Hello you legends. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 What Man Up Means To Bedros 07:45 Dissecting the Story We Tell Ourselves 15:17 Why Bedros Despises the Red Pill World 21:53 Advice For Correcting Your Inner Voice 31:56 Getting From 0 to 1 36:24 Traumatic Events Can Become Your Superpower 48:57 Observing the Path You Could’ve Gone Down 53:52 Get Good at Eating Shit 1:02:26 The Realistic Path to Enlightenment 1:17:18 How to Not Give Power to Enemies 1:23:45 The Worst Thing About Being a Victim 1:34:16 Why Discipline is Emotional Maturity 1:46:32 What’s Next for Bedros? 1:50:05 Where to Find Bedros
Action alleviates anxiety. Anxiety is anticipation of future pain. Halt when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, tired, you’re more likely to go back to your old ways. Edit- I went back to hear this, so in case anyone missed it or forgets.
00:00 🧭 "Man up" means evolving to our highest selves, transcending base instincts to become better humans, serving humanity. 01:18 🧠 Society manipulates through emotional dependency, fueling control, and compliance. 02:51 📰 Media fosters uncertainty, influencing diverse reactions; the purpose or coordinated outcome remains unclear. 03:58 🛡 People respond diversely to distrust in media, some rebel while others comply; circles may influence perspectives. 04:52 💬 Use of strong words about humanity sparks reflection, aiming to provoke an awakening, trigger action, and transcendence. 06:19 🤔 Negative experiences, like resentment, can act as catalysts for change and activation energy. 08:31 💭 Confirmation bias shapes our experiences; the stories we believe determine our realities. 10:45 🔄 Your perspective on the present moment is shaped by the story you tell yourself about it. 11:39 🌟 Personal development encompasses masculinity, emotional openness, dealing with traumas, and being versatile. 13:29 💼 Masculinity includes faith, family, fitness, finances, and fulfillment, going beyond the traditional provider role. 16:44 🔴 Rejects the 'red pill' narrative; warns against ideologies that paint all women negatively, emphasizes the importance of family. 18:22 💔 Lack of purpose leads to seeking meaning elsewhere, causing addiction, anxiety, and depression. 20:36 🎯 Purpose and fulfillment stem from various sources like family, career, and connection to others. 22:13 🧘 Acknowledging the multi-dimensional nature of existence, wisdom from experiences, and the evolving consciousness in aging. 23:10 🧠 Understanding and reconciling with personal growth often involves a battle between inner voices, the body's deterioration, and mastering emotions and thoughts. 24:07 🚪 Negative self-talk is the conscience's way of signaling incongruence between how you live and what you believe. Living congruently alleviates this negativity. 25:30 🤝 Keeping promises to yourself is a potent strategy; failing to do so leads to a sense of unfulfillment and self-betrayal. 26:38 💔 The emotional impact of not aligning actions with personal beliefs creates a profound sense of inadequacy and disappointment in oneself. 28:11 🛠 The absence of positive role models and tools can create resentment, but understanding personal growth is an ongoing process helps overcome this. 30:20 🛑 Blaming past events or circumstances hinders progress; taking responsibility and embracing personal development are essential for moving forward. 32:29 🧩 Achieving financial success doesn't always equate to personal fulfillment; addressing past traumas is crucial for overall well-being. 36:11 💪 Overcoming trauma can transform it into a personal superpower, helping one move past shame, rage, and confusion towards healing. 41:31 🌟 Disassociating from past traumas can lead to understanding, healing, and transforming a significant obstacle into a minor challenge on life's timeline. 44:16 📜 Bedros wrote a letter to his younger self, acknowledging past trauma, paving the way to open up to his wife about it. 45:12 💬 Speaking openly about his trauma at a public event was a turning point, sparking profound connections with others experiencing similar struggles. 46:51 💪 Transforming past pain into his superpower allows Bedros to connect, empathize, and guide others through their healing journeys. 48:29 👀 Childhood struggles became sources of strength-like his ability to observe intensely-shaping valuable skills and perspectives. 49:26 🚪 Unresolved past experiences can haunt and limit growth unless actively processed and utilized positively. 50:10 💡 Adversities-like being labeled in special education-were turned into strengths, crucial in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey. 52:23 💪 Healing through struggles creates a superpower; the gap lies between wanting the outcome and willingness to do the necessary work. 53:06 🛡 "If you're going to eat, get good at it": Handling challenges swiftly and effectively is vital in entrepreneurship and life. 56:33 🔄 Pivoting strategies swiftly during setbacks is crucial; dwelling in dissatisfaction prolongs the pain. 58:07 🏆 Focusing on small victories amid challenges leads to eventual success-a key lesson in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey. 01:00:51 🌟 Finding and stacking small wins is a strategy to navigate through the majority of challenging times. 01:03:39 🧘 Realistic enlightenment isn't perpetual bliss but stringing together moments of peace amid life's challenges. 01:04:47 🎯 Achieving success isn't about constant tranquility but acknowledging and celebrating small victories along the way. 01:05:15 🧠 Embrace moments of success, no matter how small, and allow yourself to bask in them to rewire your brain for positivity. 01:06:26 🌟 Take time after completing tasks or achievements to savor the sensation for at least 30 seconds, reinforcing feelings of accomplishment. 01:07:23 ⚡ High performers often tie self-worth to productivity, struggling to appreciate non-productive moments. It's vital to detach worth from productivity. 01:09:03 🌀 "Productivity Purgatory" and the "Dark Playground" reflect the struggles of always associating activities with productivity, leading to guilt and an inability to enjoy relaxation or fun. 01:11:08 🛑 Attaching self-worth to achievements or productivity is a coping mechanism. Healing from past traumas detaches self-worth from productivity. 01:14:47 💭 Becoming an observer in your own life allows for self-awareness, managing reactive thoughts and choosing responses consciously. 01:17:40 🔥 Use emotions, even negative ones, as tools for self-improvement, transforming toxic feelings into valuable assets for growth. 01:19:55 🎯 Avoid letting external enemies dictate your game or goals. Winning their game doesn't mean you've won yours. 01:21:44 🌟 Recognize and utilize all the elements within your control, understanding that personal growth requires using more than just a fraction of your capabilities. 01:24:05 💡 Awareness of victimhood mindsets and locus of control helps navigate personal struggles and avoid extreme external attributions for life's challenges. 