Dating advice: don't feel obligated by society to go out and find someone to date if you don't want to. If you want to vibe on your own and have close friends, go for it! _Maybe treat yourself to some garlic bread, too._
Fun animal fact: Duck-billed platypus don’t have nipples, instead they concentrate milk to their belly and feed their young by sweating it out. The milk emerges from pores in the skin of the abdomen which the platypus puggles then lap up. And yes, baby platypodes are called Puggles! 🥰
And I find it irritating that pug-beagle crosses get called puggles too because it confuses Google searches for platypuses. I will also add, echidna babies are puggles too.
The guy helping the girl stand up for herself: even if it doesn't turn into love, it could be an amazing friendship, he's kind, calm, caring and looks up for your comfort and agreement first, I feel like he's very reliable even as a friend and would be 100% here for you if something happens.
On a date she asked my what sign i were, and i said unicorn. She answered " that is not a real thing. " and i told her " you are 100% correct. " and then we stared at each other for two minutes in silence. It never became a second date, but i still regard it as one of my best dates ever.
Laughed at the Zodiac date fiasco. I'm Aries and my husband is Scorpio and a friend tried to warn me off marriage with him as it was bound to be a disaster. In a couple of months it will be our 43rd anniversary. Guess things are bound to go wrong any time now.😂
It was a disaster though, how could your friend be wrong!? /jk Honestly I straight up forget that zodiac signs exist so I can't even use that as an excuse as a joke, I frequently forget which I got assigned by random number chance and am not even sure what creature it is when I do remember it lol. Congratulations on ignoring that silliness and having a successful relationship, hopefully more of the strange zodiac sign focused people will figure it out as well in time
As a guy I agree about the „giving men more flowers“ thing. I once mentioned in a random conversation to my female best friend that I actually love flowers and on my birthday she actually gave me a orange collared rose as a gift. That was a few years ago and I still remember every detail on that day because of it
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Sorry for replying to an old comment, I just wanted to say that I also agree. I'm not even that particularly fond of flowers but the gesture of a woman giving me flowers is something that I always am super appreciative of. :-) Unfortunately, as a man, I tend to only get flowers on Valentines Day if I'm single... and that was quite a few years ago, so I don't know what's up with that? :-P
This is so sweet, as a woman I was used to thinking that it makes men mostly uncomfortable and pretending to be happy about it but it's nice to find out many men actually enjoy it
I signed up at a dating app, took my time to think about what to write and what picture to take, so I ended up having an account with only one description: "female". No photo jet, no hobbies, just "female". I had 100 messages the next day. I was confused, why the heck did I have 100 messages??? So I started reading: "I saw your profile, you are very beautiful, we have the same hobbies, ...." and so on. My profile only stated: "FEMALE", that was it. I had 100 messages that were sendt by guys or bots blindly, no one cared about me as a person. I closed the app and never completed my profile. I never looked at this shite again.
The dating apps stink. But where do you meet people? Im over the age of clubs or drinking…so how do you meet people? I really would love to know. 😂
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@@TheBre1491, sorry for replying to an old comment and if this is no longer relevant, feel free to just ignore it but... what do you mean _"where do you meet people"?_ There are people friggin' everywhere! Most you might not be romantically compatible with but... even among those that are not, you can make good friends. Just talk to people when you're out and about. :-)
@that’s kind of the problem though is at the very least you know people on a dating must have some interest in dating. And making any advances in a public social setting when you meet someone in person can spectacularly backfire if they are not interested. How do you even know they are up for a conversation at all, much less with you and want to spend anytime with you? Other than specific socially approved environments which seem to be dwindling there’s hardly any public place it’s considered acceptable to just speak to a stranger you find attractive (at least in my country anyway) other than nightclubs which are a young person thing mostly.
Most of those 100+ men message every woman they can just to hope for success with a single one eventually. Dating apps are so screwed up that women have so many mostly crappy desperate choices and men hope for scraps of affection from literally anyone and it doesn’t benefit anyone of either sex
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@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986, I know that since the invention of the smart-phone, people are more connected and more lonely than ever before. The solution is to not be so scared to make a human connection IRL. Don't just talk to people you find attractive, talk to everybody! The elevator ride is perfect; they can't get away but it's short enough to not be creepy... make a comment about the weather. It's something you both can relate to because you're both either on your way out or you've both just been outside.
You have subscribers because your energy is not too calm, not too overly active to the point you're screaming 24/7. You are engaging, supportive, you have a vibe that you enjoy and you put those vibes out to others so they can as well. Also cringe-funny is a big plus.
Sometimes watching Click's videos is like free therapy. Hearing someone so emotionally mature gives me hope in humanity in general. Life is good and everything is fine
Oh, the zodiac sign one is so relatable. My ex girlfriend came to me after we were dating for TWO MONTHS and said that she just found out that I was a Capricorn and she said since she was Libra we weren't compatible and she deadass broke up with me over it. I honestly wasn't too upset with that, I feel like I dodged a bullet.
If you can be doing something for 2 solid months and it is clearly working, then how the hell do they believe in that stuff?? I see it time and time again and it will always befuddle me.
@@kempolar9768 I know! We were doing really well, we had a super strong connection, and then she randomly just goes, "Sorry babe, I love you but our signs aren't compatible." 🤦
According to zodiac signs, which I don't follow closely and my fiancé doesn't follow at all, he and I should have a whole host of problems just trying to date each other. The thing is, some people don't communicate well with each other and then just find something convenient to blame it on. He and I are a lot like that couple (a few posts later in the vid) who were hesitant to touch each other during very long dates after spending hours upon hours having good wholesome times together. We've literally been together for the better part of over six years and still talk about literally EVERYTHING. Regardless of what any chart tells you, regardless of what society tells you, the genuine answer to making a relationship last is to keep openly communicating, to keep showing each other that you give a frick, and not let any singular thing define your relationship. Hope you've found your way into a happier relationship, if that is what you want.
This reminds me of an anecdote from David Guetta : apparently, he was contacted by Madonna to do a song together... and then she dropped the deal when she found out about his Zodiac sign.
My 1st husband had my heart when he asked permission to kiss me for the 1st time. He had no idea that I have SA trauma in my past so it was a natural moment that made my heart sing. Consent is sexy. We didn’t work for so many reasons but that moment will always live in my heart.
The click flirting with us and also with one specific name will always make my day, even if I will never have my name stated because I'm nonbinary and have a very nonbinary stereotype name.
He's said he uses names from the comments, and I'm all for spamming your name on streams and stuff too if you want. That is, of course, if you're comfortable sharing your name online.
@@horrificabomination Too late, the word is already out. Don't worry, we've got the numbers and the garlic bread. (I'm actually aro, not ace, but I fully support living on garlic bread.)
Fun fact: the way ADHD individuals interact is exactly as described by the segment ending at 1:33 It’s a strange “out of sight, out of mind” state of being for many individuals with ADHD. It isn’t that we don’t like you or even love you, we just function differently.
As a trans person, the dating app statistic post is totally right. I've spent like a decade on dating apps as a man. Sent thousands of messages. Been on dates with 3 of them. When I socially transitioned, I created a woman's profile. Within an hour I got a message. On FB, my message requests are filled with "hey beautiful" stuff. Occasionally I get the "show me your body", but usually it's just "hey beautiful". If you wanna be seen, stand out. But that doesn't always work either because I stopped checking my messages on FB and on the dating apps. It's exhausting. I came to realize that how you meet someone is a good indication of how you will interact with them. If you wanna find someone and you like hiking, join a hiking group.
Okay but his point was that women like you only interact with the 10% of hot people And and ignore the nice plain guys who put a lot of thought into messages was that accurate? Also could you rate your former male persona on a scale of 1 to 10 attractiveness Just for posterity.
@@FrancisR420 women like me? Please tell me more about me since you know my life so well. I don't care what people look like. Have you heard the term demisexual? I don't care if you have 3 horns and 1 eye and purple skin. If you're a decent person I'd give you a chance. And the thing is, grouping everyone together, like you just did with me, is not something a good person would do. You need to work on your anger. Get some counseling. I used to be like you several years ago. Thinking everyone else was trash. But I've learned that I was the common denominator with all of my pain. And what I couldn't change I walked away from. I learned that people are generally good. I hope you learn this too and I hope you 3volve past your self destructive rage. Good luck on your journey.
@@FrancisR420 more like women ignore 90% of messages because they're from a bunch of thirsty dudes who aren't interested in anything other than women's appearance, and they send the exact same message to every single woman because they just want any genitalia they can find Dating apps are horrible for women too
@@FrancisR420 No, the point was that there are way more men than women on those apps, which makes it bad for everyone. Women get overwhelmed with attention from people they aren't interested in. Men have the opposite problem and end up feeling rejected and even lonelier than before. Also, women aren't a hivemind programmed to only pay attention to physical attractiveness. Different people are looking for different things in a partner.
The thing about a simple "no" being better than regretting not taking a chance is so true. I have experience on both, and getting a "no" is such a weight off my chest. This one guy stringed me along for years and I never got any sort of acknowledgement for my feelings from him, and that did some horrible damage on my self esteem. Then, on the other side, I told my first girl crush how I felt only to be kindly told that she already had a girlfriend. Broke my heart, but after crying about it for an evening I felt so damn confident about myself for having the courage to confess. Now, when I think of these two different people, there's a clear difference on how I remember them. The memories with the guy feel heavy and sad and full of regret, while the girl gives me a smile on my face. Shortly put, you have nothing to lose. Get out there, confess to your crush, and if you get rejected, know that you're brave and you will be able to give your love to someone eventually.
I mean I get where the one story was going with teaching her boundaries but the fact that he kept putting her hand in an intimate area until she said no, gives me the ick
Oh Clicky. The reason you still have subscribers is simply because we are just as unhinged as you are and we love your chaotic energy with a weird demonic wholesome twist.
Bit of advice if you're a guy dating girls, try your best to make sure shes at least a decent human being before the date and go somewhere public, don't put yourself in a position where you're alone with her until you know her well. She holds all the social power and can literally destroy your life with 3 words if you pick poorly and there's little to no social repercussions to her for doing so, so be careful and stay in public.
When starting the video, I expected a total train wreck of advice, but the topics Clicky chose are actually sane. Either way, his additions are the actual advice and usually very well grounded.
@@koshmareq Well now you know that men are afraid of women. Us weak little women that are supposed to stay home and pop out babies and make sure our husband is pleased. It's exhausting to try to keep up with everything men expect from us. Like I'm not allowed to speak without their permission, yet I can also say things that will destroy them? How? How speak when no speak? This is why I prefer dating women.
Hey click! Just wanted to say that you helped give me the courage to come out to my family as trans! You’re honestly just a really cool person, and I wanted to say thanks for all the things you’ve done on your time here on yt! Edit: For those asking, it did go well. I’m out to everyone in my life, except for my dad because he’s very bigoted. However everyone else has been really supportive!
