Regardless of cultural differences and especially because of the language, as the link between the family and the husband, the wife's role should have been to mediate and help her husband and grandmother communicate.
I absolutely agree .. thats part of the job description in this dynamic - even if he was fully fluent - she is the daughter ... she cant just abdicate that and force her mom to "put him straight" She also needs to drive home to the husband the finer points of the mother-in-law role and how he needs to work with that. There should be no need for bad blood, they are both (SIL and MIL) loving and caring people.
I don't think your mother-in-law is mad at you, brother...I think your mother-in-law feels sorry for you because you're the man of the house and you're doing everything which is in their culture that should be the work of the wife...I think she's just trying to help you... I think there is a culture differences and a language barrier in this situation
Why is he so upset about her cleaning, she is just helping. His culture is different than Korean,s culture. It's his house he should do it is so stupid. I live in North America and I would do the same thing. Now he will have the families fighting
Your elders are very important. He should not be childish. The daughter should also explain things but I wonder if her family really accepted him into the family?
I understanda both sides. I am sure they all love each other it just takes time and patience till Gareth learnes to speak more Korean. Both sides needs to understand each other its not easy but appreciating and understanding one another is the key to getting along well.
What a beautiful family. We are all human beings, colorful, quirky, and wanting the basic same things in life - to feel safe from harm, have enough to eat, protect our loved ones, etc. I wish this family and everyone much health and happiness ❤
The same thing happened to me when I moved to USA from Mexico. I understand that I was the outsider and I have to adapt to the new rules and culture, they don’t have to change. And finally I have peace with my new family and my surroundings.
I think that his wife should respectfully explain to her mother that she appreciates her help but it is their home and she shouldn’t just barge in and clean whenever she feels like it. She basically ruined the romantic dinner that they had planned. I agree that he should speak to her in a respectful manner but it’s all about respect on both sides. She should be more understanding and respect their privacy.
@@angelinamarie3309 he sacrificed his life to move to Korea, should they not also accept his culture as well? You can't ONLY live by one culture when it's a 2 culture househard.
@@angelinamarie3309when the wife decided to get marry with a British man then it makes sense that she has to respect his culture as well! It’s not only one way Korean people like gareth family in law are just rude Korean as well. And btw I’m living in korea with my husband for almost 8 years.
There is no romance in this marriage because there’s too much meddling from the girl’s family. Matthew 19 clearly points to the man leaving his father and mother to be with his wife as one. This also applies to the woman who needs to do the same and live a life with her husband. I don’t think she is able to do that because she has everything done for her by her family.
Great content. I can relate to the situation since I bridge these differences frequently. Props to the hubby for dealing with the in-laws…Not easy to do. He must love her dearly. The truth of the matter there are no wrong or right ways. Just different. Very entertaining.
I wish I had a mother like her. I gave birth to four children and my mother never ever came to help me once. Never cooked me one meal . It was very hard. ❤❤❤❤ cherish her.
0:13: 🛒 A man visits a traditional market in Seoul and explores the surroundings. 15:09: 🍽 The couple faces a cultural and generational gap while trying to communicate and understand each other's perspectives during a meal. 29:18: 👫 A couple from different cultures navigate the challenges of living with their Korean family and adjusting to Korean customs. 44:18: 🤔 A special event is taking place, and someone is trying to convince others to go to church, but they are hesitant. Recap by Tammy AI
I love it. Clash of the cultures. The struggle is real. The Western husband is correct because his privacy is being invaded and the mother's cleaning is embarrassing, forcing him to clean out of guilt even if he had prior engagements. The MIL is correct because she's trying to help by contributing and wants her daughter to live in a clean home. The trouble begins with this simple culture stalemate, Koreans value social hierarchies and Westerners value "principles/rights". Legally, it's his home and he has the right to his privacy but "socially" he is bound by family values. Both parties need to find a compromise. Unfortunately, because he was unable to articulate himself, he lied to the MIL. He copped out by saying he was agitated because he doesn't want to see her at such an age cleaning the house but it was more about the invasion of privacy. Thats why his first words upon seeing her was "Why is she in our room?"
He lives in their country, in their house, he forfeits any rights he has and is completely at the mercy of his hosts. If he doesn't like it he can move out of the country or pay for his own place.
@Turc1h That's absolute bullshit! He is being taken advantage of left right and centre. There's no way a Korean man would be seen to do all the cooking and household chores. He's an absolute gem in my eyes and needs to be respected by all the family.
@Turc1h : What do you mean that if he doesn't like it he should move out or back to his country. The man is doing everything for his wife and cooking for the family. The mother-in-law needs to respect them. They couldn't even enjoy a meal together because the mother-in-law decided to show with more food than they could eat. Like, really?
I don’t understand him, and l will not watch another insult to the mother. What is he doing in Korea as a profession. When he lives in their home, and does nothing, does not attend Hangul class to speak properly with them, he is hopeless, and why can’t he cook and do household cores, when he does not work. Anyway, this is stupid, l will not watch this again.
This is the perfect example of cultural differences. Asian culture respecting elders is a norm no matter what. The husband should just take it easy and understanding the whole situation and not overreact .
You probably don’t understand, he’s probably very lonely bc he’s on his own trying to fit it in a different culture. As a Korean wife myself I can tell you that it’s usually a lonely ride. If it’s hard for me, it’s got to be even worse for him.
Agreed, I can't believe how rude he is towards his Mother in law. The house was dirty and did need to be cleaned! I'm Caribbean, and Mothers always help when there is a baby on the way. It's not uncommon for Mum to stay with her daughter for a few weeks after the birth and help the new parents out.
I think so but I also think there should be boundaries. I think he is mad that the mother in law cleaned I think he felt like she should've asked. How would you feel if I came into your house unannounced?
Why live under your in-laws if you want boundaries? Does her parents own the building? His wife's family looks close to knit. Her sister lives downstairs. She walks out to work with her older brother.
