Confident Ways to Respond to a Man’s Rude Behavior
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- Опубліковано 24 лип 2023
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Thank you Brian.
“I wish I could unmeet you.” Great line to tell a toxic person.
Just leave the situation ASAP. If he calls, be polite, but busy doing your own thing for awhile. If he ghosts you, you have your answer. If he doesn't, make it crystal clear that ANY sort of abuse or dominance is unacceptable. If you don't, it will only escalate. Self respect, ladies! Or he won't have respect for YOU.
I really liked your comment. So me and that guy were kinda pals (nothing sexual happened between us) on the internet. we chatted a lot and stuff. it was fun. he treated me good but then i remember i had gotten really depressed and couldnt reply at all for maybe two months straight (i notified him that id gotten depressed and that i didn't have any energy to reply. he said that he understood me.)
two months later i texted him a long ass message with a sincere apology. he once again understood that it was a necessity for me to take that long break and we began chatting again. everything seemed normal UNTIL he asked me for a call. we called over discord and we started playing an intellectual game while casually chatting. then he began reading my apology message with a really mocking tone. i thought wtf? but didn't say anything. i felt really embarrassed.. then he started to mock my moves in that game (i only learnt how to play it that time but he was a pro in it). he said i was dumb and my moves were dumb (not in a friendly or whatever way at all). i couldn't believe it... i wanted to end the call but i didn't. i was just too shocked. i tried to 'laugh it off' while being super embarrassed.
this man is studying psychology. can you imagine this...
This. Just leave, ladies. The reason he's testing your boundaries to see what he can get away with is BECAUSE he has active plans to get away w/as much as possible in the future.
@@grapepale8446 Yes. He probably already had someone else, and was trying to hurt you and make you angry. Then, if you bailed, it's all your fault, you're the bitch, you're the one who left. It's a very old trick men use.
@@grapepale8446Damn. This looks like sadistic tendencies from his part. You dodged a bullet.
@@crem9607you've nailed it!
Disrespect is the FOUNDATION of abuse.
Thank you for your content always.
wow and ouch
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Sometimes people make stupid statements and have to be corrected
Well said!!!!😮👏👏👏
When a man rudes in me or disrespect me I leave with out saying a word and keep on silence.And continue doing my work to make my self in progress
I had to tell my man he made me hate hearing my own name. Only using pet names when kind, but only using given names when angry is a trap many couples fall into. Its unintentional yet very caustic.
I’ve just been super sweet in return: “I don’t argue so I’ll talk to you later when you’re not in a bad mood.” Kissed him on the cheek while he was looking stunned, walked out the door, didn’t text for 2 days. He never pulled that again.
With my kids dad (my ex), I just started telling him “you have no right to talk to me like that,” and walking off. I had no sense of myself when we were together, and he would start screaming at me when I started to cry. This new response has stunned him, and he’s actually apologized whenever I’ve had to say it.
Love these other tips about asking them to repeat themselves.
Love your tactic. Thanks for sharing! 🩷
People are either a blessing or a lesson. Show them gratitude for showing u who they are, either way
If you’re in a toxic ABUSIVE relationship and you’re reading this, leave now! Cut him out, take a vacation. Don’t waste anymore time. An don’t take him back when he comes running because he will! Better men are literally everywhere, spend your time finding the right one instead of living with the wrong one.
@@Oshiiiiiiiiiiii I disagree. I am confident that the majority of guys are better men than my abusive alcoholic ex. Its also not my belief or experience that all men are toxic, abusive, bad people. So yeah I do think there are better men everywhere.
However I acknowledge that your experiences and definition of a toxic relationship may differ to my own.
I didn't say you did, I said its not my belief or experience that all men are bad. Thus I cannot in good conscience state that there aren't better men (than a toxic/abuser) all around us.
I disagree with your second statement also. I've had 3 good relationships, with good men. Just not the perfect man (for me.) That's my experience though, maybe I'm lucky? Maybe you have only experienced toxic relationships? As I stated, our experiences and definition of "better" and "good relationship" are likely different things.
I will never believe that there aren't better men all around me because I have already met them. And that is the message I will take to other women that feel ugly, hopeless, controlled and trapped.
