When I saw the title of this video, I was a little skeptical. But the way you discussed such a difficult topic so beautifully is truly appreciable. Love it!
Every one wants to discuss but due to some personal reasons and social circumstances we people avoid having all about discuss but rabia thanks for your discussion ❤😊
No , we certainly can and should blame the woman too. You just don't want to because of your gender bias it'll be hard to swallow. Why not blame the woman in this scenario ? A grown adult with functional brain. How ? Why only one is accountable ? If the man was adult and she was minor, then you can put all blame on man because then she could be accepted as naive or vulnerable. On one hand you say she is cheating her cousin with her own will , and then you say we can only blame the man. Hmm, delusion delusion.
I don't agree....... Larkiyaan emotional hoti hain sensitive hoti hain, itna dimagh isteemal ni karti ..... 100% kasoor us admi ka hay ..... Ajkal kay admiyon ka dimagh kharab hogaya hay chahay teenage larka ho ya shadi shuda.... Apni biwi kay sath loyal ni hotay lekin baad mai biwi pr sara blame dal detay ki mein khush ni hun
Please you need more to talk about these topics. It's very necessary in today's busy world. Please play your part to improve the concept on these kinds of social issues.
I’m divorced and my ex had also cheated on me with his old friend and then left me. I was approached recently by an old class fellow who is married, I plainly told him “No”. I cannot do the same to another woman that was done to me! Period. Girls need to be strong enough to not fall for false promises. These kind of men are just interested in flings and not a real relationship. This point of man can marry up to 4 times is also misinterpreted too much in our culture. Any man who wants to remarry has to get permission from his wife, legally as well as morally. And he has to treat both wives equally in every way. How many men can do that?
You are 100 % right I totally agree with you but this thing is tremondously increassing in PAKISTAN and in muslim society ... k mardo ny ye ekkk rttt lgaye hui that is islam we are allowed for 4 marriages. I dont know Islam ko forgranted use kr rahy hai koi agy details nahi dekhi kuch nahi likn bss 4 shadyann krnii.
My cousin recently married to indian girl in abroad. He was already married to my another cousin. Now he is taking care both of them. Aur han permission bhi li thi us ne before getting married to another girl. Now they are all happily spending their lives. 🙂
@@ahmedsadat1751 but what was the reason? Was he not happy with the first wife? Why isn’t she enough for him? Pata nahin kis dil se ya kis majboori se bechari ne permission de hoge!
So brave of you rabia to bring up such conversations! Such a beautiful message and the way you talk! 100% going to stay in my mind your sentences are so pure and insightful
Affairs are wrong, sinful and destructive- no excuses at all. I speak from personal experience. A “friend” went after my husband and got him. He left me and our two beautiful children totally and never looked back.
مجھے بہت خوشی ہوئی کہ آپ جیسی چھوٹی لڑکی ایسے موضوع پر بات کر سکتی ہے اور اتنی سمجھداری سے درست راستے کی رہنمائی کر سکتی ہے .اس کا م کو جاری رکھیں .اللہ آپ کو جزائے خیر دے
I really appreciate your take on this point Rabia. You always come up with something so relatable and unique. And I think this is how we all should start talking about these things so that we can create safe spaces for the people around us to share anything and everything they want to share. This way many bad things could be avoided from happening.
That’s the problem I have with Pakistani dramas, especially hasrat. It’s disappointing and completely sets the wrong standards. It’s not justified in any society, let’s all have boundaries and an amount of self respect. Let’s not glamorise.
Great Rabia. This is the type of video that we need to make when you have the power to influence people. Please do remake such moral related videos and we will continue to give you unwavering support. Take care❤❤
Much needed topic to talk about.. specially our dramas portraying single girls to run behind married men making schemes to get that man is causing so much destruction to the young minds..
Esa hi hai,aur herat ki baat hai,ese log behad khush rehte hain for example ap indian actresses ko dekhe almost sub second wives hain aur bari Khush bhi hain 🤗
@@hudabaig2504 actresses ki baat chorein wo islami moashrey nahi quraan mey her cheese tüfseel sey majood hey apni zuban ney quraan perhna zaroorI Berket key liey Quran nahi zindegi guzarney ka Asool hey muselman per furz hey ❤khush rahei
very much inspired to listen you. you not only guided logically but spiritually also. you didn't typically blamed the girl only but the man who involved in a forbidden way. our society needs the sensibles to speak. an evil man couldn't do such evil as the silence of sensibles.
Rabia, you're absolutely right, and may Allah reward you for this, Ameen. However, in today's world, love often revolves around 'desire.' It seems many women don't fall in love with poor or middle-class men. For instance, in families, they might ignore a poor cousin but are interested in a wealthy cousin, even if he's married. Similarly, in the workplace, a woman might fall for a colleague who owns a car or has money, but might overlook an honest, average-looking man who isn't wealthy. This harsh reality is evident from my own family's experiences. For example, my cousin, a woman, was deeply hurt when her husband, who became wealthier, cheated on her with a bank cashier he met while managing his account. This cashier knew he was married and had children but still pursued a relationship with him, which eventually led to a divorce. It's a very painful story.
