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  • @Kloves818
    @Kloves818 10 місяців тому +39

    Please add timestamps. Some of these calls drag out especially with it being 3 hours

  • @danabramble3563
    @danabramble3563 10 місяців тому +15

    Just wanted to drop this quote by Margaret Atwood here: ‘Why do men feel threatened by women?’ I asked a male friend of mine…‘They're afraid women will laugh at them,’ he said…Then I asked some women students…‘Why do women feel threatened by men?’ ‘They're afraid of being killed,’ they said.
    Women do so much emotional labor for men literally ALL the time, it's time for men to step up for EACH OTHER and create communities and break down their own emotional barriers. Stop putting the onus on women to fix the problems that the patriarchy has created and exacerbated, men need to do the work for themselves. Otherwise, women will keep divesting from men and from heterosexuality because it genuinely has nothing to offer them. 🙃

    • @M6O21I
      @M6O21I 8 місяців тому

      💯 Also I always recommend everyone I know to read the excellent Shani Silver piece (it’s published on Medium), “Start Blaming Single Men, Right Now” 🙌

  • @nathaniel4780
    @nathaniel4780 10 місяців тому +7

    2 Rock Stars! Thank you both for being so thoughtful and intentional! Keep up the good work!

  • @AK-jd7td
    @AK-jd7td 10 місяців тому +17

    Can we not use the term high value man?

  • @cindylee7519
    @cindylee7519 10 місяців тому +35

    39.10 guys
    I can't even with all that initial yammering 😂

  • @fatboyannie
    @fatboyannie 9 місяців тому

    I came here because Lewis interviewed Nick. I always wanted to see Lewis being interviewed. Thank you for asking the tough questions to the people who called in. You painted a great picture for the mom when you asked her how she felt when her boyfriend came over.

  • @RebelFitz
    @RebelFitz 10 місяців тому +13

    What a sweetheart the first caller is, I love his energy ✨❤
    Great episode!

  • @laurab5849
    @laurab5849 10 місяців тому +40

    I love ASk Nick and it’s the main thing I listen to each week but honestly sometimes you guys give these people way too much time so things just get repetitive. I would love like 15 min sessions and like 6 each episode. I feel like we just beat a dead horse by the end.

    • @andreegodbout868
      @andreegodbout868 10 місяців тому +3

      🙌

    • @abbeys1503
      @abbeys1503 10 місяців тому +2

      agreed…. the last guy. jesus.

    • @ebstudio9525
      @ebstudio9525 10 місяців тому +1

      I agree

    • @SavannahAPOgle
      @SavannahAPOgle 9 місяців тому

      9rh5

    • @marilynhuntley9679
      @marilynhuntley9679 5 місяців тому

      I had just commented about this and then started to read comments and was glad to find out it’s not just me.

  • @rachelnugent8273
    @rachelnugent8273 10 місяців тому +6

    This last caller YIKES! that was a tough one 🤣 great listen!

  • @Fannie6191
    @Fannie6191 9 місяців тому +1

    I think it’s important to have that one friend that you can be vulnerable with but that can also add value to your life and is a good friend to be there for you. From the men in my life I’ve noticed most don’t surround themselves with one male friend that they can be open with and vulnerable. Usually is that one friend who you have fun with and enjoy a beer with. So I believe it’s important to find friendships or a friendship like that…

  • @PurpleMoss-mc8bk
    @PurpleMoss-mc8bk 10 місяців тому +29

    Came to Nick for the LIB interviews, stayed for the outrageous questions that can be solved with a simple, “they’re just not that into you”…
    But now I’m sensing some real misogyny. I’m officially creeped out!

    • @nz3644
      @nz3644 10 місяців тому

      I feel like a lot of men bypass actual accountability and real healing by justifying how they’ve been treated by women but that’s bc they’re participating in low value decisions and hookup culture, probably playing and messing with dozens of women bc they aren’t good enough for them

    • @nk47100
      @nk47100 10 місяців тому

      How so? I haven’t finished the episode yet

    • @Extraordinaryee
      @Extraordinaryee 10 місяців тому +3

      I don’t get that at all

  • @andreegodbout868
    @andreegodbout868 10 місяців тому +24

    This was too much. Sounds like this much therapy could backfire. There's something to be said about being able to find the tools or working things out by yourself instead of always having to use therapy as a crutch. Kind of scary if you ask me.

