For question #2 the husband and wife should resolve their differences initially and sit their daughters down and explain the pros and cons of the dress code as well as I believe that change and implementation comes from within not by imposing which inevitably leads to rebellion..hope it helps the family...👍🤗🐈
But when you're indoctrinated to a certain kind of values then being resilient to that kind of norm is bit weird and strnge it need not to be addressed and to explain the purpose of why to do hijab Or the lest possible why to wear modest clothes not hijab.
For question #2 well said but I think 2 theories can resolve this issue very comfortably, the first one is of personal construct by George Kelly ( every person can made their own schema on the basis of their past experience like 3 person sitting in a same room, white coloured bulb lighten in the room and they all wore glasses of different colours blue, green, red etc so every person can see light on the behalf of their coloured glasses(experience) so nothing wrong with anyone's perspective) and the second one is of positive reinforcement or token economy by BF Skinner (rigidness or punishment can result into bad situations so we can negotiate it by doing priming of our children's through positive reinforcement and token economy (it to give a present to child after completion a task of your choice for his /her betterment).
The question at 57:42: "Potential to study arts but suffering from ADHD and have unsupportive parents." I had a similar upbringing with studies because I was suffering from dyslexia. Which made it very difficult for me to study and get good grades while my parents or teacher including myself for a long period did not know what the was issue, at the age of 21 I discovered I am dyslexic and understood what actually made me below average. your concerns are valid and what you are suffering from is not your "laziness" or "unwillingness" whenever someone says that please ignore it completely since they are not educated about your situation. The first thing I would recommend is that you learn about your condition and understand what are the hurdles you will be facing because of your ADHD and also things you may be having issues with but did not know that was caused by your condition. Also please do not take Junaid's comments about your formatting personally since he does not understand that it is because of your condition and not because you are illiterate. Which is are a common comment people pass. also please check if you are dyslexic as well since a lot of ADHD people do have dyslexia. Once you will learn about it you will understand why I am saying this. Career Advice: Because of your ADHD you will have a hard time focusing on stuff and it would take you above-average energy to socialize and deal with people and projects. I myself am a Graphic Designer and that is why I was compelled to write this comment. You do not need a degree to be a graphic designer. I have been working as a designer for the past 4 years and not once someone asks me for my degree nor I have one. I did a 3 months course in graphic design and I knew that is something I can do and I perused that since being dyslexic I did not have any other choice. Just learn graphic designing from UA-cam and keep practicing every day for some hours and make a portfolio online. Join different platforms for freelancing and learn how you can earn from that because it is very very possible. I am a prime example since I solely work as a freelancer with clients from all over the work. keep studying and just do passing marks and do what you actually love and listen to no one. No one will understand your situation and never will (Especially in Pakistan) You lack Validation: people with such a condition get shamed a lot and labeled as "Lazy" please watch this to learn about family trauma (ua-cam.com/video/sXGhT4pJcj8/v-deo.html). That lack of validation did a lot of damage to your life and mental health and you need to have some time with yourself to remember the roots and understand where some of your emotions are coming from to build a strong support system. You need a good social support system: look for better friends that will support you and listen to you and give you validation and respect and admire you. This is important to boost your confidence and to stand up for yourself in places where you have to. If you have any other questions about my career and how I work or get work as a graphic designer you can comment below. PS: I had several mistakes in spelling and formatting but I use Grammarly to help me spell check and format check.
@@alishbaurooj6084 it's my pleasure! Honestly supporting someone who's going through something you went in the pask makes me extremely happy. If you have any questions please do ask don't hesitate, I understand.
Inam i was about to comment the same things as you said. I also have ADHD -PI (predominantly inattentive) since middle school and I am struggling with it presently( just finished bachelors with a shitty GPA). People who tell you that you are lazy or you just don't care don't know what you are going through, they can't understand the struggles associated with executive function and how ADHD brains work. A small piece of advice for the girl in the last question is that please get yourself diagnosed, I myself spent 3 years of my life mustering up the courage to go see a psychiatrist and I am glad that i did. And i know there is a social stigma about taking stimulant medication for this condition but there is no shame in talking it if it improves your quality of life. There are also other options to tackle this and your doctor may help you in finding the best way to deal with it. Those were my two cents, I'd really like that people were more educated in general about mental health as it should be given the same importance as one's physical self being. If anyone has any questions related to this topic feel free to ask them.
For the second question about the daughter's dressing. From Canada's 🇨🇦 I can tell you with high certainty. The restrictions and force don't train your kids to be like you. It trains better liars. Your kids may be decent right now, but if you enforce an ideology on them or even a career or academic pressure, those kids become the heaviest drinkers in uni. A gentle conversation is the best option you have. But ultimately they must choose their path.
God all these questions about marriage make me so scared of it. We are a family of 3 sisters and that makes me so scared because of our toxic society. May Allah makes it easy for us!
Not to brag my mom and dad, made us do house chores. I can proudly make sandwiches, tea, coffee, do dish washing, clean the house, etc. Proud of mom and dad they raised us well. ❤
Such great parents just like mine. I do everything from cooking cleaning ironing you name it but when I went to see rishte the aunty ji goes about her daughter *the larki* " isko koi kaam nahi ata, hum ne Kabhi ghar ka kaam nahi karwaya" Now that's something to be proud of in the 21st century 🤪🙄
'Wife and I disagree on daughters dressing' Im a Pakistani living in the UK, my family arrived here when i was 13. In my experience we have found that asians would move to another country for better opportunity and life, something Pakistan cannot offer. You just have to listen to this Q&A and see what problems people living in pakistan face. However, when pakistanis come here they vehemently oppose the western culture and harp on to how amazing pakistani culture is and they force this on their kids. This is wrong, you cant expect your kids to grow up in a western society yet make them live like they're in gujranwala! If you force your girls to be modest at the age of 9 and 12 you’re just oppressing them and they will feel like outsiders amongst their peers and will never be able to truly fit in. Also how unmodest could a 9 and 12 year old be? Youre just sexualising your kdis at a very young age! Your clothes dont define you, all you can do is make sure you teach them to be a kind and sensible people. Your children will be a direct reflection of your upbringing. If you put restrictions on them from a very young age you are just giving them the fuel to rebel. Women in pakistan dress modestly, what good does that do? They still cant walk down the street without been verbally or physically abused by men. If you want to give them the upbringing of a typical pakistani culture then you should move back to pakistan and see how that goes. Youre just setting your kids to be outsiders for the rest of their lives, you should be able to assimilate into the society you move into, you cant move to holland and expect to live like youre in karachi! P.S continue listening for amazing examples of pakistani culture. Peace
For 2nd Question: I feel you need to educate your girls politely reason behind covering like bring them close to religion other things will follow accordingly. I got close to Islam when I read Quran-o-Tafseer during my school. Ask Allah to make it easier for you and your family. Clothing is very secondary; they need to first be strong on their beliefs (five pillars of Islam, achey burey ka farkh etc). Important thing is Bachon ko maa baap ki dua se zyada kisi or ki dua nahi lagti so if you ask Allah for help, I am sure you will find solution. You need to develop love for religion bohot pyar se and slowly. Allah is very merciful indeed.
