Something I'll never tell *anyone* irl is that I have a nearly debilitating lack of impulse control. I learned very quickly to stay away from situations where opportunities for bad impulse "choices" are made; I don't go to parties or bars, I don't go on hikes alone, I avoid bridges with low guard rails, etc. Being nearly hit by a train, falling through a rotting old bridge, and getting lost for hours *multiple times* (all as a child) will do that to you. Unfortunately I also have a hard time *making* myself do things, due to this rigid mindset. I can't just impulsively "go to the store," for example - I've trained myself not to follow *any* spontaneous ideas. It's kept me alive and drug free, even if that means I'm currently fighting with myself to *buy groceries.* I'm afraid that if I tell anyone, they'll brush it off as paranoia and *push me* to engage in risky behaviour. No thank you! I've nearly been hit by cars four times this last year *despite my best efforts,* I don't need to be *adding* opportunities for trouble!
My mom is the only reason I still doubt myself. (Trigger warning, I talk about a sexual assault and self harm a little bit). She’s always been very good at guilt tripping and making me doubt myself. Hell, the faces she makes when I tell her about my repressed memories from my sexually and emotionally abusive relationship makes me think she doesn’t believe me or just thinks I made it up. She doubts my sexuality and gender identity and blames it on my sexual assault, when I’ve been this way for a long time before it happened but she’s trying to make me “realize” I’ll go back to “normal.” She also relentlessly “prays” for me even though she knows I’m an atheist. She told me my assault was “part of god’s plan.” She tells me I’m confused about my gender because “you were confident that one summer you wore dresses” when in reality I only wore them that summer and acted confident to please her because she wanted a daughter who was “feminine.” She told me my depression and anxiety wasn’t actually a mental illness and I was just being a dramatic teen. She made finding out I cut myself all about her and still guilt trips me about it. She brings up that in my abusive relationship I “lied” to her a lot (because the guy I dated made me) and it makes me feel like she will never trust me, and she brings it up often and I know it’s to make me feel bad. She’s the only reason I want to move out of the house, but if I told her that she’d make it about her and guilt trip me.
I relate to 7 on a serious level. I have made such good stories in my head so much that I took one idea and I'm turning one into a long fanfction, a actual novel. It's such an amazing escape from the world around me. Been doing it since I was 5 and I never plan on stopping. (Yes I love to read books and my characters are my family and always will be. They keep me whole.)
You and OP of story 7 may have something called maladaptive daydreaming it's a trauma response to help your brain to cope with the environment you're in I'm not a therapist just someone who has it as well so take with a grain of salt
Can confirm, I turned 30 this year and would never been a teen again. Also, it’s entirely possible your “alt” phase is not a phase. I never grew out of alt fashion, just the cringe ass attitude that sometimes went with it.
RE the abused mom: You are accurate. After 10 years of hell, I didn't understand that I COULD leave, until I was helped beyond what normal people would consider.
I went through the same thing in story 2 its really bad they don't help at all it's just a place kids that had one mental break down and my mom didn't help either
First story that girl needs to know and understand that almost every woman that's been in that situation has said everything she's said to themselves in a mirror. We look at ourselves and say "you're an idiot, just leave, why do you put up with this?" Sweetheart it's easier said than done. We've all said "we would never let a man treat us like that, I would hit him back and leave his sorry ass" that is until we actually are put in that situation. It's a completely different ball game. It's never a quick thing. They break you down slowly.. till you don't know which end is up. Before you know it you're wondering how it even got like this. How did I get here.
Right. Took me a year, but with other folks help, I got out. I was abused as a kid by my mother, so I finally realized I had gotten with another version of her. Luckily my dad was a good man and he taught me the opposite. So that side kicked in, and I left. But imagine if both parents were abusive. Especially if it is all 3 kinds of abuse. You might not ever learn to fight. It sounds like OP had someone in her life who taught her to fight. Having said that, there are victims who use victimization for their own purposes. Which may be the case here. But they are a small minority, so painting every victim with the same brush either way is wrong.
I do simpatize with the OP. Because when you involve children, it's also selfish. I don't believe you have the right to wash your hands on that responsbality. And that doens't take responsability from the abuser themselves either
25:39 i felt this, especially my grandmother. She just doesn’t understand that I don’t want to talk to you, I want to read my book and learn language not hear about how I should be out making friends, or share more about my life. It doesn’t help that she’s getting older and doesn’t understand things about my generation.
