Homeless Man "Go Fund Me" Fraud | Conspiracy of John Bobbitt, Mark D'Amico, & Kate McClure
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of the $400,000 “Go Fund Me” fraud, which occurred in 2017?
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I think the gambling addiction played a large part in this as well. This case is local for me, and it struck me as odd that the couple withheld money from Bobbitt because of his drug addiction, yet blew through most of it gambling. Addiction is addiction.
Only facts detected here!
I know gambling and a drug addict.
Can not say what is worse. Gambling addict destroyed their family by borrowing from shady people, but drug addict had psychosis and almost killed someone. A drug addict is now in jail and a gambling addict is still gambling. Those are both addictions and both needed psychological help. It is all around terrible situation. It seems both lead to a path of self-destruction.
Addicts are often in denial
@@NoBody-og2jg Exactly, addiction in any form can be dangerous. Fortunately, most drug users and most gamblers are not addicts. Addiction, although not uncommon, actually only affects a small portion of the population.
Agreed. Also the hubris of them thinking no one will seek him out and talk to him. They could have paid him off.
I went to school with and grew up with Johnny Bobbitt. He used to be a paramedic had a good life and got into some bad choices and just left town. Out of no where we heard this! I still live in Henderson NC.
That’s so sad he went that way.
maybe he was traumatised from his paramedic work and started drugs to take the edge off...who knows, hey.
@Pill Smith 🤭
I just figured out another reason I enjoy Dr. Grande videos. Most videos on UA-cam are super fast paced, having attention grabbing graphics and sounds coming in and out. It's stressful. Dr. Grande's videos are calm and much more soothing then this style.
Oh my god, YES, so true! I feel like other content creators make videos for people with short attention spans who need constant over-the-top sights and sounds to keep them watching. They're like true crime videos for small children, lolol.
The heroin addicts in my family have taught me one thing; he would have sold the gas can she gave him. A really nice gas can is probably worth a dollar.
🤣🤣🤣 I know it’s not funny per say, but selling the gas can strikes my funny bone.
as a former panhandling heroin addict for 6 years , i most certainly did (foolishly at times) go sick to help others.. sometimes even strangers. on the streets, it was at times a weakness, but in the long run don't regret it.
“No self respecting panhandler…”. It’s going to be a great year! Thank you Dr. Grande!
Just noticed that you are near the 1 Mill Mark....well deserved Doc, well done.
"It is a foe with whom there is no reasoning"
That's very true! I think it's understated, how eloquent you are.
Most do not understate they thank goodness!
This story exemplifies the worst and the best of humanity. I find the actions of these scammers to be revolting. They performed a manipulative and unintelligent scheme with the purpose to fulfill their greed and show off a lifestyle that was clearly out of their reach.
On the other hand, we have the donors. I know a lot of people have said how gullible they were, and I can understand the argument, maybe they were gullible. However, I do feel that there are many generous people out there who would like to do good for society in some capacity. I think their generosity is commendable. As for the gullibility argument, I would say that once the money is out of our hands we may never know what happens to it, that’s the whole nature of charity. Even the most prestigious charity organizations can defraud people. Either way, I do appreciate the good hearted individuals who are willing to do something good for others.
Excellent review Dr. Grande, thank you.❤️
Oh Rejane! Wow! Knew I loved your comments! Soooo right!
@@bthomson Aww, thank you!😊
Rejane, me and Erik P , I would probably throw the pinic basket, all over him . We have a love /hate relationship.😆😂
@@bthomson Hello beautiful, how are you?
@@cottontails9003 Lol😂😂😂
what surprises me most is how many people bought this story from the get-go. I don't consider myself an optimist or a pessimist. I consider myself a realist.
Cheers from Louisiana.
I'm not surprised that people fell for this: the news outlets, the public, and the donators. You had a charismatic guy, (the boyfriend), and the bubbly and attractive girl. With the guy being a being a gambler, that means who was prone to certain kind of behavior's. Im sure the gal was 100% to participate. I guess somehow he got involved with the homeless fellow, and I'm sure the 2 men hatched up a plan. The thing with go fund me is that when you have an attractive gal in the post, people are more willing to money up. Do you think that if The couple wasn't young young relatively speaking, and the gal being very attractive, that people would be donating As much as they did? These are the same kind of people that would Sue you in a heartbeat if you accidentally bumped them in a parking lot, and they would fake Phantom whiplash and injuries. That's how they go through life.
