This is the most realistic relationship I have seen portrayed in a film. It's not all cookie cutter. Adams is a wonderful actress as well. One of the best in Hollywood.
Wtf is wrong with you? This is the most toxic relationship i have ever seen. Don't fall the narrative that there has to be lot fighting in every relationship.
I swear this is me and my girlfriend been together for 5 years now been friends even longer. Some people will say the same thing but no bs here we have been on and off for sometime now. I've fought to be with her show her how much she actually means to me but cant be one sided never forget that. Its always a two way street treat the ones you love with the same in return. Hard work never giving up on the one you see bein with for a lifetime. Its hard never easy i didnt want take the easy route because i love her so. Its crazy the things you'll do to be with that special someone. If you think you have found that soulmate so to speak dont let it go dont be a fool dont lose track. Life is crazy you can be happy or in ya deepest hell depends on you.
Jesus Rodriguez I’m not saying he was joking around but he definitely doesn’t hate her. The entire movie is about their endless love. And he’s not going to hate her just cause she leaves. He might be heartbroken but it’ll never make him hate her. Duhhhh 🙄
2:20 the way she weeps is such a powerful thing. It's her knowing what she needs but at the same time chasing what she wants. Everyone has wants but our needs are the only things that will make us happy. Great acting 10/10.
Wants makes one cheat their way out having only needs in life. If needs alone made one happy, majority won't cheat, especially post marriage, wealth, kids and even grandkids, to a very responsible partner even. People still cheat because the needs are the brain's demands, the heart wants what it wants, people ignore it, thinking it's the smart lifestyle until psychology bites them back.
It's amazing how much men are willing to do and how far we are willing to go for a woman just for women to be complete liars deceivers and break men down to absolutely nothing don't know how to treat a man wants to do nothing for a man and one fight she moves on like it's nothing but this is the exact reason why it is so easy for women to move on because of men being so good and once it gets hard she goes to the next man and she wants that high again of that man being over the hills for her doing for her making it all about her... This generation of women are no good.. But in all fairness it's mens fault more for putting these women high up on pedestals and letting them get away with their acts
Noah said it best. I understand what he said. I love how he is honest in his feelings. I relate "Don't you take the easy way out. Stop thinking about what he wants, your parents want. What do you want?!!!" He's so right. Every single word!
As cheesy as this movie is known for, I think Allie is really relatable. A lot of people struggle with what they want out of life because of being afraid of disappointing others. It's so much easier to say I don't know what I want when you don't want any potential conflict.
@@Lilagrace326 Allie is a people pleaser. She likes making other people around her happy and doesn't like to think about her own happiness. Which I like how selfless she is, but it's also a flaw at the same time.
"That's what we do. We fight. You tell me when I am an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when your a pain in the ass. Which you are 99% percent of the time." Always gets me
"So it's not gonna be easy it's gonna be really hard, and were gonna have to work at this everyday but I wanna do that because I want you"🥺🥺I want somebody to fight for me like that
I never really had an interest in this movie and in some ways still don't see all the hubub. I came here for a scene I am doing with someone that wanted to perform this. Your statement resonates with me though. I don't know if I would say mostly but more like many of us. I think it's all too often we believe this lie of "love" in the modern sense and that there is some soulmate out there. I think the reality is this is not at all the case. I think it is more there are numerous people out there that we can be so compatible with that would care for us in a romantic sense. However, in a planet with 7 plus billion people on it and our lives being very small in what we do and where we go due to money and time, the odds are hard to come across them. Also, love as we know it today is only more a recent thing. Marriage and "love" was more of something that was to tie families and clans together to form alliances; and, in that sense the couples HAD to make it work to some degree for the sake of estates, alliances, money, and so on if not at least on the surface. That being said, it takes a lot for two people to come together. Hell, it's even a a lot for families to want to be in the same room with each other over extended periods of time because of our own issues; try getting two strangers together and you see how this is magnified. It is true though, as much as movies are fun, emotional, an escape, and take us away from our own lives, too many of us look to movies and cinema as though it is a real expression of the human life when in reality it is more of a fantasy than anything. Relationships and keeping people together takes A LOT of work and effort. Frankly, most people don't want to do any of that.
I've never had this happen to me yet. Now have I had someone I loved, and wanted to be with? Of course...but yeah...not someone who loved me. I think it's probably 20-30% of people experience this.
Noah is pretty vocal about his feelings unlike most men edit: "he's a fictional character " "it's a movie" okay mind your business then and stop replying to my comment
true story, we saw it the year we married in 2004,, in our 20s. now we're in our 40s and saw a local showing for Valentine's day this week and it definitely hit me diff this time
This is what love looks like! The thing with Allie is she was confused as to what to do because for 7 years she went on thinking he forgot about her and lived her life with her parents planning her every move so for her to make a decision that wasn't apart of "the plan" was hard for her. But in the end she had to choose what would make her happy and although Noah didn't have a ton of money he wasn't broke and they weren't going to be living in a shack, he build a beautiful home. She made a decision for herself that didn't include her parents for once in her life and mainly because she saw the loveless marriage her parents had and she wanted more than money!
For people who say love is not a fairy tale, you’re wrong. *This* scene exemplifies what the fairy tale really is. It’s hard and takes work. But as I have seen with my own parents-if you truly want the person, you both find a way to make it work. And I’m glad they have, and still do, with their love growing ever more stronger.
@@dolanddrumpf6344 Because that's them as they got older. They used older actors to be Noah and Allie. Ryan and Rachel are the younger versions of their story, cabròn.
I love this movie.. noah knew he wanted. He wasn't afraid to be honest about his feelings. Best love story ever.. sometimes u don't get with the person u knew u was supposed to be with till later in life. In gods timing
“ I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings....... they have like a 2 second rebound rate and you’re back doing the next pain in the ass thing” OMG!!! I love and use that line because of this scene.
queencharayl this scene is amazing i love every part sentence emotions abd the characters and this two actors in this overall every thing is just amazing
@@assholebyginger I think it means you are hurt for a few seconds and then you're back to fighting so it's not really like you're scarred from the pain or you would be in agony over it but if they go back to fighting with you it's cause they're just not happy with not getting what they want which can feel like pain but it's really just selfishness he's not hurting her
@@knightraider1362 there is such a thing bro. find her, shes out there. even if the one before her felt like she was the one, if she really loves you and you really love her, youll stay together forever.
