AHH throwback to a girl in my sorority (who came off as very aggressive and belittling) claimed she was all of our sisters' boyfriend's best friend. Confusing, sorry. Creepy though.
I watched a UA-camr who said she used to be one of those girls and she said it was never about the guys, it was about competing with the girls, came from a very deep place of insecurity I think is what she said
@@fashionvibe101 That makes sense but it's still a very gross thing to do. Especially if they actually try to get the boyfriend to sleep with them that's repulsive and very toxic and even tho it's insecurity or mental illness I won't let that be excused. Glad she changed for the better tho I hope they all do I hate girls like that. Especially the ones who are your best friend but then they go behind your back and try to get your boyfriend.
@@BubbleBunnyy you said it sis, I would never condone the behaviour, I just found it interesting, like it actually makes a lot of sense that it’s really about the girls the friends and not about the guy, but yes super shitty nonetheless lol
It's quite interesting how so much media portrays female protagonists like "I'm special, I'm different, no one is like me, so of course I'm the protagonist", while male protagonists are portrayed like "I'm the most standard-ass human being, I look like everyone else, I act like everyone else, still I'm the protagonist because I'm simply the chosen one"
I like me a realistic female protagonist. I enjoy it when normal girls are just dropped into scenarios where everyone around them is special and they have to figure their shit out to not fail around them.
Male protagonists are supposed to be a stand-in for the viewer. Female protagonists are supposed to be the viewer but Smarter, Prettier and all around better than the viewer. :(
These people just don’t realize that a woman can wear heels and still eat pizza for dinner. They’re stereotyping women for some reason when there’s no need to.
I agree. I don’t understand why being feminine is such a taboo subject now. I love being girly and whenever I bring it up it’s an issue. Is it bad that I enjoy feminine activities?
Yeah why decide between blue and pink when you can wear purple instead or you could wear pink on Wednesdays and blue on Fridays or why tf don't you combine the ultimative pink&blue outfit humanity has been waiting for You know what, I'm rebellious! I'm not like other girls who are not like other girls, my outfit has EVERY SINGLE colour included. Yes turquoise, so are you, even though I don't like you 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤
@@akaylab.134 it's nothing ne, unfortunately... It's old misogyny on new bottles, or apps if you will. Hating girls and by natural extension, everything that girls like, is as old as christianity.
People are so obsessed with “not being like other women” because they don’t take the time to get to know other women and just assume because they like pink that’s their only personality trait
EXACTLY - I used to be like this when I was a lot younger and I’d just assume any girl that dressed like a girly girl had no personality and was dumb...but later in life I’ve been proved so wrong about that. Liking pink and glitter does not make you dumb or weak. I used to hate dressing girly cuz I was afraid of looking weak, but now I’m obsessed with pink and wear skirts all the time LMAOOOOO at least I had character development tho lol. Normalize letting women be interested in and dressing however they want without being stereotyped or having assumptions made:)
Most of the time they know other women, but they have so internalized the stereotypes of women that the end up believing that people of their sex Is like this. Basicaly internalized misoginy through assosiation from the media and the enviroment.
I see where you’re coming from and I definitely agree to an extent, but I don’t think this is an issue that can be blamed on self-centered or unempathetic women . I was totally like this in elementary/middle school, but it wasn’t really about hating girls because they liked pink. I had been indoctrinated in this idea that being traditionally feminine was antifeminist, and as a result I was really insecure about the fact that I LIKED feminine things (pink, makeup, fashion, etc.) At the same time, I didn’t have many friends and was really lonely and self-conscious about it. The “not like other girls” mindset was a coping mechanism for feeling rejected by other girls, wanting to be one of them, and feeling guilty for wanting to be one of them. I think the issue here isn’t girls (because it’s most often pretty young girls that feel this) but the way we’ve raised them to doubt and hate themselves.
@@eleanorpimentel7917 this⬆️⬆️⬆️ I genuinely think this is more it. Its self preservation when your young, trying to figure yourself out and feeling rejected by your peers. Of course your not gonna want to be like other girls and want to display that I'm memes, tik told ect when the "other girls" you know have made you feel excluded and insecure. Until you grow up and feel more solid in yourself and realize that everyone is just as complex with their lives and stories and perception of the world as yours is to you.
They just think girly girl's priorities are phone, makeup, selfie, boys, pop music. I can tell you like 1%, maybe 2% if I'm being generous, is actually like this.
No truly like things are more accessible than ever now like most people's tastes have a lot of variety and you'll find lots of different "kinds" of ppl in a lot of different fields yet the stereotypes still exist and people think they're quirky bc like idk they do emo makeup but listen to kpop or something. At the same time I will see ppl try to "quirkify" something very normal like I saw a video once that was like "all my different styles" but it was just streetwear AND THAT'S OKAY but it's weird to me how badly everyone wants to be different lol. There is no longer 1 singular popular way to dress, music to listen to, passions to have, etc. Multiple things hold large amounts of popularity now, there is no singular way to be trendy, but everyone still wanna pretend there is probably. As Casey said there has been no massive shift to remove those kinds of stereotypes in media bc it's all still run by old ass mfs who cannot keep up with how fast culture is moving now because of the internet, so we get this really slow and dated perception of what it's like to be young (think: every movie about teens using dated references, slang, subcultures which isn't even a real concept anymore, etc.)
There are good ways that the movie 'Legally Blonde' turned the cliche upside-down w/ the element of surprise that made the otherwise ditzy-appearing female blow ppl away w/ how smart she was and how it made others feel dumb later for underestimating her. BUT - the one thing I would have liked to have seen in this vid is how Casey could've also made the point that while it's true that we shouldn't blindly assume that other girls are just boring cliche-ridden normies, fulfilling their stereotypes, we also need to discern better and judge ea girl on a case-by-case basis, based on their own merits and circumstances, and also apply this truth - that some girls label themselves by their behavior fitting to that stereotype. SO, in that case, I'm not the one calling that girl out for being a stereotype just so I can use her as a measuring stick to show how she's appearing boring compared to me and how diff I am, but I'm calling her out for the fact that SHE MADE HERSELF into this stereotype so in that way, I'm just calling it as I see it. I call a spade a spade and don't BS around about it or sugarcoat it. So that is a whole diff story in those cases. Now, if we call someone out for being a boring cliched stereotype persona based on limited info or b/c we need to use her to compete against to make ourselves look better in comparison to her, then no, that is wrong. But if she put herself there, then that is her fault, so yes, we can justifiably call her the stereotype she's projecting (the 'airhead', the hyper-feminine girl, the femme fatale that tries to steal your man, the gold-digger, etc). Let's ensure whether it's her or it's us who is creating the label of said stereotype. Sometimes others limit us, and sometimes we limit and shortchange ourselves, so who is doing the shortchanging? Look more clearly at this. I usu refer to this behavior style as being a hipster - when you try too hard to fit in b/c of your deep insecurity. But two wrongs don't make a right b/c fighting one stereotype to uplift or validate another one doesn't solve anything as it's the same sweater, just reversed w/ a diff color of the same fabric. First, let's be clear on establishing what 'hipster' means: A hyper-hip person who is so 'extra' and radical in their coolness/hipness that they are seen as 'tragically hip' - aka, someone who tries way too hard and in this case, you're actually a nerd but a diff kind of nerd b/c you're not casually confident in a way that is genuine to your true self. There's too much self-awareness and this kind of hyper-emphasis is where you're overthinking to the point that it disrupts & even ruins your experiences b/c you are too self-editing w/ every move you make as you usu copy/mimic all your friends to ensure their acceptance of you. Also, this deep insecurity is a form of narcissism that describes ppl who can't stay present b/c they are too busy trying to get attention vs trying to just enjoy the moment and listen to & observe the other ppl around you and get to know them b/c you're too busy wanting them to get to know you. Ppl who always take selfies or take pics of concerts w/out rocking out and enjoying the music (as one example), etc fit this description. They want the destination w/out taking the journey. (This also defines what cultural Marxism is). And there are two ways of being a hipster: 1 - The hipster who is trying too hard to be a monotonous clone to fit in: By going along 'to get along' b/c you don't have the spine to be yourself and you are a perpetual PC/ ppl-pleasing butt-kisser pandering to whatever political correctness to avoid hurting ppl's feelings....This person takes this behavior too far, & therefore, runs risk of sacrificing the truth at the same time - which is what PC is - very much the opp of being tactfully diplomatic with harsh truth left intact but w/ a gentle approach. And 2 - the hipster who is trying too hard to be 'different' (the 'pick me' or “I'm-not-like-other-girls” scenario fits this) just for THE SAKE OF BEING DIFF....in that case, if there's no authenticity and no purpose, then you are making the same mistake of being overly-focused on being too diff that you can't enjoy your present-tense moments. This is called a false dichotomy b/c you are swinging back and forth furiously from one extreme position to the other just like our politics in USA - the far L and the far R parties that cancel ea another out b/c there is no balance, no center. On other hand, a 'hip' person possesses a natural sense of the grey zone & self-awareness and is empathic and present-minded. They are willing to SHARE their life. But the hipSTER is a selfish lazy person who makes no effort and just wants IN for the sake of it w/out a real purpose or reality-based genuineness. They have no desire to put in the effort to earn being liked or accepted organically so they carry this kind of bitterness or chip on their shoulder/ entitlement b/c they don't feel appreciated - hence the whole desperate sense of 'pick me' or 'I'm more valid than you' energy/vibe. It's competitive in a toxic way. The best way to escape either type of hipsterism is to allow ourselves to be humbled instead of humiliated. Desperation comes from the fear of being left behind or ignored so we humiliate ourselves to be a sell-out or a hide-out, and this false dichotomy is not balancing (humbling) us.
This is why Elle Woods is the perfect character. She's a stereotypical girl, but uses it to her advantage and is really smart. She doesn't put down other girls, even when dealing with Vivian, who is inlog personified. And Legally Blonde even has Vivian come around in the end. All around a great movie.
bro i love Legally Blonde so much, it's such a great story about a girly girl who is girly and pink and fashionable while also being smart and actually good in law stuff but also supports other women and girls /and her whole sorority helped her get her exams even tho they didnt understand shit/. Also in the musical both Warner and Vivian see the professon trying to hook up with Elle but Vivian immediatelly takes her side and later encourages Elle to not leave Harvard and to go to court and smash everyone, like they have the whole supportive element and idk if it was in the movie or the musical but there was this line, where Vivian was trying to be better than Elle in the beggining and Elle went "I dont understand, why would you do that to another girl, we have to stick together" and overall this movie imo is incredibly feministic and empowering and shows that you can be girly and feminine and also slay
@@yonicorn1641 that last line is probably from the musical. I would love to see it someday! I also secretly wish is could the role of Elle Woods in the play! 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, I'm so glad you guys mentioned the musical! I've seen it like 5 times (though in different forms like school plays or the recorded version) and it's probably my favorite musical. It just takes all of the good messages from the movie and dials them up a notch.
shoutout to all my other girls out there who violently hated pink as a child because they didn't want to be seen as 'girly' then growing up to realize that pink is great and colors don't matter as long as they make u happy 💗💕
That's exactly what happened to me. Throughout my childhood and teenage years I hated pink because I was a "tomboy" and thought pink was too "girly". Fast forward to me now about to paint part of my room pink because I'm finally getting to enjoy this amazing color I forced myself to dislike for years.
