I just came back from France. I found the french people warm and amazing. Loved the no small talk, but there was a genuine warmth. We got into some sticky situations and people were so helpful and hospitable.
the shutters are also used to limit the temperature in the house, the sun's rays are prohibited from heating the windows and transforming the rooms into a greenhouse!!
The curtain thing, beyond enjoying sunlight, is related to the same reason french got garden fences where americans often don t, and for the relationship closeness thing, or even the "don t take a photo of my or my property" and so on .... We enjoy our "privacy" in such way. It feels subjectively comfortable. By night we expose our private space to the outer world. For the meals, the cheese is a way to close a meal hence it used to come later on. For the breakfast, you got it, people eating late at night can t be really hungry early morning, but i agree i ll rather go for a strong salty and protein based breakfast, carbs free or nearly, and a light dinner. As for the bakery habits, well lazyness ultimately reached us too, a full set of bread once a week to feed our freezer is way more convinient.
I would add à function to the list of benefits for volets: it keeps out the light coming from the streets. For optimal sleep, you should sleep in a place as dark as possible, without any artificial light disrupting you.
It is now normal in France that smokers should only smoke outside. Since 1991, it is forbidden to smoke indoors in public places, such as stations, cafes, restaurants, discotheques etc. And this habit has carried over into the houses. And it's perfectly normal for guests to go out into the garden to smoke, without being asked. Awareness of the impact of tobacco on health has taken place, and the number of smokers is decreasing very significantly and continuously, and smoking is no longer fashionable among young people.
1991 was only workspace, restaurant started to separate smoking/un smoking areas since then. It was forbidden to smoke in restaurants since smth like 2005.
Love how you keep it real, Diane! I don’t even adapt 100% to my native culture so it’s only normal to not do everything the French way as a foreigner. Keep up the fun videos!
I am Franco-American. My mother from FRANCE my father from Alabama USA. So I was born speaking French until I was 7. I lived between France & States since my father was in Air Force. I understand both American and French habits, characteristics, etc. I could fill a book on my 63 years of experiences and my parents’ experiences…I live both homes, foods, people, languages….. I’m not well right now just out if a 3 month stay at Hospital but maybe later I could ask questions. And elaborate. Merci/thanks
I don't live in France 😞 but when I'm there I LOVE the "no small talk" thing. As a shy introvert, just going to the grocery store in the US can be exhausting. I have French friends and of course we'll chat, but it's so nice to be out and about and not have to come up with things to say to total strangers all the time!
As a Australian/English person living in France for 8 years, I can relate to all this. Diane, I really liked how you said about trying to hard to embrace all things in the French way making you feel as if you are losing the "real" you. So I let myself be French where it's really expected of me , but at home I do me! 😉 One thing I have really embraced though is the main meal in the middle of the day, but it doesn't HAVE to be 3 courses, or be served at exactly 12 midday. 😂
Hi Helen, glad you understand where I'm coming from! I think it's only normal to do what we want in our own homes. And yes, love the big lunch, light dinner thing.
One thing on French bread I learned from a LA Boulanger is that the American flour has added protéines which make bread difficult to digest for French stomachs. This is why most French bakeries in the us import their Flour, often organic if available.
I never thought about that but it’s true that the American one is enriched while in France flour must not have anything else in it. I never had problem with the flour but the only American thing My body couldn’t tolerate is the fake Kraft parmesan. That shit is vile and stinky !!! It smells like old socks 🥲
When I’ve rented an appartement in France I have always closed and opened the “volets” and a few times it’s taken me forever to figure out how to do it. There are several different mechanisms. I always felt stupid after I figured it out.
I have lived in France 20 of the last 30 years, breakfast is an omelette or basic corn flakes, I have done the croissant thing for breakfast for much of that time, but only when I lived next door to a great bakery. It gets a bit expensive. I do open and close shutters, but usually in summer for solar control or if a storm is brewing, I have no neighbours to hide from. The french windows are electric. I do buy lots of fresh bread. Every market day or time I go to town. I drink mugs of filter coffee at home, a grand noir when out and about, a very rare noisette. I eat a lot of duck, goose, grilled duck organs, fois gras, goats cheese, salad du gesiers, tartiflette, but tripes or tete du veau type dishes never. I eat in proper french order, and at lunch time like a proper french person. I have never found the french cold or standoffish and small talk is easy, then I am fluent in French and a chatterbox. I disagree about no pressure to quit smoking in France, there is huge social pressure to quit, I think you have confused tolerance with acceptance. People smoke a heck of a lot less than they did in the 90s. You will always be a foreigner in France, they have zero expectations that you will fit in. Celebrate that difference.
I would change a bit your last sentence : in France you will always be able to be a foreigner and French at the same time. Because we all have weird habits from ou region that differs from the others. But if you got the citizenship, speaks welll the language and picked up some habits (like complaining or liking cheese XD) then your are part of the family :)
As someone moving to Lille, if someone feels they have to erase themself to move to any counrty....they should reevaluate their reasons for moving. Moving should be an embellishment of your life. ✌🙏
I do like to open the volets when it's cold. I like to know how does the weather feels like before getting dressed. It's also perfect for being well awake. I even let the window open for like 5 minutes so my room is well-ventilated.
Thank you for reminding me how French I still am after 60 years living in North America. My meals have retained the patterns I grew up with and even in restaurants I push the salad aside to be eaten after the main course, it usually means some explanation for the waitress. I gave up asking for the salad to be brought at the end of the meal because it was forgotten every time.
I too have been living in France over sixty years but my roots remain in the UK where I was born and brought up. I love France and find people can be kind so I understand kindness comes naturally where ever you are.. I love French food but I have so many English foods I was brought up on. My children laugh at my cupboards full of Heinz Baked Beans; HP Sauce. Sandwhich Spread Heinz, Salad Cream of course. ginger biscuits and I could go on and on. I'v'e always kept breakfast English style not too much but I don't like sweet and no protein to start the day. I also keep to English timing for my meals and have an early dinner and drink tea very often during the day.
I lived 30 years in the US and still maintain all my French way of living, no problem ! I still hate the small talk and usually try to do the minimum ! When in US you nearly know the people’s whole life in 5 minutes ! It’s funny ! In France it takes time to make friends. But I love this country so much too !
About smokers and As a Frenchman, I am also surprised to see that many young people smoke (they often stop when they become adults...): It should be noted that it is forbidden to smoke in restaurants, cafes, in shops, in offices and in all closed public places. it is only allowed outside. Contrary to what you say, People who smoke are not well accepted. You are right about young people.🙂
0:57 haha I am the same. I just can't do bread with jam and butter. I go for bread and butter with some cereal. I do like the shutter system as it massively helps when you have no A/C. I can drink straight coffee but I also prefer coffee with milk like in Spain. In the Southwest, people often eat at 7 or 730 pm and eat salad before the main meal.
Je pense que les habitudes alimentaires, qui nous viennent de notre enfance, sont le plus difficile, voire impossible à changer. Je ne me vois pas me passer de pain et ingurgiter une omelette le matin. Une omelette pour moi, ça se mange avec des champignons et une salade verte, avec un verre de vin rouge, une vraie vinaigrette (pas une bouteille remplie de conservateur, colorant, exhausteur de goût...), des noix, de l'ail. Et ça, le matin au réveil, je ne peux pas. Je comprends tout à fait que malgré votre parfaite adaptation à le France, vous continuiez à prendre un petit avec déjeuner comme vous le faisiez aux USA et que vous n'ayez pas renié tout votre passé. Pour le tabac, vous seriez venue il y a quarante ans, qu'auriez-vous dit !!!!!!!!!
You've got me drooling over the image of a lovely omelette with 🍄 and a 🥗 with a homemade vinaigrette... accompanied by a glass of 🍷. As for 🚬 , Diane didn't even live here before the interdiction of January 1, 2008! Indeed, what would she have said to that? 😧
@@christianc9894 I'm puzzled by your message. It seems that you didn't grasp my meaning above. I wrote, *"Indeed, what would she have said to that?"* which was *agreeing with you* that if she had experienced the smoking situation prior to January 1, 2008 -- not even having to go back 40 years -- her reaction would have been much worse! Of course, "qu'auriez-vous dit" = "what would you have said". Maybe my use of *indeed* caused you confusion?
I was going to say something similar about smoking in France! It was so much worse even 20 years ago and I have been amazed, actually, at how quickly the ban in restaurants took over here. It used to be nearly impossible to eat at a restaurant without the good flavors of the food getting overtaken by the smell of smoke.
When I lived there I never picked up the enthusiasm for weeks long group summer holidays, and spending all day together with friends. I like to vacation with friends, sometimes. And I love being included and invited. But I also like spending time alone or with my spouse. It seems like my French friends took it personally when I took off or wanted some vacation days alone. Maybe it was an introvert/extrovert thing? But it seemed more complicated than that, and one I never quite understood.
I'm English, lived in France for nearly 40 years. I agree with you for breakfast (and my french husband goes for a more savoury breakfast now). I love certain french specialities such as snails , oysters and stinky cheese. Got used to doing the shutters as it's good insulation for cold or very hot days. I will never give up my strong black tea with milk !
The volets definitely are not just a habit of the French - they serve a VERY important purpose. Depending on your « orientation » (directional facing), the volets are used at certain times of day to prevent the sun from heating up your home too much, especially if you don’t have air conditioning. When I HAD AC, I found that closing the volets in the heat of the day (I faced South/West), cut my electricity bill in 1/2 as I didn’t have to use the AC very much. So volets are not just decorative - or rarely decorative at all, rather they are very useful and energy saving.
Another interesting difference: here in Croatia (and most of Central Europe, I guess) we usually eat salad _with_ the main dish (unless it _is_ the main dish itself, an option becoming increasingly popular in recent years.) And we (still) don't normally view cheese as desert.
I grew up eating sweets for breakfast, coffee cakes, pastries, donuts, to this day I prefer a sweet breakfast. My “healthy version” is a yogurt bowl with granola and fruit. Bacon and eggs is better for an occasional dinner. My paternal grandfather was French Canadian and first generation American, maybe it was his influence?
I have spent a lot of time in France as my mother was born in France, and I would give anything for a sandwich jambon beurre on 🥖 or one with butter and jam. Yummmmmm.
Number 8 was very relatable, I'm a new Zealander living in France and when I was working at the American Embassy as a chef, I was asked to serve the counter since we were low on staff that day, all the Americans were lovely, when a french person came by she told me stop smiling and not to do small talk people don't like that attitude in France.
As a Canadian with a New Zealand parent (who has visited France) I have always been used to friendliness, warmth to stangers and small talk. Nothing wrong with that! That kind of reaction towards you goes beyond French customs imo. Some people are just not nice people.
Bro that lady was uptight. I think French people may be surprised but not in a bad ways. I certainly was when some American complimented my clothes randomly. And no French person working at an US embassy should be like that.
I was surprised on my last tour of France that eggs, potatoes, bacon and sausage were included on all the hotel breakfast buffets. When I first started taking French tours many years ago, the breakfast buffets were all "continental breakfast items" such as cereal, bread, jam, etc. Even the Air France lounge at CDG had a breakfast buffet with eggs and bacon!
There is even a BBQ restaurant in Paris now. DH was craving American food after 2 weeks in Paris so we went there. The place was packed and we were shocked to find that we were the only Americans there.
We were so excited on a recent trip to Paris to find a brasserie serving omelettes for breakfast! They had a their chalk sign advertising it, so they knew their target market lol
@@alyria76 Chère Madame , contrairement aux dirent des anglais et étatsuniens , la France est un pays développé 🤨nous n'avons rien à leurs envier . la seul chose qui me fais honte en tant que français et soi-disant plus belle ville du monde , c'est la saleté de la capitale de notre Pays : Paris . je vous souhaites une très belle journée
both Lidl & Aldi for the last few years sell British style rashers of streaky bacon and its pretty good too and reasonably priced. . So there must be a demand apart from little me sometimes as a nostalgic treat !
in french bars if you want a less stronger coffee ask them : "un allongé" or "un ralongé" depending on the regions , they will serve you an expresso with more water in a bigger cup
Interesting! Being British but wanting to live in France I have quickly grown to love the 'shutter dance'. My big concern is finding the standard of bakeries seems to have gone down. I spent 3 weeks in France during the summer including a week in Paris (admittedly August in the 11th) then 3 weeks over new Year into January - I have yet to eat a decent croissant compared to years ago. The texture and even the shape seems to have changed. Too many bakery chains all saying they are 'Artisanal' when they are most definitely not! Similarly with patisseries - not so good now.
I agree. From Montreal where we had an excellent bakery next door and cannot find even a baguette as good here. Been here in France for more than two years now and when I went back to Mtl, last summer, first thing I did was to go back to my bakery. I also recall a time where the bread was better in France from when I travelled one or two decades ago
Shutter dance is quite optionnal, last person to have done this in my family was my grandmother. For Bakery, you have to think as a French embiterred guy, hate modern design, you will see some French used to go there, even if you have the worst bakery beside of the best. btw it is not so rare to see a bakery affilied with school, and that's always nice spot
@@veroniquelauzon2801 Entièrement d’accord avec vous en ce qui concerne les croissants, ils n’ont plus ni le goût ni la consistance qu’ils avaient autrefois. Ils sont trop secs, et pas assez gras, et ressemblent plus à de la brioche qu’à des croissants. Impossible de retrouver le goût de mon enfance.
