Why Did Everyone Ignore THIS About NeYo? | The Monyetta Shaw Story

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  • Why Did Everyone Ignore THIS About NeYo? | The Monyetta Shaw Story
    He may be sick of love songs, but we’re sick of the lies Ne-Yo! And his ex fiance,
    Monyetta Shaw, is still wishing that she had never gotten her tubes tied. NeYo is a man of many talents. Grammy award winning songwriter, producer, singer, and overall musician responsible for some of the biggest hits to have ever hit airwaves. His smooth distinct vocals topped with his sultry lyrics and signature fedora hat, concocted the known r&b suave aesthetic that we’ve come to know and love over the years, but what you see is not always what you get. Supposedly this was the case for NeYo’s ex fiance, Monyetta Shaw when the two had become engaged in 2010 and shortly after Monyetta had given birth to their first child with another soon on the way.

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  • @Suge888
    @Suge888 2 роки тому +822

    I think this was damaging to his solo career. It’s hard to market yourself as a gentleman or a good man when you’re doing dirt at someone’s expense. It definitely made me look at him in a different light.

    • @rushiemarshall9214
      @rushiemarshall9214 2 роки тому +68

      After this I really didn't care for him like that anymore he was wrong for doing her that way

    • @reginanickens3565
      @reginanickens3565 2 роки тому +18

      They'll just explained his actions away and say that's just the way men are

    • @fah232
      @fah232 2 роки тому +8

      Right and as it should have. Disgusting.

    • @dawnpratt846
      @dawnpratt846 2 роки тому +2

      Facts 💯

    • @dawnpratt846
      @dawnpratt846 2 роки тому +2

      Me too ‼️

  • @home4life505
    @home4life505 2 роки тому +464

    She found love in the end. She married a great guy

    • @jenaccess4luv
      @jenaccess4luv 2 роки тому +36

      I am so happy for her.

    • @p.w.7493
      @p.w.7493 2 роки тому +30

      I'm glad for her!
      Her husband is the one TMH had waiting for her, NOT Neo!!💯

    • @DJRenee
      @DJRenee 2 роки тому +4

      @@p.w.7493 Oh okay

    • @dreadrollin
      @dreadrollin 2 роки тому +34

      But she can't start a family with him, wich kinda sorta leaves neyo in control of her life still. Your EX is the reason why the new man can't have kids with you. Rather he wants to or not, the option SHOULD be there and it is permanently not, but Neyo has a new family. He is subsequently forever in power because of that. BasicLly forcing any man she date to help with "HIS" kids but never make their own. That's a hard pill 💊

    • @deniseturnipseed8680
      @deniseturnipseed8680 2 роки тому +38

      @@dreadrollin On her reality show, during her doctor visit, the doctor told her that her tubes being tied was reversible. Monyetta also recently said that her new hubby was hinting at wanting a baby, but she wasn't sure she was on board with the idea. Just sayin...

  • @ELody136
    @ELody136 2 роки тому +130

    When I heard about him telling her to tie her tubes and then married another woman, I stopped listening to anything he had and was going to put out. I don’t listen to him at all. Women, please, unless you are married to a man, do not give yourself to them intimately because it will cost you more then you know.

  • @tabbym.7485
    @tabbym.7485 2 роки тому +332

    She made a permanent decision with a man that she wasn't even married too.

    • @litebright1720
      @litebright1720 2 роки тому +24

      That part!!

    • @tabbym.7485
      @tabbym.7485 2 роки тому

      @Eleisha and if I was married to the man I can't say I'd make a decision like that. Men can have a vasectomy and get it reversed as an out patient procedure. It's much worse on a woman's body.

    • @blackqueen5201
      @blackqueen5201 2 роки тому

      Typical bw bs yeah I said it she's a dang fool

    • @klmitchellbrown
      @klmitchellbrown 2 роки тому +24

      Agreed she has to look in the mirror 🪞.

    • @SELFCAREMODEL
      @SELFCAREMODEL 2 роки тому +8

      👏🏽

  • @modikiramaisa4619
    @modikiramaisa4619 2 роки тому +586

    Big big lesson for us ladies even if you’re married always make room for disappointment and always look out for yourself especially financially

    • @sherreemizell4952
      @sherreemizell4952 2 роки тому +14

      Amen to that

    • @rozevans2120
      @rozevans2120 2 роки тому +12

      BoooooooM ! ! !

    • @inggasmith
      @inggasmith 2 роки тому +16

      Always expect the unexpected

    • @modikiramaisa4619
      @modikiramaisa4619 2 роки тому +8

      @Kimisu I know she wasn’t married and now is . Simply said these are big lessons for us women in general single or married 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @blessedfavor3299
      @blessedfavor3299 2 роки тому +14

      Baby , married twice. Men always put themselves first regardless of how you’re feelings. Marriage doesn’t make a man stop cheating, or treat you better most believe just because you’re his wife he come home to you. Marriage both times we’re terrible. Lost my virginity to my first one he told me it didn’t mean shit. Second one used my for a green card neither of them take care of their children after divorce.

  • @JukuduB
    @JukuduB 2 роки тому +555

    I never forgot this horrible act. When I see Neyo, I think of this immediately!

    • @NicoleC007
      @NicoleC007 2 роки тому +5

      Right! Me too!

    • @NaiaBlu1
      @NaiaBlu1 2 роки тому +17

      Me too and I don’t listen to his music either. How he did Monyetta with marrying with someone shortly after breaking your with her and also the tube being tide situation.

    • @allureesthetics1862
      @allureesthetics1862 2 роки тому +3

      How was that a horrible act, he didn’t hold her down and tie them. She agreed to have it done and she can still have kids

    • @NaiaBlu1
      @NaiaBlu1 2 роки тому +20

      @@allureesthetics1862 her tubes are burnt so she can’t have them naturally, tubes can be untied burnt can not. Also she has stated that he told her he didn’t want anymore period none, get it taken care of and that is why she said ok. It is mental control I’ve been there with my ex husband.

    • @NicoleC007
      @NicoleC007 2 роки тому +1

      @@allureesthetics1862 its horrible because he persuaded her to get them tied by telling her that he would also get a vasectomy. . .then changed his tune after she actually went through with what they both agreed to do. . .thats foul asf, then to add to that, he went on to get married and have more kids. He's a whole b*tch for that!

