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I was a stay at home mum, the best years of my life. Now kids grown up , husband gone. I wish the years didn't go by so fast. But never regret it.
There's lots of Women finding this out like you said it's gone in a Flash - it applies to Males too .
Men have this happen as well. It's just life. Sometimes it sucks, but we have to take the bad with the good.
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I was a stay home dad for our second child. I rate it as the best time of my life as well. However, I do regret some of it as I was also doing part time uni and working a couple of nights a week, which took some time and focus off the kids at night when my wife was home. More time with my second before he died would've been a far better use of my time.
@@redbomberr4594 Sorry you had to go through that, My first child died and it's something no one should go through .
My wonderful wife taught public school for 30 years and I worked in a railyard for 40 years. Together we raised a son, built a home, cared for our fathers and had a good 42 years together. We shared the chores, bills, pooled our income and were a good team. A woman should have higher education or a skill and be able to support herself if she needs to.
I agree. My parents both worked too and had an education with valuable skills. The tradcons forget that eventually kids grow up, they aren’t going to stay babies and toddlers forever. Once the kids are school age, it’s foolish and sounds incredibly boring for the mom to just stay home all day. Tradcons also forget the average age for couples to marry in 2024 is around age 28-29. Its cost of living is so high now it’s nearly impossible to raise a family off one alone anyway. You can have both a career and a family. It’s fine if mom wants to take a year or two off work when taking care of an infant, but they should go back to work at least part-time when the kids are at school.
My wife works part time 2 days a week, she got her job recently.
She takes care of our son the other days, as well as cook and clean. I work full time, sometimes over 40 hours a week, I take them to nursery and work both days they need, as well help around the house when she is at work since I work from home, because MY job is to support my family both financially and by being there.
Although I bring home the largest income, my wife supports me and our son as well as keeping our house in order, she is the glue that keeps our family together and working, so I love her and appreciate her for what she gives us.
As long as we are happy, and most importantly our son is happy its all that matters
2024 They are "Trad wives" and are shamed ..... in 1984 they were "Stay at home mothers" thought of less than working wives ...... in the 1940's (all the way back to start of time) they were just "mothers" and it was never questioned
These women piss me off. The man wanted a trad wife and they got married. She wanted to be his wife. The second woman sits online getting told men are shit and leaves her husband and listens to her friends who don't want to see her happy married. The internet destroys relationships.
Fkn aye...
He writes on the internet
Been happenings like that for years, magazines did it as well. 😊
The ones to blame are the vocal, screaming, modern feminists (Who appear in articles and on the Internet).
Don't take internet seriously!
My first marriage lasted a few years. She was a house wife and a narcissist.
My second marriage lasted 36 years until the 'death do us part' section of our vows ended it for us. We both worked hard and shared all the duties of house work and raising our two sons.
We met commuting on a train coming home from work. I had retired and she was nearly retired, like one more year, and then she passed away. We had a great life together, I just wished it lasted at least 15 more years.
Choose wisely people.
Choose wisely indeed.
We got married 20 years ago.
Never had children. Never wanted them…
Life has been absolutely awesome 🤩 🎉
I am a housewife and have been married 25 years.......Not all of us are narcissists. Until recently my husband had to commute into the city for 30 years so if one of my 4 kids got sick at school then someone had to be available to pick them up......We housewives just don't hang out at the nail salon all day. Dropping and picking up the kids from school, making everyone's lunches, making sure all the bills are paid on time, gardening, painting walls, painting fences, cleaning, walking dog, cleaning cat litter boxes, making dinner 95% of the time to save money, mowing, making sure the car is full of fuel, supermarket shopping.....and I don't mind doing all of this and managing the family finances because my husband NEVER COMPLAINS.
@@JohnsonCraniumI want to be you when I grow up 🥹
@@hughesjill09 me too , honestly what a beautiful love story
@@hughesjill09 I’ll be honest with what I’ve seen… honest and nothing more. 😉 my friends started breeding in 2003… notice I said “breeding” as if they’re animals… that’s because they are! All of my friends were fat lazy pigs, and couldn’t give a dam about parenting! They gave their kids the portable nintendos and then the smart phone and then the iPad iPhone
Their kids never had attention and they all grew up dysfunctional.
I watched these kids turn into dysfunctional adults that can’t look after themselves.
There was no way 🙅♂️ I was putting a human child on this planet if my child was going to have friends that were friends with my friend’s children! NO WAY 🙅♂️
All of them are broken families with dad and mum version 3! They all got divorced! Remarried… some 3 times! 😮
I may not have the “joy” of children in my life… but at least I haven’t had the nightmare of a coaster ride my friends had!
