My parents conditioned me to have a career, be independent, travel the world, buy my own place..marriage was the last thing on the list. We are from a small town in Assam. Thanks, mom and dad. By the way, I have been married for 17 years now… married on my own terms, had my daughter when I was ready.
Same here. People who are “single-shaming” others are usually the ones who are the most insecure and unhappy in their own relationships. It’s much better to stay single than be in a toxic unhappy relationship!
That’s lovely, my parents are same. But I have gone through hell life medically. So they want me to settle and then plan the life. May I know the age when you had your daughter?? Because all are talking about that I need 3 years before I have a child, and hence I should marry sooner. I have sidle lined my career, i have no choice. But I am making my own choice, by applying for jobs again. But my gal years are affecting eating everything Even my gynaecology says that I should marry, settle and focus on kids 😢 See, I want kids in life, I was raised progressive but my inner calling is towards being a mother. That is something I want for myself, not for my fiancé, not for my in laws. But I want a more stable career and explore the world before I get anchored.
Omg!! I feel her..I have just moved out of my inlaws house with my husband because the pressure of responsibility on me for being a pefect bahu was making me chronically depressed ..i can resonate her so well..Every body is struggling in some or the other way ..i was so sick of living and tending other peoples needs and happines but not mine and i was struggling to have kids due to stress..finally i mustered the courage to say i couldnt do it anymore..i prioritized my mental health and left the house..i still get anxiety and have triggers about how i was treated but im happy my husband supported me..
Right but wat to do but my mom is not less than any grandmother she never understand me i'm also suffering this but in my own house? Wat to do feeling to get married but the marriage is not the solution here coz i live in a very small place with 7 people around me whu disturb me a lot i'm 32 but not get married coz of my acting career but wat is the need of getting aged , remain without husband if u r not getting peace nd mental helath here nd not focusing on career
@demijo9792 So true why why women are tied down after marriage .... Why the hell a women is one tied up to responsibilities of doing dishes of whole family and cooking food for all
I've been married for 16 years and chosen not to have children... and instead got myself two degrees.. and pursing other goals, this podcast has been therapy and absolute gold ❤
We decided the same, pursue our spiritual goals and live comfortable. Children are a blessing but everyone doesn't need to claim that blessing and some should refrain from it as they are not suitable for parenthood because of their own issues.
Very few have been this honest, straight-forward... yet not bitter about their experience. More power to you... and thanks for opening up. The manner in which u explained you were looking for happiness in the wrong places, touched me. Loads of love and best wishes ❤️
Very difficult interview for Seema clearly. She is not fake like the other Bollywood wives/ex wives. Being a straight forward person it was difficult for her to hide the real reasons and names while going through this podcast. Hope she does well from here on.
Seema came out of her shell and comfort zone to speak her mind and heart is not at all easy actually. Kudos to her ❤👍 such a beautiful charming smart intelligent intellectual poised lady🫶 thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. Accidentally came through and found Shivani one of the best interviewers ❤
Seema is very natural and candid in saying what she says . I admire her confession and it’s helping me so much to understand myself . I am glad she came out of such big mess and confusion box . She looks relaxed and prettier than before because she is free from huge unwanted emotional burden
Such a nice podcast, I can also relate to Seema, I got married at 22, it was just like listening to my own story, lots of guts to get a divorce after 25 years, where lots of women are just compromising , not able to break the rules of our indian socity
Indian men really need to upgrade themselves. One does not marry a woman to produce kids for chrissake. You marry a girl because ur life appears meaningless without her in it..And woman also should marry a guy who understands her...otherwise best to stay single..Most woman desire security at 22 hence marry the first guy who flashes wealth/status etc..Its so imp to be financially independent before getting into marriage in case wealth/status is important to u. Wealth etc can be self earned these days.
One can totally relate to Seema and her thoughts. Unless a man is worthy enough to be a good companion for a woman in every sense of the word, the partnership turns toxic.
She was the funniest on bollywood wives compared to other ladies. It was only because of her i watched both the seasons. She was real, caring and sentimental.
I absolutely relate with Seema! I'm sailing on a similar boat and long for freedom, to bring to life, the woman-child in me. Hope to make the right decision to be free from all constrictions before I lose every inch of myself.
Honestly...we have these conversations amongst our girl groups. The mental load of women have to deal with is insane, and we have to lose ourselves to make others happy. Glad to see this conversation!
It took a bit...but I only started feeling comfortable with being single as an older person later in life. I'm embracing this and I am living my life to the fullest. If a guy comes great if not also great. My Instagram social media life truly is authentic and it truly does reflect me because I don't have to hide behind social norms and expectations.
Great interview!! I love Seema’s honesty, rawness and advice. What a wonderful breathe of fresh air to hear about her journey and her perspective. 😇 Thank you Seema. 🙏🏽 I hope you broadcast your voice even further. Asian women need to hear more of you. 💕
Absolutely loved and agreed & resonated with what Seema said. Love how you let all your guests speak and guide the conversation gently without interrupting
Women finally has a Voice greatly said, as a Society we are Evolving, upgrading and Learning. Although there is no reason to break existing Relationship and fight battles on your own. Take efforts to Save a Relationship than finding excuse to break relationship.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
Excellent podcast between 2 lovely ladies! Yes break the stereotype of a woman. I served in the Army and both of chose to have one kid and it’s a lovely daughter who completes our family. She turned 28 recently and is busy in her career and marriage nowhere close! We are fine…..just the grandparents are in a rush and ask us! Second kid was never discussed in our busy lives! Women are the bravest in society. High time guys and Seema aunty comes to terms with that! We have equal rights including inheritance! Use those rights to empower yourself and stand equal!