Honest but average looking girls are also overlooked and ignored as compared to pretty faced characterless modern bit**es. So if women are doing the same I guess now it's balanced. Everyone has right to do whatever they want. Period.
Truly appreciate your wise words. It's good to see someone related to the entertainment industry giving out positive and morally correct advise. I haven't subscribed your channel but you certainly earned my like and subscription after this. Keep up the good work with these pep talks, people need to hear about this.
Wow! I think that this was a very important topic to cover as it will open up a conversation that is, normally, never had. As you pointed out, many people do not have a safe place to go to and seek advice as the subject can be so taboo. This will surely help those who are going through it now, or those who are thinking about it. It might also be a moment of reflection for those unfortunate enough to have fallen for this age old tactic! Well done 👍
Rabia you are absolutely right. We have left no safe space for our kids to discuss their issues. I wish parents could have hart to create a dailogue with their kids.
This is exactly what I would tell to my friend and also I would practice the same thing!!! It’s amazing how you emphasized the importance of tahajjud,istikhara and dua 😘❤️❤️…you delivered the message very pleasantly
Pehli baat tau yeh h k aap khud ko smjhaen k apki limits hn, ap married SE dur rhen, even ager wo khud b show krty hn interest...or ager ap attract ho b jaty hn tau apni feelings KO Apne tak snbhaal k rkhen, Kisi Ka ghr khrab na ho bus apki wjha se....
Great bohat Acha message dya ap nay aik aur baat kehns chahon ge keh aisi larkian sirf doosron ka Ghar kharab nahi Kareem blk un k bachon Ka haq bhi marti hayn qk unk father bachon ki jagah unpar kharch Kar rahay hotay hayn is liay pls aisi tamam ladies say request hay k Kisi ki haq maar Kar apna Ghar banayen ge to Woh Kabhi bhi payedar Nahi banay ga...
Very important topic as many women are suffering from these extra marital relationships. You were absolutely right and every point made sense. Just want to add one point. People say it is the husband who needs to be blamed but i believe both are equally responsible. Why do women let him have fun outside his marriage, why they dont feel what would the wife go through and same goes for married women cheating thier husbands. So both are wrong and they need education. If unhappy leave the relationship but instead they want to use thier spouses as well as have fun from girlfriends. End result is disastrous
Such an amazing topic brought by you, this is getting so common in our culture, earlier it was part of western culture only.. I hope girls get some sanity and careful in this regard, if he can cheat his wife, he can cheat you as well, always remember that.. Amazing response Rabia :)
An extra marital affair is such a sensitive topic to be discussed and I appreciate how Rabia disclosed her concerns and points very well. Unluckily these issues are promoted in Pakistani drama industries without knowing that they destroyed billions of life by just a story/drama. Making it a fantasy for man and woman both that they can do whatever they want, hiding it from their families and yet they can be successful. I can only give one example in an on-air series on Geo TV, “Jaan Nisar”, they showed that the man already has a wife and yet they fantasized the second marriage as showing his lack of interest in his ex-bhabhi, who is his current wife. What ever it was and however the situation was, she is your wife now, how can they show the second marriage a fantasy and making the public think that they can play with the first wife's feelings.
My sister who is 13 years younger than me was involved with a guy and he was extremely toxic. He was using her for money and made her sell her jewellery. She was behaving weird and was being extremely rude with almost everyone at home. Somehow I came to know about that, that she was giving away everything that she had to that guy, got him expensive gifts and phone. Anyway when I came to know about this, she got scared that I’ll involve whole family and she was literally shaking but I told her I’m with you and u don’t have to be scared I’m gonna protect you.
She is now happy and free of that toxic relationship. She only needed me to understand her situation and protect her, which I did. I felt so bad for her when all that happened. But she only neeeed someone to help her get out of that relationship.
Proud of the support you gave her! Everyone needs a friend they can trust and if they can't find them in their loved ones, they will try and find that support outside! And bahar walay phir faidah bhi utha saktay Hain and dhoka bhi dey saktay Hain.
Nice video, One of the reasons why girls or ladies fell prey to such men is lack of emotional support from Family. Than they look for love & emotional support from outside. Thats really sad, bec most of men/boys take advantage of this. SO ITS NECESSARY to provide Emotional support to our daughters, sisters and other ladies at home 🏠
Cuz nowadays everyone can easily access to anyone and try to explore more options through a cell phones or a social media. It’s mainly depends on an individual choice,personality,upbringing and values be it a men or women(married or unmarried).
