The Rumors Are True

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  • @mjduffy618
    @mjduffy618 Рік тому +367

    Melinda I have so much respect for you for finally putting these rumors to rest. Obviously your marriage and divorce are public record, so many of us already knew. However hearing it from you let’s us know that you are healed from it and moving past it. I also had a “ practice” marriage as I like to call it. I feel like it taught me a lot as well and prepared me for me real marriage which I’ve been in for the past 23 years. Everything we go through is a learning experience. May God lead you to your real marriage one day. You deserve to be loved properly.

    • @michellesantiago1235
      @michellesantiago1235 Рік тому +4

      Beautiful said!

    • @jennyevans8160
      @jennyevans8160 Рік тому +3

      Absolutely so true… Melinda u r a beautiful person and one day you will have yr marriage someone who loves you n scarlet the way it should be.. love u girl. Yr private life is yrs darling anyone who judges r shallow within them selves xxx

    • @gloup4662
      @gloup4662 Рік тому +11

      We’re checking their public records now?
      Yes, it’s out there if you wish to view, but surely they already share so much, so to be checking records is a little extreme.

    • @kimluarks2418
      @kimluarks2418 Рік тому +1

      @@gloup4662 people will do things like this to satisfy their own curiosity.

    • @kimluarks2418
      @kimluarks2418 Рік тому +3

      @@sihamgrigiz4410 did you not watch the video? She said she didn't want to share it. There doesn't need to be anymore reason than that...

  • @gabewl29
    @gabewl29 Рік тому +77

    Melinda, I am sure you’ve heard this a million times but I’ll say it again. Never let your fans or followers influence your personal life and decisions. The only opinions that matter are yours and your family.
    That being said….thanks for being brave enough to share these personal details of your life. Life is really like a roller coaster with ups and downs. We all go through it. Glad you are doing well now though. 😊

    • @lilmissmonsterrr
      @lilmissmonsterrr Рік тому +2

      Better advice would be - never make your personal life your career.

  • @rebeccabader4928
    @rebeccabader4928 Рік тому +98

    I hadn’t heard the rumors so this was new to me. My Daughter went through the same thing and we are also LDS she is still trying to heal from it. I respect you so much and know you are still worthy of a loving, caring and supportive relationship. You will find the right 1 just as I have told my daughter. Don’t be embarrassed (like my daughter) you both had your ❤ in the right place. Sending love and positive vibes your way 💕

  • @christin3778
    @christin3778 Рік тому +81

    I love how respectful your family was with not talking about things you are not comfortable with. Anyway, I am very happy you now feel confident enough to share this whole wedding story. It seems like you are in a way better place now that you healed from that break up. Wishing you and your whole family all the best! ❤

  • @jjellybelmo4
    @jjellybelmo4 Рік тому +244

    I think a lot of us were waiting for this. Not so much because it was any of our business (because it isn't) but because we knew it more than a simple breakup. You become our "family" and when you were hurting we all could tell. I'm glad you felt able to tell the story to us, and in a way lifting that off your shoulders. Love is a crazy thing sometimes and we chase that feeling trying to keep it.. often times getting hurt in the process. I'm proud of you for letting yourself heal.

  • @marjoriemoore8010
    @marjoriemoore8010 Рік тому +14

    Man…..I live in a cave…..lol…..I didn’t know. All of your family, share things I would not even dare tell. I admire your strength and determination. Thank you for sharing. Praying for you to find the right man. 💜

  • @micheleaceves5054
    @micheleaceves5054 Рік тому +32

    I had a marriage when I was 23 that lasted 5 months and 3 of those months I had move back home. Big life lesson! When you are ready to get back out there, remember to never slack or compromise on what you want. I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. I believe the good lord puts in our path when he feels we are ready. In the meantime, keep working on yourself and getting stronger mentally, emotionally and physically. You are a beautiful person inside and out. You deserve to be happy.

  • @mamamia612
    @mamamia612 Рік тому +65

    Melinda you are so brave for opening up, and for setting boundaries about what you share and don't share. I relate to so much of your life. Single mommin ain't easy! When we have a big heart and past trauma it's so hard to heal, and rock at being a mama too. You and Scarlett are so sweet and deserve the world from someone. Until then you are surrounded by amazing friends and family and that's pretty awesome too.