You know there's a lot of bakery in France without trying out, the standard is not what it was decades ago. It's okay by me, as if you really like "le bon pain" you do your work and then you are good for some time. Those establishment never close really they are transmitted to new generation and the way of thing changes generally never. But about the "Artisanal" that's a word not protected correctly people do stuff with it i despise. But you never can't go wrong with a "Meilleur ouvrier de France" next time guys seek those bakery when you visit our country that's a guarantee of sucess and knowledge.
I am so happy to hear that you are able to maintain your unique American personality traits while adapting to French culture. I have traveled to France many times and love so much about the culture, but then got to know a couple (ironically, she is an American) who were judgemental and downright mean. Sadly, it started to turn me off to France. But I have ditched the "frenemies" and have other friends (including a former exchange student from 12 years ago) and we are respectful and tolerant of one another's differences, seeing them as cultural and not an affront or something that needs to be "judged and then corrected." We get so much pleasure and joy from each other, we learn from each other and our lives are enriched through the experience. I have learned to be quieter in general, I have learned to always say Bonjour and I eat much later when in France ;)
You know here we have a lot of culture, african for the most part and asian too. That's why people are quite tolerant in general. They are bad people everywhere... But for the language that's for sure something we can't....deny there is a problem. Most time people try to be "good" to help you learn but that's a reflex lool. I do too and with french people too. I'm sorry if that can be hurtful that's not our intent.
Something I find very different from Uk is that the French tend to finish one type of food on the plate before starting on another. Even kids do this, like they’ll eat the chips (fries) before starting on the meat. In Uk we tend to take a bit of everything at the same time
I moved to France a little over a year ago and I still do things my way (I did that in Germany, why should I stop it here?). Maybe in Paris people are a little more strict about their habits and adhering to their standards. Here in the south I feel that people are relaxed and take me as what I am. A lover of french food and culture, but also a German who lived her way in Germany for 60 years and won't change all her habits. Most of them ask for the reasons when I do something differently and find it interesting when I talk about what I love here and happily get used to and what other things I prefer to leave the way they are in our house. Oh, by the way, we never smoked and no one smokes in my house, but I always have an ashtray on my terrace for my guests. One thing I love is the fact that the word "Liberté" comes first in the french motto.
I had a bad experience with cigarettes when I went to my german Austauschpartner’s house. They smoked a lot and inside the house! I’d say smoking in France is very common but it’s practically outside only since the 2000s. I’d never thought that I’d be shocked by cigarettes as a Frenchie lol.
As a French person, I tend to have salad as an appetizer, before the main dish. My French grandmother taught us this as a great way to fill us up and eat less afterwards 😂
When I taught English in France, my students asked me what I ate for breakfast, and they thought it was SUPER weird that I liked eggs or putting avocado on a piece of baguette for breakfast. With a couple exceptions (occasional waffles or peanut butter and jelly whole wheat pita pockets), I prefer a savory breakfast. That said, I miss the baguettes. I ate three baguettes a week by myself (some for breakfast and some with the curry or stew I would batch cook)
Yes! Savoury all the way for me for breakfast. Eggs, avocado & sometimes keto bread with coffee is what I have most mornings. But, in France having the multicourse midday bigger meal I loved. It was great to have the choices of 3 courses set menu when I was there. ❤👍🇫🇷 ❤ P.S. It's great you were able to live & work there!!!
Of course it's weird to eat eggs + bacon + toast + everything else for breakfast. I can't start the day with a full stomach, I feel bad. I used to have two pieces of toast + a coffee in the morning, today I cut back on the butter to just have a croissant (sometimes two) and that's more than enough. I feel much lighter. (I'm Canadian)
@@catholiccowboy8545 For me, and for most Americans I believe, the large bacon/eggs/toast breakfast is usually reserved for weekends and is more of a brunch. For everyday, most people will just have cereal (hot or cold), toast, or a muffin or something similar like a toaster waffle that's quick and easy to digest. People who eat eggs daily for breakfast will usually just have one or two with a piece of toast perhaps, not a big meal. I made a big "breakfast" today of eggs, bacon, home-fried potatoes and tea at noon. That was it for the entire day until dinner in the evening. On weekdays, it's toast with butter, jam, or peanut butter and tea (I hate coffee). Or a muffin if I have any. Of course, I'm a suburban office worker. If I were a farmer or bricklayer or did some other strenuous physical labor, that big, heavy breakfast might be more necessary as fuel.
Bonjour Diane, ah ah, too funny!! I am french, I have been living in america for almost 24 years and it is hard to change your habits, it's the same for me. I don't like savory breakfast, I like sweet french simple one and for that reason I don't enjoy going out for American breakfast. I love shutters for privacy, to sleep in the dark or to keep the house cool in the summer. I ❤️ ❤️ a daily fresh baguette, ❤️ french specialty food, french meals with a correct dish order and I ❤️❤️ espresso!! I can't eat at 5:30 pm, way too early, I prefer 7 or 8pm. Agree, french smoke too much. I like American small talks, it's friendly, some french people would think you are crazy, too curious or low class if you "small talk"😄. Nice video, merci.
I install exterior shutters or exterior shade blinds every where I live in the US. US people usually find it weird. But they curtail solar gain in the hot months and keep interiors so much cooler. They're frankly brilliant and so much nicer than air conditioning. I wish more people worldwide understood.
I’m French and never lived anywhere else but I agree with pretty much everything you said, except for the sweet breakfast. I eat both sweet or savory breakfast depending on the day, usually I go for a sweet breakfast on the weekends when I don’t have to go through classes all morning, but I enjoy both.
One time I was reading a London newspaper article about the most popular things in the UK, and it made an interesting checklist to see how many things were true. Everything from the most common brand of sports shoes to pop culture to restaurants and foods, to social norms, you could see how far up the scale of national habits you were. If you could find out this info for France, you could rate yourself (and your French family) as to how French you are. So, check levels for smoking, divorce, education, foods, wealth, car ownership, religion, media consumption, housing, kids, etc. and see if you're just like everybody else or not.
Oups ! bien sur , vous êtes britannique je suppose et tout est merveilleux sur cette île par ailleurs très belle , mais habiter par des homos- sapiens bizarres 🤔et indécis . quand aux tabloïds anglais ils vantent leurs gloires passés la guerre de cents ans qu'ils ont perdu , Wateloo ou il étaient battues par les troupes napoléoniennes , et la victoire de Waterloo reviennent en réalité aux armées de la coalition Prussiennes Autrichienne et Russes commander par le Maréchal Blücher . Wellington s'approprie une victoire qu'il n'a jamais gagner . Blücher proposait : la Victoire de l'entente . refus de Wellington ? et la plus grande débandade anglaise : Dunkerque ; le pire est que les anglais ont fait croire au monde entier que les soldats français étaient des lâches ce qui a justifier la fuite des anglais comme ils en ont l'habitude ils se donnent un passer glorieux qu'ils n'ont jamais eu .par contre les tabloïds anglais , ne parlent jamais D'Isandhlwana contre les Zoulous ; contre les Moa-Moa au Kenya, et contre l'inde , aucunes place ou rues de Londres ne portent c'est noms . Questions : De la marque de chaussures de sport la plus courante à la culture pop en passant par les restaurants et les aliments, en passant par les normes sociales, vous pouviez voir à quel point vous étiez dans l'échelle des habitudes nationales. la restauration anglais n'est pas fameuse , la culture pop ? Bof !!! les norme sociales alors là il y a beaucoup a dire . le divorce ? il n'y a pas plus de divorces en France qu'en chez les anglais , l'éducation est la mêmes encore que ??? alimentation zéro pour les anglais , question religieux les français s'en fichent complètement , les médias sont comme les tabloïds anglais la plus par du temps ils racontent des conneries et question vacherie entre français et anglais nous sommes égaux🤔😡😠😈
@@Fkrksw Oui ! a Kidlington une petite ville au nord d'oxford. ma voiture de marque française immatriculée en France a été rayé, côté gauche du véhicule : dirty french shit du coté !!! coté droit : the French are all assholes , sur le capot avant : you are big shit , le pare-brise fêlé et les deux roues avant percées !!! totalité des frais de réparations 4670 euros dont 1970 euros payés par l'assurance et 2700 de franchises . il y avait bien les haines des anglais envers tous les français qui étaient écrits sûr ma voiture et en même tant j'ai dû payer cette haine en faisant les réparations . quand nous avons embarqués sûr le Ferry à Portsmouth pour Saint Malo les marins français faisaient la grimace , surtout qu'il y avait un autobus français avec des collégiens ou était peint : frog eaters et dirty pigs , Bon c'était peu avant le : Brexit mais quand mêmes . quand les anglais font des conneries ils s'en prennent aux français . une consolation pour nous français est le fait que nous avons fichu plusieurs pâtés aux anglais
The same thing with coffee happens in Italy. If you ask for a cafe, you get a double shot espresso. If you want something bigger, ask for an americano, a drink invented for American tourists who where use to have giant cups of coffee.
In France you tend not to get americanos unless in tourist places. I have always asked for café allongé. You get a bigger cup with milk. My husband is extremely fussy about coffee so I have the embarrassment of asking for café allongé but with the milk in a jug. We get variations of this with hot milk, a lot of milk, etc. I just do simple allongé or even an espresso. My lunch in France usually consists of some baguette, Camembert and tomatoes. Delicious. I sometimes eat out but I’m content with just that usually. I’m getting the need for getting back to France again soon. Now that January is out of the way I feel like I’m coming alive again so I want to be back to where I feel comfortable and better mentally.
The urban myth says that it was the GIs during WWII adding hot water to their coffee because they find it too strong. Who knows where the truth lies. Thing is in France we call it Café allongé, not Americain or Americano. Except in Starbucks or tourists places waiters won't usually know what you're asking for. Many french people drink Café allongé, it's not an "american thing only" anymore.
I’ve asked for Americano in France (and the UK) and it ends up watery. I think I might try ‘un cafe alonge’ that someone said in the comments. Or just endure the espressos. Thx for your thoughts. 🇦🇺🇫🇷
Funny thing: my father was born in Paris and lived there for the first 12 years of his life. WW II was just starting when his parents - who were American - took him to the US in 1939. He enlisted in the service in 1944, so whatever sunset habits he had from France were reinforced by military blackout regulations in wartime. For my entire childhood we had to “make sunset:” close all curtains and blinds.
I'm French and lived in the UK from the age of 19 til 46. I can relate to everything you say: I can't be bothered with the shutters ( even though I was more or less in charge of them as a kid), order of food, having bred every day etc... The only thing I've never got used to from foreigners about French culture: eating saucisson with Mayo or eating foie gras as a standard pâté. Sacrilege!! And I still love the fact that French people take forever to say goodbye and leave someone house after a dinner together! ( I'm sure you still hate that one!).
@@lynnferry291 that’s when you clap your hands and rub them together while saying « well it’s starting to get late haha ». Then proceed to chat at the entrance for another 30 min
@@eyrthren Exactly! I’ve never understood why French people do that. Why not just stay seated until you REALLY want to go? What’s the point of getting up to go and then standing around the door for another 30-45 minutes chitchatting?
@@lynnferry291 The trick is : you have to go because you need to get home and prepare for tomorrow and such. But you don't really want to. Hence the stick around XD
Thank you for starting with the breakfast. I refused the last two times I spent time in France, and because I saved some protein from supper to start the day, I had smoother energy than my fellow teachers who ran to the vending machine by 10am because they were so depleted. The sugar caffeine breakfast (breaking of the fast, de jeuner)...causes sugar spikes and crashes...during a crash a person sometimes uses anger for energy so I asked an MD I met in Angers and he backed me up and told his friend there that all he is doing is carbs and caffeine with no solid food...I wish the French would adopt a Turk breakfast with eggs etc. That said, prayers for the people affected by that earthquake yesterday.
I was in a French high school in 71 for a few months. They always had smoking breaks out on the balcony. In school. They also ALL changed clothes in one locker room for Phy Ed. Yup. Later in 2000 I saw teens smoking marl boros outside. I told them, don't you know you are the target market because in the states they are being sued for marketing to teens. Tout a fait.
Hi Diane. I lived in France for 17 years and had a lot of habits which made me uniquely me and hadn't thought much about it. I'll admit that I miss France and the way of life compared to here in Arizona. Oh well, life goes on. I enjoy your videos.....well done!
In my 20 years in France my appetite has not changed for timing. I can eat dinner as early as 6pm when hungry, though 7-8pm is norm. By 9pm I am finished eating. I have been to friends homes where they start late and stretch courses to past midnight. I have a sandwich or snack before leaving home and refuse any food offered past 9pm ish.
@@armitagehux8190 Moi par contre je suis à l’heure espagnole, même en France ! Aussi ça m’embête beaucoup quand je suis invitée pour un café à 14 heures !
Thanks for the advice and general tips (which aren't rules, they've just observations). We all have regional and cultural habits whether it's coffee or how we eat. I don't care for some blends/roasts of coffee even when drip (or pod). We have styles of dining within the US. If one would use a knife and fork to eat fried chicken at my grandmother's table, she would have been appalled. It's only natural to have cultural differences between countries when we have vastly different ways within one country. As you said, flexibility and tolerance is the key - within reason. No one smokes in my house even if I was living in France. BTW, I was raised on a tobacco farm in rural southside VA. Even my parents thought smoking was a nasty habit.
