“Mean girls aren’t actually mean, they’re just insecure.” No they are still mean. They still make other people feel bad about themselves. But most are insecure and that’s why they do it.
I like to call it, weaponized insecurities. Just because you're dealing with shit in your own life doesn't give you the right to harass or abuse other folks, nor does it excuse it.
@@IgnisPhantasma Yeah I agree. If you think of it on a more extreme scale, you can’t just murder someone and say “Idid it because I have depression” it’s an excuse but it isn’t an acceptable one.
I actually have a tip: if someone’s being an ass just start complimenting them and being super nice. It will embarrass the hell out of them and make them feel bad
Whenever weird “popular” people come up to me i just engage in conversation with them (but not like youd talk to a friend or anything, like a relative that saw you when you were this big lmao) and they get weirded out and leave. Basically all i have to do to scare them off is be myself :,)
As someone who is an ex member of that big group, yes, they all hate each other. Everyone talked bad about each other-even to their faces. I was bullied by the mean girl which forced me to leave but it was a blessing in disguise because although it was fun it was so toxic. My advice…keep to a friend group of 4 or 5. Not 20
A friend group of 20 ain’t gonna work no matter what. That ain’t a group that’s a whole ass classroom LMAO. There’s no way you can expect everybody in there to like each other
Nah big friend groups can be good you just have to make sure they aren’t toxic friends and that you have no reason to start beef with anyone and you’ll be good (others might not follow that rule but if you’re all good friends they’ll generally keep it private)
The big group thing is so real.. I just wished I found that out earlier bfr joining it. Regret it so much now everyone literally talks shit about each other and it was rlly toxic. That group made me rlly insecure abt my appearance, family background and weight. I do NOT recommend joining such groups lol
That statement was so brutally accurate, im in one of those big groups, and inside it someone hates eachother, and its split into smaller groups within the big group cause of how much they argue
Here’s a tip from me: Bullies aren’t always insecure about themselves. Some like the attention, to be in the spotlights, others are just dicks. Try not to give them satisfaction (how depends on the situation). Also you can be picked on for no freaking reason at all. So don’t blame yourself (I know it’s hard. I still struggle with it myself). I once got to ask two of my past bullies why they did it. They couldn’t even come up with a reason at first. Eventually they said random stuff like “because you have a Belgium accent”. I’m Dutch and I don’t have an accent as far as I know. Even so it would’ve been a stupid reason.
Yeah, i have a heavy irish accent and ginger hair, AND am a big fan of camogie, so obviously at my school im always made fun of for it, like, people. Like they are literally irish aswell???
I was at one point bullied for being tall. I was a “gentle giant” but one day, I wasn’t in the best mood and I set them straight and I let them have it. Not only weren’t expecting it, they left me alone for good. If it’s attention they want, give it to them. They say that violence doesn’t solve anything but I found that as long as you’re not the one who looks for trouble and you defend yourself from people like that, more people would respect you even some of the teachers. Just fight back (just don’t resort to using weapons) if that’s the only way they’ll leave you alone. The worst they can do to you is suspend you for a few days (depending upon how strict your school is) especially if you’re not the type of person who gets in trouble often.Then again, things were different in the late 90s to mid 2000s when I was in elementary school and High School.
my whole life i have been a bully and i have been bullied , and coming from experience most bully dont feel insecure about themselves , but they want people to look at them higher then they look at the other , yea bullies play kings which is fucked up and i am not proud of it
name. surname. She’s saying that playing dumb is dumb , but that’s actually what the people playing dumb want, they want to look dumb so it’s a win for them
real talk man idk if youre in hs or not but this shit goes the best with this comment and i want people to see this advice: dont wait until the end of hs to get your gpa up. i fucked around for the first two years and had a 2.3 gpa i ended up needing an average of 3.7 over the next two years just to get a 3.0 for merit scholarships and if i didnt grind my ass off those last two years i probably wouldnt have gone college.
Yeah I was best friends with all the girls in the popular group throughout elementary school but I still had a friend group of three that I would hang out with when they were busy. Once we got to middle school, they dropped me and acted like it was nothing. I see most of them on a daily basis and they just act like they don’t see me.
Yup i was like pretty young and I was friends with the "popular kids" and they obviously hated me they weren't good at hiding it. When we were all together they would literally go to another room and wouldn't let me go in the room i was like 8 like wtf now I'm not friends with them anymore
I have a few • Don't walk around your school with your head down. • If someone harms you physically, don't be scared to get in trouble do the same thing back unless it was an accident. • If you wear uniform, instead of trying to wear it like other people, wear it your own way. • Don't try to desperately glow up and change your style, try new things and wait for the change to come on it's own. • Don't involve yourself with people who talk about everybody else behind their back. • Watch out for narcissim as it is common in teenagers. • Before starting highschool, don't have a mindset that thinks that it will be the most perfect experience and everyone will be nice (because thats just not true) • Try to not beef with people if its not necessary as well as make enemies which you will constantly trash talk, that's just a bad idea. • Learn how to roast people. • There's lots of pressure around having social media even if you dont want to, don't force yourself. • Always be confident, if you have friends , if you don't, no matter what, speak clearly and confidently. • You will have friendship drama (especially if you are a girl), don't desperately try to avoid it. • Now this is a contreversial one but if you are bored in class or don't have friends, don't feel guilty to eavesdrop as it can help you learn about who the people around you are and who you should be wary of.
Well said! In addition to all of that, don't be afraid to stand up for what is right. If you KNOW what someone is doing is wrong, speak to them privately about it. If they refuse to listen... they can't say that they were not warned.
omg yeah theres like a huge group of those girls in my grade and literally they all hate each other. Theres always some drama going on between them, its like one big group but theres like 2 or 3 smaller groups in the big group.
Yes!! YK being a part of a big grp of frnds is not real like it's just not possible for each one of them to like everyone from that grp and that dislike, leads to back bitching which is not good, so from the start it's good to have one real person, one true frnd by your side instead of a bunch of fakes!! Being part of a big grp of frnds doesn't mean they're always happy wd eachother and have fun, NO they don't!! It's just show offf!!
I’m a part of this group and yes it’s true there’s so much drama ad everyone hates each other and it just overall sucks. I wish I could get out of this friend group, but I don’t have any other friends so I’m kinda stuck and it’s better to have bad friends than no friends, at least for me.
The big circle of "popular" kids *honestly do* hate each other. I'm pretty quiet which means I overhear a sh*ton of things that I'm not supposed to in class, such as all the "popular" girls insulting each other based on their tans, hair, mascara, bags, wealth, relationship history etc... It's crazy. Edit: This is based off of my experiences, I'm not talking for or about everyone :)
I was in what people call the “popular kids” circle with all the athletes and attractive girls. I didn’t play sports and I was decent looking, but I had no idea ended up there. In my experience most of the drama was between the girls. Us guys just stood by and watched hell break loose. Another thing I noticed is most girl are actually terrible at insulting each other lmao.
Same here! My class gets a long pretty well but there’s still those girls that aren’t really more popular than others in our class but are more active on social media. I heard one of them talk bad stuff about her new boyfriend to the group which in my opinion is messed up. But it’s her relationship, not mine
I’m in that “popular kid” friend group- we don’t *all* hate eachother, but there’s kids that we hate like- want to f*cking leave us alone- Theres so much drama in the group and it sounds fun and cool but I wish that I could go back in time and stay with my small friend group instead- I just have to stay in the big one because I’ll be completely forgotten about if it leave my friend group.
In my class there’s a small group of ‘popular kids’ but as someone who’s friends with most of them , it’s definitely true. Most of them dislike at least one person in the group.
I totally agree with the take pics of everything. im in HS and still look back and cry over photos of past memories years ago. TAKING PICS even if you dont look your best its oh-k. (hint hint you dont have to post everything on social media)
That's what I've always said lol. The kids who were the "attractive ones in high school" are now the "unattractive ones". And the kids who were "unattractive" are now the "attractive ones"
No that's not how it works lmao yeah a lot of people have glow ups after high school but that doesn't mean that the attractive ones get uglier it's mostly genes babe
As someone who was never one to say much while in school, it’s important that you try to keep it that way. You learn soooo much just by shutting up, not talking too much about yourself or others and listening while also not belonging to any one “group” in particular. I for example, was somewhat of a “nerd” that did pretty well in Science, English and Math, but was also part of the Baseball team for my Freshman and Sophomore years. While also cool with the class clowns/bad kids.
True, and when your quiet you find out that most of the popular people are fake, like I’ll be in one class were two people are acting like best friends and in another they will be like I hate her she is so annoying blah blah blah, it’s really entertaining actually because for some reason the talk so loud so you know all there business without even wanting to
this literally described me people think I don't speak alot and think I'm not capable of doing much so now I'm workin on my grades and basketball also very close to getting my dream body and no one in school knows lol people do be underestimating "quite" kids
The first thing I noticed was how amazing and perfect your hair looks right now I’m actually in love with it!!! How do you get it so amazing!? But honestly you help me so much with so many things. Your advice is amazing
As a college senior, I am much different than I was as a high school student. Soo many new experiences and events have built me to be this person. It's all about the experience and the knowledge you gain from it. The world outside high school is SOOOO SOOO different, and the experiences that you'll have outside are much different than you expect. So using the time wisely to figure out what you want and what you'll do with your life is always a good idea. Experience everything is what I would say
This is so true. I finished high school two years ago and I'm now in university. And i can attest to this. Everything that happened in high school doesnt matter now . The world is indeed much bigger than high school. The only thing that matters now is what you had intended to do after high school. ❤
"Raise your hand in class" honestly yeah. Once someone told me I was the a teachers pet cus I answered a lot of questions, but I just told them, "at least I'm smart enough to answer the question". Left them real quiet
It’s not even about being smart. It’s about trying. The ppl who try really hard in school are going to go far in life. It’s a good habit to develop during HS.
As someone who has a huge friend group I can testify. Not even popular, but there is still ALWAYS someone that is being chased out of the group and someone being brought it. The sad part is with our best friend (or just our small group inside the group) we are genuinely sweet
As someone who was a part of big group, we just made memories and it's been 10 years and we still love each other ... Remember nothing applies to everyone, keep in mind that there are always exceptions to everything...
Tbh if you were from a big popular high school group and you cool guys are all hanging out making “memories” still, 1. You were never the popular group, 2. You and your group didn’t go very far in life, 3. Your “love each other” comment is very optimistic and you have not spoken to said friend group in YEARS and truly have no idea what any of them are up to but implying your still as close as the good ol days.