  • @jllj9231
    @jllj9231 2 роки тому +415

    Monyetta helped us all to learn a salient lesson that men haven't changed much in the last 50 yrs. They will take it if u giving it up, but they'll leave u and ur heart.

  • @phoenixrisen3077
    @phoenixrisen3077 2 роки тому +230

    No woman should change her body in any way at the urging of a man…or anyone for that matter. These decisions should be made for self by self because that’s the only one who has to live with it forever. If a man doesn’t want anymore kids, him getting a vasectomy would be the logical decision 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @DJRenee
      @DJRenee 2 роки тому +7

      Right

    • @jadeehm
      @jadeehm 2 роки тому +10

      I was waiting for some accountability on her end! She placed blind faith in this man, and made this life altering decision based on that faith! At the time they agreed to have this permanent procedure, she obviously felt she didn’t want more children. While I’m certain the realization of what she’d done was painful, it was still her final decision and her choice! I’m a bit perplexed by the level of pain she suffered due to her decision, but meanwhile she still has two children! Don’t mean to seem insensitive but when did she have time to dwell on her decision while caring for two small children?? She must’ve been exhausted! After having two children relatively close in age, and going through possible postpartum, the relationship ending was probably the worst of her pain! Terrible situation, and definitely a cautionary tale!😳🤔

    • @arielfontanez1307
      @arielfontanez1307 2 роки тому

      True narcissist behavior>He was gonna leave her soon n he dnt want no more child support given w another bby,..thats y I think he made "her" do it..

    • @ldavis4233
      @ldavis4233 2 роки тому

      Look is not the end of road if you have your tubes tied. I got mine done when I was 24 after my second child was born at the time my children father did come a decision for me to have them tied. I did agree to do the procedure. Of course my relationship with my children father didn’t last, of course I wasn’t worry about having anymore I had a girl and a boy I felt I was good. But I did start to think of I had married and my husband didn’t have any children would that be fair to my husband. I did meet some who didn’t have children and at the time my children was grown my husband wanted children so we did IVF and I got pregnant and had a beautiful 9.1 baby boy at the age of 46. So it’s not all is lost for Monyetta and her husband.

  • @emilyrosebery1848
    @emilyrosebery1848 2 роки тому +393

    I heard this story years ago and still get that sour taste in my mouth as I did years ago, she trusted the man she loved too much to the point she made a permanent decision based on what she thought was a mutual decision. There is a chance marriage and love doesnt last forever and all she can do now is be happy, find that peace and live for herself and her kids.

    • @gigijerrie322
      @gigijerrie322 2 роки тому +18

      She can get her tubes untied..... my sister did when she was almost 40 trying to keep her husband and he still always cheated...... she had two babies back-to-back and almost died......SMH

    • @ericholder1603
      @ericholder1603 2 роки тому +27

      @@gigijerrie322 she didn’t just get them tied she had them BURNED

    • @MoDavI-sl7iy
      @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +6

      @@gigijerrie322 LORD! Smh

    • @MoDavI-sl7iy
      @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +17

      What he did, was f'ed up!!! I would never, especially if we weren't married. And she's so young.. Smh

    • @briteyesboyd4089
      @briteyesboyd4089 2 роки тому

      Yes I hated that he didn't follow through n she thought she was ok.he lied n then left her to marry sumbody else. It was a choice she choose to make..u can't cum back from..but she will b ok..she's happily married now .I hope it lasts a lifetime for her💯

  • @delemajohnson5999
    @delemajohnson5999 2 роки тому +221

    I got to know Monyetta when she was on that reality show... She was so sweet and watching her get emotional about the tube tying situation made me not like Neyo. She was way too good for him.

    • @MissN77
      @MissN77 2 роки тому +2

      What reality show was she on?

    • @dawnpratt846
      @dawnpratt846 2 роки тому +5

      The show had usher's ex-wife on there silos ex-wife on there Kevin Hart's ex-wife on there it was the four or maybe a fifth woman on there !

    • @clarencesteward3408
      @clarencesteward3408 2 роки тому

      Obviously she wasn't too good for him she didn't hold him down and has a husband all of you people sitting up here feeling sorry for their woman when you don't really know what going going on in that relationship except for what this woman puts out in the public. You can't fault a man for not wanting to marry a woman he knows he's not going to be happy with I wouldn't want a woman to marry me if I'm not going to make her happy if she's not going to make me happy I just couldn't sit there and act like I'm supposed to be with this person even though I make them unhappy. It's just something about her that causes him to change his mind and he just didn't want to go through all of that foolishness. To me she just another Emily fabulous didn't claim Emily and I think they are riding in the same boat because if you were such a good woman how do you end up on the reality shows that's what I'm saying this man, Neil knew what kind of woman he was dealing with I'm going to say he knew she was a better woman who would end up on on these realities show type things airing out their public business for sympathy. So kudos to neo for seeing straight through this woman and sending her back to the streets.

    • @gilfernando7623
      @gilfernando7623 2 роки тому

      you lie, Delema!

    • @nichellenunya
      @nichellenunya 2 роки тому +2

      @@MissN77 Hollywood Exes

  • @yvetteanderson5504
    @yvetteanderson5504 2 роки тому +90

    This should be a lesson in “married” sense. Stop giving these men WIFEY until you’re actually MARRIED.
    Love WILL NOT make you do crazy things. Ego will.

    • @BlkOnyx0508
      @BlkOnyx0508 2 роки тому +6

      Even when married still consider yourself. Divorce exist and people die etc. Nothing lasts forever

    • @kakakhodenn9128
      @kakakhodenn9128 2 роки тому +2

      no nookie b4 marriage!!!
      hmmm
      tuffy one that tho
      as a bro, maybe better to hold back some for months, year,,,
      🍁

    • @claymorekwaramba6937
      @claymorekwaramba6937 2 роки тому +2

      @@kakakhodenn9128 sadly , there's a reason why they say Love Is Blind. Also hindsight is 20-20 ..People ALWAYS ignore the signs about potential trouble . Especially in the entertainment industry where is never ends well & few live happily ever after.

