I have two friends and they are SO pretty, there kind and sweet, everything I want to be, but sometimes I feel like they keep me around to make themselves look better…
@@nornorrawan527 Sure, basically it means she drew on her skin with a sharpie (marker) where she would use scissors to cut off the parts of her she doesn’t like, if that’s how it worked
As someone who can relate, feeling like this isn't an insecurity, it's pure fear. Fear of never getting your first boyfriend/girlfriend, never getting asked for your snap or number, never having a true friend and fear of society's judgement. Sometimes we suck in our stomachs until it becomes our norm and we do it automatically. It's feeling like you want to die when your friend who's skinnier and "prettier" calls themselves ugly and fat. It's the feeling of never being comfortable the way you are. But i promise, no matter size, you are beautiful as long as you're you.
@kyleigh kemp You’re not funny. Go find another place to mock people. Or, actually I can’t tell if you’re serious or not because if this was a joke, not really funny 🤨
I’m overweight or so everyone says .I was a skinny happy little kid but I had an accident where I burned myself and couldn’t walk so I gained weight and haven’t been able to lose it
The "can't think I'm pretty" line hits like a train. To this day I feel bad whenever I feel beautiful, I feel like I don't deserve it and I'm not allowed to feel like this since I don't fit the beauty standards
You should fine your own beauty standards because there are all that matter! If you feel pretty, then you are. You are who you are and you see the world through YOUR eyes! If the reflection in the mirror seems beautiful, and hot, and enough, then it is! 💖
Same here 😅😅😅😅but you know what I can't say this to myself but lemme tell u friend no matter how u look you're beautiful the way u are God made you So pretty 😁
At least you have the ability to sometimes look in the mirror and like what you see, even if only for a split second. I'm not fat myself, but I just hate the way I look and I don't think I ever will. Cherish that you know only your negative thoughts are holding you back. For some of us, our thoughts are the truth.
I might not have seen you but I know damn well you are beautiful. I believe as long as YOU think you are pretty then you are. Beauty standards change like the clothes we wear so why fit them?
I understand, but the beauty standards do NOT determine OUR beauty!! DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR FEELING AND LOOKING BEAUTIFUL, it's not you thinking your all that but is you loving and respecting yourself, always remember that.
44 here and just learned that I became the fat friend because of ADHD- and trauma-related eating habits. All those years of self-torturing while being judged for body weight were absolutely insane.
I've been struggling with anorexia my whole life and eventho I'm not the fat funny friend I really relate to this song you all are so strong mentally and I'm really proud of you pls keep being you and doing what you love I hope you'll be able to love your body
As a 16 year old who suffered with body image thia song explain how i feel so much.. People always think i was quiet but truly i was just so insecure to be with them
My sweet 17yr old daughter was listening to this song and when I walked in I giggled and said “what are you listening too” she looked at me with her eyes full of tears and said “Mom, you’d never understand” later on I watched the video and listened to your lyrics and couldn’t help but break down and cry! I didn’t know she felt the way she did, but I’m going to get her all the help she wants. I think she’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out but it’s not how I feel, it’s how she feels that really matters. As a mother with a teenage daughter, I thank you for making this song. 🫶🏽
Aw this is so sweet I tried showing my mom this and she didn’t really understand how I felt she just said it was a good song but I’m so happy you listened to the lyrics of this song. 💕
God bless you all you need to do is show her your love reassure her everyday of her beauty. Highlight her strengths and skills, point them out and compliment them every time you notice them and please practice patience with her. She needs your love the most❤️ I was abandoned by my birth mom and also my adopted mom. This is a good time for you to practice self love too. She will look up to you consciously and unconsciously.
Go mama! I wish I had a mom like you. You getting her help NOW and supporting her through her journey of healing, is invaluable, no matter the timing. Having your daughter know that no matter what she goes through, you are right there beside her to help her in any form. It is by no means an easy journey or quick fix from either perspectives. You trying your best to understand not only the disease but how your daughter is actually feeling, is priceless. No one is perfect and there will be tidal waves and times the both of you feel like your drowning. Times when she may push you away. Just know it is possible. Become her safe place whenever she wants or is ready. You are doing amazing even the though the journey has yet to start. Also, it is also helpful, if you so wish to also get yourself into therapy. A therapist can help you cope and have a better understanding, as well as give you tools to help your daughter and yourself. Wish you both the best!
Please do some research on HAES and fat positive language if you haven’t. You really have an opportunity to help her in a way a lot of us wish we had ❤️
so tru. u arent allowed to have anyone like u, or like anyone because that takes attention away from them. just remember that its not your responsibility to make sure they have all the attention and are living the life. u deserve better❤
Not just girls/women relate to this song. Today I found myself in tears while listening. Always the fat funny guy and these lyrics hit me right in my feels. Why is the world so mean to us?
The world is a cruel place. But, hey I want you to know that you’re loved my friend. You’re more than your weight. Love you bro keep fighting I’m proud of you😎👊❤️
I’m blown away. No one ever talks about this, we all just suffer in silence and attempt to explain it to our friends that Fr will just never understand. Thank you so much for this song
Yes, because if we talk about we are blamed because it's our fault we are eating too much. Nobody cares if it's an ED, neurodivergence, trauma from sexual or other abuse, glandular issues, etc.
I'm 13 and I relate to this on so many levels of being judged and bullied for my size. Now I'm going to the gym 2 times a week and I feel somewhat better
She made me cry at two parts, "ive drawn out in sharpie whered id take the scissors." And "its funny when i think a guy likes me and its funny when i say lets eat" i struggled with being anorexic and obesse, now im in the middle in thing but idk im abt to be 14 i hate myself but her music makes me feel heard out. Thanks maddie, your really pretty and awesome. I wanna be like you
You’re 14 and anorexic? That is not okay. It’s so messed up how you have to go through that at such a young age. I’m so sorry my love. Just remember it doesn’t matter what size you are. The only thing that matters is being a good person. I’m still coming to terms with accepting that but I’m sure you can do it.
Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in how you feel, and remember that most of the images you see on social media are edited, and there are so many things other than weight that make someone beautiful❤ stay strong love
This hits hard. I’m going through ED recovery and I still get so many people talking about how proud of me they are that I lost so much weight . It hurts a lot. I hope anyone going through something similar finds peace with themselves
My sister went through the same thing in HS. 😢 There is a slam poetry piece by Blythe Baird called “When the fat girl gets skinny” about her experience with an ED. I highly recommend it but be warned, it makes me cry every time! 😭 The best of luck to you on your recovery. I hope you find the peace and healing you deserve! ❤️❤️❤️
I get it. I went fro being the fat friend to skinny over a summer and people treated me like a freaking success story for diets and exercise. I didn't lose weight the healthy way, ai lost it through years of self hatred that accumulated to months of self starvation
I’m so sorry that’s what you got praised for, it’s a horrible thing. I’m proud of you for hanging in there and trying your best to take care of yourself. I hope you come to realize that you are beautiful inside out, regardless of your weight or physical appearance.
I’m 16 and 240 pounds I’ve dealt with body issues since I was 5. This song perfectly described how I feel everyday. Thank you for writing this and sharing it with us. Edit: to all of you that think you need to starve yourself don’t I did that for a while and it just made me sick. I don’t know how you body is but I’m on a healthy weight loss journey. I’ve only lost 10 pounds even tho that’s not a lot but that’s just the beginning of my weight loss so even if that’s not the number you where hopping for it’s still weight off and that’s amazing. It could take me awhile to get it off but I’m hopeful. Yes there are days where I don’t want to get up or just want to cry and that’s ok you go at your pace no one else’s. I am slowly rebuilding my self confidence and I don’t feel great all the time but you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. It’s not fun but when you get that moment of confidence it’s beautiful. And if you basing your worth oh what other people think that’s where you’ll fail. I’m not saying don’t care but don’t take it to heart people are evil. But don’t be unkind to them greet them with peace and love. I know it’s hard to do that but for us to live in a good and accepting world we have to be kind and help each other build. Not tear down. Please help each other and be healthy. Ok sorry that’s the end of my Ted talk lol. It any of you need to talk here’s my number (850)512-4114 and my snap ( dont_eatplastic )
"The girl gets the guy while I'm standing off-screen so I'll wait for my cue for the comedic relief" "Can't be too busy, if I don't answer now are they still gonna need me?" This song hits me in so many parts
I feel you... I was confident enough to ask my crush if we could meet or sth and he said: "Yes, I always wanted a girl best friend and you are just a perfect friend." Yeah... Thanks? I guess
I’ve always been more of a tomboy enjoying the same things many guys like and I hate it im just another one of the dudes I had a close guy friend and we had so much in common and he was always looking for someone to understand him (he’s a streamer and a UA-camr) and I was that person who understand helping with his streams helping him with his esport’s team. But he only ever saw me as a guy even going to the point of saying I don’t dress like a girl or speak like one he said I acted to much like a guy that he wouldn’t be able to see me for anything more. To make it worse I’m always told I’m flirting with the guys when I’m the most awful when it comes to flirting or showing interest it’s just easier to talk with them because I’d rather play COD then go out to get my nails done 😤
For real, I struggled so bad with femininity and being seen as 'one of the guys', people would find the idea of me having a boyfriend hilarious, or wearing a dress to prom :( I demonized femininity because people found it weak and was terrified of being 'girly' but I've been able to come to terms with it. My favourite colour IS pink (not really a girly thing), I adore dresses and skirts, I may not get a boyfriend but I'd happily enjoy park picnics with a girlfriend/wife
Everyone is talking about themselves. Can we just take a minute to look at this BEAUTIFUL woman in front of us? Look at her. She is stunning. And her voice is amazing.
I can't "relate" to this song, so I've held off on commenting because I don't want to take any attention away from the ones who *do* relate to it. But this is honestly one of the most beautiful songs I've heard in a long time. I hardly hear emotion in music anymore, but I can hear the pain, the struggle and and overall emotion. You've got a phenomenal voice and a talent for songwriting. I hope you go far.
I love your honesty and never understood it either. Then experienced it.. began at 11 when Mom died of cancer but it didn’t hit me until 25. Close friend didn’t hit her until 33. 10 years of counseling later for me and the reason I was able to graduate from college. I still remember both sides. Pretty sure I used to say harm to oneself was selfish and on the other end knowing pain is usually so painful, trauma related, and deep you aren’t thinking about selfish. If you don’t understand it’s a blessing. If you do understand and get help, it’s also a blessing. But the pain of this song is tough to hear and absolutely beautiful/raw! Tell someone you’re there and consistently check in. You may have no idea the pain they are hiding. Let’s be kind!!
as someone who’s been the only black plus-sized girl in a friendship group, i felt this song too painfully. you took the words right out of my mouth. cant say i’ve fully recovered from the social repercussions of being plus-sized, but this song took me a step closer. A huge thank you from the plus-sized community Maddie 💕
Bro, both of my skinny friends been asked out to homecoming and I'm the only one without a date. I'm just not going to go, ok be the far black girl while my skinny Asian/ white friend go with their dates.
I will never claim to have been oppressed by my body size; yet I still resonate with a lot of this and I hope that’s okay. Growing up, I was always the biggest person out of my fatphobic, very thin group of friends. I carried it with me for so long, reassuring them that they weren’t the sizes I was, they didn’t eat the same “abundance” of food as me, etc. I kept my own insecurities secret. I developed an ED around 21, and was fortunate enough to receive help, but I did not get to the level of thinness those other people did. I was almost always the “biggest” anorexic in the program. The difference in how I was treated was apparent - the thinner clients were always the priority and my habits were normalized. The weight stigma in those places is horrendous, and I was only just above “normal.” It is and was worse for fat people. It’s incredibly sad how I left that place feeling like I wasn’t worthy of care unless I was thin… essentially killing myself was fine because of my body size. And now, I’m in a body I never imagined I could be in, that I was never meant to have, and that I still feel inferior in. I am so tired of fatphobia, dieting, and people treating other people like shit for things that shouldn’t matter. I wish people could love each other, I could love myself, and all this crap would just stop.
I’m probably going to make an ass out of myself here, I was skinny n short but constantly told I was fat and ugly by damn near everyone, even my ‘friends’ I was 103 lbs when I graduated, I was anorexic and a cutter, I hated myself so much to this day I have trouble eating a full meal. I never went to anyone for help but I fell on my hip at work and went to the doctor he told me I could have broken it easily instead I just had a bruise and a small crack. That was the day I started eating again it’s still difficult.