01:25:57 🤔 Understanding and acknowledging grievances is essential, but dwelling in victimhood prevents growth. 01:26:55 🌱 Taking control in the current era allows personal growth; changing influences and actions can lead to progress. 01:27:38 🦀 In toxic communities like incels, hope is discouraged as it challenges the fatalistic mindset; action and hope lead to potential change. 01:29:18 🕹 Incels avoid action because it demands effort and change; this community discourages progress, promoting comfort in inertia. 01:31:53 🐑 Counter-culture beliefs can be as unoriginal as following the mainstream; being a contrarian isn't inherently sophisticated or smart. 01:32:33 🦀 Incel communities offer a toxic sense of belonging but discourage hope, stifling potential progress and personal growth. 01:34:21 💪 Emotional maturity drives discipline; despite adversities, maturity leads to consistent action toward one's purpose. 01:37:22 🤒 Embracing challenges, like performing while recovering from illness, builds resilience and increases one's ability to handle adversity. 01:40:07 🔄 Overcoming challenges increases confidence and expands capabilities; every hurdle cleared amplifies one's potential for growth. 01:46:04 🔄 Reflecting on personal growth over time can motivate change; evolving from complaint to becoming the hero in one's journey is essential. 01:46:32 📚 Bedros Keuilian is working on a second book in the self-development genre, exploring how instant change is achievable with the right approach. 01:47:14 🚀 Change can occur in an instant with the right mindset; Keuilian aims to share a method for quick change and sustaining a new identity. 01:47:55 🌟 Quick change doesn't mean it's effortless; while change can happen rapidly, it still demands effort and dedication. 01:48:08 🏋♂ Intensive personal development programs, like a 75-hour course, can drastically improve leadership, teamwork, problem-solving, and communication skills.
1:06:07 - This part right here! This has been SO powerful for me, and I am so glad you mentioned this, I have never heard anyone else talk about this practice. I call it, Emotional Tethering, which is really focusing on how I feel in that moment and trying to stay there for as long as I can, focus so intensely to the point of goosebumps. I can then later, in moments where I need a dopamine boost, close my eyes and focus on how I felt in whatever moment, and pull those goosebumps right back, and I can't hold back a smile. It's a super power.
This was amazing, as a 40 yr old man who had to navigate through life without a father...men like Bedros etc really help me find my way and thrive. Really appreciate your content brother!
Same here. Having no dad can be debilitating. Teaching yourself to be a man is a challenge. Feel like I’ve been looking for a father my whole life. Guys like these really help.
Nice to hear about another man and his therapy experience. It's been two years for me and unpacking all that trauma from my past and processing it has been super beneficial to my life. I feel like a new man and I'm not even done yet.
Chris, I've always loved your videos and truly appreciate the immense effort you put into each one. However, I've recently noticed a shift in your approach. It seems you're now more focused on showcasing your knowledge and quoting others, rather than engaging with genuine curiosity in your conversations with guests. I'm a big fan of Bedros and was eagerly anticipating this episode, but it felt like there was a missed opportunity for deeper exploration. It appeared that you dominated the conversation more than he did. While it's your podcast and you have every right to steer it as you wish, as a supportive fan, I must admit I find this change somewhat disappointing. I hope you take this feedback in the spirit it's intended. I'm always rooting for you, brother, and look forward to more great content. Keep pushing the boundaries!!
Definitely agree. I love the channel and think Chris is extremely intelligent and great at interviewing, but I really do get a sense that a portion of his goal is to regurgitate things that previous guests have said. I don't think its intentional but its hard to not notice it if you've listened to enough episodes.
I totally agree with this. A good interviewer can ask and add to questions without indulging their own ego. I hope Chris take offense to this, and thinks about it. I literally scrub through the parts where Chris is speaking which is a shame. That is for a different video where he solely addresses the camera giving us an insightful monologue.
I'm 31. I've been shown what I can have and I've lost it due to my poor decision making and not valuing what I had. And not working hard to keep what I had. Living with resentment and seeking instant pleasure landed me at ground zero. I'm 31 and have nothing to show for. But I am worthy. The good Lord hasn't gave up on me. I have a purpose.
This was very insightful. Its not a small feat to express a traumatic experience to the World. I genuinely believe that Bedros is the personification of this statement - “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else's survival guide“. GodBless you Both.
It's so refreshing to hear common sense, realistic advice for how to be a better human. This message is not just for men, everyone would do well to follow your advice.
Im trying to better myself and want to be a better person and father and I am on a journey of finding god. As I talk to god and pray I notice that my UA-cam feed is filled with podcasts like this one and I am very grateful for the learning a hearing the things I need to hear from these podcasts. This one is going to be on repeat till it sinks in. Thank you!!
Ive only watched 14 minutes, but I feel Chris talks more than Bedros when he is interviewing him. Im still getting a lot of value and will continue watching. But just a constructive comment. Thank you.
Yes and then when Bedros shares his story of overcoming his trauma and then Chris immediately talks about himself rather than asking a deeper question …..Very Jay Shetty of him. I’m a new viewer and I like what he has to say but this is a big pet peeve of mine and I’ve heard him do it a couple times now
No idea who this guy is but he is seems to be talking so much sense . Glad you gave him freedom to speak It felt like watching you talking to 50 your old self . Great interview Chris, thank you.
1:45:56 - I started journalling about 4 years ago, I often go back and read through certain periods of my life, which is a similar experience to what is being outlined here. Gives me an insight into the way I thought, what my priorities were at the time, what I was afraid of, what had my attention etc. Definitely a good thing to start doing if you want to be able to look back on how far you've come intellectually the same way you can see how you've progressed physically.
