Is There A Place for Shame in the Christian Life?
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- Опубліковано 17 бер 2024
- When we fail, it's easy to beat ourselves up and wallow in shame because it can feel like what we deserve. But that's not what God asks of us. Today Fr. Mark-Mary reminds us that if you've confessed a sin, God has forgiven you entirely - he is without restraint in his mercy. And by living in the freedom of the Father's forgiveness, we profess his goodness.
So if you still feel guilty about a past sin that you've confessed, try not to shame-spiral. Instead, Fr. Mark-Mary invites you to put yourself in the place of the prodigal son, who was completely forgiven even after a life of despondency.
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I went to my first confession yesterday. I felt as if I had waited my whole life for that moment. I felt God's forgiveness for the first time. God is truly great.
1 John 5 KJV
13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
You can go direct to God to confess and pray- Jesus eliminated the middleman!
1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus ,
Shame also comes from abuse too, from experiences, from failures. It's the false idea that you don't deserve love, don't deserve to belong. And it thrives in silence, secrecy, and judgment. Realize that God is compassionate, so be compassionate toward yourself as you are with others. He is empathetic too, so be willing to accept empathy and be empathetic toward others as well.
As an aside, I wish we could clarify some of the language used in the past. For example, I now understand self-love to be selfishness and disregard for God and morals, however we need to love ourselves in the sense of acknowledging our worth in light of God's love for us. Some of this language, if misunderstood, can deeper our shame and lock us into it.
Well said 👏
THIS.
It is fair that we should ask God forgiveness with shame when we had no shame to offend Him.
HOW IS IT POSSIBLE, that I came across this video RIGHT AT THE VERY MOMENT that I needed it the most ?
This video describes exactly what I'm going through.
Thank you
Amen!🙏
Same here, except I didn't even know that this was what I needed. THANK YOU Fr. Mark ❣️🙏
Me too. I am struggling in this area from past error.
I cannot make it to a Church. I was moved here in Central Florida by a very bad man. Now I am in a much worse situation. Please pray that ANYONE In Lady Lake, Florida will receive Blessings for taking in a widow. I miss my home Church.
I am so sorry. You're in my heart and prayers.
I haven’t heard shame described as a way to control and self-protect. It makes so much sense. Great word that needs to be given much thought.
By your passion, death and resurrection, you have set us free. Thank you Lord Jesus for your suffering for us and for forgiving our sins. Help me to repent of my sins and follow your commands so that someday I may be with you in heaven.
Thank you so much for this message! It is so easy to always make it about ourselves, it is human nature. I have finally recently let go of past sins I have confessed in the past yet a reminder like this is such strong reiteration of what God wants of us and for us… thank you so much, this is a message that we all consistently need to hear!
Shame and guilt are different.
May God grant you pardon AND peace. Great insight Fr. Mark.
Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Fr. Mark-Mary ...😢 Amen I repent and God cleanse my sins with the blood of your son... Lord Jesus Christ ✝️✝️✝️
Indeed. Our culture has no shame today. There's a difference between shame and condemnation. Shame, lets us know our conscience is operating and not seared. Now, after confession it should mostly abate aside from others possibly knowing of your shame.....
Michael. I think it's good to understand that God is both loving and merciful and just. We do sin, however when we repent and go to confession, as you do then we are forgiven. There is such a thing as temporal punishment due to sin as you are alluding to in regard to purgatory. Yes, not everyone goes to heaven straight away except those we know her canonized saints. It is not guarantee that you will go to purgatory. This is why we have such things as plenary and partial indulgences. However, I would encourage you to read Saint Therese of Lisieux. She has much to say about the merciful Jesus. Also good to look into devotional to the Sacred Hearts of Jesus.
A perusal of the biographies of illustrious figures throughout history - whether secular or religious - have demonstrated that shame emanating from failure has been central to animating their lives and shaping them to be the impactful people they were. A life bereft of shame is one that is also devoid of motivation. In a world riddled with moral relativism, so many people experience moral stagnation, precisely because moral actions and moral shortcomings that would previously have elicited shame are now rationalized in such a way that frees people from shame. Being unshackled from this burden also frees the person from the responsibility to self-reflect and grow. Yes, shame can be stultifying when taken to an extreme. With that conceded, some shame is necessary for our moral progress.
Well said! I have always instinctively known this, but I've never seen it put into words before.
@@isoldam Thank you for the kind words.
yeah there is a lot of confusion from language I think. Like if you take despair and call it shame, shame is bad. If you take like idk conviction to do better and negative emotions that arise from failure but have a constructive purpose, and call that shame, shame is good. There's a version of shame that's bad I think because it throws the baby out with the bathwater, and there are a LOT of communities out there where that kind of shame is rampant and the source of a lot of evil. But there are other communities where people are so scared of negative emotions, whether they're experienced or inflicted, that they're afraid to convict themselves and be fully alive, and in those places, shame is kind of good if you're talking about a constructive shame that invites the person to be who they were made to be. But then again, people who are afraid of negative emotions are often that way because they experienced a lot of objectively horrible things, and their lives have been permeated by the bad kind of shame, like despair and self-loathing, and it can cascade through the generations, and you just don't know unless you are really patient and gentle and work through the language barrier that absolutely everyone has. Either way, Jesus can find us, and I think we are called to find people where they are, and figure out how to speak their language, and bring them back to wholeness with gentleness. We have to know how to listen to people even when we don't speak their language, and for that we need the Holy Spirit.