  • @jessykamejia-velez7529
    @jessykamejia-velez7529 Рік тому +30

    It takes a strong woman to know when something isn't for her and walk away. You're been through enough in life and deserve to find ur happiness whatever and whenever that is. We are just fans who see the hearts and flowers we don't see what happens when the cameras are off. So stay strong and keep loving urself

  • @annbednarczyk1006
    @annbednarczyk1006 Рік тому +81

    I really wish people would stop feeling like these families on the internet owe us every part of there lives. They share what they want to PERIOD!! so Malinda please don't EVER feel like you have to tell us anything about your life that you don't want to, you owe us NOTHING!! I'm sorry you went through all that, sending you all the prayers 🙏🏻🫶🏼 and positive thoughts and vibes your way 💗💞🥰

    • @conniemckenzie7801
      @conniemckenzie7801 Рік тому +4

      Well said.

    • @micheledix2616
      @micheledix2616 Рік тому +2

      Exactly , those families who share their lives with outsiders are not public 'property ' and therefore we viewers are not owed anything and we as non family need to realise we don't like others badgering us with unwanted and unneeded ' comment/ advice'

    • @lilmissmonsterrr
      @lilmissmonsterrr Рік тому

      Every human being owes it to themselves and each other to be honest. If you can't hand the disapproval of strangers then don't sell yourself out for their approval. Don't make your personal life your career. It will put you in the position to have to be more honest than you want to be. It's just the name of the game.

    • @annbednarczyk1006
      @annbednarczyk1006 Рік тому +1

      @@lilmissmonsterrr still doesn't give people the right to sit up and ask for every single aspect of their life. They can share and NOT share what they want to!! And we the viewers should not feel entitled to what they don't share PERIOD 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @tessa4710
    @tessa4710 Рік тому +9

    never heard rumors. Melinda you are an amazing women. I think it's wonderful you took time to heal. one day you will meet someone amazing! much love 💜💜💜

  • @jessicaperry7277
    @jessicaperry7277 Рік тому +8

    Scarlett is going to be an amazing lady one day because her mom is teaching her by example to heal, to not let yourself be hurt, to learn from the past, to determine when and how to tell your story, etc. Melinda, I pray your life is filled with so much love now and forever.

  • @thewilliams1879
    @thewilliams1879 Рік тому +26

    I love the relationship you and your mama have. Her being here with you just in this video to support you and other videos like you said when mamas here you know it’s serious. It truly shows the love and support she is for you and that such a wonderful thing to have and truly a blessing. You’re a wonderful mama as well, putting your daughter first all the time it’s just a blessing. May God continue to Bless you all ❤🙏🏻❤️

    • @michellesantiago1235
      @michellesantiago1235 Рік тому

      Amen 🙏

    • @mjt333
      @mjt333 Рік тому

      She basically spoke for her! I get more of a controlling relationship rather than supportive.

  • @maryjoanhuhn203
    @maryjoanhuhn203 Рік тому +5

    You don’t ever have to share your personal situation. It’s not anyone wants business. I don’t understand why people think they need to know. Your a beautiful caring person, Melinda ❤️! Thank you though for sharing when you didn’t have to! Love you and your precious family!

    • @andreabag11
      @andreabag11 Рік тому

      If you selling your and yours child life on Internet, it is what you should expect

  • @winonabannon8556
    @winonabannon8556 Рік тому +4

    I never questioned the why or how your marriage ended. You said it did end and that was good enough for me. I did wonder why Jamie wanted to move back home, but I know that was none of my business. Relationships are hard, even for people who seem to have it all together. You go girl! You are amazing!

    • @lilmissmonsterrr
      @lilmissmonsterrr Рік тому +1

      People weren't questioning why or how it ended, they were questioning why she was pretending they were never married. We all knew why it ended, most of us could see the problems before she even did.

  • @PrettyNpetty86
    @PrettyNpetty86 Рік тому +9

    melinda you are such a strong woman to speak your truth and can help another person who may feel they can relate to your story. life is always teaching just lessons either good or bad.

  • @dawnmolisani2603
    @dawnmolisani2603 Рік тому +11

    Melinda I am so glad you are healing. I didn't know about the wedding. I have been watching your channel and your family's channel too for a very long time. I am just glad that you felt that you had to end it when you did and not stay in a marriage that you weren't happy in. One day you will find someone who will adore both you and Scarlett. Do ever let anyone rush you into anything you are not 100% ready for! Sometimes we have to go with our gut instinct and listen. We all love you and Scarlett and want the very best for you both. You have come along way this year! I am proud of you! Stay strong! Be proud of yourself!
    I am and I know your family is! Enjoy the holidays! Love you and Scarlett. 🙏♥️♥️🙏

  • @jacintacody133
    @jacintacody133 Рік тому +11

    Your personal life really is no one's business,sending love and a great big hug all the way from Ireland just for you Melinda,you are amazing 💜💜💜

    • @kalamity_krisz
      @kalamity_krisz Рік тому +3

      Well it is if you put it on the internet 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @andreabag11
      @andreabag11 Рік тому +1

      @@kalamity_krisz 100% agree

    • @jacintacody133
      @jacintacody133 Рік тому

      @@kalamity_krisz it was shared accidentally.They wanted it kept private,there is a difference.