    • @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115
      @mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 2 роки тому

      He’s dumb he ain’t shit especially when his daughters are looking at this smh

  • @SequoiaMoonSpeaks
    @SequoiaMoonSpeaks 2 роки тому +275

    This is sad! I was in the same situation but I didn’t go though with it bcuz he wouldn’t go through with it! Kinda like you go first and then I’ll go...that never happened! Neyo just didn’t want to see her having babies with someone else bcuz he knew he was gonna leave her eventually. He’s a Narcissist plain and simple!

    • @dfjr19
      @dfjr19 2 роки тому +22

      I was looking for this comment! Exactly what I was thinking smh

    • @MoDavI-sl7iy
      @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +19

      With his big head! 😂🤣

    • @MoDavI-sl7iy
      @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +1

      @ThatRedBoneThug 🤣😭🤣😭😭

    • @DJRenee
      @DJRenee 2 роки тому +1

      Yep

    • @gato0082
      @gato0082 2 роки тому +1

      thats evil.... & i thgt thetcould untie them... iwd nvr mess w/my body thatway 🌿🍃🌿🍃🌿🍃🌳🌸🌸🌸but thats jus me
      feel bad for her .... 🤦 **i didnt watch yet, im responding to comments... 🤦

  • @TheQueenChanti
    @TheQueenChanti 2 роки тому +171

    Dang! I thought they were at least married! Ain't no way I would have done that if we weren't even married.

    • @MoDavI-sl7iy
      @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +12

      That's what I said.

    • @ladyk1687
      @ladyk1687 2 роки тому +2

      What would it have matter same results.He was no good when they wasn't married a ring wouldn't have changed it

    • @TheQueenChanti
      @TheQueenChanti 2 роки тому

      @@ladyk1687 it wasn't about "a ring". It's about marriage, the commitment, the "WE" are making a decision about OUR lives as husband and wife. Not, me going and having my tubes tied because my boyfriend doesn't want to have anymore kids. True, the same results could have happened, but marriage is the ultimate commitment, it's sort of like a security blanket, so to speak, that the relationship is going to last. Without marriage, you're still single and should conduct yourself accordingly. So, again, ain't no way "I" would have done that without being married unless "I" didn't want anymore kids period, whether it was with him or another man that might marry me in the future, but it doesn't seem that that's the case in this story. It seems that it was his idea, that HE didn't want anymore kids and she went along with it because she thought they would get married some day or be together forever without marriage, which does work for some, but, yeah, no.

    • @teequeen653
      @teequeen653 2 роки тому +2

      @@ladyk1687 they'll learn eventually that marriage won't change a single thing. "We" u
      "Us" "Our"...none of those things have meaning or value if BOTH place no value on their relationship. Which in many cases the man usually doesn't especially BM. Marriage is only valued when BOTH=TOGETHER hold its value, NOT just the woman😒. Ppl seriously need to stop worshipping marriage, and put more emphasis on the value of the man/woman. Otherwise it won't work

  • @kletstalkaboutit4726
    @kletstalkaboutit4726 2 роки тому +109

    EVERYTIME I see Neyo, this is all I think about. But Karma has an open menu-everyone will be served!

    • @mariastewart8810
      @mariastewart8810 2 роки тому +2

      IKR! His karma is coming when he least expects it

  • @teyonna3844
    @teyonna3844 2 роки тому +165

    Who can forget how neyo insists his ex gets her tubes tied only for him to end up with someone else 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @myrathomas7660
      @myrathomas7660 2 роки тому +23

      And have kids with said someone else 🤦🏾‍♀️😩

    • @DJRenee
      @DJRenee 2 роки тому +4

      Yep

    • @periseanbaltimore4064
      @periseanbaltimore4064 2 роки тому +5

      How can a man "insist" on a woman getting her tubes tide and she do it? Her body, her choice remember????

    • @Sashstashreview
      @Sashstashreview 2 роки тому

      That nigga is selfish and he definitely gonna get his. Evil.

    • @teyonna3844
      @teyonna3844 2 роки тому

      @@periseanbaltimore4064 I’m using her words not mine 👌🏾

  • @OrbitStephanie
    @OrbitStephanie 2 роки тому +33

    He was out touring much of her last pregnancy but made a POINT to get there in time to remind her that after the birth is a perfect time to tie her tubs. I think he only showed up to ensure she did it. 🤦🏽‍♀️ he is shameless.

  • @Pearlruby718
    @Pearlruby718 2 роки тому +86

    I always had negative vibes about Neyo. I now see the vibes were accurate. Yes I believe it was a mutual decision and he was very slick about making sure he could move on and cut his loses (child support) at two children. I also believe the current wife was a major contributing factor. This is why only women should make major decisions about their bodies. NOT MEN IN ANY ECHELON!

  • @Jess0410
    @Jess0410 2 роки тому +93

    If he changed his mind fine. But that was so selfish of him to let her get her tubes tied. I think that might be one of the most selfish things I've ever heard. I never looked at him the same and honestly lost respect for him. He changed the course of her life with his dishonesty and I don't think I ever forgave him for that. And I think a lot of women felt that way. His career took a HUGE dive after that as well because most of his fans were women.

    • @bamarealist
      @bamarealist 2 роки тому +8

      Yes, seems as though Monyetta missed the largest 🚩, which was, he did not marry & pledge his love & committment to her in the 1st place. So it would be difficult to bank on subsequent matters being solid.

  • @tarawilliams2998
    @tarawilliams2998 2 роки тому +77

    It has also been rumored that Neyo ask Monyetta for a paternity test after their first child was born. And that he convinced Monyetta to have threesomes. I don't know how true it is but the fact that Neyo and Krystal have broken up and considered divorce a few times really speaks volumes.

    • @dasensei5078
      @dasensei5078 2 роки тому +11

      Yes he asked her for a DNA test due to a previous woman claiming to have a baby by him but come to find out it wasn't his kid

    • @musiclover-cn7tb
      @musiclover-cn7tb 2 роки тому +1

      @@dasensei5078 I've seen him say that himself on behind the music the girl named Jessica did lie to him he has 5 or 6 kids with his wife Crystal..

    • @musiclover-cn7tb
      @musiclover-cn7tb 2 роки тому +1

      @@dasensei5078 his vasectomy didn't work lol he has 5 kids now .

    • @delectableprovisions
      @delectableprovisions 2 роки тому

      Whats wrong with asking for a test?