  • @marou55ia_
    @marou55ia_ 10 місяців тому +14

    Loving the 3 hours situation 😍

  • @assyrianprincess3
    @assyrianprincess3 10 місяців тому +3

    Last caller: the way you got em is the way you lose em.
    He was very shady with how he got with his roommates ex.

  • @rachelmcclard276
    @rachelmcclard276 10 місяців тому +29

    The therapy evangelism in this episode was gross. It felt like I was being preached at. One of my least favorite episodes to date and I’m an avid listener.

    • @peidan86
      @peidan86 10 місяців тому +10

      It is unbelievable how many people bought it in the comments - so they actually believe how hard it is for men in this world? Give me a break.

    • @Joan-COYI
      @Joan-COYI 10 місяців тому +5

      Well said. I’m so disappointed and annoyed I’m skipping through it.

  • @organiclady
    @organiclady 10 місяців тому +33

    I love you Nick but Amanda makes the podcast! Lmao.
    Okay I love you both and both are essential.
    Please lock Amanda in long term. I want to listen to the two of you for atleast the next 20 years.

    • @Aquamoongirl13
      @Aquamoongirl13 10 місяців тому +8

      If Amanda leaves I’m gone too😢 not that it matters to anyone. I just love her lol

    • @organiclady
      @organiclady 10 місяців тому +3

      @@Aquamoongirl13 haha I totally love her, too. I think Nick is smart enough to get a long commitment from her and treat her good

    • @angelaamber
      @angelaamber 4 місяці тому

      Seeing this comment after she's left, this episode randomly popped up & I actually can't stand listening to the podcast now with Natalie & Ciara. It's gotten so horrible. Wish he kept Ali & Amanda around. Their dynamic was amazing

  • @iamlaurenmegan
    @iamlaurenmegan 10 місяців тому +11

    This was such a great episode. Lewis was so on point with the inner little girl and not trusting her body! I think it might have gone over peoples head that haven’t done inner child or feminine healing (which is fine). But honestly Nick, I’m living for the multidimensionality of the podcast recently. I’m here for the reality tv and here for these deeper inner healing conversations. Truly amazing! And what a gift to listen to two men embodied in the masculine sharing their journey and perspectives. 🫶🏼

  • @heatheraggus7501
    @heatheraggus7501 10 місяців тому +54

    Good lord, i have never heard so many buzz words thrown around as these two dudes did in the first 5 minutes of their talk.

    • @Chelsea-zt4rk
      @Chelsea-zt4rk 10 місяців тому +12

      Same! After 5 mins of listening to this I came to the comments to see if I was the only person who sniffed that out lol

    • @juliewelsh2459
      @juliewelsh2459 10 місяців тому +4

      Thank god someone else felt this lol

    • @mrsjessicasmith
      @mrsjessicasmith 10 місяців тому +12

      I had to fast forward through all of it.

    • @peidan86
      @peidan86 10 місяців тому +6

      Nick is a high school girl in a 43 year old man’s body

  • @MrBOOBOORO
    @MrBOOBOORO 10 місяців тому +25

    Wow that last call was rough…Nick and the Lewis laughing condescendingly is why I see Nick not working well with another man as a co-host. Gives off douche energy…

    • @0104blackpearl
      @0104blackpearl 10 місяців тому +4

      The women keep him grounded 😂

  • @jennyonthecoast
    @jennyonthecoast 10 місяців тому +6

    highly suggest watching the Huberman podcast on fear....It's that moment before the change we're most afraid of.

  • @ErinFessler
    @ErinFessler 10 місяців тому +51

    Really could not enjoy listening to Lewis. Feels like he says nothing of substance while talking a lot.