I've adapted to the shutter dance and enjoy the blast of morning cold. Due to digestive issues I can't eat after 6 pm so when we moved here we brought the main meal to 2pm with a light teatime snack at 6. And we eat out at lunch rather than evening time. Also good fat oats are really hard to find, I agree. Esp out in the rural shops.
A Napolionic law, shutters must be folded back so as not to interfere with his marching soldiers. A large percentage of the cafe/resteraunt meals in paris are factory produced, you can tell in house cooked meals by eating at those displaying a saucepan with a roof on under a new ish law.
Hi Diane, I agree with you we can not denied our own identity it’s also good to embrace a new culture and learn from different ways of living. I like the good manners but the warm of small talk not talking too far. I moved to the US many years ago and I have learn and implement into my live a lot of good trades of the American culture. In some occasions the informality can border into the impolite.
Hi Diane, FUN video!! You truly always do such a nice job with your videos! I will be traveling to France this summer and plan on getting your 75 tips, soon! Take care!
Even if you personally start the day with savory rather than sweet It is a very AMERICAN thing to start the day with coffee and donuts..lots of my friends do...
americano would be called "café allongé" if you want to order one at a french café. a latte would be "café au lait" the expressos would come in many forms: expresso, ristretto (stronger), noisette (with milk), crème (with cream), machiato... but as much as we love them, expresso is better in italy imo :p
You're Amazing ! I like how neutral and positive you are talking about this topic...And don't worry, if you live in France you are definetly French like everyone of us, even if you don't have to conform to some "cultural norms". I think we can all do things the way we like !
Hi Diane ! I am french and... 1 - In the morning at home for breakfast, i normaly eat biscottes with butter (sometimes with cheese too - i looooove cheese) and a big glass of orange juice. Never pain au chocolat or croissant. I don't know many people who eat viennoiseries for breakfast everyday. It's more for the weekends or in hotels. And i love a good omelette for breakfast but more for holidays, at 10-11 pm and i don't eat after. 2- Les volets... I hate to shut them all, i am lazy. But i shut the big one in my leaving room for privacy (and i don't have to open the window) and in my bedroom too because i can't sleep if it's not dark. But the others... But i live in an appartment and not on the first floor. If that was the case, maybe i would shut them all for privacy and security. Also when it's very hot outside, i shut them all. 3- I don't buy baguette/bread everyday. A lot of french do, it's true (not necessarily baguette). But i have bread in my freezer (when i want a real toast and not some biscotte for breakfast) and sometimes i buy a baguette, one or two per month like you. My parents always have fresh bread in their home. And i hate pain de mie (lot of sugar). 4- I prefer expresso ;) and without sugar. For italians, our expresso is an americano. 5- I am vegetarian so huitres, boudin noir or tripes are not for me. And i don't care for the order in a meal. When i eat alone or with my parents, i eat salad or cheese with le plat principal. ;) But i eat later than you (i live in the south west of France, near spain, where we eat a little later than in the north i think). 6- Maybe because i live in the south west... i think we do small talk here. Maybe less than in the US. 7- Well, i am part of the 20.8% smokers (electronic but smoker nevertheless). I think it's not as socially accepted that it was several years back but people are more tolerant about it than in the US. We are not as tolerant as your are with what we call "mal-bouffe" (a real threat for the health too) but i understant your shock with the teenagers. 8- Sorry for my pretty bad english
OMG, Diane -- I'm totally with you on no. 2 as well -- *I do not care about the shutters!* My American husband and I never touch our shutters here in Paris, except in the summer, to keep the apartment from turning into in a steaming hot cauldron.
Although I’ve unfortunately never lived in France, my mother who was French did things in our American upbringing that were French habits. We only had decorative shutters on our ranch house but my mom was always making sure the draperies were closed at night and opened first thing in the morning. We also learned to dunk. Meaning dunking anything like toast or a pastry in our coffee. I started drinking coffee at 4 years old and my usual breakfast before school was coffee with milk and sugar and 2 pieces of toast with butter and jelly. One time a few years ago, I was dunking something in my coffee at work in the break room and a fellow nurse was completely dumbfounded by what I was doing. I told her and when she heard I learned it from my French mother she thought it was sweet and a bit endearing but still curious.
No. 4 (filtered drip coffee -- with no. 4 filters!) is all my husband wants. One of the first phrases he learned in French was *"un café allongé, s'il vous plaît".* (My first [late] husband was Irish, and I picked up the tea-drinking habit from him. Tea is *definitely* not a French thing, although tisanes are.) No. 5 -- also *No* on the blood saussage and tripes! And *No* on snails and frog's legs as well. On the other hand, oysters are not only a French thing; I learned to eat them in Charleston, South Carolina. (I understand it's an acquired taste, but one I enjoy, particularly at this time of year.) Funnily enough, my husband and I *have* become French in that we now normally eat our salads after the main dish. (And we're both night owls, so late dinners work for us.) But we do plenty of things meal-wise that the French don't do, such as eating corn on the cob and chicken drumsticks with our hands. (The horror! ;-) And sometimes when my husband goes to a café in the late afternoon and orders a coffee along his meal (he wants it before the food arrives) he won't get it, because they cannot imagine that anyone would drink coffee until *after* the dessert! No. 6. Politesse -- LIke you, I'm also at around 90% - 95% ... I sometimes still have to remind myself to say "Bonjour" and "s'il vous plaît"; it's definitely a learned habit. (But I like it.). No. 7 Smoking. One of the happiest days of my life was January 1, 2008, when it became illegal to smoke inside restaurants and cafés in France. (Although the restaurant where we rang in the New Year's definitely didn't stop people from lighting up when the clock chimed 12! ;-) GREAT VIDEO!
I disagree with with you about tea in France. In fact the selection in the supermarkets exceeds the British. Like Whisky the French are often connoisseurs of tea and consume, I believe, nearly as much as the British now. You are right, however, about Tissanes. I must admit before arriving here I was rather ignorant of them as most British are. The difference between the regular everyday tea sold in France is in the blending. It is blended for the taste & market here. That's why I try and have a decent reserve of Typhoo or Tetleys from the old country
@@gordonspicer Well, have you ever ordered tea at à restaurant or café in France ? They bring you a cup of hot (no longer boiling) water with the teabag in its wrapper on the side. I'm always furiously tearing open the wrapper to plunk the teabag into the cup before the water becomes useless. That would *never* happen in the UK or Ireland! Moreover, on several occasions I've never been able to order tea at all, because they only have Earl Gray available. Earl Gray is adulterated with bergamote; it's not pure Black tea. Finally, I don't know know how many French friends you've made yet, but if you’re invited to their homes, the same situation will likely obtain: No Black tea, or only Earl Gray. If they should have black tea, I'll normally be the only person drinking it. P.S. Of course there's Mariage Frères, but one cannot go there every day (And while their teas are splendid, their idea of a scone is risible!)
@@gordonspicer I just checked, and whoever gave you that statistic was *way off* : France is far, far, down the list on per capita consumption of tea. The UK is #3, Irlande is #2, and France is ... 39th in the world. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_tea_consumption_per_capita
@@LauraMorland Have you not noticed the speciality shops selling teas and accessories in most major cities (and sometimes in the richer towns) in France? I find their selection & expertise very impressive. For your tea shop experience of being served tea I cannot comment, but it does not sound to good. I was obviously wrong about the tea consumption, but I repeat the supermarket shopping aisles are packed with all sorts of teas
@@gordonspicer I agree that the people who like teas in France have a choice. (And that Mariage Freres is a tea shop that would rival the best in any tea-drinking country.) I don't know how many French friends you have, but I've lived in France for 23 years, and since I've managed to speak the language fluently (albeit not perfectly), I have a ton of French friends, and not one of them drinks tea, nor do any of their friends when I'm invited for a meal. Next time I go to Monoprix I'll look at the "tea shelves." I could be wrong, but I would guess that a lot of what's on those shelves are actually tisanes. The French *are* very big on tisanes. Gordon Spicer, I love your name, by the way; it sounds so delightfully English! (My ancestors are English, going back 400 years -- thus my surname -- but an English friend complained to me some years ago that my first name is *not* English, and so he had a hard time remembering it.)
Sweet breakfast : sugar brings quick energy. It's a good way to get a start, however it's not all of France that'll go for it. Shutters : in the US, you leave the AC on all year long - disregard for energy waste is a cultural thing. Baguette : that's mainly a thing in Paris. Other places in France, you buy a "pain" or a "boule" (regionalized names may apply) because it doesn't dry out as fast - especially when you don't make tartines for breakfast. Also, French bread is tough : most foreigners have trouble with the crust. Specialty food : you eat them for big events or at a restaurant - you'll be hard pressed to find someone eating tripes or boudin noir every day, because they're either a pain to cook or far too rich for frequent consumption - or both. Service order : there's a logic behind it, but salad can be had at the beginning of the meal, during the main course or after. Cheese is a different matter : you will take a piece of it after the main course only if you still are a bit peckish. As for dessert, well, not only is it nice, but it's also the occasion to push out the main dish's taste and smell - or the cheese's. Dinner time : the main reason is that we have 4 meals in France : breakfast (petit déjeuner) - when waking up, lunch (déjeuner) around noon, "tea time" (goûter) around 4-5pm, and then dinner (dîner or souper) around 7:30; there's a 3 hours lag in average between them and the last one is supposed to be rather light - it's there to prevent you feeling hungry at night. Politeness : when in Rome... Smoking : was a French thing for a long time, where people would have a smoke that would take several minutes to consume itself and wouldn't go past a couple a day (because they were very strong), but it got addictive after WW2 when... US blonde tobacco forced its way heavily onto French soil. So, yeah - thanks for that :(
I don't know if someone talk about this in the comments, but in France, shutters are mandatory in a construction (or else, you need a iron grid in front of the window, which is common for the bathrooms' windows). If you leave your house for more than 24h, with the shutters opened, and you are robbed, you will not be covered by your insurance
I never understood how people can eat a main meal so late in the day. Maybe I am getting old, but that messes my stomach up to eat so close to bed time. I wake up with heartburn and just feel gross. We follow the old school method of having the largest main meal in the middle of the day. The whole smoking thing is crazy to me. I grew up with parents that smoked and it gave my mom lung cancer and she died at 62. It they created something now that had the same negative side affects that cigarettes have, people would flip their lids. There is no way that it would be accepted now, so I don't know how there can be anyone that still smokes knowing what we know about it now.
I agree. I don't enjoy anything sweet in the morning. I do however buy a baguette almost every day. We don't usually eat bread with a meal but it makes for an easy snack during the day. I am pretty easy going when it comes to coffee. When I am in Canada I usually drink drip coffee but when I am at our place in France I use a french press or I will get "un cafe" if I am at a cafe somewhere. I feel the same about the shutters. I love our shutters because they make the house look so pretty! Classic white made of wood. I even put some decorative black hardware on so you can see it while they are open. We however do not shut them. I think the neighbours must talk about us as we are the only ones who don't shut them. At night our indoor lights light up the town. 😛
I'm French and when I was a student, I went to the US with my school for one month. This is when I completely lost the habit of closing the "volets", to the point I can't sleep if they're closed 😅 I also agree with you about breakfast, I like having eggs or bacon (or both), even if I barely take the time to do it. As for the coffee... well, let's agree to disagree, I like it the way Italians do: even stronger and shorter than in France 😂
I'm French but I hate oysters, boudin (bloos sausage) and tripes. But I do enjoy my piece of baguette at almost every meal 😉. Like most of my compatriots I'm addicted to the sweet breakfast with "real" coffee, nevertheless one of my highlights when visiting the U.S was having a couple of brunches with the hash brown potatoes, bacon, eggs, pancakes (loved it)... then skipped lunch. But it was really weird for me to adapt to the late afternoon dinner time; at 5 or 6 PM I'm definitely not hungry yet (regular dinner time at home is around 7:30 PM). And, as a strict non-smoker the thing I probably hate most about my fellow French people is the smoking culture; at home it's definitely non-smoking, and the occasional smokers that may come visit me know it, if they do want to smoke it's in the garden or in the street, regardless of the weather. As far as coffees goes, well... I'm French...
Nice having you back Diane, I always enjoy your content so much. Bisous from Paris :) I'm French and I lived in the US for 9 years 20 years ago, but I never though I "had'" to adapt to the American way of life, I just picked up the parts that I liked :) PS - Love your glasses too, très chic
This is so refreshing. Your honesty is like a breath of fresh air, especially considering the culture you live in. Kudos to North Anerican (brutal?) authenticity.
As an American who lived south of Bordeaux for 3 years, and a French major, most of the things you mention rang true. We loved the continental breakfasts but would buy pain de seigle at local bakeries, never baguettes. We closed the volets every evening. We love oysters, boudin but not tripes . Love foie gras. Do not smoke and find it annoying. Are ok with the order of courses in France, the long and copious lunches, and the courtesies of everyday greetings. I love coffee and made American coffee at home, but liked the short expresso after a nice lunch. The thing I struggled with is invitations to dinner at nine pm or later. I'm not hungry then, but I am sleepy being a very early morning person. After a few of these miserable experiences, we simply asked our friends to lunch or an apero dinatoire, earlier.