Everybody has someone in mind when watching this scene. It can be a memory, a long lost longing faded or not over time, it can bring a wonderful warmth to your soul or that heartbreaking feeling that only who's gone through it knows what it's like. Different worlds, different people, different countries, locations, but one thing is mutual for everybody: one person comes to your mind. Who's your someone? Whose face is it when you think about a proposal?
My ex bf😭😭😭 I wish he'd fought this hard in the end, I wish to God he had 😭😭😭 and it breaks my heart to think he didn't want me enough to fight more 😭😭😭
If you watched the movie, his father sold his house and Noah combined that money with his GI bill that he got after the war, and he was able to buy it. But it was a dump and broken down at first. He bought it dirt cheap and fixed it up himself since he worked as carpenter/ construction his whole life.
He built that mansion with his hands not money. Sure he bought the land but he worked hard in order to do both. He didn’t need to be born born rich or fancy to prove that.
As a highly indecisive person myself who always considers people's feeling before my own before making a decision, I find that watching this scene hits a frustratingly sore point for me 😪
Not unrealistic. :) These types of relationships and fights are very real and raw. And when you find the one, they'll always fight for you and vice versa. You'll fight, seek forgiveness, and then love each other endlessly. It comes naturally. Your head may say head out but your heart tells you to stay. Its commitment ❤️when you find the one they'll never give up on you, you'll know it. Its rare. So hold onto it when it comes ❤️
because it isnt simple. they did a great job of not making her fiance` an asshole. he's a good and sweet guy. I think she loves them both. Just one more than the other.
@@arabellastringer3788 If you saw the film, she didn't marry him. She chose Noah ON HER OWN. You can tell even she had doubts about marrying James Marsden's character, because he was the paragon of what her parents wanted for her, but not Allie. I do appreciate that they didn't have him be like Cal from Titanic and by making him a controlling narcissist who wanted to break Allie. He was genuinely a good dude, but he was very understanding and I appreciate that from the writer.
@@summerrose8110 Either dude is an asshole. Either an asshole that built a house or an asshole with money. Either way she ends up marrying/being with a jerk. I like the 3rd option where she’s alone. That’s love ❤️
I had a relationship like this once. Five years together, we broke up, we met 3 years later and we tried it again. It was exhausting. Fighting all the time, even when you're being honest and saying over and over again "i wanna be with you" kills you a little bit everyday. You never know where you are standing with each other, you never go to bed truly sure if you're gonna be loved tomorrow. Sometimes you just gotta let go.
Sometimes you can love someone with absolute vulnerability, putting your heart on the line and knowing deep down they feel the same. But unfortunately for reasons outside of that loving connection the other person may simply not be able to be committed to you. Love is a mysterious, beautiful thing that expands past 2 people spending their lives together. But fighting for love will always be a heroic thing. Not for the other person but because you showed yourself that you are capable of loving and being vulnerable without fear of the outcome. This then becomes a tool you can use in all aspects of your life. 💖🌻
My grandmothers mom kept letters from her. It changed her life - she married a hardworking, family oriented man when she assumed the man she truly loved was ignoring her. When in reality the man she loved wrote many letters that she never got to see. When my grandmothers mother passed away, my grandmother was able to see the letters but by that point she was married with 3 children. She valued her family unit but she and my grandfather slept in separate beds due to lack of intimacy. Makes me sad she never got to read those precious letters in real-time. I don’t think I’d be here if she had but it makes you wonder.
That second, “what do you want?” He’s so exasperated with her but also so hopelessly in love with her that it’s driving him mad that she can’t make up her mind. Great acting!
I once loved someone like this, and he loved me like this. And our love survived a great deal of obstacles, such as distance time and everything that was trying to tear us apart. And we had old pictures of each other, saved messages, engraved memories in our hearts of memories and emotions that we held onto when life would separate us yet again. Our love survived storms I’d say, then one day we outgrew each other and the love we once felt became a distant memory. People change, and so does their love. That’s the reality of it, that’s real life.
I saw your comment on the “why didn’t you write me” video and it says that you wrote the comment that you wrote on there about ten years ago but then you’re wrote that you found someone who loved you like this five years ago. Is this who this comment is about? If so, I’m sorry :(
Libby Calina aww actually girl no, I did ultimately find the love of my life who I’m with currently! I’ve been with him for a while now, but when I came across this video and commented five months ago, I was talking about my ex who was in my life for years and we went through all these impossible obstacles to be together, all in all. When they’re the right one for you, things won’t feel so complicated and forced! So there’s hope, noir soulmate is out there! 💛
Man, I felt this scene to my soul!! The Notebook is one of my favorite love movies. This scene touches my heart and I get chills every time I watch the moment Allie and Noah have their fight. Nothing can stop True Love. I'm glad Noah and Allie got the chance to experience it and in Reality, I can't wait to experience it for myself💜💯
This scene makes me cry every time I watch it, because it’s been my life for the past 8 years. I met an online boy when I was a teenager, but we came from different social statuses like Allie & Noah. My family was filthy rich and privileged, and my Noah’s family had a hard life financially and emotionally. I loved him for years, but we never dated due to my parents not approving the relationship and our insecurities. We tried to stay best friends so many times, but it never worked out and we’d just explode into massive fights. We dated other people after the summer I turned 17, and the timing was off for years. He waited for me for weeks, but I stayed in my high school relationship and he allegedly moved on. A year later, we reunited again and the love for one another was rekindled. My abusive parents were no longer in my life anymore. I thought we’d end up together this time, but we got into another fight and left. I felt like Allie in this scene: “no matter what I do somebody gets hurt.” My family didn’t approve of our love, and my Noah couldn’t imagine us being without each other. We left each other AGAIN for another year. I waited months for him to come back to me after I pushed him away, but he ended up allegedly falling in love with somebody else. When I discovered he found someone else, I decided to move on and date another guy for a year. My Noah and his new girl dated for a year and a half. The entire time we were in serious relationships with other people, we were thinking of each other. I ended up leaving the states going to London, and I couldn’t stop thinking about my Noah. Coincidentally he contacted me on Instagram (about two years after we last talked) and we kept in contact with each other... eventually leading us to cheating on our exes like the movie Allie & Noah did. We did not mean to, but it happened. After that set of nights we eventually decided to leave them and truly be together. We have been officially dating for nearly three months now after 8 LONG years. To me, that is love. It is messy, but it’s love. I can not be with anyone else-I’ve tried and it hasn’t worked. I am his, and he is mine. We are getting married after I recover from COVID-19 ❤️
I may cry every time I watch this movie but Norah makes a good point. Life isn’t easy for anyone. It’s hard, we have to make hard choices and face the hard times that may or may not happen but if someone is Will to be there for you through those bad times and good that is a man worth keeping. And Ally NEEDS to understand that she is a person. Not a thing that has to obey, or sacrifice everything just to everyone around her happy. It isn’t a sin to want something or someone. But it has to be something that YOU WANT enough.