They look 25 years older than me and we are the same age!
We’re 45, debt free, travel and have fun…
My friends… haven’t left the dam town they grew up in 💁♂️ 🤦♂️ not even for a holiday 🤦♂️
When I met my wife… the first night! I told her… NO KIDS 🙅♂️ nope 👎 NOT HAPPENING 🙅♂️
I was honest in the first 20 mins. And that’s what she liked about me.
A "tradition wife" does not post her life on Tic Tac or Instagram and she is surely not called a "Tradwife" ...
Certainly, she shall also use no dishwasher or washing machine. She shall use a broom to clean the floor and not a vacuum cleaner!
What she posts is important. My wife posts pictures of food and hobbies, not of herself trying to get "likes". How they use social media is the most important factor.
exactly
I will be calling it Tic Tac from now on I like that 😂
@@Godstud❤
My boyfriend and I had an oopsie, we got pregnant. Had my little guy the first week of med school. Now pregnant with nr 2 and almost finished with studying. Bought a house, got married, got a dog. It would have been a lot easier if I'd stayed at home full time but we make it work. We are tremendously blessed ❤
Congratulations on finishing, I work in healthcare and I was already there when I got pregnant (started in the field in 07 and daughter born in 2018) and i took the standard yr of maternity leave in Ontario Canada and as much as I wanted to stay home and my now ex wanted to go to work financially it worked out most livable was for me to go back to work and him to stay home..
She’ll be right!
Four children, I’m very proud.
I am too second time round. Take care
best wishes
An oopsie 😂❤
My mum never wanted kids and bought the feminist line of the 1970's that women who chose to stay home and have children were mentally and socially inferior. She walked out in 1978 leaving us with our dad, who raised us and worked full time (not all men are shit).
Three decades later I have my own child who I planned to have. My view is different. I think being a parent is the hardest job and the most under-appreciated job in the world while also being the most important as you are shaping society's future. It is a 24/7 job, no owners' manual, no sick leave, no holidays (unless you can afford a nanny) etc.
The best anyone can ever do and leave for the world is having children. Amazing how so many women belittle that.
I am so sorry as to what your mum did.....I hope you realize it is not your fault that your mum made bad choices.....Some women really feel like you mum and that is okay IF they don't have kids. Once your mum chose to have kids then that was her choice and she should have stayed......Nobody forced her to marry and nobody orced her to have kids.......Once you make these big choices you need to stick by them.........Luckily my parent both stayed around until I was an adult ( at least).......They both had full-time jobs and my father had a second jobs some nights but I barely remember seeing them. We kids practically raised ourselves and my mum's idea of dinner was to call the local pizza delivery service.........For the first 10 years of my marriage I couldn't eat pizza because I was so sick of it as a kid.
Problem is, nowadays it takes 2 full time incomes to live comfortably 😢if people can make it happen and are happy, go for it 😊
That is the worst part of today's living. Both work and a large chunk of the combined income simply goes out the door in childcare.............. But yep in today's world both parents need to work to support a family.
Of course these women never bring up the ones who chose career over family and now they're older, childless, and lonely and they're on social media crying about how miserable they are.
We never hear about the happy trad wives who are still married and older because when you're happy you don't need to go online and tell everyone vs people who are miserable and want to complain
Those are called feminists now , 15 cats deep and counting. 😂
@@TookieMacSpookie one for each ex
@@randybobandy9828 Bingo! That's the problem with most of the content. The happy people in relationships aren't putting them on social media, because they are too busy enjoying their lives. They don't need 'likes' or approval from strangers to support insecurities brought on by poor decisions.
A what about the women who did and don't regret their decision? Or the women who did have children and ended up lonely in a nursing home?
What am I ??
I am stay home dad, washing, dishes, school lunches, all that house bitch work 😂.
As well as studying for a new career.
Stable guy?
@@greenarrow219 A legend. A man who does what he can to keep his house and family in order.
A legend. Bro keeps his family stable and is still trying to grow and improve = Absolute Gigachad.
@cupofhope8769 I used to work a labor job, garden parks reserve maintenance. My wife got a job as a manager at a supermarket, far more money than my menial job. My young son is slightly autistic and he definitely needed a change. More dad at home, definitely noticed a positive impact on his s behavior and social skills
@@greenarrow219 Oh my god! A father who understands the value of being a present and active parent. The horror!
People should be allowed to choose if they want to be a stay at home mum or work without being shamed. Feminism is about the choice, not shaming other women for their choices.
There was an interview on T.V. where I live speaking to some of the feminist trailblazers of the 1960's and they said their movement was about CHOICE......It was never about belittling any woman who chose to stay at hoe or who chose to have a career.