@@Lilly-ud6qsl hundred 💯% agree. You give me release from these many for me hurting comments here. I have been for 10 years for extended visits in South Korea, in Seoul, and all over the peninsula. The Elderly, especially the parents are extremely respected. When they eat they get the first serve, and they oversee the dinner, or lunches. I have been in so many families and seen their custom, and it might be a bit extreme, that children always have to obey, not to answer back to their Elders, but in our Western society it is also extremely disturbing, how our children speak, yell, abuse us elderly verbally, when ever they are angry, not pleased. It can be their work, or disagreement with their friends, lovers, relatives, they always let their anger out on their mothers, and or fathers, highly abusive language, and behaviour. Both extremes are not good. But if you live with your in-laws and don’t pay rent, don’t work, don’t contribute to the family’s income, you are wrong.
I understand both sides, but the wife is correct in telling her husband that it's NOT OK TO SPEAK TO YOUR ELDERS IN THAT WAY ,no matter the culture you should always show respect and be respectful ...I think as long as they keep the lines of communication open then they should be able to have an understanding
Am I missing something here??? He spoke his mind but in my opinion was not offensive at all. I wouldn't like it if I came home to find my in laws in my bedroom either. That's NOT a cultural thing it's plain damn rude to go into anyone else's bedroom especially when they're not home.
The mil is so kind to sweep up all the dog’s hair . His tone n manner was not respectful. Wife was right to remind him to be respectful to elders. In Asian homes especially if they are a close knit family it’s a norm to be visiting each other often. If he is serious about his privacy the couple should live away… with the baby on the way the mil would be of great help to her daughter. You cannot have yr cake and also eat it.
I did enjoy watching this, but wow .....he works full time, he cooks all the meals and cleans the house plus helps out with her aging family members. What a top man he is 👍👍👍 I can't believe that his wife is so damn lazy ! She is taking full advantage of him. She wouldn't get a Korean husband to do half what he does. I mean, she's only pregnant.....that doesn't mean she must be waited on hand and foot....she's not ill or anything... Well done to his parents who have raised a very capable and caring son. After all he's done, I think he deserves a new pair of glasses whatever the cost. How disrespectful for her to run to her family to gossip about her husband. Especially when she knows that he has no family in Korea. I feel bad for him, it seems that all her family are ganging up on him, poor guy can't do anything right. I hope things get better for them all. He tries so hard to please everyone. Maybe he ought to put his foot down occasionally, that's my advice for what it's worth.
I don’t feel bad for him. He wanted to marry a Korean girl so he has to deal with Korean family culture. Maybe next time don’t marry a person from a different culture if you cant handle it lol. 🤦♂️
@PurpleDoritos666 well that's not the case....if anybody gets married they have to deal with their in laws, it's not just a Korean culture thing. Plus, he is managing it very well and I wish them all the best.
Yes very true. In India if a woman goes this lazy she will end up in streets soon . East Asian women take advantage of men it seems . I mean with all those appliances can’t this woman do a bit of housework. The man seems trapped. But he decided his own fate. Now he has to deal with it. It’s obvious the whole family is making him work and also complaining. Why can’t this man have a social circle of his own ?This woman looks very mean person by face .She is making all others work for her
I'm in the guy's side & I'm Asian. Regardless of whose house is it & intention, it's the couple's bedroom. Boundaries! & the guy isn't even rude, he's telling it nicely. The daughter seems to be accustomed that her mom is doing everything for her before that she forgot she's already married. It's like when you're 18 & an adult, you should be responsible for yourself....Same as for when you're married, you two should be responsible without others meddling in your house & in your relationship. It's not that he doesn't appreciate it, but the mother-in-law is invading their privacy & his wife doesn't see it that way because in her mindset, it's her mother & her family. When you're starting a new family w/ your husband or wife, that now is your family/priority & your old family is the extended one. But that's not the culture in Korea, it's as if you married the whole family. People gotta understand that only 2 peoples signatures matter in a marriage contract & the whole family didn't sign it. 😅😂
You have zero sense of family, and l hope, you never experience a marriage or partnership break down, and need your parents, sisters, brothers, or no-one on your side. You have no idea, how many people these days need their parents, and are living with their parents, because of relationship break downs, or they do not have any. I pity you. Your comment,the way you think is inappropriate.
Wife been to and live in England before does she know the culture of before Marriage? Does she know western family life styles they need privacy, come on. Please don’t angry with each about this, talk thing out and respect each other as husband and wife. You two are married to each other, the family’s should respect them too.
I think this family situation is difficult for both, being with family members is good, but living together for a long time increases the problems. I hope they are doing well now
I think Mi-gyung also should try to explain to her family what Gallus is trying to pointing it out,,, The Mil inside the room,,,? Even me I don't like it too. Even though she's cleaning, she's their home, she's the mom, she's old enough,,, then respect someone's privacy, every bedroom is someone's sunctuary,,..
Poor Gallus. His wife is a nagger. Him getting upset about the mother-in-law cleaning their place wasn't a big deal, but his wife made it into something bigger, complaining about not raising your voice to elders, etc. Heck, she never even cooks. He works, goes to the market, then comes come and cooks for her whole family. She's really unappreciative. And I saw him washing the dishes, not her brothers. What did the sister -in-law do all day? She should be the one cooking since he works.
How do you know how often he does cook, and this was not staged for the video❓when it was not staged l am sure they rotate in cooking dinner. He will not cook spaghetti every day for them. He can’t cook Korean food. This is just bs to show off what.. .
As a mother u don't do that , u can't go in your kids house and start cleaning or cooking. U should offer to help u can't just go and start working that s RUDE and SHOW Off.
Great video, so difficult when 2 cultures met. Nice that they get along with each other. I dont know if I could being a Hungarian but Iam sure I would try my best.
That's why it's better to live apart frombthe rest of the family. To have your own home and live your daily life away from the rest of the family (in laws). The parents in law can always visit anytime, sleepovers on the weekend or even live with the couple.. But not living with other married siblings on the same house or building. That's just more complicated.