Hamari society me Jo ho raha hy is me bara role media ka Hy hm girls dramas and films dekh dekh k ye yaqeen kr leti hain k humy relationship me zaroor hona chachiye ar phir sahe ghalat ka farq Bhool jaty hain. Ar ye mistakes hoti hain q k last me ake sb yahe kehty hain samjh nahe arahe, me kese choro? Me Kya karon? Q k media first sight love ko ar Boht he unplanned and unwanted relationships ko encourage and promote kr Raha Hy which is very dangerous..... Thanks for throwing light on such an important topic.
Yes, it's absolutely true that if one cannot own a relationship he is surely a player.... If the girl is loosing her self respect for him then generally thrre is some serious issue which must be sorted out ..... A phase or era came in everybody's life when u feel comfortable sharing your issues with the one you feel your other half.... This time her family or her circle must just not understand her but should put their efforts in making a way out to those issues.... If it's not sorted she will definitely get back to that person she finds ease n comfort where she is heard.....
I MUST APPRECIATE, YOU HAVE DONE GOOD JOB, RABIA JEE! WELL SPOKEN AND I REALLY LIKED IT, THIS SHOULD BE CONVERSATE ON THE DAILY BASIS THAT CAN WOMEN BE AWARE AND DEAL IT WITH CARE.
Excellent video please keep educating young people, God give her 2 choices and we the one choose right or wrong way , and if someone is not true to his family they won’t be true with you , 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
There are a thousand likes on your video! It couldnt have been boring my dear! You are a wise young lady and contributing greatly for young minds to get impressed! Keep them coming… the boring videos! 🙂
Oh rabia you're such a thoughtful person. I love your conversations. I wish we could meet some day on a cup of tea and having such pure discussions. I wish you were a friend of mine.. More power to you girl. Stay blessed
Well done Rabia. You touched a very pertinent point in the lives of today's women, especially working women. And you gave the best guidance - Dua, Tahajjud and ISTIKHARA. Doing Istikhara whenever we are at the crossroads of our lives, solves numerous issues in the BEST WAY
you are right about it. i am living in a hostel, and these kinds of affairs are very common. some girls get involved in these kinds of affairs due to poor financial background and to maintain their standard while living in cities. it is a humble request for parents to keep check on their daughters and provide them with enough financial support so that they should not look for these. Along with these education is very important for girls, parents should educate them about what is right and what is wrong.
Very well thoughts, you elaborate your thoughts wisely which I really appreciate. You seem to be a confident well composed person which girls need to follow to get guidance. Really appreciated 👍
I know a woman who is 40 years old , have a husband a daughter but got an affair with her cousin’s husband only because he is very rich even though her own husband has provided her with every luxury, she has maid, cook, driver but still her cousin’s husband is billionaire so she started convincing him to take her as his second wife and she would take divorce from her husband, and most shocking thing was that her greedy mother and father supported her in all that rubbish.
No one should be involved in cheating and hidden affairs, when one is involving with a married man, she should have an open heart to accept a wife and children, and a man should tell her wife about a second marriage. There should be a consent of all 3 people on polygamy and follow the teachings of Islam which is Nikah. No hidden affairs and cheating are allowed.
@@vinsin328consent of three people are required. Boy ,girl and girls' father. And another thing be it first marriage or second marriage you can't have a affair with a girl before marriage. It is not allowed in Islam. If you like a girl you should go to her parents with a proposal. 4 marriage doesn't mean you are allowed to have affairs.
As it is said in islam. " Dont do adultery and dont go even close to that " All the tempting and fanatasising situations are infact going close to that. As far as you said about tahajud and duah. I dont know if it would work! I rather believe it comes from setting your moral boundaries and how you have built your consious. The more weak a person is in his or her thoughts.the devil dont need enough work to persuade you with reasons.
The most important message in this video is your line " jsko apne partner se msla hai phly jakr wo solve kre then end kr k kre jo krna hai ". Its very disturbing k log apne partners ko bolty hain unki wja se hm dusro ki truf attract horhy hain. Man you need to correct yourself because you are faulty here.
Its true pehle apne masle hal kare baad me relationship talash kare. Do naaw par sawar hona chalaki hai sincerity nahi. Aur sbse bari baat jiske pas option hoga wo kbhi apka nahi ho sakta
First thing is you are giving so much positive vibes Mashallah And this is the topic that needs to be discussed on every level i mean when we talk about classes. Its the problem of lower class, middle and upper class. I am so done with this Maain bhi support krti hain there are so many reasons for this jealousy, life stable krni hai, koi purana badla hai, rishty nahi hoty so many reasons.
Hey Rabia.... I'm An Indian..... But I Love Your Way Of Analysis...... And Also Agree With Your Stand On Different Topics.... .... Stay Discussing These Things, It Makes A Difference.... To People Who Facing Such Vulnerable Situations..... Thank You Sweetheart, Stay Blessed.... Love and Respect from This Side....
MashaALLAH bohat hi important topic ko highlight kia hai ap ne.This I'd really inspirering ke media se related person itni religious baat itne acchy aur asaan tareqe se Kare Well done.
