Conditioning, patriachy? If we go back in time, say 300 years ago. A girl was looked after by her Dad and as the Dad aged, she, if she didn't marry would become a burden to him. By marrying, and marrying up as many women did/do, the woman could then help her aging parents with a pension of sorts. There was no "oppressive patriachy" or "conditioning" telling woman they needed a man to be whole. Women needed men if they wanted food and help their family survive. "romantic love" was invented to help women. Instead of just being barted of by the Farther, it was now a womans responsibility to find herself a suitable suitor, someone she "fell in love with". The whole romantic love thing is men showing a women, in a less crass way, how wealthy they are. Feminists think men controlled women. Did a man in a coal mine control his wife? Did he have it easy? Research working conditions 200 years ago and you will see that women who did not work in industry were spared harsh working conditions, not oppressed.
Buuuut, most women, most humans are within the larger average part of the bell curve. So there are the women who did not work hard and the women that had to work VERY hard. A woman who has everything given to her will not upset the patriarchy, it works in her favor. But a woman who has to work alongside men but be subject to his wrath, his dictating lead, and his title of head of household won’t see it that same way. Why would they be under a man when they work just has hard, if not harder? I believe both things are true.
@@LoveAndSnapple Over history, the majority of BOTH men AND women had to work hard to survive. they just had different roles to suit their abilities. A housewife would not have been easy before appliances were invented, before nappies were invented. No fast food for a quick meal. Likewise men had very physical jobs with little protection provided. BOTH sexes had it hard and this is different to what feminists claim.
One has to keep in mind that an unmarried woman wasn't necessarily a ''burden'' to her father-she may very well have been the one to look after him in his old age in an era when welfare didn't exist.
I'm not ashamed to admit that I am happier being married and having a family over having a career 😊 my husband and I are in a healthy interdependent relationship. We both rely on each other for different things. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship just like there is nothing wrong with wanting a career.
I do appreciate Amy’s honesty. Feminism is supposed to be about allowing women to choose the path they want to pursue. In reality, many feminists look at traditional marriage and roles with contempt- even when a woman decides that is the best life for her.
I find your statement odd as I've never heard a woman trash another for wanting to be a housewife/mother. Women WILL warn others of the need for either an education or way to make money if the marriage doesn't work out, but that's just good advice. Being out of the workforce for years can lead to many problems if/when a woman has to return to work.
Your belief in not needing a man will make the man feel he isn't needed, then that will be reflected back as men not needing women...So if you can't need each other for a support system...could that relationship work. No it can't.
It's all about BALANCE. We cannot be too far in any direction on anything. As a woman, I see how women have been in ways expected certain traditional standards of a co dependent behavior and lifestyle. But I could never fully get on board with Feminism because there are too many Feminist who think "Too Independent Woman" like. They do not see that too far in that direction is also not the right way to equality nor their own mental and emotional health. We should not "hate" men to be impowered. But some Feminists do believe that or lean subconsciously in that direction. Life is NOT black nor white. It's both equally. And we must live in that balance of the two. Like Yin & Yang. The world needs The Feminine (Yin), but in a world where woman are now acting like men or taking on the more Masculine (yang) roles in life, there has become an imbalance in the world as a whole. We need Feminine submissive nurturing traits in this world to balance the Masculine dominant ego traits in life. Otherwise the world turns to chaos slowly but surely before our eyes. Men and Women BOTH need to balance the Masculine and Feminine within themselves to live their best life. But nowadays, we need more Feminine. Because everyone seems to glorify the Masculine traits as better. And we need to appreciate and love the Feminine just as much. This does not mean "Female". Feminine in a spiritual sense is different than "Female" as people. Though "Females" are a part of the Feminine type. Doesn't mean all women act Feminine. Most Feminists act more Masculine. And seem to distain their original Feminine traits. Which is sad. There's nothing wrong with Feminine Nurturing and submissive behaviors at times. It helps the world work as a unit. And we must find the beauty and acceptance of this truth.
WHO are these ''feminists'' you speak of? I hear this meme all the time, yet it's never attributed to anyone. A radical feminist lesbian may very well say something along those lines, but a hetero feminist will live her life alone quite happily without angry statements.
God, this comment section is cancerous. I’m sorry Amy, that it’s filled with so many trolls. You are entitled to growth and the fact that people are judging you for that is ridiculous.