@@user-rb4lw4ef5hwell we were not popular,lol when I go my school these years as well every teacher recognise us and whenever we meet anyone from our school they gets happy and and introduce us to the ones they are with , and I am very much in contact with my all friends till now , we just celebrated our friend's birthday 3 days ago and where we are not successful, darling I and my 3 friends are chemistry professors, 3 of them are working as entrepreneur or the partners, 2 are government employees and the others are also doing well,so don't comment as if you know us, I just commented as to tell everyone that there are exceptions and if you chose better you will get relationships of life...and making memories doesn't mean you are wasting time you can enjoy and work hard simultaneously, we helped each other in each other's weak points and we got passed it that's friendship, just enjoying and just studying together are not good companies I guess , even to this day if someone needs help they know we are there to help ... materialistic or emotional I think I have said enough, maybe I was lucky or not many are lucky in this case...
@@blackcat33509 The person commented popular friend group (since that was what the video was talking about) and I’d still say the person was right. Those big POPULAR friend groups don’t really amount to anything and one’s always talking about another
@@blackcat33509 yeah hes talking about the popular friend group lmao. congrats on your disney fairy tale life but hes talking about something else entirely and you made it sound like you were on the same page, so dont slam others for your miscommunication
Also as someone who was from a big “fun” group of friends, we had small groups inside it and never spoke to anyone outside of the mini-group, when the big group did talk we started drama and could never hang out cause there were too many of us Edit: Also the big group ended up splitting into smaller ones “officially” and haven’t talked to anyone from the previous group since
My tip for a lot public highschools, is try your hardest to not stress out. It’s not worth it. The highschools I’m around don’t care if you are dumber than a brick, they just want you to get out of their school/graduate.
but how do u know that big group actually hate each other tho?? 😭😭 they just seem like a solid and GORGEOUS circle of friends, and honestly having to see them hangout and just laugh together makes me feel lonelier and lonelier each day. That's life ig 😢
I have always been in that group and we don’t hate each other . I’m probably the least popular in the group and so people Always tell me what they think of other people . Besides these 2 girls that HATE each other it’s pretty good (we’re a group of 12)
it‘s because they get really mad at each other for things that aren‘t that worth getting mad over because they‘re teenagers and instead of working it out, they just go hang out with someone else in the friend group. i was part of a bigger friend group in my final three years of school and the main reason we all hung out was to party. i was the most introverted person in the group and i didn‘t want beef and i never got into any but there were two instances of two people dating the ex of someone else shortly after breaking up and then there was just so much nonsense beef. i didn‘t really like half of the people but i was greatful to have people to hang out with but i also had my own, actually close friends who had nothing to do with that group and i felt way more comfortable there because we were all queer and the big friend group was theee other queer people and then 9 straight people
"That big popular group that you're dying to be a part of" "They all hate EACHOTHER" As someone from *that* group, yeah, it's so true bruh. Our friendship dynamic is messed up and I have 2 other friend group who I'm much closer with. We only eat lunch together and talk about boys, yeah, that's it.
in in that big friend group and we're rlly not fake to the people who are actually in the friend group 😭 but I do know a friend group like that in a grade above me and I'm pretty sure they all pretty much hate each other and the funny thing is they told us that they think everyone in our friend group hates each other like no they just don't like the rest of my friends except me and another friend 😃
I wouldn't really consider myself to be in that "big popular group" but I'm in a friend group that's somewhat big, I don't really know a few of them since they came from my other friend, but the friends I'm close with are really genuine and kind, it's only been 2 months of school so things will change, but yeah everyone seems chill
"The best revenge is being a good person" True that. I had a childhood friend with whom I was (still am) in love with. We were friends for almost a decade before he broke our friendship over a rumour started by my classmate cause she hated me for being liked by the one boy in our class whom every girl had crush on (I didn't have one on him and hence he felt comfy talking to me so). I was heart broken when my childhood friend broke our friendship over such a petty topic and wanted to ruin him. But then I did the opposite: showed him that he's not the only friend I have, getting top grades (cause he used to think I was an idiot), be confident and talkative, and most importantly, be happy. I never once dissed him on that and never harmed him anyway. Fast forward to 2019 in our reunion, and he was dying to talk to me but guess what? I didn't. Love is important, but so is self-love
As someone who is about to graduate high school: It's never that complicated nor dramatic. You get in, learn a bit, make friends with everyone willing to talk to you (or some people who you think are nice if you're more of an introvert), get out. Go to college. Keep a bit of contact. Doesn't have to be much, just a few messages here and there. Life isn't a movie. You're not gonna get picked on by the entire cheerleading team (they have better things to do than be jerks, like lots of competitions and training and stuff). The geeks aren't automatically gonna like you. The nerds don't walk around in thick glasses holding even thicker books. You're not the main character in high school. This is coming from someone who's a bit of an attention seeker. The world does not revolve around you.
True high school is definitely not like a movie but I want to add one thing, that problems and drama that go down in school might seem so big at the time, but once you leave high school most of that stuff doesn’t matter, people go there different paths and get jobs there not going to be wrapped up in whatever drama or stuff happened in the past. So don’t stress over stuff to much
I love how you mentioned how Not peaking thru high school is a good sign bc it really is! I constantly had to remind myself that all thru out hs and it got me thru it more than anything
@miss4862 Ignore the other person. It just basically means they don’t improve after high school and are always wanting to go back to their high school days where they were popular, the quarterback, etc. Idk how just “don’t peak in highschool” is supposed to be good advice bc what the heck does that even mean to do
Another one: nice girls are nice to you to boost their ego, they couldn’t give a shit about you or how your day has been lmao, also NEVER DATE OTHER YEARS! Maybe a year difference is ok but never go more than that, its not cool and theyre probably using you
i belong to a group of 8, and we totally love each other:( we love and support everyone of us:(( sometimes there’s problems but we usually talk about it and solve it edit: our group became less close as time went by lol, i mean we still love each other but we don’t talk as much. Anyway big groups can work 🫶🏻
Mine is a circle of elementary friends:>> (around 15 people) we are all still close!! Some are from 9 years ago, 7 years ago, and 5 years ago but OMG they left the school, our sections are all different, the programs and curriculums are different and we still all connect. 💐💜 that's why im always thankful for them, and YOU TOO!!! Be thankful to them.
As someone who did peak in hs, this is unfortunately so true. Turns out all my friends were fake and i feel lost nowadays when i think of it. Everyone was being so nice to me and well, they were being so fake. Found out after hs ended that all of them were just pretending to be nice to me. This has given me soo many trust issues and social anxiety. Tbh it is better to have one or two good friends rather than having a whole group which is well yk hating each other in it.
@@locdnloaded09 it means being your best version in hs like basically think of it like a downwards facing parabola graph. You are at the top at a point, and then it's downhill from there.
Some more advice: some big groups are big because they let people that have been through bullying, lied about, or had been alone joins together and forms a great friend group
lol there was a group like that with like... 20 people right after lockdown ended because obviously no one had a friend group and some didn't find any so they formed... that. except they formed smaller groups and some of them were left alone AGAIN. and one of those smaller groups were just people who peaked in hs, like being nerdy and saying that people who don't study that way are stupid. there were a few good people but the ones who weren't...💀 there was a reason why the good ones were in the student council and the rest weren't
I like the lest one. Being "nice" when someone pisses you off, is a great way to irritate them. Usually people want you to get upset if they intend to annoy you.
This is actually really good advice and I am sending this to my son who is also in High School. I would also like to add that most of the people that you thought were friends in high school, you most likely won't see or speak to most of them ever again.
This is so true. From graduating high school to your 10 year reunion will show you who stayed in your life and who isn't in your life. Those 10 years prove to show you who your real friends are
As someone who has been part of big friend groups since the beginning, yeah she said right about that. They all hate each other, I've always been that friend whom everyone rants and bitches to about others because they trust me and I am not kidding when I say that legit everyone hates each other and the amout of toxicity gets insane at times. I left it now, and I'm doing way better with my other friends, just remember to be a good person. I'm still in high school, so thanks for the advices ! :)
I went to a new school in September, I got into the big group, the toxicity level was abusive they literally all hate each other and bullied each other, I ended up just hating the fact I left genuine friends for this new school with these idiots. I ended up leaving the friend group and now I’m kinda lost.. basically I wouldn’t say I don’t have friends, I’m just looking for a way to have a peaceful non toxic day and if that means I am forced to not have friends then sure
@@Inevitably_Gaming Yess, you have to be like that, just stay away from toxicity. Feeling lost is understandable, I've been through that phase myself after leaving that grp, even tho they were toxic and I have many other friends they were my main friends I isolated myself for some time but trust me there are lots of good, genuine and non-toxic people out there, maybe they're not famous but personality matters more than popularity or anything. You won't have to stay alone, look out for the right people !
My high school years were so much fun! I got to explore pretty much everything. I started to know how it felt to get along with problematic students - they brought drugs, cigarettes and alcohol to school. I also knew how it felt to be around rich, popular, smart, sporty and religious students. I'm a very introverted person, so i didn't really belong to any groups. But man, the popular, the smart and the athletic groups are the most toxic. They felt like everyone was beneath them, and they always felt the need to brag about all their "expensive" stuff. The popular students were usually parasites that took advantage of their rich friends. Surprisingly, the most solid, caring, attentive, accepting and understanding people were the problematic kids. They didn't even let me do what they did. They listened to my stories when nobody did. They took me to a lot of cool and amazing places that i'd never been to. Years later, they still remember me and consider me as their "bro".
I have been a class clown for a huge portion of my life. I realize that there is a difference between people loving you for your humor and people loving you as a friend. 😂
„Best revenge is being a good person” 100% true! My classmate had a birthday party, everyone was invited except me. So i bought a gift and gave it to her during the party. She immediately said :”O you can stay at the party come in” but I just walked away. The next day she was really sweet to me and did everything i wanted. She still is trying to be super nice to me to this day.
I feel her, as soon as she went to bed that night those moments and memories spiked her in the guts and she died tragically of cringe from what she did. 😭😭😭I relate 1000%
@@Name-tn1zg no, I was just a bit like her (not to that extent, just similar. I wasn’t even aware of it too. I was pretty young) but I regret every bit of it
Thank you for the last advice! My group of friends are actually having a hard time dealing with a big circle of friends in school who bully the people they dislike emotionally thinking they're being cool because of it. Like, I get it, their circle of friends are all smart and popular but why downgrade other people and be proud of it? It's like they are smart but dumb at the same time. I'm so proud for my past self because I ignored them all alongside with my friends till now.