From the moment I saw Seema on Bollywood wives, I could see she was just such an inspirational person. Whenever I see her interviews I always have to watch! I hope she realises she’s amazing
She looks more beautiful and happier now. Individual choice … choose things that makes u happy. Life is worth living not sulking ❤❤ I wanna c her in bollywood movies too … may b side heroine or some fun character she’s so charming n real
She speaks well , relatable and seems like a sensible woman , sad that she was probably over powered by her husband and his family . I m happy she is in a better place now and wish her good luck with her career
Shivani the moment you said why is everyone in the 'urge & rush' for marriage, I sooo felt it. Being single in our society is constant struggle of controlling ourselves from getting angry sad n annoyed because people out there have got only one topic to discuss, either body shaming or marriage, literally always. And for the same reason I've stopped attending family events and I avoid meeting relatives. This feels like a constant pressure of finding the right guy n get married, I mean how, u can go out n bump on the right guys come on its real life not a movie. No one ever ask a woman how is she, never, it's always get marriage, if married, have babies, if a parent, still have more babies. Let a woman breathe .
I m single and 33 yrs old. Whenever u face these questions make them sit and force them to listen to the entire conversation about why are you not doing that. What is the scenario. Give some examples.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
Whenever i came across young students esp girls..my advice them to focus on education..skills, Carrer,house,car..maid, independent etc.everything should be under your name ..NO JOINT ACCOUNTS.. Never gave up your freedom.. Ur choices, hobbies Go for it,my dear sisters... Aim high🙏
So I just needed to listen to this podcast today. I have been separated for 6 years n decided today that it's okay for me to divorce. I have been feeling stuck personally n professionally. I am sure I will come out stronger like Seema. I have also been raised in a similar way and been timid but that is slowly changing. Something is changing inside me as I have started to believe in myself and look for happiness within myself. I wish I could meet her and spend time with her :). lot of love to both of you ! May you have His grace always!
I love this podcast! I am a big fan of Seema!! She is my favorite lady on the famous Bollywood show!! I look up to her outlook on life. She is a role model for the young generation of women!! ❤
Growing up, I thought I was above all the things people say. I really didn’t believe that marriage is the center of my existence. I always wanted to get married but not desperate for it. It will happen when it’s meant to happen. But this year, I hit rock bottom in my career, my friends were married and I was suddenly alone. Those comments were ringing in my mind. “You’re worthless without a man. You’re gonna be alone forever.” I questioned myself so much that maybe I was wrong to focus on my career. Maybe they were right. I kept hearing those voices in my head. I realized that somewhere somehow I absorbed all those shit people would say. There’s really multiple layers to conditioning and it’s a lot of work. It takes massive strength.
Sometimes, i feel the same but was never interested in any relationship. I liked being alone but as i am aging, i always wonder whether i took wrong decision..
Even I feel the same. Growing up I was very sincere, hardworking.I have topped in schools& colleges and had a decent corporate job by the age I was 20. I am very well settled now in my 30s. But my so called friends who have not achieved even half of what I have done always show me down because I am single and not even had any boyfriend. Now everyone makes me feel guilty as if I am not good enough to attract a man and not desirable 😢 and worthless. What kind of society we live in where there is no respect for even highly intelligent strong women if they are single?
@@Soulfulmind-hj1tdthe problem Is only you thing you are a highly intelligent and strong women because you have a career. Men are women are different, so they serve different purposes on earth thus people have different expectations from them and rightfully so that the natural order of things.
Amazing podcast, thoughts only someone so brave can voice. Also clearly so many unsaid traumas Seema didn’t even speak of, we all have bouts of anxiety and we know why. Its the mindset, the society, the patriarchy and sadly our own partners are an unfortunate accumulation of everything women have to cope with!!! Women give back and never back down!!!
🎉Financial independence is key.With today's kids it is too much too soon.The mind is not ready to accept certain things.There is a time & a place for everything.Women have a never ending role in this part of the world.
So nice Seema I feel like she is talking about me we all woman go through this phase make ourself happy first Indian woman loose themselves in husband kids family etf imagine woman like seems who people assume have no pressure in marriage good seema that you finally prioritised yourself first happy for you , don’t worry about haters or people who judge you go girl ❤
Shivani at 30 talking like she knows everything is what's wrong here! Seema has been through so much more and she can't compare and try to connect her dating life to Seema's 🤦♀️
ln this interview it was not just seema sajdeh speaking .it was every married girl who got married at early stage and went through all this indian mentality including me. its very difficult for any girl to leave thier own comforting house and keep on adjusting for everyone around them.but no one adjust for that one girl who leaves her entire family and adjusts with them.and that adjusting is never an ending .
That's great I MUST ADMIT that when I first saw the bollywood wife's I didn't like any of them. but I liked seema because I found her truthful and vulnerable at the same time. Who is still figuring out what will work for her I can relate to her I also got married at 22 the first man who simply liked me showed me a little bit of affection after 21 years of marriage nothing is there I hv always been deprived of physically, emotinally and from last 4 years financially too. 8 YRS back I mustered the courage and asked him why u r not emotionally and physically attached to me he said I don't like sex much.he logically cuts me out In outer world no one can say him bad but I know he is cruel to me throughout out marriage. and I was emotional fool giving my debit card to him and taking proud That he pays my bills though I am extremely low maintenance women. So cut short I still want him and his affection coz I still crave for normal family. I WOULD LIKE TO ASK Seema can she share the journey of unloving, deta hment process of Suhail. Because I need it badly I am 41 and thank God I hv normal job I am from middle class family.
Amazing interview ❤ refreshing hearing strong beautiful intelligent women from our eastern culture being so honest. Makes me not feel alone in my own thoughts and feelings. We conditioned at a young age in what will happen to women and what is expected of us. It’s never ending making others happy. Not realizing until a later age that our happiness matters as well. We can be strong, loving and caring at the same time.
@@ShivaniPauPodcast your doing a great job. I really treasure your episodes. It's from your heart, unfiltered and realitable. Genuine. God bless you girl.