@@Oshiiiiiiiiiiii Fair, fair. I hope you find (or have found) what you're looking for, and all the best to you!
Total wrong advice! You’re not perfect so understand each other mistakes and try to reconcile as much as possible. Forgive and forget, we are all humans. Dont be narcissistic like this lady!
@@karthikbartha7210 You disgust me. You have no idea what I or any other woman (or man for that matter) in a toxic abusive relationship is going through. It's very clear that you don't understand what a toxic relationship is and have no place commenting on how other people should stick out ABUSE. You need to jump to 7:50 and learn the difference between healthy and toxic. Because I would never EVER advise a person to stay with a partner that is abusing them.
A guy friend I was getting to know slowly started being repeatedly disrespectful, so I told him the friendship wasn’t working for me. He called and apologized, so I felt bad, but it still doesn’t feel good to me. I expressed my concerns and boundaries, so guess I will see what he does, wish I had stayed stronger in my no, but letting him go and focusing on myself right now.
Unfortunately its a cycle of behavior for these people. It will start off good, then slowly escalate until you’re back to square one.
@@lanarivera7521 yep, people who are naturally respectful don't repeatedly disrespect others.
Good to let him go. It does not change. I have fi ally learned after 6 of these types. It never changes
The silence one works for me every time
I love it when you say "I love it when you do that."
I agree if they disrespectful you be respectful not because of them because you have self respect.
Good tactics - thanks! I usually stay silent when people are rude or say things I deem disrespectful. Often wondered if I should retaliate. Most of the time, it's not because I am quiet, but more because if I'm angry I take a longer time to think of a response (hence the silence) and in the end I end up saying nothing because I don't know what to say.
Thank you. Your presentation style is easy for me to listen to, and that helps with comprehension. Your videos have been helping me handle recent issues in my 20 year marriage. I absolutely LOVE watching the play of emotion on my husband’s face when I respond differently. He is slow to learn, it’s true, but he learns! We hit rock bottom 3 years ago and nearly divorced. Your videos even came to my therapy appointments! I am still married and things continue to improve. I am always grateful to be reminded of my value, and you have given me tools to help others see my value. Again, thank you!
I'm shocked how a man was recently disrespectful to me via text whilst drunk. We had been dating for a few months. That was 4 weeks ago and have been no contact since. I'm confused why he never offered up an apology. I guess he'd rather be a coward & walk away rather than apologizing and making things right😢
If someone never apologises to you after being rude, it just means they’re not nice people so it’s good that you guys are not in contact and try to maintain it that way. Take care put yourself first don’t hurt yourself. ❤
you've only "wasted" a few months. next time you won't.
@hiroxh6366 Shocking that someone could do something so cruel out of the blue & then ghost. Hard to wrap my head around. It's taking all my strength to avoid reaching out to him. At this point, it's too late. I was still hoping for the apology.
@@JakilynDO NOT REACH OUT
@@Rubbberduckyyy ironically, he just reached out with an apology yesterday. But I don’t think I really want to accept it
I don't know if he regrets that he didn't respect and treat me right, but I don't regret that I said he dosn't and I'm disappointed in him.
Before that he's gone silent for 3 months and answered only when there was a big explosion and fire in his neighbourhood.
The thing is he was my only friend and as autistic person with problems with social interactions it was especially hard to let him go knowing how much he meant to me.
I can relate to this. Sorry for your experience.
"allows us to see who has our best interests in mind"... and who does not... and that's very valuable information
As important as an empty roll of toilet paper .... That's a great line! I actually laughed out loud.
“I would rather date a coconut than you” 🤣
But on serious note, good general advice thanks
I love this guy! He makes me laugh, while he's giving me hard things to think about.
Yes, not saying anything/responding is rather apropos and empowering indeed!
"Not a lot of people like you, do they?" 😂👊
I actually said to an ex-boyfriend when he made a very disrespectful comment I’m going to pretend you didn’t say that because that’s hurtful and I don’t want to see you that way. I’ve also used silence, and I feel like for most people that’s just the best thing is just to pretend like you didn’t even hear them. Asking them to repeat it, and then not responding is probably the most empowering one.