You might want to tell that to the feminists. They lose their sh1t when women want to be wives & mothers.
As a man who came from a large family (10 kids) with a wife also from a large family (roughly the same number) and 5 kids, yes having 5 kids is insane. They make Her so happy and I love them little shits so we don't mind losing what little sanity we had.
Being a wife and mother is the best "job" I have had in my life. I worked for 5 years, then stayed home for 7 with the kids, and now have been back at working outside the home for 8 years. Sacrificing and being home with my children was the greatest joy of my life. They are only little once. My husband is amazing. We both take care of our home, raise our children, and support eachother. He is the true definition of a partnership. Love my life!
I don't need a home slave servant at home, and I don't want a boss queen either. Why can't we just have a wife who loves and cares for the family?
Yeah, I hear ya . . .
That's a traditional wife, mate. Even 100 years ago, about 20% of women worked. They just did jobs from home and concentrated on the family.
becuase, now sit down this might shock you, not all women want to sacrifice the other things in their life for kids. women are people too. hope that helps!
@@kiralee6173hope they have fun sacrificing everything for a soulless corporation that will replace them in an instant when they get old & tired instead of doing it for their family. Maybe Karen from HR will be there to hold their hand when they take their last breath.
@@kiralee6173 enjoy your cats 😄
I am a traditional conservative woman, who is taking a break from homestead chores sitting in my hammock, watching this, my kids are playing in the sprinkler in the garden with the ducks (shocker ducks love the sprinkler lol) my husband is at work, I homeschool raise animals and work at growing the garden. Best thing I ever did to choose to raise my own kids, they are amazing! And I don’t care about dishes or laundry or whatever, I just work hard to do the best I can do for my family, who cares what the work is? My family benefits so much from me doing work for them! I was miserable when I did the college/career etc. Love love love being the invaluable person that I am to my family!
Why do so many people feel like I’m demeaned by taking care of my family? I really don’t get it?! Screw keeping score you will ruin your marriage, just do your best every day to take care of your family! Bring what your able to do to the table and don’t hold back put all you got in and your family will thrive!
You're living the dream.
I don’t know why women wanted to change from “Homemaker” to “stay at home mom”. One implies skill, effort, a respectable craft, but no, I want to be referred to as ‘staying at home…’ So weird to me.
In Aus lingo, stay at home mum kinda means homemaker by default, isn't seen as a negative unless specified.
@@pinky8167 Right. What I’m saying is that they mean the same thing but one sounds better than the other to me, yet we use the one that sounds silly instead of the phrase that sounds like a skilled, respectable job. It’s just weird to me.
My mom has told me do what you like but be smart about it this goes for everything and everyone
"Tradwife" and "Cisgender" Why do we now have labels on things that are still the norm in most cultures.
What stands out for me is the look in their eyes. The trad wife has a very 'soft' look, where in the modern women there is a more 'harsh and angry' gaze.
True that
girl wut
Thousand 🐓 stare
Has a 'soft look' - they're happy. No real stress. No office drama or aggravation eating away at the back of their mind.
@@cavalieroutdoors6036 I might be a housewife but in no way will I judge another woman who works full-time and say they look angry......I am sick of women pitting ourselves against each other.....women who work is fine to me and women who don't is also fine.
..a smile and a hug after work, is all we need..
Aww, that's sweet. So many angry and grumpy wives keeping score don't even do that
Whichever lifestyle you choose make sure it's the right one for you as it goes past way too fast. It's something that isn't appreciated qhen you're just starting out. Be present in your life and not working wishing you were home or vice versa.
this
My Mum was a stay at home Mum, and now that we're all teens & adults she's seeking a divorce with my Dad because he's ignored sexually her for a decade, doesn't do anything about his mental issues, and came out as gay. Is it easy for her? No. But there are steps you can take to get back into the workforce.
She does not regret her years as a stay at home Mum at all because there are so many milestones and events she would've missed if she wasn't around for us kids when we were young. The only thing she regrets I think is not going back to the workforce a little sooner, but she's been dealing with chronic health conditions that have made that difficult.
she sounds like an amazing woman
Pretty sure he’s been ignoring her sexually for more than a decade…
Ur dad gay
@@HereWashThis cos he was gay lol can you read?
Careers are not without risk as well. Plenty of men have had the horrifying experience of getting laid off from a job they poured years of their lives into. Being the primary homemaker and kid-raiser is a career choice, and sometimes it doesn’t work out. Btw, your kitten poster made me smile
Here’s a radical thought. PEOPLE CAN LIVE THEIR LIFE HOWEVER THEY WANT. IT IS NO ONE ELSES BLOODY BUSINESS.