    • @MrsK976
      @MrsK976 2 роки тому

      @@musiclover-cn7tb he didn’t have one. He wanted to make sure Monyetta couldn’t have kids with other men, before he left her, because he is a narcissist.

  • @oshun2866
    @oshun2866 2 роки тому +66

    Monyetta is such a pretty lady. I hope she’s found her peace with this.

    • @MrsK976
      @MrsK976 2 роки тому +9

      She just married an incredible man who loves her deeply. Neyo will end up lonely and alone eventually without ever finding true love. He is a narcissist

  • @Cdc-jq4ry
    @Cdc-jq4ry 2 роки тому +130

    Had my tubes REMOVED bc my ex and I were CERTAIN we didn't want any children(we each have our own but none together).... even right after the surgery, while still together, I regretted it. Of course now an ex, I had to take responsibility for putting so much into another person and the words they said to me. Hard lesson to learn!

    • @siimi7042
      @siimi7042 2 роки тому +10

      Love and light sis🌹🌻

    • @traceydumase
      @traceydumase 2 роки тому

      I appreciate the accountability 🙌🏾

  • @jordangardner8078
    @jordangardner8078 2 роки тому +63

    I don’t like how Crystal was saying he didn’t do it as if she was there… unless she was there sneaking around with him… something about her is ehhhh

    • @djming101
      @djming101 2 роки тому +13

      Of course Crystal was the other women and was pulling some strings to speed up her getting married to him and they don’t even like each other now ! What you fight so hard to get that when you finally get it minus all the sneaking the thrill and excitement is gone when you become the new owner !

  • @jasminejazijaz8002
    @jasminejazijaz8002 2 роки тому +37

    NeeYo gives me sneaky smooth talker vibes anyway.He will have you bussing his windows

  • @lindajones5172
    @lindajones5172 2 роки тому +77

    Reminds me of Alicia keys she is never recuperated from stealing someone's husband when they were actively married while that husband cut off all water all electricity and all funds and left that person in an empty house and she knew about it and agreed to it and expected us to stay in the palms of her hands she has never recuperated

    • @zammymynakersnackstbmoth
      @zammymynakersnackstbmoth 2 роки тому +12

      Girl...punctuation is your friend.

    • @lindajones5172
      @lindajones5172 2 роки тому +12

      @@zammymynakersnackstbmoth for you on UA-cam I'll continue to have punctuation be my enemy because you took time out to respond no punctuation needed

    • @lindajones5172
      @lindajones5172 2 роки тому +11

      @@zammymynakersnackstbmoth you. Didn't. Have. To. Stop. To. Read lol. But I use punctuation when I graduated from ASU west and got that first bachelor's degree

    • @evonywilson8882
      @evonywilson8882 2 роки тому +14

      A person can not steal what is meant for you.

    • @A7Xistheshitz
      @A7Xistheshitz 2 роки тому +14

      Oh my. Wow. Yall are doing the most under her comment, and will let anything distract you from true facts.

  • @entertainmeimboredplease4250
    @entertainmeimboredplease4250 2 роки тому +77

    He settled for a vain ex stripper who only cared about her children having her good hair neyo is a disgrace. After years of watching all these shows like maury, divorce court an all the other shows. Women have been broken down by these grown boys giving our all to them smh we need to not do an give wife duties to these guy no more without a ring first.

    • @lotus9259
      @lotus9259 2 роки тому +2

      She blocked me on IG for saying that 😂😂😂

    • @destinixshakur
      @destinixshakur 2 роки тому +3

      That’s what they do . Tell blak women to be modest then go for the decrepit ones

    • @entertainmeimboredplease4250
      @entertainmeimboredplease4250 2 роки тому +1

      @@lotus9259 She did 😂😂😂 truth hurts huh 😂😂😂😂

    • @lotus9259
      @lotus9259 2 роки тому

      @@entertainmeimboredplease4250 yes she did...I asked her one simple question (in English; if I may add- and the morally corrupt child blocked me 😂😂😂

    • @peace77t
      @peace77t 2 роки тому +2

      He is a colorist trust and I know

  • @missmarionlewis
    @missmarionlewis 2 роки тому +27

    If my man agrees to get a vasectomy I'm not getting my tubes tied.

    • @destinixshakur
      @destinixshakur 2 роки тому +3

      Exactly . I wouldn’t see the point if he did it 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @clarity2974
      @clarity2974 2 роки тому +2

      Exactly no need for both to be done. He just didn't want her to have more kids. That man wanted more children with someone else.

  • @arlenelong2113
    @arlenelong2113 2 роки тому +76

    With all due respect...there's not a man on this planet that will tell me what to do with my body!! Yes, he's wrong but half of the blame lies with Moynetta!!

    • @blackqueen5201
      @blackqueen5201 2 роки тому +3

      All of the blame is on her no one forced her to be foolish

    • @QueenGleaux
      @QueenGleaux 2 роки тому +10

      very true!! gotta stop giving people so much power over you!

    • @Afrolatinalexi
      @Afrolatinalexi 2 роки тому +5

      And you don't make a permanent decision right after such an emotional experience ( giving birth) 🤨

  • @lyndon3497
    @lyndon3497 2 роки тому +32

    I'll never tie my tubes after just 2 kids and no sir you're not my husband.

  • @meloneyurquhart5342
    @meloneyurquhart5342 2 роки тому +28

    He tricked her plain and simple. My heart aches for her. No women should have to make such a huge sacrifice. He went on with his life and hers came to a screeching halt. I would like to hear how he explain this to his children. Wrong Wrong. I have nothing but respect for you.

  • @jasannahmarie888
    @jasannahmarie888 2 роки тому +6

    This is a prime example of women needing to stop giving yourself away wholeheartedly to another human who has the power to leave you for another.

  • @havemycakeandeatitto
    @havemycakeandeatitto 2 роки тому +27

    Know yourself and set boundaries, stay true to you 🌺

  • @ftmb1022
    @ftmb1022 2 роки тому +78

    I think there is a lesson here for all women to learn here.. DO NOT ever as a girl friend or fiance do wifely duties. Getting your tubes tied is a decision made by a husband and wife. She could have said no, she could have taken pills instead of making that decision to please him. This is not all Neyo's fault. We women need to learn that we don't have to bend ourselves out of shape for a man. As someone else comment they can be untied if they weren't burned or clamped. Their are women who have gotten pregnant after getting their tubes tied, also she said she's scared to go to the doctor to find out if anything can be done. So that leaves the question does she really want to find out and move on or do we still want to play the it's all Neyo's fault game?

