"Be a train that moves on. A train doesn't wait for a passenger. The passenger should be the one whose nagmamadali just to ride the train. Because the train has a destination. It doesn't wait for someone. It has a specific time it stops to the station. The train never wait for the passenger, the passenger chase the train because they know, the passenger knows, that the the place where the train is going is the destination that they want to be. Be the train that stop at a specific station at a certain amount of time but do not overextend yourself into waiting for someone just 'cause you think its your priviledge to have a passenger like this person. It should be the other way around. And the only mental strategy mental gain that you have is for you tonknow where you are going." -Real Talk Darbs, How to Handle People Who Is Afraid Of Commitment? 👌🏻🙌🏻
Psychologically speaking, people with avoidant attachment style fear commitment. They value their personal space and independence. They want relationship but too much closeness/vulnerability is uncomfortable for them. It's better to find a partner who is emotionally secure.
they don't want to commit bec they are afraid of having additional responsibility in your relationship. And ayaw nila mahawakan s leeg or marami ng bawal. And reality...di ka lang gusto na ikaw yung taong bibigyan nila ng commitment.
I experienced too takut sah commitment yung guy in short ginamit lng ako more than 1 year din nghintay din ako na mg changed yung mind nea but im thankfull nakayanan ko to end that kind of situation hirap mgmahal ng ikaw lng my feelings ,,......
How to take these questions na "22 ka na, kelan ka magkakaboyfriend?", "Nagwowork ka na, boyfriend na next.", "Tomboy ka ba kaya wala kang bf?" Sinagot ko na yan sa lahat ng makakaya ko pero bakit ang dami pa den nagtatanong? Ang laki talaga ng effect kapag family na mismo ang bumabanggit ng mga yan. I really agree na "culture" na natin ang ganito, na kailangan i priority natin ang likes/dislikes nila. Di naman sa ayaw kong magasawa, gusto ko. Di nga lang ako stable sa lahat ng aspects. Bat hindi nila magets iyon? Anyway andami kong natutunan sa mga pa words of wisdom nyo kuya. 💖
Ramdam ko yan. Kasi ako 25 na ko nung nagkaroon ng first boyfriend. So sa duration nung hindi pa ko nagkakaboyfriend lagi nilang sinasabi na "tatanda ka ng dalaga", "tomboy ka ba" mga ganun. Pero lagi kong sagot sa kanila eh God's perfect timing. Tska hindi naman paunahan yung pakikipagrelasyon.
I am worthy to be love I am worthy to be taken care of I am worthy to be prioritize Thankyou Sir 😢 Iniwan nya man ako kasi nawalan ako nn work at wala na sya ma gain sken Atleast nakita ko kaagad yung tunay na motive nya Ang masakit lang nung sya ang broke andun ako to support him Nung ako ang na broke Ni anino nya di ko na nakita
"Focus on YOU! Focus on committing to the dreams that you wanna have. Focus on being the person that would attract the person who would wanna commit to you. Commit to the goal. Commit to your mission. Commit to your project instead of pouring out all those love to someone who does not deserve. Pour it inside you. You have so much love to give. And why are you giving it to someone who doesn't even want it. Maybe they just want it because maybe it's convenient at that specific time. So NO! You should be wise enough to walk away. ... UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE WORTHY." That's my favorite part. It hits home. Hehe. Thanks for the wisdom. 🤍
Thank you for this vlog Kuya Darbs! Di kasi kami nagwork ng guy na gusto ko maybe because at one point I seek commitment and he's afraid to.. Until the day came na he ghosted me nalang. I'm still stuck kung saan ako naiwan.. Until I watched this video and realized that there are better things ahead of me. Thank you Kuya Darbs I badly needed this!! ❤️❤️
Those who are afraid of commitment are people who have trauma and needs to heal themselves...they are dismissive avoidant attachment style...I experience it and I learned so much about that...