Hi, since many actually believe in this theory, I wanted to shed some light here ( doing my thesis on psychoanalysis). Oedipus to many researchers does not exist. Even in Alice Miller's publication "The banished knowledge" and "The three psychological perspectives" the idea has been highly criticized. Also its mentioned in Freud's letters that he abandoned the scientific integrity to cope up with the hysteric women he had to see. It was actually the parents who used to abuse their children, since in that era they were highly rich and Uncle Freud didn't want to blame the rich clients, he had to come up with the theory of Oedipus. And now it has been rejected by many. This behavior can come from either fear (losing the hold, some sort of jealousy) or any obsession , or what Junaid said or there might be some sort of her underlying childhood as well as relationship issues.
Allahmdulillah My mother has Taught me Everything from Basic Cooking to Stitching, She always Scolded me whenever I asked my Sisters to Press my Clothes , so I have always Done everything by myself and now I am habitual and Realized that this is such Blessing , My Mother Never Made anyone of us Mamas girl/boy We all are Self Reliant and knows our Basic Home chores .
About daughters clothing: Let them wear what they like... dont force them.. Instead take them to muslim community centers where daughters can observe how other muslim girls are dressed up there... they may like the modesty on their own and adopt that clothing style. Hope it helps
@@imtiaznazir2987 His daughters are 9,12 years old respectively. They are too young to be left upon their own choice, they are most likely to follow peer pressure. If they are left upon their own choice, they should also be left upon their own choice whether to study or not and so on. They need to be guided and can be left upon their choice when they grow up, like at least 16-year-olds.
I think in Pakistan their are either shalwar kameez or direct jeans. There is no in between. I don’t find shalwar qameez modest as well as jeans and sleeveless. As long as your body covers and don’t show silhouette called modest. This includes men and women.
The first question sums up the whole life of all the married girls in our society and covers almost all the possible problems women must have faced regardless of their caste or status. Kudos!👍 Can't stress enough on the aspect of toxicity in houses
@@SingleAsSun bhai, these are basic necessities, ap ki Beti ko koi aisa treat karay? And she didn’t do the the laraiii her mom in law did. So please, duniyaaa agaaay ja rahi ha. Kisi bhi Muslim countries main joint family system nai Hota.. unfortunately it’s an Indian thing.
@@zehran340 Joint family is mostly either in Most poor families or super rich Defence family... poor family live together because they are poor and cant afford space/ rich families have super big like my dadi have joint family but their house is 4 kanaal in Lahore defence😂 we live separate by the way... the girl married to a poor guy on her own... its middle class chonchalein to get a separate house in other countries people are mostly rich to buy a separate house...
I agree with Junaid; most south-east Asian people don't know the basic etiquette of using the washroom. It's a shame that people still need to be taught how to use a loo during this day and age.
The lady from first question: I am sorry that you went through such circumstances but never forget to be grateful that your husband is standing with you in his own way and not letting his mother's toxicity affecting him and (I hope) your relationship. Sometimes in adverse circumstances we take things for granted like love from someone. I have seen women being emotionally harassed by the husband's family and he has nothing to say and nothing to act upon.
For the third girl let me share my personal experience jist for you only... Mere parent ne meri behan ki shadi drugs addictor se kradi even 2 3 logo ne parents ko btaya b k yeh drug use krta hai...my sister rejected that proposal but my mother (late) rip....said mene zaban dedi hai......phr wohi hua jiska dr tha woh chrsi nkla or ghr me b apne chrsi dosto ko bolane lga ghro ki cheze churane lga...phr 1 din usne hd paar krdi.....to meri ami meri bhn ko ghr le i lekin phr use moqa dia lekin wo khabees insan na bna ab meri sister k 2 bche hai 1 son 1 daughter........woh khabees charsi ka kuch ata pta ni na uske maa baap ka....ab bhn ghr pr h 10 saal se or na khula leti hai na shadi krdi h bolti h meri beti h sotele baap ka kia pta......she is depression and the worst is my mother died because of this pain....please behan shadi na krna khuda ka wasta hai.....sb ki zindgia brbad hogi.......chrsi bnda kbi chrs ni chorskta....jo b bolta h chordi jhoot bolta hai.........junaid bhai hme b suggestion de next hum kia kre. Or hoske to mera yeh message logo ko phnchae takeh bht c bhno ki zindgia bch ske. Thanks
Dekhen baat tw aapki behen ki b sai hai k agar Shaadi krli tw betiyan Hain inki sotailay Baap Ka kya pata ab Jo Hona tha hogaya....zruri nai k dusri Shaadi krne par hi aapki behen set hojayen ya Khush rhen tw isliay behter hai k wo khud apni koi job ya income Ka zariya dhoond Len kiunke agar wo financially strong hojayengien tw phir Kisi or k saharay ki zrurt nai paregi unhen
For second guy. I’m only a uni student in the UK not married but what I’ve seen is that there are a lot of muslim girls born and raised here who wear hijab and modest clothes and feel pride about dressing modestly. I think it is all to do with upbringing if their upbringing is teaching them islam then they will be modest themselves whereas if they are forced they will take it off once they get to uni.
mera nikah nama bhi kata hua aaya tha and honestly speaking mjhe itna idea bhi nai tha na jis ghar me meri shadi hui hai unn logon k itnau right wagera ka pta hai aur jo first bandi k masael say almost saray hi maslay meray bhi the shadi k 1st year me but phir me nay aonay inlaws say unnki zaban me hi baat ki aur poori bad muashi say apnay haq liye... now alhamdulillah i am hapily married and apna ghar achay say sambhal rahi hun. 😇
Drugs use karne me koi "wo" nahi hai. Junaid bhai, apke uper bohot bari responsibility hai yar. Koi bhi addict hone ki intention se shuru nahi karta hai but they end up becoming addicts because of the first time use. Plus deen me bhi prohibited hai, so I do not understand why our influencers do not condemn this enough! Please don't refrain from discouraging the use of drugs. I respect your work and have been a fan for quite a while. No harsh feelings!
Please make a video on Nikkah nama because the other day i had an argument with someone who was continuously denying that Nikkah namy pe dulhan ke condition wala koi section hota hi nahi...please make one so that i can send that video to this person..
For question two: i faced similar situation with my daughters in germany but if we force them they will rebel as that is the thing of teenage. A person is rebellious because he/she is exploring. Solution is simple: share with them dr israr and nauman ali khan and similar scholars videos so love for their Creator and his teachings start in their heart. May Allah protects them till then and you have big responsibility to educate them in good words and with patience
Behind the theory of dressing as form of expression, western ladies stopped wearing clothes. They are almost naked with v short shorts and almost wearing nothing. It’s like inviting evil
Thank you Junaid bhai for this amazing video. I really think that you should make that nikah nama video, that too as soon as possible. Many lives are ruined by misinformation and misknowledge.