Yeah, most women come to that same realization as they get older but while they're younger, and full of energy they tend to label guys as sexist, misogynist, when they make those same point. The truth is we need each other. And if we pretend we don't, it'll back fire sooner or later. Hopefully the younger ladies take note from this video.
What if the man really loves the woman though? But her mind is just that set on strong independent culture. Men's hearts break too, and often we just get thrown away. I would have stayed with this one girl in particular, forever. She was my best friend
Amy, girl. Tears welled up into my eyes as soon as I saw your video because I knew it was going to be exactly what I needed to hear. I am literally about to buy a house on my own and all I can think about it is how I will fail because I don’t have a partner.😭😭
You cannot blame anyone other than you for your decisions or how you feel. If you cannot take such responsibility don’t do it. Why are you blaming an imaginary partner who doesn’t even exist yet? Live in the present and own your decisions
Being in a relationship does not mean being co-dependent... Healthy relationships are interdependent not Codependent ... co-dependent is an unhealthy relationship
For some ppl it's hard to depend on someone emotionally. It's fucking scary to be in love sometimes. Being dependent is human nature and something beautiful ppl should'nt miss out on just because they don't wanna get vulnerable. I agree co-dependance is too much of a good thing tho. Men and women need to work on themselves to not get caught in vicious circles of obsession or addiction..
Women. If you want to focus on independence and your career then prepare to be single. That is the trade off -- loneliness for a career men do not care about. Conversely, If you want a man then literally go to the source by listening and having conversations with men. YT has a plethora of good information. It is that simple.
That's an RP talking point, but it isn't true-it's more like sour grapes. Few men can even afford a SAHM and children today, so get off your high horse.
Amy I'm so happy to see you! I subbed to you years back and haven't watched in a while but as usual your ability for growth and deeper understanding shines through. Wish you well on your pursuits.
My thing isn’t about being an independent woman, hear-me-roar but rather I feel like when you’re in a relationship it’s typically the woman who has to sacrifice and give up what she wants to appease her man. Whatever he’s doing in life and wherever he’s going has to trump whatever you’ve got going in life and whatever kind of ambitions you have for yourself. I see men say all the time that they don’t care about our careers, so that tells me that they don’t care about me. Because I’m not using a career in lieu of getting a husband, I just grew up like a normal human being who took interests in things and would like to pursue them??? It’s also like if you don’t want children and people then ask you, but what if your husband wants children? Immediately meaning, “No one gives a damn about what YOU want. If your husband wants a baby you GIVE him a baby, regardless of whatever reservations you might have.” So to me it’s like, why would I want to get married right now if my life and my overall existence means less than his?
Why should a man expect anything less if he’s a provider and takes care of his family and is an actual leader of his loved ones? If you don’t want to submit yourself fully to a man for all he brings and adds to your life then I agree with you on staying single. Not every woman is a wife and that’s perfectly fine, not all men are husbands. But based off your comment I get a sense of masculine energy that is more detrimental to your own happiness than you’ll ever know until you open your mind to different ways of thinking.
@@brianamezquita9144 Absolutely not. You telling me that I’m giving off masculine energy is just you wanting me to be male identified. I’m so sick and tired of this male identified, male centered world where women are meant to be the underlings of men. Submit to him, obey him, kiss his ass. It’s all about women being male identified and seeing the lens through a man’s desires. It’s nothing but a trick telling women that a woman’s happiness is through submitting to a husband. To tell women that they need to get married so that the man will have a woman, not a woman getting a husband. When people like you write comments like this it’s nothing at all for my benefit. You don’t care about me and what I want but instead you’re looking out for your fellow man and ensuring that he gets a wife. Because you’re telling me that if he does what he’s supposed to be doing that he should be rewarded with a wife but I have to let go of everything that I want to again, reward him with a wife. I don’t listen to what any man wants because not every man wants the same thing. In one conversation a woman has to submit because he’s a provider and he’s the alpha male and blah blah blah, another corner thinks it’s disrespectful to want to be provided for even though her husband makes more money. They have to go 50/50 on everything and he still expects submission. That’s the reason why a lot of women feel that whatever men want is a bunch of bunk. Because whatever the type of relationship you have the man still expects of submission. Whether he makes $100,000 more or $1 more, he expects submission. Whether he can pick you up in a helicopter or you and him both ride the bus he expects submission. Whether he’s the owner of a huge company or the man who cleans the building, he expects submission. What about all that I bring to the relationship? Why should I always have to be grateful like a dog at the heels of her master? If we’re in a relationship I am his partner, not his underling, not his inferior. His helpMATE.