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Pag broken tayo, ngayon lang natn maiisip manood ng mga ganito, naiintndhan ko na. Ganyan kasi bf ko. Pabago bago, sometimes sweet, minsan namn hindi. Minsan nararamdaman ko na mahal nya ako at mahalaga ako minsan namn hindi.. Magulo sya, kaya nahhrapan tuloy ako. Mahal ko sya un ang masakit. Nakilala ko bf ko na madami na hearthaches na pinagdaanan, so ang nangyari po ngayon is sobrang tigas na nya, di sya marunong manuyo, kahit na iwanan mo sya or umalis ka. Di ka nya hahabulin kasi nga naranasan na nya lahat ng masasakit, ang unfair nga eh. Malas ko, parang ako na sukdulan nya. Sakin lahat bumabagsak lahat ng masasakit na nangyari sknya. Kahit na loyal namn ako at di ko sya sasaktan. Lagi nya sinasabi sakin na ako na sukdulan nya. Umalis man ako, masasaktan sya pero di sya mamamatay. Sakit lang.. At di nya ako hahabulin
@@widlemayelainemina3511 wala na din kmi sis. Nalamn ko kasi may kasabay pla ako kaya gnyan sy, may reserba sya, nasa riyadh. Nagng magkachat kmi nong nasa riyadh parang ngng 'fren' din kmi.may mga alam ksi sya na di ko alam at gnun din sya sakin. Sb nong ex ko nong nagkabukingan na. Wala ako pipiliin sa inyo sabi nya pero at the end sya padin pinili😒 gusto nya ayusin ung relasyon nila nong girl. Kahit snb nong girl na tapos na sila. Di dw sya titgil. Db? Sana all 😅 ang sakit sis.kagb lng yan ha..
@@miss_broken2153 ay grabe nman ex mo binalikan nya yung ex nya 😞 so its means mahal nya pa ex nya, siguro nung nagkaka labuan na sila ikw ang naging comporter nya, kaya ka di hinahabol kasi may reserba sya ibig sabihin may babalikan sya sa ex nya at ikaw ang maiiwan mag isa. Hayaan mo na sya sis, di nya deserve tulad mo magsama sila.
Your both special to other. Pariho kayo nag sasabi na mahal nyo ang isat isa. Pero pag tinanong mo kung kung gusto ng commitment he ignored the question. Malanding usapan. Malabong usapan. Maayos na usapan. Hirap isipin masakit sa loob ang situation.
It was my first time to here some of your thoughts about love and to tell you it HITS me😢😢Nagising po ako sa katotohanan.Maraming salamat po for having me realize that I am more worthy to someone at the end of the day.
This is exactly the kind of content I needed to hear today. This made me feel better. Please continue to create more videos like this. It helps people when they feel like they can’t find the right advice for what they’re going through.
Galing mo talaga Kuya Darbs... the way you speak nakaka kilabot.. gusto kong makinig kasi gusto ko ma feel yung pain at reality and at somehow napapamulat ako sa katotohanan. Galing!!!! COOL!!
Its a choice...take him or leave him, dami issues ng lalaki sila nmn hndi rin perfect. Pgnginvest k ng feelings thats the time mahirap mkawala instantly its a process. Thank you kuya Darbs listening to you helps to be positive😁👍🥰
The reason why i always watching you kuya Darb kase lahat totoo ang mga sinasabi mo your the best talaga kaya dapat lahat ng mga kadalagahan diyan makinig kayo kase totoo ito
Salamat kuya darbs, nakakarelate ako dito. Susundin ko talaga to, matagal na akong ganito. Worth it ako at dapat ayun mindset ko. Time to focus on myself na and walk away sa someone na kakausapin lang ako kapag convenient sa kanila
Bigla nagflashback ang nakaraan,..dati sobrang sakit pag naalala ko,2yrs din ako nagdusa emotionaly nung iwanan nya ako,ako lng ung nagmahal,thankful parin ako at naitawid ko buhay ko nun,pinilit ko maging functional at lagi ko kasama pamilya ko,still i wish him happiness at nahanap ko narin ang taong nagpapasaya saakin ngaun
This is my first time na makinig sayo sayong channel and its very timing for me right. Cried a lot while nakikinig sayo dahil its painful for me to leave...I cant express but my tears flow through my face every second and breath deep.
Been in a different relationship but the reason why hindi nag wowork is because may third party palagi. I don't even know what's the reason and right now I'm scared to trust again.
Thank you sa advices Kuya Darbs. I’m going through a break up right now and this really helps me a lot. Mabuhay ka Kuya and you’re doing an amazing job 😁
Thank you for this Kuya Darbs. We're almost 3 years na (live-in) but everytime nakatulala ako yan ang iniisip ko.na bakit parang hndi pa sya ready mag commit e binigay ko na lahat ng kaya kong ibigay.I always ask my self kung hndi ba ako worth it dahil sa ayaw pa nya mag commit.Those reason na sinabi mo ay ganun sya.But still i really wanna fight and wait sa time na magiging ready na din syang mag commit.