My “not like other girls” phase emerged because middle school me was trying to separate herself as much as possible from the girls that bullied her. Like hon, you’re ALREADY different from them because you’re not an asshole.
GIRL MAJOR RELATE I grew into a geek because I didn't want to be like the bully girl who was always talking about brands and fashion and makeup and putting me down for reading (she lowkey seemed spoilt and judgy but I realized that me judging people for having interests the same as hers was doing the same thing as her)
Dude for real! I actually did get bullied in elementary and middle school for being friends with other girl’s crushes so that stereotype always felt relatable to me. By the time I got to high school I made friends with girls who weren’t assholes and then they phase went away
My "not like other girls" phase happened because of my mother and her friends, who always insisted that doing the opposite of what everyone else was doing was the better way. As much as I was curious about doing typical teen girl things, it was frowned upon. So I was a shut in during my teen years writing scifi and drawing comics instead of going to the mall, getting my nails done, or even having an interest in boys. Better than rebelling, I guess.
If you think that every other girl you've met is too much drama. Honey, I'm sorry to say this but You're the common denominator in all those situations.
@@AridetothemuseumFtknj how did you miss the point of this video so bad, we’re not shaming girls for liking their interests. If a girl says she likes to read, she likes to read because she enjoys it, not because she’s seeking anyone’s approval
@@AridetothemuseumFtknj girl did you even watch the video? It's literally about not shaming women for the activities or things they like to do...surprise: women don't do everything in live just to impress other people.
@@adminservice3639 Yep, like I have male friends and female friends, not because "I'm quirky", but because they are nice friends. I like reading, because it makes me happy, not for other people's opinions. I like specific bands, not because other people like them, but because I like them.
Some girl made a Tik Tok using the “introduce yourself as why girls hate you” trend and proceeded to say “I have a consistent poop schedule” and I pray for more videos like hers to combat this very harmful movement.
@Idk_Reveluv yeah it really depends on the people around you. I'd much rather hang out with the girls from my old high school than with most of the guys from there. But I've also been to places where it was the other way around (or I didn't want to hang out with anyone because they all sucked). Being👏 likeable 👏is 👏not 👏based 👏on 👏gender
and i've noticed that girls that complain abt girls being too much drama are... usually the cause of the drama in the first place. as a 20 yo woman who's almost only had female friends, drama hasn't been an issue since i was like 13 hkfdh, the women that think other women are too much drama need to get new friends :(
I agree, I used to be that girl, mainly because i was bullied, by both girls and boys but mostly girls. And the only friends ive had for over 5 years are my two guy friends. But after finding a friend group of girls that liked me I realized how wrong it was of me to think that way.
I lived with a girl like that, she was exactly like that, didn't like make up or dressing up and was really possesive of her boyfriend. Long story short now we're really good friends and she told me myself that she started doing what she likes and paying much more attention to herself after living with me. She didn't have any female friends before me cause she was mostly the source of drama and I don't know why we clicked but I'm glad we did!
I love how Tumblr makes fun of the trope now. Either by making the two girls lesbian lovers, or with quotable text posts like, “I’m not like other girls, I’m worse” or “I’m not like other girls, I’m a boy.”
my “not like other girls” story: in middle school, i used to carry around these massive books as opposed to simply putting them in my backpack because i wanted other people to notice that i was, in fact, literate
So did Harry styles bump into you, all your philosophical, unconventional books falling on the floor, desperately trying to pick them up but a slight touch locks your eyes on his green orbs
I'm not like other girls, I'm just tucking my messy caramel hair behind my ears and fixing my intense green eyes on the ground because Harry Styles is staring at me in class -
exactly, when i was in elementary i hung out with a bunch of guys cause they were the only ones that played sports during recess and everybody said i was a pick me but that’s not even what a pick me is
Fr I was told by a guy in my class that “ I don’t think of you as a girl I think if you as a guy” and he kept on saying that for such a long time but then he said bc I not “annoying” like the girls in my class 💀💀 but I’m friends with those girl 😭😭
OH MY GAWD that is the whole point i have been trying to get across to other ppl .In my opinion we are all not like other girls bc we are all unique and different in our own way and don't have to be condescending to other girls due to differences I mean if you like to dress like a bad bitch that you are do it if you like pizza or like games or play sports or like make up or whatever just be and don't make it like it's something soo special . Good night and thanks for coming to my TED TALK.
Yep, the fact that they are doing the trend in the first place shows that there is shows some kind of passive-aggressiveness in the first place. Maybe even a hint of arrogance and a sense of entitlement.
and all the comments that say they’re the problem which is true, but then i see a lot more comments saying “oh i thought we were girls for girls” YEAH WE ARE but not when one is trying to be above other girls 😐
I was definitely in a “not like other girls” phase for most of my life. I was a tomboy, liked guy things, hung out with guys and believed other girls who were “girly” were the enemy. Mostly because I got bullied and made fun of what I was like. I even brought it into my writing my main characters being rivals. Tomboy vs Girly Girl. But at some point, I really thought about it, why do I hate other girls so much? I have such strong woman to look up to around me who are well rounded with many different interests. Crying doesn’t make you weak. Being feminine doesn’t mean your evil. I changed the writing for my female characters. And I’m not sure exactly when or why but I eventually dropped this trope for myself as well.
I was always a natural tomboy myself, even before this "not like other girls" trope came into the media and even before my own nlog phase. But I also have a feminine side too, but I'm mainly a tomboy. The media made me feel so ashamed of my girly side that I hid it for so long bc i wanted no one finding out about it. The media didn't force me into becoming a tomboy, because I already was one. What the media did is force me to hide my feminine side bc i became so embarrassed of it. So it kind of annoys me when ppl say all tomboys are fake and they're only pretending to be one to impress boys which isn't true. Like we real tomboys exist and we don't even care about impressing boys man😃 anyways, for me I didn't hide my feminine side to impress boys but more so all of society. I wanted to prove to everyone and not just men that I'm different and not catty like every "other girl". I was so desperate to separate myself from other girls bc I thought they were all that dumb bimbo stereotype. But thankfully i got out of that phase when i realized every girl is different and unique. And that most girls are nice & smart. Getting out of that phase also led me to not be embarrassed about being girly anymore. My nlog phase lasted for 6-7 years, yikes
@@ham-sley1308 Thank you for sharing this. I’m so happy you let your girly side show because there is nothing wrong with that at all. Exactly. I was never a tomboy to impress boys. That’s just the way I was, felt comfortable being around them and they had cooler stuff. My aunt once criticized me watching Power Rangers as it was a “boys” show and my mom told her let me watch what I like. I have always had a slight girly side, had a Barbie computer after all. Liked nail polish and perfume.& curling/straight if my hair. But for some reason I could never commit to be completely one. I feel like there are a lot of layers here. 😂 My mom is also a tomboy so that might be an influence. Middle school I was criticized for not being girly enough and couldn’t afford nicer clothes. High school I “covered up” because I didn’t want to be labeled anything. So crazy. But even as an adult I’m in a male dominated flied, general labour, working with guys and feel most comfortable in my boyfriends clothes. So some things never change 🙃. But my outlook on “other girls” has changed so much. I even have three female best friends 😂 & I will always want to be a girl no matter what even been experimenting with lipstick lol.
Same I grew up with 4 brothers and didn’t have a choice but to do boy things or I’d have no one to play with, but I always envied girls with a group of close girl friends. It was so hard for me to make girl friends, but now I have my own litto group and it makes me so happy 😭😭😭
@@thesimplelifeofjenn5349 I always had one female best friend but that’s it and they never lasted too long because of one situation or another 😂 Having brothers will definitely have that effect lol. I make the joke that now I have three female best friends who know nothing about each other haha. It’s easier that way idk my reasoning lol. So glad I stopped seeing them as the enemy. So glad you found your own group and happy 😊
I never considered feminine things as being bad per se. I always liked them. If anything it was vanity (the girl who was obsessed with hair, nails, fashion, materialistic and shallow things) that was frowned upon and laughed at as silly.
I will never understand ppl who are like “I’m only friends with boys bc girls are too much drama 🙄🤸♂️🚆” as if I’m friends with other women BECAUSE they are women?? No sir I’m friends with them cause they’re cool ass people who make me laugh.
The whole not like other girls thing just reminds me of that margaret atwood quote where she says “even pretending you aren’t catering to a male fantasy is a male fantasy”
Oh god, you are absolutely right, also this quote is going to haunt me until the day I die. I'm just copying it here in case anyone would like to read it in context: “Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”
@@No-zp5mv that is indeed my opinion. Using it as an adjective is perfectly fine to me I don’t care it’s the correct way of using it but when it’s used as a noun it just feels dehumanising, woman is the human term for a female human like you would call a female lion a lioness or a female deer a doe not just female... it doesn’t make grammatical sense.
@@Aj01110 Oh yeah, I should have said a bit more, I meant if they used it as an adjective I didn't mind. I also get kind of uncomfortable when they say it like a noun.
I get that, although I do prefer the use of "females" medically since I'm not a woman. An ex tried saying "I thought females were evil" in an attempt to manipulate me the other day however, and knowing he wasn't doing it to affirm my gender it just really grossed me out that he viewed chicks in that way.
I went through a “not like other girls” phase around late elementary school, turns out I was right though, I’m not like other girls because I’m actually a guy.
I wish people spoke more honestly about their “I’m not like other girls” phase 😭 like we definitely all had one... I feel like speaking about it is one of the keys to overcoming self esteem issues & creating real genuine friendships.
I agree with you! It would be great to normalize these kinds of conversations even though I know that yes it can be embarrassing looking back but it’s so important to. Specially to realize how we all fell victim to the same ideals and self hate as young vulnerable girls and seeing how we overcame or perhaps didn’t. To be there for each other and realize we aren’t alone and to help each other.
I talk about mine bc everyone acts like it’s this cookie cutter experience of internalized misogyny and hating other women. But in my case it was caused by a lot of bullying and exclusion in elementary school because I had bad social skills and by the time I got to sixth grade I kinda made my personality being “weird” and “different”. Everyone acts like this is always caused by internalized misogyny or even to impress guys when it’s not. I think more women who had this phase for reasons other than internalized misogyny need to talk about it more. I’ve also heard women who are lgbt or neurodivergent(mostly autistic) talk about how they had this phase bc of their respective identities, not bc of internalized misogyny.
@@janicehuang7208 img same ! I genuinely had no friends and was bullied so hated “other girls” legitimately said “girls are too much drama”.... while not having any guy friends either 😂
@@janicehuang7208 I feel like that the issue is not some "internalized misogyny", but simply the need to feel different. No wonder so many people go through a phase where they think they're a mermaid, vampire, demigod, whatever. Because they want to be unique.
When I was younger, I had a “not like other girls” phase. This was largely brought on by my feeling of isolation caused by my autism. In that way, I really was different from the other girls. However, now that I am older and can use the internet more, I’ve found communities of girls and women who are also on the autism spectrum. It really puts into perspective how big the world is, and just how un-special I really am in the grand scheme of things. I realized that being “different” made me no better or worse than anyone else, and that’s ok.