You still believe in patriarchy. You Have much to unlearn still, Young feminist. Men and relationships will continue to confuse you until you admit you've been completely indoctrinated to think of history as some oppressive structure. I'll pray for your enlightenment
I have been watching your videos for about 3 years!! Your videos are awesome!! You teach us lots of good things and I have learnt to have more self love (not selfish), self respect and be true to ourselves. And Amy, you are getting more and more pretty! You have to share the tips too!!
@Bobby Joe I think you are projecting. I am happily married. But you keep hating on women. Bet that v card’s never gonna drop. I think this assumption game is fun.
Thank you! I needed this. My boyfriend is becoming an as* for being an independent woman. Which I don't understand because that's what he loves about me. He don't understand why I'm still living my life and being active while he moved away to chase his dream. My independent scares him. I'm so done with him being rude to me and making me feel bad for being independent. I'm trying to figure out how to end the relationship. I rather be single than be with someone who wants me to wait for him and also can't be there for me all the way too. I see in 2 more days. He's visiting me and it's time to end the relationship in person. I will be sad and I will cry but I can't be with someone who gets mad at me and be mean to me.
Your independence doesn't scare him, it is unattractive and masculine. He is responding negatively to your masculinity, which all alpha men do. In addition, your independence tells him you are self focused and uncooperative. Leaving him will be one of the worst decisions of your life when you cannot find another man to put up with your 'independence'. Ultimately, it is your choice, but regret is inevitable. You're 22 one day, then in the blink of an eye you're 34 with little to no male attention -- aka no man's land (look it up). Take this advice from a man if you want a man; aka the source. Not from a woman as women keep women single.
@@dorout1 No, that’s wrong. She shouldn’t have to prance behind him and jump when he says jump. We are human beings with independent lives and ideas of what our futures look like. The problem is what people like you say think that we all have to move in accordance to the man’s best interest under the guise of doing what’s best for us. I get really tired of men saying that women need to settle down so early because from all the years I’ve been alive, I don’t see ANY men in my peer group marrying anyone outside of their age bracket. They’re getting married to women 2, maybe three years younger or maybe their same age. Women are not afraid of the scare tactic that we’re going to be alone if we choose ourselves first to know who we are. And it doesn’t mean we’re out there hoeing it up or “getting ran through” as the manosphere likes to put it. We like to learn, travel, meet new people, and try new things. Maybe he’s only supposed to be in her life for a season and she meets a guy 4 years later who loves her for who she’s become. It’s not about her being masculine. He’s upset that she won’t heel.
Haha this is such a great way to describe all this. I still hate the idea of marriage & weddings just because I think they create the opposite of what people want... I do want some sort of commitment & to have that kind of trust that I’ll be with someone forever, I just think marriage is a false promise of that actually happening, and is really just a “show” to prove something to other people🤷🏻♀️
well, independent women stay independent. You have to understand one thing men value young, feminine women that's what men like, as you get older you will see this happening more and more and your choices will shrink. One thing women don't realize is that we don't really care about your carrier or how much money you make.
@@LoveAndSnapple we do like what we do too and still make more money than you. Why would I want a carrier woman tho? For her to have the baby and give it to a strange person with different values to take care of the baby thats a bad deal.
@@Threelegs94 If you don’t want a career woman then just don’t get married to a career women. That’s what pisses me off the most. These grand exclamations of what every man or women should be when everyone just needs ONE person. And it’s not in every couple where men make more money than the wife. If he works in engineering and she works in marketing, there’s a possibility that she might make more. And it always comes down to those fucking babies. The reason why no one cares about what women do is because in the end we’re only good for shitting out some guy’s kids. Find your ONE woman that wants to be a wife and mother and leave the rest of us ALONE.
@@Threelegs94 You’re not worthy to have a family yourself. I don’t go throw myself at people like you think I do, I’m just not going to heel when a man tells me to. Men of high caliber don’t spend their time online belittling women. How unattractive. I’m currently dating someone right now for your information and he’s not bothered by the foolishness of what you online boys have to say about what a woman should be. I only come on these videos so I can see the headache men and women are dealing with before they come into my practice. Obviously there’s nothing out here but hot garbage water.
