Ask Nick with Lewis Howes - She Slept With My Roommate | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall
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- Опубліковано 17 гру 2023
- Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! And this is a special one… Lewis Howes, the OG Podcaster, joins the household in answering your burning questions. Dating, relationships, exes… All of it. Before getting to our callers, we dive deep into Lewis’ journey from living in New York, moving to LA for a girl, healing through therapy, and conquering 10 years of podcasting. We then get to our callers.
Our first caller’s friend is a ‘straight’ man who drives hours to stay with him, buys sentimental gifts, and sends him heart-eye emojis. He’s not sure if this friend is merely affectionate, or if he’s hinting at a romantic chemistry. Should he risk asking for clarity, for the potential of losing this connection. Our second caller is a mom and daughter duo. The daughter calls in to help decide if her mom’s 4 year partner is losing interest, or if he has become a red flag. For example, he doesn’t trust her mom, and thinks she's being flirty with other men. Our final caller is struggling to move on from his ex, who cheated on him TWICE. After cheating on him with his roommate, moving in with him into a new apartment, she then cheats on him again, with a classmate. Our caller is unsure how to mentally move on and reclaim control over his personal living space.
“When people want to be with you, they choose you fully. They create space in their life.”
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Please add timestamps. Some of these calls drag out especially with it being 3 hours
Can we not use the term high value man?
39.10 guys
I can't even with all that initial yammering 😂
thank you! Same
So much yammering!!!! Barf
Just wanted to drop this quote by Margaret Atwood here: ‘Why do men feel threatened by women?’ I asked a male friend of mine…‘They're afraid women will laugh at them,’ he said…Then I asked some women students…‘Why do women feel threatened by men?’ ‘They're afraid of being killed,’ they said.
Women do so much emotional labor for men literally ALL the time, it's time for men to step up for EACH OTHER and create communities and break down their own emotional barriers. Stop putting the onus on women to fix the problems that the patriarchy has created and exacerbated, men need to do the work for themselves. Otherwise, women will keep divesting from men and from heterosexuality because it genuinely has nothing to offer them. 🙃
💯 Also I always recommend everyone I know to read the excellent Shani Silver piece (it’s published on Medium), “Start Blaming Single Men, Right Now” 🙌
This last caller YIKES! that was a tough one 🤣 great listen!
Came to Nick for the LIB interviews, stayed for the outrageous questions that can be solved with a simple, “they’re just not that into you”…
But now I’m sensing some real misogyny. I’m officially creeped out!
I feel like a lot of men bypass actual accountability and real healing by justifying how they’ve been treated by women but that’s bc they’re participating in low value decisions and hookup culture, probably playing and messing with dozens of women bc they aren’t good enough for them
How so? I haven’t finished the episode yet
I don’t get that at all
The therapy evangelism in this episode was gross. It felt like I was being preached at. One of my least favorite episodes to date and I’m an avid listener.
It is unbelievable how many people bought it in the comments - so they actually believe how hard it is for men in this world? Give me a break.
Well said. I’m so disappointed and annoyed I’m skipping through it.
I love ASk Nick and it’s the main thing I listen to each week but honestly sometimes you guys give these people way too much time so things just get repetitive. I would love like 15 min sessions and like 6 each episode. I feel like we just beat a dead horse by the end.
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agreed…. the last guy. jesus.
I agree
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I had just commented about this and then started to read comments and was glad to find out it’s not just me.
2 Rock Stars! Thank you both for being so thoughtful and intentional! Keep up the good work!
I felt a lot of misogyny in the interview. He will never understand how hard it actually is to be a woman
The story about the woman who dressed like a man for a year was sooooo cringe! Like maybe some self reflection could be involved- ask what you did to piss of your date??? Why is she suddenly rolling her eyes- I’m sure it’s not for zero reason! Plenty of bisexual women in the world will tell you dating women is not all sunshine and rainbows but it’s certainly usually a safer space and you generally feel more respected.
And then let’s ask that same person how many times she literally feared for her life while dealing with a man and maybe just maybe she’ll understand why we’re defensive. 🙄
@@M6O21I i’m just listening to it now. Yes it was very cringe.She dressed like a man so did she fool her dates? Did these women think she was actually a man? Number two she said she knew what it felt like to be a man? Especially when the women would give her a look. That makes no sense.