I'm a Scorpio and I don't follow any of the stereotypes. 😂 I personally love looking at starsigns and horoscopes and the personalities associated with them but I take it all with a grain of salt. Fun fact: a lot of famous serial killers are actually Virgos.
I used to believe but now I think it's hogwash. all the same it's funny when things do align. screaming "Gemini season" is a fun way to signal that I'm on my emotional disregulation BS again
As someone who tends to be easily distractible and often takes hours to get around to responding to any message that isn't a question, the first meme gives me a new thing to be anxious about if I ever choose to date. Thanks!
My partner makes it a big point to make sure I'm okay. Constantly checking in on me and my emotions and feelings and making sure we both have lines of communication open is so invaluable to us. I have some personal growth to do but they assure me that they're along for this messy rollercoaster and love me. Just this morning I've been sick, major flooding is happening and I don't have access to my medications or anything as they're keeping me safe, and even though they were going out for the day they gave me a squish, told me I was loved and told me to text if I need anything even going so far as to ask me three times if I wanted them to cancel so they could take care of me. I truly don't deserve someone so wonderful but I'm forever grateful ❤️❤️
A boyfriend (of 2 years I think at the time) agreed to go to a bar with me for my birthday. It was just us. When we got there, he ended up running into a guy from high school and having a convo with him. For the entire 3 hours we were there. I was able to pull him away twice. The first time was short and he had a few sips with me, the second time I asked him if I was getting in the way of him talking to his friend (despite the fact that we were there for my birthday, he had arrived an hour late, and this was 2 hours into him talking to his friend). He said YES. After we left, I said "the guy you left me with was hitting on me and/or sexually harassing me all night." He said "I know, it was hilarious." Unfortunately it was an abusive relationship it took me a while to leave.
@@Daelyah SAME lol when he dumped me (I was in the hospital getting diagnosed with aggressive MS when he did it) I felt like the world was lifted from my shoulders
Dating advice from a trans woman: A lot of what people post online is that "straight men and/or cis lesbians won't date you" But, that's actually a minority. Most people won't care if you're cis or trans. And remember you don't have to disclose if you're trans or cis if you don't want to (unless you're planning on doing the naughties, then maybe you should disclose)
cis afab pansexual ladyyy here, I back all of this up! I like men, I like women. if you are trans that's just a flavor of woman or man to me. and I would rather you reveal this part of your life after a couple of talks or dates than expose yourself to hateful, fetishistic or uncomfortably personal discussion with strangers by putting it in your profile if that's not something you're comfy with. someone who is worthwhile will not be upset when you talk it out with them, and if they are upset, oh well -- block 'em and keep going.
not trying to be transphobic here but if on a dating app or in general dont say that you are trans in advance or when you first meet thats honestly sounds rather self centered becuse of the fact that a lot of people who'dnt date a trans person(edit i forgot about transphobic people on dating apps harassing people)
@@milantosic yeah, kinda see that. There's a bit of a line between "not having to tell everyone everything about you on a dating profile" and "not giving people important information that is likely to significantly affect their choice to try date you". And regardless of the other people, because fuck them anyway, no trans person wants to be going out on a date with a raging transphobe and having to deal with their shit in person, a possibility almost entirely eliminated by satating ypu are trans up front.
@mocatdow1297 90% of people are straight and most straight people who'd date a trans person at least non that i met might be a bit more open in america i dont know it just seems wrong to not say that if you ask me
That story of the guy telling a girl she can say no, I have actually done exactly this to one of my friends. (An old female friend and over the phone coaching her through it) Obviously I would never tell anyone who she is, that's her privacy, but this is definitely an important message I agree with. She was previously forced into a situation she didn't like and was traumatized over it and thought she was in the wrong for not saying no and pushing the guy away. People called her a dirty slut for it and knowing her pretty well, She is a quiet, calm and educated young woman, I told her she is no such thing and walked her through telling me the situation. She was always dominated by her family and I told her that's why she was a pushover, it's not her fault and she just needed to tell people no. A few weeks later she managed to push away her first abuser, sadly after many taking advantage of her previously... she's well endowed and a55holes are attracted to her based on her appearance... so I congratulated her and she hasn't slipped up by caving to some jackass' desires since then. I can't be prouder of my old friend. You can and should say no when you are uncomfortable or not ready for something. learn from this story and the one I have just given about my dear friend.
Honestly you and people like that are good people, the story in the video might be a bit off putting to other viewers but in context I actually think that was a pretty good move since the person (ngl can't say the gender of the one in the video, I thought it was a male poster for the first few moments) admitted to having a history of just letting guys do that and he wanted to drive home the point of actually no. Relationships don't work that way. As someone who's been through two failed relationships and is somewhere on the ace spectrum, that story wasn't exactly easy to read since I've been the first person and I wish I knew anybody like that guy because perhaps that would've saved some heartbreak down the line. Or it definitely would've. For some context, I'm ASD and was kinda sheltered as a kid, my social skills are still questionable and I often prefer interacting with animals over humans, an abusive home life taught me that no... Isn't really an option under... Well, any circumstance really. I've realized how messed up that is now but I'm 25, I didn't 100% realize that until I was 21 or 22 because it's just how things were, I was born and raised to be a people pleaser and lately I've felt the need to ask people if I'm being too mean for putting my foot down on some stuff because I'm used to having my boundaries ignored and am really not used to the whole self defence thing. I'm also not really socially interactive but I've been trying to be more social lately as I've slowly figured this stuff out, but it's probably still a long journey for me since it's easy to backslide into emotionally cutting myself off and not really fight back too much if I'm not in any physical danger because I am mentally tired, but I'm working on it. More people though need to advocate for standing up for oneself and having healthy boundaries for those of us that struggle with it, so thanks
@@discordiacreates6669 Oh I've had my share (most people would say more then) of trauma and I completely get you on the whole so easy to just cut everyone out of your life and I'm sure you can do it! Honestly also a bit voluntarily celibate after some shit with an ex that left me not wanting anything. It comes with trauma and very few people feel sexual attraction or are active while going through the wringer, it will pass if you let it which is so so hard to do. When my old friend was having a downward spiral and talked to me during a panic attack from nearly the other side of the world, I was also feeling pretty shitty over that Ex, a bullet wound and lead poisoning and it made me feel good to help my friend out. Sometimes the best way to help yourself is helping those you care about, at least I find it does, but like really help not the people pleaser stuff. Well I'm rabbling so let me finish with this! You have my quiet support and psychological hug! As does anyone suffering the same sort of shit.
I love wholesome dating stories!!! Being an introvert it was sooooo difficult to even think about dating someone. I can actually count the number of long term relationships I've had on one hand (I'm 54 now btw). 2 marriages , 1 child and 5 stepkids later here I am spilling the beans to Click and his followers.
I disagree with that first one. People can be anxious to respond to someone they're interested, worried they might mess up or something else, or someone might actually be busy and know their limits and schedule quite well. There's countless reasons why someone might not be immediately available to respond, instead it can be quite toxic to expect that of someone
It sounded almost like they expected someone with either enough money to not have to be concerned about responsibilities or someone homeless and jobless (almost no responsibilities) to take care of them (emotionally). It's sad really.
I think it's unreasonnable to expect someone to always be immediatly available to respond - shit happens, people have lives, etc. However, if someone never initiates conversations, never answers without letting a few days pass, and always with short, non-committed responses... After some time, I suppose you can assume they're not interested - or ask to make sure - and move on.
I dunno, I really liked that one but that might be bc it matched my own experiences pretty well. When I met SO, it was fun. Sure, plans don't always work out and a lot of things made me anxious but we were always able to keep communication open and reassure one another about stuff that concerned us. I think the point of the post was more to imply that a healthy relationship avoids pettiness and mind games rather than that people in relationships always had to be available for each other regardless of circumstances
to call it "toxic" is a little dramatic imo. it's not toxic to set up some sort of base standard by which people are to use as a guideline.. it's actually pretty toxic to act like nobody is allowed to set a standard because of your personal struggles. you getting set off by this doesn't make it toxic or bad.. you need to re-listen to the segment because he said it's okay if they're SOMETIMES not available but when it is a clear, obvious pattern and they also answer "k" and give you passive aggressive thumbs up, it's a sign they aren't interested... if you are seriously insisting somebody could give off ALL of those context clues and somehow be in your exact situation, not someone who just isn't interested, then I'm sorry, you're talking about a very specific scenario that isn't as common as you think. I say all of this as someone who is pretty damn frigid online (my own words) and has very little patience with anyone who pushes me to communicate when I'm not comfortable. people know the difference, especially if you are mature enough to have told people "I'm an introvert" "I keep to myself" etc. if you can't do that you can't expect people to bend over backwards trying to accommodate you..
@@rachelfurniss8768 Very true about the healthy relationships. I guess I disagree with it mainly because it generalizes the situation when there's more to it than just that. It's not only pettiness and mindgames that results in situations where someone may not be able to respond right away
Here's your friendly reminder to grab some food, sit down, laugh at the chaos, smile at the wholesomeness, cringe at the cringe, and just generally have a good time with Click.
But science did tell me if they are Identical twins they even if they are not growing up in the same household they have the same interest and personality. Disclaimer that I read on the internet but can't really believe myself. Even so the guy was an psychologist
@@lulu111_the_cool This can not be further from the truth. even if they grew up in the same household they wont have the same interest and personality. they are different people not clones
Being aromantic made dating so hard for me. There were so many gestures I just didn't understand because my dumb aromantic brain just apathetically shrugged at them. I felt terrible when I realized it, but I also couldn't force myself to care. Something like holding hands, getting flowers, celebrating Valentine's Day, and so on were just things I saw zero appeal in, and no matter how hard I tried to care, they just weren't interesting. I had so many people tell me I was ungrateful and selfish for not being interested, or not thinking about doing romantic gestures for another, and it really stung. It feels really nice to have a partner who, despite not being aromantic himself, understands why I just don't get the appeal, and we've found workarounds for ways to show appreciation for each other without forcing me into being romantic. Things like inviting each other to play video games, drawing gift art for one another, or sending each other memes. We need more aromantic dating advise, because so many aromantic people like myself are guilt-tripped and made to feel bad over something that is both not their fault and solvable.
I recently realised I am aro-hetero myself after a long time (I am not young lol). I am probably on the spectrum and suffer from anxiety and am pretty socially awkward when meeting people so I have never really had much luck in dating full stop. I think being unknowingly aro has probably helped me not focus on the very limited dating success I have had and I am probably better of than an alloromantic in the same situation (silver lining I guess). My main issues now are mainly trying to figure out what I want, and sometimes find myself wishing I was also asexual.
I'm omnisexual aromantic, as well as polyamorous, myself, and that's always overcomplicated things even further. Its such a start contrast and a lot of people don't get it. I'm also dealing anxiety, as well as autism, so I struggle socially a lot.
