Emeralds4lyfe I'm sorry :( Don't let her stop you if you truly need help. There are people out there who are glad to help and to not be able to is so sad. If you're going through a tough time I wish you the best of support!
I am 3 months clean but it’s always I’m on my mind It’s honestly scary I try not to think about it push it as far as I can on the back of my mind but eventually the float back up and it’s just so hard and scary
Atypicaly Dark. I don’t think u should take advice from me I started doing it it again a 2 days ago 😳😭😢 But if u really want to know I lay in my bed and bing watch Netflix and do nothing it kinda keeps my mind off of it for sometime until I start doing it again 😭
I know its hard to quit but try the butterfly technique. You draw a butterfly on the part that you want to harm. You name the butterfly after someone you care about. If you harm yourself while it is there are any butterflies on you then you kill them all. That is something that helped me a lot. It helped me to remember but that there are people that I care about and that care about me. I'm praying for you guys. I hope you can overcome this. Remember you are amazing.
Just a, sad reminder: Self harm isn't always cutting, it can be things like • Not sleeping • Not eating/not eating a lot It can also be non physical things, like constantly putting oneself down. Saying things like "I'm not good enough", or "people only hang out with me, because they pity me" My point is, self harm isn't always physical, it can be emotional as well. However, most people see physical self harm being the easiest, while others think emotional is
Theobald Leonhart That is true. Intrusive thoughts are extremely harmful to people and people don't give them enough consideration. Also, there are different reasons for self harm: to numb emotions, control the body and mind, express feelings or needs, distract from other problems, create visible and noticeable wounds, purify oneself, reenact a trauma in order to resolve it, punishing yourself for a wrong you feel you've done or a shortcoming, denying yourself, you feel undeserving not being in pain, overcoming feelings of dissociation or not feeling real, etc. And while some of these coping methods will combat some of these reasons, they don't help with others.
Welp. You just made me realize that my problem is much worse than just the wounds. For i dont sleep more than four hours a night st the most. And i pretty much only eat dinner . .. sometimes. I also constently tell myself that no one like me and that im just a dumb fat weak girl. (I am not fat. . . I just am not as skinny as i would like to be.)
I was able to tell two of my friends who used to do it. But i keep avoiding it to my other friends. Even though onw of them directly asked me if i cut.
I bruise myself because of emotional pain that i have been feeling that built up for more than 10 years. I know that even my closest friends will never understand how severe my pain is. They think i am just being dramatic but if only they could see my heart, my soul , my physical body are all in pain. I can't explain how sad, lonely i feel even when im with friends that i trust.
i was doing jumping jacks, squeezing ice, and yelling at the same time. my brother walked in, looked at me with a look of confusion, then walked back into his room.
Slicing soft fruit with a sharp knife always got me. I just got more angry that I had wasted a plum by slicing it into an inedible mess. Wishing you all the love and success in the world ❤️
I would like to get help but... I don't know. I'm very conflicted because I feel like I want this to go away, I've gotten so used and comfortable in this sad little hole I just don't want to get out anymore.
please trust me on this. you have to get help. you need serious professional help. i've stopped but my urges linger and i still feel as bad as i did when i started cutting. once you get help, you'll be so much happier
Arina I totally understand. I'm in the same place as you. Feeling depression, being alone, and enclosing myself has become the norm. I'm almost... Afraid of a world different than this. Don't feel alone in the fight. I chose not to get help because I want to be strong when really I'm not. I'm weak and broken inside. I've tried reaching out to my friend who experienced depression in the past and you know what she did? She told me that I had serious issues and needed a professional. She was my BEST FRIEND (well, still is) and it tore me down even worse. Fast-forward to a couple months ago and my other best friend cannot understand it in the least. He brings it up and it hurts me. What did I do about it? I suffered in silence. Until last night. I told him what he did was hurting me and he understood. I learned you can't keep in the darkness forever. Either it will engulf you or a flame will appear. That flame is help. I'm not saying you have to light a fire. Last night, one person, one friend, one tiny, itty-bitty light took away a lot of pain. The people who say you need a therapist or whatever don't understand. Depression is an internal thing. I've found that friends and family help a lot more than I've expected. Even if they don't understand completely they can support you. Tell SOMEONE. Tell ANYONE. Don't keep it in silence because you can't forever. You'll feel better and hopefully you'll be able to share your story with more people and your self-harm, depression, anxiety, whatever it is you're dealing with, will lose it's hold on you. Then and only then will you be able to become a candle in other peoples darkness. Hope my passionate rambling helped someone out there. cx And to all the strangers and weebos and freaks out there who think nobody loves them; I LOVE YOU. Because you are special and there is nobody out there like you. Be the majestic friggin' unicorn you are inside. *winks* Peace out girl scouts.
I guess it all started with my love for music. Being a musician has helped me through some stuff, and I want to use that to assist other people as well. I plan to study music therapy in the future!
When I was about 12, I realized I might have depression. I thought about telling my mom, but then I remembered all the times my mom yelled at my sister. My sister had/has anxiety, and instead of supporting her, my mom yelled at her about how she's making it up, it's not real, ect. My mom thought less of my sister because she had a mental disorder that, according to my mom, " Was completely made up for attention." I didn't want to be yelled at, I knew my mom wouldn't understand she was a big reason why I had depression in the first place. So, I turned to giving myself white scratches. You know they light scratches everyone gets sometimes, but they fade easily? I gave those to myself whenever I was alone. Soon my brother got tested for anxiety, he had it as well. More yelling, and soon, my mom only made dinners for me. That made me feel even worse about myself. I felt I was the base reason my siblings had to look for food at 9 pm. More self harm, this time with scissors. Soon, my brother and sister got into photography. They got happier, with fewer anxiety attacks. I felt as if I was spiraling downwards. I started to eat ice. I liked the way it made my mouth freeze and burn at the same time. I ate lots of ice. Sometimes, I would even put four ice cubes in my mouth. I stopped using scissors. Sure, I'd still scratch myself, but only a couple times a week. Ice really does help.
Fiala Noyes do u know why that all happened to your siblings and u,bcs that is child emotional abuse,your mother is making all of you feel bad and that can go rly bad u can get depression,anxiety,ptsd and more..i am going through CEA and i am self-harming and i have depression so reach out to people and tell them all that will help 💔
so i used to cut and i actually intended to commit suicide later this July, but I saw a close friend of mine self-harming as well and she was getting really bullied, I'm trying to heal myself so that I can be there for her :)
jesther 92 thats wonferful. if theres anything we can learn, its to use our suffering to help others in need. its hard, very hard. but possible. sending love your way!
I struggled with self harm for a few years. I'm not doing it anymore though. I became addicted to it. My mom saw my fresh wounds and seeing her eyes in pain, and her asking me if her love is not enough made me stop. she also said: "if no one is there for you at school, remember that you have me when you get home."
Having a support system is the hardest thing .. because friends get bored and mad at you with time And you don't want to make your family sad with your complaints and problems
My therapist told me that all my bad feelings and thoughts that I don't show up transform in a necessity of hurting someone, punching, kicking, shouting and other horrible aggressions. I don't do those things to others, I do them with me. I prefer hurting me than hurting others, so I really appreciate this video, thanks!! And I hope that this could help everyone. Take care!!
Fer Ramirez I prefer hurting myself instead of others too and I'm trying to work through it my self harm is more punching and pinching and biting and leaving marks and bruises. It went away for a while and then came back
Falling in my chemical TARDIS with the spn phandom That's really awful, I really hope that you can stop that for ever. Remember, if you want to see the rainbow, you need to see the storm ❤️
I have anxiety and I harmed myself a few minutes before watching this video and I am thankful for watching this!I'll start my journal with an entry about this video and go from there by focussing on my thoughts and feelingsThanks, Psych2Go :)
Anime_Queen21 man let me tell you something family isn't physical it's spiritual and maybe you should i don't know get a job and get out of the house or if you wanna step the boundary curb stop her or if you wanna be reasonable just denounce her like she would you
Garret Woeller wow a log of people actually responded to what I said.. hmm that's interesting but as for that I don't live with my mother but she goes out of her way to call just to say hurtful things and she even said she doesn't think of me as a daughter which is why I plan to leave to college soon. I'm 17.
I cover an array of topics at my channel on how to deal with shity people, how to compose and handle yourself and your thoughts with confidence, and so on. head to my channel if that sounds beneficial to you..!
At first, when depressed, I used to simply lie in bed and wait till the feelings came out, then once, I took sharp scissors and cut myself two or three times, it helped me more, than just waiting till all the feelings are gone, so I started doing it, I was hiding the wounds from others, because nobody of them really cares, when they saw them, they didn't even think I did it, they thought something scratched me, when asked about what happened to my arm, I said It's ok, because I knew, nobody would help me and if they would try, it would be the "look at those who have worse life, than you." They don't understand, this phrase does not work, it's not as simple as telling myself "from today, I will no longer be depressed." Don't you think, that if it was so simple, I wouldn't have done it a long time before? I don't think I will ever be ok and I don't think anyone will come to help me, because who do I matter to? Not even to my fucking family. Who would care, if I died. Right, nobody.
I actually don't know how to comfort you to make you feel better. I just wanna try by saying, "Tomorrow is another day. I hope you'll find whatever that brings genuine happiness to you. I'll include you in my prayers."
Rohnek Kdosi you deserve to have your feelings validated, I'm sorry those round you don't have the compassion for that. It's not your fault they can give you the love you deserve ❤️
I know this may be late but I do have the same thoughts (that no one would care and so) but you should really understand that you do matter. sometimes people don't notice not because they don't care but because of other reasons like having troubles, not that yours doesn't matter to them. Try telling a trusted friend or family member, you might be surprised at how much they care. if you really don't want to talk with them go to a therapist or a counsellor, not for anyone's sake but for yours (even if you want to do it secretly).
believe it or not you matter. even if you may not see it, even if you may not think so. you deserve all the love and support and help you can get because I know this shit is absolute hell. and I know how invalidating it feels to have someone tell you that "someone else's life is worse". that's just bullshit. we cannot go around comparing who has it worse because every one of our struggles is valid. you are valid just as anyone else. I hope you get to a point where you allow yourself to get help. I am sending you all the love in the universe, friend
When I used to cut myself and one day my family say my scars on my arm, instead of saying "Are you fine?" or something like that, they said "Why do you do that? Do you seek attention from everyone? Do you think you look cool with that?". I am still remembering this and each time I do, I wonder if I deserved to be born. And It's still a very small part of everything else.
