Unfortunately, sometimes you have to choose who your family is. UA-cam just reccomended your channel. Sending love and good energy 💙💙 Im definitely the black sheep. And that is ok. I figure it is thier loss .
Thank you!! And of course!! It’s honestly so nice to have a community here on UA-cam, I thought I’d be scared to be “raw” with everyone but it’s actually so comforting 💛
Thanks for taking us on this journey with you and opening up about your shame with us. I hope you are feeling lighter in body and spirit. Wishing you a speedy recovery. So very proud of you. 💛 and shoutout to your friend for taking care of you
Sending you positive thoughts♥️♥️♥️♥️ your feelings are valid. They are yours and no one judges you from them. You are strong. Even leaders have doubts and fears. Don’t beat yourself up. We are here for you.
I think for me, I really relate to the part about feeling good about things and then having them turned against you or taken away. I very much reacted to a similar phenomenon by never getting my hopes up and justifying stuff as purely logically as I could, which has ended up causing me some issues in the past. Emotions can't be logically justified, but they're crucial to moving through things. It's something I realized very recently was making it hard for me to justify surgery because I wasn't properly giving my current emotions weight, and wasn't letting myself feel hopeful because "what if I'm disappointed (again)" but this is something other people can't stop me from doing and I can't imagine an outcome where I'm disappointed by doing it. It was always implied that either I'd be disappointed or my dad would be disappointed if I did a lot of the things I wanted to as a kid, but I know I won't be, and I'm not responsible for my dad's emotions. I would be more disappointed if I didn't try, which is something I was not given a lot of space for as a kid; I really got stuck with "it's better to plan it out and follow through and then be disappointed if it doesn't come out the way you wanted" instead of "it's better to try your best and go for it than to be disappointed in yourself for playing it safe."
4/22 is *my* surgery date! So it was really funny when you pointed it out in the video! I've been watching through these vlogs to kind of get myself prepared for what I'll be going through :3 thank you for making these
I’m sorry you had to go through all that, but I also think that’s pretty spectacular that you’ve been able to begin shifting your perspective about trying and being ok with “failure.” That’s a really hard thing to do, failure can cause so many negative feelings in so many different aspects, but I I think if your “goal” is to try your hardest, instead of trying to “win,” then it’s much easier to be satisfied regardless of the result. I totally understand the playing it safe thing tho. It’s really hard to go for something, knowing you may not get what you wanted in the long run. It’s a whole mind set shift, which takes a lot of time and patience. But anyways, I think it’s great that you’re able to do that! Omg good luck with surgery!!! I hope everything goes smoothly for you! And if you have any specific questions or anything of the sorts, feel free to message me on Instagram (@Bryn_Neutral) and I’ll try my best to help you out. 💛
Thank you so much for sharing. You are so brave, it can't be easy. Everyone feels ashamed of something about themselves now and then, it doesn't mean anything except that you are human ♥️ so glad the surgery went well, I wish you a speedy and healthy recovery.
That’s totally understandable. I’ve been through lots of surgeries due to my Cystic Fibrosis (my first surgery was 12 hours after I was born 😬) so I’m pretty much desensitized to it at this point lol. But surgery definitely is a heavy thing, and can be risky and scary, so I totally understand.
Proud of you Bryn and wishing you a speedy recovery! I’m also amab enby and considering bottom surgery. Did you get penile inversion? I apologize if you already mentioned this somewhere else.
I've got some uestions. I have Surgery in December. How long can i just sit or lay at home? Can i just lay or can i sit? Is it hurtfull to walk around? And did you need much sleep after the surgery?
That’s not a weird question! 😊 After surgery it hurt for sure, but not sharp pain. Just very achy. I waffled a lot for the first month or so lol but now it feels fine, normal. Basically how walking around before surgery felt if I was tucked. Minus the discomfort from tucking.
Lol, I can’t remember! I asked him and he doesn’t remember either. I *think* it was his passport but I’m not sure. Im pretty certain it was a piece of paper at the very least lol
So happy for you Bryn. Your comment about "feeling in my power" and being afraid it would be taken away was just so powerful. Thank you for sharing.
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Unfortunately, sometimes you have to choose who your family is. UA-cam just reccomended your channel. Sending love and good energy 💙💙 Im definitely the black sheep. And that is ok. I figure it is thier loss
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Thank you! I totally agree with that perspective. The people who truly love you will support you. And if they don’t, they’re the ones losing out 💛
Sending you good vibes for a speedy recovery!! Thank you for making these videos 🧡
Thank you!! And of course!! It’s honestly so nice to have a community here on UA-cam, I thought I’d be scared to be “raw” with everyone but it’s actually so comforting 💛
So happy you're doing well, Brynn, sending love and support to you ❤️
Thank you 💛
Thanks for taking us on this journey with you and opening up about your shame with us. I hope you are feeling lighter in body and spirit. Wishing you a speedy recovery. So very proud of you. 💛 and shoutout to your friend for taking care of you
Thank you so much. I’m (emotionally) feeling really good, physically feeling decent, and spiritually feelings great. 💛
And also I read Trae the part about “shoutout to your friend for taking care of you” and he smoked and said thank you!