Please please make a video about washrooms . I am from kashmir and once I was at a relative’s house and had to go to washroom and was shocked to see there was no soap and I had to wash my hands with a toothpaste . Afterwards , I started noticing how many many people there don’t have towel or soap in washrooms. Pleaseee talk about this , make a video over this
drug addict fiance wali behn bhul k bhi mat krna is sy shadi ek he br dheet bn jao life bcha lo apni ghr walo ko shyd ghnta prwah nh suffer apko krna pry ga puri lyf MAY ALLAH PROTECT U N GIVE U MORE N MORE POWER
I definitely agree with your idea for nikkah contract. Most woman they don't go through the nikkah docs and sign them which mosty leads them of something they not expecting. Which eventually ends with with divorce. You can see the amount of divorces happened from covid till this day. Majority of divorce you will find in Pakistan compare to other countries. Really looking forward to your new video regarding Nikkah paper as you mentioned in this video
Boys, never marry a girl who is living/lived a superior lifestyle, you'll be doing her and yourself a disservice. Apko uski adhi sy ziada batain samajh he nahi aengi even as simple as har bathroom mein alag harpik.
bilkul sahi bol rhe hain bhaisaab kionke superior lifestyles ke masle or hi hotay hain unhon kabhi kisi qism ki kami nahi dekhi hoti hai apne gharon me or jab wo susral jati hain to bajaye is ke k apne naseeb per sabar kren ulta apne ghar ko susral se compare shuru kr detay hain joke ghalat hai or larke ko bhi pata hona chahye tha ke mere ghar ka mahol kesa hai meri maa kesi hai ameer baap ki beti laya hai to maa ko bhi samjhao uske nakhre agar nahi samjha sakte ho to bhai phir ameer ke haan shaadi hi kion ki thi . mere parents hamesha ek baat bolte hain ke bhai kisi ki beti lao to apni haisiat se neeche ki lao or jab apni beti biao to apne se uper haisiat se us se ye faida hota hai ke kam se kam economical issues door ho jatay hain . i hope kisi ko meri ye baat samaj ajaye or agar kisi ko bura lage to pehle se mazrat its just my opinion for such kind of society like us.
@@asadhabib9363 blkl sai baat hai...or ismay koi ghalat baat b nai ,natural hai..zahir hai ameer Ghar ki baiti ho ya baita wo usi ameeri k aadi hotay Hain...tw agar ameer larki average larkay se Shaadi karleti hai tw masla Hoga ,ismay naseeb ki baat nai or na larki ka kasoor hota hai kiunke wo jis mahol se aai hoti hai tw phir change krna mushkil hota hai...isliay same standards mein Shaadi krni chaieye
To 1st year lad trying to settle abroad As a 22 years old graduate myself, immigrating is one of the biggest challenge faced by myself tbh and not only I but almost everyone in that bracket as Junaid bhai mentioned and after viewing things happening around, one could argue that it really boils down to the way we see circumstances. Not being too optimistic neither being too pessimistic about overall situation but it really depends upon on what you value. Junaid bhai mentioned that YOLO(you only live once) philosophy and I totally agree with it. No one can deny that. That's a fact but it's only one side of the road. Things are never ever unidirectional. You have to decide what you want to believe in. I understand the fact that the conditions that led to your thought process can't be processed by someone like me who has never experienced what you've been through. It's your choice. Wanna leave the country? Go for it. Wanna stay (which you seemed not inclined to)? Go for it. My point is that there's always another side or another view of things happening. I don't wanna indulge in this more as it's a never ending debate. But do what you want to do. Don't seek approval of things "you" want to do because it's "your" life. You have to decide your goals what you want in life and see if they really are worth it.
Junaid bhai apple podcasts pe bhi upload kar diya karen. Not bein uploaded there for last few episodes :( makes it so much easier to listen while doing other tasks. Thank you in advance!
@@MohsinCJ lol no. It is a platform specific to podcasts as youtube is to videos. So it is uploaded when the host uploads it. No glitch. Plus all the ones before were pretty consistently uploaded at same time as youtube
Ganji you're doing such a great job. Watched all 42 episodes of ask ganji swag and I have learnt so much. Thank you for being consistent and please never stop making this. I have a humble request to you please make a video on how to fill the Nikkahnama
For Question no# 2, IN MY OPINION, the parents should buy their child's dresses themselves and present them as a gift. This will not only minimize the girl's wishes for dresses as she will not see a variety of dresses in shops but also she will be proud of her parents. Exposing clothes will not attract her anymore if she is complimented with her full clothes. plz tell me if i'm wrong.
Salam Junaid bhai. Keep doing the great work you are doing. Aap jo basic etiquettes bataty hain wo hamary parents, teachers aur religious scholars ka kaam tha. lekin wo nahi kar rahay. lekin shukar hai aap to kar rahay hain. ye baatein batany se koi sharmaany ki zarurat nahi hai. kyu k aaj kal k zamaanay mein hum agar sahi baatein nahi batayein ge to zamaana to ghalt batein zarur sikahye ga.
For question #2 - offering my opinion as we have gone through the same situation The way I think it worked for us is talking to your daughters about what modesty means to our religion , explain what are the pros and the rewards offered. I believe you can still dress very modestly and keep up with the Morden era , let them explore their fashion with modern clothes and show them examples of how you can look confident and fashionable with great sense of modernism. Talk to your wife and come to a middle ground. I hope this helps
Girl in naniyal with a toxic guy: Graphic Designing is a skill. UA-cam is the school for skills. Go for it. Alongside your degree, take an evening class and say it's your school class for now. Go for it.
Question #2 mai Turkey mai rehta hu or Alhamdulillah kafi achi income hai mujy aik mukami lrki NY shadi ka kaha tha lakin inkaar kr diya sirf is waja sy k mai religious pr boht zyada yaqeen rkhta hu or wo mairy mind k mutabiq dressing nhi krti you know #gnjiswag behtr yehi hota hai k agr apka sochny smjny ka andaz dusry sy different hai to kisi kism ki lalch mai na prain ku k is trha apko waqti tor pr to faida ho jata hai magr future mai nuqsan hota hai or wo bhi musalsal.
As an overseas pakistani,writing in relation to question 2: I will say the same old fact. It all starts from the start.When raising them,you were ok with them wearing shorts etc and one day you just want to change them completely. Thats wrong for your kids. If you want them to follow your culture/religion,start from day 1 and still there is no guarantee that they will follow it completely but you would have done your part. As of right now,since they are already 9 and 12,not all hope is lost,no imposing (strictly no imposing),start reasoning,discuss what clothing you like,when they are in the mood,discuss the religious part of it. Be slow,be steady. You give them all the info and let them take their decisions,one at a time. InshaaAllah you will get there. And for fellow pakistanis,please be mindful of what your kids are wearing as with socialmedia,this issue gonna comeup for you too. May Allah help us all raise our kids in the best possible way
The second question: Junaid ap ka apny bary main kia khayal hai. Everyone deserves a peaceful life to ap ka apni life k bary main kia khayal hai. Is cheez ki ap ko sb sai ziads zaroorat hai
bus say yaad aya, in 2019 i was in Pakistan and my brother works near Nursery and i had to get bus from Drigh road ... it was about 15 mint ride and i gave up going down on next bus stop of PAF base faisal .. and asked my brother to pick me up...