I am 31 now, in my 20s I dated a girl for 6 years. I’m no longer with her but , I cheated on her heavily. It killed me inside every time I cheated, but I always would push it down. To this day it hurts me knowing I did that. We broke up for other reasons and she never found out, but I’m sure she had an idea I was. If I could go back, I’d never would have. I’m now married and I would never think to ever put my wife through that situation. Now that I’m in my 30s, I have this feeling of bettering my self physically, mentally, and faithfully . I am so glad I found your podcast. I really believe God helped me find you!
Great convo fellas. I often find motivational/self-help content corny but this was great. You both were very articulate and provided a lot of good insight. I was locked in
Same not gonna lie I was a little skeptical to hear the whole “you need to become your best self” and “you need to rise above the unwashed masses” cause everyone’s heard the same thing 1000 times but he had some decent things to say
@@BGFitnessNY Don't hold your breath. Certainly not when every guest on this podcasy has the same warped view of what Red Pill actually means, which is doubly ironic when this guy talks about the "peasantsand unwashed masses".
We so need men like you both in the UK to push young and older men to believe in themselves and get motivated ❤️ I'm a mother with a son, I feel motivated by this conversation. Men need this more than ever. Keep having these amazing individuals on to your podcast, I honestly believe you are saving lives 😎😎😎
I started using LMNT based upon the recommendations from this channel. I race dirt bikes (enduro racing), and some of the races go about 2 hrs (in my class). Sweat a lot during those long races. LMNT has really made a difference in my hydration.
It’s very interesting what Bedros Keuilian described that we are living on three plans 1). The Body 2). Energy…the souls 3). And Conscience Well, we are made in the likeness of God….The Trinity. So, not just physically like Jesus, but we have a spirit or a soul (like the Holy Spirit) and then we have our conscience…the ability to have self awareness like God the Father. We are made in His image in more ways than one. We have the three planes that are separate yet we are one at the same time as well.
Bedros is the first person I’ve ever heard speak who thinks like I do. So many of his sayings I’ve thought myself. “You hold the pen to your own story” being tops among them.
As far as I can tell Keuilian gets Williamson perfectly when he says he wonders if it is the people in the circles that Chris runs in. I've been a fan of Chris's for many years, first saw him on Your Welcome, I think. "We're going to vacation in Russia" -- then Covid and no vacation. I guess through Michael Malice, Williamson met Michaela Peterson, also unusual, then her husband and parents, and along the way tons of other unusual people who use their brains. Then moved to Austin which was always a strange town, now a jacked up strange town, and is in with the alt-of-alt of Austin? Am I right? It seems to me that he is not fooling around, has a clear plan, and executes every day. Ain't too many Kmele Fosters, Heathers & Bretts, Dave Smiths, or Tom Woodses in the masses, but there are on this channel, in Austin, in Nashville, all in those/his circles. Mr Keuilian is correct. Even though there are more and better connected human beings, there is still the mass of human animals.
Before listening this episode I didnt know who Bedros was but this conversation has hit me hard. It was painful since I can relate to most of the things you have talked about except for the fact that I am not gonna make it. I try it, my god I try it but I cant find peace of mind. This idea of personal development wistfulness is so spot on. I spend all the time thinking "if only I had...". This journey of self improvemet is great but I feel I am too broken inside. I am so desperate that I am really afraid. Cheers from Spain.
Please hold on. I am 47 years old and am only recently overcoming almost 4 decades of depression. I have been seriously suicidal twice in my life. I am a late bloomer (more so than Bedros!) but that is OK. All humans have some level of brokenness, but that in no way makes you less than. Some people just feel more than others, and I sense that may be you, but there is nothing wrong with that. Sending love and prayers your way ❤
The strategy will never change in a commodity driven society. The revolution will begin with people able to transcend. But individualist pursuits of excellence will only liberate those individuals leaving the rest behind.
I hasn’t seen full episodes with or of Bedros in any platforms; now Im his fan and my teenager kids also love his content. Thank both for this conversation; cold wakeup call!
Chris you have had such a positive impact on my life. I truly admire your character and the ways in which you communicate. Thank you for continuing to educate others and give great insight for all aspects of life. Keep Crushing It!!!
I have heard so many gold nuggets in this podcast. I need to listen again with a meditative state and write them down. Thank you gentlemen for your time and focus on providing insight for us all. Thank you.
This is literally the best podcast I have heard all year, and I listen to several hours everyday. Many of the ideas presented here are almost word for word descriptions of things I am grappling with. Jordan Peterson helped me get myself in order (quit drinking, got in shape, etc), but now I’m working on trying to grow into being a good father and husband. Thank you both for making this podcast happen and for delivering such high value per minute. I think that’s potentially the trap of long form interviews, that many 3 hours podcasts deliver about 25 minutes of value. This podcast delivered through its entirety.
So excited to see this! Bedros inspires me immensely. I don’t have an older male figure in my life I respect and can get advice from. But luckily I have Uncle Bedros 🙏🏼
Based on one of the topics discussed, I have been lazy for many years and now I need to have that intense selfworth towards focus and goal orientation. It’s a need at this point in my life, 30 about to be 31 and not getting any younger
Bro, same here. I'm 31. I've been shown what I can have and I've lost it due to my poor decision making and not valuing what I had. And not working hard to keep what I had. Living with resentment and seeking instant pleasure landed me at ground zero. I'm 31 and have nothing to show for. But I am worthy. The good Lord hasn't gave up on me. I have a purpose.
The problem with trying to “wake up” the masses is that you can’t. That’s why they are part of the masses. You might be able to enlighten a few independent thinkers who have ended up on the wrong path but they are the masses because they arent willing to do the work, go at it alone, and break out of group think. I think your message is for the few of us who are built this way. Either through upbringing or situations that occurred in our lives. I don’t think we will ever get to a place where the “masses” are enlightened and won’t be taken advantage of. Unfortunately they allow themselves to be taken advantage of and powerful men will always take advantage of them because that’s how they get their power.
