Hermit life is the best for me. Had to go out the other day - All the people I interacted with were very nice and extremely helpful - I felt depressed for ages afterwards. I just seem to pick up all the cr*p from the ethers. Having said that, it's easier to visit another country, than take a bus
I do. Often, though i find that these days (65 years old) it is generally a very conscious act and usually with a sense of balance. Thanks for the video!
The older I've gotten, the more time i spend in solitude. I am fed up with all the gossip and talk about meaningless things, people go through the same cycles and conversations are too predictable. My mind however is very unpredictable and I often surprise myself with new perspectives on things and learn something new about myself. That is what is excites me the most at least. Take care and stay safe all.
This was so accurate on so many levels. I have lived alone this past 15 years and even before that when married and raising my four kids and working, I needed a lot of time on my own to decompress and work out what was going on around me and in me. I purposely chose to be self employed and later to work as a therapist and run my own mail order company because it allowed me to work at my own pace and take whatever time I needed to be alone with myself. The harder side to this has been the times when I have wanted to connect with others. I've spent too many years doing the chameleon bit instead of being myself around others, because of so often seeking acceptance and connection. Most of this came out of feeling and knowing that I have always been very different and from being judged as a child and young adult for being too sensitive. I tried to mould myself into what might be acceptable to others, but over the years the price for this was too high and now I just have one or two people I can mostly connect with as myself. Even when relating to my now grown up kids, I adore them all and know they also love me deeply, but I have to hide the more sensitive and psychic side of my life from them because they're uncomfortable with these things being expressed. I understand why they aren't comfortable but hate constantly having to hide and suppress a large part of what has been my life experience since childhood. I'm now trying to get to a point where I can find a way to express these things again more openly with others as I think it's important for all sensitives to do so at this time. For too much time on this planet, there has been a suppression and denigration of sensitivity and multi dimensional and individual spiritual experiences. Patriarchal, top down control and hierarchical social structures, patriarchal education systems and narrow industry and profit based scientific structures have suppressed the pursuit of understanding of the multi dimensional aspects of life and all that is and also suppressed radical solutions to key issues such as sustainable energy systems and our need for holistic, safe and effective healthcare. Our old systems, beliefs, politics and structures are now threatening our very existence on this planet. We are in a time of great upheaval and much needed change, where the old world is collapsing and we need to rapidly find radical, inclusive, sustainable, community oriented, caring solutions for this whole planet, for all its peoples and for the complex and beautiful natural world that we interdependently co-habit this planet with.
Somexs I feel guilty... for not socializing. It's like oh, 💡gotta go fake normal. Wait, they're not normal either tho! Y do I gotta fake anything other than to kill time
This is so true. I feel like an alien or a human from another planet because I alienate myself a lot. I feel as if there are no other humans on this planet this understands me. The way that I love, care, and view things are seriously from another planet. I have been single since 21. Now approaching 35, I often wonder if I will ever meet someone.
@@thecozyconstellation i totally get it. I still have hope to find a partner. I really hope it happens. I believe it will be magical when it happens. I hope the same for you😀😀😀
@@reesedaniel5835 I get it. As long as your soul is at peace, that is a beautiful thing. I love, true and deep love. I just haven’t met someone who are compatible to me that desires such a love.
@@g-force1699 “especially if you’re an INFJ you get to see the future before anyone does.”- You That statement seems sarcastic to me. However, finding jobs isn’t the difficult part for most of us INFJ’s. Finding jobs that allows us to perform them well, while navigating that workplace stress free from coworker’s BS, that’s the REAL challenge! There’s not enough “alone time” between working days to feel rejuvenated enough to tolerate those negative emotions daily.
