If you or someone you know has been affected by the issues in this film, then organisations that may be able to help can be found here www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/4WLs5NlwrySXJR2n8Snszdg/emotional-distress-information-and-support
@@lupitaortizcouoh3464 it's always hard to find answers and sometimes we never will if the person who committed suicide left no note or never showed signs of why. I lost a husband and a son-in-law. My husband's and I had two young children and my son-in-law had three young ones. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope one day you can find peace in all you do.
What happens when the BBC is to blame for the child suicide? What happens when the crown decrees raise them on lies and illusions? Media's are worse then Psychopaths who bring fantasy to reality and ACT upon them.... Television and liarsvision and they question why some children can't handle all the lies and illusions and self destruct... It's not hard to see media's influence as they admit they control the thoughts of children.... I thought it was peculiar to have life among a world of fools and liars and psychopaths....who have slaughtered thousands of humans for centuries...
Why would the “content has been identified by the UA-cam community as inappropriate or offensive to some audiences” ?? This is part of life that NEEDS to be discussed, not hidden!!!
@@vegetaismydad5382 Oh, my goodness! Someone with a brain. Please don't hurt yourself! There aren't enough people with brains ... okay? Don't leave me here alone with _them._ You know, the ones who want to hide everything and smooth everything over and shoo everyone away, as if somehow sweeping things under the rug ever helped anything. I like you, A Lou. _I care._ Your family most likely does too. This world and it's brutal money money money war-cry make it impossible for any of us to really focus on one another for extended periods (sometimes we are actually _blind_ to one another, because we're so "caught up" in our crap). _But it doesn't mean we don't care._ People just get lost in their own woes and forget that others have woes too. It's the human condition. Don't give up. There is a world after this one, but _how_ you get there is extremely important. You have "assignments" to do here first, even if your "assignments" are as simple as smiling at someone when you don't feel like it or helping someone cross the street safely. Sometimes the "assignment" for the day is _staying alive._ That is an okay assignment. It won't be _every day._ Just when you're feeling blue or pissed off or whatever. Just _stay._ God loves you (no lie, He really does) and I must love you too because the thought of losing you makes me sick ... okay? If you need someone to talk to, send a response to this. I know life has much suckage (it is too a word!) but there's an excellent prize at the end! If you need an ear, I have two of 'em. And they're kinda big, so I listen well. And I will ALWAYS talk to you, A Lou. *I care.* I really do. Big sloppy happy hug ... chin up, let the light in, look for happy things as often as you can. Whatever thoughts you feed grow. Think about that ... then think about puppies and kitties and rollercoasters and candy apples. Stuff like that ... okay? I'm here if you need to talk (even if you just wanna say "hi"). :-)
@@vegetaismydad5382 yes really. If I'm having a good day, watching a video like this will trigger me. Now it's helping me on a day that isnt good but the warning is nice.
@Viggo Stokholm Loosing 3 children is not any part of a cycle!! I'm guess you have no children because no parent should loose a child!! Loosing 3 is downright a horrible thing!! You sound like an ignorant ass!!! Why are you even.looking at this video???!!@
She lost all *THREE* sons? Omg the fact that she is still standing is a miracle in itself. I couldn’t be me. I don’t think I could live to talk about it. My sincerest condolences goes out to her.
Just lost my mom to suicide days ago. Losing 3 children to it is horrifying to think about. I hope that you continuing to be alive and understand that your being an example for everyone to be strong who experience loss like this. You have given me more inspiration to look towards life even without you talking.
My sincere condolences. I lost my brother & also my Father to suicide & it's something I've never gotten over. I don't know if anyone ever gets over losing family members that way.
I lost both of my beautiful sisters to suicide. My oldest sister in 2017 and my younger sister just 4 months ago July 2022. It's so hard continuing on without them but I won't put my parents thru this pain a 3rd time. Bless this mothers heart I will pray for her continued strength and healing
Jesus calls you to come unto Him, being burdened & heavy laden...come, over & over again. Each time you shall find rest. He invites you to be comforted by the love in His Word. Psalm 139, Isaiah 43:4, Matt. 11: 28-30.
You dont owe anything to your parents. They brought you into this world without your consent, and for their own selfish reasons. They owe it to you to sit back and let you do ad you please with your own flesh and bones. This is why no one should continue bringing children into this shit hole planet
Roisin Elsaa my child took her life, fight for life, your parents love you and I literally don’t want to live without her and I feel responsible, you have no idea how much pain it leaves behind. Her brother won’t leave his room, marriage fall apart. Now we all are struggling to live. Tell yourself how important you are, because you are. You are literally my he reason your parents exist, for our children.
Roisin Elsaa, that shows ur a good person. U just don't think only of urself. Ur love for ur parents is stronger than ur self-centeredness So I believe you will be ok.. U will overcome because of the bigness of ur loving heart. . Iv always believed that people who commit suicide are full of themselves. Self-pity, self-depression, self-pain. Self... Self... Self... - 3M
you are here because you care. and we as a society care too, you just need to reach out for professional help. there are people like you who go or went through this. I did and I survived, that is why I know you can get through this too.
There's obviously something drastically wrong in the system. PTSD? That poor woman, to outlive you're children is every parents worse nightmare. I hope some good comes into this woman's life.
And how do you know she was a horrible mummy she did everything she could the boys in the video are my 3 cousins my family went through enough my auntie Patricia is the most strongest women on this earth so if I was you I would keep your opinions to yourself you don't know her or them 3 boys she's a brilliant mummy and grandmother don't need to explain myself to you your comment has pissed me off🤬🤬🤬 so think before you speak and stop judging northern Ireland system is fucked up!!!!
Try AMERICA'S health"care" system. Yoiu DO get great care... BUT ONLY IF YOU'RE RICH. Trust me, I'm not going to last to the new year, myself. And my ma was horrible. Can't blame me for thinking this.
Probly feels like she failed as a mother Having kids is selfish anyways creating a life just so it can live suffer then die all so she could feel good about having kids
For some reason my country dcided that this video is inapproriate for me......welp guess they don't want me to learn that people go through harsh experiences....But seriously WTF!!!!!!!!!!!
i think its because the subject of suicide can trigger people with suicidal ideation. you ever notice that after a suicide the numbers go up? it makes it more acceptable.
@@rubyjames3105 Well obviously this video was going to be about suicide so they could avoid it in whole. Also that little waning won’t steer them away. The thought that talking about suicide will make more people commit is a wrong and harmful misconception. A lot of schools won’t talk about when a student commits suicide because they don’t want other students to. But that’s not how it works. It just hurts everyone whose already in pain from the loss.
It's pretty sick when someone says they need mental health and they get told to come back later, especially someone who already lost two brothers to suicide. Absolutely infuriating.
The U.S. is criminal in it's negligence of the mental health system. Our society continues to down slide economically, mental health issues have risen dramatically. My heart goes out to this woman, because like many other parents, I would be six feet under, as well. My daughter has been standing on a cliff with her schizophrenia since she was 11. Now 46, her life remains in the balance nearly every day. I can't believe she's made it this far, but the anxiety and fear I have for her being here from day to day is real. Heart wrenching💔💔💔
@@debranestlen567 I’m so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. I hope she is able to get the help she needs. I also live in the US and have seen the results of suicide as a medic. One woman came very close to dying from a hanging but was cut down just in the nick of time and she was very very close to succeeding. Many mental health hospitals have closed down which means those who need urgent help can’t get it. Here in Florida there is the Baker Act (you can be committed for up to 72 hours if you threaten suicide. Police an go to a magistrate and order it and take them in or we as EMS could take them in and the hospital decide to use the Baker Act) and even with the Baker Act people are still not getting the mental help they need. Many times the patient is admitted to a regular hospital and admitted to the medical floor to be watched with a sitter and they may see a psychiatrist once maybe twice and discharged in many cases. It is really messed up. Ireland has major issues if one woman loses 3 children and they were turning her away when she was pleading for help! Hang in there with your daughter.