My ex would infrequently say something that caught me off guard, it was so out of the blue I would just be like a deer in headlights. Sometimes I would write it down and read it later and think, what the hell? I am more cognizant now of little nicks, and having someone repeat the comment, and letting it hang there, is a great tactic.
I don't know, I think telling him you'd rather be chased by a grizzly while wearing flip flops is pretty high value.
Flip flops or no, never run from a grizzly. They can run down a horse, so you don't have a chance of out running one.
This may be one of the few times he has given indirect bad advice.
Brilliant ❤
I'm jealous of all the people who haven't met you yet... ouch lol
Best thing I’ve learned is to be okay with moving on, and living the best life meant for me. You are right, you give your power away every time someone disrespects us and we respond.. and it sure is hard to not throw sand in the sand box sometimes!😂
Thanks for the video, and the reminder.
You're a blessing❤❤❤
I wish I had discovered this channel a long time ago. Such great advice.
Not having made good choices for myself in my youth...I'm pretty much over it all. It would take a miracle as too many games.
why would you be with a male who disrespects you? walk and don't look back. who else is he an ahole to? feh!
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You are such a sensible and mature gentleman. Love your advices thank you🙏
I like the coconut part... :D love your style. Thank you for this.
It is 2023. I am too old. I will NOT argue with anyone. I’m using my feet and walking away from you.
I feel the same, but turns out I am too old and too tired even to walk away… maybe him not respecting me is a mirror of ways I an unconsciously not respecting myself? I cant walk away, fighting is useless because he is not even conscious of doing it and I am too exhausted… all I have left is to surrender and find ways I don’t see how to show some respect to myself
I completely understand. Me too. I'm done arguing and negotiating with full grown adults.
@@gunarasnaca6130 I agree in part. But to me not walking away is acceptance. Exertion of energy on a person and or situation that you can’t get back.
Then why are you watching this video?
@@abbyjones2414 Because I came across it. I was simply stating what I would do. Are there anymore questions I can answer for you about MY opinion????
A problem with these suggestions is that the disrespectful bully is generally on the warpath and is out for blood. He wants a fight and will attack until he gets one; someone told me it was the only time he felt alive. One cannot just walk out when it's in a marriage with children, the forces pinning one in place are too strong - such as finances, nowhere to go, even the children's schooling and friends etc. I suppose, when the disrespect and bullying are continuous, that responding as advised in this video would be the way to cope, and would put a continuous psychological distance between the victim and the bully. It would be a holding manoeuvre until one could leave.
I read your comment just now, and am wondering how things are going for you?
Frankly this is the best advice video about how to respond to aggression i've ever seen. thank you.
I agree, and it does work. This should go both ways, not just for women. Men should take this advice as well.
He started silent treatment. He has not heard of me 10 months already. He never will. I don't care really but I wonder why he has not try to reach me out.
Who cares girl? The trash took himself out!
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Good content, as always. A lot to process and to think about. I like that most things you mentioned also apply to many types of relationships, not only romantic ones. I use a couple of these techniques at work, and they're effective. Thanks, Brian.
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Thank You Brian this was very helpful.❤
Thanks for sharing these tools with women like me who really need to stand up for themselves in a lady-like way.
You're right.. stay strong❤❤❤
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Excellent video! THANK YOU SO MUCH! 😊
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Oh ! I used much harsher words then that, and then I cut him off. No contact, because I confronted and called out behaviors and he denied and said it was “just the way I was feeling” …this went on for 3 months.
😂 About 24 hours later I felt like a weight had been lifted. Free from the disrespect! I do not care what happens to him. I’m just glad he is gone! His energy was so negative.
He is a covert or passive aggressive BPD. Such a twisted mind.
Excellent advice. Thank you!
Thank you so much! This is exactly, what I needed to hear right now! I love your videos, you are helped me alot! 🙂💛
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This video is timely for me to day❤
I asked him what he meant when he asked "Are your --- (breasts) --- dead?" I just can't forget it. So far 4 months NC.
Now 6 months😊
Wise advices!! Thank you!
Thank you! This helps me a lot ❤
Thank you Brian, once again👌 ... I do appreciate all of your posts immensely ! 🙂
‘Empty roll of toilet paper’ lolololol 😂
I love you and appreciate you. Thx!
