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First time watching one of your videos.. randomly stumbled across this video! Definitely agree that action is key to lasting change but sometimes it is harder said than done! By the way, the videos on the playlist on my channel might change someone's life!
I can't believe that somebody could fail so spectacularly at a measly task like this one, you don't need to read 300 self improvement books. You need to read only one book, Becoming Supernatural by Dr Joe Dispenza.
Can we all take a moment to appreciate he actually gets right to the point and not spend 3 min introducing himself followed by a 5 min sponsor and then followed by a 10 min explanation about why he read all these books and where he got them followed by another 3 min sponsor ad.....
Yes I’m so sick of being told how to “use” UA-cam. I’ve been using YT for longer than some of these content creators have been alive yet they still feel the need to tell me how to like and subscribe? The whole call to action thing really bothers me it’s the equivalent of begging for money as a street performer. Even street performers don’t beg for money, they just let you donate if you want.
Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future. Putting our time and effort in activities and investments that will yield a profitable return in the future is what we should be aiming for. Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. "You're not going to remember those expensive shoes you bought ten years ago, but you will remember every single morning when you look at your bank account that extra 0 in there. I promise, that's going to be way more fun to look at everyday", I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
Depends on the problem, sometimes it's better to avoid it, rather than try to solve it. Think of a person you dislike and are on bad terms with. Why would I try to solve that if I can simply never see that person again? You can't make everybody like you after all.
@@maxchmelicek1742 Don't know, sounds more like avoiding it to me but I understand where you're coming from. I guess you could say that you stop having a problem once you don't have to see the person in question anymore.
@@nvmffs Avoiding problems is when you keep thinking about the problem. It becomes a thing to deal with for you in the future. In your example If you can avoid that person and it doesn't create furthermore problems then it can be called solving the problem.
Is it not supposed to be, "The Good is the enemy of Best"? Meaning the many things we consider as 'good' distract us from what is truly best. Or am I reading this incorrectly?? Thanks for responding in advance!
@@drewjames1778 always do your best in your own standard not in others terms , forgive yourself ( and others) in case any failures or obstacles, try even best next day, never retire , never depend on anyone or anything, life is full of never ending miracles
@@drewjames1778 The idea is that chasing the best possible outcome will result in you spending so much that you almost never actually do something good. If you only had one task in life, then perfecting it is ideal, but life consists of many parts and trying to perfect one part will result in neglecting the others, so to get one "best" you give up so many "good" outcomes
My issue with self-improvement books is that the vast majority, pretty much all of them, could just be summed up in an article. In most cases, the authors just add unnecessary filler text and an absurd amount of redundant examples so they can make a book out of it. And then you end up wasting hours on end on something that could be communicated much more effectively in just a couple of pages.
Ali Abdal talks a lot about treating books as blog posts and not as those "holy objects" that one has to complete before being allowed to move on because that's exactly what many people do with them. Another thing is that self help books shouldn't be seen as an "absolute truth" but much rather as a conversation with a stranger that talks about his experience with life. In this case you wouldn't assume that everything the stranger says is 100% true, however, you would definitely think about the idea he presented to you and see if applying this to your own life actually bears any potential improvements
That's the reason I watch UA-cam videos about self help rather than read books. There's so many good channels who teach you what an entire 400 page book could teach you in just 40 minutes or less
"We are our actions, not our thoughts" is the genesis of this sentiment and it's a great one. When you look at Gandhi, MLK, etc. we see and remember what they did. We have no idea what they thought, and all of us have some down moments up there.
This was so massively brilliant, thank you so much! Started crying out of gratefulness (see below why) when you and your friend talked about the courage to change your own life. I just changed mine in a profound way and haven’t been happier in years, or maybe ever.
It has, it's just a cottage industry where capitalist "lightworker indigo children" get rich while you work 30 to 50 hours a week. Don't even get me started on the medical industry (I include psychologists in that). Healing doesn't happen when capitalism sits between you and it.
I agree that this mentality is positive and we may all benefit from more positivity. I wonder though, about the ramifications of this idea on people who already have low self esteem. There is no obligation to pick up others trash. I can choose to perceive the action of picking up others trash to be good, and even feel good about doing a good thing. Does this also mean I should feel bad if I do not choose to pick up another's trash? If I am in no mood to go out of my way in this moment to toss the litter next to the trash can, into the trashcan, am I to believe I am inherently bad since how I do anything is how I do everything? I guess the literal answer is that, I do good deeds when I feel I can. That is how I do...
The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise. - Alden Nowlan
I honestly agree with this video. My parents pulled me and my sisters out of private school to homeschool us when I was in the 5th grade, and my siblings younger. For YEARS, we did nothing. I would spend my days playing video games on my laptop or Wii. Due to other environmental stressors, on top of failing at school, I became severely depressed. Some years later, when I was almost a year or two behind on school, should have been in high school, I heard about dual enrollment at my local community college. My friend’s mom encouraged me to work on catching up and to do it. I wanted to start my sophomore year, but was still too far behind. Made too many bad grades. But I continued to work. Work on understanding my courses. Work on making better grades. Work on doing what I’d say I’d do. And my junior year, I barely finished my courses, took the college entry exam, and passed with flying colors. I had to coordinate the meetings with advisors and get my parents to sign off on paperwork and I made it. Barely. I ended up with all the classes no one else wanted, but I took them in stride. Because the hard part wasn’t over. I gained confidence in being 16 in a college classroom and earning better grades than half the class. I maintained a 4.0 GPA and earned 48 college credits. (12 of which thanks to free courses offered during the pandemic, high school class of 2020.) All while taking other high school classes, dance classes, participating in Girl Scouts, summer camp volunteerism, GS cookie season, Gold Award projects, and starting my first part time job. I became active in the homeschooling college credit communities and was determined to figure out how to graduate early. I started attending university in the middle of the pandemic, in the middle of nowhere, but I kept pushing. I discovered my interests and career goals and pushed even harder. I completed 42 college credits my first year and summer there, while working 20+ hour weeks and started volunteering in research as I made the quick decision to change from counseling to neuroscience when I had one year left. And I maintained my 4.0 GPA. My second year was filled with second jobs, club positions and meetings, honor societies, research clubs and volunteering, PhD interviews and acceptances and rejections, earning my first B in 4 years, academic conferences and symposiums and job interviews, etc. It was insane but I knew my end goals and I knew how to push it (though I don’t recommend going as ham as I did). But I did it. I graduated two years early at the age of 19, summa cum laude, and was offered an acceptance into a PhD program. Sadly, when I applied to the one PhD program I got into, I was still in my discovery phase and thought maybe I’d want to join that line of research. But I realized I didn’t and needed to explore the field more. So, I rejected the offer and, the day of graduation, I interviewed and got offered a position at Johns Hopkins less than a week later. But everyone I met on this journey for the past four years have assumed I’ve always been responsible. They didn’t know the depressed and undisciplined and ill-motivated and learned helpless child I was. But I saw a need to change and I did. It took a lot of effort and sweat and blood and tears. But I did it. And I couldn’t have done it if I wasn’t willing to rely on myself to do it and to stop waiting for it. Going forward, I hope to continue to produce good fruit, however that may look. And maybe take a break every so often.
that is amazing, thank you so much for sharing your story! we all have incredible potential inside us; we just have to decide if there's something we want to do with it and if we can get off the couch and do it. you turned it all around for yourself and should feel incredible pride. keep going, god bless, wishing you the best!
your story has me feeling all types of ways. i mean you could've given up anytime, blamed you parents and cry about your life but you took the matters into your hands. i suppose you must've felt somewhere in between that it was a bit unfair that you had it harder than your peers but it's clear that you didn't let that be an excuse for you. i really REALLY needed to hear this. your story has impacted me a lot. ty for sharing.
just discovered you and I'm so glad I did, thank you for wanting what's best for everyone. It is simply beautiful and natural. Can't wait to share my own success story! I'm down from 290 lbs to 185 in 8 months!!! All from wanting to stop being depressed.
My Rule #1: Striving implies not being content. If you don't accept life as it is for you right now, you cannot move forward. You'll be stuck in an endless state of needing to improve, while the need for improvement is exactly that which is denying you the peace of contentment. How much striving is enough striving? How many achievements are enough achievements? If you accept everything as it is, you can see clearly. And when you see clearly you can do actual good. Otherwise your perception of good will be clouded by your compulsive need for improvement. Resulting out of a constant resisting against reality.
It's all about taking actions, we all know what we are supposed to be doing to achieve something, our dreams/goals don't care about our feelings whether we are motivated or not, so basically it's all about YOU DO IT or YOU DON'T
He always catches my attention literally RIGHT away and constantly holds my focus on the next word. So little fluff and only pure truth. Love the is guy! Dude your speaking ability is next level
I loved the end quote "Holding onto anger is like, drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. I have had a friend who was suddenly in a state of anger and shouted at me because he was annoyed that I kept trying to make him feel like he is doing his best and for me saying his work is good. He was calling be dumb, annoying infront of all my friends. This had upseted me, as I had ignored what he had said and wished I had said something. But now I feel it was a learning curve, to try and forgive them and myself, so I don't have to keep looking back and feeling down and angry with myself.