Because we all want to believe there is hope and good in this shit world. It is naive, but it is there. To blindly believe a human interest story is common. We need that feel good feeling that we can't manifest in our own lives so we believe and support someone else's good fortune in a time of ugly. 😔
People who say they're realists are usually huge pessimists. Just own it.
That is what I always say when people call me a pessimistic, I tell them I’m a realist.
@@lucybullwhip8103 thanks for proving my point.
"We had NO Choice! It was either commit massive fraud and abuse the goodwill of others, or, you know, work."
Like a great man once said; "They were riding the SUV of Fraud until it ran out of gas."
I think the interest in this one is the greed aspect. They were so greedy they screwed their own partner and squandered all the funds.
they were lucky idiots. Cases show that after making off with a big score, lack of secrecy and exuberant spending always gets them caught. Just recently, one notorious bank robber confessed to a robbery 50 years ago while on his deathbed. Not even his wife knew up to that point, and authorities still don't know how he spent the money. He hightailed across the country and abandoned his parents and friends who never knew if he was alive or dead. That is the level of discipline required. But mostly idiots defraud and steal, so they'll always be caught. Ted Conrad is his name if you are wondering.
Being a gamer i have seen far to many situations where games being developed from different campaign types similair to go fund me, where it has turned out to be scams. So i never even consider backing anything nowadays.
Far *too many. Not to.
"Being a gamer" lmao. Get over yourself bro. There are scams literally on everything.
Being an umbrella enthusiast I've seen far too many umbrellas being developed and ending up being scams. See how dumb that sounds?
@@flyingfrog7847 Every fucking comment you post is poorly though out and negative, I wish this was explained by a cool cluster-B personality but living with your mother as a grown man is the more likely reason...
@@flyingfrog7847 sounds like call of duty
@@flyingfrog7847 Well it mainly sounds dumb cos umbrellas don't get crowdfunded whereas games often do.
I love when people get caught because they can’t lay low and need to flaunt.
It happens so often thankfully!
In 2004 for about a year and a half, I was a heroin addict. If the general public knew how excruciating the pain of withdraw, or cutting back for even 10 hours is, they would know it's an implausible story. I always felt bad for the addict in this case. Many addicts are good people with blinding addictions and a sad story behind them.
I hope John Bobbitt gets the help he needs though. Addiction changes you and you’ll do things you’d never normally do, just to maintain.
Exactly, he’s the one that gets a pass here.
He's doing more time than the girl, that's crazy to me
@@solarsauce Are you serious?? WOW! Even though the ones who already had money clearly came up with the plot!!!!! SMH
@@OGitGirlJess exactly what I was thinking dawg, the guys already homeless😤
I found this whole story strange. From what it sounded like, John was in on the scam, and then turned against them when they didn't give them the money they promised. He probably didn't realize that the whole scam he was in on would be exposed.
I love how having a steak dinner is extravagant living in this day and age.
Having a steak dinner has always been extravagant. To a spoiled fortunate few the extravagance was seen as completely normal. When ground beef is considered extravagant that’s when you need to worry!
I do a homeless outreach clinic where I treat patients in encampments, behind buildings, etc. When I first heard this I was in complete disbelief based solely on the premise that he would have given his last $20 for anything except heroin.
Sadly these scams make it hard for people who are in need get the help.
Great video Dr Grande!!
As someone who was formerly homeless, stories like this are very upsetting. It's hard enough to survive on the streets, without horrible frauds like these that make it worse. While I didn't panhandle, it was still difficult. Especially when non profit agencies, and social services being so short staffed. Plus, add to the fact that when budget cuts happen, it's always the poor who suffers.
Plus, I have lived around addicts of drugs and alcohol, during my time as a homeless person, plus when I lived in an SRO ( Single Room Occupancy) hotels.
I also worked in the buildings.
Plus, I have personally seen what lengths an addict will go to feed and support their habit. It's very sad.
I didn't follow this case but I'd like to speak as a formerly homeless person (non-panhandling type). I saw many many men give their earnings to other homeless people in need actually. Giving a friend your last $5 or $20 (if you have a crush on her) is about the only prosocial behavior I saw during my time on the streets. I had a friend help me out while I lived in my car.
