
      @kryptoniangamex 3 місяці тому +1

      Wow .... Unhone Jo Kiya so kiya agar aap bade ho gaye ho to aapna rasta chun lo... Aur achey parents ban jao

  • @10ON10
    @10ON10 3 роки тому +411

    *Deeply touched by this message and himmat chahiye to convey it publicly, I think it is very much essential to bring out this guilt factor to be discussed as it eats up many people from inside and they end up sacrificing their life, And it is more common than we may think...yet it shouldn't be a norm*

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +41

      Thank you. That's the reason I talked about it. A lot of us have similar experiences and we all stuff then down. I think a few of us have to initiate sharing deeply personal experiences so normalize having a dialog about these problems.

    • @10ON10
      @10ON10 3 роки тому +7

      @@peepalfarm certainly! And also as few people take the lead as you have taken other people would get the confidence who are on the borderline of thought process wondering whether to talk about it or not...

    • @jyotideshpande3593
      @jyotideshpande3593 3 роки тому +2

      I agree with you completely

    • @sandysandy418
      @sandysandy418 2 роки тому +4

      @@peepalfarm It's miracle that I gave up idea of ending my life. My mother and brother always make me feel guilty for what I am. I am a reputed foreign law school 🎓 but still has no right gave a look into full mirror. I was not allowed to keep the door of my room closed (unlatched). My brother used to barge the room anytime. Woman has no right to have privacy. I belong to progressive Hindu family who are double faced people. I ran away from home after brother beat me up when I took a stand after crossing 40 yrs. Police helped me in this. Still family members call me and trying make me feel guilty. How a brother and a mother kill the personality of a woman to utilize her!

    • @satishsain3698
      @satishsain3698 2 роки тому +1

      Bhut vishsl dil h aapka

  • @yash1152
    @yash1152 3 місяці тому +82

    3:11 _"ऐसी मुसीबतें हर किसी के साथ किसी-न-किसी रँग रूप में होती ही हैं; पर हम फिर भी परदे डालते रहते हैं"_
    आपका बहुत-२ धन्यवाद यह साँझा करने के लिए!

  • @omkars9
    @omkars9 3 роки тому +569

    बहूत दिनों बाद किसी सुलझे हुए इंसान को सुन रहा हु ऐसा लगा। 👍

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +20

      Thank you Omkar ji🙏🏽

    • @SumanSuman-lq1vg
      @SumanSuman-lq1vg 3 роки тому +1

      Bilkul sahi kaha aapne

    • @raveenduhan4866
      @raveenduhan4866 3 роки тому +2

      @@peepalfarm sayad m apko hi dundh rha tha.

    • @manoharpatelh435
      @manoharpatelh435 3 роки тому +1

      बहुत सुलझे हुए 👍👍

    • @sushilbairwa5045
      @sushilbairwa5045 2 роки тому +1

      @@raveenduhan4866 ऐसे लोग पूरी दुनिया में हो तो कितना अच्छा होगा 🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @ganeshdivekar5042
    @ganeshdivekar5042 3 роки тому +429

    This happens with good children mostly. We always think that it is our responsibility to keep parents happy always and forget about ourself but when we realise parents don't even care what we have done for them then things start getting messed up.

    • @nv2224
      @nv2224 3 роки тому +23

      I know exactly how this feels 😭😭😭😭

    • @Peace_seeker02
      @Peace_seeker02 3 роки тому +14

      100% true🥺

    • @priyankonmail
      @priyankonmail 3 роки тому +3

      Rt

    • @neeturealvlog880
      @neeturealvlog880 3 роки тому +30

      Yes .... U r right... Fir bhi log kahte he ki bachhe ma bap ki dekhbal nahi krte... Jb ki ma bap itne jiddi ho jate he ki kuch samajhna hi nahi chahte. . Sach kahu to mujhe to nafrat he in dono shabdo se bhi or riste se bhi

    • @IndianYoutuberKomal
      @IndianYoutuberKomal 3 роки тому +1

      👍👍

  • @harpreetsingh1299
    @harpreetsingh1299 3 роки тому +159

    This is the dark reality of our parents and parenting

  • @alishakashmirtoppo2473
    @alishakashmirtoppo2473 3 роки тому +403

    Finally.. Someone talked about this.. Its so deep that almost everyone is suffering from this. Parents logic is that children are there to fulfill their dreams or carry their emotional baggage. And this goes on generation by generation.

  • @atulxess5565
    @atulxess5565 3 роки тому +184

    Exactly what I'm feeling right now,
    I'm studying so hard to get a job so I can move out from this house. 🙁 I might probably never return that's the level of suffocation I feel here.

    • @pallavisinha1004
      @pallavisinha1004 3 роки тому +6

      Same

    • @rvn7218
      @rvn7218 3 роки тому +3

      @@pallavisinha1004 you will get rid of the day you get married

    • @pallavisinha1004
      @pallavisinha1004 3 роки тому +30

      @@rvn7218 it will become worse , you have to face same thing in some other unknown house .