Otty, your friend was angry at his work, his performance. Maybe he didn’t get the grade he expected, maybe his parents or boss said his work was poor quality. You were only trying to make him feel better. The problem is not with you, the problem is with him. It was rude of him to shout and abuse you - and it doesn’t matter if he does it in front of other people or in private, it’s just plain wrong. He should have calmed down and apologised to you by now. If he hasn’t, it’s a big red flag about what sort of person he really is. You can’t control other peoples actions, but you can tell them how their actions effected you. What can you do at this point? Well it depends on how much you value this person. If they’re a good friend you can say “Hey, it was really hurtful when you shouted at me the other day” and see what they say. Hopefully they will look a little embarrassed and say “Yeah, sorry about that” and you can both talk about it. If they double down with “well, what you were saying was really stupid” you might want to think about whether you need someone in your life that is negative and belittles you as a friend. Surround yourself with quality relationships, don’t waste your precious life on toxic people. Breathe out and let your repressed anger go. You were trying to do something good and have nothing to regret.
I disagree with what Angie said. I don't know both of you and wasn't there, so I can't judge for certain who is (more) wrong or right. But I think that is a good idea to reflect and reevaluate your actions. Keep in mind that *intentions* are different than *results*. You could have said things with the better of intentions, but maybe you were blind about how that sounded to your friend. The meaning of it to him. Why did he feels bad? His reaction, while exaggerated or not, show that your words had the contrary effect that you expected and made him feel bad, angry and maybe with his reality and thoughts unrecognized. It is a bad thing to say something and feel that no one is listening by the way they answer. Think about that.
Appreciate how direct you were, that you brought someone else’s experience into it. Thanks, today this was my morning video, really making a difference
From a neuroscientific view, when you aren't doing the things that make you feel fulfilled and sit there in that learned helplessness, usually that will put you into the "Default Mode Network" and all the painful past memories, scary future scenarios, and negative self-talk come from. The solutions are like he said, 3. Forgive yourself and others for the painful past, because 2. You can take the next step forward even if your last several steps have been backwards, and 1. Don't wait to start, because why should you delay yourself from starting your journey to a more peaceful and fulfilled life?
My tip is correct practice makes perfect. To get good at anything you need to do it accurately - so when you first learn slow it right down, and only increase speed very gradually when it's easy. Helped me to run faster injury free and play tough finger stretching guitar riffs with ease, speed, and without needing to look at my fingers. Unfortunately people learn incorrectly, then say I can't run, play guitar etc, etc.
What I've learned after 15-20 years of self-improvement is to never ever read a self improvement book. Go to the Philosophers, poets, artist and musicians.
yea i kinda agree. I think these books are filled with basic knowledge and are motivational, but that is exacly what you don't need. Because of their complex nature, you get way more out of philosophers even tho you aren't going to go jumping out of your seat to conquer the world
That's a bit counterintuitive from my case, but I can see how it works for some people. I don't like self help books either. I do love psychology books which actually give you the information you need, without dragging it for long pages
I read a great book called "the little history of philosophy" iirc. It is a good place to find what core values align with you and then you can build up yourself from there.
I respectfully disagree with you. What I have learned from 30+ years of "self-improvement" ideology is not to go to Philosopher's, artists, and musicians; but rather to figure out what I really want and then go to those people who HAVE what I want and learn from them. The best advise I could ever give to a young person is this: Never accept anyone's opinion about anything unless they have what YOU WANT! Don't go to divorced people to find out how to have a good marriage, or a broke person to find out how to become wealthy, etc. Go to people married 50+ years to learn about good marriage, a wealthy person to learn wealth, etc. There are PLENTY of losers who will tell you they want you to "learn from their mistakes," but what they are really trying to do is to make you a loser like they are so they can make themselves feel better about being a loser! Go out and make your own mistakes and learn from them! Find people who are successful and learn from their SUCCESS! Of course, if what you are trying to become is a successful philosopher, poet, artist, or musician, then go to the successful ones and certainly learn from them! Then write your own self improvement book and make a million dollars!
With the Big idea #3 : Forgiveness of yourself and others, there is a difficult balance with boundaries. When should you forgive someone, and when should you not and hold your boundaries?
My personal experience always forgive inside yourself anything that holds the negative emotion tied to past or individual. Use those lessons to curate how you live you're life now and what people you keep in it. You can forgive every ex partner and friend to relive the burden on yourself then choose to keep them out of you're life but wish them genuinely all the best and that they find what they are seeking in life.
Hey Clark - I've been a long time sub. I turned off my YT notifications over a year ago. I was so happy to see this in my feed and notice how viral it went for you!! And look at that subscriber count!! You were not even at 100K when I subbed - Congrats!! You're not even going to remember this, but I remember when I subbed because it was right around the time Tony Robbins was speaking at Kent Station in Washington. You took your Mom (you still lived with her) and I took my son (who was 19 & still lived w/ me) You made a video about it & I was one of the first people to comment saying I was there too & you were kind enough to reply. It's a nothing story - but I feel so very proud of you for staying on this path & making such an impact on people's lives! And you're still so young, my friend - just wow. I couldn't be happier for you Sending you much love & light ~ Viki
I don’t know why, but I really enjoyed hearing from Erik. But how he spoke resonated with me, not just the principles/advice - I’ve heard it before, but it was his life story and then the change he is now I was inspired and so glad you shared this!
Hey Raz DM, you totally may know this, but local libraries often have downloadable ebooks & audiobooks available for many titles, accessible with a library card. Major libraries may also have an option that those who live out of town can still access library services for a fee. All the best!
I have had a hard time trying to describe to people why they need to let go of resentment and forgive people so they can experience true joy. Your video gave me a new understanding why I knew this was right. 1. Forgive the person who wronged you. 2. Forgive yourself for letting it affect you negatively for so long. After that, you can move on and enjoy life. Until then, you won't.
Hey Clark thank you for this video. It's much fun. I love it that in the beginning of the video you stacked up all these books. It's very visual. I appreciate it that your friend Eric shared his story. I agree with that. I see that in my own life too. When I am down in my shits, I see myself dragging my friends down, which I feel so guilty of. My friends are awesome and they don't deserve this. In order to take better care of people around me, I really do wish to improve myself. And that comes from overcoming my own insecurities, problems and issues. I am so grateful that you shared this chart. I think it's important to check on myself and see where I am on that chart. I wish to spend more time in high vibe and less time in low vibe.
Almost cried through a lot of this... The self-forgiveness is crucial, it can take years, or never happen at all and with out it, being fulfilled and happy is a dream. It means you're a deeply empathetic and always try to understand people, believing every one is the same as you. Some people are just lying, cheating, disgusting, delusional and self-absorbed, it's not always our fault.
Your comment is rather being contradictory. How can I understand and forgive someone, and even think of them they're just like myself if they cheat and are disgusting, and I'm *NOT* ? NOT EVERYONE DESERVES A FORGIVENESS. ONLY THOSE WHO ARE TRULY SORRY, ASK FOR IT AND THEN CHANGE THEMSELVES FOR THE BETTER.
I have also read hundreds of self improvement books and it didn’t teach me individual nuggets of truth but It taught me overall themes, a different way to look at the world and operate in this world. A new way to see my fellow humans, having good thoughts flow through my head all day, all night. I don’t pray, but I am the prayer. It’s a beautiful thing we have.
What people constantly forget when reading these books: it depends on where you live. In the USA or Europe yeah you may get some advices you could use. But if you live in Nord Korea or Somalia, you can't just "generate different streams of passive income online" or " join a gym" etc. All these books cater to a western person, that lives in a wealthy country with opportunities
Yet a North Korean would probably not even have access to YT. Don't understand your point. Sure, not everything will be relatable to everyone in the entire world.
where did you get the idea that we can just "generate different streams of passive income online"? I mean i'm from europe and this is the first time i hear there are ways to make easy money...
Success doesn't improve life quality. If you can handle your mind and emotions we call that bliss. If you handle the external world we call that success. Now which of the two determines your personal success, growth, happiness? Stop relying on material things to feel a sense of accomplishment. It's an illusion. All accomplishments are fuel for the ego
North Korea and Somalia are extreme examples tho, especially the former. But I see tons of Indian and other Asian people on this type of content. Meditation for instance can help people all over I believe.
Good books and great content such as this is very important for self development, once you have got your priorities in check you become as powerful as you can be.
"Holding onto Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to Die" “Happiness comes from solving your problems, not avoiding them” “Self improvement is half of it, self healing is the other half” "What you resist persists." "The best is the enemy of good" "How you do anything is how you do everything" "Forgive others and forgive yourself" "Your ability to reach your standards actually comes through action, not just waiting and prepping on the side lines".
if you find yourself stuck on forgiving. try changing your mind first, People simply don’t posses the emotional depth to understand you. You can’t make people see what they don’t understand. Don’t let their insufficiencies undermine your depth.
Thank you for that, Clark! Nonetheless, I think that people should just keep reading and finding themselves between the lines because we are all individuals and what might be mind-blowing for you, it might be just a casual thing for others. Good luck with your personal development, guys!
Totally agree with this. Ironically, if you just followed summaries from people you miss the experience of "living life". Notwithstanding, this is a useful video
After planning for 5 years, I took the leap. Don't waste your time, y'all. Just start. I could've been five years in by now, but I'm happy to be 2 weeks in at this point!