What drugs were you on at the time?
@@Richard_Straker WTF lmao. Why does it always have to be about drugs?
@@lucybullwhip8103 - Because it usually is.
@@lucybullwhip8103 Dr Grande made no judgement on homeless people; he made assertions about the nature of heroin addiction. If 'Authentisitic's' anecdotes are not related to drug-addicted homeless people then it is actually irrelevant.
@@simoncoco1 I don't understand your comment.
These go fund me frauds frustrate me, I've had a GFM so I could get a wheelchair for months and have gained no traction (maximum pun intended) yet these scammers are always able to get their crowd funding things funded.
The really frustrating thing is that people must turn to go fund me in the first place.
Where is the media in your case?
We trust the MSM far too much. Why are they not being held to standards we are asking from FB, Instagram, Twitter etc.?
@@CeceKruchkoSmith good point IDK I've reached out to some news outlets to see if they could help but no reply, I've also reached out to independant news outlets on youtube and ot her youtubers but nothing.
@@JessHull Well keep up hope.
A few weeks ago the man behind me paid for 90$ of groceries for me. I didn't even see the tally all I could do is cry. Most I've ever been flat out given was 1,000 when my dad died.
But it's ok because I feel like I have everything I need.
I'm thinking that feeling is possible just with a shift in view but I have lots of hope I guess that mother nature sorts things out for the best.
What's your gofundme called
Jeez, it's getting to the point where you can't even trust a Marine named John Bobbitt.
Lol
Lol
@@robertgiles9124 not that John Bobbitt but thanks for playing.
@@robertgiles9124 oh come on now! The Lorena Bobbitt case involving decapitating one of her husband's "heads" happened back in the 1990s. 2 different cases and 2 very different reasons. And the first "Bobbitt" case didn't involve a 3rd person.
@@rosanchez9715 I'm not coming any where with you Ro. Row off by yourself Pal.
When this story hit the news I could think only of the Sherlock Holmes story, "The Man with the Twisted Lip"--a journalist goes missing and Holmes finds him, made up as a beggar making considerably more than he had in his job. How? He was the wretched gentle soul who could quote Keats and Byron, every middle-class Londoner's fantasy. We are suckers for sympathetic narative, which is not of itself a bad thing.
So interesting you mentioned Sherlock Holmes; I also just thought of him watching this because he too was supposed to be a user of Heroine or Cocaine, one or the other.
@@vikramgupta2326 Coke. Dr. Watson eventually got him off it.
Thank You Dr Grande. I’ve worked with addicts directly. You clearly understand heroin and it’s all encompassing control of a human being. You can not manipulate heroin.
Many of the people who came into the methadone clinic I worked in were addicted to prescription opioids. You would never know by looking at them that they were addicts. I really respect how hard they were working to make their lives better. The stereotype of the homeless heroin addict somehow garners more pity from the uneducated. I don’t have the answers but handing out money isn’t helping our addicted brothers and sisters. Mental healthcare is the only step forward for the individual. Then comes jobs and affordable housing.
Great comment! Many people see the 'junkie' and that's all they see. They don't stop to think that there are far greater issues going on, beneath the addiction. Mental health problems, play a big part in most cases. In trying to relieve their pain and demons, they self medicate. A terrible cycle starts.
Opiods. The death knell of so many who started out just taking them for physical pain, on the advice of their doctors. smh.
@@LDiamondz thank you. The saddest stories were those of the young people who were tossed out of their families. Sweet kids who found themselves homeless from an early age and very susceptible to addiction really pulled on my heartstrings. But they were trying after all, since they were part of the program I worked in. So many more are trapped in the cycle of pain and won’t accept help because of the darkness they find themselves in.
The brain is capable of so much. It can help us to climb mountains and it can keep us in the gutter.
How early can intervention be activated? If We see a child struggling, isn't THAT the time to act! If pain is suspected can't We figure better ways to help?
I don't think it's really all-encompassing is it? If it were no one would ever be able to stop.