Up here in Belgium, if we have shutters, it's purely decorative and blinds and curtains do the job, I would consider using them if I'm feeling particularly fancy or if it's not dark enough in a room (if I have a lamp right in front of my bedroom or during a heat wave)
Diane, enjoyed this content! I had taken a photo of our recent charcuterie board, but can't seem to see how to attach it! ha. Brie, baguette and saucisse..yum. We were aghast when you said you don't eat baguettes every day!!! But agree there are other French breads that are also very good. Keep up the great work!
LOL I'm thinking of retiring to the south of France, so I'm watching you for info. 1. i already eat this breakfast 2. I like shutters. 3.I like bread and the thought of fresh french bread is mouthwatering. 4. Don't drink coffee. 5. I agree on simple food. 6. Same on the order of food. 7. manhattanite here, no small talk. 8. no smoking I don't like the dogs in restaurants thing or their poop all over but I'm not sure what else yet ;-D
Thank you for watching! Also, I must say that people pick up after their dogs a lot more now than when I first came to France. Definitely a good thing!
I love dogs so the only problem I have with them in restaurants is that they distract me. It’s hard not to get down on my knees and crawl under tables to pet them. I I absolutely hate the North American tendency to keep dogs out of everywhere. I think it goes back to the days when most people lived on a farm and had good reasons not to have them in the house. But we’re now mainly urban dwellers with pampered pets.
In switzerland it was the same eith the shutters. What i learned there was you dont shut the windows ever in winter. Because yi slept on a down mattess with a down duvet. Man in the morning you wake in wet bed clothes in the morning you put the comforter out the window on the sill to air it
That was very interesting to watch and to compare with my own habits after some years living in France. 1. Breakfast. Not a French one for me, as I usually have something like eggs or a sandwitch with ham first and a pastry or a yougurt afterwards. 2. Shutters. Yeah, that's something I'm still not used to even after 20 years in France. In fact I like to wake up and see the sunlight rather than to feel like I'm in a coffin. And even if I acidentally wake up during the night I prefer to see the Moon and stars in my window. So usually I don't close shutters, only if it's very hot outside during the daytime or when it's really windy. 3. Baguettes. We don't eat much bread for last years, so we buy bread just a couple of times per week. But I enjoy a good baguette from the boulangerie (especially une baguette tradition) and I hate those defrozen ones from the supermarket. 4. Coffee. I prefer a strong coffee. So I pour even less water than they have in a usual French espresso. I'm leaning more to the Italian way to do it. If I want a realtively big cup of coffee, I would rather make 3-4 of my "normal" portions in one mug. And no sugar in my coffee, no way! Maybe a drop of milk sometimes. 5. Order and time of meals. I'm not French at all here (except for cheese, maybe). I can (and I do) eat a salad together with a main course, the same goes for a dessert and a coffee - I prefer them together. And as for the time of meal, we had to adapt to local customs (because of restaurants, but as well because after work I'm at home later than at 7pm in most cases). But still from time to time I prefer to have a late lunch or an early dinner if I can. 6. Social politeness. I may be even worse than French in this area. :) Yes, I say "Bonjour", "Merci", "S'il vous plâit", etc. But I don't like small talks at all. Even with someone I know already, not only with stragners. 7. Smoking. I don't care much about it. For me it's a personal choice of everyone. And I think it is an educational problem. Parents and teachers have to explain it better to kids. I try to do the best for my children. The same goes for drinking alcohol.
I had to laugh, Diane. I love your terms...the dance of the volets...so true. When I am in France, I get a phone call around 10am from my family asking if I bought my bread. Every Day!!!! Oh, le boudin noir....my love...childhood memories as well. I hate eating at 9pm too. The cigarette packs have death warnings all over them and they are very skinny cigarettes now but still people smoke. I've become so American. You've nailed it all.
Diane, I'm 3 for 3 with you now. 22+ years in France, and I still only buy baguettes when we're having people over for dinner! Otherwise, those *boules de pain de campagne* do it for me, and (unlike baguettes, which could be used as a weapon after 2 or 3 days) they last a while. (Actually, we are big fans of Bjorg's galettes de maïs - they're less fattening; and don't go stale if kept protected.)
There's also a special seeded bread I can only find at the Super U by my in-law's house. Strangely amazing for a supermarket bakery department. But yup, boules are the way to go in my house atleast 80% of the time.
My favorite all time breakfast experience was at the Ritz Paris. It was a Sunday morning and I walked over from Hotel de la Place du Louvre. I ordered champagne and they brought a bread basket with the perfect croissant and an assortment of breads with a pot of French butter. I savored scrambled eggs with spinach. It was heaven!
Thanks, Diane. Always interesting to hear about your experiences in France. I agree; we will always retain something of that US upbringing. And why not?
Absolutely. Being in Germany made me realize how American I am. I appreciate the honesty. It seems like making the best of both cultures is the way to go.
I was sad to see so many young people smoking in France. I smoked for many years and quit cold turkey. I know France is trying to work toward no smoking. I hope they are successful at some point. I love espresso but don't want it all the time so I will admit, with no shame, that my friend and I would pop into Starbucks in the afternoon to have a latte. Our family has never eaten bread with every meal and for those who haven't been, not every baguette in France is created equal. They are not all fabulous.
So spot on about the shutters. My French partner insists on closing them every night. I think its partly a security thing for her. But I would prefer to wake up to the sun in the morning. Also not a big bread person, although I do enjoy a crusty bagette.
Wow! You just explained why my French relatives in Toulouse hate me😂 So I picked a grape off a cluster of grapes and my French cousin went ballistic on me! Evidently, unbeknownst to me, there is a correct systematic way to eat grapes off the cluster. Seriously? Are you kidding me!
It's a case of leaving the food 'intact' for the next person, just like cutting a slice off cheese to leave it's original shape. I learned many French habits by just watching.
As a French person, I wouldn't say that a French breakfast should be overly sweet, and for most people it is not. It should have a certain amount of fat (normally butter), and a small amount of sweet is optional. That's why a plain/butter croissant is perfectly suitable for breakfast (it is considered pastry FOR breakfast), but an almond croissant is not (it would be for a sweet snack, or for children after school for example). Same with any sweet pastry, even pain au chocolat wouldn't be normal for breakfast. Most people on a day to day basis will have bread with butter, some will add jam on top (but the butter is there for most people). Now some people have a sweet tooth for sure, but I'm talking about what a typical breakfast is in most families.
I'm stopping to comment at no. 1, because just two days ago I was eating breakfast here in Paris with four other French people, and I was spreading some of the previous night's Camembert on my bout de baguette, I remarked, *"Vous savez, aux Etats-Unis on ne mange pas des choses sucrés pour le petit déj. Nous avons hérité la tradition anglaise (et irlandaise), d'un petit déj salé, plein de protein."* Like you, breakfast is my favorite meal of the day. Give me an omelette or give me death! 😆
My mother used to always tell me, close the shutters when It's getting cold (for example when It's getting closer to nigh time) so that it doesn't get colder in the house, and in morning open them so that the light comes in and so you don't use light, that's the main reason why I do so. I don't have automatic shutters so yes It's annoying but I also feel like It's kinda more stylish so I prefer those.
Like you, I have always picked & chosen. I am an individual, not an entire culture ; - > I love coffee. I like the variety of ways I can have my coffee if I am doing American style & French style--& don't forget the Italians. I remember stopping at a rest stop on the autoroute & ordering a sandwich of ham & cheese.The lady who took my order looked at me & exclaimed 'du jambon et quelque fromage--tous les deus--ensemble? ce n'est pas normal! I didnt say anything but I thought "It's perfectly normal in the US. then I thought "well what is a croque Monsieur?"" I find most of the differences interesting & sometimes amusing.
As an American having lived in France for the past 7 years I would say I pretty much agree with all 7 of your points! As much as I love my life here, I would be beyond thrilled to be able to go out for a proper American breakfast! Also kids smoking is just tragic. It’s the same in Spain…great job on the video!
If you're ever in Paris, Breakfast in America would be right up your alley. It's a diner-style place that features a lot of American breakfast items. Super popular with the French too, always a line out the door. And the owner's book is fab too! I reviewed it on my blog: www.ouiinfrance.com/book-review-pancakes-paris-craig-carlson/ Thank you for watching!
I find it interesting that some (NOT all) French people engage in fat-shaming because obesity is a cost-issue in a socialized medical system; yet smoking is more accepted?
Vive les volets ! Français habitant au Québec, j'aimerais pouvoir avoir des volets à fermer les nuits d'hiver pour garder un peu de la chaleur de l'appartement.
I picked up the baguette and croissant habit whenever we are in France. While I can find the occasional French equivalent croissant in NA, I have yet to find totally equivalent baguette. I have even attempted to make my own but not even close.
I am French and smoker. Culturally, in France it's not well seen to smoke, but if you want to start a conversation with a foreigner it's much easier. For example you can ask if he has a lighter etc... and the conversation can start or not... it can be an accelerator, to create a relationship and especially at work at work with a coffee. Je ne dit pas que fumer est une bonne chause, mes la culture en france est faite comme ça. if you are looking for contact with a French person, it will be easier if you smoke, although smoking is becoming less and less.
Hello, and thank you for another excellent video. It's great to hear you talk about the things that you experience and choices that you make that resonate for me. I want to fit in and 'become French', but I'll probably always be l'excentrique Britannique - hopefully a likeable and respectful one, though. By the way, your book about blogging is really good!
It would be so sad if everyone who went to live in a foreign country lost every bit of their first culture and adopted the new one completely. In the US we still have and celebrate the rich variety of the many cultures that came to live here in the past as well as those still coming.
I'll just say, as a US person with no particular connection to France: (1) I tend to eat my salad (and cheese, if I have it) _after_ the main course. (2) I usually eat dinner around 8 pm. (3) I like tripe and oysters (but I wouldn’t get _near_ blood sausage). (4) I wouldn’t engage in snail talk unless forced to. Maybe I should move to France? (That said, the smoking thing really _is_ unfortunate.)
For those who don't like a standard café (espresso), ask for a Café Creme, or a Grand Creme. Also, if you're intending to sit outside at a café, try to spot the smokers before choosing where to sit. Nothing like sitting downwind of a smoker's table to ruin an otherwise lovely break.
It is green salad with cheese after main meal. But we eat often “crudités” as starter at the beginning of the meal. 😊
I just came back from France. I found the french people warm and amazing. Loved the no small talk, but there was a genuine warmth. We got into some sticky situations and people were so helpful and hospitable.
So glad you had a great trip!
I would say French go out of their way to be helpful as they are very kind usually...
@@martinrivermoore9545 very kind and hospitable. :)
Merci...
@@OuiInFrance Do you have a video on opening and closing your shutters ?
I lived in sweden for a year and only had blinds. As a French guy I found that horrible being awoken by sunlight at 5 a.m. in summer
the shutters are also used to limit the temperature in the house, the sun's rays are prohibited from heating the windows and transforming the rooms into a greenhouse!!
opaque curtains are a good solution if you don't have shutters
Black out blinds or curtains also insulate and block light. Personally I use a sleep mask.
The curtain thing, beyond enjoying sunlight, is related to the same reason french got garden fences where americans often don t, and for the relationship closeness thing, or even the "don t take a photo of my or my property" and so on .... We enjoy our "privacy" in such way. It feels subjectively comfortable. By night we expose our private space to the outer world. For the meals, the cheese is a way to close a meal hence it used to come later on. For the breakfast, you got it, people eating late at night can t be really hungry early morning, but i agree i ll rather go for a strong salty and protein based breakfast, carbs free or nearly, and a light dinner. As for the bakery habits, well lazyness ultimately reached us too, a full set of bread once a week to feed our freezer is way more convinient.
You can buy room darkening or blackout curtains and blinds here in the US and they work very well at keeping out the morning sun.
As a French person, I always bought my daily baguette at the bakery. I grew up with that, and couldn't think of removing this habit 😍
I live in the States since 1982 and I miss my volets...
I would add à function to the list of benefits for volets: it keeps out the light coming from the streets. For optimal sleep, you should sleep in a place as dark as possible, without any artificial light disrupting you.
Like explanation. Merci
It is now normal in France that smokers should only smoke outside. Since 1991, it is forbidden to smoke indoors in public places, such as stations, cafes, restaurants, discotheques etc. And this habit has carried over into the houses. And it's perfectly normal for guests to go out into the garden to smoke, without being asked. Awareness of the impact of tobacco on health has taken place, and the number of smokers is decreasing very significantly and continuously, and smoking is no longer fashionable among young people.
1991 was only workspace, restaurant started to separate smoking/un smoking areas since then. It was forbidden to smoke in restaurants since smth like 2005.
@@GoelWCS 1991 was the voting time... 1995 = forbidden in public spaces ... then 2007 for the second round.
Since 1991?
I was born in 1993 and I remember people smoking indoors in public reas until the late 2000s at least
Love how you keep it real, Diane! I don’t even adapt 100% to my native culture so it’s only normal to not do everything the French way as a foreigner. Keep up the fun videos!