Are you single? Like where are men like you in Norway? “Enlighten”, reading, wanting to be the best version of himself. I subscribe. The way you explain things and how you put so much effort behind the video to give us all this information.. it’s impressive. Thank you 🙏🏼
About 10 years ago when I was 23 I was going through extreme anxiety period. I didn't even believe it was anxiety I thought it was a physical health problem in me after a big car accident. I would puke all night and literally suffer not being able to sleep when it was all I wanted to do. I figured out a few weeks in it was my own head causing this but it didn't help and almost made it worse. The self torture and lack of control of my own self was so bad. After a long time of dreading the night coming and "knowing" I was going to be sick and suffering all night I tried to shift my mind a bit. I basically got to a bring it on mentality. Like I tried to embrace the pain and suffering and not dread it. This killed my anxiety basically in a few days. Like he is saying here you just say fuck it. You're a warrior and only as weak as you tell yourself
The part of seeing trash and making a decision to pick it up was actually 100 percent the same small practice i start doing and observing myself how far I'll end up,beginning with this one little habit 🙏🏽
That IS amazing. I thought about it, you could have read 2 books a week, and that'd STILL have taken you ~3.5 years to get through it all. Respect, man.
Thankyou for saving our time, appreciate your effort to summarize 300 books into 3 points. 3rd point "Forgiving others and yourself does really work". One of the best videos to learn more in less time. You just earned a subscriber 👍
Thanks for Clark Kegley, your video is so helpful. I learned 3 lessons from you. First, Overcome procrastination. The best time to start is right now! Second, independence. Don't rely on anyone else. Last, is forgiveness.
Successful people don't just become that way overnight. what most people see as a glance _wealth, a career, purpose is the result of hard work and Hustle over time.. I pray everyone here becomes extremely successful
Stock's are crashing, crypto0 investments Right now will be at every wise individuals list, in a month you will be ecstatic with the decision you made today
I will prefer reading 5-6 self improvement books 1000 times till I master them… it is not how many books you read… it is how you read them, understand and implement them… it is quality what you read and how you read and also how you put into action… sometimes 1 book changes a person for lifetime instead of 1000 books
Yes but you don’t want to seek what the authors know, you want to seek what they seek and getting different point of views about the same topic from different successful people in that field gives you knowledge from different angles about the same thing and possibly and better overall knowing
This works if you can find the “right” books. There’s a lot of quickly churned out junk in the self help market written purely for the money. My mum used to say “you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the prince” and readers have to filter through a lot of books to find those 5-6 good ones.
If you'd test the two photography groups again, inverting roles, you might find that the now quality group produced better single shots than the previous quality group did. Because they had quantity mistakes to learn from...
I totally agree with the point that we should face the hardships and difficulties of life instead of avoiding them, and yes self-healing is all about letting go of the past and looking on the bright side of life. I've learned that the true achievement is not to associate your self-worth with your accomplishments; instead, you can love yourself and strive to improve, not because you want to be praised by others, but because you want to be the best version of yourself for yourself.
For me I kept forgiving others that kept making me angry, guilty, hateful at some points depressive. It was a cycle of forgiving others and then trying to forgive myself, it was rough every time. Right now too. If you feel like your life is full of crash & repeat, and you see a red flag (we usually do), find all the reasons to stop it, end what ever habits or relationship that is going to destroy you.
5 minutes in and this is the most relevant/accurate video I've ever seen that addresses each problem that I need to get through before I can get where I'm going with music production. *5 minutes later* Bro, wtf? I did not expect you to be the Drummer for Andrew W.K. I thought you were just some dude who read a lot of books. Hard Subscribe.
The thing I fear about improvement is that it would only serve as the unquestionable proof I have been wasting my time. I'd almost rather keep wasting it then try and use whatever remaining time I have to do as well as I should have been. Can't miss something you never had. Once that man is in sight, I'll have in mind just how much I messed up. I'll keep it out of sight and therefore out of mind.....Damn UA-cam algorithm anticipating my thoughts for me with this channel recommendation. Subbed.
I like the video. It's really amazing to hear other people came to the same conclusions I did. I realized hard things get easier and to channel my energy into things that are important, I'm still learning that, to get closer to meeting my own standards, I have to do some things that aren't up to them. But I will get there!
Living at home with my parents, how would one go about forgiving someone for things they’re actively still doing? Even after trying to talk to them about it, them just being themselves makes it so hard to live around them, I guess I could always just move out
Instead of just being upset about what they're doing, put yourself in their shoes and try to see their actions from their point of view. You also need to remember that they are not responsible for your happiness or sense of fulfillment, YOU ARE. Your parents have a responsibility to prepare you to leave their home, not make you so comfortable that you want to stay.
You won’t grow properly until you move out.. it’s irrelevant how they are.. they’ve already chosen their behavior.. you can’t grow exponentially while you are constantly dealing with the strain of their behavior.. adopt minimalistic lifestyle and get out on your own.. you’ll love the peace you gain..
MY CRITICISM: 1. Stop Waiting: Just do it 2. Self Reliance: take care of yourself 3. Forgiveness: forgive others, But most importantly forgive yourself. First of all, you may ask, who am I to criticize, I'd say, why does it matter? What matters is the opinions, and if you're open to improve yourself, you should first of all, listen to criticism. Who am I? You could consider me nobody if you want, or just a text which appeared on your desk as a variant of helps, but for me, I'm a debater who debated 1000s of people and have studied much of Religions and their texts and philosophical views and have given deep thoughts into the world and everything my brain could grasp so far, but for the "society", I'm still no-one. 1. Stop Waiting, Just do it? Do what? You think everyone knows what to do? First action maybe jumping off a roof, that's what you're pushing people to do, you don't know everyone's situation, so I don't buy this nonsense quote. I like this quote more "choose the nest and find the bird", meaning "first plan your actions, then the success will come itself", or like "first prepare, and make result, then your goals will show up to you", otherwise you're like hitting yourself at the wall, while you need to find another way out. 2. Self-Reliance, take care of yourself? First of all, how is self reliance equal to taking care of yourself? And how can you rely on yourself? Have you forgotten that you were just a reproductive fluid which came out knowing nothing and was nothing? And you think it all started by nothing? God created you, you should rely on Him, by seeking and finding Truth, but most may not like the idea of relying on God, if you don't like, I don't even wanna continue advising, but let me generalize then, maybe you'll find your path, but without knowing God, you may never know yourself as God created you to be. So if you rely on yourself, the world will look like this "when you're at the top, you'll count the success as your own, but when you're at the bottom, you'll blame the world", meaning, you think you're doing it all alone, but you're forgetting that there are many who can break you up, and you are being unthankful to their support once you're reaching your goal, so if you want a successful job, you think "trust no-one" can help you? Then do it, stop being a hypocrite, and leave the city, that's what's called relying on yourself. And even there you may rely on the skills others taught you, or skills given by God, in any case, you are no-body to rely on. 3. Forgiveness: "forgive others, but most importantly forgive yourself"? My question is, why? And who is doing that? And how to do that? Why to forgive? And what to forgive? Who to forgive? And who's guilty? What's guilt? What's good and bad? You get the point? You need to think. So my corrections would be: 1. Choose before finding, 2. Know before following, And 3. Think before acting. Simple, and each are the same But are just rephrased differently Peace🌿
I don't strive to be happy, I strive to be 'not sad'. In another word, peace. I can't say I'm happy but i can definitely say I'm not sad and in a state of peace.
3 big ideas: 1. stop waitting for things to be perfect a. just get started b. face the struggles don´t avoid them 2. self-reliance a. get up from those shocks with tenacity and grit and taking your power back b.change the learned helpessness perspective 3. Forgiveness a. other b. yourself
Compared to the rest of this app, this video has been very good at actually summarising some basic foundational philosophies. I hope this video inspires people to explore philosophy further, it is undoubtedly the most under utilised subject for our generation
I’m a Marine Corp veteran and have found myself over the last 20 years getting more disconnect with people, for instance I forgot how to laugh and just have a good time. This past weekend I was with my family that I haven’t seen in years and it should have been a good time but I was miserable. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me
Easy. I've had some issue. You need to plug into now. I've had soo many moments not realizing how precious this one is. I look back 10 yrs ago and was like.. wow i wasn't even present. So that's your solution. Be present. More often. the more present/aware you are.. the happier you will become. And of course should be common sense, men need challenges for happiness.. or things to solve. If you're solving shit.. you're happier. reguardless of wether that's physical or mental.. you create your masculine happiness by doing shit.
Hi Sean. Sorry to hear that. And although I am Canadian thank you for your service. I am not trained to diagnose you but you might benefit from talking therapy, a mens support group, and a motorcycle. Motorcycling has been shown to improve mood and wellbeing. It might help with reaching contentment. Or you are free to discard my suggestions as nonsense.
What you are describing is called anhedonia (Greek for "without pleasure"). It's the loss of the ability to feel good in situations that would normally trigger good feelings. It's more common than you would think. To regain the joy of life means making some adjustments in your life: eating healthy food (brains need that stuff), working out (breaks down and gets rid of the stress chemicals that build up), sound sleep (your brain does a lot of housekeeping while you are asleep), hanging out regularly with good friends (we are social beings who can get too "broody" when left alone), and dialing back on the addictions (we all have them 🙂), One thing that really helps is to get involved in a community project. it gets you out of your head and into the world where you can make a difference by making things better. Bit by bit over time, you should notice the joy coming back into your life. Make a pact with yourself to really work on these things for 12 weeks. If you aren't feeling better by then, then get yourself over to the VA. They have additional resources for exactly this problem. Good luck, don't give up, and I'm rooting for you. And thank you for your service, sir -- you are much appreciated!