About 5 or so years ago I realised I'm not interested in romantic relationships. Whether that is aromantic or not I guess is debatable, since I've never had issues recognising cues and body language and such. It's just that after several long-term relationships I realised that they simply don't make me happy. I enjoyed some parts of being with someone, but on the whole I felt worse than when I was single due to numerous commitments, adjustments and other things I couldn't really deal with.
Click, you make things so much better on a normal basis, but right now things have been rough/dark with family health and it’s just feels so damn good to laugh while waiting for news. Your personality is so infectious and your laughter is as well. Thank you.
I wish you all the best. It seems this channel has this affect on many people, myself included. And i hope things get better for all of us eventually. But right now, i will say it again. Best wishes to you that everything will work out for the best
17:16 As a very quiet and not the most talkative guy with people I don't already know, this would make dating a whole lot easier. I find it incredibly difficult to make the first move and just kind of wish people would come to me more. It has happened multiple times where I end up waiting weeks trying to build up confidence to ask someone out. If you like a guy, thinks he likes you, and are wondering why he hasn't said anything yet it could be the same thing. A guy who wants the relationship but is too nervous always having to make the first move.
Not being a conventionally attractive afab person, who went through so many bad scenarios with former partners and painful memories, then eventually connecting with an old friend after all of that...he mentioned by the time he finally realized he was in love with me, there had been another waste of my time I had been fixated on. Sometimes, I kinda do wish folx in general (doesn't matter amab or afab) could communicate better, perhaps speak up about their feelings more. It's hard not to have wondered how different things could've been, if my friend had become my partner sooner, and bypass all of the fucked up memories and nightmares I get from the others who in reality I gave more of my time than they deserved.
I meet my now vife ,vhen we vere 13 our son is 30!now . We been married for 8 years now ,as we tell people we needed time too learn each others quirks. Dont worry there is a special one out there for you to. Best wishes for you. Sorry for Spelling
Honestly, my current bf of 5 years (likely soonish to be fiance), just started a convo. No pickup lines. No hitting on me. Just being friendly. We were working at the same retail store when we met. It took me awhile to notice that I'd smile when I'd realize I was getting a text from him, or if I heard his voice from around the store if we were working at the same time. Honestly, if you don't go into it expecting something more, and letting things happen more or less on their own - it felt so much nicer on my end to do so. Just make sure at some point one of you does what he did and asks straight up if you're together. Be honest about it when the relationship gets there. There's nothing wrong with taking things slow. 💕
Yeah I understand the other dating "red flags", but not everyone keeps their phone on them at all times. Especially if you do a lot of sports, cycle commute, meditate, work in an environment where you can't have it with you, turn your phone off when focusing on hobbies etc. Objecting to being left on read or expecting a warm engaged response when someone does reply is one thing, but demanding a fast reply to all messages sounds exhaustingly needy.
I still, to this day, have not once said "no" to intimacy. My first assault happened at such a young age, I just... never learned how to say no. And not 1 man has ever asked if I was uncomfortable, out of the hundreds I've been with. I wish more guys would pay attention to their partners interest like that dude.
@@SpeedyGwen I am autistic as well, but I have a strong sense of justice and I had anger management issues as a child. I think that's why I never had problems to say no. Speedy Gwen, if you have problems, you can talk to any of us, and we will help you.
I have always find it imposible to maintain a friendship with someone after we stop meeting in person, mostly because of my social anxiety preventing me from reaching out. I always feels like they might have something better to do than speaking with me.
It's also important to try and figure yourself out before dating. I kept hitting wall after wall with every single date (Mostly with guys because they just seemed to gain interest first). I was talking with this really great guy, really respectful. But soon I hit a wall again when things were getting serious. After a while I figured out I was much more attracted in women rather than men. I felt embarrassed, and awkward because this guy was really into me, and he was probably the best guy I've met online. he was really chill about it, and understanding when I told him. Figure yourself out and try to get in a good mental state before getting into a relationship.
The thing about standing up for yourself is very relatable. I'm a people pleaser myself, and although my bf encouraged me to be more assertive before I was still afraid of making other people upset at me because I don't do well when it comes to perceived or real negative reactions. Then I had to deal with a player in D&D who was very pushy and tried to control what other people did so I finally told him to knock it off and let me choose how to handle a situation his character wasn't present for. My bf told me after that he was proud of me for that and I felt really good about telling that guy he couldn't control what I did and his "advice" was unsolicited/unappreciated. It was the best feeling I'd had in a while, and although I still struggle with standing up for myself (I get shaky and tend to tear up after) that was a big eye opener about how much I let people walk all over me. I thought I had a lot of patience/tolerance for other people irritating me but in reality I was just too afraid to do anything and bottled up my feelings to the point where little things would make me cry in my room. I had too many people disregard my feelings before so I felt like speaking up wouldn't do anything, and I realized I should probably get therapy for that. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and tell other people no. They can't decide that your feelings and boundaries don't matter, and if they try then they aren't worth keeping in your life
Been there myself many times. I’d been taken advantage of by horrible people due to my naive, kind hearted nature. It was very painful. It was hard at first, but after a while, I’ve since used my past toxic relationships as stepping stones to help me stand up for myself and set boundaries for myself, even if it meant I had to cut ties with those who were narcissistic and never cared about me or anyone else.
About the first one: no!!! Someone *can* be going through a busy time or not find an interesting way to answer your texts and still be interested in your company. It just doesn't work like that!
A lot of this dating advice is so true, I really wish a lot more people would listen to it. I'm 100% a conversationalist and can talk your ear off be it in person or through text and really wish there was more men out there who took the time to have things to talk about and not give me boring couple word replies like "fair enough" "yeah I bet" or "lol". I am much more likely to be attracted to guys who know how to have a conversation and seemed like a normal person.. then a dude who seems uninterested, or like he's talking to so many people he doesn't have the time to give me an actual reply, or like nothing interesting ever happens in his life or everything about his day is too personal.
nothing more fun than a guy who starts conversation with you, then replies with dead-end answers every time. "haha, that sounds about right" "damn" "well that sucks" and then they get pissy when you stop responding back. I've literally explained to a guy I was talking to that he does this, we had a deep discussion about how to fix it, and then he went right back to doing it. it is really hard to train people to keep a dialogue tree going, apparently.
@@peachy_lili so true!! Those dead answers that you just typed are exactly the same as the ones that I get a lot of the time. It used to infuriate me, I was like, did all of these guys just share the same brain cell? Lol
Eh I'm 50/50 on that but I get where you're coming from, long conversations can be super fun and interesting but I think it's also ok to just have short convos sometimes. Though... For me it depends on the minute which anyone is gonna get because sometimes I'm either too tired or distracted to give much more then a short reply and other times people complain that I say too much because I can go on really long tangents about random subjects... Which I'll probably completely forget about doing within the next 24hrs and may or may not repeat the exact same convo a week later... Idk which is worse in my case because I don't exactly seem to have a middle ground
@@discordiacreates6669 I totally understand what you're saying but I think me and the other person we're just talking about the people who never ever give you anything as a response it's always just dead-end conversation never goes anywhere
@@krissflavoredx oh yeah, it's completely understandable to not want any dead end convos and I think if it's a thing so early on, it's probably a good indicator y'all aren't a match if you struggle to have a convo that clicks with and engages you both. Sad honestly, but people are as varied as their interests so no one can work with everyone and I think recognizing that isn't bad at all. Communication is part of a relationship after all so it probably has to at least be decent, right? Idk I'm not too good at it honestly and I tend to feel obligated to reply asap to anything, regardless of the hour ^^'. Not that replying to this is bothersome at all though but I have had moments where I think a longer response is required and... Well those convos tend to drop off super fast as I run outta things to say quicker, so that's probably worth working on now that I think about it ^^'
I’ve always gone by “It’s better to feel rejection than regret” Even though rejection may hurt, regret will hurt even more, at least you could say you tried :)
Dating advice: loving to talk to you doesn't always mean clingy. I've been meaning to share this. My partner texted me daily after our first date. Friends called him clingy and were worried. Turns out I'm his first healthy relationship and he is just too excited to be having a healthy relationship plus with someone he could talk about nerdy stuff with. We're going seven years strong and he respects my space when I want some me time. I'm not saying clingy isn't a red flag but try to see the difference between clingy and just really into the relationship.
Detta lär låta weird men tack för att du är en bra karl och en bra role model för yngre män och öppen om saker som kan kännas lite tabu som att inte våga säga nej särskilt som kille. Du är underbar.
7:43 My then bf had this exact experience with me, we hadn't been dating long and I don't say no.. I've never been taught to bc everytime I have, I've been guilttripped into saying yes, or simply just been taken anyway. He stopped, realized I wasn't really putting my hands on him or anything, asked me if I was even in the mood, I shrugged, he stopped completely and held me and told me "you can tell me no, don't ever let me put my hands on you or get so far if you aren't wanting to" I cried, and he had done this many times until I felt okay to say no. I have been with him two years. Married for one. We have a son now 🥰 he is the absolute love of my life, and still everyday, I expect a scolding for something, or for him to be mad about something (like my crafty passions) he doesn't scold me, he doesn't yell, he just wants me happy 😭😭 and every single day this mans shocks me. Every. Single. Day. For two years. I've been abused or used or manipulated since I was 6 until him. Until I was NINETEEN almost TWENTY, this man, has changed my life. I hope we never grow apart ❤️❤️ Edit: this is also the same man who asked me permission for a kiss on our first date, I've been in love ever since ❤️
I’m aromantic and asexual and I made a tinder profile with my roommates as a joke and when I got the first match I was super visibly uncomfortable and my roommates were laughing cause “yeah you’re definitely aroace” 😂
As much as I love spice when it comes to other's love life (as long as no lives are on the line or life changing events), the first two stories were such empowering and wholesome-ish content and I love that all the more.
2:19 Just sounded so much like the little talks my dad used to give me, so much so that I had to just pause and sit for a second to process. Thank you.
I see people dropping animal facts, so here's mine: There's a worm called the velvet worm that has a glue gun on it's face. It hunts cockroaches with it, just... Squirts them with glue like slime. Imagine being a cockroach and being SHOT by a fricking worm
Dating advice: for the love of god set clear boundries from the start, before things get serious or too much time has been invested, make sure to talk about clear, honest boundries and limits. i have had this conversation about any important part of all my relationships for the past few years, and it is amazing the diffrence it makes! never did i feel so secure and safe within a relationship then when i started impelmenting this instead of guessing limits.
14:38 I get my fiancé a white rose every year for Valentine’s Day. I remember the look on his face the first time I did that for him. And every year (even if he won’t outright admit it) the grin on his face when he comes home and it’s sitting in its own little vase is amazing
IMO, what makes zodiac signs fun is the rare times they are spot on like "you are a scorpio so you live at [doxxed address], and your daily routine is: 7-9:get ready for the day, 9-10: drive to work, 10-6: work, 6-8: stalk your local starbucks barista who fucked up your caramel mocha and make sure no one will find them for at least 30 years, 8-11: mug children for money, 11-7: sleep time. And some would say your the most likely one to be responsible for a political assassination" and then your just sitting there with your friends laughing and getting all giddy saying "that's literally me!"