Married men are never reliable...if they are insecure...they ll be worst....they will be unhappy in their first marriage...so they ll make you believe that you were their love...then after marrying you somehow...their connection with their first wives will be stronger due to guilt..... that's how it ends.....
پیار کبھی بھی جسمانی نہیں ہوتا ۔جس سے پیار ہو اگر اسکے چہرے کے علاوہ کسی اور جگہ نظر بھی پڑ جائے تو غلاظت کا احساس ہوتا ہے ۔اسے تو بس دیکھینے سے راحت اور نشے کا احساس ہوتا ہے ۔پاکیزگی وہ بھی آخری حد تک ۔یہ خد کا تجربہ ہے ۔جس کو آپ پیار کہ رہی ہیں وہ انسانی جبلت ہے جس کے زیر اثر انسان جنس مخالف کی طرف جسمانی تعلق قائم کرنے میں لذت محسوس کرتا ہے ۔یعنی جسمانی کشش ۔❤
ALLAH PAK hm sab Ki hefazat frmay ameen...ap ne bilkul theek Kaha sis jo mard ya Jo aurat Apne shohr apni b.v K sath loyal Nahi wo kisi or K sath Kya wafa kre ga...makafat e amal hota hi hota hai
nahi rabiya ❤aap ne last me ye bilkul galt kha ki aap boring baate kar rahi hai and kisi ko koyi intrust nahi .magr aap ke hum jese fen app ki esi vedios ka wait karte hai in jese topics par aap hi bol sakti hai or bohot pyaar bolti hai .and socaity need more talk and listen about thiss topics 👍👍
100% agreed but if he is rich then second marriage and he decide do justice and yes he can't make at a time two sisters but they were cousins aur mujhe ye kehne he wo kon log hen jin ku aap itna importance deti hen wo konsa number he hamne bahut saari tableegh ki aap ne usku to ignore kar diya
What would you have called it if the man had also married her at the same time? Would putting a halal stamp on things make any difference of change the face of cheating? I don't think so. It would still be cheating and a betrayal for the first wife...
When I saw the title of this video, I was a little skeptical. But the way you discussed such a difficult topic so beautifully is truly appreciable. Love it!
Rabia and her braveness to talk about daring topics👏🏻
wonderful talk
Every one wants to discuss but due to some personal reasons and social circumstances we people avoid having all about discuss but rabia thanks for your discussion ❤😊
Go to Pakistan
extra marital affairs are increasing in our society.. i am happy that someone has taken courage to talk about this.
Acha ye ab society ko bachaegi
We can not only put the blame on a man and say the girl is vulnerable. She is also cheating her cousin with her own will.
Exactly ....cheating is a choice
No , we certainly can and should blame the woman too. You just don't want to because of your gender bias it'll be hard to swallow. Why not blame the woman in this scenario ? A grown adult with functional brain. How ? Why only one is accountable ?
If the man was adult and she was minor, then you can put all blame on man because then she could be accepted as naive or vulnerable.
On one hand you say she is cheating her cousin with her own will , and then you say we can only blame the man. Hmm, delusion delusion.
I don't agree....... Larkiyaan emotional hoti hain sensitive hoti hain, itna dimagh isteemal ni karti ..... 100% kasoor us admi ka hay ..... Ajkal kay admiyon ka dimagh kharab hogaya hay chahay teenage larka ho ya shadi shuda.... Apni biwi kay sath loyal ni hotay lekin baad mai biwi pr sara blame dal detay ki mein khush ni hun
Exactly.. in fact in this case the girl's qasoor is more as she is doing this to her cousin. What kind of person that makes her..
why are we telling this cheating.
Please you need more to talk about these topics. It's very necessary in today's busy world. Please play your part to improve the concept on these kinds of social issues.
I’m divorced and my ex had also cheated on me with his old friend and then left me. I was approached recently by an old class fellow who is married, I plainly told him “No”. I cannot do the same to another woman that was done to me! Period. Girls need to be strong enough to not fall for false promises. These kind of men are just interested in flings and not a real relationship. This point of man can marry up to 4 times is also misinterpreted too much in our culture. Any man who wants to remarry has to get permission from his wife, legally as well as morally. And he has to treat both wives equally in every way. How many men can do that?
You are 100 % right I totally agree with you but this thing is tremondously increassing in PAKISTAN and in muslim society ... k mardo ny ye ekkk rttt lgaye hui that is islam we are allowed for 4 marriages.
I dont know Islam ko forgranted use kr rahy hai koi agy details nahi dekhi kuch nahi likn bss 4 shadyann krnii.