They might want different things. Compromise suggest incompatibility. People dont want to admit that, so instead people shame each other, and even themselves, for having the needs and desires that they have.
He absolutely should use zennioptical. NO ONE spends that much on glasses any more - and I wear mine every moment im awake so i know about how important it is to have glasses you like.
Every interracial couple and their respective families should watch this to learn about the many conflicts and misunderstandings that come along with marriages between two different cultures. It's not easy at all! And there needs to be a strong enough bond between the two people to endure this. Everyone means well, but there are factual differences that lead to possibly misery if not dissected early on. Mi-gyung does a great job of stepping back whenever Gallus needs to work out differences with her family members. She cannot be the babysitter or medium in all their relationships. Gallus needs to build those relationships and boundaries himself. Especially, with a baby on the way, it's even more important that he builds those separate relationships without the crutch of his wife.
I’m glad the wife made the mother and husband talk immediately after that. Communication is key! ❤ Wait till the baby is born. MIL will meddle more. 😂 Ahh… the dog hair issue. It’s unfortunate since most Koreans in the past were only used to having pets outdoors. Nowadays I can see that the younger generation have transitioned well to accepting pets living inside the house and having pet hair all over. Keep fighting Gallus! 💪🏻
Gallus, not forgetting to be honest with yourself in the mist of over pleasing others. Elastic band will break when it's over stretched. Others may just continuously taking thinking it's totally ok with you. Learn to say no with love.
The cultural differences and living with the wife's family is a big deal for the husband. I suggest they find their own apartment, a close one...So that they can be visiting often. It will help him deal with the personal space and
That's pretty hard when you are residing nearby each other's families. They tend to force you to live their way and cross some boundaries. This could be a factor in failed marriages.
How do they got together they don’t even unterstand each other.. that’s kinda a problem I got him totally but the woman should communicate better to the family.
@@LPL1221 Unlike you, I have great relationship with my family and will def not end up dying alone in a nursing home 😂😂😂😂😂😂 and you tell me to worry about myself, but you dont follow your own advice. A hypocrite, no wonder you dont get along with your family 🤡
On a Korean website, there is a meme that says foreigners who marry Korean women committed great sins in their past lives lol. You might have thought it was similar to the country next to Japan, but that's not the case at all.
The thing is you married a Korean women so you have to accept certain tradition and customs. Korean mom likes to spoil their kids they can’t change their way just accept it that will help with your anger 😂. Every culture’s expression of love is different so her mom is expressing her love thru helping with house chores:)
@@Joe-cr5nrBut there is a reason, why they live together. Many ordinary Koreans have not enough money to even rent an apartment, or a little flat. I have seen many families struggle during the 10 years l visited regularly Seoul, and the countryside. I always loved, how much the grown up children respected their parents and elderly in general, not like in our society, where you can abuse in all sorts of manners your parents. Here parents can get persecuted for abusing their children by their children but parents can be verbally, sometimes physically abused, no one cares.
It is very rude for family members to enter a household without permission to owner. The mother in law was inside the master bedroom Privacy and respect is very much needed wherever you are.
gareth feels guilty his mom in law is old and tries to do so much but its her way of showing love but mom in law is sad and feels guilty that her daugther is doing nothing and not even helping the guy and gareth doesnt want his wife she woundt anyway but this is how it is
This British guy should look for new home otherwise divorced is in card in a year or so. Once new baby arrives things would be more chaotic for sure, and the little privacy he has now it would be also gone. Harmony gonna be always downstairs that’s for sure and do more things she will do than what she is doing now.
The wife is just used to the mom doing things for her. The wife should learn to respect her husband. Tell your mom it's not that he doesn't appreciate it, but he's an adult and can do it himself. He wants her to relax, not clean after an adult, like that lazy daughter. Pregnant or not, she shouldn't let her mom clean after her grown self.
C'mon Gallus, just be patient with your mom in law, don't take her Cleaning a bad reflection on you. She is showing her love for you & your wife in a way she believes love is shown.
Yes, I enjoyed watching this movie but the language barriers makes me a little stressed. I know how it feels when we can't express ourselves the way we really want to be understood even with hand gestures or facial expressions are not enough. Hey! did you notice how they park their cars especially the one on that steep hill facing downwards on a slanted hill. Wow! The front wheels are straight when they should be turned inwards. If & when you park your car on a hill, its always safer to turn the wheels outward to the left uphill & turn your wheel tires inward facing downhill. It's in the Driver's Manual too. Its safe so that the car will not roll down the hill or roll backwards if parked uphill. I hope this young Couple will have a nice good marriage & bond with their foreign families. It's very important because nowadays, there's so many family breakdown because families can't get along so they get estranged. May good fortune come to you both, with many Blessings & a happy family, Gallus & Mi-gyung. ☺🙏
Sorry, but I don’t think this marriage is going to work out. Imagine when she has her baby! Lack of sleep, exhausting days, mood swings and on top of that, the mom barging in the house as she pleases. Looks like a train reck to me. I understand the different cultures but her family also needs to respect his culture. Sorry but it’s exhausting to us as viewers watching everything he has to go through. Can’t her family appreciate all the effort he puts in on a daily basis??? Sorry but I don’t want to be part of viewing this channel. It’s too exhausting. Definitely, last post.
The couple need to learn to shut their door and lock it. The romantic dinner together said it all. People who have just married and are still young need to have time alone. The mother barges in during dinner, then after they've been for a nice walk together. She's CONSTANTLY coming into their lives.
I love the mother-in-law. I would thank her profusely and start helping her with great respect. She's 70 and this makes her happy n it's keeping her healthy. I understand a lot about Korean culture, so this would definitely be my cup of tea as far as living like this. Just hang a scarf on the door for private time and let her know that it means plz don't enter. (Making more grandchildren 😅) I'd be the best daughter in law 😂
She did not enter,when they were home, she cleaned the bedroom from dirt, when they came. Anyway, the house must be clean with so many people. And if the two making so much money both working, than they should have their own apartment, than they can experience, how it is on their own.