  • @nafafonafafofo
    @nafafonafafofo 10 місяців тому +5

    I felt a lot of misogyny in the interview. He will never understand how hard it actually is to be a woman

    • @M6O21I
      @M6O21I 8 місяців тому +2

      The story about the woman who dressed like a man for a year was sooooo cringe! Like maybe some self reflection could be involved- ask what you did to piss of your date??? Why is she suddenly rolling her eyes- I’m sure it’s not for zero reason! Plenty of bisexual women in the world will tell you dating women is not all sunshine and rainbows but it’s certainly usually a safer space and you generally feel more respected.
      And then let’s ask that same person how many times she literally feared for her life while dealing with a man and maybe just maybe she’ll understand why we’re defensive. 🙄

    • @catherineritch6241
      @catherineritch6241 5 місяців тому

      @@M6O21I i’m just listening to it now. Yes it was very cringe.She dressed like a man so did she fool her dates? Did these women think she was actually a man? Number two she said she knew what it felt like to be a man? Especially when the women would give her a look. That makes no sense.

  • @teagangeorge4372
    @teagangeorge4372 10 місяців тому +40

    Such misogynist views from Lewis when he was going into the “you don’t feel safe enough to dance around in your lingerie, you’re in a baggy sweatpants phase”….

    • @crystalxoxos2
      @crystalxoxos2 10 місяців тому +16

      The “little girl” in you stuff was making me cringe

    • @jessicaochiltree6432
      @jessicaochiltree6432 10 місяців тому +3

      “The little girl” I think he was referring to inner child work. It’s a term from therapy - in regards to healing the hurts from your past that are plaguing you in the present.

    • @nk47100
      @nk47100 10 місяців тому +5

      I missed that but I don’t think misogynist is the right word. Female hating? Sounds more like run of the mill male patronizing at worst or some bro energy…

    • @Extraordinaryee
      @Extraordinaryee 10 місяців тому +2

      I didn’t hear anything misogynistic

    • @Extraordinaryee
      @Extraordinaryee 10 місяців тому +2

      @@crystalxoxos2sounds like you need to do some inner child work yourself to see why this triggers you 😂

  • @lydiawaybright5627
    @lydiawaybright5627 10 місяців тому +2

    loved everything about this episode

  • @kymberliethefreespiritedone
    @kymberliethefreespiritedone 7 місяців тому

    Great listen! I love love this show!

  • @nk47100
    @nk47100 10 місяців тому +8

    Lewis with the first guy… too much psychoanalysis and self help talk - this isn’t costing him his dreams and he’s likely not playing out old traumas and wounds, come on. It’s a crush and yes, maybe is going on too long, so getting clarity is good. He’s 24, it’s not a big deal. If this goes on for years or becomes a habit of how he interacts with potential love interests, okay, but come on - let’s not get so dramatic here

    • @catherineritch6241
      @catherineritch6241 5 місяців тому

      Agreed. All the guy had to do is tell his friend that he was gay. And his friend would’ve answered the same thing or he would’ve said I’m not. He would’ve saved two years.
      Some young guys do use the ‘cute’ emoji’s .Tney are still straight bros.😊

  • @harrylederman1679
    @harrylederman1679 10 місяців тому +14

    I don't think you've had a more articulate and intelligence person on ever as a guest.... What a great guy and someone we really should emulate

  • @jennyonthecoast
    @jennyonthecoast 10 місяців тому +6

    The last caller was highly disappointing where he talked about wanting to yell and curse someone out. It just felt like such toxic reactions without feedback on healthy communication.

    • @aljashiferr
      @aljashiferr 10 місяців тому +2

      Agreed! His inexperience is showing and it was kind of insufferable

  • @AmandaClemens-j9s
    @AmandaClemens-j9s 10 місяців тому +21

    Lewis talks too much, and not the good kind of talk. I’m sensing toxic masculinity

    • @purehoneyy.b
      @purehoneyy.b 10 місяців тому +3

      Yea he's good in some ways, but there's always been a very tangible immaturity, I've always felt this from him despite his consistent fabulous guests

  • @rhondasantos573
    @rhondasantos573 10 місяців тому +1

    First call starts at 39 min in.

  • @0104blackpearl
    @0104blackpearl 10 місяців тому +3

    Lewis videos are usually long in general! Don’t mind long Ask Nick episodes though. 😌
    The last caller sounded like he just experienced his first real relationship and that’s why he can’t shut up about it! 😂 Happens to us all.

  • @catherineritch6241
    @catherineritch6241 5 місяців тому

    For the first caller, my advice would be to just tell him him from the beginning that he was gay. And if the other guy was gay, he would’ve said. I’m gay too. You would’ve saved two years. Emoji’s are just emojis. I guess sometimes they can get misinterpreted.

