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- My sister shared this timely quote a few minutes ago: from Atlas of the Heart (Brene Brown): "[My mom] taught us to never look away from pain.... Don't look away, don't look down, don't pretend not to see hurt. Look people in the eye, even when their pain is overwhelming. And when you're hurting and you're in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye. We need to know that we're not alone, especially when we're hurting."
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Sorry for the sound again. I think I need a new phone…
Personally in my opinion it might not even be your phone people may just need to turn their volume up... Hope y'all are all doing well & still praying for y'all 😇🙏🏽 God bless y'all
I think your audio was fine.
I had no problem hearing you, I think your audio was fine.
Yah I heard everything perfectly fine, I really appreciate how you have the strength to share your struggles and honesty with everyone it just shows everyone is going through something and no one is perfect. Other influencers are probably going through the same thing in different ways. I’m praying for y’all ❤
It was ok..realy didn't notice..hang in there.dnt feel ypu need to keep up with us ..we understand
.ypu guys already did a great service for us
.the rest is the cherry 🍒 on top.
So rest up my freinds
March makes 50 years for my life in a wheelchair- a C6 injury and I can tell you it gets harder as you get older. I helped with the laundry and cooking until my shoulders gave out. You just need to decide what things are most important and take things one step at a time.
I’m 70, and have deterioration of my spine, live alone, and can relate to frustration. I only get 1 1/2 hours a week from a HHAide and I’m thankful for that, but still am my own worst enemy expecting more from myself. Bless you and your family. Take care of YOU!!!! Love from Iowa! ❤
I wish we were neighbours, because I'd come and do laundry and fix meals or help keep the kids busy. You are such a blessing to all of us. Sometimes adjusting expectations can be a relief. Sending you all love and hoping you feel a bit better. I've been a nurse for 40 years...I've never seen two people meeting life's challenges with such grace and perseverance.
That is the nicest comment. Thank you so much ❤❤❤. So kind.
You took the words out of my mouth❤
I was thinking the same. If you were nearby - I’d gladly come help you with the kids, make some dinner, and fold clothes. I’d love to give you both the time to rest that you need. I know how important rest is to healing and trying to be healthy.
You are so kind! I have been a nurse for a long time and now a nurse practitioner for 13 years. It's the compassion you show here that tells me what a wonderful nurse you are
Sometimes when another shit thing happens I think God is punishing me that's all. I still get up and carry on.
People don’t always give the wife the credit she deserves. You’re the strength behind the man. You’re why he is able to get through his painful issues don’t count yourself out🥇👸💯
I agree with this a lot! They both are very loving of each other and there’s a great wholesomeness to their relationship! That’s what a healthy relationship should be, a partnership!
She is a blessing ❤
nah I think these guys are scam artists. Guy falls from a job for being unsafe. TThis guy has ended up hospital SEVERAL times for work place safety. I would never hire him or work with him. He got crippled eventully. The wife has a mild form of MS. Babies came after the injury so they knew what they were doing. I am usually positive but seriously u did it to urself. U worked unsafe and u paid the price.
@@deneshbhaskar seriously! Shut your ableist mouth! Disability doesn’t discriminate, people do! Anyone can end up disabled for ANY reason. Just because he fell doesn’t mean it was his fault. He could have been in a harness and the coworker unhooked Dans instead of their own harness. That happened to my little brother while he was roofing.
@@onefootedphoenixwell aren’t you kind. ❤
Simple things like not being able to shower or cook for myself, I understand on some level!!
Thank God you're blessed to have each other ❤
I have been going through a lot with my brain damage and a disease called POTS. I have thought of you and keep praying. DON’T push too hard. God does love you.
