Just imagine someone who lacks boundaries, felt unloved, would do anything to feel like that person really loved me. I created one memory in every man I ever slept with. Once again it's that boundary thing. Anything I suggest to you will probably sound dysfunctional because.... boundaries.
To be honest, I think it's an impossible fix (and I've tried SO many different things). It's like that saying: you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Also we can't change others, only ourselves, so there's no way to make a man who doesn't make the effort or take the time, suddenly be someone who does.
@myntndmarriage 🤣 I'm always looking for a cure or the next cleanse. I think we're going to die trying. I see where I'm stuck, I just don't know how to break this thought process
@@MonaSimply I never thought there was a cure (even before I knew his condition), though I did believe he could learn and adapt, which has slowly happened over time. There are many things he can't over come and some behaviors that can be modified. I've also learned that certain behaviors I was doing made things worse, however, breaking our own cycles is really hard because often we don't see our own faults.
Just imagine someone who lacks boundaries, felt unloved, would do anything to feel like that person really loved me. I created one memory in every man I ever slept with. Once again it's that boundary thing.
Anything I suggest to you will probably sound dysfunctional because.... boundaries.
To be honest, I think it's an impossible fix (and I've tried SO many different things). It's like that saying: you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Also we can't change others, only ourselves, so there's no way to make a man who doesn't make the effort or take the time, suddenly be someone who does.
@myntndmarriage agreed! And yet I've spent 25 years of my life thinking if only...
@@MonaSimply Same! And what if I try this, what if I try that!!!!
@myntndmarriage 🤣 I'm always looking for a cure or the next cleanse. I think we're going to die trying. I see where I'm stuck, I just don't know how to break this thought process
@@MonaSimply I never thought there was a cure (even before I knew his condition), though I did believe he could learn and adapt, which has slowly happened over time. There are many things he can't over come and some behaviors that can be modified. I've also learned that certain behaviors I was doing made things worse, however, breaking our own cycles is really hard because often we don't see our own faults.