⏳ Can I Speed Up the Binge Eating Recovery Process?
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- Опубліковано 24 кві 2024
- HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO RECOVER (AND CAN I DO IT FASTER)
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Disclaimer: This video is for information purposes only and my content should not be used as a substitute for seeking treatment from a healthcare provider. My content is not going to be suitable for everyone, so please use your self discernment before applying any video content in your own life.
In this video, I delve into the nuanced and often misunderstood journey of recovery, specifically from binge eating, using an old Buddhist story to illustrate the counterintuitive nature of "trying harder" in the process of healing. I often get asked how long it took me to recover, and honestly, defining that time frame is challenging because recovery isn't about clocking hours; it's about making profound shifts in understanding and behavior.
For the longest time, I believed that I wasn't trying hard enough, a sentiment echoed by therapists and commentators alike, suggesting a need to "toughen up." However, this approach of exerting more control, especially over my appetite, only fueled my binge eating further. It's a common trap many fall into, thinking that more effort equals faster healing, but as the story goes, sometimes doubling your efforts can actually double your time to success.
In addressing recovery, I advocate for a food freedom model rather than restrictive diets or cutting out specific foods, which only heightened my binge behaviors. I found that for some, particularly those for whom restriction is a primary trigger, cessation of restrictive practices can lead to quick improvement. However, for others like myself, where emotional triggers also play a significant role, simply stopping restriction isn't a complete solution.
Recovery for me was about understanding and managing these emotional triggers, not just sitting with my feelings, which can often spiral into more distress. Through techniques like the RALiC method, which I detail in my book, I've learned to process my emotions in a way that feels safe and constructive.
I also discuss the importance of reevaluating our narratives around recovery, particularly the conflation of recovery with weight loss. Many of us hold onto beliefs that not only hinder our recovery but also warp our perceptions of what healing looks like. Recovery, I've come to find, should not be a painful endurance test but a satisfying process of self-discovery and growth.
Throughout this video, I emphasize that understanding your specific triggers and learning how to manage them effectively is crucial. This isn't about quick fixes or merely trying harder; it's about making thoughtful changes to how we interpret and react to our triggers. And by changing our story and our approach to these challenges, we can truly begin to free ourselves from the trap of binge eating.
Thank you for watching, and I look forward to continuing this conversation in my next video, where we'll explore more about the transformative journey of recovery.
You truly are my beacon in the night in these challenging times. I love everything about what you offer on your channel : facts, realism, kindness, true empathy. You really feel like someone who can be trusted without ever sounding preachy. So grateful for social media and the Internet when I watch something like this video. You are a gem, thank you SO much for your work and your help 🙏🏼
I agree whole heartedly with everything you said!
1 major issue for me is, restricting is a trigger, but I do want to lose weight, so how do I lose weight without restricting? 😭 no one talks about this
I have a whole playlist for people who are binge eating and concerned about their weight: ua-cam.com/play/PL-0iL93mU_TSIAWOv0XdtNW4dlNceqwQE.html&si=DuMUfyM6bQ76iStW
Something that helped for me was to change my habits slightly without telling myself straight no about food. So "you can't eat cake anymore full stop" would turn into "I'm fancying cake so I'm going to walk to that nice bakery in town and buy myself something" and I'd go and make a little trip of it and buy myself a treat whilst getting a walk at the same time, whereas before I'd have said no, tried to just have nothing, and then found myself driving to a supermarket buying multipacks of muffins and crisps then eating them all in one sitting probably in the carpark. I also don't restrict meals I have my 3 meals a day, I try and eat mostly homemade meals using whole foods but during the working week if I end up eating out and not bringing lunch in to work etc I don't sweat it because I know most my other meals are home made. I found that when I started being mindful of mealtimes and how quickly I was eating I tried to slow down and make a point of focusing on just eating my meal and found my portions became smaller because I realised I was full quicker and my idea of a normal size meal (for me individually) regulated itself without me having to makeup rules and restrict myself or count calories (which always sends me into spirals and binges.) It was a slow process but small changes added up and my binges were less frequent and my weight stabilised at a better place. I still slip up sometimes but because it's only every so often now it doesn't effect my weight and I'm able to be kinder to myself and come back to a good place more easily. I wish you luck on your journey Xx
Thank you for everything you do, Sara. I’m currently on my second real attempt at recovery and this time seems to be a little easier than the last. Your videos remind me to be mindful and self-aware. I’m doing better this time around at not overthinking every food choice and I am far more compassionate with myself than I ever have been. Out of the dozens of channels I’ve gone to for help, you give the most helpful advice. I hope you’re well and that I can leave another comment in the future to celebrate my progress. Looking forward to the next video
Thank you so much for your content. I’ve been struggling with binge eating for about 20 years now, and like you say, I feel like I’ve been trying to recover ever since it started. I don’t think the problem is that I don’t want it enough, or that I haven’t tried enough, although of course I’ve had those thoughts many times. I started to listen to your videos and podcasts this year and they really speak to me, in a way that’s different from all the books I’ve read, videos I’ve watched, and even from what I’ve been told by therapists. Our experiences share a lot of similarities, and I feel hopeful that I will make further progress this year by listening to you.