    • @atulxess5565
      @atulxess5565 3 роки тому +27

      @@pallavisinha1004 it's better to Get a job and move out ASAP and marry the person who understands you. Life would be much easier then I guess 🤔

    • @pratikbari1714
      @pratikbari1714 3 роки тому +1

      Are you preparing for govt job
      If you are then i can you man

  • @Dreamywar
    @Dreamywar 3 роки тому +104

    My bf always tried to make me realize this, that I should think about myself too, but everytime I would brush it off, but now I understand what he was trying to tell from the past so many days

    • @raghavdixit6832
      @raghavdixit6832 3 роки тому +6

      He is real love
      Never let him go

    • @abhinavpandey840
      @abhinavpandey840 3 роки тому +3

      @@raghavdixit6832 what do you mean , run away from home?

    • @altabshaikh9385
      @altabshaikh9385 3 роки тому +5

      @@abhinavpandey840 there are many things apar from this my friend...... focusing on career which we want to choose but not choosing because of family or anything there are so many things like this

    • @akkir3268
      @akkir3268 3 роки тому +4

      Girl are you in just 3 rd std ? And have a bf?

  • @MoviesInAminute.
    @MoviesInAminute. 3 місяці тому +52

    I wish all the 90's kids heal and live a guilt free life

  • @samimanasrin5215
    @samimanasrin5215 3 роки тому +122

    He is honest with his feelings. It take guts

  • @SRDumaga
    @SRDumaga 2 роки тому +84

    आसान नहीं होता अपने घर की निजी बातों को सार्वजनिक करना पर आपने किया, सिर्फ दूसरों की भलाई के लिए ...🙏👏👏👏

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  2 роки тому +3

      🙏

    • @123rocker0071987
      @123rocker0071987 3 місяці тому +2

      @@peepalfarm real himmatwala havent seen another 1 like u in my lifetime!

  • @mostlyyhuman
    @mostlyyhuman 3 роки тому +96

    Sir I almost cried after listening this. Mai vo didi hu jo apni iss "normal" life ko badalne mae lagi hu. Aasha hai badal lungi jaldi he!

    • @simaraman05
      @simaraman05 3 роки тому +2

      Realising that change is needed itself is the start of change.Good luck.

    • @mostlyyhuman
      @mostlyyhuman 3 роки тому

      @@simaraman05 thank you so much!

    • @afsarshaikh7086
      @afsarshaikh7086 3 роки тому +3

      Allah aapki madad kare. AAMIN

    • @mostlyyhuman
      @mostlyyhuman 3 роки тому

      @@afsarshaikh7086 Shukriya

    • @mr.himalayan6258
      @mr.himalayan6258 3 роки тому +1

      I m male so I can't understand what u think.
      But I am very much supportor of "Survival of the Fittest".
      Choose it or loss it.

  • @kunalroy232
    @kunalroy232 3 роки тому +90

    आपकी अभी तक कि जिंदगी बहुत संघर्ष पूर्ण रहा
    शुक्रिया हमसे साझा करने के लिए, बहुत कुछ सिखने को मिला आपसे।

  • @gargi606
    @gargi606 3 роки тому +83

    Seriously yaar, this is so true. Mothers are not always right.

    • @thehuman2861
      @thehuman2861 3 роки тому +6

      And family is not always there to protect you ..
      Be good and find good people, and you'll have your real family

  • @afganhumanist6349
    @afganhumanist6349 3 роки тому +179

    बच्चों को इस दुनिया मे लाने का फैसला माँ बाप का होता है मैं जब तक बच्चे पैदा नहीं करूँगा जब तक मैं उनको अच्छा भविष्य ना दे सकूँ या फिर मैं बच्चा गोद ले लू ये सही रहेगा

    • @ankurmbd9570
      @ankurmbd9570 3 роки тому +5

      Your thinking is good

    • @idontcarei
      @idontcarei 3 роки тому +12

      paida na karo tab bhi family dimag kha jaygi

    • @ankurmbd9570
      @ankurmbd9570 3 роки тому +15

      Ha lekin family ke dawab ki wajah se frustrated hoker kisi ko paida karna bina kisi wajah se sahi nhi hai khud seh lo lekin dusri zindgi barbaad mat karo jab apko itni samjh hai

    • @ankurmbd9570
      @ankurmbd9570 3 роки тому +3

      Ha lekin family ke dawab ki wajah se frustrated hoker kisi ko paida Krna bina kisi wajah ke sahi nhi hai khud seh lo lekin dusri zindgi barbaad mat karo jab apko itni samjh hai

    • @idontcarei
      @idontcarei 3 роки тому

      @@ankurmbd9570 kisko bol rahe ho agar mujhe hai to bhai sahab ..i just pointed out some facts ,,,not talkin abt me

  • @gauravverma5692
    @gauravverma5692 3 роки тому +52

    Reading comments I can see I had a great childhood.... I studied science because I liked it and I was interested in computers.... family did all to support me... my brother enjoyed commerce and he did that... we married when we wanted and were ready and to girls we wanted to... Same with kids we had them when we were ready.... Parents supported us..... now we support them

    • @123rocker0071987
      @123rocker0071987 3 місяці тому +2

      my dear sir this confirmity as displayed in ur words is the cancer of Indian families which in turn has brought our nation to its knees.....kab tak apne aap se jhooth bolte rahoge, at least appreciate this peepal farm guy unequivocally for not pushing the problems under the capret and pretend to be happy......sorry 4 being harsh but we need to learn how 2 be honest with ourselves......