Tu yehi log Roz e qiamat falij zafa uthae jaen ge,Jo insaaf nahi Karen ge ye inn ko koi nahi batata
My cousin recently married to indian girl in abroad. He was already married to my another cousin. Now he is taking care both of them. Aur han permission bhi li thi us ne before getting married to another girl. Now they are all happily spending their lives. 🙂
@@ahmedsadat1751 but what was the reason? Was he not happy with the first wife? Why isn’t she enough for him? Pata nahin kis dil se ya kis majboori se bechari ne permission de hoge!
Allow to Divorce & Khulaa bhi hay, phir laitay rahain Khulaas & daitay rahain divorces. 4 wives simultaneously achi aexcuse for thurki behavior. #Digusting
So true, well said
You suggested her to perform istikhara and tahajjud - two powerful weapons of a mumin subhanallah
May Allah bless you rabia❤ ameen
So brave of you rabia to bring up such conversations! Such a beautiful message and the way you talk! 100% going to stay in my mind your sentences are so pure and insightful
Such a wonderful topic.Proud of you bravery to talk on such a topic. Hats of to you.
People always talk about the problems of society without presenting solutions. Great Rabia. Good advice!
Affairs are wrong, sinful and destructive- no excuses at all. I speak from personal experience. A “friend” went after my husband and got him. He left me and our two beautiful children totally and never looked back.
So sorry to hear this. I hope you and your family remain strong!
Stay strong dear .Allah will help u IA
Then you should be thankful to Allah for taking two pieces of sh*t out of your life.
This is wrong of him and his mum's ignorance of not teaching him
Life is hard
Slamat rhy Abad rhy khush rhy(Allah ap ko apne aur qareeb Kare ap say razi rhy humshah)
Aameen
مجھے بہت خوشی ہوئی کہ آپ جیسی چھوٹی لڑکی ایسے موضوع پر بات کر سکتی ہے اور اتنی سمجھداری سے درست راستے کی رہنمائی کر سکتی ہے .اس کا م کو جاری رکھیں .اللہ آپ کو جزائے خیر دے
I saw her interviews in Fchshia but she is such a wise lady, I had no idea... beautiful message
I really appreciate your take on this point Rabia. You always come up with something so relatable and unique. And I think this is how we all should start talking about these things so that we can create safe spaces for the people around us to share anything and everything they want to share. This way many bad things could be avoided from happening.
That’s the problem I have with Pakistani dramas, especially hasrat. It’s disappointing and completely sets the wrong standards. It’s not justified in any society, let’s all have boundaries and an amount of self respect. Let’s not glamorise.
Great Rabia. This is the type of video that we need to make when you have the power to influence people. Please do remake such moral related videos and we will continue to give you unwavering support. Take care❤❤
Much needed topic to talk about.. specially our dramas portraying single girls to run behind married men making schemes to get that man is causing so much destruction to the young minds..
Because Pakistan is an Islamic country.
you spoke so well...without being judgemental
Destroying somebody's home and trying to make it yours 🙂
Esa hi hai,aur herat ki baat hai,ese log behad khush rehte hain for example ap indian actresses ko dekhe almost sub second wives hain aur bari Khush bhi hain 🤗
This reminds me of Israhell. 😂
@@hummingbird9584 yeah after commenting it I realized this too😂
@@hudabaig2504 actresses ki baat chorein wo islami moashrey nahi quraan mey her cheese tüfseel sey majood hey apni zuban ney quraan perhna zaroorI Berket key liey Quran nahi zindegi guzarney ka Asool hey muselman per furz hey ❤khush rahei
zionist thing
Rabia, your guidance to her is absolutely correct. That guy must be identified and dealt with.
very much inspired to listen you.
you not only guided logically but spiritually also.
you didn't typically blamed the girl only but the man who involved in a forbidden way.
our society needs the sensibles to speak. an evil man couldn't do such evil as the silence of sensibles.
Rabia, you're absolutely right, and may Allah reward you for this, Ameen. However, in today's world, love often revolves around 'desire.' It seems many women don't fall in love with poor or middle-class men. For instance, in families, they might ignore a poor cousin but are interested in a wealthy cousin, even if he's married. Similarly, in the workplace, a woman might fall for a colleague who owns a car or has money, but might overlook an honest, average-looking man who isn't wealthy. This harsh reality is evident from my own family's experiences. For example, my cousin, a woman, was deeply hurt when her husband, who became wealthier, cheated on her with a bank cashier he met while managing his account. This cashier knew he was married and had children but still pursued a relationship with him, which eventually led to a divorce. It's a very painful story.
Honest but average looking girls are also overlooked and ignored as compared to pretty faced characterless modern bit**es. So if women are doing the same I guess now it's balanced. Everyone has right to do whatever they want. Period.
a relationship that stands on wealth and hot looks is a sandcastle waiting for that wave.
THANK YOU for using your platform for these conversations.
Truly appreciate your wise words. It's good to see someone related to the entertainment industry giving out positive and morally correct advise. I haven't subscribed your channel but you certainly earned my like and subscription after this. Keep up the good work with these pep talks, people need to hear about this.