    • @regale1995
      @regale1995 2 роки тому +5

      Indeed!! She is engaged to be married hopefully she is happy 😊

    • @harlielynn76
      @harlielynn76 2 роки тому +5

      She's already married.

    • @ftmb1022
      @ftmb1022 2 роки тому +5

      @@harlielynn76 that's great, I hope she really look into gettin it untied so she can fully heal and move on.

    • @harlielynn76
      @harlielynn76 2 роки тому +1

      @@ftmb1022 same here.

    • @ericholder1603
      @ericholder1603 2 роки тому +2

      I thought she had her tubes burned

  • @akuagyasi9133
    @akuagyasi9133 2 роки тому +10

    I stop listening to his music when he got with that loudmouth Chrystal, had a son with her and wrote online that he now has the family he’s always wanted! Like his dark skinned kids do not count! What a thwart!

  • @thabodaciousempath
    @thabodaciousempath 2 роки тому +3

    "...face to forehead convo..." Off to the corner with you😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @klmitchellbrown
    @klmitchellbrown 2 роки тому +23

    Nobody ignored this, it damaged his career. 🥺 Even though she has a big responsibility to herself. They were not married. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Ultimately the decision was up to her not him.

  • @chemboagatha792
    @chemboagatha792 2 роки тому +13

    When it comes to children, women need to make decisions for themselves regardless of what their man has to say. It is YOUR body. If you decide to have kids, have them because YOU want to, not as a gift for your man. Getting tubes tied? Do it for you, not for your man. No matter how great your man is, they have options that we women do not.

  • @kimberlydarby3191
    @kimberlydarby3191 2 роки тому +47

    She should have sued his a$$

    • @reneeterrell2539
      @reneeterrell2539 2 роки тому +1

      yep

    • @queenmother1207
      @queenmother1207 2 роки тому +1

      Whether he convinced her or not, she chose to have it done. So there's no need or reason for her to sue him and any judge would throw that out.

  • @nubianwarriorgoddess9341
    @nubianwarriorgoddess9341 2 роки тому +62

    Her tubes weren't just tied they were burnt once your tubes are burnt you can't get a reversal Neyo did her dirty l wouldn't forgive him

    • @cindychristian1700
      @cindychristian1700 2 роки тому +11

      Yes it's still possible. Someone said in the comments on her reality show that a doctor told her on camera that her tubes could be repaired.

    • @djming101
      @djming101 2 роки тому +2

      For some people after 18 years your tubes can grow back or come undone after 18 years . I know somebody it happened to as soon as they only child hit 18 they turned up pregnant . I was disappointed for her because her child had just turn 18 so anything is possible plus she can always get a surrogate if she truly want other child with her husband

    • @mochamommyATX
      @mochamommyATX 2 роки тому

      No one is burning fallopian tubes anymore. Cauterizing. Is only used for bleeding.

    • @musiclover-cn7tb
      @musiclover-cn7tb 2 роки тому +1

      @@cindychristian1700 I've heard that too I had mine burnt it was my decision my doctor didn't want to perform the procedure I personally chose to do it my ex was angry because I did it he didn't have any say over anything he was upset because I didn't want more babies.

    • @delectableprovisions
      @delectableprovisions 2 роки тому

      Serious question! What did he do wrong?

  • @StraightUpTVtalk
    @StraightUpTVtalk 2 роки тому +26

    IVF ( in vitro fertilization) is still an option for this strong beautiful queen 👑. Blessings to her and her new husband ❤️

    • @judahdash2807
      @judahdash2807 2 роки тому +4

      That's what I was gonna say

    • @sbolingtay06
      @sbolingtay06 2 роки тому +5

      Exactly! She can also have a surrogate carry for her also.

  • @sandrafulks8694
    @sandrafulks8694 2 роки тому +29

    She should have definitely got the marriage certificate and had the wedding before she tied her tubes. Also should have went to doctor with him when he got a vasectomy to make sure he got his procedure first.

    • @djming101
      @djming101 2 роки тому

      A marriage certificate means nothing to a man with a already made up mind not to do right ! Some people get married only to be unfaithful it’s so many married people out here that’s more single then single people. That why most of the single people can’t find nobody because of all the married people going around the dipping counter more then once being greedy and needy 😂😂

  • @brittneyberry4934
    @brittneyberry4934 2 роки тому +30

    Oh baby I never ignored this. Definitely made me dislike him+he's a COLORIST.

  • @rnbmatters8224
    @rnbmatters8224 2 роки тому +18

    Ne-yo was an absolute prick for this. I’ve met monyetta and had the opportunity to be around her and she’s such a positive light to be around. I’m glad she found new happiness and new love cause she deserves.

  • @CulturalBackgroundsStudyBible
    @CulturalBackgroundsStudyBible 2 роки тому +12

    _Women often put the desire of a man 1st, out of fear they will lose his love and financial unified assistance._

    • @yolandawallace6496
      @yolandawallace6496 2 роки тому +2

      Yeah she was scared of losing him.Everyone can say what they feel but living that lifestyle is hard not everybody is built for it

  • @tarajordan8893
    @tarajordan8893 2 роки тому +40

    I never forget it . There was actually a show on years ago like behind the scene and they discuss their decision for her to have her tubes tide, yes she made the final decision but I’m sure he had part of talking her into it .

    • @NicoleC007
      @NicoleC007 2 роки тому +5

      Yeah but they were both going to do it, not just her. She agreed to do it because he said he would get a vasectomy after she got her tubes tied. Sad 😔

    • @angelamurray1022
      @angelamurray1022 2 роки тому

      What happened to the woman he left because she lied a kid not being his and he wad paying child support for

  • @jennifercoleman2883
    @jennifercoleman2883 2 роки тому +11

    Women do not let no man make a life changing decision like that for you.I am 62 and I never believed no woman or man should get a lovers,wife,husband or fiances name tatooed on them.

  • @monique90me
    @monique90me 2 роки тому +3

    Wow! He Is Selfish AF! You Took A Woman’s God Given Right To Procreate && Just Dismissed Her Like She Was Useless! 💔 This Breaks My Heart!