For a person living in a small European country. Sir, you left this country so don't stay there with the Pakistani mindset. When you live a country, you have to follow the culture/integrated into their culture. The biggest problem with Pakistani awam is they bring this mindset. If you don't like their culture/value, we will welcome you in Pakistan.
2nd: ask your daughters what they want to wear and respect their wishes. They're kids they'll eventually understand so parents should be patient with their kids
Junaid Bhai instead of just making the videos, why can't we talk to their parents and hire a psychologist for their parents? We can raise funds for this cause as well. Let's build their lives "a bit" better, please. I can't take this anymore qsm se. Boht dukh hota hai...
Please make video twice a week,I use airpord while cooking in the kitchen.I really admire your broadcast.First time ever comment on your channel I guess 😟😀
On the 2nd Question, I would like to share my opinion . When we decide to move and settle abroad specially in a "gora" country it has its own Pros and Cons. Specially raising the kids in western world. And this issue is not new .... people migrated in 1950s, 60s , 70s had this issue too. First we should be mentally ready that our kids will not have the same culture and values like us back home. I am not tryin to say that we should leave them alone but at the same time we should not have high expectation from them to follow a culture, lifestyle that they have never experienced. To mitigate the risk of rebellion, firstly we should make sure that our children have some friends from same community that we would like them to hang around (not always but most of the time) so when Ramzan, Eid and other occasion comes they don't feel left alone. Secondly we should provide them an environment where they learn and observe the best way for themselves as I believe Forcing is not an option. When I decided to spend my life abroad I already accepted these risks. Also by now many immigrants have realized that the real human not behind the dresses he or she wears. I have seen a lot of "Goras" whos dressing is completely objectionable according to our culture but they have the best human qualities that our religion asked us to follow. So I would say try to introduce your religion, culture and custom and let them decide if they get attracted . Kissi azeeem insaaan ke kia khoob kahaa thaa " Ajj ke musalmaan ko dekh ke Shayed he koi Islam ke taraf ayee " its sad but True !! May Allah show us the right path .
The girl who wants to become a graphic designer, can visit a UA-cam channel GFX Mentor by Sir Imran Ali Dina and learn almost everything about graphics at your own choice of time. No university or institute is gonna teach you these stuff in details like that man.
Its for u junaid bhai. Ap ko bht dafa dekha hai email read krte hue bht mushqil hoti hai .. i think ap direct mail se read kr rhe hotay hn, tou tbhe mistakes hoti honge coz small font. Ap ek kam keya kren complete mail copy kr k ms word pr post kren or font apne hisab se rkhen or read it freely. Aese ap ka chashma mota nh hoga. Akhter good job continue rkhe bht maza ata hai. Sunte hue strories or sekhne ko b milta hai
The woman in the first email complaint little too much. Almost 15 minutes non stop complaints. Just leave that toxic place already. This place is not for you, is that too hard to guess??
Nikah nama thing my sister filled that part and molvi Saab got upset he said ye too fill her nahi hota then we explained him ke larki UK ki hai chalo jayegi nikah ke beghair then he understood. I was shocked how molvi would refuse for such thing.
For second question : don't impose yourself on daughters. Neither argue with your wife. Just let the daughters learn the easy way. Try to teach them politely about your concerns and why they are important to you. And tell the pros of it. Then leave the rest to the girls. Also try to develop religious environment in your home so that it impacts the girls upbringing as well.
Its Really Sad to see in every episode , there must be Ques about Failed Marriage IDK what exactly the reason of this Marriage Failure , but this just not Give me Confidence of Our Future , no Idea , Allah Malik sb k lye Asani Paida karay Ameen !
For question #2 the husband and wife should resolve their differences initially and sit their daughters down and explain the pros and cons of the dress code as well as I believe that change and implementation comes from within not by imposing which inevitably leads to rebellion..hope it helps the family...👍🤗🐈
But when you're indoctrinated to a certain kind of values then being resilient to that kind of norm is bit weird and strnge it need not to be addressed and to explain the purpose of why to do hijab Or the lest possible why to wear modest clothes not hijab.
For question #2 well said but I think 2 theories can resolve this issue very comfortably, the first one is of personal construct by George Kelly ( every person can made their own schema on the basis of their past experience like 3 person sitting in a same room, white coloured bulb lighten in the room and they all wore glasses of different colours blue, green, red etc so every person can see light on the behalf of their coloured glasses(experience) so nothing wrong with anyone's perspective) and the second one is of positive reinforcement or token economy by BF Skinner (rigidness or punishment can result into bad situations so we can negotiate it by doing priming of our children's through positive reinforcement and token economy (it to give a present to child after completion a task of your choice for his /her betterment).
Two upcoming Tutorials from #AskGanjiswag:
1: How to fill nikah_nama
2: How to use Happic
2. How to use washroom
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The question at 57:42: "Potential to study arts but suffering from ADHD and have unsupportive parents."
I had a similar upbringing with studies because I was suffering from dyslexia. Which made it very difficult for me to study and get good grades while my parents or teacher including myself for a long period did not know what the was issue, at the age of 21 I discovered I am dyslexic and understood what actually made me below average. your concerns are valid and what you are suffering from is not your "laziness" or "unwillingness" whenever someone says that please ignore it completely since they are not educated about your situation.
The first thing I would recommend is that you learn about your condition and understand what are the hurdles you will be facing because of your ADHD and also things you may be having issues with but did not know that was caused by your condition.
Also please do not take Junaid's comments about your formatting personally since he does not understand that it is because of your condition and not because you are illiterate. Which is are a common comment people pass. also please check if you are dyslexic as well since a lot of ADHD people do have dyslexia. Once you will learn about it you will understand why I am saying this.
Career Advice: Because of your ADHD you will have a hard time focusing on stuff and it would take you above-average energy to socialize and deal with people and projects. I myself am a Graphic Designer and that is why I was compelled to write this comment. You do not need a degree to be a graphic designer. I have been working as a designer for the past 4 years and not once someone asks me for my degree nor I have one. I did a 3 months course in graphic design and I knew that is something I can do and I perused that since being dyslexic I did not have any other choice.
Just learn graphic designing from UA-cam and keep practicing every day for some hours and make a portfolio online. Join different platforms for freelancing and learn how you can earn from that because it is very very possible. I am a prime example since I solely work as a freelancer with clients from all over the work. keep studying and just do passing marks and do what you actually love and listen to no one. No one will understand your situation and never will (Especially in Pakistan)
You lack Validation: people with such a condition get shamed a lot and labeled as "Lazy" please watch this to learn about family trauma (ua-cam.com/video/sXGhT4pJcj8/v-deo.html). That lack of validation did a lot of damage to your life and mental health and you need to have some time with yourself to remember the roots and understand where some of your emotions are coming from to build a strong support system.
You need a good social support system: look for better friends that will support you and listen to you and give you validation and respect and admire you. This is important to boost your confidence and to stand up for yourself in places where you have to.
If you have any other questions about my career and how I work or get work as a graphic designer you can comment below.
PS: I had several mistakes in spelling and formatting but I use Grammarly to help me spell check and format check.
You have no idea how much you helped!