First video I’ve watched of yours Clark and it was brilliant, appreciated. If you’ve not come across it before, Redeeming Your Time is an excellent book on productivity from a Christian perspective - highly recommend it. Thanks again 👍
Hey man, I’m the last few months I’ve been working on improving myself in ways I have never done before. I recently forums your video on shadow work and I started doing that. What I find strange though I that I seem to be in a high energy vibe at night. Like right before I go to sleep I feel fully centered, ready to take on the world. I feel like I can talk to anybody without anxiety and I just wish I could meet more people. You don’t know how powerful I feel around 10 PM. But then I go to sleep and when I wake up I’m always at a low vibrational energy. In fact, I always get the most anxiety in the morning. And I always wake up feeling kinda down. Do you know why this is?
Im not an expert at anything but I was once like you too. I think that the feeling you describe is directly related to mood changes. Based from experience you can do certain things to regulate your mood better. For me the habbit of having a consistent sleep schedule already helped me lessen the anxiety and have happier mood. Although to actually sleep properly at night, there are some tips that you should follow. (Such as don't drink caffeinated drinks after 2pm, don't use cellphone an hour before bed, etc..) I can say a few here but other youtube videos will probably explain it better. Excercise is also good for having a better mood, many studies back it and I can personally attest to it. This is harder to incorporate to a busy routing though, so just do it if you really prioritize having better mood (personally I don't even do it bcause Im lazy). And lastly I think practicing gratitude/affirmation might help you be more confident. (Again there are YT vids that elaborates on this, they're worth checking!)
Sounds like some kind of imbalance in your body. Have you checked your cortisol levels recently? If your cortisol is out of balance you can feel more anxious/tired/unmotivated at the wrong time. Cortisol should be higher in the morning to get us going and make us feel motivated but if it’s instead high at night you will experience that motivation and good feelings then and feel like shit in the morning. Things that can help is to try to stick to a sleep schedule, try supplements like L-theanine 1 hour before going to bed and get a vitamin D supplement to take in the morning. There’s also a possibility your dopamine levels are low. I used to feel the exact same way, at night I felt super motivated, clear thinking and great. The thing though was that I felt like shit during the day and even though I wanted to fix things, do thinks or whatever it was, I couldn’t. Usually people don’t make calls, meet people and get a lot of things done at night and my brain new that and that in itself made me feel better, my unconscious mind was like since you “don’t have to” do this since you really can’t call customer service, the doctor or whatever at night, it makes you feel good because then it wasn’t you that failed, it was other circumstances that made you not do it. Does that make sense? it’s like a self comforting thing our brains does when we are low on some neurotransmitters in the brain. I will add that I got diagnosed with adhd after years of behaving like this and that made all the difference in me understanding my behavior, I was always lacking dopamine. Now, with the help of great supplements, nootropics and very low dose of stimulant medication I’m a different person. This was very long and maybe a little TMI but if it could help anybody in some way it’s all good. (I am in no way saying you have adhd just that when imbalances occur in our bodies due to circumstances in life, both physical or mental problems, we can actually make them better once we understand why and then find a solution).
Great video! I have to say many of the self-improvement books have been detrimental to me while I was going through a dark place in my life. (such as The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success...) It made me feel like I was just someone who cared too much about other people's opinion. And that's why I ended up in this sad state of my life. What I think these books failed to do was to point out the complexity of life. They tend to simplify people into two groups: the successful/ happy ones and the failed/ sad ones. It helps to push the value they are trying to sell: "By doing this X way you will be happy, you dumbass!" But when you try to apply these principles they teach into your own life, you realised that it doesn't work. Life is never as simple as what these books describe it to be. There is no magical cure that just solves all your problems. However, there were books that really helped me. They were actually more books focused on neuroscience. Such as The Upward Spiral, Happiness Hypothesis, and Happy by Darren Brown. And I believe the reason is that it separate myself from my brain. It made me realised that my brain is NOT me. It is an organ that can have chemical imbalances. That it has biological reaction that is beyond my physical control. And that there are things I can do to reduce the intensity of my emotion. I also highly recommend Dr.K (HealthyGamerGG) on UA-cam. And please be very careful when you read another self-improvement books if you are not feeling good in your life.
Swopping addictions. Exactly. I just talked to someone about that a few days ago. It’s about redirecting the energy towards something positive for yourself.
I think another important idea is that changing your thoughts and behavior goes with an exponential curve. It is not linear, when you start it will take a long time to see results. And it will take some time, but once you see the results it will motivate you, your actions become habits and that's what you want
Self-improvement books (along with How to become a millionaire stuff) are for ppl who love to procrastinate and can't force themselves to get things done. Reading such books just makes them feel better/less guilty because after all they do sth towards their goals (reading about it :D ) ;)
You are definetly right, but they deffinetly changed me. Learned optimism made me less of pessimist, why we sleeps made me aware that 8 hours of sleep is essential, and books about nutrition brought me to a healthier lifestyle. They definetly can help since they can target different areas of life, but yeah a lot of them are telling you the same stuff
So, yesterday, while watching this video I said to myself, that’s it, tomorrow after work I’m gonna go get that book I’ve been wanting to buy, and in the end you said, go check out 5 books you definitely recommend reading in 2022 and VOILÁ, my book was one of the ones you recommended and yesterday I thought to myself how fantastic of a moment, but held back from commenting until I’d have the book in my hands. So happy I finally did it! Thanks for that moment 🧡
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First time watching one of your videos.. randomly stumbled across this video! Definitely agree that action is key to lasting change but sometimes it is harder said than done! By the way, the videos on the playlist on my channel might change someone's life!
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I can't believe that somebody could fail so spectacularly at a measly task like this one, you don't need to read 300 self improvement books. You need to read only one book, Becoming Supernatural by Dr Joe Dispenza.
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Can we all take a moment to appreciate he actually gets right to the point and not spend 3 min introducing himself followed by a 5 min sponsor and then followed by a 10 min explanation about why he read all these books and where he got them followed by another 3 min sponsor ad.....
Exactly🙌 he knows what the people want
Amen. I subbed immediately because he doesn't waffle.
Yes I’m so sick of being told how to “use” UA-cam. I’ve been using YT for longer than some of these content creators have been alive yet they still feel the need to tell me how to like and subscribe? The whole call to action thing really bothers me it’s the equivalent of begging for money as a street performer. Even street performers don’t beg for money, they just let you donate if you want.
He read 360 books, he didn't have any time left to waffle on
Yeah...
Except he's made other "life changing" videos and always throw his little program advertisement at the end
Big Idea 1: Stop Waiting 0:14
Big Idea 2: Self Reliance 5:22
Big Idea 3: Forgiveness 9:36
“Happiness comes from solving your problems, not avoiding them”
Best quote ever!!!
Conversely, failing to solve your problems even after you've gave your all is the biggest source of misery
It is all about the destination.
or letting go of them, Buddhist non attachment, there will always be a problem to solve and that keeps one from embracing the moment
Opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
Jordan Peterson
Well, yeah, because it’s no longer a problem lol
Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future. Putting our time and effort in activities and investments that will yield a profitable return in the future is what we should be aiming for. Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. "You're not going to remember those expensive shoes you bought ten years ago, but you will remember every single morning when you look at your bank account that extra 0 in there. I promise, that's going to be way more fun to look at everyday", I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate Investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to a great loss too
you're right Forex trading is surely a lucrative way to invest whether you want growth, leverage, stable income or something in between.
Yeah for sure, honestly I made 62,800 dollars within 6days of trading with Bit coin.
It's really profitable for me and I will encourage anyone interested should invest in it now
I don't really trade, I recommend mrs Catalina Vladimir, she trade for me.
I love the phrase: “Happiness comes from solving your problems, not avoiding them”.
Depends on the problem, sometimes it's better to avoid it, rather than try to solve it. Think of a person you dislike and are on bad terms with. Why would I try to solve that if I can simply never see that person again? You can't make everybody like you after all.
@@nvmffs never seeing that person again counts as solving the problem
@@maxchmelicek1742 Don't know, sounds more like avoiding it to me but I understand where you're coming from. I guess you could say that you stop having a problem once you don't have to see the person in question anymore.
It's called common sense but ok.
@@nvmffs Avoiding problems is when you keep thinking about the problem. It becomes a thing to deal with for you in the future. In your example If you can avoid that person and it doesn't create furthermore problems then it can be called solving the problem.
"What you resist persists."
"The best is the enemy of good"
"How you do anything is how you do everything"
"Forgive others and forgive yourself"
Is it not supposed to be, "The Good is the enemy of Best"? Meaning the many things we consider as 'good' distract us from what is truly best. Or am I reading this incorrectly??
Thanks for responding in advance!
@@drewjames1778 always do your best in your own standard not in others terms , forgive yourself ( and others) in case any failures or obstacles, try even best next day, never retire , never depend on anyone or anything, life is full of never ending miracles
@@drewjames1778 The idea is that chasing the best possible outcome will result in you spending so much that you almost never actually do something good.