  • @keshia4974
    @keshia4974 2 роки тому +21

    Nobody ignored this and everybody was talking🙄

  • @JamekaVibes
    @JamekaVibes 2 роки тому +28

    Yeah I have always felt bad for Monyetta when it came to this situation. But she can still get her tubes untied and try to have children with her new husband if she she chooses to go that route. But you never know, her and her new husband may not want children. She already has 2 from Neyo and her new husband has 1 already from his previous relationship, as well.

    • @bamarealist
      @bamarealist 2 роки тому +5

      True; however, it usually depends upon which type of tubal ligation she had-tied or burned.

    • @jenellfreeman1013
      @jenellfreeman1013 2 роки тому +4

      Unfortunately now a days some doctors remove the entire tube. If you don’t specify to keep your tube and just partial cut or burn then they will remove it completely. I don’t understand it myself and I work in surgery. I refuse to get a tubal due to certain practice because it can’t be reversed.

    • @zammymynakersnackstbmoth
      @zammymynakersnackstbmoth 2 роки тому

      No she can't. They were burned.

    • @JamekaVibes
      @JamekaVibes 2 роки тому

      @@zammymynakersnackstbmoth I once worked with a lady that said she got her tubes burnt and they ended up growing and reattaching and she got pregnant with her last child. Doctor said 1 out of 5 women have experienced this. It is highly unlikely and rare but can happen. But either way it goes, I hope she finds peace with whatever the results are.

    • @musiclover-cn7tb
      @musiclover-cn7tb 2 роки тому +1

      @@JamekaVibes I had this procedure myself in 2010 after my second baby it was my decision that I have to live with my ex was mad that I got it done he had no right be upset it's my body not his .

  • @kingnt78
    @kingnt78 2 роки тому +8

    I will NEVER forget this story! It’s definitely something I plan to explain to my daughters as they get up in age. I can’t do NOTHING with a promise or an excuse, show me “we” in this together

  • @daverenawhite6183
    @daverenawhite6183 2 роки тому +24

    I feel terrible for her. She was definitely jilted. However, with her having gone through her second pregnancy alone, she should have had another sitdown discussion with him. And a long talk with the doctor to discuss all options before making such a permanent decision about her body. Signs were there prior to her procedure. It’s sad however

    • @djming101
      @djming101 2 роки тому +1

      When she went thru that 2nd pregnancy alone she should’ve boycotted the decision to tie her tubes !

    • @labellegene7971
      @labellegene7971 2 роки тому +1

      I think she believed that tying her tubes would make him stay.

  • @aliceevans1803
    @aliceevans1803 2 роки тому +8

    She was young and naive .Never do anything a man suggests if it cannot be undone

  • @tamiko284
    @tamiko284 2 роки тому +7

    She genuinely believed that she would marry him and that they would settle on children. I am so glad that she moved on and that her husband loves her I know she wants maybe wants a child for him, but I am glad that she and he can work it out.

  • @pouncy94
    @pouncy94 2 роки тому +62

    “Face to forehead conversation” 🥴🤣. On a serious note, I remember when this came up some time ago and I was upset for her. I don’t believe it was a mutual decision. I think she did it because she thought it was what he wanted, she loved him very strongly, and thought they’d be together for ever. Nothing wrong with loving someone strongly but one must love the right one because things like this unfortunately happens and the person who’s really responsible never gets blamed. I believe her and I think it was awful for him to even suggest she get her tubes tied right after she gave birth. That wasn’t the time to make that decision; he should’ve waited and sat down with her normally and talked about it. I just hope everything works out for her and that she’s happy with whoever she’s with now despite not being have children with him and I hope he loves her unconditionally despite her not being able to give him children.

    • @clarity2974
      @clarity2974 2 роки тому +1

      It was what he wanted. She should have said you get a vasectomy my body has been through enough. It's usually men getting other women pregnant so it should have been him getting the procedure if he really was serious about not having more children.

  • @ladyofspa
    @ladyofspa 2 роки тому +2

    We remember. DISLIKED him even MORE THEN BEFORE. more like disgusted. ALWAYS do what's best for you!ladies!!!

  • @Adderly02
    @Adderly02 2 роки тому +20

    Aren’t tubes able to be untied? I heard of it happening. I’m not a physician but I don’t THINK A vasectomy can be undone.

    • @asiahwalker7940
      @asiahwalker7940 2 роки тому +10

      If I’m not mistaken she got them completely burned so hers can’t be undone

    • @brittneyberry4934
      @brittneyberry4934 2 роки тому +2

      @@asiahwalker7940 you're right.

    • @ladydonna773
      @ladydonna773 2 роки тому +5

      Vasectomies are indeed reversible

    • @ladydonna773
      @ladydonna773 2 роки тому +3

      @@asiahwalker7940 I’m not sure how true it is because I don’t think she’s ever given the complete details on the kind of tubal ligation she had…but he himself has said that she only had them tied, so they could be untied. Still doesn’t make what he did to her (especially after she gave him his first 2 children) right though.

    • @UsPlus1on82010
      @UsPlus1on82010 2 роки тому +2

      They both can be reversed.

  • @asiahwalker7940
    @asiahwalker7940 2 роки тому +17

    She didn’t just get her tubes tied but she got them burned so her tubes cannot be untied.

    • @jordangardner8078
      @jordangardner8078 2 роки тому +1

      See that makes sense! I was wondering why the video emphasized she couldn’t have kids with her husband if she had only tied her tubes

    • @musiclover-cn7tb
      @musiclover-cn7tb 2 роки тому +1

      @@jordangardner8078 I've had the same procedure there is a newer surgery to fix it with an 85 percent success rate a doctor in Los Angeles does the surgery.

    • @MrsK976
      @MrsK976 2 роки тому

      @@musiclover-cn7tb she has tried to fix it and it didn’t work. She is remarried and wanted more children

  • @MoDavI-sl7iy
    @MoDavI-sl7iy 2 роки тому +7

    No one can MAKE me do anything to MY BODY!! PeriodT!!!!

  • @Angbwillinspireu
    @Angbwillinspireu 2 роки тому +2

    Monyetta is right about having brought to beautiful children into the World. I wish her(and her family) a life of safety, love and happiness.