Libra's enjoy being in love but the pain of rejection is a side effect. As a Libra I love to hear your desire to communicate about relationships. Plus your right, be independent and follow your dreams.
Girl this is the video I needed. I’ve always been very independent and according to my bf, I’m too independent and he feels not needed. I have to learn to ask him for help such as opening a wine bottle instead of me doing it. There’s such a thing as being too independent unfortunately. I hide my sadness because I rather deal with it on my own. I never tell him about my problems because I rather deal with it on my own. It’s taking me a year to open up and let him help me with things. I also tended to pay for dates a lot because wanted to show that I’m a strong independent woman and didn’t need a man. Any independent woman out there needs to know that it’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to fall back a little bit. No one will see us as weak and incapable of doing things on our own. I promise! Any, do you have TikTok??? Perhaps it may be great for your channel! I’ve been following you for years here on UA-cam!
@@silentwitness536 Well for me (F25) I’ve had to be the parent to my mom so I’ve always taken care of others, and I don’t know what it means to be taken care off. When I tell my bf “No, I got it” it’s an automatic response to anything. I do it subconsciously and it makes him feel bad that I don’t need him...
You still believe in patriarchy. You Have much to unlearn still, Young feminist. Men and relationships will continue to confuse you until you admit you've been completely indoctrinated to think of history as some oppressive structure. I'll pray for your enlightenment
Amy, you are getting old and realizing that it's time to secure a husband...however remember that your sexual past and ex-feminist attitudes has consequences in securing a high value male, we see through your new mask. Let’s all take a moment of silence for the comrade she might hook up for marriage and traumatize his life.
This is a purely educational question: My guess is, your shift in this "New Direction" is owing to the fact that you haven't settled down yet. Like put a ring on it!
You don’t do that for people or for becoming famous, you do it because you have dreams and goals you wanna achieve. It’s way easier for a dependent person to depend on others than reaching success for a goal-oriented person, you just make the choice.
@@farkasabelit’s a race against procrastination, comfort zone, laziness... and the result depends on how motivated you are. If you’re not goal oriented you won’t understand, but I respect your point of view.
@@Y.HAJ. I just recently saw a video on tiktok where a woman (35) single, good income, no kids, no husband but happy. If she is happy why she is looking for validation on tiktok?
You ladies are so complicated. Wanna be independent? Just find your purpose. If your purpose is to find a partner, even with no kids or true commitment involved, you'll have to compromise. And if you're attractive, people will approach you, that's just bound to happen, whether you like it or not. Simple as that. Many "independent" people I know call themselves independent but have actually Peter Pan syndrome and they don't even know it.
You are so well spoken. Out of all of your great qualities, your ability to articulate yourself is so magnetizing!
We very much love Amy.
Conditioning, patriachy? If we go back in time, say 300 years ago. A girl was looked after by her Dad and as the Dad aged, she, if she didn't marry would become a burden to him. By marrying, and marrying up as many women did/do, the woman could then help her aging parents with a pension of sorts. There was no "oppressive patriachy" or "conditioning" telling woman they needed a man to be whole. Women needed men if they wanted food and help their family survive. "romantic love" was invented to help women. Instead of just being barted of by the Farther, it was now a womans responsibility to find herself a suitable suitor, someone she "fell in love with". The whole romantic love thing is men showing a women, in a less crass way, how wealthy they are. Feminists think men controlled women. Did a man in a coal mine control his wife? Did he have it easy? Research working conditions 200 years ago and you will see that women who did not work in industry were spared harsh working conditions, not oppressed.
Buuuut, most women, most humans are within the larger average part of the bell curve. So there are the women who did not work hard and the women that had to work VERY hard. A woman who has everything given to her will not upset the patriarchy, it works in her favor. But a woman who has to work alongside men but be subject to his wrath, his dictating lead, and his title of head of household won’t see it that same way. Why would they be under a man when they work just has hard, if not harder? I believe both things are true.
@@LoveAndSnapple Over history, the majority of BOTH men AND women had to work hard to survive. they just had different roles to suit their abilities. A housewife would not have been easy before appliances were invented, before nappies were invented. No fast food for a quick meal. Likewise men had very physical jobs with little protection provided. BOTH sexes had it hard and this is different to what feminists claim.
One has to keep in mind that an unmarried woman wasn't necessarily a ''burden'' to her father-she may very well have been the one to look after him in his old age in an era when welfare didn't exist.