I came across this podcast quite by accident and was unaware of who both woman are hence googled but more importantly what a wonderful refreshing and much needed conversation. Bravo ladies., bravo.
Just finished watching the whole interview and I didn't think I ll manage to watch it till the end. Seema is quite sensitive and serious which I never expected from her.
A HUGE thank you to Seema for being so raw and transparent in this episode 🙏🏽 If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that LIKE & SUBSCRIBE button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤
Shivani as a suggestion for improvement I would like to say , it is better that you reduce planting your personal point of view too strong in a podcast. Whereas you should bring public point of views , different experiences to the table to discuss.
Marriage needs to be looked at more seriously. I think there should be an institute training young men and women about their roles in marriage. That will remove the self questioning "what about me "? In marriage.
Break ups marages no ones hands its destiny good bad ugly ok death is permanent every thing temporaey zindagi milana doobara nise na meried not mariwd children no children come aline gone aline 😅😅😅😅😅❤😂😂❤❤
Roles in marriage is subjective and keeps on changing. There's no defined role a person fulfills throughout the married life, there are Ups,downs,challenges and shifts which we all have to adjust to. Marriage is being taken seriously since forever and still is. Just because people are voicing their needs and wants doesn't mean they are "not serious" about the marriage. I am sure men face fare share of challenges in marriage but when it comes to women, it's endless. For centuries, women only were limited to care givers and that's not the only purpose of them, it's high time the society also realise that and men too, so that they can accommodate to the challenges and changes. When women see no space for them, they tend to leave and there's nothing wrong with that. There's no point watering the dead tree for life. Everyone got one life and it's okay to live it your own way
I feel bad and at the same time sad for her. I am a mother of two beautiful boys one is a toddler and the other is a baby. Watching another human grow and making sure to contribute for the betterment of society is so beautiful. It's true sometimes it gets hard but at the same time motherhood is so beautiful and beyond any work that I would want to do. 💓
That’s your feelings and journey not hers What a shame that you are so judgemental even having watched the podcast. Evidently you learnt nothing from it.
Parenthood not just "motherhood" is a huge responsibility and u agree with the comment below, everyone's experience is different. Also perinatal mood difficulties is very real. I work as a mental health professional in this field and not enjoying every moment of motherhood is just as valid...Also no disrespect but the real test is when those children don't need you anymore...also unfortunately you can't ensure how those humans will contribute to the world...we can make no such assumptions...you can only do your best...I also know women go over and above and still feel they've failed as a parent... bottom line...let's have more empathy for people... much rather that than parents who think they're brilliant until adolescence arrives and their beautiful children push their buttons like no tomorrow... it's great to enjoy parenthood but you have a long way to go still... 😊
well, i have not yet started the video but for the FIRST TIME i am seeing a sensible ad preceding the show. Thanks to people like Malleshwar for spreading this very important message of ' SAVE FOOD SAVE LIFE'. salutes to MILAAP👋👋👌👌🙏🙏
It seemed like my future self was speaking and believe you me, irrespective of the age difference, Seema has provided life clarity. Cathartic..., I loved the chat. Loved the ladies and atmospherics too
This was so unfiltered. So different than the regular boring bollywood interviews. Well, we can’t complain about the Bollywood interviews also because they need to maintain a repute.
I absolutely loved the conversation and the engagement chat by Seema and the host Shivani -- really nice and honest discussion about so many life lessons and conversations. Thank you for this!
I guess 'Bollywood wives' does make sense coz it does contradict the "wives" narrative & actually shows these women everything & anything more than just 'Wives' In my opinion😅
for women getting married and to have children has to happen between the age of 20-30. that is how the biology is. our bodies are not going to wait. that is the bottom line. if the marriage works you are lucky if not you find a way out. but getting married and having children in due time is important. all these so called modern ideas are just ideas.there is a lot to be learnt from the Bollywood celebrities's mistakes, who ran after fame in their prime time and later went to surrogacy to have children. I am not talking about Seema but in general.I got married young, I don't have a very happy marriage but if I had a 2nd chance I'd want to get married even younger. I know its crazy
Shivani your depth of thought and perspective is truly admirable. ♥️ Also loved Seema's vulnerability and I am sure it will resonate w majority of women today.
Shivani can u please do somekind of podcast of women who have decided to not get married or not have children......their thought process,there courage,how did they make the choice n what r pros n cons
Yes please do videos on these topics. I a 31 year old married woman, very content and happy with just being me and husband and have no kids. We both have so much to do in life, having kids is a decision I am still on fence. I too need to know from people who have taken these decisions.
Im in my 20s and just loved whatever Seema explained so naturally❤I agree to every single word she said. It's so funny that inspite of understanding all this we still fall under traditional lifestyle & then fall prey to future consequences like divorce. Im sure from today my only & only 1st priority is going to be ME.....whether I have a man to love me or not but im 100% I need to be there for me❤
When you marry young you grow along with your partner, discover things together, and you adjust much quicker and d bond is much stronger between couples, whereas this brainwashed era of these paid feminist encourage women to marry late which makes it much difficult to adust as you have lived almost half of your life living independently. I am not saying marry for the sake of it but if you find a good person who loves you and brings you comfort and peace and can provide for u thn do get married evn if your r in your 20s(23-28)..The Bond will be like a tied knot(Inseparable and strong) between couples..Trust me 👍👍👍
Shivani this n malvikas interview r 2 interviews wch i saw but the quality of conversation is top notch without crossing the line n yet getting the message across
Hii. Really an eye opening. Like I literally had to pause the video and comment. I never really comment , cause there is so much of insight going on here. I had to do it. Love the perspective when you moved out cause it is the only time you have for yourse. i have been single all the time and always use to complain but the amount i have grown into. cause its real men are gonna see for themselves. but i am growing into this powerful and strong lady. somehow wounded but i will get over it. love seema too.loved in bollywood wives. somehow found her genuine and loved her courage and felt her pain.