If you only had one task in life, then perfecting it is ideal, but life consists of many parts and trying to perfect one part will result in neglecting the others, so to get one "best" you give up so many "good" outcomes
My issue with self-improvement books is that the vast majority, pretty much all of them, could just be summed up in an article. In most cases, the authors just add unnecessary filler text and an absurd amount of redundant examples so they can make a book out of it. And then you end up wasting hours on end on something that could be communicated much more effectively in just a couple of pages.
That's why
Psychology today > the entire self-help industry
Ali Abdal talks a lot about treating books as blog posts and not as those "holy objects" that one has to complete before being allowed to move on because that's exactly what many people do with them.
Another thing is that self help books shouldn't be seen as an "absolute truth" but much rather as a conversation with a stranger that talks about his experience with life. In this case you wouldn't assume that everything the stranger says is 100% true, however, you would definitely think about the idea he presented to you and see if applying this to your own life actually bears any potential improvements
There are actually subscription services who do exactly these kinds of summaries for you. And the books are still useless.
That's the reason I watch UA-cam videos about self help rather than read books. There's so many good channels who teach you what an entire 400 page book could teach you in just 40 minutes or less
well almost all of my rich friends read books, so i don't know if im going to agree with you rofl
"How you do anything is how you do everything"
Great quote
Indeed
"How you do anything, is how you do everything." That's a great quote....
"Your ability to reach your standards actually comes through action, not just waiting and prepping on the side lines".
Love that.
"We are our actions, not our thoughts" is the genesis of this sentiment and it's a great one. When you look at Gandhi, MLK, etc. we see and remember what they did. We have no idea what they thought, and all of us have some down moments up there.
Mf action
That’s why preppers are just wasting time
This probably should not seem as shocking to me as it does.
"Get 'er done!"
Getting to the point in ten seconds is a rare trait in UA-cam videos nowadays.
Thx.
This was so massively brilliant, thank you so much! Started crying out of gratefulness (see below why) when you and your friend talked about the courage to change your own life. I just changed mine in a profound way and haven’t been happier in years, or maybe ever.
"Happiness comes from solving your problems, not avoiding them" - I got the best learning from you.
“Self improvement is half of it, self healing is the other half”. Hopefully the self healing movement takes off as much as self improvement did!
It has, it's just a cottage industry where capitalist "lightworker indigo children" get rich while you work 30 to 50 hours a week. Don't even get me started on the medical industry (I include psychologists in that). Healing doesn't happen when capitalism sits between you and it.
Agreed 100%
“How you do anything is how you do everything.” Great way to put it. I always say “practice how you play” but the former is much more to the point
I agree that this mentality is positive and we may all benefit from more positivity. I wonder though, about the ramifications of this idea on people who already have low self esteem.
There is no obligation to pick up others trash. I can choose to perceive the action of picking up others trash to be good, and even feel good about doing a good thing. Does this also mean I should feel bad if I do not choose to pick up another's trash?
If I am in no mood to go out of my way in this moment to toss the litter next to the trash can, into the trashcan, am I to believe I am inherently bad since how I do anything is how I do everything?
I guess the literal answer is that, I do good deeds when I feel I can. That is how I do...
Don't pick up others trash. Only yours
"HOLDING ONTO ANGER IS LIKE DRINKING POISON AND EXPECTING THE OTHER PERSON TO DIE."
This is one of the BEST quotes I have ever come across.
So what's the message you take home.. Venting out anger better or any other better state!?
What twelve step program are you in?
Desmond Tutu said it, an Archbishop of the Angelican Communion in South Africa. Passed away a few months ago.
Yas I heard of this somewhere else too...Ah from Sadguru's talks
F the poison
The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise. - Alden Nowlan
I honestly agree with this video. My parents pulled me and my sisters out of private school to homeschool us when I was in the 5th grade, and my siblings younger. For YEARS, we did nothing. I would spend my days playing video games on my laptop or Wii. Due to other environmental stressors, on top of failing at school, I became severely depressed.
Some years later, when I was almost a year or two behind on school, should have been in high school, I heard about dual enrollment at my local community college. My friend’s mom encouraged me to work on catching up and to do it.
I wanted to start my sophomore year, but was still too far behind. Made too many bad grades. But I continued to work. Work on understanding my courses. Work on making better grades. Work on doing what I’d say I’d do. And my junior year, I barely finished my courses, took the college entry exam, and passed with flying colors. I had to coordinate the meetings with advisors and get my parents to sign off on paperwork and I made it. Barely. I ended up with all the classes no one else wanted, but I took them in stride. Because the hard part wasn’t over.
I gained confidence in being 16 in a college classroom and earning better grades than half the class. I maintained a 4.0 GPA and earned 48 college credits. (12 of which thanks to free courses offered during the pandemic, high school class of 2020.) All while taking other high school classes, dance classes, participating in Girl Scouts, summer camp volunteerism, GS cookie season, Gold Award projects, and starting my first part time job. I became active in the homeschooling college credit communities and was determined to figure out how to graduate early.
I started attending university in the middle of the pandemic, in the middle of nowhere, but I kept pushing. I discovered my interests and career goals and pushed even harder. I completed 42 college credits my first year and summer there, while working 20+ hour weeks and started volunteering in research as I made the quick decision to change from counseling to neuroscience when I had one year left. And I maintained my 4.0 GPA.
My second year was filled with second jobs, club positions and meetings, honor societies, research clubs and volunteering, PhD interviews and acceptances and rejections, earning my first B in 4 years, academic conferences and symposiums and job interviews, etc. It was insane but I knew my end goals and I knew how to push it (though I don’t recommend going as ham as I did). But I did it. I graduated two years early at the age of 19, summa cum laude, and was offered an acceptance into a PhD program.
Sadly, when I applied to the one PhD program I got into, I was still in my discovery phase and thought maybe I’d want to join that line of research. But I realized I didn’t and needed to explore the field more. So, I rejected the offer and, the day of graduation, I interviewed and got offered a position at Johns Hopkins less than a week later.
But everyone I met on this journey for the past four years have assumed I’ve always been responsible. They didn’t know the depressed and undisciplined and ill-motivated and learned helpless child I was. But I saw a need to change and I did.
It took a lot of effort and sweat and blood and tears. But I did it. And I couldn’t have done it if I wasn’t willing to rely on myself to do it and to stop waiting for it. Going forward, I hope to continue to produce good fruit, however that may look. And maybe take a break every so often.
This story is going to help a lot of people. Thank you for sharing and congratulations on your new role!
that is amazing, thank you so much for sharing your story! we all have incredible potential inside us; we just have to decide if there's something we want to do with it and if we can get off the couch and do it. you turned it all around for yourself and should feel incredible pride. keep going, god bless, wishing you the best!
thank you
your story has me feeling all types of ways. i mean you could've given up anytime, blamed you parents and cry about your life but you took the matters into your hands. i suppose you must've felt somewhere in between that it was a bit unfair that you had it harder than your peers but it's clear that you didn't let that be an excuse for you. i really REALLY needed to hear this. your story has impacted me a lot. ty for sharing.
Thank you for sharing, very inspiring
just discovered you and I'm so glad I did, thank you for wanting what's best for everyone. It is simply beautiful and natural. Can't wait to share my own success story! I'm down from 290 lbs to 185 in 8 months!!! All from wanting to stop being depressed.
Probably one of the best self help videos I’ve ever seen on UA-cam or the internet. Very well done.
My Rule #1:
Striving implies not being content.
If you don't accept life as it is for you right now, you cannot move forward. You'll be stuck in an endless state of needing to improve, while the need for improvement is exactly that which is denying you the peace of contentment. How much striving is enough striving? How many achievements are enough achievements?
If you accept everything as it is, you can see clearly. And when you see clearly you can do actual good. Otherwise your perception of good will be clouded by your compulsive need for improvement. Resulting out of a constant resisting against reality.
This.
and if I want to improve just for the shake of it?
Power of now?
you just gave me the best and most specific life advice I needed
Brilliant
Appreciate the cliff notes, and the mustache 👨🏻✨
It's all about taking actions, we all know what we are supposed to be doing to achieve something, our dreams/goals don't care about our feelings whether we are motivated or not, so basically it's all about YOU DO IT or YOU DON'T
He always catches my attention literally RIGHT away and constantly holds my focus on the next word. So little fluff and only pure truth. Love the is guy! Dude your speaking ability is next level
I loved the end quote "Holding onto anger is like, drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. I have had a friend who was suddenly in a state of anger and shouted at me because he was annoyed that I kept trying to make him feel like he is doing his best and for me saying his work is good. He was calling be dumb, annoying infront of all my friends. This had upseted me, as I had ignored what he had said and wished I had said something. But now I feel it was a learning curve, to try and forgive them and myself, so I don't have to keep looking back and feeling down and angry with myself.
Otty, your friend was angry at his work, his performance. Maybe he didn’t get the grade he expected, maybe his parents or boss said his work was poor quality.
You were only trying to make him feel better.
The problem is not with you, the problem is with him.
It was rude of him to shout and abuse you - and it doesn’t matter if he does it in front of other people or in private, it’s just plain wrong.
He should have calmed down and apologised to you by now. If he hasn’t, it’s a big red flag about what sort of person he really is.
You can’t control other peoples actions, but you can tell them how their actions effected you.
What can you do at this point? Well it depends on how much you value this person.