I was in pain, and you did not comfort me!! I was lonely, and you did not come to me!! I was afraid, and you would not hold me!! I was weak, and you did not strengthen me!! I was down, and you would not raise me!! My Dearest Beloved, I've been waiting for you to trust Me. I've been waiting for you to run to Me. I've bee waiting for you to surrender to Me. Your time has come. -Jesus
Self-Care techniques: 1. Screaming (into a pillow or when no one's around.) Release your anger or other feelings. 2. Exercising. Releases chemicals in the brain that makes individuals happier. Jumping jacks, running, even brisk walks. Closely observe the sensations of the wind blowing around you and your feet on the ground and your environment. 3. Squeezing ice. Similar feeling to the shock of pain. Relieves feelings of wanting to self harm. 4. Draw on body parts with red ink or stickers on where you want to self harm. 5. Play loud music and have a dance party. Drown out the pain and release your stress. 6. Cutting or ripping apart paper or cloth. 7. Punch a pillow or punching bag 8. Throw a pillow against the floor or an empty wall 9. Cleaning rooms like bathroom or bedroom or kitchen 10. Stomping around in heavy shoes or jump around in them 11. If you have a pet, pet them and care. 12. Have a cold bath 13. Watching favorite movie or TV show. 14. Meditation 15. Writing out feelings. Keep a journal, write on yourself, ask yourself questions. 16. Hobbies 17. List the many uses of a specific object. 18. Take photos 19. Get involved in the community 20. Reach out to their friends or family.
I can't believe you mentioned borderline personality disorder. Thank you, it means a lot to hear it included along side of other mental illnesses. Most people I know believe it isn't an actual illness and no one around me takes it seriously.
Bruh, people actual think BPD isn't a disorder? I thought people were too dumb to go that far, but I underestimate the stupidity of some human beings, I hope they recover from being ignorant, also, if you ever need to talk to me, my Insta in @dlsgusting_rat have a nice day/night, whatever time it is for you!
Except #20 is exactly why I ever started to self harm inn the first place. My parents made it clear that it was not okay to show anger or sadness, or talk about traumatizing abuses. Working on that Deprogramming for a while now. Had to go no contact.
AuroraAquarius I'm sorry about that :( It's always ok to show anger and sadness if something is bothering you, and it's always ok to vent and tell other people what's on your mind to get it out of your system and clear your head. I hope you can feel better and get to be yourself :)
For a long time, I battled with the urge to self harm. I disposed of all sharp items in my room and drew on myself when I did, so that the next day I'd remember that I resisted it and feel proud of myself. Unfortunately, one day that I felt particularly anxious, I scratched myself until I bled. Can't say I didn't try...
You did better than me. I was clean for four months. Then the monday before finals i had a panic attack and i scratched both of my wrist with my own nails as well as bite the skin on my knuckles off. The scarry thing was that the pain completely cut off my major panic attack. I have never been able to do that with medicine. After that i began to struggle again.
I'm sorry but I do not agree with reaching out to someone. For starters, they will never truly understand. They may care but that's it. I know how ignorant that sounds but I've tried this and I didn't felt better. I told my best friend once and a few days later, I became a topic for her and her other friends. I told my parents but it ended up with them yelling at me and telling me how childish I was for feeling that way. "Grow up!" That's all they ever said. After a few years and I thought about it, what they did was just sound so superior and all knowing just because they're adults and that somehow makes them experts about everything in life. What I'm saying is, although it is said in this video that reaching out to someone has been tested and confirmed, it doesn't apply to everyone. Not everyone has that kind of life where they're loved by their parents and is adored by their friends. For some people, resolving an issue is still better done alone than with the help from another person.
It's Ghello for some people reaching for someone will work I have many friends that ask for help they got it and they are improving but I suggest asking someone like a teacher you trust remember the whole world isn't agents you someone will care
I felt that. but I will have to respectfully disagree that these things are better dealt with on your own. self-harm is dangerous and can be lethal with or without the deliberate attempt to commit suicide and is the exact reason why we can't deal with it on our own. yes, it is so so so fucking hard that people will never truly understand it not unless they have gone through it themselves and believe me honey, I have been there. I was emotionally abused and even when I was suspected of self-harming I was exploited in such a way that I never wanted to get help. or even worse: I never believed that I deserved help. it can be so invalidating when someone tells us to "grow up" or to be told that we're just being "dramatic". that can really fuck you up (and I would know) but hear me out that you do deserve help- maybe not from the people that you specifically reached out to but you need a loving support system that is willing to take each step with you. unfortunately that is a luxury that not all of us have. I did not have that when I was going through it either. but now, I am building a support system and gradually unlearning the most toxic things I've acquired in my late childhood/early adolescence. is it fucking hard? you fucking bet. but we are going to make it through. I know it's so much easier said than done but I hope you do get to a point where you can get the help you deserve. I am sending every ounce of my love to you, friend
I feel you my whole family rejects my feelings even my friends we only hang out for an excuse in a way and how my parents say "its normal" just makes me feel more stupid because im going through this and knowing how many people have already gone just makes me feel like a nobody. everyone in our family is like "get a stable job get a husband and have children and youll be happy!" and i dont want kids ever l dont want a husband l want to be independant and you dont get happness from that only.....
It's Ghello this was posted 2 years ago but am just now seeing this. Here’s my Instagram steph_boulware if you don’t have Instagram here’s my snap sboulware6. Talk to me if you are still dealing with self harm I will be an online friend for you and I know what self harm is like so I can talk to you
This video came out right on time. A friend I love told me today that they can't stand the thought of me drowning myself on my missery anymore and that they understand that, if I don't want to live, why don't I just "go with it" and kill myself instead. I don't really know if he's desperate and wants me to be stronger, but it made me thought that... well maybe he's right and I'm not cut out to be alive. But it's not fair. Because every time I see somebody on the street, literally anyone, I think to myself that they deserve to be alive just as anyone else... so why wouldn't I deserve it too? I've been dealing with s/h since I'm 13 years old (I'm 23 now) and... people have told me to commit suicide at least three times in my life... I will always remember what he said today, and I couldn't figure out on how I would come back home and not try to do it... again. I've been clean for three weeks... and I was ready to do it again... but this somehow helped be rethink... thank you. I don't have the money for professional help and I don't want to bother my friends anymore because... obvious reasons...
I can tell by what you're saying here is that you're getting stronger. You may not be able to afford the help you need or have sufficient friends for the cause, but just know that thousands, if not millions, of people understand how you feel. I personally have not cut or burned or anything like that (I'm using this video to educate myself on self-harm and ways to cope with it so I can suggest it to my friends who do, indeed, self-harm), but it just hurts me inside every time I hear that they "did it again." You have my full support, and I believe that someday, you'll look back and think, "Wow, I'm glad I didn't kill myself." Also, pardon if anything of this offended you, for I still may not fully understand what people go through in these situations, and I want to understand as much as I can so I can help others such as yourself. Have a great day!
Hmm those "friends" do not seem to be the supportive type, in that case try doing something that makes you feel better or fulfilled, like learning a new language, praise yourself (Is good to hear that you value others lives), saying to yourself things like "hey handsome, ready for another day?" can help a lot. Love yourself and if you can't find something or someone you love (do not become dependant).keep looking, never give up!. :D
Gabriela Villarroel While I have thought about self harm but never acted upon it, I couldn't really truly understand how you feel. But, I do think that other people like you do deserve to live for a reason, and that if you weren't meant to live today you wouldn't have, sorry if that sounds a bit serious but I think everything happens for a reason. If your friends and family don't support you as much and you hoped, I think that the comments section can help too. I hope you feel a bit better each dat and stay clean! Me and lots of other people believe in you, even if you don't know it! Have an awesome day!
This is a great video! I hate the social stigma around self-harm and mental disorders in general. I was diagnosed with depression and GAD 10 years ago. I struggled a lot with self-harm and suicidal thoughts. I ended up in being hospitalized twice for it. The scariest but most rewarding thing I did during that time was talk to my mom. At first, she was mad. Not at me, but she was upset that I had to go through those feelings. After the initial shock, she was incredibly helpful. She sat with me when I was anxious or had panic attacks, pulled me out of my room and watched movies with me when I was depressed, and pushed me to a much healthier place. I don't think I would still be here without her ❤️
I used to self harm because of anorexia and depression and now I have scars up and down my thighs and I don't know how to get rid of them and I'm super self cautious about it
For years I had experienced unbearable stress, resulting in a thought process that had caused more harm than good to myself. Honestly, I had never caused any permanent marks or damage to my body. I had varying ways of trying to deal with my constant anxiety and depression, most of which I am sure were not very healthy. A psychologist had even, after months of seeing me at least once a week, told me that he watched me emotionally torture myself. For most of my life, I have been made to feel worthless and insignificant. Trying to find outlet was a constant hassle, my family thought my outlets were causing me problems; I wish they would have noticed how my outlets were helping me. I only more recently started to come to terms with myself and why I am the way I am. It also helps that I found a partner who had suffered from many of the same problems I have. It hurts me when she hurts and it hurts her when I'm hurt, so I try to be strong so she won't hurt from me being hurt; it makes me feel happy and the pain goes away when I see her smile.
HJ 200O It's ok to be scared, I feel like that too every time my problems that I thought I let go days ago resurface. Don't let the feeling get the better of you, you surpassed it before and you can let it go again. Think of how proud you were each did you didn't hurt yourself and keep yourself busy doing good things you like to keep feeling happy. I hope this helps, have an awesome day!:)
My biggest Problem is I DON'T KNOW, WHY I FEEL THIS WAY. I wasn't abused, I wasn't raped, I didn't Lose a loved one, my parents Support me... Nothing ever happened in my life that could cause those Feelings.
Depression, anger issues or anxiety don't have requirements, they can happen to anyone no matter how rich or loved they are, it is shit honestly but still don't blame yourself for it, odds are your brain just doesn't know how to produce more serotonin for it to be enough and the only thing we can do is move forward and try to correct it
I started feeling hopeless about school and classes, I felt they would never end and that I was in a never-ending loop, and I would start marathoning shows, movies, UA-cam, and many other things, but I ended up not being able to stop, I would use it to distract myself 24/7, I'd lose sleep and feel dull, I talked to my sister about it and she told me to find more coping methods, so I looked up a couple ways used and found meditation. So I tried it and it helped a little, I decided I would keep doing it, but would keep looking. I ended up playing bass and bass guitar, meditating, and reading articles online. A warning to anyone trying to find a coping method: never stop at one, it will become too repetitive and won't help enough, it will only result in becoming a cycle and won't get you far enough.
I’ve always had bad depression but have never resorted to this. This video is being watched by me for future references (hopefully never to be used...) and for my friend. Pray for her, she’s going through a lot. And I pray for all of you, too❤️
I had a very short period of self-harm and had it not been for an accident I would have continued for many months or maybe even years. At camp, it was getting pretty serious because I constantly thought of my friends back home. However the day I got back I realized that I had forgotten my knife, and immediately started panicking. After a little while, I had a full-on anxiety attack. I managed to calm myself down a bit, but the following 4 days were the worst days of my life, and that is no exaggerations. I was having multiple smaller panick attacks a day, and I felt extremely paranoid, depressed and suicidal, and some emotions that I don't even think have names. However after a little while, I eventually stopped panicking so much, and even though since then I haven't stopped thinking about it, I am no longer self-harming. If there is one thing I've learned, it's that self-harm is an extremely complex issue, and cannot be stopped by little things like watching TV.