Our school was considered the ghetto school. When me and my boys got there we decided to expand our group. By our junior year our group of 5 turned into like 30. Our whole thing was just being cool with everyone and we succeeded. We turned that ghetto school into a united community for the most part.
"they hate each other" thissssssss isss soooo trueee damnn I've been a part of this group at school but after knowing it more I just felt like I don't belong there.. and the fact that they're all toxic to each other more than to others was "nah" thing to me lmaoo
love you girly! there is a rumor going around in school that i was talking bad about the other people i used to sit with. the person who started it was the boy i used to be friends with.
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 oh I I completely forgot that in the USA the school system is completely different from my country 😅 And yes geometry is math but you have at least 2 types of geometry: Descriptive Geometry and Analytic Geometry. In school when you study math, you have analitic Geometry (for example: ellipse, hyperbole, apex... Basically stuff with circles, another polygons and graphics). In Descriptive Geometry is more for the people that want to pursue Engineering and Architecture. You learn about planes, three dimensionality, projections, dihedrals... It's one of those subjects when you need to pay attention to everything and do a lot of exercises. It's more practical but you also have a lot of theory. Sorry if my English is incorrect, it's not my mother language. And I hope you understood something 😂
For someone who was from a BIG group of friend, I loved each and everyone of my friends. We have kept in touch till today so I believe that young or not, if you met the right people... it fits.
For the special Ed kids, you are just as worth of love and kindness as the other kids. Do not let anyone bully you or treat you any less. Try to learn as many life skills as you can and know you have unique gifts and qualities as any other kid and furthermore you are not dumb!!! You are smart in so many ways than you think!
I wouldn't say I peaked in high school, but I've always been subject to getting bored so I joined 8 clubs, went on every field trip, signed up for every volunteering program and was the universal best friend that seemed to never be home. High school was an amazing experience for me. 🤷♀️ Wouldn't go back though as I've joined the military with a side hustle of working at a club and started up a business in photography. Traveled to Prauge last year. It's been fun.
@@bearybeom Thank you! It can be over taxing as I tend to bite off more than I can chew at times and motivation can sometimes struggle, but I'm at my best when I'm engaging in many things
Totally agree .. i was in the big group.. we were friends from day 1 .. but they all were just bully to other people... Bullying was their entertainment... So i left them for my own good.. and i don't regret that decision 🙂
“That big group that has all the beef” most of us hate each other 😂 we get passed it often but are still salty. Then there is sometimes that one person isn’t even group that you’ll never get salty with so it’s not all bad 💜
I'm in that friend group and tbh we are mean to alot of people and get in "aurguements" but in reality we are just trying to annoy each other and we rlly all love each other and we can be fake to the people who try or think they are in our friend group. and yeah there is the two people who don't necessarily get along the greatest but their fine 😭😭
i’m not really trying to get revenge, honestly. its more of trying to be happier after my ex-friends talked behind my back :) just try to avoid toxic people, and be kind to everyone because you never know how they feel! being mean to people doesn’t make you confident!
@@lilaa.martinn sorry you were met with an ignorant response, im glad to see you're healing, I've gone through this along with my toxic ex lol, you seem cool so don't let anyone rain on you!!
Its true haha , bring back memories. I was in a big circle like really big inside highschool and also outside. There was lots of infighting but I wouldn’t say hate even if it were it was temporary. At the end of the day we were brothers
I just watched this video in 2024 and went to like and saw that I already liked it in 2022 and it makes me happy to know that she still makes these videos and motivates people and makes them love and believe in them self's ❤❤❤❤
I was part of that big friend group for years and I finally got brave enough to leave. From someone who was part of it I will tell you what Spencer is saying is the truth 💯%
as someone who USED TO be part of the “popular” group, this is 100% true. discussions about rumors to start, everyone hated each other and LITERALLY made each other cry by sh*t talking one another. not to forget them completely hating and trash talking kids who didn’t react how they wanted them to react when insulted or made fun of. wouldn’t reccomend
I agree, I was never part of the popular group but I was one of the quiet ones but I had friends, and I always overheard the popular people and they usually fight and argue and all that.
This is really true! I really wanted to be popular in high school and I was actually in the group of popular girls until they silently kicked me out. Turns out they all actually talk shit about each other behind their backs so it was honestly a blessing in disguise.
if your a mean girl, trust me you know when you are and when youre not. i once became a part of a big friend group that all hated eachother and were mean to everyone they honestly all admitted to bullying people and once i was pressured to so i called someone fat, trust me the guilt was crazy. luckily i distanced myself from then but i still hate what ive done.
The thing by getting best revenge is being the better person is 100% accurate. If someone does something to you or says something, just ignore it and pull through. It makes them look way worse for talking crap or being petty if you act mature about the situation. Everyone is gonna focus on them being mean and immature and see how maturely u handled the situation
"that big, popular group, they hate each other" true. I guess this happened everywhere 🤣🤣 bcs i'm from Indonesia and that also happened to the popular group in my school, even seniors too. They might looks close now but then the next day, they would talk behind each other back, spreading rumours and gossip, treat each other like they never exist, and the worst ofc fighting 😏😏 good thing i'm introverted soo i never involved in their drama 😂😂 its so funny for me bcs usually they end their friendship for petty things, i mean ofc friends could get into argument and fight each other, but good friend would resolve things together and forgive each other (unless its big things like crimes ofc dont)
The thing about the best revenge is so true. It bothers people more when you don’t try to get back at them. You give them no attention that way and they also feel stupid cause you are being the bigger person.
This was much needed today of all days thx spencer👍 I was reminded today of how my friends where not actually my friends and that most of them don't even enjoy my company so yeah
I’m in high school and I never heard of a rumor nothing really happens here there really aren’t Bullies there’s just random fights that break out at lunch
The big friend group stuff is REAL! I wish I never was a part of it, my life got so fucking bad. I am still friends with them but not in the group however i have such bad memories. Make good friends and LEAVE THOSE WHO ARE TOXIC. Ngl, from atleast 14 years old you should be able to tell who is toxic and who is not. Mean girls stereotype is bad. If you are a girl, don't ever believe in that stereotype. Girls need to stick together, we still have a long way to go. Plus, those "mean girls" may probably turn out to be very fun. I am a heavy reader but smart reading helped me in the last year as I had WAYYYY TOO MANY EXAMS. I was the topper and let me tell you, no one cares how you top as long as you do. I was a teacher's ward so I didn't really cheat or anything, but all the other good students did and no one really cares. It annoys me a wee bit that they get to take the easier route but it doesn't really matter.
The part where everyone in the big friend group hates each other is so true because I’m part of it and basically everyone hates each other but people wanna hang w their friends so they hang with them even when they hate the person their friend is friends with.
Lol i would like to disagree,i was a part of a big friend group(nearly 12) and we didn't hate each other... infact it was the purest form of love I've ever received... Yes,i did not like everyone equally,i liked some ppl more than others and liked some a bit less but i did not hate them...we were afterall all friends but of varying degree.. I'm in my last year of college,and i still miss those mfs from time to time...who were willing to do anything for me without wanting something in return.....,distance may seperate us but we will always be together....im my fondest of memories. Ps: English isn't my first language...so yea bear with me ye?
@@sd0372 I completely agree w u, sometimes being part of the big group isnt so great but the trust is not all of us hate each other.. recently our group has become a lot close and its more just a big group of guys and girls just hanging out ps. your english is so good for it not being ur second language!!!!!!!!!!