Thank you all for this video. I live in US. I have lost both my sons to suicide. My oldest in February of 2013. My youngest in February od 2020. Buried both on Valentine's day. If not for these videos and seeing people still hold on, I couldn't. They keep me somewhat moving forward. I now have no one really. God Bless ya'll.
I am lost for words. Beyond tragic. The more I read online, the more I realise we live in a broken world. God bless all those affected by suicide. Heartbreaking.
I have been a funeral director for almost forty years and have been involved (in some capacity) of over 2000 suicide funerals the first in 1984 and the most recent in 2023. Suicide is the worst epidemic on the planet. 16 people every day in the United Kingdom take their own life and over 900,000 people globally take their own life annually. I have actually been involved (again in some capacity) in suicidal funerals to people whom I have actually known. I think it is about time the whole world woke up to this travesty.
This made me realize that all the people are not happy in this world. Before watching this I was considering myself helpless because I never saw my mother for she died when I was only 1year old. I always imagined about my mother's personality but after looking and observing these flowing tears in Patricia's eyes I found that may be my mother would be like her loving, caring and affectionate. I miss you mom and need your shelter. May their soul be in peace who left us.Amen
I lost the father of my 3 children to suicide 2 months ago. It’s so hard. His mom is devastated. That was her baby from 10 kids. So many questions. My children miss their dad so much. He always thought he wasn’t enough or didn’t deserve my love because of mistakes he had made. I always forgave him and we were at peace with each other and our children. His personal decisions and life issues put him in a deep depression. He had God in his heart but idk what was going on in his mind. In hind sight there was signs but in the moment it didn’t feel like it because he was such a strong man physically and was very smart. He knew how to hide certain things too. It’s not getting easier but with the grace of God the pain lifts. It’s an emotional rollercoaster and so many unanswered questions.
I too lost my brother 3 months ago and its not easy for me and my mom. It hurts even more because I lost my dad already to cancer. Life can be so unforgiving.
Can't image how one brother dies. The other 2 have to live with that. Then another one decides to takes his. The third feels helpless and gives up as well. This is beyond torture. That woman is crazy poweful.
Right? This poor woman, my heart breaks for her. I can’t even imagine. The other side of me knows life just isn’t for everyone. Some of us are born broken😞
You are love and is loved soo sooooooooo much, you are worth gold and silver from a creator omnipresent in you who has more than the best for you, He is love and so you are and we need your light, keep it on please💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 love you and big hugs whoever you are going through this
Make it mean something then... You are the only one who chooses the way you see existence.. You are the only one who decides to start over or stay in the abyss.. Find meaning in life and look for sincere and honest friends.. There is no point in giving up, you have to fight, If you win, you will feel the joy of victory, and if you lose, it's okay. You can try a thousand times.. This is life. You will feel love, joy, anger, fear, disgust, contentment and despair sometimes.. This is life my friend
Compassion is the only way forward. I am so sorry this is happening. If you know anyone who lives alone please just call them and tell them they matter and you care about them. I am a senior living alone and I have a few friends who call me. It really makes the world of difference to me. Loneliness is so overwhelming at times. Your call could literally save someones life. Thank you for reading this.
people who say “think about your family” have no idea. when I was hospitalized because of severe depression and ptsd I did not care about nobody. I was in so much pain, I did not care at all and would have done anything to stop it. I just tried to minimize the amount of people seeing me when I try to kill myself.
@bentobox7061 depression is the worst experience of my life daily l think about suicide my family doctor prescribed valium for sleep and l used it for over 17 years now that has side effects and the government ban valium l had headlines running through the back of my neck and to the middle of my head causing severe pain after l was going through menopause. I don't have support from my family's but l have an elderly mother who now 85 years old with dementia that is why l won't l am not dead today. If l suffer another severe depression l am going to commit suicide for sure because off valium l cannot focus on driving, loss of memory, counting, reading, and sleeping
maybe somehow suicide has become an accepted out within a certain group ? - but the story of three brothers within 7 years is almost beyond belief ? it's not like it was an action taken together , but three separate extreme acts ?!
It was probably a domino effect. One took his life for whatever was bothering him so much, then the other one got suicidal by the thought of his brother committing suicide etc..
I agree the stigma needs to end regarding so called "mental illness." The fact is that the brain is just another organ in ones body & neurotransmitters are actually a physical thing - so I think the term mental illness needs to be changed.
Lost my brother on February 2019 to suicide by hanging, I was pregnant then I had my son on 22 /07/2019 and he died 2days later been suicidal since then...its so hard to deal with the pain
Wow 3 people in a single family lost to suicide. Can’t imagine how a parent would go through losing 3 children. Mental health is so serious and it happens in every race and culture.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with mental support or anything like that .
@@akashchowdhury1786 unfortunately you can't be happy in every situation. Maybe you start faking being happy but then it gets even worse, because you're not in harmony with what you truly feel
Emma just wait till you visit South Africa. Everything is falling apart here especially with HIV. Can you believe that there is a church around here that sprays pesticides in the faces of others?
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . Nothing to do with mental support or anything like that .
I had a mental break down few years ago and got took to hospital the doctor was half asleep asked me a few questions and sent me home to see my gp I did eventually see my gp but all they did was throw me on tablets the side effects were awful so now still suffering mentally uk mental health care is so crap I told them I feel like I have bipolar and they laughed I couldn’t possibly be this was all over the phone haven’t seen a gp in person for years
I just recently lost my son to suicide I don't know what care you get in Ireland or England because I'm from Wales . And the way people treat you here it's like you've done something wrong there's no help groups or nothing. Feeling so heartbroken and lost and a quick message to the mum in the video I am so so sorry if I could give you a hug I would xc
The Mental Health Service oh please don't get me started on them it's no care in the community whatsoever anymore it's not only the Mental Health Service is the police as well is how they treat you afterwards by the seams of it's happening all over
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
@@heidimarie8995 It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
My grandma lost her son to suicide and my grandpa and her have never been the same. I cannot imagine losing 3 children to suicide. Lord bless her broken heart🙏💔
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
My deepest sympathy for the mother who lost her sons to suicide. The high suicide rate of Northern Ireland suggests that mental health problems are not just an individual thing, but a community-wide problem. It is not enough to heal the individual when entire communities are suffering. Given the recent history of the region, one key component for healing would likely involve rebuilding trust.
We are dragged into this absurd hell called 'life' with no say, but we can choose to leave it. I don't see the problem. The real problem is being dragged into this bad deal (slavery and increasing suffering) in the first place.
We have no choice , i can not leave it I commeted suicide becuase of bad life quality whether family , country , health & earning but the last suicide was medicine to help in health So i know iam not to dyi even if i want Because god issuses Nowdayes i want to live to take care of my cats
@@pauleng883 I sadly understand you. May I asked what options you’ve explored. Because I always find that there is an avenue that I haven’t explored...for example I’ve made an extensive mind map to explore my whole life and found that if one avenue ran dry another could still be explored. Maybe that’s the same case for you...
I lost my elder sister in 2003 to suicide and one month ago my brother took his own life.The mental health care team failed my sister and now failed my brother they didnt monitor them my mum rang for months begging for help because my brother needed help he was ignored and treated by officials as just a sad number.im heartbroken for the second time and I cant bear to see my mums pain.im not suicidal myself but people need to wake up and stop judging. It takes bloody guts of steel to do what they did and I truly believe if there was proper support my sister and brother would be here now...the drugs the gp give you dont work are not monitored and reviewed its appalling. Please be there for one another never feel it's too late or you're not loved this world is a very very cruel ruthless place Xxxx
Depression is real. The Bible speaks of a time when depression and sickness of all types will be a thing of the past. Revelations 21:3,4. I look forward to this time. JW.ORG
“Death may be the greatest of all human blessings.” That is from Socrates. I do contemplate on suicide for almost a decade now. I kinda think, it is a celebration. My ailing cousin did. I have some guilts; i guess, he overheared my arguments weeks before he did it in 2016. Albeit, he could also be philosophical about human life... And also, 2 of my childhood friends did, some 10 yrs ago.