This is exactly my experience!! I never really had a "Not Like Other Girls" phase, it was more like "Why Am I Not Like Other People?" phase. But as an Autistic person, things finally clicked and I am at least able to appreciate and accept myself now. I'm still different from other people, but I've met so many wonderful Autistics on the internet who share the same struggles with me.
I am not autistic but I can relate to your experience. I grow up feeling like I'm not like other girls and I don't fully know why. Being an NLOG girl made me feel understood at that time.
I don't think my "not like other girls" phase ever truly went away, to be honest. Even in adulthood, there's some kind of curtain between me and my peers, or even my sisters. Our interests and styles were always so different and any attempt to copy them to fit in wasn't to their liking. Of course, I'm not one to be pretentious about it, it's something I related to just in life, not simply because it's a trend.
I hate that e “introduce yourself as why girls hate you" trend so much. And they'll say "because I'm prettier than they are" like no you're just a pick me
Right?? Like why would I hate you for being pretty? Good for you if you’re pretty!! I just don’t like you because you’re putting down other women and are arrogant 😂
Exactly not every "other" girl hates another pretty girl that's just some bullshit that is probably in movies ,books or shit infact I also find someone more pretty than me I just admire them not like be jealous and find ways to break her up or put earth green color in her shampoo bottle
years of reading books that reinforced all the “not like other girls” stereotypes is why it took me forever to realize that I like fashion. bruh I’m still embarrassed about it but I enjoy it so much! ughhh
I used to wear men clothes because I was so insecure and couldnt fit in with other girls but once I started maturing, I realized that I actually liked feminine clothing and that there are more open minded women nowadays
literally same, also i felt like i was too ugly for makeup or fashion that i stayed away from both when it's something I actually really enjoy. And I still catch myself thinking some stupid not like other girls shit because I was deep into that phase for so long. And I highly agree with Casey that movies and books where a major reason for my way of thinking
For me it was my mom who made me feel like liking makeup or fashion means im stupid and annoying (she s asian idk if that s got to do anything w it but i think she wasn't taken seriously back then) Im so happy for you tho, i hope you can pursue your passion freely in the future 🥰
Also everyone always celebrates girls liking “guy stuff” like being Into cars and video games and girls who like girlier things get shamed cuz things that men like are Automatically related with having taste
i never understood why video games are a boy thing, like yeah there are game more suitable for boys but there also a lot more suitable for girls, and all the ones that i played are for both
When a girl wears a suit it's fine and professional, but when a guy wears a dress, people still make fun of him, imo it all boils down to feminine things being seen as inferior and embarrassing to do and that's not okay
even girls who like games get shamed like constantly i like video games but i don’t hate on girls who don’t or anything but some guys swear up and down that i only like them for male attention, girls really can’t win lmfaoooooo
I'm starting to see that people are valuing male opinions over women's more and more, including other women. Like if a guy shames someone, then everyone shames that person. Its kinda sad
Lily Truscott from Hannah Montana, I think was the best well-written character "I'm not like other girls." She was a tomboy and act like one of the guys but wasn't aggressive. She was also boy crazy and never shamed Miley for being girly. They even bond over fashion and boys. She excels in sports that may be considered male-dominated sports and activities like skateboarding, football, and hockey. However, she also excels in "girly" sports like cheerleading and gymnastic. Lastly, she may not be the type of girl who spends hours behind the mirror. She usually wears a hat and does not care about helmet hair. However, she loves shopping for cute clothes as much as she loves going to the skate park. She wouldn't miss a chance to shop around the Hannah closet, which was filled with designer clothes. She also cared sometimes about her appearance like the episode when she didn't want to wear her glasses since it made her look like a nerd. She was a tomboy but she had feminine traits. She wasn't ashamed of being a tomboy or being like "other girls."
Hannah Montana is WAY more progressive than people make it out to be. The characters got development and the whole conflict with Jake and Miley was an example of Hannah Montana being a good show for young girls or kids in general. When Jake cheated on Miley, she immediately broke things off. Other shows at the time would've jumped to the conclusion of "oh but _ has changed. I'll give _ another chance *proceeds to have a toxic ass relationship for the entire show*" . Meanwhile, girls who watched Hannah Montana could have learned not to tolerate bullshit. Top tier show lol.
@Randompersonontheinternet174 I'm not gonna lie. I was very pissed off when Jake cheated on Miley. I always felt it was very OCD and all the development with Jake was thrown in the garbage. Miley and Jake were very popular ship. Plus didn't Miley also cheated on Jake. There was emotionally cheating with the situation with Jessie. I do agreed like how Miley didn't gave him second chance, unlike Spencer and Teddy. Spencer cheating was way worse than Jake cheating since Spencer wasn't just fling, he was in a relationship with Skylar and made Teddy feel like crazy when she suspected Spencer was cheating. She had great relationship with Beau but she ended up with Spencer
@@sailorsister211we have VERY different views lol. I saw Jake as an arrogant celebrity. Sure he got "development" but I saw his development as Jake saying "I like your face so much that I'll change, promise" to Miley. AND he was set up to be "the one", which was a realistic portrayal of what young girls feel when they meet their first bf. And when he cheated on her, the "perfect first love" illusion was shattered.
It's also so interesting that the "I'm Not Like Other Girls" movie character trope is always shaming very-feminine girls whilst being pretty feminine themselves. This media gives the message that 'if you are *too* feminine, you're vapid, BUT you still need to be preforming femininity at *some* level.' Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Yes there's always been this narrative in media of a "bit is okay but not too much". Like it's okay to be a bit feminine but not TOO much, don't go TOO far. And the main character in these stories is always framed as being JUST right in terms of femininity while the "other girl" is "over the top" when she's really just hyper feminine but instead of it being treated as a choice of style or expression like with the MC, its presented as a reason to dislike her and that it somehow corelates with her personality e.g. "hyper" feminine (i.e likes the colour pink) = vindictive manstealer or ditsy. We need more positive portrayals of the "other girl" archetype because contrary to what this media is trying to push, the other girls are pretty great!
YESS I think it’s because the message they were trying to convey was very obvious before. But now, the new trend is conveying the exact same message in a less obvious/snarky way. And also the girls doing the trend believe that they are so different/special that everyone is constantly thinking of them. The way that they think their living in everyone’s head rent free is what’s annoying tbh.
@@f9054 yeah. tbh when I was younger I saw the "Im not like other girls" trend, at least the ones about self-image, they helped me realize I don't have to be that ideal female because I felt like the ugly one and I'm not alone in feeling that way. I never related to the ones about being friends with boys anyways because i was terrified of boys lmao. the ones that were less putting down other women and more self deprecating made more sense to me. the vast majority of them were kind of cringey.
Same. I think it’s because they’re more like ‘everyone hates me cause they’re jealous’ rather than ‘I don’t fit in with others cause I’m different’. At least, it’s that for me.
I do too, I think the whole "pick me girl" situation is way more toxic. The "I'm not like other girls" actually had some kind of basis to it because of girls who shamed feminine traits. But now anyone who is different is called a "pick me girl".
@@f9054 it’s rejecting feminine stereotypes which people still live in media and praise as feminist even though it’s anti-feminist af to shame other women just because their stereotypical feminine. The pickmesha is different for sure, but both are still harmful, in my opinion.
they should change the trend to "introduce yourself as why girls/ppl love you" and then say something positive about yourself. How wholesome would that be?
I was just thinking that! Cuz if I did the “introduce yourself as the reason why other girls hate you”, I would’ve literally said “nothing”. I had a lot of confidence issues in high school, but my old best friend reassured me that people really liked me in high school, and I love her and value her opinion, so I’ll believe her :) it would be so much nicer to make it into something positive!
I had a NLOG phase in high school that I am quite embarrassed of. After analyzing it from an adult perspective, I've found that it stemmed from my desire to not be seen as vapid and shallow, the way women with stereotypically feminine interests are. I wanted to be seen as an individual person who was real and had real interests. And like I said, I am embarrassed by it, but I think the real villain is the way society and pop culture treat women who are stereotypically feminine. Now I'm proud to say that I AM like other girls, because other women are smart, and strong, and capable, and beautiful. I hope more media comes out that celebrates women in every form, be they more feminine, more masculine, or anything in between.
My teenage daughter is definitely going through this phase. I'm trying to guide her along gently. When she starts spouting off all the ways she's "different" I'll remind her that having a different interest or taste is just being human, which is normal. Everyone is different in a way, but also the same in many ways. You just have to find yourself and realize that there are plenty of people like you, same as there are many who are different from you. That's the beauty of life. It makes you both relatable and interesting at the same time. Just do your thing, and be happy.
i’m NOT like other girls, i put other women down for the sake of male approval/validation and shame them for liking stereotypical girly things even though there is nothing wrong with that 😏
you missed the whole point of the video. The issue is that we SHOULD NOT blame the women that fall into the INLOG trap because society has literally pushed them to individualize themselves by generalizing others, and now look at you, generalizing all the "im not like other girls" girls, and making fun of them.
I love the trend where it’s like a guy tells you “you’re not like other girls” and you’re like no, actually I am the amalgamation of every girl I’ve ever thought was cool
I love the trend where a guy says "you're not like other girls" and the girl says "no" then turns around and slaps him with a dinosaur tail because she's a dinosaur.
I love the trend where a guy says you're not like other girls, and the girl turns around and says "no, I'm Chiraj Gupta" and slowly turns into cosmic dust so she can be one with the Oxygen Donke breathes in....
THIS LITERALLY HAPPENED WITH ME, a guy who liked me (i didnt know it tht time) told me that im kinda weird nd not like other girls... im unique! nd i was like... i really wanna tell him to shut up but his feelings wud get hurt..(hes very fragile nd gets hurt at the smallest things nd all like🥺🥺🥺 whenever smthing mildly mocks him) nd it was supposed to be a compliment so i was like ok... then he told me he loved me nd asked me to be his 'life partner' with a ring emoji nd i was like O_O what.(also ppl in school were teasing us so i just clarified with him incase he thinks i like him tht i only think of him as a friend nd he was like yes we friends, HI SISTER, nd labeled himself my 'brother' even tho our friendship was nothing sibling like nd i was like wutever stops him from thinking i like him but it for sure didnt stop him from thinking he likes me...) i was 12. nd then we stopped talking cus he cudnt be friends with me nd i was like suit urself. nd then he apologised nd we started talking to me again nd he told me how im so diff from all the girls in school cus im so weird nd hes never seen a girl as weird nd fun as me nd im like...😂😂😂😂😂 my personality is literally every girl, person, post, quote, comment, character i ever found cool put into a vat nd melted down. im an amalgamation of every girl i ever found mildly osum.
Just wanna say that the movie "mean girls" is much more different than other films because it actually criticizes how girls put each other down even if you are popular or not. Like in the film all the girls, were mean girls. You don't see that in movies that often that even the main character and the less popular characters notice that they themselves are mean.
Absolutely! Mean Girls was a great critique and analysis of feminine misogyny. The same can somewhat go to Legally Blonde, in a way. Too bad there aren't more movies like this.