I left my house at 22, went to get an MBA. Worked for 2 years after. The best 4 years .. married at 26! There are highs and lows.. and obviously life is not fair, has never been! But that is life. I urge very girl listening, to please seek financial independence before anything. Study hard, get a job & dream. Your freedom begins and ends with 💸💸💰
This was such a great interview! It has resonated with me so much as I am in a similar situation to you Shivani and to hear such in depth conversation about experiences that we as Indian women go through is such so enlightening and comforting. Thank you!
Thankfully I was brought up in a very evolved family, both my brother and myself were in boarding school, both my mom and dad lived life on their own terms, and I have had freedom all my life, will not settle for less in life. 😊
@@SimV239 Pros are you have an independent life, can make your own decisions, have high self esteem and have met some wonderful people in your life. Cons are it is difficult to understand the common mindset of sacrifice, compromise and the acceptance of bad behaviour from people.
@@SimV239 Every child comes with their own destiny, don't enforce your insecurities on your child. What's the point in fitting in, when you are meant to standout. She probably would be an introvert who has a rich inner mind, they know what to prioritise. The greatest gift a parent can give their child, is the ability to think for themselves. You're lucky in that sense, so enjoy your life.😊
Hey chanting really helps and you are really on the right path you were so honest and you are really so intelligent to understand where knowing yourself is so important
I found Seema more intelligent and strong out of all the 4 in the show. There were soo many times Maheep showed she is dependent on Sanjay's carrier and same with Bhavna. Seema looked like she wants to give the world to her children. She is very driven when it comes to her work.
@@ashitamalkani3845 yeah...however when they went to Dubai and Seema set the meeting up with that designer, she new how to form connections as a business women.
There is so much respect for Seema S❤ it's never an easy decision! Nobody gets married with the intention of getting a divorce! We need to stop fighting for what people might think about you, the F.OFF period.
She just brought Seema and started knowing her viewpoint. She should have brought Sohail khan too. His viewpoint is also important. Program must maintain balance and should put forth opposite party too
Loved this podcast… Seema u seem to be such an intelligent brave n sorted woman!! U look amazing n have carried urself with a certain aura!! Genuinely a honest podcast❤❤❤
My parents conditioned me to have a career, be independent, travel the world, buy my own place..marriage was the last thing on the list.
We are from a small town in Assam.
Thanks, mom and dad.
By the way, I have been married for 17 years now… married on my own terms, had my daughter when I was ready.
Love that!!!
More power to you. My parents are like that too. And I'm from Assam as well. Jorhat 😊
Same here. People who are “single-shaming” others are usually the ones who are the most insecure and unhappy in their own relationships. It’s much better to stay single than be in a toxic unhappy relationship!
That’s lovely, my parents are same.
But I have gone through hell life medically.
So they want me to settle and then plan the life.
May I know the age when you had your daughter??
Because all are talking about that I need 3 years before I have a child, and hence I should marry sooner.
I have sidle lined my career, i have no choice.
But I am making my own choice, by applying for jobs again. But my gal years are affecting eating everything
Even my gynaecology says that I should marry, settle and focus on kids 😢
See, I want kids in life, I was raised progressive but my inner calling is towards being a mother. That is something I want for myself, not for my fiancé, not for my in laws.
But I want a more stable career and explore the world before I get anchored.
horrible advice for girls.......its true...women fail each other!
Omg!! I feel her..I have just moved out of my inlaws house with my husband because the pressure of responsibility on me for being a pefect bahu was making me chronically depressed ..i can resonate her so well..Every body is struggling in some or the other way ..i was so sick of living and tending other peoples needs and happines but not mine and i was struggling to have kids due to stress..finally i mustered the courage to say i couldnt do it anymore..i prioritized my mental health and left the house..i still get anxiety and have triggers about how i was treated but im happy my husband supported me..
Right but wat to do but my mom is not less than any grandmother she never understand me i'm also suffering this but in my own house? Wat to do feeling to get married but the marriage is not the solution here coz i live in a very small place with 7 people around me whu disturb me a lot i'm 32 but not get married coz of my acting career but wat is the need of getting aged , remain without husband if u r not getting peace nd mental helath here nd not focusing on career
Nd i left my job for dreams nd for fulfilling those dreams i need to find job for home rent
@demijo9792 So true why why women are tied down after marriage .... Why the hell a women is one tied up to responsibilities of doing dishes of whole family and cooking food for all
Seema is such a breath of fresh air! She's poised, articulate, funny and kind. I wish her the best!
Never knew Seema is this intelligent and sensitive as a person . It's very sad bright minds get overshadowed by powerful spouses !
I second that!
She looks like kiara
Who ,Sohail Khan?😂😂
@@BeingL3X khandan, not just Sohail, entire abusive family
@BeingL3X yes he was relatively famous:) and whole family in general
She’s so relatable to every modern age mother with kids growing up under the media bombardment
Seema and Malaika only knows what hard life they were living in with the Khans. Feels so proud to see both happy and settled ( career wise ) now.
I actually agree with you..I was genuinely happy for Malaika. n now for her too.
How and why ?
Khans are most wonderful family
@sunnyb831 you know them personally
@@OmkarPawar-tj4bqso U know them personally 😂
@@fhhn4335so, do you think you or the person who commented knows khan family personally? 🤣🤣🤣
I've been married for 16 years and chosen not to have children... and instead got myself two degrees.. and pursing other goals, this podcast has been therapy and absolute gold ❤
Thats amazing 🤩
Bullshit. What you achieved in life. Nothing 🤣😜
We decided the same, pursue our spiritual goals and live comfortable. Children are a blessing but everyone doesn't need to claim that blessing and some should refrain from it as they are not suitable for parenthood because of their own issues.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ m planning the same
That’s amazing ❤
Very few have been this honest, straight-forward... yet not bitter about their experience. More power to you... and thanks for opening up. The manner in which u explained you were looking for happiness in the wrong places, touched me. Loads of love and best wishes ❤️
Very difficult interview for Seema clearly. She is not fake like the other Bollywood wives/ex wives. Being a straight forward person it was difficult for her to hide the real reasons and names while going through this podcast. Hope she does well from here on.