13:52 that's exactly the things I do too, sometimes I even take those stories into discord and use them as a story for rp, it's quite comforting knowing I'm not the only one who does that
As a man who has been physically, mentally and emotionally abused.. It is a mix of emotions but mostly you're like a dog at their side with your tail tucked and your ears down when you used to be the happiest zoomie of a pup before you met her. Its not fast it is SLOW, it takes time with little things here and there and honestly it creeps up on to you since you keep thinking its a little here and a little there but the thing is.. Nothing is actually given back it is just taking. Eventually you don't want to leave cause you feel like you're the one who made it worse so you feel indebted to them in some fashion, or they are threatening you in some way.
It is hard to feel for women that endure DV at their children’s expense. They don’t just hit the mom many times. As a child that was constantly put in positions where I had to get my ass beat because of my mom’s cowardice, really hard to empathize with them. I didn’t choose that loser. But I sure as hell suffer the consequences of their choice to keep themselves and kids in the cycle of abuse. Luckily my husband is the kindest most loving person I could marry. I broke the cycle and I am proud of that.
i can relate to story 7. i do the same thing. some other things i got that i can't tell anyone is that i can't hold down friendships or relationships unless the other person is the one to contact me occasionally. its not that i don't want to, i just don't know what to talk about. its also the reason why i can't have a propper conversation for a long time.
2020 changed me too. Rough stuff. I think i had a nervous breakdown that rest my brain. I dont even remember my personality before august 2020. I literally had to rebuild myself from the ground up
Story 7 felt like it was calling me out. I do the exact same things. I basically live in my imaginary world and talk to myself cause basically I have no one else to talk to. I have severe social anxiety so this kind of started as a coping mechanism as a child and now this is how I deal with my depression. Escaping from the real world does help but I too feel when it's getting unhealthy and I know I'm in need of therapy but being an Indian, there is like no mental health awareness here, my parents don't understand why I need it. And yes I do have a wide range of creativity and I do write so that helps.
My mum stayed with my step dad and even married him after she found out he was beating her children. To a degree I understand where story 1 op is coming from. If I found out someone was beating my kids I would grab them and run. Forget the house, forget anything I owned, as long as my babies are safe. My mums excuse was always that she'd lose the house but, to me, that's a complete cop-out. I couldn't imgine putting anything above my children. She finally got rid of him when he turned on her.
This is really late, but Story 9 was really great to hear. I am a teenager and goddamn, it’s not very fun. Most people try to make you feel grateful by saying “Wait till you’re in the real world.” I’m sure being an adult is going to be challenging, but it’s good to hear that it is better than these years, and that things can improve.
I know a lot of these stories are sad, but for some reason, the kid and the little girl at the camp is the one that sticks out to me the most. I dont know why.
I'm on the opposite end of not being a teen again if I could go back to being a teenager I'd do it in a heartbeat personally lol. My last good memories in life were from back then ever since I graduated high school its been nothing but downhill for me. So yeah if I could I'd go back to been a teen in a heartbeat
Story 15: you did the right thing. Getting involved when you are not sure is a mistake for anyone, no matter what their orientation is! Be careful out there.
Story 7 was really related to me. I use my mind to make different personalities of me and I talk to them. Sometimes I cuss as myself and it doesn't help I have depression due to 7 animals dying, 6 family members dying, my dad leaving when I was born, and a few other reasons why. So I always cry when I see in a movie a kid having fun with his best friend that is a dog. Yes, I cry easily but its not easy to not cry when almost everything reminds you of things that wanna just make you say, "It all started when I was born, Should I be able to kill myself?" I think that sometimes and I even hold deadly objects to by chest or I wrap cords around my neck. I don't like it at all because well, isn't it obvious? I can't ever get a break.