Love is so hard, but love is so worth fighting for, especially when you found the one you've been waiting a lifetime for.... And hopefully things work out but the odds are stacked against you these days 😭
I remember being 21 and newly married and laughing when my Nan told me that marriage is work. I said to her that if my marriage ever felt like work then I shouldn’t be married 😂 11 years later and my gosh she was right! It takes a lot of dedication, but omg it’s the best thing in the whole world!
The message I got.. love is hard, love is rough, and it's never easy.. it's something that two people have to be willing to work on to make it work, if it's only one person it will never work... it proves that they both were just drawn to eachother
This scene reminded me of Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” It’s personally a struggle to be doubtful about loving someone. I believe that’s why experiencing God’s love and being rooted in that love first is essential. Ephesians 3:14-19 gives more knowledge on this. We so desperately need this kind of guidance in relationships.
It is rumored they 'actually' hated each other on set .. Fought like cats & dogs. That's what made some scenes very authentic & genuine cause their or animosity & chemistry between them both . Perfect!.
Bruh if they hated each other on set then it wont have chemistry of a couple in love with each other like them. they are proffessional actor and actress thats why. If they hate they wont accept this role at least one of them
@@jonathanman8299 bruh have seen WatchMojo or looper when they did an entire episode on this movie alone. Check your info first , before making me look like an idiot. Thanks 👍
i just went here after knowing that the "what do you want?" part was just improvised by Ryan Gosling and the actors both went well, their emotions are really superb!!!
“Could you please picture your life for me? 30 years from now, 40 years from now what its look like?” Damn I wish someone would say this to me. You’re one lucky girl Al.
I come onto UA-cam every so often to watch this scene. Reminds me of my ex fiance and how we argued with the same passion we loved with. It is never over...for either one of us 💔
To any teenage girls watching this: Fighting in relationships doesn't make for a more interesting relationship. It is to be avoided and you should find someone else.
Some amount of arguing/fighting is to be expected. When it's constant, that's a problem. Also, constant silence can be a problem and indicative of communication problems.
It isn’t about it being interesting. It is about it evoking raw emotions which lead to self embetterment. Friction or pressure builds and create character. The world ain’t black or white.
@@plusmin09 Nope. Just understand that when shit hits the fan- people skills are necessary to resolve inner wounds and conflict, and you learn somehow, if you choose. You don’t even comprehend where I’m coming from to state just anything for the sake of your ego.
Yeaaah that doesn't really work I mean in fantasy fairytales books and this movie sure but in all reality people tend to lean on leaving the other or having a divorce because they don't want to fight for the relationship and found something new and better a new flavor of the month or they forget why they started the relationship why they fell in love give up and move on
I'm literally living this story in real life. My wife and I were high school sweethearts and broke up for a couple years then found eachother again and were in love again for 2 years. We broke up again. That was 12 years ago and recently we came back together and are getting married and spending the rest of our lives together.
Hannah Schaffer. Oh , yes, it is that simple : make a choice and live it out . Grow the F up, take responsibility for yourself and your emotions. Even if wounded , a clean consience is better than not having one !!!
Timothy Wade Maybe its hard for some to make a decision if they were punished for having an own opinion. U never know what someone has been trough. We all have different lives.
So funny that Noah never stopped loving Ali even when he found out that she was going to get married to another man he knew that she was still in love with him💜
Its very important to lay down what you want from your woman even though you could lose her to another man like in this situation. This scene show a very good way to call a woman out on her bullshit and getting her to realize that maybe shes not doing what she really wants. If you win her or end up losing her...it doesnt matter. What matters is that you tried. That you died fighting. And women respect that.
She isnt say any bullshit, bullshit means nothing just trash talk. She talks as it is she had to choose ways and whatever she choose it will hurt each sides she didnt choose
I remember watching this movie as a child. All the pain and suffering for one other person just for love? Now that I’m older I see how broken everyone is looking for love
"I lost you once, I think I can do it again".. You need real guts to say that
What do you want?????
Poe Moe. Or, just be honest maybe🧐🤨😏😊
you are damn right
Exactly too much guts..
Poe Moe facts
she was so annoyed with him while walking towards her car but is still gripping on the letters tightly. i love it LOL
Nice observation wow
She wasn’t annoyed, she was just acting. Thats how all girls are
@@trips347 Wtf...
@@luh8389 Yeah, it’s true.
What her name
This is the most realistic relationship I have seen portrayed in a film. It's not all cookie cutter. Adams is a wonderful actress as well. One of the best in Hollywood.
It's McAdams lol
I respectfully disagree.