"That one group you want to be a part of, they all hate each other" SO TRUE there's this group of kids in my grade and they always hang out together but you always hear them talking shit behind each other's back
Freshman tips 101 from a sophomore who goes to a really rough public school: *dont be nervous. high school is not like it is in the movies, the seniors will NOT push you into lockers and bully you. *dont be friends with anybody. be cool with everyone, talk to them like they're your friends, but in reality, they ain't your friends. I had a personal experience where I had these two friends who I thought had my back and they left. *dont tell people your business. you guys might be all buddy buddy now, but they don't love you. once you guys aren't friends anymore, they could care less about your feelings. *dont act cool with someone as soon as you meet them. I had this experience where I was acting like I was friends with someone, trying to get close to them and acting like we were close and it got me into problems for the rest of the year. there's just certain things you don't do when you and someone aren't close. *watch what you say. you might think something might not offend someone, but it might. so think before you speak. *dont talk to boys/girls. you're in high school looking for an education, not a relationship. once you do that, you set yourself up to get played and you're jeopardizing your future. those boys and girls are temporary. they don't mean anything. *check your grades online every single day. doing this enables you to know what classes you're strong in and weak in, whether you need to turn something in, do extra credit or tell you when something is due. *stay away from the "popular" kids. at every high school there's a handful of kids who are well known and get attention from everyone. but that's not what you want. you want respect, not attention. all they do is slack off. if they don't care about themselves, what makes you think they care about you? *stand your ground. if someone is talking in an certain way. you handle them. you say what you gotta say and keep it moving. don't let anyone disrespect you. once people see that you don't let people talk to you the way they want, no one will ever try to mess with you. *do not, I repeat, DO NOT get into any fights. one, it's not cute. two, it doesn't solve anything. you gonna end up hating the person even more after it. and three, it's gonna screw up your record. once you get suspended for fighting, you're done. colleges and other schools are going to perceive it as if you have a behavioral problem and it's not going to look good for you. (however, if someone puts their hands on you, throw them hands sis. like my mom says, if someone hits you, you hit them back, but if not you do not put your hands on people.) *be nice to all the teachers, counsellors, and staff members. I know your parents raised you better than to raise your voice at an adult. yes, they have attitudes, yes, they can be extremely unreasonable and annoying. but if you do the simplest task of respecting them, they'll be more than happy to help you. I was cool with all my teachers and every time I missed a project or I didn't like it, they'd let me redo it or give me an extension because they liked me. and my guidance counselor and secretary really liked me. my guidance counsellor helped me apply to another high school, and when I didn't feel like going to class, my secretary would let me stay in her office or help her and I wouldn't get marked late or tardy. *stay away from drama. if someone is talking about drama, do not speak on it. because if you do, they'll twist your words up and that will start a problem up, and people will wanna fight you. and don't go looking for no problems neither. if someone says something about you, confront them, say you didn't like that and move on. *if someone doesn't like you for whatever reason, so be it. you don't go to school for people and you shouldn't care. get them be mad and keep it moving. keep it classy. *dont be messy. don't be loud and obnoxious. most kids think that going into high school, the loudest kids are the most popular and get the most attention. not true at all. people hate that. personally, I do. *dress cute. according to the way you like to dress. you know all these kids wear are polo, nike, jordan, mk, and that's it's for them. if you like vans, wear vans. if you like converse, WEAR THEM CONVERSE. but if you actually do like those brands I listed above, wear them! what ever makes you feel confident. because of what kids were saying about chokers, I stopped wearing them at school because I was scared people were going to judge me. at the end of the day, people are still gonna judge you so you might as well do whatever you want. and do people's opinions matter, no. what people think of you doesn't define you. it's what you think and what you make of yourself and how you present yourself. *keep that hygiene a1. take a shower regularly. shave underarms. when they are not shaved, your underarms smell worse and it wastes your deodorant. it doesn't got into the pits. it goes into the hairs. use a nice body mist. like the ones from Victoria's Secret or bath and body works. spray it: at the base of your neck, behind your ears, and behind your knees. use a moisturizing lotion first, then use a scented lotion. always keep a lipbalm and gloss on you. I hate when my lips are ashy throughout the day and there's nothing I can do about it. try to always have gum, your charger and your phone. *if you se security guards running, follow them. there's a fight. WORLDSTAR! *those middle school friends you had since you guys were little, forget about them. they don't care about you. high school is a brand new atmosphere. different surroundings. they meet new kids, you meet new kids. people think that just because they're in high school now, they're too good to be talking to you. you guys don't go in a line anymore like little kids. you walk yourself to your class. *bring a snack and drink to school every day. even if you bring a bottle of water and an apple, it'll help. being hungry and thirsty at school is the worst. *on the first day of school, you do not need anything but your bag, a pencil, and a folder. don't be extra bringing all your school supplies to school. do not purchase all the stuff on the list until you actually need it or a teacher says to. my gym teacher claimed we needed to wear sweats to gym, and I didn't have any, so I went and bought some and we didn't even need them like thirty bucks down the trash. *dont fall into peer pressure. no means no. if you don't want to do something, don't do it. once you get into the habit of saying no to bad things, you'll feel better about yourself. *dont bully people. I was bullied all throughout middle school and my parents didn't think it was a big deal, but every single day I went to school scared of what people were going no about my hair, my shoes, clothes. having people you thought you were cool with laughing at you all at once and not one person is asking how you feel is the worst feeling. you don't know what people might be going through at home. *dont dress for attention. don't try to dress flashy to get everyone's attention unless you actually like to dress like that. people are going to think of you negatively. and it makes you look bad. everyone is going to call you a thot. this girl always wore leggings or tight jeans. EVERY SINGLE DAY. yes, leggings are comfy, but stop wearing them every day. *dont act dumb for attention. the teachers are going to think you're annoying and seeking attention, and so are all your peers. * dont snitch. unless it's something serious. like for example, if you see somebody skipping, smoking, acting promiscuous, leave them. they'll deal with the consequences now and later. and plus! you'll be into deep beef for your whole high school career with that person. but if you see someone getting bullied, by all means step in and help them. no one deserves to get bullied. *join a club. personally, in my freshman year, I didn't do any extracurricular activities, but this year I will. I hate sports because I'm lazy. and I don't got the time or energy to practice. so, a club is probably the best option. *be yourself. everyone at high school acts exactly the same nowadays. trying to fit in with people isn't going to get you anywhere. *go to games and activities. I never went to one game my freshman year, and I should have. you'll look back on your high school experience a hope I helped. 💗 (edit: forgot to add, this is a copied comment from another video not mines I thought this was really helpful so that’s why I I copied and pasted😁)
I don’t really agree with the parts about not really making friends and caring about people and how they care about you. You can have deep meaningful and mature relationships regardless of your age and even if they don’t last forever it’s good to have real friends you can trust and lean on. I have friends I’ve known since elementary school I still talk to daily and they’re like siblings to me. I don’t think it’s helpful to tell kids to treat everyone like a potential threat or enemy, just be respectful and kind to people and to yourself. Just because you had bad experiences doesn’t mean everyone else will
@@sillygoose2347eh maybe for you; for some people, like me. everyone in my school talks crap abt eachother, and judge every small thing about everyone. when people dont like you: “not a big deal, its annoying but idc”, but for me its the opposite, i didnt like anyone, i was friends with everyone but lots of people changed, they left me for different people and talked bad abt me, thats how i disliked my class, so i have trust issues now so, i just act like im friends with everyone, but when i come home i would like to not think twice about anyone:)
“Mean girls aren’t actually mean, they’re just insecure.” No they are still mean. They still make other people feel bad about themselves. But most are insecure and that’s why they do it.
exactlyyy, so many girls are insecure but that's no reason to be horrible to people??
@@Alice-hm4hd exactly, there are plenty of nice people who are very insecure
I like to call it, weaponized insecurities. Just because you're dealing with shit in your own life doesn't give you the right to harass or abuse other folks, nor does it excuse it.
@@IgnisPhantasma Yeah I agree. If you think of it on a more extreme scale, you can’t just murder someone and say “Idid it because I have depression” it’s an excuse but it isn’t an acceptable one.
Some people are rude just to be rude, too. People don't have to have a reason to be mean to you.
I actually have a tip: if someone’s being an ass just start complimenting them and being super nice. It will embarrass the hell out of them and make them feel bad
Whenever weird “popular” people come up to me i just engage in conversation with them (but not like youd talk to a friend or anything, like a relative that saw you when you were this big lmao) and they get weirded out and leave. Basically all i have to do to scare them off is be myself :,)
Instead of being passive aggressive, just be aggressively passive.
Don’t mess with me- I WILL forgive you and compliment you
Only in America
Works only if they have a conscience. Bullies usually don't really care about morals, so acting nice with them will not make them ashamed.
“Kill them with kindness”
As someone who is an ex member of that big group, yes, they all hate each other. Everyone talked bad about each other-even to their faces. I was bullied by the mean girl which forced me to leave but it was a blessing in disguise because although it was fun it was so toxic. My advice…keep to a friend group of 4 or 5. Not 20
I'm sorry 20?? I can't even keep up with my 4 friends💀
A friend group of 20 ain’t gonna work no matter what. That ain’t a group that’s a whole ass classroom LMAO. There’s no way you can expect everybody in there to like each other
Yeah I am in a group of 4 and I honestly think it's so much better than a larger group.
Nah big friend groups can be good you just have to make sure they aren’t toxic friends and that you have no reason to start beef with anyone and you’ll be good (others might not follow that rule but if you’re all good friends they’ll generally keep it private)
I'm in a group of 12 and everyone has separate best friends but they try to steal everyones besties 😅 it's so dramatic
The big group thing is so real.. I just wished I found that out earlier bfr joining it. Regret it so much now everyone literally talks shit about each other and it was rlly toxic. That group made me rlly insecure abt my appearance, family background and weight. I do NOT recommend joining such groups lol
Her: "that big group that looks like so much fun and you're dying to be a part of it!"
Me, an introvert: Ha, extrovert problems
Same lol
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Literally tho
Lol yep
That statement was so brutally accurate, im in one of those big groups, and inside it someone hates eachother, and its split into smaller groups within the big group cause of how much they argue
Here’s a tip from me: Bullies aren’t always insecure about themselves. Some like the attention, to be in the spotlights, others are just dicks. Try not to give them satisfaction (how depends on the situation). Also you can be picked on for no freaking reason at all. So don’t blame yourself (I know it’s hard. I still struggle with it myself). I once got to ask two of my past bullies why they did it. They couldn’t even come up with a reason at first. Eventually they said random stuff like “because you have a Belgium accent”. I’m Dutch and I don’t have an accent as far as I know. Even so it would’ve been a stupid reason.
I'm sorry u struggled but what u said is a 💯% a fact. I was also bullied and what u said that's really true.
Yeah, i have a heavy irish accent and ginger hair, AND am a big fan of camogie, so obviously at my school im always made fun of for it, like, people. Like they are literally irish aswell???
I was at one point bullied for being tall. I was a “gentle giant” but one day, I wasn’t in the best mood and I set them straight and I let them have it. Not only weren’t expecting it, they left me alone for good. If it’s attention they want, give it to them. They say that violence doesn’t solve anything but I found that as long as you’re not the one who looks for trouble and you defend yourself from people like that, more people would respect you even some of the teachers. Just fight back (just don’t resort to using weapons) if that’s the only way they’ll leave you alone. The worst they can do to you is suspend you for a few days (depending upon how strict your school is) especially if you’re not the type of person who gets in trouble often.Then again, things were different in the late 90s to mid 2000s when I was in elementary school and High School.
A friend told me about her middle school bully, she knew the bully is an orphan so she just went on with the bully
my whole life i have been a bully and i have been bullied , and coming from experience most bully dont feel insecure about themselves , but they want people to look at them higher then they look at the other , yea bullies play kings which is fucked up and i am not proud of it
"Playing dumb is dumb"
People who are playing dumb: *I see this as a complete win.*
Dumb players stay winning
People who are dumb: playing dumb? Wha does that mean?
name. surname. She’s saying that playing dumb is dumb , but that’s actually what the people playing dumb want, they want to look dumb so it’s a win for them
real talk man idk if youre in hs or not but this shit goes the best with this comment and i want people to see this advice: dont wait until the end of hs to get your gpa up. i fucked around for the first two years and had a 2.3 gpa i ended up needing an average of 3.7 over the next two years just to get a 3.0 for merit scholarships and if i didnt grind my ass off those last two years i probably wouldnt have gone college.
@@rosed1481 I just do it sometimes because it makes me feel like I’m funny lmao
as a girl whos about to go from a public school to an all girls expensive private school, THANK YOU SPENCER😭💗
“Take photos of everything”
My phone: Your iPhone storage is full😀
Download onto your computer. Delete All photos on phone
@@bigman25plus25 That’s… why didn’t I think of that? I’m dumb, thank you
You’re doing it right.
Google photos saved me 😂 I could upload a few thousand pics to it and delete it from my photos app
She means like important memories, nostalgic moments, not like EVERYTHING
Facts. That big group of “friends” don’t really wanna be your friends. Speaking from experience.
Yeah I was best friends with all the girls in the popular group throughout elementary school but I still had a friend group of three that I would hang out with when they were busy. Once we got to middle school, they dropped me and acted like it was nothing. I see most of them on a daily basis and they just act like they don’t see me.