You're brave and I'm so proud of you. Go be happy, go be free, go be you ❤️
Thank you so much 💛
you look healthy after surgery, I hope your healing is not too painful
Thank you! The pain really isn’t that bad at all surprisingly!
@@brynnavery I’m so glad to hear that. 😉
Sending you positive thoughts♥️♥️♥️♥️ your feelings are valid. They are yours and no one judges you from them. You are strong. Even leaders have doubts and fears. Don’t beat yourself up. We are here for you.
Thank you so much 💛
I think for me, I really relate to the part about feeling good about things and then having them turned against you or taken away. I very much reacted to a similar phenomenon by never getting my hopes up and justifying stuff as purely logically as I could, which has ended up causing me some issues in the past. Emotions can't be logically justified, but they're crucial to moving through things.
It's something I realized very recently was making it hard for me to justify surgery because I wasn't properly giving my current emotions weight, and wasn't letting myself feel hopeful because "what if I'm disappointed (again)" but this is something other people can't stop me from doing and I can't imagine an outcome where I'm disappointed by doing it. It was always implied that either I'd be disappointed or my dad would be disappointed if I did a lot of the things I wanted to as a kid, but I know I won't be, and I'm not responsible for my dad's emotions. I would be more disappointed if I didn't try, which is something I was not given a lot of space for as a kid; I really got stuck with "it's better to plan it out and follow through and then be disappointed if it doesn't come out the way you wanted" instead of "it's better to try your best and go for it than to be disappointed in yourself for playing it safe."
Also, you're totally right about soup not being eaten *or* drank XD I don't like saying either, consumed seems like the best option!
4/22 is *my* surgery date! So it was really funny when you pointed it out in the video! I've been watching through these vlogs to kind of get myself prepared for what I'll be going through :3 thank you for making these
I’m sorry you had to go through all that, but I also think that’s pretty spectacular that you’ve been able to begin shifting your perspective about trying and being ok with “failure.” That’s a really hard thing to do, failure can cause so many negative feelings in so many different aspects, but I I think if your “goal” is to try your hardest, instead of trying to “win,” then it’s much easier to be satisfied regardless of the result. I totally understand the playing it safe thing tho. It’s really hard to go for something, knowing you may not get what you wanted in the long run. It’s a whole mind set shift, which takes a lot of time and patience. But anyways, I think it’s great that you’re able to do that!
Omg good luck with surgery!!! I hope everything goes smoothly for you! And if you have any specific questions or anything of the sorts, feel free to message me on Instagram (@Bryn_Neutral) and I’ll try my best to help you out. 💛
Thank you so much for sharing. You are so brave, it can't be easy. Everyone feels ashamed of something about themselves now and then, it doesn't mean anything except that you are human ♥️ so glad the surgery went well, I wish you a speedy and healthy recovery.
Thank you so much, for all of that 💛
It makes nervous watching you go through surgery lol, the thought of going through surgery of any kind scares the shit out of me
That’s totally understandable. I’ve been through lots of surgeries due to my Cystic Fibrosis (my first surgery was 12 hours after I was born 😬) so I’m pretty much desensitized to it at this point lol. But surgery definitely is a heavy thing, and can be risky and scary, so I totally understand.
Thanks for sharing this! Speedy recovery!
No problem! Thank you! 😊
Yooo! I got my top surgery at Franklin square! 🤙🏽 congrats! 🎉🎊
Omg that’s awesome! And thank you 💛
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you!! 💛
Proud of you Bryn and wishing you a speedy recovery! I’m also amab enby and considering bottom surgery. Did you get penile inversion? I apologize if you already mentioned this somewhere else.
Thank you so much!! And yup I got penile inversion. I don’t think I mentioned that in any of my videos 😊
Oh my gosh, I'm so happy for you!
Thank you! 💛
I've got some uestions. I have Surgery in December.
How long can i just sit or lay at home?
Can i just lay or can i sit?
Is it hurtfull to walk around?
And did you need much sleep after the surgery?
I have a question and sorry if it's weird but what does it feel like to walk around
That’s not a weird question! 😊 After surgery it hurt for sure, but not sharp pain. Just very achy. I waffled a lot for the first month or so lol but now it feels fine, normal. Basically how walking around before surgery felt if I was tucked. Minus the discomfort from tucking.
@@brynnavery thanks for answering my question
@@fuzzhead941 no problem!
Thanks for sharing
Always 💛
It's killing me I must know what your friend found
Lol, I can’t remember! I asked him and he doesn’t remember either. I *think* it was his passport but I’m not sure. Im pretty certain it was a piece of paper at the very least lol
@@brynnavery thanks for telling me
All you do is keep playing with your hair you must be nervous
Lol nah I just have adhd, I’m always fidgeting & playing with my hair 😅
The fidgeting makes me think you might be a gemini lol, even though you look like a cancer, maybe cancer rising @@brynnavery
@etherealradar lol I’m a cancer. I think my Venus and something else is Gemini tho