I understand that talking to a Therapist can help people with trauma but honestly just getting saved and getting to know God is what helped me with mine.
If there is anything on UA-cam worth listing to is this. For thousands of us this is like being in therapy and seeing our self .We thank you for opening up to us.
This interview was a small dream of mine to see, I have been watching the Bedros Keuilian show since the 1st episode. so glad that the Collab finally happened.
I listened to this earlier. Very interesting. Quite the description of masculinity. Deal with your problems first. When you regain some control, get to work. Been a mantra of mine forever: "No time for complaining, there is work that needs doing." I try to keep myself healthy so that I can work and live better. Being the normal amount of conscientious, I can find a work/life balance. That I can do. It is figuring out how to make the most of my life that is hard for me. That's why I listen. Also, this guy has a lot of good advice. Very interesting fellow.
only video pod that i can sit through and watch all the way through. Each and every conversation you have literally keeps me glued to my chair. Thank you for your content 👊
I love this podcast and channel. Thank you, Chris, for your persevering search for truth. I don't know exactly what you believe, but everything you stand for and are searching for can be found in Jesus. Thank you for your effort and time.
To everyone who is bogged down by extreme shame no matter how many books, diets, exercise, sun, supplements, meditations, acupuncture, drugs, etc. you do, you're not alone. Idk what else to do to make things better, but I guess I'm still here trying.
I wish that Chris, Tom Bilyeu, Huberman, Attia, Ferriss, all of the top guys in this space (or, I would challenge one to do this) would stop producing content until they received 100 video confirmations from men and women on HOW they were changing their lives as a result of consuming self-improvement/optimization content. Even better if these videos were from friends of these people, talking about the positive changes in them. Because let’s be honest - how many people go on UA-cam, watch these videos, get a serotonin and dopamine hit at the anticipation of becoming a better version of themselves, tell themselves and others of all their big plans - and then don’t do fuck all except watch more videos? My guess: 95% + Call it out Chris. Make people earn it.
Hey Chris, maybe you have your reasons, maybe you overlooked it, but would you consider adding links to your guests in the description. Yes I can easily just look it up, but I feel like I shouldn't have to
VERY INTERESTING video ! Incredible to see I been doing so much of this survival modes ! I feel like I was in therapy with this vidoe 😅😢 . BEDROS I had the exact same life you had if not worse and listening to you makes me realize so much ! I work on my self so much and still every day . My next chapter is to help others in the Spanish community. Thank you for all you do !! Both of you .
GREAT POD !!!! More I listen to Bedros . He definitely adds VALUE to my Life IM ADHD. And I've weaponist it. Long way to go though. People like Chris and Bedros with offer guidance. THANKS GUYS. Great Pod chris. As usual.
Hello you legends. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - chriswillx.com/books/ Here’s the timestamps:
00:00 What Man Up Means To Bedros
07:45 Dissecting the Story We Tell Ourselves
15:17 Why Bedros Despises the Red Pill World
21:53 Advice For Correcting Your Inner Voice
31:56 Getting From 0 to 1
36:24 Traumatic Events Can Become Your Superpower
48:57 Observing the Path You Could’ve Gone Down
53:52 Get Good at Eating Shit
1:02:26 The Realistic Path to Enlightenment
1:17:18 How to Not Give Power to Enemies
1:23:45 The Worst Thing About Being a Victim
1:34:16 Why Discipline is Emotional Maturity
1:46:32 What’s Next for Bedros?
1:50:05 Where to Find Bedros
Awesome
Bro when will we get to see elon musk
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Chris, thank you for the opportunity my friend 🙏🏼
Thank you for your words on this podcast. It gives me hope to hear men share a new way. Keep up the Good,True, and Beautiful fight. God bless!
Another great show from Chris! His guest are alway top notch. It take two to tango. Thank you for your time and deep bank of knowledge/experience
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This was truly powerful! Thank you
Genuinely excited about this one!
Great exchange of ideals! Nice job guys💪
Action alleviates anxiety.
Anxiety is anticipation of future pain.
Halt when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, tired,
you’re more likely to go back to your old ways.
Edit- I went back to hear this, so in case anyone missed it or forgets.
And being "tired" takes more than a solid 6 hour sleep and try again tomorrow, it can take weeks of self care
The third phrase makes a lot of sense. I’ve worked hard to dominate my anxiety. I’ve been successful but still a way to go.
Finally becoming the role model I wish I had at 20 thanks to men like Chris and Bedros. Genuinely appreciate this content.
+1
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at 20 didnt have no role models, and this amazing free content,
we in a brave new world🎉🎉🎉
“I went to a new level of crying” anyone who’s had a breakthrough feels that.
I'm a woman and I listened to the whole thing. This was a great podcast. I learned a LOT about myself too. Thanks!
Nice! what stood out most to you?
00:00 🧭 "Man up" means evolving to our highest selves, transcending base instincts to become better humans, serving humanity.
01:18 🧠 Society manipulates through emotional dependency, fueling control, and compliance.
02:51 📰 Media fosters uncertainty, influencing diverse reactions; the purpose or coordinated outcome remains unclear.
03:58 🛡 People respond diversely to distrust in media, some rebel while others comply; circles may influence perspectives.
04:52 💬 Use of strong words about humanity sparks reflection, aiming to provoke an awakening, trigger action, and transcendence.
06:19 🤔 Negative experiences, like resentment, can act as catalysts for change and activation energy.
08:31 💭 Confirmation bias shapes our experiences; the stories we believe determine our realities.
10:45 🔄 Your perspective on the present moment is shaped by the story you tell yourself about it.
11:39 🌟 Personal development encompasses masculinity, emotional openness, dealing with traumas, and being versatile.
13:29 💼 Masculinity includes faith, family, fitness, finances, and fulfillment, going beyond the traditional provider role.
16:44 🔴 Rejects the 'red pill' narrative; warns against ideologies that paint all women negatively, emphasizes the importance of family.
18:22 💔 Lack of purpose leads to seeking meaning elsewhere, causing addiction, anxiety, and depression.
