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As someone who has struggled with body image and weight issues for most of my life I can honestly say watching you be so confident and beautiful has helped increase my own confidence and start to play around with my own 'style' so while it's sad to hear you are feeling this way please know that finding and watching you has helped me a lot if that helps at all. So glad to see Benji doing so well, he's a super star. And of course Bonnie is being as cute as always. Excited to see whats to come, please believe in yourself as much as we, your viewers, believe in you. Have a wonderful evening xx
I’m so glad you said this to Brogan. I came to say something similar. Brogan. Life changes and bodies change and no matter what size your body is you are worthy of love and respect and everything that life offers. I know it’s hard sometimes but you are inspiring all the time with how you are able to be neutral about your body and live your best life. I have struggled for over 30 years with diet culture and body shame and I’m so proud of you for paying attention to your own thoughts about your body so early in life. There is a better way than shame and diets. We all deserve better and I know you will get through this. ❤
Oh, Brogan. I wish you could see yourself as all your online friends do (and your real life friends too, I bet)! You are beautiful inside and out and you’re dealing with so much with Benji’s recovery. I know from experience that these huge life events can shake us up a bit. I went through a stage of not wanting to have my picture taken and hated seeing myself in the mirror because of getting older. What helped me was when I was sorting out family photos and I saw pictures of my mum at different ages and noticed that I thought she was beautiful in all of them, no matter how old or what size she was. I think some of my self consciousness was due to menopausal symptoms but also I’d been through some problems at work that made me feel like no one liked me. What I’ve learnt is that these things tend to pass (and if they don’t, ask for help). Lots of love, look after yourself and your lovely husband to be.
I relate to your body struggles so much. I kinda fell off the wagon, when I had a burnout in 2021 and was quite depressed. Working out has helped, I haven’t lost the weight I gained yet, but I’m slowly working on it. Just being active for myself and mental health helps. You are beautiful inside and out, remember that. Human beings are far too harsh on ourselves. Glad Benji is doing well.
I’ve struggled with body issues for a long time now. It’s gotten worse since lockdown, I’d managed to start to loose weight and begin to feel a little like my old self back in September 2019 (my 50th). Then lockdown and menopause hit at the same time, and I’ve gained a considerable amount of weight, so much so that I hate to look at myself in the mirror, and photos are a no no. As for clothes, the bigger and baggier the better, not looking forward to the summer. I feel over the past few years I’ve lost who I am, and can’t seem to snap out of it. So I’m glad it’s not just me. Much love from Liverpool xxx
Smashing it, skin care routines, workouts, tidying, cooking, cleaning, fitting in walks and time to read.....absolutely winning at life. What seems to be a normal everyday task to one can be a hurdle for another, so thanks for being so inspiring even doing the day-to-day and motivating everyone to get up off their butt and get stuff done xxx
I have been stuck in a rut for years regarding weight and style etc. I’ve piled on weight because of my medication and that I’ve got fibromyalgia so in excruciating pain almost constantly. I started slimming world two weeks ago(I had to miss this weeks because I’ve come down with a gnarly virus) so haven’t weighed in yet and I’m pushing myself so hard to stick to it. You got this Brogan, you’re a gorgeous person inside and out. You’ll get there. I’m proud of you for making an effort with it all. Xx
I lose my sense of self ALL THE TIME! You are not alone! I’m the biggest critic of my body & face. I always have been. Just keep pushing forward & love yourself everyday. ❤️
hi Brogan! i’ve definitely had my ups and downs with body positivity and my confidence and it’s only within the last couple of years that i’ve been able to find solutions. Regarding clothes, i found it SO helpful to measure myself and shop according to my measurements instead of sizes. Things fit me so much better and I feel more confident in my style because of it! I’ve also learned what exercises I enjoy doing. Don’t feel like you need to sprint on a treadmill because everyone else is. I like going for long walks, learning kpop dances in my living room, stationary biking, and adult gymnastics classes. It feels less like a chore and more like fun :) And lastly I’ve come to view my body as neutral. It’s a body and it’s going to do things that a body does. Good things, bad things, neutral things. You don’t have to be positive about your body if you don’t want to.. you can be neutral! I don’t love my big thighs but I don’t hate them either :) And remember, we aren’t 18 anymore. It’s easy to compare where we were.. but that was 10 years ago! To quote my favorite show, The Mindy Project, “you’re a woman, and that’s good. Look like a woman.” :)
My husband and I have been through some serious health issues in the last few years. His surgeon explained that research is showing that not only the patient, but importantly, the caregiver as well, can go through a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. We think we are coping but we are not and that manifests in different ways. Add that to everything everyone went through with Covid. I have always been a stress eater. When the stress goes away I can lose weight. Hang in there you will come out the other side back to where you were before.
With the self confidence thing I can totally relate. I struggle alot with depression and after spending two years being on meds etc I gained so much weight and nothing of mine fits now. I struggle to get the weight back off no matter what but I'm learning to be content and try treat myself to new clothes which suit my shape etc instead of treating myself badly for not fitting in anything else! You're such a beautiful woman brogan and you shine amazingly, you help so many people so please remember that! Your videos bring such comfort and always feel like chatting with a friend❤
Aww Brogan, I totally relate to how you’re feeling about your body atm. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable with us & it sucks when our mental takes a tumble and our body image does too. I’m the biggest I’ve been and it’s like I don’t know how to dress anymore. I too have lived in comfy clothes but now that summer is round the corner I’m like ‘okay, now what’. Time to unpack with my therapist but hearing you share your story made me realise it’s time I was honest about how I feel atm too. Sending you big love and hugs of solidarity ❤
I am so pleased to hear that Benji's fatigue is going and his body is healing. Take it easy both of you. You've had a lot going on Brogan it really is such a worry when our loved ones are poorly. Eat healthy, take gentle walks or swimming which is such a good all round exercise. The best skin care I've used is Liz Earle. I always return. Really pleased to see the positivity from you both. Be proud lady xxx
You are always so honest Brogan and I absolutely know what you’re going through. I want to say that I started following you about a year ago and you have changed my life for the better! I love your kindness and attitude towards everything. I love watching your Q & A’s, detailed travel blogs and shopping or cooking adventures. I find joy seeing the happiness in your face as you celebrate your successes not only with your career, but in your relationship with Benji. You have inspired me to work out and I lost 30 lbs with your help! Did you know that? You’re an inspiration to many so I thank you for that! I’m thrilled Benji’s surgery was a smashing success and I cried along with you when you finally had that moment of peace knowing he made it through and you let strangers like me see your raw emotion during a vulnerable moment. Keep being you because “you” are amazing! Whatever you need to do to focus on you, you have a ton of support and I can’t wait to see where you go from here. Sending love and support from NC in the US! Xoxo
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable look into your lives, our family is sending positive healing thoughts to Benj! And Brogan, I often have similar thoughts about my own self confidence. I’m a mom of four… I don’t look like the ‘ideal body’… but I have always admired you and your positive outlook. I truly appreciate you ❤ The world needs more influencers like you!
Hi Brogan I totally get how you feel about no longer styling outfits or feeling the same about clothes.. I put on some weight recently and find that my clothes don't fit the same (or at all) anymore, so I'm on my own journey of acceptance and trying to fall back in love with fashion.. Just wanted you to know you're not alone in this feeling, there are others who understand.. Thanks for the vlog
I really enjoyed your vlog, so happy to see Benji on the road to recovery and Bonnie being really cute❤️ Brogan you are such a beautiful person on the outside and a beautiful person on the inside. Love and kindness shine through your face. I think you are wonderful....you are going through a lot right now and I think that might have a part in how you are feeling as well as your job being in front of a camera most of the time. You are more than enough as you are sending you a big hug❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘
Please don’t feel down, I know its hard. I’m in a rut too, my body has changed so much after having two kids and I’m finding it so hard to find the motivation to start exercising. I’ve aways loved your style ❤ x
I'm so sad you're feeling blue right now. I'm a similar size and colouring to you and whilst I struggle with my self-esteem, I have always loved your positivity and energy. I completely understand how you feel but let me just say you are beautiful in every way and you need to start being your biggest cheerleader and speak to yourself with the kindness that you would show a friend 💖
Loved watching this vlog, as I do all of your vlogs. Lovely to see you back. And lovely to see Benji doing so well after his surgery. I totally understand how you're feeling. I've struggled with my weight all my life but mostly over the last 3 years due to medical issues a lot of weight has gone back on but isn't coming off. It's completely messed with my head and my confidence. And it takes a lot to get back in a place where you feel comfortable with yourself. Just remember you are wonderful, you have a loving fiance who adores you, your beautiful Bonnie and family and friends who love you for you. And you are beautiful inside and out. You'll get back to feeling more yourself soon I'm sure. It's been a lot recently. You've got this lovely. 🩷💪 xx
You guys are beyond sweet! Sending you both so much love and healing vibes. Completely understand the whole “trying to process” and “not feeling yourself”. We have a few things going on too. Just trying to look onwards and upwards! We have Disneyland California booked for October. Tell me your must do’s please xxx
I totally understand where you are coming from on the self reflection and not feeling pleased with your self and body. I'm struggling with it as well. Just hang in there. We all have our ups and downs, but it is how we deal with them that matters and I know you will get through this. Hope Benji is having a good day today!