I don't know how you guys do it when making these videos. The level of accuracy is incredible! A lot of INFJs, myself included, tend to have a hard time finding the vocabulary to explain what is going on in our minds. But somehow this channel manages to explain it so well and with detail that is so on point. At least for me! When I watch this channel, I'm usually thinking, "Hey, get out of my head!" 😂
Thank you for the kind feedback.. just an INFJ who's practiced their 'thoughts-to-paper' skills (or keyboard rather). But it's always nice to know when other INFJs relate 😌
This video is perfect and gives strength to all INFJs. It helps to explain so much about myself, thank you. The part about deception as a child while trying to fit in explains to me why I lied so much about my family, my origins, my life circumstances and no one genuinely knew me. After growing older, I stopped caring what people think of me, and life is much easier now and I actually enjoy being alone with myself. I'm okay, I was born this way.
You are so very welcome. I think it's a grueling process to self acceptance for most INFJs more specifically due to the fact that we feel so 'distant' from our surroundings. Thank you for sharing 🙌
This is true I can relate to everything. 😢We have such a hard time in this world, my problem is with society and the systems they have built it’s the number thing that I hate especially if you know it’s there to disadvantage others.
As INFJs, it is so true that we are always on the path to finding our real self. Who are we? Where do we fit in this world? What would we like to do with our life? It's like never growing up because we never stop to grow, to get one step closer to a deeper maturity of the mind. Over time, I stop feeling guilty about feeling "alien", and I started to look at it as a continous process of self-actualization (in Maslow's words) or of individuation (in Carl Gustav Young's words). It's not about being lost or self-alineated, but about being all the beings we can be. It's about exploring, discovering, being open and experimenting how we can be ourselves. We never totally fit somewhere because we never stop to evolve.
Am more alienated and isolated since having a spiritual awakening a few years ago where actually felt myself ascend to a higher vibration and am more psychic now seeing signs from the Other side! Add to that , having MS i.e. multiple sclerosis which is a known isolating chronic illness! Thankfully, it's made getting through this global pandemic easier than had I been a major extrovert! Introverts don't have a problem with lockdown and social distancing!
I am so alienated from even myself. It is ridiculous. Like my true inner emotions. I afraid of letting them out when I'm alone. I don't even like verbalizing to myself. There has been times where I start embracing who I really am. I start feeling guilty and ashamed. Like when I'm extremely sad or upset. I start crying. I start feeling ashamed of crying. Or honestly the things I really like. I feel shame for it. I like softer things. From music to feelings. I'm the kind of guy if a woman got me something like flowers. I would love it more. Than something practical or money. I just never want to tell people this. On here nobody knows me. So it is okay. Even though i could barely type it out. Im forty one. I'm really trying to be true to myself finally. In the past I get scared. Up goes the walls. I need to stop doing that finally.
I get it. It is so hard dealing with this personality type. It is beautiful but can feel crippling at times. I feel like an alien or a human from another planet.
This comment was so raw and touching. In fact, it's much more relatable for most people with this type than you could imagine - thank you for your vulnerability. 💙
@David Cook, you sound like you are empathic or highly sensitive person (HSP). Tons of good stuff out there on how to handle. I would suggest trying meditation if you haven't already and lean into those feelings of guilt and shame to see where they come from. Yes, it's absolutely terrifying when you first start but that's the very thing to learn. It isn't that scary at all to actually FEEL your emotions. Even if the guilt or shame stems from family, sit and feel EVERYTHING that comes up. If you can do it without blame/judgement (can be hard in the beginning) it even better because you are not pointing fingers just accepting the truth of your life. It took me several times to sit and pick at one of my guilts and each time it hurt less and now it's just like any other memory that has no emotion behind it. It's worth facing that fear to find yourself. 💛
I'm 40 and absolutely understand what you're sharing. I think when I was born or came to this planet, I arrived with my own suitcase of guilt & shame. Something to consider is just how necessary & vital you absolutely are to yourself, everyone & everything! It's hard to comprehend that there is something else outside the jungle other than the jungle while in the midst of the jungle. We have all been conditioned to understand in a linear fashion. Which simply is not true & does not apply. Feels like swimming against the current in a river. A lot of work just to stay afloat! Being OK with the way it is would not be wrong. You can't get away from being human or human nature. Though you can try to no avail.🔥
Yess Yes! Totally! I was recently told not to 'try to be different' that I'm same as everyone else and therefore not to expect any different treatment from my parents. I was already on edge with my peace and solitude being disturbed for the longest time and the accuracy of this video made me cry. Thank you for making such videos as always💜
Thank you for this. There is so much that I could never actually put into words. Others wonder why I am so "difficult" or "antisocial." This explain so much of what I knew in the recesses of my mind but I didn't understand about myself. Never fitting in is such a hard place to be, and going it alone helps me to show my own self some love I truly need.