When it comes to story 1, I'll say im really proud of OP for getting away from the abuse and never accepting it for herself but i think her opinions on leaving and not putting up with it are based on being a child of abuse and not on being in an abusive romantic relationship. I have experienced both and although it can be hard to get away from both, you can grow up and move on from abusive parents and relatives a lot easier once you're older, some people still struggle with that but as a child it isn't your choice who you're raised by so of course we can't place judgement on the abused. We shouldn't do that about domestic abuse either though. You need to understand that typically you do not intentionally or knowingly get into a relationship that is abusive.. By the time you realize what is happening to you or what will happen to you, it can often be far too late to leave. Sometimes, even if people are willing to help you leave, you have learned at least in part what the abuser is capable of and it is absolutely terrifying knowing what they will do to you once they're able to find you again. On top of that, by this point there will have been not only physical and maybe sexual abuse going on, but mental, emotional and financial abuse as well and you've been so brainwashed and manipulated that a trauma bond has been created. A lot of times you're made to believe that there's no way your life could possibly go on if you leave. Also, A lot of times there are threats of extortion, whether they actually have real evidence of dirt on you or not, and they've already begun smear campaigns so its hard to believe you'll have the supports you need if you do get away. It can take years to get away no matter how hard you try to prepare and set up supports for yourself. Sometimes even when you get away from one, you may eventually end up in one abusive relationship after another. Once you fall victim to abuse, especially Antisocial Personality Disordered Abuse, its very easy for that to keep happening. Even when you teach yourself what signs and red flags to look out for, you dont know until you know and by then it can be far too late. These kinds of abusers wear masks and most times they're very convincing to everyone around them and it can take a very long time for the masks to finally come off before you're able to see their true colours. They brainwash you into loving them unconditionally. They mimic your behaviors and what you are seeking in a partner and make you fall in love with a false identity and by the time you realize it was never real, it's so hard to accept it. They teach you how to make excuses for their actions or lack thereof. They gaslight you into believing that you're the problem and that its your fault it's happening. They make you feel the worst guilt if you leave or take action against their abuse and it becomes engraved in your mind. This is the brainwashing. The emotional rollercoasters they have you on becomes excruciatingly painful at times. It is really hard to undo braineashing the longer its been going on and you may not even realize you've been brainwashed for a long time. I dont think its fair to ever blame victims of this kind of abuse or any kind of abuse for being weak. This is a mental health issue at the end of the day that will take years of treatments to overcome, if ever. Some people are left with C-PTSD forever. Sometimes no amount of medication and no amount of therapy will fully heal people after being abused like this for so long. Its hard but you need to try and show some compassion to these victims and if you can't watch it happening then its understandable to walk away but we dont victim shame. This is one of the major reasons many women give up on reaching out, leaving, getting any help, etc. Because of the fear that they will be shamed for what they went through at someone elses hands. Its incredibly unfair to judge them and shame them no matter how hard it is to witness, hear about, or get them out of.
For the story about the guy who having night terrors. As someone who had night terrors his whole life Was part of tramatic experance at stupid young age 3 and half. Had the same dream repated for years. Turns out of eidetic memory where I have the ability to vividly recall images, smells and events. The nightmare was the event that I saw at young age. I did not learn about this until I was 13 when my mom had me speak to a therapist. I learned some coping mechnisims but they still are there. However I still have sleep issue now in my 40 but I was put on beta blockers to help my brain "slow down" at night. This has dramaically effected my dreams to where I dont have many any more. My girlfriend says I dont twitch anymore and I only get up in the night to use the bathroom. Good Therapist and there are some medication that can help it been two years and good sleep will change a lot of things for you. It really something you should speak to your therapist or doctor about.
Tool - if you are depressed, in pain, or thinking of using sharp implements to ease the tightness, get a Wartenberg wheel (preferably with case, they’re sharp!) and use it across your palm or smooth skin. It will release endorphins but not break skin. I passed them out to a number of folx when my kids were in high school. They come in different colored handles.
I have so many questions about story 11... Gerbils ears are incredbly tiny, so how did that even happen? Its also a little sus that they specifically emphasized that it happened naturally. Sure, Jan...
I am absolutely terrified when I see any kid pretend to climb in a dryer, or see it in fictional shows. We had a karate student of ours who was a troubled kid, his home life sucked, and he was starting to come out of his shell when he would come to class. His brothers took too. Well one of the brothers played hide and seek with him, and he climbed into their dryer. The brother found him, kept the door shut, and turned the dryer on. He died of hyperthermia. It broke me to hear, and I am convinced the brother who did it is a psycho or sociopath, because at the viewing he nonchalantly walked up to us and was like, yeah I need to come back to karate, I'm gaining too much weight.....not 20 ft from his brother's body.