Thank you!
I am Franco-American. My mother from FRANCE my father from Alabama USA. So I was born speaking French until I was 7. I lived between France & States since my father was in Air Force. I understand both American and French habits, characteristics, etc. I could fill a book on my 63 years of experiences and my parents’ experiences…I live both homes, foods, people, languages….. I’m not well right now just out if a 3 month stay at Hospital but maybe later I could ask questions. And elaborate. Merci/thanks
Good reestablishment Monsieur/Sir
Sweet home alabama
Omg same, dad from Montgomery mom from the French alps
bon rétablissement à vous!
Get well sir (that's how you say french friends ;) ) You translated literally the sentence ^^
I don't live in France 😞 but when I'm there I LOVE the "no small talk" thing. As a shy introvert, just going to the grocery store in the US can be exhausting. I have French friends and of course we'll chat, but it's so nice to be out and about and not have to come up with things to say to total strangers all the time!
French living in NJ and missing my volets everyday 😂
shutters are important when you live in the south of France. The heat is no joke here
Les volets électriques!
As a Australian/English person living in France for 8 years, I can relate to all this. Diane, I really liked how you said about trying to hard to embrace all things in the French way making you feel as if you are losing the "real" you. So I let myself be French where it's really expected of me , but at home I do me! 😉 One thing I have really embraced though is the main meal in the middle of the day, but it doesn't HAVE to be 3 courses, or be served at exactly 12 midday. 😂
Hi Helen, glad you understand where I'm coming from! I think it's only normal to do what we want in our own homes. And yes, love the big lunch, light dinner thing.
One of the things I loved was going to the boulangerie every morning.
One thing on French bread I learned from a LA Boulanger is that the American flour has added protéines which make bread difficult to digest for French stomachs. This is why most French bakeries in the us import their Flour, often organic if available.
I never thought about that but it’s true that the American one is enriched while in France flour must not have anything else in it.
I never had problem with the flour but the only American thing My body couldn’t tolerate is the fake Kraft parmesan.
That shit is vile and stinky !!! It smells like old socks 🥲
Yeah i think it would be a great idee to make a french floor fabrication in the us to limit the importation
When I’ve rented an appartement in France I have always closed and opened the “volets” and a few times it’s taken me forever to figure out how to do it. There are several different mechanisms. I always felt stupid after I figured it out.
Proverbe français mieux vaut tard que jamais.
@@hervedupont6955 Mais est-ce que le jeu en vaut la chandelle ?
@@thedavidguy01 Au moins vous ne mourrez pas idiot.
@@thedavidguy01 oui car pierre qui roule n'amasse pas mousse
😂😂 oui
I have lived in France 20 of the last 30 years, breakfast is an omelette or basic corn flakes, I have done the croissant thing for breakfast for much of that time, but only when I lived next door to a great bakery. It gets a bit expensive.
I do open and close shutters, but usually in summer for solar control or if a storm is brewing, I have no neighbours to hide from. The french windows are electric.
I do buy lots of fresh bread. Every market day or time I go to town.
I drink mugs of filter coffee at home, a grand noir when out and about, a very rare noisette.
I eat a lot of duck, goose, grilled duck organs, fois gras, goats cheese, salad du gesiers, tartiflette, but tripes or tete du veau type dishes never.
I eat in proper french order, and at lunch time like a proper french person.
I have never found the french cold or standoffish and small talk is easy, then I am fluent in French and a chatterbox.
I disagree about no pressure to quit smoking in France, there is huge social pressure to quit, I think you have confused tolerance with acceptance. People smoke a heck of a lot less than they did in the 90s.
You will always be a foreigner in France, they have zero expectations that you will fit in. Celebrate that difference.
I would change a bit your last sentence : in France you will always be able to be a foreigner and French at the same time. Because we all have weird habits from ou region that differs from the others. But if you got the citizenship, speaks welll the language and picked up some habits (like complaining or liking cheese XD) then your are part of the family :)
@@orelliaorellia142 Je suis tout à fait d'accord avec vous.
As someone moving to Lille, if someone feels they have to erase themself to move to any counrty....they should reevaluate their reasons for moving. Moving should be an embellishment of your life. ✌🙏
Exactly!
Lille is definitely a city where you can feel comfortable being yourself! At least, that's my experience as compared to Paris and other areas.
Life is short, everyone ought to try everything they're ever enticed.
I do like to open the volets when it's cold. I like to know how does the weather feels like before getting dressed. It's also perfect for being well awake. I even let the window open for like 5 minutes so my room is well-ventilated.
I agree with you about the late dinner. I can’t do dinner after 8pm.
For french people, you cannot have a good dinner by daylight... 7 pm is ok in winter, but in summer, dinner should not start before 9.30pm ;-)
Thank you for reminding me how French I still am after 60 years living in North America. My meals have retained the patterns I grew up with and even in restaurants I push the salad aside to be eaten after the main course, it usually means some explanation for the waitress. I gave up asking for the salad to be brought at the end of the meal because it was forgotten every time.
I too have been living in France over sixty years but my roots remain in the UK where I was born and brought up. I love France and find people can be kind so I understand kindness comes naturally where ever you are.. I love French food but I have so many English foods I was brought up on. My children laugh at my cupboards full of Heinz Baked Beans; HP Sauce. Sandwhich Spread Heinz, Salad Cream of course. ginger biscuits and I could go on and on. I'v'e always kept breakfast English style not too much but I don't like sweet and no protein to start the day. I also keep to English timing for my meals and have an early dinner and drink tea very often during the day.
I lived 30 years in the US and still maintain all my French way of living, no problem ! I still hate the small talk and usually try to do the minimum ! When in US you nearly know the people’s whole life in 5 minutes ! It’s funny ! In France it takes time to make friends. But I love this country so much too !
que dieu te garde mon frère ❤
@@maureen1938que vos racines soient belles.et que vivent les belles âmes ❤
About smokers and As a Frenchman, I am also surprised to see that many young people smoke (they often stop when they become adults...): It should be noted that it is forbidden to smoke in restaurants, cafes, in shops, in offices and in all closed public places. it is only allowed outside. Contrary to what you say, People who smoke are not well accepted. You are right about young people.🙂
0:57 haha I am the same. I just can't do bread with jam and butter. I go for bread and butter with some cereal. I do like the shutter system as it massively helps when you have no A/C. I can drink straight coffee but I also prefer coffee with milk like in Spain. In the Southwest, people often eat at 7 or 730 pm and eat salad before the main meal.
Je pense que les habitudes alimentaires, qui nous viennent de notre enfance, sont le plus difficile, voire impossible à changer. Je ne me vois pas me passer de pain et ingurgiter une omelette le matin. Une omelette pour moi, ça se mange avec des champignons et une salade verte, avec un verre de vin rouge, une vraie vinaigrette (pas une bouteille remplie de conservateur, colorant, exhausteur de goût...), des noix, de l'ail. Et ça, le matin au réveil, je ne peux pas. Je comprends tout à fait que malgré votre parfaite adaptation à le France, vous continuiez à prendre un petit avec déjeuner comme vous le faisiez aux USA et que vous n'ayez pas renié tout votre passé.
Pour le tabac, vous seriez venue il y a quarante ans, qu'auriez-vous dit !!!!!!!!!
You've got me drooling over the image of a lovely omelette with 🍄 and a 🥗 with a homemade vinaigrette... accompanied by a glass of 🍷.
As for 🚬 , Diane didn't even live here before the interdiction of January 1, 2008! Indeed, what would she have said to that? 😧
@@LauraMorland "What would you have said" This is an expression which means "if you had seen, because it was worse at that time".
@@christianc9894 I'm puzzled by your message. It seems that you didn't grasp my meaning above.
I wrote, *"Indeed, what would she have said to that?"* which was *agreeing with you* that if she had experienced the smoking situation prior to January 1, 2008 -- not even having to go back 40 years -- her reaction would have been much worse!
Of course, "qu'auriez-vous dit" = "what would you have said". Maybe my use of *indeed* caused you confusion?
@@LauraMorland So we agree, it's a misunderstanding.
In summary, Diane would not have liked this era at all.
Cordially.
I was going to say something similar about smoking in France! It was so much worse even 20 years ago and I have been amazed, actually, at how quickly the ban in restaurants took over here. It used to be nearly impossible to eat at a restaurant without the good flavors of the food getting overtaken by the smell of smoke.
When I lived there I never picked up the enthusiasm for weeks long group summer holidays, and spending all day together with friends. I like to vacation with friends, sometimes. And I love being included and invited. But I also like spending time alone or with my spouse. It seems like my French friends took it personally when I took off or wanted some vacation days alone. Maybe it was an introvert/extrovert thing? But it seemed more complicated than that, and one I never quite understood.
I'm English, lived in France for nearly 40 years. I agree with you for breakfast (and my french husband goes for a more savoury breakfast now). I love certain french specialities such as snails , oysters and stinky cheese. Got used to doing the shutters as it's good insulation for cold or very hot days. I will never give up my strong black tea with milk !
The volets definitely are not just a habit of the French - they serve a VERY important purpose. Depending on your « orientation » (directional facing), the volets are used at certain times of day to prevent the sun from heating up your home too much, especially if you don’t have air conditioning. When I HAD AC, I found that closing the volets in the heat of the day (I faced South/West), cut my electricity bill in 1/2 as I didn’t have to use the AC very much. So volets are not just decorative - or rarely decorative at all, rather they are very useful and energy saving.
Another interesting difference: here in Croatia (and most of Central Europe, I guess) we usually eat salad _with_ the main dish (unless it _is_ the main dish itself, an option becoming increasingly popular in recent years.) And we (still) don't normally view cheese as desert.
I grew up eating sweets for breakfast, coffee cakes, pastries, donuts, to this day I prefer a sweet breakfast. My “healthy version” is a yogurt bowl with granola and fruit. Bacon and eggs is better for an occasional dinner. My paternal grandfather was French Canadian and first generation American, maybe it was his influence?
I have spent a lot of time in France as my mother was born in France, and I would give anything for a sandwich jambon beurre on 🥖 or one with butter and jam. Yummmmmm.
Number 8 was very relatable, I'm a new Zealander living in France and when I was working at the American Embassy as a chef, I was asked to serve the counter since we were low on staff that day, all the Americans were lovely, when a french person came by she told me stop smiling and not to do small talk people don't like that attitude in France.
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As a Canadian with a New Zealand parent (who has visited France) I have always been used to friendliness, warmth to stangers and small talk. Nothing wrong with that! That kind of reaction towards you goes beyond French customs imo. Some people are just not nice people.
Bro that lady was uptight.
I think French people may be surprised but not in a bad ways.
I certainly was when some American complimented my clothes randomly.
And no French person working at an US embassy should be like that.
I was surprised on my last tour of France that eggs, potatoes, bacon and sausage were included on all the hotel breakfast buffets. When I first started taking French tours many years ago, the breakfast buffets were all "continental breakfast items" such as cereal, bread, jam, etc. Even the Air France lounge at CDG had a breakfast buffet with eggs and bacon!
Yes, so interesting how things change over time!
There is even a BBQ restaurant in Paris now. DH was craving American food after 2 weeks in Paris so we went there. The place was packed and we were shocked to find that we were the only Americans there.
We were so excited on a recent trip to Paris to find a brasserie serving omelettes for breakfast! They had a their chalk sign advertising it, so they knew their target market lol
@@alyria76 Chère Madame , contrairement aux dirent des anglais et étatsuniens , la France est un pays développé 🤨nous n'avons rien à leurs envier . la seul chose qui me fais honte en tant que français et soi-disant plus belle ville du monde , c'est la saleté de la capitale de notre Pays : Paris . je vous souhaites une très belle journée
both Lidl & Aldi for the last few years sell British style rashers of streaky bacon and its pretty good too and reasonably priced. . So there must be a demand apart from little me sometimes as a nostalgic treat !
Well the shutters keep the cold out, or the light when you sleep, and particulary allows for privacy...
in french bars if you want a less stronger coffee ask them : "un allongé" or "un ralongé" depending on the regions , they will serve you an expresso with more water in a bigger cup
Interesting! Being British but wanting to live in France I have quickly grown to love the 'shutter dance'. My big concern is finding the standard of bakeries seems to have gone down. I spent 3 weeks in France during the summer including a week in Paris (admittedly August in the 11th) then 3 weeks over new Year into January - I have yet to eat a decent croissant compared to years ago. The texture and even the shape seems to have changed. Too many bakery chains all saying they are 'Artisanal' when they are most definitely not! Similarly with patisseries - not so good now.
Watch the vlogs of "Jay Swanson" and "Les frenchies"
I agree. From Montreal where we had an excellent bakery next door and cannot find even a baguette as good here. Been here in France for more than two years now and when I went back to Mtl, last summer, first thing I did was to go back to my bakery. I also recall a time where the bread was better in France from when I travelled one or two decades ago
Shutter dance is quite optionnal, last person to have done this in my family was my grandmother.
For Bakery, you have to think as a French embiterred guy, hate modern design, you will see some French used to go there, even if you have the worst bakery beside of the best.
btw it is not so rare to see a bakery affilied with school, and that's always nice spot
@@veroniquelauzon2801 Entièrement d’accord avec vous en ce qui concerne les croissants, ils n’ont plus ni le goût ni la consistance qu’ils avaient autrefois. Ils sont trop secs, et pas assez gras, et ressemblent plus à de la brioche qu’à des croissants. Impossible de retrouver le goût de mon enfance.