When I showed up my scars to my friends they said : "Don't do it" and "You're stupid" This was all the support they gave me... I don't had any help but I got out of this by myself and I'm proud of myself. I know now I can count on myself now . ( 3 months clear )
I feel like the worst part of telling someone you self harm is just getting that look of disappointment, even if it’s just for a split second, it’s still there for almost everyone who finds out and that just puts you in a deeper hole.
I remember I told my friend I self-harmed once, and they said they also did. I comforted the best I could and I was always there for them. Sometimes when I was down I would call or ask for help on what to do, but they would always say “I don’t know” and hang up. They later admitted they never did in the first place and were doing it for attention. I shared this to say, please never fake self harm when it can just hurt others who deal with it or not.
I used to self harm. I quitted about 2 years ago (I've had some relapses but nothing major). I have been doing most of the things in these list without realising, and I can tell they definitely work. At first quitting is hard and you need a lot of self-control, but with time it gets better. I used to pull an elastic band in my arm too, it hurts and reddens the skin but doesn't actually harm you. The thing is, that the urge to cut never fully goes away. Other people seem to forget onces you are better, but you don't. And although this "urge" becomes more bearable, it is important to know how to fight it. I think this items might actually help, but not all of them will help always. Just do what feels right. Sometimes it is going for a walk and sometimes you need to scream in a pillow and some other times is to write down your feelings. Aaaaaand that's all I wanted to say. Stay safe :) PS: sorry for any mistakes, I'm not english
Self harm is something I've really struggled with. It started as a coping mechanism when I was in an especially bad emotional state, and I did tell people. My emotional state got better and the support from others helped me stop, but the urge is so strong. Instead of a coping mechanism, I began to enjoy seeing my own blood, and got annoyed when other people accidentally cut themselves, Because I wish it was me. I've self harmed alot less, but I still do it sometimes, and often have this urge. I unintentionally made myself enjoy pain, making it even more difficult to stop. I'm just not sure how to get out of this mindset...
"physical pain is used to combat the overwhelming emotions" "*adrenaline* is used to combat the overwhelming emotions" give me the nobel prize in philosophy
My mom is vehemently against letting anyone know about anything negative in my life. She says it's "dirty laundry" that should always be kept hidden and that nobody is to be trusted. Anything bad must be swept under the rug. She'll even go as far as to shame me if she finds out I've confided about my mental health issues, therapists, or medication to friends. She reminds me of it daily, too, and says "the energy you put out is the energy you get", so if I communicate that bad things are happening, that's bad energy to give to people. She says that nobody wants to hear about my issues, and to not burden them with it. So I feel like a toxic friend if I try to reach out. But I barely even have friends. My life is so lonely..
I just wanted to say thank you, I have been watching videos from this channel for a few months now and I love that you talk about these kind of topics, I have been having troubles lately because after a few years of self harm I finally decided to try and stop, this video gives me a lot of good ideas so I just wanted to say thank you for making this one and others😊
My advice as a former self harmer is: do martial arts. Even boxing is okay. Martial arts will help you clear your mind, concentrate and more. You will also have the opportunity to let feelings out, like anger, by punching or kicking the training bag. It's an amazing way to cope with self harm or any kind of metal illness.
Painting nails is a great way to meditate as it makes you concentrate on one specific repetitive action, of course your head may be filled with thoughts while doing it but it's relaxing, and even better if you get joy from peeling it off you can always do that if not from your nails then from a sandwitch bag that you covered in said nail polish.
Christina BlackFeather That's really cool! I love art and I feel the same way, especially if you're proud of it and you remind yourself you can be positively productive.
Needle felting and face painting are my favorites. When I'm carrying a dragon I made around people's responses remind me that my work touches people. And face painting little kids--if my day is bad they brighten it for me. Plus bringing people joy makes me feel like I accomplish something good. :)
Today I am one year clean. I just remembered that I watched this video a year ago and wanted to share my progress here. In the first weeks of staying clean I couldn't think about anything else. I was addicted to it and distracting honestly wouldn't have helped. I didn't talk to anyone about but this one person and he really got me out of that dark space. Tho I couldn't see him that often, he was my motivation to stop. After a month of staying clean, everything got easier. By now I had thrown away my "self harm tools" (don't wanna say it) and the urges got less strong. I did still have occasional strong ones but by now distraction did help. I found this "technic" where you put something really cold and right after something really warm on the arm and it somehow eased my urges. Well as months passed everything got easier. I don't think about it anymore at all. Believe me, things do get better ♡
I'm so glad this video exists. I've been clean for about 2 years but even now I still feel like this video is helpful. Impulse to relapse comes on occasion and I feel like a thorough list like this can help me get my mind off things. Listing healthy coping mechanisms is actually something a doctor in a psych ward/rehabilitation facility once had me do and I still have it hung up in my room. Its calming to read every now and again.
My friend and I were talking to someone who had been self harming. I was just informed. We quickly convinced her to tell the teacher. Several people were aware and didn’t say anything. It’s been hard not smacking them.
Ive been clean for about 2 months (I think) and what helped was telling myself that I will do it in one hour, and until then I would play music that helps with that type of stuff. If the time ran out and I still wanted to I would call my friend or go for a walk..
I try to stop a lot, but can't. Today I starts to get the feeling that I wanted to self harm, but I knew I couldn't and I need to stop. So I found this video and the drawing on myself/ ice sqeezing helped get me out of the mind set. THANK YOU!
I self harmed for a year, with my internet best friend telling me multiple times to get help, I never had the courage to go up to my mom and tell her. I stoped self harming around the age of 12 (around this year) and it’s been over 3-6 months :)
I only injured myself twice in my life... I was going through a very rough time in my life and unfortunately my family were the reason of it. I remember how ashamed about talking about it with my friends, so I just stayed suffering in quiet. It was like four or five years ago... While I was watching this video I noticed that back then I did a of those things, like shouting (actually I cried out loud when I was alone at home) I played with my dog and I was always focused on cleaning and studies, because that kept my mind busy. Also I made lots of letters telling my mom, dad and sisters my feeling and how much I wanted to leave... just for tearing them apart after finishing them. I also burn some letters then. Also, I remember once I grab a dark red lipstick and drew lots of lines in my left arm. After that l started to do that every single time I start getting anxious or when I had panic attacks, but with a marker, instead. Because it was easier to clean up. I've never use anything sharp to cut my skin, but paper and my own nails... The time I used the paper I made my self lot of damage. Even tho it didn't bleed too much the pain was there. The second time I peeled the skin of my left hand. I was in the middle of a panic attack, alone in home and accidentally I scratched myself noticing how easy were to rip off my skin. I made myself five marks below my knuckles... I didn't know what the hell I was thinking, those scratches left horrible scars that seems to be cigarettes burns... idk what the hell I'm writing this, but if you're reading this is because ur searching for something, isn't? Well I'll tell the reason why I'm still here: my sisters. Even tho I'm not the older one, I'm psychology stronger, I'm their support. So every single time I thought about killing myself I imagine them taking their own lives and something I just can't let happen. I love them too much to let them do that, to let them alone with all those problems that not only harm my, but them too. So... That's it. If you're looking for an advice, listen up: FIND UR REASON TO LIVE Find that thing that only u can do, even tho it seems to be something lame, boring or hard to do. Try it. DO IT. That work for me. Taking care of my sisters is my reason to live. Make them happy, not letting all that family stuff harm them, make them feel save... Give them a better world. That makes me feel right with myself and keep me away from harm myself again.
Things that have helped me when I tried staying away from self harm: - take a walk in fresh air and look at the sky - ice cold drinks help ALOT - try to get angry at stuff that happens that make u upset. -go to the gym, take ur anger out at the gym -keep urself busy
For those who can't tell anyone they're self harming: when you feel like you're about to do it write the person you want to tell a long message/letter but don't send it - it's surprisingly cathartic and you get to keep it hidden in the end. (This actually worked for me just now)
Cutting Just a cut Just a scratch “What’s that Mark?” “It was the cat” Just an excuse Just a lie “What’s with all the bracelets?” “Just a fashion,why?” Just a tear Just a scream “Why are you crying?” “Just a bad dream” But it’s not a cut Or a tear, or a lie It’s always “just one more” Until you die
I recently hit another hard time. I've been feeling kinda emotionally overwhelmed. I started trying to do shadow work and work on myself. I'm trying to grow as a person. Sometimes my emotions get too much, and I feel like hurting myself. I used to scratch myself, and I still do sometimes. I have someone to keep fighting for. He's the love of my life. I finally feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I can actually keep going. I've been feeling the need to cry recently. Every day, ice been resisting the need to cry. Please, don't give up. I still have a long way to go, but I'm not going to give up. Find one thing to keep living for. Then, grow as a person and overcome your pain and trauma to achieve that one thing. This is going to take a long time, and it's going to hurt. It's going to be hard, but you'll get there. We'll all get there one day. Please, stay strong. You watching this video shows that you want to get better, and self improvement takes strength. Please, drink at least one glass of water. Shower at least once or twice a month. Eat at least a few healthy snacks. Please, try to stay healthy. I know it's hard. It really is. I recently have been able to convince myself to brush my teeth every day. Brushing my teeth gets me out of bed. Getting out of bed gets me dressed, gets me to eat, and gets me ready to attend school. Someone does love you. I still struggle with showering when I need to. Please, try. Please keep fighting. You'll find one thing that makes life worth living. I promise. Stay safe. Try to take care of yourself. Baby steps, everyone. Blessed be.
I always dance when I'm sad. I used to suffer from major depression and occasionally self harmed, and dance was a big part of how I got over it. There's this one song by Indila called Final Dance that I always dance to when I'm sad
Please note the other reason why people self-harm: feeling powerless. As somebody who was in an abusive family situation I would have no way to express my anger in a healthy way so I would bite myself. I didn't think it was a form of self harm since I wasn't cutting myself or burning myself but I have since realized a lot of things I didn't get.
Wow. It felt like parts of this video were talking directly to me. I've never been a cutter, but I've been known to binge/ purge, bite myself, pull my hair, beat myself in the head, and write bad things on myself. I've done much better over the past 2 years, thanks to God and new finally seeking professional help, but there are days when I still struggle.
This is so helpful most likely. I'm not a self-harmer, but my friends somewhat are. I'm worried about them and I try my best to find out how to help. I often send links to videos like yours, but there isn't a way to find out if they've been watching them.