Wtf is wrong with you? This is the most toxic relationship i have ever seen. Don't fall the narrative that there has to be lot fighting in every relationship.
@@HasufelyArod 🥱 they said what they said
@@sowhat... I’m sure that was just their own way of saying her last name for short
“Goddamn it what do you want.” The expression of pure frustration
Hey I’m Mysterious Man He's so tired.
I laugh so hard at that part bc it's like he's just done with trying to understand her
@@KathrynMarco absolutely and she has no idea what she wants she's as wavering as a wet spaghetti noodle 👎 awful
What I like about this is there's no unhealthy obsession from Noah's side
@@Redwoodtree34567 I like that his only unhealthy obsession was he KNEW it wasn't over.
i want someone to fight this hard to be with me..
And he should also look like Ryan Gosling.
Ever girl wants a hot guy to fight for her.
I swear this is me and my girlfriend been together for 5 years now been friends even longer. Some people will say the same thing but no bs here we have been on and off for sometime now. I've fought to be with her show her how much she actually means to me but cant be one sided never forget that. Its always a two way street treat the ones you love with the same in return. Hard work never giving up on the one you see bein with for a lifetime. Its hard never easy i didnt want take the easy route because i love her so. Its crazy the things you'll do to be with that special someone. If you think you have found that soulmate so to speak dont let it go dont be a fool dont lose track. Life is crazy you can be happy or in ya deepest hell depends on you.
i also hope that someone could truly love me the way Noah loves Allie.. but girl, this is a movie.. it wont be happening in real life. sad :(
Jesse wells beautiful words
The trembling in his voice when he tells her he wants all of her everyday always gets me, it's the trembling of losing her again
“If you leave here I hate you” - idk why but I always giggle when he says that 😂
Rhea Malana why is that???
Rhea Malana why do you giggle?
I think it’s cause we know he’s not actually being serious 😂
@@ginniekinz5401 idk he looks pretty serious to me 😁
Jesus Rodriguez I’m not saying he was joking around but he definitely doesn’t hate her. The entire movie is about their endless love. And he’s not going to hate her just cause she leaves. He might be heartbroken but it’ll never make him hate her. Duhhhh 🙄
legend has it that rachel still doesnt know what she wants.
Try Andy 🖕
😂
Try Andy well she dies so.
😂
Very true!
2:20 the way she weeps is such a powerful thing. It's her knowing what she needs but at the same time chasing what she wants. Everyone has wants but our needs are the only things that will make us happy. Great acting 10/10.
so true😍
Wrong our wants keeps the fire going. Our needs keeps the routine going
Wants makes one cheat their way out having only needs in life. If needs alone made one happy, majority won't cheat, especially post marriage, wealth, kids and even grandkids, to a very responsible partner even.
People still cheat because the needs are the brain's demands, the heart wants what it wants, people ignore it, thinking it's the smart lifestyle until psychology bites them back.
At that moment she knew she was going to be with him I think
Her needs are her toxic mom's decisions for her though. Needs doesn't come from social status and money like her mom wants
Our generation needs more PERSEVERANCE in the face of difficulty. Love is hard and even a battle at times. We need to persevere.
Megan Slone yes!
Ashton Mitch you must be fun at parties
Ashton Mitch are you calling me a girl? Dude I’m guy
@@adriangomez3636 well then that makes it even worse in ur case 😆 bitch boys are everywhere anymore
And what kind of name is Adrian for a guy
I can never take this scene seriously anymore after the meme about asking your girlfriend what she wants to eat
thats what i came here for
Hahahaha same 😂
Lin Yang v
Lmao 🤣🤣
O.O omg xD that's not nice but regardless i love this scene
"you're bored, you wouldn't be here if there wasn't something missing"...I have to stop watching that scene, it makes me cry every time
YEEEAAH YEAAAH YEAAAH WOOHOOO WOOOOOOHOOO YEEEAAAAHHH WOOOHOOO…. yyyyeeeeeeeEEEEeeeeeeeEEEEEEEeeeeeeeEEEEEEEEEEEEeeeeeaAAAAAaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAaaaaaaaaahhhhHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!…. WOOOHOOOOOO
When you find the one, you never give up.
Scott McGill I’m crying
Scott McGill true
There is no "one" watch 500 days of summer.
It's amazing how much men are willing to do and how far we are willing to go for a woman just for women to be complete liars deceivers and break men down to absolutely nothing don't know how to treat a man wants to do nothing for a man and one fight she moves on like it's nothing but this is the exact reason why it is so easy for women to move on because of men being so good and once it gets hard she goes to the next man and she wants that high again of that man being over the hills for her doing for her making it all about her... This generation of women are no good.. But in all fairness it's mens fault more for putting these women high up on pedestals and letting them get away with their acts
It's not always that easy, unfortunately.
Noah said it best. I understand what he said. I love how he is honest in his feelings. I relate
"Don't you take the easy way out. Stop thinking about what he wants, your parents want. What do you want?!!!"
He's so right. Every single word!
Just tell him what you want and sit down and go take a hike and walk then calm down dear
Absolutely
As cheesy as this movie is known for, I think Allie is really relatable. A lot of people struggle with what they want out of life because of being afraid of disappointing others. It's so much easier to say I don't know what I want when you don't want any potential conflict.
@@Lilagrace326 I agree
@@Lilagrace326 Allie is a people pleaser. She likes making other people around her happy and doesn't like to think about her own happiness. Which I like how selfless she is, but it's also a flaw at the same time.
"That's what we do. We fight. You tell me when I am an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when your a pain in the ass. Which you are 99% percent of the time." Always gets me
Yesssssss lol
"So it's not gonna be easy it's gonna be really hard, and were gonna have to work at this everyday but I wanna do that because I want you"🥺🥺I want somebody to fight for me like that
Charlene Moore right
I would
U want someone to fight for you like that or you want someone who looks like that fighting for you?
Hahaha not in this modern world
same🥺
The two of them are definitely twin flame. What a painful yet powerful soul connection.