I had someone who I had liked for a while. I told her I liked her and her response was to say she was dating someone but would "consider it in future". Like seriously I would have taken just a flat out no over that. Just makes it way harder to get over her.
8:04, this is what a person should be. Thats all. That man is a prime example of a good person. And they need to let him know that, half the way people know what they're doing is right is being told, so, to that person and anyone else, Tell people when they do the right thing.
Honestly, the one that upsets me most is the one with person who ghosted their date because they felt too overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do. I feel bad for them, and I hope that they’ve been able to move on and understand their personal limitations and borders after this experience. That said? What upsets me the most is not that he did that, it’s that so many people are like “Get that fricking AWESOME dude an award for understanding consent & knowing right from wrong”. It’s not that I don’t think he did exactly the right thing, because I very much believe that yes, he absolutely did! No, it’s actually the fact that so many people out there are just so completely shocked whenever a man actually didn’t listen to his little head & hormones re: get laid, but instead stopped and asked if they were ok when he began to realize that they weren’t. I’m also very happy for them both that he then tried to help the OP with their quite serious boundary/people pleasing issues. While I realize that this is not the norm, and not everyone has a psychology degree - but seeing as basic consent is finally being taught to SO many people these days I’m truly far more shocked and surprised that situations like this are not already the norm - NOT some big “Oh. My. Gawd!! Would you just LOOK at that guy being suuuuuch a caring human being - I wish I would be treated like that!, or “wow! Well, SOMEBODY raised that boy right!!” or even the “HUGE kudos to you dude” type of bullshyte. This is called simply being aware of the person you’re about to be very intimate with and having enough empathy & intelligence to stop, back the hell off and try to find out what it is that’s going on once they realize something isn’t quite right. A guy who does that doesn’t mean he’s a “gigachad” or anything along those lines - *regardless* of what some toxic red pill incel might want people to believe. No, what it actually makes them a caring, empathetic human being, who will very likely make someone an excellent life partner. Unlike all of those “alpha” types who will be off somewhere living in the deep hole in the dirt that they dug for themself, with nothing better to do than spend their days furiously typing out their long list of grievances on some silly group chat somewhere about the terrible sins they truly believe the world (and women) in general has done to them.
I’m 18 (male) and have no experience whatsoever. I either mentally eclipse liking the person I’m with and act as if she/he’s just a friend, or completely freeze. I had only once managed to gather up all my courage and present myself with a white rose (symbol of first love) to the girl I’ve been talking with for the last 3 month, she avoided meeting me and got out from the back door of her house. I’ve later discovered that she had a boyfriend, but had never told me in those months.
"If someone really likes you, it will be obvious" and to that I'd like to add "to everyone else, but only to you around 25% of the time, as some people are shy, and other people are oblivious."
My husband's favorite flower is the dandelion. I bought him a dandelion puff in glass for Valentines Day. It sits in our livingroom to this day, so he can enjoy it every day. I'll also just buy him flowers on my way home from work because I was thinking of him. I love the way his face lights up. ❤️
Well i did not know what to expect with click covering dating advice but that was surpringly more wholesome than i expected. A lot pf great pearls of wisdom in there
When your name is just a plant so you know you'll likely be spared from being targeted in the intro: Also amazing video like usual, even though I just started watching!
Late comment I love Click's videos I'm on the spectrum and sometimes just being able to zone out and stim with Cick in my headphones is amazing I love coming back to older videos just for background noise or to keep my focused on something while doing homework or chores I love your videos, Click ❤
My brother, my dad and I, especially when I was younger, would have debates all the time just for fun. It really helped my problem-solving abilities and I'm glad I got that experience when I was young.
I just started as a fursuit maker, and currently im putting fur on a foam head, but i have decided that my goal in life and in my career is to make Click a fursuit. Watch out, i’m coming for you click ✨
i saw a comment on one of click's furryirl videos that said they wouldn't be surprised if click slowly started putting on a fursuit bit by bit each video. i get the feeling you'd be perfect for making that suit.
I once had a bloke come up to me in a club and ask me what size my feet were, I laughed so hard and chatted to him the rest of the night. We ended up going to a few dates afterwards as well
There's something very cool about click having a younger audience and speaking to them about serious topics in a very mature and respectful way while still managing to make a video that's funny and entertaining.
As a person who is bad at replying to text because out of sight out of mind I do make sure when I notice I make plans it is always just better to call me I answer better that way
Sir I just wanted to thank you for being you and posting the videos you do they always make me laugh and have helped me and I'm sure many others through many hard times so thank you
I once heard that when you're dating a good person for you, connecting with them should be as effortless as breathing. I repeated it to myself so many times when I was trying to make it work with the wrong people, the whole "they're just not that into you" vibe. If it's not "hell yeah" it should be "hell no." Sure enough when I started dating "the one" I couldn't believe how great it felt. Mutual respect and admiration, real interest in my life. 5 years later he still asks me how my day was. Do not settle for less than someone who is interested in you. The rest will work itself out. EDIT: Click I loved this video, most of it was so wholesome.
To 17:16 story personally as I have only ever liked, or asked out one person that I have dated I find this to be true because back when I was a freshman I had a crush on a girl and I quite literally just had a breakdown. Sent a messy long text not expecting her to like me back and genuinely just like feeling awful. It was Saturday and she didn’t text me back. She wanted to talk in person. Turns out she liked me too, and we ended up dating and we are still together so I would say this advice works pretty decent. And if my messy emotional late night no sleep text to a girl confessing my feelings I am pretty sure there’s a good chance if they like you it’ll work.
Leaving wholesome comments until Click says Jacob smells good Day 4. This was a very wholesome video. As someone with ASD it's hard to date in general because I just don't people good. But this subreddit actually has some good advice.
Dating honestly feels so complicated to me right now, I have a strong craving for physical affection, and I would really love to have a girlfriend, but the introvert in me won't let me go and form a friendship with random people that could blossom into some sort of relationship, combine that with the fact that I feel like I've got high standards and it feels kind of like a mess, it also really doesn't help that there's a large part of me that has given up on all the emotional drama stuff after I got burned last time, yet I feel like this is my best time to take my shots Tldr; My brain slowly starts to melt more and more any time I think about dating
9:33 my mom taught me to do this, she has treated me more like an equal than a kid most of my life, and we are able to have full conversations about our differing opinions and such without arguing because we respect eachothers thoughts and individuality. I'm so glad to have her in my life, there are no words to describe how thankful I am for her and everything she's done for me. She isn't perfect and she knows and admits that, she always makes up for her mistakes and taught me the same. She's my role model in life because of stuff like this, and I would do so much more for her if I could just to show her how much she means to me.
Yeah, everybody loves being given flowers. My other half's favourites include dandelions and snap dragons but will enjoy being gifted any type really (even though he thinks roses are a bit cliche). It let's them know you care.
Dating advice: Don't Date, Live under a bridge and only let travelers cross after answering your riddles three
What is your name?
What is your quest?
What is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow?
@Matty I'm not ok I'm ShnoodleMc Doodle
Or paying a toll. People crossing a bridge should always pay tribute to a troll.
RIDDLE ME REE MR. BROWN 🐿️🦉
@@Schlachti10 an African swallow or a European swallow?
Dating advice: don't feel obligated by society to go out and find someone to date if you don't want to. If you want to vibe on your own and have close friends, go for it! _Maybe treat yourself to some garlic bread, too._
yum garlic bread
"and have close friends"
What if I'm also missing that?
I concur
This comment was made by an asexual/aromantic
Or cake, cake is good too
Fun animal fact: Duck-billed platypus don’t have nipples, instead they concentrate milk to their belly and feed their young by sweating it out. The milk emerges from pores in the skin of the abdomen which the platypus puggles then lap up. And yes, baby platypodes are called Puggles! 🥰
No
That is true
And I find it irritating that pug-beagle crosses get called puggles too because it confuses Google searches for platypuses. I will also add, echidna babies are puggles too.
Sounds disgusting, but Puggles sound adorable!!
Yep, i shouldnt have learned to read
The guy helping the girl stand up for herself: even if it doesn't turn into love, it could be an amazing friendship, he's kind, calm, caring and looks up for your comfort and agreement first, I feel like he's very reliable even as a friend and would be 100% here for you if something happens.
Yes, she absolutely needs to tell him that he impacted her life in a positive way.
For those like myself: An "Irish goodbye" is when you leave abruptly without saying anything. Thanks Google lol
Ahh, okay. Thanks
Me in online meetings.
so the opposite of a midwestern goodbye then
@@novaspritz lol "Welp!"
I've always know that as a Polish goodbye…
On a date she asked my what sign i were, and i said unicorn. She answered " that is not a real thing. " and i told her " you are 100% correct. " and then we stared at each other for two minutes in silence. It never became a second date, but i still regard it as one of my best dates ever.
You gave me a good chuckle, apparently they don't like having others return the nonsensical favor to them.
Well, it's got a lot in common with the Zodiac signs then.
@@Llortnerof My point , exactly.
I always said the frog
@@pouljensen8210 did you mean the fog
Laughed at the Zodiac date fiasco. I'm Aries and my husband is Scorpio and a friend tried to warn me off marriage with him as it was bound to be a disaster. In a couple of months it will be our 43rd anniversary. Guess things are bound to go wrong any time now.😂
It was a disaster though, how could your friend be wrong!? /jk
Honestly I straight up forget that zodiac signs exist so I can't even use that as an excuse as a joke, I frequently forget which I got assigned by random number chance and am not even sure what creature it is when I do remember it lol. Congratulations on ignoring that silliness and having a successful relationship, hopefully more of the strange zodiac sign focused people will figure it out as well in time
@@discordiacreates6669 saint seiya in the only reason i know zodiac
@@----S. nice
As soldier once said.
"Any second now... Aaaaaany second now..."
43RD??? WHOAH THATS SO AMAZING!
As a guy I agree about the „giving men more flowers“ thing. I once mentioned in a random conversation to my female best friend that I actually love flowers and on my birthday she actually gave me a orange collared rose as a gift. That was a few years ago and I still remember every detail on that day because of it
Sorry for replying to an old comment, I just wanted to say that I also agree. I'm not even that particularly fond of flowers but the gesture of a woman giving me flowers is something that I always am super appreciative of. :-) Unfortunately, as a man, I tend to only get flowers on Valentines Day if I'm single... and that was quite a few years ago, so I don't know what's up with that? :-P
This is so sweet, as a woman I was used to thinking that it makes men mostly uncomfortable and pretending to be happy about it but it's nice to find out many men actually enjoy it
Parents: "Do not socialize with opposite sex!"
Also parents: "Where grandchidren?"
