Diagnosed at 60, I've been so happy since the DAY. Listening to Jessie Mei, I relate to so much and so many points she has brought up, oversharing, honesty, crashed relationships, no sleep, being misunderstood. Loving listening to this episode.
Being 56yrs old with ADHD & from Australia, I’ve never heard of this woman before. I listened to this video & absolutely love her personality. She sounds like someone I’d get along with. Cheers to her & yourself Alex
I NEEDED IT TODAY!!: THANK YOU, JESSIE! - Line - ''If you work in an office (I do) just want to say .. Well done! '' You have no idea how much I need it today. Thank you!!!
I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 61. I am still digesting it. I think of all the times being frustrated, self effacing, struggles, conversations, looks from others, feeling outcast...I wonder how life would have been different if I knew this decades ago. I always say, I did the best I could.
OMG !!!! Finally I find there is someone else in this world that gets Physically Ill such as I do/ Always have.. literally can not stop throwing up etc. it has landed me in the hospital at times, as it gets so so soooo very bad... I have never ever met nor heard of anyone else suffering in that same way as I do and have.... its absolutely insane..
I think Jessie was the most relatable of all your guests for me, especially the struggle around emotions, relationships and keeping it trapped inside. All the guests are relatable, but Jessie especially so in this regard. I'm not freaked out by miniature things though :D
oooph. I almost lost it when Jessie said 'Well Done'. I work in a hectic office doing Project Management with constant deadlines, switching gears and procrastination making it very stressful. I think it's part of the reason I got inconclusive results during my Psych Evaluation in October and results leaned more towards Anxiety which have left me missing that validation I desperately wanted. Thanks for noticing the struggle!
This has been the most comprehensive episode I feel discussing the broad range of emotions for neuro-divergency. What a beautiful soul She is. I shared her misunderstood empathic traits, & hiding 🙈 behind a full whirlwind of feelings behind the masking smile.
I relate to having the combination of ASD and ADHD as having one foot on the gas pedal and the other on the brake pedal. Never sure which one is going to win out. Another great relatable chat. Jessie is a real gem.
Diagnosed with AuDHD last year at 46. Jess’ story resonated so much with me especially the vomitting part. Before ever my Highschool and uni exam. And now as an adult whenever a stressful situation hits. At work events I used to sit near the exit just in case I needed to leave and be physically sick
I SO relate to Jessie, it's crazy how my biography is almost a copy of hers, also the same struggles. But as a traumasensitive practionioner I also hear many trauma patterns that she described during her interview. I believe many of the symptoms could be alleviated with traumasensitive therapy or coaching and then it would also become clearer what would be left of adhd or autism. Many symptoms overlap and once the traumatic patterns have been adressed it becomes clearer what/if the neurodivergency is still "left" - also there is so much trauma among actors and in the entertainment industry. Thank you SO much for the podcast it feels so good to "connect" with like-minded people at least on this podcast.
What's interesting is that I also grew up with my Dad having to wait by me until I fell asleep and then had the experience of being the last person awake at sleepovers. My Dad always reminds me of this, and how he used to think I'd finally fallen asleep and would begin to leave the bedroom, only for me to ask him to come back every time.
My cousin, who is a year younger than myself was diagnosed with ADHD when he was young. I remember my mother reading a book about it. The diagnosis was baffling to me, but I didn’t pay it too much mind. He seemed pretty normal to me, and considering his heart condition had him on activity restriction, wouldn’t you expect him to be overflowing with energy? I did well at school for the most part. Math did not come naturally, or anything that required route memorization. Certain assignments or subjects were very frustrating to me, but somehow I got honor roll and only the occasional C. I lost a lot of sleep doing that though. As if sleeping wasn’t already hard enough with all the thoughts on my head. Looking back, I was forced to keep my struggles inside. My mother stayed up all night trying to help me complete essays and research assignments, which I’d usually finish under extreme pressure in the hour or two before school.. Somehow I was unable to apply myself to the task, but it was never questioned why. I was highly motivated by shame, and so I behaved most of the time. I got my energy out in ballet class, although I hated having to go, until I was there.. (no talking!). I grew up on a decent sized property and climbed trees, explored the woods etc.. It wasn’t until high school that my struggles really became unmanageable and I began to question if I was as smart as my peers. I actually did worse when I dropped out of the advanced levels unfortunately. I couldn’t fall back on the smart kids next to me anymore, and those classes had more disruptions. My father was irritated that he didn’t see me studying and began to pressure me to apply myself more rigorously to my studies. This stressed me out and I began to cope by relying more heavily on fantasy recreations. I’d stay up late to watch my favorite TV show uncut, or read fanfiction to escape… I d always hated school, but I’d don’t okay before that. As graduation grew nearer I decided I would just TRY HARDER. What a joke… University was a disaster, and I finally left, deciding not to go back. The failures at the time were blamed on mental health issues, but underlying them have been a lifelong struggle that no one paid any mind to. Why would they? I knew had to hold my tongue and fold my hands. I was kind of silly or weird as a kid, but that didn’t really mean anything I guess. I always considered myself a fast reader, but the truth is, I was unable to read much of the time due to wandering thoughts. And as an adult, I’m not able to read books at all. Modern life comes with too many distractions. I wish I’d got help for this problem when I was younger. Not medication necessarily, but the support I needed to understand and learn to cope. I even asked my mother about tutoring before (and begged her to homeschool me), but it always seemed to her. I was doing just fine. If anything, I was just kind of a ‘sensitive’ kid 🙄
I remember keeping everyone else awake at school camp! I couldn't understand how they could possibly be asleep at that point so i would just keep chatting to keep the other kids awake. How to make yourself unpopular.