Allan Abad Death and not Suicide is the greatest human blessing. Death and suicide are two different things. The comparison is actually heaven and earth, like black and white. Common sense! Self explanatory. - 3M
I used to want to commit suicide but I didn't want to hurt my family. But I do look forward to when I can pass naturally and there will be no more struggle or worries
Hang in there Matthew someone loves you. I don't know you at all but I hope this comment reaches you we are brothers of struggles and are worth every minute of life. I love you man..IM .Dustin from CHICAGOLAND USA
Omg I can't imagine losing one son to any reason let alone all 3 of my sons, over and over every year 3 death dates, burthdays, holidays etc etc I can't even think about it. She is one strong woman. May God continue to hold you in his hands until it's your time to see your babies again.
There is a WORLDWIDE mental health crisis. I truly believe that a number of our worlds most pressing issues have mental health issues at the root. It’s so stigmatized still, it is difficult to ask for help, find good help, and afford the care they need. Then you have the treatment itself which can be lifelong, and arduous. It’s absolutely unacceptable. Our mental health needs to be accommodated just as our physical health. They are undeniably interconnected too. We have come really far as a world community, but in this regard we are stuck in the dark ages.
What people understand about suicide is that the percentage of other family members killing themselves after a suicide is extremely high.... My heart goes out to all who've lost a family member to suicide. 🙏😢🙏
@I want to eat chicken • 150 years ago Ah I see so they encourage the peoples to wait if they have thought of killing themselves? I think I understand now thankyou sir.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
@@bobfaam5215 it's the brain. It can become sick and need medicine. Someone with a healthy brain can be fine alone or without many people. Just like a broken leg needs mending so does the brain
My son taked his own life November 27th , 2016 ..... I feel very sad and painful ... I fell like I am dead too ... I am very sorry for Patricia .! QEPD for her kids ....
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
Why does society think suicide is wrong when there is over 7billion people in the world with no end of slowing? Please dont bombard with the usual anecdotes of "think about your family" and "how would you feel if some you knew killed themselves" i am looking for even response
Unfortunately only a small percentage of that 7 billion produce the most to feed and improve conditions for the majority. If too many of those people die off we go back to third world conditions all over the globe.
Every human is born against his will and every human has to die against his will, it is better never to be born, I sympathize with her son's, they were clearly forced into an existence which they didn't ask for and which they didn't want to be in. What a courage and self-sacrifice of them to make at least an attempt to escape from this malicious game called life.
This is exactly 100% what I always think , you put it in the perfect words. We didn't choose to come to this world and we cannot decide when we want to die . We should have the right . Not every person enjoy their existence and not everybody wants to be and stay here
Sorry, I disagree. Suicide is never the answer. Life may be tough, but where there is hope, there is life. It is up to us and the community, to find that hope.
@@bdictjames hello James , you obviously have hope in your life and therefore you think everybody else is experiencing the same. for some people there is no hope in their life so they have no life. Taking your own life is the very last thing anyone would do, it's never the first choice but the last resort.
The thing about life is it is 100% fatal--no one gets out of life alive. But there is a terrible finality of death. Why rush it? This may be your one and only chance to exist. Life is a gift. Enjoy it.
My son, 35, took his life in January. He has 3 brothers. My life is so full of anxiety at the thought of losing another. May this poor lady find some peace x
My parents both died in a car accident a year ago and my sister committed suicide a month ago. Unfortunately, most of my aunts and uncles that I grew up with have had early deaths as well not to mention the love of my life is leaving me no matter how much I beg her. I’m so alone.. and I want to die, I want to commit suicide and I’m going to do it. I’m just waiting until I get paid so I can buy the things I need to complete a “Detergent Suicide” it’s pretty popular, so I hope it’ll work for me. I’m commenting this because I’m desperate for some kind of loving connection with someone. I don’t want live but I don’t want to die.. but I do. I’m so alone.
If you can wait until you get paid, can you wait another day after that? Another 72 hours? Another week? You are still here and that means things can still get better if you can stay around to see. I'm so sorry to hear that you've had so much terrible loss so suddenly and so quickly after one another. It sounds like you are very badly depressed, which anyone would be after everything that's happened to you. You 100 percent, absolutely need to get some mental health help after so much loss and grief, just as you'd need lots of medical care, like surgery and physical therapy, after being badly injured in an accident. No one would expect to just recover from a terrible car accident on their own. Is there a mental health crisis line in your area that you can call? Even calling the emergency number (like 911 in the US or 999 in several other countries) at least get you taken in for evaluation and referral to resources in your area. If you can't afford regular therapy, a college or university with a psychology department probably has a clinic where the pricing is based on your income. When I was really bad off, the clinic I was going to let me pay just $5 a week for a while. I felt like I had nothing to live for but I at least knew that the therapist would be there every week, waiting to see me at that time on a certain day. It's important for you to develop a "loving connection" with yourself more than anyone. You take yourself everywhere and into every situation so your relationship with yourself is the most important to develop and maintain. You and your own life are worth continuing for, no matter what other people choose to do. Just as the woman you love right now is free to leave the relationship, you are free to go on without her. She is the love of your life so far, but your life isn't finished yet. It sounds like she's already made a decision, so begging her to stay is burning valuable mental and emotional energy that you need for your own survival right now. There are 3.5 billion women in the world. She is unique and special and there's no one just like her. But that is also true of you and of other women you haven't had a chance to meet yet. But you have to stay around in order to give that time to happen. Talk to God/nature/the stars, the universe. Write about your feelings in a notebook or on your phone or laptop. Look for a support group for people who have lost someone to suicide or any kind of grief support group online. Many many people are in or have been in the same awful situation you're in. They will understand. It's too much to think about how to get through life while everything seems so terrible. You don't have to get all the way through life at once, only today. Only this minute and then the next, doing one thing at a time.
I hope you didn’t kill yourself. I tried to kill myself and I’m so glad it didn’t work. It’s a long journey but it really does get better as hard as that is to believe. I know I didn’t believe it when people told me that but it really is true. I lost a friend to suicide, have family members and people who lost people to suicide, I have friends who’ve attempted suicide or had suicidal thoughts, and like I said I’ve felt that way myself. Trust me, I can relate.
I am crying so much. Patricia, you are so strong for not breaking out into tears and an inspiration, not only for those that lost their loved ones but parents that are still affected by such travesity. I hope that this short documentary will bring, not only comfort but also knowledge about mental health and suicide issues to a larger platform. Mental health is a serious matter to be taken into consideration and if you see someone that is going through a difficult time, just walk up to the person and ask how that individual's day was and how the person is doing. It does impact the person so much. It is the simple things that makes a huge difference. Stay strong and God bless you and your family💛. Love all the way from Namibia, Africa🇳🇦.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
My son took something from the roadworks..climbed up a tree and hung himself. He was 17 Patricia..I have no idea how you survive. Sending all my love to you xxxxxx
I’m from a crap hole town in the north of England I work six days a week I’m 24 living at home with no savings. I hate the thought of doing this to my mum, I’m an only child. I just can’t deal with this dull pointless life. I don’t think people in my social class get happy endings, I can’t stand the thought of been in my 40s and still living on the same council estate I was born on.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins . People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too. Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication . Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
Make friends or reach out to your cousins or relatives or join some group like Gym or sports or church where you can meet people and make friends . Loneliness is the real cause of suicide because in western countries people live alone on the houses an don’t talk to each other. Not even neighbours and now people have stopped twilling to relatives to in the west .
They transferred their pain to her, that’s what suicide does. Such severe conflict affects young minds and hearts. Takes away their sense of hope and hope is necessary for life. I so respect these parents working to save others children.