  • @TNDRAV
    @TNDRAV 10 місяців тому +2

    I just told this to my friend yesterday!!! Wow I need to be a relationship counselor lol 😂 ❤

  • @candy07831
    @candy07831 10 місяців тому +12

    3 hours is crazyyy

    • @organiclady
      @organiclady 10 місяців тому +8

      It is but I am doing my cleaning at the same time so it’s actually a great length for me today lol I have a lot of cleaning to do.

    • @sanaasayedd
      @sanaasayedd 10 місяців тому +4

      @@organicladyI’m not the only one who listens to Nick when I’m cleaning! I get so much done 😅

    • @Aquamoongirl13
      @Aquamoongirl13 10 місяців тому +2

      In the best way

    • @purehoneyy.b
      @purehoneyy.b 10 місяців тому +2

      It's Lewis it should even be longer lol

    • @zumo12476
      @zumo12476 10 місяців тому

      @@organicladyyou just gave me the best idea! Instead of cleaning I’m going to wrap all my family gifts which will probably take me that long! 😂

  • @olgacotto7915
    @olgacotto7915 10 місяців тому

    Great episode!

  • @CourtneyAnderson-nn7gg
    @CourtneyAnderson-nn7gg 5 місяців тому +1

    Here’s a Game… How many times does the caller say LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE?!?

  • @candy07831
    @candy07831 10 місяців тому +2

    The description of the final caller isn’t even accurate…she didn’t cheat on the caller with the roommate

  • @jordanmccorvey2786
    @jordanmccorvey2786 10 місяців тому +3

    For the loveee add timestamps!

  • @live.life.unpacked3762
    @live.life.unpacked3762 10 місяців тому +5

    Give me all the Lewis Howes and Nick Viall!!! ❤ Was so excited to see this guest!

  • @Ivonn930
    @Ivonn930 10 місяців тому +6

    I‘m a huge Lewis fan! Thanks for having him on ❤

  • @rhondasantos573
    @rhondasantos573 10 місяців тому

    3rd call starts 2:21

  • @RachASMR
    @RachASMR 10 місяців тому +5

    Omg the last caller, awful.

    • @T8_phantastic
      @T8_phantastic 10 місяців тому

      Awful for the guy or what the girl did?

  • @ningyding
    @ningyding 10 місяців тому +2

    I liked this guest!

  • @EveieBee
    @EveieBee 10 місяців тому +6

    Wasnt the biggest fan of this one ... felt a bit patronizing

  • @alampignano
    @alampignano 3 місяці тому

    Hmm. I understand Nick's and Lewis's point of view regarding the 54 year old leaving the relationship. However, I'm guessing she'll be running back to this guy soon enough. Their relationship had a lot of great pieces to it, but he's been feeling insecure, which is often the case when someone picks up that their partner might be ambivalent or pulling away. If this man felt free to express openly, also a topic of discussion in this podcast about how men feel judged when vulnerable, he may say he's picked up that he's nervous she'll leave. Clearly he's right. It's hard to find a good, honest partner and it's not easy at age 54 to meet someone who had it all perfect. Everyone comes with stuff. I hope she's happy, wherever life is meeting her now, 6 months from when this was aired.

  • @rhondasantos573
    @rhondasantos573 10 місяців тому

    2nd call starts at 126

  • @sophie9658
    @sophie9658 9 місяців тому

    The last calling…. Jeez doesn’t sound like a ‘nice guy’ as they keep calling him. He sounds controlling and really intense. Obviously she really didn’t treat him well but as always here we’re getting one side of the story. 35 and sounds like he’s 22… at first the roommate became a friend which is how he met his ex, then all of a sudden it didn’t matter that it was his ROOMMATES EX of 2 YEARS. Sorry but it was pretty clear…

  • @user-yx7rm4vl5v
    @user-yx7rm4vl5v 10 місяців тому

    Love Lewis Howes!!!

  • @heatherjohnston5763
    @heatherjohnston5763 10 місяців тому +4

    Lewis is the best guest

    • @organiclady
      @organiclady 10 місяців тому

      He is awesome.