I'm not ashamed to admit that I am happier being married and having a family over having a career 😊 my husband and I are in a healthy interdependent relationship. We both rely on each other for different things. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship just like there is nothing wrong with wanting a career.
Why do you HAVE to be powerful and mighty? Why can't you just be you?
I do appreciate Amy’s honesty.
Feminism is supposed to be about allowing women to choose the path they want to pursue. In reality, many feminists look at traditional marriage and roles with contempt- even when a woman decides that is the best life for her.
Yes! Or even if it's her choice not to have children, other women will still try and force control
James, you explained true feminism better than anyone I have ever heard attempt to explain it. Nice!
I find your statement odd as I've never heard a woman trash another for wanting to be a housewife/mother. Women WILL warn others of the need for either an education or way to make money if the marriage doesn't work out, but that's just good advice. Being out of the workforce for years can lead to many problems if/when a woman has to return to work.
Your belief in not needing a man will make the man feel he isn't needed, then that will be reflected back as men not needing women...So if you can't need each other for a support system...could that relationship work. No it can't.
It's all about BALANCE.
We cannot be too far in any direction on anything. As a woman, I see how women have been in ways expected certain traditional standards of a co dependent behavior and lifestyle. But I could never fully get on board with Feminism because there are too many Feminist who think "Too Independent Woman" like. They do not see that too far in that direction is also not the right way to equality nor their own mental and emotional health. We should not "hate" men to be impowered. But some Feminists do believe that or lean subconsciously in that direction.
Life is NOT black nor white. It's both equally. And we must live in that balance of the two. Like Yin & Yang. The world needs The Feminine (Yin), but in a world where woman are now acting like men or taking on the more Masculine (yang) roles in life, there has become an imbalance in the world as a whole.
We need Feminine submissive nurturing traits in this world to balance the Masculine dominant ego traits in life. Otherwise the world turns to chaos slowly but surely before our eyes. Men and Women BOTH need to balance the Masculine and Feminine within themselves to live their best life. But nowadays, we need more Feminine. Because everyone seems to glorify the Masculine traits as better. And we need to appreciate and love the Feminine just as much. This does not mean "Female". Feminine in a spiritual sense is different than "Female" as people.
Though "Females" are a part of the Feminine type. Doesn't mean all women act Feminine. Most Feminists act more Masculine. And seem to distain their original Feminine traits. Which is sad. There's nothing wrong with Feminine Nurturing and submissive behaviors at times. It helps the world work as a unit. And we must find the beauty and acceptance of this truth.
WHO are these ''feminists'' you speak of? I hear this meme all the time, yet it's never attributed to anyone. A radical feminist lesbian may very well say something along those lines, but a hetero feminist will live her life alone quite happily without angry statements.
God, this comment section is cancerous. I’m sorry Amy, that it’s filled with so many trolls. You are entitled to growth and the fact that people are judging you for that is ridiculous.
It’s because she is like the fat weight loss coach.
Yeah, most women come to that same realization as they get older but while they're younger, and full of energy they tend to label guys as sexist, misogynist, when they make those same point. The truth is we need each other. And if we pretend we don't, it'll back fire sooner or later. Hopefully the younger ladies take note from this video.
The also influences so many other younger women to do the same.
The wall is undefeated.
I have no sympathy and have invested heavily into pet food.
What if the man really loves the woman though? But her mind is just that set on strong independent culture. Men's hearts break too, and often we just get thrown away. I would have stayed with this one girl in particular, forever. She was my best friend
Amy, girl. Tears welled up into my eyes as soon as I saw your video because I knew it was going to be exactly what I needed to hear.
I am literally about to buy a house on my own and all I can think about it is how I will fail because I don’t have a partner.😭😭
You cannot blame anyone other than you for your decisions or how you feel. If you cannot take such responsibility don’t do it. Why are you blaming an imaginary partner who doesn’t even exist yet? Live in the present and own your decisions
I’ve lived in my own house for seven years. It’s tough not having a partner but I’m doing just fine. And you will be too ❤️
@Oldie But Goodie lol I see what you did 😂
Being in a relationship does not mean being co-dependent... Healthy relationships are interdependent not Codependent ... co-dependent is an unhealthy relationship
For some ppl it's hard to depend on someone emotionally. It's fucking scary to be in love sometimes. Being dependent is human nature and something beautiful ppl should'nt miss out on just because they don't wanna get vulnerable. I agree co-dependance is too much of a good thing tho. Men and women need to work on themselves to not get caught in vicious circles of obsession or addiction..