Awesome family man is comfortable and integrate well staying with wife's family members. Grandad has dementia. My father 76 have dementia too. At least they are being spared from being asked non stop. Having dementia, you got to accept their time is near, you can estimate between 5 to 8 years or less than 5 years. Have a memorial itinerary list to do and cost expenses need to work out so you can calmly handle the situation efficiently when the times arrive. Husband filial thinks grandma should spend retirement quality time with friends and be living happy for herself. Awesome. If you too full with the rice, reserve it to make porridge in the morning (put in steamer with water in the stainless bowl) steam 1.5 hours and left over dinner can be heated up eat in the morning as breakfastl No stress. HaHaHa culture shock. Don't we now have new language mobile apps for speaking English translate Korean. This man's eftort is so cute and funny. My uncle, mom's elder sister husband from England too. He also gave up his country for his wife to live in Malaysia till old age. Very old now. He has no problem living in Malaysia. Very funny man, he can joke Cantonese few words. But in Malaysia, there is no language barrier. Almost everyone here speaks English. My advise, to prevent further stroke, buy a oxim hand massager, teach elderly to tumble at clog places and tense muscle relief. The entire head tumble till muscle relief, back head, shoulders, back, entire face, back ear, 2 sides temple (eyes side). Stroke recovery will be fast and prevent further strokes. Do it everyday since elderly have many Idle time. Eat effective quality HBP pills. I do these massage and I never have stroke even at 240 high without pills. An example, don't follow me skpping pills.
I don't understand Mi gyung, why she has to discussed with her family for her husband eyeglasses. She should have married Korean hubby instead if western guy. Their family also get involve with everything, which is so annoying. This is the last time I watched their vlog.I feel sorry for the British guy
He (Gallus), he's a very good and patient man and husband to and for everyone in his wife's household. But of course there's a lot of challenges or barriers to be fixed on the contrary..👍
Why does Gallus have to cook for the entire extended family? I can understand including the senior mom and dad but having to feed the other siblings as well is beyond Asian hospitality. That just too much mooching and taking advantage of Gallus. Those siblings are adults and should be able to prepare their own food or prepare food for the entire extended family too. Imagine having to do that everyday - come home from work, do grocery shopping and cook/ labor for 5 other people. At the very least, the stay-at-home extended relatives should be doing the dinner cooking instead of relying on someone, who’s already working, to prepare dinner for all of them.
For me it is normal i am filipino also my mother ask me if she can help me to clean our house as a daughter i cant say no cause i saw her face she really wanted to help me
I dislike living with in-laws it’s starting ruining your relationship with your partner . I respect people living with their in-laws . But i think you should focus your own family with your own house . It’s exhausting this kind of life you don’t have privacy and you have many thinking can’t rest 😢
the English son in law needs to know that mothers are like that. mothers would do anything for their children. if she is doing dishes, let her. You didn't ask her to do it.
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Yes, very much so. I love learning about Korean culture and Japanese culture. Thank you for posting!
❤What a nice mother in law.
Privacy is important. But he must be responsible for his pet and a baby needs a clean floor to crawl on😅
Regardless of cultural differences and especially because of the language, as the link between the family and the husband, the wife's role should have been to mediate and help her husband and grandmother communicate.
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I absolutely agree .. thats part of the job description in this dynamic - even if he was fully fluent - she is the daughter ... she cant just abdicate that and force her mom to "put him straight" She also needs to drive home to the husband the finer points of the mother-in-law role and how he needs to work with that. There should be no need for bad blood, they are both (SIL and MIL) loving and caring people.
I agree totally
I don't think your mother-in-law is mad at you, brother...I think your mother-in-law feels sorry for you because you're the man of the house and you're doing everything which is in their culture that should be the work of the wife...I think she's just trying to help you... I think there is a culture differences and a language barrier in this situation
Why is he so upset about her cleaning, she is just helping. His culture is different than Korean,s culture. It's his house he should do it is so stupid. I live in North America and I would do the same thing. Now he will have the families fighting
His mother inlaw is so kind and thoughtful.I wish i have mother inlaw lile her.Send u hug omoni♥
Your elders are very important. He should not be childish. The daughter should also explain things but I wonder if her family really accepted him into the family?
I understanda both sides. I am sure they all love each other it just takes time and patience till Gareth learnes to speak more Korean. Both sides needs to understand each other its not easy but appreciating and understanding one another is the key to getting along well.
parents are the best , treasure them as they go fast. build nice memories.
What a beautiful family. We are all human beings, colorful, quirky, and wanting the basic same things in life - to feel safe from harm, have enough to eat, protect our loved ones, etc. I wish this family and everyone much health and happiness ❤
The same thing happened to me when I moved to USA from Mexico. I understand that I was the outsider and I have to adapt to the new rules and culture, they don’t have to change. And finally I have peace with my new family and my surroundings.
I can see they are a beautiful couple! And for a-man to love not just his wife but her family and help to care for them is unique and beautiful!❤❤❤
yes..an euro fool man..non other,,try this with arab,afro or asia
such lazy parasitic women,,need marry an asia,arab or afro man
I think that his wife should respectfully explain to her mother that she appreciates her help but it is their home and she shouldn’t just barge in and clean whenever she feels like it. She basically ruined the romantic dinner that they had planned. I agree that he should speak to her in a respectful manner but it’s all about respect on both sides. She should be more understanding and respect their privacy.
@@angelinamarie3309 I agree with what you’re saying. The calendar is a really good idea.👍🏽
@@angelinamarie3309 he sacrificed his life to move to Korea, should they not also accept his culture as well? You can't ONLY live by one culture when it's a 2 culture househard.
@@angelinamarie3309when the wife decided to get marry with a British man then it makes sense that she has to respect his culture as well! It’s not only one way Korean people like gareth family in law are just rude Korean as well. And btw I’m living in korea with my husband for almost 8 years.