Some days are diamonds, some days are stones
Everyone needs a break, yes you can have a day pff Andrea and Dan. I don't know how you do it with 6 kids. Don't be frustrated. Tomorrow will come and be another day. Dan needs a break as well. Take a rest day. We love you both. This is real life. Trust me i live alone and have back pain and some day i just can't even do paperwork. Don't compare yourself to others. The Internet is great at making everyones life look wonderful. ❤️🙏
Is there no one in your family that can help you. Maybe hire someone to help. And older kids should be pulling their weight around the house. I was the oldest and folded clothes, did dishes, don't let them skip by. I wish I could help. Love Dixie
God bless you both. I’m having a lot of issues in back. I can’t sit, stand and walk a little. I’m on my stomach all day. You are such an encouragement. You have a beautiful family
I will keep you in my prayers.
An attitude of gratitude that there are people like y'all out there gives me hope as always keep on keeping on and my heart goes out to you and family. As always I will pray for y'all. Much love from a man and his dog ❤
Much blessing to wheelchair dad. May your pain heal everyday. Much love to the wife and the strength to help your hubby. Love to you both.❤❤❤❤❤❤I watch the video where you were in so much pain it made me cry for you. It brought me to this video.
Prayers for your family. You inspire me as a fellow nerve pain warrior. I have CRPS. To watch you do home repairs and other work is amazing. I love to see you love on your girls. You should give yourself grace on off days. I need to motivate my self most days. I know your faith is big and mine too. I know His word teaches He will not give you something you can't handle. I look to tgat through hard times. I am thankful I can lean on the Savior for He knows I have to and He invites me to as well. 👍🙏 and hang in there.
Thanks for keeping it real! Appreciate that, myself as well as others. YOU ARE NOT ALONE dont be hard on yourselves ❤
Life is daily. You can only do what you can do. Housekeeping is difficult when you don’t feel up to power. One step at a time. Love & prayers for y’all. You are unique and encouraging to others. Have a better day today ❣️🙏
You both are doing amazing. I have MS too so I understand. Give yourself credit for what you accomplish. You are doing amazing!
FATHER GOD,
PLEASE BLESS This Beautiful Family With More Strength, Happy Energy, Love, Laughter And Emotional/Physical Healing As They Draw Near To YOU During These Quieter Moments🙏
Remembering That... The State Of The Heart Is Always More Important Than The State Of The House. 💜💜
LORD GOD BLESS🌼 :)
When you are fit you do more than other able boded people. Just to encorage you. Keep going. ❤ Don't compare yourself to others.
First off.....dont be so hard on yourselves....!!! Take one thing at a time. THEM is them and you are you....dont compare yourself with anyone else!! You are having a downer day....tomorrow will be a new day. Give the kiddos chores to put the laundry away or get someone to come in for a few hours if you can.....its gonna be ok....fix what you can today and leave the rest for another day....priorities and breath!!! Enjoy life and dont sweat the mediocre things!!! Dont let life overwhelm you! God bless you and your family.....prayers for yal!❤
I am 61. Have 3 children that are now grown. I can remember when they were little and I always felt overwhelmed and incompetent. I would always have dirty dishes, piles of clothes on the couch unfolded. My mom would come see us and fold them while I cried because I felt like a bad mom. Once a lady from church came by, the house was a mess and I got really upset about not being able to keep up with everything. She told me when my kids are older they will not think of the house not being nice and neat, but the love they received. God bless you all, always.
Wow 😮 true what you said Donnacalcutt9317 I have 3 children
👧🏻 👧🏻👦🏻 3 children ages 12,11 and 9 year old ❤ I under that feeling.
I can say I know what your feeling. It's awful when you have so many projects to do but your body is saying go back to bed. I've learned to listen to my body. My body has so many issues I know that if I don't listen, I'm done for and I will be out of commission for awhile. Just do what you can and deal with the stuff later that you don't have the energy for.