A_llama_ Draws that's kind. And helpfull. If my friend would send me a link, I would appreciate it. even if I wouldn't watch it. The fact that someone would send me a link would make me feel better, because that way I know that my friend tries to help me and is there for me, and isn't judging. :)
Thank you so much for this, I just reached my one year being clean today but my friend told me that they relapsed so I told them healthier coping mechanisms and all that stuff, this really helps when I’ll see them this monday🙂
i used to be depressed and i had a bit of a problem with self-harm and a lot of these tips sound great! if i ever relapse i will be sure to keep this video in mind thanks
Some grounding tips for touch-based people with anxiety; I suffer from generalized anxiety and, before I was sent to a therapist and gotten the help I needed, I had intense panic attacks very often, sometimes in my own house with my family only a few rooms away, unaware. I'd start to dissociate and I'd need the immediate sense awareness and the gravity of where I was and what was happening. So I'd dig my nails into my skin or scratch myself violently, and the pain would snap me out of my dissociative state and leave me to try and break from my panic. Of course, scratching is a horrible way to cope. It's not healthy, it's painful, and it could leave scars. I'm a very touch-based person, so my therapist suggested a few healthier coping methods that have worked well for me. 1, fabric: Weighted blankets are commonly used for anxiety, but for touch based people, blankets or fabric can be soothing. Rub your hand over the patterns or in between your fingers. Repeated actions can be soothing and help you feel more in control. 2, floor: This one in particular helps me a lot. Take off your shoes, socks, or anything on your feet and place them bare on the floor. Tile, wood, carpet, anything. Affect may vary depending on your touch preferences, but feeling the ground may literally make you feel more grounded. I find that cold tile helps me the most, personally. Carpet works well too. 3, breathe: Breathing excises are the most common practice. I do inhale for 8, hold for 4, exhale for 8. Your limits are based on how used to these excises you are. 4, counting: Try to count backwards from 1,000. It helps draw your attention away from your panic and counting generally is very methodical and calming. That's all I have to share, I really hope this is useful to anybody out there!
Number 20 is false for some. My mum found out that I cut my arms and legs a few times and told me to stop doing it since I just wanted attention and asked me what other reason I would want to do it for. She shut down all my reasons for sadness or reasons to try and distract myself with pain as not reasonable reasons for doing that. Family doesn't always care.
Lucky you. You can actually go to sleep. I have Tourettes so taking a nap is far out of the question... Even then, all my dreams might be nice at first, but turn into living hells and nightmares as I come to the realisation that they were only dreams, I still have no friends, and that no one loves me... Which leads me to cut. Sorry if that was sad. All my comments turn into depressing paragraphs when I want to die. I can't help it.
i have BPD and GAD and i used to slice up the side of my hips all the time where nobody could see it.. i promise you things get better,- YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE. cutting is addictive like drugs and just as bad. i wish you all luck and give you all my love💜
I might be getting a dog this year or beginning of next year and I'm so excited because I really want a friend and a support animal I can take all my problems and forget about them while cuddling with cute doggo 😭
Sadly I have a different way of preventing self harm.... I trained myself to let fear of pain take over my life, so that it is so strong it is able to override my desire to harm be of the fear of pain. I know it is unhealthy but nothing else seemed to work. I know that it is silly but it has saved my life on multiple accounts.
I am kinda close to self-harm, I have general anxiety disorder and I'm always in fear, I have panic attacks and I'm so lonely... I wish that would help 😧
Random Guy oh I am so sorry and I hope you'll be better soon. however nobody should ignore its disease no matter how unimportant it is, we are all important human beings and we don't deserve pain anyway... I wish you good luck 😌
+Random Guy Well, I mean, you really shouldn't be talking because based of your description, I have alot worse than you. It's not fair to judge someone and say "oh, well you dont have it that bad" becuase you have no idea what's doing on. They might only have a few mental health problems, but for all you know, they could be suffering abuse or getting bullied.
I tried to tell my parents that i have occasional suicidal thoughts and mild depression, but when i was younger i was always happy so they didnt believe me. Now im a sophmore, with pretty bad anxiety and a little worse depression but im kinda in denial about my issues?? A way i try to cope with stuff is by making "edgy" characters with mental issues and bad situations, and i often research stuff (what got me to this video) and im suprised by how much these disorders and signs of certain situations describe what i often feel like.
To all the people who have felt so down and consumed by the dark, thoughts to the point of cutting to punish yourself or forget the pain or whatever, I just want to tell you that you can make it. You can make it and be clean. It became almost an addictive habit for me. I'd just cut without thinking, just to feel the pain. I'd end up in a trance like state I guess but a hard talk from my parent made me realize how it's not good. Your body is the temple of God. It's hard to stop and stay clean initially but you can do it. I'm still struggling but when I think of how long I've been clean and the progress, it makes me feel better and want to stay clean longer. I'm sorry for whatever anybody may be going through and I'm proud of you and care for you even though I don't know you.
I'm 1 month clean today. I don't feel like i should take all the credit for that myself, considering I was in a hospital for most of that time, but still I feel kinda proud and wanted to share with someone :)
Hanging out with my friends is the best method for me I instantly forget my problems one I told my best friend about my addiction and she was almost crying
I actually don't find it hard to talk about my past self harm. (I still do it rarely.) The only people I actually haven't told that I still do it or when I do it is my mom.
Recently, accidentally did a little too deep and actually freaked me out. I can stop whenever I want and have stopped for long periods of time, but the fact that this is an option I can choose to take still remains
Could you guys make a video on how to deal with parents who don't care about a child's mental and emotional state? My parents are always like this and I don't know how to cope with it :(
Dear Psych2Go, I know you probably won't see this because you're busy making amazing and helpful videos, but I still wanted to show my appreciation. I struggled with depression and self-harm for a long time, and I often felt like I would never be happy again. I felt like no one I could tell would care if I told them or they'd think I just wanted attention, and I felt so, so, alone all the time. Then I watched this video. This video really helped me realize that it's okay to talk about my pain and self-harming problems. It helped me realize that I don't have to live in this pit of sadness my whole life and that I can make change if I try to. It helped me realize that I'm a human being who deserves to be happy. I use all of these techniques on a regular basis, and can say confidently that they made a world of difference in my life. I'm now almost 3 months clean, which is a new record for me! Thank you so, so much for your videos and everything you've done for me! You deserve so many more subscribers than you have, but no matter what I'll always be one of them! Thank you for being amazing! -Your fan
I saw one tip on tiktok where everytime you feel like you want to self harm, draw a butterfly on your body anywhere and name it after a loved one. If you give in and self harm, you have killed the butterfly. Might not work for everyone but it might work for some 🤷🏽♀️
This was really helpful thank you sooooooo much because I struggled a lot with self harm and this helped. I also believe that this video was relatable because I was depressed and self harmed for a long time but now I'm on the road to recovery now and this really helped 😊thank you
I cant tell my parents or friends because even my parents judge me and expects me to be someone im not.. i really need help so i searched this video.. who should i talk to now?
One of my best friends started cutting and I’ve almost completely helped her with her depression by just talking to her. She’s such a beautiful kind person I hate to see her sad
Whenever i make a mistake or feel angry i have a really strong urge to hit myself or scratch any part of my body (usually arms or neck). I want to see a therapist but my mom doesn't think i need a therapist. I can't really talk to her about it because she gets irritated really easily and i dont want her to judge me. I dont know what to do.
"No one will blame you for asking for help." My mom will.
Emeralds4lyfe I'm sorry :(
Don't let her stop you if you truly need help. There are people out there who are glad to help and to not be able to is so sad. If you're going through a tough time I wish you the best of support!
Emeralds4lyfe :(
Emeralds4lyfe same :(
Emeralds4lyfe same 😔
Yeah. Keeping quiet, its my safest option.
I've been clean for 14 days after cutting for 5 years straight.. Stay strong everyone. ❤
Isabella Wilkes how are things now?
I am 3 months clean but it’s always I’m on my mind
It’s honestly scary
I try not to think about it push it as far as I can on the back of my mind but eventually the float back up and it’s just so hard and scary
@@sa-yo-na-ra362 I keep trying it Please help me.
Atypicaly Dark. I don’t think u should take advice from me I started doing it it again a 2 days ago 😳😭😢
But if u really want to know I lay in my bed and bing watch Netflix and do nothing it kinda keeps my mind off of it for sometime until I start doing it again 😭
I know its hard to quit but try the butterfly technique. You draw a butterfly on the part that you want to harm. You name the butterfly after someone you care about. If you harm yourself while it is there are any butterflies on you then you kill them all. That is something that helped me a lot. It helped me to remember but that there are people that I care about and that care about me. I'm praying for you guys. I hope you can overcome this. Remember you are amazing.
Just a, sad reminder:
Self harm isn't always cutting, it can be things like
• Not sleeping
• Not eating/not eating a lot
It can also be non physical things, like constantly putting oneself down. Saying things like "I'm not good enough", or "people only hang out with me, because they pity me"
My point is, self harm isn't always physical, it can be emotional as well. However, most people see physical self harm being the easiest, while others think emotional is
Theobald Leonhart it can also be hitting biting pinching yourself
Theobald Leonhart That is true. Intrusive thoughts are extremely harmful to people and people don't give them enough consideration.
Also, there are different reasons for self harm: to numb emotions, control the body and mind, express feelings or needs, distract from other problems, create visible and noticeable wounds, purify oneself, reenact a trauma in order to resolve it, punishing yourself for a wrong you feel you've done or a shortcoming, denying yourself, you feel undeserving not being in pain, overcoming feelings of dissociation or not feeling real, etc.
And while some of these coping methods will combat some of these reasons, they don't help with others.
Theobald Leonhart Wow i didn't know that i was self harming by refusing to sleep and i've always hated myself since well...since i grew a brain...
Welp. You just made me realize that my problem is much worse than just the wounds. For i dont sleep more than four hours a night st the most. And i pretty much only eat dinner . .. sometimes. I also constently tell myself that no one like me and that im just a dumb fat weak girl. (I am not fat. . . I just am not as skinny as i would like to be.)
I do both, I "wrote" on my left arm "Loser" and I think about these kind of things
But how do you tell your parents and friends you self harm without being judged as a crazy person ?
Mnn Pingøuin If they really care for you they won't think you're crazy, just struggling. Tell them it's really hurting you and you need help.
I was able to tell two of my friends who used to do it. But i keep avoiding it to my other friends. Even though onw of them directly asked me if i cut.
Smoke Weed listen.. It’s not crazy. It’s just a coping mechanism. You’re not a liar, you’re simply misguided. Onision is an insensitive sociopath.
Smoke Weed onion boy speaks? Your telling me to believe what he says? We're is his proof? Lmao.
I bruise myself because of emotional pain that i have been feeling that built up for more than 10 years. I know that even my closest friends will never understand how severe my pain is. They think i am just being dramatic but if only they could see my heart, my soul , my physical body are all in pain. I can't explain how sad, lonely i feel even when im with friends that i trust.
i was doing jumping jacks, squeezing ice, and yelling at the same time. my brother walked in, looked at me with a look of confusion, then walked back into his room.
Yellow Child LMAO. I would love to have seen that in person.