You know there's a lot of bakery in France without trying out, the standard is not what it was decades ago. It's okay by me, as if you really like "le bon pain" you do your work and then you are good for some time. Those establishment never close really they are transmitted to new generation and the way of thing changes generally never. But about the "Artisanal" that's a word not protected correctly people do stuff with it i despise. But you never can't go wrong with a "Meilleur ouvrier de France" next time guys seek those bakery when you visit our country that's a guarantee of sucess and knowledge.
I am so happy to hear that you are able to maintain your unique American personality traits while adapting to French culture. I have traveled to France many times and love so much about the culture, but then got to know a couple (ironically, she is an American) who were judgemental and downright mean. Sadly, it started to turn me off to France. But I have ditched the "frenemies" and have other friends (including a former exchange student from 12 years ago) and we are respectful and tolerant of one another's differences, seeing them as cultural and not an affront or something that needs to be "judged and then corrected." We get so much pleasure and joy from each other, we learn from each other and our lives are enriched through the experience. I have learned to be quieter in general, I have learned to always say Bonjour and I eat much later when in France ;)
Loads of idiot in France, like every where else. Just in France they don't hide. Which is good because you can weed them out quick. No hypocrisy here.
You know here we have a lot of culture, african for the most part and asian too. That's why people are quite tolerant in general. They are bad people everywhere... But for the language that's for sure something we can't....deny there is a problem. Most time people try to be "good" to help you learn but that's a reflex lool. I do too and with french people too. I'm sorry if that can be hurtful that's not our intent.
Something I find very different from Uk is that the French tend to finish one type of food on the plate before starting on another. Even kids do this, like they’ll eat the chips (fries) before starting on the meat. In Uk we tend to take a bit of everything at the same time
I don’t know about others but sometimes I do that when I don’t like something on the plate, I keep the best for the last bites.
I moved to France a little over a year ago and I still do things my way (I did that in Germany, why should I stop it here?). Maybe in Paris people are a little more strict about their habits and adhering to their standards. Here in the south I feel that people are relaxed and take me as what I am. A lover of french food and culture, but also a German who lived her way in Germany for 60 years and won't change all her habits. Most of them ask for the reasons when I do something differently and find it interesting when I talk about what I love here and happily get used to and what other things I prefer to leave the way they are in our house. Oh, by the way, we never smoked and no one smokes in my house, but I always have an ashtray on my terrace for my guests. One thing I love is the fact that the word "Liberté" comes first in the french motto.
I had a bad experience with cigarettes when I went to my german
Austauschpartner’s house. They smoked a lot and inside the house! I’d say smoking in France is very common but it’s practically outside only since the 2000s.
I’d never thought that I’d be shocked by cigarettes as a Frenchie lol.
As a French person, I tend to have salad as an appetizer, before the main dish. My French grandmother taught us this as a great way to fill us up and eat less afterwards 😂
Also, Vinegrette helps digestion.
When I taught English in France, my students asked me what I ate for breakfast, and they thought it was SUPER weird that I liked eggs or putting avocado on a piece of baguette for breakfast. With a couple exceptions (occasional waffles or peanut butter and jelly whole wheat pita pockets), I prefer a savory breakfast. That said, I miss the baguettes. I ate three baguettes a week by myself (some for breakfast and some with the curry or stew I would batch cook)
Yes! Savoury all the way for me for breakfast. Eggs, avocado & sometimes keto bread with coffee is what I have most mornings. But, in France having the multicourse midday bigger meal I loved. It was great to have the choices of 3 courses set menu when I was there. ❤👍🇫🇷 ❤
P.S. It's great you were able to live & work there!!!
3 is a little low but you had a good habit ^^
Of course it's weird to eat eggs + bacon + toast + everything else for breakfast. I can't start the day with a full stomach, I feel bad. I used to have two pieces of toast + a coffee in the morning, today I cut back on the butter to just have a croissant (sometimes two) and that's more than enough. I feel much lighter. (I'm Canadian)
@@catholiccowboy8545 For me, and for most Americans I believe, the large bacon/eggs/toast breakfast is usually reserved for weekends and is more of a brunch. For everyday, most people will just have cereal (hot or cold), toast, or a muffin or something similar like a toaster waffle that's quick and easy to digest. People who eat eggs daily for breakfast will usually just have one or two with a piece of toast perhaps, not a big meal. I made a big "breakfast" today of eggs, bacon, home-fried potatoes and tea at noon. That was it for the entire day until dinner in the evening. On weekdays, it's toast with butter, jam, or peanut butter and tea (I hate coffee). Or a muffin if I have any.
Of course, I'm a suburban office worker. If I were a farmer or bricklayer or did some other strenuous physical labor, that big, heavy breakfast might be more necessary as fuel.
Bonjour Diane, ah ah, too funny!! I am french, I have been living in america for almost 24 years and it is hard to change your habits, it's the same for me.
I don't like savory breakfast, I like sweet french simple one and for that reason I don't enjoy going out for American breakfast. I love shutters for privacy, to sleep in the dark or to keep the house cool in the summer.
I ❤️ ❤️ a daily fresh baguette, ❤️ french specialty food, french meals with a correct dish order and I ❤️❤️ espresso!! I can't eat at 5:30 pm, way too early, I prefer 7 or 8pm. Agree, french smoke too much. I like American small talks, it's friendly, some french people would think you are crazy, too curious or low class if you "small talk"😄.
Nice video, merci.
I install exterior shutters or exterior shade blinds every where I live in the US. US people usually find it weird. But they curtail solar gain in the hot months and keep interiors so much cooler. They're frankly brilliant and so much nicer than air conditioning. I wish more people worldwide understood.
Thank you for watching!!
I’m French and never lived anywhere else but I agree with pretty much everything you said, except for the sweet breakfast. I eat both sweet or savory breakfast depending on the day, usually I go for a sweet breakfast on the weekends when I don’t have to go through classes all morning, but I enjoy both.
One time I was reading a London newspaper article about the most popular things in the UK, and it made an interesting checklist to see how many things were true. Everything from the most common brand of sports shoes to pop culture to restaurants and foods, to social norms, you could see how far up the scale of national habits you were. If you could find out this info for France, you could rate yourself (and your French family) as to how French you are. So, check levels for smoking, divorce, education, foods, wealth, car ownership, religion, media consumption, housing, kids, etc. and see if you're just like everybody else or not.
Oups ! bien sur , vous êtes britannique je suppose et tout est merveilleux sur cette île par ailleurs très belle , mais habiter par des homos- sapiens bizarres 🤔et indécis . quand aux tabloïds anglais ils vantent leurs gloires passés la guerre de cents ans qu'ils ont perdu , Wateloo ou il étaient battues par les troupes napoléoniennes , et la victoire de Waterloo reviennent en réalité aux armées de la coalition Prussiennes Autrichienne et Russes commander par le Maréchal Blücher . Wellington s'approprie une victoire qu'il n'a jamais gagner . Blücher proposait : la Victoire de l'entente . refus de Wellington ? et la plus grande débandade anglaise : Dunkerque ; le pire est que les anglais ont fait croire au monde entier que les soldats français étaient des lâches ce qui a justifier la fuite des anglais comme ils en ont l'habitude ils se donnent un passer glorieux qu'ils n'ont jamais eu .par contre les tabloïds anglais , ne parlent jamais D'Isandhlwana contre les Zoulous ; contre les Moa-Moa au Kenya, et contre l'inde , aucunes place ou rues de Londres ne portent c'est noms .
Questions : De la marque de chaussures de sport la plus courante à la culture pop en passant par les restaurants et les aliments, en passant par les normes sociales, vous pouviez voir à quel point vous étiez dans l'échelle des habitudes nationales. la restauration anglais n'est pas fameuse , la culture pop ? Bof !!! les norme sociales alors là il y a beaucoup a dire . le divorce ? il n'y a pas plus de divorces en France qu'en chez les anglais , l'éducation est la mêmes encore que ??? alimentation zéro pour les anglais , question religieux les français s'en fichent complètement , les médias sont comme les tabloïds anglais la plus par du temps ils racontent des conneries et question vacherie entre français et anglais nous sommes égaux🤔😡😠😈
@@Fkrksw Oui ! a Kidlington une petite ville au nord d'oxford. ma voiture de marque française immatriculée en France a été rayé, côté gauche du véhicule : dirty french shit du coté !!! coté droit : the French are all assholes , sur le capot avant : you are big shit , le pare-brise fêlé et les deux roues avant percées !!! totalité des frais de réparations 4670 euros dont 1970 euros payés par l'assurance et 2700 de franchises . il y avait bien les haines des anglais envers tous les français qui étaient écrits sûr ma voiture et en même tant j'ai dû payer cette haine en faisant les réparations . quand nous avons embarqués sûr le Ferry à Portsmouth pour Saint Malo les marins français faisaient la grimace , surtout qu'il y avait un autobus français avec des collégiens ou était peint : frog eaters et dirty pigs , Bon c'était peu avant le : Brexit mais quand mêmes . quand les anglais font des conneries ils s'en prennent aux français . une consolation pour nous français est le fait que nous avons fichu plusieurs pâtés aux anglais
The same thing with coffee happens in Italy. If you ask for a cafe, you get a double shot espresso. If you want something bigger, ask for an americano, a drink invented for American tourists who where use to have giant cups of coffee.
In France you tend not to get americanos unless in tourist places. I have always asked for café allongé. You get a bigger cup with milk. My husband is extremely fussy about coffee so I have the embarrassment of asking for café allongé but with the milk in a jug. We get variations of this with hot milk, a lot of milk, etc. I just do simple allongé or even an espresso.
My lunch in France usually consists of some baguette, Camembert and tomatoes. Delicious. I sometimes eat out but I’m content with just that usually. I’m getting the need for getting back to France again soon. Now that January is out of the way I feel like I’m coming alive again so I want to be back to where I feel comfortable and better mentally.
That's because of the heat climate. You can't drink a double americano by 35 degrees without air conditioning.
The urban myth says that it was the GIs during WWII adding hot water to their coffee because they find it too strong. Who knows where the truth lies. Thing is in France we call it Café allongé, not Americain or Americano. Except in Starbucks or tourists places waiters won't usually know what you're asking for. Many french people drink Café allongé, it's not an "american thing only" anymore.
I’ve asked for Americano in France (and the UK) and it ends up watery. I think I might try ‘un cafe alonge’ that someone said in the comments. Or just endure the espressos. Thx for your thoughts. 🇦🇺🇫🇷
Funny thing: my father was born in Paris and lived there for the first 12 years of his life. WW II was just starting when his parents - who were American - took him to the US in 1939. He enlisted in the service in 1944, so whatever sunset habits he had from France were reinforced by military blackout regulations in wartime. For my entire childhood we had to “make sunset:” close all curtains and blinds.
I'm French and lived in the UK from the age of 19 til 46. I can relate to everything you say: I can't be bothered with the shutters ( even though I was more or less in charge of them as a kid), order of food, having bred every day etc... The only thing I've never got used to from foreigners about French culture: eating saucisson with Mayo or eating foie gras as a standard pâté. Sacrilege!! And I still love the fact that French people take forever to say goodbye and leave someone house after a dinner together! ( I'm sure you still hate that one!).
🙄 eating saucisson with mayo? I"m going to faint 😂
Oh, I HATE that it takes forever to say goodbye! That’s a good one!
@@lynnferry291 that’s when you clap your hands and rub them together while saying « well it’s starting to get late haha ». Then proceed to chat at the entrance for another 30 min
@@eyrthren Exactly! I’ve never understood why French people do that. Why not just stay seated until you REALLY want to go? What’s the point of getting up to go and then standing around the door for another 30-45 minutes chitchatting?
@@lynnferry291 The trick is : you have to go because you need to get home and prepare for tomorrow and such. But you don't really want to. Hence the stick around XD
Thank you for starting with the breakfast. I refused the last two times I spent time in France, and because I saved some protein from supper to start the day, I had smoother energy than my fellow teachers who ran to the vending machine by 10am because they were so depleted. The sugar caffeine breakfast (breaking of the fast, de jeuner)...causes sugar spikes and crashes...during a crash a person sometimes uses anger for energy so I asked an MD I met in Angers and he backed me up and told his friend there that all he is doing is carbs and caffeine with no solid food...I wish the French would adopt a Turk breakfast with eggs etc. That said, prayers for the people affected by that earthquake yesterday.
I was in a French high school in 71 for a few months. They always had smoking breaks out on the balcony. In school. They also ALL changed clothes in one locker room for Phy Ed. Yup. Later in 2000 I saw teens smoking marl boros outside. I told them, don't you know you are the target market because in the states they are being sued for marketing to teens. Tout a fait.
Hi Diane. I lived in France for 17 years and had a lot of habits which made me uniquely me and hadn't thought much about it. I'll admit that I miss France and the way of life compared to here in Arizona. Oh well, life goes on. I enjoy your videos.....well done!
Thanks very much, William!
Back in the 70s it was quite common for teens to be out smoking behind the school and such.