Ive been seeing a few ppl mentioning that thats an issue.... like even ppl at healthy weights treated that way bc they werent on the brink of death...but its good to go ...its good to catch it before it gets that far bc the deeper and longer u sink, the harder it is to get out... theres so much stigma around overweight ppl and ppl promoting when someone starves themselves bc theyre bigger or even just not thin... you are not inferior....u are not what ppl define u as... you are gorgeous regardless of size bc ur clearly a good person.... theres too much hatred for both ends of that spectrum...whether large or small, theres ppl out there saying "stop eating" or "eat a cheeseburger" and ya sure to some ppl that shit doesnt bother them, but to others, that triggers EDs, binge eating and excessive workouts to anorexia and balemia ... alot of ppls sizes has to do with genetics, not what they eat...just stop with the judgement ppl...esp in cases like urs where u seek help and dont recieve it bc they cant grasp that you're on the same path more severe cases are...bc they cant grasp that getting help before it becomes severe is best... so many ppl relapse, and more than likely its those severe cases bc someone didnt step in or notice before it got to that point... its like with so many other things...ppl dont notice or care until its nearly too late or is too late... and thats the sad part...they focus on things that dont matter -such as other peoples weight as if they know their history- so when shit like ur ed and experience with recovery happens, they dont see it
that whole verse about “im just the best friend in hollywood movies” is lyrical gold!!! such a great way to describe it! thanks for making this song, it definitely resonates with a lot of people
This song made me cry ugly. I have been that overweight kid that never once in her life was thin. I was judged for my weight since my first day. Not a single day passes by when i don't hear ''You can look much better if u are skinny.'' I have heard this line on every day i wanted to feel beautiful and confident. I'm still trying to love my self day by day. I hope every person whose going through this shit gets to know there worth.
😭 We need to stop body shaming we are who we are some of us are naturally and like what we are Ps how did this comment get only 33 likes like bruhh u deserve atleast a million
It's just that I can't get out of it because it's genetic , but it still hurts, looking the fatter in the wedding pictures have never been worst tbh , i keep on hoping someone has a crush on me or to hit on me so just i could feel better for the moment but then again it looks silly and i'd they are making fun of me ,GOD!!!!
انتي جميلة زي ماانتي واي امرأة جميلة كلنا مختلفين عن بعض وجميلين واللي ينتقدوك لاي سبب ناقصين والله ناقصين مو مرتاحين فحياتهم مستحيل انتقد شخص واسخر منو لسبب معين ونا بخير من داخلي ومسالمة مع نفسي مستحيل ابدا وكمان ما يحتاج احد يحبك مايهم صدقيني ادري شعورك وحاسة بك كونك تريدين شخص يحبك زي ماانتي عشان تحسي انك انتي تستحقي وجميلة بس والله اذا انتي حبيتي نفسك وحاولتي تطوري منها مارح تحتاجي لاحد ابدا غير الله سبحانه اتمنى تتخطين يمريم واي احد يعاني اتمنى يتخطى ويتحسن 🥺❤️
@@stardream5029 أولاً شكراً لردك باللغة العربية كونها لغتنا الأم ، وشكراً مرة تانية لردك الجميل لأن بصراحة لا اخفي عليكي سراً كتبت الكومنت و نفسيتي مكنتش أحسن حاجة وكنت منتظرة رد يريحني شوية أو يهون عليا لأن حتى لما بنتكلم مع الموضوع مع أهلنا الموضوع بيبان لهم كعدم إيمان كافي أو أن احنا مش راضيين عن خلقة ربنا ، رغم أني عارفة لو أنا حتى انجلينا جولي هبص لنفسي بنفس النظرة لأن العيب من جوا مش من برا ، تسلميلي جدا على كلامك الجميل حقيقي فرق معايا بجد وهفضل فكراه دايما ، الصراحة لا أنا ولا انتي بنحتاج حد يحبنا عشان يثبت جمالنا بس لما تلاقي اصحابك كلهم بيسمعوا كلام معاكسة مثلا حتى لو هما مضايقين منه الواحد الشيطان بيلعب بدماغه و بتحسي أنه يمكن ناقصك حاجة عشان كده محدش بيقولك كده برده وشكراً شكراً شكراً للمرة المليون تفكيرك فيا و محاولتك للتهوين عني عندي بالدنيا هدعيلك دائما❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I know how damaged it could be. Love yourself the way it is whether you love it or not... You are beautiful in your own ways... You can do it, I believe in you! 🥰
Being a overweight sixteen years old teen..i've always been disrespected and bullied all my life .. This song is exactly how i feel... growing up as a FAT FUNNY FRIEND is always a part of me Thank you for this song🍁
Why is nobody talking about the line "and i have to be nice or ill be the next punchline" that line is so true because if you laugh at any joke someone would say "why are you laughing? You're like *fat insults*"people don't understand how munch it effects our mental healths
As someone who used to be rail thin from anorexia, and is now extremely overweight from "recovery" turning into BED, this cuts so deep for me. I don't feel as admired or appreciated anymore, in the same way that I was when I was skinny and sick. It makes me miss the old me, as sad and scary as that sounds. Thank you for putting my feelings into words I haven't been able to express before!!!
Nobody talks about this - recovery from anorexia has it's own set of symptoms. The research I did at university was about 15yrs ago, so bear with me (they might refer to it as BED now, but it's actually a symptom of anorexia itself). Self-starvation messes with your neurochemicals and your hormones to the extent that when you try to eat again, it may feel like you can not stop. I can't remember the name of the enzyme that your body stops releasing, but *during this phase of recovery, the urge to keep eating is as powerful as a human trying to gasp for air when drowning* . Your body is so desperately just trying to survive, but it's so confused. The only way through is to just let it happen, because these symptoms will eventually abate. I remember it took about 18 months for me. It was hell, partly because I had no clue that this was a powerful physical symptom and not a personality flaw... It's so important to have care, support and sympathy during this time. I don't know why clinicians and counsellors don't talk about this. The urge to binge will fade as you stop starving yourself less and less.
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” hit me like a fucking freight train. I feel like if I’m not always available, everyone will just stop calling
I am so greatful for artists like you who show their vulnerability and use their music to relate to so many people. YOU. ARE. AMAZING. Bring on the tears, I have tissues to prepare!
I really love how the chorus say "...are they still gonna NEED me?..." Instead of WANT me. It hits closer to the heart knowing that some of the people you think love having you around just need you and not really want you.
Wow. “Why do I still feel so goddamn inferior?” this is when it really hit home for me. I’ve always had insecurities and body image issues and this song for the most part expressed how I feel every day better than I could ever do. Thank you ❤️
I always come back to this song when I'm feeling down about my body and listen to it on repeat. it doesn't always make me feel better but it makes me feel heard and not alone. sometimes struggles can't be fought easily but an important first step is realizing you're not alone. things take time and I've definitely come a long way to loving myself. I still have bad days and I know that's ok
I have also never heard of anyone else actually "draw it in sharpie where I'd take the scissors" ive done that for years and never once met someone else who has done that. it just helps realize nobody is alone
My whole life, I've just accepted this role as the, "funny fat friend," that I literally don't know any other way of being around people or making friends. It hit so close to home for me, how I've always been and, for a long time now, have just accepted a part of myself, that this is my role in life, and in social hierarchy, that this is who I will always be. I've given up on myself for a long time now, I think this is all that's left for me and the most I can hope for is that maybe some man will take pity on me and love me for who I am on the inside. Even though I've been dead inside for probably over half my life at this point. Thank you for this song, I hope and pray it reaches other girls who are a lot younger than I am, that still have a lot of life left, that can still overcome the struggles. I'm 35 and I feel like it's over for me at this point but I know there's plenty of other girls out there who can change their lives for the better. Don't be afraid to reach out and don't be afraid to speak up.
Hi. We obviously don't know each other but i just wanted to say i love you. To hell with what society says our bodies should look like. To hell with society putting us in boxes and defining us. You are perfect. I pray and hope that whenever you look in the mirror you see that. I pray you feel that. And it's not too late for you. I wish you the best in life❤
Hi, please please don't feel its over for you..Noo..35 is not old for anything, I'm sorry you're going through this but from the way you write this comment I can see you've got a lovely soul. No matter how you feel now,This world is full of beautiful things and you have a lifetime ahead of you! I hope you find love,laughter and smiles! Cheers! Body image doesn't determine who you are.See.. I never have even seen you..Nor will I ever get to,But I just know that you are a pretty human! A lot will happen if you start believe it yourself! Sending hugs!
Heyy sis !!! It’s not over ! It’s just actually starting, you are beautiful and I’m so sure you are amazing inside aswell. Eventually you would find that one person that sees beyond your body but still try to enjoy life in the moment. I honestly can relate to you ! But it would be fine 🥰🥰
Why, 35 is still pretty young to me, my parents still do stuff and there almost 50! The only thing stopping you, is you…if that makes sense. Anywho, what I’m saying is, there’s still so much more to life, living is all it takes to move forward ^-^ ❤️ don’t give up ❤️
From someone who has lost the weight, the after effect of losing the weight is crazy. You are constantly reminded of how annoying you were when you were fat even though your personality is same. You're constantly being told to watch what you eat because you'll go back to being ugly... I honestly wish that the body positivity movement was popularized before I lost the weight because I was actually happier before. I hope who ever reads this accepts their beautiful body because changing will not solve how you feel about yourself
I agree with you, but I’ve had breakdown over how disgusting I am. I would be happy, much happier skinny. It’s horrifying to look in the mirror, I can’t eat in front of people I’m not used to, I’m afraid they’ll judge me. Then when I go home I binge eat and have eat until I feel disgusting. I take pills for depression and anxiety, I have anxiety because I hate how I look. But no matter how hard I try I can’t keep up with it. I’d love more than anything in the world to lose weight but I can’t go outside looking like a cow. So I think it would make me much happier.
I really want to lose the weight and this song makes me realize a lot and tour comment that people don't see you differently. Those who know you for your personality will still see you as that but someone who was bothered by your looks will most likely not ketchup that go and it hurts to think about.
I know this sounds strange but I love how she goes from sounding sad and almost like she doesn't want to 'create waves' with her opinion to yelling it like she mad and wants people to listen and really, truly hear her. This song is so beautiful and powerful ❤️
I love how I can relate this song, which makes me feel so emotional and starts crying. This song has so much beauty, so underrated! More people must know this song❤
I know that this beautiful song does not relate to me at all, as I do not have this body type, but I cried when I heard it. I have plus-sized friends but I didn't understand this is how they truly feel. I love my friends and I truly think they are beautiful just the way they are, but after hearing this, I now realize that they have shown me signs of insecurity that I didn't really notice at the time. Now that I do know how they feel, I will try to be a much better friend and give them even more support than I have been doing by complimenting them regularly and just overall being more sensitive and observant to their mood, body language, and words. Thank you so much for this song. Really.
I completely agree. I stumbled across this song after I caught my 17yr old daughter listening to it with tears in rolling down her face. She’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but, I’ve taken so many steps to speak to her about her self imagine, things she’d like to improve and anything I could do to make it easier on her. It’s been a few months since then, and I’ve also been very observant on her moods, making sure I double my compliments to her. Even when she’s just in her pajamas I’ll compliment how beautiful she looks and I can tell her self esteem has been getting better. I’ll never forget the way I felt when I walked in on her crying and listening to this, I giggled and asked, “what are you listening to” (she had her back turned to the door) and she turned and said, “Mom. You’d never understand” my heart literally skipped and beat, dropped and stopped all at the same time. Thank you for being a amazing human being and friend. Those girls are going to love you for life!
my friend E passed away last month. she had this song saved on spotify. i have a feeling she related to it, and it breaks my heart into pieces. she was the most beautiful girl i’d ever met. she was the closest to perfect a person can be. she was bright and happy and absolutely wonderful. she had the ability to light a up a room, seriously. she could befriend anybody with so little effort. she was so charming. i miss her with every bone in my body, every atom. please remember that you are beautiful. E might not have thought she was beautiful, but i did. that means that if you don’t think you’re beautiful, someone does. someone always will. don’t judge yourself too heavily, okay? sending love ♥️
This literally brings me to tears every time I listen. I've tried explaining these things to my friends and all i ever get in response is "omg me too" but they're thin and beautiful and fit all of the social beauty standards and I'm...... me. This song makes me feel seen. Thank you.