I tried so hard to stop binging when I was in the thick of it. Now that I don't have BN/BED anymore, I just sort of realized one day that it wasn't a thing anymore. It didn't feel like it happened because I started trying harder. I DID change a whole lot about my life, but the fact that it wasn't all about my binge eating actually seemed to have been more effective. I overeat sometimes, sure, but I don't experience that specific binge desire anymore. For the first time in my life I can have a treat and have it just be a treat, it's really nice :)
“Satisfying process…”. That resonated with me. I also appreciate you reminding us that we all have our own triggers and steps that may work for one, doesn’t mean it works for everyone. Thank you!
The Binge Eating Therapist, This is great! I liked it and subscribed!
Welcome! 🤗 Good to have you here ❤️
❤❤❤u are amazing I LOVE U SO MUCH I watch your videos and I feel relatable and understood thank u for being part of my journey
❤ for me binge eating was triggered by emotions and not restriction. I mean, sure putting on weight was not a happy thing, but it didn't make me compensate for binging. I wasn't like, oh no now I have to eat less tomorrow or something like that. At the worst of it, it was depression, overwhelm etc that fueled it. It's taken me... hmmm let's say ~10 years to recover. I'm now at a place where I will still overeat, but it's not from an emotional place, just from an enjoyment place. And that ok. That's fine with me, as it is no longer a compulsion.
Hello everyone! It is my 5th day of eating well, without binges.. I have an urge to say... I am an ex addicted from Morfium, cocain and Xanax. I am clean for 4 years and my binge eating disorder went to the roof once I started cleaning my body from toxins. My nervous system and my body were exhausted from not eating and doing drugs.. Now the only thing that is left is for me to get along with my eating habits..Also, I am so fucking tired from all the battles I won in the last years, I started crying right now while typing because it is so real... Your videos helped me a lot, I cannot listen to any frequency voice when my system is overstimulated but your voice and tone are perfect for eating disorder neurosis.. Thank you!❤
Massive credit to you for getting clean. I’m so glad to hear that my content is helpful for you at this time. Sending you a whole lot of admiration and care as you navigate this leg of your life journey ❤️
Great content, thanks for sharing. I liked your analogy of the finger trap/spider web, I think it works well with regulating thoughts and behaviours.
This is the concept of wu wei. Like the analogy of the farmer who wanted his crops to grow faster so he pulled on them and ripped them out. Let your crops grow and nurture the sprouts, don’t rush them.
Smashing stuff!
I get trapped in the restriction, binge guilt cycle a lot. Your comment on trying harder in the wrong area resonates with me
I feel like this concept of numbing against triggers has been a missing piece of the puzzle for me, thank you so so much. Will try it out
The only way to get through is to allow 2 steps forward and one step back and learning from your own mistakes. If you fail, you get up again and think what you could have done differently the next time
If I dont binge in the evening, I feel emptiness inside. I can't help it. I don't want to feel like that.
Do you offer 1:1 sessions to overcome this issue?
And how do I listen to your book on UA-cam?
@@AC-iw5mv My book is one my channel page and here’s the link ua-cam.com/video/Qr5qmQxiutw/v-deo.htmlsi=dJmCoR9d-6SNobFm
I do offer 1-2-1s but there could be a bit of a wait. You can see the services I offer at www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com
Yep, I was finding myself bingeing over and over again. I found your channel and “binge watched” your videos (no pun intended!). I quit restricting and my binges have almost stopped. I wish I could say that I was completely content with this decision, but I’m still terrified of gaining a bunch of weight. I’m trying to trust the process though. It’s been about six weeks now, and I’m finding that the forbidden foods don’t quite have the appeal that they did when I first quit restricting. I’m beginning to trust myself.
@@Livinginozthat is quite inspiring. Have you had any binges during the 6 weeks? Hope not but just wondering what to expect
I went from anorexia to over weight please help me lose fat
What is the method that Sarah uses to regulate herself, because she processes cognitively, that you can find in youtube for free? Sorry, I'm not a native speaker and I didn't get that part. Thanks in advance, lovely community❤
It's in the second half of my book ua-cam.com/video/Qr5qmQxiutw/v-deo.htmlsi=wODAMUFrzcNRemGY (time stamps are in the description)
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thank you so much!!! You are a star ✨