You totally surprised me with where we were going with this subject. I thought I was going to find validation, even justification for the immense shame I carry from the lifetime I was away from the Catholic Church! Even though I have confessed, the stain, the repercussions of my sins open my wounds. So what you are asking is for me to remain at the party and accept God’s forgiveness and mercy which is much more difficult than beating myself up. But what I now realize is what I may fear is that in accepting My ABBA’s mercy it beholds and binds me to Him in a way that raw shame doesn’t and then I am literally compelled to do His Will….just as that prodigal son is now bound to honor, love and obey that father who wholeheartedly celebrated his return.
God sent me this clip today. Thank you so much for being the deliverer of the message.
I can say the same thing ❤
Very beautiful analogy. I am guilty of this act of 'protection' you talked about, Father.
This is an incredible video and point. Thank you, Fr. Mark-Mary
it really is. Life can make us feel like this orphan spirit in which we have to pay rent to have a place... That pretty well sums up the life experience of many people in just one pithy sentence. This is a great video.
1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jes
This really hits home for me....thank you so much Father 🙏
Thank you.❤
Thank u for this! So helpful❤️
Word.
Thank you father 🙏🏾✝️
Father can you make a comment regarding soul ties, and unbound prayers. Thank you. Bless you always
Very enlightened talk.
Wow this one hits hard. Thank you for this Father. 🙏🏻
Being ashamed of your sins is better than to feel pride of sins. If you don't feel guilty of your sins, you might be in wrong direction.
Indeed. Our culture has no shame today. There's a difference between shame and condemnation. Shame, lets us know our conscience is operating and not seared. Now, after confession it should mostly abate aside from others possibly knowing of your shame.....
I dare say if there’s no shame there’s no repentance and what of others who may’ve been damaged and will continue to suffer?
Amen! 🙏
@@rdbare4216 amen
It's what made me repent.
@Theunspokentruth77 I don't think that's the point. Of course one needs repentance: BEFORE we confess. But not AFTER. And this is, I think, Fr. Mark's point. After confession, we need to leave without the sin and without the guilt or shame. Leave that at the confessional. And go with the Mercy, and the Glory, and the everlasting joy of God who has washed you new. Move on.
Beautiful! Thank you, Father!
Will “The Father” book ever be available for purchase in other countries? Maybe in the e-book format? It’d be a huge blessing for so many of us
Awesome video. I needed to hear that.
I feel shame at my inability to draw closer to God. This has lead to me being hard hearted. I’m not sure I want to continue seeking Him because the effort I’ve already put forth in that regard has failed. I’m also afraid to go to confession because I don’t think my sins will be forgiven. I’m afraid God will use my hard heartedness against me
I'm going through the same.
@@GraceMargarido not trying to be mean spirited here, but am I supposed to feel better knowing that I’m not alone in how I feel?
@@markantonelli53 goodness me, not at all! I was just sharing, that's all. Forget about that, please.
@@GraceMargarido I hope you are able to find some resolution.
This was interesting.
Matthew 23:9 And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
Can anyone please verify what exactly father Mark says at the ends of his videos?
"remember, we are pilgrims on this earth. poco a poco (spa.), little by little", - that's all I can hear
We are pilgrims on this earth, somos peregrinos. Poco a poco, little by little. Vamos a llegar. (:
@@melissat9120 спасибо!!!
Beautiful
Thank you 🙏
Thank you!
Fr. Mark-Mary, if you had taken an x-ray of my soul before saying those words, you would have not hit straighter. I am paying rent, and I think I've been doing it all my life, in any possible way it can be done. I just didn't know about it. Nobody ever told me that existed. And now I'm a bit scared because I'm not sure that I can do this on my own. But that's it, isn't it? I'm not on my own...
Amen ✝️🛐❤️🔥
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god bless everyone 😊
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"Has anyone here heard a song called 'Jesus Christ' by Brand New?"
I know you’ll come in the night like a thief
But I’ve had some time alone to hone my lying technique
I know you think that I’m someone you can trust
But I’m scared I’ll get scared and I swear I’ll try to nail you back up
So, do you think that we could work out a sign?
So I’ll know it’s you and that’s over so I won’t even try?😉
he conditionally forgives cuz you have to pay your debt in purgatory that's what i don't understand? i go to confession but don't feel truly forgiven cuz i still have to pay my debt and suffer in purgatory
You are forgiven for sin if you've gone to confession and done penance here on earth. Purgatory is there to release you and purify you if you die in a state where you are still attached to sin. You should talk to a priest or get in touch with Catholic Answers to discuss this if you don't understand the teaching. Protestants use this issue to attack Catholics, but if you study the issue, their position makes no sense.
@@isoldam🗿👍