@siân diann no both regina and janis were both the mean girls in the story. the movie was about how ANYONE can be mean regardless of how popular they were
Ooh, same! Realizing I didn't like guys and rather, was aro-ace (gay-oriented, but still - I only had tertiary attractions and not romantic/sexual attraction) was the first step for me as well!
same, I used to be MAD homophobic and "not like the other girls" until I came to terms with my aro/ace-ness. Now I just regret seeing any part of my past self involving those topics cause it honestly sucked
This is why I love Elle Woods so much. She is traditionally feminine, but it is not portrayed as a bad thing. She does not bring other women down, is confident in herself, and cares about more people than just the main dude.
yesderday my friend said she liked hanging out w guys since girls are too much drama.. which is odd considering shes the only one bringing drama into our own friendgroup smh
a girl like that goes to my school and she literally made fun of me for DOING NOTHING. LITERALLY NOTHING. i have social anxiety and I don’t really talk so her and her “guy friends” made fun of me and called me a freak. 🙄 she also made fun of other girls for not knowing many video games and stuff. she’s so basic it’s funny.
That's one thing I liked about The Princess And The Frog - Tiana's and her rich white friend were clearly set up along "I'm not like other girls" lines, but then the friend proved to be a pure delight, someone who could be airheaded or self-centered but was a true supportive friend when it counted most. You were primed to think she was an evil stepsister rivalizing with Tiana for male attention but then it turns out that no, she's just a girl who has different tastes and goals than Tiana but she isn't evil, and her role in the story resolves as being "Tiana's friend and ally" instead of "Tiana's rival or foil". OK there are racial dynamics at play (like, yeah, the one time you'll show the "other girls" as fine is when you're trying to avoid painting the white rich people as evil in segregation-era Louisiana, this is great...) but it still works as a subversion.
I'm glad that Charlotte was a good and supportive friend to Tiana, but I agree that they should've at least acknowledged the racism a little more instead of hiding it. Obviously not every single white person thought the same way or agreed with the notion that black people were inferior back in the day, but for the movie to not have a single racist character in a movie that is set in 1920s New Orleans and has a black woman as the protagonist is a bit ridiculous. Disney has (and still does) tackle dark subjects in their movies, so they could've given a small taste of the racism Tiana would've faced at that time in a kid friendly way. I'm not saying Charlotte should've been racist just because she's white, in fact I'm glad she's not, but that there could've been other characters who were racist towards Tiana in the movie.
The biggest implication of “im not like other girls” cringe is Wattpad 😭 the way they characterize women who basically just care about their diet, and appearance as villains is almost amazing. But in a bad way.
When Mulan said, “I wanna be like other girls” she really was ahead of her time edit: ahh it was actually the three princesses who said it (from Mulan 2)! thanks to everyone who corrected me lol.
@@cosmiclovetravelagency Yes. And if we all have personality, we are all like each other in that aspect. „Like other girls“ doesn‘t have to mean „we are all the same“. It can also mean „we are all individuals, with cool interests and personalities, and we are alike in that way, so there‘s no need to group all other girls together to try and make yourself stand out.“
@@dc9067 exactly we got essays, deadlines, jobs, babies, families, self-care & skincare routine, cooking gourmet food, cleaning our house and sprucing it up, looking after our pets, looking after family members, spending time with our SO, binge watching Netflix shit or watching UA-cam videos, drawing, learning a language, working out, reading or doing fuck all😂 We aint got time to be hating on anybody, especially the 10% of girls with internalised misogyny 😭😭
I think this is why I love monster high so much. All the girls have their own different and similar interests (a lot being stereotypical girly stuff like fashion and shopping), despite all this they all love and support each other :) Each character is portrayed as strong and worthy
Girls who have problems with making friends or social anxiety are extremely susceptible to this mentally. I remember being like that as a way to cope with my inability to form friendships. It was just easier to put down other girls to get validation rather than actually talking to people. The only thing it did was isolate me more 🙃👍🏼 Edit: yes not every girl with social anxiety does this. I was trying to say that some girls with social anxiety use the "im not like the other girls" as a way to cope with their anxiety.
This! I had really bad social anxiety as a teen and so I went to tumblr (circa 2012 smh) as an escape and there I was told that the problem was everyone else and not me. I had trouble communicating b/c I was too different and they were all boring and basic. Looking back I think I could've made way more friends if I had worked on my anxiety earlier instead of just shielding myself by saying "I'm not like most girls"
Luckily for me, my "I'm not like other girls" phase was short-lived coz of some guy that said this to me when I told him I hate makeup: "lemme guess, you also only hang out with guys, hate pink, wear baggy clothes, and eat sloppily coz you're not like other girls? Like literally every other girl?". I felt belittled coz I really thought I was superior to other girls prior to that incident.
This is proof that guys see pass this trope as well, so while girls are trying to be different from other women, men will always fine a way to belittle you know no matter what. It doesn’t matter. If you’re actually different than that’s fine but thinking you’re better because if it is where the issue comes from.
I’m happy that it had such a positive impact on the way you think, and maybe I’m overthinking this, but I can’t help but think we’re just going in a circle. Can girls not like makeup without being “Not like the other girls?” Can we not express our interests without immediately being put into a box? Is this not the type of profiling that created INLOGs in the first place? It kinda seems like we just can’t win lmao
but that's problematic too... let's say u ACTUALLY didn't like wearing makeup and dresses, does that mean you're doing it for male attention and that you hate feminine girls??? No. That conclusion is inherently sexist as men think you're acting like that for their attention.
If your mindset is "I'm not like other girls", it automatically makes me think you associate "other girls"with negative stereotypes you want to distance yourself from, and that's not good. Listen to the song Most Girls by Hailee Steinfeld. Most girls are strong, confident, capable, smart, etc. I would love to be like most girls and be associated with "other" girls. Enough with the internalized sexism. We don't need to tear women down to make ourselves feel better.
Not always the case. The "I'm not like other girls" phenomenon was partially fueled by the relentless bullying a lot of girls receive for being tomboys, un-feminine, or just socially awkward. It came to a point where we realized that confidence was the best remedy. Instead of feeling ashamed for being emo or for being boyish, girls decided to rise up and start taking pride in these things. This doesn't give anyone the right to shame femininity, of course. But I've seldom seen "quirky girls" who actually shame feminine women. They're mostly just saying that it's okay to be the way they are.
@TvT I already said that it doesn't give anyone the right to shame femininity. What I'm talking about is people feeling okay with whoe they are after decades of bullying.
@TvT As a tomboy and my personal experience, I've been bullied all my life by others so that just goes to show it's different for everyone anywhere, at the end of the day just be yourself, whether you're feminine or not, etc. etc. can't please everyone, and if someone really does have the need to bully anyone for whatever reason, they're just unhappy with their own life
@Miranda cutie animations Taylor Swift said it best when she said I want to be able to like glitter and pink and wear makeup but still tell you my opinions on politics and be taken seriously. Those two things should not cancel each other out.
Went through my "not like other girls" phase in middle school. The popular girls spread rumors about me being a lesbian because I wore t-shirts and jeans that were comfortable to me. After I got through college, I stopped caring what people thought of me and just live my best life. I then found out as I got older that there are women that don't judge me and are cool to hang out with. I just didn't go to school with most of them. That being said, we mature as we get older.
It is! (I don't like the color pink, i think it's unfair to the other shades. But i'm a lot like other girls in more aspects then I'm not, and that realisation was character development for me.)
When i was little i dislike pink because... Idk i forgot, But i have a reason. then i started to like pink (baby pink and purplish pink specifically). But now... I watch a serial animation where the killer's main color is pink and she killed almost all of my favorite characters. After that, i came back to my old-self mind. Dislike pink 😀
When I was younger I was the biggest tomboy ever. Hated pink, dressed, skirts, anything thats girly and now I’m 21 and love all those things yo! I did have some character development 😌
YES exactly i used to "HaTe" pink because i thought it made me different and QUirKy, but i realized that not only is pink a nice and pretty color, but that its okay to like something that is stereotypically what "other girls" do
the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing is so polarizing. we try so hard to break free from the box of traditional femininity that we end up caging ourselves in yet another box. everyone's trying to be the "girl who supports all other girls unconditionally :))))" woman, which means you're not allowed to criticize a woman or criticize a cultural trend among women because if you do, you're labelled a pick-me. in the end, women, once again, become a monolith who aren't allowed to have separate opinions on things without it having to do with male attention in the general public's eyes. if one man says he personally doesn't vibe with the "soft boy uwu" aesthetic and another man says he personally loves playing around with makeup because it's liberating, then those are two men expressing their opinions. if one girl says she doesn't understand the appeal of cosmetic surgery and another girl says she's getting her nose surgically altered, then that's a "pick-me-who-tries-too-hard-to-get-male-attention" and a "dumb-hedonistic-airhead-who-quite-literally-can't-see-past-her-own-nose" because for some reason, we REFUSE to see women as individuals, as people who can't be put into categories and not a monolith. also note how my (and literally everyone in the comment section's) first instinct was to call women "girls" but call men "men".
Don't listen to them. Be your own person with your own opinions. You don't have to support other women in any case at all. Make sure your opinions are your own, and aren't a direct result of outside influence.
I know this is late, but thank you SO MUCH for saying this. It’s exactly how I’ve felt for so long and you articulated it perfectly. To me what’s most empowering is viewing woman as humans; all unique individuals with unique experiences, and you are so right that we constantly get put into boxes.
I actually had this argument with someone who called Bella from Twilight "A not like other girl" but like she never once puts anyone down for their interests and just doesn't care about girly stuff.
this is my struggle. i was huge in the "supporting all women" thing, still am, but after living with +30 women for 2 years i realize that we're all such different fully fleshed out complex HUMAN beings. i definitely wasn't like some of them, and some of them weren't like me. i do not like all of them and won't support them all either, i looked down upon some things they did, they did the same for me, at the end we were still sisters in a way and i'd never leave them alone in a room full of men, but that's it. women are all insanely different, it's impossible to put us in boxes or shove us into always-supporting sisterhoods, and that's fine!!!
Sorry I think I just had an epiphany... Does wlw stand for woman loves woman? Because I always throught it was a slash like woman/woman, w/w, with the same meaning. It never occurred to me that that's an L 😳😳😳
As a former "I'm not like other girls" veteran, another reason girls do this is mainly out of insecurity and internalized misogyny. Where I grew up I wasn't the beauty standard at all, which was blonde, blue eyed, fake tan, and skinny. I was none of those things and for so long I was bullied for it. I tried so hard to be like them but I never could and it made me so insecure. When I picked up the "I'm not like other girls" philosophy I felt like I was important for once and in a way taking revenge on those girls who seemingly had it all. To compensate for my insecurities I would trash other girls who remotely liked ANY shade of pink or pop music. Doesn't help that I was enabled by a bunch of toxic emos that haunted my school everyday. Now that's I've matured I realized how shitty of a mentality that was and how sexist I was. Secretly I've always liked pink, makeup, and other girly frilly things. But my mentality won't let me like those things. While I'm still working with my insecurities and loving myself, I'm glad I got outta that.