Women. If you want to focus on independence and your career then prepare to be single. That is the trade off -- loneliness for a career men do not care about. Conversely, If you want a man then literally go to the source by listening and having conversations with men. YT has a plethora of good information.
It is that simple.
That's an RP talking point, but it isn't true-it's more like sour grapes. Few men can even afford a SAHM and children today, so get off your high horse.
Amy, you're amazing 🙌🧡
Amy I'm so happy to see you! I subbed to you years back and haven't watched in a while but as usual your ability for growth and deeper understanding shines through. Wish you well on your pursuits.
My thing isn’t about being an independent woman, hear-me-roar but rather I feel like when you’re in a relationship it’s typically the woman who has to sacrifice and give up what she wants to appease her man. Whatever he’s doing in life and wherever he’s going has to trump whatever you’ve got going in life and whatever kind of ambitions you have for yourself.
I see men say all the time that they don’t care about our careers, so that tells me that they don’t care about me. Because I’m not using a career in lieu of getting a husband, I just grew up like a normal human being who took interests in things and would like to pursue them???
It’s also like if you don’t want children and people then ask you, but what if your husband wants children? Immediately meaning, “No one gives a damn about what YOU want. If your husband wants a baby you GIVE him a baby, regardless of whatever reservations you might have.”
So to me it’s like, why would I want to get married right now if my life and my overall existence means less than his?
Why should a man expect anything less if he’s a provider and takes care of his family and is an actual leader of his loved ones? If you don’t want to submit yourself fully to a man for all he brings and adds to your life then I agree with you on staying single. Not every woman is a wife and that’s perfectly fine, not all men are husbands. But based off your comment I get a sense of masculine energy that is more detrimental to your own happiness than you’ll ever know until you open your mind to different ways of thinking.
@@brianamezquita9144 Absolutely not. You telling me that I’m giving off masculine energy is just you wanting me to be male identified. I’m so sick and tired of this male identified, male centered world where women are meant to be the underlings of men. Submit to him, obey him, kiss his ass. It’s all about women being male identified and seeing the lens through a man’s desires. It’s nothing but a trick telling women that a woman’s happiness is through submitting to a husband. To tell women that they need to get married so that the man will have a woman, not a woman getting a husband. When people like you write comments like this it’s nothing at all for my benefit. You don’t care about me and what I want but instead you’re looking out for your fellow man and ensuring that he gets a wife.
Because you’re telling me that if he does what he’s supposed to be doing that he should be rewarded with a wife but I have to let go of everything that I want to again, reward him with a wife. I don’t listen to what any man wants because not every man wants the same thing. In one conversation a woman has to submit because he’s a provider and he’s the alpha male and blah blah blah, another corner thinks it’s disrespectful to want to be provided for even though her husband makes more money. They have to go 50/50 on everything and he still expects submission. That’s the reason why a lot of women feel that whatever men want is a bunch of bunk. Because whatever the type of relationship you have the man still expects of submission. Whether he makes $100,000 more or $1 more, he expects submission. Whether he can pick you up in a helicopter or you and him both ride the bus he expects submission. Whether he’s the owner of a huge company or the man who cleans the building, he expects submission. What about all that I bring to the relationship? Why should I always have to be grateful like a dog at the heels of her master? If we’re in a relationship I am his partner, not his underling, not his inferior. His helpMATE.
You still believe in patriarchy. You Have much to unlearn still, Young feminist. Men and relationships will continue to confuse you until you admit you've been completely indoctrinated to think of history as some oppressive structure. I'll pray for your enlightenment
It's the old standard of women having to choose between a job she loves and a family-something MOST men don't have to do.
I have been watching your videos for about 3 years!! Your videos are awesome!! You teach us lots of good things and I have learnt to have more self love (not selfish), self respect and be true to ourselves. And Amy, you are getting more and more pretty! You have to share the tips too!!
🎤 ⬇️ Holy shit! Naaaaailed it!!!
So we’ll spoken . Bravo 🍾
🙌 you are such a talented spokesperson. 🤗
@Bobby Joe and you don’t know what literally means. Your affirmation means nothing to me.
@Bobby Joe I think you are projecting. I am happily married. But you keep hating on women. Bet that v card’s never gonna drop. I think this assumption game is fun.