I wanna preface my
comment to you by saying you do
awesome work and people like you are truly helping and I really respect you. I wanted to respond to you hoping you could give me some insight or helpful information. While I was fortunate enough to never be homeless, I was an opoid addict (first oxy pills then heroin) for a several years (been clean since march 2014). When I see homeless people, I tend to give them the cash I have, between $3-$20. And I really don't even attempt to assume what
they could or will spend that money on because it's theirs now. My thought process was always that if they need a bottle of liquor to fall asleep tonight, outside in the cold, that doesn't seem totally unreasonable. I know many
people who can't sleep in their perfectly warm and safe beds without a sleeping pill or a glass of bourbon at night (and I'm not saying that's okay either). I'm just pointing out that if so many people can't even get thru their day/sleep in their own homes without some sort of substance, it's understandable that homeless people might also feel the
need to self medicate. Another thing I think, when handing over cash that
might go to drugs, is that I really
have the kind of money to help this person get mental health treatment (although I agree that would be far
better) or the resources to get them a job, but I can give them something that will help them "get well", as they say. I know what it's like to be sick as hell from withdrawal and I can't imagine standing outside in the elements, having people
scream rude stuff at me, all while sick. And I can help them "feel better" for the next 6 of 7 hours so they can panhandle without immense discomfort and make money to get a meal, maybe a
motel room, and yes maybe another
shot of heroin. but that's just their day to day life, and I feel like it's all I I do to help (although I also understand it is enabling).
I hope you understand what I mean by that. And if you have any advice on how to be helpful in a more meaningful way to the homeless in my community (I live in Oklahoma City and there is a rather large homeless population here), I would really appreciate you taking the time to respond.
Demonstrating once again the gullibility of those who choose to believe, with no proof of concept, that their generosity is making a difference in the world. I give charitably, but only to organizations that have a proven record of providing real charity, spending more than 50% of their intake assisting those in need.
It's called being a good person. Blame the scammer not the scammed.
Sounds like you are blaming the victim. Who is the real piece of garbage here the people who donated thinking they were doing something ethical? Or the scammers?
@@rosenbaum75
You are not doing any good by giving your money to scammers. All that does is encourage them to scam more and more people.
Just because your intentions are pure does not mean, you are doing something to help.
@@ThinWhiteLuke Where is the victim blaming? It is clearly stating that people should donate to reputable organizations if they want their donations to make the most benefit. There are some places which only use a quarter or less of donations on the problem. The rest go to high salaries even if the cause is a non-profit. I completely agree with the original post.
Feel free to give how you want but don’t be surprised if the money is wasted.
Oh like those "charitable" organizations with so-called proven records of charitable giving have never been caught misappropriating funds. You can never truly know what you are supporting when making donations. One can simply do their best to ferret out the details and decide to give or not give accordingly.
Altruism is the most efficient mask of Hypocrisy. Trust no one but Dr. Grande. Never, ever ignore this advice.
Man.... This happened in my hometown...This was in the local media all day, everyday until it went National. Great feel good story....Until it turned out to be a SCAM....😩... *They knew how to play up this image as the All-american virtuous couple that blesses others in need of help* 🤮
Me too!! I live in Mount Laurel...saw the whole thing happen in utter disgust!!
But he helped them
@@thepostofficeprince8819 Who??? They were all in on the scam!!
I stupidly donated! Lol, I'm so dumb.
@@lf9341 It happens to all of us at 1 point or another.
As always a great analysis. Thanks Dr. G
I didn't believe it from the beginning. Like you said the car was equipped with a low fuel warning sign, nobody goes anywhere without their cellphone & why did she have a gas can.
I never give to go fund me. The best thing to do, if you have charity goals, is to do small monthly contributions to your local food bank, your local homeless shelter and your local church’s feed the hungry program. You do this and your charity goals are ongoing and accomplished regularly. Also if, all people did this our food bank and homeless shelters will be properly funded. This is also a good thing and does save you somewhat from giving based on emotions. I can honestly say I am able to walk by a pan handler without feeling guilty for not having given anything since I started giving a small amount monthly. I think it helps us get into the habit of charity as well. Also increase your charity goals each year by a small percentage. We must always remember those who face difficult times but we aught to do so rationally if they aren’t family.
Also it is important to remember that you aren’t any better than the folks the money is intended to help. You could be them one day to. There for the Grace of God ... so practice charity, but don’t do it with guilt or emotion. Do it as a duty and as a habit
Well said!