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Wow. Thanks for sharing that on what matters most to kids is the love not the unfolded clothes.. thank you❤
There's no shame in reaching out to others for help! Do you have a church family that is willing to take turns helping when the need arises? Praying for you both for peace and help!❤❤❤
You two are amazing fighting through the pain and suffering you deal with everyday is heart touching ❤❤❤❤
You take those crappy days and just lay around.... don't feel your not doing your work!!❤️💯🙏
Praying for your family guys, please take it easy ❤❤❤
With a spinal injury not walking is the easiest part, its all the everyday things that we take for granted. Enjure the bad days and enjoy the good days m8 stay strong stay as active as you can 🙏🙏
❤🙏🏼🙌🏼🌸 sending you energy, strength and courage all the way from Sweden!
You guys are amazing!!!❤❤
Working construction you probably already know this but I have the temperature set on my water heater so that it will not go up above 120 to try to prevent burns because I have neuropathy.
You all are very inspiring.
Pls. Don’t beat urself up. Do want u can , things will always be there . U will get it all done when u can. A little at a time ur health is more important than ur laundry an household chores. Here it is Feb an I still have my Christmas things out. I just don’t feel like getting to it. God bless. Family first!!!
I totally get it! Sometimes we need to give ourselves grace❤ I also have MS and have found the last week difficult. Im so grateful to be alive and am basking in that thought at the moment😊
You both should be proud that you are able to just accept you are human. It is ok not to be ok. you guys inspire me.
I appreciate your heart and I am so grateful to be able to pray for your guys! We all need to reach out so that we can get support from others. PRAYING TO THE GOD OF THE IMPOSSIBLE TO DO THE IMPOSSIBLE FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY❤
Please please order the grounding sheets they will help with inflammation while sleeping . It’s amazing
You are a good woman. May God continue to keep you guys. Am also praying for you
Praying for you both. It's okay not to be okay sometimes. I am so sorry that you both are struggling with pain. I am a manual wheelchair user and I totally understand the frustration wanting to do more, but you cannot sometimes. Baby steps. Love you both from Florida!
You both are so strong it's human nature to maybe feel your not doing your best but from what I can see you two are amazing you are doing your very best for sure do what you can you both need your rest so take time for yourself it's important God bless. ❤❤
At 73, I understand your frustration. Everytime I challenge myself to just one chore, even the simplest one. My spine gives was because of the facet joint disease. Sending love and hugs to you and Dan and those beautiful kids. 🫂💌🫂💌🫂💌🫂💌💜🇦🇺
He is a strong man and he truly loves his family
I hope that better days are ahead for you both ❤
Wishing you all the best!!
Thank you so much 💜💜💜. We appreciate you!
Hope ur both feel better much ❤❤ sorry ur feeling like this one day at a time
I understand where you’re at. Thanks for being real. You are due all the Grace you can get. Some influencers used to make me feel less than I am because they have big sparkling clean houses and jet off to wherever while I’m trying to figure out what I am going to eat for a month until I can go to the food pantry again at the end of February. What bills can I pay? Some bills are on the every other month program. Then you reminded me about laundry. Well…it got washed so far. Love you guys ❤
Hi Andrea & Dan I felt like you were talking right to me.
I always said when i found you i watched, i stayed because i saw you were REAL that means everything to me you know.
Im sorry you both are having a ruff time. I know your lives aren't a bowl of roses. I was so worried your MS was going to flare when dan was in the hospital . Sometimes it flares when the storm has lightened a bit.
Your body says ok now i can let it out.I've been in bed seems forever now. This morning i tried to get up to try to start my long needed cleaning and so much to do..
But the physical pain & missing mom are just horrible. You said to me so many times. Just do what i can & dont be hard on myself. You BOTH are INSPIRING in so many ways!!
Please take a rest treat yourselves like you treat so many others. Its ok those things will wait. I hope a neighbor sees this and pops over to your place with some meals. Than you can take the weekend off. Or order in? Just please take care.
Yes im still in bed. Ill keep trying Thank you so much for today. God bless you & your family. I'll try to punch today in the face & not get punched . Take care thanks for being REAL .your never a downer .