Firstly you’re so lovely and you’ve both been through so much and it’s hard when your partner is seriously unwell because you don’t prioritise your own health, that’s tough. Secondly I can completely relate and feel exactly the same about loosing my mojo in my own skin and feeling I lack style but I honestly believe it’s the cold winter months! My priority has genuinely been staying warm and wrapping up not fashion. I find I really explore fashion in summer but get stuck in a rut of hoodies and leggings in winter xx
Brogan, thank you for being so sincere and open with us. You are absolutely beautiful inside and out. You have a heart of gold, your eyes sparkle so bright, and even my husband loves your joyous laugh lol. It is easy to let negative thoughts get to us at times. Just know they are not true! You are truly lovely inside and out.
Brogan, I think you are a rockstar and I aspire to be more like you! I think everyone goes through body image crisis (I know I do), but just keep doing things to make you feel good and hopefully you will start to feel better. Be kind to yourself. You have been through a pretty traumatic experience recently so you're bound to feel a bit more emotional than normal. Just wanted to let you know that I think you're amazing and I love your videos. xxx
I feel your pain as I prefer autumn/winter where I can hide in jumpers and coats, wool hats but am dreading summer when you have to lighten the layers and feel more exposed . Though I'm almost 14 months of being cancer free my hair is at the messy stage of re growth where I can't quite style it and sometimes I feel self conscious - I think I might have to invest in some new summer hats x Glad to see your doing so well Benji and all smiles x
I feel you. I used to looove fashion, I wore heels to college everyday along with funky outfits. All while carrying a big bag and portfolio. Since becoming a mom and entering a working mom mode I stick to black skinnys and jumpers. When I film you only see me chest up so I do not bother. I feel like I have lost a little bit of myself but recently I am trying to reclaim that. We have booked loads of gigs just for mum and dad to go to and I am planning to wear some nice things I cant wear while being in a mom mode :) My ''not perfect'' body has stopped me from wearing a lot of things but I think its time to show ourselfs some love and just do what makes us happy :)
Thank you for being so vulnerable about your body image! I have also been feeling this way as spring is coming and I’m pulling out old warm weather items that don’t quite fit how I’d like anymore…sorry you’re feeling this way but grateful to have solidarity with someone i look up to ❤ all we can do is try to take care of ourselves and be gentle! would love to hear updates on how you’re feeling as we trod on :) all my best!
Hi Brogan, please be kind to yourself. You have had a rough couple of weeks. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I hear you, though. When you are in a rut, things look worse than they are. Love watching your videos. You are very inspiring. I'm happy to see Benj is doing well ❤❤
Sorry to hear you're feeling down, understandable when you've been through so much recently. I'm glad Bonnie is giving you plenty of snuggles. Glad to hear Benji is feeling better. It's lovely to see you so excited about the events you've got coming up! Good luck with the awards x
I’ve definitely been struggling with my body these changing seasons, specifically with my face and arms. I recovered from an eating disorder and managed to feel neutral to my body in the autumn winter months but I think there’s something about spring and summer that brings up insecurities, I think it’s probably because our bodies are more exposed again. It’s been helping me to remember that actually I still wasn’t happy and confident in myself when I was at my thinnest which is real proof that my body wasn’t the problem. I’ve been shifting the focus on how things make me feel rather than how I look because it’s definitely not where our worth comes from. I’ve taken myself shopping for new clothes in my new size which has really helped, I’m trying not to mourn the old and embrace the present. Hope you start feeling better soon too, it’s been a really stressful time for you too which is probably having an impact💛
Thank you for sharing about body confidence struggle at the moment, I’m in a similar position too. It’s a constant battle for me actually, even though I am so very proud of my body I do still very much struggle with this… I have found a wonderful book called, ‘you are not a before picture’ I read it last summer and i had the most peaceful summer with my body image and wore shorts for the first time since I was a child. Take care B, we all love you ❤ x
Aww Brogan. I feel the same about my body right now. I’m not a naturally thin person and have to work every day at weight management and healthy eating. You are off to a good start ! Work on it with Benj, it’s easier together. Most of all, remember God made you perfect, take care of your beautiful self!
Sending love to you. Body image is so hard. I've been there and currently falling back into that rut. I had weight loss surgery in February 2022, I'm now down 125 lbs. from my highest weight. All of the sudden I feel like I don't know how to dress my body qnd have loads of loose skin, it has made me feel frumpy. Thank you for being real with us. ❤
I can definitely relate to some body image struggles. I’ve put on some weight too and was feeling neutral about it too until more recently. I have to say that seeing you and how confident you are always really helps me. It’s also helped me to dress more for my body type rather than trying to fit into some mold of what I think I should be. So glad Benji is feeling ok!
I completely feel you on body image, style, and struggling with confidence. It's so much harder when you have to spend time in front of the camera too. I don't know what I would do without my therapist. It's hard, ongoing work but it is truly life-changing. Sometimes you just need a little help to realize you deserve to be happy (which you absolutely do, Brogan!).
Thank you for sharing that vulnerable moment. I was just looking through my wardrobe and feeling the exact same. Ive lost my sense of self since beinh a mum and my body has changed. You sharing makes me feel less alone. You are a beautiful person 😊 you will find your self again❤
Thanks for sharing!!! What a lovely catch-up!!! 😍😍😍 I've been too busy recently to watch any videos; I just got back from New York City, where I went with one of my daughters. We had an AMAZING time but I'm still exhausted from the trip! So sorry you've been down! You've been through a lot recently, so please be gentle with yourself!!! 💗💗💗 Continued love and health to both of you from across the pond!!! 💜💜💜
I lost myself after having a baby and it's taken just a bit over a year to be happy with how I'm looking and finding my style. It's a season and it'll pass. Just give yourself grace and don't be too hard on yourself. Buy the clothes you like (I totally got inspired buy all your skirts and bought some!) change your hair, move your body and eat healthy, yummy foods. I love watching your videos because we have a similar body type and it's so nice to watch a relatable influencer
Catching up on your vlogs and I just wanted to pop in and say that I’m also feeling that way. I’ve felt this way for a long time unfortunately. It’s so hard but it is nice to know you’re not alone as sad as it is.
I 100% know how you feel. I'm now dreading the weather warming up as i have no confidence to wear anything but leggings and jumpers. I have literally looked online for weeks for new clothes and they either don't have my size or suit my body shape. I have always been plus size and it never bothered me but lately I just look at myself in the mirror and have no idea who the person is looking back at me. You always look beautiful and suit all your pretty dresses but someone telling you how good you look when you feel the way you do makes no difference. Fingers crossed spring and summer are happy times for us and not ones full of constant worrying and thinking about what we look like. Although you can't see it you are such a happy, vibrant lovey human being 🐝
Oh hun you are so beautiful ❤ especially your hair. Thank you for being so honest on this video about how you feel. I hope you find your confidence again soon. Also really appreciate all the realness 😊 not showing the house tidy all the time like so many do! Xx
oh Brogan, your videos have always been such a comfort thing for me and I'm normally a silent watcher and never comment but when I heard you talking about your self confidence I just had to! I am feeling exactly the same right now and just can't describe it or put my finger on why I've changed all of a sudden but its nice to know I'm not the only one. I hope you start to feel more yourself soon cause you really are such a beautiful person inside and out!
Brogan, you are so beautiful! Every time I watch your videos I think about how lucky Benji is to have your beauty in his life! I have body image issues at times, and what helps me is seeing other people wear amazing outfits or seeing their partners treat them well and seeing them feel confident in themselves. It reminds me that I look good too! But also, my body image issues eb and flow, so I don't get too hard on myself when out of the blue, I feel bad after just feeling good. It's normal to feel down at times. Journaling has really helped me.