Thanks for this video/lessons, i got blocked and left hanging.. di ko na hinabol..daming tanong sa isip ko..i learned a lot watching this..now trying to move on
Now, i understand why our relationship didn't work, and lasted for only 5 months. He wanted to cool off at first but I decided to just have a break up. I am afraid of commitment and he doesnt want to commit. we are both have a perfect score in "what are signs..."
..*first time ko makita at marinig ka po..but,dna ako nkaalis sa channel na ito..i like how you explain everything..continue..sharing your thoughts po.
Ano kaba Kuya darbs.!! Sobrang bilib talaga ako saiyong mga ideas and bars , You've always hit the bulls eye when it comes sa mga dapat gawin as an individual and na apply ko talaga mga sinasabi mo and it is always based on reality. You never seize to amaze me.
I have a bf for almost 8 years.Sinabi ko sa knya last time na tinatanong ako ng mga family and friends ko kung kelan kami magkapamilya at magpakasal.At sinabi nya na he doesn’t feel good about marry and having a family.7 years ago lagi nyang sinasabi about sa future nmin.He told me that he still there for me to help.at ang sabi nya it will be all fine.
I’m not skipping adds. Thank you so much Kuya Darbs. Eto po yung kasalukuyang nararanasan ko ngayon. Dasal ako ng dasal Kasi sobrang sakit ng nararamdaman ko. Eto pala ang sagot andito sa vlog mo. Natauhan ako bagamat masakit pa din. Pero magiging train na ako At Hindi isang passenger lang. Salamat po sobra! -Nurse Jem-
Hi po. Salamat po kuya darbs. Nakakatulong po talaga ang mga realtalk mo para matutunan Kong mahalin ang sarili ko. Keep safe always po kuya darbs. Stay healthy and Godbless po
Im crying it really hits me hard. I do experience that this to my bestfriend which I already told him that I like him but he just said that we just need to go with the flow, if we end up together at the end then we are destined to be together. 😭 but he did not really said if we will end up together. 😅
Inuulit ulit ko tlaga pinapanood vlog mo kuya Darbs kc first time ko nranasan ito ngayon ang "No label Relationship" merun kc akng na meet in person actually hndi sya pinoy afam sya almost 3 months na kmi nagchachat at every off ko nag dedate din kmi at now tinanong ko sya kng ano intensyon nya sakin tapos binalik nya sakin ang tanong kung ano ba daw gusto ko mangyari sa amin sabi ko sa kanya gusto ko seryosohin nmin ang relasyon na merun kmi pro ang sagot nya hndi pa daw sya ready mg commit dhil ayaw nya dw maranasan yung masaktan sya kc 4 months now hiwalay sila nung ex nya dati niloko daw sya parehas lng nman kmi niloko ng mga ex nmin pro willing ako sumugal pero ayaw nya tlaga mg commit kaya after ko nalaman na ganun pla gusto nya iniiwasan ko na sya kc halos mahulog na loob ko sa knya at bago pa mangyari yun subukan ko nlng kalimutan sya kc dissapoint lng ako dhil nag invest ako ng time and effort pra sa knya tpos at the end ayaw nya palang mag commit kaya much better to let go than to holding him.😢
if you are dating a person whom you dont see as a partner to spend with forever in life, then you are that kind of person that doesnt really want to fall in love and dont truly knows how to love, the kind of person who have no respect about your partners feelings. being in a relationship is not a playground, it is a commitment that we all deserve!
6 months of unlabeled relationship with him he always said that he is not ready of commitment na masaya naman kame sa ganong set up. Pero yesterday we end that relationship 🥺😭
This, my friend is one of the best motivational speaker up-to-date. More power kuya darbs. Looking forward for the million subscribers to come. Tuloy-tuloy lang. So much value with all of your contents. Looking forward with your Heart Healing Session. 💪🏻💯
Big help for me rn. Thanks Kuya Darbs🥺 yung ex ko kasi gusto na magkaayos kami, pero nasira na kasi yung tiwala ko kaya para sakin ang hirap hirap ng ayusin.