Oh good so Im not the only one who thought he was talking about Temu and was like how does a shopping app help someone with adhd? It's like the app has Adhd itself. LMAO.
What a lovely, lovely person, Jessie. Im a fellow adhder from Argentina, Buenos aires. You can still come! haha 😊 Great episode, very relatable. Congratulations and thank you to both of you.🩵
People in the UK with ADHD are facing a rather unpleasant situation. Anyone who was diagnosed with ADHD via the Right to Choose legislation is now starting to have medication denied. GP practices are refusing to honour the diagnosis and people are being told, "no more medication for you". Punished for using Right to Choose, which, as its title suggests, is a Right. If Private Practices were not competent enough to diagnose ADHD then that is the Government's fault for not Policing the sector appropriately. Not patient's fault for making use of what is a perfectly legal method of getting diagnosed. The upshot is, for such patients, they have to go to the back of the queue, and wait to be reassessed by the NHS before they can get medications again. This will ruin lives. There will be suicides. The long term cost will be far higher, on a per patient basis, than treating therm with generic meds. This is plain cruelty. I fear this is Step One on the road to declaring that ADHD is not a disability, and that people with it should get no help, no recognition and no support. As part of a broader move towards defunding mental health as an area of social care and this of State responsibility.
I’m 55 and going for my ADHD assessment today. I’ve had the appointment for 6 months. I’m scared it’s not ADHD because if it isn’t….what’s wrong with me then?
I like arguing with someone about intellectual stuff, political stuff, or whatever, just not personal. I get so disappointed when the other person just looks alarmed and won’t argue…
The ADHD conversation is another thats squeezing out boys and mens space to validate the struggles of their lived experience. 'boys get more passes?' really, we're the ones who most get in trouble in school, are 'underachieving academically' and left behind. I was described by a teacher as being 'a waste of space' The talks you host are great and much needed, but please start to explore the perspective of the male ADHD experience more.
Finally downlosded tiimo. Found it overloading almost straight away. A horrible muddle of buttons and clutter. I lasted 5 minutes. Sorry. Ive deleted it.
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Diagnosed at 60, I've been so happy since the DAY.
Listening to Jessie Mei, I relate to so much and so many points she has brought up, oversharing, honesty, crashed relationships, no sleep, being misunderstood. Loving listening to this episode.
Being 56yrs old with ADHD & from Australia, I’ve never heard of this woman before. I listened to this video & absolutely love her personality. She sounds like someone I’d get along with. Cheers to her & yourself Alex
I NEEDED IT TODAY!!: THANK YOU, JESSIE! - Line - ''If you work in an office (I do) just want to say .. Well done! '' You have no idea how much I need it today. Thank you!!!
reading this comment as I'm about to clip this line as she says it & send to my friends😂😂
Always so impressed with the consistency of new content/episodes from Alex. We know reliability can be a challenge with adhd, but he just crushes it.
I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 61. I am still digesting it. I think of all the times being frustrated, self effacing, struggles, conversations, looks from others, feeling outcast...I wonder how life would have been different if I knew this decades ago. I always say, I did the best I could.
OMG !!!! Finally I find there is someone else in this world that gets Physically Ill such as I do/ Always have.. literally can not stop throwing up etc. it has landed me in the hospital at times, as it gets so so soooo very bad... I have never ever met nor heard of anyone else suffering in that same way as I do and have.... its absolutely insane..