Now go back to bed for a nap or a good sleep . PLEASE.❤❤❤❤❤❤💞 😇😭💔
Thanks for keeping it real!!! I too am having a really hard Saturday and not accomplishing anything I had set out for. Aggravating for sure. So today will just be a HULU day and I will try again tomorrow!!! Much love from St Louis, MO!!!
SINGLE MOM RAISED 7 CHILDREN!! 4 boys and 3 Girls. GOT SOME REST WHEN I HAD A MAJOR STROKE !! STILL COMING BACK. YOU ARE HEROES!!!
Hello to you both. Andrea, Dan, we all have those moments. This happend and will still happen in the futur. You have to take care of yourself to take care of the rest.
We all love to you see LIVE, there is no magic. Some times its just thinker cloud to reach the sun ! ☀️
I am 42 and have four kids. Work, meals, cleaning, and LAUNDRY are a never-ending battle. Just remember, your house is not messy. It is just lived in and you have to keep living it every day. Always start the housework with a date night for just the two of you. 😉
Sorry you are feeling bad
Its ok to be frustrated! Give yourself some grace
You are doing amazing work!
Andrea, just gotta say, you are not "lesser than anyone". You're one of the bravest women ever! Been feeling a little discouraged with feeling yucky myself but I'm 74 and live in an apartment with two cats, so I really have much less demands on myself than you two do. Just know I love you and admire you so very much. Thanks for sharing because you are ALWAYS an inspiration to me. God bless.
Know the tired feeling, following your advice and turned my back on life and I am back in bed. Sleep should help. Strange energy day.
Good for you!! ❤❤❤ rest well!
We all get overwhelmed where children and daily tasks or lose of sleep is concerned. Stop and rest the laundry will be there when your rested and
Thanks for keeping it real. I think you are all awesome! God Bless you both.
Thanks
Thank you ❤
God bless you if i was your neighbor id help y'all and help with them babies treat them like a Nana
I understand where you are coming from. I've been physically disabled since birth ( 57 ) years. I also go through the same problems with your wife. I just lean more on our Lord Jesus for his help. Your whole family is an inspiration. I will keep you all in my 🙏 ♥️ ✝️
Wish you lived next door cause I’d come & help!! Sorry your feeing like this today but it’s important to be honest but just take one thing at a time . Don’t beat yourself up pray always . Sending you love & prayers . You are doing great even feeling like you do! Your Amazing parents husband & wife working together . With love . 🥰
One moment at a time.
Be strong the two of you..ask for help at least once a week for arranging ang cleaning from ur friends or relatives. Surely they will do give help.
Not sure if your interested as I see how much and many spasams & pain that your in. My son became a spinal injury at 9 & his 34 nearly 35 & we have gone onto using our own natural oils & use Chinese acupuncture & their oils. I’ve looked after him all his life as he had many other complications and on a ventilator & honestly Chinese remedies have helped him so much. Sending you all so much love ❤️ I truly do understand what your going through ❤
I saw you guys went to lagoon. I live in North Ogden and wondered if we were close? I just wanted to let you know that I’ve been following you find you guys were inspiring. I have ME which is basically where chemotherapy hit long-term Covid and exploded into terrible pain and exhaustion and anyway when I started my journey, I felt very alone. Thank you for letting me know. I’m not alone. Luckily my husband is healthy but he’s a firefighter so he’s gone for 2 to 3 days at a time and we have five kids as well. Anyway, just thought live in the same state or area.
You guys are beautiful & sometimes, you guys just need to just embrace the moment by continuing to give grace & permission to say is ok to rest.
You're blessed to have each other
! Please know with all of my heart that im not dismissing your pain.
I love your page!
God bless you & give you peace & restore your pain!
Love & Hugs!
Beautiful Family!
I have MS as well and I know that if I don't listen to my body, then my MS will take me down....which is where I am right now, and most of the time it is because I'm being stubborn and I want to try to do thing in the before MS days. I know it's hard but we have to listen to our bodies or we end up paying for it. Hang in there, I'm praying for the both of you.