I respect her after listening to this podcast. Kudos to her for finding her self and putting herself first 👏🏼
I feel you. I hope you are able to let go of the baggage of the past. God bless you ❤
lol I dint get how people lose themselves first if all
She is super normal with no fake accent. Good she is moving ahead .
Seema came out of her shell and comfort zone to speak her mind and heart is not at all easy actually. Kudos to her ❤👍 such a beautiful charming smart intelligent intellectual poised lady🫶 thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. Accidentally came through and found Shivani one of the best interviewers ❤
Thank you so so so much 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Seema is very natural and candid in saying what she says . I admire her confession and it’s helping me so much to understand myself . I am glad she came out of such big mess and confusion box . She looks relaxed and prettier than before because she is free from huge unwanted emotional burden
I think Seema has just shown a mirror to alot of women, thanks to both you amazing women 🎉
Ahhh thank you so much for watching
Such a nice podcast, I can also relate to Seema, I got married at 22, it was just like listening to my own story, lots of guts to get a divorce after 25 years, where lots of women are just compromising , not able to break the rules of our indian socity
Indian men really need to upgrade themselves. One does not marry a woman to produce kids for chrissake. You marry a girl because ur life appears meaningless without her in it..And woman also should marry a guy who understands her...otherwise best to stay single..Most woman desire security at 22 hence marry the first guy who flashes wealth/status etc..Its so imp to be financially independent before getting into marriage in case wealth/status is important to u. Wealth etc can be self earned these days.
Especially hard it must have been when Salman was at his peak
She is a strong woman. It takes guts to revisit a painful past.
she is so different than what you see on insta and netflix...v mature and all the best for seema
I like this woman .. She is so honest and love the way she has learnt to embrace self love ❤️..
She looks amazing
One can totally relate to Seema and her thoughts. Unless a man is worthy enough to be a good companion for a woman in every sense of the word, the partnership turns toxic.
She was the funniest on bollywood wives compared to other ladies. It was only because of her i watched both the seasons. She was real, caring and sentimental.
I absolutely relate with Seema! I'm sailing on a similar boat and long for freedom, to bring to life, the woman-child in me. Hope to make the right decision to be free from all constrictions before I lose every inch of myself.
Go for it dear ❤
Rooting for you
Honestly...we have these conversations amongst our girl groups. The mental load of women have to deal with is insane, and we have to lose ourselves to make others happy. Glad to see this conversation!
It took a bit...but I only started feeling comfortable with being single as an older person later in life. I'm embracing this and I am living my life to the fullest. If a guy comes great if not also great. My Instagram social media life truly is authentic and it truly does reflect me because I don't have to hide behind social norms and expectations.
Love this!! Thanks so much for sharing 🙌🏽
Great interview!!
I love Seema’s honesty, rawness and advice. What a wonderful breathe of fresh air to hear about her journey and her perspective. 😇
Thank you Seema. 🙏🏽 I hope you broadcast your voice even further. Asian women need to hear more of you. 💕
Absolutely loved and agreed & resonated with what Seema said. Love how you let all your guests speak and guide the conversation gently without interrupting
Thank you so much 💛💛💛
Women finally has a Voice greatly said, as a Society we are Evolving, upgrading and Learning. Although there is no reason to break existing Relationship and fight battles on your own. Take efforts to Save a Relationship than finding excuse to break relationship.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
Excellent podcast between 2 lovely ladies! Yes break the stereotype of a woman. I served in the Army and both of chose to have one kid and it’s a lovely daughter who completes our family. She turned 28 recently and is busy in her career and marriage nowhere close! We are fine…..just the grandparents are in a rush and ask us! Second kid was never discussed in our busy lives! Women are the bravest in society. High time guys and Seema aunty comes to terms with that! We have equal rights including inheritance! Use those rights to empower yourself and stand equal!
From the moment I saw Seema on Bollywood wives, I could see she was just such an inspirational person. Whenever I see her interviews I always have to watch! I hope she realises she’s amazing
she is isnt she!! Thanks so much for watching
She looks more beautiful and happier now.
Individual choice … choose things that makes u happy. Life is worth living not sulking ❤❤
I wanna c her in bollywood movies too … may b side heroine or some fun character she’s so charming n real
U mean suicidal industry..😢
She speaks well , relatable and seems like a sensible woman , sad that she was probably over powered by her husband and his family . I m happy she is in a better place now and wish her good luck with her career
These are d kind of Breakaway conversations we need - Bold, Beautiful and Mature :) keep it up
Shivani the moment you said why is everyone in the 'urge & rush' for marriage, I sooo felt it. Being single in our society is constant struggle of controlling ourselves from getting angry sad n annoyed because people out there have got only one topic to discuss, either body shaming or marriage, literally always. And for the same reason I've stopped attending family events and I avoid meeting relatives. This feels like a constant pressure of finding the right guy n get married, I mean how, u can go out n bump on the right guys come on its real life not a movie. No one ever ask a woman how is she, never, it's always get marriage, if married, have babies, if a parent, still have more babies. Let a woman breathe .
Fully agree.
I m single and 33 yrs old. Whenever u face these questions make them sit and force them to listen to the entire conversation about why are you not doing that. What is the scenario. Give some examples.
I think society in general is changing as the average Indian age is drifting from 20s to 30s and it brings a lot of change in thought process in the society. It will gradually change more as we age
For the first time I’m loving your interview Seema Kiran Sajdeh! Sooo beautifully articulated
Whenever i came across young students esp girls..my advice them to focus on education..skills, Carrer,house,car..maid, independent etc.everything should be under your name ..NO JOINT ACCOUNTS..