I remember this mom who lost her 3 sons. They died because of cancer. Then I saw an article about a mom who lost her 3 daughters due to a car crash. Losing family members is the most painful.
+BBC Stories you completely avoided the question ...!!! why have you subtitled the narrator, who speaks intelligible English ... yet neglected to subtitle the Irish woman who speaks gibberish ....!!!! obviously we can use a third party translation service ... but that is not the point ....!!!
@@Nobodybutme898 .... you are also completely missing the point ....!!!!!! the narrator is speaking very clearly.. slowly & precisely in perfect English .. .... they have printed his words in big white letters smack bang in the middle of the screen ...!!! but the Irish woman who is not speaking clearly at all, does not have her words printed centre screen in big white letters ... i hope that helps ...
I had no idea Northern Ireland had the highest suicide rate. I am so sorry for any family that loses a family member to suicide but Patricia lost three? Bless her. No one can feel what she feels. Patricia, I admire your activities to be strong but you were not weak and tired when you lost your sons. You were lost in the maze of how to help them, how to cope, and what to do. I wish you the very best.
I have tried 3x since i was 12 iam 63 now and still have thoughts. I know a professional has no clue so no longer bother. I have to tell myself what it would do to my kids. I do this all the time. Just feel tired all the time
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, rates are gonna rise super high over the next five years. Working two jobs to barely scrape by is not living. I got laid off because of covid. As soon as my savings dries up I am out of this hell.
If you or someone you know has been affected by the issues in this film, then organisations that may be able to help can be found here www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/4WLs5NlwrySXJR2n8Snszdg/emotional-distress-information-and-support
Bbc plesse do a story on paige hunter the girl who saved 15 people from suicide by her selfless act. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE 😁😁😁😁
BBC Stories I ended here trying to look for some answers ..! My son commited suicide almost two years ago in Prague.
@@lupitaortizcouoh3464 it's always hard to find answers and sometimes we never will if the person who committed suicide left no note or never showed signs of why. I lost a husband and a son-in-law. My husband's and I had two young children and my son-in-law had three young ones. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope one day you can find peace in all you do.
What were the steps Scotland took to bring their suicide rates down ?
What happens when the BBC is to blame for the child suicide?
What happens when the crown decrees raise them on lies and illusions?
Media's are worse then Psychopaths who bring fantasy to reality and ACT upon them....
Television and liarsvision and they question why some children can't handle all the lies and illusions and self destruct...
It's not hard to see media's influence as they admit they control the thoughts of children....
I thought it was peculiar to have life among a world of fools and liars and psychopaths....who have slaughtered thousands of humans for centuries...
Why would the “content has been identified by the UA-cam community as inappropriate or offensive to some audiences” ?? This is part of life that NEEDS to be discussed, not hidden!!!
Bcos its triggering to those who ate suicidal
YES!
@@vegetaismydad5382 Oh, my goodness! Someone with a brain. Please don't hurt yourself! There aren't enough people with brains ... okay? Don't leave me here alone with _them._ You know, the ones who want to hide everything and smooth everything over and shoo everyone away, as if somehow sweeping things under the rug ever helped anything.
I like you, A Lou. _I care._ Your family most likely does too. This world and it's brutal money money money war-cry make it impossible for any of us to really focus on one another for extended periods (sometimes we are actually _blind_ to one another, because we're so "caught up" in our crap). _But it doesn't mean we don't care._ People just get lost in their own woes and forget that others have woes too. It's the human condition. Don't give up. There is a world after this one, but _how_ you get there is extremely important. You have "assignments" to do here first, even if your "assignments" are as simple as smiling at someone when you don't feel like it or helping someone cross the street safely. Sometimes the "assignment" for the day is _staying alive._ That is an okay assignment. It won't be _every day._ Just when you're feeling blue or pissed off or whatever. Just _stay._ God loves you (no lie, He really does) and I must love you too because the thought of losing you makes me sick ... okay? If you need someone to talk to, send a response to this. I know life has much suckage (it is too a word!) but there's an excellent prize at the end! If you need an ear, I have two of 'em. And they're kinda big, so I listen well. And I will ALWAYS talk to you, A Lou. *I care.* I really do. Big sloppy happy hug ... chin up, let the light in, look for happy things as often as you can. Whatever thoughts you feed grow. Think about that ... then think about puppies and kitties and rollercoasters and candy apples. Stuff like that ... okay? I'm here if you need to talk (even if you just wanna say "hi"). :-)
@@vegetaismydad5382 yes really. If I'm having a good day, watching a video like this will trigger me. Now it's helping me on a day that isnt good but the warning is nice.
It’s true. It’s just one of a number of issues that is stigmatized, and as a result hidden away. It should be discussed.
I feel so sorry for Patricia - must be so hard. She looks broken 😔
@Viggo Stokholm and why do u not feel sorry for her?
Viggo Stokholm Edgy.
@Viggo Stokholm Loosing 3 children is not any part of a cycle!! I'm guess you have no children because no parent should loose a child!! Loosing 3 is downright a horrible thing!! You sound like an ignorant ass!!! Why are you even.looking at this video???!!@
She is courageous to continue moving forward and sharing her story.
I think that must be the end of the line for a parent.
She lost all *THREE* sons? Omg the fact that she is still standing is a miracle in itself. I couldn’t be me. I don’t think I could live to talk about it. My sincerest condolences goes out to her.
Exactly. Knowing one child was in pain enough to kill himself, I’d want to die. All 3??? BYE WORLD
@@Josh-gz9ek I don't think so. She specifically mentions trying to get help for her eldest son and they didn't listen to her.
Definitely generational curse
Mothers are some of the strongest willed individuals ever.
I lost my brother & also my Father to suicide & it's something I've never gotten over.
Oh my lord 3 sons that is the hardest thing that any parent can go through !
@@obviouslytwo4u evil you are
@@shaztaf Just report them.
I can't imagine the pain of everyone in that family.
Please don’t say the Lords name in vain
@@reveltreasahi8095 wtf
Just lost my mom to suicide days ago.
Losing 3 children to it is horrifying to think about. I hope that you continuing to be alive and understand that your being an example for everyone to be strong who experience loss like this.
You have given me more inspiration to look towards life even without you talking.
I am so very sorry
Sorry for your loss.
I am sorry
My sincere condolences.
I lost my brother & also my Father to suicide & it's something I've never gotten over.
I don't know if anyone ever gets over losing family members that way.
I lost my son to suicide 12 days ago. It's unbearable. My son had no signs at all. Lovely happy young man. Am struggling. My son was 22 yrs old.
We just lost my brother on 22/09/2020 good looking man he was 28 my mums golden boi absolutely broken the family
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Its an epidemic of young male suicide
So sorry for your loss
Cindy, I am so sorry! Lots of love to you!
I lost both of my beautiful sisters to suicide. My oldest sister in 2017 and my younger sister just 4 months ago July 2022. It's so hard continuing on without them but I won't put my parents thru this pain a 3rd time. Bless this mothers heart I will pray for her continued strength and healing
Oh sweetheart, I’m so very sorry.
I think this is cap.
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Jesus calls you to come unto Him, being burdened & heavy laden...come, over & over again. Each time you shall find rest. He invites you to be comforted by the love in His Word. Psalm 139, Isaiah 43:4, Matt. 11: 28-30.
So sorry for your loss 😢
The only reason I’m still here is for my parents. I don’t want to hurt them
Hope your ok sending love light an hugs to you
Stay strong we all suffering.
You dont owe anything to your parents. They brought you into this world without your consent, and for their own selfish reasons. They owe it to you to sit back and let you do ad you please with your own flesh and bones. This is why no one should continue bringing children into this shit hole planet
Roisin Elsaa my child took her life, fight for life, your parents love you and I literally don’t want to live without her and I feel responsible, you have no idea how much pain it leaves behind. Her brother won’t leave his room, marriage fall apart. Now we all are struggling to live. Tell yourself how important you are, because you are. You are literally my he reason your parents exist, for our children.