#4 is the hardest for me because when my mood snaps, I try to figure out where it's coming from but it's a lot harder to deal with when living in a motel but luckily my mate understands and gives me the time and support, I need because it can be exhausting.
Ive happily been alienated for a few decades. My life has never been more serene . My circle of friends understand my need for solitude.. I'm 61 and content
All of these but definitely Number 6 and 7 for sure but sheesh this is creepy but not really….I was just talking about alienation yesterday as far as Gangstalking goes.
I hope to one day reach the level of spiritual gifts to commit myself to make sure I am making necessary steps in a positive direction, that I can find myself thinking of spiritual gifts to make sure I am available to my father in heaven. And i am missing a closer walk with thee, due to my choices that are still in reckless abandonment at times. I am trying, but it's a battle everyday. God bless you all and Jesus is always there for you. Amen ❤
Think of it like this.....if we open ourselves up to feel compassion for the world as a whole....we then feel everything right? We feel everyone too! If ppl are going through mental, emotional, psychological stuff.....they feel better around empaths bc they feel compassion from them! How would you like to feel everything and everyone? Including women who are stuck in human trafficking ect. I had to isolate bc ppl hated me or themselves or others or something and they were exuding so much anger & jealousy.....can you imagine how difficult it would be to feel all of that? I had to alienate for my own well-being, including blocking it out! It felt like the grief felt was literally killing me! This is why some ppl alienate! I mean you know you are feeling deeply when you can feel other people using the bathroom for goodness sake lol.....imagine feeling like you have to go to the bathroom all the time only to realize it's not you once the person that has to go actually goes and you feel relief 🤦♀️ now that my friend is definitely feeling deeply!
Yes…I like being alone so I can focus on my projects or just think about a problem. I don’t understand why I don’t want to join in …I’m just not up for it.
hah. Wow. I spend a lot of time avoiding the Matrix analogy as I invented the paradigm in a comic strip in the mid 1980's over a decade before the film adopted a number of concepts I had laid down in the comic strip and here I am enjoying the video on silent and bang The Matrix analogy turns up yet again. How INFJ is that!?
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*Do you think you intentionally alienate yourself as an INFJ?*
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I used too
Hermit life is the best for me. Had to go out the other day - All the people I interacted with were very nice and extremely helpful - I felt depressed for ages afterwards. I just seem to pick up all the cr*p from the ethers. Having said that, it's easier to visit another country, than take a bus
@@Elfdustify Same. It's exhausting just paying bills
I do. Often, though i find that these days (65 years old) it is generally a very conscious act and usually with a sense of balance. Thanks for the video!
I definitely do. Learning to break free of my own mask has been hard but beneficial!
Edit:: I will say, though, I do need solitude to recharge.
The older I've gotten, the more time i spend in solitude.
I am fed up with all the gossip and talk about meaningless things, people go through the same cycles and conversations are too predictable.
My mind however is very unpredictable and I often surprise myself with new perspectives on things and learn something new about myself. That is what is excites me the most at least.
Take care and stay safe all.
This was so accurate on so many levels. I have lived alone this past 15 years and even before that when married and raising my four kids and working, I needed a lot of time on my own to decompress and work out what was going on around me and in me. I purposely chose to be self employed and later to work as a therapist and run my own mail order company because it allowed me to work at my own pace and take whatever time I needed to be alone with myself.