20:36 🎯 Purpose and fulfillment stem from various sources like family, career, and connection to others.
22:13 🧘 Acknowledging the multi-dimensional nature of existence, wisdom from experiences, and the evolving consciousness in aging.
23:10 🧠 Understanding and reconciling with personal growth often involves a battle between inner voices, the body's deterioration, and mastering emotions and thoughts.
24:07 🚪 Negative self-talk is the conscience's way of signaling incongruence between how you live and what you believe. Living congruently alleviates this negativity.
25:30 🤝 Keeping promises to yourself is a potent strategy; failing to do so leads to a sense of unfulfillment and self-betrayal.
26:38 💔 The emotional impact of not aligning actions with personal beliefs creates a profound sense of inadequacy and disappointment in oneself.
28:11 🛠 The absence of positive role models and tools can create resentment, but understanding personal growth is an ongoing process helps overcome this.
30:20 🛑 Blaming past events or circumstances hinders progress; taking responsibility and embracing personal development are essential for moving forward.
32:29 🧩 Achieving financial success doesn't always equate to personal fulfillment; addressing past traumas is crucial for overall well-being.
36:11 💪 Overcoming trauma can transform it into a personal superpower, helping one move past shame, rage, and confusion towards healing.
41:31 🌟 Disassociating from past traumas can lead to understanding, healing, and transforming a significant obstacle into a minor challenge on life's timeline.
44:16 📜 Bedros wrote a letter to his younger self, acknowledging past trauma, paving the way to open up to his wife about it.
45:12 💬 Speaking openly about his trauma at a public event was a turning point, sparking profound connections with others experiencing similar struggles.
46:51 💪 Transforming past pain into his superpower allows Bedros to connect, empathize, and guide others through their healing journeys.
48:29 👀 Childhood struggles became sources of strength-like his ability to observe intensely-shaping valuable skills and perspectives.
49:26 🚪 Unresolved past experiences can haunt and limit growth unless actively processed and utilized positively.
50:10 💡 Adversities-like being labeled in special education-were turned into strengths, crucial in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey.
52:23 💪 Healing through struggles creates a superpower; the gap lies between wanting the outcome and willingness to do the necessary work.
53:06 🛡 "If you're going to eat, get good at it": Handling challenges swiftly and effectively is vital in entrepreneurship and life.
56:33 🔄 Pivoting strategies swiftly during setbacks is crucial; dwelling in dissatisfaction prolongs the pain.
58:07 🏆 Focusing on small victories amid challenges leads to eventual success-a key lesson in Bedros' entrepreneurial journey.
01:00:51 🌟 Finding and stacking small wins is a strategy to navigate through the majority of challenging times.
01:03:39 🧘 Realistic enlightenment isn't perpetual bliss but stringing together moments of peace amid life's challenges.
01:04:47 🎯 Achieving success isn't about constant tranquility but acknowledging and celebrating small victories along the way.
01:05:15 🧠 Embrace moments of success, no matter how small, and allow yourself to bask in them to rewire your brain for positivity.
01:06:26 🌟 Take time after completing tasks or achievements to savor the sensation for at least 30 seconds, reinforcing feelings of accomplishment.
01:07:23 ⚡ High performers often tie self-worth to productivity, struggling to appreciate non-productive moments. It's vital to detach worth from productivity.
01:09:03 🌀 "Productivity Purgatory" and the "Dark Playground" reflect the struggles of always associating activities with productivity, leading to guilt and an inability to enjoy relaxation or fun.
01:11:08 🛑 Attaching self-worth to achievements or productivity is a coping mechanism. Healing from past traumas detaches self-worth from productivity.
01:14:47 💭 Becoming an observer in your own life allows for self-awareness, managing reactive thoughts and choosing responses consciously.
01:17:40 🔥 Use emotions, even negative ones, as tools for self-improvement, transforming toxic feelings into valuable assets for growth.
01:19:55 🎯 Avoid letting external enemies dictate your game or goals. Winning their game doesn't mean you've won yours.
01:21:44 🌟 Recognize and utilize all the elements within your control, understanding that personal growth requires using more than just a fraction of your capabilities.
01:24:05 💡 Awareness of victimhood mindsets and locus of control helps navigate personal struggles and avoid extreme external attributions for life's challenges.
01:25:57 🤔 Understanding and acknowledging grievances is essential, but dwelling in victimhood prevents growth.
01:26:55 🌱 Taking control in the current era allows personal growth; changing influences and actions can lead to progress.
01:27:38 🦀 In toxic communities like incels, hope is discouraged as it challenges the fatalistic mindset; action and hope lead to potential change.
01:29:18 🕹 Incels avoid action because it demands effort and change; this community discourages progress, promoting comfort in inertia.
01:31:53 🐑 Counter-culture beliefs can be as unoriginal as following the mainstream; being a contrarian isn't inherently sophisticated or smart.
01:32:33 🦀 Incel communities offer a toxic sense of belonging but discourage hope, stifling potential progress and personal growth.
01:34:21 💪 Emotional maturity drives discipline; despite adversities, maturity leads to consistent action toward one's purpose.
01:37:22 🤒 Embracing challenges, like performing while recovering from illness, builds resilience and increases one's ability to handle adversity.
01:40:07 🔄 Overcoming challenges increases confidence and expands capabilities; every hurdle cleared amplifies one's potential for growth.
01:46:04 🔄 Reflecting on personal growth over time can motivate change; evolving from complaint to becoming the hero in one's journey is essential.
01:46:32 📚 Bedros Keuilian is working on a second book in the self-development genre, exploring how instant change is achievable with the right approach.
01:47:14 🚀 Change can occur in an instant with the right mindset; Keuilian aims to share a method for quick change and sustaining a new identity.
01:47:55 🌟 Quick change doesn't mean it's effortless; while change can happen rapidly, it still demands effort and dedication.
01:48:08 🏋♂ Intensive personal development programs, like a 75-hour course, can drastically improve leadership, teamwork, problem-solving, and communication skills.
thanks mate.