There is no romance in this marriage because there’s too much meddling from the girl’s family. Matthew 19 clearly points to the man leaving his father and mother to be with his wife as one. This also applies to the woman who needs to do the same and live a life with her husband. I don’t think she is able to do that because she has everything done for her by her family.
Great content. I can relate to the situation since I bridge these differences frequently. Props to the hubby for dealing with the in-laws…Not easy to do. He must love her dearly. The truth of the matter there are no wrong or right ways. Just different. Very entertaining.
I wish I had a mother like her. I gave birth to four children and my mother never ever came to help me once. Never cooked me one meal . It was very hard. ❤❤❤❤ cherish her.
0:13: 🛒 A man visits a traditional market in Seoul and explores the surroundings.
15:09: 🍽 The couple faces a cultural and generational gap while trying to communicate and understand each other's perspectives during a meal.
29:18: 👫 A couple from different cultures navigate the challenges of living with their Korean family and adjusting to Korean customs.
44:18: 🤔 A special event is taking place, and someone is trying to convince others to go to church, but they are hesitant.
Recap by Tammy AI
I love it. Clash of the cultures. The struggle is real. The Western husband is correct because his privacy is being invaded and the mother's cleaning is embarrassing, forcing him to clean out of guilt even if he had prior engagements. The MIL is correct because she's trying to help by contributing and wants her daughter to live in a clean home.
The trouble begins with this simple culture stalemate, Koreans value social hierarchies and Westerners value "principles/rights". Legally, it's his home and he has the right to his privacy but "socially" he is bound by family values. Both parties need to find a compromise.
Unfortunately, because he was unable to articulate himself, he lied to the MIL. He copped out by saying he was agitated because he doesn't want to see her at such an age cleaning the house but it was more about the invasion of privacy. Thats why his first words upon seeing her was "Why is she in our room?"
He lives in their country, in their house, he forfeits any rights he has and is completely at the mercy of his hosts. If he doesn't like it he can move out of the country or pay for his own place.
@@Cxs1a3 With that logic, there's a lot of foreigners that need to get out of my country.
I love the mom she's very sweet and loving lady.
@Turc1h
That's absolute bullshit!
He is being taken advantage of left right and centre.
There's no way a Korean man would be seen to do all the cooking and household chores.
He's an absolute gem in my eyes and needs to be respected by all the family.
@Turc1h : What do you mean that if he doesn't like it he should move out or back to his country. The man is doing everything for his wife and cooking for the family. The mother-in-law needs to respect them. They couldn't even enjoy a meal together because the mother-in-law decided to show with more food than they could eat. Like, really?
They should make reality tv with this family 😂 i totally understand him but I love the mother 😂
I don’t understand him, and l will not watch another insult to the mother. What is he doing in Korea as a profession. When he lives in their home, and does nothing, does not attend Hangul class to speak properly with them, he is hopeless, and why can’t he cook and do household cores, when he does not work. Anyway, this is stupid, l will not watch this again.
Woooooah so nice to see more from this family ^^ I wonder how they are doing now :0
This is the perfect example of cultural differences. Asian culture respecting elders is a norm no matter what. The husband should just take it easy and understanding the whole situation and not overreact .
You probably don’t understand, he’s probably very lonely bc he’s on his own trying to fit it in a different culture. As a Korean wife myself I can tell you that it’s usually a lonely ride. If it’s hard for me, it’s got to be even worse for him.
Agreed, I can't believe how rude he is towards his Mother in law. The house was dirty and did need to be cleaned! I'm Caribbean, and Mothers always help when there is a baby on the way. It's not uncommon for Mum to stay with her daughter for a few weeks after the birth and help the new parents out.
I think so but I also think there should be boundaries. I think he is mad that the mother in law cleaned I think he felt like she should've asked. How would you feel if I came into your house unannounced?
Why live under your in-laws if you want boundaries? Does her parents own the building? His wife's family looks close to knit. Her sister lives downstairs. She walks out to work with her older brother.
@@Lilly-ud6qsl hundred 💯% agree. You give me release from these many for me hurting comments here. I have been for 10 years for extended visits in South Korea, in Seoul, and all over the peninsula. The Elderly, especially the parents are extremely respected. When they eat they get the first serve, and they oversee the dinner, or lunches. I have been in so many families and seen their custom, and it might be a bit extreme, that children always have to obey, not to answer back to their Elders, but in our Western society it is also extremely disturbing, how our children speak, yell, abuse us elderly verbally, when ever they are angry, not pleased. It can be their work, or disagreement with their friends, lovers, relatives, they always let their anger out on their mothers, and or fathers, highly abusive language, and behaviour. Both extremes are not good. But if you live with your in-laws and don’t pay rent, don’t work, don’t contribute to the family’s income, you are wrong.
Curious how their life are now in 2023, would be fun to see.
We need an update on this couple!
Are they still married now? We need updates.✌️
From what I could gather, they are separated now after Gareth's gender reassignment surgery
I understand both sides, but the wife is correct in telling her husband that it's NOT OK TO SPEAK TO YOUR ELDERS IN THAT WAY ,no matter the culture you should always show respect and be respectful ...I think as long as they keep the lines of communication open then they should be able to have an understanding
This is how white westerners speak to their parents, especially English people, not all but most. He should be kind and respect his elders.
I am a white westerner , I'm always respectful to my elders if I know them or not
Am I missing something here??? He spoke his mind but in my opinion was not offensive at all. I wouldn't like it if I came home to find my in laws in my bedroom either. That's NOT a cultural thing it's plain damn rude to go into anyone else's bedroom especially when they're not home.
@@totoro9590 I agree w/ you 100%. He spoke nicely. Too much meddling on in-laws side, that it's making him feel inadequate/insufficient.