Thanks, you made me laugh ^_^
Cured! Lol thanks for the laugh
😂😂😂😂
Slicing soft fruit with a sharp knife always got me. I just got more angry that I had wasted a plum by slicing it into an inedible mess. Wishing you all the love and success in the world ❤️
7 months clean. its possible
Max Barker I'm very happy for you, you can be really proud of yourself! 💗
Max Barker congratulations! I'm proud of you
cyber swag sending love! you are a sweetheart
WeirdArtist In Progress that means so much. thank you, sending love your way
Max Barker
I would like to get help but... I don't know. I'm very conflicted because I feel like I want this to go away, I've gotten so used and comfortable in this sad little hole I just don't want to get out anymore.
please trust me on this. you have to get help. you need serious professional help. i've stopped but my urges linger and i still feel as bad as i did when i started cutting. once you get help, you'll be so much happier
Arina
Same here v-v
Arina I totally understand. I'm in the same place as you. Feeling depression, being alone, and enclosing myself has become the norm. I'm almost... Afraid of a world different than this. Don't feel alone in the fight. I chose not to get help because I want to be strong when really I'm not. I'm weak and broken inside. I've tried reaching out to my friend who experienced depression in the past and you know what she did? She told me that I had serious issues and needed a professional. She was my BEST FRIEND (well, still is) and it tore me down even worse. Fast-forward to a couple months ago and my other best friend cannot understand it in the least. He brings it up and it hurts me. What did I do about it? I suffered in silence. Until last night. I told him what he did was hurting me and he understood. I learned you can't keep in the darkness forever. Either it will engulf you or a flame will appear. That flame is help. I'm not saying you have to light a fire. Last night, one person, one friend, one tiny, itty-bitty light took away a lot of pain. The people who say you need a therapist or whatever don't understand. Depression is an internal thing. I've found that friends and family help a lot more than I've expected. Even if they don't understand completely they can support you. Tell SOMEONE. Tell ANYONE. Don't keep it in silence because you can't forever. You'll feel better and hopefully you'll be able to share your story with more people and your self-harm, depression, anxiety, whatever it is you're dealing with, will lose it's hold on you. Then and only then will you be able to become a candle in other peoples darkness. Hope my passionate rambling helped someone out there. cx And to all the strangers and weebos and freaks out there who think nobody loves them; I LOVE YOU. Because you are special and there is nobody out there like you. Be the majestic friggin' unicorn you are inside. *winks* Peace out girl scouts.
Same. Except my parents found out. They haven't done much so I still continue.
Arina same
I love the serious tone because it makes it sound like you actually care, which you do.
I do care! As a future psychologist, I want to understand and help in any way I can. :)
Ashleigh Aishwarya [Music & Acting] may I ask why you wish to help people like us?
I guess it all started with my love for music. Being a musician has helped me through some stuff, and I want to use that to assist other people as well. I plan to study music therapy in the future!
Ashleigh Aishwarya [Music & Acting] cool you did the voice over for this video 😊
@@ashleighaishwarya I will pray for you to become the best psychologist in the world amen
When I was about 12, I realized I might have depression. I thought about telling my mom, but then I remembered all the times my mom yelled at my sister. My sister had/has anxiety, and instead of supporting her, my mom yelled at her about how she's making it up, it's not real, ect. My mom thought less of my sister because she had a mental disorder that, according to my mom, " Was completely made up for attention." I didn't want to be yelled at, I knew my mom wouldn't understand she was a big reason why I had depression in the first place. So, I turned to giving myself white scratches. You know they light scratches everyone gets sometimes, but they fade easily? I gave those to myself whenever I was alone. Soon my brother got tested for anxiety, he had it as well. More yelling, and soon, my mom only made dinners for me. That made me feel even worse about myself. I felt I was the base reason my siblings had to look for food at 9 pm. More self harm, this time with scissors. Soon, my brother and sister got into photography. They got happier, with fewer anxiety attacks. I felt as if I was spiraling downwards. I started to eat ice. I liked the way it made my mouth freeze and burn at the same time. I ate lots of ice. Sometimes, I would even put four ice cubes in my mouth. I stopped using scissors. Sure, I'd still scratch myself, but only a couple times a week. Ice really does help.
Fiala Noyes hi ily i hope u feel better 1 year later
I hope things have gotten better for you, I hope you are well
you should talk to your siblings about it
Thx....this may help me....i hope your better now
Fiala Noyes do u know why that all happened to your siblings and u,bcs that is child emotional abuse,your mother is making all of you feel bad and that can go rly bad u can get depression,anxiety,ptsd and more..i am going through CEA and i am self-harming and i have depression so reach out to people and tell them all that will help 💔
so i used to cut and i actually intended to commit suicide later this July, but I saw a close friend of mine self-harming as well and she was getting really bullied, I'm trying to heal myself so that I can be there for her :)
good,hopefully both of you guys are getting better
jesther 92 thats wonferful. if theres anything we can learn, its to use our suffering to help others in need. its hard, very hard. but possible. sending love your way!
You are a good person! I hope you both get better.
That is wonderful ❤️
Aww that’s really sweet but sad and the same time, hope you both get through this, just like I am ❤️
I struggled with self harm for a few years. I'm not doing it anymore though. I became addicted to it. My mom saw my fresh wounds and seeing her eyes in pain, and her asking me if her love is not enough made me stop. she also said: "if no one is there for you at school, remember that you have me when you get home."
Fluffy Poison You are lucky for have such a good mom ●_●
Likuria, Mydlinex & Myszsasanka she was. unfortunately, our family lost her in 2011. she passed away sleeping.
Fluffy Poison Oh, I'm sorry... Looks like God always need good people to be *there* , with him [*]
my heart... i'm so sorry for your loss
That is so sweet, I hope you can heal your pain once and for all without injuring yourself ❤️
Having a support system is the hardest thing .. because friends get bored and mad at you with time
And you don't want to make your family sad with your complaints and problems
Sara Taher I will listen
My therapist told me that all my bad feelings and thoughts that I don't show up transform in a necessity of hurting someone, punching, kicking, shouting and other horrible aggressions.
I don't do those things to others, I do them with me. I prefer hurting me than hurting others, so I really appreciate this video, thanks!! And I hope that this could help everyone.
Take care!!
Fer Ramirez I prefer hurting myself instead of others too and I'm trying to work through it my self harm is more punching and pinching and biting and leaving marks and bruises. It went away for a while and then came back
Falling in my chemical TARDIS with the spn phandom That's really awful, I really hope that you can stop that for ever.
Remember, if you want to see the rainbow, you need to see the storm ❤️
Fer Ramirez thanks 💓
Yup, happens with me too. But remember, it's because U have a big heart which can't hate anyone else that's why it happens
I have anxiety and I harmed myself a few minutes before watching this video and I am thankful for watching this!I'll start my journal with an entry about this video and go from there by focussing on my thoughts and feelingsThanks, Psych2Go :)
That's a great start, please continue to stay focused.
Skarlet Ray hows it going?
Not very good. My parents took my journal and things have gone crazy.
I made a new journal recently so I hope it'll fix things
Skarlet Ray Update if it doesn't bother you? :) Stay strong
Skarlet Ray
Same,it's bleeding
Thank you for bringing this to light I struggle with this daily and I get bullied by my mother for it constantly. I'm glad to know someone understand.
Anime_Queen21 man let me tell you something family isn't physical it's spiritual and maybe you should i don't know get a job and get out of the house or if you wanna step the boundary curb stop her or if you wanna be reasonable just denounce her like she would you
according to feminists Men are the only bullies/rapists.
Dah Python well, are you a feminist? Cause I know damn well that women can bully, and that men can be raped, the same as women.
I do too but many wouldn't consider it bullying what my mom does. It makes me feel emotionally bullied by what she says but its not directly an insult
Garret Woeller wow a log of people actually responded to what I said.. hmm that's interesting but as for that I don't live with my mother but she goes out of her way to call just to say hurtful things and she even said she doesn't think of me as a daughter which is why I plan to leave to college soon. I'm 17.
video about dealing with a self harming friend?
bear boi please
Maybe try sending them this video :) (as a start)
Support them as best you can. And NEVER EVER make them feel bad for injuring them self. That will literally make five times worse.
I cover an array of topics at my channel on how to deal with shity people, how to compose and handle yourself and your thoughts with confidence, and so on. head to my channel if that sounds beneficial to you..!
make them feel loved, never like some strange person who is different from the rest
At first, when depressed, I used to simply lie in bed and wait till the feelings came out, then once, I took sharp scissors and cut myself two or three times, it helped me more, than just waiting till all the feelings are gone, so I started doing it, I was hiding the wounds from others, because nobody of them really cares, when they saw them, they didn't even think I did it, they thought something scratched me, when asked about what happened to my arm, I said It's ok, because I knew, nobody would help me and if they would try, it would be the "look at those who have worse life, than you." They don't understand, this phrase does not work, it's not as simple as telling myself "from today, I will no longer be depressed." Don't you think, that if it was so simple, I wouldn't have done it a long time before? I don't think I will ever be ok and I don't think anyone will come to help me, because who do I matter to? Not even to my fucking family. Who would care, if I died. Right, nobody.
Hahaha, same.
I actually don't know how to comfort you to make you feel better. I just wanna try by saying, "Tomorrow is another day. I hope you'll find whatever that brings genuine happiness to you. I'll include you in my prayers."
Rohnek Kdosi you deserve to have your feelings validated, I'm sorry those round you don't have the compassion for that. It's not your fault they can give you the love you deserve ❤️
I know this may be late but I do have the same thoughts (that no one would care and so) but you should really understand that you do matter. sometimes people don't notice not because they don't care but because of other reasons like having troubles, not that yours doesn't matter to them. Try telling a trusted friend or family member, you might be surprised at how much they care. if you really don't want to talk with them go to a therapist or a counsellor, not for anyone's sake but for yours (even if you want to do it secretly).
believe it or not you matter. even if you may not see it, even if you may not think so. you deserve all the love and support and help you can get because I know this shit is absolute hell. and I know how invalidating it feels to have someone tell you that "someone else's life is worse". that's just bullshit. we cannot go around comparing who has it worse because every one of our struggles is valid. you are valid just as anyone else. I hope you get to a point where you allow yourself to get help. I am sending you all the love in the universe, friend
When I used to cut myself and one day my family say my scars on my arm, instead of saying "Are you fine?" or something like that, they said "Why do you do that? Do you seek attention from everyone? Do you think you look cool with that?". I am still remembering this and each time I do, I wonder if I deserved to be born. And It's still a very small part of everything else.
I was in pain, and you did not comfort me!!
I was lonely, and you did not come to me!!
I was afraid, and you would not hold me!!
I was weak, and you did not strengthen me!!
I was down, and you would not raise me!!
My Dearest Beloved,
I've been waiting for you to trust Me.
I've been waiting for you to run to Me.
I've bee waiting for you to surrender to Me.
Your time has come.