Yes . So beautiful
I’m so over this shxt. 😂 Being SPIRITUALLY married to someone in the higher realms is true marriage and it ain’t for the faint.
Fun fact the actors couldn’t stand each other
@ASH 🦄 Aestheticz lol you ain’t lying- at all LOL
@ASH 🦄 Aestheticz I needed that because Amazon is a demonic place. You’re empathic as ever.... seriously! Wow
It must feel good to have someone love you and want to be with you. Sadly most of us will never experience this in our lifetime.
I hope you're wrong about that.
I never really had an interest in this movie and in some ways still don't see all the hubub. I came here for a scene I am doing with someone that wanted to perform this. Your statement resonates with me though. I don't know if I would say mostly but more like many of us. I think it's all too often we believe this lie of "love" in the modern sense and that there is some soulmate out there. I think the reality is this is not at all the case. I think it is more there are numerous people out there that we can be so compatible with that would care for us in a romantic sense. However, in a planet with 7 plus billion people on it and our lives being very small in what we do and where we go due to money and time, the odds are hard to come across them. Also, love as we know it today is only more a recent thing. Marriage and "love" was more of something that was to tie families and clans together to form alliances; and, in that sense the couples HAD to make it work to some degree for the sake of estates, alliances, money, and so on if not at least on the surface. That being said, it takes a lot for two people to come together. Hell, it's even a a lot for families to want to be in the same room with each other over extended periods of time because of our own issues; try getting two strangers together and you see how this is magnified. It is true though, as much as movies are fun, emotional, an escape, and take us away from our own lives, too many of us look to movies and cinema as though it is a real expression of the human life when in reality it is more of a fantasy than anything. Relationships and keeping people together takes A LOT of work and effort. Frankly, most people don't want to do any of that.
I once had that. He’s gone now. Wish he had been a talker instead of just a doer….😢
I've never had this happen to me yet. Now have I had someone I loved, and wanted to be with? Of course...but yeah...not someone who loved me. I think it's probably 20-30% of people experience this.
The way he paused when Allie said "I have to go"..I really felt bad for him 😔
That indecisiveness that plagued them, she's stuck between the two and Noah got his heart broken when he was the one who truly loved her
I can feel his heart broken into million and i want to smack Allie's face 10 times with a brick for breaking Noah's heart.
@@noone-cb3jm id leave the brick at home and speak from the heart in a damning way
I've been there...it's a hurt like no other.
That’s something I would do and have done before. When you’re not good with your own emotions let alone someone else’s it’s like wtf 😳 do I do I here.
Noah is pretty vocal about his feelings unlike most men
edit: "he's a fictional character " "it's a movie" okay mind your business then and stop replying to my comment
Tishima Reid no shit
Ikr 😍😍😍
I’ve heard a lot from both sides here. I can’t get my girl to be direct half the time tho, so it’s not just guys.
Noah is also an infigmen of Nicholas sparks imagination.
That is me when i express my feelings i am very vocal.
The most iconic question a man has asked a woman since the beginning of time - "What do you want?"
Her acting is totally fetch
i have crippling depression. Lmaooooo 😂😂 stop trying to make fetch happen Gretchen !!!
STOP trying to make fetch happen. It's not going to happen.
it’s not gonna happen gretchen.
Lol i don’t laugh easily
Mean girls
This hit different at 30 than it did when I was 20. 🥺
Gets worse as you get older ..😓
Wait til you turn 40!
you could say, to ignore a love shared, between a man and a woman, represents the ultimate crime
true story, we saw it the year we married in 2004,, in our 20s. now we're in our 40s and saw a local showing for Valentine's day this week and it definitely hit me diff this time
@@barbararapson2352 How so ?
That amazing relief of being with someone you truly love comes back after an argument like that
Lol I believe the word you're looking for is cope not relief
I love that he calls it making love🤗
Deena West. Amen
You're right.
Deena West ikr 😍😍😍😍😍
unlike now people said fucking and stuff. that's a shame
D I Λ Z N because most of the time it is fucking. They don’t love the person
This is what love looks like! The thing with Allie is she was confused as to what to do because for 7 years she went on thinking he forgot about her and lived her life with her parents planning her every move so for her to make a decision that wasn't apart of "the plan" was hard for her. But in the end she had to choose what would make her happy and although Noah didn't have a ton of money he wasn't broke and they weren't going to be living in a shack, he build a beautiful home. She made a decision for herself that didn't include her parents for once in her life and mainly because she saw the loveless marriage her parents had and she wanted more than money!
TheCoquettish llllxl
In a nutshell, yes.
Beautifully said. I’m in the same position as Allie and now it’s time for me to make a big decision.
TheCoquettish this is a story. Not real life
Couldn’t have said it better. 💜
For people who say love is not a fairy tale, you’re wrong. *This* scene exemplifies what the fairy tale really is. It’s hard and takes work. But as I have seen with my own parents-if you truly want the person, you both find a way to make it work. And I’m glad they have, and still do, with their love growing ever more stronger.
Man this comment hits hard, great advice and wisdom man
The way he holds his heart when he talks to her..
☹️.
This part gets me more than the ending
Brynn Seymour Same.
Brynn Seymour they both get me
Brynn Seymour yes this my favorite part
Never understood the ending. Why are the pictures of the old guy of a totally different person than Ryan Gosling? Major movie mistake if you ask me.
@@dolanddrumpf6344 Because that's them as they got older. They used older actors to be Noah and Allie. Ryan and Rachel are the younger versions of their story, cabròn.
I love this movie.. noah knew he wanted. He wasn't afraid to be honest about his feelings. Best love story ever.. sometimes u don't get with the person u knew u was supposed to be with till later in life. In gods timing
WOOOHOOOOOO YEAAAH YEEAAH WOOOHOOO
Someone drop noahs skin care routine
Lola Lala And hers too!
Tiege Hanley
Viper I’m young. I’m 19 years old and my skin is not as good as his
Viper yeah you must be some nasty type bro. do you relieze ryan gossling is like 32 or 33 here?