I gave my whole trust to him, alam nya yung past ko kaya nung umpisa takot na takot ako mag commit. Nag take ako ng risk for him. LDR kami sa loob ng 6months. Pero in the end masisira lang pala ulit sa same reason.
im currently experiencing this right now.. 🙄 im just waiting for him yo have work and get bc.. tpos mag papakabusy na din ako🙂 aware nmn ako.hind ko lng sya maiwan at his worst
I am also in this situation😐,,and Thank you ❣️😇 I learn a lot of this ,Although its hurt💔 but now I understand my self and my self worth,I think needed to do this.
"I'm no good at handling emotional connection. I'm not yet ready to commit. I'm not the person you wanted to be right now. I'm just somewhat tired of being codependent" Kahit araw-araw niyang sinasabi na mahal niya ako? Grabe. Six months. I invested six months.
Someone who doesn't want to commit to you and you want them to commit to you and you try to do things for them to commit to you will lead to unrequited love. Angsyakit🤣🤣
Yung guy na nakadate ko recently anak pa naman ng bishop haha kala ko matino. Very effort, consistent for the first month then biglang naging hot & cold. May pa discuss pa about future kasi he’s ready to have a family na tas sasabihin nalang na he doesn’t know what he really wants. Kapagod magtiwala haha
That's very unusual that a person didn't like a commitment. There are so many reason why that person choose not to commit. Like me, I don't like commitment because m too cautious na. With two failed marriages, m having a phobia. But m open to have a commitment again when I felt m already ready.
"Be a train that moves on. A train doesn't wait for a passenger. The passenger should be the one whose nagmamadali just to ride the train. Because the train has a destination. It doesn't wait for someone. It has a specific time it stops to the station. The train never wait for the passenger, the passenger chase the train because they know, the passenger knows, that the the place where the train is going is the destination that they want to be. Be the train that stop at a specific station at a certain amount of time but do not overextend yourself into waiting for someone just 'cause you think its your priviledge to have a passenger like this person. It should be the other way around. And the only mental strategy mental gain that you have is for you tonknow where you are going."
-Real Talk Darbs, How to Handle People Who Is Afraid Of Commitment?
👌🏻🙌🏻
The best explanation/answer/comment on the topic. Exactly, no more no less.
So far, one of the best vlogger in terms of "Love and Relationship" and whoever listen and read this may you find the right one for you.
Same
@@creslimpueblas7965 hugali j
Sana nga maka hanap din😊
Psychologically speaking, people with avoidant attachment style fear commitment. They value their personal space and independence. They want relationship but too much closeness/vulnerability is uncomfortable for them. It's better to find a partner who is emotionally secure.
they don't want to commit bec they are afraid of having additional responsibility in your relationship. And ayaw nila mahawakan s leeg or marami ng bawal. And reality...di ka lang gusto na ikaw yung taong bibigyan nila ng commitment.
Huhuhu
True Lalo kapag playboy..😅baka sampu kayo .Mas okay na maging sakit ng ulo ng iba.
I experienced too takut sah commitment yung guy in short ginamit lng ako more than 1 year din nghintay din ako na mg changed yung mind nea but im thankfull nakayanan ko to end that kind of situation hirap mgmahal ng ikaw lng my feelings ,,......
How to take these questions na "22 ka na, kelan ka magkakaboyfriend?", "Nagwowork ka na, boyfriend na next.", "Tomboy ka ba kaya wala kang bf?" Sinagot ko na yan sa lahat ng makakaya ko pero bakit ang dami pa den nagtatanong? Ang laki talaga ng effect kapag family na mismo ang bumabanggit ng mga yan. I really agree na "culture" na natin ang ganito, na kailangan i priority natin ang likes/dislikes nila. Di naman sa ayaw kong magasawa, gusto ko. Di nga lang ako stable sa lahat ng aspects. Bat hindi nila magets iyon? Anyway andami kong natutunan sa mga pa words of wisdom nyo kuya. 💖
Ramdam ko yan. Kasi ako 25 na ko nung nagkaroon ng first boyfriend. So sa duration nung hindi pa ko nagkakaboyfriend lagi nilang sinasabi na "tatanda ka ng dalaga", "tomboy ka ba" mga ganun. Pero lagi kong sagot sa kanila eh God's perfect timing. Tska hindi naman paunahan yung pakikipagrelasyon.