Love this comment it hits so hard dude. I went to a predominantly white private school on financial aid from 4th -12th grade and it fucked me up for a whole when I was one of the only Hispanics back in the early days and most of the girls were all light, skinny or athletic , blonde, and were generally considered desirable to other kids our age in middle school. Needless to say, I never had not one shred of confidence and spiraled into tumblr and fandoms, dressing in flannels and graphic tees, and tried to over compensate with my 'unique' personality and interests to make up for the fact that I didn't like myself at all and felt so awful comparing myself to girls in my grade. I have obviously grown a lot since then and I switched from violently hating pink and all things 'girly' to having pink hair for 5 years and dressing however I wanted /expressing myself through makeup and accessories for the past 2.5 years Middle school was a dark time
@@verybarebones You're right, is not. I think the problem is when people value traditionally masculine traits and interests as higher or better than traditionally femenine traits or interests.
I’m late to the party, but Kat in 10 Things I Hate About You was not one of those “I’m not like other girls” girls. She was a normal girl who was just like other girls, who experienced trauma and developed certain habits and personality traits as a response. She derided girls and boys alike, rather than differentiating herself to gain male attention. She didn’t start out that way and she didn’t end that way.
I thought about leaving this comment and I’m glad I looked to see if someone else did first because you put it far better than I did. People often forget that an essential “ingredient” of being a pickme/NLOG type is the desire for external validation, but Kat didn’t want to deal with anyone. She just developed trust issues and outward aggression due to trauma and her father smothering her. Also 10 Things I Hate About You is the worst example for a “pickme movie” because yeah, it’s a romcom but honestly at the end of the day it’s more about Kat and Bianca’s sisterly relationship than it is about any of the men in their lives.
I feel like it implies that all other girls are whores who cheat on their boyfriends or are dating like 10 other guys at the same time. So they hate her because she is like aCtUaLLy lOyAL and a dEcEnT pERsOn or something? That’s what I got from it, it might not be accurate, but still yikes...
This isn't talked about as much, but the gays have a strong "I'm not like other gays" mentality too. Because most people are brought up with some sense of negativity towards gay stereotypes, internalized homophobia is really prominent in a lot of male gay people. A big reason gays go for straight guys is the feeling of being special, and not like the other gay guys, because you're the special exception. I think this is very similar to the pick me girl mentality.
@Pingo There are videos about it. I can recommend the video “internalized homophobia SUCKS” by Matt Bernstein (ua-cam.com/video/tasPGGPR4Ww/v-deo.html). It’s on point. And I can tell you from personal experience that internalised homophobia is a thing, and does indeed suck.
@@skrrtskrrt2410 again with the stereotype that gays are predatory, it is not violating anyone to go for people as long as you're respectful, understand boundaries, and back down once yk they're not interested. assuming you meant straight instead of cis bc that's a whole other thing i didn't even meantion.
@@user-qv5om2oe1i I think they meant straight, cis wouldnt make sense since they can be gay too but idk I am just trying to give them the benefit of the doubt.
the harmful and regressive body shaming of some of those tiktoks... "i'm not like other girls because i have CURVES." "your boyfriends like me better because of my BODY." that's so upsetting. you're worth more than your body shape. we all are. it's wonderful that you love your body, but it's awful to put down those who don't look like you.
Mark my words, after a period of a few years or a decade Tik Tok gonna have the same vibe as tumblr in 2021 as in suprisingly chill with blogs cringing at their past behaviour
I’m not like other girls, i am, in fact, a whole ass guy Edit: yeah so um fun fact two years later, I literally just said this for the joke I am in-fact a whole ass girl
The part in the video about how we don't let women enjoy things and we judge each other and are judged for the things that we enjoy as being tryhards resonated SO much. This is a really great video, entertaining and also important commentary. I love when the youtube algorithm does me right, thank you Casey :)
Exactly! I feel like participating in the "I'm not like other girls" trend just shines a light on insecurities you need to work on. (Which is FINE, we all have insecurities, we just dont show it in the same way). I just think it's unbelievable that people don't realize they are putting other people down to make themselves feel better.
I think the same too. And I also think that's why I when I had my phase, I avoided any and everything that was labelled "girly" even the "chicklits" and "chick flicks" cuz it was just too 'girly' and midle schooler me did NOT wanna be associated with that.
We honestly need more girl-friends in media/stories. The impact the friendship of Inej and Nina in Crooked Kingdom had on me, an adult, is insane. It nearly moved me to tears to witness an authentic friendship between female (main) characters in a book.
i’m just here to say i wanna see a romcom where the villain is not a stereotypical feminine girl but a i’m not like other girls girl i think it would really turn that trope on its head
Same indid notice in that tall girl movie that her tiny beauty pageant sister was actually really sweet to her just super feminine and petite so it made her still seem icky but in reality the pretty sister was really sweet and loving I liked that but didn't think much of it till now.
That's why I LOVE legally blonde lol Elle is a "girly girl sorority queen" but she's portrait as sweet, kind, smart and a fucking bad ass. And what i love even more about the movie is that Elle and Vivian end up best friends instead of trying to "take down" each other bcs of the garbage dude. I also love how Elle's friends are not the stereotypical "fake backstabber bimbos", they actually liked and encouraged her during her Harvard journey 🖤
I am on my way to write that. Just need a laptop. It’s about two girls. One is the usual non-descript plain, NLOG main character like Bella Swan and every YA female lead ever. The other is a Regina George. Both of them are transported to a magical realm and when Bella thinks she is the MC bec of her NLOGgyness, surprise, the chosen one is Regina and Bella now plots on stealing everything from Regina
Definitely had a “I’m not like other girls” phase, mainly b/c I didn’t have a lot of friends growing up and I thought I could make myself feel less lonely by acting like I was just too quirky for friends lol
We’ve all been there; it sucks that so many of us had that phase because it’s not even our fault for thinking that phase was cool... because it was cool-it was cool to not be cool (be that lonely, quirky girl 😜)! It’s so backwards and it’s at no fault of ours for being naive... gotta love internalized societal misogyny!
omg my phase was just like that too. it sucks that we all have this toxic shit in us. But I’m really glad that a lot of our generation realized how toxic that mindset was, and it makes me feel better that you had the same experience that I did, even thought I wish neither of us would have had it lol
ohhhh this!! My two best friends grew up quicker than me when we all turned 13 (I was a late bloomer), so I used INLOG as my safety blanket to assure myself that it was something wrong with THEM, not me, because I was Not Like them! But turns out, there was nothing wrong with any of us... it was just a hard age.
This is exactly it. It’s the bullying part that’s the issue-and it happens on both sides of the argument. I don’t understand why people think girls need to like specific things and dislike other things. It’s so dumb. People should be free to enjoy what they want without judgement. For example, I got called a “pick me girl” online once for saying I don’t like Taylor Swift. But I never shamed anyone who does like her music because that’s perfectly fine. Lots of people like her and they are free to do so. But because I don’t even like pop music and mostly listen to funk and jazz, I’m now somehow a “pick me girl”? Like…it’s just my musical preferences. It’s not that deep. Now, had I gone after people that like Taylor Swift and told them their opinions on music were horrible, that would be a different story. That’s the part that’s not okay. And it’s not okay because it’s basically raining on someone else’s parade, you know? And that’s my essay on why I think both the “I’m not like other girls” and the “pick me” girls trends are dumb. You do you, boo. Let’s not bully people for have passion about their genuine interests.
anyone else think the one girl that was like "hehe im all natural" feel not only othering but almost... body shaming? like haha you only hate me bc ur body isnt like mine. lmk if im just reading too deep into it but it just felt more bullying like than the other examples given??
Absolutely. That can be read as transphobic, ableist and just general body shaming. She sees her body type as the only acceptable kind for women to have.
@@Aster_Risk false. I have a body similar to hers and got labeled a slut by OTHER GIRLS, simply because my natural curves looked different in our school uniform than theirs did. They made my life hell just because of my body.. skinny girls aren’t always out to hurt everyone, we get picked on too.
@@SynterraSteen yes, not all girls are out to get each other for their bodies, but this one was and it is harmful. If you got it, flaunt it, but don’t put other women down in the meantime.
@@SynterraSteen that’s awful that that happened to you, but that’s still no reason to put other women down and it can still be taken as very ableist, transphobic, and body shamey.
My favorite trend to come from the “not like other girls “ trend, is the trend where they take the drawings and take the “other girl” and the “me” and make them girlfriends Its so fun and wholesome
I had a ton of internalized misogyny growing up because I was always taught feminine =bad. It took me wayyy to long to accept that I like pink. Because pink is feminine and therefore bad. I'm still working on correcting it too.
Eleanor Roosevelt began the whole "pink is for girls" thing. Before that, it was a more "masculine" colour because it was so vibrant and noticeable... I love pink. It's one of my most used colours now. It's happy and lovely. It's strong and dominant. Judge me all you want, but it's a damn good colour. Thank you for coming to my TED talk...
I’ve been a “not like other girls” girl and sometimes i still catch myself thinking some dumb shit. internalized misogyny is so gross and im embarrassed that i have and sometimes still do feed into it.
I do it all the time, and im so sorry that you experienced life in a way that now makes you feel this way. Its terrible. Dont be embarrassed, a lot of us girls have internalized misogyny. Because of life, bad experiences with men, and all kinds of media that cause us to feel this way. I hope you find happiness and can put the negative feelings/emotions aside, to rather remember that girls should just try to be good to eachother. ❤️
Don’t feel bad we were raised in that kind of environment that turns girls against girls... recognizing it is when they will no longer be able to bring us down as we unite and become stronger
I was ostracized from girls my age in middle school so I developed the "not like other girls" mentality and the guys I was friends with encouraged it and put down women in a way that just seemed like lifting me up so I didnt see the issue. But also to them I was "too girly" at times and would separate me and invalidate me due to "you're a girl" Then once we hit high school I became a resource for nudes so that wasnt fun
LMAOO YESSS. I feel like that is a HUGE difference when it comes to white and black girl and the “faze”. I though I was cooler cuz I didn’t fit those stereotypes lmao. Crazy.
ABSOLUTELY! it was so hard to be a black girl and have a "thing". It didn't stick with other people for some reason even though you know that you enjoy it. Like, you couldn't be alt, indie, a weeb or just anything
I didn’t think about how this might affect other people because for me it’s kind of the opposite, I feel ashamed for liking things that aren’t a part of black culture. Like I’m some how betraying my race :/
the “introduce yourself as why girls hate you” trend is so dumb LMFAOOOO like i’ve only ever had one instance where a girl disliked me for no reason. and the videos are always like “hi i’m pretty” like ma’am??? have u met girls??? we fucking LOVE pretty girls, clearly u did something
i used to be a pick me back in middle school and i WISH i could take that shit back. now i just embrace my femininity and do whatever i want bc ik i can’t please everyone lolz
At first I thought the trend was like something that they might not be proud off or things that that just pisses people off like "I'm short tempered" or "I'm arrogant" but the trend is really toxic, way too toxic
My favorite part about the “I’m not other girls” trend is that the “weird” and “quirky” and “strange” things they like/like to do are things that in fact, most everyone does..
Yeah, the food ones are the best. Yes nlog, you're so special because you like to eat, it's so unique, defo not a physiological need every human fulfills.