Hi Brogan, so sad to hear you’re struggling with self image at the moment. I’m so grateful that there are wonderful women out there now for us to see and understand our bodies are beautiful. When I was young and getting married I dieted like crazy and lost 2 stone for the big day. Afterwards, during possibly the worst time of my life, I put on 5 stone in 4 months. I have yo-yo dieted since then but have settled at my weight and promised myself I will never diet again. I watch beautiful plus size creators and have learned how to style myself and am learning to love and nourish myself. It sounds like you already know this so please please keep doing it. Nourish your body, heart and soul. Keep strong physically and mentally and treasure your health. It’s a hard slog but we can unlearn these awful unrealistic beauty standards and be proud of our bodies xx
Re your bad body image feelings, you are not alone. I find when I’m going through hard things my brain will fixate on the “problems” with my body because they are “easier” to process than the hard things. When that happens I force myself to recognize the good things about my body beyond aesthetics, because I’ll never really win that game with myself. When I saw Bonnie snuggling up against you I thought, “look at the comfort and warmth her body gives to her.” And also how your body is helping you take care of Ben. And how your body allows you to film the videos that bring your 100k plus subscribers joy every time you post! Now that is beautiful. ❤ I am so grateful for your posts.
Hi Brogan, I so enjoy you vlogs you are such a genuine person so down to earth.Please don’t be hard on yourself about your body image I’m sure I speak for most of us women & men! that we all go through times in our lives where we hate what we see in the mirror .But I’m sure people don’t see us how we see ourselves……you are lovely inside and out and you always look lovely in your outfits too…..judging by your followers you are loved xx it’s lovely to see Benji doing so well he will soon be back to his old self…enjoy rest of your weekend…I looking forward to Primark vlog …lots of love xxx
I 100% agree with you on self image, my body has changed so much. My baby is 15 months old and since he was born I have lost all sense of style. I can’t remember what I used to wear, me weight has increased over the year and I feel quite lost like I have no idea where to begin to get any sort of style back but I’m opting to get there this spring / summer and get in a good mind set 💪 xxx
Sometimes it’s our expectations that we have of ourselves that bring us down. I know with me, I set really high expectations for myself that I never met and I got really frustrated. Even when you meet your expectations, you know it’s a fluke thing and that it probably won’t happen again. I am in the same boat with you. It’s hard, but it’s all about recognizing your in you head and taking the steps necessary so that way you live your life. Your biggest critic is yourself. :)
I have been taking a break from social media and UA-cam. Catching up. I am so glad Beji's surgery went well qnd he's feeling better. Love Catching up with you! ❤from Colorado, USA.
Thank you for sharing and being so honest send a big hug… I think you are describing physically and mentally the result of stresses in your life. When someone you love has health problems it incredibly stressful for those around , please acknowledge that and find someone to share that with , once Benji is feeling back to his old self you’ll be able to find the happiness within yourself , but to us you are always a 🌟
I been feeling rough the last year! My sleeping pattern has been horrendous! I think everyone goes through like this in life and I think we do because we’re changing in more ways than one! I use to love wearing make up going out with friends and I realised that’s not me anymore! With you B I think you are so relatable and we all love you regardless of how you been feeling! Keep being you we all love respect and appreciate you! All the best ❤xxxx - Soph xxx
Can totally relate re:struggling with self image/ losing who you are along with editing videos and seeing your own face and pulling yourself apart. Especially when you look at videos from 5/6/7 years ago in my early 20s and it’s tough! I’m still trying to ‘find myself’ if you get my jist and I hope you are able to too ❤
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your struggles with body confidence! I can totally relate. Back in 2020 I had developed some really healthy habits and lost some weight and was in better shape. Then, we adopted our two children and a close family member was diagnosed with terminal cancer… my life was flipped upside down! I was in survival mode for the first year or so. I’ve definitely put on weight and dealt with general body changes. Finally in a good spot to start putting those little healthy habits back into my day. I know exactly how you feel!
Hey brogan I love love love these types of videos of yours and loving the book recommendations 💗 just wanted to say completely symphatise with the body comments as I feel the same too Im so greatful you shared how you're feeling as it made me feel a little bit more normal for not being completely in love with our bodies like we're always told we should be. I'm the same I've gained a little bit of weight and have been struggling finding outfits for my new body and definitely found it a bit upsetting at times. You always look amazing in your outfit pics and have really inspired me. Thankyou for sharing your world ❤ xx
Brogan when you went into body image, my ears perked up. Everything you stated is exactly how I also been feeling lately. I just wanted to comment and let you know you're not alone. We as women go through these motions and even though it sucks to feel this way, just know there are many of us that experience feelings of low confidence. I don't want to be that person that states; but you're so beautiful! (because you are), I just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone in your thinking. Complimenting each other is great, but confidence within ourselves runs so much deeper. xoxo 😘❤️
Hey Brogan!!! I’ve been feeling a bit bummed before with how my body is. I’m feeling a bit better. I’m determined to get my psoriasis gone and my weight down. I’m determined to focus on myself and get in a better mindset about that. I’ve also been stressed about seeing my Dad in a negative state lately. You are an absolutely beautiful person inside and out. I appreciate you sharing what you do. I’ve recently started re-organizing and de-cluttering in my house. I’ll have to share some pictures of the progress. As always Felicity & I send loads of love to you, Benj, & Ms. Bonnie.
I feel you so much! Im struggle all the time! After giving birth it is even worse! But I really thought that you were so confident about wearing everything! You look always so beautiful! I really was taken you as a example 😊. So glad to hear that benji is doing better! I felt so sad for you the day of the operation! Fun fact! You are born on the same day as my baby girl! It was that day her first birthday 🥳. Her first trip to disney will be next march! So excited 🎉
Love your chatty vlogs, can relate with body image and fashion. Im hoping as its felt like the longest winter 😩 that ill get my mojo back with clothes as the sun comes out more. I struggle being short to find things that fit properly. Also nothing out there is inspiring me. Sometimes we are ticking the boxes, eating well/exercise but actually its something hormonally stopping our bodies from 'losing weight'. But keep smiling and chatting and we can all support each other xxx
I completely relate to your body chat to the point that my boyfriend thought they were my words! I find when we approach the sunnier weather and I can't get away with jumpers and leggings, I have to really look at my body. I am not happy with it but I am hoping with following some positive people on socials (including yourself), we can do this all together...and hopefully learn to love our bodies a bit more! 💚
Hey Brogan, I felt for you when you shared how you are feeling down about yourself right now. For me, what has helped has been refocusing on health and strength with my fitness so rather than what exercise will do for my appearance, more so what it'll do for my fitness long term. I find that helps to take the pressure off but also has the same benefits. I'm a runner and I recommend sticking with couch to 5k, the first few weeks are the hardest but then running makes you feel good after awhile! Stick with it ❤
It's been lovely spending time with you in this vlog! I always love your chatty home vlogs. I'm so glad to see how well Benji is doing, and I think it's to be expected that you are feeling a bit off. Since I've been following you I have so admired your confidence and positivity. No one feels terrific all of the time, and the best thing you can do is be gentle with yourself. You are such a lovely person inside and out! Much love from Colorado!❤
Lovely video to see Benji making great progress. I know when I went wedding dress shopping my head starting questioning the body I had always felt comfortable in. Wedding dress sizes can be on the smaller size too, so it can be hard to have to size up 3/4 sizes than your usual dress size, that can mess with your head. Weddings bring on a while tonne of emotion. Benji loves you for you, your family and friends love you for you. You love you for you! ❤
Hi Brogan, I'm really struggling atm with my body image too. I've put on weight since the pandemic and after having surgey on my leg and my mental health dipped because of it. I tried to embrace the new curvier me and especially because I can't work out like I used too because of my leg so that's tough. I used to be a runner but now I'm trying to find things that work without being too physically demanding on my leg. I got engaged last month in new York and I'm over the moon but the minute i start thinking about wedding dresses and try ones I start to panic because I want to look and feel my best self and right now anything but. So you're not alone. I'm thrilled you've found a dress. Can't wait to see what you've gone for. I duno about you but when I looked into dresses wow the choice is crazy, there's almost too much choice haha. It's kinda overwhelming knowing what'll look good on me and my shape. I reckon it's the nicer weather approaching and feeling like last year's clothes don't fit, definitely a combination of the two because in the lovely sunny months I don't wear as many layers so I guess I feel a bit more exposed. We'll get there but know you're not alone and we all do this to ourselves. I'm so pleased to see Benji is feeling a difference and he's up and about. Brilliant to see. Love your home vlogs, your content always makes me smile and feel relaxed. Kirsten x
Loved this vlog, so glad Benji is doing well, I’m currently away doing a feature film in Belgium and every time I’ve felt homesick I’ve watched your videos because they’re such a comfort for me xx
Thank you for sharing your struggles - super brave ❤ I think what you expressed to feeling is totally normal! During the pandemic (and still now!) I lived in legging and jumpers and it’s a really difficult rut to get out of because of course bodies change, preferences change, everything changes! You are beautiful and have such a pure spirit! One day at a time ☀️ Thank you for creating videos that always put a smile on my face and help me get out of my own head!