@@alishbaurooj6084 it's my pleasure! Honestly supporting someone who's going through something you went in the pask makes me extremely happy. If you have any questions please do ask don't hesitate, I understand.
Inam i was about to comment the same things as you said. I also have ADHD -PI (predominantly inattentive) since middle school and I am struggling with it presently( just finished bachelors with a shitty GPA). People who tell you that you are lazy or you just don't care don't know what you are going through, they can't understand the struggles associated with executive function and how ADHD brains work.
A small piece of advice for the girl in the last question is that please get yourself diagnosed, I myself spent 3 years of my life mustering up the courage to go see a psychiatrist and I am glad that i did. And i know there is a social stigma about taking stimulant medication for this condition but there is no shame in talking it if it improves your quality of life. There are also other options to tackle this and your doctor may help you in finding the best way to deal with it.
Those were my two cents, I'd really like that people were more educated in general about mental health as it should be given the same importance as one's physical self being.
If anyone has any questions related to this topic feel free to ask them.
Highly recommended and appreciated
For the second question about the daughter's dressing. From Canada's 🇨🇦 I can tell you with high certainty. The restrictions and force don't train your kids to be like you. It trains better liars. Your kids may be decent right now, but if you enforce an ideology on them or even a career or academic pressure, those kids become the heaviest drinkers in uni. A gentle conversation is the best option you have. But ultimately they must choose their path.
God all these questions about marriage make me so scared of it. We are a family of 3 sisters and that makes me so scared because of our toxic society. May Allah makes it easy for us!
inshaAllah
Ameen
Honestly study hard get a decent life and move out of the family and live life on your own terms w/o harming or hurting anyone you know.
Ameen and Allah bahtar karaga. Inshallah
Be independent try to find a guy whom u r compatible wth try not too hv too mny inlaws as expectation frm bahu r too mch in our society
Not to brag my mom and dad, made us do house chores. I can proudly make sandwiches, tea, coffee, do dish washing, clean the house, etc. Proud of mom and dad they raised us well. ❤
Kudos to them!
same
Such great parents just like mine. I do everything from cooking cleaning ironing you name it but when I went to see rishte the aunty ji goes about her daughter *the larki* " isko koi kaam nahi ata, hum ne Kabhi ghar ka kaam nahi karwaya"
Now that's something to be proud of in the 21st century 🤪🙄
Same
the ''dish washing'', you are single or married bruh?
Next Podcast suggestions
Nikkah Document
Hygiene and Washroom usage
Yes please.
'Wife and I disagree on daughters dressing'
Im a Pakistani living in the UK, my family arrived here when i was 13. In my experience we have found that asians would move to another country for better opportunity and life, something Pakistan cannot offer. You just have to listen to this Q&A and see what problems people living in pakistan face.
However, when pakistanis come here they vehemently oppose the western culture and harp on to how amazing pakistani culture is and they force this on their kids. This is wrong, you cant expect your kids to grow up in a western society yet make them live like they're in gujranwala!
If you force your girls to be modest at the age of 9 and 12 you’re just oppressing them and they will feel like outsiders amongst their peers and will never be able to truly fit in. Also how unmodest could a 9 and 12 year old be? Youre just sexualising your kdis at a very young age!
Your clothes dont define you, all you can do is make sure you teach them to be a kind and sensible people. Your children will be a direct reflection of your upbringing. If you put restrictions on them from a very young age you are just giving them the fuel to rebel.
Women in pakistan dress modestly, what good does that do? They still cant walk down the street without been verbally or physically abused by men.
If you want to give them the upbringing of a typical pakistani culture then you should move back to pakistan and see how that goes. Youre just setting your kids to be outsiders for the rest of their lives, you should be able to assimilate into the society you move into, you cant move to holland and expect to live like youre in karachi!
P.S continue listening for amazing examples of pakistani culture. Peace
I need one episode like this daily , when i come home after taraweeh.
For 2nd Question: I feel you need to educate your girls politely reason behind covering like bring them close to religion other things will follow accordingly. I got close to Islam when I read Quran-o-Tafseer during my school. Ask Allah to make it easier for you and your family. Clothing is very secondary; they need to first be strong on their beliefs (five pillars of Islam, achey burey ka farkh etc). Important thing is Bachon ko maa baap ki dua se zyada kisi or ki dua nahi lagti so if you ask Allah for help, I am sure you will find solution. You need to develop love for religion bohot pyar se and slowly. Allah is very merciful indeed.
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Good answer
right
16:00 *Oedipus* *Complex* hota hai maa or bete ke beech.
Love from Nainital India.❤️
Hi, since many actually believe in this theory, I wanted to shed some light here ( doing my thesis on psychoanalysis). Oedipus to many researchers does not exist. Even in Alice Miller's publication "The banished knowledge" and "The three psychological perspectives" the idea has been highly criticized. Also its mentioned in Freud's letters that he abandoned the scientific integrity to cope up with the hysteric women he had to see. It was actually the parents who used to abuse their children, since in that era they were highly rich and Uncle Freud didn't want to blame the rich clients, he had to come up with the theory of Oedipus. And now it has been rejected by many. This behavior can come from either fear (losing the hold, some sort of jealousy) or any obsession , or what Junaid said or there might be some sort of her underlying childhood as well as relationship issues.
@@Sunfloweritisss
Thank you so much.
Allahmdulillah My mother has Taught me Everything from Basic Cooking to Stitching, She always Scolded me whenever I asked my Sisters to Press my Clothes , so I have always Done everything by myself and now I am habitual and Realized that this is such Blessing , My Mother Never Made anyone of us Mamas girl/boy We all are Self Reliant and knows our Basic Home chores .
M.A she is an ideal mother 💙 take care of her.
That's great. It's wonderful of her. God Bless Her. Ameen
Thats great ua-cam.com/video/6xkxC9700ys/v-deo.html
Finally I got a good video to spend my roza
About daughters clothing:
Let them wear what they like... dont force them..
Instead take them to muslim community centers where daughters can observe how other muslim girls are dressed up there... they may like the modesty on their own and adopt that clothing style. Hope it helps
@@asifmehmood5398 but cant force them .. captainH ka kehna theek hai
@@asifmehmood5398 samaj nahi aye?
@@imtiaznazir2987 His daughters are 9,12 years old respectively. They are too young to be left upon their own choice, they are most likely to follow peer pressure. If they are left upon their own choice, they should also be left upon their own choice whether to study or not and so on. They need to be guided and can be left upon their choice when they grow up, like at least 16-year-olds.
I think in Pakistan their are either shalwar kameez or direct jeans. There is no in between. I don’t find shalwar qameez modest as well as jeans and sleeveless. As long as your body covers and don’t show silhouette called modest. This includes men and women.
This is so frustrating to see how we girls face so many many issues and most of the parents don't give any support to there girl's 😥
Parents can't do anything as they are not under the same roof with you.
The first question sums up the whole life of all the married girls in our society and covers almost all the possible problems women must have faced regardless of their caste or status. Kudos!👍 Can't stress enough on the aspect of toxicity in houses
8:00 😂😂 girl is just a mis alot.... soup 🍜 key uper larai😂... harpic key upper larai😂...