In middle school I went through a "I'm not like other girls" phase and what finally got me out of it was slowly realizing that most of my classmates also liked the things that I thought made me so unique and special.
OMG yes!!! I've been questioning how toxic TikTok comments section are. It's actually really embarrassing because you can tell it was written by teenagers who think being rude or sassy is a good personality trait.
I hate that on Tik tok a girl can wear a t shirt, ripped jeans, and white air forces and are called “basic”? Like why can’t people just wear what they want to wear?!
Right! Especially since those articles of clothing are meant to be basic anyway so what's the big deal with them. When you draw a person on paper, most of the time it's jeans and a basic T...
@@sisitmae There's nothing wrong with being basic, but the word is still used as an insult. I mean there are billions of us on this earth, somebody's gonna be basic.
11-13 year old me was on a TRIP with the whole “I’m not like other girls” ideal, it’s kinda sad to think about how easy it was for so many people my age at that time to fall into that trap and hating other women for no reason just because they felt outcasted
I think it can also be a time of some hitting puberty while other aren’t, and the bullying between girls that may come out of it. So at time, I think I used this mental trap as a self preservation method i.e. maybe there’s nothing I’m doing, girls are just mean. Which was an overgeneralisation on multiple fronts...
Same. I went to the NLOG phase when I was like in 5th and 6th grade. Because I though that being NLOG makes me superior to others but now that I think of it, it doesnt.
I've just realised that a lot of books promote the idea of 'not like other girls'. Like whenever they describe or introduce the main a female character, they describe her in a way that opposes the 'stereotypical' girl and they make sure to point that out.
Very true. Ya novels really need more feminine characters that are also full real people. And you cant even blame male authors, bc many women do this too
@@marzipan2555 I was just about to write this exact thing. A lot of the authors that write these types of characters are just projecting themselves. "I'm not like other girls, I write books."
first thing that came to my mind was the 50 shades book and after, in both books both anna and tessa are strong with the “im not like kate / the slim blonde employees working at grey inc / molly / stef” energy. and one of them is about to graduate college too 🥴
I really hate the "I'm not like other girls" trend, but I also really hate being called a "pick me" literally any time I ever acknowledge men's issues, like male DV victims being shamed into silence or male SA victims being told they should be happy that they got some action. As if the only reason a woman should care about the wellbeing of men is because she's desperate for male attention? It gives me the same energy as when men just show really basic respect to women and treat then like humans, and then a bunch of incels come around and say "wow, what a simp!" Like the only reason a guy should care about the wellbeing of women is because he's desperate to have sex with her? It's so silly. It's one of many reasons I got rid of tiktok. People are so deep into whatever ideologies they have that they no longer see other human beings as people.
Internet personas are highly performative (intentionally or not). I think it makes it difficult to trust that someone is honest about their positions. When I talk with someone they have no time to think through and self-cenzor their response. You can easily edit anything ~problematic~ out of your video tho It doesn't mean there're no honest creators out there but they always make me question whether they say something I like because they agree with me or because they want to sell mi something
Thank you, honestly it's beyond me how self professed feminists don't realize that calling someone a "Pick Me" in this context reveals their own internalized misogyny, it's essentially saying that the only reason a woman might have an opinion different to that of the "group" is wanting male sexual attention. How 'progressive'. The comparison with incels is brilliant by the way, it is exactly the same mindset and it's bewildering more people (especially those in these camps) don't recognize the irony.
@@lurkmoar9066 so glad to know I'm not the only one who sees it! It's literally the exact same mentality, just with the genders swapped. And yes, as a conservative Christian woman, I cannot tell you how many times feminists have berated me and treated me like absolute garbage and told me I have "internalized misogyny" for being a conservative or a Christian. It's insane to me that they don't see how misogynistic it is for them to believe that the ONLY ideology women are allowed to have is the mainstream leftist ideology of modern feminism, and that if any woman ever disagrees with any part of that ideology, they must be brainwashed by a man. No joke, someone recently *literally* told me I have STOCKHOLM SYNDROME because I'm a conservative Christian, and said that I am "siding with my oppressors." I told them I'm not sure who they're referring to, because nobody is oppressing me, so I don't know who they are claiming my "oppressors" are. Smh. It's wild to me that they don't see how misogynistic that mentality is. Apparently women can't possibly think for themselves and go against what is expected of them in modern society. No, no, the only way that's possible is if they're just too stupid and easily manipulated by the men in their life. 🙄 such great feminist empowerment. It disgusts me. It's straight up cult-mentality, and that should be concerning to anyone who is a part of that ideology. If the minute you step outside of perfect alignment, they turn on you, hate you, bash you, call you stupid, call you brainwashed, etc... you just might be in a cult.
Add another layer for WOC. When we don't perform within our “race”, we are seen as white-washed, wanting to be white, or overall weird 😕. Me likeing indie music doesn't changes my racial identity.
it’s basically people disguising racism as a “compliment”. me not using aave doesn’t suddenly mean i’m trying to be yt, i’m just existing and like you, copying the accent i grew up around
@@trees____383 100%, I'm proud of being black and my culture. But it's not a personality trait and doesn't fully define who I am as a person. And the fact that speaking proper English, is seen as speaking white is so problematic.
@@niyalove7001 yes, there is a over million ways to be black (or any poc) and all of them are correct. i’m hoping that eventually we’ll stop getting the “i thought you were yt” or “you _______ so well for a ______ girl” soon. there is no standard, only many different examples
Thank you!!! I’m very proud to be black but saying that I shouldn’t speak proper English because I’m black is ignorant/racist as heck. So basically what you’re saying is as a black person I can’t be proper whilst resting in my blackness 🙄. The funny thing is most people of all races don’t speak proper English. Accents exist but just because someone is white that doesn’t make them automatically proper and just because someone is black that doesn’t make them illiterate.
OMG YES. I remember my dad literally just told me that I "talk white" and I was also bullied in school for listening to kpop and other music that isn't trap, trap rock, or tik tok music
“Introduce yourself as the reason other girls hate you” T-they don’t? I literally... would be sad if other women hated me, and if they do, I’d like to speak with them about why, maybe learn a bit and improve myself, if possible! But I’m an adult and I’m thinking more broadly than I used to. I’ll admit it, I had my fair share of “not like other girls” thoughts when I was a teen, too. xD
It also can be than people are insecure and unhappy, so when they notice someone who is different in some kind of way, is better/has something better than themselves, they will start mocking them in order to feel better about themselves
People don't like me cause I'm really straightforward which isn't the best thing. If someone asked me if they look nice and I think they don't I will straight up say no and wouldn't think twice about how they felt at the time
If it was "introduce yourself with the reasons you think people hate you" I could make a list with all the things I think people may hate me for and I'm consious about I can't see why only one gender and not the other would hate you? (haven't started the video yet)
Did anyone else have a “I’m not like other girls who aren’t like other girls” phase. Like having a hatred for blue because the “not like other girls” loved it. Idk if that made sense.
kinda. i never hated blue but I remember picking pink as my favorite color in middle school because everyone was starting to say it was for babies/girly girls
Mine was like the opposite cause when i was like 7 or 8 and only now have i realised how i was so easily influenced by this "im not like other girls" thing. I remember me and my two other friends just collectively decided to hate pink because it was 'too girly' and we wanted to be different yk? It probably happened because i remembered a boy in my class said something along the lines of pink is disgusting and girly so me and my friends hated the colour for a long time to appeal as more likable towards boys which is cringey now that i think about it 🤡🤢
@@c.sqrqhh what I ment was that there were girls like what u said at my school who refused to associate with femininity but they were so toxic about it that I ended up hating things (like the colour blue) because “other girls” liked them. But the “other girls” were actually “not like other girls” girls. It was a circle of wanting to be different.
I feel happy that i'm now secure with myself. During middle school I felt like a weirdo because I identified a lot with more "masculine things". I used to also be bullied for it and for being physically larger and stronger than most girls at my school ( genetics). I felt bad cuz I would often be compared to guys, sometimes even as a compliment :/ made me doubt myself and feel less feminine, causing me to adapt the NLOG shit. Today i'm still not very traditionally feminine but i'm happy, and respect all kinds of women and my traditionally feminine friends without bias.
Everyone who’s assigned female at birth goes through the “I’m not like other girls” phase cuz everything girls like is criticized. Taking pride in being “different” is like a defense mechanism to protect yourself from the criticism that bombards girls and women every single day. Like when you’re 15 and some dude is like “i bet you’re obsessed with Starbucks and makeup” in an attempt to insult you it feels like you’re defending yourself when you tell him “actually I hate Starbucks and makeup, that’s for basic bitches” even tho there’s nothing wrong with liking those things
haha, i actually never went through the "I'm not like other girls" phase, because i was extremely insecure and always wanted to fit in, so i thought being like "everyone else" was automatically a good thing. 😎 for a while i actually thought the "not like other girl" trend was just girls being insecure about HOW they aren't like other girls, not that it's a good thing to not be like them.
I just read a book written by a woman in which the guy is in love with the protagonist because "she is not like other girls". he even goes so far as calling her a UNICORN because she drinks beer, I just couldn't
I want to know the authors thought process. Like is this main character the only women in the world who drinks beer......cause that's not true and it's dumb to think you're special because you're a women who drinks beer. Get outta here with that nonsense
"introduce yourself as the reason other girls hate you" wait- girls hate me?.... *single tear rolling down my face*
*That time when you realize that girls hates you*
this video's whole comment section is just golden
Some hate me some don’t. Isn’t that normal-
@@drefloresca95 agreed tbqh I'm trying to like all of the non-bots comments
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I used to think that everyone was stupid except for me. I have now learned that everyone is stupid, including me
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Same sis, same
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Atleast your smart enough to know your dumb😔
I really hate the "their boyfriends like me" ones. That's just so gross.
AHH throwback to a girl in my sorority (who came off as very aggressive and belittling) claimed she was all of our sisters' boyfriend's best friend. Confusing, sorry. Creepy though.
I watched a UA-camr who said she used to be one of those girls and she said it was never about the guys, it was about competing with the girls, came from a very deep place of insecurity I think is what she said
@@Eva-gs5uk Yikes, that's so weird I do not understand people
@@fashionvibe101 That makes sense but it's still a very gross thing to do. Especially if they actually try to get the boyfriend to sleep with them that's repulsive and very toxic and even tho it's insecurity or mental illness I won't let that be excused. Glad she changed for the better tho I hope they all do I hate girls like that. Especially the ones who are your best friend but then they go behind your back and try to get your boyfriend.
@@BubbleBunnyy you said it sis, I would never condone the behaviour, I just found it interesting, like it actually makes a lot of sense that it’s really about the girls the friends and not about the guy, but yes super shitty nonetheless lol
It's quite interesting how so much media portrays female protagonists like "I'm special, I'm different, no one is like me, so of course I'm the protagonist", while male protagonists are portrayed like "I'm the most standard-ass human being, I look like everyone else, I act like everyone else, still I'm the protagonist because I'm simply the chosen one"
I like me a realistic female protagonist. I enjoy it when normal girls are just dropped into scenarios where everyone around them is special and they have to figure their shit out to not fail around them.
@@Nakia11798 Like in The Owl House?