Ry Garant no he wasn’t. He was around 23-24
“ I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings....... they have like a 2 second rebound rate and you’re back doing the next pain in the ass thing” OMG!!! I love and use that line because of this scene.
queencharayl this scene is amazing i love every part sentence emotions abd the characters and this two actors in this overall every thing is just amazing
My favorite scene
What does that line even mean?
@@assholebyginger I think it means you are hurt for a few seconds and then you're back to fighting so it's not really like you're scarred from the pain or you would be in agony over it but if they go back to fighting with you it's cause they're just not happy with not getting what they want which can feel like pain but it's really just selfishness he's not hurting her
same!
after 18y of this movie, I still cry when I watch it as if it's the first time! it touches my heart so badly .
True love has passion, great scene
Rachel Brudenell you believe in true love?
@@knightraider1362 there is such a thing bro. find her, shes out there. even if the one before her felt like she was the one, if she really loves you and you really love her, youll stay together forever.
Rachel Brudenell ♥️
Love is active
Everybody has someone in mind when watching this scene. It can be a memory, a long lost longing faded or not over time, it can bring a wonderful warmth to your soul or that heartbreaking feeling that only who's gone through it knows what it's like. Different worlds, different people, different countries, locations, but one thing is mutual for everybody: one person comes to your mind. Who's your someone? Whose face is it when you think about a proposal?
This is the best comment man…..
Definitely everyone is gonna remember someone..
It's.... your mother.
It makes think about my other friend who I lost Brooklyn
Derry krispy queene
My ex bf😭😭😭 I wish he'd fought this hard in the end, I wish to God he had 😭😭😭 and it breaks my heart to think he didn't want me enough to fight more 😭😭😭
his dialogue delivery was so strong as if he didn't want to repeat his past mistake again, can never get over it
“He has a lot of money!”
(He has a mansión behind)
If you watched the movie, his father sold his house and Noah combined that money with his GI bill that he got after the war, and he was able to buy it. But it was a dump and broken down at first. He bought it dirt cheap and fixed it up himself since he worked as carpenter/ construction his whole life.
Your comment made me LOL
Actually the house is a magnolia sears house and was considered back then the most expensive sears house.
He built that mansion with his hands not money. Sure he bought the land but he worked hard in order to do both. He didn’t need to be born born rich or fancy to prove that.
@@krissyk354 This movie is like Taj Mahal story and Coral Castle story combined.
The girl is so beautiful
rachel mcadms, i love her especially in mean girls.lol
Raúl 777 she truly is 🤗😊
Its Regina George ur talking about!
"I want YOU, I want ALL of you...everyday..."
Tearjerker EVERY time. I must have this type of LOVE. 🙏 ❤🔥
Yes, yes.....and then, YES some more!!
“I think I could [lose you] again, if it’s what you want” shows how he is willing to give up his one true goal for her happiness
Yes. Unselfish.
100%
😕.
As a highly indecisive person myself who always considers people's feeling before my own before making a decision, I find that watching this scene hits a frustratingly sore point for me 😪
Once someone’s in your heart that’s it...you can run all day but it will follow you
#facts
😢😢
This is beautifully said and painfully true
I just wanna run
You have 444 likes, it's a sign
I hate being a hopeless romantic, because then I have unrealistic expectations like this.
Not unrealistic. :) These types of relationships and fights are very real and raw. And when you find the one, they'll always fight for you and vice versa. You'll fight, seek forgiveness, and then love each other endlessly. It comes naturally. Your head may say head out but your heart tells you to stay. Its commitment ❤️when you find the one they'll never give up on you, you'll know it. Its rare. So hold onto it when it comes ❤️
Same 😒
💯💯💯
it's not unrealistic, it's just rare
everyone has a soul mate somewhere
your person is out here. 💙
Man I love this movie. I hope I can love someone this much someday.
" What do you want?!"
" It's not that simple!"
" WHAT DO YOU WANT!" That kills me everytime
when we're at the drive thru and she doesn't know what to order -_-
@@cheapets LMAO
because it isnt simple. they did a great job of not making her fiance` an asshole. he's a good and sweet guy. I think she loves them both. Just one more than the other.
I like it how he mistakenly says husband when they’re not married yet... lol
It's not by mistake....she told him earlier that she is a married women by showing her ring
But they will be soon.
I interpreted it as him being a little dramatic, and that little detail makes the scene even better.
@@arabellastringer3788 If you saw the film, she didn't marry him. She chose Noah ON HER OWN. You can tell even she had doubts about marrying James Marsden's character, because he was the paragon of what her parents wanted for her, but not Allie. I do appreciate that they didn't have him be like Cal from Titanic and by making him a controlling narcissist who wanted to break Allie. He was genuinely a good dude, but he was very understanding and I appreciate that from the writer.
@@summerrose8110 Either dude is an asshole. Either an asshole that built a house or an asshole with money. Either way she ends up marrying/being with a jerk. I like the 3rd option where she’s alone. That’s love ❤️
I had a relationship like this once. Five years together, we broke up, we met 3 years later and we tried it again. It was exhausting. Fighting all the time, even when you're being honest and saying over and over again "i wanna be with you" kills you a little bit everyday. You never know where you are standing with each other, you never go to bed truly sure if you're gonna be loved tomorrow. Sometimes you just gotta let go.
Such a realistic scene! You literally feel your heart being ripped apart! That's the reason he puts his hands on his chest!
I can watch this over and over again.