😂
@Empty Glass because you know everyones parents
@emptyglass7867Some do, unfortunately.🙁
@emptyglass7867 bro has personal connections with all 8 billion people on earth and knows everything apparently 💀💀💀💀💀
I signed up at a dating app, took my time to think about what to write and what picture to take, so I ended up having an account with only one description: "female". No photo jet, no hobbies, just "female". I had 100 messages the next day. I was confused, why the heck did I have 100 messages??? So I started reading: "I saw your profile, you are very beautiful, we have the same hobbies, ...." and so on. My profile only stated: "FEMALE", that was it. I had 100 messages that were sendt by guys or bots blindly, no one cared about me as a person. I closed the app and never completed my profile. I never looked at this shite again.
The dating apps stink. But where do you meet people? Im over the age of clubs or drinking…so how do you meet people? I really would love to know. 😂
@@TheBre1491, sorry for replying to an old comment and if this is no longer relevant, feel free to just ignore it but... what do you mean _"where do you meet people"?_ There are people friggin' everywhere! Most you might not be romantically compatible with but... even among those that are not, you can make good friends. Just talk to people when you're out and about. :-)
@that’s kind of the problem though is at the very least you know people on a dating must have some interest in dating. And making any advances in a public social setting when you meet someone in person can spectacularly backfire if they are not interested. How do you even know they are up for a conversation at all, much less with you and want to spend anytime with you? Other than specific socially approved environments which seem to be dwindling there’s hardly any public place it’s considered acceptable to just speak to a stranger you find attractive (at least in my country anyway) other than nightclubs which are a young person thing mostly.
Most of those 100+ men message every woman they can just to hope for success with a single one eventually. Dating apps are so screwed up that women have so many mostly crappy desperate choices and men hope for scraps of affection from literally anyone and it doesn’t benefit anyone of either sex
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986, I know that since the invention of the smart-phone, people are more connected and more lonely than ever before. The solution is to not be so scared to make a human connection IRL. Don't just talk to people you find attractive, talk to everybody! The elevator ride is perfect; they can't get away but it's short enough to not be creepy... make a comment about the weather. It's something you both can relate to because you're both either on your way out or you've both just been outside.
You have subscribers because your energy is not too calm, not too overly active to the point you're screaming 24/7. You are engaging, supportive, you have a vibe that you enjoy and you put those vibes out to others so they can as well. Also cringe-funny is a big plus.
I just gotta say, your pfp is *amazing*!
@@Trickpants Well thank you! The artist Feretta made it!
Not to mention, he has so many moments where he's just admirably wise in spite of his chaoticness.
@@LittleParody especially math stuff
he is not overloading with his screaming.
Controlled screaming, fur(r)y in disguise.
Sometimes watching Click's videos is like free therapy. Hearing someone so emotionally mature gives me hope in humanity in general. Life is good and everything is fine
And proof that sane people are still around in the world can be found in the comments
So true
Oh, the zodiac sign one is so relatable. My ex girlfriend came to me after we were dating for TWO MONTHS and said that she just found out that I was a Capricorn and she said since she was Libra we weren't compatible and she deadass broke up with me over it. I honestly wasn't too upset with that, I feel like I dodged a bullet.
If you can be doing something for 2 solid months and it is clearly working, then how the hell do they believe in that stuff?? I see it time and time again and it will always befuddle me.
@@kempolar9768 I know! We were doing really well, we had a super strong connection, and then she randomly just goes, "Sorry babe, I love you but our signs aren't compatible." 🤦
According to zodiac signs, which I don't follow closely and my fiancé doesn't follow at all, he and I should have a whole host of problems just trying to date each other. The thing is, some people don't communicate well with each other and then just find something convenient to blame it on. He and I are a lot like that couple (a few posts later in the vid) who were hesitant to touch each other during very long dates after spending hours upon hours having good wholesome times together. We've literally been together for the better part of over six years and still talk about literally EVERYTHING.
Regardless of what any chart tells you, regardless of what society tells you, the genuine answer to making a relationship last is to keep openly communicating, to keep showing each other that you give a frick, and not let any singular thing define your relationship.
Hope you've found your way into a happier relationship, if that is what you want.
This reminds me of an anecdote from David Guetta : apparently, he was contacted by Madonna to do a song together... and then she dropped the deal when she found out about his Zodiac sign.
LoL so then she was right
My 1st husband had my heart when he asked permission to kiss me for the 1st time. He had no idea that I have SA trauma in my past so it was a natural moment that made my heart sing. Consent is sexy. We didn’t work for so many reasons but that moment will always live in my heart.
🙂🙏❤️
Corollary to that first one:
“Unless the person you’re trying to date is neurodivergent. Then just talk to them directly.”
The click flirting with us and also with one specific name will always make my day, even if I will never have my name stated because I'm nonbinary and have a very nonbinary stereotype name.
didn't he compliment someone when he saw them mention their name in the subreddit? you could try something like that :D
He's said he uses names from the comments, and I'm all for spamming your name on streams and stuff too if you want. That is, of course, if you're comfortable sharing your name online.
My name is River lol, so I get that.
@@rottenriver394 Can I spam your name too?
@@IhaveALLtheavocados Sure! I'd love it if he ended up saying my name in one of his videos.
Personally I'm satisfied with just cats and books and plans to invade Denmark, but it's nice to hear cute dating stories and straights being ok.
Shhhhhhhh we're not supposed to talk about Denmark yet!
@@horrificabomination Too late, the word is already out. Don't worry, we've got the numbers and the garlic bread. (I'm actually aro, not ace, but I fully support living on garlic bread.)
Should I be worried?
@@nelliepedersen3434 Oh, no, not at all. Quick question, how do you feel on garlic bread?
@@WistfuII I love it
Fun fact: the way ADHD individuals interact is exactly as described by the segment ending at 1:33 It’s a strange “out of sight, out of mind” state of being for many individuals with ADHD. It isn’t that we don’t like you or even love you, we just function differently.
Very true! Have to work hard to get somewhat beyond this to insure I don’t screw up both friend and dating relationships.
This!!!!!
I like you! I just forgot you existed until you texted me. And I also thought I responded to your text sorry.
Yeah, that's why the first post is complete garbage. Cause it ignores literally *all* neiro-divergent people and people with odd working hours.
@@casteanpreswyn7528 Not complete. But it is not comprehensive, that's for sure.
As a trans person, the dating app statistic post is totally right. I've spent like a decade on dating apps as a man. Sent thousands of messages. Been on dates with 3 of them. When I socially transitioned, I created a woman's profile. Within an hour I got a message. On FB, my message requests are filled with "hey beautiful" stuff. Occasionally I get the "show me your body", but usually it's just "hey beautiful". If you wanna be seen, stand out. But that doesn't always work either because I stopped checking my messages on FB and on the dating apps. It's exhausting. I came to realize that how you meet someone is a good indication of how you will interact with them. If you wanna find someone and you like hiking, join a hiking group.
Okay but his point was that women like you only interact with the 10% of hot people And and ignore the nice plain guys who put a lot of thought into messages
was that accurate?
Also could you rate your former male persona on a scale of 1 to 10 attractiveness Just for posterity.
@@FrancisR420 women like me? Please tell me more about me since you know my life so well. I don't care what people look like. Have you heard the term demisexual? I don't care if you have 3 horns and 1 eye and purple skin. If you're a decent person I'd give you a chance. And the thing is, grouping everyone together, like you just did with me, is not something a good person would do. You need to work on your anger. Get some counseling. I used to be like you several years ago. Thinking everyone else was trash. But I've learned that I was the common denominator with all of my pain. And what I couldn't change I walked away from. I learned that people are generally good. I hope you learn this too and I hope you 3volve past your self destructive rage. Good luck on your journey.
@@FrancisR420 ...I think asking her to rate her old self Is kinda disrespectful
@@FrancisR420 more like women ignore 90% of messages because they're from a bunch of thirsty dudes who aren't interested in anything other than women's appearance, and they send the exact same message to every single woman because they just want any genitalia they can find
Dating apps are horrible for women too
@@FrancisR420 No, the point was that there are way more men than women on those apps, which makes it bad for everyone. Women get overwhelmed with attention from people they aren't interested in. Men have the opposite problem and end up feeling rejected and even lonelier than before.
Also, women aren't a hivemind programmed to only pay attention to physical attractiveness. Different people are looking for different things in a partner.
The thing about a simple "no" being better than regretting not taking a chance is so true. I have experience on both, and getting a "no" is such a weight off my chest. This one guy stringed me along for years and I never got any sort of acknowledgement for my feelings from him, and that did some horrible damage on my self esteem. Then, on the other side, I told my first girl crush how I felt only to be kindly told that she already had a girlfriend. Broke my heart, but after crying about it for an evening I felt so damn confident about myself for having the courage to confess. Now, when I think of these two different people, there's a clear difference on how I remember them. The memories with the guy feel heavy and sad and full of regret, while the girl gives me a smile on my face.
Shortly put, you have nothing to lose. Get out there, confess to your crush, and if you get rejected, know that you're brave and you will be able to give your love to someone eventually.
This video already gives off chaotic energy and I’m all for it
I mean I get where the one story was going with teaching her boundaries but the fact that he kept putting her hand in an intimate area until she said no, gives me the ick
Same
Yeah I also felt pretty uncomfortable reading that portion.
Oh Clicky. The reason you still have subscribers is simply because we are just as unhinged as you are and we love your chaotic energy with a weird demonic wholesome twist.
He swings chaotic. Lawful. Neutral. Evil.
Sometimes in one video. Sometimes in one minute.
😉😁
Clicky IS the emotional support demon
Can confirm, I'm chaotic good/neutral and just vibe with any chaotic energy- except chaotic evil, they can get a bit outta hand sometimes ^^'
The woman giving flowers is so sweet! Women really should normalize giving gifts like flowers on a first date.
The consent seen in the story of the girl who wanted to kiss the guy is so perfect and wholesome. More of this please!
At 18 of age and no dating experience I'm sure that place will be a source of useful information to begin a relationship
This video is great source of information, but because this has commentary of the advice. Please do not just depend on reddit for relationship advice.
Bit of advice if you're a guy dating girls, try your best to make sure shes at least a decent human being before the date and go somewhere public, don't put yourself in a position where you're alone with her until you know her well. She holds all the social power and can literally destroy your life with 3 words if you pick poorly and there's little to no social repercussions to her for doing so, so be careful and stay in public.
@@tarrantwolf I am not a guy, but thanks
When starting the video, I expected a total train wreck of advice, but the topics Clicky chose are actually sane. Either way, his additions are the actual advice and usually very well grounded.
@@koshmareq Well now you know that men are afraid of women. Us weak little women that are supposed to stay home and pop out babies and make sure our husband is pleased. It's exhausting to try to keep up with everything men expect from us. Like I'm not allowed to speak without their permission, yet I can also say things that will destroy them? How? How speak when no speak? This is why I prefer dating women.