Well said!!!
You do realise families who have had hardships commonly use go fund me.
Don’t be so naive, one bad example isn’t the rule.
@@captaron Pretty sure OP isn't. Simply suggesting that there's no reliable way to evaluate such causes on GoFundMe. Even the worst run soup kitchen spends 95% of each dollar on food. This can easily be verified via tax documents in a way that random individuals cannot.
I think gfm gets a bad rap but there are good causes on there. I think it’s important to be able to verify the cause you’re donating to. That goes for any charity.
I’ve not heard of this until now, but man. Looks like people will give their money to anything without looking into something. It’s important for people to have an idea about something before they donate or spend money on anything. Thank you for the video Dr. Grande, keep up the great work.
I stupidly donated! I should have stuck to the usual handing sandwiches to homeless people. Oh well!
@@lf9341 Life lesson learned. Appears you’re kind hearted.(me too)
Scum of the world will always try to scam us.
Having been a homeless addict in a past life, I had on many occasions given some of my miserly funds away to others in need. Yes, addictions have incredible power and control over people, but doesn't automatically make everyone a self-serving, selfish, and greedy asshole with no humanity *all of the time* - if I was well and in a good spot, I'd help others, if I was sick and trying to get well, that's when the selfish, self-serving asshole would come out. Just a little caveat.
Ah the old "c'mon man just get me well" been there dude
We hear you 🤗
Yep. I used to have a friend on methadone who relapsed now and then and she was one of the nicest and kindest people I ever met. I didn't care for Dr Grande's description of all addicts here.
You were the exception not the rule. Every addict I knew when I was on the street was a hustler . I do agree with you though in that a addict that is high and a addict that is sick are two very different creatures
Sure... sure...
"A quantity of expletives inconsistent with having a healthy relationship."
That is Grande gold right there.
Your description of heroin, though, is the best ever. It is relentless. It is running the show. You can't manipulate it, you can't negotiate with it. The addiction will be fed.
Well, this case sure has made me more hesitant to donate to individual GoFundMe pleas. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
That's the real harm that people like these cause. There's plenty of honest people with real issues on GFM. They provide proof, updates, etc. I've had one when I had two family members in ICU with COVID. Don't let these assholes turn you off to the rest of the needy. :/
Excellent analysis. I love listening to reasonable discourse with at least one person (Dr. Grande) using logic constructively. Thank you, sir.
Some great content on Dr. Grande part, evaluation of social homeless interactions, and Addiction at 11:12 "thought they could manipulate the (addictive element) Dr .Grande with chilling conviction for me "It is a foe with whom there is no reasoning, there is no negotiation"
We addicts never know when to stop no matter how many times we try. Thank the Lord for doctors who understand the severity and give hope to the hopeless like homes to the homeless.
GTFO. Not all addicts are scam artists. Your lord doesn't exist either.
@@Cbd_7ohm uhoh someone’s throwing a tantrum. Hit too close to home bud ?
I'm always amazed how criminals are so indiscrete on social media and with texts and emails. It's the 21st century equivalent of the criminal at the pub boasting about his crime (in the earshot of a snout or UC cop).
Yes! Why is that? The perfect crime is hard to commit because criminals are dumb!
@@bthomson the one's that get caught. Lots of smart ones are never caught
Really!!! What could their mindset possibly be that they think they can go on social media and brag about what they did!??🙄
@@bthomson I suspect that for them buying rubbish meant nothing if they couldn't also be _seen to be_ buying rubbish.
Some people really underestimate the power of addiction, or feel they are safe from it, since they can stop whenever they want! You also rarely get clean on your first attempt....or it is short-lived! When you do manage to get out of that hole, I think it's very important to remember how terrible you felt, how it changed you for the worst, all the stress, all the misery!! In my experience that is what helps you to not take that step backwards! We are humans though, so if you do fall back don't keep falling and stay positive and keep going forward, nobody is perfect!!
Sounds like 3 addictions here. Opiods, gambling and instant gratification.
I guess I've just never been desperate enough to think of something like this. Although I'd like to think I'd do a better, more convincing job. I hope to never know this level of desperation.
Thanks again Dr Grande for a great analysis.