I once found a wallet on the ground in a crowded bar so I cleaned it out. It was about $30 then I discreetly tossed it on the ground. I found out it belonged to one of my coworkers who also worked at the same bar. A week later I was visiting him and he told me about his wallet being cleaned out with only his cards left (it's hard using other people's cards without getting busted), so I acted shocked and gave a huge tip. He ended up losing his wallet again some time later due to being an idiot. No, I didn't find it the second time
I don't have secrets really, the most difficult was confessing to my friends that I was hungry(thing didn't go well in mi house money-wise, so I stopped eating 1 meal -- was a short period but :/)
I have one it. its not as intense as the rest of these stories but its my secret. I was on a school trip to Florida it was an ok trip nothing to write home about I am a teenager at the time and this is a recent story. anyways on the way home my family stopped in South Carolina. I was bored so I played chess by my self (I know very pitiful but I didn't have anything to do). so I was playing chess and a girl who comes up to me and asks me if she could play a game with me. I like to be a nice person so I agreed. over the next 4 hours we play chess an I learn her name and that she is a foreign exchange student from Italy. the next day I have to leave so I do something I had never done before and asked her for her number and I was lucky and got it. over the next couple days I decided I would I wanted to make her something to show her how much she meant to me even if nothing romantic had happened so I started to carve 2 wooden chess pieces. the next weekend I ask her If she has the time to give me a phone call. and see replied sorry I have a bf. I was heart broken but since I was working for some friends I hid the emotions. I have only told to people 2 people and they both told me to move on and man up. one of them is going through a relation ship situation so I didn't blame them the other was my best friend and she has been making sure since then to point out how I am hopeless and won't get a girl. I still haven't told anybody that I started woodworking for her. and I know I will never here from her again but I don't think I will ever be able to forget her.
Hey! ‘Just man up’ is an abusive toxic thing to say. It sounds like you are too isolated. Some counseling, if you can afford it would help, and there are woodworking groups out there where you can share that love! You might find some real friends there and maybe even a partner with shared interests. Rooting for you!✌️♥️
it's not really a secret but really i never felt functional as a human i always noticed things that kids my age didn't seem to notice i guess i wonder why me and humanity as a whole exists as it does and i find myself lonely confused unable to trust myself, I became a psychologist in search of understanding such things and helping others who are also suffering, but the truth is that I remain trapped inside myself without the strength to work or live so to speak. I'm tired of this. even though I probably have ADHD and autism along with chronic depression. I feel like the joke in the whatman movie about the clown who visits the psychiatrist because he is sad and is sent to the circus. I'm exhausted and with nothing to give up... I wrote this through a personal translator sorry for any mistakes
Story 14: I'm not actually certain about his, but I heard multiple times, that rats are mice are "raised" to be fed to snakes or other predators. That means that they had at least one person that would at least feed them, if not do more for them. When purchased as pet food, they will fall into a fight or flight scenario as soon as they encounter the predator they are food for. The rat most likely realized that OP was still there, and thought it will be saved by OP. The look on it's face was likely the look of betrayal.
That message about not being a good parent but still a good person came at the right time for me today. Thank you
Something I'll never tell *anyone* irl is that I have a nearly debilitating lack of impulse control. I learned very quickly to stay away from situations where opportunities for bad impulse "choices" are made; I don't go to parties or bars, I don't go on hikes alone, I avoid bridges with low guard rails, etc. Being nearly hit by a train, falling through a rotting old bridge, and getting lost for hours *multiple times* (all as a child) will do that to you.
Unfortunately I also have a hard time *making* myself do things, due to this rigid mindset. I can't just impulsively "go to the store," for example - I've trained myself not to follow *any* spontaneous ideas. It's kept me alive and drug free, even if that means I'm currently fighting with myself to *buy groceries.*
I'm afraid that if I tell anyone, they'll brush it off as paranoia and *push me* to engage in risky behaviour. No thank you! I've nearly been hit by cars four times this last year *despite my best efforts,* I don't need to be *adding* opportunities for trouble!
That first story... I feel for the daughter, I feel for the mum too. I'm glad the daughter broke the cycle.
My mom is the only reason I still doubt myself. (Trigger warning, I talk about a sexual assault and self harm a little bit).