Apart from having been the fat funny friend for the first 24 years of my life (I’m 25), I’ve also always used music as a coping mechanism and escape, and let me tell you: there are few to NO songs that cover this experience. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting this out into the world, it means everything to feel seen and understood.
"do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" "I say I'm okay cause they wouldn't care anyways" These two lines hit me so hard cause this is the reality for me :(
same cause the second line reminds me of how even if I tell me friends and family how feel at the end of the day it kind of won't help you because there words never did anything for me you know
@@Lily-chan-do6ygit feels like the only ones who can really pull you up are same ones constantly pulling you down. It's hard because they really do love us.
I was always the smart, funny, chubby kid. Told “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful”. Lost 150 lbs, and got bulimia and BED as a bonus. Now having regained 50 lb., I constantly feel like I’m shoved back into how I felt all through growing up. This song really gets me. Thank you
I heard this song once and collapsed into a bundle of tears. Things that I haven't thought of in years just came up so fucking quick. Nobody should be made to feel like that. I cannot wait to be able to share this with everyone I know. Maybe things will change
Girl, same. I’m sitting here a married 32 year old bawling my eyes out. I didn’t realize I have so many things from high school still packed up inside. Shew.
@@chelsiterry804 I try not to think about school at all, tbh. Now I see that a big reason I got married in the first place was because I was so fucking miserable for many reasons, and I latched onto him so fucking tight 😥 We're separated now, going on 5 years.
Ppl criticize skinny ppl for being too skinny and tell them to eat more and or eat a hamburger while they tell a fat person to either eat a salad or stop eating. These insecurities are Transcendant. They're just opposites neither side is fun to be on.
Just finished the premiere. The amount of people in that chat who were personally touched, including myself, by this song is heartbreaking.Thank you, Maddie, for giving a voice to those teens and kids battling with themselves because of their surroundings, and those adults still trying to heal.
Thank you for releasing a song that resonates with so many people. I’ve been visually impaired all my life and the lines “it’s funny when I think a guy likes me” and “can’t be too proud” really hit home for me. I feel like guys never see me as a person, only my white cane. And I’m proud of my journey as a disabled woman, but I can’t be too proud of it in conversations. I know I’m not relating to this in the way others are here, but this song still makes me feel like I’m not alone and I really appreciate that.
I believe songs are written for everyone no matter the circumstances. The way you resonate with this song may be different from other people's way, but that doesn't matter. All that does matter is that you find meaning in this song. I am *so* glad that you can be proud of who you are. So many people need at least HALF of your courage and self-happiness. Thank you.
Every once in a while, someone comes out with a song...a song that somehow starts to heal something deep inside you never realized was broken...this is one of those songs
I'm skinny and I know this song isn't meant for me. But I take parts from this song and it brings me to tears. Being the comedic relief, if they need me, etc. The Dumb Funny Friend.
Every time I hear this song I cry and I listen to a lot of sad songs, but this one just hits my heart so hard there's no mood or situation I could be in and not tear up when hearing this. I love this song and I love you for this song and I just feel a strong urge to thank you for this song, so... Thank you.
To the person reading this, You are you're life's protagonist. It doesn't matter what your size is or what the colour of your skin is, enjoy life the way you like it. I know it's easier said than done but don't let the people around you stop you from enjoying life. You matter more than you realize.
I’m literally in tears after hearing this song. I relate to every lyric in this song. I’ve always been overweight my whole life and all my friends are gorgeous and really thin. I stand out in my friend group. I’ve been bullied because of my weight my whole life and I’m only 13. Most of my friends are always sharing clothes and I can’t do that because my size is so much bigger than all of theirs. I’ve never felt important, I’ve always felt like the extra in my friend group. I’ve gotten so used to sucking in my stomach everywhere I go, and always wearing baggy clothes to hide my body. Ive tried to stop eating and exercise all the time to become thinner, but no matter how much weight I lose, I still feel like it’s never enough. Even my family says that I’m too big and that I have to lose weight or no one will love me.
That's not true. I love you and God loves you. I don't know you but I truly love you and I wish there was a better word than 'love' so you know how much I truly appreciate your existence. Please do not starve yourself or over exercise, take each day step by step. Everything is a journey, even self love and I'm speaking from experience. It took me 17 years to love myself and I cried, it felt so amazing actually believing I love myself and it's a feeling I want to have even in my grave and I want you to feel it as well. For your health you can eat a balanced diet everyday, there's no need to increase vegetables and fruits and those are good but eating only those aren't healthy. Eat what you want just be mindful of how much unhealthy foods you intake. When you're exercising you can listen to positive podcasts and even bible verse, this can really boost your emotional,mental,physical,psychological health and you on a whole will feel better. You can also write five things you are grateful for everyday you wake up. As I said, it is not easy but I believe in you and I trust and hope you take every obstacle that comes your way by the neck and str@ngl3 it with effort. It's not easy but I appreciate how far you've come darling and rly and truly 13 is a rly young age to feel insecure because you are just becoming a teen, you should be having fun and enjoy life as a child but reality is that most of experience awful things at that age and even younger. I love you princess❤❤🫶🏾✨🦋 enjoy the rest of your day and teen years because in no time it will be gone. Be yourself, anything you enjoy doing, DO IT without batting an eyelash and if someone don't like it just tell them to excuse themselves from around you with their unwanted negativity,Rude. I love you😘🤍💛❤💜🔥🔥
im so sorry tanishka : ( its horrible that like you, so many people feel this way! and can relate to your experience in terms of feeling like an outsider and being unlovable. if its worth anything, God loves you. that might not mean a single droplet of anything to you but just keep that in your heart, you never know that message might reappear incoincidentally. that is not true what your family tell you. i dont mean to be mean but thats a fucked up mentality from their side that they shouldnt be spreading onto you, let alone anyone! for years i obsessed, envied even hated those girls who "had it all" that skin, the body, the hair, the family, the boyfriend, the friends, the popularity all out it! it got so bad that i had to move classes away from those individuals bc it was just too hard going to school everyday being reminded of the unpleasant truth. this desire just spiralled and got too out of control. im in recovery tho. from my horrible self-inflicted shit, what others have said, what ive read, heard been told etc. its so fucking hard, but i believe with God by my side i can get through this. ive tried a lot of things but this is plan z. i hate this facade people have put around about what christianity is , people think its all no's and don'ts and hate's and ugh thats not what it isssssssss. its having an intimate relationship with your Creator, your bestfriend. i hate when people say they have a bestfriend who they can tell everything to, i dont have that. but with God i do PLUS he gives be the best advice
@@roziek6830 thank you for this, and I wish you the best with your recovery. I understand what you felt before, and even though I don’t believe in god, I hope that he brings good to you :)
I may not have been the so called fat funny friend, i've actually been skinny all my seventeen years of life, but i have and still do suffer from body image issues as i feel like i have to maintain that body all my life even though all i want to do is eat my heart out and order a dozen things at restaurant's, so a lot of lyrics in this song hit close to home for me. It's very encouraging of you to have made this wonderful song for all those who suffer from feeling this way the same as you. I hope your life is always lovely, and that we all find a way to over come this idea that we need to cater to the worlds opinions, hopefully just as you seem to have.
"Can't be too loud Can't be too busy If I don't answer now are they still gonna need me? Can't be too proud Can't think I'm pretty Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly?" These lyrics just hit too close to home!
Same. The first time I heard those lines I started crying. My friends get mad when I say I’m ugly, and they tell me I’m pretty but what do opinions on you matter if you don’t feel the same way😞
I love this song. I feel like I’m just the “comedic relief” and people use me as a not to guide. I’ve actually drawn out where I want to remove. I want people to ask me out not as a joke. I want people to look at me and not make a comment on how I look. Not send me the pacer test and say I could use it. Not joke about how overweight I am. I just want people to admire me the way I admire them. Or at the least not stare when people talk about health or eating.
We have the same name 😂 Don’t worry, there’s someone out there who loves you. Idk if you believe in God but I always turn to him. I’m imperfect and a mess, but he’s not. I feel like the cast away friend sometimes who’s only used so people can dump their problems on me, but I have to believe that one day I’ll have learned something from all of it. I know we don’t know eachother, but I believe you’re beautiful inside and out. As long as you know in your heart that you try your best to be a good friend and you’re trying to be kind, than anyone’s thoughts about you are their problem. I wish you well ;)
I feel the same way you took all the words out of my mouth. I hate it when people tell you these things or make comments about your body. I hate that people can do this to other people just bc they don’t have the “perfect body” which there will never be a “perfect body” and all body’s are beautiful. Ik it’s hard but you got this girly. Love you 💛
As someone with no meat on her bones, I feel like I’m someone who could make someone insecure, I feel absolutely terrible for you, people say I should be grateful I can eat whatever I want and not gain weight but I just want to gain a little, you are such a slay and I love you for bringing this to light!
Just heard this song from start to finish.. I’ve been fat my whole life, but I wasn’t the fat funny friend. I was the fat smart friend. This song really made me burst into tears.
"it's funny when I think a guy likes me" and "do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" both demolish me. Thank you for writing one of the most relatable songs I have ever heard. I'm 36, and I have never been able to describe how it feels. My whole life, and now after losing a hundred pounds, learning self love, and finding my people it still feels like this some time. You have no idea when you did this but you just helped a whole world full of people. I hope you have all the happiness you ever asked for and more. 💙
It hurts so much. I loved people but I couldn't even love who I am. I loved every parts of them but I hated mine. This song summarizes everything and I think I found my theme song. I relate so bad it hurts. Hugs to all of you out there.
This song breaks my heart and helps heal trauma from going up. I was constantly ridiculed for my weight growing up especially by my parents. I am in my late thirties and still have a terrible relationship with my body and my weight. Thank you so much for being so open and showing the rest of the world that we are not alone.
I can't count the times my friends have told me I'd look prettier if I was skinny to the point where I tried my best to change myself to an image they'd find perfect. I'm glad I found myself eventually and I got to love my body for how it is. Body shaming isn't funny no matter how one looks, you don't know what they are going through just one small remark on the person's body can make them feel judged and disgusted by their own bodies
I can’t believe they say that to you, it wouldn’t surprise me if they thought it because everyone wonders what people would look like if they had a certain hair colour or style or wore different clothing and think people look better a certain way. But to actively say that about something so difficult to change is just cruel, they weren’t being concerned about you health and sure as hell didn’t care about your feelings when it’s their job to be supportive of you when you aren’t being supportive of yourself. I wouldn’t even tell my friend she had a bad hair cut considering how long it would take to grow back. If it grew back and she asked me whether I thought she could cut it again or not, then I’d be honest about which looks better to me but that’s the most I’ll do. I would never actively tell a friend something I know would make them self conscious about their body no matter how I think they look, god knows we all have things we hate about ourselves that would kill us if they got pointed out. I hope you got better friends.
As someone who has grown to love their body after years of scrutinizing it. As someone with their father's broad shoulders, and their mama's thick legs. This song is beautiful. "Then why do I feel so GODDAMN INFERIOR?" That hits home for me, because even though I've come to except my body I still feel inferior towards my friends and sometimes I feel like screaming it along with Maddie.
i’ve delt with body issues since preschool, as long as i can remember, i’ve cried so many times over my body and now i’m crying over this song. i’ve never seen my emotions captured so perfectly
Along with being the biggest friend in a friend group, this song also reminds me of how lonely it felt to be the only black girl in an all white friend group. I love this more than words. Thank you so much for putting a feeling I didn’t even realize I was shoving down up to the light for me to face and address.
@@nycolewithawhy I try to! I was actually really happy and proud of a shirt she picked out about a month ago at Old Navy. It has a few different shades of black ladies. I can’t explain the emotion I felt but it made me smile when I saw her pick it out. 🥰
“can’t be too busy, if i don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” is a line i relate to so much. i always felt like i was such an unimportant part of the group and that my friends wouldn’t even care if i just left one day. even today, struggling mentally, i still find myself having those same thoughts that i had back in middle school.