-Jesus
As A metal singer and have depression and anxiety, screaming long high notes actually help for me to release stress xDDD
My friend went one month clean. Like it up for her💖😔 so proud of her.
Self-Care techniques:
1. Screaming (into a pillow or when no one's around.) Release your anger or other feelings.
2. Exercising. Releases chemicals in the brain that makes individuals happier. Jumping jacks, running, even brisk walks. Closely observe the sensations of the wind blowing around you and your feet on the ground and your environment.
3. Squeezing ice. Similar feeling to the shock of pain. Relieves feelings of wanting to self harm.
4. Draw on body parts with red ink or stickers on where you want to self harm.
5. Play loud music and have a dance party. Drown out the pain and release your stress.
6. Cutting or ripping apart paper or cloth.
7. Punch a pillow or punching bag
8. Throw a pillow against the floor or an empty wall
9. Cleaning rooms like bathroom or bedroom or kitchen
10. Stomping around in heavy shoes or jump around in them
11. If you have a pet, pet them and care.
12. Have a cold bath
13. Watching favorite movie or TV show.
14. Meditation
15. Writing out feelings. Keep a journal, write on yourself, ask yourself questions.
16. Hobbies
17. List the many uses of a specific object.
18. Take photos
19. Get involved in the community
20. Reach out to their friends or family.
I can't believe you mentioned borderline personality disorder. Thank you, it means a lot to hear it included along side of other mental illnesses. Most people I know believe it isn't an actual illness and no one around me takes it seriously.
Bruh, people actual think BPD isn't a disorder? I thought people were too dumb to go that far, but I underestimate the stupidity of some human beings, I hope they recover from being ignorant, also, if you ever need to talk to me, my Insta in @dlsgusting_rat
have a nice day/night, whatever time it is for you!
> loud music and dance party
aaaaand now the whole neighborhood hates me.
bruh bosnia
Ikr
me when i chose screaming 😭
Except #20 is exactly why I ever started to self harm inn the first place. My parents made it clear that it was not okay to show anger or sadness, or talk about traumatizing abuses. Working on that Deprogramming for a while now. Had to go no contact.
AuroraAquarius I'm sorry about that :(
It's always ok to show anger and sadness if something is bothering you, and it's always ok to vent and tell other people what's on your mind to get it out of your system and clear your head. I hope you can feel better and get to be yourself :)
That's the thing about emotions, they demand to be felt.
For a long time, I battled with the urge to self harm. I disposed of all sharp items in my room and drew on myself when I did, so that the next day I'd remember that I resisted it and feel proud of myself. Unfortunately, one day that I felt particularly anxious, I scratched myself until I bled. Can't say I didn't try...
You did better than me. I was clean for four months. Then the monday before finals i had a panic attack and i scratched both of my wrist with my own nails as well as bite the skin on my knuckles off. The scarry thing was that the pain completely cut off my major panic attack. I have never been able to do that with medicine. After that i began to struggle again.
"In a place where no one can hear it"
Space....
Or heaven
I'm sorry but I do not agree with reaching out to someone. For starters, they will never truly understand. They may care but that's it. I know how ignorant that sounds but I've tried this and I didn't felt better. I told my best friend once and a few days later, I became a topic for her and her other friends. I told my parents but it ended up with them yelling at me and telling me how childish I was for feeling that way. "Grow up!" That's all they ever said. After a few years and I thought about it, what they did was just sound so superior and all knowing just because they're adults and that somehow makes them experts about everything in life.
What I'm saying is, although it is said in this video that reaching out to someone has been tested and confirmed, it doesn't apply to everyone. Not everyone has that kind of life where they're loved by their parents and is adored by their friends. For some people, resolving an issue is still better done alone than with the help from another person.
It's Ghello for some people reaching for someone will work I have many friends that ask for help they got it and they are improving but I suggest asking someone like a teacher you trust remember the whole world isn't agents you someone will care
I felt that. but I will have to respectfully disagree that these things are better dealt with on your own. self-harm is dangerous and can be lethal with or without the deliberate attempt to commit suicide and is the exact reason why we can't deal with it on our own. yes, it is so so so fucking hard that people will never truly understand it not unless they have gone through it themselves and believe me honey, I have been there. I was emotionally abused and even when I was suspected of self-harming I was exploited in such a way that I never wanted to get help. or even worse: I never believed that I deserved help.
it can be so invalidating when someone tells us to "grow up" or to be told that we're just being "dramatic". that can really fuck you up (and I would know) but hear me out that you do deserve help- maybe not from the people that you specifically reached out to but you need a loving support system that is willing to take each step with you. unfortunately that is a luxury that not all of us have. I did not have that when I was going through it either. but now, I am building a support system and gradually unlearning the most toxic things I've acquired in my late childhood/early adolescence. is it fucking hard? you fucking bet. but we are going to make it through. I know it's so much easier said than done but I hope you do get to a point where you can get the help you deserve.
I am sending every ounce of my love to you, friend
I feel you my whole family rejects my feelings even my friends we only hang out for an excuse in a way and how my parents say "its normal" just makes me feel more stupid because im going through this and knowing how many people have already gone just makes me feel like a nobody. everyone in our family is like "get a stable job get a husband and have children and youll be happy!" and i dont want kids ever l dont want a husband l want to be independant and you dont get happness from that only.....
It's Ghello this was posted 2 years ago but am just now seeing this. Here’s my Instagram steph_boulware if you don’t have Instagram here’s my snap sboulware6. Talk to me if you are still dealing with self harm I will be an online friend for you and I know what self harm is like so I can talk to you
My friend came to me saying she self harmed again and I didn't know what to do :( I want to help but just don't know how
This video came out right on time. A friend I love told me today that they can't stand the thought of me drowning myself on my missery anymore and that they understand that, if I don't want to live, why don't I just "go with it" and kill myself instead. I don't really know if he's desperate and wants me to be stronger, but it made me thought that... well maybe he's right and I'm not cut out to be alive.
But it's not fair. Because every time I see somebody on the street, literally anyone, I think to myself that they deserve to be alive just as anyone else... so why wouldn't I deserve it too?
I've been dealing with s/h since I'm 13 years old (I'm 23 now) and... people have told me to commit suicide at least three times in my life... I will always remember what he said today, and I couldn't figure out on how I would come back home and not try to do it... again. I've been clean for three weeks... and I was ready to do it again... but this somehow helped be rethink... thank you. I don't have the money for professional help and I don't want to bother my friends anymore because... obvious reasons...
I can tell by what you're saying here is that you're getting stronger. You may not be able to afford the help you need or have sufficient friends for the cause, but just know that thousands, if not millions, of people understand how you feel. I personally have not cut or burned or anything like that (I'm using this video to educate myself on self-harm and ways to cope with it so I can suggest it to my friends who do, indeed, self-harm), but it just hurts me inside every time I hear that they "did it again." You have my full support, and I believe that someday, you'll look back and think, "Wow, I'm glad I didn't kill myself." Also, pardon if anything of this offended you, for I still may not fully understand what people go through in these situations, and I want to understand as much as I can so I can help others such as yourself. Have a great day!
Hmm those "friends" do not seem to be the supportive type, in that case try doing something that makes you feel better or fulfilled, like learning a new language, praise yourself (Is good to hear that you value others lives), saying to yourself things like "hey handsome, ready for another day?" can help a lot. Love yourself and if you can't find something or someone you love (do not become dependant).keep looking, never give up!. :D
Gabriela Villarroel While I have thought about self harm but never acted upon it, I couldn't really truly understand how you feel. But, I do think that other people like you do deserve to live for a reason, and that if you weren't meant to live today you wouldn't have, sorry if that sounds a bit serious but I think everything happens for a reason. If your friends and family don't support you as much and you hoped, I think that the comments section can help too. I hope you feel a bit better each dat and stay clean! Me and lots of other people believe in you, even if you don't know it! Have an awesome day!
Fuck what your friend said. You deserve to live. Please don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Keep your head up. No offense, but your friend sounds like an ignorant little shit. No one deserves people like that in their life. Please, stay alive
This is a great video! I hate the social stigma around self-harm and mental disorders in general. I was diagnosed with depression and GAD 10 years ago. I struggled a lot with self-harm and suicidal thoughts. I ended up in being hospitalized twice for it. The scariest but most rewarding thing I did during that time was talk to my mom. At first, she was mad. Not at me, but she was upset that I had to go through those feelings. After the initial shock, she was incredibly helpful. She sat with me when I was anxious or had panic attacks, pulled me out of my room and watched movies with me when I was depressed, and pushed me to a much healthier place. I don't think I would still be here without her ❤️
I used to self harm because of anorexia and depression and now I have scars up and down my thighs and I don't know how to get rid of them and I'm super self cautious about it
Xx_Motionless_In _Black_xX try cocoa butter, it won't get rid of the scars completely but it will help them fade out
MusicColorStar thank you
There are a lot of scar removing creams on amazon, for mine I just used pimple scar removers, I hope you find that useful.
Xx_Motionless_In _Black_xX lotion
Xx_Motionless_In _Black_xX try Vitamin E oil it helped mine fade a lot
For years I had experienced unbearable stress, resulting in a thought process that had caused more harm than good to myself.
Honestly, I had never caused any permanent marks or damage to my body. I had varying ways of trying to deal with my constant anxiety and depression, most of which I am sure were not very healthy. A psychologist had even, after months of seeing me at least once a week, told me that he watched me emotionally torture myself.
For most of my life, I have been made to feel worthless and insignificant. Trying to find outlet was a constant hassle, my family thought my outlets were causing me problems; I wish they would have noticed how my outlets were helping me.
I only more recently started to come to terms with myself and why I am the way I am. It also helps that I found a partner who had suffered from many of the same problems I have. It hurts me when she hurts and it hurts her when I'm hurt, so I try to be strong so she won't hurt from me being hurt; it makes me feel happy and the pain goes away when I see her smile.
1 year and 3,5 months clean. It gets better
It's been 2 weeks since the last time I self harmed, and I'm proud of myself. But I'm also scared that I might relapse again...
HJ 200O It's ok to be scared, I feel like that too every time my problems that I thought I let go days ago resurface. Don't let the feeling get the better of you, you surpassed it before and you can let it go again. Think of how proud you were each did you didn't hurt yourself and keep yourself busy doing good things you like to keep feeling happy. I hope this helps, have an awesome day!:)
Same
My biggest Problem is I DON'T KNOW, WHY I FEEL THIS WAY. I wasn't abused, I wasn't raped, I didn't Lose a loved one, my parents Support me... Nothing ever happened in my life that could cause those Feelings.
Depression, anger issues or anxiety don't have requirements, they can happen to anyone no matter how rich or loved they are, it is shit honestly but still don't blame yourself for it, odds are your brain just doesn't know how to produce more serotonin for it to be enough and the only thing we can do is move forward and try to correct it
Emotional neglect maybe,? Sometimes we feel like that because of what we didn't receive.