She’s always been very good at guilt tripping and making me doubt myself. Hell, the faces she makes when I tell her about my repressed memories from my sexually and emotionally abusive relationship makes me think she doesn’t believe me or just thinks I made it up. She doubts my sexuality and gender identity and blames it on my sexual assault, when I’ve been this way for a long time before it happened but she’s trying to make me “realize” I’ll go back to “normal.”
She also relentlessly “prays” for me even though she knows I’m an atheist. She told me my assault was “part of god’s plan.”
She tells me I’m confused about my gender because “you were confident that one summer you wore dresses” when in reality I only wore them that summer and acted confident to please her because she wanted a daughter who was “feminine.”
She told me my depression and anxiety wasn’t actually a mental illness and I was just being a dramatic teen. She made finding out I cut myself all about her and still guilt trips me about it.
She brings up that in my abusive relationship I “lied” to her a lot (because the guy I dated made me) and it makes me feel like she will never trust me, and she brings it up often and I know it’s to make me feel bad.
She’s the only reason I want to move out of the house, but if I told her that she’d make it about her and guilt trip me.
You being so happy about your nails is the CUTEST GODDAMN THING
Hehe thank you!
I relate to 7 on a serious level. I have made such good stories in my head so much that I took one idea and I'm turning one into a long fanfction, a actual novel. It's such an amazing escape from the world around me. Been doing it since I was 5 and I never plan on stopping. (Yes I love to read books and my characters are my family and always will be. They keep me whole.)
I feel you buddy.
Same here.Its been 9 years since i started the story and still carrying on with this.
You and OP of story 7 may have something called maladaptive daydreaming it's a trauma response to help your brain to cope with the environment you're in I'm not a therapist just someone who has it as well so take with a grain of salt
@@deltavgaming3447 I have autism so I think it's because of that for me. Or at least part of it.
@@olivierplante361 have autism too MD is usually one of the things you develop as part of the spectrum
Can confirm, I turned 30 this year and would never been a teen again.
Also, it’s entirely possible your “alt” phase is not a phase. I never grew out of alt fashion, just the cringe ass attitude that sometimes went with it.
Let your alt flag fly!! And just know that haters are jealous that they feel they cannot express themselves freely.
RE the abused mom: You are accurate. After 10 years of hell, I didn't understand that I COULD leave, until I was helped beyond what normal people would consider.
I went through the same thing in story 2 its really bad they don't help at all it's just a place kids that had one mental break down and my mom didn't help either
First story that girl needs to know and understand that almost every woman that's been in that situation has said everything she's said to themselves in a mirror. We look at ourselves and say "you're an idiot, just leave, why do you put up with this?" Sweetheart it's easier said than done. We've all said "we would never let a man treat us like that, I would hit him back and leave his sorry ass" that is until we actually are put in that situation. It's a completely different ball game. It's never a quick thing. They break you down slowly.. till you don't know which end is up. Before you know it you're wondering how it even got like this. How did I get here.
Right. Took me a year, but with other folks help, I got out. I was abused as a kid by my mother, so I finally realized I had gotten with another version of her. Luckily my dad was a good man and he taught me the opposite. So that side kicked in, and I left. But imagine if both parents were abusive. Especially if it is all 3 kinds of abuse. You might not ever learn to fight. It sounds like OP had someone in her life who taught her to fight.
Having said that, there are victims who use victimization for their own purposes. Which may be the case here. But they are a small minority, so painting every victim with the same brush either way is wrong.
I do simpatize with the OP. Because when you involve children, it's also selfish. I don't believe you have the right to wash your hands on that responsbality. And that doens't take responsability from the abuser themselves either
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25:39 i felt this, especially my grandmother. She just doesn’t understand that I don’t want to talk to you, I want to read my book and learn language not hear about how I should be out making friends, or share more about my life. It doesn’t help that she’s getting older and doesn’t understand things about my generation.
13:52 that's exactly the things I do too, sometimes I even take those stories into discord and use them as a story for rp, it's quite comforting knowing I'm not the only one who does that
As a man who has been physically, mentally and emotionally abused.. It is a mix of emotions but mostly you're like a dog at their side with your tail tucked and your ears down when you used to be the happiest zoomie of a pup before you met her. Its not fast it is SLOW, it takes time with little things here and there and honestly it creeps up on to you since you keep thinking its a little here and a little there but the thing is.. Nothing is actually given back it is just taking. Eventually you don't want to leave cause you feel like you're the one who made it worse so you feel indebted to them in some fashion, or they are threatening you in some way.