If they’re a good friend you can say “Hey, it was really hurtful when you shouted at me the other day” and see what they say.
Hopefully they will look a little embarrassed and say “Yeah, sorry about that” and you can both talk about it.
If they double down with “well, what you were saying was really stupid” you might want to think about whether you need someone in your life that is negative and belittles you as a friend.
Surround yourself with quality relationships, don’t waste your precious life on toxic people.
Breathe out and let your repressed anger go. You were trying to do something good and have nothing to regret.
I disagree with what Angie said. I don't know both of you and wasn't there, so I can't judge for certain who is (more) wrong or right. But I think that is a good idea to reflect and reevaluate your actions. Keep in mind that *intentions* are different than *results*. You could have said things with the better of intentions, but maybe you were blind about how that sounded to your friend. The meaning of it to him. Why did he feels bad? His reaction, while exaggerated or not, show that your words had the contrary effect that you expected and made him feel bad, angry and maybe with his reality and thoughts unrecognized. It is a bad thing to say something and feel that no one is listening by the way they answer. Think about that.
Appreciate how direct you were, that you brought someone else’s experience into it. Thanks, today this was my morning video, really making a difference
What a phony. He simply made up a big number of books
From a neuroscientific view, when you aren't doing the things that make you feel fulfilled and sit there in that learned helplessness, usually that will put you into the "Default Mode Network" and all the painful past memories, scary future scenarios, and negative self-talk come from.
The solutions are like he said,
3. Forgive yourself and others for the painful past, because
2. You can take the next step forward even if your last several steps have been backwards, and
1. Don't wait to start, because why should you delay yourself from starting your journey to a more peaceful and fulfilled life?
My tip is correct practice makes perfect. To get good at anything you need to do it accurately - so when you first learn slow it right down, and only increase speed very gradually when it's easy. Helped me to run faster injury free and play tough finger stretching guitar riffs with ease, speed, and without needing to look at my fingers. Unfortunately people learn incorrectly, then say I can't run, play guitar etc, etc.
What I've learned after 15-20 years of self-improvement is to never ever read a self improvement book. Go to the Philosophers, poets, artist and musicians.
yea i kinda agree. I think these books are filled with basic knowledge and are motivational, but that is exacly what you don't need. Because of their complex nature, you get way more out of philosophers even tho you aren't going to go jumping out of your seat to conquer the world
I'd say read the classics. They teach life lessons without you feeling like you are getting preached too or told to change
That's a bit counterintuitive from my case, but I can see how it works for some people. I don't like self help books either. I do love psychology books which actually give you the information you need, without dragging it for long pages
I read a great book called "the little history of philosophy" iirc. It is a good place to find what core values align with you and then you can build up yourself from there.
I respectfully disagree with you. What I have learned from 30+ years of "self-improvement" ideology is not to go to Philosopher's, artists, and musicians; but rather to figure out what I really want and then go to those people who HAVE what I want and learn from them. The best advise I could ever give to a young person is this: Never accept anyone's opinion about anything unless they have what YOU WANT! Don't go to divorced people to find out how to have a good marriage, or a broke person to find out how to become wealthy, etc. Go to people married 50+ years to learn about good marriage, a wealthy person to learn wealth, etc. There are PLENTY of losers who will tell you they want you to "learn from their mistakes," but what they are really trying to do is to make you a loser like they are so they can make themselves feel better about being a loser! Go out and make your own mistakes and learn from them! Find people who are successful and learn from their SUCCESS! Of course, if what you are trying to become is a successful philosopher, poet, artist, or musician, then go to the successful ones and certainly learn from them! Then write your own self improvement book and make a million dollars!
With the Big idea #3 : Forgiveness of yourself and others, there is a difficult balance with boundaries. When should you forgive someone, and when should you not and hold your boundaries?
My personal experience always forgive inside yourself anything that holds the negative emotion tied to past or individual. Use those lessons to curate how you live you're life now and what people you keep in it. You can forgive every ex partner and friend to relive the burden on yourself then choose to keep them out of you're life but wish them genuinely all the best and that they find what they are seeking in life.
13 minutes of straight substance. Subscribed.
Success is not about getting something. Success is when life within you is happening in a wonderful way.
success is "forcing" the desired outcome
Hey Clark - I've been a long time sub. I turned off my YT notifications over a year ago. I was so happy to see this in my feed and notice how viral it went for you!! And look at that subscriber count!! You were not even at 100K when I subbed - Congrats!!
You're not even going to remember this, but I remember when I subbed because it was right around the time Tony Robbins was speaking at Kent Station in Washington. You took your Mom (you still lived with her) and I took my son (who was 19 & still lived w/ me) You made a video about it & I was one of the first people to comment saying I was there too & you were kind enough to reply. It's a nothing story - but I feel so very proud of you for staying on this path & making such an impact on people's lives! And you're still so young, my friend - just wow. I couldn't be happier for you
Sending you much love & light ~ Viki
I got a new mantra: Don’t do more. Do better. Meaning what I do I do with more awareness and intention. Your videos help me on that path. Thank you! 💚
I don’t know why, but I really enjoyed hearing from Erik. But how he spoke resonated with me, not just the principles/advice - I’ve heard it before, but it was his life story and then the change he is now I was inspired and so glad you shared this!
Who is Erik?
I expected some digital ones, having so many hard-books it's an achievement of it's own lol, great video btw
Hey Raz DM, you totally may know this, but local libraries often have downloadable ebooks & audiobooks available for many titles, accessible with a library card. Major libraries may also have an option that those who live out of town can still access library services for a fee. All the best!
Now that's a money flex I can get behind
it's all the same.
I have had a hard time trying to describe to people why they need to let go of resentment and forgive people so they can experience true joy. Your video gave me a new understanding why I knew this was right. 1. Forgive the person who wronged you. 2. Forgive yourself for letting it affect you negatively for so long. After that, you can move on and enjoy life. Until then, you won't.
Hey Clark thank you for this video. It's much fun. I love it that in the beginning of the video you stacked up all these books. It's very visual. I appreciate it that your friend Eric shared his story. I agree with that. I see that in my own life too. When I am down in my shits, I see myself dragging my friends down, which I feel so guilty of. My friends are awesome and they don't deserve this. In order to take better care of people around me, I really do wish to improve myself. And that comes from overcoming my own insecurities, problems and issues. I am so grateful that you shared this chart. I think it's important to check on myself and see where I am on that chart. I wish to spend more time in high vibe and less time in low vibe.
"What you resist, persists."
"How you do anything, is how you do everything!"
Almost cried through a lot of this...
The self-forgiveness is crucial, it can take years, or never happen at all and with out it, being fulfilled and happy is a dream.
It means you're a deeply empathetic and always try to understand people, believing every one is the same as you.
Some people are just lying, cheating, disgusting, delusional and self-absorbed, it's not always our fault.
i needed this..
thank you
Your comment is rather being contradictory.
How can I understand and forgive someone, and even think of them they're just like myself if they cheat and are disgusting, and I'm *NOT* ?
NOT EVERYONE DESERVES A FORGIVENESS.
ONLY THOSE WHO ARE TRULY SORRY, ASK FOR IT AND THEN CHANGE THEMSELVES FOR THE BETTER.
I have also read hundreds of self improvement books and it didn’t teach me individual nuggets of truth but It taught me overall themes, a different way to look at the world and operate in this world. A new way to see my fellow humans, having good thoughts flow through my head all day, all night. I don’t pray, but I am the prayer. It’s a beautiful thing we have.
What people constantly forget when reading these books: it depends on where you live. In the USA or Europe yeah you may get some advices you could use. But if you live in Nord Korea or Somalia, you can't just "generate different streams of passive income online" or " join a gym" etc. All these books cater to a western person, that lives in a wealthy country with opportunities
Yet a North Korean would probably not even have access to YT. Don't understand your point. Sure, not everything will be relatable to everyone in the entire world.
where did you get the idea that we can just "generate different streams of passive income online"? I mean i'm from europe and this is the first time i hear there are ways to make easy money...
Success doesn't improve life quality. If you can handle your mind and emotions we call that bliss. If you handle the external world we call that success. Now which of the two determines your personal success, growth, happiness?
Stop relying on material things to feel a sense of accomplishment. It's an illusion. All accomplishments are fuel for the ego
I never thought about that, growing up in Australia :) thanks for raising that perspective!
North Korea and Somalia are extreme examples tho, especially the former. But I see tons of Indian and other Asian people on this type of content. Meditation for instance can help people all over I believe.
Wow what and amazing video, wished I watched this when I was much younger and am definitely showing this to my daughters. Good work👏
It’s definitely a great watch for people my age, we mostly struggle finding our way in life.
Glad I watched this, I hope to improve myself in every area and this video has been very helpful.
Good books and great content such as this is very important for self development, once you have got your priorities in check you become as powerful as you can be.
Improving my finances gave me more comfort in so many ways and improved me generally.
The learned helplessness one really got to me. I see that in my own life very much, especially my view towards social life and relationships.
"Holding onto Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to Die"
“Happiness comes from solving your problems, not avoiding them”
“Self improvement is half of it, self healing is the other half”
"What you resist persists."
"The best is the enemy of good"
"How you do anything is how you do everything"
"Forgive others and forgive yourself"
"Your ability to reach your standards actually comes through action, not just waiting and prepping on the side lines".