Roisin Elsaa, that shows ur a good person. U just don't think only of urself. Ur love for ur parents is stronger than ur self-centeredness So I believe you will be ok.. U will overcome because of the bigness of ur loving heart. . Iv always believed that people who commit suicide are full of themselves. Self-pity, self-depression, self-pain. Self... Self... Self... - 3M
The best time for new beginnings is now..
Dream as u live forever,live as you will die today♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I hear you. I'm only living for my sister. Nothing interest me and I am schizoprenic.
you are here because you care. and we as a society care too, you just need to reach out for professional help. there are people like you who go or went through this. I did and I survived, that is why I know you can get through this too.
Tiger Stripe sure message me!
Rombo Kamgo please learn about Buddha and learn meditation it will help you
same with me just for my parents I'm living my life...
There's obviously something drastically wrong in the system. PTSD? That poor woman, to outlive you're children is every parents worse nightmare. I hope some good comes into this woman's life.
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She was OBVIOUSLY a horrible mommy.
And how do you know she was a horrible mummy she did everything she could the boys in the video are my 3 cousins my family went through enough my auntie Patricia is the most strongest women on this earth so if I was you I would keep your opinions to yourself you don't know her or them 3 boys she's a brilliant mummy and grandmother don't need to explain myself to you your comment has pissed me off🤬🤬🤬 so think before you speak and stop judging northern Ireland system is fucked up!!!!
If she were a GOOD mommy, her kids wouldn't have killed themselves, would they? Let alone ALL THREE.
Try AMERICA'S health"care" system. Yoiu DO get great care... BUT ONLY IF YOU'RE RICH.
Trust me, I'm not going to last to the new year, myself. And my ma was horrible. Can't blame me for thinking this.
Must be bad enough having one commit suicide, but 3 :( strong lady, can't imagine how she feels.
Probly feels like she failed as a mother
Having kids is selfish anyways creating a life just so it can live suffer then die all so she could feel good about having kids
@@ishikawa1338 yeah bruh ! But … this case is too much to handle for anyone. She’s very strong!
@@pickywolf2728 yes stories like this is how much can one person take.
For some reason my country dcided that this video is inapproriate for me......welp guess they don't want me to learn that people go through harsh experiences....But seriously WTF!!!!!!!!!!!
i think its because the subject of suicide can trigger people with suicidal ideation. you ever notice that after a suicide the numbers go up? it makes it more acceptable.
its probs just a tw
Suicide is contagious, that's why.
@@winson5159 /s ?
@@rubyjames3105 Well obviously this video was going to be about suicide so they could avoid it in whole. Also that little waning won’t steer them away. The thought that talking about suicide will make more people commit is a wrong and harmful misconception. A lot of schools won’t talk about when a student commits suicide because they don’t want other students to. But that’s not how it works. It just hurts everyone whose already in pain from the loss.
It's pretty sick when someone says they need mental health and they get told to come back later, especially someone who already lost two brothers to suicide. Absolutely infuriating.
Male mental health isn’t taken serious at all.
@@iAmNothingness because y’all act like the biggest idiots instead of just asking for help.
The U.S. is criminal in it's negligence of the mental health system. Our society continues to down slide economically, mental health issues have risen dramatically. My heart goes out to this woman, because like many other parents, I would be six feet under, as well. My daughter has been standing on a cliff with her schizophrenia since she was 11. Now 46, her life remains in the balance nearly every day. I can't believe she's made it this far, but the anxiety and fear I have for her being here from day to day is real. Heart wrenching💔💔💔
@@debranestlen567 that may be true but unfortunately suicide is everywhere. This video is about Ireland.
@@debranestlen567 I’m so sorry you are going through this with your daughter. I hope she is able to get the help she needs. I also live in the US and have seen the results of suicide as a medic. One woman came very close to dying from a hanging but was cut down just in the nick of time and she was very very close to succeeding. Many mental health hospitals have closed down which means those who need urgent help can’t get it. Here in Florida there is the Baker Act (you can be committed for up to 72 hours if you threaten suicide. Police an go to a magistrate and order it and take them in or we as EMS could take them in and the hospital decide to use the Baker Act) and even with the Baker Act people are still not getting the mental help they need. Many times the patient is admitted to a regular hospital and admitted to the medical floor to be watched with a sitter and they may see a psychiatrist once maybe twice and discharged in many cases. It is really messed up. Ireland has major issues if one woman loses 3 children and they were turning her away when she was pleading for help! Hang in there with your daughter.
Thank you all for this video. I live in US. I have lost both my sons to suicide. My oldest in February of 2013. My youngest in February od 2020. Buried both on Valentine's day. If not for these videos and seeing people still hold on, I couldn't. They keep me somewhat moving forward. I now have no one really. God Bless ya'll.
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You are a very strong woman.🙏
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I'm so sorry 😞. May God bless you and be with you. Try to keep yourself busy and reach out to any family or friends. I pray you have peace. ❤
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I am lost for words. Beyond tragic. The more I read online, the more I realise we live in a broken world. God bless all those affected by suicide. Heartbreaking.
You don’t overcome such thing you learn how to live with the pain
Destiny tran I think she’s referring to the grief of losing her sons.
@Destiny tran Not everyone can overcome it. Some just learn to endure recurring episodes of depression.
Lost my dad to suicide in 2017, it never gets any easier dealing with his loss.
Sean Califf lost my dad to accident in 2005. Let's be strong! :)
My heart goes out to you xx
Bless you for staying strong xx he's in a happier place now
I’m so sorry for your loss. He must be in heaven wishing you happy. God bless you and your family
cerulex - rip to your dad ❤️
I have been a funeral director for almost forty years and have been involved (in some capacity) of over 2000 suicide funerals the first in 1984 and the most recent in 2023. Suicide is the worst epidemic on the planet. 16 people every day in the United Kingdom take their own life and over 900,000 people globally take their own life annually. I have actually been involved (again in some capacity) in suicidal funerals to people whom I have actually known. I think it is about time the whole world woke up to this travesty.
This made me realize that all the people are not happy in this world. Before watching this I was considering myself helpless because I never saw my mother for she died when I was only 1year old. I always imagined about my mother's personality but after looking and observing these flowing tears in Patricia's eyes I found that may be my mother would be like her loving, caring and affectionate.
I miss you mom and need your shelter. May their soul be in peace who left us.Amen
I'm sorry.。
your mom is in a better place now, :)
God bless you and stay happy.
This was so heartbreaking. There is so much suffering in the world. Patricia, I pray for you and your family. Truly devastating. 💕🌻🙏
Ill be joining the world to 🙏 for you and you're sanity especially you're frail aged parents.
I lost the father of my 3 children to suicide 2 months ago. It’s so hard. His mom is devastated. That was her baby from 10 kids. So many questions. My children miss their dad so much. He always thought he wasn’t enough or didn’t deserve my love because of mistakes he had made. I always forgave him and we were at peace with each other and our children. His personal decisions and life issues put him in a deep depression. He had God in his heart but idk what was going on in his mind. In hind sight there was signs but in the moment it didn’t feel like it because he was such a strong man physically and was very smart. He knew how to hide certain things too. It’s not getting easier but with the grace of God the pain lifts. It’s an emotional rollercoaster and so many unanswered questions.
I too lost my brother 3 months ago and its not easy for me and my mom. It hurts even more because I lost my dad already to cancer. Life can be so unforgiving.
God bless you for being so strong in this tragic loss.
Can't image how one brother dies. The other 2 have to live with that. Then another one decides to takes his. The third feels helpless and gives up as well. This is beyond torture. That woman is crazy poweful.