The mil is so kind to sweep up all the dog’s hair . His tone n manner was not respectful. Wife was right to remind him to be respectful to elders. In Asian homes especially if they are a close knit family it’s a norm to be visiting each other often. If he is serious about his privacy the couple should live away… with the baby on the way the mil would be of great help to her daughter. You cannot have yr cake and also eat it.
I did enjoy watching this, but wow .....he works full time, he cooks all the meals and cleans the house plus helps out with her aging family members. What a top man he is 👍👍👍
I can't believe that his wife is so damn lazy ! She is taking full advantage of him. She wouldn't get a Korean husband to do half what he does. I mean, she's only pregnant.....that doesn't mean she must be waited on hand and foot....she's not ill or anything...
Well done to his parents who have raised a very capable and caring son. After all he's done, I think he deserves a new pair of glasses whatever the cost.
How disrespectful for her to run to her family to gossip about her husband. Especially when she knows that he has no family in Korea. I feel bad for him, it seems that all her family are ganging up on him, poor guy can't do anything right.
I hope things get better for them all. He tries so hard to please everyone. Maybe he ought to put his foot down occasionally, that's my advice for what it's worth.
I don’t feel bad for him. He wanted to marry a Korean girl so he has to deal with Korean family culture. Maybe next time don’t marry a person from a different culture if you cant handle it lol. 🤦♂️
@PurpleDoritos666 well that's not the case....if anybody gets married they have to deal with their in laws, it's not just a Korean culture thing. Plus, he is managing it very well and I wish them all the best.
Yes very true. In India if a woman goes this lazy she will end up in streets soon . East Asian women take advantage of men it seems . I mean with all those appliances can’t this woman do a bit of housework. The man seems trapped. But he decided his own fate. Now he has to deal with it. It’s obvious the whole family is making him work and also complaining. Why can’t this man have a social circle of his own ?This woman looks very mean person by face .She is making all others work for her
I don't think this marriage is going to last long. Christ! A Korean husband probably would have popped the wife by now.🙄
I'm in the guy's side & I'm Asian. Regardless of whose house is it & intention, it's the couple's bedroom. Boundaries! & the guy isn't even rude, he's telling it nicely. The daughter seems to be accustomed that her mom is doing everything for her before that she forgot she's already married. It's like when you're 18 & an adult, you should be responsible for yourself....Same as for when you're married, you two should be responsible without others meddling in your house & in your relationship.
It's not that he doesn't appreciate it, but the mother-in-law is invading their privacy & his wife doesn't see it that way because in her mindset, it's her mother & her family. When you're starting a new family w/ your husband or wife, that now is your family/priority & your old family is the extended one. But that's not the culture in Korea, it's as if you married the whole family. People gotta understand that only 2 peoples signatures matter in a marriage contract & the whole family didn't sign it. 😅😂
You have zero sense of family, and l hope, you never experience a marriage or partnership break down, and need your parents, sisters, brothers, or no-one on your side. You have no idea, how many people these days need their parents, and are living with their parents, because of relationship break downs, or they do not have any. I pity you. Your comment,the way you think is inappropriate.
This is clearly a video from over 10 years ago, possibly 20 years ago. Is there a “how they’re doing now” update?
Taken in October 2004
Omg i can't stop laughing... 2 different cultures from 2 different countries but for me it's been so funny to watch 😅😂
Wife been to and live in England before does she know the culture of before Marriage? Does she know western family life styles they need privacy, come on. Please don’t angry with each about this, talk thing out and respect each other as husband and wife. You two are married to each other, the family’s should respect them too.
I think this family situation is difficult for both, being with family members is good, but living together for a long time increases the problems. I hope they are doing well now
I think Mi-gyung also should try to explain to her family what Gallus is trying to pointing it out,,, The Mil inside the room,,,? Even me I don't like it too.
Even though she's cleaning, she's their home, she's the mom, she's old enough,,, then respect someone's privacy, every bedroom is someone's sunctuary,,..
Poor Gallus. His wife is a nagger. Him getting upset about the mother-in-law cleaning their place wasn't a big deal, but his wife made it into something bigger, complaining about not raising your voice to elders, etc. Heck, she never even cooks. He works, goes to the market, then comes come and cooks for her whole family. She's really unappreciative. And I saw him washing the dishes, not her brothers. What did the sister -in-law do all day? She should be the one cooking since he works.
I feel sorry for the husband,his wife seems like a spoilt brat.
They have a culture of assembling relatives due to events like Chuseok.
How do you know how often he does cook, and this was not staged for the video❓when it was not staged l am sure they rotate in cooking dinner. He will not cook spaghetti every day for them. He can’t cook Korean food. This is just bs to show off what.. .
The mum is so sweet♥️ She just loves her daughter and wants to help her at any cost😂
She is super cute indeed ~
As a mother u don't do that , u can't go in your kids house and start cleaning or cooking. U should offer to help u can't just go and start working that s RUDE and SHOW Off.
the wife doesnt seem to care much about her husband,only her family
Great video, so difficult when 2 cultures met. Nice that they get along with each other. I dont know if I could being a Hungarian but Iam sure I would try my best.
The poor dude. The family has zero boundaries, esp the sav
when the baby is born problems will be 100 times worst
That's why it's better to live apart frombthe rest of the family. To have your own home and live your daily life away from the rest of the family (in laws). The parents in law can always visit anytime, sleepovers on the weekend or even live with the couple.. But not living with other married siblings on the same house or building. That's just more complicated.
Mother-in-law is so kind and wants to please the couple. Gallus must be gracious enough and appreciate the effort...just sayin
They might want different things. Compromise suggest incompatibility. People dont want to admit that, so instead people shame each other, and even themselves, for having the needs and desires that they have.
Grew up in a Asian Household, as married couples we don't live with either set of parents! Told my future husband, no and the same for my family no!!
Wow, poor guy 😱 cooking, cleaning etc etc hopefully he’ll stay
That’s why you don’t move close to your in-laws it’s a bad bad idea.
He absolutely should use zennioptical. NO ONE spends that much on glasses any more - and I wear mine every moment im awake so i know about how important it is to have glasses you like.