The harder side to this has been the times when I have wanted to connect with others. I've spent too many years doing the chameleon bit instead of being myself around others, because of so often seeking acceptance and connection. Most of this came out of feeling and knowing that I have always been very different and from being judged as a child and young adult for being too sensitive. I tried to mould myself into what might be acceptable to others, but over the years the price for this was too high and now I just have one or two people I can mostly connect with as myself.
Even when relating to my now grown up kids, I adore them all and know they also love me deeply, but I have to hide the more sensitive and psychic side of my life from them because they're uncomfortable with these things being expressed. I understand why they aren't comfortable but hate constantly having to hide and suppress a large part of what has been my life experience since childhood.
I'm now trying to get to a point where I can find a way to express these things again more openly with others as I think it's important for all sensitives to do so at this time.
For too much time on this planet, there has been a suppression and denigration of sensitivity and multi dimensional and individual spiritual experiences. Patriarchal, top down control and hierarchical social structures, patriarchal education systems and narrow industry and profit based scientific structures have suppressed the pursuit of understanding of the multi dimensional aspects of life and all that is and also suppressed radical solutions to key issues such as sustainable energy systems and our need for holistic, safe and effective healthcare.
Our old systems, beliefs, politics and structures are now threatening our very existence on this planet. We are in a time of great upheaval and much needed change, where the old world is collapsing and we need to rapidly find radical, inclusive, sustainable, community oriented, caring solutions for this whole planet, for all its peoples and for the complex and beautiful natural world that we interdependently co-habit this planet with.
Time to quit criticizing myself for not enjoying lots of social gatherings.
Somexs I feel guilty... for not socializing. It's like oh, 💡gotta go fake normal. Wait, they're not normal either tho! Y do I gotta fake anything other than to kill time
I got tired of dumbing myself down and doing things I didn't really want or need to do while trying to fit in with people.
This is so true. I feel like an alien or a human from another planet because I alienate myself a lot. I feel as if there are no other humans on this planet this understands me. The way that I love, care, and view things are seriously from another planet. I have been single since 21. Now approaching 35, I often wonder if I will ever meet someone.
same. i've given up on finding a partner. i can't even find friends.
@@thecozyconstellation i totally get it. I still have hope to find a partner. I really hope it happens. I believe it will be magical when it happens. I hope the same for you😀😀😀
"I wish to be alone , or with those who know things others don't know." Rainer Maria Rilke.
@@reesedaniel5835 I get it. As long as your soul is at peace, that is a beautiful thing. I love, true and deep love. I just haven’t met someone who are compatible to me that desires such a love.
@@thecozyconstellation Same for me too
😅having trouble finding a job 👍👍 so true .
yep
Why? Is that because of your personality type?
@@g-force1699 more like the personality type of the business
@@g-force1699 in a way, true, but sometimes your needed and all you van do is go with the flow knowing that you will eventually get on track
@@g-force1699 “especially if you’re an INFJ you get to see the future before anyone does.”- You
That statement seems sarcastic to me. However, finding jobs isn’t the difficult part for most of us INFJ’s. Finding jobs that allows us to perform them well, while navigating that workplace stress free from coworker’s BS, that’s the REAL challenge! There’s not enough “alone time” between working days to feel rejuvenated enough to tolerate those negative emotions daily.
I think that's why I like to go off on scenic drives 😂. Solitude
I don't know how you guys do it when making these videos. The level of accuracy is incredible! A lot of INFJs, myself included, tend to have a hard time finding the vocabulary to explain what is going on in our minds. But somehow this channel manages to explain it so well and with detail that is so on point. At least for me! When I watch this channel, I'm usually thinking, "Hey, get out of my head!" 😂
Thank you for the kind feedback.. just an INFJ who's practiced their 'thoughts-to-paper'
skills (or keyboard rather). But it's always nice to know when other INFJs relate 😌
This video is perfect and gives strength to all INFJs. It helps to explain so much about myself, thank you. The part about deception as a child while trying to fit in explains to me why I lied so much about my family, my origins, my life circumstances and no one genuinely knew me. After growing older, I stopped caring what people think of me, and life is much easier now and I actually enjoy being alone with myself. I'm okay, I was born this way.