Male protagonists are supposed to be a stand-in for the viewer. Female protagonists are supposed to be the viewer but Smarter, Prettier and all around better than the viewer. :(
luz noceda and (somewhat, since the whole power thing) anne boonchuy my beloved…they are the most protagonists ever
This is so interesting, I never noticed
These people just don’t realize that a woman can wear heels and still eat pizza for dinner. They’re stereotyping women for some reason when there’s no need to.
I agree. I don’t understand why being feminine is such a taboo subject now. I love being girly and whenever I bring it up it’s an issue. Is it bad that I enjoy feminine activities?
Yeah why decide between blue and pink when you can wear purple instead
or you could wear pink on Wednesdays and blue on Fridays
or why tf don't you combine the ultimative pink&blue outfit humanity has been waiting for
You know what, I'm rebellious! I'm not like other girls who are not like other girls, my outfit has EVERY SINGLE colour included. Yes turquoise, so are you, even though I don't like you 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤
Yeah I know, like you can do both we are not a one phase person
@@akaylab.134 it's nothing ne, unfortunately...
It's old misogyny on new bottles, or apps if you will.
Hating girls and by natural extension, everything that girls like, is as old as christianity.
Or wear heels some days, and different shoes another day, it's almost like women are peopleand not one dimensional
People are so obsessed with “not being like other women” because they don’t take the time to get to know other women and just assume because they like pink that’s their only personality trait
EXACTLY - I used to be like this when I was a lot younger and I’d just assume any girl that dressed like a girly girl had no personality and was dumb...but later in life I’ve been proved so wrong about that. Liking pink and glitter does not make you dumb or weak. I used to hate dressing girly cuz I was afraid of looking weak, but now I’m obsessed with pink and wear skirts all the time LMAOOOOO at least I had character development tho lol. Normalize letting women be interested in and dressing however they want without being stereotyped or having assumptions made:)
Most of the time they know other women, but they have so internalized the stereotypes of women that the end up believing that people of their sex Is like this.
Basicaly internalized misoginy through assosiation from the media and the enviroment.
I see where you’re coming from and I definitely agree to an extent, but I don’t think this is an issue that can be blamed on self-centered or unempathetic women . I was totally like this in elementary/middle school, but it wasn’t really about hating girls because they liked pink. I had been indoctrinated in this idea that being traditionally feminine was antifeminist, and as a result I was really insecure about the fact that I LIKED feminine things (pink, makeup, fashion, etc.) At the same time, I didn’t have many friends and was really lonely and self-conscious about it. The “not like other girls” mindset was a coping mechanism for feeling rejected by other girls, wanting to be one of them, and feeling guilty for wanting to be one of them. I think the issue here isn’t girls (because it’s most often pretty young girls that feel this) but the way we’ve raised them to doubt and hate themselves.
@@eleanorpimentel7917 this⬆️⬆️⬆️ I genuinely think this is more it. Its self preservation when your young, trying to figure yourself out and feeling rejected by your peers. Of course your not gonna want to be like other girls and want to display that I'm memes, tik told ect when the "other girls" you know have made you feel excluded and insecure. Until you grow up and feel more solid in yourself and realize that everyone is just as complex with their lives and stories and perception of the world as yours is to you.
They just think girly girl's priorities are phone, makeup, selfie, boys, pop music. I can tell you like 1%, maybe 2% if I'm being generous, is actually like this.
Being “not trendy” has become the trend sksnejdjdjr
And, in turn, makes you trendy lmao
No truly like things are more accessible than ever now like most people's tastes have a lot of variety and you'll find lots of different "kinds" of ppl in a lot of different fields yet the stereotypes still exist and people think they're quirky bc like idk they do emo makeup but listen to kpop or something. At the same time I will see ppl try to "quirkify" something very normal like I saw a video once that was like "all my different styles" but it was just streetwear AND THAT'S OKAY but it's weird to me how badly everyone wants to be different lol.
There is no longer 1 singular popular way to dress, music to listen to, passions to have, etc. Multiple things hold large amounts of popularity now, there is no singular way to be trendy, but everyone still wanna pretend there is probably. As Casey said there has been no massive shift to remove those kinds of stereotypes in media bc it's all still run by old ass mfs who cannot keep up with how fast culture is moving now because of the internet, so we get this really slow and dated perception of what it's like to be young (think: every movie about teens using dated references, slang, subcultures which isn't even a real concept anymore, etc.)
@@piagebot2943 it's a never-ending loop.
See: ‘Hipsters’ the hit tune ‘All my friends are dickheads’.
Conformist anti-conformism lol
Legally blonde saved me from my I’m not like other girls phase. Media really makes an impact, especially in our formative years.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus ?
@@halatiny6537 bros on drugs
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus
M8 are you having a stroke.
i lovee legally blonde! It breaks sterotpes :)
There are good ways that the movie 'Legally Blonde' turned the cliche upside-down w/ the element of surprise that made the otherwise ditzy-appearing female blow ppl away w/ how smart she was and how it made others feel dumb later for underestimating her. BUT - the one thing I would have liked to have seen in this vid is how Casey could've also made the point that while it's true that we shouldn't blindly assume that other girls are just boring cliche-ridden normies, fulfilling their stereotypes, we also need to discern better and judge ea girl on a case-by-case basis, based on their own merits and circumstances, and also apply this truth - that some girls label themselves by their behavior fitting to that stereotype.
SO, in that case, I'm not the one calling that girl out for being a stereotype just so I can use her as a measuring stick to show how she's appearing boring compared to me and how diff I am, but I'm calling her out for the fact that SHE MADE HERSELF into this stereotype so in that way, I'm just calling it as I see it. I call a spade a spade and don't BS around about it or sugarcoat it. So that is a whole diff story in those cases.
Now, if we call someone out for being a boring cliched stereotype persona based on limited info or b/c we need to use her to compete against to make ourselves look better in comparison to her, then no, that is wrong. But if she put herself there, then that is her fault, so yes, we can justifiably call her the stereotype she's projecting (the 'airhead', the hyper-feminine girl, the femme fatale that tries to steal your man, the gold-digger, etc). Let's ensure whether it's her or it's us who is creating the label of said stereotype. Sometimes others limit us, and sometimes we limit and shortchange ourselves, so who is doing the shortchanging? Look more clearly at this.
I usu refer to this behavior style as being a hipster - when you try too hard to fit in b/c of your deep insecurity. But two wrongs don't make a right b/c fighting one stereotype to uplift or validate another one doesn't solve anything as it's the same sweater, just reversed w/ a diff color of the same fabric.
First, let's be clear on establishing what 'hipster' means:
A hyper-hip person who is so 'extra' and radical in their coolness/hipness that they are seen as 'tragically hip' - aka, someone who tries way too hard and in this case, you're actually a nerd but a diff kind of nerd b/c you're not casually confident in a way that is genuine to your true self. There's too much self-awareness and this kind of hyper-emphasis is where you're overthinking to the point that it disrupts & even ruins your experiences b/c you are too self-editing w/ every move you make as you usu copy/mimic all your friends to ensure their acceptance of you.
Also, this deep insecurity is a form of narcissism that describes ppl who can't stay present b/c they are too busy trying to get attention vs trying to just enjoy the moment and listen to & observe the other ppl around you and get to know them b/c you're too busy wanting them to get to know you. Ppl who always take selfies or take pics of concerts w/out rocking out and enjoying the music (as one example), etc fit this description. They want the destination w/out taking the journey. (This also defines what cultural Marxism is).
And there are two ways of being a hipster:
1 - The hipster who is trying too hard to be a monotonous clone to fit in: By going along 'to get along' b/c you don't have the spine to be yourself and you are a perpetual PC/ ppl-pleasing butt-kisser pandering to whatever political correctness to avoid hurting ppl's feelings....This person takes this behavior too far, & therefore, runs risk of sacrificing the truth at the same time - which is what PC is - very much the opp of being tactfully diplomatic with harsh truth left intact but w/ a gentle approach.
And 2 - the hipster who is trying too hard to be 'different' (the 'pick me' or “I'm-not-like-other-girls” scenario fits this) just for THE SAKE OF BEING DIFF....in that case, if there's no authenticity and no purpose, then you are making the same mistake of being overly-focused on being too diff that you can't enjoy your present-tense moments.
This is called a false dichotomy b/c you are swinging back and forth furiously from one extreme position to the other just like our politics in USA - the far L and the far R parties that cancel ea another out b/c there is no balance, no center.
On other hand, a 'hip' person possesses a natural sense of the grey zone & self-awareness and is empathic and present-minded. They are willing to SHARE their life. But the hipSTER is a selfish lazy person who makes no effort and just wants IN for the sake of it w/out a real purpose or reality-based genuineness. They have no desire to put in the effort to earn being liked or accepted organically so they carry this kind of bitterness or chip on their shoulder/ entitlement b/c they don't feel appreciated - hence the whole desperate sense of 'pick me' or 'I'm more valid than you' energy/vibe. It's competitive in a toxic way.
The best way to escape either type of hipsterism is to allow ourselves to be humbled instead of humiliated. Desperation comes from the fear of being left behind or ignored so we humiliate ourselves to be a sell-out or a hide-out, and this false dichotomy is not balancing (humbling) us.
This is why Elle Woods is the perfect character. She's a stereotypical girl, but uses it to her advantage and is really smart. She doesn't put down other girls, even when dealing with Vivian, who is inlog personified. And Legally Blonde even has Vivian come around in the end. All around a great movie.
bro i love Legally Blonde so much, it's such a great story about a girly girl who is girly and pink and fashionable while also being smart and actually good in law stuff but also supports other women and girls /and her whole sorority helped her get her exams even tho they didnt understand shit/. Also in the musical both Warner and Vivian see the professon trying to hook up with Elle but Vivian immediatelly takes her side and later encourages Elle to not leave Harvard and to go to court and smash everyone, like they have the whole supportive element and idk if it was in the movie or the musical but there was this line, where Vivian was trying to be better than Elle in the beggining and Elle went "I dont understand, why would you do that to another girl, we have to stick together" and overall this movie imo is incredibly feministic and empowering and shows that you can be girly and feminine and also slay
it was soo ahead of its time
I love this movie so much!! It’s literally something I apply to my life daily!
@@yonicorn1641 that last line is probably from the musical. I would love to see it someday! I also secretly wish is could the role of Elle Woods in the play! 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, I'm so glad you guys mentioned the musical! I've seen it like 5 times (though in different forms like school plays or the recorded version) and it's probably my favorite musical. It just takes all of the good messages from the movie and dials them up a notch.
shoutout to all my other girls out there who violently hated pink as a child because they didn't want to be seen as 'girly' then growing up to realize that pink is great and colors don't matter as long as they make u happy 💗💕
I remeber when I was younger (about like 8-9) it was seen as an insult to be called "girly".
it’s so weird and sad how common this is, glad i got out of that phase before tiktok was even a concept lmao
That's exactly what happened to me. Throughout my childhood and teenage years I hated pink because I was a "tomboy" and thought pink was too "girly". Fast forward to me now about to paint part of my room pink because I'm finally getting to enjoy this amazing color I forced myself to dislike for years.