Yep, had one of those days yesterday. I lost my faith for a couple of minutes wondering why God would hate me so much that he would have me suffer for decades, and yet he only had to suffer three days. I got over it and, of course, had to spend a little time apologizing for losing my faith from the One who has kept me going for those same decades.
You two should really be proud of yourselves. A lot of people are having the same struggles as you , but don’t have six kids. I will never know how you do it! Well, done! Even today. ❤️❤️
You guys are already doing 10x what many healthy people do on a daily basis. Filter the negative, embrace the positive and move on. Being authentic is absolutely 100% of the influencer game, you guys do just fine in that regard! You're audio seemed fine to me btw
If you have six kids you need to give them chores to do. That would help a lot. If I was Dan’s wife I would make him as happy as I could. Just get those kids to work. Give them a small reward for doing a good job .
Hello you two are warriors! It is extremely hard to do all you do and not crash. It happens and as long as you stay focused on the positive. It will pass quickly. Please do not feel discouraged guilty or negatively about yourselves. You are so much stronger than that. Stay strong and as sane as you can with six munchkins. Lol
I know this is not my business! But can’t your older kids help you ?
You have to allow yourselfs grace!
Chins up, y’all! Cut yourselves a bushel of slack! You are loved by so many people! Revel in that love!
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Pain sucks.. i have been in continuous pain for like 10 years. I have had 3 failed back surgeries, and it sucks.. i can not even wash diahes, fold laundry, or sweep the floor for 5 minutes with put being un pain.
I thought about getting a helper who will help out with all that and plus sometimes cook good meals for ya. Its something to think about with the both of you. You should look into it.
Wow! Impressed by your realness! Thank you! 🙏 I’m the same way with socail media where I just want people to see the reality of life with a disability. Currently fighting off covid that I caught on my birthday.
I understand the struggle of chronic conditions! Thanks for being real & honest about this!!!It’s very rough at times! I have a condition called CRPS (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome) that caused doctors to consider giving me the choice to have my leg amputated. I did the surgery, and it has helped but also not as much as I had hoped for. It’s that part that’s so hard. I’m in my 20’s but I feel like I’m 80 sometimes dealing with the tiredness and phantom pain.
I hope you both get feeling much better soon!!! You’re very much so a good influence for me! ❤
I am sorry you have had a tough week. I lost a family member last week and have been struggling and grieving, and I turned to your channel tonight as you two always give me such hope and inspiration despite your challenges. Thank you for coming on and sharing your life, you are not alone and you both are very special to me.
So when you have a huge list and a huge pile of things pick the things that are going to benefit you the most at the time and that's what I would focus on not what you can't do but what you can possibly accomplish in one day one hour feeling the way you both I feel so helpless cuz I'm not near you or I would gladly help you out and I don't think I'm the only person that feels that way so if you had offers please take advantage of them don't try to do it all yourself it's not good and it's not and it's not necessary. Just know that you are not being judged and you are loved.
I was doing a breathing treatment, while watching today!! So I know how I'm down in the bottom also!!! God Bless!! and we Love Ya!! ♥♥♥🙏🙏🙏
Why can't the older kids help out . Like fold their clothes an put them away , your not a bad parent to teach. Your. Children. How to help out around the. House. . Chores. Are not. A. Bad. Thing , an if. The do. It wrong , just. Show them how to do it right. Its. A. Good. Thing. , an. It. Could. Help. You. Guys. Out even. Just. A. Lil. , God. Gave. You. All your. Beautiful. Children. An for. You to teach them. How to. Work. An. Help. You. Guys. Out , an. Give your self. Grace. !!
Andrea have faith in God he will ease 🙏 things for you. Talk with God, be honest about your feelings he listens 🎶 🙏 🙌
I love you ❤❤❤
we all love you...I hear you...pain is rough and can do a job on you mentally....rest...hopefully someone can come and help..do the laundry..cook some meals to freeze and take some of the load off of you...sending love from Massachusetts..wish you lived closer I would make you some meals..big hug sent.