You are so very welcome. I think it's a grueling process to self acceptance for most INFJs more specifically due to the fact that we feel so 'distant' from our surroundings. Thank you for sharing 🙌
I agree.
This is true I can relate to everything. 😢We have such a hard time in this world, my problem is with society and the systems they have built it’s the number thing that I hate especially if you know it’s there to disadvantage others.
As INFJs, it is so true that we are always on the path to finding our real self.
Who are we? Where do we fit in this world? What would we like to do with our life? It's like never growing up because we never stop to grow, to get one step closer to a deeper maturity of the mind.
Over time, I stop feeling guilty about feeling "alien", and I started to look at it as a continous process of self-actualization (in Maslow's words) or of individuation (in Carl Gustav Young's words).
It's not about being lost or self-alineated, but about being all the beings we can be. It's about exploring, discovering, being open and experimenting how we can be ourselves.
We never totally fit somewhere because we never stop to evolve.
Am more alienated and isolated since having a spiritual awakening a few years ago where actually felt myself ascend to a higher vibration and am more psychic now seeing signs from the Other side! Add to that , having MS i.e. multiple sclerosis which is a known isolating chronic illness! Thankfully, it's made getting through this global pandemic easier than had I been a major extrovert! Introverts don't have a problem with lockdown and social distancing!
true. rather be alone than hang around stupidity selfishness, and fake people
I am so alienated from even myself. It is ridiculous. Like my true inner emotions. I afraid of letting them out when I'm alone. I don't even like verbalizing to myself. There has been times where I start embracing who I really am. I start feeling guilty and ashamed. Like when I'm extremely sad or upset. I start crying. I start feeling ashamed of crying. Or honestly the things I really like. I feel shame for it. I like softer things. From music to feelings. I'm the kind of guy if a woman got me something like flowers. I would love it more. Than something practical or money. I just never want to tell people this. On here nobody knows me. So it is okay. Even though i could barely type it out. Im forty one. I'm really trying to be true to myself finally. In the past I get scared. Up goes the walls. I need to stop doing that finally.
Wow, your truth in describing your pain brought me to tears. Thank you for telling us this💜
I get it. It is so hard dealing with this personality type. It is beautiful but can feel crippling at times. I feel like an alien or a human from another planet.
This comment was so raw and touching. In fact, it's much more relatable for most people with this type than you could imagine - thank you for your vulnerability. 💙
@David Cook, you sound like you are empathic or highly sensitive person (HSP). Tons of good stuff out there on how to handle. I would suggest trying meditation if you haven't already and lean into those feelings of guilt and shame to see where they come from. Yes, it's absolutely terrifying when you first start but that's the very thing to learn. It isn't that scary at all to actually FEEL your emotions. Even if the guilt or shame stems from family, sit and feel EVERYTHING that comes up. If you can do it without blame/judgement (can be hard in the beginning) it even better because you are not pointing fingers just accepting the truth of your life. It took me several times to sit and pick at one of my guilts and each time it hurt less and now it's just like any other memory that has no emotion behind it. It's worth facing that fear to find yourself. 💛
I'm 40 and absolutely understand what you're sharing. I think when I was born or came to this planet, I arrived with my own suitcase of guilt & shame. Something to consider is just how necessary & vital you absolutely are to yourself, everyone & everything! It's hard to comprehend that there is something else outside the jungle other than the jungle while in the midst of the jungle. We have all been conditioned to understand in a linear fashion. Which simply is not true & does not apply. Feels like swimming against the current in a river. A lot of work just to stay afloat! Being OK with the way it is would not be wrong.