  • @lakeishayoung5044
    @lakeishayoung5044 2 роки тому +10

    THERE R ALOT OF WOMEN THAT HAVE GOTTEN THERE TUBES TIED,N STILL END UP PREGNANT,CASES LIKE THIS HAPPENS EVERY DAY

  • @yeahrightuhhhuh4931
    @yeahrightuhhhuh4931 2 роки тому +2

    Believe I had a run in with Neyo in the comment section on UA-cam in 2008 when he was playing up that whole "Gentleman" thing ... I commented that a true gentleman takes his hat off when entering a room, and a commenter went ballistic cursing me out! I responded ... why are you so upset, Neyo that you??? Think he was using a burner account . . . 😂😂

  • @cocoameluv
    @cocoameluv 2 роки тому +11

    I know this is going to be off subject but Monyetta and KeKe Palmer look alike

    • @Shortcake74
      @Shortcake74 2 роки тому +1

      I know I keep double looking lol

  • @SuperShowmeit
    @SuperShowmeit 2 роки тому +2

    I have looked at Neyo sideways for years regarding this matter.

  • @Iwishuwould-uq5gl
    @Iwishuwould-uq5gl 2 роки тому +3

    Sad these men seem to try to disappoint you on purpose even when they know your heart is pure and they already have their leg out of the door.

  • @Shannafai
    @Shannafai 2 роки тому +22

    I heard he pressured her to get it. She decided to get it, now she's in a relationship and now her partner wants kids by her. That's y she's so upset, ne-yo did lied to her a lot. But now ne-yo is now getting a divorce he got caught cheating in Jamaica and in America at a strip club.

  • @keneshaglover3578
    @keneshaglover3578 2 роки тому +3

    After this I don't care if neyo ever sell another album

  • @home4life505
    @home4life505 2 роки тому +8

    Baby mamas/daddy stop playing house. Why get changes to your bodies for a boy/girlfriend?

  • @zarfields
    @zarfields 2 роки тому +3

    She can still get a reversal & have a bigger family all things are possible with the Lord & Love🙏

  • @yes2768
    @yes2768 2 роки тому +7

    He need to keep that hat on🤪

  • @Yaya-cl3tu
    @Yaya-cl3tu 2 роки тому +5

    She can get invitro. I had a coworker who had her tubes tied after two kids. Years later, she married someone else, and he wanted children. She got invitro, and they had triplets.
    I got my tubes tied years ago, and while I have never regretted my decision because I was done having kids, I do wish I had known the side effects. First, it was a very painful healing process, and I would not recommend having it done immediately following birth. I did it that way and felt like it was too much body trauma; it took me weeks to heal. Second, it took years for my body to reestablish a balance. My hormones, cycle, and skin were out of wack for several years following the procedure.

  • @teddydavis2339
    @teddydavis2339 2 роки тому +2

    I don't condone what he did but one can't blame him totally. When a man doesn't want to commit, it's apparent. He did not marry her. Women often ignore the tale, tale signs. Get the ring and then have the children. This is one of the biggest mistake black woman make. I know I'm not supposed to say that out loud, but don't our children deserve better? I wish her luck.

  • @poemsbykeya5306
    @poemsbykeya5306 2 роки тому +8

    I remember the reality show she was and and talked about this. This is when I lost all respect for him.

  • @traceydumase
    @traceydumase 2 роки тому +2

    What I'm realizing is, when God isn't at the center bad choices are more than likely to be made. I strongly believe that when you let God guide your decision... earnestly...that your outcome will be better for it. It's stupid to follow your heart on things because the heart is extremely deceitful.

  • @cosmicbeauty5682
    @cosmicbeauty5682 2 роки тому +11

    I'm still hurt by this and still angry with Neyo. I believe a vasectomy is reversible and requires less healing time if I'm not mistaken compared to women getting their tubes tied.
    Ppl like Neyo make decisions based on the ppl they're with at the time. They don't know WTF they want, but they know they want control or no longer want you.
    I had someone who didn't like "drinking", facial piercings, tattoos, clubbing etc yet he ended up with a woman EXACTLY what he claimed to me he didn't like/ want in a woman. See the differences between Monyetta and Neyo's new love... smh

  • @deloresremy2929
    @deloresremy2929 2 роки тому +2

    When your wrong your wrong!! I'm glad she moved on. God bless ❤️ them in whatever their endeavors.

  • @ljbl6934
    @ljbl6934 2 роки тому +13

    She told the truth!

  • @KayMelz14
    @KayMelz14 2 роки тому +2

    There are always signs that show that a man doesn't like you. He could be married to you but he doesn't like you😭

  • @harlielynn76
    @harlielynn76 2 роки тому +6

    What I don't get abt ppl on YT is they will watch YT'bers video's but won't leave a like on the video's. Ppl are trash 🗑.
    All it takes is a damn push of the button on the phone. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @nubianqueen222
    @nubianqueen222 2 роки тому +3

    No it’s not mutual any longer when that person start showing signs they not trying to be with you any longer. He barely made it to the hospital and wasn’t there most of the pregnancy. She kept her word but with something so drastic she should’ve made sure they were still on the same page. The fact that her doctors were shocked and asked her multiple times it tells me it wasn’t planned with the docs and more of a spare of the moment to make him happy and stay since he came for the birth. She simply tried to make him happy and give him all he asked for. But sometimes men do that to see how low you would go. It determines how he values you and your strength. Her getting her tubes tied had nothing to do with loving him. It’s a control mechanism that narcissistic men use.

  • @pagemastrogiovanni9195
    @pagemastrogiovanni9195 2 роки тому +10

    My husband and all the husbands in our couple friend groups have gotten vasectomies after 2 children because it is easier for men...five to 10 minute surgery at best. None of the wives did. Also it is easier to reverse a vasectomy than a tubal ligation. Though if a woman is having a tubal ligation it is best to get it right after childbirth. This whole story makes Neyo come across as an evil, manipulative narc.

    • @beb5407
      @beb5407 2 роки тому

      Why is it better to get right after childbirth? Does that make it easier to reverse it in case you changed your mind?

    • @cherryflavorpop
      @cherryflavorpop 2 роки тому

      @@beb5407 because you already there n "open" so to say

  • @TheJem353
    @TheJem353 2 роки тому +5

    Also remember get the License and marriage first before making any permanent decisions

  • @aroxx8086
    @aroxx8086 2 роки тому +4

    He definitely deserves that "face to forehead" comment.