My daughter does. She developed cyclical vomiting when doing her GCSEs it was terrifying..couldn't stop when started.
OH MY GOD I LOVE HER ROLES SO MUCH
I think Jessie was the most relatable of all your guests for me, especially the struggle around emotions, relationships and keeping it trapped inside. All the guests are relatable, but Jessie especially so in this regard. I'm not freaked out by miniature things though :D
oooph. I almost lost it when Jessie said 'Well Done'. I work in a hectic office doing Project Management with constant deadlines, switching gears and procrastination making it very stressful. I think it's part of the reason I got inconclusive results during my Psych Evaluation in October and results leaned more towards Anxiety which have left me missing that validation I desperately wanted. Thanks for noticing the struggle!
This has been the most comprehensive episode I feel discussing the broad range of emotions for neuro-divergency. What a beautiful soul She is. I shared her misunderstood empathic traits, & hiding 🙈 behind a full whirlwind of feelings behind the masking smile.
I relate to having the combination of ASD and ADHD as having one foot on the gas pedal and the other on the brake pedal. Never sure which one is going to win out. Another great relatable chat. Jessie is a real gem.
Diagnosed with AuDHD last year at 46. Jess’ story resonated so much with me especially the vomitting part. Before ever my Highschool and uni exam. And now as an adult whenever a stressful situation hits. At work events I used to sit near the exit just in case I needed to leave and be physically sick
I SO relate to Jessie, it's crazy how my biography is almost a copy of hers, also the same struggles. But as a traumasensitive practionioner I also hear many trauma patterns that she described during her interview. I believe many of the symptoms could be alleviated with traumasensitive therapy or coaching and then it would also become clearer what would be left of adhd or autism. Many symptoms overlap and once the traumatic patterns have been adressed it becomes clearer what/if the neurodivergency is still "left" - also there is so much trauma among actors and in the entertainment industry. Thank you SO much for the podcast it feels so good to "connect" with like-minded people at least on this podcast.
This is so helpful, thank you for sharing your experience Jessie.
Im 56 and think I'm AuDHD and I'd suggest the games industry wouldn't be possible without the Neurodivergent. That was a wonderful interview.
Thank u another big Spooner 🎉❤
Thank you so much for this podcast. I feel so related ❤️
Thank you both so much ❤
Love the honesty. Ditto ditto!
Great episode! So relatable ❤
Diagnosed with anxiety and depression in my early teens before proper dual diagnosis of ASD and Combined ADHD at age 42
What's interesting is that I also grew up with my Dad having to wait by me until I fell asleep and then had the experience of being the last person awake at sleepovers.
My Dad always reminds me of this, and how he used to think I'd finally fallen asleep and would begin to leave the bedroom, only for me to ask him to come back every time.
My cousin, who is a year younger than myself was diagnosed with ADHD when he was young. I remember my mother reading a book about it. The diagnosis was baffling to me, but I didn’t pay it too much mind. He seemed pretty normal to me, and considering his heart condition had him on activity restriction, wouldn’t you expect him to be overflowing with energy?
I did well at school for the most part. Math did not come naturally, or anything that required route memorization. Certain assignments or subjects were very frustrating to me, but somehow I got honor roll and only the occasional C. I lost a lot of sleep doing that though. As if sleeping wasn’t already hard enough with all the thoughts on my head. Looking back, I was forced to keep my struggles inside. My mother stayed up all night trying to help me complete essays and research assignments, which I’d usually finish under extreme pressure in the hour or two before school.. Somehow I was unable to apply myself to the task, but it was never questioned why. I was highly motivated by shame, and so I behaved most of the time. I got my energy out in ballet class, although I hated having to go, until I was there.. (no talking!). I grew up on a decent sized property and climbed trees, explored the woods etc.. It wasn’t until high school that my struggles really became unmanageable and I began to question if I was as smart as my peers. I actually did worse when I dropped out of the advanced levels unfortunately. I couldn’t fall back on the smart kids next to me anymore, and those classes had more disruptions.
My father was irritated that he didn’t see me studying and began to pressure me to apply myself more rigorously to my studies. This stressed me out and I began to cope by relying more heavily on fantasy recreations. I’d stay up late to watch my favorite TV show uncut, or read fanfiction to escape…
I d always hated school, but I’d don’t okay before that. As graduation grew nearer I decided I would just TRY HARDER. What a joke… University was a disaster, and I finally left, deciding not to go back. The failures at the time were blamed on mental health issues, but underlying them have been a lifelong struggle that no one paid any mind to. Why would they? I knew had to hold my tongue and fold my hands. I was kind of silly or weird as a kid, but that didn’t really mean anything I guess.