ABSOLUTELY!!! 🫵😄👍. I mean, people can TRY & tell us what they think is best for us (only to be told exactly where to shove their ideas 🤭) but at the end of the day, WE are the ones in control of our own lives & destinies. I’m with you on this ✊😁
That's ok and all, but keep it to themselves instead of sharing it with the world for people to judge lol 🤣
It's pretty messed up that our employees get to boss us around.
@@namyelramiroam9587 I agree. People don’t want to hear the opinions of those who disagree with them? Cool. Well don’t put every aspect of your life out there for scrutiny. But seriously people. If doesn’t harm you and yours. Let them have at it!
I want to live like a murderer. According to you, I should be free to live that way!
My parents have a successful marriage and modeled for me how to be dedicated to family. My mom always taught me that if I chose to be a stay at home mom, I should have career skills and a way to earn money if the family fell on hard times or if my husband left. I didn’t get married or start a family because I pursued different goals, and it simply didn’t work out that way. I don’t regret it, but I would never shit on someone for wanting to get married and start a family.
My husband and I are trying to work towards me being a housewife. It's just not feasible right now, but when we are financially stable enough for it, I will choose housewife in a second. I love being a housewife so much!
I hope you get there! ❤
Same here! I like my job but it will never be as important as my family
Maybe... just maaaaaaybe, these women that call raising their own flesh and blood "time down the toilet" didn't exactly project that positive energy that keeps a relationship going. I'll never EVER defend cheating, but you can't deny that a wife who so easily considers her marriage and family a waste of time hasn't been providing her part of a loving and supportive home.
I know, right? We really shouldn't be following the advice of Gen X. Many of them were angry burnouts that wasted their lives being mad about something. They didn't like their lives no matter what they were doing!
I've been a stay at home mom for years ❤ I love being at home with my babies. I get to instill our family values in them, plus ensure they are being taken care of properly. Whenever a 3rd wave feminist makes a remark on how 'sad' my existence must be, I just laugh to myself. I think a lot of them are jealous of women who have chosen the simple, soft life, and try to reframe it as a bad thing. Its actually pretty sad if you think about it.
My wife has been staying home since our 7 year old was born. Neither one of us have ever looked at it as if one role was less important than the other. It’s worked out great.
Any smart man with good principles is going to find a woman that wants to be a wife and a mother.
This is the internet, Isaac. There is no room for logic - how dare you!
They used to always be housewives. then they fought to be able to work. now they want to be housewives again. I don’t understand women.
That's not most women.
The feminist movement destroyed women.
The Government pushes Feminism becuse they can double their Tax Money... They don't think about the consequences.
I think you misunderstood the feminist movement of yesteryear. We fought to choose. That's all, to have a choice. I personnaly am far from traditional, but love being a mum at home.
Women are easy to understand. They are children. Who shouldn't vote. You're welcome.
They very easy to understand, they lazy.
I work hard so that my spouse can stay at home or at least work less - because I love my spouse *shocker*
57yr old tradwife here- it's the best life!
🙏🏻 💒 🙏🏻
I'm a traditional wife "tradwife" (non religious) and have been for almost 18 years. I think everyone would be happy if they all lived their lives the way they wanted to, and didn't shame each other for the way they want to live.
Women can do whatever they want. But nobody can do everything at the same time.
A housewife is going to be better at housewifing than some girlboss who has to spend a huge chunk of her pay on childcare ... and then to find out decades later the kids don't give a flying fuck about them.
People specialise because splitting your focus makes you bad at everything.
Choices. We all make them. You either choose to be a good mother, or have a career. men are more willing to sacrifice their family to take care of career, because we are the providers. You are 100% correct.
@@Godstud you can have a successful career and be a great mother. not sure why that's such a shocker to you
@@kiralee6173 Not really. You can have a successful career and be an OK mother. That is it. Unless your career is home-centered you will not be able to spend as much time with your children and time matters more than money.
it's called transition. when the kids are older their needs change so should we. we should all turn our focus and better ourselves to become happy. I've lived it and so have many other women. if we're miserable our children and spouses will be too. that's a guarantee.
@@swampcritterisbackbaby1740 what about the father too? they need to be just as involved as the mother. we don’t live in the middle ages anymore
10:00 “He is walking away and leaving her with nothing”
Other than a house, a family, 150k a year for the next lord knows how long… that’s why these things exist.
Thank you. Can't believe it took so long to find this comment.
@@Alcogodno kidding 😂
She was the one who walked away, that is what filing for divorce means.