Especially desperation for luxury items they could post on social media.
Are you sure it was desperation?
@@lucybullwhip8103 - Possibly a bad choice of word. They were greedy and avaricious.
@@Richard_Straker Yep. And completely idiotic. They could have gotten away with it if she didn't blab to her friend, and if they put the money away and saved it instead of flaunting it. They seem to have uncontrollable hedonism issues as well.
Terrible they scammed people, playing on sympathies, but so many narcissists in society not surprising..they are schemers & very devious usually. Thanks Dr G😊💚💚
"it is a foe with whom there is no reasoning---there is no negotiation."
Eloquently put
Although meant about heroin this is also true of greed and stupidity! So often We just can't believe how human beings behave!
We love you so much Dr. Grande. Happy New Year and thank you for your wonderful and informative videos, best part of my day!
Some might think "love" too strong a word but not me!💙💚💛
Awesome, Dr. Grande! I almost forgot about this story. Thank you! Happy New Year to you, Dr. Grande, and to everyone here. 💓🎉
Your analysis of heroin addiction is spot on Dr. Grande. I see in the comments that people feel strongly about giving without some assurance that the money is going for an actual purpose. The point of giving is not for a "pat on the back"...but for the goodness in your heart. What is done with that money is of no consequence for the giver, but for the recipient...thats on them.
It looks like prison for this bunch! Thanks Dr. Grande! ❤❤❤
I agree! Give and let those who receive be responsible whether or not they decide to be charitable!
That's the way I think the Bible teaches us the Bible says if you give it shall be given unto you press down good measure shaken together will men give into your bosom that means we are to give and more than what we give will we return to us when we give it it with the right heart and give and don't expect anything you don't give an expect anything and the person who receives the money is completely responsible really to God for the charity of a few they are responsible to God for the goodness of the human heart to share what that person has to the one in need
Self-satisfied and morally frivolous analysis of charity.
@@eadweard. not sure if your comment is for me or Dr. Grande's analysis.
Maybe you could clarify.
@@bohemianscrapgirl Sorry to have been ambiguous. Yes it was aimed at your comment.
This was very well done. When I first heard this story, the very first thing I thought was... An addict giving his last twenty dollars? That's weird... But I figured I didn't have all the details and went on with my life... Now the picture is way more clear. Impulsive people make terrible criminals... Lol
I had a homeless man give me a dollar once, for no reason lol
@Pill Smith Haha yes, always. I actually do practice the sport so the name isn't just for no reason 😉😊
The original story never mentioned that he was an addict.
"When someone is addicted to heroine, the drug is often running the show." This is exactly why I never got persuaded into trying drugs. Say goodbye to your beautiful brain and future.
Absolutely incredible video, Dr. Grande!! ♡♡
That applies for any addiction, and not all drugs are addictive. Cannabidiol is an example. It is an antioxidant and neuroprotective via 5ht1a ppary and other things.
Compulsive gamb!ing is a major problem.
I remember this Dr! Really enjoy hearing your analysis on things I've heard. As always thanks you!
Thanks for your analysis Dr. Grande. How people can use others for untruths out of selfishness and the love of money! Hope they get charged well! TFS
I remember when this happened and how it spoke to me. I believed it whole heartedly. I am so glad that my Husband told me at the timeto not give to the "Go Fund Me" page, that it sounded like a hoax. I saved myself some $$.
Glad you didn't fell for it
I myself tend to come across as cynical/ cold-hearted in these kind of situations because my wife tends to be somewhat gullible and easily manipulated (from blindly believing in what some perceived authority may say, to being eager to donate money to these sort of hoaxes/ scams) and as such I often find myself being "forced" to point out this sort of BS and bring her to her senses
Have a great 2022
You just don’t know who to believe or trust anymore. It’s heartbreaking.
And yet We must continue to believe! Better to be scammed once or twice than lose our humanity!
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind and he shall give you the desires of your heart
I work with ladies who work the system. There are several charities and churches in our town who “help “ those who are struggling. These people know what day of the week the offices are open for requests for assistance. They know how long you have to wait before you can go back to this office. When you work it just right you get one to “help” with your rent, one to “help” with your groceries or child care and one to “help” with your utility bills. It takes planning but it can be done and then you and your boyfriend get a weekend in Atlanta!