Glad you talked about this real issue. It is on the rise. Well done
On my god. This is so much increasing everywhere even in offices. I would say both parties are involved.
Please 🙏🏻 don’t write god just write Allah اللّٰہ
Thanks . Please speak more on these kind of topics too
Wow! I think that this was a very important topic to cover as it will open up a conversation that is, normally, never had. As you pointed out, many people do not have a safe place to go to and seek advice as the subject can be so taboo. This will surely help those who are going through it now, or those who are thinking about it. It might also be a moment of reflection for those unfortunate enough to have fallen for this age old tactic! Well done 👍
Rabia you are absolutely right. We have left no safe space for our kids to discuss their issues. I wish parents could have hart to create a dailogue with their kids.
Good talk ! Much needed!
As working woman I also observed such things in offices .thank you for vouce and discussed about the topic very good❤
Excellent Rabia...honestly eis tarha k issues pe bat krny ki bht zaroorat hai you did a great job
The problem is, most women have made second marriage a "sin" in the society .. why "leave his wife", he can marry both.
Totally agree with what you say and I'm glad you talk about it
This is exactly what I would tell to my friend and also I would practice the same thing!!! It’s amazing how you emphasized the importance of tahajjud,istikhara and dua 😘❤️❤️…you delivered the message very pleasantly
So true. Good talk Rabia 100% agreed with what you have said
Girls need to be more careful
Pehli baat tau yeh h k aap khud ko smjhaen k apki limits hn, ap married SE dur rhen, even ager wo khud b show krty hn interest...or ager ap attract ho b jaty hn tau apni feelings KO Apne tak snbhaal k rkhen, Kisi Ka ghr khrab na ho bus apki wjha se....
Great bohat Acha message dya ap nay aik aur baat kehns chahon ge keh aisi larkian sirf doosron ka Ghar kharab nahi Kareem blk un k bachon Ka haq bhi marti hayn qk unk father bachon ki jagah unpar kharch Kar rahay hotay hayn is liay pls aisi tamam ladies say request hay k Kisi ki haq maar Kar apna Ghar banayen ge to Woh Kabhi bhi payedar Nahi banay ga...
Very important topic as many women are suffering from these extra marital relationships. You were absolutely right and every point made sense.
Just want to add one point. People say it is the husband who needs to be blamed but i believe both are equally responsible. Why do women let him have fun outside his marriage, why they dont feel what would the wife go through and same goes for married women cheating thier husbands.
So both are wrong and they need education. If unhappy leave the relationship but instead they want to use thier spouses as well as have fun from girlfriends. End result is disastrous
Nowadays people r lusty 😅.
Such an amazing topic brought by you, this is getting so common in our culture, earlier it was part of western culture only.. I hope girls get some sanity and careful in this regard, if he can cheat his wife, he can cheat you as well, always remember that.. Amazing response Rabia :)
An extra marital affair is such a sensitive topic to be discussed and I appreciate how Rabia disclosed her concerns and points very well.
Unluckily these issues are promoted in Pakistani drama industries without knowing that they destroyed billions of life by just a story/drama. Making it a fantasy for man and woman both that they can do whatever they want, hiding it from their families and yet they can be successful.
I can only give one example in an on-air series on Geo TV, “Jaan Nisar”, they showed that the man already has a wife and yet they fantasized the second marriage as showing his lack of interest in his ex-bhabhi, who is his current wife. What ever it was and however the situation was, she is your wife now, how can they show the second marriage a fantasy and making the public think that they can play with the first wife's feelings.
We want more topics like this like this was on extra marital affair but also having affair
Massive respect for speaking about it. Keep up the strength
My sister who is 13 years younger than me was involved with a guy and he was extremely toxic. He was using her for money and made her sell her jewellery. She was behaving weird and was being extremely rude with almost everyone at home. Somehow I came to know about that, that she was giving away everything that she had to that guy, got him expensive gifts and phone. Anyway when I came to know about this, she got scared that I’ll involve whole family and she was literally shaking but I told her I’m with you and u don’t have to be scared I’m gonna protect you.
She is now happy and free of that toxic relationship. She only needed me to understand her situation and protect her, which I did. I felt so bad for her when all that happened. But she only neeeed someone to help her get out of that relationship.
Proud of the support you gave her! Everyone needs a friend they can trust and if they can't find them in their loved ones, they will try and find that support outside! And bahar walay phir faidah bhi utha saktay Hain and dhoka bhi dey saktay Hain.
thank you for sharing this
Nice video, One of the reasons why girls or ladies fell prey to such men is lack of emotional support from Family. Than they look for love & emotional support from outside. Thats really sad, bec most of men/boys take advantage of this. SO ITS NECESSARY to provide Emotional support to our daughters, sisters and other ladies at home 🏠
You have chosen a very good topic.
Cuz nowadays everyone can easily access to anyone and try to explore more options through a cell phones or a social media.
