Confidence in guys shows up in different ways ... I like the quietly confident types who dont brag but can prove their worth through following through with their actions and not just empty words
A confident man is clear when he speaks, is emotionally stable, apologizes calmly with intention to iron the situation, has a life of serious interests (eg. sports). When he is with you he puts a ton of focus, but it's equally the same with his work or other interests. He respects your life as much as he is secure seeing you happy being you and doing your thing.
I have to agree with you. Confident men are also okay with the time you spend with your own friends and interests. My partner doesn't smother me. He understands that I need some personal space. He knows that if I'm struggling with something emotionally, he tells me to do whatever I need to to deal with it, but I'm here if you need me. I love that because there are times that all I was is to be held and let it pass.
A confident man will request or ask for what he needs. Allows you to speak your mind even if he disagrees. Takes time to develop relationship with you. Accepts differences. Loves to share his thoughts. Thank you for this video. It’s right on point.
Seriously Mark, I misjudged you a long time ago. From your looks and carefree vibe, I definitely thought you were just making videos because you can and your attractive and people will listen. But you are full of depth. The level of depth you explained in this video really hit home. It really made sense and I know that took a lot of consideration and work. And I can feel your a good person and that is so needed these days. I’m honestly very impressed and very much respect you. Thanks for what you do. And thank you for connecting to your own vulnerability to help others. It made a difference for me and my confidence.
I think journey vs outcome based is so important from men too. I can tell when a man just wants a girlfriend. Any girlfriend. Vs actually trying to get to know me and see if we are compatible and knowing that if it doesn’t work out he will be completely fine.
Confident men don’t focus on looks or sex. They might be very interested in those things but it’s not the priority. They are experienced in holding an actual conversation and stimulating curiosity. Damn. I think I just turned myself on 😆
All men, confident or not focus on looks & sex. It’s primal in men to look for symmetry & hip to shoulder ratio because symmetrical women are usually healthy and able to carry babies until full term with no issues, which men primarily look for if they know it or not, it’s there regardless.
Hi Mark 😊 its Cindy. This video is awesome. I remember during our communication this was one of the many things you helped me with. I was confident in all areas of my life but not dating and men. I had been single for soo long and hadn't dated in years. Everything i knew was outdated and not age appropriate i learned. You suggest 30 days no contact. Even though I was skeptical, it worked! Here we are 5 years later....😊❤ I'm still watching/following, and learning. Thank you soo much for all your great advice and videos. #AskMark
I'd say those same apply to men as well plus... Confident men can voice their opinions & communicate without feeling compelled to dismiss or belittle others. A confident person will allow others to establish their place (IE "show me you can be my equal") instead of trying to dictate for them. They show give & take even in their conversation. They can be supportive without allowing themselves to be a doormat. Respect boundaries as much as they expect it in return. Confident men also don't lose their minds at the first potential sign of rejection. It's not about fitting with everyone as it is about finding the right fit.
Great video. You are succinct, clear and very relevant in comparison to many of the other love coaches I listen to. Love your work! I think confident men communicate clearly, have higher emotional intelligence and don't over compensate with compliments or gifts for the lady. They understand that they have enough to offer because they are a quality person so they rely on their character and values to shine through and attract the right women.
I find that I overexplain a lot not because I'm insecure but because I was always ignored and never listened to. I find when I really like someone that's when it comes out but if I don't really like a guy then I'm all 3 of the things you stated. I'm working on it but it sucks to be so black and white.
The 68 year old dating Jackie is so different than the teen to 42 year old Jackie. I was more like #1. I had a long, dry spell in dating. From 25 -35, not a single bite. I finally decided, okay, whatever. Met my husband shortly afterward volunteering. Married for the first time at 42. Had a great marriage. After he died, I got counseling for the grief and depression. That is when I really started working on myself. Seven years later, I'm the most comfortable I have ever been in my own and in my own company. Dating wasn't a priority in my life. Fate intervened, and a friend introduced me to my partner. We've been together for a year now. Do some of the old insecurities come out? Sure! But I have the tools to deal with them and move on now. I'm proudly #2 now.
In a sense we came from a woman, but also a woman came from a man, (woman) men and women were meant for each other. Some of us just want that balance in our life if we were surrounded by unhealthy people and behaviors its good to indulge in people and community that display healthier examples of love & relationships interpersonally and romantically. 😌🥂
Wow that’s really helpful Wants before needs !!! I guess I was doing this unintentionally because I never saw this video before this event happened.. but This guy I am dating discussed the opportunity to possibly move in with each other in the future but he said that I couldn’t bring my cats with me because he doesn’t like to live with cats he never grew up with cats around the house. Which is understandable so I told him “I respect your decision but I will not abandon my cats they are a part of me we are a package deal. So we can still be together but we will just live in different apartments no big deal.” And we ended the phone call on a good note. About 15 minutes later he called me back and said “ babe you can bring the cats.” And I was in shock.. I was like really? Lol!! Thanks so much !! I love you!! Lol but I think this is a great example of putting my wants before my needs . I put my cats before my need for love and living with my mate .