You are such a genuine, lovely, kind hearted person and no wonder you have been in your head. You've been through a pretty traumatic time and that kinda thing can make it very hard to see how other people see you as a caring, beautiful, young lady. You have such a wonderful family with Benji and Bonnie. It is very hard in the summer months especially. I found one thing that helped was intermittent fasting, takes some getting used to but after a week or so will be very much the norm. Just a thought. But please keep doing what you are doing, find your videos so calming and interesting. Keep smiling
I only discovered your channel last year and now I'm hooked! I'm so glad Benj is on the mend and I cried with you. I just wanted to say I think you're amazing inside and out and hopefully all the other nice comments will help a little. Your channel and what it represents is truly inspiring, and that's all because of you! So I hope on a down day you can read the comments and find some stranger's words that make you smile xx
Know how your feeling, I lost myself 5 years ago when my other half died he was only 52, lost my mojo, it took time but now I'm feeling better about myself, your a lovely person inside and out dont be too hard on yourself ❤
Great to see you, bonnie and Benji doing well. In answer to your question, I’ve been busy booking myself on to a Brogan inspired Norwegian Fjords cruise with P&O with 4 excursions! Nervous as I’m travelling alone and never done a cruise so no idea how everything works! All part of the adventure!
Thank you Sophie! Oh my goodness, WOO! Have the BEST time. You will love it. It's so amazing to be immersed in nature and peace. Cruises are so good for solo travel too! xx
Hi, I’m doing my first solo Norwegian cruise in November. I can’t deny it’s daunting because I’ve never traveled alone, but have cruised before which helps a little. Have a great time.
I was in an accident 3 years ago which left me with injuries so I put on so much weight. It’s really had me down I hate how I look so this year I’m really knuckling down and being strict but when I see myself on camera and look back at videos 3 years ago its mega depressing. We need to learn to accept ourselves don’t we xx
The last year I’ve had a bit of an issue with body dysmorphia. I too gained weight and I felt stuck in a rut. I think we all go through it multiple times in our lives. I’ve been trying to make healthier choices and it’s helped with my mental state and helped with sort of having a reset. Journaling helps too. Just getting the intrusive thoughts on paper and out of my head! 💜💜
Sending you SO much love! That's such a good idea. I write a gratitude journal every day but I definitely think getting it all out of my head too will help. Thanks so much xx
Just catching up with the vlog. My favourite kind. Thanks for sharing with us and also for being open about your thoughts of body image. I'm currently going through this. Not just image but also style. I feel like I want to get rid of all my clothes and start again 😆 but I just want to say that as someone with a similar body shape, I've loved your positivity about body image previously and also LOVE your style! 💖
Loved the vlog, can’t wait to see your trips in May. Can totally relate to how you’re feeling about your body, it’s really important to discuss these times where you’re feeling low. I had a baby last March and really struggle to feel good about myself and like photos but I always try to remind myself that my body grew my baby and when my son looks back at our photos he won’t care what I look like, he’ll just enjoy seeing our memories. It’s really hard to shift that mindset to feeling positive about yourself but you’re beautiful and you deserve to feel it ❤️
Thank you for sharing how you feel in your video. My body has also changed a lot over the last year and I wish I was more confident. I am going to Disneyworld for the first time and it really got me down trying on all my summer clothes with none fitting. Your confidence in your Disney videos has been helping a lot
I can fully relate to your body issues at the moment. I have always hated my body shape, a lot is hereditary so I can’t do anything about that. I did loose 4 stones but I was way too skinny and now I’ve put 3 stone back on. I still have days where I hate my body but then I have to remind myself that life is not a dress rehearsal and as long as I try to eat healthily I need to live life to the fullest. You have so much going on in your life it’s not surprising that at some point it will all get just too much for you. You are a beautiful human being who gives so much to others.
Hi Brogan, glad to see you and Benji back vlogging. Just a quick question about Bonnies food, what do you mix with her dry food? I have a black cocker spaniel puppy (Lara) and would love to add something tasty to her food but have no idea where to start. Bonnie looks like she loves her food xxx
So glad to hear benji is doing so well , I’m not going to lie I’ve struggled so much these past 3 weeks I’ve cried so much I’ve felt so down I know it’s probably pregnancy hormones but giving birth and it being so long ago I’m missing it so much I keep reliving it in my head and it gets me so upset I just didn’t want it to be over but it is so it’s been hard for me I’m also struggling as I’ve got stitches which is causing me pain but I’m doing my best xx
Loving this Brogan , I relate to the body image. I feel just like Mulan in the song, Reflection. I tho k you are beautiful you have done so much with your channel and the love of your life, so looks is not the most important thing. Being healthy is important. Love you 😊
Bonnie knows your down doesn’t she, bless her she’s such a sweetheart ❤ so lovely to see Benji on the mend, life is so hard at times, don’t be so hard on yourself, I’ve been feeling the same, I am hoping that the lighter longer days will give me a little motivation and a boost, it’s so hard to get out of the rut and negative self image state of mind, but we can get there, one day at a time 🥰
I love you and Benji, such lovely people. It’s so nice to see genuine people on UA-cam nowadays. Lovely couple, lots of love for your wedding and Benji’s recovery, have an amazing year! X
I’d recommend Mellissa murrell on UA-cam for styling advice. She is great at advice for dressing for your shape. She is also based in Marlborough so fairly local to you. I’ve learned a lot. She does zoom consultations as well. I’m probably one of your oldest viewers, but not in my head. I’ve definitely not given up! Seeing my aging skin and feeling the aches isn’t fun though. Enjoy your young plump elastic skin while you have it! I do regular yoga, walk and do UA-cam dance/walk videos, but aching joints do not make things easy. No wonder you are feeling down, emotionally you’ve had a really tough time with Benji, and I’m sure life has thrown plenty of spanners in that you haven’t talked about. We all love you, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself, you deserve it.
It’s so funny that’s you brought up your body image issues because I was just thinking how you’re always just so photogenic and just look amazing on all your cruises and trips. I struggle with this so much myself. I even went for a consult for a tummy tuck last summer. I only had to lose 5 more pounds to get a more optimal result and instead gained 25….. so frustrating. Time to get serious about heath. I’m right on the struggle bus with you but we can do it! So glad to see Benji is feeling better. He’s a gem!
Always absolutely love catching up with you. It really does feel like a FaceTime with a friend ❤️ So pleased to see Benji recovering well and starting to feel a little better in himself. What a relief it must be for you both! Was so sad to hear you're not feeling great in yourself at the moment. I can totally relate though. I've recently turned 40 and kind of lost myself a lot in the last few years. I'm slowly starting to buy some clothes and enjoy them again so please know you're definitely not alone in feeling like this ❤❤ You've always been a channel I've come to when I've needed cheering up, I often go back and watch your holiday vlogs when I need cheering up. You really do make a difference so just know that. Hope you start feeling a little better in yourself soon. Lots of love xxxx
Honey give yourself some grace 🙏🏻❤️ You and Benji have been through so much. Plus your wedding in the near future. Take a deep breath, smile and be thankful. Everything will be ok. As for the body image you look happy and beautiful. Up to you if you want to make changes for yourself but don’t compare yourself to anyone or even to your previous self. Life is full of ups and downs Things change. ❤❤ Wishing you and Benji the very best life has to offer.
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As someone who has struggled with body image and weight issues for most of my life I can honestly say watching you be so confident and beautiful has helped increase my own confidence and start to play around with my own 'style' so while it's sad to hear you are feeling this way please know that finding and watching you has helped me a lot if that helps at all.
So glad to see Benji doing so well, he's a super star. And of course Bonnie is being as cute as always. Excited to see whats to come, please believe in yourself as much as we, your viewers, believe in you. Have a wonderful evening xx
Oh my gosh, what a lovely thing to read. Thank you so much! This honestly makes me so happy. Sending lots of love your way! xxx
I’m so glad you said this to Brogan. I came to say something similar. Brogan. Life changes and bodies change and no matter what size your body is you are worthy of love and respect and everything that life offers. I know it’s hard sometimes but you are inspiring all the time with how you are able to be neutral about your body and live your best life. I have struggled for over 30 years with diet culture and body shame and I’m so proud of you for paying attention to your own thoughts about your body so early in life. There is a better way than shame and diets. We all deserve better and I know you will get through this. ❤
Oh, Brogan. I wish you could see yourself as all your online friends do (and your real life friends too, I bet)! You are beautiful inside and out and you’re dealing with so much with Benji’s recovery. I know from experience that these huge life events can shake us up a bit. I went through a stage of not wanting to have my picture taken and hated seeing myself in the mirror because of getting older. What helped me was when I was sorting out family photos and I saw pictures of my mum at different ages and noticed that I thought she was beautiful in all of them, no matter how old or what size she was. I think some of my self consciousness was due to menopausal symptoms but also I’d been through some problems at work that made me feel like no one liked me. What I’ve learnt is that these things tend to pass (and if they don’t, ask for help). Lots of love, look after yourself and your lovely husband to be.