Literally brust into tears when "life of a fat funny friend" like its so real infront of everyone i act all goody and fine like im thr happiest person and when im alone i can't help but judge myself i have been insecure from when i was 10 i have been overweight and people say "ur too fat that u dont fit in the chair" and "u should stop eating to much" and even once i was normally minding my own business eating my lunch when one of my own friend said "look a burger is eating burger" that just really brokr me and i stopped eating infront of others i am so insecure that i dont even have confidence to be in any speech or performance in my school, and in fact i am from broken family its more torture for me and i really thanks this girl for Really telling how much of other's words hurt girls like us, this song is a master piece i love it
I hadn't heard the whole song until I clicked on this video. I sat at my desk and cried for a long time just. Feeling everything, every experience I shared, every friend that ever left me, everything that you sang about. This is our lives and it is so awful to feel like you're not worth anything. Thank you for voicing what everyone is feeling. Amazing song.
"I've done every diet to make me look thinner. So why do I still feel so God Damn Inferior!" That line hit my core like no other. I've been/am the fat friend most of my life. I am very thankful my friends are always there for me and i am equally there for them. But this song still hits hard and reminds me of the time before I met them.❤
I cried for 20 minutes straight after listening to this song, I've never related to something more. I hate my body. I hate my face. My nose is too flat, my lips are too big, I don't have thigh gaps, my waist is too thick, my legs are too short, my body is too disproportionate. I can't even wear pants because they will show how short my legs are. I have to wear oversized clothes to hide my body. I'm the only one who likes to wear masks because they hide my face. I'm the only one who has thick bangs because I'm insecure about my eyebrows. I intentionally changed my personality from outgoing to shy and introverted because I'm too ugly to be an extrovert. I'm ashamed of having a crush because I don't deserve one. I hate my height, I hate my personality. I am jealous of others, but don't have the motivation to improve myself. I used to be the 'smart one' but so many people are beginning to surpass me. So many people are smarter, prettier, friendlier, better, and superior. I hate my home life and my toxic parent. I hate myself. I want plastic surgery but am afraid that it will go wrong. It's suffocating me.
Listen I know it’s hard and reading your comment was like looking in a mirror. But I promise that you can get through it you don’t have to change yourself , just your mind, Start small and work your way up, I’m still the way I am but I’m learning to accept it. I hope your doing well and if you need motivation remember that Jesus loves you too.❤️
I know that right now it's hard but It can get better and to answer your question no don't harm yourself in any way because even if you don't believe it right now it will get better I think that you should start with self affirmation cards around your room or where ever to remind your self even when you don't think it that you are beautiful and strong and you deserve to live life to the fullest
I’m just gonna say, DONT YOU DARE GIVE UP!!!!! You got this far you sure as hell can get past through this to experience the rest of the moments of your life.
“I say I’m ok. Cause they wouldn’t care anyway.” Hits hard man. I’m not skinny but I’m not fat but if I say I’m skinny people act like I’m not and if I say I’m fat the act like I’m doing it for attention. This song makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much
Every single overweight or obese person I have met has been hilarious! And with the best sense of humour! I literally teared up while watching this video as I saw it from this perspective that they think they need to have a funny personality so people will not judge them on their weight! But trust me you guys, we love all of you just as you are and will punch anyone in the face if they insult you or judge you for your weight, sending a bug hug and tons of love!
That is a sweet sentiment that we appreciate, but speaking for myself and a few others, people on tv and fat acceptance movement stuff often say that they support us and that we are beautiful, but when we are alone with none of that positivity, it is quickly forgotten. In our normal lives we're either insulted, mooed at or over sexualized cuz some men want big girls on the premise of them being big, not for personality. It's rough and I'm aware it's my fault I am the way I am.. I love your positivity though
@@clandestinetranquilsounds6550 I believe there’s hope for the future of the +sized community. In the past, it seems that being “big” meant that being bullied by everyone should be an automatic expectation. I rarely care about other people’s weight unless they’re in some kind of danger. I have had other anorexic friends and their cadaverous state was always concern provoking for me. I don’t know why I usually don’t mind people’s weight, it’s just not something I think about, like walking by a door or any other normal thing. Maybe it’s because I don’t like humans and you’re all the same to me?
@@clandestinetranquilsounds6550 Hey there I agree with everything your saying as a fat person myself. However, I don't think you should blame yourself. Being fat isn't inherently bad and beside that that there is a lot of reasons we gain weight or can't lose it. It isn't about will power. Losing weight and keeping it off is against the odds. There is scientific papers out there supporting this. Being fat isn't our fault, it shouldn't be something we are shamed for, and I hope one day people of all different bodies will be accepted by society. I don't know what part of your journey you are on and it is okay if you don't agree with me. But I couldn't see you blaming yourself for this. It breaks my heart and I hope you know you aren't alone out there. We are amazing as we are. You are amazing. ❤
@@rosesofallkinds6206 I appreciate the kind words and I have only just started my journey, with a measly 4 pounds lost, but to be fair, it's only been 3 days... I know the best ways to lose weight for me, it's my mentality and will power that I need to work on more than anything. It's hard to celebrate the small victories because i'm always expected more of and i am finally doing this for me and no one else.
I love this song and my friends always berate me for it since “you’ve been skinny all your life, you could never understand our struggle” but as someone who quietly struggled with anorexia for year the lines “I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors if that’s what it takes to look in the mirror” and “I’ve done every diet to make me look thinner so why do I still feel so goddamn inferior” has never hit harder. You may not have intended for it to ring true for someone like me but thank you anyway
hi ! i know this may not mean much from a stranger online, but your connection to this song is valid no matter what your friends say. what you've struggled with is something nobody deserves to go through, and as someone who is going through anorexia herself, i know it's an illness that can & does distort any image you see of yourself. i hope your pain eases soon, and i'm glad you have been able to find a song that you connect to 💜
@@metatmidnight1989 thank you so much for saying this, it means so much to me for someone to validate my feelings. its amazing that you're able to touch someone using your words through a screen and I promise you that you will get better, keep fighting against it because you're not and will never be alone 💜
@@vaidehir1976 of course !! your feelings are real and just as valid as the ones in this song. your size isn't necessarily the focal point of this, moreso the feelings that accompany how alone insecurities can make you feel, even when you know you're not. it's our own voices that are the loudest when it comes to the criticism we each face and the pain that comes with not seeing your body as perfect is proof of that. what you struggle with is valid at the end of every day, but a day will come where it won't be the forefront of your thoughts. your encouragement is also incredibly appreciated, thank you for taking the time to write that. the world needs more people with your kindness 💜
@@metatmidnight1989 can you just write a book or something? you have a way with words that is truly special and they radiate so much love and positivity. the world needs more of your thoughts and energy and I'm glad I experienced it firsthand. please keep on using your voice because its one that's so utterly kind and unique. THANK YOU for replying to a random comment on youtube just to validate my feeling. you're a good person
“Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly” “I say I’m ok cuz they wouldn’t care anyway” “If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” Those lines hit so close to home
This randomly happened across my feed and now I sit here crying and smiling. That made me proud and sad all at the same time. It clearly resonates with many of us. It's words you speak of your truth but one you share. Thank you for putting the words we can't together so beautifully.
This song deserves a Song of the Year Grammy. A song that actually means something and stand for something. Absolutely beautiful and heart wrenching. ❤️🩹
"do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly"
that line hit close to the heart
Ikr i LITERALLY wanna hug her and tell her she is beautiful.
Honestly this is the Best Song i repeat F.F.F shall be heard!
And you don't have to fat for this line to hit hard...
To be fat*
I have two friends and they are SO pretty, there kind and sweet, everything I want to be, but sometimes I feel like they keep me around to make themselves look better…
“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors” makes me cry every damn time I hear this song. It hurts because it’s so relatable
Same
I'm not a native English speaker. This is the only sentence in the song I don't understand. Would you mind explaining?
@@nornorrawan527 Sure, basically it means she drew on her skin with a sharpie (marker) where she would use scissors to cut off the parts of her she doesn’t like, if that’s how it worked
@@pinebeari0705 omg that's deep. Thank you!
Same
As someone who can relate, feeling like this isn't an insecurity, it's pure fear. Fear of never getting your first boyfriend/girlfriend, never getting asked for your snap or number, never having a true friend and fear of society's judgement. Sometimes we suck in our stomachs until it becomes our norm and we do it automatically. It's feeling like you want to die when your friend who's skinnier and "prettier" calls themselves ugly and fat. It's the feeling of never being comfortable the way you are.
But i promise, no matter size, you are beautiful as long as you're you.
@kyleigh kemp You’re not funny. Go find another place to mock people. Or, actually I can’t tell if you’re serious or not because if this was a joke, not really funny 🤨
@kyleigh kemp ur perfect the way u are
tbh i love this song but i absoloutely HATE how much i can realte to this shit
I haven’t seen a comment more spot on then this one
I’m overweight or so everyone says .I was a skinny happy little kid but I had an accident where I burned myself and couldn’t walk so I gained weight and haven’t been able to lose it
The line "cant be to loud cant be to busy if i dont answer now are they still gonna need me" hit hard. Its an amazing song.
Yeah
Agreed
The "can't think I'm pretty" line hits like a train. To this day I feel bad whenever I feel beautiful, I feel like I don't deserve it and I'm not allowed to feel like this since I don't fit the beauty standards
You should fine your own beauty standards because there are all that matter! If you feel pretty, then you are. You are who you are and you see the world through YOUR eyes! If the reflection in the mirror seems beautiful, and hot, and enough, then it is! 💖
Same here 😅😅😅😅but you know what I can't say this to myself but lemme tell u friend no matter how u look you're beautiful the way u are God made you So pretty 😁
At least you have the ability to sometimes look in the mirror and like what you see, even if only for a split second.
I'm not fat myself, but I just hate the way I look and I don't think I ever will. Cherish that you know only your negative thoughts are holding you back. For some of us, our thoughts are the truth.
I might not have seen you but I know damn well you are beautiful. I believe as long as YOU think you are pretty then you are. Beauty standards change like the clothes we wear so why fit them?
I understand, but the beauty standards do NOT determine OUR beauty!! DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR FEELING AND LOOKING BEAUTIFUL, it's not you thinking your all that but is you loving and respecting yourself, always remember that.
I’m almost 40 but 15 year old me has never felt more seen than she is right now. Thank you for this song, there are a lot of us who can relate
44 here and just learned that I became the fat friend because of ADHD- and trauma-related eating habits. All those years of self-torturing while being judged for body weight were absolutely insane.
I'm 19 now and I've lost a lot of weight, but yeah, child me definitely felt this
@@TheNinnyfee
33 and white I've come a long way, I can still relate to these feelings.
Same.. 40 this September and I'd give anything just to go back in time and give 15 year old me a big hug! Love this song!
this song hits so unbelievably close to home, thank you maddie for such a beautiful heartfelt piece of art that i will listen to forever, i love you.
Same it hits so close it makes me happy and sad at the same time
Ik me 2🥺 I hate my body
Same🥺🥺
I've been struggling with anorexia my whole life and eventho I'm not the fat funny friend I really relate to this song you all are so strong mentally and I'm really proud of you pls keep being you and doing what you love I hope you'll be able to love your body
Same and I’m 12 and I haven’t told anyone but my friends
As a 16 year old who suffered with body image thia song explain how i feel so much.. People always think i was quiet but truly i was just so insecure to be with them
Thissssssssssss😢
Sameee 😢
@@sid-up3sq aww you're so sweet thank you😭😭❤
Same 🙂
exactly❤
My sweet 17yr old daughter was listening to this song and when I walked in I giggled and said “what are you listening too” she looked at me with her eyes full of tears and said “Mom, you’d never understand” later on I watched the video and listened to your lyrics and couldn’t help but break down and cry! I didn’t know she felt the way she did, but I’m going to get her all the help she wants. I think she’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out but it’s not how I feel, it’s how she feels that really matters. As a mother with a teenage daughter, I thank you for making this song. 🫶🏽
Aw this is so sweet I tried showing my mom this and she didn’t really understand how I felt she just said it was a good song but I’m so happy you listened to the lyrics of this song. 💕
I wish my mother would tell me this.
God bless you all you need to do is show her your love reassure her everyday of her beauty. Highlight her strengths and skills, point them out and compliment them every time you notice them and please practice patience with her. She needs your love the most❤️ I was abandoned by my birth mom and also my adopted mom. This is a good time for you to practice self love too. She will look up to you consciously and unconsciously.