    • @purehoneyy.b
      @purehoneyy.b 10 місяців тому

      No, David Goggins would be the best, Andrew Huberman, Joe Rogan would, Russell Brand, etc. Lewis is mediocre at best but definetly a step up !

    • @organiclady
      @organiclady 10 місяців тому +3

      @@purehoneyy.b I don’t like Joe Rogan or Russell Brand. No thanks.

    • @organiclady
      @organiclady 10 місяців тому

      @@purehoneyy.bno, I know your kind well. Russell brand is a major loser, you should reassess the people you admire. Lmao. You prob love Trump as well.

    • @purehoneyy.b
      @purehoneyy.b 10 місяців тому

      ​@@organiclady😂👍

  • @florence55999
    @florence55999 5 місяців тому

    It would be nice if you guys could put trigger warning especially when talking about SA. Thanks

  • @kkeiter
    @kkeiter 10 місяців тому +10

    No wonder he's losing women... starting a relationship in therapy. Hmmmkayyyy

  • @HelloBombshell21
    @HelloBombshell21 7 місяців тому

    That last guy was such a selfish inconsiderate lying misogynist coward I could recite what he would say next like a script before he said it. Glad she got out.

  • @sarawilliams8605
    @sarawilliams8605 10 місяців тому +1

    I don't usually care, but I want to see this guy's face...for a few reasons...

  • @CjaneCjane
    @CjaneCjane 9 місяців тому

    Why do they wear headphones when they are in ear shot range? Silly. Educate me.

  • @jessicacuff
    @jessicacuff 8 місяців тому

    This is SOOOO FUC*ED uuuuuuuPPPP 😩

  • @lomonneka
    @lomonneka 10 місяців тому +1

    This man is not it

  • @marilynhuntley9679
    @marilynhuntley9679 5 місяців тому

    Omg Nick you talk too much. Cut your phone calls down please. It is boring to just listen to you go on and on and on.

  • @sarawilliams8605
    @sarawilliams8605 10 місяців тому

    Lewis was amazing!!!!

  • @dastexan
    @dastexan 6 місяців тому

    I’m in southtrxa

  • @CjaneCjane
    @CjaneCjane 9 місяців тому

    The first caller is not being sincere and far from authentic. He just wants to hear himself talk and get some attention. That he got.

  • @marilynhuntley9679
    @marilynhuntley9679 5 місяців тому

    The show is too long and I am ou

  • @cindicleee
    @cindicleee 10 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @CrowdFave
    @CrowdFave 10 місяців тому +1

    Caller 2: he doesn't trust me, and I don't know why
    Also, caller 2: I have a lot of guy friends, I refuse to make my IG private, I have prior commitment issues, and I let my daughter influence my choice in men.
    Lady, you're 54 and you have a great guy, settle. You're too old for the paradox of choice.
    Swear, if you ladies just watched one full episode of Fresh & Fit, the dating market would fix itself.
    Also, it was so refreshing hearing you guys speak on mens issues in front of a woman audience. A lot of them just dont understand how we live completely different lives.

    • @catherineritch6241
      @catherineritch6241 5 місяців тому

      If her IG is not private, then half those men or most of them are scammers course they’ll flaunt you and they’ll give you all the attention lol
      My IG was private because I kept getting many many men friending me and they’re all scammers delete delete delete

  • @MMConner
    @MMConner 10 місяців тому

    @KeyasWorld 👀

  • @AmandaClemens-j9s
    @AmandaClemens-j9s 10 місяців тому +36

    Lewis talks too much, and not the good kind of talk. I’m sensing toxic masculinity

    • @CrowdFave
      @CrowdFave 10 місяців тому

      What is toxic masculinity?

    • @0104blackpearl
      @0104blackpearl 10 місяців тому +3

      You obviously have not listened to any of his videos or known him prior to this interview. He’s not toxic at all actually.

    • @CrowdFave
      @CrowdFave 10 місяців тому +1

      @@0104blackpearl she just throws buzz words without knowing the definition.

    • @0104blackpearl
      @0104blackpearl 10 місяців тому +1

      The man can talk, but I’ve never heard him say anything toxic! 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Agata_Balbina
      @Agata_Balbina 10 місяців тому +1

      I sense pop psychology...