You’re doing Gods work man. In love you. Thank you for this!🙏🏾🙌🏾
Loved Erik's story man! Reinvention at it's BEST; a beautiful thing.
This was so much better than I expected it to be. Im glad this video exists and I'm glad you made it
if you find yourself stuck on forgiving. try changing your mind first, People simply don’t posses the emotional depth to understand you. You can’t make people see what they don’t understand. Don’t let their insufficiencies undermine your depth.
Last point regarding forgiveness is so true. It’s opened up my life to a brand new way of seeing things
Thank you for that, Clark!
Nonetheless, I think that people should just keep reading and finding themselves between the lines because we are all individuals and what might be mind-blowing for you, it might be just a casual thing for others.
Good luck with your personal development, guys!
And timing also. Reading something you need at that exact moment. Even if you heard the ideas before etc.
Totally agree with this. Ironically, if you just followed summaries from people you miss the experience of "living life". Notwithstanding, this is a useful video
After planning for 5 years, I took the leap. Don't waste your time, y'all. Just start. I could've been five years in by now, but I'm happy to be 2 weeks in at this point!
don't use the tool unless you've read the manual (best analogy). Once you're read your necessary manuals... have at it.
Are you single? Like where are men like you in Norway? “Enlighten”, reading, wanting to be the best version of himself. I subscribe. The way you explain things and how you put so much effort behind the video to give us all this information.. it’s impressive. Thank you 🙏🏼
Loved the video. Got really deep into some of the things that you said. Great work
About 10 years ago when I was 23 I was going through extreme anxiety period. I didn't even believe it was anxiety I thought it was a physical health problem in me after a big car accident. I would puke all night and literally suffer not being able to sleep when it was all I wanted to do. I figured out a few weeks in it was my own head causing this but it didn't help and almost made it worse. The self torture and lack of control of my own self was so bad. After a long time of dreading the night coming and "knowing" I was going to be sick and suffering all night I tried to shift my mind a bit. I basically got to a bring it on mentality. Like I tried to embrace the pain and suffering and not dread it. This killed my anxiety basically in a few days. Like he is saying here you just say fuck it. You're a warrior and only as weak as you tell yourself
Something I always try to tell myself and others is you can’t love others until you love yourself
but you can.
and what does it mean to try to tell but not actually tell, how do you do that?
Fear leads to Anger, Anger leads to Hate, Hate leads to suffering!!! :)
8:25 swung open a door that was slightly ajar. Thanks for the light Erik!
Every sentence he said is absolutely amazing, it's so eye opening!
Thank you so much for breaking it down. I didn't know learned self helplessness was what I'm stuck in 😮💨
The part of seeing trash and making a decision to pick it up was actually 100 percent the same small practice i start doing and observing myself how far I'll end up,beginning with this one little habit 🙏🏽
I do the same! It starts with us
me too
That IS amazing. I thought about it, you could have read 2 books a week, and that'd STILL have taken you ~3.5 years to get through it all. Respect, man.
I really appreciate you breaking them down for us, this motivated me to get serious about reading self help books
Thankyou for saving our time, appreciate your effort to summarize 300 books into 3 points. 3rd point "Forgiving others and yourself does really work". One of the best videos to learn more in less time. You just earned a subscriber 👍
Thanks for Clark Kegley, your video is so helpful.
I learned 3 lessons from you.
First, Overcome procrastination. The best time to start is right now!
Second, independence. Don't rely on anyone else.
Last, is forgiveness.
Successful people don't just become that way overnight. what most people see as a glance _wealth, a career, purpose is the result of hard work and Hustle over time.. I pray everyone here becomes extremely successful
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You are right sir is obvious alot of people remain poor due to ignorance
I'm looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I have about $6k sitting in my savings, what do you think I should be buying?
I will prefer reading 5-6 self improvement books 1000 times till I master them… it is not how many books you read… it is how you read them, understand and implement them… it is quality what you read and how you read and also how you put into action… sometimes 1 book changes a person for lifetime instead of 1000 books
Thats right i read 1 Book and ist change my life 10 Years ago!!!
Yes but you don’t want to seek what the authors know, you want to seek what they seek and getting different point of views about the same topic from different successful people in that field gives you knowledge from different angles about the same thing and possibly and better overall knowing
How many have you read yet?
I hope u are not the kind who gives advice and execute nothing.
This works if you can find the “right” books.
There’s a lot of quickly churned out junk in the self help market written purely for the money.
My mum used to say “you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the prince” and readers have to filter through a lot of books to find those 5-6 good ones.
masterfully done!! best summary of most important parts of "therapy" well worth the watch
my dude !!!, best video ever on self improvement. short, concise to the point. no effin about. thanks a heaps for your effort and time.
WOAH how do you add stickers?! 🤩
If you'd test the two photography groups again, inverting roles, you might find that the now quality group produced better single shots than the previous quality group did. Because they had quantity mistakes to learn from...
I totally agree with the point that we should face the hardships and difficulties of life instead of avoiding them, and yes self-healing is all about letting go of the past and looking on the bright side of life. I've learned that the true achievement is not to associate your self-worth with your accomplishments; instead, you can love yourself and strive to improve, not because you want to be praised by others, but because you want to be the best version of yourself for yourself.
I recently learned this. Other peoples praise never means as much as a sense of self worth for the right reasons whatever they may be for each person
For me I kept forgiving others that kept making me angry, guilty, hateful at some points depressive.
It was a cycle of forgiving others and then trying to forgive myself, it was rough every time. Right now too.
If you feel like your life is full of crash & repeat, and you see a red flag (we usually do), find all the reasons to stop it, end what ever habits or relationship that is going to destroy you.
How you do anything is how you do everything. Great quote.
“I bought 120 self improvement books for the thumbnail to justify me sharing 3 life lessons I already believed to be true before recording this video”
5 minutes in and this is the most relevant/accurate video I've ever seen that addresses each problem that I need to get through before I can get where I'm going with music production.
*5 minutes later* Bro, wtf? I did not expect you to be the Drummer for Andrew W.K. I thought you were just some dude who read a lot of books. Hard Subscribe.
The thing I fear about improvement is that it would only serve as the unquestionable proof I have been wasting my time. I'd almost rather keep wasting it then try and use whatever remaining time I have to do as well as I should have been. Can't miss something you never had. Once that man is in sight, I'll have in mind just how much I messed up. I'll keep it out of sight and therefore out of mind.....Damn UA-cam algorithm anticipating my thoughts for me with this channel recommendation. Subbed.
Happiness comes from solving your problems not avoiding them
I like the video. It's really amazing to hear other people came to the same conclusions I did. I realized hard things get easier and to channel my energy into things that are important, I'm still learning that, to get closer to meeting my own standards, I have to do some things that aren't up to them. But I will get there!
erik payne’s story was actually really good because it is pretty relatable and realistic.
Great video, honestly to be on this journey is incredible and to know others feel the way I feel motivates me even more, thank you keep it up.
need the list of those 369 books, please!
Dude. Thank you for such an amazing video!!! Extremely descriptive, sharp and straight to the point.
Good on you brother! Best video I’ve seen so far. The good side of youtube
Living at home with my parents, how would one go about forgiving someone for things they’re actively still doing? Even after trying to talk to them about it, them just being themselves makes it so hard to live around them, I guess I could always just move out
Is their behavior abusive? Get out. Is their behavior frustrating? Go inward. Im here if you want to unpack anything
Instead of just being upset about what they're doing, put yourself in their shoes and try to see their actions from their point of view.
You also need to remember that they are not responsible for your happiness or sense of fulfillment, YOU ARE. Your parents have a responsibility to prepare you to leave their home, not make you so comfortable that you want to stay.
You won’t grow properly until you move out.. it’s irrelevant how they are.. they’ve already chosen their behavior.. you can’t grow exponentially while you are constantly dealing with the strain of their behavior.. adopt minimalistic lifestyle and get out on your own.. you’ll love the peace you gain..
MY CRITICISM:
1. Stop Waiting: Just do it
2. Self Reliance: take care of yourself
3. Forgiveness: forgive others,
But most importantly forgive yourself.
First of all, you may ask, who am I to criticize, I'd say, why does it matter? What matters is the opinions, and if you're open to improve yourself, you should first of all, listen to criticism.
Who am I? You could consider me nobody if you want, or just a text which appeared on your desk as a variant of helps, but for me, I'm a debater who debated 1000s of people and have studied much of Religions and their texts and philosophical views and have given deep thoughts into the world and everything my brain could grasp so far, but for the "society", I'm still no-one.
1. Stop Waiting, Just do it? Do what? You think everyone knows what to do? First action maybe jumping off a roof, that's what you're pushing people to do, you don't know everyone's situation, so I don't buy this nonsense quote.
I like this quote more "choose the nest and find the bird", meaning "first plan your actions, then the success will come itself", or like "first prepare, and make result, then your goals will show up to you", otherwise you're like hitting yourself at the wall, while you need to find another way out.
2. Self-Reliance, take care of yourself? First of all, how is self reliance equal to taking care of yourself? And how can you rely on yourself?
Have you forgotten that you were just a reproductive fluid which came out knowing nothing and was nothing? And you think it all started by nothing?