Go mama! I wish I had a mom like you. You getting her help NOW and supporting her through her journey of healing, is invaluable, no matter the timing. Having your daughter know that no matter what she goes through, you are right there beside her to help her in any form. It is by no means an easy journey or quick fix from either perspectives. You trying your best to understand not only the disease but how your daughter is actually feeling, is priceless. No one is perfect and there will be tidal waves and times the both of you feel like your drowning. Times when she may push you away. Just know it is possible. Become her safe place whenever she wants or is ready. You are doing amazing even the though the journey has yet to start. Also, it is also helpful, if you so wish to also get yourself into therapy. A therapist can help you cope and have a better understanding, as well as give you tools to help your daughter and yourself. Wish you both the best!
Please do some research on HAES and fat positive language if you haven’t. You really have an opportunity to help her in a way a lot of us wish we had ❤️
"it's funny when I think a guy likes me" damn that hit hard.
Ya that hit hard for me too 😢
Same😤🥹
so tru. u arent allowed to have anyone like u, or like anyone because that takes attention away from them. just remember that its not your responsibility to make sure they have all the attention and are living the life. u deserve better❤
Okay who the fuck told you that? I just wanna talk.
Fr and they say "oh he's ugly" or "girl ain't no way you're pulling bitches 💀💀" and you have to laugh too
Not just girls/women relate to this song.
Today I found myself in tears while listening. Always the fat funny guy and these lyrics hit me right in my feels.
Why is the world so mean to us?
The world is a cruel place. But, hey I want you to know that you’re loved my friend. You’re more than your weight. Love you bro keep fighting I’m proud of you😎👊❤️
@@thatgirl789 thank you ❤️
I boyfriend struggles with his body image no matter how many times I say he's handsome I'm so sorry. It's not fair at all.
its ok
Big love my dude
0:58 “I say im okay, cause they wouldn’t care anyway” just hits so hard
I’m blown away. No one ever talks about this, we all just suffer in silence and attempt to explain it to our friends that Fr will just never understand. Thank you so much for this song
Im 58, and felt this my entire life. Silent prejudice.
yep its a hard way of life but talking about it you will get called sensitive over dramatic or laughed at. I related to every word.
Yes, because if we talk about we are blamed because it's our fault we are eating too much. Nobody cares if it's an ED, neurodivergence, trauma from sexual or other abuse, glandular issues, etc.
I'm 13 and I relate to this on so many levels of being judged and bullied for my size. Now I'm going to the gym 2 times a week and I feel somewhat better
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“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors” that line hits me so close to home
What did it mean to you..?
That line is too relatable..
@@etashaa sh
It's too relatable i cried so hard as soon as i heard that . . .
This line hit me like a truck.. I felt it deep in my soul.
She made me cry at two parts, "ive drawn out in sharpie whered id take the scissors." And "its funny when i think a guy likes me and its funny when i say lets eat" i struggled with being anorexic and obesse, now im in the middle in thing but idk im abt to be 14 i hate myself but her music makes me feel heard out. Thanks maddie, your really pretty and awesome. I wanna be like you
Relate to u so much girl, know ur not alone and ur beautiful just the way u are!!💕😭🤗
First congrats on being 14, Second, you're amazing, beautiful and made in God's image. Love yourself because there is only one you! You're amazing.
You’re 14 and anorexic? That is not okay. It’s so messed up how you have to go through that at such a young age. I’m so sorry my love. Just remember it doesn’t matter what size you are. The only thing that matters is being a good person. I’m still coming to terms with accepting that but I’m sure you can do it.
Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in how you feel, and remember that most of the images you see on social media are edited, and there are so many things other than weight that make someone beautiful❤ stay strong love
I feel like we’re the same person
“its funny when im asked to go out on halloween dresses and thigh highs while i hide my body” is so real.
Wow…. This is unbelievably beautiful
first reply!! i totally agree :) congrats on 153k btw! God loves u!
Ikr
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This hits hard. I’m going through ED recovery and I still get so many people talking about how proud of me they are that I lost so much weight . It hurts a lot. I hope anyone going through something similar finds peace with themselves
My sister went through the same thing in HS. 😢 There is a slam poetry piece by Blythe Baird called “When the fat girl gets skinny” about her experience with an ED. I highly recommend it but be warned, it makes me cry every time! 😭 The best of luck to you on your recovery. I hope you find the peace and healing you deserve! ❤️❤️❤️
I thought ED meant Erectile Dysfunction 😭😭😭 because I'm a pharmacy student.
I get it. I went fro being the fat friend to skinny over a summer and people treated me like a freaking success story for diets and exercise. I didn't lose weight the healthy way, ai lost it through years of self hatred that accumulated to months of self starvation
I'm proud of you too, but not for losing weight, I'm proud of you for recovering. That's the hardest damn thing.
I’m so sorry that’s what you got praised for, it’s a horrible thing. I’m proud of you for hanging in there and trying your best to take care of yourself. I hope you come to realize that you are beautiful inside out, regardless of your weight or physical appearance.
I’m 16 and 240 pounds I’ve dealt with body issues since I was 5. This song perfectly described how I feel everyday. Thank you for writing this and sharing it with us.
Edit: to all of you that think you need to starve yourself don’t I did that for a while and it just made me sick. I don’t know how you body is but I’m on a healthy weight loss journey. I’ve only lost 10 pounds even tho that’s not a lot but that’s just the beginning of my weight loss so even if that’s not the number you where hopping for it’s still weight off and that’s amazing. It could take me awhile to get it off but I’m hopeful. Yes there are days where I don’t want to get up or just want to cry and that’s ok you go at your pace no one else’s. I am slowly rebuilding my self confidence and I don’t feel great all the time but you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. It’s not fun but when you get that moment of confidence it’s beautiful. And if you basing your worth oh what other people think that’s where you’ll fail. I’m not saying don’t care but don’t take it to heart people are evil. But don’t be unkind to them greet them with peace and love. I know it’s hard to do that but for us to live in a good and accepting world we have to be kind and help each other build. Not tear down. Please help each other and be healthy. Ok sorry that’s the end of my Ted talk lol. It any of you need to talk here’s my number (850)512-4114 and my snap ( dont_eatplastic )
16 and 210 ive dealt with them since 3rd grade altho its sad its also nice to see people who understand what its like growing up with body issues 💜💜💜💜
im 14 and around 180 pounds, honestly i don’t think i’ll ever become skinny lol
@@ziggyystardust ah same
@@Axrozlia really? Bodyshaming on this type of song?
@@falleneclipse6782 lol
"can't be too pretty" she says while being literally gorgeous.
Ok I’m glad I’m not the only only one who thinks she’s gorgeous
Right?! She's literally the person I look up to, and the person I wanna be. She's AMAZINGG
Just like Chrissy Metz, Megan Trainor, and so many others. So glad there are more role models for all girls now.
To all the people who relate to this song: you are beautiful, you are strong, you are enough.
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Damn Lisa 🥺💕 thank you I needed to hear this today.
I'm not
Thanks xx
You made me cry when you seed that so think you
"The girl gets the guy while I'm standing off-screen so I'll wait for my cue for the comedic relief"
"Can't be too busy, if I don't answer now are they still gonna need me?"
This song hits me in so many parts
My entire life has been brutally shoved into this 3 minutes and 17 second song.
@@painfulfirebird2905 yes thank you thats what im trying to say
Yes
Fr
Same
As the girl that's always "one of the guys" and always the "friend" this hits so deep.
Side note: need an acoustic version I'm in looove
I feel you... I was confident enough to ask my crush if we could meet or sth and he said: "Yes, I always wanted a girl best friend and you are just a perfect friend." Yeah... Thanks? I guess
even worse is when you're 'one of the guys' you get called pick me but you don't even try to be one of them, it just happened. :):
I’ve always been more of a tomboy enjoying the same things many guys like and I hate it im just another one of the dudes I had a close guy friend and we had so much in common and he was always looking for someone to understand him (he’s a streamer and a UA-camr) and I was that person who understand helping with his streams helping him with his esport’s team. But he only ever saw me as a guy even going to the point of saying I don’t dress like a girl or speak like one he said I acted to much like a guy that he wouldn’t be able to see me for anything more. To make it worse I’m always told I’m flirting with the guys when I’m the most awful when it comes to flirting or showing interest it’s just easier to talk with them because I’d rather play COD then go out to get my nails done 😤
@@ViaH__ Yea being one of the guys and being a pick me are two different things
For real, I struggled so bad with femininity and being seen as 'one of the guys', people would find the idea of me having a boyfriend hilarious, or wearing a dress to prom :( I demonized femininity because people found it weak and was terrified of being 'girly' but I've been able to come to terms with it. My favourite colour IS pink (not really a girly thing), I adore dresses and skirts, I may not get a boyfriend but I'd happily enjoy park picnics with a girlfriend/wife
Everyone is talking about themselves. Can we just take a minute to look at this BEAUTIFUL woman in front of us? Look at her. She is stunning. And her voice is amazing.
I can't "relate" to this song, so I've held off on commenting because I don't want to take any attention away from the ones who *do* relate to it. But this is honestly one of the most beautiful songs I've heard in a long time. I hardly hear emotion in music anymore, but I can hear the pain, the struggle and and overall emotion. You've got a phenomenal voice and a talent for songwriting. I hope you go far.
same but tbh no one with money gonna stay this size for long, just look at Hollywood.
Same
Thank you for sharing this. If anyone shames you just ignore
My thoughts exactly
I love your honesty and never understood it either. Then experienced it.. began at 11 when Mom died of cancer but it didn’t hit me until 25. Close friend didn’t hit her until 33. 10 years of counseling later for me and the reason I was able to graduate from college. I still remember both sides. Pretty sure I used to say harm to oneself was selfish and on the other end knowing pain is usually so painful, trauma related, and deep you aren’t thinking about selfish. If you don’t understand it’s a blessing. If you do understand and get help, it’s also a blessing. But the pain of this song is tough to hear and absolutely beautiful/raw! Tell someone you’re there and consistently check in. You may have no idea the pain they are hiding. Let’s be kind!!
as someone who’s been the only black plus-sized girl in a friendship group, i felt this song too painfully. you took the words right out of my mouth. cant say i’ve fully recovered from the social repercussions of being plus-sized, but this song took me a step closer.
A huge thank you from the plus-sized community Maddie 💕
I'm also the only black plus-sized girl in a group with all boys so I totally understand how you feel
Exactly
fat not plussized please loose weight i was a fat tard once too just loose weight
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Bro, both of my skinny friends been asked out to homecoming and I'm the only one without a date. I'm just not going to go, ok be the far black girl while my skinny Asian/ white friend go with their dates.
I will never claim to have been oppressed by my body size; yet I still resonate with a lot of this and I hope that’s okay. Growing up, I was always the biggest person out of my fatphobic, very thin group of friends. I carried it with me for so long, reassuring them that they weren’t the sizes I was, they didn’t eat the same “abundance” of food as me, etc. I kept my own insecurities secret.
I developed an ED around 21, and was fortunate enough to receive help, but I did not get to the level of thinness those other people did. I was almost always the “biggest” anorexic in the program. The difference in how I was treated was apparent - the thinner clients were always the priority and my habits were normalized. The weight stigma in those places is horrendous, and I was only just above “normal.” It is and was worse for fat people. It’s incredibly sad how I left that place feeling like I wasn’t worthy of care unless I was thin… essentially killing myself was fine because of my body size. And now, I’m in a body I never imagined I could be in, that I was never meant to have, and that I still feel inferior in. I am so tired of fatphobia, dieting, and people treating other people like shit for things that shouldn’t matter. I wish people could love each other, I could love myself, and all this crap would just stop.
I’m probably going to make an ass out of myself here, I was skinny n short but constantly told I was fat and ugly by damn near everyone, even my ‘friends’ I was 103 lbs when I graduated, I was anorexic and a cutter, I hated myself so much to this day I have trouble eating a full meal. I never went to anyone for help but I fell on my hip at work and went to the doctor he told me I could have broken it easily instead I just had a bruise and a small crack. That was the day I started eating again it’s still difficult.
THIS
Well said. I wish you and everyone who relates the best.