Hey Mr. Facts, I loveee your videos. It would be nice if you could make these videos into a podcast!
Story 7 sounds like maladaptive daydreaming.
It is hard to feel for women that endure DV at their children’s expense. They don’t just hit the mom many times. As a child that was constantly put in positions where I had to get my ass beat because of my mom’s cowardice, really hard to empathize with them. I didn’t choose that loser. But I sure as hell suffer the consequences of their choice to keep themselves and kids in the cycle of abuse. Luckily my husband is the kindest most loving person I could marry. I broke the cycle and I am proud of that.
"What's a secret you won't share with anyone."
Me - Nice try.
Story 7- that sounds really similar maladaptive daydreaming and it is a disorder that can negatively impact people’s lives.
I love the colors! They're so pretty
Thank you!!
Oh my gosh story 7, I didn't think anyone else did that! I've made over 30 ocs to make myself feel more a part of these universes.
i can relate to story 7. i do the same thing. some other things i got that i can't tell anyone is that i can't hold down friendships or relationships unless the other person is the one to contact me occasionally. its not that i don't want to, i just don't know what to talk about. its also the reason why i can't have a propper conversation for a long time.
2020 changed me too. Rough stuff. I think i had a nervous breakdown that rest my brain. I dont even remember my personality before august 2020. I literally had to rebuild myself from the ground up
Story 7 felt like it was calling me out. I do the exact same things. I basically live in my imaginary world and talk to myself cause basically I have no one else to talk to. I have severe social anxiety so this kind of started as a coping mechanism as a child and now this is how I deal with my depression. Escaping from the real world does help but I too feel when it's getting unhealthy and I know I'm in need of therapy but being an Indian, there is like no mental health awareness here, my parents don't understand why I need it.
And yes I do have a wide range of creativity and I do write so that helps.
Story 1…makes no sense why that’s a secret. You defiantly bow if you can’t say it in person.
My mum stayed with my step dad and even married him after she found out he was beating her children. To a degree I understand where story 1 op is coming from. If I found out someone was beating my kids I would grab them and run. Forget the house, forget anything I owned, as long as my babies are safe. My mums excuse was always that she'd lose the house but, to me, that's a complete cop-out. I couldn't imgine putting anything above my children. She finally got rid of him when he turned on her.
This is really late, but Story 9 was really great to hear. I am a teenager and goddamn, it’s not very fun. Most people try to make you feel grateful by saying “Wait till you’re in the real world.” I’m sure being an adult is going to be challenging, but it’s good to hear that it is better than these years, and that things can improve.
dang i dont think ive ever been this early to a video before
I know a lot of these stories are sad, but for some reason, the kid and the little girl at the camp is the one that sticks out to me the most. I dont know why.
I'm on the opposite end of not being a teen again if I could go back to being a teenager I'd do it in a heartbeat personally lol. My last good memories in life were from back then ever since I graduated high school its been nothing but downhill for me. So yeah if I could I'd go back to been a teen in a heartbeat
Story 15: you did the right thing. Getting involved when you are not sure is a mistake for anyone, no matter what their orientation is! Be careful out there.
Story 7 was really related to me. I use my mind to make different personalities of me and I talk to them. Sometimes I cuss as myself and it doesn't help I have depression due to 7 animals dying, 6 family members dying, my dad leaving when I was born, and a few other reasons why. So I always cry when I see in a movie a kid having fun with his best friend that is a dog. Yes, I cry easily but its not easy to not cry when almost everything reminds you of things that wanna just make you say, "It all started when I was born, Should I be able to kill myself?" I think that sometimes and I even hold deadly objects to by chest or I wrap cords around my neck. I don't like it at all because well, isn't it obvious? I can't ever get a break.