Hey click! Just wanted to say that you helped give me the courage to come out to my family as trans! You’re honestly just a really cool person, and I wanted to say thanks for all the things you’ve done on your time here on yt!
Edit: For those asking, it did go well. I’m out to everyone in my life, except for my dad because he’s very bigoted. However everyone else has been really supportive!
That's so cool! I hope it went well!
Congratulations!!! Let us know how it went!
Congratulations!
Congrats! I'm very happy for you & I hope your family supports you
I hope is goes/went well!! Remember you always have a welcoming community here ❤️
I'm a Scorpio and I don't follow any of the stereotypes. 😂 I personally love looking at starsigns and horoscopes and the personalities associated with them but I take it all with a grain of salt. Fun fact: a lot of famous serial killers are actually Virgos.
I am a Virgo and tbh makes sense
I view it as real time mythology. It's fun.
I used to believe but now I think it's hogwash. all the same it's funny when things do align. screaming "Gemini season" is a fun way to signal that I'm on my emotional disregulation BS again
Oh no there's probably someone who thins that since they were born at some stupid time they have to be a serial killer,
**laughs nervously in Virgo**
Uh-oh...
As someone who tends to be easily distractible and often takes hours to get around to responding to any message that isn't a question, the first meme gives me a new thing to be anxious about if I ever choose to date. Thanks!
This video dropped right after my boyfriend dumped me. This made me at least feel a little bit better. Thank you so much.
My partner makes it a big point to make sure I'm okay. Constantly checking in on me and my emotions and feelings and making sure we both have lines of communication open is so invaluable to us. I have some personal growth to do but they assure me that they're along for this messy rollercoaster and love me. Just this morning I've been sick, major flooding is happening and I don't have access to my medications or anything as they're keeping me safe, and even though they were going out for the day they gave me a squish, told me I was loved and told me to text if I need anything even going so far as to ask me three times if I wanted them to cancel so they could take care of me. I truly don't deserve someone so wonderful but I'm forever grateful ❤️❤️
My Partner does the same thing and Just makes me feel so loved and Safe around them, and I hope I make them feel the same
@@minerva1276 same, we love taking care of eachother in our times of need
I hope you two are having many nice months and years togheter
That's really sweet, you deserve them!
A boyfriend (of 2 years I think at the time) agreed to go to a bar with me for my birthday. It was just us. When we got there, he ended up running into a guy from high school and having a convo with him. For the entire 3 hours we were there. I was able to pull him away twice. The first time was short and he had a few sips with me, the second time I asked him if I was getting in the way of him talking to his friend (despite the fact that we were there for my birthday, he had arrived an hour late, and this was 2 hours into him talking to his friend). He said YES. After we left, I said "the guy you left me with was hitting on me and/or sexually harassing me all night." He said "I know, it was hilarious."
Unfortunately it was an abusive relationship it took me a while to leave.
My godness...how awful 🤦🏻♀️ I'm glad he's your ex now, you deserve better ☺
Fucking GODDAMN, just glad you're now free of that sod!
@@Daelyah SAME lol when he dumped me (I was in the hospital getting diagnosed with aggressive MS when he did it) I felt like the world was lifted from my shoulders
Dating advice from a trans woman:
A lot of what people post online is that "straight men and/or cis lesbians won't date you"
But, that's actually a minority. Most people won't care if you're cis or trans. And remember you don't have to disclose if you're trans or cis if you don't want to (unless you're planning on doing the naughties, then maybe you should disclose)
cis afab pansexual ladyyy here, I back all of this up! I like men, I like women. if you are trans that's just a flavor of woman or man to me. and I would rather you reveal this part of your life after a couple of talks or dates than expose yourself to hateful, fetishistic or uncomfortably personal discussion with strangers by putting it in your profile if that's not something you're comfy with. someone who is worthwhile will not be upset when you talk it out with them, and if they are upset, oh well -- block 'em and keep going.
not trying to be transphobic here but if on a dating app or in general dont say that you are trans in advance or when you first meet thats honestly sounds rather self centered becuse of the fact that a lot of people who'dnt date a trans person(edit i forgot about transphobic people on dating apps harassing people)
@@milantosic didnt the person just say that people who wouldnt date a trans person was a minority? 💀💀💀💀💀
@@milantosic yeah, kinda see that. There's a bit of a line between "not having to tell everyone everything about you on a dating profile" and "not giving people important information that is likely to significantly affect their choice to try date you". And regardless of the other people, because fuck them anyway, no trans person wants to be going out on a date with a raging transphobe and having to deal with their shit in person, a possibility almost entirely eliminated by satating ypu are trans up front.
@mocatdow1297 90% of people are straight and most straight people who'd date a trans person at least non that i met might be a bit more open in america i dont know it just seems wrong to not say that if you ask me
That story of the guy telling a girl she can say no, I have actually done exactly this to one of my friends. (An old female friend and over the phone coaching her through it) Obviously I would never tell anyone who she is, that's her privacy, but this is definitely an important message I agree with.
She was previously forced into a situation she didn't like and was traumatized over it and thought she was in the wrong for not saying no and pushing the guy away. People called her a dirty slut for it and knowing her pretty well, She is a quiet, calm and educated young woman, I told her she is no such thing and walked her through telling me the situation. She was always dominated by her family and I told her that's why she was a pushover, it's not her fault and she just needed to tell people no. A few weeks later she managed to push away her first abuser, sadly after many taking advantage of her previously... she's well endowed and a55holes are attracted to her based on her appearance... so I congratulated her and she hasn't slipped up by caving to some jackass' desires since then. I can't be prouder of my old friend.
You can and should say no when you are uncomfortable or not ready for something. learn from this story and the one I have just given about my dear friend.
You are an incredibly good friend, and that was so wholesome
Honestly you and people like that are good people, the story in the video might be a bit off putting to other viewers but in context I actually think that was a pretty good move since the person (ngl can't say the gender of the one in the video, I thought it was a male poster for the first few moments) admitted to having a history of just letting guys do that and he wanted to drive home the point of actually no. Relationships don't work that way. As someone who's been through two failed relationships and is somewhere on the ace spectrum, that story wasn't exactly easy to read since I've been the first person and I wish I knew anybody like that guy because perhaps that would've saved some heartbreak down the line. Or it definitely would've. For some context, I'm ASD and was kinda sheltered as a kid, my social skills are still questionable and I often prefer interacting with animals over humans, an abusive home life taught me that no... Isn't really an option under... Well, any circumstance really. I've realized how messed up that is now but I'm 25, I didn't 100% realize that until I was 21 or 22 because it's just how things were, I was born and raised to be a people pleaser and lately I've felt the need to ask people if I'm being too mean for putting my foot down on some stuff because I'm used to having my boundaries ignored and am really not used to the whole self defence thing. I'm also not really socially interactive but I've been trying to be more social lately as I've slowly figured this stuff out, but it's probably still a long journey for me since it's easy to backslide into emotionally cutting myself off and not really fight back too much if I'm not in any physical danger because I am mentally tired, but I'm working on it. More people though need to advocate for standing up for oneself and having healthy boundaries for those of us that struggle with it, so thanks
@@discordiacreates6669 Oh I've had my share (most people would say more then) of trauma and I completely get you on the whole so easy to just cut everyone out of your life and I'm sure you can do it!
Honestly also a bit voluntarily celibate after some shit with an ex that left me not wanting anything. It comes with trauma and very few people feel sexual attraction or are active while going through the wringer, it will pass if you let it which is so so hard to do.
When my old friend was having a downward spiral and talked to me during a panic attack from nearly the other side of the world, I was also feeling pretty shitty over that Ex, a bullet wound and lead poisoning and it made me feel good to help my friend out. Sometimes the best way to help yourself is helping those you care about, at least I find it does, but like really help not the people pleaser stuff.
Well I'm rabbling so let me finish with this!
You have my quiet support and psychological hug! As does anyone suffering the same sort of shit.
@@liamnehren1054 thank you 🙏💙
I love wholesome dating stories!!! Being an introvert it was sooooo difficult to even think about dating someone. I can actually count the number of long term relationships I've had on one hand (I'm 54 now btw). 2 marriages , 1 child and 5 stepkids later here I am spilling the beans to Click and his followers.
I disagree with that first one. People can be anxious to respond to someone they're interested, worried they might mess up or something else, or someone might actually be busy and know their limits and schedule quite well. There's countless reasons why someone might not be immediately available to respond, instead it can be quite toxic to expect that of someone
It sounded almost like they expected someone with either enough money to not have to be concerned about responsibilities or someone homeless and jobless (almost no responsibilities) to take care of them (emotionally). It's sad really.
I think it's unreasonnable to expect someone to always be immediatly available to respond - shit happens, people have lives, etc. However, if someone never initiates conversations, never answers without letting a few days pass, and always with short, non-committed responses... After some time, I suppose you can assume they're not interested - or ask to make sure - and move on.
I dunno, I really liked that one but that might be bc it matched my own experiences pretty well. When I met SO, it was fun. Sure, plans don't always work out and a lot of things made me anxious but we were always able to keep communication open and reassure one another about stuff that concerned us. I think the point of the post was more to imply that a healthy relationship avoids pettiness and mind games rather than that people in relationships always had to be available for each other regardless of circumstances
to call it "toxic" is a little dramatic imo. it's not toxic to set up some sort of base standard by which people are to use as a guideline.. it's actually pretty toxic to act like nobody is allowed to set a standard because of your personal struggles.
you getting set off by this doesn't make it toxic or bad.. you need to re-listen to the segment because he said it's okay if they're SOMETIMES not available but when it is a clear, obvious pattern and they also answer "k" and give you passive aggressive thumbs up, it's a sign they aren't interested...
if you are seriously insisting somebody could give off ALL of those context clues and somehow be in your exact situation, not someone who just isn't interested, then I'm sorry, you're talking about a very specific scenario that isn't as common as you think.
I say all of this as someone who is pretty damn frigid online (my own words) and has very little patience with anyone who pushes me to communicate when I'm not comfortable. people know the difference, especially if you are mature enough to have told people "I'm an introvert" "I keep to myself" etc. if you can't do that you can't expect people to bend over backwards trying to accommodate you..
@@rachelfurniss8768 Very true about the healthy relationships. I guess I disagree with it mainly because it generalizes the situation when there's more to it than just that. It's not only pettiness and mindgames that results in situations where someone may not be able to respond right away
Here's your friendly reminder to grab some food, sit down, laugh at the chaos, smile at the wholesomeness, cringe at the cringe, and just generally have a good time with Click.
Ty, I really needed this
Please don't reject someone due to their zodiac sign. Ever met twins with opposite personalities? Pretty good example why it's not totally accurate
This!
no please reject them so they now you believe in pseudoscience before investing time and energy.
But science did tell me if they are Identical twins they even if they are not growing up in the same household they have the same interest and personality.