SHE LOOKS TOTALLY BROKEN FOR HER SONS😢😢😢😭😭😭
These boys are my three cousins miss them so much 😭💔 RIP Niall, Kieran and Stephen love use so much RIP GBNF❤❤❤❤❤❤
Funny joke
@@GrandGamesReviews this is not a joke.that’s my cousin,my mummy is seaneen Ferrin and my granny is nanny pactrica
@@bcbedolll9372what the hell? How are they you're cousin when this girl above me said that's her cousin too
@@GrandGamesReviews we are cousins and they're her 3 uncles in the video and that's her granny that's what she means!!!!
@@bcbedolll9372 just ignore him cara hope your okay love❤
We shouldn't ignore this issue.
She is a very strong woman to share her story.
Thanks
Strong* woman?
Well this is a very hard world to live in. And it's not getting better.
Right? This poor woman, my heart breaks for her. I can’t even imagine. The other side of me knows life just isn’t for everyone. Some of us are born broken😞
nobody understands me n i feel like this world wasn't meant for me at all..
I feel exactly the same.
Heyyyyyy, im here if you want. Dont feel that wayyy, reply me back if you need me!!
I feel the same. It’s so sad but some of us just aren’t meant to be here. With that said please try to find anything you can that makes you smile💜
You are love and is loved soo sooooooooo much, you are worth gold and silver from a creator omnipresent in you who has more than the best for you, He is love and so you are and we need your light, keep it on please💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 love you and big hugs whoever you are going through this
Make it mean something then... You are the only one who chooses the way you see existence.. You are the only one who decides to start over or stay in the abyss.. Find meaning in life and look for sincere and honest friends.. There is no point in giving up, you have to fight, If you win, you will feel the joy of victory, and if you lose, it's okay. You can try a thousand times.. This is life. You will feel love, joy, anger, fear, disgust, contentment and despair sometimes.. This is life my friend
Compassion is the only way forward. I am so sorry this is happening. If you know anyone who lives alone please just call them and tell them they matter and you care about them. I am a senior living alone and I have a few friends who call me. It really makes the world of difference to me. Loneliness is so overwhelming at times. Your call could literally save someones life. Thank you for reading this.
people who say “think about your family” have no idea. when I was hospitalized because of severe depression and ptsd I did not care about nobody. I was in so much pain, I did not care at all and would have done anything to stop it. I just tried to minimize the amount of people seeing me when I try to kill myself.
@Elisa Castro And suicide would continue if we don't try to listen or understand the perspectives of suicidal people.
I myself suffered from severe depression l experience depression twice l think daily of suicide and l am well know know personwel
@bentobox7061 depression is the worst experience of my life daily l think about suicide my family doctor prescribed valium for sleep and l used it for over 17 years now that has side effects and the government ban valium l had headlines running through the back of my neck and to the middle of my head causing severe pain after l was going through menopause. I don't have support from my family's but l have an elderly mother who now 85 years old with dementia that is why l won't l am not dead today. If l suffer another severe depression l am going to commit suicide for sure because off valium l cannot focus on driving, loss of memory, counting, reading, and sleeping
I lost my mom and dad at a little age i have been fighting life all by my self
You are awesome! Please stay strong, I will pray for you.
@@ninab6150 thank you I really appreciate you and what you doing
maybe somehow suicide has become an accepted out within a certain group ? - but the story of three brothers within 7 years is almost beyond belief ? it's not like it was an action taken together , but three separate extreme acts ?!
It was probably a domino effect. One took his life for whatever was bothering him so much, then the other one got suicidal by the thought of his brother committing suicide etc..
@@707beats6 , it's very sad !
MERRY 🎄 CHRISTMAS
@@707beats6 u hit the nail on the head there. My brother committed suicide two years ago and the way it’s left us I can understand what u mean 😢
This is not inappropriate content. I’m here because I lost my brother to suicide and it helps to know I’m not alone
God bless you for losing your brother. I hope you find peace and healing
This honestly brought me to tears..mental health is a really serious thing and we need to end the stigma
I agree the stigma needs to end regarding so called "mental illness."
The fact is that the brain is just another organ in ones body & neurotransmitters are actually a physical thing - so I think the term mental illness needs to be changed.
Lost my brother on February 2019 to suicide by hanging, I was pregnant then I had my son on 22 /07/2019 and he died 2days later been suicidal since then...its so hard to deal with the pain
At least u have a husband
I am suicidal & I am all by myself
@@judygd8749 I feel you and I pray to anyone who is listening to give u comfort and give u a purpose.. Bless your heart swts
@@consolatairungu9709
You are a kind & beautiful soul
I wish you Peace,Love&Light always
I wish both of you will find the way to get through your lives.
@@consolatairungu9709 unfortunatly i know your pain. We must be strong and dont lose hope, im gonna pray for you and your family. God bless you
Life isn't easy, no matter where you live, poor countries, rich countries. ..we need love and friends around. Bless you mom, love from Brazil. .❤.
Well said, Vanda
Facts, people need to accept that and learn to dance in the rain.
@@Earl_TheSquirrel "rain"
"More like shit storm.
@@TheFracturedfuture That one sounds like ivory tower preaching to me.
You can feel the pain in her voice 💔💔💝
Wow 3 people in a single family lost to suicide. Can’t imagine how a parent would go through losing 3 children. Mental health is so serious and it happens in every race and culture.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with mental support or anything like that .
I lost my son and husband I can't imagine 💔 your pain losing 3 sons my deepest condolences to u and your family
I would love to complete my training in Suicide Prevention and come over to Ireland to help educate the communities there. My god that poor mother 😭😭😭
Complete your training in how to keep lying to people.
If you save one life it would be worth it!! Good luck with your future!! We need more people like you,to help with this huge problem !!
If people are taught to be happy in every situation in life then no one will ever commit suicide.. In schools it should be taught
@@akashchowdhury1786 unfortunately you can't be happy in every situation. Maybe you start faking being happy but then it gets even worse, because you're not in harmony with what you truly feel
@@sugercane7213 what do you mean by this ??
No way will I ever go to the Doctors and let them know or anybody know. I’ve lost interest in everything now. Sleep as much as I can.
Are you still with us?
OMG this poor women it's just unbelievable, my youngest brother took his life some years ago it's so heartbreaking
woman*
Shit happens
@@tylerharris4392 yes it does. But heartless people seem to avoid trying suicide
There is a serious lack of mental health support here in the uk as well!! My heart seriously breaks for this poor family 😢
Emma just wait till you visit South Africa. Everything is falling apart here especially with HIV.
Can you believe that there is a church around here that sprays pesticides in the faces of others?
NI is in the UK.
@@theemotionalremix what do you mean?
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
Nothing to do with mental support or anything like that .
I had a mental break down few years ago and got took to hospital the doctor was half asleep asked me a few questions and sent me home to see my gp I did eventually see my gp but all they did was throw me on tablets the side effects were awful so now still suffering mentally uk mental health care is so crap I told them I feel like I have bipolar and they laughed I couldn’t possibly be this was all over the phone haven’t seen a gp in person for years
I just recently lost my son to suicide I don't know what care you get in Ireland or England because I'm from Wales . And the way people treat you here it's like you've done something wrong there's no help groups or nothing. Feeling so heartbroken and lost and a quick message to the mum in the video I am so so sorry if I could give you a hug I would xc
The Mental Health Service oh please don't get me started on them it's no care in the community whatsoever anymore it's not only the Mental Health Service is the police as well is how they treat you afterwards by the seams of it's happening all over
Pray 🙏🏼
God listens, He’s with you
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
@@heidimarie8995 It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
Poverty - emotional stress - bereavement- PTSD - Loneliness - love - are just some of the contributing factors towards suicide....
My grandma lost her son to suicide and my grandpa and her have never been the same. I cannot imagine losing 3 children to suicide. Lord bless her broken heart🙏💔
The fighting in Northern Ireland has been going on since I was a kid... depressing environment to grow up with the angst...