    • @carriekay4827
      @carriekay4827 Рік тому +1

      @@jacintacody133 not really...it was evident their was problems as we watched the video's. I had to quit watching her story...

    • @jacintacody133
      @jacintacody133 Рік тому

      @@carriekay4827 I never really watched her channel,I just think it's unfair to judge people harshly,expecially young people ,but like you say,it comes with the territory.

  • @beckyklepper315
    @beckyklepper315 Рік тому +15

    It's 100% OKAY that you don't tell the world everything. I'm actually thankful for this video. To know there's boundaries and respect, makes me feel more excited to watch more in the future.
    I know that when the Lord is ready, He will provide you with the best partner you can imagine. Sending big love from Texas.

  • @kellys1722
    @kellys1722 Рік тому +5

    I think people forget your a real person with real feelings and not a t.v show. There are things that happen that your not going to share and I truly respect that about you and your family❤

  • @alieellersmith
    @alieellersmith Рік тому +41

    Melinda, I'm so proud of you for being honest with everyone. I know it's a rough journey but you're so freaking strong and we love you every step of the way ❤️

  • @vanessat5500
    @vanessat5500 Рік тому +18

    I am glad that you are ready to share your story not because I was waiting for the T but because it means you were able to walk a path you just weren’t ready to walk down. Im happy to know you were able to heal enough to share your strength with the rest of us. I’m proud of you for knowing when it was time to break things off with him some of us are just not strong and brave enough to do so and you are setting a great example for your baby and your family and us! Xoxo

  • @kristenriedel7593
    @kristenriedel7593 Рік тому +9

    I'm so sorry...I really hope you didn't feel pressure to tell this story. You absolutely are entitled to keep some things private and we aren't "owed" any explanations!! I'm very sorry that you went through all of that and I do hope you're stronger for it.

  • @JenniferHayesJVG
    @JenniferHayesJVG Рік тому +25

    Everyone out there needs to realize only what you choose to share is our business. You are entitled to privacy and don't have to share everything. We are not entitled to every single thing going in every single person in your families life . I respect your privacy and I don't like when I see other people talking trash on you guys. I think your are wonderful people truly. I'm so happy that I found your channel and look to your videos. Thank you for sharing with us❤

    • @sarasmith181
      @sarasmith181 Рік тому +1

      Your words are like poetry. Beautiful and well spoken. I agree with every word you said and there isn't much that just pisses me off more than when someone talks trash about any of this family. They are such sweet wonderful people Andi always hit hard when I see any of the videos coming for them and I'm not about to stop

  • @staceyarlene8888
    @staceyarlene8888 Рік тому +5

    I'm glad you opened up. It does help a lot of others. I have been there, my ex was horrible but I wouldn't listen to my family and friends. They kept telling me that he was bad news. But as they say "love is blind" and it really was. But it took me getting beat and rapped by my EX for me to finally open my eyes and see that he was everything the my family and friends were telling me. He just had me so brain washed that I even pushed my Mom away. It took me a really LONG time (7 years) to finally trust again and in that 7 years I healed. I still have issues from time to time. So you will get there Melinda DO NOT rush. Always remember "True love doesn't come when we want it the most, it finds us when we NEED it the most" Enjoy the time with Scarlett. Kiddos grow up so fast. We have to be the very best for our kids, grandkids and rest of our family. Sending you and Scarlett lots of love, hugs and prayers ❣ hold your beautiful head high sweetie your "prince charming" is out there. 💕💕

  • @donnathomson_au
    @donnathomson_au Рік тому +8

    Thank you for sharing this even though you didn't have to. I'm happy to see that you have come out of it all much stronger and with a greater sense of what you do and don't want...and that you deserve full respect and love in an equal relationship. There is no-one out there that can 'complete' you. You want to be 100% YOU and find someone else who is 100% themselves. Then neither will be trying to use the other partner to heal their own insecurities or imbalances. It becomes a CHOICE to spend your lives with each other rather than a NEED. Really wishing you all the best. x

  • @abigailjosephine3366
    @abigailjosephine3366 Рік тому +9

    I was in a similar situation as you were in, Melinda. My first marriage lasted 6 months and I was 21 years old. I don’t regret it. I took what I learned from the situation and applied it to my second marriage. I have been happily married for 25 years. Part of life’s experiences. We learn from it. You will find your prince. Thank you for sharing your story and it wonderful knowing that you are seeking therapy and healing from this.