I didn’t understand the last analogy at first but the last comment about filling up your own bucket so you can prioritize your wants made it click. I’d love to hear more about this!! Thank you
I wish I had found your channel last year when I saw my crush more, but you know what? I'm not desperate for him anymore. I'm going to find the right person for me.
The wants over needs is really great. I'd never give up my wants for somebody completely. If there is no room for individual wants in a relationship what kind of relationship should this be?
I would argue that many of the things you mentioned as 'wants' are in fact needs... they are the sort of needs that a person has to be fulfilled, not simply survive. Perhaps that language is a little more helpful for some .. this is 'survival needs' (belonging etc) over 'true life' needs (the opportunities to express oneself fully - abundant life). For me, a want is something I can live without, and still be fulfilled. An optional extra. Living with a man who doesn't cheat - there is nothing optional about that, for me. Been there, done that. Got the t-shirt. Moving on...
Excellent video Mark!!! When I'm confident I talk more...when I'm not confident. I'm so quiet...tongue tide... I feel so much more better around men that are straight forward..funny and not afraid to reach out and touch you gently and say what's on your mind?
Disagree with number one. Even when I’m interacting with my friends if they call I will look at the phone buzz for a while and then when it drops, I’ll drop a text. I don’t think this will change for a man. Basically my communication language is text or talk in person but I try to avoid lengthy phone calls. That’s just how I communicate and I reckon I’m not the only person who communicates that way.
I actually prefer talking in person (I want to see body language, feel the vibe etc) or talking on the phone. However, soooo many people prefer texting so I end up having to text full conversations a lot to people.
Some confident women are over confident . They make sure they get what they want and don’t care how they hurt others .I was a person who lacked confidence and self worth . This goes back to my childhood where my dad was very bad tempered and mentally abused my mother . My mother had a nervous break down and is now mentally ill . My mother was always protective and always stopped me from progressing in life and being independent due to her fear of me not being safe . I then got married to a man very similar to my father . At least I developed empathy for others and always helped people . I was always friendly even if I lacked confidence in myself . Some women have a lot of self confidence but never go out of their way to help others .
No problem with point 2 and 3, but I recently ended up in a texting zone out of kindness. I am not even sure it was about attraction but I ended up having a text pal and not even a real friend. I will never do this again!
Really really good stuff thank you so much.. wants versus needs… The right man will step up to the plate because he doesn’t wanna lose you to a better man than himself oh man oh man I’m going through that right now
One obvious sign... I suppose in men or women.... I find confident men (people) are also emotionally intelligent men (people) so can read the room.... and don’t follow up way too much! Attunement is a sign of confidence... when you’re not blindly trying to.... meet your needs without tuning in to what the other person is vibing at...
I disagree with number one, im pretty confident with myself. I don't like everything but I'm aware I am who I am and thats never going to change, im loving myself but I've also come to realise I have a life... I cannot be around eveytime he wants a call especially since we have different times with work etc. I text alot more because I can work that around my job and sleep more than a lengthy phone call. Although that said, I do make some time for a phone call if face to face isn't an option.
@@monikaozog7611 oh I don’t text to text for the hell of it.. again I’m too happy with my own company to want meaningless conversations out the blue :] I just mean I’d rather text than have lengthy phone calls all the time because you often find there’s a lot of dead air time where no one says anything and that’s cool… if you’re not busy. I’m currently in a LDR I’m UK he’s USA, we both work long shifts too so it’s hard to always be around when the other needs with our time differences.
A video message from time to time sending it on whatsapp works too. I send audios or video in between text messages for LDR I’m in. He see me and hears me, like a tease and adds more connection imo. 💜🖤🙏🏿
I don't agree with texting. People who are in some health disabilities who can't reach out daily, so they text more than average people, but it doesn't mean less confidence.🙏🏻❤
I feel at my age now (55) I am now a 'Confident Woman'. I think as one gets older most know what they want. My new guy knows that & that I still have a 17yr old son at home & I've told him that a lot of times I just can't jump & run out the door at the last minute, nor will I. If something is planned then I will definitely be there. I want a relationship w/him (he knows that) but if it doesn't happen I'm ready to let go. I will let him think about what he wants when I'm not around. I'm the type of person that needs notice prior. I used to think I was being a b**ch. It's just common courtesy.. Thank you for these amazing tips!!
This was a great video. I love the part of making wants more of a priority and let the needs be taken care of naturally. Thank you!! *Natasha Dudley Vause
I understsnd its about perception but it is bies with texting. It is not about confidence but type of personality. Yes, being with someone live is always better than texting but me as introvert I prefer texting over verbal conversation from the distance. Always. Period. You confused confidence with being extravert..
This is not always true. Some personality types hate talking on the phone like the INFJ and therefore will have more involved conversations via text instead. For the INFJ personality type, the amount of text has nothing to do with confidence levels. There are also women who prefer to communicate via the written word, who may be very, very confidant! You have to be really very careful about judging and throwing everybody into the same category. Just saying....
What about introverted women who don't like to be on a call? I prefer texting over phone calls... That being said, I don't write paragraphs unless I see some level of interest in the response.