God created you, you should rely on Him, by seeking and finding Truth, but most may not like the idea of relying on God, if you don't like, I don't even wanna continue advising, but let me generalize then, maybe you'll find your path, but without knowing God, you may never know yourself as God created you to be.
So if you rely on yourself, the world will look like this "when you're at the top, you'll count the success as your own, but when you're at the bottom, you'll blame the world", meaning, you think you're doing it all alone, but you're forgetting that there are many who can break you up, and you are being unthankful to their support once you're reaching your goal,
so if you want a successful job, you think "trust no-one" can help you? Then do it, stop being a hypocrite, and leave the city, that's what's called relying on yourself.
And even there you may rely on the skills others taught you, or skills given by God, in any case, you are no-body to rely on.
3. Forgiveness: "forgive others, but most importantly forgive yourself"? My question is, why? And who is doing that? And how to do that? Why to forgive? And what to forgive? Who to forgive? And who's guilty? What's guilt? What's good and bad? You get the point? You need to think.
So my corrections would be:
1. Choose before finding,
2. Know before following,
And 3. Think before acting.
Simple, and each are the same
But are just rephrased differently
Peace🌿
The dog study reminds me of the monkey and the ladder. Thank you for sharing your energy and knowledge with us!
I don't strive to be happy, I strive to be 'not sad'. In another word, peace. I can't say I'm happy but i can definitely say I'm not sad and in a state of peace.
Hooray for doing the real work! It takes courage but oh it’s so marvellous!
3 big ideas:
1. stop waitting for things to be perfect
a. just get started
b. face the struggles don´t avoid them
2. self-reliance
a. get up from those shocks with tenacity and grit and taking your power back
b.change the learned helpessness perspective
3. Forgiveness
a. other
b. yourself
"get up of the shots " what ? looks like you meant to type something else, I don't understand
Compared to the rest of this app, this video has been very good at actually summarising some basic foundational philosophies. I hope this video inspires people to explore philosophy further, it is undoubtedly the most under utilised subject for our generation
I’m a Marine Corp veteran and have found myself over the last 20 years getting more disconnect with people, for instance I forgot how to laugh and just have a good time. This past weekend I was with my family that I haven’t seen in years and it should have been a good time but I was miserable. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me
Easy. I've had some issue. You need to plug into now. I've had soo many moments not realizing how precious this one is. I look back 10 yrs ago and was like.. wow i wasn't even present. So that's your solution. Be present. More often. the more present/aware you are.. the happier you will become. And of course should be common sense, men need challenges for happiness.. or things to solve. If you're solving shit.. you're happier. reguardless of wether that's physical or mental.. you create your masculine happiness by doing shit.
Hi Sean. Sorry to hear that. And although I am Canadian thank you for your service. I am not trained to diagnose you but you might benefit from talking therapy, a mens support group, and a motorcycle. Motorcycling has been shown to improve mood and wellbeing. It might help with reaching contentment. Or you are free to discard my suggestions as nonsense.
What you are describing is called anhedonia (Greek for "without pleasure"). It's the loss of the ability to feel good in situations that would normally trigger good feelings. It's more common than you would think. To regain the joy of life means making some adjustments in your life: eating healthy food (brains need that stuff), working out (breaks down and gets rid of the stress chemicals that build up), sound sleep (your brain does a lot of housekeeping while you are asleep), hanging out regularly with good friends (we are social beings who can get too "broody" when left alone), and dialing back on the addictions (we all have them 🙂), One thing that really helps is to get involved in a community project. it gets you out of your head and into the world where you can make a difference by making things better. Bit by bit over time, you should notice the joy coming back into your life. Make a pact with yourself to really work on these things for 12 weeks. If you aren't feeling better by then, then get yourself over to the VA. They have additional resources for exactly this problem. Good luck, don't give up, and I'm rooting for you. And thank you for your service, sir -- you are much appreciated!
I expected a 3 minute intro but he started off right away. Thanks man!
First video I’ve watched of yours Clark and it was brilliant, appreciated. If you’ve not come across it before, Redeeming Your Time is an excellent book on productivity from a Christian perspective - highly recommend it. Thanks again 👍
Hey man, I’m the last few months I’ve been working on improving myself in ways I have never done before. I recently forums your video on shadow work and I started doing that. What I find strange though I that I seem to be in a high energy vibe at night. Like right before I go to sleep I feel fully centered, ready to take on the world. I feel like I can talk to anybody without anxiety and I just wish I could meet more people. You don’t know how powerful I feel around 10 PM. But then I go to sleep and when I wake up I’m always at a low vibrational energy. In fact, I always get the most anxiety in the morning. And I always wake up feeling kinda down. Do you know why this is?
There is a video about dopamine detox maybe that'll help u, thank me later
Im not an expert at anything but I was once like you too. I think that the feeling you describe is directly related to mood changes. Based from experience you can do certain things to regulate your mood better.
For me the habbit of having a consistent sleep schedule already helped me lessen the anxiety and have happier mood. Although to actually sleep properly at night, there are some tips that you should follow. (Such as don't drink caffeinated drinks after 2pm, don't use cellphone an hour before bed, etc..) I can say a few here but other youtube videos will probably explain it better.
Excercise is also good for having a better mood, many studies back it and I can personally attest to it. This is harder to incorporate to a busy routing though, so just do it if you really prioritize having better mood (personally I don't even do it bcause Im lazy).
And lastly I think practicing gratitude/affirmation might help you be more confident. (Again there are YT vids that elaborates on this, they're worth checking!)
Sounds like some kind of imbalance in your body. Have you checked your cortisol levels recently? If your cortisol is out of balance you can feel more anxious/tired/unmotivated at the wrong time. Cortisol should be higher in the morning to get us going and make us feel motivated but if it’s instead high at night you will experience that motivation and good feelings then and feel like shit in the morning. Things that can help is to try to stick to a sleep schedule, try supplements like L-theanine 1 hour before going to bed and get a vitamin D supplement to take in the morning. There’s also a possibility your dopamine levels are low. I used to feel the exact same way, at night I felt super motivated, clear thinking and great. The thing though was that I felt like shit during the day and even though I wanted to fix things, do thinks or whatever it was, I couldn’t. Usually people don’t make calls, meet people and get a lot of things done at night and my brain new that and that in itself made me feel better, my unconscious mind was like since you “don’t have to” do this since you really can’t call customer service, the doctor or whatever at night, it makes you feel good because then it wasn’t you that failed, it was other circumstances that made you not do it. Does that make sense? it’s like a self comforting thing our brains does when we are low on some neurotransmitters in the brain. I will add that I got diagnosed with adhd after years of behaving like this and that made all the difference in me understanding my behavior, I was always lacking dopamine. Now, with the help of great supplements, nootropics and very low dose of stimulant medication I’m a different person. This was very long and maybe a little TMI but if it could help anybody in some way it’s all good. (I am in no way saying you have adhd just that when imbalances occur in our bodies due to circumstances in life, both physical or mental problems, we can actually make them better once we understand why and then find a solution).
Great video! I have to say many of the self-improvement books have been detrimental to me while I was going through a dark place in my life. (such as The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success...) It made me feel like I was just someone who cared too much about other people's opinion. And that's why I ended up in this sad state of my life. What I think these books failed to do was to point out the complexity of life. They tend to simplify people into two groups: the successful/ happy ones and the failed/ sad ones. It helps to push the value they are trying to sell: "By doing this X way you will be happy, you dumbass!" But when you try to apply these principles they teach into your own life, you realised that it doesn't work. Life is never as simple as what these books describe it to be. There is no magical cure that just solves all your problems.
However, there were books that really helped me. They were actually more books focused on neuroscience. Such as The Upward Spiral, Happiness Hypothesis, and Happy by Darren Brown. And I believe the reason is that it separate myself from my brain. It made me realised that my brain is NOT me. It is an organ that can have chemical imbalances. That it has biological reaction that is beyond my physical control. And that there are things I can do to reduce the intensity of my emotion.
I also highly recommend Dr.K (HealthyGamerGG) on UA-cam. And please be very careful when you read another self-improvement books if you are not feeling good in your life.
Swopping addictions. Exactly. I just talked to someone about that a few days ago. It’s about redirecting the energy towards something positive for yourself.
I think another important idea is that changing your thoughts and behavior goes with an exponential curve. It is not linear, when you start it will take a long time to see results. And it will take some time, but once you see the results it will motivate you, your actions become habits and that's what you want
Self-improvement books (along with How to become a millionaire stuff) are for ppl who love to procrastinate and can't force themselves to get things done. Reading such books just makes them feel better/less guilty because after all they do sth towards their goals (reading about it :D ) ;)
Step one read
Step 2 do
You are definetly right, but they deffinetly changed me. Learned optimism made me less of pessimist, why we sleeps made me aware that 8 hours of sleep is essential, and books about nutrition brought me to a healthier lifestyle. They definetly can help since they can target different areas of life, but yeah a lot of them are telling you the same stuff
I disagree. Some people just don’t know and its ok to learn
So, yesterday, while watching this video I said to myself, that’s it, tomorrow after work I’m gonna go get that book I’ve been wanting to buy, and in the end you said, go check out 5 books you definitely recommend reading in 2022 and VOILÁ, my book was one of the ones you recommended and yesterday I thought to myself how fantastic of a moment, but held back from commenting until I’d have the book in my hands. So happy I finally did it! Thanks for that moment 🧡
You are totally correct ma am