Yep true
Speaking from experience too, they really hate each other and when i left the group they bullied me. Guess what? The group fell apart lmao
@@meaghanobrien7045 dang everything can change once you enter another grade
Yup i was like pretty young and I was friends with the "popular kids" and they obviously hated me they weren't good at hiding it. When we were all together they would literally go to another room and wouldn't let me go in the room i was like 8 like wtf now I'm not friends with them anymore
Here’s my tip: don’t procrastinate. 🌚
yup, the best advice 😩
exactly what I'm doing right now
That's the main #1 advice to follow by. Academically and socially.
TRUE
Yup
I have a few
• Don't walk around your school with your head down.
• If someone harms you physically, don't be scared to get in trouble do the same thing back unless it was an accident.
• If you wear uniform, instead of trying to wear it like other people, wear it your own way.
• Don't try to desperately glow up and change your style, try new things and wait for the change to come on it's own.
• Don't involve yourself with people who talk about everybody else behind their back.
• Watch out for narcissim as it is common in teenagers.
• Before starting highschool, don't have a mindset that thinks that it will be the most perfect experience and everyone will be nice (because thats just not true)
• Try to not beef with people if its not necessary as well as make enemies which you will constantly trash talk, that's just a bad idea.
• Learn how to roast people.
• There's lots of pressure around having social media even if you dont want to, don't force yourself.
• Always be confident, if you have friends , if you don't, no matter what, speak clearly and confidently.
• You will have friendship drama (especially if you are a girl), don't desperately try to avoid it.
• Now this is a contreversial one but if you are bored in class or don't have friends, don't feel guilty to eavesdrop as it can help you learn about who the people around you are and who you should be wary of.
Extra:
1. Don't waste time on going to parties and clubs.
2. not be a part of the groups who do dodgy things.
Well said! In addition to all of that, don't be afraid to stand up for what is right. If you KNOW what someone is doing is wrong, speak to them privately about it. If they refuse to listen... they can't say that they were not warned.
I can 100% confirm that the big friend group hates each over. As soon as one person is gone everyone starts talking shit about them
Yup! I’m in the friend group and we don’t even hide it that we hate each other.
omg yeah theres like a huge group of those girls in my grade and literally they all hate each other. Theres always some drama going on between them, its like one big group but theres like 2 or 3 smaller groups in the big group.
And that group exists in the basis of pretty previllage
Yes!! YK being a part of a big grp of frnds is not real like it's just not possible for each one of them to like everyone from that grp and that dislike, leads to back bitching which is not good, so from the start it's good to have one real person, one true frnd by your side instead of a bunch of fakes!! Being part of a big grp of frnds doesn't mean they're always happy wd eachother and have fun, NO they don't!! It's just show offf!!
I’m a part of this group and yes it’s true there’s so much drama ad everyone hates each other and it just overall sucks. I wish I could get out of this friend group, but I don’t have any other friends so I’m kinda stuck and it’s better to have bad friends than no friends, at least for me.
The big circle of "popular" kids *honestly do* hate each other. I'm pretty quiet which means I overhear a sh*ton of things that I'm not supposed to in class, such as all the "popular" girls insulting each other based on their tans, hair, mascara, bags, wealth, relationship history etc...
It's crazy.
Edit: This is based off of my experiences, I'm not talking for or about everyone :)
I was in what people call the “popular kids” circle with all the athletes and attractive girls. I didn’t play sports and I was decent looking, but I had no idea ended up there. In my experience most of the drama was between the girls. Us guys just stood by and watched hell break loose. Another thing I noticed is most girl are actually terrible at insulting each other lmao.
Same here! My class gets a long pretty well but there’s still those girls that aren’t really more popular than others in our class but are more active on social media. I heard one of them talk bad stuff about her new boyfriend to the group which in my opinion is messed up. But it’s her relationship, not mine
I’m in that “popular kid” friend group- we don’t *all* hate eachother, but there’s kids that we hate like- want to f*cking leave us alone- Theres so much drama in the group and it sounds fun and cool but I wish that I could go back in time and stay with my small friend group instead- I just have to stay in the big one because I’ll be completely forgotten about if it leave my friend group.
I can agree
In my class there’s a small group of ‘popular kids’ but as someone who’s friends with most of them , it’s definitely true. Most of them dislike at least one person in the group.
"best revenge is being a good person" FACTS
Or actual revenge 😊
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 If you take revenge then you're essentially not better then the person who wronged you in the first place🤷
@@crazyavocado7119 the point is not to be better, it's to be even 🙂.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035nah, just let karma do its thing and then you don’t even have to feel bad.
@@Easton721 I wouldn't feel bad.
If the mean girl is insecure, that’s their problem. I’m not going to make excuses for someone being a shitty person
I totally agree with the take pics of everything. im in HS and still look back and cry over photos of past memories years ago. TAKING PICS even if you dont look your best its oh-k. (hint hint you dont have to post everything on social media)
I’m a sophomore and I don’t even use social media anymore.As far as taking pics it’s good, I take them for my memory not to impress others.
my ex friend makes fun of photos of me and my frens and if we have a small memory or pic of sum funny she did she’ll call me and my friend a pervert -
i'm 16 and almost has not even a single pic with anyone be it friends or anyone :(
When I was 12 I used to hate my body but now (18) when I look at my old photo I go like “damnnnn I look gooood👀”
I just hate my looks..😭
I wish I had better looks😭
That's what I've always said lol. The kids who were the "attractive ones in high school" are now the "unattractive ones". And the kids who were "unattractive" are now the "attractive ones"
No that's not how it works lmao yeah a lot of people have glow ups after high school but that doesn't mean that the attractive ones get uglier it's mostly genes babe
I always say this lol and it’s so true too 😂
Because they know they are ugly so that's why they change.
Idk plenty of us just are ugly forever tbh
@@icemeister2 your fault for not wanting to change
As someone who was never one to say much while in school, it’s important that you try to keep it that way. You learn soooo much just by shutting up, not talking too much about yourself or others and listening while also not belonging to any one “group” in particular. I for example, was somewhat of a “nerd” that did pretty well in Science, English and Math, but was also part of the Baseball team for my Freshman and Sophomore years. While also cool with the class clowns/bad kids.
True, and when your quiet you find out that most of the popular people are fake, like I’ll be in one class were two people are acting like best friends and in another they will be like I hate her she is so annoying blah blah blah, it’s really entertaining actually because for some reason the talk so loud so you know all there business without even wanting to
since I'm a quiet person, I'll definitely keep this in mind when I start highchool next year
Yep. Same. Shutting up every once in a while can teach you a lot.
I'm a quiet kid and I thought knowing about all the stuff going on around you was normal, but I guess it isn't lol.
this literally described me people think I don't speak alot and think I'm not capable of doing much so now I'm workin on my grades and basketball also very close to getting my dream body and no one in school knows lol people do be underestimating "quite" kids
literally love this girl with all my heart and will protect her at all cost!! ❤
The first thing I noticed was how amazing and perfect your hair looks right now I’m actually in love with it!!! How do you get it so amazing!? But honestly you help me so much with so many things. Your advice is amazing
That's what i was thinking through the whole video😍🔥
Boys noticed something else
@@7860092 🤢🤢🤮🤮 why did I see this comment poor girl can't even dress how she wants to I feel bad for her
Omg sameee
@@islamicknowledge9359 shat up.. she chose to wear this and guys see what girls make us see :)
As a college senior, I am much different than I was as a high school student. Soo many new experiences and events have built me to be this person. It's all about the experience and the knowledge you gain from it. The world outside high school is SOOOO SOOO different, and the experiences that you'll have outside are much different than you expect. So using the time wisely to figure out what you want and what you'll do with your life is always a good idea. Experience everything is what I would say
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What do u mean by SOO SOO different? Like..in a good way or bad??
This is so true. I finished high school two years ago and I'm now in university. And i can attest to this. Everything that happened in high school doesnt matter now . The world is indeed much bigger than high school. The only thing that matters now is what you had intended to do after high school. ❤
"Raise your hand in class" honestly yeah. Once someone told me I was the a teachers pet cus I answered a lot of questions, but I just told them, "at least I'm smart enough to answer the question". Left them real quiet
They got played
It’s not even about being smart. It’s about trying. The ppl who try really hard in school are going to go far in life. It’s a good habit to develop during HS.
The lazy ppl won’t go far in life. Lazy ppl suck. I hate lazy ppl.
But that was a good comeback.
@@donaldfromtiktok6424 not necessarily
As someone who has a huge friend group I can testify. Not even popular, but there is still ALWAYS someone that is being chased out of the group and someone being brought it. The sad part is with our best friend (or just our small group inside the group) we are genuinely sweet
I got chased out and I’m kinda grateful 😅 of course it hurt but after a while I have been doing a lot of healthy habits
As someone who was a part of big group, we just made memories and it's been 10 years and we still love each other ... Remember nothing applies to everyone, keep in mind that there are always exceptions to everything...
That’s was 10 years ago and probably some more. Right now it’s horrible to be in a big group (from my experience)
Tbh if you were from a big popular high school group and you cool guys are all hanging out making “memories” still, 1. You were never the popular group, 2. You and your group didn’t go very far in life, 3. Your “love each other” comment is very optimistic and you have not spoken to said friend group in YEARS and truly have no idea what any of them are up to but implying your still as close as the good ol days.
@@user-rb4lw4ef5hwell we were not popular,lol when I go my school these years as well every teacher recognise us and whenever we meet anyone from our school they gets happy and and introduce us to the ones they are with , and I am very much in contact with my all friends till now , we just celebrated our friend's birthday 3 days ago and where we are not successful, darling I and my 3 friends are chemistry professors, 3 of them are working as entrepreneur or the partners, 2 are government employees and the others are also doing well,so don't comment as if you know us, I just commented as to tell everyone that there are exceptions and if you chose better you will get relationships of life...and making memories doesn't mean you are wasting time you can enjoy and work hard simultaneously, we helped each other in each other's weak points and we got passed it that's friendship, just enjoying and just studying together are not good companies I guess , even to this day if someone needs help they know we are there to help ... materialistic or emotional I think I have said enough, maybe I was lucky or not many are lucky in this case...