Mark, I love your style approach and explanations. Fabulous. #AskMark if someone is perceived as being desperate by certain folks, is it possible to flip the script with those folks by adopting and consistently using the more confident traits over time. Or, once perceived as desperate it's very difficult to change their perceptions?
Regarding the prioritising wants over needs the problem is assuming that your partner will appreciate you acting as a confident woman. Most of us will b experiencing the opposite and face partners who will make such a fuss about us going to yoga or gym or seeing our friends or relaxing (wants) over time spent with them.. and the fights n arguments tht will result may b too much to face it's easier to just spend time with the partner. It's possible when dating to just move on but in reality if you are already in a committed relationship it's not so easy to just leave one guy and move on. That's also assuming the confident woman is good looking enough to get more options coming which is not the case for everyone
thats an insecure man you just described that cannot handle a woman’s confident demeanor in the relationship. Even “ugly” women can always find someone else. Because men need women
@@Mindsetolympics yes indeed. That's the problem sometimes with mark's videos- concentrating on secure men instead of giving us more tips for dealing with bad guys/ insecure guys/ jealous ones
The constant bragging about money can be annoying. I’m a working woman, and always have been.. I work full time so that doesn’t impress me. Staying true to your word is what impresses me. If your words and actions don’t match up, peace out ✌️
omg that says it all, even dating coaches tell you that you might not find love when youre older and you should just admit it to yourself 🤣🤣 I like the affirmaton about being worthy though (as an older person) as a lot of older men are awful and its better not to even go there anyway!
I am not sure but I just witnessed desperate behavior in a man. He felt the need to brag about what he has, his wealth and all the things he will give a woman. The giving was too much, as if he was afraid that being himself wasn't enough. He's a great guy, though and I'd give him a chance.
I’m 40, a single mother of a 15 year old, whose dad is completely absent. I know I am whole and complete being alone, but I really prefer being in a relationship and sharing my life with someone. Are there actually any men my age who want a confident woman? It feels like the only men who are interested in me, are 60 and older, which gives me the creeps.
This is why. You need to change your mindset. You’re pulling those 60 year old guys because you claim it. You’re young and you will find your Prince. Make a list, focus on it and claim it as being yours .. many blessings 💕🤗
@@girlsixdiva They see you as low hanging fruit. They want to get laid the easiest way possible. Young men rarely want to be in a serious relationship with old women that can’t give them children.
Being desperate seems to be a temporal illusion. Confidence doesn't feel like the opposite of desperate. Desperate sounds arbitrary. IDK. When a guy is anxious, he'll be clingy, affectionate right away and goes out of his way. I love that about a guy. So, I don't like calling a guy like that desperate. Both the anxious and avoidant come off as narcissists. The avoidant for being clumsy with communication. The avoidant for ghosting and being appalled to be wanted to fill the needs they left the anxious as a void. The avoidant plans. The anxious pines. The anxious can't have confidence with an avoidant that doesn't express intentionality for a true committed relationship. The avoidant comes off as a player, a love bomber, a narcissist, a confused homosexual and as a mentally ill person. All that for being secretive, indirect and emotionally unavailable.
A confident man doesn’t have to mention his money-especially repeatedly- or what he can give you to spend time with him. They don’t have to ask you repeatedly for something that you’ve said no to before in a single conversation-they’re not pushy.
Mark ❤️ thanks so muchI loved your video and the way you explain each points so nicely 🤗 i getting to know the correct way of texting technique things can be clearly explained during face to face talks i agree have a great day 😊🌹💯 take care 🤗
It is written: Therefore, beloved, being warned of this, beware lest ye fall into the error of the wicked, and fall from your affirmation. 2Petrovo 3-17 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Matthew 7-15 "And I saw another angel fly in heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach unto them that dwell on the earth, and to every nation, and kindred, and tongue, and people. And he said with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour is come when he will judge; and worship the One who made heaven and earth, the sea and the springs of water. And another angel, a second, followed him, saying, The great Babylon is fallen, is fallen, that made all nations drink of the wine of her fornication. And another, a third angel, followed them, saying in a loud voice, If anyone worships the beast and his image and receives a mark on his forehead or on his hand, he will drink of the wine of God's wrath, which is prepared pure in the cup of his wrath; and he will be tormented with fire and brimstone before the holy angels and before the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment shall be for ever and ever; and those who worship the beast and his image will have no rest day or night, or anyone who accepts the mark of his name. This requires the patience of the saints, those who keep God's commandments, and faith in Jesus ”(Rev. 14: 6-12). And yet, it is written: Fear God and repay Him Glory, for the hour of His judgment has come, and worship the One who made it heaven, earth, sea, and springs of water. ”- Revelation 14: 6, 7. It is written: John 3:16: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. And he who rejects the gift of salvation is written: Revelation 14:10 He also will drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is prepared pure in the cup of His wrath, and will be tormented with fire and brimstone before the holy angels and before the Lamb. And it is also written: For there is nothing secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.Luke 8:17. This world is going away and if you want to be saved, give glory to your Creator, repent! And this is the golden verse of the Bible:For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.John 3:16. Ecclesiastes 12 - 13.14 Let us hear the end of the whole word: Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is all for man;14 For every hidden thing, God will bring to justice every deed, whether good or evil. Luke 6:31- And as you desire men to do unto you, so do ye to them. God bless you!