  • @pambrown8692o
    @pambrown8692o Рік тому +3

    A very hard life lesson to learn is that if there are any problems, even the smallest prior to doing something huge like getting married, trying for a baby, buying a house, etc those problems do not get smaller and they do not suddenly disappear or take care of themselves. Everyone in life has to learn this one way or another. I am proud of you Melinda for seeing that things were my getting better, and you needed to get yourself and Scarlet out of that situation even with the backlash you faced. I have seen such growth in you since last December. I am so proud of the women, daughter, sister, friend, and most importantly mommy you have grown into these last 10.5 months.

  • @robynhigginbotham6468
    @robynhigginbotham6468 Рік тому +12

    Bless you, Melinda. Prayers for your future relationships. May you find someone who is honest, loving and faithful…❤️🙏🏼❤️

  • @angeliquetingler1119
    @angeliquetingler1119 Рік тому +5

    This is insane...im just now hearing about this...im never on social media even tho I follow all of you bc I love all of you, the crazy middles, crazy pieces, crazy treasures and Joe too!!! I'm just happy that Melinda is happy and doing what she feels is best. I'm not Mormon or anything but my dad is so I understand it and the aspects of it.

  • @nodaknorskie1486
    @nodaknorskie1486 Рік тому +3

    I had no idea. Guess I didn't hear the rumors. You are strong. You are beautiful. You are a survivor. I am so proud of you. You ended a bad situation quickly. Do you know how long it takes most women to make that decision. As a former therapist, I teach social workers now, I applaud you. I wish more of my former clients were like you. If I could give you one bit of advice it would be this. Given you have admittedly two "toxic" relationships if you begin to have feelings for someone else please go to therapy with that person. Remember we are attracted to what is comfortable and familiar. So going to therapy with that person will help you make sure this does not happen. Hang in there.

  • @lauslora6511
    @lauslora6511 Рік тому +32

    alot of us saw through him. we wasn't out here trying to do anything but protect you, I know at times its prob seems like everyone was hating on him but we had our reasons. just hope your ok now and healing, its ok to have a year single, 2 years, 3 years dont rush anything its ok to be single u have a family who loves u more than anything

    • @dearleah7116
      @dearleah7116 Рік тому +1

      @laus lora you don't even know him, so how can you say you saw through him? So weird. And "we wasn't" is not proper English.

    • @jenniwilliams3295
      @jenniwilliams3295 Рік тому +1

      I don't think a lot of people saw through him I think some people were suspicious of his motives. But I don't know him I don't claim to know him I only know what I saw in a total of 15 minutes of video. He seemed a little desperate to me but you never know

    • @lilmissmonsterrr
      @lilmissmonsterrr Рік тому

      @@jenniwilliams3295 it's not our fault you aren't very perceptive.

  • @teresarandle6977
    @teresarandle6977 Рік тому +8

    Lots of great advice Melinda. It's really no one's business but your own, unless you want to share it. I wish nothing but healing and happiness for the two of you and Scarlett.

  • @analendaaguirre32
    @analendaaguirre32 Рік тому

    One thing I truly like to hear your side of the story. And your feelings.
    I understand your mom was or is comfort support system.
    Hearing your words, feelings & thoughts are much more powerful.
    Speaking your truth and standing on your own two feet is such strength. And valid on your experience

  • @jennifergross9227
    @jennifergross9227 Рік тому +2

    You are a good person inside and out. You did the best you could with the information you had. I hope you do not blame yourself fully for the outcome although we all need to hold ourselves accountable for our lives. Just keep in mind that your hands are full with two lives and if another life comes along and doesn't offer you his two hands he won't be worth it. Love you from Florida.

  • @agriff1022
    @agriff1022 Рік тому +26

    Sometimes we don't see the red flags from a person until its too late even if people are telling us. It's hard to believe the people that are telling you those. Even though it was later than you wanted I'm glad you got out of it and have moved on with therapy. It probably helps saying something too like you did. That will help you heal more. Good job

    • @emeliaekanem
      @emeliaekanem Рік тому +3

      So true. I ended a 3.5 hear relationship and to this day I remember things that were said and done and wonder why I didn't leave much earlier. So glad I took the bold step to leave.