I’m glad you liked your presents :) xx
I LOVED my presents, you are so kind and thoughtful. Thank you again xx
Well chosen Gary! They’re beautiful
I relate to your body struggles so much. I kinda fell off the wagon, when I had a burnout in 2021 and was quite depressed. Working out has helped, I haven’t lost the weight I gained yet, but I’m slowly working on it. Just being active for myself and mental health helps. You are beautiful inside and out, remember that. Human beings are far too harsh on ourselves. Glad Benji is doing well.
I’ve struggled with body issues for a long time now. It’s gotten worse since lockdown, I’d managed to start to loose weight and begin to feel a little like my old self back in September 2019 (my 50th). Then lockdown and menopause hit at the same time, and I’ve gained a considerable amount of weight, so much so that I hate to look at myself in the mirror, and photos are a no no. As for clothes, the bigger and baggier the better, not looking forward to the summer. I feel over the past few years I’ve lost who I am, and can’t seem to snap out of it. So I’m glad it’s not just me. Much love from Liverpool xxx
Smashing it, skin care routines, workouts, tidying, cooking, cleaning, fitting in walks and time to read.....absolutely winning at life. What seems to be a normal everyday task to one can be a hurdle for another, so thanks for being so inspiring even doing the day-to-day and motivating everyone to get up off their butt and get stuff done xxx
I have been stuck in a rut for years regarding weight and style etc. I’ve piled on weight because of my medication and that I’ve got fibromyalgia so in excruciating pain almost constantly. I started slimming world two weeks ago(I had to miss this weeks because I’ve come down with a gnarly virus) so haven’t weighed in yet and I’m pushing myself so hard to stick to it. You got this Brogan, you’re a gorgeous person inside and out. You’ll get there. I’m proud of you for making an effort with it all. Xx
I lose my sense of self ALL THE TIME! You are not alone! I’m the biggest critic of my body & face. I always have been. Just keep pushing forward & love yourself everyday. ❤️
hi Brogan! i’ve definitely had my ups and downs with body positivity and my confidence and it’s only within the last couple of years that i’ve been able to find solutions. Regarding clothes, i found it SO helpful to measure myself and shop according to my measurements instead of sizes. Things fit me so much better and I feel more confident in my style because of it! I’ve also learned what exercises I enjoy doing. Don’t feel like you need to sprint on a treadmill because everyone else is. I like going for long walks, learning kpop dances in my living room, stationary biking, and adult gymnastics classes. It feels less like a chore and more like fun :) And lastly I’ve come to view my body as neutral. It’s a body and it’s going to do things that a body does. Good things, bad things, neutral things. You don’t have to be positive about your body if you don’t want to.. you can be neutral! I don’t love my big thighs but I don’t hate them either :)
And remember, we aren’t 18 anymore. It’s easy to compare where we were.. but that was 10 years ago! To quote my favorite show, The Mindy Project, “you’re a woman, and that’s good. Look like a woman.” :)
My husband and I have been through some serious health issues in the last few years. His surgeon explained that research is showing that not only the patient, but importantly, the caregiver as well, can go through a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. We think we are coping but we are not and that manifests in different ways. Add that to everything everyone went through with Covid. I have always been a stress eater. When the stress goes away I can lose weight. Hang in there you will come out the other side back to where you were before.
With the self confidence thing I can totally relate. I struggle alot with depression and after spending two years being on meds etc I gained so much weight and nothing of mine fits now. I struggle to get the weight back off no matter what but I'm learning to be content and try treat myself to new clothes which suit my shape etc instead of treating myself badly for not fitting in anything else! You're such a beautiful woman brogan and you shine amazingly, you help so many people so please remember that! Your videos bring such comfort and always feel like chatting with a friend❤
Aww Brogan, I totally relate to how you’re feeling about your body atm. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable with us & it sucks when our mental takes a tumble and our body image does too. I’m the biggest I’ve been and it’s like I don’t know how to dress anymore. I too have lived in comfy clothes but now that summer is round the corner I’m like ‘okay, now what’. Time to unpack with my therapist but hearing you share your story made me realise it’s time I was honest about how I feel atm too. Sending you big love and hugs of solidarity ❤
I am so pleased to hear that Benji's fatigue is going and his body is healing. Take it easy both of you. You've had a lot going on Brogan it really is such a worry when our loved ones are poorly. Eat healthy, take gentle walks or swimming which is such a good all round exercise. The best skin care I've used is Liz Earle. I always return. Really pleased to see the positivity from you both. Be proud lady xxx
Thank you Donna, that is so kind of you! xxx
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I second this, Liz Earle is a staple!!!
You are always so honest Brogan and I absolutely know what you’re going through. I want to say that I started following you about a year ago and you have changed my life for the better! I love your kindness and attitude towards everything. I love watching your Q & A’s, detailed travel blogs and shopping or cooking adventures. I find joy seeing the happiness in your face as you celebrate your successes not only with your career, but in your relationship with Benji. You have inspired me to work out and I lost 30 lbs with your help! Did you know that? You’re an inspiration to many so I thank you for that! I’m thrilled Benji’s surgery was a smashing success and I cried along with you when you finally had that moment of peace knowing he made it through and you let strangers like me see your raw emotion during a vulnerable moment. Keep being you because “you” are amazing! Whatever you need to do to focus on you, you have a ton of support and I can’t wait to see where you go from here. Sending love and support from NC in the US! Xoxo
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable look into your lives, our family is sending positive healing thoughts to Benj! And Brogan, I often have similar thoughts about my own self confidence. I’m a mom of four… I don’t look like the ‘ideal body’… but I have always admired you and your positive outlook. I truly appreciate you ❤ The world needs more influencers like you!
Hi Brogan
I totally get how you feel about no longer styling outfits or feeling the same about clothes.. I put on some weight recently and find that my clothes don't fit the same (or at all) anymore, so I'm on my own journey of acceptance and trying to fall back in love with fashion..
Just wanted you to know you're not alone in this feeling, there are others who understand..
Thanks for the vlog
I really enjoyed your vlog, so happy to see Benji on the road to recovery and Bonnie being really cute❤️ Brogan you are such a beautiful person on the outside and a beautiful person on the inside. Love and kindness shine through your face. I think you are wonderful....you are going through a lot right now and I think that might have a part in how you are feeling as well as your job being in front of a camera most of the time. You are more than enough as you are sending you a big hug❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘
Please don’t feel down, I know its hard. I’m in a rut too, my body has changed so much after having two kids and I’m finding it so hard to find the motivation to start exercising. I’ve aways loved your style ❤ x
I'm so sad you're feeling blue right now. I'm a similar size and colouring to you and whilst I struggle with my self-esteem, I have always loved your positivity and energy. I completely understand how you feel but let me just say you are beautiful in every way and you need to start being your biggest cheerleader and speak to yourself with the kindness that you would show a friend 💖
Loved watching this vlog, as I do all of your vlogs. Lovely to see you back. And lovely to see Benji doing so well after his surgery. I totally understand how you're feeling. I've struggled with my weight all my life but mostly over the last 3 years due to medical issues a lot of weight has gone back on but isn't coming off. It's completely messed with my head and my confidence. And it takes a lot to get back in a place where you feel comfortable with yourself. Just remember you are wonderful, you have a loving fiance who adores you, your beautiful Bonnie and family and friends who love you for you. And you are beautiful inside and out. You'll get back to feeling more yourself soon I'm sure. It's been a lot recently. You've got this lovely. 🩷💪 xx
You guys are beyond sweet! Sending you both so much love and healing vibes. Completely understand the whole “trying to process” and “not feeling yourself”. We have a few things going on too. Just trying to look onwards and upwards! We have Disneyland California booked for October. Tell me your must do’s please xxx
I totally understand where you are coming from on the self reflection and not feeling pleased with your self and body. I'm struggling with it as well. Just hang in there. We all have our ups and downs, but it is how we deal with them that matters and I know you will get through this. Hope Benji is having a good day today!
hi love - I also felt really down about myself after wedding dress shopping. Remember to give yourself grace and know you are beautiful and radiant.