You're amazing, I've been watching you for a number of weeks and had no idea you had MS!? Cut yourself some slack, please!
Much love to you both. I feel ya. It’s only me I have to clean up after, and I hit walls. I’m super frustrated with this Adhesive Arachnoiditis’s pain and fatigue. Can’t get through just day to day self care sometimes. I don’t know how you two beautiful people do what you do!
Hang in ther..i feel crappy too..and alot i know are not feeling the best..may be in the air...❤ i hear ya tho..but dnt feel pressured we need breaks occasionally
I've got issues with my back on top of Cerebral palsy I get it prayers going up, God bless prayers going up God bless you and your family
Andrea ❤ hope I’ve spelt your name right. I’m my son’s full time care giver in England as the health care systems have let him down big time & they don’t care I’m disabled myself. Honestly if you need any support please get in contact I’m sure I can help you through daily tasks ❤ sending so much love ❤ to you & your beautiful family ❤
Your love for one another makes both of you very strong for one another. Praying for a miracle for him. You both deserve it!
Just a thought...how much stress can be reduced by a laundry service?
It’s ok you guys are amazing and get well soon❤❤❤
Just wanted to add a note of encouragement to you with six kids and your problems you need to not be so harsh on all your things that need to be done can be at some point your emotional emotional health is I see when you are talking the dad looks sad. And I wonder if it's because he feels like you're carrying the brunt of the situation. I believe he has a little more to say than he is saying on your podcast just my feelings. You have a lot of people that are on your side including me they can possibly help you with some of your daily inconsequential things that you might want to let help with you cannot take it on yourself so I loving Lisa guest you take the word sorry and out of your vocabulary as far as daily chores what can we do to help to get help with love and empathy jan
You both need to get your older kids help around don't let them be lazy. I'm pretty sure you both can get a housekeeper, cause your home really, really needs to clean bad !!!
Can you get some outside help with the kids and your house? You guys need to get on top of this. Nutrition and sleep are so important for both of your health. I’m thinking about you.
It sounds you feeling guilty. If you tired rest. Don't be so hard on yourself guys. Sending love ❤️
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I'm a c3-7 and L4-6, incomplete. Four years. Somewhat ambulatory, which my surgeon at Hershey says is “a1%-er.” I am the mom, 3 frown kids and foster care kids, rf two of whom are still very much a oarrcof our family.
I say all this because I understand your situations. I sailed through life, easily working, momming and coaching. Now, they all expect the same, and I tend to expect the same of myself.
You are right. We need to give ourselves permission to relax and realize we are permanently injured and sick. We need to express this, in a kind manner, to those around us.
I needed to hear this message today and see your piles of laundry.
Thank you. I'm a new follower and found you through a “deep dive” last night.
I'm glad I didn't come up for air.
A song that hit my shorts a few days ago made me think of y’all and what God can and is doing in y’all’s life it’s called Still by kindred give it a listen I was in tears for just how much God loves all of us thanks for reminding to give myself Grace learning to be a mom to autism the devil tries to sit on my shoulder whispering in my ear but God love shows me different today hard but I’m punching today in the face one hit at a time because today is the day the Lord has made God bless
You guys need a miracle people need to come together and help you you and your family
Your only human and you are going to have bad days. It's just a fact of life. Everyone goes through them.
You are a good wife
I think when we set our goals for the day or even the week and it doesn't pan out, its disappointing. Sometimes you can only do what you can do and have to be okay with that. I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in 2016. Ive had 2 recurrences and each time it knocks my body down more and more. I'll set goals to get something done and if I dont do it, I get so mad at myself. Other times, I'll push too hard, like you did cleaning the living room and I'll really feel the aches snd and pains associated with it the next day. Please don't be so hard on yourselves. You're both doing amazing and if I didn't truly believe that, I wouldn't be following you. Both of you give me inspiration to keep going, even on days I would just rather be a couch potato.
Thank you 🥹💜🙏