@@SingleAsSun bhai, these are basic necessities, ap ki Beti ko koi aisa treat karay? And she didn’t do the the laraiii her mom in law did. So please, duniyaaa agaaay ja rahi ha. Kisi bhi Muslim countries main joint family system nai Hota.. unfortunately it’s an Indian thing.
@@zehran340 Joint family is mostly either in Most poor families or super rich Defence family... poor family live together because they are poor and cant afford space/ rich families have super big like my dadi have joint family but their house is 4 kanaal in Lahore defence😂 we live separate by the way... the girl married to a poor guy on her own... its middle class chonchalein to get a separate house in other countries people are mostly rich to buy a separate house...
@@zehran340 uski saas ney kuch galat nhi bola bus larki badtameez hn...
@@zehran340 nighty ager pooch bhi liya toh ik larki hi larki sey baat ker rhi hn... ismey kia galat hn unless larki Homosexual hn
I agree with Junaid; most south-east Asian people don't know the basic etiquette of using the washroom. It's a shame that people still need to be taught how to use a loo during this day and age.
We are SOUTH ASIAN not SOUTH EAST ASIAN.SOUTH EAST ASIAN countries are Indonesia.Thailand.Malaysia.Singapore.Vietnam etc
Bhai, In western countries too
Junaid Bhai : “ Girls, stop dating guys who are in their 20s.”
Boys who are in their 20s : “ Abbe saale...”
P.S : Its a joke
انٹارکٹکا سے آئی ہوئی ٹھنڈی جگت۔
"Its a joke" is very important :`)
Recommendation : make a video on importance of nikkah nama. Much needed
The lady from first question: I am sorry that you went through such circumstances but never forget to be grateful that your husband is standing with you in his own way and not letting his mother's toxicity affecting him and (I hope) your relationship. Sometimes in adverse circumstances we take things for granted like love from someone. I have seen women being emotionally harassed by the husband's family and he has nothing to say and nothing to act upon.
A special request for a video on nikkahnama
"zindgi k safar m agr angrezi wala suffer hi krna h to aisi zindgi ka Kya faida"
Junaid Akram✨💫
haha :)🥺🖤
For the third girl let me share my personal experience jist for you only...
Mere parent ne meri behan ki shadi drugs addictor se kradi even 2 3 logo ne parents ko btaya b k yeh drug use krta hai...my sister rejected that proposal but my mother (late) rip....said mene zaban dedi hai......phr wohi hua jiska dr tha woh chrsi nkla or ghr me b apne chrsi dosto ko bolane lga ghro ki cheze churane lga...phr 1 din usne hd paar krdi.....to meri ami meri bhn ko ghr le i lekin phr use moqa dia lekin wo khabees insan na bna ab meri sister k 2 bche hai 1 son 1 daughter........woh khabees charsi ka kuch ata pta ni na uske maa baap ka....ab bhn ghr pr h 10 saal se or na khula leti hai na shadi krdi h bolti h meri beti h sotele baap ka kia pta......she is depression and the worst is my mother died because of this pain....please behan shadi na krna khuda ka wasta hai.....sb ki zindgia brbad hogi.......chrsi bnda kbi chrs ni chorskta....jo b bolta h chordi jhoot bolta hai.........junaid bhai hme b suggestion de next hum kia kre. Or hoske to mera yeh message logo ko phnchae takeh bht c bhno ki zindgia bch ske. Thanks
So sad to hear about ur sister💔💔
Dekhen baat tw aapki behen ki b sai hai k agar Shaadi krli tw betiyan Hain inki sotailay Baap Ka kya pata ab Jo Hona tha hogaya....zruri nai k dusri Shaadi krne par hi aapki behen set hojayen ya Khush rhen tw isliay behter hai k wo khud apni koi job ya income Ka zariya dhoond Len kiunke agar wo financially strong hojayengien tw phir Kisi or k saharay ki zrurt nai paregi unhen
Allah asaani paida kre unke liay
So as per you, drugs lena recreational tor pr occasionally chalta hai. Jb k har addict yehi soch kr start leta hai.
@@sherryasd mene kb kaha
For second guy. I’m only a uni student in the UK not married but what I’ve seen is that there are a lot of muslim girls born and raised here who wear hijab and modest clothes and feel pride about dressing modestly. I think it is all to do with upbringing if their upbringing is teaching them islam then they will be modest themselves whereas if they are forced they will take it off once they get to uni.
mera nikah nama bhi kata hua aaya tha and honestly speaking mjhe itna idea bhi nai tha na jis ghar me meri shadi hui hai unn logon k itnau right wagera ka pta hai aur jo first bandi k masael say almost saray hi maslay meray bhi the shadi k 1st year me but phir me nay aonay inlaws say unnki zaban me hi baat ki aur poori bad muashi say apnay haq liye... now alhamdulillah i am hapily married and apna ghar achay say sambhal rahi hun. 😇
Drugs use karne me koi "wo" nahi hai.
Junaid bhai, apke uper bohot bari responsibility hai yar. Koi bhi addict hone ki intention se shuru nahi karta hai but they end up becoming addicts because of the first time use. Plus deen me bhi prohibited hai, so I do not understand why our influencers do not condemn this enough!
Please don't refrain from discouraging the use of drugs.
I respect your work and have been a fan for quite a while. No harsh feelings!
Junaid bhai Critical thinking is the KEY please kindly talk more about Critical thinking because most of us are not aware of it .
Please make a video on Nikkah nama because the other day i had an argument with someone who was continuously denying that Nikkah namy pe dulhan ke condition wala koi section hota hi nahi...please make one so that i can send that video to this person..
For question two: i faced similar situation with my daughters in germany but if we force them they will rebel as that is the thing of teenage. A person is rebellious because he/she is exploring. Solution is simple: share with them dr israr and nauman ali khan and similar scholars videos so love for their Creator and his teachings start in their heart. May Allah protects them till then and you have big responsibility to educate them in good words and with patience
So what kind of clothes do your daughters wear now?
@@Khan-70 they Alhamdulillah wear abaya and in school wear full and lose clothes
Behind the theory of dressing as form of expression, western ladies stopped wearing clothes. They are almost naked with v short shorts and almost wearing nothing. It’s like inviting evil
Very good advice 👍
@@saleschemicals195 where did u find that?
24:43 bilkul. zrur bnayen please
Thank you Junaid bhai for this amazing video. I really think that you should make that nikah nama video, that too as soon as possible. Many lives are ruined by misinformation and misknowledge.