A consistency of expletives indicative of a destructive relationship. Brilliant 😁
Happy New Years Dr. Grande. Thank you for all your hard work on your videos. They are interesting and I really like your thoughts and analysis on the matters you cover!
Dr Grande, could you do an Episode on yourself? I'd like to see a self-assessment of your personality according to the five factor model and your toughts on which ASPD traits in the DSM you could qualify for and which you can exclude. While I think this is hilarious, I'd be really interested on your thoughts on the nature of self-diagnosis and this would be a clever way of doing it.
Please, don't forget Teen-Toddy and conduct disorder.
thank you for the analysis and rich content as always☕️👌
I love Dr. Grande's clear and insightful analysis
Good morning Mister Grande. Could you do a role play counseling video of Covert narcissists personality disorder? It would be helpful. Thank you
Dr. Grande, you put into words what I think and believe but cannot articulate. I too *knew* it had to be a fraud for all the reasons you mentioned, and your assessment was music to my ears.
It's like when certain things go viral and others do not. The people who really need the money don't get it and the jackasses who do not are the ones who get it.
Only sometimes!
I am in the social work field, and work with countless homeless individuals. Veterans are the easiest to rehouse, as anyone who served at least 120 days active duty regardless of type.of discarge qualifies for SSVF vouchers, rapid rehousing and veteran homes. If a veteran doesn't engage in those programs, I don't put an incredible amount of time into helping. Addictions aren't treated by money or free houses. If they didn't take the money for themselves, he's like to use it all on drugs.
Mary Jo85 I'm glad you stated this and so nicely. I'm seeing this happening in the open where I live in affordable housing with my son . It is amazing what accomplished actors of sob stories that people make up to get their next fix.
Excellent analysis Dr. Grande! 💙
The "quantity of expletives" line is classic Dr. Grande!
Thank you Dr. Grande. ❤️. Happy 2022!! ❤️
Hi Bill! Best wishes in 2022!
@B Thomson thankyou...❤️
To you as well, Mr. Hildebrand! 🙂
@Mrs. Reluctant thanks, happy 2022.
Soo many scammer out there 😔🤮
Good analysis, Dr. Grande 😊👍
So sad because you want to help homeless, but in the very odd case when people want to fuck with your generosity, it's heartbreaking.
I wish all of society could talk about addiction in the way that Dr. Grande does. The drug runs the show. The addict deserves mercy and a chance for redemption. Being upfront about the damage but maintaining a humanitarian perspective, that outlook allows for action and not just blame and pitty.
Happy New Year Dr. Grande!!! You’re numero uno fam!!!!
Wasn't the John Bobbitt I assumed.
Happy New Year Doctor! I look forward to new episodes of your well thought out scientific analysis. I cannot forget about your humor, which is something else. Keep killing it Doc and I am so happy UA-cam recommended your videos. It was my best find of 2021.
No donations should've been made. If you want to, find a verifiable, trustworthy source, not a random person, who will hold the money. Publish a copy of a verifiable contract stating the money will be held by the 3rd party, used for rehab, then given to the guy when he's clean, and have a financial advisor manage it to ensure he is set up for the future.
Hey Dr Grande I know this may be out of your range but you should do the case of Alpo Martinez. It’s a really great story with a movie based around the events in his life. He was a big time drug kingpin in New York who killed most of his partners and ended up testifying against DC’s most feared Hitman ( Wayne Perry) for a lesser sentence. He was killed on Halloween this year after being released and going on witness protection. He broke witnesses protection and came back to New York after spending a few years in Maine.. some say he wanted to die and he was just riding around New York waiting for his final moments.
DrGrande and Family Happy New Year. to fans. See ya in '22
It's amazing that two different men with that really odd last name made news in totally different ways - and they were both 'Johns'... except the other John was much more cruelly bitten by his wife, Lorena.
Utility of skepticism. That stuck out to me. It’s not like we are skeptical or not, it’s instead something innate and useful when evaluating a situation.
Have to agree with a previous comment about the Dr's soothing voice!