Ive been seeing a few ppl mentioning that thats an issue.... like even ppl at healthy weights treated that way bc they werent on the brink of death...but its good to go ...its good to catch it before it gets that far bc the deeper and longer u sink, the harder it is to get out... theres so much stigma around overweight ppl and ppl promoting when someone starves themselves bc theyre bigger or even just not thin... you are not inferior....u are not what ppl define u as... you are gorgeous regardless of size bc ur clearly a good person.... theres too much hatred for both ends of that spectrum...whether large or small, theres ppl out there saying "stop eating" or "eat a cheeseburger" and ya sure to some ppl that shit doesnt bother them, but to others, that triggers EDs, binge eating and excessive workouts to anorexia and balemia ... alot of ppls sizes has to do with genetics, not what they eat...just stop with the judgement ppl...esp in cases like urs where u seek help and dont recieve it bc they cant grasp that you're on the same path more severe cases are...bc they cant grasp that getting help before it becomes severe is best... so many ppl relapse, and more than likely its those severe cases bc someone didnt step in or notice before it got to that point... its like with so many other things...ppl dont notice or care until its nearly too late or is too late... and thats the sad part...they focus on things that dont matter -such as other peoples weight as if they know their history- so when shit like ur ed and experience with recovery happens, they dont see it
@@croshaide3168 I’m glad that u are having a recovery and remember that u are loved
that whole verse about “im just the best friend in hollywood movies” is lyrical gold!!! such a great way to describe it! thanks for making this song, it definitely resonates with a lot of people
This song made me cry ugly. I have been that overweight kid that never once in her life was thin. I was judged for my weight since my first day. Not a single day passes by when i don't hear ''You can look much better if u are skinny.'' I have heard this line on every day i wanted to feel beautiful and confident. I'm still trying to love my self day by day. I hope every person whose going through this shit gets to know there worth.
😭
We need to stop body shaming we are who we are some of us are naturally and like what we are
Ps how did this comment get only 33 likes like bruhh u deserve atleast a million
It's just that I can't get out of it because it's genetic , but it still hurts, looking the fatter in the wedding pictures have never been worst tbh , i keep on hoping someone has a crush on me or to hit on me so just i could feel better for the moment but then again it looks silly and i'd they are making fun of me ,GOD!!!!
انتي جميلة زي ماانتي واي امرأة جميلة كلنا مختلفين عن بعض وجميلين واللي ينتقدوك لاي سبب ناقصين والله ناقصين مو مرتاحين فحياتهم مستحيل انتقد شخص واسخر منو لسبب معين ونا بخير من داخلي ومسالمة مع نفسي مستحيل ابدا وكمان ما يحتاج احد يحبك مايهم صدقيني ادري شعورك وحاسة بك كونك تريدين شخص يحبك زي ماانتي عشان تحسي انك انتي تستحقي وجميلة بس والله اذا انتي حبيتي نفسك وحاولتي تطوري منها مارح تحتاجي لاحد ابدا غير الله سبحانه اتمنى تتخطين يمريم واي احد يعاني اتمنى يتخطى ويتحسن 🥺❤️
@@stardream5029 أولاً شكراً لردك باللغة العربية كونها لغتنا الأم ، وشكراً مرة تانية لردك الجميل لأن بصراحة لا اخفي عليكي سراً كتبت الكومنت و نفسيتي مكنتش أحسن حاجة وكنت منتظرة رد يريحني شوية أو يهون عليا لأن حتى لما بنتكلم مع الموضوع مع أهلنا الموضوع بيبان لهم كعدم إيمان كافي أو أن احنا مش راضيين عن خلقة ربنا ، رغم أني عارفة لو أنا حتى انجلينا جولي هبص لنفسي بنفس النظرة لأن العيب من جوا مش من برا ، تسلميلي جدا على كلامك الجميل حقيقي فرق معايا بجد وهفضل فكراه دايما ، الصراحة لا أنا ولا انتي بنحتاج حد يحبنا عشان يثبت جمالنا بس لما تلاقي اصحابك كلهم بيسمعوا كلام معاكسة مثلا حتى لو هما مضايقين منه الواحد الشيطان بيلعب بدماغه و بتحسي أنه يمكن ناقصك حاجة عشان كده محدش بيقولك كده برده وشكراً شكراً شكراً للمرة المليون تفكيرك فيا و محاولتك للتهوين عني عندي بالدنيا هدعيلك دائما❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I know how damaged it could be. Love yourself the way it is whether you love it or not... You are beautiful in your own ways... You can do it, I believe in you! 🥰
Being a overweight sixteen years old teen..i've always been disrespected and bullied all my life ..
This song is exactly how i feel... growing up as a FAT FUNNY FRIEND is always a part of me
Thank you for this song🍁
Sixteen year-old teen? Damn. Not a sixteen year old adult?
@@danieldelia8846 sorry I'm not sure if I'm interpreting this comment right can you explane what tone you mean when you say this? 😅
@@lizzywilliams5825 sarcastic
exactly like ive got a boyfriend and he says im pretty but i think he says that to just be nice.
Me too hun I’m known as the fat funny friend even though I wouldn’t say I’m overweight I get called it and it still hurts
1:14 hits so different. Especially for someone who’s struggled with self image & losing weight for years
I hope your okay
1:12
Why is nobody talking about the line "and i have to be nice or ill be the next punchline" that line is so true because if you laugh at any joke someone would say "why are you laughing? You're like *fat insults*"people don't understand how munch it effects our mental healths
As someone who used to be rail thin from anorexia, and is now extremely overweight from "recovery" turning into BED, this cuts so deep for me. I don't feel as admired or appreciated anymore, in the same way that I was when I was skinny and sick. It makes me miss the old me, as sad and scary as that sounds. Thank you for putting my feelings into words I haven't been able to express before!!!
May I ask what BED is (I assume as most ED’s, it differs from person to person)?
Nobody talks about this - recovery from anorexia has it's own set of symptoms. The research I did at university was about 15yrs ago, so bear with me (they might refer to it as BED now, but it's actually a symptom of anorexia itself). Self-starvation messes with your neurochemicals and your hormones to the extent that when you try to eat again, it may feel like you can not stop. I can't remember the name of the enzyme that your body stops releasing, but *during this phase of recovery, the urge to keep eating is as powerful as a human trying to gasp for air when drowning*
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Your body is so desperately just trying to survive, but it's so confused. The only way through is to just let it happen, because these symptoms will eventually abate. I remember it took about 18 months for me. It was hell, partly because I had no clue that this was a powerful physical symptom and not a personality flaw... It's so important to have care, support and sympathy during this time. I don't know why clinicians and counsellors don't talk about this. The urge to binge will fade as you stop starving yourself less and less.
@@NoYeahNah Thank you! I needed this!
@@someonesour oh okay, got you. Thanks :)
oh my god dude, you have all my support. You can do this!
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” hit me like a fucking freight train.
I feel like if I’m not always available, everyone will just stop calling
same..
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Same
I am so greatful for artists like you who show their vulnerability and use their music to relate to so many people. YOU. ARE. AMAZING. Bring on the tears, I have tissues to prepare!
The “ comedic relief “ is way to true
Yeah I was always referred to as the funny one
I really love how the chorus say "...are they still gonna NEED me?..." Instead of WANT me.
It hits closer to the heart knowing that some of the people you think love having you around just need you and not really want you.
Wow. “Why do I still feel so goddamn inferior?” this is when it really hit home for me. I’ve always had insecurities and body image issues and this song for the most part expressed how I feel every day better than I could ever do. Thank you ❤️
I certainly agree
People are selfish and they don't know how much damage it does to there childhood
Same, I’ve had insecurities ever since I can remember
I always come back to this song when I'm feeling down about my body and listen to it on repeat. it doesn't always make me feel better but it makes me feel heard and not alone. sometimes struggles can't be fought easily but an important first step is realizing you're not alone. things take time and I've definitely come a long way to loving myself. I still have bad days and I know that's ok
I have also never heard of anyone else actually "draw it in sharpie where I'd take the scissors" ive done that for years and never once met someone else who has done that. it just helps realize nobody is alone
You are not alone people talk quack about you they probably have something in their life that is not going well for them😊😊😊
2:27 hits hard. Can’t be too loud and can’t be too busy if I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me
My whole life, I've just accepted this role as the, "funny fat friend," that I literally don't know any other way of being around people or making friends. It hit so close to home for me, how I've always been and, for a long time now, have just accepted a part of myself, that this is my role in life, and in social hierarchy, that this is who I will always be. I've given up on myself for a long time now, I think this is all that's left for me and the most I can hope for is that maybe some man will take pity on me and love me for who I am on the inside. Even though I've been dead inside for probably over half my life at this point.
Thank you for this song, I hope and pray it reaches other girls who are a lot younger than I am, that still have a lot of life left, that can still overcome the struggles. I'm 35 and I feel like it's over for me at this point but I know there's plenty of other girls out there who can change their lives for the better. Don't be afraid to reach out and don't be afraid to speak up.
Hi. We obviously don't know each other but i just wanted to say i love you. To hell with what society says our bodies should look like. To hell with society putting us in boxes and defining us. You are perfect. I pray and hope that whenever you look in the mirror you see that. I pray you feel that. And it's not too late for you. I wish you the best in life❤
Hi, please please don't feel its over for you..Noo..35 is not old for anything, I'm sorry you're going through this but from the way you write this comment I can see you've got a lovely soul. No matter how you feel now,This world is full of beautiful things and you have a lifetime ahead of you! I hope you find love,laughter and smiles! Cheers! Body image doesn't determine who you are.See.. I never have even seen you..Nor will I ever get to,But I just know that you are a pretty human! A lot will happen if you start believe it yourself! Sending hugs!
Heyy sis !!! It’s not over ! It’s just actually starting, you are beautiful and I’m so sure you are amazing inside aswell.
Eventually you would find that one person that sees beyond your body but still try to enjoy life in the moment. I honestly can relate to you !
But it would be fine 🥰🥰
I can definitely relate on the “take pity” part…it’ll be okay ❤️
Why, 35 is still pretty young to me, my parents still do stuff and there almost 50! The only thing stopping you, is you…if that makes sense. Anywho, what I’m saying is, there’s still so much more to life, living is all it takes to move forward ^-^ ❤️ don’t give up ❤️
From someone who has lost the weight, the after effect of losing the weight is crazy. You are constantly reminded of how annoying you were when you were fat even though your personality is same. You're constantly being told to watch what you eat because you'll go back to being ugly...
I honestly wish that the body positivity movement was popularized before I lost the weight because I was actually happier before. I hope who ever reads this accepts their beautiful body because changing will not solve how you feel about yourself
stop calling her annoying!
"how annoying you were when you were fat" who the hell said that to you? That sounds like abuse to me.
I agree with you, but I’ve had breakdown over how disgusting I am. I would be happy, much happier skinny. It’s horrifying to look in the mirror, I can’t eat in front of people I’m not used to, I’m afraid they’ll judge me. Then when I go home I binge eat and have eat until I feel disgusting. I take pills for depression and anxiety, I have anxiety because I hate how I look. But no matter how hard I try I can’t keep up with it. I’d love more than anything in the world to lose weight but I can’t go outside looking like a cow. So I think it would make me much happier.
I really want to lose the weight and this song makes me realize a lot and tour comment that people don't see you differently. Those who know you for your personality will still see you as that but someone who was bothered by your looks will most likely not ketchup that go and it hurts to think about.
@@NostalkersallowedkarmaisrealI have no friends and i just turned 18 :(
I know this sounds strange but I love how she goes from sounding sad and almost like she doesn't want to 'create waves' with her opinion to yelling it like she mad and wants people to listen and really, truly hear her. This song is so beautiful and powerful ❤️
I love how I can relate this song, which makes me feel so emotional and starts crying. This song has so much beauty, so underrated! More people must know this song❤
"do they keep me around so their flaws seems silly" gosh this hits too close to home
Thank you for making a song that makes so many feel less alone in their experiences.
I know that this beautiful song does not relate to me at all, as I do not have this body type, but I cried when I heard it. I have plus-sized friends but I didn't understand this is how they truly feel. I love my friends and I truly think they are beautiful just the way they are, but after hearing this, I now realize that they have shown me signs of insecurity that I didn't really notice at the time. Now that I do know how they feel, I will try to be a much better friend and give them even more support than I have been doing by complimenting them regularly and just overall being more sensitive and observant to their mood, body language, and words. Thank you so much for this song. Really.