Please please make a video about washrooms . I am from kashmir and once I was at a relative’s house and had to go to washroom and was shocked to see there was no soap and I had to wash my hands with a toothpaste . Afterwards , I started noticing how many many people there don’t have towel or soap in washrooms. Pleaseee talk about this , make a video over this
Wese agar app kain bahir jaen or soap 🧼 na hoto kalma perh kar hand 🧤 wash kernai chahiye or wese bhi
Waiting eagerly for this one !!!!
drug addict fiance wali behn bhul k bhi mat krna is sy shadi ek he br dheet bn jao life bcha lo apni ghr walo ko shyd ghnta prwah nh suffer apko krna pry ga puri lyf MAY ALLAH PROTECT U N GIVE U MORE N MORE POWER
Thank you sir aap apna buhat sara khayal rakhein buhat acha time guzra buhat seaknay ko mila aap say
Another great session of answers. Still far better than a 2 hour long movie. ❤
For second question (dressing issue),
I guess you need to educate your daughters politely, forcing would make them rebellious
Give them religion books to read, do read Quran with translation and also help them read
I definitely agree with your idea for nikkah contract. Most woman they don't go through the nikkah docs and sign them which mosty leads them of something they not expecting. Which eventually ends with with divorce. You can see the amount of divorces happened from covid till this day. Majority of divorce you will find in Pakistan compare to other countries. Really looking forward to your new video regarding Nikkah paper as you mentioned in this video
Boys, never marry a girl who is living/lived a superior lifestyle, you'll be doing her and yourself a disservice. Apko uski adhi sy ziada batain samajh he nahi aengi even as simple as har bathroom mein alag harpik.
@@rehmaali9942 it is not. I'm sorry if you did.
@@rehmaali9942 no, wasn't sarcasm, this is a very practical advice.
bilkul sahi bol rhe hain bhaisaab kionke superior lifestyles ke masle or hi hotay hain unhon kabhi kisi qism ki kami nahi dekhi hoti hai apne gharon me or jab wo susral jati hain to bajaye is ke k apne naseeb per sabar kren ulta apne ghar ko susral se compare shuru kr detay hain joke ghalat hai or larke ko bhi pata hona chahye tha ke mere ghar ka mahol kesa hai meri maa kesi hai ameer baap ki beti laya hai to maa ko bhi samjhao uske nakhre agar nahi samjha sakte ho to bhai phir ameer ke haan shaadi hi kion ki thi . mere parents hamesha ek baat bolte hain ke bhai kisi ki beti lao to apni haisiat se neeche ki lao or jab apni beti biao to apne se uper haisiat se us se ye faida hota hai ke kam se kam economical issues door ho jatay hain .
i hope kisi ko meri ye baat samaj ajaye or agar kisi ko bura lage to pehle se mazrat its just my opinion for such kind of society like us.
@@asadhabib9363 💕💕
@@asadhabib9363 blkl sai baat hai...or ismay koi ghalat baat b nai ,natural hai..zahir hai ameer Ghar ki baiti ho ya baita wo usi ameeri k aadi hotay Hain...tw agar ameer larki average larkay se Shaadi karleti hai tw masla Hoga ,ismay naseeb ki baat nai or na larki ka kasoor hota hai kiunke wo jis mahol se aai hoti hai tw phir change krna mushkil hota hai...isliay same standards mein Shaadi krni chaieye
Well said Junaidi Sinns
"Lipstick under my Burka" naam h us movie ka bollywood movie ka wo scene h jo ap bta rhe hain
To 1st year lad trying to settle abroad
As a 22 years old graduate myself, immigrating is one of the biggest challenge faced by myself tbh and not only I but almost everyone in that bracket as Junaid bhai mentioned and after viewing things happening around, one could argue that it really boils down to the way we see circumstances. Not being too optimistic neither being too pessimistic about overall situation but it really depends upon on what you value.
Junaid bhai mentioned that YOLO(you only live once) philosophy and I totally agree with it. No one can deny that. That's a fact but it's only one side of the road. Things are never ever unidirectional. You have to decide what you want to believe in. I understand the fact that the conditions that led to your thought process can't be processed by someone like me who has never experienced what you've been through.
It's your choice.
Wanna leave the country? Go for it.
Wanna stay (which you seemed not inclined to)? Go for it.
My point is that there's always another side or another view of things happening. I don't wanna indulge in this more as it's a never ending debate. But do what you want to do. Don't seek approval of things "you" want to do because it's "your" life. You have to decide your goals what you want in life and see if they really are worth it.
how to say absolutely nothing in 3 paragraphs
PROUD OF YOU! YOUR PODCASTS ARE MAKING MY LIFE OUT OF NO WHERE! SALUTE TO YOU SIR! 🥺🖤💨
Junaid bhai apple podcasts pe bhi upload kar diya karen. Not bein uploaded there for last few episodes :( makes it so much easier to listen while doing other tasks. Thank you in advance!
Wha pay late aata h pta ni koi glitch h shaid
@@MohsinCJ lol no. It is a platform specific to podcasts as youtube is to videos. So it is uploaded when the host uploads it. No glitch. Plus all the ones before were pretty consistently uploaded at same time as youtube
Google podcasts pe bhi raza samo wali podcast ke baad kuch upload nhi hua
100k soon insha'Allah ❤️❤️❤️
Ganji you're doing such a great job. Watched all 42 episodes of ask ganji swag and I have learnt so much. Thank you for being consistent and please never stop making this. I have a humble request to you please make a video on how to fill the Nikkahnama
Unconditional love and support from Oman
For Question no# 2, IN MY OPINION, the parents should buy their child's dresses themselves and present them as a gift. This will not only minimize the girl's wishes for dresses as she will not see a variety of dresses in shops but also she will be proud of her parents. Exposing clothes will not attract her anymore if she is complimented with her full clothes. plz tell me if i'm wrong.
About daughter's clothing:
He should move to Pakistan if his conservative ideology is not ready to give space. As simple as that
Please make a detailed video on nikah nama
Please make a video about NIKAH NAMA.🖤
Please make these videos more frequently. Thanks!
It's a humble request.
Salam Junaid bhai. Keep doing the great work you are doing. Aap jo basic etiquettes bataty hain wo hamary parents, teachers aur religious scholars ka kaam tha. lekin wo nahi kar rahay. lekin shukar hai aap to kar rahay hain. ye baatein batany se koi sharmaany ki zarurat nahi hai. kyu k aaj kal k zamaanay mein hum agar sahi baatein nahi batayein ge to zamaana to ghalt batein zarur sikahye ga.
ALLAH SWT Junaid Bhai ko sehat aur taqat ata farmaye, bechare itna quality content produce kar rahe hain ❤️
Junaid bai ki podcast ho ! Aur brilliant na ho mumkin nai🙌❤️
For "Wife's disagreement with daughters dress"
Explain the kids with love and Logic behind Islamic Values with love 💕
Mughe ap ki notification nahi ai me ne bell on ki hue ha
Another one ! Yess ♥️
Extreme worthy knowledge ! Jahaan podcast band karnay ka socho waheen kaam ki baat nikal aaty hy👌👌
need more of these podcasts.
For question #2 - offering my opinion as we have gone through the same situation
The way I think it worked for us is talking to your daughters about what modesty means to our religion , explain what are the pros and the rewards offered. I believe you can still dress very modestly and keep up with the Morden era , let them explore their fashion with modern clothes and show them examples of how you can look confident and fashionable with great sense of modernism. Talk to your wife and come to a middle ground.
I hope this helps
Girl in naniyal with a toxic guy: Graphic Designing is a skill. UA-cam is the school for skills. Go for it. Alongside your degree, take an evening class and say it's your school class for now. Go for it.
Yes, please make a video on nikah nama
Junaid bhai do make a video on nikahnama and all that stuff to educate the youth
Very well suggestions for the last mail.....