  • @nancybaldwin4893
    @nancybaldwin4893 Рік тому +5

    I’m so sorry you had to go through something like that. Just remember one thing honey your family will always gonna be there no matter what .I know what you went through I went through the same thing and now my son has gone through the same thing to. and it’s hard to see your child hurting so bad and my son was in a toxic relationship and it got super bad but he’s doing OK now and I’m glad you’re doing better too love you ❤

  • @marissathompson5173
    @marissathompson5173 Рік тому +7

    I definitely have so much respect for you and I have had a lot of life lessons with a lot of past relationships and things that have happened in my life

  • @brookstevick3051
    @brookstevick3051 Рік тому +3

    You live and learn, that is life. I know it's so hard, but you've got this girl!! Better to take action early on😊

  • @Camilla.x
    @Camilla.x Рік тому +13

    I saw a video about it and I felt so angry about that people do not respect others… You are an amazing girl Melinda and I wish people would understand that you do not have to share things if you don’t want to❤️ Xx

  • @jennifermassie7227
    @jennifermassie7227 Рік тому +13

    I'm sorry you went through all that!! Thank you for clearing up all the rumors!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤

  • @kels0jade6
    @kels0jade6 Рік тому +2

    Omg I had no idea about any of that! I bet Bella felt awful once it happened. I hope everyone has reassured her that it's ok, just another lesson learned thru that whole thing. I hate that Melinda went thru what she went thru with all that but I'm so happy to see her healing. She's such a beautiful person that deserves someone extremely special for her and Scarlett. And she'll find it someday. It just may take a little time 💜💚

  • @chelagem6091
    @chelagem6091 Рік тому +2

    Melinda I also have had a practice marriage. I married someone at 18 super fast I dated him 3 months then married him , we were only married 9 months before I left . we were both addicts and i felt bad for so long after I left , i healed in the wrong way but I’m glad you are able to heal in a healthy way. I understand your pain and am sending lots of love towards you and Scarlett❤️

  • @emilymraz6061
    @emilymraz6061 Рік тому +1

    I know everyone is giving their advice. I just want to say I'm proud of you and you are a strong woman! I have been in toxic relationships too, the last was really bad and ended right before the pandemic started. I'm not into any religion I just love Jesus and my best advice is to focus on Jesus and raising Scarlett and He will provide when the time is right! ❤️

  • @nicolaclement6993
    @nicolaclement6993 Рік тому +13

    We live and learn Melinda, as long as you are ok and manage to deal with the things that go wrong. Life is very fickle, pretty much a lottery in my opinion. Keep your head held high and carry on being you ❤️

  • @LorraineG123
    @LorraineG123 Рік тому +2

    Melinda, I didn't hear the rumours,maybe I wasn't looking,and I respect your privacy,I just watch what you and your family post on here. Bless you and your healing process. You are young and beautiful and a whole beautiful life ahead of you.

    • @Libraqueen85
      @Libraqueen85 Рік тому

      I wasn't looking for it either but I ran across some of it. It came from vlogers (and their fans) who don't like family vlogers.

    • @LorraineG123
      @LorraineG123 Рік тому +1

      @@Libraqueen85 that's so so sad to be honest. Poor girl having to have to put a video out like this. Terrible how people think its OK to do. I don't blame Bella,it prob would have got out anyway. It's put to bed now for them all.

  • @addyandbabypollyaddy6926
    @addyandbabypollyaddy6926 Рік тому +3

    I feel like I've gotten a new respect for Crystal for sure. She is your mom. She is managing this situation for you and she is there to pick up all the broken pieces without judgement. I feel like crazy pieces doesn't talk about or show reality very much so to bring something to light with such grace and honesty makes her seem so much more real without the facade they try and use to cover their true selves

    • @iluvyouu00
      @iluvyouu00 Рік тому

      Lol she could’ve done this her self since she’s an “adult” she doesn’t need crystal to be the one taking for her lol

  • @marthaeakins2096
    @marthaeakins2096 Рік тому +8

    You and your daughter are beautiful inside and out. God has a plan for you and you have an amazing family that wants to help you on your journey. Prayers for you and strength to help you out.

  • @purringbaseline
    @purringbaseline Рік тому +1

    She was being private because it's her life and she doesn't have to share everything with us. I'm glad you are doing better. You are one strong beautiful woman and I'm glad you have chosen to share some of your life with us.

  • @hallie-dawn1022
    @hallie-dawn1022 Рік тому +5

    I hope you realize how strong and amazing you are. You realized your own strengths and weaknesses. That's huge! As another commenter stated( I think it should be screamed from the roof top.) You don't owe anyone your truth!
    Don't let the scars of your past determine your future.(sometime its easier said, then done)Best of all don't let the church dictate your relationships. Your a queen. Don't forget it.
    Your a beautiful, strong, amazing woman and a wonderful mother.
    From one woman to another. Seriously proud of you for knowing your own strengths. Keep your head held high. ✨️

  • @amberraschke8607
    @amberraschke8607 Рік тому +2

    The respect you have for your children and their thoughts and emotions is amazing. So many parents don’t respect it and they would have shared anyway!! The love your family has is awesome!!!