@@swampcritterisbackbaby1740 The woman said that he is walking away and leaving her with nothing - I was quoting… Also he did kind of cheat on her which ultimately lead to the divorce in the first place.
The biggest reason women were convinced that it was empowering to go out to work was to make them debt slaves just like their husbands.
You’re both out working, miserable as sin, both paying taxes, paying to have your kids in childcare, not knowing what is happening to them all day.
It’s a life choice today, but it was just the way a generation ago.
I have the perfect balance, uni educated and have a part time professional role that is really satisfying and I do the cooking (I love baking), most cleaning and not really "childcare" anymore as they are teens - but that presents new challenges!
That's what ALL traditional moms used to do. My mom was a nurse, for married, had a family. Later when we were older(around 12 yrs old), she got re-certified and worked in pharmacy, while we were at school. This was in the 70s and 80s. I don't know why people think this is old-fashioned or weird.
Traditional wives don't make videos for social media.....
They also don't run businesses.
@@joylindadichamounix My trad wife did for 15 successful years.
@joylindadichamounix they run households, thats a business
@@Steve.Cutler Yes, if the household has an ABN 😂
Yes! Amen, they just reproduce and tend the house.
Oh wait, maybe it's more about norms and morals and less about the means. Trad wife can't use robot vacuum cleaners either or a dishwasher? 😂😂😂
So career women are upset that they have to work and hate it when others don’t and love it?
I think a lot of career women love their jobs and the choices they have made and I am glad for them.....I am also glad for we women who choose to stay at home.......I don't knock career women as long as they don't knock me.
@@karenmbbaxterits not about whether or not we personally knock them. They've been tricked by corporate west to sell their biologically inclined futures for replacable corporate life cut out for men
They want everyone to be as miserable as them.
I stay home and homeschool my kids. In addition to being a full-time teacher, I cook, clean, drive my kids around, among many other things. I love that I’ve been able to raise my kids myself at home. Here’s the warning- I don’t work outside of the home and if my husband suddenly decides to leave me, my life and my kid’s lives will be changed drastically. After never having to step foot in an institution, my kids would have to go to public school, I would have to go back to work after 16 years and in my late 40’s , and our home would have to be sold. It’s scary really to depend completely on someone to keep their side of the agreement . But I would ever do it any different- I love being a mom and educator to my kids . ❤
It's crazy how all the trends in the world happen. An what it leaves in its wake.
And this girl probably wouldn't be doing it if she couldn't document it on social media.
I hate trends, tbh. So many of them cause more damage than good. lol
The people who are against the trad wife lifestyle seem to be bitter that they made poor decisions and can't stand to see someone else happy.
This anti trad wife thing really bugs me. Im of the generation where we were told 'Girls can do anything', and 'you can have it all'. Complete lies. We cant do anything (as in what ever we like) and having 'it all' means DOING it all. For the most part Ive been a stay at home mum, but for the few years I worked on the farm every day with my husband I still had to make lunch when we came in and dinner at the end of the day. I'll take just being responsible for the home any day, and I was thrilled when I no longer had to go out there anymore.
A good relationship meant he makes the lunch too. Ye would both be tired and hungry working the farm.
I’m not a Mum myself but I have friends who are and oh my god. The most hate I see on the internet? Mother’s Groups. That shit is SAVAGE.
Brilliant name, love it 😂😂😂
@@mortyc137a2 Beavis and Butthead are life.
Being a dad is one of the greatest things ever
I’ve had a full-time job since my 18th birthday and ever since I’ve been in a workforce. I’ve been harassed at my job of some sort the first four years of being in the workforce. I was harassed by men because I mostly worked with men and then I switched my profession to a dental assistant where I primarily worked with females, and that harassment from the females was 10 times worse than sexual harassment, I faced when working with men. At the age of 25 I’m realizing all I wanna do is settle down and raise my babies in the woods.
The biggest difference between a girlfriend and a traditional wife is 150 lbs
😂
sad, but true.
hahaha thats terrible lolol
Well, that's what happens when she gets you locked in
Maybe some. But I’m actually in better shape than when my husband married me in August 2004. Not just my weight, but my actual fitness. After having my last son almost 11 years ago, at 38, I didn’t want midlife to see me blow up… so working out and now keto is a lifestyle I plan to forever sustain. It depends on if you actually love and respect your spouse or just really don’t like them or yourself.
I'll always have some sort of confusion when it comes to understanding women. One second someone is trashing men for their misogynistic behaviors, the next they're trashing EACH other. The feminist movement and all these weird movements are just as weird as the entire LGBTQ movement where theyre attacking everyone.