Loving the 3 hours situation 😍
Really could not enjoy listening to Lewis. Feels like he says nothing of substance while talking a lot.
Glad I wasn’t the only one
def agreed with that
Too much jargon
@@dr_power.😂
Bingo
Good lord, i have never heard so many buzz words thrown around as these two dudes did in the first 5 minutes of their talk.
Same! After 5 mins of listening to this I came to the comments to see if I was the only person who sniffed that out lol
Thank god someone else felt this lol
I had to fast forward through all of it.
Nick is a high school girl in a 43 year old man’s body
loved everything about this episode
Last caller: the way you got em is the way you lose em.
He was very shady with how he got with his roommates ex.
What a sweetheart the first caller is, I love his energy ✨❤
Great episode!
I love you Nick but Amanda makes the podcast! Lmao.
Okay I love you both and both are essential.
Please lock Amanda in long term. I want to listen to the two of you for atleast the next 20 years.
If Amanda leaves I’m gone too😢 not that it matters to anyone. I just love her lol
@@Aquamoongirl13 haha I totally love her, too. I think Nick is smart enough to get a long commitment from her and treat her good
highly suggest watching the Huberman podcast on fear....It's that moment before the change we're most afraid of.
Great listen! I love love this show!
I came here because Lewis interviewed Nick. I always wanted to see Lewis being interviewed. Thank you for asking the tough questions to the people who called in. You painted a great picture for the mom when you asked her how she felt when her boyfriend came over.
I think it’s important to have that one friend that you can be vulnerable with but that can also add value to your life and is a good friend to be there for you. From the men in my life I’ve noticed most don’t surround themselves with one male friend that they can be open with and vulnerable. Usually is that one friend who you have fun with and enjoy a beer with. So I believe it’s important to find friendships or a friendship like that…
Great episode!
Such misogynist views from Lewis when he was going into the “you don’t feel safe enough to dance around in your lingerie, you’re in a baggy sweatpants phase”….
The “little girl” in you stuff was making me cringe
“The little girl” I think he was referring to inner child work. It’s a term from therapy - in regards to healing the hurts from your past that are plaguing you in the present.
I missed that but I don’t think misogynist is the right word. Female hating? Sounds more like run of the mill male patronizing at worst or some bro energy…
I didn’t hear anything misogynistic
@@crystalxoxos2sounds like you need to do some inner child work yourself to see why this triggers you 😂
This was too much. Sounds like this much therapy could backfire. There's something to be said about being able to find the tools or working things out by yourself instead of always having to use therapy as a crutch. Kind of scary if you ask me.
The last caller was highly disappointing where he talked about wanting to yell and curse someone out. It just felt like such toxic reactions without feedback on healthy communication.
Agreed! His inexperience is showing and it was kind of insufferable
This was such a great episode. Lewis was so on point with the inner little girl and not trusting her body! I think it might have gone over peoples head that haven’t done inner child or feminine healing (which is fine). But honestly Nick, I’m living for the multidimensionality of the podcast recently. I’m here for the reality tv and here for these deeper inner healing conversations. Truly amazing! And what a gift to listen to two men embodied in the masculine sharing their journey and perspectives. 🫶🏼
3 hours is crazyyy
It is but I am doing my cleaning at the same time so it’s actually a great length for me today lol I have a lot of cleaning to do.
@@organicladyI’m not the only one who listens to Nick when I’m cleaning! I get so much done 😅
In the best way
It's Lewis it should even be longer lol
@@organicladyyou just gave me the best idea! Instead of cleaning I’m going to wrap all my family gifts which will probably take me that long! 😂
Wow that last call was rough…Nick and the Lewis laughing condescendingly is why I see Nick not working well with another man as a co-host. Gives off douche energy…
The women keep him grounded 😂
I just told this to my friend yesterday!!! Wow I need to be a relationship counselor lol 😂 ❤
Lewis with the first guy… too much psychoanalysis and self help talk - this isn’t costing him his dreams and he’s likely not playing out old traumas and wounds, come on. It’s a crush and yes, maybe is going on too long, so getting clarity is good. He’s 24, it’s not a big deal. If this goes on for years or becomes a habit of how he interacts with potential love interests, okay, but come on - let’s not get so dramatic here
Agreed. All the guy had to do is tell his friend that he was gay. And his friend would’ve answered the same thing or he would’ve said I’m not. He would’ve saved two years.