Sometimes you can love someone with absolute vulnerability, putting your heart on the line and knowing deep down they feel the same. But unfortunately for reasons outside of that loving connection the other person may simply not be able to be committed to you. Love is a mysterious, beautiful thing that expands past 2 people spending their lives together. But fighting for love will always be a heroic thing. Not for the other person but because you showed yourself that you are capable of loving and being vulnerable without fear of the outcome. This then becomes a tool you can use in all aspects of your life. 💖🌻
My grandmothers mom kept letters from her. It changed her life - she married a hardworking, family oriented man when she assumed the man she truly loved was ignoring her. When in reality the man she loved wrote many letters that she never got to see. When my grandmothers mother passed away, my grandmother was able to see the letters but by that point she was married with 3 children. She valued her family unit but she and my grandfather slept in separate beds due to lack of intimacy. Makes me sad she never got to read those precious letters in real-time. I don’t think I’d be here if she had but it makes you wonder.
i am crying 😭 this is so heartbroken to read
So girl, just write to the guy in case his love letters are being blocked by your vicious mom.
@@qj2003fallbut you would still never see the responses….
Perhaps finding those letters hurt their marriage and caused her to lack intimacy again with her husband.
That second, “what do you want?” He’s so exasperated with her but also so hopelessly in love with her that it’s driving him mad that she can’t make up her mind. Great acting!
This is by far the most realistic relationship fight I’ve ever seen.
I once loved someone like this, and he loved me like this. And our love survived a great deal of obstacles, such as distance time and everything that was trying to tear us apart. And we had old pictures of each other, saved messages, engraved memories in our hearts of memories and emotions that we held onto when life would separate us yet again. Our love survived storms I’d say, then one day we outgrew each other and the love we once felt became a distant memory. People change, and so does their love. That’s the reality of it, that’s real life.
If that were true,you wouldn’t be here thinking about it..
I saw your comment on the “why didn’t you write me” video and it says that you wrote the comment that you wrote on there about ten years ago but then you’re wrote that you found someone who loved you like this five years ago. Is this who this comment is about? If so, I’m sorry :(
Libby Calina aww actually girl no, I did ultimately find the love of my life who I’m with currently! I’ve been with him for a while now, but when I came across this video and commented five months ago, I was talking about my ex who was in my life for years and we went through all these impossible obstacles to be together, all in all. When they’re the right one for you, things won’t feel so complicated and forced! So there’s hope, noir soulmate is out there! 💛
@@nayellibaltimore8230 youre so cute! im so happy for you.
Libby Calina thank you so much! 🤗
Man, I felt this scene to my soul!! The Notebook is one of my favorite love movies. This scene touches my heart and I get chills every time I watch the moment Allie and Noah have their fight. Nothing can stop True Love. I'm glad Noah and Allie got the chance to experience it and in Reality, I can't wait to experience it for myself💜💯
The words just echos in my head..."what do you want". This scene is more than just a love scene between two people. This can apply to life.
This is the best movie Ive seen in a long long time
This scene makes me cry every time I watch it, because it’s been my life for the past 8 years. I met an online boy when I was a teenager, but we came from different social statuses like Allie & Noah. My family was filthy rich and privileged, and my Noah’s family had a hard life financially and emotionally. I loved him for years, but we never dated due to my parents not approving the relationship and our insecurities. We tried to stay best friends so many times, but it never worked out and we’d just explode into massive fights. We dated other people after the summer I turned 17, and the timing was off for years. He waited for me for weeks, but I stayed in my high school relationship and he allegedly moved on. A year later, we reunited again and the love for one another was rekindled. My abusive parents were no longer in my life anymore. I thought we’d end up together this time, but we got into another fight and left. I felt like Allie in this scene: “no matter what I do somebody gets hurt.” My family didn’t approve of our love, and my Noah couldn’t imagine us being without each other. We left each other AGAIN for another year. I waited months for him to come back to me after I pushed him away, but he ended up allegedly falling in love with somebody else. When I discovered he found someone else, I decided to move on and date another guy for a year. My Noah and his new girl dated for a year and a half. The entire time we were in serious relationships with other people, we were thinking of each other. I ended up leaving the states going to London, and I couldn’t stop thinking about my Noah. Coincidentally he contacted me on Instagram (about two years after we last talked) and we kept in contact with each other... eventually leading us to cheating on our exes like the movie Allie & Noah did. We did not mean to, but it happened. After that set of nights we eventually decided to leave them and truly be together. We have been officially dating for nearly three months now after 8 LONG years. To me, that is love. It is messy, but it’s love. I can not be with anyone else-I’ve tried and it hasn’t worked. I am his, and he is mine. We are getting married after I recover from COVID-19 ❤️
Awe-inspiring istg. You have given me hope
yesssss, let's all cheat with out exes!!!
no, jk
but yeah i understand
I loved your story, thanks for share! I’m going through something similar... who knows I can find a happy ending too.
Lol, you are both horrible people
😍😍cheating queen
I may cry every time I watch this movie but Norah makes a good point.
Life isn’t easy for anyone. It’s hard, we have to make hard choices and face the hard times that may or may not happen but if someone is Will to be there for you through those bad times and good that is a man worth keeping. And Ally NEEDS to understand that she is a person. Not a thing that has to obey, or sacrifice everything just to everyone around her happy. It isn’t a sin to want something or someone. But it has to be something that YOU WANT enough.
Love is so hard, but love is so worth fighting for, especially when you found the one you've been waiting a lifetime for.... And hopefully things work out but the odds are stacked against you these days 😭
My favorite movie ever!
Dani it could be our favorite movie
Jesus Rodriguez lol you failed miserably
My favorite too!❤️
I can't get enough of this movie!!! The gist of it is soooo romantic, realistic and heartfelt!!!🥇❤️❤️❤️
When He held his chest with his two hands. I felt the pain.
This shit rite here make a nigga wanna fall in love!!!!
I remember being 21 and newly married and laughing when my Nan told me that marriage is work. I said to her that if my marriage ever felt like work then I shouldn’t be married 😂 11 years later and my gosh she was right! It takes a lot of dedication, but omg it’s the best thing in the whole world!
best conversation ever .
Stacey Ramey hi I think you so nice n beautiful
I've watched this an inordinate amount of times.