It’s mainly depends on an individual choice,personality,upbringing and values be it a men or women(married or unmarried).
So good to see a very spiritual side of you Rabia....and a good advice to all women.
Hamari society me Jo ho raha hy is me bara role media ka Hy hm girls dramas and films dekh dekh k ye yaqeen kr leti hain k humy relationship me zaroor hona chachiye ar phir sahe ghalat ka farq Bhool jaty hain. Ar ye mistakes hoti hain q k last me ake sb yahe kehty hain samjh nahe arahe, me kese choro? Me Kya karon? Q k media first sight love ko ar Boht he unplanned and unwanted relationships ko encourage and promote kr Raha Hy which is very dangerous..... Thanks for throwing light on such an important topic.
Yes, it's absolutely true that if one cannot own a relationship he is surely a player.... If the girl is loosing her self respect for him then generally thrre is some serious issue which must be sorted out ..... A phase or era came in everybody's life when u feel comfortable sharing your issues with the one you feel your other half.... This time her family or her circle must just not understand her but should put their efforts in making a way out to those issues.... If it's not sorted she will definitely get back to that person she finds ease n comfort where she is heard.....
I MUST APPRECIATE, YOU HAVE DONE GOOD JOB, RABIA JEE! WELL SPOKEN AND I REALLY LIKED IT, THIS SHOULD BE CONVERSATE ON THE DAILY BASIS THAT CAN WOMEN BE AWARE AND DEAL IT WITH CARE.
Excellent video please keep educating young people, God give her 2 choices and we the one choose right or wrong way , and if someone is not true to his family they won’t be true with you , 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I am just surprised and happy at the same time that someone is talking so positive with a great intellect in today’s time❤ keep up d
There are a thousand likes on your video! It couldnt have been boring my dear! You are a wise young lady and contributing greatly for young minds to get impressed! Keep them coming… the boring videos! 🙂
thank you, did a good job explaining
Oh rabia you're such a thoughtful person. I love your conversations. I wish we could meet some day on a cup of tea and having such pure discussions. I wish you were a friend of mine.. More power to you girl. Stay blessed
Maybe one day!
@@iamrabiamughni Ahh never thought you would even read my comment ever. So nice of you. :) I'll be waiting for that day.
@@iamrabiamughni In sha Allah
My decision to marry is becoming difficult day by day by such ever increasing cheating stories! Idk where is this gonna end or may be get worse!
Well done Rabia. You touched a very pertinent point in the lives of today's women, especially working women. And you gave the best guidance - Dua, Tahajjud and ISTIKHARA. Doing Istikhara whenever we are at the crossroads of our lives, solves numerous issues in the BEST WAY
بہت اچھا ٹاپک اور بہت اچھے سے حقیقت بتائی آپ نے very nice 👌 🎉
Appreciate your concerns about this very important matter... I appreciate a lot.. we all have to look after our families
So gooood rabia, so gooood, so much needed stuff
you are right about it. i am living in a hostel, and these kinds of affairs are very common. some girls get involved in these kinds of affairs due to poor financial background and to maintain their standard while living in cities. it is a humble request for parents to keep check on their daughters and provide them with enough financial support so that they should not look for these. Along with these education is very important for girls, parents should educate them about what is right and what is wrong.
Very well thoughts, you elaborate your thoughts wisely which I really appreciate. You seem to be a confident well composed person which girls need to follow to get guidance. Really appreciated 👍
Well said Rabia but the truth is evil 😈 is too much in our life and he attacked people but good people keep away from these things
I know a woman who is 40 years old , have a husband a daughter but got an affair with her cousin’s husband only because he is very rich even though her own husband has provided her with every luxury, she has maid, cook, driver but still her cousin’s husband is billionaire so she started convincing him to take her as his second wife and she would take divorce from her husband, and most shocking thing was that her greedy mother and father supported her in all that rubbish.
There are alot of married men who fool around. Aksar to btate hi nahen hen k they are married! This is an evil world
Your words are speechless....
You have spoken my mind..❤
No one should be involved in cheating and hidden affairs, when one is involving with a married man, she should have an open heart to accept a wife and children, and a man should tell her wife about a second marriage.
There should be a consent of all 3 people on polygamy and follow the teachings of Islam which is Nikah.
No hidden affairs and cheating are allowed.
Consent of only two people is required for Nikah.
@@vinsin328consent of three people are required. Boy ,girl and girls' father. And another thing be it first marriage or second marriage you can't have a affair with a girl before marriage. It is not allowed in Islam. If you like a girl you should go to her parents with a proposal. 4 marriage doesn't mean you are allowed to have affairs.
As it is said in islam.
" Dont do adultery and dont go even close to that "
All the tempting and fanatasising situations are infact going close to that.
As far as you said about tahajud and duah. I dont know if it would work!
I rather believe it comes from setting your moral boundaries and how you have built your consious.