I got too listen to this a few times, so I can remember this great lesson!
Sounds good babe... Nice meeting you❤❤❤
I did the second way to respond to my niece when he was being rude cuz I asked him to sweep the floor as I washed the dishes. "Why can't she do it, it's a simple task." He said in a low voice, but I heard it. Then I asked him, "What did you say?" Then he became mute the rest of the night.
Great 👍 thanks 😊
Great advice and I love your humour ^^
Thank you!
Wish I had seen this video sooner! It might have saved my relationship 😢
Everything happens for a reason...
Was not meant to be
A relationship is not something people should have to save..
You're right but there's always a chance for another time❤
@@JohnsonToliThat is the believe of failure.
Thank you very much for this useful tips 😊😊😊🙏🙏
This is so right,!
I love this video, Brian. I am sure I need to listen to it again and again to change my frustration level. I have the sweetest man now, but at times he cannot stop a critique after I say, Ok. Or Got it, please change the subject now. When I say, You're right, he thinks I am being sarcastic. I said, No. When I use THAT phrase, it means that twice I have heard and accepted your point/desire, and tried to move on. Now, I am trying a different way to help you understand that I am not 5 years old and do not need a lecture to continue. I actually told him the other day that this sense he has about women being controlling, he needs to drop that baggage with me. I am not so. And, I also do not wished to be forced to do things a certain way just because someone else has a habit. I am 59 now. I left home at 17. It must surprise him at times that I have been making my own decisions for decades and for the most part, lead a happy life. Still, I believe that if we want something to change, we have to initiate a change. We cannot force a change in anyone. I just want to help him to choose to change this disrespectful repetition stuff with me... so I appreciate your giving me more tools to try. He is a good man, maybe a wounded one. Still worth hanging onto... thanks.
I’m really enjoying your videos ❤
excellent video! works for all forms of human interaction.
🌍🐘. Dankie! 🙏🙌😊
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Good advice!
Good 👍 word
When they go low, we will go high:-)
My how to be evil book ha ha 🤣
Great advice :)
I don’t care who is disrespecting me, I will not only not tolerate it or let it slide, I will call them out and close the door behind me as I walk away. 👑
my god, i thought that watching your videos is enough to have the necessary knowledge about men and relationship, but it's not true. because i watch your video and not a lot of information will stay with me, but when i read your book and spend time to think about what you wrote, it's much better. your book : fuck him, is just amazing , it's gold. thank you so so much for providing us with necessary knowledge about men and relationship. thank you for doing this.
Empty roll of toilet paper! Yes!
Thank you it works beautifully 😂
Hi Brian , Can you please make a Video about , if a man really wants you , what will he do ?
I’m the Queen of Silence!😂😂😂 …Any other Cancers out there? Lol ♋️
Good word
...make it even more "meta" by insinuating they are "one of *those* people": "You know, there is *some* people, who don't have many friends for good reasons." then mic-drop and HOLD eye contact.
Tho, DO be aware dudes and dudettes, if you're dealing with a possibly narcistically fragile ego, this might unleash a fit of pure rage. Stay safe!
I really need this advice 🙏 And that's what I'm doing...not going down to their level 👍☺️ But what if he still does it again and again after I have told him to stop 😢😢Thank you so much 🙏☺️🙏
If that happens, I would recommend walking away from that situation 100%. It will not stop and you'll get hurt. You gave him plenty of chances.
You walk away. Always walk away in those situations.
Dating a coconut sounds appealing!
Oh I wish I had watched this a month ago. Dude got his feelings hurt. Lesson learned 🙆🏾♀️
I don’t believe in sticking around anyone who disrespects me or someone else.
Report him to the school
even if he repeated it, its SO under the radar, but it all ADDS up to red flags.
Imma just date Brian cause I’m tired😂
I don’t agree with your assessment of these type of abusive situations. Silence? Not a response.
I say let him have it and walk away for good. It’s not going to improve so why hang around for more rudeness and bad behavior. If you wouldn’t expect HIM to put up with that type of stuff from you, then WHY stick around for more abuse from him?
Blast his ass telling him off and never talk to him again.
Don’t ever let yourself be a victim.
wow i needed this info! im easily triggered!
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