@@blackcat33509 The person commented popular friend group (since that was what the video was talking about) and I’d still say the person was right. Those big POPULAR friend groups don’t really amount to anything and one’s always talking about another
@@blackcat33509 yeah hes talking about the popular friend group lmao. congrats on your disney fairy tale life but hes talking about something else entirely and you made it sound like you were on the same page, so dont slam others for your miscommunication
Also as someone who was from a big “fun” group of friends, we had small groups inside it and never spoke to anyone outside of the mini-group, when the big group did talk we started drama and could never hang out cause there were too many of us
Edit: Also the big group ended up splitting into smaller ones “officially” and haven’t talked to anyone from the previous group since
This is so relatable.
Omg same now it's so fragmented that we hate even the sub groups rn. It's just too toxic rn
I want to get out of this asap
godthiswastoomuchofmyfriendgroupsexperience
My tip for a lot public highschools, is try your hardest to not stress out. It’s not worth it. The highschools I’m around don’t care if you are dumber than a brick, they just want you to get out of their school/graduate.
but how do u know that big group actually hate each other tho?? 😭😭
they just seem like a solid and GORGEOUS circle of friends, and honestly having to see them hangout and just laugh together makes me feel lonelier and lonelier each day.
That's life ig 😢
I have always been in that group and we don’t hate each other . I’m probably the least popular in the group and so people Always tell me what they think of other people . Besides these 2 girls that HATE each other it’s pretty good (we’re a group of 12)
ive been in one it's all fake , they hate each other but hang out together
If it's that big group that bonds over talking shit about other people, they're not real friends.
it‘s because they get really mad at each other for things that aren‘t that worth getting mad over because they‘re teenagers and instead of working it out, they just go hang out with someone else in the friend group. i was part of a bigger friend group in my final three years of school and the main reason we all hung out was to party. i was the most introverted person in the group and i didn‘t want beef and i never got into any but there were two instances of two people dating the ex of someone else shortly after breaking up and then there was just so much nonsense beef. i didn‘t really like half of the people but i was greatful to have people to hang out with but i also had my own, actually close friends who had nothing to do with that group and i felt way more comfortable there because we were all queer and the big friend group was theee other queer people and then 9 straight people
too true
"That big popular group that you're dying to be a part of"
"They all hate EACHOTHER"
As someone from *that* group, yeah, it's so true bruh. Our friendship dynamic is messed up and I have 2 other friend group who I'm much closer with. We only eat lunch together and talk about boys, yeah, that's it.
in in that big friend group and we're rlly not fake to the people who are actually in the friend group 😭 but I do know a friend group like that in a grade above me and I'm pretty sure they all pretty much hate each other and the funny thing is they told us that they think everyone in our friend group hates each other like no they just don't like the rest of my friends except me and another friend 😃
Yeah , I got to know about it being a part myself ,it sucks sometimes.
If you don't know who the "big friend group" is dose that mean your in it?
@@ItzDorky no
I wouldn't really consider myself to be in that "big popular group" but I'm in a friend group that's somewhat big, I don't really know a few of them since they came from my other friend, but the friends I'm close with are really genuine and kind, it's only been 2 months of school so things will change, but yeah everyone seems chill
"The best revenge is being a good person"
True that. I had a childhood friend with whom I was (still am) in love with. We were friends for almost a decade before he broke our friendship over a rumour started by my classmate cause she hated me for being liked by the one boy in our class whom every girl had crush on (I didn't have one on him and hence he felt comfy talking to me so). I was heart broken when my childhood friend broke our friendship over such a petty topic and wanted to ruin him. But then I did the opposite: showed him that he's not the only friend I have, getting top grades (cause he used to think I was an idiot), be confident and talkative, and most importantly, be happy. I never once dissed him on that and never harmed him anyway.
Fast forward to 2019 in our reunion, and he was dying to talk to me but guess what? I didn't.
Love is important, but so is self-love
Lol I'm not reading that
Thats great :)
As someone who is about to graduate high school:
It's never that complicated nor dramatic. You get in, learn a bit, make friends with everyone willing to talk to you (or some people who you think are nice if you're more of an introvert), get out. Go to college. Keep a bit of contact. Doesn't have to be much, just a few messages here and there. Life isn't a movie. You're not gonna get picked on by the entire cheerleading team (they have better things to do than be jerks, like lots of competitions and training and stuff). The geeks aren't automatically gonna like you. The nerds don't walk around in thick glasses holding even thicker books. You're not the main character in high school. This is coming from someone who's a bit of an attention seeker. The world does not revolve around you.
I’m glad to hear this ngl. I hate attention.
True high school is definitely not like a movie but I want to add one thing, that problems and drama that go down in school might seem so big at the time, but once you leave high school most of that stuff doesn’t matter, people go there different paths and get jobs there not going to be wrapped up in whatever drama or stuff happened in the past. So don’t stress over stuff to much
I just realized Is your pfp FROM LOKI?
@@Vivoo256 yes
@@BatmanSwiss 🤩🤩🤩
OMG GIRL YOUR HAIR, SLAY🎉🎉
The big group is actually one genuine, nice and fun person being himself and people who want to be like him gravitating around him.
I was in that group. Its really not
THIS
That's a primary school group, not a highschool one
@@Nanners_Art there's literally a group like that in my high school
I love how you mentioned how Not peaking thru high school is a good sign bc it really is! I constantly had to remind myself that all thru out hs and it got me thru it more than anything
I don't understand this one can you explain to me please?
Yeah what does peaking mean?
@@miss4862 being the best version of yourself or having the time of yourlife I still don't get how that's a good thing
@miss4862 Ignore the other person. It just basically means they don’t improve after high school and are always wanting to go back to their high school days where they were popular, the quarterback, etc.
Idk how just “don’t peak in highschool” is supposed to be good advice bc what the heck does that even mean to do
I’m a freshman in high school and needed to hear this. Thank you for this advice.
Yeah I’m a sophomore
Another one: nice girls are nice to you to boost their ego, they couldn’t give a shit about you or how your day has been lmao, also NEVER DATE OTHER YEARS! Maybe a year difference is ok but never go more than that, its not cool and theyre probably using you
@SnowManSand They can be, but they aren’t. Obviously it’s not everyone, you can tell who it is though.
omg your hair is so pretty! your are a queen!
i belong to a group of 8, and we totally love each other:( we love and support everyone of us:(( sometimes there’s problems but we usually talk about it and solve it
edit: our group became less close as time went by lol, i mean we still love each other but we don’t talk as much. Anyway big groups can work 🫶🏻
Mine is a circle of elementary friends:>> (around 15 people) we are all still close!! Some are from 9 years ago, 7 years ago, and 5 years ago but OMG they left the school, our sections are all different, the programs and curriculums are different and we still all connect. 💐💜 that's why im always thankful for them, and YOU TOO!!! Be thankful to them.
Ur lucky i been alone all high school as i hve social anxiety
@@yishai720 this is true if their childhood but the ones that are loud and annoying deff have beef with each other
Same! Idk why people look at friends groups and assume we hate each other without even knowing what's going on inside it
bullshit
“Sometimes saying nothing says everything”
Yeah and so does an uppercut
Ye your right. It says you have anger issues.
And it says you want a detention.
@@Dunno683 5 months and your the first person to reply to this
Mad respect
And a suplex.
@@ViralMemesOnline facts
As someone who did peak in hs, this is unfortunately so true. Turns out all my friends were fake and i feel lost nowadays when i think of it. Everyone was being so nice to me and well, they were being so fake. Found out after hs ended that all of them were just pretending to be nice to me. This has given me soo many trust issues and social anxiety. Tbh it is better to have one or two good friends rather than having a whole group which is well yk hating each other in it.
i’m sorry this may just be me but what is peaking in hs i’m so confused
@@locdnloaded09 it means being your best version in hs like basically think of it like a downwards facing parabola graph. You are at the top at a point, and then it's downhill from there.
@@manazyt ohhh okk thanks so much
Some more advice: some big groups are big because they let people that have been through bullying, lied about, or had been alone joins together and forms a great friend group
That’s how my friend group started and I got chased out
lol there was a group like that with like... 20 people right after lockdown ended because obviously no one had a friend group and some didn't find any so they formed... that. except they formed smaller groups and some of them were left alone AGAIN. and one of those smaller groups were just people who peaked in hs, like being nerdy and saying that people who don't study that way are stupid. there were a few good people but the ones who weren't...💀 there was a reason why the good ones were in the student council and the rest weren't
My friend group is gull of people with mental health issues and have been rejected from the toxic fgs so we are pretty close friends.
I like the lest one. Being "nice" when someone pisses you off, is a great way to irritate them. Usually people want you to get upset if they intend to annoy you.
This is actually really good advice and I am sending this to my son who is also in High School. I would also like to add that most of the people that you thought were friends in high school, you most likely won't see or speak to most of them ever again.
Why are you a old as dad watching little girls like this 😰😑😄
@@Jason.cbr1000rr stuff randomly pops up. Not that old my guy, come on now.
This is so true. From graduating high school to your 10 year reunion will show you who stayed in your life and who isn't in your life. Those 10 years prove to show you who your real friends are
This message makes me happy thanks :)
@@sergeantsolomon6936 ok my apologies...
As someone who has been part of big friend groups since the beginning, yeah she said right about that. They all hate each other, I've always been that friend whom everyone rants and bitches to about others because they trust me and I am not kidding when I say that legit everyone hates each other and the amout of toxicity gets insane at times. I left it now, and I'm doing way better with my other friends, just remember to be a good person. I'm still in high school, so thanks for the advices ! :)
Glad you came outta that environment. All the best in the future.👍
I went to a new school in September, I got into the big group, the toxicity level was abusive they literally all hate each other and bullied each other, I ended up just hating the fact I left genuine friends for this new school with these idiots. I ended up leaving the friend group and now I’m kinda lost.. basically I wouldn’t say I don’t have friends, I’m just looking for a way to have a peaceful non toxic day and if that means I am forced to not have friends then sure
@@Inevitably_Gaming don't worry you will find really best people now.👍
@@Inevitably_Gaming Yess, you have to be like that, just stay away from toxicity. Feeling lost is understandable, I've been through that phase myself after leaving that grp, even tho they were toxic and I have many other friends they were my main friends I isolated myself for some time but trust me there are lots of good, genuine and non-toxic people out there, maybe they're not famous but personality matters more than popularity or anything. You won't have to stay alone, look out for the right people !
Your hair looks so pretty!
me not listening, and only looking at your GORGEOUS HAIR. GIRL , RESPECT
My high school years were so much fun! I got to explore pretty much everything. I started to know how it felt to get along with problematic students - they brought drugs, cigarettes and alcohol to school. I also knew how it felt to be around rich, popular, smart, sporty and religious students. I'm a very introverted person, so i didn't really belong to any groups. But man, the popular, the smart and the athletic groups are the most toxic. They felt like everyone was beneath them, and they always felt the need to brag about all their "expensive" stuff. The popular students were usually parasites that took advantage of their rich friends.