I am worthy to be love
I am worthy to be taken care of
I am worthy to be prioritize
Thankyou Sir 😢
Iniwan nya man ako kasi nawalan ako nn work at wala na sya ma gain sken
Atleast nakita ko kaagad yung tunay na motive nya
Ang masakit lang nung sya ang broke andun ako to support him
Nung ako ang na broke
Ni anino nya di ko na nakita
"Focus on YOU! Focus on committing to the dreams that you wanna have. Focus on being the person that would attract the person who would wanna commit to you. Commit to the goal. Commit to your mission. Commit to your project instead of pouring out all those love to someone who does not deserve. Pour it inside you. You have so much love to give. And why are you giving it to someone who doesn't even want it. Maybe they just want it because maybe it's convenient at that specific time. So NO! You should be wise enough to walk away.
... UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE WORTHY."
That's my favorite part. It hits home. Hehe.
Thanks for the wisdom. 🤍
Thanks for this.. Now I understand.. Na iiyak ako habang narerealize and nakaka relate ako subrang skit nga😭😭
Kung ano ang kayang ibigay yon din lang ang ibigay mo. And dont expect morethan what they can give.
It depends. Because there were people who experienced bad relationship from very toxic people.
Thank you for this vlog Kuya Darbs! Di kasi kami nagwork ng guy na gusto ko maybe because at one point I seek commitment and he's afraid to.. Until the day came na he ghosted me nalang. I'm still stuck kung saan ako naiwan.. Until I watched this video and realized that there are better things ahead of me. Thank you Kuya Darbs I badly needed this!! ❤️❤️
Those who are afraid of commitment are people who have trauma and needs to heal themselves...they are dismissive avoidant attachment style...I experience it and I learned so much about that...
Grabeee🥺 ang daming realizations at the same time it uplifts my self worth🥲
Sa lahat nang Videos na pina panood sa youtube , sa Realtalk Darbs lang talaga ako hindi nag e skip nang ads. I want to support this Channel.
❤️ because this channel helps alot of people.👍
Pag broken tayo, ngayon lang natn maiisip manood ng mga ganito, naiintndhan ko na. Ganyan kasi bf ko. Pabago bago, sometimes sweet, minsan namn hindi. Minsan nararamdaman ko na mahal nya ako at mahalaga ako minsan namn hindi.. Magulo sya, kaya nahhrapan tuloy ako. Mahal ko sya un ang masakit. Nakilala ko bf ko na madami na hearthaches na pinagdaanan, so ang nangyari po ngayon is sobrang tigas na nya, di sya marunong manuyo, kahit na iwanan mo sya or umalis ka. Di ka nya hahabulin kasi nga naranasan na nya lahat ng masasakit, ang unfair nga eh. Malas ko, parang ako na sukdulan nya. Sakin lahat bumabagsak lahat ng masasakit na nangyari sknya. Kahit na loyal namn ako at di ko sya sasaktan. Lagi nya sinasabi sakin na ako na sukdulan nya. Umalis man ako, masasaktan sya pero di sya mamamatay. Sakit lang.. At di nya ako hahabulin
I feel you! Pero wala na kami 🥺 buti nabasa ko ito. Gantong ganto siya
@@widlemayelainemina3511 wala na din kmi sis. Nalamn ko kasi may kasabay pla ako kaya gnyan sy, may reserba sya, nasa riyadh. Nagng magkachat kmi nong nasa riyadh parang ngng 'fren' din kmi.may mga alam ksi sya na di ko alam at gnun din sya sakin. Sb nong ex ko nong nagkabukingan na. Wala ako pipiliin sa inyo sabi nya pero at the end sya padin pinili😒 gusto nya ayusin ung relasyon nila nong girl. Kahit snb nong girl na tapos na sila. Di dw sya titgil. Db? Sana all 😅 ang sakit sis.kagb lng yan ha..
@@miss_broken2153 hala totoo ito ganyan ako katigas di ako naghahabol dahil galing ako sa failed relationship. Immune na ata ako sa pain 😞
@@mysteriousscarlet8024 kaya pla sya ganun sis kasi may reserba sya😅 nalaman ko na kasi lahat
@@miss_broken2153 ay grabe nman ex mo binalikan nya yung ex nya 😞 so its means mahal nya pa ex nya, siguro nung nagkaka labuan na sila ikw ang naging comporter nya, kaya ka di hinahabol kasi may reserba sya ibig sabihin may babalikan sya sa ex nya at ikaw ang maiiwan mag isa. Hayaan mo na sya sis, di nya deserve tulad mo magsama sila.