@@RottenSnake Don’t try to understand women. Women understand women and we all hate each other. I can’t stand this whole “I want a man who provides and protects me but at the same time, I won’t do anything for him,” mentality modern women (most) seem to possess.
i don’t think you’ve ever felt the touch of woman have you
@@kiralee6173 He sounds like he's been touched up by a lot of women and understands how most men feel when it comes to working out women. Especially when it changes day to day.
@@shimsladey3227 go outside queen🥰
I worked my whole life but not because I wanted to but because I had to!! I would’ve loved to have been a tradwife!!! A woman should be able to choose whatever she wants!!!
If I earned enough for my wife to stay home, she would, not because of being a traditional wife but just because she wants to spend as much time with our growing kids. If the opposite were true I would stay home and spend time with the kids and do the housework. It's about kids and them having you around.
I’m a stay at home mum to four. My husband works away a lot of the time. I literally can’t work we have no outside help with our kids. I love having the choice to stay home though 😊 I’m not the typical trad wife tho I will say that 😂😂😂
If you think you are not traditional, then you need to reassess. My mother was independent, worked and was a traditional mother because she put family before everything else. When we got old enough, around 12, she got a job and helped out, while we were in school. Feminism lied to women about the traditional gender roles. They always included independence within the family structure.
Ugh, these women who use filters look ridiculous.
I had a trad wife. She wanted to stay at home with the kids at least until they went to school. It worked well. My kids are wonderful.
I'm very much a" live and let live" kinda person. Also in terms of family dynamics. Do whatever works economically and interpersonally best for you.
One thing I'd like to add to this debate is that more often than not it's only about what the woman's role is, what she has to do. It's always women raise the children, take care of the house and its inhabitants and look a certain part, and men provide. But what are men supposed to provide in a "traditional" family dynamic? Money? Sure, but there's more to it. The traditional man needs to provide his family with stability (not just financial), protection (also, teach the children how to protect themselves) and be handyman around the house (fix cars, etc....).
To all of us adults out there; Choose wisely. It matters!
A stay at home parent has to be the easiest 'job' there is, especially if the kids are of school age. Spend what, a couple of hours a day doing chores, and then put your feet up for the rest of it. Much rather that than grafting 60-80+ hours a week to bring in the bacon.
Unfortunately, in the UK there is no alimony, only child support, which you only get to keep if you work. If you're not working, you end up on benefits as a single mother and any child support gets deducted from your benefit. You get to keep £5 per week out of it. For someone to choose to be a stay at home mum in the UK, you NEED a backup career!
The concept of alimony is complete bs
My hubby and I have been married 32 years.. I've done both working and staying home and I was/am happiest at home. I've brought my kids up a am now helping raise my grandkids. Each to their own. I know when my girls were at school teachers looked down on them when they said they wanted to get married and have kids.
I love how we gotta tiptoe around the words male and female now.
Don't play their game. Tell the truth even if it offends them.
@Godstud yes!👍🏾👍🏾
I can deal with a lot of stuff and people can call themselves whatever they choose and I don't mind......Gay, straight, bi, pansexual, omnisexual, transexual.......I DON'T MIND.......but don't ever refer to me as a CIS woman because I have never been confused about my sexuality and I never felt I was born into the wrong sex.......I am a woman, plain and simple, and if anyone from The LGBTIQ community calls me a CIS woman then I will DELIBERATELY use the wrong pronoun for them and they can see how it feels.
@@Godstud even you’re using those darn they/them pronouns 😡
I grew up around this in the 80s and now my partner is largely the same yet we are still balanced, communicate well and equal in so many ways. Mind you we are also alternative, new age, psychedelic etc
I can’t stand the ones that say they wasted so many years of their lives. Their kids were a waste of time??? I mean, they should really look at it that way, because the kids are going to hear that and think that’s what their moms think. It’s sad. So your marriage went to shit, doesn’t mean it all was a waste. Learn from it and grow from it, but don’t say bullshit like that, your kids are listening.
As a single man in his 50's who never got married, never had kids all I hear from all the single, divorced, had kids women my age is how bad or how much of an arsehole their partners were and all I can think is, choose better ladies. I'm still friends with all my exes because they were good people. Simple.
It's another trend of grifting on their part to entice gullible men.
Careful. Someone will call you an incel.
@@IHopeMyBungholioWontGetPolioDude is an incel, literally thinks every woman is trying to “entrap him” when most of them won’t even look at him.
Is it enough to make men forget there is NO Fault Dievorce?
@@gardogodinez6621 You realise most people don’t care because most men don’t have the money to worry and secondly women tend not to divorce for no reason…. Y’all just think women be marrying random guys and divorcing them for no reason 🤣.