Yep. In the " lycée" , was still authorize to smoke inside when I was there back in 2001! That was cool
In my 20 years in France my appetite has not changed for timing. I can eat dinner as early as 6pm when hungry, though 7-8pm is norm. By 9pm I am finished eating. I have been to friends homes where they start late and stretch courses to past midnight. I have a sandwich or snack before leaving home and refuse any food offered past 9pm ish.
I'm French and I eat dinner just as early. I feel like I'm on a different time zone than everyone else.
@@armitagehux8190 Moi par contre je suis à l’heure espagnole, même en France ! Aussi ça m’embête beaucoup quand je suis invitée pour un café à 14 heures !
Thanks for the advice and general tips (which aren't rules, they've just observations).
We all have regional and cultural habits whether it's coffee or how we eat. I don't care for some blends/roasts of coffee even when drip (or pod). We have styles of dining within the US. If one would use a knife and fork to eat fried chicken at my grandmother's table, she would have been appalled. It's only natural to have cultural differences between countries when we have vastly different ways within one country. As you said, flexibility and tolerance is the key - within reason. No one smokes in my house even if I was living in France.
BTW, I was raised on a tobacco farm in rural southside VA. Even my parents thought smoking was a nasty habit.
I've adapted to the shutter dance and enjoy the blast of morning cold. Due to digestive issues I can't eat after 6 pm so when we moved here we brought the main meal to 2pm with a light teatime snack at 6. And we eat out at lunch rather than evening time. Also good fat oats are really hard to find, I agree. Esp out in the rural shops.
A Napolionic law, shutters must be folded back so as not to interfere with his marching soldiers. A large percentage of the cafe/resteraunt meals in paris are factory produced, you can tell in house cooked meals by eating at those displaying a saucepan with a roof on under a new ish law.
Hi Diane, I agree with you we can not denied our own identity it’s also good to embrace a new culture and learn from different ways of living. I like the good manners but the warm of small talk not talking too far. I moved to the US many years ago and I have learn and implement into my live a lot of good trades of the American culture. In some occasions the informality can border into the impolite.
Hi Diane, FUN video!! You truly always do such a nice job with your videos! I will be traveling to France this summer and plan on getting your 75 tips, soon! Take care!
Really appreciate that, thank you, Kellie! I hope you have a wonderful trip!
Even if you personally start the day with savory rather than sweet It is a very AMERICAN thing to start the day with coffee and donuts..lots of my friends do...
Or pancakes with a lot of honey. Unbelievable.
americano would be called "café allongé" if you want to order one at a french café.
a latte would be "café au lait"
the expressos would come in many forms: expresso, ristretto (stronger), noisette (with milk), crème (with cream), machiato... but as much as we love them, expresso is better in italy imo :p
You're Amazing ! I like how neutral and positive you are talking about this topic...And don't worry, if you live in France you are definetly French like everyone of us, even if you don't have to conform to some "cultural norms". I think we can all do things the way we like !
Love this video Diane ! As someone who also will not ever be 100% French and don’t want to be, I relate so much to your experience.
So glad to hear you can relate, Maux. Thank you!
Hi Diane ! I am french and...
1 - In the morning at home for breakfast, i normaly eat biscottes with butter (sometimes with cheese too - i looooove cheese) and a big glass of orange juice. Never pain au chocolat or croissant. I don't know many people who eat viennoiseries for breakfast everyday. It's more for the weekends or in hotels. And i love a good omelette for breakfast but more for holidays, at 10-11 pm and i don't eat after.
2- Les volets... I hate to shut them all, i am lazy. But i shut the big one in my leaving room for privacy (and i don't have to open the window) and in my bedroom too because i can't sleep if it's not dark. But the others... But i live in an appartment and not on the first floor. If that was the case, maybe i would shut them all for privacy and security. Also when it's very hot outside, i shut them all.
3- I don't buy baguette/bread everyday. A lot of french do, it's true (not necessarily baguette). But i have bread in my freezer (when i want a real toast and not some biscotte for breakfast) and sometimes i buy a baguette, one or two per month like you. My parents always have fresh bread in their home. And i hate pain de mie (lot of sugar).
4- I prefer expresso ;) and without sugar. For italians, our expresso is an americano.
5- I am vegetarian so huitres, boudin noir or tripes are not for me. And i don't care for the order in a meal. When i eat alone or with my parents, i eat salad or cheese with le plat principal. ;) But i eat later than you (i live in the south west of France, near spain, where we eat a little later than in the north i think).
6- Maybe because i live in the south west... i think we do small talk here. Maybe less than in the US.
7- Well, i am part of the 20.8% smokers (electronic but smoker nevertheless). I think it's not as socially accepted that it was several years back but people are more tolerant about it than in the US. We are not as tolerant as your are with what we call "mal-bouffe" (a real threat for the health too) but i understant your shock with the teenagers.
8- Sorry for my pretty bad english
OMG, Diane -- I'm totally with you on no. 2 as well -- *I do not care about the shutters!* My American husband and I never touch our shutters here in Paris, except in the summer, to keep the apartment from turning into in a steaming hot cauldron.
Although I’ve unfortunately never lived in France, my mother who was French did things in our American upbringing that were French habits.
We only had decorative shutters on our ranch house but my mom was always making sure the draperies were closed at night and opened first thing in the morning.
We also learned to dunk. Meaning dunking anything like toast or a pastry in our coffee. I started drinking coffee at 4 years old and my usual breakfast before school was coffee with milk and sugar and 2 pieces of toast with butter and jelly. One time a few years ago, I was dunking something in my coffee at work in the break room and a fellow nurse was completely dumbfounded by what I was doing. I told her and when she heard I learned it from my French mother she thought it was sweet and a bit endearing but still curious.
No. 4 (filtered drip coffee -- with no. 4 filters!) is all my husband wants. One of the first phrases he learned in French was *"un café allongé, s'il vous plaît".*
(My first [late] husband was Irish, and I picked up the tea-drinking habit from him. Tea is *definitely* not a French thing, although tisanes are.)
No. 5 -- also *No* on the blood saussage and tripes! And *No* on snails and frog's legs as well. On the other hand, oysters are not only a French thing; I learned to eat them in Charleston, South Carolina. (I understand it's an acquired taste, but one I enjoy, particularly at this time of year.)
Funnily enough, my husband and I *have* become French in that we now normally eat our salads after the main dish. (And we're both night owls, so late dinners work for us.) But we do plenty of things meal-wise that the French don't do, such as eating corn on the cob and chicken drumsticks with our hands. (The horror! ;-) And sometimes when my husband goes to a café in the late afternoon and orders a coffee along his meal (he wants it before the food arrives) he won't get it, because they cannot imagine that anyone would drink coffee until *after* the dessert!
No. 6. Politesse -- LIke you, I'm also at around 90% - 95% ... I sometimes still have to remind myself to say "Bonjour" and "s'il vous plaît"; it's definitely a learned habit. (But I like it.).
No. 7 Smoking. One of the happiest days of my life was January 1, 2008, when it became illegal to smoke inside restaurants and cafés in France. (Although the restaurant where we rang in the New Year's definitely didn't stop people from lighting up when the clock chimed 12! ;-) GREAT VIDEO!
I disagree with with you about tea in France. In fact the selection in the supermarkets exceeds the British. Like Whisky the French are often connoisseurs of tea and consume, I believe, nearly as much as the British now. You are right, however, about Tissanes. I must admit before arriving here I was rather ignorant of them as most British are. The difference between the regular everyday tea sold in France is in the blending. It is blended for the taste & market here. That's why I try and have a decent reserve of Typhoo or Tetleys from the old country
@@gordonspicer Well, have you ever ordered tea at à restaurant or café in France ? They bring you a cup of hot (no longer boiling) water with the teabag in its wrapper on the side. I'm always furiously tearing open the wrapper to plunk the teabag into the cup before the water becomes useless. That would *never* happen in the UK or Ireland!
Moreover, on several occasions I've never been able to order tea at all, because they only have Earl Gray available. Earl Gray is adulterated with bergamote; it's not pure Black tea.
Finally, I don't know know how many French friends you've made yet, but if you’re invited to their homes, the same situation will likely obtain: No Black tea, or only Earl Gray. If they should have black tea, I'll normally be the only person drinking it.
P.S. Of course there's Mariage Frères, but one cannot go there every day (And while their teas are splendid, their idea of a scone is risible!)
@@gordonspicer I just checked, and whoever gave you that statistic was *way off* : France is far, far, down the list on per capita consumption of tea. The UK is #3, Irlande is #2, and France is ... 39th in the world. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_tea_consumption_per_capita
@@LauraMorland Have you not noticed the speciality shops selling teas and accessories in most major cities (and sometimes in the richer towns) in France? I find their selection & expertise very impressive. For your tea shop experience of being served tea I cannot comment, but it does not sound to good. I was obviously wrong about the tea consumption, but I repeat the supermarket shopping aisles are packed with all sorts of teas
@@gordonspicer I agree that the people who like teas in France have a choice. (And that Mariage Freres is a tea shop that would rival the best in any tea-drinking country.) I don't know how many French friends you have, but I've lived in France for 23 years, and since I've managed to speak the language fluently (albeit not perfectly), I have a ton of French friends, and not one of them drinks tea, nor do any of their friends when I'm invited for a meal.
Next time I go to Monoprix I'll look at the "tea shelves." I could be wrong, but I would guess that a lot of what's on those shelves are actually tisanes. The French *are* very big on tisanes.
Gordon Spicer, I love your name, by the way; it sounds so delightfully English! (My ancestors are English, going back 400 years -- thus my surname -- but an English friend complained to me some years ago that my first name is *not* English, and so he had a hard time remembering it.)
Sweet breakfast : sugar brings quick energy. It's a good way to get a start, however it's not all of France that'll go for it.
Shutters : in the US, you leave the AC on all year long - disregard for energy waste is a cultural thing.
Baguette : that's mainly a thing in Paris. Other places in France, you buy a "pain" or a "boule" (regionalized names may apply) because it doesn't dry out as fast - especially when you don't make tartines for breakfast. Also, French bread is tough : most foreigners have trouble with the crust.
Specialty food : you eat them for big events or at a restaurant - you'll be hard pressed to find someone eating tripes or boudin noir every day, because they're either a pain to cook or far too rich for frequent consumption - or both.
Service order : there's a logic behind it, but salad can be had at the beginning of the meal, during the main course or after. Cheese is a different matter : you will take a piece of it after the main course only if you still are a bit peckish. As for dessert, well, not only is it nice, but it's also the occasion to push out the main dish's taste and smell - or the cheese's.
Dinner time : the main reason is that we have 4 meals in France : breakfast (petit déjeuner) - when waking up, lunch (déjeuner) around noon, "tea time" (goûter) around 4-5pm, and then dinner (dîner or souper) around 7:30; there's a 3 hours lag in average between them and the last one is supposed to be rather light - it's there to prevent you feeling hungry at night.
Politeness : when in Rome...
Smoking : was a French thing for a long time, where people would have a smoke that would take several minutes to consume itself and wouldn't go past a couple a day (because they were very strong), but it got addictive after WW2 when... US blonde tobacco forced its way heavily onto French soil. So, yeah - thanks for that :(
I don't know if someone talk about this in the comments, but in France, shutters are mandatory in a construction (or else, you need a iron grid in front of the window, which is common for the bathrooms' windows). If you leave your house for more than 24h, with the shutters opened, and you are robbed, you will not be covered by your insurance
Love the explanation. Merci 📘🪟📘 🙂
Watching your video allowed me to never miss my duolingo francais daily, didn't expect that. You're amazing, bravo and love it.
Thank you! 😃
I never understood how people can eat a main meal so late in the day. Maybe I am getting old, but that messes my stomach up to eat so close to bed time. I wake up with heartburn and just feel gross. We follow the old school method of having the largest main meal in the middle of the day. The whole smoking thing is crazy to me. I grew up with parents that smoked and it gave my mom lung cancer and she died at 62. It they created something now that had the same negative side affects that cigarettes have, people would flip their lids. There is no way that it would be accepted now, so I don't know how there can be anyone that still smokes knowing what we know about it now.
I'm sorry about your mom. ;-(
Agree. If its popular among young people, they become addicted and carry the habit in to adulthood.
I agree. I don't enjoy anything sweet in the morning. I do however buy a baguette almost every day. We don't usually eat bread with a meal but it makes for an easy snack during the day. I am pretty easy going when it comes to coffee. When I am in Canada I usually drink drip coffee but when I am at our place in France I use a french press or I will get "un cafe" if I am at a cafe somewhere. I feel the same about the shutters. I love our shutters because they make the house look so pretty! Classic white made of wood. I even put some decorative black hardware on so you can see it while they are open. We however do not shut them. I think the neighbours must talk about us as we are the only ones who don't shut them. At night our indoor lights light up the town. 😛
I'm French and when I was a student, I went to the US with my school for one month. This is when I completely lost the habit of closing the "volets", to the point I can't sleep if they're closed 😅
I also agree with you about breakfast, I like having eggs or bacon (or both), even if I barely take the time to do it.