I appreciate you doing this!
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1:06:07 - This part right here! This has been SO powerful for me, and I am so glad you mentioned this, I have never heard anyone else talk about this practice. I call it, Emotional Tethering, which is really focusing on how I feel in that moment and trying to stay there for as long as I can, focus so intensely to the point of goosebumps. I can then later, in moments where I need a dopamine boost, close my eyes and focus on how I felt in whatever moment, and pull those goosebumps right back, and I can't hold back a smile. It's a super power.
This was amazing, as a 40 yr old man who had to navigate through life without a father...men like Bedros etc really help me find my way and thrive. Really appreciate your content brother!
Same here. Having no dad can be debilitating. Teaching yourself to be a man is a challenge. Feel like I’ve been looking for a father my whole life. Guys like these really help.
@dumpsterbear2492 Stay strong brother, seems like you are on the right path! Our adversity is out super power, you will be just fine!
Yo Grab a notebook folks. Half way through and turning back. Already downloaded to listen a few more times. This one is Golden
Nice to hear about another man and his therapy experience. It's been two years for me and unpacking all that trauma from my past and processing it has been super beneficial to my life. I feel like a new man and I'm not even done yet.
Hi
Hope you're doing well. Please, I'm looking for someone with whom I can learn english as second language. I speak French.
Chris, I've always loved your videos and truly appreciate the immense effort you put into each one. However, I've recently noticed a shift in your approach. It seems you're now more focused on showcasing your knowledge and quoting others, rather than engaging with genuine curiosity in your conversations with guests.
I'm a big fan of Bedros and was eagerly anticipating this episode, but it felt like there was a missed opportunity for deeper exploration. It appeared that you dominated the conversation more than he did. While it's your podcast and you have every right to steer it as you wish, as a supportive fan, I must admit I find this change somewhat disappointing.
I hope you take this feedback in the spirit it's intended. I'm always rooting for you, brother, and look forward to more great content. Keep pushing the boundaries!!
Greatly articulated. I have felt the same. I too, hope it is received the way it is intended. Great conversation though, nonetheless.
Definitely agree. I love the channel and think Chris is extremely intelligent and great at interviewing, but I really do get a sense that a portion of his goal is to regurgitate things that previous guests have said. I don't think its intentional but its hard to not notice it if you've listened to enough episodes.
While I understand the critique, I think his focus is also on adding value. Not just extracting it.
I totally agree with this. A good interviewer can ask and add to questions without indulging their own ego. I hope Chris take offense to this, and thinks about it.
I literally scrub through the parts where Chris is speaking which is a shame. That is for a different video where he solely addresses the camera giving us an insightful monologue.
Totally agree. Instead of asking followup questions why he is quoting other people.
First time I’ve heard Chris genuinely explore some of his weaker moments.
Was a great show of healthy masculinity and growth.
I noticed this as well and (parasocial or no) feel much more invested in his journey and the podcast as a whole.
I'm 31. I've been shown what I can have and I've lost it due to my poor decision making and not valuing what I had. And not working hard to keep what I had. Living with resentment and seeking instant pleasure landed me at ground zero. I'm 31 and have nothing to show for. But I am worthy. The good Lord hasn't gave up on me. I have a purpose.
Do 75 hard and get busy bro. I feel you
There was not a wasted moment on this podcast.
Exactly 🙌💯
This was very insightful. Its not a small feat to express a traumatic experience to the World. I genuinely believe that Bedros is the personification of this statement - “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else's survival guide“. GodBless you Both.
That stuck in the hallway feeling and not being able to live a moment due to your past is so real! What a description!! On point! Thank you for this 🙏
It's so refreshing to hear common sense, realistic advice for how to be a better human. This message is not just for men, everyone would do well to follow your advice.
Im trying to better myself and want to be a better person and father and I am on a journey of finding god. As I talk to god and pray I notice that my UA-cam feed is filled with podcasts like this one and I am very grateful for the learning a hearing the things I need to hear from these podcasts. This one is going to be on repeat till it sinks in. Thank you!!
Ive only watched 14 minutes, but I feel Chris talks more than Bedros when he is interviewing him. Im still getting a lot of value and will continue watching. But just a constructive comment. Thank you.
Yes and then when Bedros shares his story of overcoming his trauma and then Chris immediately talks about himself rather than asking a deeper question …..Very Jay Shetty of him. I’m a new viewer and I like what he has to say but this is a big pet peeve of mine and I’ve heard him do it a couple times now
@@hayleeVALLHOit’s a podcast not a therapy session. It’s the shared experience and the point to take away from it all
I love Bedros, he brings true ruthless compassion. All men need to watch this episode! Great job Chris!
It’s worth noting there are 5 ingredients necessary for achieving success. And Luck is one of them that successful people rarely talk about.
For sure but you’ll never get a chance at that luck if you never put yourself out in the first place.
The alternative is -- zero.
No idea who this guy is but he is seems to be talking so much sense . Glad you gave him freedom to speak It felt like watching you talking to 50 your old self . Great interview Chris, thank you.
I recommend his UA-cam channel. Bedros will go down as a legend for what he’s bringing to social media. Huge fan of his content
1:45:56 - I started journalling about 4 years ago, I often go back and read through certain periods of my life, which is a similar experience to what is being outlined here. Gives me an insight into the way I thought, what my priorities were at the time, what I was afraid of, what had my attention etc. Definitely a good thing to start doing if you want to be able to look back on how far you've come intellectually the same way you can see how you've progressed physically.
Amazing! Bedros and Chris are 2 of my top 4 podcasters right now and what better than a surprise video of them together!
I am 31 now, in my 20s I dated a girl for 6 years. I’m no longer with her but , I cheated on her heavily. It killed me inside every time I cheated, but I always would push it down. To this day it hurts me knowing I did that. We broke up for other reasons and she never found out, but I’m sure she had an idea I was. If I could go back, I’d never would have. I’m now married and I would never think to ever put my wife through that situation. Now that I’m in my 30s, I have this feeling of bettering my self physically, mentally, and faithfully . I am so glad I found your podcast. I really believe God helped me find you!