I relate to this because I have body dysmorphia lol
I completely agree. I stumbled across this song after I caught my 17yr old daughter listening to it with tears in rolling down her face. She’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but, I’ve taken so many steps to speak to her about her self imagine, things she’d like to improve and anything I could do to make it easier on her. It’s been a few months since then, and I’ve also been very observant on her moods, making sure I double my compliments to her. Even when she’s just in her pajamas I’ll compliment how beautiful she looks and I can tell her self esteem has been getting better. I’ll never forget the way I felt when I walked in on her crying and listening to this, I giggled and asked, “what are you listening to” (she had her back turned to the door) and she turned and said, “Mom. You’d never understand” my heart literally skipped and beat, dropped and stopped all at the same time. Thank you for being a amazing human being and friend. Those girls are going to love you for life!
As a person who does relates to the song that's lovely what ur trying to do
I would like to be a friend with you 😭
I wish my ex-friends and bullies would hear this song. They probably have.
my friend E passed away last month. she had this song saved on spotify. i have a feeling she related to it, and it breaks my heart into pieces. she was the most beautiful girl i’d ever met. she was the closest to perfect a person can be. she was bright and happy and absolutely wonderful. she had the ability to light a up a room, seriously. she could befriend anybody with so little effort. she was so charming. i miss her with every bone in my body, every atom.
please remember that you are beautiful.
E might not have thought she was beautiful, but i did. that means that if you don’t think you’re beautiful, someone does. someone always will. don’t judge yourself too heavily, okay? sending love ♥️
This literally brings me to tears every time I listen. I've tried explaining these things to my friends and all i ever get in response is "omg me too" but they're thin and beautiful and fit all of the social beauty standards and I'm...... me. This song makes me feel seen. Thank you.
exactly. theyre always comparing each other saying that “theyre so fat” then theres me
So damn true
Apart from having been the fat funny friend for the first 24 years of my life (I’m 25), I’ve also always used music as a coping mechanism and escape, and let me tell you: there are few to NO songs that cover this experience.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting this out into the world, it means everything to feel seen and understood.
"do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly"
"I say I'm okay cause they wouldn't care anyways"
These two lines hit me so hard cause this is the reality for me :(
WHAT I GOT A HEART FROM MADDIE OMG
same cause the second line reminds me of how even if I tell me friends and family how feel at the end of the day it kind of won't help you because there words never did anything for me you know
they only talk but never act which is really hurtful in some ways, I am willing to listen if you're desperate :)@@Lily-chan-do6yg
Same bro ❤❤❤
@@Lily-chan-do6ygit feels like the only ones who can really pull you up are same ones constantly pulling you down. It's hard because they really do love us.
Fact that every word of the lyrics is so accurate to me and it stabs my heart.
I was always the smart, funny, chubby kid. Told “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful”. Lost 150 lbs, and got bulimia and BED as a bonus. Now having regained 50 lb., I constantly feel like I’m shoved back into how I felt all through growing up. This song really gets me. Thank you
*Gives you a huge bear hug* I get sick everytime i lose weight
Are we living the same life😲😥😭
I heard this song once and collapsed into a bundle of tears. Things that I haven't thought of in years just came up so fucking quick.
Nobody should be made to feel like that.
I cannot wait to be able to share this with everyone I know. Maybe things will change
@@MaddieZahm thank you right back. I feel seen and heard for the first time in a while.
I wish I could tell my younger self that it gets better ❤
Girl, same. I’m sitting here a married 32 year old bawling my eyes out. I didn’t realize I have so many things from high school still packed up inside. Shew.
@@chelsiterry804 I try not to think about school at all, tbh.
Now I see that a big reason I got married in the first place was because I was so fucking miserable for many reasons, and I latched onto him so fucking tight 😥
We're separated now, going on 5 years.
Things already are changing and there is always hope.
You’re gorgeous
I never was fat. For some reason though, this song really touches my soul. Tanks for this masterpiece
Same
Fat?
Same
Same
Ppl criticize skinny ppl for being too skinny and tell them to eat more and or eat a hamburger while they tell a fat person to either eat a salad or stop eating. These insecurities are Transcendant. They're just opposites neither side is fun to be on.
“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I take the scissors” hits so close to my heart and makes me cry every time I replay the song
I'm not fat but I'm not skinny either. I'm in-between. This song fits me amazingly well. "Do they keep me around so there flaws just seem silly?"
Same with me but all my friends in the friend group are like thin thin and they have a figure
@@saylerwhitlow2729 my friends are too. In-betweeners have figures too. We just dont see it because we think we're fat.
Same
I just had to say. you are so fucking beautiful.
@@chicagogirl1114 Thank you so much!!! Your beautiful too. 💙🦋💜
Just finished the premiere. The amount of people in that chat who were personally touched, including myself, by this song is heartbreaking.Thank you, Maddie, for giving a voice to those teens and kids battling with themselves because of their surroundings, and those adults still trying to heal.
Thank you for releasing a song that resonates with so many people. I’ve been visually impaired all my life and the lines “it’s funny when I think a guy likes me” and “can’t be too proud” really hit home for me. I feel like guys never see me as a person, only my white cane. And I’m proud of my journey as a disabled woman, but I can’t be too proud of it in conversations. I know I’m not relating to this in the way others are here, but this song still makes me feel like I’m not alone and I really appreciate that.
I believe songs are written for everyone no matter the circumstances. The way you resonate with this song may be different from other people's way, but that doesn't matter. All that does matter is that you find meaning in this song. I am *so* glad that you can be proud of who you are. So many people need at least HALF of your courage and self-happiness. Thank you.
Every once in a while, someone comes out with a song...a song that somehow starts to heal something deep inside you never realized was broken...this is one of those songs
I'm skinny and I know this song isn't meant for me. But I take parts from this song and it brings me to tears. Being the comedic relief, if they need me, etc. The Dumb Funny Friend.
Omg same
me too
Same but I’m also really insecure of how skinny I am so I turn the lyrics around in my own way…this song brings me so much peace
“can’t be to proud and can’t think I’m pretty” hits SO FUCKING HARD
"If I don't answer now, are they still gonna need me?"
and "It's funny when I think a guy likes me" are the 2 lines that make me cry all the time
Every time I hear this song I cry and I listen to a lot of sad songs, but this one just hits my heart so hard there's no mood or situation I could be in and not tear up when hearing this. I love this song and I love you for this song and I just feel a strong urge to thank you for this song, so... Thank you.
To the person reading this,
You are you're life's protagonist. It doesn't matter what your size is or what the colour of your skin is, enjoy life the way you like it. I know it's easier said than done but don't let the people around you stop you from enjoying life. You matter more than you realize.
tysm my fellow directioner!!!
AHHHH DIRECTIONERSSSSS
AHHH WE'RE EVERYWHERE
There's always a directioners reunion in the comment section lol
@@rinhashameer343 IKRRR
I’m literally in tears after hearing this song. I relate to every lyric in this song. I’ve always been overweight my whole life and all my friends are gorgeous and really thin. I stand out in my friend group. I’ve been bullied because of my weight my whole life and I’m only 13. Most of my friends are always sharing clothes and I can’t do that because my size is so much bigger than all of theirs. I’ve never felt important, I’ve always felt like the extra in my friend group. I’ve gotten so used to sucking in my stomach everywhere I go, and always wearing baggy clothes to hide my body. Ive tried to stop eating and exercise all the time to become thinner, but no matter how much weight I lose, I still feel like it’s never enough. Even my family says that I’m too big and that I have to lose weight or no one will love me.
@Isabelle Van der Linde thank you, and I actually do know that Selena Gomez song, it’s really good
That's not true. I love you and God loves you. I don't know you but I truly love you and I wish there was a better word than 'love' so you know how much I truly appreciate your existence. Please do not starve yourself or over exercise, take each day step by step. Everything is a journey, even self love and I'm speaking from experience. It took me 17 years to love myself and I cried, it felt so amazing actually believing I love myself and it's a feeling I want to have even in my grave and I want you to feel it as well. For your health you can eat a balanced diet everyday, there's no need to increase vegetables and fruits and those are good but eating only those aren't healthy. Eat what you want just be mindful of how much unhealthy foods you intake. When you're exercising you can listen to positive podcasts and even bible verse, this can really boost your emotional,mental,physical,psychological health and you on a whole will feel better. You can also write five things you are grateful for everyday you wake up. As I said, it is not easy but I believe in you and I trust and hope you take every obstacle that comes your way by the neck and str@ngl3 it with effort. It's not easy but I appreciate how far you've come darling and rly and truly 13 is a rly young age to feel insecure because you are just becoming a teen, you should be having fun and enjoy life as a child but reality is that most of experience awful things at that age and even younger. I love you princess❤❤🫶🏾✨🦋 enjoy the rest of your day and teen years because in no time it will be gone. Be yourself, anything you enjoy doing, DO IT without batting an eyelash and if someone don't like it just tell them to excuse themselves from around you with their unwanted negativity,Rude. I love you😘🤍💛❤💜🔥🔥
im so sorry tanishka : ( its horrible that like you, so many people feel this way! and can relate to your experience in terms of feeling like an outsider and being unlovable. if its worth anything, God loves you. that might not mean a single droplet of anything to you but just keep that in your heart, you never know that message might reappear incoincidentally. that is not true what your family tell you. i dont mean to be mean but thats a fucked up mentality from their side that they shouldnt be spreading onto you, let alone anyone! for years i obsessed, envied even hated those girls who "had it all" that skin, the body, the hair, the family, the boyfriend, the friends, the popularity all out it! it got so bad that i had to move classes away from those individuals bc it was just too hard going to school everyday being reminded of the unpleasant truth. this desire just spiralled and got too out of control. im in recovery tho. from my horrible self-inflicted shit, what others have said, what ive read, heard been told etc. its so fucking hard, but i believe with God by my side i can get through this. ive tried a lot of things but this is plan z. i hate this facade people have put around about what christianity is , people think its all no's and don'ts and hate's and ugh thats not what it isssssssss. its having an intimate relationship with your Creator, your bestfriend. i hate when people say they have a bestfriend who they can tell everything to, i dont have that. but with God i do PLUS he gives be the best advice
@@roziek6830 thank you for this, and I wish you the best with your recovery. I understand what you felt before, and even though I don’t believe in god, I hope that he brings good to you :)
I did the cover, Please watch ua-cam.com/video/akv2MqbC-to/v-deo.html
This song speaks to 16 year old me and 30 year old me simultaneously. I feel heard and loved. I feel empowered to continue my journey.
I may not have been the so called fat funny friend, i've actually been skinny all my seventeen years of life, but i have and still do suffer from body image issues as i feel like i have to maintain that body all my life even though all i want to do is eat my heart out and order a dozen things at restaurant's, so a lot of lyrics in this song hit close to home for me. It's very encouraging of you to have made this wonderful song for all those who suffer from feeling this way the same as you. I hope your life is always lovely, and that we all find a way to over come this idea that we need to cater to the worlds opinions, hopefully just as you seem to have.
"Can't be too loud
Can't be too busy
If I don't answer now are they still gonna need me?
Can't be too proud
Can't think I'm pretty
Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly?"
These lyrics just hit too close to home!
Same. The first time I heard those lines I started crying. My friends get mad when I say I’m ugly, and they tell me I’m pretty but what do opinions on you matter if you don’t feel the same way😞
Girl, me too! This messed up world tells us that we are not good enough! THIS IS NOT TRUE we are perfect the way we are :)
I love this song. I feel like I’m just the “comedic relief” and people use me as a not to guide. I’ve actually drawn out where I want to remove. I want people to ask me out not as a joke. I want people to look at me and not make a comment on how I look. Not send me the pacer test and say I could use it. Not joke about how overweight I am. I just want people to admire me the way I admire them. Or at the least not stare when people talk about health or eating.
We have the same name 😂 Don’t worry, there’s someone out there who loves you. Idk if you believe in God but I always turn to him. I’m imperfect and a mess, but he’s not. I feel like the cast away friend sometimes who’s only used so people can dump their problems on me, but I have to believe that one day I’ll have learned something from all of it. I know we don’t know eachother, but I believe you’re beautiful inside and out. As long as you know in your heart that you try your best to be a good friend and you’re trying to be kind, than anyone’s thoughts about you are their problem. I wish you well ;)
@@billiegrace68 Dude you are so supportive, I wish I was more like you. Keep doing what you love because you are clearly good at it
@@ellam.9486 Haha thanks I try
I feel the same way you took all the words out of my mouth. I hate it when people tell you these things or make comments about your body. I hate that people can do this to other people just bc they don’t have the “perfect body” which there will never be a “perfect body” and all body’s are beautiful. Ik it’s hard but you got this girly. Love you 💛
Wanna be friends? 🌹
As someone with no meat on her bones, I feel like I’m someone who could make someone insecure, I feel absolutely terrible for you, people say I should be grateful I can eat whatever I want and not gain weight but I just want to gain a little, you are such a slay and I love you for bringing this to light!