I think the SAME thing! I'm in a stressful situation atm and his voice just has a way of calming and soothing me. He has a very reassuring, calm and strong voice. He gives me a comfortable, confident and assured feeling that he's trustworthy and safe. I bet he has no idea how he helps so many people. It's not just the intellectual stimulation, the interesting well-considered content, lessons I learn from his thoughts and awesome wit! There's another emotional component that unexpectedly gets you hooked! I feel immediately grounded upon listening to his voice.
People want to help those they believe will do their best. I don’t give money to Pan handlers. I have bought food for those that have asked but have no desire to have someone spend money on substances that can be used to help. I’d rather donate to a food store or similar local charity which will proved a needed service to them.
You sound like a very controlling person. Relax.
@@lucybullwhip8103 Childish, gossipy nonsense.
@@eadweard. Yes, I agree that Master Malrubius's comment is like that. Good observation.
Sadly, these greedy behaviors cause generous people to mistrust charities.
Love your sense of humor! Most GFM & Charities are scams these days..so wrong...so sad. Ethics, integrity...using one's good gifts and talents..given way or should I say...taken over by greed and power! Hurts a good mind and heart...thank you for sharing your gift! ✌
$100/200 a day from panhandling?? I think I need to make a sign and go stand outside the local grocery store.
I stumbled over this channel accidently when I was scrolling and sort of side-glimpsed a thumbnail and thought it was something to do with Leonard (Big Bang), So I clicked in, discovered it wasn't anything to do with Big Bang, but has subsumed me. Love it!. EDIT: I have watched multiple back episodes since this happy accident.
Stupid fundraisers were done, and stupid prizes were won by all. What a tale.
I thought this story was true when I heard it. Of course they didn't mention the panhandler was an addict. That would have cut down on the believability and the donations.
Mark and Kate bought into Gordon Gekko’s “greed…is good” philosophy, riding the train of fraud straight through all of Bobbitt’s donations. SMH Dr. Grande, but appreciate your keen observations and assessment of this case - human frailty runs amok.
I suspect they knew full well that greed is bad but chose it anyway.
Just a reminder I'm not commenting on this video, just speculating that I do very much like videos like this! 💖💖
It’s not the fault of the goodwilled people who gave. However, this case shows that discernment is definitely needed before giving, to ensure help is utilized the way it should be.
To be certain help is received, maybe the gift of time is best- the most valuable asset there is. After all, it seems that children raised with parents who give of their time more than of their money grow into happier, healthier people.
Thank you, Dr. G! As always, you bring up great things for us to think about! 😀👍
Anna - As always a perfect comment!🎇✨🎆
@@bthomson Thank you so much! Have an awesome day! 🤩
It's true, they didn't spend $1 on themselves. They spent lots and lots and lots and lots of dollars!
Excellent analysis Dr. Grande! Happy New Year! ❤❤🐘🐘🐑🐑🐰🐰🐕🐕🐦🐦❤❤🌹🌹
Not sure of I'm here for the psychology, the dry humor or factual statements and accurate news reporting but I am here.....
As usual, you gave a stellar recap of this situation and the psychological factors at work! But as someone who has the fault of being completely unaware and unconcerned over automobile things, I had to share that despite having a very noticeable gas gauge and a well working low gas warning signal on my Rogue, I often find myself far from home and shocked that my gas tank is almost dry, and crossing my fingers and coasting as much as possible to the nearest gas station! I wasn’t always like this, but my husband of 10 years has definitely spoiled me to the point that I just don’t give gas a second thought. And I have a feeling I’m not the only one being spoiled! So, I wouldn’t think twice over this gal running out of gas!
Excellent analysis.
As a recovered addict I have to full support Dr grande on two points . First no addict on skid row is every going to just give up $20.00 ... it's just not going to happen. When a person is in active addiction their sole purpose is to get high and remain high .
Second addiction is not a problem that can be helped nor solved with money, for a person to get clean they have to have a desire to do so, they will also need a large support group that is trained in helping people to get sober.
"no self respecting panhandler would spend money on somebody".
Way to stereotype, Dr. Todd. Poor people help each other out too.
Thanks, Doc.
The cacti arrangement in this upload is enjoyable
As always!🌵
You are a kind soul sir. Thank you.
Dr. Grande, can you please analyze the case of Chad Isaak, the man just sentenced to life in prison for murder. Thank you.
So many scammers out there...really too bad because people want to help but are getting ripped off