But hey let’s just ban divorce right? So that way anyone who gets married is stuck in that marriage forever with no way out.
@@PeoplePleaser578 I was clearly implying *NO-FAULT Divorce* not Divorce. You know there is a difference between the two, right? Where in my comment did I say I'm against divorce?
Your reading comprehension is in the gutter. Were you educated in a barn?
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I've never even heard of the term "Tradwife"
Neither have I
It's a Gen Z term
i heard it maybe 4 years ago or so, it's relatively new, but if youre online enough you'd have heard of it
It's simply a woman who values the family, which is the opposite of modern feminism.
Just means traditional wife. 🤷♀️
I find the whole "King & Queen" thing weird, I like to think that me and my GF are just on each other's team all the time, it's us vs the world and we both love each other enough to want to make each other's lives easier and more pleasent.
I want to be a housewife and raise a family. Men straight up refuse to date me. I am treated like a burden because I don't want to be in the workforce.
I'm too autistic for kids, I'm happy with just having animals lol
Me too
@@mariahdavidson1315 Nice 👍
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Kids are fine, speaking as an autist myself my children are mostly autistic themselves. I find them easy to understand
@@Smitty_85 That's fair, I know every autistic is different, I just can't handle being around kids. I find animals easier to understand personally hahaha
Once the kids are over 3 years old, it's a picnic to stay at home and cook.
I’ve been a nurse since my kids were little they are all grown up now , I loved being at home but I had to work back then . My husband helped so much we shared everything. My kids Benefited from their dad looking after them as well. . He worked really hard too.
As if people don't cheat or get divorced in "untraditional marriages".
TradWife over a They/Them any day of the week...
Not all career women have they/them pronouns......Many are quite happy being women but they want careers also.
Your company won't come to your funeral, friend
@@karenmbbaxter And you'll miss out on the glory that is being a parent. Or do it too late and end up with a Down's Syndrome or Autistic kid cos your genome has degraded too far. It's actually a thing...
@@NadiaSeesIt Actually, they probably would buddy.
You could be much more than a lawyer. You could be much more than a manager. You could much more than a CEO.
You could be.......A MOTHER
Easy pass, sounds awful
@@user-lv4ek9lk4l Well...i guess not everyone meant for great things.
But jokes aside., i am fine with anyone doing whatever they feel is best for them. I just don't like it when people diminish house wives and mothers because there is no material return.
So where is her example of woman who chose career and 30 years later it all came to nothing after they laid her off and her skills aren't in demand anymore?
Thanks for standing up for women and being a voice of reason😂
I'm a tradwife but im jewish, not Christian. As a jew, my husband is my king and my king is my husband and I am his queen. I am absolutely fulfilled by being a tradwife. I spent 25 years of my life as a degenerate feminazi. I dont intend to spend another moment of my life not being a traditional jewish housewife.
We have gender roles and there is nothing wrong with them. Men are providers, and it is a wife's duty to make your house a home for your family. My husband and I also do not believe in divorce unless there is adultery or abuse involved, including arranged marriages which aren't really ethical in present day.
When I grew up my mom was just mom. There was no back story.
I am from a family of 8 inclusive of my parents, mom stayed home and had 6 kids in 11 years, when youngest was ten, mom got some training and became GM of her industry, when dad turned 50; he stopped working and became a lump. They split when mom was 60, but never divorced, just lived separately. Mom passed two months before her 65 birthday. 6 yrs later dad died at 74.
Ladies, i hate to be the bearer of facts.. but there is NOTHING more attractive to a man, than a WOMAN who want to have a family and look after everyone. Its called love. Not being selfish. But each to their own.
For you, I reckon there’s nothing more attractive than allowing a woman to do what they want
Being a stay at home wife and mother? Not in this economy.
Nope
@@JamesLarson-pk5ojHer man would have to make well over $200,000 just to support an average family of 4, pay the bills and have some money saved.
My Dad and i at the pub went through the math to buy a house in Vancouver BC and you have to have a combined income over 150k to afford a million dollar apartment/condo, you literally cant afford to buy a house/property with 150k. Vancouver is now the third most expensive city on the planet, after Hong Kong and Sydney Australia.
Plenty do. Often it's because they either have extended family living together, or are excellent at budgeting, prioritizing, and DIY, or wait to have children until they're committed in a stable marriage without having spent years giving of themselves to those who won't return it.
Can be cheaper if more than one child.
That woman in the car talking about her friend obviously has no children. She made her choice.