Your both special to other. Pariho kayo nag sasabi na mahal nyo ang isat isa. Pero pag tinanong mo kung kung gusto ng commitment he ignored the question. Malanding usapan. Malabong usapan. Maayos na usapan. Hirap isipin masakit sa loob ang situation.
It was my first time to here some of your thoughts about love and to tell you it HITS me😢😢Nagising po ako sa katotohanan.Maraming salamat po for having me realize that I am more worthy to someone at the end of the day.
😓🥺🤧
This is exactly the kind of content I needed to hear today. This made me feel better. Please continue to create more videos like this. It helps people when they feel like they can’t find the right advice for what they’re going through.
Galing mo talaga Kuya Darbs... the way you speak nakaka kilabot.. gusto kong makinig kasi gusto ko ma feel yung pain at reality and at somehow napapamulat ako sa katotohanan. Galing!!!! COOL!!
Its a choice...take him or leave him, dami issues ng lalaki sila nmn hndi rin perfect. Pgnginvest k ng feelings thats the time mahirap mkawala instantly its a process. Thank you kuya Darbs listening to you helps to be positive😁👍🥰
CONSISTENCY is the 🔑 to commitment
True this is the answer how to deal with those have trust issues
Easier said than done. But thank you!
Its a lot of hard work 🥺
The reason why i always watching you kuya Darb kase lahat totoo ang mga sinasabi mo your the best talaga kaya dapat lahat ng mga kadalagahan diyan makinig kayo kase totoo ito
Addict na ako syo.. I really enjoy listening to you grabe as in dami ko natutunan
I been experience that kind of relationship..and I let them go.. that's true is hurt but, sometime we need to do it for our self.
Yes,totoo lhat yn g sinabi mo.pinagdaanan ko lhat yn at ngaun ok nko,thanks God ksi sya nagbigay ng guidancd sa akin
This video is so good , The validation that I need from walking away with a person who's afraid to commitment .
Thank you so much 🙏☺️
Exactly!
Thank you sa mga pangaral mo...More Power!
Thank you Kuya Darbs now I truly understand him, not accident to watched this video of yours. Maraming salamat po.
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Same same
Salamat kuya darbs, nakakarelate ako dito. Susundin ko talaga to, matagal na akong ganito. Worth it ako at dapat ayun mindset ko. Time to focus on myself na and walk away sa someone na kakausapin lang ako kapag convenient sa kanila
maraming salamat.narealized ko din.minsan dapat tlga may magpaalaala.👍👍
Bigla nagflashback ang nakaraan,..dati sobrang sakit pag naalala ko,2yrs din ako nagdusa emotionaly nung iwanan nya ako,ako lng ung nagmahal,thankful parin ako at naitawid ko buhay ko nun,pinilit ko maging functional at lagi ko kasama pamilya ko,still i wish him happiness at nahanap ko narin ang taong nagpapasaya saakin ngaun
Ang hirap😔
Nakakastrong naman po mga advices🥺💖
Real talk talaga.thank you for enlighting me kuya darbs.Now i fully understand him now.Nakakalungkot pero true po lahat ng cnabi nyo 😭😟
This is my first time na makinig sayo sayong channel and its very timing for me right. Cried a lot while nakikinig sayo dahil its painful for me to leave...I cant express but my tears flow through my face every second and breath deep.
Been in a different relationship but the reason why hindi nag wowork is because may third party palagi. I don't even know what's the reason and right now I'm scared to trust again.
Thank you sa advices Kuya Darbs. I’m going through a break up right now and this really helps me a lot. Mabuhay ka Kuya and you’re doing an amazing job 😁
Sometimes waiting works but not to the point where the weight of pain is just too much. Know your battles to fight then let things go.
Thank you for this Kuya Darbs. We're almost 3 years na (live-in) but everytime nakatulala ako yan ang iniisip ko.na bakit parang hndi pa sya ready mag commit e binigay ko na lahat ng kaya kong ibigay.I always ask my self kung hndi ba ako worth it dahil sa ayaw pa nya mag commit.Those reason na sinabi mo ay ganun sya.But still i really wanna fight and wait sa time na magiging ready na din syang mag commit.
Thank u for this kuya Darbs. Mas naintindihan ko self ko through this 😭💕
Omg! I'm assessing myself into the what is the signs people are afraid to commit.