Some young guys do use the ‘cute’ emoji’s .Tney are still straight bros.😊
I liked this guest!
The description of the final caller isn’t even accurate…she didn’t cheat on the caller with the roommate
For the loveee add timestamps!
First call starts at 39 min in.
For the first caller, my advice would be to just tell him him from the beginning that he was gay. And if the other guy was gay, he would’ve said. I’m gay too. You would’ve saved two years. Emoji’s are just emojis. I guess sometimes they can get misinterpreted.
Lewis talks too much, and not the good kind of talk. I’m sensing toxic masculinity
Yea he's good in some ways, but there's always been a very tangible immaturity, I've always felt this from him despite his consistent fabulous guests
I don't think you've had a more articulate and intelligence person on ever as a guest.... What a great guy and someone we really should emulate
Here’s a Game… How many times does the caller say LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE?!?
Lewis videos are usually long in general! Don’t mind long Ask Nick episodes though. 😌
The last caller sounded like he just experienced his first real relationship and that’s why he can’t shut up about it! 😂 Happens to us all.
I‘m a huge Lewis fan! Thanks for having him on ❤
Love Lewis Howes!!!
Give me all the Lewis Howes and Nick Viall!!! ❤ Was so excited to see this guest!
Omg the last caller, awful.
Awful for the guy or what the girl did?
Love Lewis!!!
Happy 10 years for school of greatness!!
I’m in southtrxa
❤❤❤
3rd call starts 2:21
2nd call starts at 126
Lewis is the best guest
He is awesome.
No, David Goggins would be the best, Andrew Huberman, Joe Rogan would, Russell Brand, etc. Lewis is mediocre at best but definetly a step up !
@@purehoneyy.b I don’t like Joe Rogan or Russell Brand. No thanks.
@@purehoneyy.bno, I know your kind well. Russell brand is a major loser, you should reassess the people you admire. Lmao. You prob love Trump as well.
@@organiclady😂👍
The last calling…. Jeez doesn’t sound like a ‘nice guy’ as they keep calling him. He sounds controlling and really intense. Obviously she really didn’t treat him well but as always here we’re getting one side of the story. 35 and sounds like he’s 22… at first the roommate became a friend which is how he met his ex, then all of a sudden it didn’t matter that it was his ROOMMATES EX of 2 YEARS. Sorry but it was pretty clear…
This is SOOOO FUC*ED uuuuuuuPPPP 😩
Why do they wear headphones when they are in ear shot range? Silly. Educate me.
It would be nice if you guys could put trigger warning especially when talking about SA. Thanks
Lewis was amazing!!!!
Wasnt the biggest fan of this one ... felt a bit patronizing
I don't usually care, but I want to see this guy's face...for a few reasons...
No wonder he's losing women... starting a relationship in therapy. Hmmmkayyyy
That last guy was such a selfish inconsiderate lying misogynist coward I could recite what he would say next like a script before he said it. Glad she got out.
This man is not it
The show is too long and I am ou
Omg Nick you talk too much. Cut your phone calls down please. It is boring to just listen to you go on and on and on.
The first caller is not being sincere and far from authentic. He just wants to hear himself talk and get some attention. That he got.
Caller 2: he doesn't trust me, and I don't know why
Also, caller 2: I have a lot of guy friends, I refuse to make my IG private, I have prior commitment issues, and I let my daughter influence my choice in men.
Lady, you're 54 and you have a great guy, settle. You're too old for the paradox of choice.
Swear, if you ladies just watched one full episode of Fresh & Fit, the dating market would fix itself.
Also, it was so refreshing hearing you guys speak on mens issues in front of a woman audience. A lot of them just dont understand how we live completely different lives.
If her IG is not private, then half those men or most of them are scammers course they’ll flaunt you and they’ll give you all the attention lol
My IG was private because I kept getting many many men friending me and they’re all scammers delete delete delete
@KeyasWorld 👀
Lewis talks too much, and not the good kind of talk. I’m sensing toxic masculinity
What is toxic masculinity?
You obviously have not listened to any of his videos or known him prior to this interview. He’s not toxic at all actually.
@@0104blackpearl she just throws buzz words without knowing the definition.
The man can talk, but I’ve never heard him say anything toxic! 🤷🏻♀️
I sense pop psychology...