Never gave up your freedom..
Ur choices, hobbies
Go for it,my dear sisters...
Aim high🙏
Yes your life your rule 🙌 If a man truly loves you then only he will come into your life and take care of you. Otherwise enjoy being single 💃
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Stop the baby making machine..
@@Soulfulmind-hj1td ever heard of take care of other or just me me me.
@@bestvideos35 Women are forced to take care of men for centuries. It is time either men take care by putting all efforts or just f**$ off
So I just needed to listen to this podcast today. I have been separated for 6 years n decided today that it's okay for me to divorce. I have been feeling stuck personally n professionally. I am sure I will come out stronger like Seema. I have also been raised in a similar way and been timid but that is slowly changing. Something is changing inside me as I have started to believe in myself and look for happiness within myself. I wish I could meet her and spend time with her :). lot of love to both of you ! May you have His grace always!
Kudos ❤
Finally someone said the right thing to put your happiness first
thank you seema for not touching your hair all the time like other celebs, instead you spoke well and gave great advice
I love this podcast! I am a big fan of Seema!! She is my favorite lady on the famous Bollywood show!! I look up to her outlook on life. She is a role model for the young generation of women!! ❤
Growing up, I thought I was above all the things people say. I really didn’t believe that marriage is the center of my existence. I always wanted to get married but not desperate for it. It will happen when it’s meant to happen. But this year, I hit rock bottom in my career, my friends were married and I was suddenly alone. Those comments were ringing in my mind. “You’re worthless without a man. You’re gonna be alone forever.” I questioned myself so much that maybe I was wrong to focus on my career. Maybe they were right. I kept hearing those voices in my head. I realized that somewhere somehow I absorbed all those shit people would say. There’s really multiple layers to conditioning and it’s a lot of work. It takes massive strength.
Sending you so much love, I’ve felt exactly the same 💛💛💛💛
Sometimes, i feel the same but was never interested in any relationship. I liked being alone but as i am aging, i always wonder whether i took wrong decision..
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Even I feel the same. Growing up I was very sincere, hardworking.I have topped in schools& colleges and had a decent corporate job by the age I was 20. I am very well settled now in my 30s. But my so called friends who have not achieved even half of what I have done always show me down because I am single and not even had any boyfriend. Now everyone makes me feel guilty as if I am not good enough to attract a man and not desirable 😢 and worthless. What kind of society we live in where there is no respect for even highly intelligent strong women if they are single?
@@Soulfulmind-hj1tdthe problem Is only you thing you are a highly intelligent and strong women because you have a career. Men are women are different, so they serve different purposes on earth thus people have different expectations from them and rightfully so that the natural order of things.
Amazing podcast, thoughts only someone so brave can voice. Also clearly so many unsaid traumas Seema didn’t even speak of, we all have bouts of anxiety and we know why. Its the mindset, the society, the patriarchy and sadly our own partners are an unfortunate accumulation of everything women have to cope with!!! Women give back and never back down!!!
Thank you so so much and agreeee! xxx
I liked Seema's personality. Hey Seema if you get this message, please show more of this side on the show too. It is great!!
🎉Financial independence is key.With today's kids it is too much too soon.The mind is not ready to accept certain things.There is a time & a place for everything.Women have a never ending role in this part of the world.
So nice Seema I feel like she is talking about me we all woman go through this phase make ourself happy first Indian woman loose themselves in husband kids family etf imagine woman like seems who people assume have no pressure in marriage good seema that you finally prioritised yourself first happy for you , don’t worry about haters or people who judge you go girl ❤
Thank you for watching!
Seema seems so real and vulnerable, loved her on the show. She’s also beautiful.
Shivani at 30 talking like she knows everything is what's wrong here! Seema has been through so much more and she can't compare and try to connect her dating life to Seema's 🤦♀️
Very very correct...i too felt the same...she says at 30 when u marry u have things sorted...really???😂 U r not sorted even when u r 80...
I loved Seema on the show and to see her open up in such an honest way is so eye opening and inspiring ❤ Thanks Shivani for another great episode!
Thank you so so much for watching!!
ln this interview it was not just seema sajdeh speaking .it was every married girl who got married at early stage and went through all this indian mentality including me. its very difficult for any girl to leave thier own comforting house and keep on adjusting for everyone around them.but no one adjust for that one girl who leaves her entire family and adjusts with them.and that adjusting is never an ending .
That's great I MUST ADMIT that when I first saw the bollywood wife's I didn't like any of them. but I liked seema because I found her truthful and vulnerable at the same time. Who is still figuring out what will work for her I can relate to her I also got married at 22 the first man who simply liked me showed me a little bit of affection after 21 years of marriage nothing is there I hv always been deprived of physically, emotinally and from last 4 years financially too. 8 YRS back I mustered the courage and asked him why u r not emotionally and physically attached to me he said I don't like sex much.he logically cuts me out In outer world no one can say him bad but I know he is cruel to me throughout out marriage. and I was emotional fool giving my debit card to him and taking proud That he pays my bills though I am extremely low maintenance women. So cut short I still want him and his affection coz I still crave for normal family. I WOULD LIKE TO ASK Seema can she share the journey of unloving, deta hment process of Suhail. Because I need it badly I am 41 and thank God I hv normal job I am from middle class family.
Amazing interview ❤ refreshing hearing strong beautiful intelligent women from our eastern culture being so honest. Makes me not feel alone in my own thoughts and feelings. We conditioned at a young age in what will happen to women and what is expected of us. It’s never ending making others happy. Not realizing until a later age that our happiness matters as well. We can be strong, loving and caring at the same time.
She just nailed it wonderfully. Hats off to Seema. I really loved her on this talkshow. So gracefull. ❤❤❤❤
So glad you enjoyed the episode! Thanks so much for watching 🫶🏽
@@ShivaniPauPodcast your doing a great job. I really treasure your episodes. It's from your heart, unfiltered and realitable. Genuine. God bless you girl.