This kinda blew my mind. Thank you ❤️
Thank you! I needed this. My boyfriend is becoming an as* for being an independent woman. Which I don't understand because that's what he loves about me. He don't understand why I'm still living my life and being active while he moved away to chase his dream. My independent scares him. I'm so done with him being rude to me and making me feel bad for being independent. I'm trying to figure out how to end the relationship. I rather be single than be with someone who wants me to wait for him and also can't be there for me all the way too. I see in 2 more days. He's visiting me and it's time to end the relationship in person. I will be sad and I will cry but I can't be with someone who gets mad at me and be mean to me.
Your independence doesn't scare him, it is unattractive and masculine. He is responding negatively to your masculinity, which all alpha men do. In addition, your independence tells him you are self focused and uncooperative. Leaving him will be one of the worst decisions of your life when you cannot find another man to put up with your 'independence'. Ultimately, it is your choice, but regret is inevitable. You're 22 one day, then in the blink of an eye you're 34 with little to no male attention -- aka no man's land (look it up). Take this advice from a man if you want a man; aka the source. Not from a woman as women keep women single.
@@dorout1 No, that’s wrong. She shouldn’t have to prance behind him and jump when he says jump. We are human beings with independent lives and ideas of what our futures look like. The problem is what people like you say think that we all have to move in accordance to the man’s best interest under the guise of doing what’s best for us. I get really tired of men saying that women need to settle down so early because from all the years I’ve been alive, I don’t see ANY men in my peer group marrying anyone outside of their age bracket. They’re getting married to women 2, maybe three years younger or maybe their same age.
Women are not afraid of the scare tactic that we’re going to be alone if we choose ourselves first to know who we are. And it doesn’t mean we’re out there hoeing it up or “getting ran through” as the manosphere likes to put it. We like to learn, travel, meet new people, and try new things. Maybe he’s only supposed to be in her life for a season and she meets a guy 4 years later who loves her for who she’s become.
It’s not about her being masculine. He’s upset that she won’t heel.
You should be stay home wife
@@LoveAndSnapple single women keep women single
@@Taytaystegall Another manosphere quip. You haven’t heard what the women who have “been there, done that” have to say. 🙄
I am ready for this journey of femininity! 🙌🙌
Haha this is such a great way to describe all this. I still hate the idea of marriage & weddings just because I think they create the opposite of what people want... I do want some sort of commitment & to have that kind of trust that I’ll be with someone forever, I just think marriage is a false promise of that actually happening, and is really just a “show” to prove something to other people🤷🏻♀️
Wish you are happy with your cats and your loneliness in your 40s. That´s where you´re headed
I am glad that the people who disagree with you, myself Included, don’t thumbs down your video for meanness.
If youre struggling with the concept of "needing a man". Guess what? You NEED a Man. If you didnt, you wouldnt struggle with it.
well, independent women stay independent. You have to understand one thing men value young, feminine women that's what men like, as you get older you will see this happening more and more and your choices will shrink. One thing women don't realize is that we don't really care about your carrier or how much money you make.
Until we make more money than you because we like what we do for a living. 🤷🏾♀️
@@LoveAndSnapple we do like what we do too and still make more money than you. Why would I want a carrier woman tho? For her to have the baby and give it to a strange person with different values to take care of the baby thats a bad deal.
@@Threelegs94 If you don’t want a career woman then just don’t get married to a career women. That’s what pisses me off the most. These grand exclamations of what every man or women should be when everyone just needs ONE person.
And it’s not in every couple where men make more money than the wife. If he works in engineering and she works in marketing, there’s a possibility that she might make more.
And it always comes down to those fucking babies. The reason why no one cares about what women do is because in the end we’re only good for shitting out some guy’s kids. Find your ONE woman that wants to be a wife and mother and leave the rest of us ALONE.
@@LoveAndSnapple you all made for pump and dump, not fit to have a family the video just proves it.
@@Threelegs94 You’re not worthy to have a family yourself. I don’t go throw myself at people like you think I do, I’m just not going to heel when a man tells me to. Men of high caliber don’t spend their time online belittling women. How unattractive.
I’m currently dating someone right now for your information and he’s not bothered by the foolishness of what you online boys have to say about what a woman should be. I only come on these videos so I can see the headache men and women are dealing with before they come into my practice.
Obviously there’s nothing out here but hot garbage water.