Disclaimer that I read on the internet but can't really believe myself. Even so the guy was an psychologist
@@lulu111_the_cool thats just silly
@@lulu111_the_cool This can not be further from the truth. even if they grew up in the same household they wont have the same interest and personality. they are different people not clones
“I wouldn’t hit on me because I’m not my type.”
So much this.
Being aromantic made dating so hard for me. There were so many gestures I just didn't understand because my dumb aromantic brain just apathetically shrugged at them. I felt terrible when I realized it, but I also couldn't force myself to care. Something like holding hands, getting flowers, celebrating Valentine's Day, and so on were just things I saw zero appeal in, and no matter how hard I tried to care, they just weren't interesting. I had so many people tell me I was ungrateful and selfish for not being interested, or not thinking about doing romantic gestures for another, and it really stung. It feels really nice to have a partner who, despite not being aromantic himself, understands why I just don't get the appeal, and we've found workarounds for ways to show appreciation for each other without forcing me into being romantic. Things like inviting each other to play video games, drawing gift art for one another, or sending each other memes. We need more aromantic dating advise, because so many aromantic people like myself are guilt-tripped and made to feel bad over something that is both not their fault and solvable.
I recently realised I am aro-hetero myself after a long time (I am not young lol). I am probably on the spectrum and suffer from anxiety and am pretty socially awkward when meeting people so I have never really had much luck in dating full stop. I think being unknowingly aro has probably helped me not focus on the very limited dating success I have had and I am probably better of than an alloromantic in the same situation (silver lining I guess).
My main issues now are mainly trying to figure out what I want, and sometimes find myself wishing I was also asexual.
I'm omnisexual aromantic, as well as polyamorous, myself, and that's always overcomplicated things even further. Its such a start contrast and a lot of people don't get it. I'm also dealing anxiety, as well as autism, so I struggle socially a lot.
People on the spectrum can't read body language and signals either.
You are not alone.
About 5 or so years ago I realised I'm not interested in romantic relationships. Whether that is aromantic or not I guess is debatable, since I've never had issues recognising cues and body language and such. It's just that after several long-term relationships I realised that they simply don't make me happy. I enjoyed some parts of being with someone, but on the whole I felt worse than when I was single due to numerous commitments, adjustments and other things I couldn't really deal with.
My advice: stop having relationships. If you don't care about the other person, just go for hookups.
Animal facts with Ras: the Harpy Eagle is giant, but very kind to humans and will vibe with people
That sounds adorable
@@outerspaceproduction They are, they look like argentavises from ark survival evolved
Love that your username is anger, lol.
@@MonoChronicleOfficial You're the first to point it out in the two-ish years I've had it, lol
I remember having a dnd character based on this magnificent bird
Click, you make things so much better on a normal basis, but right now things have been rough/dark with family health and it’s just feels so damn good to laugh while waiting for news. Your personality is so infectious and your laughter is as well. Thank you.
i know that a random person on the internet can't do much, but i really hope things get better for you
I wish you all the best.
It seems this channel has this affect on many people, myself included.
And i hope things get better for all of us eventually.
But right now, i will say it again. Best wishes to you that everything will work out for the best
17:16 As a very quiet and not the most talkative guy with people I don't already know, this would make dating a whole lot easier. I find it incredibly difficult to make the first move and just kind of wish people would come to me more. It has happened multiple times where I end up waiting weeks trying to build up confidence to ask someone out.
If you like a guy, thinks he likes you, and are wondering why he hasn't said anything yet it could be the same thing. A guy who wants the relationship but is too nervous always having to make the first move.
Not being a conventionally attractive afab person, who went through so many bad scenarios with former partners and painful memories, then eventually connecting with an old friend after all of that...he mentioned by the time he finally realized he was in love with me, there had been another waste of my time I had been fixated on.
Sometimes, I kinda do wish folx in general (doesn't matter amab or afab) could communicate better, perhaps speak up about their feelings more.
It's hard not to have wondered how different things could've been, if my friend had become my partner sooner, and bypass all of the fucked up memories and nightmares I get from the others who in reality I gave more of my time than they deserved.
I meet my now vife ,vhen we vere 13 our son is 30!now .
We been married for 8 years now ,as we tell people we needed time too learn each others quirks.
Dont worry there is a special one out there for you to.
Best wishes for you. Sorry for Spelling
Honestly, my current bf of 5 years (likely soonish to be fiance), just started a convo. No pickup lines. No hitting on me. Just being friendly. We were working at the same retail store when we met. It took me awhile to notice that I'd smile when I'd realize I was getting a text from him, or if I heard his voice from around the store if we were working at the same time. Honestly, if you don't go into it expecting something more, and letting things happen more or less on their own - it felt so much nicer on my end to do so. Just make sure at some point one of you does what he did and asks straight up if you're together. Be honest about it when the relationship gets there.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slow. 💕
Yeah I understand the other dating "red flags", but not everyone keeps their phone on them at all times. Especially if you do a lot of sports, cycle commute, meditate, work in an environment where you can't have it with you, turn your phone off when focusing on hobbies etc. Objecting to being left on read or expecting a warm engaged response when someone does reply is one thing, but demanding a fast reply to all messages sounds exhaustingly needy.
I don't think they meant "fast" as in "immediately", but more like "as soon as you get the chance".
Ye, my ex was like that. She is now the reason I don’t let people see when I’m online or playing games.
I still, to this day, have not once said "no" to intimacy. My first assault happened at such a young age, I just... never learned how to say no. And not 1 man has ever asked if I was uncomfortable, out of the hundreds I've been with. I wish more guys would pay attention to their partners interest like that dude.
damn hope you find a guy like that 🙏
@@SpeedyGwen I am autistic as well, but I have a strong sense of justice and I had anger management issues as a child.
I think that's why I never had problems to say no.
Speedy Gwen, if you have problems, you can talk to any of us, and we will help you.
why is click so ominous but so wholesome at the same time
I have always find it imposible to maintain a friendship with someone after we stop meeting in person, mostly because of my social anxiety preventing me from reaching out. I always feels like they might have something better to do than speaking with me.
It's also important to try and figure yourself out before dating. I kept hitting wall after wall with every single date (Mostly with guys because they just seemed to gain interest first). I was talking with this really great guy, really respectful. But soon I hit a wall again when things were getting serious. After a while I figured out I was much more attracted in women rather than men. I felt embarrassed, and awkward because this guy was really into me, and he was probably the best guy I've met online. he was really chill about it, and understanding when I told him. Figure yourself out and try to get in a good mental state before getting into a relationship.
The thing about standing up for yourself is very relatable. I'm a people pleaser myself, and although my bf encouraged me to be more assertive before I was still afraid of making other people upset at me because I don't do well when it comes to perceived or real negative reactions. Then I had to deal with a player in D&D who was very pushy and tried to control what other people did so I finally told him to knock it off and let me choose how to handle a situation his character wasn't present for. My bf told me after that he was proud of me for that and I felt really good about telling that guy he couldn't control what I did and his "advice" was unsolicited/unappreciated. It was the best feeling I'd had in a while, and although I still struggle with standing up for myself (I get shaky and tend to tear up after) that was a big eye opener about how much I let people walk all over me. I thought I had a lot of patience/tolerance for other people irritating me but in reality I was just too afraid to do anything and bottled up my feelings to the point where little things would make me cry in my room. I had too many people disregard my feelings before so I felt like speaking up wouldn't do anything, and I realized I should probably get therapy for that. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and tell other people no. They can't decide that your feelings and boundaries don't matter, and if they try then they aren't worth keeping in your life
Been there myself many times. I’d been taken advantage of by horrible people due to my naive, kind hearted nature. It was very painful. It was hard at first, but after a while, I’ve since used my past toxic relationships as stepping stones to help me stand up for myself and set boundaries for myself, even if it meant I had to cut ties with those who were narcissistic and never cared about me or anyone else.
About the first one: no!!! Someone *can* be going through a busy time or not find an interesting way to answer your texts and still be interested in your company. It just doesn't work like that!
A lot of this dating advice is so true, I really wish a lot more people would listen to it. I'm 100% a conversationalist and can talk your ear off be it in person or through text and really wish there was more men out there who took the time to have things to talk about and not give me boring couple word replies like "fair enough" "yeah I bet" or "lol". I am much more likely to be attracted to guys who know how to have a conversation and seemed like a normal person.. then a dude who seems uninterested, or like he's talking to so many people he doesn't have the time to give me an actual reply, or like nothing interesting ever happens in his life or everything about his day is too personal.
nothing more fun than a guy who starts conversation with you, then replies with dead-end answers every time. "haha, that sounds about right" "damn" "well that sucks" and then they get pissy when you stop responding back. I've literally explained to a guy I was talking to that he does this, we had a deep discussion about how to fix it, and then he went right back to doing it. it is really hard to train people to keep a dialogue tree going, apparently.
@@peachy_lili so true!! Those dead answers that you just typed are exactly the same as the ones that I get a lot of the time.
It used to infuriate me, I was like, did all of these guys just share the same brain cell? Lol
Eh I'm 50/50 on that but I get where you're coming from, long conversations can be super fun and interesting but I think it's also ok to just have short convos sometimes. Though... For me it depends on the minute which anyone is gonna get because sometimes I'm either too tired or distracted to give much more then a short reply and other times people complain that I say too much because I can go on really long tangents about random subjects... Which I'll probably completely forget about doing within the next 24hrs and may or may not repeat the exact same convo a week later... Idk which is worse in my case because I don't exactly seem to have a middle ground
@@discordiacreates6669 I totally understand what you're saying but I think me and the other person we're just talking about the people who never ever give you anything as a response it's always just dead-end conversation never goes anywhere
@@krissflavoredx oh yeah, it's completely understandable to not want any dead end convos and I think if it's a thing so early on, it's probably a good indicator y'all aren't a match if you struggle to have a convo that clicks with and engages you both. Sad honestly, but people are as varied as their interests so no one can work with everyone and I think recognizing that isn't bad at all. Communication is part of a relationship after all so it probably has to at least be decent, right? Idk I'm not too good at it honestly and I tend to feel obligated to reply asap to anything, regardless of the hour ^^'. Not that replying to this is bothersome at all though but I have had moments where I think a longer response is required and... Well those convos tend to drop off super fast as I run outta things to say quicker, so that's probably worth working on now that I think about it ^^'
I'm surprised with how wholesome this subreddit is.
I’ve always gone by “It’s better to feel rejection than regret” Even though rejection may hurt, regret will hurt even more, at least you could say you tried :)
Dating advice: loving to talk to you doesn't always mean clingy. I've been meaning to share this. My partner texted me daily after our first date. Friends called him clingy and were worried. Turns out I'm his first healthy relationship and he is just too excited to be having a healthy relationship plus with someone he could talk about nerdy stuff with. We're going seven years strong and he respects my space when I want some me time. I'm not saying clingy isn't a red flag but try to see the difference between clingy and just really into the relationship.