Firstly you’re so lovely and you’ve both been through so much and it’s hard when your partner is seriously unwell because you don’t prioritise your own health, that’s tough. Secondly I can completely relate and feel exactly the same about loosing my mojo in my own skin and feeling I lack style but I honestly believe it’s the cold winter months! My priority has genuinely been staying warm and wrapping up not fashion. I find I really explore fashion in summer but get stuck in a rut of hoodies and leggings in winter xx
Brogan, thank you for being so sincere and open with us. You are absolutely beautiful inside and out. You have a heart of gold, your eyes sparkle so bright, and even my husband loves your joyous laugh lol. It is easy to let negative thoughts get to us at times. Just know they are not true! You are truly lovely inside and out.
Brogan, I think you are a rockstar and I aspire to be more like you! I think everyone goes through body image crisis (I know I do), but just keep doing things to make you feel good and hopefully you will start to feel better. Be kind to yourself. You have been through a pretty traumatic experience recently so you're bound to feel a bit more emotional than normal. Just wanted to let you know that I think you're amazing and I love your videos. xxx
I feel your pain as I prefer autumn/winter where I can hide in jumpers and coats, wool hats but am dreading summer when you have to lighten the layers and feel more exposed . Though I'm almost 14 months of being cancer free my hair is at the messy stage of re growth where I can't quite style it and sometimes I feel self conscious - I think I might have to invest in some new summer hats x
Glad to see your doing so well Benji and all smiles x
I feel you. I used to looove fashion, I wore heels to college everyday along with funky outfits. All while carrying a big bag and portfolio. Since becoming a mom and entering a working mom mode I stick to black skinnys and jumpers. When I film you only see me chest up so I do not bother. I feel like I have lost a little bit of myself but recently I am trying to reclaim that. We have booked loads of gigs just for mum and dad to go to and I am planning to wear some nice things I cant wear while being in a mom mode :) My ''not perfect'' body has stopped me from wearing a lot of things but I think its time to show ourselfs some love and just do what makes us happy :)
Thank you for being so vulnerable about your body image! I have also been feeling this way as spring is coming and I’m pulling out old warm weather items that don’t quite fit how I’d like anymore…sorry you’re feeling this way but grateful to have solidarity with someone i look up to ❤ all we can do is try to take care of ourselves and be gentle! would love to hear updates on how you’re feeling as we trod on :) all my best!
Sending you so much love back Olivia! Definitely not alone! Absolutely agree, that's such a nice thing to say. Will definitely update! xx
Hi Brogan, please be kind to yourself. You have had a rough couple of weeks. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I hear you, though. When you are in a rut, things look worse than they are. Love watching your videos. You are very inspiring.
I'm happy to see Benj is doing well ❤❤
Sorry to hear you're feeling down, understandable when you've been through so much recently. I'm glad Bonnie is giving you plenty of snuggles. Glad to hear Benji is feeling better. It's lovely to see you so excited about the events you've got coming up! Good luck with the awards x
I’ve definitely been struggling with my body these changing seasons, specifically with my face and arms. I recovered from an eating disorder and managed to feel neutral to my body in the autumn winter months but I think there’s something about spring and summer that brings up insecurities, I think it’s probably because our bodies are more exposed again. It’s been helping me to remember that actually I still wasn’t happy and confident in myself when I was at my thinnest which is real proof that my body wasn’t the problem. I’ve been shifting the focus on how things make me feel rather than how I look because it’s definitely not where our worth comes from. I’ve taken myself shopping for new clothes in my new size which has really helped, I’m trying not to mourn the old and embrace the present. Hope you start feeling better soon too, it’s been a really stressful time for you too which is probably having an impact💛
Thank you for sharing about body confidence struggle at the moment, I’m in a similar position too. It’s a constant battle for me actually, even though I am so very proud of my
body I do still very much struggle with this… I have found a wonderful book called, ‘you are not a before picture’ I read it last summer and i had the most peaceful summer with my body image and wore shorts for the first time since I was a child. Take care B, we all love you ❤ x
Aww Brogan. I feel the same about my body right now. I’m not a naturally thin person and have to work every day at weight management and healthy eating. You are off to a good start ! Work on it with Benj, it’s easier together. Most of all, remember God made you perfect, take care of your beautiful self!
Sending love to you. Body image is so hard. I've been there and currently falling back into that rut. I had weight loss surgery in February 2022, I'm now down 125 lbs. from my highest weight. All of the sudden I feel like I don't know how to dress my body qnd have loads of loose skin, it has made me feel frumpy. Thank you for being real with us. ❤
I can definitely relate to some body image struggles. I’ve put on some weight too and was feeling neutral about it too until more recently. I have to say that seeing you and how confident you are always really helps me. It’s also helped me to dress more for my body type rather than trying to fit into some mold of what I think I should be.
So glad Benji is feeling ok!
I completely feel you on body image, style, and struggling with confidence. It's so much harder when you have to spend time in front of the camera too. I don't know what I would do without my therapist. It's hard, ongoing work but it is truly life-changing. Sometimes you just need a little help to realize you deserve to be happy (which you absolutely do, Brogan!).
Thank you for sharing that vulnerable moment. I was just looking through my wardrobe and feeling the exact same. Ive lost my sense of self since beinh a mum and my body has changed. You sharing makes me feel less alone.
You are a beautiful person 😊 you will find your self again❤
Thanks for sharing!!! What a lovely catch-up!!! 😍😍😍 I've been too busy recently to watch any videos; I just got back from New York City, where I went with one of my daughters. We had an AMAZING time but I'm still exhausted from the trip! So sorry you've been down! You've been through a lot recently, so please be gentle with yourself!!! 💗💗💗 Continued love and health to both of you from across the pond!!! 💜💜💜
I lost myself after having a baby and it's taken just a bit over a year to be happy with how I'm looking and finding my style. It's a season and it'll pass. Just give yourself grace and don't be too hard on yourself. Buy the clothes you like (I totally got inspired buy all your skirts and bought some!) change your hair, move your body and eat healthy, yummy foods. I love watching your videos because we have a similar body type and it's so nice to watch a relatable influencer
Catching up on your vlogs and I just wanted to pop in and say that I’m also feeling that way. I’ve felt this way for a long time unfortunately. It’s so hard but it is nice to know you’re not alone as sad as it is.
I 100% know how you feel. I'm now dreading the weather warming up as i have no confidence to wear anything but leggings and jumpers. I have literally looked online for weeks for new clothes and they either don't have my size or suit my body shape. I have always been plus size and it never bothered me but lately I just look at myself in the mirror and have no idea who the person is looking back at me. You always look beautiful and suit all your pretty dresses but someone telling you how good you look when you feel the way you do makes no difference. Fingers crossed spring and summer are happy times for us and not ones full of constant worrying and thinking about what we look like. Although you can't see it you are such a happy, vibrant lovey human being 🐝
Oh hun you are so beautiful ❤ especially your hair. Thank you for being so honest on this video about how you feel. I hope you find your confidence again soon. Also really appreciate all the realness 😊 not showing the house tidy all the time like so many do! Xx
Oooo deffo going to add 'The Fine Print' to my TBR - sounds fantastic! 🤩
oh Brogan, your videos have always been such a comfort thing for me and I'm normally a silent watcher and never comment but when I heard you talking about your self confidence I just had to! I am feeling exactly the same right now and just can't describe it or put my finger on why I've changed all of a sudden but its nice to know I'm not the only one. I hope you start to feel more yourself soon cause you really are such a beautiful person inside and out!
Brogan, you are so beautiful! Every time I watch your videos I think about how lucky Benji is to have your beauty in his life! I have body image issues at times, and what helps me is seeing other people wear amazing outfits or seeing their partners treat them well and seeing them feel confident in themselves. It reminds me that I look good too! But also, my body image issues eb and flow, so I don't get too hard on myself when out of the blue, I feel bad after just feeling good. It's normal to feel down at times. Journaling has really helped me.