    • @celebs.multifandom8194
      @celebs.multifandom8194 3 місяці тому

      ​@@123rocker0071987 par achhi baat h na ki unki zindagi achhi chal rhi hh...kuch logo ki sach me hoti h achhi ...air kuch logo ki bachpan se kharab....environment bhot matter karta h

    • @ank_kmr
      @ank_kmr 3 місяці тому

      👍

    • @gauravverma5692
      @gauravverma5692 3 місяці тому

      @@123rocker0071987 Or you could be wrong

    • @RahulKumarAitian
      @RahulKumarAitian Місяць тому

      Good parents are blessing..

  • @Nitya-r86
    @Nitya-r86 3 роки тому +88

    You should read more about narcissistic parents and parents with Cluster B disorders.
    It is the responsibility of parents to raise kids. It is not the responsibility of children to raise their parents.
    Wish you a healthy and happy future!

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +9

      Thanks Nitya! That's a great line and I will look those up.

    • @vishalvinayan3375
      @vishalvinayan3375 3 роки тому

      What is cluster B disorder?

    • @preethamsmrc
      @preethamsmrc 3 роки тому +18

      My mother too suffers from cluster b personality disorder which destroyed my life, still is. My brother committed suicide because of it. My father deserted when we were too young when he could not take her abuse any more. I didn't her disorder until recently, but I have stuck with her for life as she manipulated me financially, emotionally, and socially that now even my husband and children are facing the consequences of it. Let this be a lesson. If your parent is not behaving normally, find out the reason and if it is cluster b, get out ASAP. Save yourself. They'll never change. Don't worry about society. If you're stuck noone will ever help you. Get out!!!

    • @siddhijoshi8759
      @siddhijoshi8759 3 роки тому

      True

    • @thehuman2861
      @thehuman2861 3 роки тому +1

      So damne true,
      I'm loving with Narcissist father and yeah my life is ruined cause of him
      But I'm trying and hopefully will get much better
      And that line.... I feel it

  • @snehagupta707
    @snehagupta707 3 місяці тому +45

    And for this reason I just want to cut off all the relationship with my toxic family.

    • @mk67890
      @mk67890 3 місяці тому

      Sorry to hear that

    • @bhartisatyaias4512
      @bhartisatyaias4512 3 місяці тому +3

      but assa hota nhi hai specially for girls

    • @wowser2153
      @wowser2153 3 місяці тому +2

      @@bhartisatyaias4512she should not cut off completely, just keep some distance

    • @unsupported8104
      @unsupported8104 2 місяці тому

      Don’t do this. Just try to avoid

  • @aarushvats958
    @aarushvats958 3 роки тому +302

    Bhut badi baat bhi aap bhut saral aur sidhe sabdo m samhja dete ho ..robin sir 🙏.. thanks for giving us a life lesson...

    • @user-gv7lp7pb1z
      @user-gv7lp7pb1z 3 роки тому +3

      Ek video mein Robin ji ne kaha tha, ki loog unhe Robin sir bolte hain jo unhe bilkul acha nahi lagta.
      Agar koi unhe guruji ya kuch aur shabd se bulaye toh acha lagega.

    • @user-gv7lp7pb1z
      @user-gv7lp7pb1z 3 роки тому +3

      Toh aap Robin ya Robin guruji, ya Robin ji ya kuch aur bol sakte ho toh acha rahega 🙏🙏

    • @rajorshitapas1623
      @rajorshitapas1623 3 роки тому

      Bahut badi baat kehdi aapne

  • @DM21217
    @DM21217 3 роки тому +155

    It takes courage to share such personal things ....you earned my respect 👍

  • @sunitao8
    @sunitao8 3 місяці тому +40

    "Mothers are not always right"

  • @riteshmajumder5168
    @riteshmajumder5168 3 роки тому +130

    It was so courageous of you to share this. We all suffer from some sort of pangs in life, which is so deep shit and can’t be resolved but still have to put a fake smiling face and carry on with life.

    • @peepalfarm
      @peepalfarm  3 роки тому +32

      Haan Yaar, and that takes a toll on us...and I find it ridiculous that we all do it to pretend to be "normal" ... but asal normal to bahar hi nahi aata as everyone pretends to be okay!

    • @naruti3992
      @naruti3992 3 роки тому +1

      @@peepalfarm true😭

  • @Walklikeaduck111
    @Walklikeaduck111 3 роки тому +77

    Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my own sister to suicide. Its something i could never get over completely. Perhaps your sister was a victim of severe depression as well. My therapist told me recently, no one thinks or plans for suicide unless there is depression or other mental illness. Its sociological factors that affect us psychologically... But the decision to end her life must have happened because she couldn't see a way out.. This is what depression does to us. You are an inspiration for all of us, bhai.