I became a mom 20 years ago and was shamed all the time by women for wanting to be a stay at home mom. I have literally only ever wanted to be a mom. All my skills are home related. I love being frugal, I love being submissive.
It's ok that a lot of women don't want that. I won't shame them. I do wish that they wouldn't have kids if they plan to have them raised by randos at daycare, but that's just because I want kids to be loved and protected.
I'm not a feminist, which is probably some of the problem, but if women want to be feminists and break the glass ceiling and all, go for it. Please leave us traditional women alone.
Traditionally.. fuck the postman
It's more the milkman in the past, more trad if you will even though there was that postman who fathered over a hundred children in a us town
@@geoff-lukebihler6157
No one likes a smart ass
Geoff.
A baby is born and during its christening, mutters “God bless Mummy, god bless Daddy, god bless Grandma, goodbye Granddad” and the next day the Granddad suddenly dies. A few weeks pass and the baby speaks up again, babbling “God bless Mummy, god bless Daddy, goodbye Grandma” and sure enough the next day, Grandma dies. A couple months pass, and the Dad overhears the baby talking to itself again, saying “God bless Mummy, goodbye Daddy” and Dad goes to work the next morning absolutely petrified. Yet, he manages to survive the whole day. At the dinner table, he asks his wife how her day was, and she responds... “Oh, it was terrible! The postman died on the doorstep!”
Bitterness?..nothing is more dangerous than women who believes she was wronged
My wife didn’t want kids. Over the course of 5 years she became more open to the idea. Now we have a 3 year old daughter and she constantly thanks me for talking her into it.
Happy sane people is what we should be, without lies..we will all sleep tight and wake up as humans..
I'm not surprised. The 'traditional' role for a wife was invented by women NOT men. No amount of men could force even one woman to adopt this role if they were so against it and it was oppressive. I have more respect for women than to say they can be forced to do anything. These women want to live like this.
No, it wasn't invented by women, it was invented by males.
These bitter old ladies who drove their husbands into another women's bed just don't want to see other women happy and successfully married... Its a glaring reminder of their failures..
Being a Traditional wife has been around always. But, we have always been kept hidden in the dark. Feminist have been screaming how we ruin what they stand for. I wanted to be a traditional wife because I saw how miserable my mother's life was. Raising me by herself. I never wanted that. I have been married to my husband for 10 years. I tried working ,but the workload was hard. I rather clean and cook for my husband.
If only a woman has the right to decide if the child lives or dies.
She is also obligated to raise it.
The happiest women in my family are the ones married and mainly stay at home.
The only problem is it's nearly impossible to provide for yourself + your partner with today's average wages, definitely impossible if you wants kids too
You really just have to make sacrifices and in some places, it's almost impossible. But most families decades didn't go on many vacations and barely ate out
Different perspective... i was self employed & bought a home, car, financially stable by myself. Got married, bought beautiful home & had everything we could want with our very successful business. We had 3 kids & i continued to work to ensure the best financial future for us & our kids, so we could retire early & give them the best start in life. We lost our business, house & absolutely everything. What i 10000% regret is not being home with my babies, which i wanted more than anything, for a financial dream that can never be relied upon anyway.
I'm currently a stay at home mom. Have been for 12 years. I work my butt off. Its exhausting. But I love being present for my children, I love being able to homeschool them instead of throwing them to the wolves to be brainwashed. I cannot fathom ever referring to these years as being "thrown down the toilet" no matter what happened to my marriage (its fine so far) I would never regret spending these years with my children.
Social media has ruined a lot of marriages. They start seeing stuff that has never crossed there mind or been a thing and now they aren’t happy all because they seen a post online.
This is so true. Every little comment or interaction that is mentioned, is then dissected by the general public with the intention of labelling the partner as an abusive, narcissistic POS. It's sickening. All these 20 second pop psychology reels don't help the situation either.
I work in consulting. A lot of my female colleagues decide at 40 to start thinking about babies. Then it’s shots and stress and exhaustion. Meanwhile all of mine are out of college. Lol
I think people are forgetting that youtubers and tiktokers do what they do to make money, that's it. They put on a show to make money. Do you know how many hours it takes to practice, set up, do makeup, edit, re-shoot and so on? They are not actually tradwives, cuz tradwives are typically busy raising kids, cooking, cleaning, making calendars and so on. For the same reason why there aren't any full-time working moms with youtube accounts. Cuz they are busy.
Lol "long thing in the middle" now I can't unsee it😂😂😂😂
They act as if you can go through life without having to risk or sacrifice anything, like somehow it’s a safer bet to be a lonely career woman over a mom, these newer generations don’t want to make the system better they want to tear it down out of spite