I have a question about men. Especially my man. What if he was very loving and supportive and all in. Then I annoyed him and he pulls away. Then I see my fault, I apologize and do better than before because I get his point, but he never came back into the feeling that he had before. We tried several times to get back together, but every little wrong step I made he gets angry and distant again. And that for 9 month now. I don’t know what to do to show him that I really changed and understood. Do I even have a chance anymore or should I break up completely. He is very proud and stubborn and can’t talk about his feelings. I don’t understand this behavior. We had 4 wonderful years together with so much love. He can’t forgive me. And I don’t know why. I annoyed him by being a bit clingy and needy because I was afraid of loosing him because my father died and I got anxiety. For me an understandable reason and only human. How can I make him open his heart again for me.
Love person with flaws.....if u accepting his flaws....then he should too....nobody is perfect human being...talk to him about it with empathy....I am sure he will understand it.
he sounds manipulative and controlling. do not tolerate bad behavior. you can tell him so. be firm. you are not perfect, nor should anyone expect that. how much grovelling do you need to do? stand up and say NO. it is a complete sentence. much love to you🙂
Maybe I want a soul-mate but it has been a decade since I have had realllly good sex….🤔😆perhaps the need can supersede the want on occasion and one can still be confident and not desperate
Texting can be EXHAUSTING, romantically or otherwise. Like, shut up, pls, let me sleep 😂 When we meet, I will give you my undivided attention, but now, shut up 😂😂
I either say too much, I get too personal, or I just don't say enough and I'm too vague. I'm just over the texting and Internet interaction thing because it's not real enough for my authenticity. I want to be accepted as a weirdo
I disagree on long texts. I'm a writer. I'm chatty. And, I'm an intellectual. So, writing long texts are second nature to me. Maybe not know, but usually.
I am with married guy for years and I feel that he loves me, he calls me, spend time with me, but he doesn''t want to divorce. What should I do? I don't force him, I am honest and gentle wit him, he knows my needs, but it is always the same... Can you answer to me and talk more about this situations in your videos? I know that relationships like my often don't have perspective, but I really feel he is the one. Thank you! ❤️
Confidence in guys shows up in different ways ... I like the quietly confident types who dont brag but can prove their worth through following through with their actions and not just empty words
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A confident man is clear when he speaks, is emotionally stable, apologizes calmly with intention to iron the situation, has a life of serious interests (eg. sports). When he is with you he puts a ton of focus, but it's equally the same with his work or other interests. He respects your life as much as he is secure seeing you happy being you and doing your thing.
I have to agree with you. Confident men are also okay with the time you spend with your own friends and interests. My partner doesn't smother me. He understands that I need some personal space. He knows that if I'm struggling with something emotionally, he tells me to do whatever I need to to deal with it, but I'm here if you need me. I love that because there are times that all I was is to be held and let it pass.
A confident man will request or ask for what he needs. Allows you to speak your mind even if he disagrees. Takes time to develop relationship with you. Accepts differences. Loves to share his thoughts. Thank you for this video. It’s right on point.
Love this Nicky thank you!
A confident man knows that his words are matched with his actions. It’s a two-step process.
wouldnt that be nice come on guys lol
Hello how are you doing? its nice to connect with you here at this time..am Dave
Seriously Mark, I misjudged you a long time ago. From your looks and carefree vibe, I definitely thought you were just making videos because you can and your attractive and people will listen. But you are full of depth. The level of depth you explained in this video really hit home. It really made sense and I know that took a lot of consideration and work. And I can feel your a good person and that is so needed these days. I’m honestly very impressed and very much respect you. Thanks for what you do. And thank you for connecting to your own vulnerability to help others. It made a difference for me and my confidence.
That's a beautiful and honest comment, Krystie. Glad you got something useful from the content. Thanks so much! 🙏
Most accurate representation of confident women I've seen. Especially the point about texting.
I think journey vs outcome based is so important from men too. I can tell when a man just wants a girlfriend. Any girlfriend. Vs actually trying to get to know me and see if we are compatible and knowing that if it doesn’t work out he will be completely fine.
Confident men don’t focus on looks or sex. They might be very interested in those things but it’s not the priority. They are experienced in holding an actual conversation and stimulating curiosity. Damn. I think I just turned myself on 😆
😆 sounds experienced
All men, confident or not focus on looks & sex. It’s primal in men to look for symmetry & hip to shoulder ratio because symmetrical women are usually healthy and able to carry babies until full term with no issues, which men primarily look for if they know it or not, it’s there regardless.
Ain't the truth at all lol
Loool..
Last one is confusing. Second one is fantastic and smart.
Hi Mark 😊 its Cindy. This video is awesome. I remember during our communication this was one of the many things you helped me with.
I was confident in all areas of my life but not dating and men. I had been single for soo long and hadn't dated in years. Everything i knew was outdated and not age appropriate i learned. You suggest 30 days no contact. Even though I was skeptical, it worked! Here we are 5 years later....😊❤ I'm still watching/following, and learning. Thank you soo much for all your great advice and videos. #AskMark
This means a lot, Cindy. Thank you for sharing! Happy to help. x
I'd say those same apply to men as well plus...