That earring/necklace set from your mum is very 'second star to the right' 😍
Hi Brogan, so sad to hear you’re struggling with self image at the moment. I’m so grateful that there are wonderful women out there now for us to see and understand our bodies are beautiful. When I was young and getting married I dieted like crazy and lost 2 stone for the big day. Afterwards, during possibly the worst time of my life, I put on 5 stone in 4 months. I have yo-yo dieted since then but have settled at my weight and promised myself I will never diet again. I watch beautiful plus size creators and have learned how to style myself and am learning to love and nourish myself. It sounds like you already know this so please please keep doing it. Nourish your body, heart and soul. Keep strong physically and mentally and treasure your health. It’s a hard slog but we can unlearn these awful unrealistic beauty standards and be proud of our bodies xx
Re your bad body image feelings, you are not alone. I find when I’m going through hard things my brain will fixate on the “problems” with my body because they are “easier” to process than the hard things. When that happens I force myself to recognize the good things about my body beyond aesthetics, because I’ll never really win that game with myself.
When I saw Bonnie snuggling up against you I thought, “look at the comfort and warmth her body gives to her.” And also how your body is helping you take care of Ben. And how your body allows you to film the videos that bring your 100k plus subscribers joy every time you post!
Now that is beautiful. ❤ I am so grateful for your posts.
Hi Brogan, I so enjoy you vlogs you are such a genuine person so down to earth.Please don’t be hard on yourself about your body image I’m sure I speak for most of us women & men! that we all go through times in our lives where we hate what we see in the mirror .But I’m sure people don’t see us how we see ourselves……you are lovely inside and out and you always look lovely in your outfits too…..judging by your followers you are loved xx it’s lovely to see Benji doing so well he will soon be back to his old self…enjoy rest of your weekend…I looking forward to Primark vlog …lots of love xxx
I 100% agree with you on self image, my body has changed so much. My baby is 15 months old and since he was born I have lost all sense of style. I can’t remember what I used to wear, me weight has increased over the year and I feel quite lost like I have no idea where to begin to get any sort of style back but I’m opting to get there this spring / summer and get in a good mind set 💪 xxx
Sometimes it’s our expectations that we have of ourselves that bring us down. I know with me, I set really high expectations for myself that I never met and I got really frustrated. Even when you meet your expectations, you know it’s a fluke thing and that it probably won’t happen again. I am in the same boat with you. It’s hard, but it’s all about recognizing your in you head and taking the steps necessary so that way you live your life. Your biggest critic is yourself. :)
Glad you feel good may it continue 🫶
Love watching you on UA-cam, I started watching you when you lived at your Dads. Take care to you both xxxx ❤❤❤
I have been taking a break from social media and UA-cam. Catching up. I am so glad Beji's surgery went well qnd he's feeling better. Love Catching up with you! ❤from Colorado, USA.
Thank you for sharing and being so honest send a big hug… I think you are describing physically and mentally the result of stresses in your life. When someone you love has health problems it incredibly stressful for those around , please acknowledge that and find someone to share that with , once Benji is feeling back to his old self you’ll be able to find the happiness within yourself , but to us you are always a 🌟
You are such a beautiful girl, so don't beat yourself up. You need to do whatever makes you happy ❤
I been feeling rough the last year! My sleeping pattern has been horrendous! I think everyone goes through like this in life and I think we do because we’re changing in more ways than one! I use to love wearing make up going out with friends and I realised that’s not me anymore! With you B I think you are so relatable and we all love you regardless of how you been feeling! Keep being you we all love respect and appreciate you! All the best ❤xxxx - Soph xxx
Can totally relate re:struggling with self image/ losing who you are along with editing videos and seeing your own face and pulling yourself apart. Especially when you look at videos from 5/6/7 years ago in my early 20s and it’s tough! I’m still trying to ‘find myself’ if you get my jist and I hope you are able to too ❤
Sending you so much love! It's so hard not to compare yourself, definitely want to get back into a place where I like my body/image again! xx
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your struggles with body confidence! I can totally relate. Back in 2020 I had developed some really healthy habits and lost some weight and was in better shape. Then, we adopted our two children and a close family member was diagnosed with terminal cancer… my life was flipped upside down! I was in survival mode for the first year or so. I’ve definitely put on weight and dealt with general body changes. Finally in a good spot to start putting those little healthy habits back into my day. I know exactly how you feel!
Hey brogan I love love love these types of videos of yours and loving the book recommendations 💗 just wanted to say completely symphatise with the body comments as I feel the same too Im so greatful you shared how you're feeling as it made me feel a little bit more normal for not being completely in love with our bodies like we're always told we should be. I'm the same I've gained a little bit of weight and have been struggling finding outfits for my new body and definitely found it a bit upsetting at times. You always look amazing in your outfit pics and have really inspired me. Thankyou for sharing your world ❤ xx
Brogan when you went into body image, my ears perked up. Everything you stated is exactly how I also been feeling lately. I just wanted to comment and let you know you're not alone. We as women go through these motions and even though it sucks to feel this way, just know there are many of us that experience feelings of low confidence. I don't want to be that person that states; but you're so beautiful! (because you are), I just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone in your thinking. Complimenting each other is great, but confidence within ourselves runs so much deeper.
xoxo 😘❤️
Hey Brogan!!! I’ve been feeling a bit bummed before with how my body is. I’m feeling a bit better. I’m determined to get my psoriasis gone and my weight down. I’m determined to focus on myself and get in a better mindset about that. I’ve also been stressed about seeing my Dad in a negative state lately.
You are an absolutely beautiful person inside and out. I appreciate you sharing what you do. I’ve recently started re-organizing and de-cluttering in my house. I’ll have to share some pictures of the progress. As always Felicity & I send loads of love to you, Benj, & Ms. Bonnie.
I feel you so much! Im struggle all the time! After giving birth it is even worse! But I really thought that you were so confident about wearing everything! You look always so beautiful! I really was taken you as a example 😊.
So glad to hear that benji is doing better! I felt so sad for you the day of the operation! Fun fact! You are born on the same day as my baby girl! It was that day her first birthday 🥳. Her first trip to disney will be next march! So excited 🎉
Love your chatty vlogs, can relate with body image and fashion. Im hoping as its felt like the longest winter 😩 that ill get my mojo back with clothes as the sun comes out more. I struggle being short to find things that fit properly. Also nothing out there is inspiring me. Sometimes we are ticking the boxes, eating well/exercise but actually its something hormonally stopping our bodies from 'losing weight'. But keep smiling and chatting and we can all support each other xxx
I completely relate to your body chat to the point that my boyfriend thought they were my words! I find when we approach the sunnier weather and I can't get away with jumpers and leggings, I have to really look at my body. I am not happy with it but I am hoping with following some positive people on socials (including yourself), we can do this all together...and hopefully learn to love our bodies a bit more! 💚
Hey Brogan, I felt for you when you shared how you are feeling down about yourself right now. For me, what has helped has been refocusing on health and strength with my fitness so rather than what exercise will do for my appearance, more so what it'll do for my fitness long term. I find that helps to take the pressure off but also has the same benefits. I'm a runner and I recommend sticking with couch to 5k, the first few weeks are the hardest but then running makes you feel good after awhile! Stick with it ❤
It's been lovely spending time with you in this vlog! I always love your chatty home vlogs. I'm so glad to see how well Benji is doing, and I think it's to be expected that you are feeling a bit off. Since I've been following you I have so admired your confidence and positivity. No one feels terrific all of the time, and the best thing you can do is be gentle with yourself. You are such a lovely person inside and out! Much love from Colorado!❤
Lovely video to see Benji making great progress. I know when I went wedding dress shopping my head starting questioning the body I had always felt comfortable in. Wedding dress sizes can be on the smaller size too, so it can be hard to have to size up 3/4 sizes than your usual dress size, that can mess with your head. Weddings bring on a while tonne of emotion. Benji loves you for you, your family and friends love you for you. You love you for you! ❤
I love a good mooch around the works. So glad Benj is doing well 😊
We all go through the phase of losing ourself and not living ourself!
I’m currently in that stage after hashing a baby
Hi Brogan, I'm really struggling atm with my body image too. I've put on weight since the pandemic and after having surgey on my leg and my mental health dipped because of it. I tried to embrace the new curvier me and especially because I can't work out like I used too because of my leg so that's tough. I used to be a runner but now I'm trying to find things that work without being too physically demanding on my leg. I got engaged last month in new York and I'm over the moon but the minute i start thinking about wedding dresses and try ones I start to panic because I want to look and feel my best self and right now anything but. So you're not alone. I'm thrilled you've found a dress. Can't wait to see what you've gone for. I duno about you but when I looked into dresses wow the choice is crazy, there's almost too much choice haha. It's kinda overwhelming knowing what'll look good on me and my shape. I reckon it's the nicer weather approaching and feeling like last year's clothes don't fit, definitely a combination of the two because in the lovely sunny months I don't wear as many layers so I guess I feel a bit more exposed. We'll get there but know you're not alone and we all do this to ourselves. I'm so pleased to see Benji is feeling a difference and he's up and about. Brilliant to see. Love your home vlogs, your content always makes me smile and feel relaxed. Kirsten x
Loved this vlog, so glad Benji is doing well, I’m currently away doing a feature film in Belgium and every time I’ve felt homesick I’ve watched your videos because they’re such a comfort for me xx
You look brilliant!!