No
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
My deepest sympathy for the mother who lost her sons to suicide. The high suicide rate of Northern Ireland suggests that mental health problems are not just an individual thing, but a community-wide problem. It is not enough to heal the individual when entire communities are suffering. Given the recent history of the region, one key component for healing would likely involve rebuilding trust.
We are dragged into this absurd hell called 'life' with no say, but we can choose to leave it. I don't see the problem. The real problem is being dragged into this bad deal (slavery and increasing suffering) in the first place.
I once wished there was consent before one is born.
We have no choice , i can not leave it
I commeted suicide becuase of bad life quality whether family , country , health & earning but the last suicide was medicine to help in health
So i know iam not to dyi even if i want
Because god issuses
Nowdayes i want to live to take care of my cats
I want my life to end. I have constant thoughts of the end. There is no help when all is laid bare.
Hey, how you're feeling now? Hope you are better and safe 🥺
I have a noose hanging from my shed roof that i look at each day
@@pauleng883 I understand that feeling..Would you be open to the idea of taking it down?
@@surfinganonymously no. I understand suicide is the only option I have. Ive tried all others. Its getting over the line.
@@pauleng883 I sadly understand you. May I asked what options you’ve explored. Because I always find that there is an avenue that I haven’t explored...for example I’ve made an extensive mind map to explore my whole life and found that if one avenue ran dry another could still be explored.
Maybe that’s the same case for you...
I lost my elder sister in 2003 to suicide and one month ago my brother took his own life.The mental health care team failed my sister and now failed my brother they didnt monitor them my mum rang for months begging for help because my brother needed help he was ignored and treated by officials as just a sad number.im heartbroken for the second time and I cant bear to see my mums pain.im not suicidal myself but people need to wake up and stop judging. It takes bloody guts of steel to do what they did and I truly believe if there was proper support my sister and brother would be here now...the drugs the gp give you dont work are not monitored and reviewed its appalling.
Please be there for one another never feel it's too late or you're not loved this world is a very very cruel ruthless place
Xxxx
Mental Health is an epidemic and seems to be played down and almost normalised.
THIS IS NOT NORMAL ATALL WE MUST NOT BE SILENCED.XX
Depression is real. The Bible speaks of a time when depression and sickness of all types will be a thing of the past. Revelations 21:3,4. I look forward to this time. JW.ORG
“Death may be the greatest of all human blessings.” That is from Socrates. I do contemplate on suicide for almost a decade now. I kinda think, it is a celebration.
My ailing cousin did. I have some guilts; i guess, he overheared my arguments weeks before he did it in 2016. Albeit, he could also be philosophical about human life... And also, 2 of my childhood friends did, some 10 yrs ago.
Allan Abad Death and not Suicide is the greatest human blessing. Death and suicide are two different things. The comparison is actually heaven and earth, like black and white. Common sense! Self explanatory. - 3M
I used to want to commit suicide but I didn't want to hurt my family. But I do look forward to when I can pass naturally and there will be no more struggle or worries
Me too ready for this experience to be over . I’m tired
Hang in there Matthew someone loves you. I don't know you at all but I hope this comment reaches you we are brothers of struggles and are worth every minute of life. I love you man..IM .Dustin from CHICAGOLAND USA
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I completely agree, Matthew. I’ll never act on those feelings, but it’s a comfort to know there is an end in sight. Good luck to you. 🤝
I don’t even know how this woman is able to be so strong. Three children? 😳😰😰 she is strong man.
Omg I can't imagine losing one son to any reason let alone all 3 of my sons, over and over every year 3 death dates, burthdays, holidays etc etc I can't even think about it. She is one strong woman. May God continue to hold you in his hands until it's your time to see your babies again.
Patrica I’m so sorry for your losses! Sending prayers and hugs. Take care of yourself
My heart goes out for this mother.god bless her and give her the strength to carry on.
There is a WORLDWIDE mental health crisis. I truly believe that a number of our worlds most pressing issues have mental health issues at the root. It’s so stigmatized still, it is difficult to ask for help, find good help, and afford the care they need. Then you have the treatment itself which can be lifelong, and arduous. It’s absolutely unacceptable. Our mental health needs to be accommodated just as our physical health. They are undeniably interconnected too. We have come really far as a world community, but in this regard we are stuck in the dark ages.
What people understand about suicide is that the percentage of other family members killing themselves after a suicide is extremely high....
My heart goes out to all who've lost a family member to suicide. 🙏😢🙏
The Samaritans said to me, "Wait 24 hours until you act." It has saved my bacon over and over again.
Wow that’s really good advice
@@dollyri1995 l agree.
It sure is.
Sorry, I don’t understand what this means. I’m not English so if anyone could explain it thankyou 👍🏼😃
@I want to eat chicken • 150 years ago Ah I see so they encourage the peoples to wait if they have thought of killing themselves? I think I understand now thankyou sir.
Thanks for providing good content
Thank you, glad you found it useful.
Her strength and will to go on living is so admirable. I probably would not have lasted long after such successive tragedies.
I think her sewing friends were a real support for her. It is good to have that kind of social network to pull you through dark days.
My oldest son took his life less than 24 hours after being discharged from hospital for therapy. Insurance would only pay for 7 days
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
@@bobfaam5215 it's the brain. It can become sick and need medicine. Someone with a healthy brain can be fine alone or without many people. Just like a broken leg needs mending so does the brain
My son took his life seven days ago and I am broken. I cant understand why this happened
God bless you I'm so sorry for the loss x
I am so so sorry for your loss I wish you was something I could say or do to help you through your pain my thoughts and my prayers are with youxx
@@heidimarie8995 thank you so much. I would not wish this on my worst enemy, but I appreciate your compassion.
I've just recently lost my son to suicide my boy was only 22 and I'm the one who found him so I understand how you're feeling xx
Heidi Marie I’m so so so sorry
Absolutely heartbreaking, wish I could give this woman a hug 😞💔
My son taked his own life November 27th , 2016 ..... I feel very sad and painful ... I fell like I am dead too ... I am very sorry for Patricia .! QEPD for her kids ....
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
I can relate I was at a very hard time in my life I had tried to commit suicide.Thank YOU so much on bringing light to this subject.
I pray you all that are thinking of suicide look for help because you are special and your family need you and will be lost with out you
Why does society think suicide is wrong when there is over 7billion people in the world with no end of slowing? Please dont bombard with the usual anecdotes of "think about your family" and "how would you feel if some you knew killed themselves" i am looking for even response
Unfortunately only a small percentage of that 7 billion produce the most to feed and improve conditions for the majority. If too many of those people die off we go back to third world conditions all over the globe.
3 sons. What the heck!! 😭. I am so deeply sorry to this mother. This family. This nation. This twisted damn world.
Every human is born against his will and every human has to die against his will, it is better never to be born, I sympathize with her son's, they were clearly forced into an existence which they didn't ask for and which they didn't want to be in. What a courage and self-sacrifice of them to make at least an attempt to escape from this malicious game called life.
At the very least, you have a point.
This is exactly 100% what I always think , you put it in the perfect words. We didn't choose to come to this world and we cannot decide when we want to die . We should have the right .
Not every person enjoy their existence and not everybody wants to be and stay here
Sorry, I disagree. Suicide is never the answer. Life may be tough, but where there is hope, there is life. It is up to us and the community, to find that hope.
@@bdictjames hello James , you obviously have hope in your life and therefore you think everybody else is experiencing the same. for some people there is no hope in their life so they have no life. Taking your own life is the very last thing anyone would do, it's never the first choice but the last resort.
The thing about life is it is 100% fatal--no one gets out of life alive. But there is a terrible finality of death. Why rush it? This may be your one and only chance to exist. Life is a gift. Enjoy it.
My son, 35, took his life in January. He has 3 brothers. My life is so full of anxiety at the thought of losing another. May this poor lady find some peace x
I’m 34 and considering suicide. I’m just tired and broken.