Confident men can voice their opinions & communicate without feeling compelled to dismiss or belittle others. A confident person will allow others to establish their place (IE "show me you can be my equal") instead of trying to dictate for them. They show give & take even in their conversation. They can be supportive without allowing themselves to be a doormat. Respect boundaries as much as they expect it in return. Confident men also don't lose their minds at the first potential sign of rejection.
It's not about fitting with everyone as it is about finding the right fit.
Hmmm, i think I’m confident and desperate at the same time 😂
Anyway, loved the vid! ❤️
Hahaha same
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Hah same I text and talk/call. Nothing wrong with both in moderation.
That's being confidently desperate
Want and needs, really loved how this was explained! Thank you 🙏🏼
Glad you loved it, Verena! x
Great video. You are succinct, clear and very relevant in comparison to many of the other love coaches I listen to. Love your work!
I think confident men communicate clearly, have higher emotional intelligence and don't over compensate with compliments or gifts for the lady. They understand that they have enough to offer because they are a quality person so they rely on their character and values to shine through and attract the right women.
I find that I overexplain a lot not because I'm insecure but because I was always ignored and never listened to. I find when I really like someone that's when it comes out but if I don't really like a guy then I'm all 3 of the things you stated. I'm working on it but it sucks to be so black and white.
The 68 year old dating Jackie is so different than the teen to 42 year old Jackie. I was more like #1. I had a long, dry spell in dating. From 25 -35, not a single bite. I finally decided, okay, whatever. Met my husband shortly afterward volunteering. Married for the first time at 42. Had a great marriage. After he died, I got counseling for the grief and depression. That is when I really started working on myself. Seven years later, I'm the most comfortable I have ever been in my own and in my own company. Dating wasn't a priority in my life. Fate intervened, and a friend introduced me to my partner. We've been together for a year now. Do some of the old insecurities come out? Sure! But I have the tools to deal with them and move on now. I'm proudly #2 now.
#3 wooooooowwwwww!🤯 that's a mindset shift!❤🔥🔥
In a sense we came from a woman, but also a woman came from a man, (woman) men and women were meant for each other.
Some of us just want that balance in our life if we were surrounded by unhealthy people and behaviors its good to indulge in people and community that display healthier examples of love & relationships interpersonally and romantically. 😌🥂
Wow that’s really helpful
Wants before needs !!!
I guess I was doing this unintentionally because I never saw this video before this event happened.. but This guy I am dating discussed the opportunity to possibly move in with each other in the future but he said that I couldn’t bring my cats with me because he doesn’t like to live with cats he never grew up with cats around the house. Which is understandable so I told him “I respect your decision but I will not abandon my cats they are a part of me we are a package deal. So we can still be together but we will just live in different apartments no big deal.” And we ended the phone call on a good note.
About 15 minutes later he called me back and said “ babe you can bring the cats.” And I was in shock.. I was like really? Lol!! Thanks so much !! I love you!! Lol but I think this is a great example of putting my wants before my needs . I put my cats before my need for love and living with my mate .
I didn’t understand the last analogy at first but the last comment about filling up your own bucket so you can prioritize your wants made it click. I’d love to hear more about this!! Thank you
"She'll fill up her own buckets in the interim" 💪 I'm keeping these words
I wish I had found your channel last year when I saw my crush more, but you know what? I'm not desperate for him anymore. I'm going to find the right person for me.
I'm glad you found it when you did. XX
The wants over needs is really great. I'd never give up my wants for somebody completely. If there is no room for individual wants in a relationship what kind of relationship should this be?
I would argue that many of the things you mentioned as 'wants' are in fact needs... they are the sort of needs that a person has to be fulfilled, not simply survive. Perhaps that language is a little more helpful for some .. this is 'survival needs' (belonging etc) over 'true life' needs (the opportunities to express oneself fully - abundant life).
For me, a want is something I can live without, and still be fulfilled. An optional extra.
Living with a man who doesn't cheat - there is nothing optional about that, for me. Been there, done that. Got the t-shirt. Moving on...
Hello how are you doing? its nice to connect with you here at this time..am Dave
Very straightforward concise and clear 👍
I personally think a lot of men might prioritize confidence in a woman because it's a subject they feel touchy about in themselves.
Excellent video Mark!!!
When I'm confident I talk more...when I'm not confident. I'm so quiet...tongue tide...
I feel so much more better around men that are straight forward..funny and not afraid to reach out and touch you gently and say what's on your mind?
Disagree with number one. Even when I’m interacting with my friends if they call I will look at the phone buzz for a while and then when it drops, I’ll drop a text. I don’t think this will change for a man. Basically my communication language is text or talk in person but I try to avoid lengthy phone calls. That’s just how I communicate and I reckon I’m not the only person who communicates that way.
Same here. Text or in person. No calls. I have enough of Zoom calls at work and after working hours I want a short text or in person contact.