Just heard this song from start to finish.. I’ve been fat my whole life, but I wasn’t the fat funny friend. I was the fat smart friend. This song really made me burst into tears.
I feel you. ❤
I feel this, the amount of relatibility that I have to all of these comments and this song is just sad.
"it's funny when I think a guy likes me" and "do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" both demolish me. Thank you for writing one of the most relatable songs I have ever heard. I'm 36, and I have never been able to describe how it feels. My whole life, and now after losing a hundred pounds, learning self love, and finding my people it still feels like this some time. You have no idea when you did this but you just helped a whole world full of people. I hope you have all the happiness you ever asked for and more. 💙
It hurts so much. I loved people but I couldn't even love who I am. I loved every parts of them but I hated mine. This song summarizes everything and I think I found my theme song. I relate so bad it hurts.
Hugs to all of you out there.
I feel you and here is a hug for you 💞
🫂
This song breaks my heart and helps heal trauma from going up. I was constantly ridiculed for my weight growing up especially by my parents. I am in my late thirties and still have a terrible relationship with my body and my weight. Thank you so much for being so open and showing the rest of the world that we are not alone.
I can't count the times my friends have told me I'd look prettier if I was skinny to the point where I tried my best to change myself to an image they'd find perfect. I'm glad I found myself eventually and I got to love my body for how it is. Body shaming isn't funny no matter how one looks, you don't know what they are going through just one small remark on the person's body can make them feel judged and disgusted by their own bodies
i hope they're ex friends bc wtf who says that
I can’t believe they say that to you, it wouldn’t surprise me if they thought it because everyone wonders what people would look like if they had a certain hair colour or style or wore different clothing and think people look better a certain way. But to actively say that about something so difficult to change is just cruel, they weren’t being concerned about you health and sure as hell didn’t care about your feelings when it’s their job to be supportive of you when you aren’t being supportive of yourself. I wouldn’t even tell my friend she had a bad hair cut considering how long it would take to grow back. If it grew back and she asked me whether I thought she could cut it again or not, then I’d be honest about which looks better to me but that’s the most I’ll do. I would never actively tell a friend something I know would make them self conscious about their body no matter how I think they look, god knows we all have things we hate about ourselves that would kill us if they got pointed out. I hope you got better friends.
I started tearing up at that comment I can't believe anyone would ever say that
Those aren’t “friends”
As someone who has grown to love their body after years of scrutinizing it. As someone with their father's broad shoulders, and their mama's thick legs. This song is beautiful.
"Then why do I feel so GODDAMN INFERIOR?"
That hits home for me, because even though I've come to except my body I still feel inferior towards my friends and sometimes I feel like screaming it along with Maddie.
I can’t explain how many more views this deserves. This is the most underrated song of 2022. This is just so beautiful and deep just insane
“Can’t be to proud, can’t think I’m pretty” makes me cry bc it hits so hard
i’ve delt with body issues since preschool, as long as i can remember, i’ve cried so many times over my body and now i’m crying over this song. i’ve never seen my emotions captured so perfectly
Along with being the biggest friend in a friend group, this song also reminds me of how lonely it felt to be the only black girl in an all white friend group. I love this more than words. Thank you so much for putting a feeling I didn’t even realize I was shoving down up to the light for me to face and address.
AHH ME TOO
I feel this
I always worry about my daughter feeling like she doesn’t fit in being mixed.
@@kristinahlfield52 it’s important to keep her connected with her black side 💕
@@nycolewithawhy I try to! I was actually really happy and proud of a shirt she picked out about a month ago at Old Navy. It has a few different shades of black ladies. I can’t explain the emotion I felt but it made me smile when I saw her pick it out. 🥰
“can’t be too busy, if i don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” is a line i relate to so much. i always felt like i was such an unimportant part of the group and that my friends wouldn’t even care if i just left one day. even today, struggling mentally, i still find myself having those same thoughts that i had back in middle school.
Literally brust into tears when "life of a fat funny friend" like its so real infront of everyone i act all goody and fine like im thr happiest person and when im alone i can't help but judge myself i have been insecure from when i was 10 i have been overweight and people say "ur too fat that u dont fit in the chair" and "u should stop eating to much" and even once i was normally minding my own business eating my lunch when one of my own friend said "look a burger is eating burger" that just really brokr me and i stopped eating infront of others i am so insecure that i dont even have confidence to be in any speech or performance in my school, and in fact i am from broken family its more torture for me and i really thanks this girl for Really telling how much of other's words hurt girls like us, this song is a master piece i love it
The message behind this song can mean a lot of things. Can we all agree this was a well made song?
Yes ❤
Very well made song ♡
Agreed
Yessss ❤❤❤
I hadn't heard the whole song until I clicked on this video. I sat at my desk and cried for a long time just. Feeling everything, every experience I shared, every friend that ever left me, everything that you sang about. This is our lives and it is so awful to feel like you're not worth anything. Thank you for voicing what everyone is feeling. Amazing song.
"I've done every diet to make me look thinner. So why do I still feel so God Damn Inferior!" That line hit my core like no other. I've been/am the fat friend most of my life. I am very thankful my friends are always there for me and i am equally there for them. But this song still hits hard and reminds me of the time before I met them.❤
the next time my mom asks me “whats your purpose of your life?”, im just gonna 0:20
I cried for 20 minutes straight after listening to this song, I've never related to something more. I hate my body. I hate my face. My nose is too flat, my lips are too big, I don't have thigh gaps, my waist is too thick, my legs are too short, my body is too disproportionate. I can't even wear pants because they will show how short my legs are. I have to wear oversized clothes to hide my body. I'm the only one who likes to wear masks because they hide my face. I'm the only one who has thick bangs because I'm insecure about my eyebrows. I intentionally changed my personality from outgoing to shy and introverted because I'm too ugly to be an extrovert. I'm ashamed of having a crush because I don't deserve one. I hate my height, I hate my personality. I am jealous of others, but don't have the motivation to improve myself. I used to be the 'smart one' but so many people are beginning to surpass me. So many people are smarter, prettier, friendlier, better, and superior. I hate my home life and my toxic parent. I hate myself. I want plastic surgery but am afraid that it will go wrong. It's suffocating me.
Listen I know it’s hard and reading your comment was like looking in a mirror. But I promise that you can get through it you don’t have to change yourself , just your mind, Start small and work your way up, I’m still the way I am but I’m learning to accept it. I hope your doing well and if you need motivation remember that Jesus loves you too.❤️
I know that right now it's hard but It can get better and to answer your question no don't harm yourself in any way because even if you don't believe it right now it will get better I think that you should start with self affirmation cards around your room or where ever to remind your self even when you don't think it that you are beautiful and strong and you deserve to live life to the fullest
Also reading your comment was like I was in my own life I'm currently 14 and struggle with depression hoping that it will get better for you
Your now is not your forever, don’t give up ❤
I’m just gonna say, DONT YOU DARE GIVE UP!!!!! You got this far you sure as hell can get past through this to experience the rest of the moments of your life.
“I say I’m ok. Cause they wouldn’t care anyway.” Hits hard man. I’m not skinny but I’m not fat but if I say I’m skinny people act like I’m not and if I say I’m fat the act like I’m doing it for attention. This song makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much
the struggles of being mid size 😔
no same, if you ever need anything tho feel free to reach out!
Same tho! This song hits me on my soul! I know how you feel!
Every single overweight or obese person I have met has been hilarious! And with the best sense of humour! I literally teared up while watching this video as I saw it from this perspective that they think they need to have a funny personality so people will not judge them on their weight! But trust me you guys, we love all of you just as you are and will punch anyone in the face if they insult you or judge you for your weight, sending a bug hug and tons of love!
That is a sweet sentiment that we appreciate, but speaking for myself and a few others, people on tv and fat acceptance movement stuff often say that they support us and that we are beautiful, but when we are alone with none of that positivity, it is quickly forgotten. In our normal lives we're either insulted, mooed at or over sexualized cuz some men want big girls on the premise of them being big, not for personality. It's rough and I'm aware it's my fault I am the way I am.. I love your positivity though
@@clandestinetranquilsounds6550
I believe there’s hope for the future of the +sized community. In the past, it seems that being “big” meant that being bullied by everyone should be an automatic expectation. I rarely care about other people’s weight unless they’re in some kind of danger. I have had other anorexic friends and their cadaverous state was always concern provoking for me. I don’t know why I usually don’t mind people’s weight, it’s just not something I think about, like walking by a door or any other normal thing. Maybe it’s because I don’t like humans and you’re all the same to me?
@@clandestinetranquilsounds6550 Hey there I agree with everything your saying as a fat person myself. However, I don't think you should blame yourself. Being fat isn't inherently bad and beside that that there is a lot of reasons we gain weight or can't lose it. It isn't about will power. Losing weight and keeping it off is against the odds. There is scientific papers out there supporting this. Being fat isn't our fault, it shouldn't be something we are shamed for, and I hope one day people of all different bodies will be accepted by society. I don't know what part of your journey you are on and it is okay if you don't agree with me. But I couldn't see you blaming yourself for this. It breaks my heart and I hope you know you aren't alone out there. We are amazing as we are. You are amazing. ❤
@@rosesofallkinds6206 I appreciate the kind words and I have only just started my journey, with a measly 4 pounds lost, but to be fair, it's only been 3 days... I know the best ways to lose weight for me, it's my mentality and will power that I need to work on more than anything. It's hard to celebrate the small victories because i'm always expected more of and i am finally doing this for me and no one else.
YOUR LYING
This song is so real. Everyone have flaws or insecurities that they’re scared to speak on. Thank you for being the voice.
I love this song and my friends always berate me for it since “you’ve been skinny all your life, you could never understand our struggle” but as someone who quietly struggled with anorexia for year the lines “I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors if that’s what it takes to look in the mirror” and “I’ve done every diet to make me look thinner so why do I still feel so goddamn inferior” has never hit harder. You may not have intended for it to ring true for someone like me but thank you anyway
hi ! i know this may not mean much from a stranger online, but your connection to this song is valid no matter what your friends say. what you've struggled with is something nobody deserves to go through, and as someone who is going through anorexia herself, i know it's an illness that can & does distort any image you see of yourself. i hope your pain eases soon, and i'm glad you have been able to find a song that you connect to 💜
@@metatmidnight1989 thank you so much for saying this, it means so much to me for someone to validate my feelings. its amazing that you're able to touch someone using your words through a screen and I promise you that you will get better, keep fighting against it because you're not and will never be alone 💜
@@vaidehir1976
of course !! your feelings are real and just as valid as the ones in this song. your size isn't necessarily the focal point of this, moreso the feelings that accompany how alone insecurities can make you feel, even when you know you're not. it's our own voices that are the loudest when it comes to the criticism we each face and the pain that comes with not seeing your body as perfect is proof of that. what you struggle with is valid at the end of every day, but a day will come where it won't be the forefront of your thoughts.
your encouragement is also incredibly appreciated, thank you for taking the time to write that. the world needs more people with your kindness 💜
@@metatmidnight1989 can you just write a book or something? you have a way with words that is truly special and they radiate so much love and positivity. the world needs more of your thoughts and energy and I'm glad I experienced it firsthand. please keep on using your voice because its one that's so utterly kind and unique. THANK YOU for replying to a random comment on youtube just to validate my feeling. you're a good person
Same
“Cause they wouldn’t care anyway” that hit way too hard.
“Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly”
“I say I’m ok cuz they wouldn’t care anyway”
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me”
Those lines hit so close to home
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I found this literally by typing "fat funny friend" to see if anyone talked about feeling this way. Thank you for making this song.
"Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" hit deep
This randomly happened across my feed and now I sit here crying and smiling. That made me proud and sad all at the same time. It clearly resonates with many of us. It's words you speak of your truth but one you share. Thank you for putting the words we can't together so beautifully.
This song deserves a Song of the Year Grammy. A song that actually means something and stand for something. Absolutely beautiful and heart wrenching. ❤️🩹
"I've done every diet to make me look thinner"is very relatable for younger me and me now