When it comes to story 1, I'll say im really proud of OP for getting away from the abuse and never accepting it for herself but i think her opinions on leaving and not putting up with it are based on being a child of abuse and not on being in an abusive romantic relationship. I have experienced both and although it can be hard to get away from both, you can grow up and move on from abusive parents and relatives a lot easier once you're older, some people still struggle with that but as a child it isn't your choice who you're raised by so of course we can't place judgement on the abused. We shouldn't do that about domestic abuse either though. You need to understand that typically you do not intentionally or knowingly get into a relationship that is abusive.. By the time you realize what is happening to you or what will happen to you, it can often be far too late to leave. Sometimes, even if people are willing to help you leave, you have learned at least in part what the abuser is capable of and it is absolutely terrifying knowing what they will do to you once they're able to find you again. On top of that, by this point there will have been not only physical and maybe sexual abuse going on, but mental, emotional and financial abuse as well and you've been so brainwashed and manipulated that a trauma bond has been created. A lot of times you're made to believe that there's no way your life could possibly go on if you leave. Also, A lot of times there are threats of extortion, whether they actually have real evidence of dirt on you or not, and they've already begun smear campaigns so its hard to believe you'll have the supports you need if you do get away. It can take years to get away no matter how hard you try to prepare and set up supports for yourself. Sometimes even when you get away from one, you may eventually end up in one abusive relationship after another. Once you fall victim to abuse, especially Antisocial Personality Disordered Abuse, its very easy for that to keep happening. Even when you teach yourself what signs and red flags to look out for, you dont know until you know and by then it can be far too late. These kinds of abusers wear masks and most times they're very convincing to everyone around them and it can take a very long time for the masks to finally come off before you're able to see their true colours. They brainwash you into loving them unconditionally. They mimic your behaviors and what you are seeking in a partner and make you fall in love with a false identity and by the time you realize it was never real, it's so hard to accept it. They teach you how to make excuses for their actions or lack thereof. They gaslight you into believing that you're the problem and that its your fault it's happening. They make you feel the worst guilt if you leave or take action against their abuse and it becomes engraved in your mind. This is the brainwashing. The emotional rollercoasters they have you on becomes excruciatingly painful at times. It is really hard to undo braineashing the longer its been going on and you may not even realize you've been brainwashed for a long time. I dont think its fair to ever blame victims of this kind of abuse or any kind of abuse for being weak. This is a mental health issue at the end of the day that will take years of treatments to overcome, if ever. Some people are left with C-PTSD forever. Sometimes no amount of medication and no amount of therapy will fully heal people after being abused like this for so long. Its hard but you need to try and show some compassion to these victims and if you can't watch it happening then its understandable to walk away but we dont victim shame. This is one of the major reasons many women give up on reaching out, leaving, getting any help, etc. Because of the fear that they will be shamed for what they went through at someone elses hands. Its incredibly unfair to judge them and shame them no matter how hard it is to witness, hear about, or get them out of.
For the story about the guy who having night terrors.
As someone who had night terrors his whole life Was part of tramatic experance at stupid young age 3 and half. Had the same dream repated for years. Turns out of eidetic memory where I have the ability to vividly recall images, smells and events. The nightmare was the event that I saw at young age. I did not learn about this until I was 13 when my mom had me speak to a therapist. I learned some coping mechnisims but they still are there. However I still have sleep issue now in my 40 but I was put on beta blockers to help my brain "slow down" at night. This has dramaically effected my dreams to where I dont have many any more. My girlfriend says I dont twitch anymore and I only get up in the night to use the bathroom. Good Therapist and there are some medication that can help it been two years and good sleep will change a lot of things for you. It really something you should speak to your therapist or doctor about.
Tool - if you are depressed, in pain, or thinking of using sharp implements to ease the tightness, get a Wartenberg wheel (preferably with case, they’re sharp!) and use it across your palm or smooth skin. It will release endorphins but not break skin. I passed them out to a number of folx when my kids were in high school. They come in different colored handles.
Story 2 Needs a Trigger Warning
Went through the same thing, and I think this should be said but a trigger warning would be a good heads up next time
Good call, and definitely missed on my part. I was in a bit of a rush with these videos and missed that.
@@TheDungeonNewbsGuide no problem, I was just mentioning it ^^
I have so many questions about story 11... Gerbils ears are incredbly tiny, so how did that even happen? Its also a little sus that they specifically emphasized that it happened naturally. Sure, Jan...
25:46 Breathing, walking, seeing.
As an introvert myself, I can say with absolute certainty that the original poster of that story is a couch potato!