Now this makes me want to watch the Notebook all over once again. !! I love it. 💞
One of my favorite movie scenes... I felt the energy with this one. Good on both parts ❤💯
"I want all of u forever u and me everyday" and she cry and laughs with so much joy and appreciation it makes my heart smile. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
The message I got.. love is hard, love is rough, and it's never easy.. it's something that two people have to be willing to work on to make it work, if it's only one person it will never work... it proves that they both were just drawn to eachother
We fight That's what we do
I love that line because the love of my life and me can be like that
Nope... I can do without all of the fighting and arguing thanks.
@@sunshines4555 😂
I love him in this movie!
Raw Primal really? Why?
This movie I totally LOVE ❤️. It's all about real love. True love. Two soulmates forever.
If you haven't experienced true love, you didn't lived
I just love how he says "so its not gonna be easy but were gonna work through this every day "...it just shows how much his devoted to their love 😫😫😍😍
This scene reminded me of Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” It’s personally a struggle to be doubtful about loving someone. I believe that’s why experiencing God’s love and being rooted in that love first is essential. Ephesians 3:14-19 gives more knowledge on this. We so desperately need this kind of guidance in relationships.
Amen!
Look, you already know!
This is going to sound weird, but I love the way Ryan Gosling moves here.
😘
It is rumored they 'actually' hated each other on set .. Fought like cats & dogs.
That's what made some scenes very authentic & genuine cause their or animosity & chemistry between them both .
Perfect!.
I know it was rumored that Britney Spears was supposed to play this role
Bruh if they hated each other on set then it wont have chemistry of a couple in love with each other like them. they are proffessional actor and actress thats why. If they hate they wont accept this role at least one of them
@@jonathanman8299 bruh have seen WatchMojo or looper when they did an entire episode on this movie alone.
Check your info first , before making me look like an idiot. Thanks 👍
i just went here after knowing that the "what do you want?" part was just improvised by Ryan Gosling and the actors both went well, their emotions are really superb!!!
I can watch this movie over and over 😊❤
“Could you please picture your life for me? 30 years from now, 40 years from now what its look like?” Damn I wish someone would say this to me. You’re one lucky girl Al.
I LOVE WATCHING 👀 EVERY YEAR!! MY FAVORITE 😍😍😍☝🏾💪🏾
Ill have you Ryan if she Doesn't know what she wants.
Shikara LaRocque I volunteer as tribute
I come onto UA-cam every so often to watch this scene. Reminds me of my ex fiance and how we argued with the same passion we loved with. It is never over...for either one of us 💔
Mona Contreras hi Mona
It is
To any teenage girls watching this:
Fighting in relationships doesn't make for a more interesting relationship. It is to be avoided and you should find someone else.
Some amount of arguing/fighting is to be expected. When it's constant, that's a problem. Also, constant silence can be a problem and indicative of communication problems.
@@brittanyflowerday Ya, it happens, but you shouldn't want it to happen or expect that to be the interesting parts of the relationship.
It isn’t about it being interesting. It is about it evoking raw emotions which lead to self embetterment. Friction or pressure builds and create character. The world ain’t black or white.
@@Dani-el9nf It sounds like you are in anticipation of fighting in your relationships.
@@plusmin09 Nope. Just understand that when shit hits the fan- people skills are necessary to resolve inner wounds and conflict, and you learn somehow, if you choose. You don’t even comprehend where I’m coming from to state just anything for the sake of your ego.
best dramatic love scene in the whole world
I'm a guy and I could not wait to find love like this someone that you can fight with and still be in love with each other after
ur not missing out trust me.
Yeaaah that doesn't really work I mean in fantasy fairytales books and this movie sure but in all reality people tend to lean on leaving the other or having a divorce because they don't want to fight for the relationship and found something new and better a new flavor of the month or they forget why they started the relationship why they fell in love give up and move on
Amen this is not perfect love and idc
Don't act like any of you know what perfect love is until you have found it.
@@Rockcroc2000Rm1wE3erWmNfkL wym
This film really tugs the heart strings and gets the water works flowing 😢 wow so moving
Just powerful and relatable to many. Her not answering that simple question is very stressful.
Kicks the chair and yet the flowers are still nicely positioned on the arm or the chair. Lol
I'm literally living this story in real life. My wife and I were high school sweethearts and broke up for a couple years then found eachother again and were in love again for 2 years. We broke up again. That was 12 years ago and recently we came back together and are getting married and spending the rest of our lives together.
Well, YOU are one lucky dog!!
So Happy for you!❤ Congrats!
He killed me when he said so we are right back here again like girl I been waiting for u and u going pull that stuff again
"WHAT do you WANT?!" "It's not that simple".. lol... I love when people put memes of this on Facebook
Hannah Schaffer. Oh , yes, it is that simple : make a choice and live it out . Grow the F up, take responsibility for yourself and your emotions. Even if wounded , a clean consience is better than not having one !!!
Timothy Wade Maybe its hard for some to make a decision if they were punished for having an own opinion. U never know what someone has been trough. We all have different lives.
This was one of my parents favorite movies. They always loved watching romance movies together.
One of the best movies ever made!!!💘🦋
So funny that Noah never stopped loving Ali even when he found out that she was going to get married to another man he knew that she was still in love with him💜
Definitely Oscar worthy scene!!! Love this
Its very important to lay down what you want from your woman even though you could lose her to another man like in this situation.
This scene show a very good way to call a woman out on her bullshit and getting her to realize that maybe shes not doing what she really wants.
If you win her or end up losing her...it doesnt matter. What matters is that you tried. That you died fighting. And women respect that.
I always find it true enough, even if the moment last only for while....the feeling stays forever
Oh btw, we had the same surname
She isnt say any bullshit, bullshit means nothing just trash talk. She talks as it is she had to choose ways and whatever she choose it will hurt each sides she didnt choose
I remember watching this movie as a child. All the pain and suffering for one other person just for love? Now that I’m older I see how broken everyone is looking for love
Love makes u alive, but part of being alive is breaking too
Like me I been searching for 43 yrs and I still can't find love I'm starting think he doesn't exist in my lifetime.😥💔
@@alluringstar5910same