Great convo fellas. I often find motivational/self-help content corny but this was great. You both were very articulate and provided a lot of good insight. I was locked in
Same not gonna lie I was a little skeptical to hear the whole “you need to become your best self” and “you need to rise above the unwashed masses” cause everyone’s heard the same thing 1000 times but he had some decent things to say
@@BGFitnessNY
Don't hold your breath. Certainly not when every guest on this podcasy has the same warped view of what Red Pill actually means, which is doubly ironic when this guy talks about the "peasantsand unwashed masses".
We so need men like you both in the UK to push young and older men to believe in themselves and get motivated ❤️ I'm a mother with a son, I feel motivated by this conversation. Men need this more than ever.
Keep having these amazing individuals on to your podcast, I honestly believe you are saving lives 😎😎😎
I started using LMNT based upon the recommendations from this channel. I race dirt bikes (enduro racing), and some of the races go about 2 hrs (in my class). Sweat a lot during those long races. LMNT has really made a difference in my hydration.
It’s very interesting what Bedros Keuilian described that we are living on three plans
1). The Body
2). Energy…the souls
3). And Conscience
Well, we are made in the likeness of God….The Trinity. So, not just physically like Jesus, but we have a spirit or a soul (like the Holy Spirit) and then we have our conscience…the ability to have self awareness like God the Father. We are made in His image in more ways than one.
We have the three planes that are separate yet we are one at the same time as well.
Bedros is the first person I’ve ever heard speak who thinks like I do. So many of his sayings I’ve thought myself. “You hold the pen to your own story” being tops among them.
Man, what an episode! Thanks for this. Bedros is, for me, the best men’s coach around.
Never heard about Bedros Keuilian before, but I had so much joy listening to him! Thank you for making the conversation available for us, Chris!
Wow love this … I tough I was the only Man that felt just like him… Man up grow up stay responsible for you actions … family always first..
wow I am excited for this one! I did not see this coming, let's goooo
As far as I can tell Keuilian gets Williamson perfectly when he says he wonders if it is the people in the circles that Chris runs in. I've been a fan of Chris's for many years, first saw him on Your Welcome, I think. "We're going to vacation in Russia" -- then Covid and no vacation. I guess through Michael Malice, Williamson met Michaela Peterson, also unusual, then her husband and parents, and along the way tons of other unusual people who use their brains. Then moved to Austin which was always a strange town, now a jacked up strange town, and is in with the alt-of-alt of Austin? Am I right? It seems to me that he is not fooling around, has a clear plan, and executes every day. Ain't too many Kmele Fosters, Heathers & Bretts, Dave Smiths, or Tom Woodses in the masses, but there are on this channel, in Austin, in Nashville, all in those/his circles. Mr Keuilian is correct. Even though there are more and better connected human beings, there is still the mass of human animals.
True.
Look at the what happened during COVID. 95% of people rolled over.
Before listening this episode I didnt know who Bedros was but this conversation has hit me hard. It was painful since I can relate to most of the things you have talked about except for the fact that I am not gonna make it. I try it, my god I try it but I cant find peace of mind. This idea of personal development wistfulness is so spot on. I spend all the time thinking "if only I had...". This journey of self improvemet is great but I feel I am too broken inside. I am so desperate that I am really afraid. Cheers from Spain.
It’s never too late
Please keep in trying. I was like that too and I’m coming out. With God all things are possible
Please hold on.
I am 47 years old and am only recently overcoming almost 4 decades of depression. I have been seriously suicidal twice in my life.
I am a late bloomer (more so than Bedros!) but that is OK.
All humans have some level of brokenness, but that in no way makes you less than.
Some people just feel more than others, and I sense that may be you, but there is nothing wrong with that.
Sending love and prayers your way ❤
@@nicolepark6057 thank you.
So True Man🙌! All my life challenges made me what I am today! Grateful😇
The strategy will never change in a commodity driven society. The revolution will begin with people able to transcend. But individualist pursuits of excellence will only liberate those individuals leaving the rest behind.
Thank you guys!!!
You do the world a service, and I appreciate you both
I hasn’t seen full episodes with or of Bedros in any platforms; now Im his fan and my teenager kids also love his content. Thank both for this conversation; cold wakeup call!
Chris you have had such a positive impact on my life. I truly admire your character and the ways in which you communicate. Thank you for continuing to educate others and give great insight for all aspects of life. Keep Crushing It!!!
I have heard so many gold nuggets in this podcast. I need to listen again with a meditative state and write them down. Thank you gentlemen for your time and focus on providing insight for us all. Thank you.
This is literally the best podcast I have heard all year, and I listen to several hours everyday. Many of the ideas presented here are almost word for word descriptions of things I am grappling with. Jordan Peterson helped me get myself in order (quit drinking, got in shape, etc), but now I’m working on trying to grow into being a good father and husband. Thank you both for making this podcast happen and for delivering such high value per minute. I think that’s potentially the trap of long form interviews, that many 3 hours podcasts deliver about 25 minutes of value. This podcast delivered through its entirety.
So excited to see this! Bedros inspires me immensely. I don’t have an older male figure in my life I respect and can get advice from. But luckily I have Uncle Bedros 🙏🏼
I am reminded of how much I appreciate Chris' decision of just jumping right into the first question within the first second.
This is so good Thank you gentlemen. Doubtful I won't come back to this to give me a kick in the arse from time to time.
Based on one of the topics discussed, I have been lazy for many years and now I need to have that intense selfworth towards focus and goal orientation. It’s a need at this point in my life, 30 about to be 31 and not getting any younger
Bro, same here. I'm 31. I've been shown what I can have and I've lost it due to my poor decision making and not valuing what I had. And not working hard to keep what I had. Living with resentment and seeking instant pleasure landed me at ground zero. I'm 31 and have nothing to show for. But I am worthy. The good Lord hasn't gave up on me. I have a purpose.