As for the coffee... well, let's agree to disagree, I like it the way Italians do: even stronger and shorter than in France 😂
I'm French but I hate oysters, boudin (bloos sausage) and tripes. But I do enjoy my piece of baguette at almost every meal 😉. Like most of my compatriots I'm addicted to the sweet breakfast with "real" coffee, nevertheless one of my highlights when visiting the U.S was having a couple of brunches with the hash brown potatoes, bacon, eggs, pancakes (loved it)... then skipped lunch. But it was really weird for me to adapt to the late afternoon dinner time; at 5 or 6 PM I'm definitely not hungry yet (regular dinner time at home is around 7:30 PM). And, as a strict non-smoker the thing I probably hate most about my fellow French people is the smoking culture; at home it's definitely non-smoking, and the occasional smokers that may come visit me know it, if they do want to smoke it's in the garden or in the street, regardless of the weather.
As far as coffees goes, well... I'm French...
5:00 or 6:00 p.m.? Most people I know aren't even home from work yet at that hour.
T'es pas francais toi. Ou un francais rate alors.
Nice having you back Diane, I always enjoy your content so much. Bisous from Paris :)
I'm French and I lived in the US for 9 years 20 years ago, but I never though I "had'" to adapt to the American way of life, I just picked up the parts that I liked :)
PS - Love your glasses too, très chic
Thanks so much! And that's exactly it, pick up the parts that you like (while still being respectful of course) and that's really the best way!
This is so refreshing. Your honesty is like a breath of fresh air, especially considering the culture you live in. Kudos to North Anerican (brutal?) authenticity.
As an American who lived south of Bordeaux for 3 years, and a French major, most of the things you mention rang true. We loved the continental breakfasts but would buy pain de seigle at local bakeries, never baguettes. We closed the volets every evening. We love oysters, boudin but not tripes . Love foie gras. Do not smoke and find it annoying. Are ok with the order of courses in France, the long and copious lunches, and the courtesies of everyday greetings. I love coffee and made American coffee at home, but liked the short expresso after a nice lunch. The thing I struggled with is invitations to dinner at nine pm or later. I'm not hungry then, but I am sleepy being a very early morning person. After a few of these miserable experiences, we simply asked our friends to lunch or an apero dinatoire, earlier.
Up here in Belgium, if we have shutters, it's purely decorative and blinds and curtains do the job, I would consider using them if I'm feeling particularly fancy or if it's not dark enough in a room (if I have a lamp right in front of my bedroom or during a heat wave)
Diane, enjoyed this content! I had taken a photo of our recent charcuterie board, but can't seem to see how to attach it! ha. Brie, baguette and saucisse..yum. We were aghast when you said you don't eat baguettes every day!!! But agree there are other French breads that are also very good. Keep up the great work!
Love France, love the language, would love to go back. Merci, Diane
Hope you make your way back one day soon!
Closing down the shutters for the night make a heat difference of about 3C.
LOL I'm thinking of retiring to the south of France, so I'm watching you for info. 1. i already eat this breakfast 2. I like shutters. 3.I like bread and the thought of fresh french bread is mouthwatering. 4. Don't drink coffee. 5. I agree on simple food. 6. Same on the order of food. 7. manhattanite here, no small talk. 8. no smoking I don't like the dogs in restaurants thing or their poop all over but I'm not sure what else yet ;-D
Thank you for watching! Also, I must say that people pick up after their dogs a lot more now than when I first came to France. Definitely a good thing!
@@OuiInFrance huzzah. One less thing to watch out for 🙌
I just retired to the south of France. 4 weeks in I'm enjoying it so far
I love dogs so the only problem I have with them in restaurants is that they distract me. It’s hard not to get down on my knees and crawl under tables to pet them. I
I absolutely hate the North American tendency to keep dogs out of everywhere. I think it goes back to the days when most people lived on a farm and had good reasons not to have them in the house. But we’re now mainly urban dwellers with pampered pets.
In switzerland it was the same eith the shutters. What i learned there was you dont shut the windows ever in winter. Because yi slept on a down mattess with a down duvet. Man in the morning you wake in wet bed clothes in the morning you put the comforter out the window on the sill to air it
That was very interesting to watch and to compare with my own habits after some years living in France.
1. Breakfast. Not a French one for me, as I usually have something like eggs or a sandwitch with ham first and a pastry or a yougurt afterwards.
2. Shutters. Yeah, that's something I'm still not used to even after 20 years in France. In fact I like to wake up and see the sunlight rather than to feel like I'm in a coffin. And even if I acidentally wake up during the night I prefer to see the Moon and stars in my window. So usually I don't close shutters, only if it's very hot outside during the daytime or when it's really windy.
3. Baguettes. We don't eat much bread for last years, so we buy bread just a couple of times per week. But I enjoy a good baguette from the boulangerie (especially une baguette tradition) and I hate those defrozen ones from the supermarket.
4. Coffee. I prefer a strong coffee. So I pour even less water than they have in a usual French espresso. I'm leaning more to the Italian way to do it. If I want a realtively big cup of coffee, I would rather make 3-4 of my "normal" portions in one mug. And no sugar in my coffee, no way! Maybe a drop of milk sometimes.
5. Order and time of meals. I'm not French at all here (except for cheese, maybe). I can (and I do) eat a salad together with a main course, the same goes for a dessert and a coffee - I prefer them together. And as for the time of meal, we had to adapt to local customs (because of restaurants, but as well because after work I'm at home later than at 7pm in most cases). But still from time to time I prefer to have a late lunch or an early dinner if I can.
6. Social politeness. I may be even worse than French in this area. :) Yes, I say "Bonjour", "Merci", "S'il vous plâit", etc. But I don't like small talks at all. Even with someone I know already, not only with stragners.
7. Smoking. I don't care much about it. For me it's a personal choice of everyone. And I think it is an educational problem. Parents and teachers have to explain it better to kids. I try to do the best for my children. The same goes for drinking alcohol.
I had to laugh, Diane. I love your terms...the dance of the volets...so true. When I am in France, I get a phone call around 10am from my family asking if I bought my bread. Every Day!!!! Oh, le boudin noir....my love...childhood memories as well. I hate eating at 9pm too. The cigarette packs have death warnings all over them and they are very skinny cigarettes now but still people smoke. I've become so American. You've nailed it all.
Diane, I'm 3 for 3 with you now. 22+ years in France, and I still only buy baguettes when we're having people over for dinner! Otherwise, those *boules de pain de campagne* do it for me, and (unlike baguettes, which could be used as a weapon after 2 or 3 days) they last a while. (Actually, we are big fans of Bjorg's galettes de maïs - they're less fattening; and don't go stale if kept protected.)
There's also a special seeded bread I can only find at the Super U by my in-law's house. Strangely amazing for a supermarket bakery department. But yup, boules are the way to go in my house atleast 80% of the time.
I'm French and my whole life I've eaten salad as an entrée. I wasn't even aware we were supposed to eat it after a meal.
I've noticed that different regions do it differently
D' où tu sors ?
Moi aussi !! Je viens de Lyon et j'ai jamais entendu de ma vie qu'on mangeait la salade après le plat. La salade c'est au début
My favorite all time breakfast experience was at the Ritz Paris. It was a Sunday morning and I walked over from Hotel de la Place du Louvre. I ordered champagne and they brought a bread basket with the perfect croissant and an assortment of breads with a pot of French butter. I savored scrambled eggs with spinach. It was heaven!
Yummm!! Sounds delicious!
Thanks, Diane. Always interesting to hear about your experiences in France. I agree; we will always retain something of that US upbringing. And why not?
Absolutely. Being in Germany made me realize how American I am.
I appreciate the honesty. It seems like making the best of both cultures is the way to go.
I was sad to see so many young people smoking in France. I smoked for many years and quit cold turkey. I know France is trying to work toward no smoking. I hope they are successful at some point.
I love espresso but don't want it all the time so I will admit, with no shame, that my friend and I would pop into Starbucks in the afternoon to have a latte.
Our family has never eaten bread with every meal and for those who haven't been, not every baguette in France is created equal. They are not all fabulous.
So spot on about the shutters. My French partner insists on closing them every night. I think its partly a security thing for her. But I would prefer to wake up to the sun in the morning. Also not a big bread person, although I do enjoy a crusty bagette.
Wow! You just explained why my French relatives in Toulouse hate me😂 So I picked a grape off a cluster of grapes and my French cousin went ballistic on me! Evidently, unbeknownst to me, there is a correct systematic way to eat grapes off the cluster. Seriously? Are you kidding me!
😵💫 wow, just wow. 😯
It's a case of leaving the food 'intact' for the next person, just like cutting a slice off cheese to leave it's original shape. I learned many French habits by just watching.
@@marjorieorveau6707 so do you start at the bottom of the cluster and work your way up or vice versa? 🙈
@@edthenomadtrucker8321You cut a small bunch near to the main stem; what's to avoid is a branch with some grapes missing...
As a French person, I wouldn't say that a French breakfast should be overly sweet, and for most people it is not. It should have a certain amount of fat (normally butter), and a small amount of sweet is optional. That's why a plain/butter croissant is perfectly suitable for breakfast (it is considered pastry FOR breakfast), but an almond croissant is not (it would be for a sweet snack, or for children after school for example). Same with any sweet pastry, even pain au chocolat wouldn't be normal for breakfast. Most people on a day to day basis will have bread with butter, some will add jam on top (but the butter is there for most people). Now some people have a sweet tooth for sure, but I'm talking about what a typical breakfast is in most families.
I'm stopping to comment at no. 1, because just two days ago I was eating breakfast here in Paris with four other French people, and I was spreading some of the previous night's Camembert on my bout de baguette, I remarked, *"Vous savez, aux Etats-Unis on ne mange pas des choses sucrés pour le petit déj. Nous avons hérité la tradition anglaise (et irlandaise), d'un petit déj salé, plein de protein."*
Like you, breakfast is my favorite meal of the day. Give me an omelette or give me death! 😆
My mother used to always tell me, close the shutters when It's getting cold (for example when It's getting closer to nigh time) so that it doesn't get colder in the house, and in morning open them so that the light comes in and so you don't use light, that's the main reason why I do so. I don't have automatic shutters so yes It's annoying but I also feel like It's kinda more stylish so I prefer those.
Like you, I have always picked & chosen. I am an individual, not an entire culture ; - > I love coffee. I like the variety of ways I can have my coffee if I am doing American style & French style--& don't forget the Italians. I remember stopping at a rest stop on the autoroute & ordering a sandwich of ham & cheese.The lady who took my order looked at me & exclaimed 'du jambon et quelque fromage--tous les deus--ensemble? ce n'est pas normal! I didnt say anything but I thought "It's perfectly normal in the US. then I thought "well what is a croque Monsieur?"" I find most of the differences interesting & sometimes amusing.
As an American having lived in France for the past 7 years I would say I pretty much agree with all 7 of your points! As much as I love my life here, I would be beyond thrilled to be able to go out for a proper American breakfast! Also kids smoking is just tragic. It’s the same in Spain…great job on the video!
If you're ever in Paris, Breakfast in America would be right up your alley. It's a diner-style place that features a lot of American breakfast items. Super popular with the French too, always a line out the door. And the owner's book is fab too! I reviewed it on my blog: www.ouiinfrance.com/book-review-pancakes-paris-craig-carlson/
Thank you for watching!
I find it interesting that some (NOT all) French people engage in fat-shaming because obesity is a cost-issue in a socialized medical system; yet smoking is more accepted?
Good point.
Vive les volets !
Français habitant au Québec, j'aimerais pouvoir avoir des volets à fermer les nuits d'hiver pour garder un peu de la chaleur de l'appartement.
I picked up the baguette and croissant habit whenever we are in France. While I can find the occasional French equivalent croissant in NA, I have yet to find totally equivalent baguette. I have even attempted to make my own but not even close.
I am French and smoker. Culturally, in France it's not well seen to smoke, but if you want to start a conversation with a foreigner it's much easier.
For example you can ask if he has a lighter etc... and the conversation can start or not... it can be an accelerator, to create a relationship and especially at work at work with a coffee.
Je ne dit pas que fumer est une bonne chause, mes la culture en france est faite comme ça.
if you are looking for contact with a French person, it will be easier if you smoke, although smoking is becoming less and less.
Hello, and thank you for another excellent video.
It's great to hear you talk about the things that you experience and choices that you make that resonate for me. I want to fit in and 'become French', but I'll probably always be l'excentrique Britannique - hopefully a likeable and respectful one, though.
By the way, your book about blogging is really good!
So glad you can relate! And thank you for picking up my book!! Much appreciated ;-)
It would be so sad if everyone who went to live in a foreign country lost every bit of their first culture and adopted the new one completely. In the US we still have and celebrate the rich variety of the many cultures that came to live here in the past as well as those still coming.
I'll just say, as a US person with no particular connection to France:
(1) I tend to eat my salad (and cheese, if I have it) _after_ the main course.
(2) I usually eat dinner around 8 pm.
(3) I like tripe and oysters (but I wouldn’t get _near_ blood sausage).
(4) I wouldn’t engage in snail talk unless forced to.
Maybe I should move to France? (That said, the smoking thing really _is_ unfortunate.)
For those who don't like a standard café (espresso), ask for a Café Creme, or a Grand Creme. Also, if you're intending to sit outside at a café, try to spot the smokers before choosing where to sit. Nothing like sitting downwind of a smoker's table to ruin an otherwise lovely break.