You can't get away from being human or human nature. Though you can try to no avail.🔥
Yess Yes! Totally! I was recently told not to 'try to be different' that I'm same as everyone else and therefore not to expect any different treatment from my parents. I was already on edge with my peace and solitude being disturbed for the longest time and the accuracy of this video made me cry. Thank you for making such videos as always💜
Amazingly insightful content - thank you!! It helps me feel less alone to know that other INFJs are going through the same kind of stuff as I am!!
Thank you for this. There is so much that I could never actually put into words. Others wonder why I am so "difficult" or "antisocial." This explain so much of what I knew in the recesses of my mind but I didn't understand about myself. Never fitting in is such a hard place to be, and going it alone helps me to show my own self some love I truly need.
Yo isolation, is a vacation 💯💯💯💯💯
Yup we spend time alone, to not only attract the right people but to feel our OWN feelings
I love being in my head, it's so peaceful up here lol. I can connect with my inner child better. My inner world is better than fantasy
Exactly I love being alone in peace and quiet
This rings true for my long life. Even my siblings say they never could understand me. I’m the alien in alienation! 🤔
#4 is the hardest for me because when my mood snaps, I try to figure out where it's coming from but it's a lot harder to deal with when living in a motel but luckily my mate understands and gives me the time and support, I need because it can be exhausting.
Self isolation to get my life back on track and rid myself of negative influences.
Alienation is much,much better.
This is the first one i will rewind immediately..be right bacc
Ive happily been alienated for a few decades. My life has never been more serene . My circle of friends understand my need for solitude.. I'm 61 and content
All of these but definitely Number 6 and 7 for sure but sheesh this is creepy but not really….I was just talking about alienation yesterday as far as Gangstalking goes.
Perfect Timing to see this video. Explains so much.
I hope to one day reach the level of spiritual gifts to commit myself to make sure I am making necessary steps in a positive direction, that I can find myself thinking of spiritual gifts to make sure I am available to my father in heaven. And i am missing a closer walk with thee, due to my choices that are still in reckless abandonment at times. I am trying, but it's a battle everyday. God bless you all and Jesus is always there for you. Amen ❤
Think of it like this.....if we open ourselves up to feel compassion for the world as a whole....we then feel everything right? We feel everyone too! If ppl are going through mental, emotional, psychological stuff.....they feel better around empaths bc they feel compassion from them! How would you like to feel everything and everyone? Including women who are stuck in human trafficking ect. I had to isolate bc ppl hated me or themselves or others or something and they were exuding so much anger & jealousy.....can you imagine how difficult it would be to feel all of that? I had to alienate for my own well-being, including blocking it out! It felt like the grief felt was literally killing me! This is why some ppl alienate! I mean you know you are feeling deeply when you can feel other people using the bathroom for goodness sake lol.....imagine feeling like you have to go to the bathroom all the time only to realize it's not you once the person that has to go actually goes and you feel relief 🤦♀️ now that my friend is definitely feeling deeply!
I really resonanted with everything you mentioned today.
So welcome or welcome back to psychos 💚💛
We love to hear it, thank you for the support 🙌
Spot on.
I can be alone and not be lonely. However i can feel lonely when in a crowed room.
Yes…I like being alone so I can focus on my projects or just think about a problem. I don’t understand why I don’t want to join in …I’m just not up for it.
I never feel alone because I pray almost constantly. I consider myself kept by God
Yikes. I feel like I've been violated 😧
100% accurate
So true...
hah. Wow. I spend a lot of time avoiding the Matrix analogy as I invented the paradigm in a comic strip in the mid 1980's over a decade before the film adopted a number of concepts I had laid down in the comic strip and here I am enjoying the video on silent and bang The Matrix analogy turns up yet again. How INFJ is that!?
At 65 I just prefer my own company 95% of the time
😮 I thought it was depression.
Until now!😂
yep
So me 😅
💯🔥💃🌹🎯‼️🙌🙏👌
Yeah,.. I'm in the right place. Thank you my friend.🙏🔥🪶🌱