Brilliant podcast. Chris, your honesty and ability to self reflect in the moment was a lovely insight. You are appreciated ✌🏽
I have been told I act like a victim. I am not a victim. I am a survivor. I needed this.
Have a feeling Im going to love this one
as a entrepreneur 10 years in, this interview resonated more than any ive heard this year
blah blah blah, another life coach talking and talking.. find your own purpose and get on with it
The problem with trying to “wake up” the masses is that you can’t. That’s why they are part of the masses. You might be able to enlighten a few independent thinkers who have ended up on the wrong path but they are the masses because they arent willing to do the work, go at it alone, and break out of group think. I think your message is for the few of us who are built this way. Either through upbringing or situations that occurred in our lives. I don’t think we will ever get to a place where the “masses” are enlightened and won’t be taken advantage of. Unfortunately they allow themselves to be taken advantage of and powerful men will always take advantage of them because that’s how they get their power.
I understand that talking to a Therapist can help people with trauma but honestly just getting saved and getting to know God is what helped me with mine.
Not everyone has the same faith, different routes for different people.
If there is anything on UA-cam worth listing to is this. For thousands of us this is like being in therapy and seeing our self .We thank you for opening up to us.
I am 67 and it’s interesting to listen to young men talk this way. I cant imagine Mickey Mantle and Steve McQueen doing this.
This interview was a small dream of mine to see, I have been watching the Bedros Keuilian show since the 1st episode.
so glad that the Collab finally happened.
Im excited for this one. I was wondering when you’ll have him on your podcast. Big fan of Brendon’s
Great episode. So much value. Couldn't "Goal Hijacking" be the 4th horseman?
I listened to this earlier. Very interesting.
Quite the description of masculinity.
Deal with your problems first.
When you regain some control, get to work.
Been a mantra of mine forever:
"No time for complaining, there is work that needs doing."
I try to keep myself healthy so that I can work and live better.
Being the normal amount of conscientious, I can find a work/life balance. That I can do.
It is figuring out how to make the most of my life that is hard for me.
That's why I listen.
Also, this guy has a lot of good advice. Very interesting fellow.
only video pod that i can sit through and watch all the way through. Each and every conversation you have literally keeps me glued to my chair.
Thank you for your content 👊
I’m not crying. You are. ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Great 👍 interview!
And thank you for being so brave sharing your trauma, and showing why it's so important to bring it out into the light .
I love this podcast and channel. Thank you, Chris, for your persevering search for truth. I don't know exactly what you believe, but everything you stand for and are searching for can be found in Jesus. Thank you for your effort and time.
1:45:22 this is why journaling is so powerful.
Love this dude
Fantastic podcast. Very relatable. Got loads out of that. Cheers!! 🙏
Big brother is ON! Love you Bedros - amazing what you do bro👊
To everyone who is bogged down by extreme shame no matter how many books, diets, exercise, sun, supplements, meditations, acupuncture, drugs, etc. you do, you're not alone. Idk what else to do to make things better, but I guess I'm still here trying.
I wish that Chris, Tom Bilyeu, Huberman, Attia, Ferriss, all of the top guys in this space (or, I would challenge one to do this) would stop producing content until they received 100 video confirmations from men and women on HOW they were changing their lives as a result of consuming self-improvement/optimization content.
Even better if these videos were from friends of these people, talking about the positive changes in them.
Because let’s be honest - how many people go on UA-cam, watch these videos, get a serotonin and dopamine hit at the anticipation of becoming a better version of themselves, tell themselves and others of all their big plans - and then don’t do fuck all except watch more videos? My guess: 95% +
Call it out Chris. Make people earn it.
Thats it! At 380 lbs I feel more motivated than Ever to beat the odds and go after my dreams....
Im starting on O.F account
2 bloody legends great listen.
I’ve watched this many times over. 3 gratitude txt messages!!! 🤘🏿🤘🏿🤘🏿🤘🏿
one of the only Armenians I have high respect for saying the truth and being true to reality!!
This was a great conversation. Thanks guys.
Bedros is a fucken solid dude! Been listening to his podcast for over a year ! Glad to see him on your podcast!!
One of the most helpful, useful and insightful episodes ever. Thank you both!!!
Another amazing podcast with the worlds most confident and impactful men Bedros is amazing
Hey Chris, maybe you have your reasons, maybe you overlooked it, but would you consider adding links to your guests in the description. Yes I can easily just look it up, but I feel like I shouldn't have to
I’m on the same path 😁 glad there are others like me out here
This is so profound for my life. Thank you for sharing this. ✌️💚🌻
This is AMAZING 🤩
Fantastic Podcast. Fantastic speakers. Fantastic information. 10/10!!
VERY INTERESTING video !
Incredible to see I been doing so much of this survival modes ! I feel like I was in therapy with this vidoe 😅😢 . BEDROS I had the exact same life you had if not worse and listening to you makes me realize so much ! I work on my self so much and still every day . My next chapter is to help others in the Spanish community.
Thank you for all you do !!
Both of you .
This episode is 🔥
Billion Dolla Bedros! Looking forward to taking this one in.
This video flipped the switch for me
Me too
Quran 25:44 Or do you think that most of them hear or reason? They are not except like livestock. Rather, they are [even] more astray in [their] way.
What a legend BEdros Keuilian. LEarned a Lot from this man. Appreciate Chris to invite such Guests
GREAT POD !!!! More I listen to Bedros . He definitely adds VALUE to my Life IM ADHD. And I've weaponist it. Long way to go though. People like Chris and Bedros with offer guidance. THANKS GUYS. Great Pod chris. As usual.
The 💎 dropped in this go crazy! Let’s go fellas 💪🏽😤
Bedros is great ✊
Chris your work is truly amazing, keep it up! You are helping me and others A LOT.
the collab i anticipated the most!
Bedros thank you.
Bedros 👑
Wow that really sums it up. To be alone
I was an unpopular kid, therefore never needed or looked for anyone's permission. I can seriously relate. Bingo...
Finally podcast with B. amazing dude