I always considered myself a fast reader, but the truth is, I was unable to read much of the time due to wandering thoughts. And as an adult, I’m not able to read books at all. Modern life comes with too many distractions. I wish I’d got help for this problem when I was younger. Not medication necessarily, but the support I needed to understand and learn to cope. I even asked my mother about tutoring before (and begged her to homeschool me), but it always seemed to her. I was doing just fine. If anything, I was just kind of a ‘sensitive’ kid 🙄
Hey 👋 I’m not diagnosed but believe I have adhd but I also have dyslexia is there an episode that talk about both and or could there be?
Oh my God, I totally understand about Hotel rooms. I've never heard anyone talk about it before.
Not a clue who this is (i imagine they don't know who i am either) but amazing as always, validation is golden
Good interview
Go to bed! Its 2.30am
Really dude, thanks
😂
It's actually only 11pm
I feel misunderstood all the time
Sitting here watching,...and feeling like im among friends .... confirms my diagnosis
Our circadian rhythms are completely different
I remember keeping everyone else awake at school camp! I couldn't understand how they could possibly be asleep at that point so i would just keep chatting to keep the other kids awake. How to make yourself unpopular.
I did the same thing, you're not alone
Overwhelm makes me beat on my own heat 😢
I’ve always wanted to be in this industry but have been denied
NGL whenever I hear about that Tiimo app all I can't think about is Temu and it makes me sad
Oh good so Im not the only one who thought he was talking about Temu and was like how does a shopping app help someone with adhd? It's like the app has Adhd itself. LMAO.
@@victoriusgrace2307 me to, l think of Temu to 😆
And the cutlery 😮
What a lovely, lovely person, Jessie. Im a fellow adhder from Argentina, Buenos aires. You can still come! haha 😊
Great episode, very relatable. Congratulations and thank you to both of you.🩵
People in the UK with ADHD are facing a rather unpleasant situation.
Anyone who was diagnosed with ADHD via the Right to Choose legislation is now starting to have medication denied. GP practices are refusing to honour the diagnosis and people are being told, "no more medication for you".
Punished for using Right to Choose, which, as its title suggests, is a Right. If Private Practices were not competent enough to diagnose ADHD then that is the Government's fault for not Policing the sector appropriately. Not patient's fault for making use of what is a perfectly legal method of getting diagnosed.
The upshot is, for such patients, they have to go to the back of the queue, and wait to be reassessed by the NHS before they can get medications again. This will ruin lives. There will be suicides. The long term cost will be far higher, on a per patient basis, than treating therm with generic meds.
This is plain cruelty.
I fear this is Step One on the road to declaring that ADHD is not a disability, and that people with it should get no help, no recognition and no support. As part of a broader move towards defunding mental health as an area of social care and this of State responsibility.
For many of us it won’t help we have to try other options
I always wanted to be in the performing arts as a career and have been denied access
I couldn't remember scripts
I’m 55 and going for my ADHD assessment today. I’ve had the appointment for 6 months. I’m scared it’s not ADHD because if it isn’t….what’s wrong with me then?
It sucks been traumatised my entire life and can’t work because of the bs and being forced to
CYCLICAL VOMITING SYNDROME. Look into the symptoms of cyclical vomiting syndrome (CVS) and maybe you can find a treatment that works for you.
I don't think I have ADHD but I still hate listening to ads :)
I like arguing with someone about intellectual stuff, political stuff, or whatever, just not personal. I get so disappointed when the other person just looks alarmed and won’t argue…
i daydreamed my way thru the 90s 0:45
I knew I was different from the age of 3
I can’t. I have ADHD
Get yourself a service dog to help if you can do international
The ADHD conversation is another thats squeezing out boys and mens space to validate the struggles of their lived experience. 'boys get more passes?' really, we're the ones who most get in trouble in school, are 'underachieving academically' and left behind. I was described by a teacher as being 'a waste of space'
The talks you host are great and much needed, but please start to explore the perspective of the male ADHD experience more.
Get yourself a service dog to help if you can
Starting an argument is a narcissist thing not an adhd thing
Finally downlosded tiimo. Found it overloading almost straight away. A horrible muddle of buttons and clutter. I lasted 5 minutes. Sorry. Ive deleted it.
Sounds like it wouldn't work for me