I usually like to draw flowers up my arms till they look like sleeves.
Lance McLain Try looking up "The Butterfly Project". :)
I started feeling hopeless about school and classes, I felt they would never end and that I was in a never-ending loop, and I would start marathoning shows, movies, UA-cam, and many other things, but I ended up not being able to stop, I would use it to distract myself 24/7, I'd lose sleep and feel dull, I talked to my sister about it and she told me to find more coping methods, so I looked up a couple ways used and found meditation. So I tried it and it helped a little, I decided I would keep doing it, but would keep looking. I ended up playing bass and bass guitar, meditating, and reading articles online. A warning to anyone trying to find a coping method: never stop at one, it will become too repetitive and won't help enough, it will only result in becoming a cycle and won't get you far enough.
I’ve always had bad depression but have never resorted to this. This video is being watched by me for future references (hopefully never to be used...) and for my friend. Pray for her, she’s going through a lot. And I pray for all of you, too❤️
I had a very short period of self-harm and had it not been for an accident I would have continued for many months or maybe even years. At camp, it was getting pretty serious because I constantly thought of my friends back home. However the day I got back I realized that I had forgotten my knife, and immediately started panicking. After a little while, I had a full-on anxiety attack. I managed to calm myself down a bit, but the following 4 days were the worst days of my life, and that is no exaggerations. I was having multiple smaller panick attacks a day, and I felt extremely paranoid, depressed and suicidal, and some emotions that I don't even think have names. However after a little while, I eventually stopped panicking so much, and even though since then I haven't stopped thinking about it, I am no longer self-harming. If there is one thing I've learned, it's that self-harm is an extremely complex issue, and cannot be stopped by little things like watching TV.
When I showed up my scars to my friends they said : "Don't do it" and "You're stupid" This was all the support they gave me... I don't had any help but I got out of this by myself and I'm proud of myself. I know now I can count on myself now . ( 3 months clear )
I feel like the worst part of telling someone you self harm is just getting that look of disappointment, even if it’s just for a split second, it’s still there for almost everyone who finds out and that just puts you in a deeper hole.
I remember I told my friend I self-harmed once, and they said they also did. I comforted the best I could and I was always there for them. Sometimes when I was down I would call or ask for help on what to do, but they would always say “I don’t know” and hang up. They later admitted they never did in the first place and were doing it for attention. I shared this to say, please never fake self harm when it can just hurt others who deal with it or not.
I used to self harm. I quitted about 2 years ago (I've had some relapses but nothing major). I have been doing most of the things in these list without realising, and I can tell they definitely work. At first quitting is hard and you need a lot of self-control, but with time it gets better. I used to pull an elastic band in my arm too, it hurts and reddens the skin but doesn't actually harm you. The thing is, that the urge to cut never fully goes away. Other people seem to forget onces you are better, but you don't. And although this "urge" becomes more bearable, it is important to know how to fight it. I think this items might actually help, but not all of them will help always. Just do what feels right. Sometimes it is going for a walk and sometimes you need to scream in a pillow and some other times is to write down your feelings. Aaaaaand that's all I wanted to say. Stay safe :)
PS: sorry for any mistakes, I'm not english
Self harm is something I've really struggled with. It started as a coping mechanism when I was in an especially bad emotional state, and I did tell people. My emotional state got better and the support from others helped me stop, but the urge is so strong. Instead of a coping mechanism, I began to enjoy seeing my own blood, and got annoyed when other people accidentally cut themselves, Because I wish it was me. I've self harmed alot less, but I still do it sometimes, and often have this urge. I unintentionally made myself enjoy pain, making it even more difficult to stop. I'm just not sure how to get out of this mindset...
"physical pain is used to combat the overwhelming emotions"
"*adrenaline* is used to combat the overwhelming emotions"
give me the nobel prize in philosophy
My mom is vehemently against letting anyone know about anything negative in my life. She says it's "dirty laundry" that should always be kept hidden and that nobody is to be trusted. Anything bad must be swept under the rug. She'll even go as far as to shame me if she finds out I've confided about my mental health issues, therapists, or medication to friends. She reminds me of it daily, too, and says "the energy you put out is the energy you get", so if I communicate that bad things are happening, that's bad energy to give to people. She says that nobody wants to hear about my issues, and to not burden them with it. So I feel like a toxic friend if I try to reach out. But I barely even have friends. My life is so lonely..
Hey there! How are you??
I just wanted to say thank you, I have been watching videos from this channel for a few months now and I love that you talk about these kind of topics, I have been having troubles lately because after a few years of self harm I finally decided to try and stop, this video gives me a lot of good ideas so I just wanted to say thank you for making this one and others😊
You're very strong for deciding to stop. I fully support you and I believe you won't regret giving it up!
UnlimitedCrazy thank you so much!
The Clique I'll definitely check them out! thank you
@nikol is here
We're glad we could help, girlfriend. Stay strong! :)
My advice as a former self harmer is: do martial arts. Even boxing is okay. Martial arts will help you clear your mind, concentrate and more. You will also have the opportunity to let feelings out, like anger, by punching or kicking the training bag. It's an amazing way to cope with self harm or any kind of metal illness.
I tell myself that not self-harming is something that would hurt me more than physically hurting myself. every once in a while that argument works
This channel is so super supportive.
Painting nails is a great way to meditate as it makes you concentrate on one specific repetitive action, of course your head may be filled with thoughts while doing it but it's relaxing, and even better if you get joy from peeling it off you can always do that if not from your nails then from a sandwitch bag that you covered in said nail polish.
Sewing, beadwork, painting, and leatherwork keep me from doing any wounding.
Christina BlackFeather That's really cool! I love art and I feel the same way, especially if you're proud of it and you remind yourself you can be positively productive.
I would just end up puncturing myself with the needle or beating myself with the painbrush.
Needle felting and face painting are my favorites. When I'm carrying a dragon I made around people's responses remind me that my work touches people.
And face painting little kids--if my day is bad they brighten it for me. Plus bringing people joy makes me feel like I accomplish something good. :)
Christina BlackFeather aww that's so true little kids and animals usually make things happier :)
Wow, I can't see without accidentally butchering my fingers
I’ve feel so sad and drained and empty. I’ve gotten so used to this feeling It doesn’t even matter weather it goes away anymore.
Has anyone else noticed how she butchers the word "Existential" at 1:53?
Rhyyman yeah I noticed but it doesn't change the video's importance
No, it absolutely doesn't. Just something I noticed and felt like pointing out.
Hey man, it's a difficult word to pronounce, especially if you have a learning disability or speech impediment like me
Exattrancial
Today I am one year clean. I just remembered that I watched this video a year ago and wanted to share my progress here.
In the first weeks of staying clean I couldn't think about anything else. I was addicted to it and distracting honestly wouldn't have helped. I didn't talk to anyone about but this one person and he really got me out of that dark space. Tho I couldn't see him that often, he was my motivation to stop. After a month of staying clean, everything got easier. By now I had thrown away my "self harm tools" (don't wanna say it) and the urges got less strong. I did still have occasional strong ones but by now distraction did help. I found this "technic" where you put something really cold and right after something really warm on the arm and it somehow eased my urges. Well as months passed everything got easier. I don't think about it anymore at all.
Believe me, things do get better ♡
I'm so glad this video exists. I've been clean for about 2 years but even now I still feel like this video is helpful. Impulse to relapse comes on occasion and I feel like a thorough list like this can help me get my mind off things. Listing healthy coping mechanisms is actually something a doctor in a psych ward/rehabilitation facility once had me do and I still have it hung up in my room. Its calming to read every now and again.
My friend and I were talking to someone who had been self harming. I was just informed. We quickly convinced her to tell the teacher. Several people were aware and didn’t say anything. It’s been hard not smacking them.
Ive been clean for about 2 months (I think) and what helped was telling myself that I will do it in one hour, and until then I would play music that helps with that type of stuff. If the time ran out and I still wanted to I would call my friend or go for a walk..
I try to stop a lot, but can't. Today I starts to get the feeling that I wanted to self harm, but I knew I couldn't and I need to stop. So I found this video and the drawing on myself/ ice sqeezing helped get me out of the mind set.
THANK YOU!
I self harmed for a year, with my internet best friend telling me multiple times to get help, I never had the courage to go up to my mom and tell her. I stoped self harming around the age of 12 (around this year) and it’s been over 3-6 months :)
I only injured myself twice in my life... I was going through a very rough time in my life and unfortunately my family were the reason of it.
I remember how ashamed about talking about it with my friends, so I just stayed suffering in quiet.
It was like four or five years ago...
While I was watching this video I noticed that back then I did a of those things, like shouting (actually I cried out loud when I was alone at home) I played with my dog and I was always focused on cleaning and studies, because that kept my mind busy. Also I made lots of letters telling my mom, dad and sisters my feeling and how much I wanted to leave... just for tearing them apart after finishing them. I also burn some letters then.
Also, I remember once I grab a dark red lipstick and drew lots of lines in my left arm. After that l started to do that every single time I start getting anxious or when I had panic attacks, but with a marker, instead. Because it was easier to clean up.
I've never use anything sharp to cut my skin, but paper and my own nails...
The time I used the paper I made my self lot of damage. Even tho it didn't bleed too much the pain was there.
The second time I peeled the skin of my left hand. I was in the middle of a panic attack, alone in home and accidentally I scratched myself noticing how easy were to rip off my skin. I made myself five marks below my knuckles... I didn't know what the hell I was thinking, those scratches left horrible scars that seems to be cigarettes burns...
idk what the hell I'm writing this, but if you're reading this is because ur searching for something, isn't?
Well I'll tell the reason why I'm still here: my sisters.
Even tho I'm not the older one, I'm psychology stronger, I'm their support. So every single time I thought about killing myself I imagine them taking their own lives and something I just can't let happen. I love them too much to let them do that, to let them alone with all those problems that not only harm my, but them too.
So...
That's it.
If you're looking for an advice, listen up:
FIND UR REASON TO LIVE
Find that thing that only u can do, even tho it seems to be something lame, boring or hard to do. Try it.
DO IT.
That work for me.
Taking care of my sisters is my reason to live. Make them happy, not letting all that family stuff harm them, make them feel save... Give them a better world.
That makes me feel right with myself and keep me away from harm myself again.
Things that have helped me when I tried staying away from self harm:
- take a walk in fresh air and look at the sky
- ice cold drinks help ALOT
- try to get angry at stuff that happens that make u upset.
-go to the gym, take ur anger out at the gym
-keep urself busy
For those who can't tell anyone they're self harming: when you feel like you're about to do it write the person you want to tell a long message/letter but don't send it - it's surprisingly cathartic and you get to keep it hidden in the end. (This actually worked for me just now)
Cutting
Just a cut
Just a scratch
“What’s that Mark?”
“It was the cat”
Just an excuse
Just a lie
“What’s with all the bracelets?”
“Just a fashion,why?”