Men of high value don't look for independent woman.
''High value''. AKA rich men, don't need independent wives, they can afford it. Strangely, most wealthy men marry wealthy women though, lol.
Wish this video was longer, thank you ❤️
By the time women figure this out, it’s waaaaay too late for them.
Teachers our kids to help each other together
Every strong woman needs a strong man AND vice versa💖🏋🏻♀️
@Oldie But Goodie no one's gonna read such a long comment bro
@Oldie But Goodie well, yeah😄
How were raised either way both can do both gender neutral that way
Libra's enjoy being in love but the pain of rejection is a side effect. As a Libra I love to hear your desire to communicate about relationships. Plus your right, be independent and follow your dreams.
Girl this is the video I needed. I’ve always been very independent and according to my bf, I’m too independent and he feels not needed. I have to learn to ask him for help such as opening a wine bottle instead of me doing it. There’s such a thing as being too independent unfortunately. I hide my sadness because I rather deal with it on my own. I never tell him about my problems because I rather deal with it on my own. It’s taking me a year to open up and let him help me with things. I also tended to pay for dates a lot because wanted to show that I’m a strong independent woman and didn’t need a man. Any independent woman out there needs to know that it’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to fall back a little bit. No one will see us as weak and incapable of doing things on our own. I promise! Any, do you have TikTok??? Perhaps it may be great for your channel! I’ve been following you for years here on UA-cam!
Serious question. Is that a gender thing? Or does it need to be unpacked as an OCD thing? Abandonement Issue thing? Childhood trauma thing?
@@silentwitness536 Well for me (F25) I’ve had to be the parent to my mom so I’ve always taken care of others, and I don’t know what it means to be taken care off. When I tell my bf “No, I got it” it’s an automatic response to anything. I do it subconsciously and it makes him feel bad that I don’t need him...
I believe what you’re describing is “ultra independence.”
@@MsJujubee3 omg I love you. That’s literally me. I read the description and yup 100% me!
Glad she is independent her voice make me sick
The QUEEN of femininity and dating advice is Nicole Moore from Love Works. Trust me.
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You still believe in patriarchy. You Have much to unlearn still, Young feminist. Men and relationships will continue to confuse you until you admit you've been completely indoctrinated to think of history as some oppressive structure. I'll pray for your enlightenment
Nice
7:17 dont just steal house Lannister symbol
Female entitlement/privilege. 🤦🏾♂️
Ok 👍🏾
Amy, you are getting old and realizing that it's time to secure a husband...however remember that your sexual past and ex-feminist attitudes has consequences in securing a high value male, we see through your new mask. Let’s all take a moment of silence for the comrade she might hook up for marriage and traumatize his life.
True
Nailed
Posting this video is exactly what is going to discourage other men from having a serious relationship with her in the future.
Epiphany phase 101
You just buttplugged this manupilatative wonan
Hello amy😘😘😘🐴🐴🐴🐴
This is a purely educational question:
My guess is, your shift in this "New Direction" is owing to the fact that you haven't settled down yet. Like put a ring on it!
What is the point of 'independence' and 'success' if no one will remember you?
You don’t do that for people or for becoming famous, you do it because you have dreams and goals you wanna achieve. It’s way easier for a dependent person to depend on others than reaching success for a goal-oriented person, you just make the choice.
@@Y.HAJ. what you described is winning a race alone in an empty stadium.
@@farkasabelit’s a race against procrastination, comfort zone, laziness... and the result depends on how motivated you are. If you’re not goal oriented you won’t understand, but I respect your point of view.
@@Y.HAJ. a race for validation of choices by people who doesn't care about you.
@@Y.HAJ. I just recently saw a video on tiktok where a woman (35) single, good income, no kids, no husband but happy.
If she is happy why she is looking for validation on tiktok?
You ladies are so complicated. Wanna be independent? Just find your purpose.
If your purpose is to find a partner, even with no kids or true commitment involved, you'll have to compromise. And if you're attractive, people will approach you, that's just bound to happen, whether you like it or not. Simple as that. Many "independent" people I know call themselves independent but have actually Peter Pan syndrome and they don't even know it.
Or when you’re attractive no one approaches you because they assume you have a boyfriend or husband 🙄🙋🏻♀️
@@MsJujubee3 i doubht that...only if you dont hang around with guys..then yeh
so basically feminism can go too far. Shocker! lol
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