I am absolutely terrified when I see any kid pretend to climb in a dryer, or see it in fictional shows. We had a karate student of ours who was a troubled kid, his home life sucked, and he was starting to come out of his shell when he would come to class. His brothers took too. Well one of the brothers played hide and seek with him, and he climbed into their dryer. The brother found him, kept the door shut, and turned the dryer on. He died of hyperthermia. It broke me to hear, and I am convinced the brother who did it is a psycho or sociopath, because at the viewing he nonchalantly walked up to us and was like, yeah I need to come back to karate, I'm gaining too much weight.....not 20 ft from his brother's body.
The internet has ruined my mind so much that I hate myself for going there when he said "my stepmother"
25:46 I feel this sentiment exactly.
2nd comment and first like LOVE YOUR VIDS AND MUSTACHE
13:53 wait this isn't a normal thing to do?????? Oh damn that probably explains why most of mine are my comfort characters + my main oc
I once found a wallet on the ground in a crowded bar so I cleaned it out. It was about $30 then I discreetly tossed it on the ground. I found out it belonged to one of my coworkers who also worked at the same bar. A week later I was visiting him and he told me about his wallet being cleaned out with only his cards left (it's hard using other people's cards without getting busted), so I acted shocked and gave a huge tip. He ended up losing his wallet again some time later due to being an idiot. No, I didn't find it the second time
bros laugh was so adorable when he remembered he painted his nails the pan flag 😭🖤
I don't have secrets really, the most difficult was confessing to my friends that I was hungry(thing didn't go well in mi house money-wise, so I stopped eating 1 meal -- was a short period but :/)
I have one it. its not as intense as the rest of these stories but its my secret. I was on a school trip to Florida it was an ok trip nothing to write home about I am a teenager at the time and this is a recent story. anyways on the way home my family stopped in South Carolina. I was bored so I played chess by my self (I know very pitiful but I didn't have anything to do). so I was playing chess and a girl who comes up to me and asks me if she could play a game with me. I like to be a nice person so I agreed. over the next 4 hours we play chess an I learn her name and that she is a foreign exchange student from Italy. the next day I have to leave so I do something I had never done before and asked her for her number and I was lucky and got it. over the next couple days I decided I would I wanted to make her something to show her how much she meant to me even if nothing romantic had happened so I started to carve 2 wooden chess pieces. the next weekend I ask her If she has the time to give me a phone call. and see replied sorry I have a bf. I was heart broken but since I was working for some friends I hid the emotions. I have only told to people 2 people and they both told me to move on and man up. one of them is going through a relation ship situation so I didn't blame them the other was my best friend and she has been making sure since then to point out how I am hopeless and won't get a girl. I still haven't told anybody that I started woodworking for her. and I know I will never here from her again but I don't think I will ever be able to forget her.
Hey! ‘Just man up’ is an abusive toxic thing to say. It sounds like you are too isolated. Some counseling, if you can afford it would help, and there are woodworking groups out there where you can share that love! You might find some real friends there and maybe even a partner with shared interests. Rooting for you!✌️♥️
I will say. No matter teenager or adult. Challenges still suck.
To the person who daydreams. Thats called maladaptive day dreaming. It can be incredibly destructive
it's not really a secret but really i never felt functional as a human i always noticed things that kids my age didn't seem to notice i guess i wonder why me and humanity as a whole exists as it does and i find myself lonely confused unable to trust myself, I became a psychologist in search of understanding such things and helping others who are also suffering, but the truth is that I remain trapped inside myself without the strength to work or live so to speak. I'm tired of this. even though I probably have ADHD and autism along with chronic depression. I feel like the joke in the whatman movie about the clown who visits the psychiatrist because he is sad and is sent to the circus. I'm exhausted and with nothing to give up...
I wrote this through a personal translator sorry for any mistakes
but as the old poet says, "I must endure myself and the different versions of me within me."
Wassap how’s everybody doing today
not bad bro, you?
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Story 14: I'm not actually certain about his, but I heard multiple times, that rats are mice are "raised" to be fed to snakes or other predators.
That means that they had at least one person that would at least feed them, if not do more for them.
When purchased as pet food, they will fall into a fight or flight scenario as soon as they encounter the predator they are food for.
The rat most likely realized that OP was still there, and thought it will be saved by OP.
The look on it's face was likely the look of betrayal.
Hi can anyone tell me what a high liter comment means?
my toenails are stinkyy
I hate the first one if someone hurt my mom I will beat to bloody
how do you have a wife and are pan?
If someone is pan, they're attracted to all genders like men, women, non binary etc
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U talk too much with ur commentary