I came across this podcast quite by accident and was unaware of who both woman are hence googled but more importantly what a wonderful refreshing and much needed conversation. Bravo ladies., bravo.
She said her mum and Chunky’s mum are sisters so wouldn’t that make chunky her cousin brother…. Not Uncle
Seema is my fav character to on the show, its nice to see her open up more on the topic. Great chat
This was such a great Podcast. Thank you! Seema has definitely had a Spiritual awakening. I could totally see that by her conversation
This lady seems to be very matured and intelligent.
Just finished watching the whole interview and I didn't think I ll manage to watch it till the end.
Seema is quite sensitive and serious which I never expected from her.
A HUGE thank you to Seema for being so raw and transparent in this episode 🙏🏽 If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that LIKE & SUBSCRIBE button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤
Thank you for a great eps
Grateful ❤
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Seema speaks so well better than kareena deepika sonam shradha these ladies dont know how to sit and talk sense. Seema is so intelligent and pure.
Shivani as a suggestion for improvement I would like to say , it is better that you reduce planting your personal point of view too strong in a podcast. Whereas you should bring public point of views , different experiences to the table to discuss.
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Marriage needs to be looked at more seriously. I think there should be an institute training young men and women about their roles in marriage. That will remove the self questioning "what about me "? In marriage.
Yeah but how do you define "roles in marriage"???
Break ups marages no ones hands its destiny good bad ugly ok death is permanent every thing temporaey zindagi milana doobara nise na meried not mariwd children no children come aline gone aline 😅😅😅😅😅❤😂😂❤❤
Roles in marriage is subjective and keeps on changing. There's no defined role a person fulfills throughout the married life, there are Ups,downs,challenges and shifts which we all have to adjust to. Marriage is being taken seriously since forever and still is. Just because people are voicing their needs and wants doesn't mean they are "not serious" about the marriage. I am sure men face fare share of challenges in marriage but when it comes to women, it's endless. For centuries, women only were limited to care givers and that's not the only purpose of them, it's high time the society also realise that and men too, so that they can accommodate to the challenges and changes. When women see no space for them, they tend to leave and there's nothing wrong with that. There's no point watering the dead tree for life. Everyone got one life and it's okay to live it your own way
@@kaluvamaddhusudhanrao8457. Exactly. People think ty will be embracing their family forever. ,,,... fools. Everything VAIN
....@kaluvamaddhusudhanrao8457 no one will come wd us... we will come and go alone.
She is most beautiful classy and decent women in Bollywood wives show on Netflix ❤
I feel bad and at the same time sad for her. I am a mother of two beautiful boys one is a toddler and the other is a baby. Watching another human grow and making sure to contribute for the betterment of society is so beautiful. It's true sometimes it gets hard but at the same time motherhood is so beautiful and beyond any work that I would want to do. 💓
That’s your feelings and journey not hers What a shame that you are so judgemental even having watched the podcast. Evidently you learnt nothing from it.
Parenthood not just "motherhood" is a huge responsibility and u agree with the comment below, everyone's experience is different. Also perinatal mood difficulties is very real. I work as a mental health professional in this field and not enjoying every moment of motherhood is just as valid...Also no disrespect but the real test is when those children don't need you anymore...also unfortunately you can't ensure how those humans will contribute to the world...we can make no such assumptions...you can only do your best...I also know women go over and above and still feel they've failed as a parent... bottom line...let's have more empathy for people... much rather that than parents who think they're brilliant until adolescence arrives and their beautiful children push their buttons like no tomorrow... it's great to enjoy parenthood but you have a long way to go still...
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Wow ! Love the thoughtful conversation!
well, i have not yet started the video but for the FIRST TIME i am seeing a sensible ad preceding the show. Thanks to people like Malleshwar for spreading this very important message of ' SAVE FOOD SAVE LIFE'. salutes to MILAAP👋👋👌👌🙏🙏
It seemed like my future self was speaking and believe you me, irrespective of the age difference, Seema has provided life clarity. Cathartic..., I loved the chat. Loved the ladies and atmospherics too
This was so unfiltered. So different than the regular boring bollywood interviews. Well, we can’t complain about the Bollywood interviews also because they need to maintain a repute.
Thank you!!!!
I absolutely loved the conversation and the engagement chat by Seema and the host Shivani -- really nice and honest discussion about so many life lessons and conversations. Thank you for this!
Thank you for this. Most practical realistic interview ever in the fake Bollywood world. Thank you. Thank you
Great to see this Podcast truly on netflix nobody can realise that how people in Limelight survive in their lives. 😢
I guess 'Bollywood wives' does make sense coz it does contradict the "wives" narrative & actually shows these women everything & anything more than just 'Wives' In my opinion😅
for women getting married and to have children has to happen between the age of 20-30. that is how the biology is. our bodies are not going to wait. that is the bottom line. if the marriage works you are lucky if not you find a way out. but getting married and having children in due time is important. all these so called modern ideas are just ideas.there is a lot to be learnt from the Bollywood celebrities's mistakes, who ran after fame in their prime time and later went to surrogacy to have children. I am not talking about Seema but in general.I got married young, I don't have a very happy marriage but if I had a 2nd chance I'd want to get married even younger. I know its crazy
Shivani your depth of thought and perspective is truly admirable. ♥️ Also loved Seema's vulnerability and I am sure it will resonate w majority of women today.
Thank you so so much Bhavna
Shivani can u please do somekind of podcast of women who have decided to not get married or not have children......their thought process,there courage,how did they make the choice n what r pros n cons
yessss great idea!!!
Yes please do videos on these topics. I a 31 year old married woman, very content and happy with just being me and husband and have no kids. We both have so much to do in life, having kids is a decision I am still on fence. I too need to know from people who have taken these decisions.