Thanks for this video/lessons, i got blocked and left hanging.. di ko na hinabol..daming tanong sa isip ko..i learned a lot watching this..now trying to move on
Wow such a great advices.. I've learned alot..May sense of humor ang topic.. Keep it up and God bless
Sobra ang galing mo talaga idol grabe your such an inspiration to me
Ang ganda ng message... Pahug po... 🤗 Now I decided to be a train and not a passenger. 🚉🤗💙 I love me 💙 Thank u for this... Love2
Now, i understand why our relationship didn't work, and lasted for only 5 months. He wanted to cool off at first but I decided to just have a break up.
I am afraid of commitment and he doesnt want to commit. we are both have a perfect score in "what are signs..."
Thank you for this video. This is really mind opening.
True, gonna waste of time and feelings
Eto yung vloger na tnitignan nag both sides. Lupeeettt.
Sana madami ka pa kuya darbs makuha subscribers kase galing mo magadvice it really makes sense. :)
..*first time ko makita at marinig ka po..but,dna ako nkaalis sa channel na ito..i like how you explain everything..continue..sharing your thoughts po.
Thank u, Hopefully magising na ako sa katotohanan. Ang hirap maging marupok
just bumped into this channel and.... nag marathon na ako! HAHAHA. quality content. thumbs up! :)
Im on the situation right now. What is the best thing to do? Thank u!
AMEN to this. I cannot agree more.
Ano kaba Kuya darbs.!! Sobrang bilib talaga ako saiyong mga ideas and bars , You've always hit the bulls eye when it comes sa mga dapat gawin as an individual and na apply ko talaga mga sinasabi mo and it is always based on reality. You never seize to amaze me.
This is very an interesting topic. I love it.
Speechless po ako kuya darbs... thank you so much po...
Whyyyy areee these sooo accuraaateee???
I have a bf for almost 8 years.Sinabi ko sa knya last time na tinatanong ako ng mga family and friends ko kung kelan kami magkapamilya at magpakasal.At sinabi nya na he doesn’t feel good about marry and having a family.7 years ago lagi nyang sinasabi about sa future nmin.He told me that he still there for me to help.at ang sabi nya it will be all fine.
Thank you kuya darbs ! Well said . ❤️
I’m not skipping adds. Thank you so much Kuya Darbs. Eto po yung kasalukuyang nararanasan ko ngayon. Dasal ako ng dasal
Kasi sobrang sakit ng nararamdaman ko. Eto pala ang sagot andito sa vlog mo. Natauhan ako bagamat masakit pa din. Pero magiging train na ako At Hindi isang passenger lang. Salamat po sobra! -Nurse Jem-
More topic po😊 so much interesting
Hi po. Salamat po kuya darbs. Nakakatulong po talaga ang mga realtalk mo para matutunan Kong mahalin ang sarili ko. Keep safe always po kuya darbs. Stay healthy and Godbless po
Christine Batulan welcome po!
Omg... too late na malaman ko to😭😭 victim nko😭 nakakiyak naman to. Nanahimik ako eh... bkt kse ako🤧😭
Im crying it really hits me hard. I do experience that this to my bestfriend which I already told him that I like him but he just said that we just need to go with the flow, if we end up together at the end then we are destined to be together. 😭 but he did not really said if we will end up together. 😅
Thats what he told me too last night😔
Same scenario 😑
It's sad but I think im still happy if we still friends.
Thank you so much po. Full of wisdom. God bless Sir! 🙏
Wow! Very well said po Kuya Darbs. I can't agree more to your words. It's really full of substance and meaning. God bless! 💯🙌👏👌
Thank you so much. I really appreciate your topic. It helps me a lot and now i understand. Filipino from Thailand
Inuulit ulit ko tlaga pinapanood vlog mo kuya Darbs kc first time ko nranasan ito ngayon ang "No label Relationship" merun kc akng na meet in person actually hndi sya pinoy afam sya almost 3 months na kmi nagchachat at every off ko nag dedate din kmi at now tinanong ko sya kng ano intensyon nya sakin tapos binalik nya sakin ang tanong kung ano ba daw gusto ko mangyari sa amin sabi ko sa kanya gusto ko seryosohin nmin ang relasyon na merun kmi pro ang sagot nya hndi pa daw sya ready mg commit dhil ayaw nya dw maranasan yung masaktan sya kc 4 months now hiwalay sila nung ex nya dati niloko daw sya parehas lng nman kmi niloko ng mga ex nmin pro willing ako sumugal pero ayaw nya tlaga mg commit kaya after ko nalaman na ganun pla gusto nya iniiwasan ko na sya kc halos mahulog na loob ko sa knya at bago pa mangyari yun subukan ko nlng kalimutan sya kc dissapoint lng ako dhil nag invest ako ng time and effort pra sa knya tpos at the end ayaw nya palang mag commit kaya much better to let go than to holding him.😢
Thanks for sharing this Sir.