European Father: Jaisa Desh Waisa Bhais!!! You can’t force your opinion on growing kids 🙏🇮🇳🇦🇺
I don't watch it for solutions, the mails and your reaction are awesome.
Question #2 mai Turkey mai rehta hu or Alhamdulillah kafi achi income hai mujy aik mukami lrki NY shadi ka kaha tha lakin inkaar kr diya sirf is waja sy k mai religious pr boht zyada yaqeen rkhta hu or wo mairy mind k mutabiq dressing nhi krti you know #gnjiswag behtr yehi hota hai k agr apka sochny smjny ka andaz dusry sy different hai to kisi kism ki lalch mai na prain ku k is trha apko waqti tor pr to faida ho jata hai magr future mai nuqsan hota hai or wo bhi musalsal.
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As an overseas pakistani,writing in relation to question 2:
I will say the same old fact. It all starts from the start.When raising them,you were ok with them wearing shorts etc and one day you just want to change them completely. Thats wrong for your kids.
If you want them to follow your culture/religion,start from day 1 and still there is no guarantee that they will follow it completely but you would have done your part. As of right now,since they are already 9 and 12,not all hope is lost,no imposing (strictly no imposing),start reasoning,discuss what clothing you like,when they are in the mood,discuss the religious part of it. Be slow,be steady. You give them all the info and let them take their decisions,one at a time. InshaaAllah you will get there.
And for fellow pakistanis,please be mindful of what your kids are wearing as with socialmedia,this issue gonna comeup for you too.
May Allah help us all raise our kids in the best possible way
Yes, please make a detailed video on nikah nama
Han ji Bhaiya pichly 3 podcast google podcast pr abh tk upload hi nh huey. Krdyn please
Junaid bhai you're doing great. Jazak Allah
The second question:
Junaid ap ka apny bary main kia khayal hai. Everyone deserves a peaceful life to ap ka apni life k bary main kia khayal hai. Is cheez ki ap ko sb sai ziads zaroorat hai
bus say yaad aya, in 2019 i was in Pakistan and my brother works near Nursery and i had to get bus from Drigh road ... it was about 15 mint ride and i gave up going down on next bus stop of PAF base faisal .. and asked my brother to pick me up...
For a person living in a small European country. Sir, you left this country so don't stay there with the Pakistani mindset. When you live a country, you have to follow the culture/integrated into their culture. The biggest problem with Pakistani awam is they bring this mindset. If you don't like their culture/value, we will welcome you in Pakistan.
2nd: ask your daughters what they want to wear and respect their wishes. They're kids they'll eventually understand so parents should be patient with their kids
I was waiting for this
Junaid Bhai instead of just making the videos, why can't we talk to their parents and hire a psychologist for their parents? We can raise funds for this cause as well. Let's build their lives "a bit" better, please. I can't take this anymore qsm se. Boht dukh hota hai...
Please make video twice a week,I use airpord while cooking in the kitchen.I really admire your broadcast.First time ever comment on your channel I guess 😟😀
On the 2nd Question, I would like to share my opinion . When we decide to move and settle abroad specially in a "gora" country it has its own Pros and Cons. Specially raising the kids in western world. And this issue is not new .... people migrated in 1950s, 60s , 70s had this issue too. First we should be mentally ready that our kids will not have the same culture and values like us back home. I am not tryin to say that we should leave them alone but at the same time we should not have high expectation from them to follow a culture, lifestyle that they have never experienced. To mitigate the risk of rebellion, firstly we should make sure that our children have some friends from same community that we would like them to hang around (not always but most of the time) so when Ramzan, Eid and other occasion comes they don't feel left alone. Secondly we should provide them an environment where they learn and observe the best way for themselves as I believe Forcing is not an option. When I decided to spend my life abroad I already accepted these risks. Also by now many immigrants have realized that the real human not behind the dresses he or she wears. I have seen a lot of "Goras" whos dressing is completely objectionable according to our culture but they have the best human qualities that our religion asked us to follow. So I would say try to introduce your religion, culture and custom and let them decide if they get attracted . Kissi azeeem insaaan ke kia khoob kahaa thaa " Ajj ke musalmaan ko dekh ke Shayed he koi Islam ke taraf ayee " its sad but True !! May Allah show us the right path .
I was getting bored at 2 am and suddenly I remembered that I was watching the podcast of Junaid Akram then I start watching it.... peaceful
Thank you Sir 💙
Quick suggestion Junaid.
Try naming the video titles for these videos with the most important question.
Good luck.
The girl who wants to become a graphic designer, can visit a UA-cam channel GFX Mentor by Sir Imran Ali Dina and learn almost everything about graphics at your own choice of time.
No university or institute is gonna teach you these stuff in details like that man.
Junaid Bhai! Akheer kr di ap ne at @45:00 pe ...
Tarap k reh gaya men to!
Why no new episodes on podcast
Its for u junaid bhai. Ap ko bht dafa dekha hai email read krte hue bht mushqil hoti hai .. i think ap direct mail se read kr rhe hotay hn, tou tbhe mistakes hoti honge coz small font. Ap ek kam keya kren complete mail copy kr k ms word pr post kren or font apne hisab se rkhen or read it freely. Aese ap ka chashma mota nh hoga. Akhter good job continue rkhe bht maza ata hai. Sunte hue strories or sekhne ko b milta hai
Videos 1440p yn 4k mai upload kiyon nhi krty while u have the equipment
Junaid bhai big fan, i do watch your content and Dr solangi. I really appreciate your hard work. Please suggest some ideas and Mic to dr solangi.
The woman in the first email complaint little too much. Almost 15 minutes non stop complaints. Just leave that toxic place already. This place is not for you, is that too hard to guess??
Iam working in a hotel as GSA(guest service agent) and watching #AskGanjiswag😂
Gutluro bonga
@@5thgen418 Hain?
First email over the top !
Junaid bhai, I'm waiting for the nikahnama-filling-guide video eagerly.
Kindly Nikah nama pr lazmi video bnaen. Wait rhy ga
Excellent
Nikah nama thing my sister filled that part and molvi Saab got upset he said ye too fill her nahi hota then we explained him ke larki UK ki hai chalo jayegi nikah ke beghair then he understood. I was shocked how molvi would refuse for such thing.
That's why in my family ghar ky bare hi nikkah parhwate hain, jahil molvis ko hum involve hi nhi karte kisi ki nikkah etc main.
I love the editor
Bhai next episode kb aegi?
For second question : don't impose yourself on daughters. Neither argue with your wife. Just let the daughters learn the easy way. Try to teach them politely about your concerns and why they are important to you. And tell the pros of it. Then leave the rest to the girls. Also try to develop religious environment in your home so that it impacts the girls upbringing as well.
Its Really Sad to see in every episode , there must be Ques about Failed Marriage IDK what exactly the reason of this Marriage Failure , but this just not Give me Confidence of Our Future , no Idea , Allah Malik sb k lye Asani Paida karay Ameen !
Women empowerment is the reason more failed marriages are there
@@HAMZA-he9nd no it's not
@@HAMZA-he9nd sedha kaho khud ki phat rhi hai