The more weak a person is in his or her thoughts.the devil dont need enough work to persuade you with reasons.
The most important message in this video is your line " jsko apne partner se msla hai phly jakr wo solve kre then end kr k kre jo krna hai ". Its very disturbing k log apne partners ko bolty hain unki wja se hm dusro ki truf attract horhy hain. Man you need to correct yourself because you are faulty here.
Its true pehle apne masle hal kare baad me relationship talash kare. Do naaw par sawar hona chalaki hai sincerity nahi. Aur sbse bari baat jiske pas option hoga wo kbhi apka nahi ho sakta
First thing is you are giving so much positive vibes Mashallah
And this is the topic that needs to be discussed on every level i mean when we talk about classes.
Its the problem of lower class, middle and upper class. I am so done with this Maain bhi support krti hain there are so many reasons for this jealousy, life stable krni hai, koi purana badla hai, rishty nahi hoty so many reasons.
Well said Rabia app nay boohat achi baatian ki ❤May Allah protect everyone Aameen
ur theory about choices is also my theory.. which I believe
You are page3 journalist, our stupid drams are preaching this, with very ease, society is getting so Liberal, people woll eventually forget.
Hey Rabia.... I'm An Indian.....
But I Love Your Way Of Analysis......
And Also Agree With Your Stand On Different Topics....
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Stay Discussing These Things, It Makes A Difference.... To People Who Facing Such Vulnerable Situations.....
Thank You Sweetheart, Stay Blessed....
Love and Respect from This Side....
MashaALLAH bohat hi important topic ko highlight kia hai ap ne.This I'd really inspirering ke media se related person itni religious baat itne acchy aur asaan tareqe se Kare Well done.
Married men are never reliable...if they are insecure...they ll be worst....they will be unhappy in their first marriage...so they ll make you believe that you were their love...then after marrying you somehow...their connection with their first wives will be stronger due to guilt..... that's how it ends.....
First of all GIRLS SHOULD AVOID FALLING FOR MARRIED MEN.....❤
Excellent topic. Well said
Awesome advice for young girls and boys …. Stay blessed…. You are doing a fantastic job !!!
U r right...
Cheating is actually sin...
Yes. This is very common now a days
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The number 1 issue for these sort of problem is , restricting man to 1 marriage, because Allah made man with a desires of having more women.
Such a interesting topic to talk about, we all need awareness and specifically in a name of love the judgment of right and wrong.
Thank you for talking about this. And veryyy well said! Kudos
Extra marital affairs are happening due to media.
پیار کبھی بھی جسمانی نہیں ہوتا ۔جس سے پیار ہو اگر اسکے چہرے کے علاوہ کسی اور جگہ نظر بھی پڑ جائے تو غلاظت کا احساس ہوتا ہے ۔اسے تو بس دیکھینے سے راحت اور نشے کا احساس ہوتا ہے ۔پاکیزگی وہ بھی آخری حد تک ۔یہ خد کا تجربہ ہے ۔جس کو آپ پیار کہ رہی ہیں وہ انسانی جبلت ہے جس کے زیر اثر انسان جنس مخالف کی طرف جسمانی تعلق قائم کرنے میں لذت محسوس کرتا ہے ۔یعنی جسمانی کشش ۔❤
ALLAH PAK hm sab Ki hefazat frmay ameen...ap ne bilkul theek Kaha sis jo mard ya Jo aurat Apne shohr apni b.v K sath loyal Nahi wo kisi or K sath Kya wafa kre ga...makafat e amal hota hi hota hai
very good step to talk about the safety and guidance of our daughters...... well done rabia
100% true what she is saying ❤
God bless you that you tells us as a teacher truth thing you will receive reward from the God as well as in the world. Sumah amen from usa.
You need to talk about it more.
Girls chahay jitni bhy independent hojae they are still very vulnerable and easily manipulated.
Istakhaara + tahajud is my life line as well. You spoke well dear Rabia.
nahi rabiya ❤aap ne last me ye bilkul galt kha ki aap boring baate kar rahi hai and kisi ko koyi intrust nahi .magr aap ke hum jese fen app ki esi vedios ka wait karte hai in jese topics par aap hi bol sakti hai or bohot pyaar bolti hai .and socaity need more talk and listen about thiss topics 👍👍
100% agreed but if he is rich then second marriage and he decide do justice and yes he can't make at a time two sisters but they were cousins aur mujhe ye kehne he wo kon log hen jin ku aap itna importance deti hen wo konsa number he hamne bahut saari tableegh ki aap ne usku to ignore kar diya
Well narrated hats off
Rabia, u nailed it. Every word and each line was 👏
What would you have called it if the man had also married her at the same time? Would putting a halal stamp on things make any difference of change the face of cheating? I don't think so. It would still be cheating and a betrayal for the first wife...
Hats off to Rabia for talking on ths sensitive topic.
So much right analysis i will appreciate you that you give 100% good suggestions 👍