agreed. it's also pathetic of assholes to shit on people who didn't do shit to them as transphobes are afraid of themselves so they lash out onto other people who don't fit into their sheltered, bigoted worldview.
Good for you. I had a grocery clerk job when I was 18, about a year before I started my transition, and I would frequently deal with people giving me shit because I looked pretty androgynous and it really sucked. Im sure it would have been hell actually trying to transition on the job. When I was 19 I ordered estrogen online and once I felt like I could start passing I moved to a different state and went stealth. It was a lot easier for me than trying to get people to acknowledge my transition who knew I was trans. Those first bunch of years into living as a woman were stressful though, always worrying about whether or not I was passing and if the people around me would figure out I was trans and people would out me. Having to deal with people’s transphobia day to day is such a nightmare. Unfortunately not everyone has the option of going stealth because it is really powerful just for protecting yourself from a hostile world. Especially in 2025.
I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through and continue to go through, I can't imagine. it's much easier being a transmasc than a transfeminine person, I can't imagine the struggle and the fear. you're right, a lot of people don't have passing privilege and can't go stealth and their lives are in danger everyday, it's awful. it's a scary world, take good care of yourself and stay safe! thank you for watching
It’s odd how personally offended some people get when you want to make changes to your own body… Sometimes it’s hard for me just to go out in some of my fits, so I can’t imagine transitioning and for a portion of that being on display for people to judge, *sometimes always! It’s brave for sure
right? like how was I hurting anyone by just existing as a trans person who didn't pass? my heart goes out to transfeminine people because I know they get it so much worse
Unfortunately, it's matter of your environment. One can be very lucky to be in a friendly environment in a small, even conservative, town, yet another can have bad luck and get into rigid and conservative group of people in a big city. I am a cis woman, and I was always in such lgbtq-friendly environments my whole life. Unfortunately, working places are usually a melting pot of people with different views, and conservative ones prevail, but that's the matter of not overcoming your childhood biases. Please let me tell you there are indeed a lot of people who thinks that one's body is the matter of this person's body, as well as sexual preferences etc, and it's far more perverted to me that people want to dig the dirt and judge other's private life.
If I was trans and my co worker was outing me I would first tell them not to and the dangers it would cause for me, if that’s didn’t work I’d talk to my manager, if that didn’t work find a new job and quit. I’m sorry this happened to you
thank you, yeah I should have told her to stop doing that, but I'm kind of shy in real life so I just didn't say anything. sometimes I have a hard time standing up for myself
Yeah I think that's a good point. Some people just don't understand that there a varying levels of everything. And also that it's not a body thing necessarily, it's a personality thing.
people don't realize that transitioning doesn't happen overnight. I was on a waiting list for HRT, so what was I supposed to do? and some trans people don't require medical transitions to treat their gender dysphoria. some people do medically transition and still aren't able to pass. I get what you're saying, but it's still frustrating
the song is by Twisted Sister
I'll never understand why people take so much time out of their day to hurt people who haven't done anything wrong.
honestly, same. it's just absurd
agreed. it's also pathetic of assholes to shit on people who didn't do shit to them as transphobes are afraid of themselves so they lash out onto other people who don't fit into their sheltered, bigoted worldview.
Every day I correct misgendering with a simple and polite “oh it’s ma’am, please”. About 50% of people stare or laugh at me 😞
I'm so sorry, that's awful. people can be so vile. I hope you can stay safe. I hope things get better for you
I met a cis gender women who is a cashier who told me that because she has hairy arms she has had customers harass her thinking she was trans.
that's nuts, people just are looking for a fight. that's so upsetting :(
Good for you. I had a grocery clerk job when I was 18, about a year before I started my transition, and I would frequently deal with people giving me shit because I looked pretty androgynous and it really sucked. Im sure it would have been hell actually trying to transition on the job. When I was 19 I ordered estrogen online and once I felt like I could start passing I moved to a different state and went stealth. It was a lot easier for me than trying to get people to acknowledge my transition who knew I was trans. Those first bunch of years into living as a woman were stressful though, always worrying about whether or not I was passing and if the people around me would figure out I was trans and people would out me. Having to deal with people’s transphobia day to day is such a nightmare. Unfortunately not everyone has the option of going stealth because it is really powerful just for protecting yourself from a hostile world. Especially in 2025.
I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through and continue to go through, I can't imagine. it's much easier being a transmasc than a transfeminine person, I can't imagine the struggle and the fear. you're right, a lot of people don't have passing privilege and can't go stealth and their lives are in danger everyday, it's awful. it's a scary world, take good care of yourself and stay safe! thank you for watching
Absolutely loved the messages in this. Great video man :)
thank you :)
It’s odd how personally offended some people get when you want to make changes to your own body…
Sometimes it’s hard for me just to go out in some of my fits, so I can’t imagine transitioning and for a portion of that being on display for people to judge, *sometimes always! It’s brave for sure
right? like how was I hurting anyone by just existing as a trans person who didn't pass? my heart goes out to transfeminine people because I know they get it so much worse
Thanks for this video!
thank you for watching :)
Unfortunately, it's matter of your environment. One can be very lucky to be in a friendly environment in a small, even conservative, town, yet another can have bad luck and get into rigid and conservative group of people in a big city. I am a cis woman, and I was always in such lgbtq-friendly environments my whole life. Unfortunately, working places are usually a melting pot of people with different views, and conservative ones prevail, but that's the matter of not overcoming your childhood biases. Please let me tell you there are indeed a lot of people who thinks that one's body is the matter of this person's body, as well as sexual preferences etc, and it's far more perverted to me that people want to dig the dirt and judge other's private life.
thank you, you're right
If I was trans and my co worker was outing me I would first tell them not to and the dangers it would cause for me, if that’s didn’t work I’d talk to my manager, if that didn’t work find a new job and quit. I’m sorry this happened to you
thank you, yeah I should have told her to stop doing that, but I'm kind of shy in real life so I just didn't say anything. sometimes I have a hard time standing up for myself
I could also be that some of them think you aren't trans, as "trans" for them would mean full on medical transition.
Yeah I think that's a good point. Some people just don't understand that there a varying levels of everything. And also that it's not a body thing necessarily, it's a personality thing.
people don't realize that transitioning doesn't happen overnight. I was on a waiting list for HRT, so what was I supposed to do? and some trans people don't require medical transitions to treat their gender dysphoria. some people do medically transition and still aren't able to pass. I get what you're saying, but it's still frustrating