I actually prefer talking in person (I want to see body language, feel the vibe etc) or talking on the phone. However, soooo many people prefer texting so I end up having to text full conversations a lot to people.
@@ES-qu1jd dont. set your boundaries and say i'd rather not text. i'd rather talk
Some confident women are over confident . They make sure they get what they want and don’t care how they hurt others .I was a person who lacked confidence and self worth . This goes back to my childhood where my dad was very bad tempered and mentally abused my mother . My mother had a nervous break down and is now mentally ill . My mother was always protective and always stopped me from progressing in life and being independent due to her fear of me not being safe . I then got married to a man very similar to my father . At least I developed empathy for others and always helped people . I was always friendly even if I lacked confidence in myself . Some women have a lot of self confidence but never go out of their way to help others .
No problem with point 2 and 3, but I recently ended up in a texting zone out of kindness. I am not even sure it was about attraction but I ended up having a text pal and not even a real friend. I will never do this again!
Nice flower shirt and even better advice :)
Awww, that's lovely, Natalia. Thanks so much! x
Really really good stuff thank you so much.. wants versus needs… The right man will step up to the plate because he doesn’t wanna lose you to a better man than himself oh man oh man I’m going through that right now
One obvious sign... I suppose in men or women.... I find confident men (people) are also emotionally intelligent men (people) so can read the room.... and don’t follow up way too much! Attunement is a sign of confidence... when you’re not blindly trying to.... meet your needs without tuning in to what the other person is vibing at...
I disagree with number one, im pretty confident with myself. I don't like everything but I'm aware I am who I am and thats never going to change, im loving myself but I've also come to realise I have a life... I cannot be around eveytime he wants a call especially since we have different times with work etc. I text alot more because I can work that around my job and sleep more than a lengthy phone call. Although that said, I do make some time for a phone call if face to face isn't an option.
I text a lot too! But have started to text more to relay a message vs just text to text
@@monikaozog7611 oh I don’t text to text for the hell of it.. again I’m too happy with my own company to want meaningless conversations out the blue :] I just mean I’d rather text than have lengthy phone calls all the time because you often find there’s a lot of dead air time where no one says anything and that’s cool… if you’re not busy. I’m currently in a LDR I’m UK he’s USA, we both work long shifts too so it’s hard to always be around when the other needs with our time differences.
A video message from time to time sending it on whatsapp works too. I send audios or video in between text messages for LDR I’m in. He see me and hears me, like a tease and adds more connection imo. 💜🖤🙏🏿
💯 exactly! Same here
Please create a video of the differences between a desperate man and a confident man in a relationship
I don't agree with texting. People who are in some health disabilities who can't reach out daily, so they text more than average people, but it doesn't mean less confidence.🙏🏻❤
I feel at my age now (55) I am now a 'Confident Woman'. I think as one gets older most know what they want. My new guy knows that & that I still have a 17yr old son at home & I've told him that a lot of times I just can't jump & run out the door at the last minute, nor will I. If something is planned then I will definitely be there. I want a relationship w/him (he knows that) but if it doesn't happen I'm ready to let go. I will let him think about what he wants when I'm not around. I'm the type of person that needs notice prior. I used to think I was being a b**ch. It's just common courtesy.. Thank you for these amazing tips!!
This was a great video. I love the part of making wants more of a priority and let the needs be taken care of naturally. Thank you!!
*Natasha Dudley Vause
I understsnd its about perception but it is bies with texting. It is not about confidence but type of personality. Yes, being with someone live is always better than texting but me as introvert I prefer texting over verbal conversation from the distance. Always. Period.
You confused confidence with being extravert..
1st time to leave comment - really want to thank you for such a mind-blowing insight esp. the want vs need concept, thanks and cheers!!!❤️🙆🏻♀️
My pleasure, glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for the lovely comment.
What if you're hard of hearing? I can't hear anyone over the phone and can confidently say I can have a better conversation over text.
Thank you Mark. That was some really great
Advice😁😁😁
Thanks so much, Meloney! x
Hello how are you doing? its nice to connect with you here at this time..am Dave
Valuable video, thank you for offering the clarity 🙏🙏
You're welcome, Reclaim! Thank you for watching and leaving a nice comment! x
Thank You! Great video! Love your advices.
True. Sound advice. Thank you
This incredibly perceptive. Great job!!! 👏
Thank you, Esther! x
This is not always true. Some personality types hate talking on the phone like the INFJ and therefore will have more involved conversations via text instead. For the INFJ personality type, the amount of text has nothing to do with confidence levels. There are also women who prefer to communicate via the written word, who may be very, very confidant! You have to be really very careful about judging and throwing everybody into the same category. Just saying....
Right on topic in defining needs vs wants. Well presented. Thank you.
Thank you, Nancy! x
good explanation
What about introverted women who don't like to be on a call? I prefer texting over phone calls...
That being said, I don't write paragraphs unless I see some level of interest in the response.
That’s less about introversion and more of lower self-confidence or fear, shyness.
Love this series!!!!
Mark, I love your style approach and explanations. Fabulous. #AskMark if someone is perceived as being desperate by certain folks, is it possible to flip the script with those folks by adopting and consistently using the more confident traits over time. Or, once perceived as desperate it's very difficult to change their perceptions?