Just a tear
Just a scream
“Why are you crying?”
“Just a bad dream”
But it’s not a cut
Or a tear, or a lie
It’s always “just one more”
Until you die
I recently hit another hard time. I've been feeling kinda emotionally overwhelmed. I started trying to do shadow work and work on myself. I'm trying to grow as a person. Sometimes my emotions get too much, and I feel like hurting myself. I used to scratch myself, and I still do sometimes. I have someone to keep fighting for. He's the love of my life. I finally feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I can actually keep going. I've been feeling the need to cry recently. Every day, ice been resisting the need to cry. Please, don't give up. I still have a long way to go, but I'm not going to give up. Find one thing to keep living for. Then, grow as a person and overcome your pain and trauma to achieve that one thing. This is going to take a long time, and it's going to hurt. It's going to be hard, but you'll get there. We'll all get there one day. Please, stay strong. You watching this video shows that you want to get better, and self improvement takes strength. Please, drink at least one glass of water. Shower at least once or twice a month. Eat at least a few healthy snacks. Please, try to stay healthy. I know it's hard. It really is. I recently have been able to convince myself to brush my teeth every day. Brushing my teeth gets me out of bed. Getting out of bed gets me dressed, gets me to eat, and gets me ready to attend school. Someone does love you. I still struggle with showering when I need to. Please, try. Please keep fighting. You'll find one thing that makes life worth living. I promise. Stay safe. Try to take care of yourself. Baby steps, everyone. Blessed be.
I always dance when I'm sad. I used to suffer from major depression and occasionally self harmed, and dance was a big part of how I got over it. There's this one song by Indila called Final Dance that I always dance to when I'm sad
Please note the other reason why people self-harm: feeling powerless. As somebody who was in an abusive family situation I would have no way to express my anger in a healthy way so I would bite myself. I didn't think it was a form of self harm since I wasn't cutting myself or burning myself but I have since realized a lot of things I didn't get.
4:30
"if you have a pet-"
*stomp on that too*
Wow. It felt like parts of this video were talking directly to me. I've never been a cutter, but I've been known to binge/ purge, bite myself, pull my hair, beat myself in the head, and write bad things on myself. I've done much better over the past 2 years, thanks to God and new finally seeking professional help, but there are days when I still struggle.
This is so helpful most likely. I'm not a self-harmer, but my friends somewhat are. I'm worried about them and I try my best to find out how to help. I often send links to videos like yours, but there isn't a way to find out if they've been watching them.
A_llama_ Draws that's kind. And helpfull. If my friend would send me a link, I would appreciate it. even if I wouldn't watch it.
The fact that someone would send me a link would make me feel better, because that way I know that my friend tries to help me and is there for me, and isn't judging. :)
Thank you so much for this, I just reached my one year being clean today but my friend told me that they relapsed so I told them healthier coping mechanisms and all that stuff, this really helps when I’ll see them this monday🙂
i used to be depressed and i had a bit of a problem with self-harm and a lot of these tips sound great! if i ever relapse i will be sure to keep this video in mind thanks
Some grounding tips for touch-based people with anxiety; I suffer from generalized anxiety and, before I was sent to a therapist and gotten the help I needed, I had intense panic attacks very often, sometimes in my own house with my family only a few rooms away, unaware. I'd start to dissociate and I'd need the immediate sense awareness and the gravity of where I was and what was happening. So I'd dig my nails into my skin or scratch myself violently, and the pain would snap me out of my dissociative state and leave me to try and break from my panic. Of course, scratching is a horrible way to cope. It's not healthy, it's painful, and it could leave scars. I'm a very touch-based person, so my therapist suggested a few healthier coping methods that have worked well for me.
1, fabric:
Weighted blankets are commonly used for anxiety, but for touch based people, blankets or fabric can be soothing. Rub your hand over the patterns or in between your fingers. Repeated actions can be soothing and help you feel more in control.
2, floor:
This one in particular helps me a lot. Take off your shoes, socks, or anything on your feet and place them bare on the floor. Tile, wood, carpet, anything. Affect may vary depending on your touch preferences, but feeling the ground may literally make you feel more grounded. I find that cold tile helps me the most, personally. Carpet works well too.
3, breathe:
Breathing excises are the most common practice. I do inhale for 8, hold for 4, exhale for 8. Your limits are based on how used to these excises you are.
4, counting:
Try to count backwards from 1,000. It helps draw your attention away from your panic and counting generally is very methodical and calming.
That's all I have to share, I really hope this is useful to anybody out there!
Number 20 is false for some. My mum found out that I cut my arms and legs a few times and told me to stop doing it since I just wanted attention and asked me what other reason I would want to do it for. She shut down all my reasons for sadness or reasons to try and distract myself with pain as not reasonable reasons for doing that.
Family doesn't always care.
04:10 I can't believe I did exactly the opposite. Loud yes, meaningful lyrics? Absolutely! And lots of tears
When I feel tempted to self harm I just take a short nap.
Steak The HOOMAN dreams are the best ways for me to cope with what I'm going through...well used to be ...
Lucky you. You can actually go to sleep. I have Tourettes so taking a nap is far out of the question... Even then, all my dreams might be nice at first, but turn into living hells and nightmares as I come to the realisation that they were only dreams, I still have no friends, and that no one loves me... Which leads me to cut.
Sorry if that was sad. All my comments turn into depressing paragraphs when I want to die. I can't help it.
ah yes, the depression nap. a classic
I just cry
i have BPD and GAD and i used to slice up the side of my hips all the time where nobody could see it.. i promise you things get better,- YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE. cutting is addictive like drugs and just as bad. i wish you all luck and give you all my love💜
Thank you for this people do need to see if they need help and see what we can do to resolve it
Thank you for watching and putting your message out there!
I might be getting a dog this year or beginning of next year and I'm so excited because I really want a friend and a support animal I can take all my problems and forget about them while cuddling with cute doggo 😭
the fact that number 13 is about Netflix
*13 Reasons Why*
Gotta love irony...
Farah Samir hahahah
Sadly I have a different way of preventing self harm.... I trained myself to let fear of pain take over my life, so that it is so strong it is able to override my desire to harm be of the fear of pain. I know it is unhealthy but nothing else seemed to work. I know that it is silly but it has saved my life on multiple accounts.
I am kinda close to self-harm, I have general anxiety disorder and I'm always in fear, I have panic attacks and I'm so lonely... I wish that would help 😧
Random Guy oh I am so sorry and I hope you'll be better soon. however nobody should ignore its disease no matter how unimportant it is, we are all important human beings and we don't deserve pain anyway...
I wish you good luck 😌
+Random Guy Well, I mean, you really shouldn't be talking because based of your description, I have alot worse than you. It's not fair to judge someone and say "oh, well you dont have it that bad" becuase you have no idea what's doing on. They might only have a few mental health problems, but for all you know, they could be suffering abuse or getting bullied.
I tried to tell my parents that i have occasional suicidal thoughts and mild depression, but when i was younger i was always happy so they didnt believe me. Now im a sophmore, with pretty bad anxiety and a little worse depression but im kinda in denial about my issues?? A way i try to cope with stuff is by making "edgy" characters with mental issues and bad situations, and i often research stuff (what got me to this video) and im suprised by how much these disorders and signs of certain situations describe what i often feel like.
Will you make more videos for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?
Will work on that!
To all the people who have felt so down and consumed by the dark, thoughts to the point of cutting to punish yourself or forget the pain or whatever, I just want to tell you that you can make it. You can make it and be clean. It became almost an addictive habit for me. I'd just cut without thinking, just to feel the pain. I'd end up in a trance like state I guess but a hard talk from my parent made me realize how it's not good. Your body is the temple of God.
It's hard to stop and stay clean initially but you can do it. I'm still struggling but when I think of how long I've been clean and the progress, it makes me feel better and want to stay clean longer.
I'm sorry for whatever anybody may be going through and I'm proud of you and care for you even though I don't know you.
I'm 1 month clean today. I don't feel like i should take all the credit for that myself, considering I was in a hospital for most of that time, but still I feel kinda proud and wanted to share with someone :)
dragonymash That's so awesome! I hope you're recovery is smooth and congratulations:)
Hanging out with my friends is the best method for me I instantly forget my problems one I told my best friend about my addiction and she was almost crying
I actually don't find it hard to talk about my past self harm. (I still do it rarely.) The only people I actually haven't told that I still do it or when I do it is my mom.
I find that going outside and just relaxing helps me bit it also helps one of my friends who have to deal with stuff like this
This belongs on trending
Recently, accidentally did a little too deep and actually freaked me out. I can stop whenever I want and have stopped for long periods of time, but the fact that this is an option I can choose to take still remains
Could you guys make a video on how to deal with parents who don't care about a child's mental and emotional state? My parents are always like this and I don't know how to cope with it :(
TrashBag I'm sorry:(
Dear Psych2Go,
I know you probably won't see this because you're busy making amazing and helpful videos, but I still wanted to show my appreciation.
I struggled with depression and self-harm for a long time, and I often felt like I would never be happy again. I felt like no one I could tell would care if I told them or they'd think I just wanted attention, and I felt so, so, alone all the time.
Then I watched this video.
This video really helped me realize that it's okay to talk about my pain and self-harming problems. It helped me realize that I don't have to live in this pit of sadness my whole life and that I can make change if I try to. It helped me realize that I'm a human being who deserves to be happy.
I use all of these techniques on a regular basis, and can say confidently that they made a world of difference in my life.
I'm now almost 3 months clean, which is a new record for me! Thank you so, so much for your videos and everything you've done for me! You deserve so many more subscribers than you have, but no matter what I'll always be one of them!
Thank you for being amazing!
-Your fan
I saw one tip on tiktok where everytime you feel like you want to self harm, draw a butterfly on your body anywhere and name it after a loved one. If you give in and self harm, you have killed the butterfly. Might not work for everyone but it might work for some 🤷🏽♀️
This was really helpful thank you sooooooo much because I struggled a lot with self harm and this helped. I also believe that this video was relatable because I was depressed and self harmed for a long time but now I'm on the road to recovery now and this really helped 😊thank you
I cant tell my parents or friends because even my parents judge me and expects me to be someone im not.. i really need help so i searched this video.. who should i talk to now?
One of my best friends started cutting and I’ve almost completely helped her with her depression by just talking to her. She’s such a beautiful kind person I hate to see her sad
Whenever i make a mistake or feel angry i have a really strong urge to hit myself or scratch any part of my body (usually arms or neck). I want to see a therapist but my mom doesn't think i need a therapist. I can't really talk to her about it because she gets irritated really easily and i dont want her to judge me. I dont know what to do.
I've tried all of these and I was so pleased when I found that one of them worked
"I love my eyes or i love the way i look in that blue dress!"
Me : i hate myself :)
Cant stop wont stop (probably)
NUMBER 3!!! All self harmers NEED to know number 3!!!! Learning that one about 20 years ago from my therapist saved my life.