@@thetraveldrug3096Exactly. Me too...
Im in my 20s and just loved whatever Seema explained so naturally❤I agree to every single word she said. It's so funny that inspite of understanding all this we still fall under traditional lifestyle & then fall prey to future consequences like divorce. Im sure from today my only & only 1st priority is going to be ME.....whether I have a man to love me or not but im 100% I need to be there for me❤
When you marry young you grow along with your partner, discover things together, and you adjust much quicker and d bond is much stronger between couples, whereas this brainwashed era of these paid feminist encourage women to marry late which makes it much difficult to adust as you have lived almost half of your life living independently. I am not saying marry for the sake of it but if you find a good person who loves you and brings you comfort and peace and can provide for u thn do get married evn if your r in your 20s(23-28)..The Bond will be like a tied knot(Inseparable and strong) between couples..Trust me 👍👍👍
@@viansingh1825 Totally agree with you. I hope & pray I find someone before my 30s😊🤞 Fingers crossed
@@yashikagupta3018 God Willing You surely will..👍👍That guy will be extremely lucky to have you as his beloved wife..😊
True that. With or without a man ,women should know their worth and what they want in life.
I just love this heart to heart conversation between two girls ❤❤❤
Thank you soooo much 💛💛💛💛
Shivani this n malvikas interview r 2 interviews wch i saw but the quality of conversation is top notch without crossing the line n yet getting the message across
Thank you so much Pooja!!
Hii. Really an eye opening. Like I literally had to pause the video and comment. I never really comment , cause there is so much of insight going on here. I had to do it. Love the perspective when you moved out cause it is the only time you have for yourse. i have been single all the time and always use to complain but the amount i have grown into. cause its real men are gonna see for themselves. but i am growing into this powerful and strong lady. somehow wounded but i will get over it. love seema too.loved in bollywood wives. somehow found her genuine and loved her courage and felt her pain.
Thank you!!!!
Love this really! Just finished it.. and the kid is just the cutest.. love to see women together this way!! ❤
Amen. Always about the men. I work and run the home, but still my needs fall behind. How nice to be free.
I left my house at 22, went to get an MBA. Worked for 2 years after. The best 4 years .. married at 26! There are highs and lows.. and obviously life is not fair, has never been! But that is life.
I urge very girl listening, to please seek financial independence before anything. Study hard, get a job & dream. Your freedom begins and ends with 💸💸💰
I know her as sohal khans wife ..she is realy self made ...and I wonder how ...how she manage to do that ..
This was such a great interview! It has resonated with me so much as I am in a similar situation to you Shivani and to hear such in depth conversation about experiences that we as Indian women go through is such so enlightening and comforting. Thank you!
Thankfully I was brought up in a very evolved family, both my brother and myself were in boarding school, both my mom and dad lived life on their own terms, and I have had freedom all my life, will not settle for less in life. 😊
@@SimV239 Pros are you have an independent life, can make your own decisions, have high self esteem and have met some wonderful people in your life. Cons are it is difficult to understand the common mindset of sacrifice, compromise and the acceptance of bad behaviour from people.
@@SimV239 Every child comes with their own destiny, don't enforce your insecurities on your child. What's the point in fitting in, when you are meant to standout. She probably would be an introvert who has a rich inner mind, they know what to prioritise. The greatest gift a parent can give their child, is the ability to think for themselves. You're lucky in that sense, so enjoy your life.😊
This was such a wholesome episode Shivani, keep shining 🧡 big love
Thank you sooo much 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Life is about adjusting, why make such a big deal. Not just in marriage , in every aspect of life you have to adjust.
True , that’s wat life is , u carve a life in adjustments n have a balance, nobody gets a plate full of happiness, it’s d journey that’s interesting
Hey chanting really helps and you are really on the right path you were so honest and you are really so intelligent to understand where knowing yourself is so important
i still cant understand that why divorce or breaking family is only an option to find happiness.
I found Seema more intelligent and strong out of all the 4 in the show. There were soo many times Maheep showed she is dependent on Sanjay's carrier and same with Bhavna. Seema looked like she wants to give the world to her children. She is very driven when it comes to her work.
And Neelam - both have their own careers and are not dependent on their husbands
She's funny too
@@ashitamalkani3845 yeah...however when they went to Dubai and Seema set the meeting up with that designer, she new how to form connections as a business women.
Love Seeemmmaaaa!!!! Never saw this Confident side of hers on the show. Can't wait for reason 3 to see how she has evolved. So proud of her❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Everything about this is great because I think so many women go through these emotions but no one wants to say it!
There is so much respect for Seema S❤ it's never an easy decision! Nobody gets married with the intention of getting a divorce! We need to stop fighting for what people might think about you, the F.OFF period.
She just brought Seema and started knowing her viewpoint. She should have brought Sohail khan too. His viewpoint is also important. Program must maintain balance and should put forth opposite party too
This was such a relief to watch!! I love Seema Khan!! She is so me!! ❤😍
More power to you Seema Kiran Sajdeh😘😘😘
Seema has always been my favorite. She seems so genuine. And today listening to her gave us a deeper understanding of her as a person. Love her❤
Very matured & dignified way of expressing ,seema❤
Intelligent woman. Great podcast to empower woman in the same situation. Well done
Really a refreshing interview Seeing Seema speak about her life and her views loved this totally paint her in a different light from Bollywood wives
Seema wonderful wonderful podcast . Honest , from the heart conversation. . Take care . You are a strong lady
Love Seema Sejdeh! Love her on Bollywood life she’s so relatable and so Brave for standing up to the Khans 😜 although love the Khans too ❤
Loved this podcast… Seema u seem to be such an intelligent brave n sorted woman!! U look amazing n have carried urself with a certain aura!! Genuinely a honest podcast❤❤❤
Hats of to Seema she is so honest, enjoyed the talk.