Your complexion is so beautiful. So envious. Xxxxx
Thank you for sharing your struggles - super brave ❤
I think what you expressed to feeling is totally normal! During the pandemic (and still now!) I lived in legging and jumpers and it’s a really difficult rut to get out of because of course bodies change, preferences change, everything changes!
You are beautiful and have such a pure spirit! One day at a time ☀️
Thank you for creating videos that always put a smile on my face and help me get out of my own head!
Absolutely loving seeing your natural hair more at the moment, it’s so lovely! ❤
You are such a genuine, lovely, kind hearted person and no wonder you have been in your head. You've been through a pretty traumatic time and that kinda thing can make it very hard to see how other people see you as a caring, beautiful, young lady. You have such a wonderful family with Benji and Bonnie. It is very hard in the summer months especially. I found one thing that helped was intermittent fasting, takes some getting used to but after a week or so will be very much the norm. Just a thought. But please keep doing what you are doing, find your videos so calming and interesting. Keep smiling
Oh Pippa, that is such a lovely thing to say. Thank you so much! xx
I just looked for a wedding dress on Sunday and I feel exactly the same. Starting my health journey again today. Thanks for making me not feel alone.
I only discovered your channel last year and now I'm hooked! I'm so glad Benj is on the mend and I cried with you. I just wanted to say I think you're amazing inside and out and hopefully all the other nice comments will help a little. Your channel and what it represents is truly inspiring, and that's all because of you! So I hope on a down day you can read the comments and find some stranger's words that make you smile xx
Know how your feeling, I lost myself 5 years ago when my other half died he was only 52, lost my mojo, it took time but now I'm feeling better about myself, your a lovely person inside and out dont be too hard on yourself ❤
So glad to see Benji looking so well.xx
Great to see you, bonnie and Benji doing well. In answer to your question, I’ve been busy booking myself on to a Brogan inspired Norwegian Fjords cruise with P&O with 4 excursions! Nervous as I’m travelling alone and never done a cruise so no idea how everything works! All part of the adventure!
Thank you Sophie! Oh my goodness, WOO! Have the BEST time. You will love it. It's so amazing to be immersed in nature and peace. Cruises are so good for solo travel too! xx
Hi, I’m doing my first solo Norwegian cruise in November. I can’t deny it’s daunting because I’ve never traveled alone, but have cruised before which helps a little. Have a great time.
I was in an accident 3 years ago which left me with injuries so I put on so much weight. It’s really had me down I hate how I look so this year I’m really knuckling down and being strict but when I see myself on camera and look back at videos 3 years ago its mega depressing. We need to learn to accept ourselves don’t we xx
The last year I’ve had a bit of an issue with body dysmorphia. I too gained weight and I felt stuck in a rut. I think we all go through it multiple times in our lives. I’ve been trying to make healthier choices and it’s helped with my mental state and helped with sort of having a reset. Journaling helps too. Just getting the intrusive thoughts on paper and out of my head! 💜💜
Sending you SO much love! That's such a good idea. I write a gratitude journal every day but I definitely think getting it all out of my head too will help. Thanks so much xx
Just catching up with the vlog. My favourite kind.
Thanks for sharing with us and also for being open about your thoughts of body image. I'm currently going through this. Not just image but also style. I feel like I want to get rid of all my clothes and start again 😆 but I just want to say that as someone with a similar body shape, I've loved your positivity about body image previously and also LOVE your style! 💖
Loved the vlog, can’t wait to see your trips in May. Can totally relate to how you’re feeling about your body, it’s really important to discuss these times where you’re feeling low. I had a baby last March and really struggle to feel good about myself and like photos but I always try to remind myself that my body grew my baby and when my son looks back at our photos he won’t care what I look like, he’ll just enjoy seeing our memories. It’s really hard to shift that mindset to feeling positive about yourself but you’re beautiful and you deserve to feel it ❤️
Thank you for sharing how you feel in your video. My body has also changed a lot over the last year and I wish I was more confident. I am going to Disneyworld for the first time and it really got me down trying on all my summer clothes with none fitting. Your confidence in your Disney videos has been helping a lot
I can fully relate to your body issues at the moment. I have always hated my body shape, a lot is hereditary so I can’t do anything about that. I did loose 4 stones but I was way too skinny and now I’ve put 3 stone back on. I still have days where I hate my body but then I have to remind myself that life is not a dress rehearsal and as long as I try to eat healthily I need to live life to the fullest.
You have so much going on in your life it’s not surprising that at some point it will all get just too much for you. You are a beautiful human being who gives so much to others.
Hi Brogan, glad to see you and Benji back vlogging. Just a quick question about Bonnies food, what do you mix with her dry food? I have a black cocker spaniel puppy (Lara) and would love to add something tasty to her food but have no idea where to start. Bonnie looks like she loves her food xxx
So glad to hear benji is doing so well , I’m not going to lie I’ve struggled so much these past 3 weeks I’ve cried so much I’ve felt so down I know it’s probably pregnancy hormones but giving birth and it being so long ago I’m missing it so much I keep reliving it in my head and it gets me so upset I just didn’t want it to be over but it is so it’s been hard for me I’m also struggling as I’ve got stitches which is causing me pain but I’m doing my best xx
Loving this Brogan , I relate to the body image. I feel just like Mulan in the song, Reflection. I tho k you are beautiful you have done so much with your channel and the love of your life, so looks is not the most important thing. Being healthy is important. Love you 😊
Bonnie knows your down doesn’t she, bless her she’s such a sweetheart ❤ so lovely to see Benji on the mend, life is so hard at times, don’t be so hard on yourself, I’ve been feeling the same, I am hoping that the lighter longer days will give me a little motivation and a boost, it’s so hard to get out of the rut and negative self image state of mind, but we can get there, one day at a time 🥰
She really does, she is so wonderful. Thank you, that's so kind of you! Sending love to you!! xxx
So relatable as always 💗 can I ask where your dress is from? It’s beautiful xxx
I love you and Benji, such lovely people. It’s so nice to see genuine people on UA-cam nowadays. Lovely couple, lots of love for your wedding and Benji’s recovery, have an amazing year! X
I’d recommend Mellissa murrell on UA-cam for styling advice. She is great at advice for dressing for your shape. She is also based in Marlborough so fairly local to you. I’ve learned a lot. She does zoom consultations as well.
I’m probably one of your oldest viewers, but not in my head. I’ve definitely not given up! Seeing my aging skin and feeling the aches isn’t fun though.
Enjoy your young plump elastic skin while you have it! I do regular yoga, walk and do UA-cam dance/walk videos, but aching joints do not make things easy.
No wonder you are feeling down, emotionally you’ve had a really tough time with Benji, and I’m sure life has thrown plenty of spanners in that you haven’t talked about. We all love you, take care of yourself and be kind to yourself, you deserve it.
It’s so funny that’s you brought up your body image issues because I was just thinking how you’re always just so photogenic and just look amazing on all your cruises and trips. I struggle with this so much myself. I even went for a consult for a tummy tuck last summer. I only had to lose 5 more pounds to get a more optimal result and instead gained 25….. so frustrating. Time to get serious about heath. I’m right on the struggle bus with you but we can do it! So glad to see Benji is feeling better. He’s a gem!
Always absolutely love catching up with you. It really does feel like a FaceTime with a friend ❤️ So pleased to see Benji recovering well and starting to feel a little better in himself. What a relief it must be for you both! Was so sad to hear you're not feeling great in yourself at the moment. I can totally relate though. I've recently turned 40 and kind of lost myself a lot in the last few years. I'm slowly starting to buy some clothes and enjoy them again so please know you're definitely not alone in feeling like this ❤❤ You've always been a channel I've come to when I've needed cheering up, I often go back and watch your holiday vlogs when I need cheering up. You really do make a difference so just know that. Hope you start feeling a little better in yourself soon. Lots of love xxxx
I found listening to the go love yourself podcast really helped with my self image. Sending love xx
Honey give yourself some grace 🙏🏻❤️ You and Benji have been through so much. Plus your wedding in the near future. Take a deep breath, smile and be thankful. Everything will be ok. As for the body image you look happy and beautiful. Up to you if you want to make changes for yourself but don’t compare yourself to anyone or even to your previous self. Life is full of ups and downs Things change. ❤❤ Wishing you and Benji the very best life has to offer.