Surprisingly, the most solid, caring, attentive, accepting and understanding people were the problematic kids. They didn't even let me do what they did. They listened to my stories when nobody did. They took me to a lot of cool and amazing places that i'd never been to. Years later, they still remember me and consider me as their "bro".
thats amazing
my biggest regret was not putting effort into anything to try to look cool, don’t care what people think of you and try hard at everything you do
I have been a class clown for a huge portion of my life. I realize that there is a difference between people loving you for your humor and people loving you as a friend. 😂
Gurl I love your hair.
„Best revenge is being a good person”
100% true! My classmate had a birthday party, everyone was invited except me. So i bought a gift and gave it to her during the party. She immediately said :”O you can stay at the party come in” but I just walked away. The next day she was really sweet to me and did everything i wanted. She still is trying to be super nice to me to this day.
That's actually kinda funny lol
I feel her, as soon as she went to bed that night those moments and memories spiked her in the guts and she died tragically of cringe from what she did. 😭😭😭I relate 1000%
@@Vivoo256 are u that girl?
@@Name-tn1zg no, I was just a bit like her (not to that extent, just similar. I wasn’t even aware of it too. I was pretty young) but I regret every bit of it
LMAOAOAOAOAOAOAOOAOA love u for this
Thank you for the last advice! My group of friends are actually having a hard time dealing with a big circle of friends in school who bully the people they dislike emotionally thinking they're being cool because of it. Like, I get it, their circle of friends are all smart and popular but why downgrade other people and be proud of it? It's like they are smart but dumb at the same time. I'm so proud for my past self because I ignored them all alongside with my friends till now.
Our school was considered the ghetto school. When me and my boys got there we decided to expand our group. By our junior year our group of 5 turned into like 30. Our whole thing was just being cool with everyone and we succeeded. We turned that ghetto school into a united community for the most part.
"they hate each other" thissssssss isss soooo trueee damnn I've been a part of this group at school but after knowing it more I just felt like I don't belong there.. and the fact that they're all toxic to each other more than to others was "nah" thing to me lmaoo
love you girly! there is a rumor going around in school that i was talking bad about the other people i used to sit with. the person who started it was the boy i used to be friends with.
My advice: do not pick geometry and if you pay attention to philosophy classes you don't need to study 😂
I have to take geometry next year in sophomore year
Is geometry math?
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 yuh
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 oh I I completely forgot that in the USA the school system is completely different from my country 😅 And yes geometry is math but you have at least 2 types of geometry: Descriptive Geometry and Analytic Geometry. In school when you study math, you have analitic Geometry (for example: ellipse, hyperbole, apex... Basically stuff with circles, another polygons and graphics). In Descriptive Geometry is more for the people that want to pursue Engineering and Architecture. You learn about planes, three dimensionality, projections, dihedrals... It's one of those subjects when you need to pay attention to everything and do a lot of exercises. It's more practical but you also have a lot of theory.
Sorry if my English is incorrect, it's not my mother language. And I hope you understood something 😂
why not geometry? Im doing it right now and it seems good.
For someone who was from a BIG group of friend, I loved each and everyone of my friends. We have kept in touch till today so I believe that young or not, if you met the right people... it fits.
Yes, not all people and schools are the same. It depends
For the special Ed kids, you are just as worth of love and kindness as the other kids. Do not let anyone bully you or treat you any less. Try to learn as many life skills as you can and know you have unique gifts and qualities as any other kid and furthermore you are not dumb!!! You are smart in so many ways than you think!
your hair so so pretty!
✨the best revenge is to be a good person✨
That is so true! Learned that the hard way ig
I wouldn't say I peaked in high school, but I've always been subject to getting bored so I joined 8 clubs, went on every field trip, signed up for every volunteering program and was the universal best friend that seemed to never be home. High school was an amazing experience for me. 🤷♀️
Wouldn't go back though as I've joined the military with a side hustle of working at a club and started up a business in photography. Traveled to Prauge last year. It's been fun.
This is the most extroverted comment I've ever read 👁️👄👁️I'm impressed-
@@melikeshorts9971 Only one life you know?
wow i really admire you, you’re living life to the fullest and not letting any moment go to waste. that’s just amazing
@@bearybeom Thank you! It can be over taxing as I tend to bite off more than I can chew at times and motivation can sometimes struggle, but I'm at my best when I'm engaging in many things
@@jayymorris5285 Such a wise person, you inspire people!!
“I didn’t peak in high school I’m still out her getting cuter” lollllllllll sorry
YESSS WE LOVE LIL NAS X
@@tomato_salad6731 that’s Jack Harlow 💀
@@dani9004 i know that line from industry baby and my first thought was lil nas X
what is peaking
what is peaking
And this right here is why I love Spencer!!! She’s honestly so honest and doesn’t back down from telling the truth!
The fit and jewelry slays 💯
Totally agree .. i was in the big group.. we were friends from day 1 .. but they all were just bully to other people... Bullying was their entertainment... So i left them for my own good.. and i don't regret that decision 🙂
good for u!
"Take photo's of everything"
My teacher confiscates our phones before class starts, so im doomed.
Girl you are seriously so prettyyyy❤❤
“That big group that has all the beef” most of us hate each other 😂 we get passed it often but are still salty. Then there is sometimes that one person isn’t even group that you’ll never get salty with so it’s not all bad 💜
I'm in that friend group and tbh we are mean to alot of people and get in "aurguements" but in reality we are just trying to annoy each other and we rlly all love each other and we can be fake to the people who try or think they are in our friend group. and yeah there is the two people who don't necessarily get along the greatest but their fine 😭😭
@@THEREALPOOKIE18 Yeah you're not cool girl, just a snake 😂
@@PureCurebyFaith I promise I'm not that mean I just get mad easily 💀🖐
i’m not really trying to get revenge, honestly. its more of trying to be happier after my ex-friends talked behind my back :) just try to avoid toxic people, and be kind to everyone because you never know how they feel! being mean to people doesn’t make you confident!
@@aidyningram4530 nope
Omgggg. She talked behind your back?! THATS SO RUDEEEEE OMGGG 🙄
there's worse things going on in the world get over it
@@lilaa.martinn sorry you were met with an ignorant response, im glad to see you're healing, I've gone through this along with my toxic ex lol, you seem cool so don't let anyone rain on you!!
When you pass by them say hi with a confident voice and a smile and leave . That will make them know that what they did doesn’t hurt you.
Same I just wanna be myself and have fun
Its true haha , bring back memories. I was in a big circle like really big inside highschool and also outside. There was lots of infighting but I wouldn’t say hate even if it were it was temporary. At the end of the day we were brothers
I just watched this video in 2024 and went to like and saw that I already liked it in 2022 and it makes me happy to know that she still makes these videos and motivates people and makes them love and believe in them self's ❤❤❤❤
I was part of that big friend group for years and I finally got brave enough to leave. From someone who was part of it I will tell you what Spencer is saying is the truth 💯%
as someone who USED TO be part of the “popular” group, this is 100% true. discussions about rumors to start, everyone hated each other and LITERALLY made each other cry by sh*t talking one another. not to forget them completely hating and trash talking kids who didn’t react how they wanted them to react when insulted or made fun of.
wouldn’t reccomend
Agreed
I highly doubt your in highschool what kind of “popular” girl who has to act a certain way to be popular has a :D at the end of their name
I agree, I was never part of the popular group but I was one of the quiet ones but I had friends, and I always overheard the popular people and they usually fight and argue and all that.
I love the curls, your hair looks so beautiful!
If this girl is real
Someone marry her.
She is a keeper.
This is really true! I really wanted to be popular in high school and I was actually in the group of popular girls until they silently kicked me out. Turns out they all actually talk shit about each other behind their backs so it was honestly a blessing in disguise.
Thanks so much!!!! I was just looking through ur channel and saw this, I’m going into my first year of high school in September
"Yeah they all hate each other"
And i bursted laughing
if your a mean girl, trust me you know when you are and when youre not. i once became a part of a big friend group that all hated eachother and were mean to everyone they honestly all admitted to bullying people and once i was pressured to so i called someone fat, trust me the guilt was crazy. luckily i distanced myself from then but i still hate what ive done.
pov:you accidentally got this video recommended and now you feel nostalgia and miss your teenage years(although you hate it when you're a teenager)
The thing by getting best revenge is being the better person is 100% accurate. If someone does something to you or says something, just ignore it and pull through. It makes them look way worse for talking crap or being petty if you act mature about the situation. Everyone is gonna focus on them being mean and immature and see how maturely u handled the situation
It’s really helpful and good advise I needed this 🙃
Wow, that was a great video! Now it’s time to listen to the advice
"that big, popular group, they hate each other" true. I guess this happened everywhere 🤣🤣 bcs i'm from Indonesia and that also happened to the popular group in my school, even seniors too. They might looks close now but then the next day, they would talk behind each other back, spreading rumours and gossip, treat each other like they never exist, and the worst ofc fighting 😏😏 good thing i'm introverted soo i never involved in their drama 😂😂 its so funny for me bcs usually they end their friendship for petty things, i mean ofc friends could get into argument and fight each other, but good friend would resolve things together and forgive each other (unless its big things like crimes ofc dont)
The thing about the best revenge is so true. It bothers people more when you don’t try to get back at them. You give them no attention that way and they also feel stupid cause you are being the bigger person.
Not peaking in high school is a good sign: *Y* *E* *S*
What’s peaking mean?-
@@jelly_raccoon_6773 looks good, being pretty, having an amazing personality, and having life going your way
@@rehya8810 what?
Doesn't peaking just mean that you don't cheat on test?
@@michaelkg.7943 What? No. 🤦♀️ It means a glow up
@@rehya8810 peak means peak, like top. Like mountain. Peak is when you were at your best.