Wow, so interesting and in depth. Thank you 💗
Glad you liked it. Thanks for watching, Maxy! x
Regarding the prioritising wants over needs the problem is assuming that your partner will appreciate you acting as a confident woman. Most of us will b experiencing the opposite and face partners who will make such a fuss about us going to yoga or gym or seeing our friends or relaxing (wants) over time spent with them.. and the fights n arguments tht will result may b too much to face it's easier to just spend time with the partner. It's possible when dating to just move on but in reality if you are already in a committed relationship it's not so easy to just leave one guy and move on.
That's also assuming the confident woman is good looking enough to get more options coming which is not the case for everyone
thats an insecure man you just described that cannot handle a woman’s confident demeanor in the relationship.
Even “ugly” women can always find someone else. Because men need women
@@Mindsetolympics yes indeed. That's the problem sometimes with mark's videos- concentrating on secure men instead of giving us more tips for dealing with bad guys/ insecure guys/ jealous ones
@@AP-id4kg how to deal with a bad, jealous, insecure man. set your boundaries. if that doesnt work, walk away. you dont want that one anyway
So good Mark, love that shirt on you☺️
Thanks so much, Char! x
This is an excellent breakdown. Thank you so much Mark. 👌👍
Thanks for watching, Sappho! x
Amazing advice !
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The constant bragging about money can be annoying. I’m a working woman, and always have been.. I work full time so that doesn’t impress me. Staying true to your word is what impresses me. If your words and actions don’t match up, peace out ✌️
These are so true!
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omg that says it all, even dating coaches tell you that you might not find love when youre older and you should just admit it to yourself 🤣🤣 I like the affirmaton about being worthy though (as an older person) as a lot of older men are awful and its better not to even go there anyway!
I am not sure but I just witnessed desperate behavior in a man. He felt the need to brag about what he has, his wealth and all the things he will give a woman. The giving was too much, as if he was afraid that being himself wasn't enough. He's a great guy, though and I'd give him a chance.
Thank you honestly 🙏
You're welcome! :)
I’m 40, a single mother of a 15 year old, whose dad is completely absent. I know I am whole and complete being alone, but I really prefer being in a relationship and sharing my life with someone. Are there actually any men my age who want a confident woman? It feels like the only men who are interested in me, are 60 and older, which gives me the creeps.
Where do you meet men? Online?
This is why. You need to change your mindset. You’re pulling those 60 year old guys because you claim it. You’re young and you will find your Prince. Make a list, focus on it and claim it as being yours .. many blessings 💕🤗
Being a 40 year old single mom doesn’t help. Men like younger women with less baggage.
@@MrKrushgutz not true, I get hit on by men half my age on a daily basis. Get over yourself.
@@girlsixdiva They see you as low hanging fruit. They want to get laid the easiest way possible. Young men rarely want to be in a serious relationship with old women that can’t give them children.
Great video !
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I am so insecure I’m 56 and feel so old like who wants an old women. I need to get out of that but look at myself and get bumped out
Being desperate seems to be a temporal illusion. Confidence doesn't feel like the opposite of desperate.
Desperate sounds arbitrary. IDK. When a guy is anxious, he'll be clingy, affectionate right away and goes out of his way. I love that about a guy. So, I don't like calling a guy like that desperate.
Both the anxious and avoidant come off as narcissists. The avoidant for being clumsy with communication. The avoidant for ghosting and being appalled to be wanted to fill the needs they left the anxious as a void.
The avoidant plans. The anxious pines. The anxious can't have confidence with an avoidant that doesn't express intentionality for a true committed relationship.
The avoidant comes off as a player, a love bomber, a narcissist, a confused homosexual and as a mentally ill person. All that for being secretive, indirect and emotionally unavailable.
A confident man doesn’t have to mention his money-especially repeatedly- or what he can give you to spend time with him. They don’t have to ask you repeatedly for something that you’ve said no to before in a single conversation-they’re not pushy.
Confident men don't *need* a woman. They want and choose to be with her. Vise versa as well.
Mark ❤️ thanks so muchI loved your video and the way you explain each points so nicely 🤗 i getting to know the correct way of texting technique things can be clearly explained during face to face talks i agree have a great day 😊🌹💯 take care 🤗
It is written:
Therefore, beloved, being warned of this, beware lest ye fall into the error of the wicked, and fall from your affirmation. 2Petrovo 3-17
Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. Matthew 7-15
"And I saw another angel fly in heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach unto them that dwell on the earth, and to every nation, and kindred, and tongue, and people. And he said with a loud voice, Fear God, and give glory to him; for the hour is come when he will judge; and worship the One who made heaven and earth, the sea and the springs of water. And another angel, a second, followed him, saying, The great Babylon is fallen, is fallen, that made all nations drink of the wine of her fornication. And another, a third angel, followed them, saying in a loud voice, If anyone worships the beast and his image and receives a mark on his forehead or on his hand, he will drink of the wine of God's wrath, which is prepared pure in the cup of his wrath; and he will be tormented with fire and brimstone before the holy angels and before the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment shall be for ever and ever; and those who worship the beast and his image will have no rest day or night, or anyone who accepts the mark of his name. This requires the patience of the saints, those who keep God's commandments, and faith in Jesus ”(Rev. 14: 6-12). And yet, it is written: Fear God and repay Him Glory, for the hour of His judgment has come, and worship the One who made it heaven, earth, sea, and springs of water. ”- Revelation 14: 6, 7. It is written: John 3:16: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. And he who rejects the gift of salvation is written: Revelation 14:10 He also will drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is prepared pure in the cup of His wrath, and will be tormented with fire and brimstone before the holy angels and before the Lamb. And it is also written: For there is nothing secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.Luke 8:17. This world is going away and if you want to be saved, give glory to your Creator, repent! And this is the golden verse of the Bible:For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.John 3:16. Ecclesiastes 12 - 13.14
Let us hear the end of the whole word: Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is all for man;14 For every hidden thing, God will bring to justice every deed, whether good or evil. Luke 6:31- And as you desire men to do unto you, so do ye to them. God bless you!