if you are dating a person whom you dont see as a partner to spend with forever in life, then you are that kind of person that doesnt really want to fall in love and dont truly knows how to love, the kind of person who have no respect about your partners feelings. being in a relationship is not a playground, it is a commitment that we all deserve!
I agree.. i’ve been inlove with someone who still not ready to commit.. 😭😭
dinala ako dito nang stage of pain, trying to moving on dahil sa ganitong klasing relasyon..haha
This is such a painful truth. 💔😔🥺
Grave ka tlaga lods tuwing na panood ko mga vlogs mo nagiging comportable ako salamat lods ha iloveyou
I’ve learned so much from your vlog. Keep it up Kuya Darbs. Newbie here! More vlogs! Very inspiring & interesting. You’ helped me a lot.
So helpful galing mo sobra❤
Tama talaga. Yun yung "The grass is greener on the other side syndrome"..theres always someone better out there
One of my favorites darbs💕
6 months of unlabeled relationship with him he always said that he is not ready of commitment na masaya naman kame sa ganong set up. Pero yesterday we end that relationship 🥺😭
How to open up this to the other person that you also is afraid of commitment? Kelan mo masasabing tama na ung time na pinag antay mo?
This, my friend is one of the best motivational speaker up-to-date. More power kuya darbs. Looking forward for the million subscribers to come. Tuloy-tuloy lang. So much value with all of your contents. Looking forward with your Heart Healing Session. 💪🏻💯
Must watch! Thank you sir Darbz!
You inspired me too much.... I like the way you talk... You're very smart. Keep it up and God bless you always... I learned a lot from you❤️💯
Thank you kuya darbz..!Another inspiring words for me..pra skin po eto..Godbless always!
Big help for me rn. Thanks Kuya Darbs🥺 yung ex ko kasi gusto na magkaayos kami, pero nasira na kasi yung tiwala ko kaya para sakin ang hirap hirap ng ayusin.
I gave my whole trust to him, alam nya yung past ko kaya nung umpisa takot na takot ako mag commit. Nag take ako ng risk for him. LDR kami sa loob ng 6months. Pero in the end masisira lang pala ulit sa same reason.
Yes very true. Thank you. From Canada 🇨🇦
im currently experiencing this right now.. 🙄 im just waiting for him yo have work and get bc.. tpos mag papakabusy na din ako🙂 aware nmn ako.hind ko lng sya maiwan at his worst
Thanks sir dub!❤️
I am also in this situation😐,,and Thank you ❣️😇 I learn a lot of this ,Although its hurt💔 but now I understand my self and my self worth,I think needed to do this.
"I'm no good at handling emotional connection. I'm not yet ready to commit. I'm not the person you wanted to be right now. I'm just somewhat tired of being codependent"
Kahit araw-araw niyang sinasabi na mahal niya ako? Grabe. Six months. I invested six months.
Omg. Naeexperience ko to for 4 months already now.. Ano na po nangyari?
Someone who doesn't want to commit to you and you want them to commit to you and you try to do things for them to commit to you will lead to unrequited love. Angsyakit🤣🤣
Now I know 🙃🙃🙃 merry Christmas and happy new year to me ,😂
Real talk ✅️ 💯
Simple and mature.. tama nmn
So hey, here's the reason why I'm not yet ready to commit. Hope you all understand. ❤️
Thank you Kuya Darbs! :) This helps me a lot.
Yung guy na nakadate ko recently anak pa naman ng bishop haha kala ko matino. Very effort, consistent for the first month then biglang naging hot & cold. May pa discuss pa about future kasi he’s ready to have a family na tas sasabihin nalang na he doesn’t know what he really wants. Kapagod magtiwala haha
That's very unusual that a person didn't like a commitment. There are so many reason why that person choose not to commit. Like me, I don't like commitment because m too cautious na. With two failed marriages, m having a phobia. But m open to have a commitment again when I felt m already ready.