Poor Gallus 😂. Did he know what he was getting into by marrying her and moving to Korea?
He probably regretting 😂😂
Every interracial couple and their respective families should watch this to learn about the many conflicts and misunderstandings that come along with marriages between two different cultures. It's not easy at all! And there needs to be a strong enough bond between the two people to endure this. Everyone means well, but there are factual differences that lead to possibly misery if not dissected early on. Mi-gyung does a great job of stepping back whenever Gallus needs to work out differences with her family members. She cannot be the babysitter or medium in all their relationships. Gallus needs to build those relationships and boundaries himself. Especially, with a baby on the way, it's even more important that he builds those separate relationships without the crutch of his wife.
He should make money, and have their own apartment. I see him as a parasite.
All mothers will clean like it’s their house, this isn’t a cultural thing, it’s a mom thing. We like to feel useful.
The thing about Korean culture is that you sometimes do things you don't want to do as a selfless gesture and to please others.
I’m glad the MIL didn’t listen to the daughter and apologized instead. I feel bad for this guy
The guy wants personal space but his mother-in-law wants to get involved in his life too much. lol
This marriage is not gonna last if this things don’t change
I’m glad the wife made the mother and husband talk immediately after that. Communication is key! ❤
Wait till the baby is born. MIL will meddle more. 😂
Ahh… the dog hair issue. It’s unfortunate since most Koreans in the past were only used to having pets outdoors. Nowadays I can see that the younger generation have transitioned well to accepting pets living inside the house and having pet hair all over. Keep fighting Gallus! 💪🏻
Gallus, not forgetting to be honest with yourself in the mist of over pleasing others. Elastic band will break when it's over stretched. Others may just continuously taking thinking it's totally ok with you. Learn to say no with love.
Look how they care for one another!❤️
The cultural differences and living with the wife's family is a big deal for the husband. I suggest they find their own apartment, a close one...So that they can be visiting often. It will help him deal with the personal space and
The food looks really good.
That's pretty hard when you are residing nearby each other's families. They tend to force you to live their way and cross some boundaries. This could be a factor in failed marriages.
How do they got together they don’t even unterstand each other.. that’s kinda a problem I got him totally but the woman should communicate better to the family.
I would not live so close to my family members.
Sure.
Your kids will follow your same thinking when they are older. Then you will end up dying alone in a nursing home. 😂
@@PurpleDoritos666 you worry about yourself but then again, I think you will end up all alone. 🥺
@@LPL1221 Unlike you, I have great relationship with my family and will def not end up dying alone in a nursing home 😂😂😂😂😂😂 and you tell me to worry about myself, but you dont follow your own advice. A hypocrite, no wonder you dont get along with your family 🤡
Wife should explain what her husband wants instead he wants her mother to get mad on her husband😂😂😂😂
I wish I could go to his church and meet people back then. Well I'm too old now......and it's too late for me.
On a Korean website, there is a meme that says foreigners who marry Korean women committed great sins in their past lives lol.
You might have thought it was similar to the country next to Japan, but that's not the case at all.
Chocolate is Dirty
I think Gallus should run for his life.
The thing is you married a Korean women so you have to accept certain tradition and customs. Korean mom likes to spoil their kids they can’t change their way just accept it that will help with your anger 😂. Every culture’s expression of love is different so her mom is expressing her love thru helping with house chores:)
Yes, but that goes both ways.
they both lived in England when they met, it’s not like he moved over there and met her. So it goes both ways
@@kG-rv1ck His in-law faimily didn't though, she and only she actually does accept him for his culture, her parents don't have to.
@@Joe-cr5nrBut there is a reason, why they live together. Many ordinary Koreans have not enough money to even rent an apartment, or a little flat. I have seen many families struggle during the 10 years l visited regularly Seoul, and the countryside. I always loved, how much the grown up children respected their parents and elderly in general, not like in our society, where you can abuse in all sorts of manners your parents. Here parents can get persecuted for abusing their children by their children but parents can be verbally, sometimes physically abused, no one cares.
Noooo British is beautiful
It is very rude for family members to enter a household without permission to owner. The mother in law was inside the master bedroom Privacy and respect is very much needed wherever you are.
gareth feels guilty his mom in law is old and tries to do so much but its her way of showing love but mom in law is sad and feels guilty that her daugther is doing nothing and not even helping the guy and gareth doesnt want his wife she woundt anyway but this is how it is
This British guy should look for new home otherwise divorced is in card in a year or so. Once new baby arrives things would be more chaotic for sure, and the little privacy he has now it would be also gone. Harmony gonna be always downstairs that’s for sure and do more things she will do than what she is doing now.
This poor guy. I bet they will move out after the parents move on. Anyway love screening humanity series, please help to translate and upload them❤
His name is almost certainly Gareth, not Gallus. Pretty amazed that a Korean-English translator can't work this out.
Yes extremely unfortunate. 🙄
Westerners get Asian names wrong all the time, now you know how it feels huh? 🤡
The wife is just used to the mom doing things for her. The wife should learn to respect her husband. Tell your mom it's not that he doesn't appreciate it, but he's an adult and can do it himself. He wants her to relax, not clean after an adult, like that lazy daughter. Pregnant or not, she shouldn't let her mom clean after her grown self.
You Should learn
The wife is so lucky! to have a husband like him. Please dont work too much Gallus.
C'mon Gallus, just be patient with your mom in law, don't take her Cleaning a bad reflection on you. She is showing her love for you & your wife in a way she believes love is shown.