Thank you so much
Thank you too, Deeva! x
This is good video and know i the difference now Mark
Glad the video was useful, Jasmine. Thanks for watching! x
I have a question about men. Especially my man. What if he was very loving and supportive and all in. Then I annoyed him and he pulls away. Then I see my fault, I apologize and do better than before because I get his point, but he never came back into the feeling that he had before. We tried several times to get back together, but every little wrong step I made he gets angry and distant again. And that for 9 month now. I don’t know what to do to show him that I really changed and understood. Do I even have a chance anymore or should I break up completely. He is very proud and stubborn and can’t talk about his feelings. I don’t understand this behavior. We had 4 wonderful years together with so much love. He can’t forgive me. And I don’t know why. I annoyed him by being a bit clingy and needy because I was afraid of loosing him because my father died and I got anxiety. For me an understandable reason and only human. How can I make him open his heart again for me.
Love person with flaws.....if u accepting his flaws....then he should too....nobody is perfect human being...talk to him about it with empathy....I am sure he will understand it.
he sounds manipulative and controlling. do not tolerate bad behavior. you can tell him so. be firm. you are not perfect, nor should anyone expect that. how much grovelling do you need to do? stand up and say NO. it is a complete sentence. much love to you🙂
Desperate men may have a plan but they won't include you in the making of it
Maybe I want a soul-mate but it has been a decade since I have had realllly good sex….🤔😆perhaps the need can supersede the want on occasion and one can still be confident and not desperate
For the streets!
You remind me of RCBlakes! You and him have great advice for women💗 thank you Mark 🤗
Awesome video
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Haha as you get older you've been let down so you have your guard up when you're young you don't know how much of a pain guys can be.
Texting can be EXHAUSTING, romantically or otherwise. Like, shut up, pls, let me sleep 😂 When we meet, I will give you my undivided attention, but now, shut up 😂😂
I recognize as an Aquarius ♒, I will never be feminine enough for society and quite frankly. Idgaf. And I hate texting, I really really do
I either say too much, I get too personal, or I just don't say enough and I'm too vague. I'm just over the texting and Internet interaction thing because it's not real enough for my authenticity. I want to be accepted as a weirdo
Why do we have to work so damn hard to impress a man, it's a lot of work. I just rather not be bothered #sigmafemale
And trying to keep up with other women, is mentally exhausting
I disagree on long texts. I'm a writer. I'm chatty. And, I'm an intellectual. So, writing long texts are second nature to me. Maybe not know, but usually.
Thank you for this helpful video!!!!
Happy to help, Rosa! Thanks for watching! x
So then what if you believe you're worthy without a relationship, but the idea of staying single forever makes you sad?
Here first.
🙌🙌 Thanks so much, Attie! x
I'm almost 28. I know nothing about dating...i used to think I knew something...nope
Yoga is a NEED!
lmao im just more of a texting person
Dating in 30's is hard😂
Woww I accidentally expressed my vulnerability over text to one guy I like he's silent now ☹️
So sorry to hear that, Tina. If a man cannot take you in your moments of vulnerability, he's not the right man for you. x
I am with married guy for years and I feel that he loves me, he calls me, spend time with me, but he doesn''t want to divorce. What should I do? I don't force him, I am honest and gentle wit him, he knows my needs, but it is always the same... Can you answer to me and talk more about this situations in your videos? I know that relationships like my often don't have perspective, but I really feel he is the one. Thank you! ❤️
I was in this circumstance - just for less time. This video helped me a lot. Hope it helps you, too!
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im sorry. he isnt the one. the 'one' wont make you a side chick
I wonder if Mark did all what he says while dating his gf... Hahahaha
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@@Markrosenfeld You should make a video with your girlfriend friend! Like you interview her
No!! Confident women never call men and never ask men to call us. Men have to ask for our number so they can call us!
Daughters need to know they should give more attention to more than one boy. It’s not considered easy (slut) !
Wtf u said on 8:00. Where did cheating come from. Why u be cheated on if u have love and connection.
Aww shit I’m 37 😆
It’s over
Desperate men are the “nice guys”.
Great video