    • @notmyrealname4978
      @notmyrealname4978 Рік тому

      They don’t respect their kids

    • @rosey8366
      @rosey8366 Рік тому

      Then how is ales living with Bella ? They are not married

    • @amberraschke8607
      @amberraschke8607 Рік тому +1

      @@rosey8366 ummmm Might want to do more research

    • @iluvyouu00
      @iluvyouu00 Рік тому

      Yes that’s why she kept cutting her off

    • @iluvyouu00
      @iluvyouu00 Рік тому

      @@amberraschke8607 then tell her lol when you say that it’s like you can’t prove anything lol

  • @michellecline8718
    @michellecline8718 Рік тому +2

    I am so proud of you Melinda. It took me years to get out of a toxic relationship. ❤

  • @chloereber593
    @chloereber593 Рік тому +9

    Im proud of you Melinda. Despite all this- you did the best thing for you and your daughter. In all aspects. Going to therapy and leaving a relationship that you knew wasnt the best for you. A lot of women would try to keep making it work but usually it never does and its a lot of time wasted. In my moms case 20 years in a toxic marriage. I hope youre doing better now ❤

  • @milla1498
    @milla1498 Рік тому +2

    I remember how mad and frustrated i am during one of the video out. im one of comment about the red flags. I know and can feel the your struggle through the video/vlog but im really happy that you brave to get out from the relationship. im proud of you and scarlet a lot. trust me, i love each of crazy pieces so so much 💜😭

  • @gandangbk
    @gandangbk Рік тому +1

    You are a strong woman and don't let us your fans and followers decide for you. Well, moving on and finding your peace is part of growing up and learning your lessons. 💙 you and know that you have a beautiful family who supports you. 🙏

  • @jkstudios5241
    @jkstudios5241 Рік тому +1

    I love that your mom respects what u want out and what you don’t this is why I love your family so much ❤

  • @sharisiragusa8271
    @sharisiragusa8271 Рік тому +10

    If the guy isn't willing to wait for you he is not the right one.....The right guy will be willing to wait for you until your special day.....So glad you are on the road to healing and recovery....

  • @janetaylor5584
    @janetaylor5584 Рік тому +9

    That's why I think couples should live together before getting married. You need to get to know the person on many different levels before marrying them and some people realize that they aren't compatible after living together and that's fine.

  • @briannelinden7235
    @briannelinden7235 Рік тому +1

    Good for you doing this for you and your daughter. I know there is a lot unsaid in this video but I do genuinely feel like all too often it’s up to a woman to seek mental help from past scarring relationships. But truly, your partner should meet you where you’re at and love you unconditionally. It should be a joint journey to healing, not just on one. Like combining finances when you get married, you also combine baggage and scars. I know out of respect for yourself and the situation your being vague and I totally respect that. You’re stronger than you think and I hope the take away isn’t just your past projecting on this relationship.

  • @jennygrieder7935
    @jennygrieder7935 Рік тому +1

    Melinda, I am so proud of you!! I’m glad you did this on your time not on social media time!! You are so strong!! I believe you get this from your mom and dad!! You are an awesome mommy to your daughter!! Hugs for you all!!

  • @mistypfitzer111
    @mistypfitzer111 Рік тому

    Omg, i just got done watching the proposal video, & then the break up video, now i find out all these dets!! Lol😂😮 i relate even more to u now after hearing this. ❤️ Youre strong Mama 😊🥰💯😎💪🌹

  • @donnamcsharry883
    @donnamcsharry883 Рік тому +1

    I'm so sorry you had to go though that. To come on and have to talk about something that hurt you is so wrong , you show parts of your life and it's nobody's right to expect to know everything. I hope you find the love you deserve ❤️

  • @ginawhite1451
    @ginawhite1451 Рік тому +1

    So crazy I Had No Idea !! This is the 1st I’m hearing of the wedding.

  • @Donna-qt1ot
    @Donna-qt1ot Рік тому +1

    Melinda, you are a brave, beautiful and loving Lady and Momma!
    People need to worry about their lives and stop trying to pry into everybody else's!
    Curiosity is normal, but pettiness and being ugly toward others is just that, petty and ugly!
    Everyone has a right to privacy. You handled this like the Lady you are and I am very proud of you!
    You just continue to be the great Mom that you have always been. Take care of Charlotte's Momma.
    Things will fall in place for you and you will only be stronger for the events that shape you.
    Much respect!!!

  • @sarasmith181
    @sarasmith181 Рік тому +4

    Melinda p I'm so proud of you for taking the time you need to heal and then only when you were ready, you came out to face your truth. Your always have to tell your story or someone else will spin it and then write your story for you. It's always better coming from you but only when your ready! I'm so proud you handle the situation the best way for you and Scarlett!