Your really pretty
the fact that our school doesn’t even have any of these issues 😭👍🏻
no one’s popular other than the principal walking through the corridors 💀
how how is your school so normal 😭
@@THEREALPOOKIE18 indian school shit ig 😭
They strict af out here
Pretty much every student knows every student here
@@your.querencia wow I mean we know each other and they are pretty strict but wow 😭
@@THEREALPOOKIE18 nahhh cuz some random girl came up to me said "ur ___ right??? Heh :D" N I was like "WHO ARE YOU N WHY DO YOU KNOW ME 😭"
This was much needed today of all days thx spencer👍
I was reminded today of how my friends where not actually my friends and that most of them don't even enjoy my company so yeah
Girl you are sooooo beautiful. You look so good today. You are so good at what you do and keep doing great things❤️
Ur hair is so gorgeous
I’m in high school and I never heard of a rumor nothing really happens here there really aren’t Bullies there’s just random fights that break out at lunch
The big friend group stuff is REAL! I wish I never was a part of it, my life got so fucking bad. I am still friends with them but not in the group however i have such bad memories.
Make good friends and LEAVE THOSE WHO ARE TOXIC. Ngl, from atleast 14 years old you should be able to tell who is toxic and who is not.
Mean girls stereotype is bad. If you are a girl, don't ever believe in that stereotype. Girls need to stick together, we still have a long way to go. Plus, those "mean girls" may probably turn out to be very fun.
I am a heavy reader but smart reading helped me in the last year as I had WAYYYY TOO MANY EXAMS. I was the topper and let me tell you, no one cares how you top as long as you do. I was a teacher's ward so I didn't really cheat or anything, but all the other good students did and no one really cares. It annoys me a wee bit that they get to take the easier route but it doesn't really matter.
The part where everyone in the big friend group hates each other is so true because I’m part of it and basically everyone hates each other but people wanna hang w their friends so they hang with them even when they hate the person their friend is friends with.
Lol i would like to disagree,i was a part of a big friend group(nearly 12) and we didn't hate each other... infact it was the purest form of love I've ever received...
Yes,i did not like everyone equally,i liked some ppl more than others and liked some a bit less but i did not hate them...we were afterall all friends but of varying degree..
I'm in my last year of college,and i still miss those mfs from time to time...who were willing to do anything for me without wanting something in return.....,distance may seperate us but we will always be together....im my fondest of memories.
Ps: English isn't my first language...so yea bear with me ye?
@@sd0372 I completely agree w u, sometimes being part of the big group isnt so great but the trust is not all of us hate each other.. recently our group has become a lot close and its more just a big group of guys and girls just hanging out
ps. your english is so good for it not being ur second language!!!!!!!!!!
Going into highschool this year I really appreciate it ❤️ thank you ☺️
"That one group you want to be a part of, they all hate each other"
SO TRUE there's this group of kids in my grade and they always hang out together but you always hear them talking shit behind each other's back
Freshman tips 101 from a sophomore who goes to a really rough public school:
*dont be nervous. high school is not like it is in the movies, the seniors will NOT push you into lockers and bully you.
*dont be friends with anybody. be cool with everyone, talk to them like they're your friends, but in reality, they ain't your friends. I had a personal experience where I had these two friends who I thought had my back and they left.
*dont tell people your business. you guys might be all buddy buddy now, but they don't love you. once you guys aren't friends anymore, they could care less about your feelings.
*dont act cool with someone as soon as you meet them. I had this experience where I was acting like I was friends with someone, trying to get close to them and acting like we were close and it got me into problems for the rest of the year. there's just certain things you don't do when you and someone aren't close.
*watch what you say. you might think something might not offend someone, but it might. so think before you speak.
*dont talk to boys/girls. you're in high school looking for an education, not a relationship. once you do that, you set yourself up to get played and you're jeopardizing your future. those boys and girls are temporary. they don't mean anything.
*check your grades online every single day. doing this enables you to know what classes you're strong in and weak in, whether you need to turn something in, do extra credit or tell you when something is due.
*stay away from the "popular" kids. at every high school there's a handful of kids who are well known and get attention from everyone. but that's not what you want. you want respect, not attention. all they do is slack off. if they don't care about themselves, what makes you think they care about you?
*stand your ground. if someone is talking in an certain way. you handle them. you say what you gotta say and keep it moving. don't let anyone disrespect you. once people see that you don't let people talk to you the way they want, no one will ever try to mess with you.
*do not, I repeat, DO NOT get into any fights. one, it's not cute. two, it doesn't solve anything. you gonna end up hating the person even more after it. and three, it's gonna screw up your record. once you get suspended for fighting, you're done. colleges and other schools are going to perceive it as if you have a behavioral problem and it's not going to look good for you. (however, if someone puts their hands on you, throw them hands sis. like my mom says, if someone hits you, you hit them back, but if not you do not put your hands on people.)
*be nice to all the teachers, counsellors, and staff members. I know your parents raised you better than to raise your voice at an adult. yes, they have attitudes, yes, they can be extremely unreasonable and annoying. but if you do the simplest task of respecting them, they'll be more than happy to help you. I was cool with all my teachers and every time I missed a project or I didn't like it, they'd let me redo it or give me an extension because they liked me. and my guidance counselor and secretary really liked me. my guidance counsellor helped me apply to another high school, and when I didn't feel like going to class, my secretary would let me stay in her office or help her and I wouldn't get marked late or tardy.
*stay away from drama. if someone is talking about drama, do not speak on it. because if you do, they'll twist your words up and that will start a problem up, and people will wanna fight you. and don't go looking for no problems neither. if someone says something about you, confront them, say you didn't like that and move on.
*if someone doesn't like you for whatever reason, so be it. you don't go to school for people and you shouldn't care. get them be mad and keep it moving. keep it classy.
*dont be messy. don't be loud and obnoxious. most kids think that going into high school, the loudest kids are the most popular and get the most attention. not true at all. people hate that. personally, I do.
*dress cute. according to the way you like to dress. you know all these kids wear are polo, nike, jordan, mk, and that's it's for them. if you like vans, wear vans. if you like converse, WEAR THEM CONVERSE. but if you actually do like those brands I listed above, wear them! what ever makes you feel confident. because of what kids were saying about chokers, I stopped wearing them at school because I was scared people were going to judge me. at the end of the day, people are still gonna judge you so you might as well do whatever you want. and do people's opinions matter, no. what people think of you doesn't define you. it's what you think and what you make of yourself and how you present yourself.
*keep that hygiene a1. take a shower regularly. shave underarms. when they are not shaved, your underarms smell worse and it wastes your deodorant. it doesn't got into the pits. it goes into the hairs. use a nice body mist. like the ones from Victoria's Secret or bath and body works. spray it: at the base of your neck, behind your ears, and behind your knees. use a moisturizing lotion first, then use a scented lotion. always keep a lipbalm and gloss on you. I hate when my lips are ashy throughout the day and there's nothing I can do about it. try to always have gum, your charger and your phone.
*if you se security guards running, follow them. there's a fight. WORLDSTAR!
*those middle school friends you had since you guys were little, forget about them. they don't care about you. high school is a brand new atmosphere. different surroundings. they meet new kids, you meet new kids. people think that just because they're in high school now, they're too good to be talking to you. you guys don't go in a line anymore like little kids. you walk yourself to your class.
*bring a snack and drink to school every day. even if you bring a bottle of water and an apple, it'll help. being hungry and thirsty at school is the worst.
*on the first day of school, you do not need anything but your bag, a pencil, and a folder. don't be extra bringing all your school supplies to school. do not purchase all the stuff on the list until you actually need it or a teacher says to. my gym teacher claimed we needed to wear sweats to gym, and I didn't have any, so I went and bought some and we didn't even need them like thirty bucks down the trash.
*dont fall into peer pressure. no means no. if you don't want to do something, don't do it. once you get into the habit of saying no to bad things, you'll feel better about yourself.
*dont bully people. I was bullied all throughout middle school and my parents didn't think it was a big deal, but every single day I went to school scared of what people were going no about my hair, my shoes, clothes. having people you thought you were cool with laughing at you all at once and not one person is asking how you feel is the worst feeling. you don't know what people might be going through at home.
*dont dress for attention. don't try to dress flashy to get everyone's attention unless you actually like to dress like that. people are going to think of you negatively.
and it makes you look bad. everyone is going to call you a thot. this girl always wore leggings or tight jeans. EVERY SINGLE DAY. yes, leggings are comfy, but stop wearing them every day.
*dont act dumb for attention. the teachers are going to think you're annoying and seeking attention, and so are all your peers.
* dont snitch. unless it's something serious. like for example, if you see somebody skipping, smoking, acting promiscuous, leave them. they'll deal with the consequences now and later. and plus! you'll be into deep beef for your whole high school career with that person. but if you see someone getting bullied, by all means step in and help them. no one deserves to get bullied.
*join a club. personally, in my freshman year, I didn't do any extracurricular activities, but this year I will. I hate sports because I'm lazy. and I don't got the time or energy to practice. so, a club is probably the best option.
*be yourself. everyone at high school acts exactly the same nowadays. trying to fit in with people isn't going to get you anywhere.
*go to games and activities. I never went to one game my freshman year, and I should have. you'll look back on your high school experience a
hope I helped. 💗 (edit: forgot to add, this is a copied comment from another video not mines I thought this was really helpful so that’s why I I copied and pasted😁)
You did better than this short and you were very mature about everything i think your tips will help me enjoy highschool thanks❤
I don’t really agree with the parts about not really making friends and caring about people and how they care about you. You can have deep meaningful and mature relationships regardless of your age and even if they don’t last forever it’s good to have real friends you can trust and lean on. I have friends I’ve known since elementary school I still talk to daily and they’re like siblings to me. I don’t think it’s helpful to tell kids to treat everyone like a potential threat or enemy, just be respectful and kind to people and to yourself. Just because you had bad experiences doesn’t mean everyone else will
@@sillygoose2347eh maybe for you; for some people, like me. everyone in my school talks crap abt eachother, and judge every small thing about everyone. when people dont like you: “not a big deal, its annoying but idc”, but for me its the opposite, i didnt like anyone, i was friends with everyone but lots of people changed, they left me for different people and talked bad abt me, thats how i disliked my class, so i have trust issues now so, i just act like im friends with everyone, but when i come home i would like to not think twice about anyone:)
Girl you look sooo gorgeous today omg
Everyone is pointing out how helpful these are but all I can really notice is how bomb her hair looks. Gurl wow just wow
if theres gonna be a rumour about me its probably gonna be "did you know that she talked" bc apparently i never talk
Lmbo you and me both. People are always legitimately forgetting I exist.
You should feel complimented that that rumor was going around lol
She should be complimented that people think she's dumb enough to pay money for a boob job just to get a B cup? That's not a compliment at all.
Thank you so much, I'm gonna be a freshman next year and this is/will be so helpful!!
I’m going to high school next year so this is very helpful, thanks!