  • @darkdiva6131
    @darkdiva6131 2 роки тому +2

    A man will use you,if you let him!!! He fell out of love.Ladies pay attention to,your mans energy.

  • @Lyntastic7
    @Lyntastic7 2 роки тому +3

    She said face to forehead 🤣🤣🤣

  • @princesswilliamsmommyof5
    @princesswilliamsmommyof5 2 роки тому +2

    Childern are forever, men are not. So sad.

  • @sonteesontee4227
    @sonteesontee4227 2 роки тому +3

    She dodged a big bullet, even though I am sure she hurt like hell. There are always red flags; and his asking her to get her tubes tied may have been the way for Neo to ease out of their relationship. If he had not married her by the time she became pregnant with their first child, chances are he had no intention of marrying her. On the other hand his blossoming career and temptations he faced while out on the road could have doomed their love. I definitely believe that his dishonesty with Monyetta hurt his career bigtime. He was blowing up! Anyhow, Monyetta has a new life, a fine new man (not a boy), and two beautiful kids.

  • @sherylltolbert4153
    @sherylltolbert4153 2 роки тому +1

    She should check with her doctor or a specialist because there is a reversal procedure. There are new advances for female reproduction. Also, prayer is always the best medicine. She is also blessed to have her two beautiful children and with the medical advances she can still have hope. She’s blessed because she have to waste time with him anymore because apparently he didn’t seem to truly love her. I pray also that she will be blessed with true love and God’s best for her and her family’s life. She seems like a beautiful young lady who deserves to be treated like a queen.

  • @Jazzy869
    @Jazzy869 2 роки тому +4

    I’m not sure why we are blaming Neyo when she herself said “I made permanent decisions “. If you get your tubes tied for a boyfriend (not even a husband) that’s on you…… If he was going to get a vasectomy why would you even need to get your tubes tied? Doesn’t add up. Plus There are so many forms of birth control sorry I dont see her as a victim. Neyo was in a relationship and decided he no longer wanted to be in one.. men and women cut off relationships all the time.. why is he a jerk for that? Sorry but whining that you are raising your kids alone is silly, you choose to have kids with a man who is constantly on the road.

  • @lakeeshak7845
    @lakeeshak7845 2 роки тому +2

    Monyetta stay strong for both of your beautiful children. I know how u feel and it hurts. God has blessed u n so many ways. Let them (kids) know they have the best mother in the world!!

  • @NalaMahal
    @NalaMahal 2 роки тому +16

    05:40 I know how that feels. My ex blind sided me as well. 6 months has gone by and just reached out - likely for sex bc no one changes in that short amount if time

  • @zainabinti5170
    @zainabinti5170 2 роки тому +2

    What a painful story to tight your tubes for a boyfriend/fiancé now unable to have kids with your husband... ladys get a ring first, bf or fiancé is not equal to husband.

  • @mackmccoy6283
    @mackmccoy6283 2 роки тому +6

    YES . I CAN'T STAND HIM

  • @staceybutler-gardner3037
    @staceybutler-gardner3037 2 роки тому +1

    That is the saddest story. She should have waited to he put a ring on it down the aisle and got that piece of paper. He waits til you have two children and the second one unfortunately is his dead stamp, to say I am Just Not In to you cause he found in his mind a sexier woman who didn’t go through child birth. I lost all respect for him. Not that it matters to him but ladies Yes, your Body is Your Temple Guard it Don’t let any man tell you: encourage you to do anything to your temple you were born with: The Creator Gifted you with.

  • @laffytiffy4730
    @laffytiffy4730 2 роки тому +3

    Monyetta is soooo much more beautiful than the Crystal girl. I know that doesn’t matter but it’s just my opinion. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @sassygreen5024
    @sassygreen5024 2 роки тому +1

    That's messed up how he tricked her to tie her tubes like that...and he went on and had other kids and she can't??? Yea I'm done with him all the way.. I seen her story and it broke my heart.

  • @googleuser941
    @googleuser941 2 роки тому +3

    No wonder his current woman got him twisted and have made look like a fool

  • @sheerlylavendar
    @sheerlylavendar 2 роки тому +1

    Never heard this til recently, so clearly Neyo wasn't that high on my radar. However, I'm surprised by how confident so many people speak to other people's situations without empathy and compassion. We can all be fools in love. And if you disagree just keep living if you're so blessed. In truth, we're really not taught how to have good relationships. We're mostly given a dos and don'ts list that isn't always clear and consistent with matters of the heart. Most move through life learning by mistakes or anecdotally learning through the mistakes of others. Hind sight is always 20/20. We cannot see the future so most people do their best to make decisions based on what appears to be before them at a given time. With love.....if you're really in love.....you are vulnerable because you can't love someone and have a healthy relationship without moments of surrendering to trust. So it comes down to the motives and character of both persons in the relationship. We all know when we've mistreated, misled, used, abused, or even betrayed someone. In this case it seems Neyo will have to come to terms with how he led or misled this young woman in their relationship. That ultimately is between the two of them. That will only happen if that's who he is in the spiritual place. But God sees the tears of His broken hearted children and responds according to His will. It appears Monyetta has been favored because she's not only married, but married to a man who loves her irrespective of her current ability to bear children. If it is in God's will and it is their specific desire as a couple, additional children will be brought into their union one way or another. Wishing the best. Maybe the lesson shouldn't be limited to pointing fingers at her for a poor decision in a given moment that she probably couldn't realize fully at the time. I'd sure love to see more men of honor.

    • @gilkay261
      @gilkay261 2 роки тому

      You’ve said a mouthful and then some…I was thinking the very same thing after reading the comments…very eloquently written!!

  • @ZsaZsaRodeo
    @ZsaZsaRodeo 2 роки тому +5

    MONYETTA WON

  • @Tokslaboss
    @Tokslaboss 2 роки тому

    Was a mutual decision.. but when it played out .. he did not keep his end of the bargain. Which is heartbreaking and heart settling .. wow not good at all

  • @peppermintt3879
    @peppermintt3879 2 роки тому +3

    Is his new wife Crystal the same woman that was sitting on the couch with both of them @ 4:51?

  • @jeanettehagerman8053
    @jeanettehagerman8053 2 роки тому +2

    This is why his career took a tank.