  • @patriciamartinez7889
    @patriciamartinez7889 Рік тому

    Proud of you for taking care of you, you share what you want with everyone , people do not have to be in all ur business . Love your family ! We all grief in our time ! Many blessings in your your next season . Much love too you 🙂

  • @princ3ssros340
    @princ3ssros340 Рік тому

    Melinda everyday is a healing day. It’s almost 4 years now from my toxic relationships and it takes time to heal. Just be careful and take care your time. Let your dream man come to you 💖😇🙏

  • @nanapower5065
    @nanapower5065 Рік тому +7

    My Grandpa told me years ago If you walk away from a mistake learning something then it's not really a mistake That my dear is called a life lesson and that life lesson will make you a stronger and happier you in the future 😊

  • @sarahhelms5741
    @sarahhelms5741 Рік тому +21

    I love you Melinda and I'm glad you're starting to feel better and got out. PLEASE don't let the church dictate your decisions like this. The church is the reason I got trapped in a 4 year marriage of abuse every day. I know you wanted to follow "Heavenly Fathers" plan but it's not always what's best for YOU. SO MUCH LOVE your way ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @GraceFaithGFDance
      @GraceFaithGFDance Рік тому

      That doesn’t sound like God’s plan for you at all! I’m so sorry you went through that!

  • @hollyparker6087
    @hollyparker6087 Рік тому

    I went through a divorce it was a bad marriage
    I’m glad you are doing good and u got the support from ur family behind you. I love watching ur videos. U have helped me with a few things n I appreciate it thanks

  • @BeKind2everyone27
    @BeKind2everyone27 Рік тому +7

    It's your life and a lesson learned in this life.
    No one is perfect.
    Just prayers for you and Scarlett to live a Happy and Amazing life. Your forever is out there don't rush it.

  • @iamgrootiamgroot7770
    @iamgrootiamgroot7770 Рік тому +8

    The old saying "Love is blind". Coming from someone who went through bad relationships/marriages before finding my knight in shinning armor (watch out for the turds in tinfoil). Never marry for convience. Don't sell yourself short. There is someone out there for you. Find someone who accepts you and your child. Sometimes true colors show after they put that ring on their finger they think they own you.. I honestly don't know what truly happend between you two. None of our business. Keep yourself and Scarlett safe. Love your family :) I'm subscribed to all your family members channels :)

  • @mollysadewasser1316
    @mollysadewasser1316 Рік тому +4

    Now it’s time for Alex to come clean on all his tickets 😂

  • @patriciakromrei5466
    @patriciakromrei5466 Рік тому

    WHERE HAVE I'VE BEEN, UNDER A ROCK? I guess I've had my blinders on......🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️GLAD you're in a better place, your happiness and mental state of mind is what matters! God Bless

  • @flowerbutton518
    @flowerbutton518 Рік тому +1

    I have noticed that online fans sometimes have an entitlement that they seem to think that just because you share your life on social media, you have to share everything or you aren't being transparent. It's YOUR life, you dont have to share anything you don't want to. You don't owe anyone anything.

  • @ginawhite1451
    @ginawhite1451 Рік тому

    Melinda - I am So Proud of you ! I know others who chose to stay when they knew in their heart they should leave. You made the decision to walk away because it’s what was best for you and Skarlett.. there is no shame in that. It proves that you are A Very Strong and Courageous Young Woman who knows what she wants in Her life as well as Skarlet’s. Keep your head held high and those shoulders pulled back. Sending Peace Love & Positive Vibes Always xoxo gina

  • @kellyking5721
    @kellyking5721 Рік тому +11

    Religion is soooo polarizing especially with how so many people have religious trauma from LDS and other Fundamentalists. Ppl make " the church" happy instead of themselves...hang in there youve got this!

  • @eleanorrees9794
    @eleanorrees9794 Рік тому +4

    "Toxic" is abuse. Call it what it is.

  • @sherimadill3054
    @sherimadill3054 Рік тому

    So sorry that you had to deal with rumors! I always respect people who are true to their self. I’m happy your safe and dealing with your feelings. Wish you the best in life. Huggggs sent your way. ❤

  • @amypeek2384
    @amypeek2384 Рік тому

    I respect that you explained it, an I also respect that you kept it private, your entitled to share what you want to share at the end of day its your lives an ya you put alot out there but its still your life 🥰

  • @unapologeticallyamy9031
    @unapologeticallyamy9031 Рік тому +7

    I’m so flipping proud of you for doing what is best for you! ❤❤❤

  • @ButterflyDragonCreations
    @ButterflyDragonCreations Рік тому

    I appreciate you guys sharing the family, because maybe someone will take a chance on a teen that needs a family. That being said it's ok not to share everything you guys don't owe anyone anything.