Yes, I enjoyed watching this movie but the language barriers makes me a little stressed. I know how it feels when we can't express ourselves the way we really want to be understood even with hand gestures or facial expressions are not enough. Hey! did you notice how they park their cars especially the one on that steep hill facing downwards on a slanted hill. Wow! The front wheels are straight when they should be turned inwards. If & when you park your car on a hill, its always safer to turn the wheels outward to the left uphill & turn your wheel tires inward facing downhill. It's in the Driver's Manual too. Its safe so that the car will not roll down the hill or roll backwards if parked uphill. I hope this young Couple will have a nice good marriage & bond with their foreign families. It's very important because nowadays, there's so many family breakdown because families can't get along so they get estranged. May good fortune come to you both, with many Blessings & a happy family, Gallus & Mi-gyung. ☺🙏
Gallup is trying to adapt to your culture so do not expect him to be 100 percent doing things your way.
If his mother in law saw him cooking I don’t understand why she brings more food. They couldn’t have a nice dinner time because of her mother.
Reminds me of animal planet watching how humans from different cultures live together 😆
you are in. Korean and families are together!!!
hey respect culture!!!
When 2 people with the same love language (acts of service)
Sorry, but I don’t think this marriage is going to work out. Imagine when she has her baby! Lack of sleep, exhausting days, mood swings and on top of that, the mom barging in the house as she pleases. Looks like a train reck to me. I understand the different cultures but her family also needs to respect his culture. Sorry but it’s exhausting to us as viewers watching everything he has to go through. Can’t her family appreciate all the effort he puts in on a daily basis??? Sorry but I don’t want to be part of viewing this channel. It’s too exhausting. Definitely, last post.
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The couple need to learn to shut their door and lock it. The romantic dinner together said it all. People who have just married and are still young need to have time alone. The mother barges in during dinner, then after they've been for a nice walk together. She's CONSTANTLY coming into their lives.
this is from 2004. Are you high? You cant tell this is really old?
I love the mother-in-law. I would thank her profusely and start helping her with great respect. She's 70 and this makes her happy n it's keeping her healthy. I understand a lot about Korean culture, so this would definitely be my cup of tea as far as living like this. Just hang a scarf on the door for private time and let her know that it means plz don't enter. (Making more grandchildren 😅) I'd be the best daughter in law 😂
She did not enter,when they were home, she cleaned the bedroom from dirt, when they came.
Anyway, the house must be clean with so many people. And if the two making so much money both working, than they should have their own apartment, than they can experience, how it is on their own.
Wow..this was so frustrating to watch 😅 I am curious if they overcame all the differences.
Gareth, I understand your feelings but seriously you can't talk to your m-i-l like that
I hope they get along.
Awesome family man is comfortable and integrate well staying with wife's family members. Grandad has dementia. My father 76 have dementia too. At least they are being spared from being asked non stop. Having dementia, you got to accept their time is near, you can estimate between 5 to 8 years or less than 5 years. Have a memorial itinerary list to do and cost expenses need to work out so you can calmly handle the situation efficiently when the times arrive. Husband filial thinks grandma should spend retirement quality time with friends and be living happy for herself. Awesome. If you too full with the rice, reserve it to make porridge in the morning (put in steamer with water in the stainless bowl) steam 1.5 hours and left over dinner can be heated up eat in the morning as breakfastl No stress. HaHaHa culture shock. Don't we now have new language mobile apps for speaking English translate Korean. This man's eftort is so cute and funny. My uncle, mom's elder sister husband from England too. He also gave up his country for his wife to live in Malaysia till old age. Very old now. He has no problem living in Malaysia. Very funny man, he can joke Cantonese few words. But in Malaysia, there is no language barrier. Almost everyone here speaks English. My advise, to prevent further stroke, buy a oxim hand massager, teach elderly to tumble at clog places and tense muscle relief. The entire head tumble till muscle relief, back head, shoulders, back, entire face, back ear, 2 sides temple (eyes side). Stroke recovery will be fast and prevent further strokes. Do it everyday since elderly have many Idle time. Eat effective quality HBP pills. I do these massage and I never have stroke even at 240 high without pills. An example, don't follow me skpping pills.
I love how they are close to her parents,but for myself I can’t live near my in-laws.
He is correct. It is now your house your rules even she is your mom.
Son is completely correct. It's THEIR house, not the mother's house, she shouldn't be going around THEIR bedroom.
I don't understand Mi gyung, why she has to discussed with her family for her husband eyeglasses.
She should have married Korean hubby instead if western guy.
Their family also get involve with everything, which is so annoying.
This is the last time I watched their vlog.I feel sorry for the British guy
He (Gallus), he's a very good and patient man and husband to and for everyone in his wife's household. But of course there's a lot of challenges or barriers to be fixed on the contrary..👍
ha, that price for the glasses is ridiculous especially for whenever this was made (2005-2010?)
2004 - 2005 ish
2004
Since this was aired 20 years ago, I'm wondering how they are doing now 🤔
Why does Gallus have to cook for the entire extended family? I can understand including the senior mom and dad but having to feed the other siblings as well is beyond Asian hospitality. That just too much mooching and taking advantage of Gallus. Those siblings are adults and should be able to prepare their own food or prepare food for the entire extended family too.
Imagine having to do that everyday - come home from work, do grocery shopping and cook/ labor for 5 other people.
At the very least, the stay-at-home extended relatives should be doing the dinner cooking instead of relying on someone, who’s already working, to prepare dinner for all of them.
He is really called Callus and not Callum?
I can understand how the dude finds the mother in law annoying 😂 shes a bit much even for korean standards
For me it is normal i am filipino also my mother ask me if she can help me to clean our house as a daughter i cant say no cause i saw her face she really wanted to help me
I dislike living with in-laws it’s starting ruining your relationship with your partner . I respect people living with their in-laws . But i think you should focus your own family with your own house . It’s exhausting this kind of life you don’t have privacy and you have many thinking can’t rest 😢
the English son in law needs to know that mothers are like that. mothers would do anything for their children. if she is doing dishes, let her. You didn't ask her to do it.
Coming from work and there are people in the house. Were they invited? Or do they all live there?
Poor guy her wife I cant😂😂😂😂
Im somewhat angry at the daughter/wife!!!! How can she not communicat and tell her family what is needed ao they both can habe some freedom?!!!