Horrible. Pray for me because I've been feeling suicidal lately too
You probably won't get this but I feel the same way
Of course
Hope you're feeling better
Big hug from England 🙏
I hope somebody comes to heal the rest of this family! God bless them! Prayers......
I'm sorry Patricia for your losses ❤️
My parents both died in a car accident a year ago and my sister committed suicide a month ago. Unfortunately, most of my aunts and uncles that I grew up with have had early deaths as well not to mention the love of my life is leaving me no matter how much I beg her. I’m so alone.. and I want to die, I want to commit suicide and I’m going to do it. I’m just waiting until I get paid so I can buy the things I need to complete a “Detergent Suicide” it’s pretty popular, so I hope it’ll work for me. I’m commenting this because I’m desperate for some kind of loving connection with someone. I don’t want live but I don’t want to die.. but I do. I’m so alone.
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If you can wait until you get paid, can you wait another day after that? Another 72 hours? Another week? You are still here and that means things can still get better if you can stay around to see.
I'm so sorry to hear that you've had so much terrible loss so suddenly and so quickly after one another. It sounds like you are very badly depressed, which anyone would be after everything that's happened to you. You 100 percent, absolutely need to get some mental health help after so much loss and grief, just as you'd need lots of medical care, like surgery and physical therapy, after being badly injured in an accident. No one would expect to just recover from a terrible car accident on their own.
Is there a mental health crisis line in your area that you can call? Even calling the emergency number (like 911 in the US or 999 in several other countries) at least get you taken in for evaluation and referral to resources in your area. If you can't afford regular therapy, a college or university with a psychology department probably has a clinic where the pricing is based on your income. When I was really bad off, the clinic I was going to let me pay just $5 a week for a while. I felt like I had nothing to live for but I at least knew that the therapist would be there every week, waiting to see me at that time on a certain day.
It's important for you to develop a "loving connection" with yourself more than anyone. You take yourself everywhere and into every situation so your relationship with yourself is the most important to develop and maintain. You and your own life are worth continuing for, no matter what other people choose to do.
Just as the woman you love right now is free to leave the relationship, you are free to go on without her. She is the love of your life so far, but your life isn't finished yet. It sounds like she's already made a decision, so begging her to stay is burning valuable mental and emotional energy that you need for your own survival right now. There are 3.5 billion women in the world. She is unique and special and there's no one just like her. But that is also true of you and of other women you haven't had a chance to meet yet. But you have to stay around in order to give that time to happen.
Talk to God/nature/the stars, the universe. Write about your feelings in a notebook or on your phone or laptop. Look for a support group for people who have lost someone to suicide or any kind of grief support group online. Many many people are in or have been in the same awful situation you're in. They will understand.
It's too much to think about how to get through life while everything seems so terrible. You don't have to get all the way through life at once, only today. Only this minute and then the next, doing one thing at a time.
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They do it because life sucks simple answer
seeing this when being suicidal is heart breaking, I don‘t want to hurt people by killing myself but I just cannot do it anymore.
I hope you didn’t kill yourself. I tried to kill myself and I’m so glad it didn’t work. It’s a long journey but it really does get better as hard as that is to believe. I know I didn’t believe it when people told me that but it really is true. I lost a friend to suicide, have family members and people who lost people to suicide, I have friends who’ve attempted suicide or had suicidal thoughts, and like I said I’ve felt that way myself. Trust me, I can relate.
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I am crying so much. Patricia, you are so strong for not breaking out into tears and an inspiration, not only for those that lost their loved ones but parents that are still affected by such travesity. I hope that this short documentary will bring, not only comfort but also knowledge about mental health and suicide issues to a larger platform. Mental health is a serious matter to be taken into consideration and if you see someone that is going through a difficult time, just walk up to the person and ask how that individual's day was and how the person is doing. It does impact the person so much. It is the simple things that makes a huge difference.
Stay strong and God bless you and your family💛. Love all the way from Namibia, Africa🇳🇦.
I feel like....social media is a big issue too..... but that's my opinion
and that is the single reason i’m still here- I can’t put my family through that pain and regret
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
My son took something from the roadworks..climbed up a tree and hung himself. He was 17 Patricia..I have no idea how you survive. Sending all my love to you xxxxxx
My thoughts are my prayers are with you at this sad timexx
When one member of a family commits suicide, other family members (even distant) get implied permission to do the same.
I can't put it to words..what had happened to her family...its so hard to her..God bless her
I’m from a crap hole town in the north of England I work six days a week I’m 24 living at home with no savings. I hate the thought of doing this to my mum, I’m an only child. I just can’t deal with this dull pointless life. I don’t think people in my social class get happy endings, I can’t stand the thought of been in my 40s and still living on the same council estate I was born on.
It’s because people are lonely in the west with no friends or neighbours to talk to and no extended family like cousins .
People in the west normally don’t interact with anyone except their immediate family and this makes people very lonely . Because people need friends too.
Nothing to do with lack of mental health support or anything like that . Everything cannot be cured by medication .
Loneliness can’t be cured by medication .
Make friends or reach out to your cousins or relatives or join some group like Gym or sports or church where you can meet people and make friends .
Loneliness is the real cause of suicide because in western countries people live alone on the houses an don’t talk to each other. Not even neighbours and now people have stopped twilling to relatives to in the west .
substance abuse is so high in Ireland. Substance abuse leads to depression. i am sorry this lovely Mom has lost her Sons. RIP
Lots, lots of love to you dearest Patricia. All the strength and love to you. You're inspiring me to go on.
Thank you for sharing, this is such an important issue
They transferred their pain to her, that’s what suicide does.
Such severe conflict affects young minds and hearts.
Takes away their sense of hope and hope is necessary for life.
I so respect these parents working to save others children.
If 3 kids died in the same family..something is deffo going on with the parents, no offence but deffo. No words around it
What you mean something defo going on with the parents!?
I only live for my family
I remember this mom who lost her 3 sons. They died because of cancer. Then I saw an article about a mom who lost her 3 daughters due to a car crash. Losing family members is the most painful.
I'm sorry but I can't understand hardly anything she is saying. But then the narrator speaks very clear and u put subtitles up for him. Wtf BBC?
The flea on Twinkies ass You can switch on the SRT subtitles for this video
Suzanne Nf No problem at all.
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you completely avoided the question ...!!! why have you subtitled the narrator, who speaks intelligible English ...
yet neglected to subtitle the Irish woman who speaks gibberish ....!!!!
obviously we can use a third party translation service ... but that is not the point ....!!!
what? I understand everything she says...And I am not from an english speaking country.
@@Nobodybutme898 .... you are also completely missing the point ....!!!!!! the narrator is speaking very clearly.. slowly & precisely in perfect English .. ....
they have printed his words in big white letters smack bang in the middle of the screen ...!!! but the Irish woman who is not speaking clearly at all, does not have her words printed centre screen in big white letters ... i hope that helps ...
I had no idea Northern Ireland had the highest suicide rate. I am so sorry for any family that loses a family member to suicide but Patricia lost three? Bless her. No one can feel what she feels. Patricia, I admire your activities to be strong but you were not weak and tired when you lost your sons. You were lost in the maze of how to help them, how to cope, and what to do. I wish you the very best.
Yes Northern Ireland is the highest rate suicide these boys in the video are my cousins I have lost 4 cousins to suicide 😢💔
I have tried 3x since i was 12 iam 63 now and still have thoughts. I know a professional has no clue so no longer bother. I have to tell myself what it would do to my kids. I do this all the time. Just feel tired all the time
May God' heal the broken heart people in Northern Ireland people.. I'm praying for it... And thanks for sharing this inspiring video..
Terisa Kinimi 💗 thank you
They took a page of the arabs. Bomb your enemy to submission. All that violence ruined the next generation.
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, rates are gonna rise super high over the next five years. Working two jobs to barely scrape by is not living. I got laid off because of covid. As soon as my savings dries up I am out of this hell.