  • @LandonKhristopher
    @LandonKhristopher Рік тому +9

    Melinda you should never have to explain anything to anyone what you do in your life with who ever you are or are not with. I love your videos and your whole family.. Keep being your self girl

  • @brookstevick3051
    @brookstevick3051 Рік тому +4

    Aww such an awesome family!! ❣️

  • @nadineopa4021
    @nadineopa4021 Рік тому +5

    Glad you are finally able to talk about it. Why did you have to say who leaked it ,Bella probably feels guilty.I think it was probably to soon .why did the bishop agre to perform the ceremony. Crystal and Aaron also said he would be good for her when he asked you for Melinda's hand.

    • @dearleah7116
      @dearleah7116 Рік тому +3

      @Nadine Opa if you had paid attention, Bella gave Crystal permission to tell us that she did it.

  • @missy2605
    @missy2605 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing even though you didn’t have to. You are brave and strong for sharing this. I wish you joy and happiness with your love ones. Sending virtual hugs from Singapore.. 😊❤

  • @annamancia4575
    @annamancia4575 Рік тому

    Melinda u been so brave to put this out... I hope u love urself first then anyone else comes second u are a wonderful girl and one day God bring the right man into ur life... ❤️

  • @1930Jeni
    @1930Jeni Рік тому +1

    Thank you for sharing something so private! And to the haters may you stub your toe! You did not have to share this, it was non of our business! Keep things private you have that right!

  • @angelrar61
    @angelrar61 Рік тому

    We all learn from our mistakes. We move forward in life and be happy. Firstly be happy and independent with your daughter no man can take that relationship or your dreams away. Be you and be strong. 💜💜💜💜

  • @MissyDcherrydaisypie25
    @MissyDcherrydaisypie25 Рік тому +6

    I am so sorry you felt the need to have to share when our lives are meant to have private moments . Melinda you are an incredible mama and woman I know that God has an extraordinary man for you out there . Love you Melinda

  • @xiomseg
    @xiomseg Рік тому

    Much love! Dont let your past destroy or belittle your present and future, is taking me looong time to do it, don't waist as much time as I did

  • @barbier2795
    @barbier2795 Рік тому

    your an amazing mother daughter sister. I love your bond with your family keep smiling

  • @beautifuljenn4
    @beautifuljenn4 Рік тому

    My Story is alot like yours so I completely understand! Keep your head up girly! Take your time on yourself! Glad your happier now!

  • @dianedonnelly8504
    @dianedonnelly8504 Рік тому

    Melinda, thank you! Following all of you and loving you it was difficult for me watching your videos because I would go away sad! I never have dug into your background story that much but now today explains why I was feeling your sadness! Don't ever feel like it was a failure because it wasn't, it is called growth! Being old I have many friends who found their real true love several times down the road! Just know we all love you and Scarlett and you will find happiness and a relationship that will make you very happy!

  • @dagunnaswife
    @dagunnaswife Рік тому +3

    Thank you for being honest. Not that you owed us anything at all.
    Im just glad you saw & learned early on, before it destroyed you . Take care of you beautiful. You have a great family that always has good advice and has your back.

  • @belladrea7696
    @belladrea7696 Рік тому

    It’s never easy to leave a relationship you wanted so badly to work. But having the courage to finally recognize it as unhealthy and then choosing to leave, shows how strong you truly are. It isn’t easy at all. Sure, it broke your heart and was a very painful loss, but now you can see more clearly. You’re strength is immense and you did what you needed to do for you and your daughter. That is all that matters! May you recognize your courage and get stronger as you heal and learn. Our choices aren’t always perfect, but what we learn from it can make us perfect.

  • @marciadarby3
    @marciadarby3 Рік тому

    I had no idea, Melinda. I glad you are healing from this.

  • @maryhopcroft4263
    @maryhopcroft4263 Рік тому +13

    Sweet Melinda.. I hate that you had to share this because people want to talk and be nosey.
    You are so strong and amazing!

    • @teresarandle6977
      @teresarandle6977 Рік тому +3

      I agree, it's no ones business but their own. I don't care if they are out there on social media, people have the right to privacy.

  • @bevbarrett8537
    @bevbarrett8537 Рік тому

    Hi glad you shared with us but don’t feel bad about it when the right person comes along you will know I married the same person twice bad move it’s taken me 40 years to find the right person who treats me right and wants for who I am and not the other way round we love you and your family so don’t beat yourself up about it I am glad you can finally move on and up we love you sending love prayers and blessings xx❤🙏 xx

  • @tracyzabelle
    @tracyzabelle Рік тому

    you are loved by so many.. the most important love is for you to love yourself