I was ready for this sub reddit to be an unmitigated disaster but damn it was all so wholesome
Tbf, if tinder and other dating apps were properly set up, every proper match would drop Two customers.
Detta lär låta weird men tack för att du är en bra karl och en bra role model för yngre män och öppen om saker som kan kännas lite tabu som att inte våga säga nej särskilt som kille. Du är underbar.
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My then bf had this exact experience with me, we hadn't been dating long and I don't say no.. I've never been taught to bc everytime I have, I've been guilttripped into saying yes, or simply just been taken anyway. He stopped, realized I wasn't really putting my hands on him or anything, asked me if I was even in the mood, I shrugged, he stopped completely and held me and told me "you can tell me no, don't ever let me put my hands on you or get so far if you aren't wanting to" I cried, and he had done this many times until I felt okay to say no. I have been with him two years. Married for one. We have a son now 🥰 he is the absolute love of my life, and still everyday, I expect a scolding for something, or for him to be mad about something (like my crafty passions) he doesn't scold me, he doesn't yell, he just wants me happy 😭😭 and every single day this mans shocks me. Every. Single. Day. For two years. I've been abused or used or manipulated since I was 6 until him. Until I was NINETEEN almost TWENTY, this man, has changed my life. I hope we never grow apart ❤️❤️
Edit: this is also the same man who asked me permission for a kiss on our first date, I've been in love ever since ❤️
As a Scorpio, I'm having a laugh at all this Zodiac drama lol
I’m aromantic and asexual and I made a tinder profile with my roommates as a joke and when I got the first match I was super visibly uncomfortable and my roommates were laughing cause “yeah you’re definitely aroace” 😂
I like how more of these posts were wholesome and not cringy. A nice change of pace for The Click channel!
As much as I love spice when it comes to other's love life (as long as no lives are on the line or life changing events), the first two stories were such empowering and wholesome-ish content and I love that all the more.
2:19 Just sounded so much like the little talks my dad used to give me, so much so that I had to just pause and sit for a second to process. Thank you.
0:46 When The Click finally uses your name during the intro 🥰
Ok
I see people dropping animal facts, so here's mine:
There's a worm called the velvet worm that has a glue gun on it's face. It hunts cockroaches with it, just... Squirts them with glue like slime.
Imagine being a cockroach and being SHOT by a fricking worm
Cliccy, you are too addictive. Now I need more -of you- !
Dating advice: for the love of god set clear boundries from the start, before things get serious or too much time has been invested, make sure to talk about clear, honest boundries and limits. i have had this conversation about any important part of all my relationships for the past few years, and it is amazing the diffrence it makes! never did i feel so secure and safe within a relationship then when i started impelmenting this instead of guessing limits.
14:38 I get my fiancé a white rose every year for Valentine’s Day. I remember the look on his face the first time I did that for him. And every year (even if he won’t outright admit it) the grin on his face when he comes home and it’s sitting in its own little vase is amazing
This entire video was so wholesome!! These stories were such a balm against the deluge of dating horror stories online.
Thanks for another gem. Always makes my day when I see an upload. Rock on Cliccy!
IMO, what makes zodiac signs fun is the rare times they are spot on like "you are a scorpio so you live at [doxxed address], and your daily routine is: 7-9:get ready for the day, 9-10: drive to work, 10-6: work, 6-8: stalk your local starbucks barista who fucked up your caramel mocha and make sure no one will find them for at least 30 years, 8-11: mug children for money, 11-7: sleep time. And some would say your the most likely one to be responsible for a political assassination" and then your just sitting there with your friends laughing and getting all giddy saying "that's literally me!"
I had someone who I had liked for a while. I told her I liked her and her response was to say she was dating someone but would "consider it in future". Like seriously I would have taken just a flat out no over that. Just makes it way harder to get over her.
8:04, this is what a person should be. Thats all. That man is a prime example of a good person. And they need to let him know that, half the way people know what they're doing is right is being told, so, to that person and anyone else,
Tell people when they do the right thing.
i like having flowers sent to my bf at work. he gets all excited and his coworkers tell him, "my wife doesnt get me flowers..." lol.
Best combination of chaos and wholesomeness
Honestly, the one that upsets me most is the one with person who ghosted their date because they felt too overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do.
I feel bad for them, and I hope that they’ve been able to move on and understand their personal limitations and borders after this experience.
That said?
What upsets me the most is not that he did that, it’s that so many people are like “Get that fricking AWESOME dude an award for understanding consent & knowing right from wrong”.
It’s not that I don’t think he did exactly the right thing, because I very much believe that yes, he absolutely did!
No, it’s actually the fact that so many people out there are just so completely shocked whenever a man actually didn’t listen to his little head & hormones re: get laid, but instead stopped and asked if they were ok when he began to realize that they weren’t.
I’m also very happy for them both that he then tried to help the OP with their quite serious boundary/people pleasing issues.
While I realize that this is not the norm, and not everyone has a psychology degree - but seeing as basic consent is finally being taught to SO many people these days I’m truly far more shocked and surprised that situations like this are not already the norm - NOT some big “Oh. My. Gawd!! Would you just LOOK at that guy being suuuuuch a caring human being - I wish I would be treated like that!, or “wow! Well, SOMEBODY raised that boy right!!” or even the “HUGE kudos to you dude” type of bullshyte.
This is called simply being aware of the person you’re about to be very intimate with and having enough empathy & intelligence to stop, back the hell off and try to find out what it is that’s going on once they realize something isn’t quite right.
A guy who does that doesn’t mean he’s a “gigachad” or anything along those lines - *regardless* of what some toxic red pill incel might want people to believe.
No, what it actually makes them a caring, empathetic human being, who will very likely make someone an excellent life partner.
Unlike all of those “alpha” types who will be off somewhere living in the deep hole in the dirt that they dug for themself, with nothing better to do than spend their days furiously typing out their long list of grievances on some silly group chat somewhere about the terrible sins they truly believe the world (and women) in general has done to them.
I’m 18 (male) and have no experience whatsoever. I either mentally eclipse liking the person I’m with and act as if she/he’s just a friend, or completely freeze. I had only once managed to gather up all my courage and present myself with a white rose (symbol of first love) to the girl I’ve been talking with for the last 3 month, she avoided meeting me and got out from the back door of her house. I’ve later discovered that she had a boyfriend, but had never told me in those months.
"If someone really likes you, it will be obvious" and to that I'd like to add "to everyone else, but only to you around 25% of the time, as some people are shy, and other people are oblivious."
My husband's favorite flower is the dandelion. I bought him a dandelion puff in glass for Valentines Day. It sits in our livingroom to this day, so he can enjoy it every day. I'll also just buy him flowers on my way home from work because I was thinking of him. I love the way his face lights up. ❤️
Well i did not know what to expect with click covering dating advice but that was surpringly more wholesome than i expected.
A lot pf great pearls of wisdom in there
When your name is just a plant so you know you'll likely be spared from being targeted in the intro:
Also amazing video like usual, even though I just started watching!
It's always a good day when Clicky Thiccy Wiccy uploads
Late comment
I love Click's videos
I'm on the spectrum and sometimes just being able to zone out and stim with Cick in my headphones is amazing
I love coming back to older videos just for background noise or to keep my focused on something while doing homework or chores
I love your videos, Click ❤
My brother, my dad and I, especially when I was younger, would have debates all the time just for fun. It really helped my problem-solving abilities and I'm glad I got that experience when I was young.
If you get dumped because of your star sign it’s probably for the best…
I just started as a fursuit maker, and currently im putting fur on a foam head, but i have decided that my goal in life and in my career is to make Click a fursuit. Watch out, i’m coming for you click ✨
That sounds so cute
i saw a comment on one of click's furryirl videos that said they wouldn't be surprised if click slowly started putting on a fursuit bit by bit each video. i get the feeling you'd be perfect for making that suit.
I once had a bloke come up to me in a club and ask me what size my feet were, I laughed so hard and chatted to him the rest of the night. We ended up going to a few dates afterwards as well
There's something very cool about click having a younger audience and speaking to them about serious topics in a very mature and respectful way while still managing to make a video that's funny and entertaining.
Siri, why am I so bad at relationships with women?"
"This is Alexa." 🤣
As a person who is bad at replying to text because out of sight out of mind I do make sure when I notice I make plans it is always just better to call me I answer better that way
Sir I just wanted to thank you for being you and posting the videos you do they always make me laugh and have helped me and I'm sure many others through many hard times so thank you
This episode was so wholesome. I would love to see more in the future ❤
I once heard that when you're dating a good person for you, connecting with them should be as effortless as breathing. I repeated it to myself so many times when I was trying to make it work with the wrong people, the whole "they're just not that into you" vibe. If it's not "hell yeah" it should be "hell no." Sure enough when I started dating "the one" I couldn't believe how great it felt. Mutual respect and admiration, real interest in my life. 5 years later he still asks me how my day was. Do not settle for less than someone who is interested in you. The rest will work itself out. EDIT: Click I loved this video, most of it was so wholesome.
To 17:16 story personally as I have only ever liked, or asked out one person that I have dated I find this to be true because back when I was a freshman I had a crush on a girl and I quite literally just had a breakdown. Sent a messy long text not expecting her to like me back and genuinely just like feeling awful. It was Saturday and she didn’t text me back. She wanted to talk in person. Turns out she liked me too, and we ended up dating and we are still together so I would say this advice works pretty decent. And if my messy emotional late night no sleep text to a girl confessing my feelings I am pretty sure there’s a good chance if they like you it’ll work.
Leaving wholesome comments until Click says Jacob smells good Day 4.
This was a very wholesome video. As someone with ASD it's hard to date in general because I just don't people good. But this subreddit actually has some good advice.
Dating honestly feels so complicated to me right now, I have a strong craving for physical affection, and I would really love to have a girlfriend, but the introvert in me won't let me go and form a friendship with random people that could blossom into some sort of relationship, combine that with the fact that I feel like I've got high standards and it feels kind of like a mess, it also really doesn't help that there's a large part of me that has given up on all the emotional drama stuff after I got burned last time, yet I feel like this is my best time to take my shots
Tldr; My brain slowly starts to melt more and more any time I think about dating
I've been rejected twice due to my zodiac sign. Two more bullets dodged.... 🤣
9:33 my mom taught me to do this, she has treated me more like an equal than a kid most of my life, and we are able to have full conversations about our differing opinions and such without arguing because we respect eachothers thoughts and individuality. I'm so glad to have her in my life, there are no words to describe how thankful I am for her and everything she's done for me. She isn't perfect and she knows and admits that, she always makes up for her mistakes and taught me the same. She's my role model in life because of stuff like this, and I would do so much more for her if I could just to show her how much she means to me.
Yeah, everybody loves being given flowers. My other half's favourites include dandelions and snap dragons but will enjoy being gifted any type really (even though he thinks roses are a bit cliche). It let's them know you care.