I realized that pink(pastel) is one of my comfort colors(or things) I don’t know why I thought it was the devil’s color
yeppp that was my phase
"i'm not like other girls, i just straight up eat dirt." - kurtis conner
As a citisen of kurtis-town this is my life motto
hey fellow citizens
@@chrome6630 hello
I’m not like other girls I can shoot lasers out of my eyes
@@kalesaladkalia5027 hey that's pretty cool 😎. I can fly like Superman.
My “not like other girls” phase emerged because middle school me was trying to separate herself as much as possible from the girls that bullied her. Like hon, you’re ALREADY different from them because you’re not an asshole.
GIRL MAJOR RELATE I grew into a geek because I didn't want to be like the bully girl who was always talking about brands and fashion and makeup and putting me down for reading (she lowkey seemed spoilt and judgy but I realized that me judging people for having interests the same as hers was doing the same thing as her)
Sameee
Dude for real! I actually did get bullied in elementary and middle school for being friends with other girl’s crushes so that stereotype always felt relatable to me. By the time I got to high school I made friends with girls who weren’t assholes and then they phase went away
My "not like other girls" phase happened because of my mother and her friends, who always insisted that doing the opposite of what everyone else was doing was the better way. As much as I was curious about doing typical teen girl things, it was frowned upon. So I was a shut in during my teen years writing scifi and drawing comics instead of going to the mall, getting my nails done, or even having an interest in boys. Better than rebelling, I guess.
this same thing happened to me
If you think that every other girl you've met is too much drama. Honey, I'm sorry to say this but You're the common denominator in all those situations.
For reeeeeaaallll, you gotta realize the pattern😂
they claim to read books bcuz they are so quirky but did they even know what history is
@@AridetothemuseumFtknj how did you miss the point of this video so bad, we’re not shaming girls for liking their interests. If a girl says she likes to read, she likes to read because she enjoys it, not because she’s seeking anyone’s approval
@@AridetothemuseumFtknj girl did you even watch the video? It's literally about not shaming women for the activities or things they like to do...surprise: women don't do everything in live just to impress other people.
@@adminservice3639 Yep, like I have male friends and female friends, not because "I'm quirky", but because they are nice friends. I like reading, because it makes me happy, not for other people's opinions. I like specific bands, not because other people like them, but because I like them.
Some girl made a Tik Tok using the “introduce yourself as why girls hate you” trend and proceeded to say “I have a consistent poop schedule” and I pray for more videos like hers to combat this very harmful movement.
Ok, but that's a flex 😂
Wish i was her 😂🤣 my lazy colon😭😭
Christ that must hurt a lot😂
As someone who has severe constipation I actually am jealous
i just say i like other women. simple☝️😃
Anyone that says “I’m only friends with guys ‘cause girls are too much drama” is an IMMEDIATE RED FLAG
@Me We Yep, it's basically means that you generalized girls to fact that you believe that they only live for drama.
@Idk_Reveluv yeah it really depends on the people around you. I'd much rather hang out with the girls from my old high school than with most of the guys from there. But I've also been to places where it was the other way around (or I didn't want to hang out with anyone because they all sucked). Being👏 likeable 👏is 👏not 👏based 👏on 👏gender
and i've noticed that girls that complain abt girls being too much drama are... usually the cause of the drama in the first place. as a 20 yo woman who's almost only had female friends, drama hasn't been an issue since i was like 13 hkfdh, the women that think other women are too much drama need to get new friends :(
I agree, I used to be that girl, mainly because i was bullied, by both girls and boys but mostly girls. And the only friends ive had for over 5 years are my two guy friends. But after finding a friend group of girls that liked me I realized how wrong it was of me to think that way.
I lived with a girl like that, she was exactly like that, didn't like make up or dressing up and was really possesive of her boyfriend. Long story short now we're really good friends and she told me myself that she started doing what she likes and paying much more attention to herself after living with me. She didn't have any female friends before me cause she was mostly the source of drama and I don't know why we clicked but I'm glad we did!
I love how Tumblr makes fun of the trope now. Either by making the two girls lesbian lovers, or with quotable text posts like, “I’m not like other girls, I’m worse” or “I’m not like other girls, I’m a boy.”
"I'm not like other girls, I'm a wooly mamoth meatball."
"I'm not like other girls, I kiss the other girls"
My best friend "I'm not like other girls I'm not a girl" and me "I'm not like other girls but by good I am going to be like them watch me"
Trixie Mattel: I’m not like other girls.. I’m d i s g u s t i n g.
The biggest flex for the “why girls hate me” trend would just be to say “they don’t”
Oh yes they do. All of those nlog girls hate each other because they're trying to out-different each other
they actually love me 😎
jk they only see me as a friend
please i want an emotional support girlfriend
@@pantheraviva you'll find her
one day
hopefully
i've seen a couple ones like that, they're great
@@pantheraviva Only if you promise to be her emotional support girlfriend back. ☺️
my “not like other girls” story: in middle school, i used to carry around these massive books as opposed to simply putting them in my backpack because i wanted other people to notice that i was, in fact, literate
Bchvhgfdtf I do this sometimes but only because I’m too lazy to put my books in my bag-
So did Harry styles bump into you, all your philosophical, unconventional books falling on the floor, desperately trying to pick them up but a slight touch locks your eyes on his green orbs
@@mariakiwi1428 LMAO
@@mariakiwi1428 giving me much ✨tingles✨
@@mariakiwi1428 LMFAO NOT THE ORBS
I'm not like other girls, I'm just tucking my messy caramel hair behind my ears and fixing my intense green eyes on the ground because Harry Styles is staring at me in class -
You forgot the green orbs😭
Oh they turn blue when you're happy and dark green when your mad
The Wattpad energy of it all 😂
omg
Harry: 👁️👄👁️
i also hate that it’s a stereotype now, so if a girl hangs out/is friends with mostly guys, everybody automatically assumes they’re a pick me.
exactly, when i was in elementary i hung out with a bunch of guys cause they were the only ones that played sports during recess and everybody said i was a pick me but that’s not even what a pick me is
Every time i make a girl friend they end up ghosting me and i dont think i was mean to them or anything im just autistic
Fr I was told by a guy in my class that “ I don’t think of you as a girl I think if you as a guy” and he kept on saying that for such a long time but then he said bc I not “annoying” like the girls in my class 💀💀 but I’m friends with those girl 😭😭
@@tylerontopfrfr Oh hell naw. That guy is a 🚩
Same!! It's fine to not wear makeup,high heels,k-pop but what's not okay is to feel superior than other women just because you don't like them
I’m not like other girls! Every girl is unique and their own individual and I find it beautiful how we can be so different but have stuff in common.
i love this comment sm! ❤️
Say it louder for the people in the back!💙
yes!!
OH MY GAWD that is the whole point i have been trying to get across to other ppl .In my opinion we are all not like other girls bc we are all unique and different in our own way and don't have to be condescending to other girls due to differences I mean if you like to dress like a bad bitch that you are do it if you like pizza or like games or play sports or like make up or whatever just be and don't make it like it's something soo special .
Good night and thanks for coming to my TED TALK.
cutie :,)
'introduce yourself as the reason why other girls hate you'
Sis, the fact you're jumping on this tik tok trend is all we need.
Yep, the fact that they are doing the trend in the first place shows that there is shows some kind of passive-aggressiveness in the first place. Maybe even a hint of arrogance and a sense of entitlement.
and all the comments that say they’re the problem which is true, but then i see a lot more comments saying “oh i thought we were girls for girls” YEAH WE ARE but not when one is trying to be above other girls 😐
It’s so tiring that TikTok goes through every trend and idiotic idea that tumblr went trough six years ago.
Wait, that's straight facts
buddy, it's been more than six years ago at this point..
Not even just tumblr , they recycle all the cringy trends, that platform has never seen a day of originality
can’t wait for fypcon, maybe i can visit the ball pit this time !
i feel like it’s like that on a bunch of social media platforms 😭 they all go through recycled tumblr discourse from 6 years ago lmaooo
I was definitely in a “not like other girls” phase for most of my life. I was a tomboy, liked guy things, hung out with guys and believed other girls who were “girly” were the enemy. Mostly because I got bullied and made fun of what I was like. I even brought it into my writing my main characters being rivals. Tomboy vs Girly Girl. But at some point, I really thought about it, why do I hate other girls so much? I have such strong woman to look up to around me who are well rounded with many different interests. Crying doesn’t make you weak. Being feminine doesn’t mean your evil. I changed the writing for my female characters. And I’m not sure exactly when or why but I eventually dropped this trope for myself as well.
I was always a natural tomboy myself, even before this "not like other girls" trope came into the media and even before my own nlog phase. But I also have a feminine side too, but I'm mainly a tomboy. The media made me feel so ashamed of my girly side that I hid it for so long bc i wanted no one finding out about it. The media didn't force me into becoming a tomboy, because I already was one. What the media did is force me to hide my feminine side bc i became so embarrassed of it. So it kind of annoys me when ppl say all tomboys are fake and they're only pretending to be one to impress boys which isn't true. Like we real tomboys exist and we don't even care about impressing boys man😃 anyways, for me I didn't hide my feminine side to impress boys but more so all of society. I wanted to prove to everyone and not just men that I'm different and not catty like every "other girl". I was so desperate to separate myself from other girls bc I thought they were all that dumb bimbo stereotype.
But thankfully i got out of that phase when i realized every girl is different and unique. And that most girls are nice & smart. Getting out of that phase also led me to not be embarrassed about being girly anymore. My nlog phase lasted for 6-7 years, yikes
@@ham-sley1308 Thank you for sharing this. I’m so happy you let your girly side show because there is nothing wrong with that at all. Exactly. I was never a tomboy to impress boys. That’s just the way I was, felt comfortable being around them and they had cooler stuff. My aunt once criticized me watching Power Rangers as it was a “boys” show and my mom told her let me watch what I like. I have always had a slight girly side, had a Barbie computer after all. Liked nail polish and perfume.& curling/straight if my hair. But for some reason I could never commit to be completely one. I feel like there are a lot of layers here. 😂 My mom is also a tomboy so that might be an influence. Middle school I was criticized for not being girly enough and couldn’t afford nicer clothes. High school I “covered up” because I didn’t want to be labeled anything. So crazy. But even as an adult I’m in a male dominated flied, general labour, working with guys and feel most comfortable in my boyfriends clothes. So some things never change 🙃. But my outlook on “other girls” has changed so much. I even have three female best friends 😂 & I will always want to be a girl no matter what even been experimenting with lipstick lol.
Same I grew up with 4 brothers and didn’t have a choice but to do boy things or I’d have no one to play with, but I always envied girls with a group of close girl friends. It was so hard for me to make girl friends, but now I have my own litto group and it makes me so happy 😭😭😭
@@thesimplelifeofjenn5349 I always had one female best friend but that’s it and they never lasted too long because of one situation or another 😂 Having brothers will definitely have that effect lol. I make the joke that now I have three female best friends who know nothing about each other haha. It’s easier that way idk my reasoning lol. So glad I stopped seeing them as the enemy. So glad you found your own group and happy 😊
I never considered feminine things as being bad per se. I always liked them. If anything it was vanity (the girl who was obsessed with hair, nails, fashion, materialistic and shallow things) that was frowned upon and laughed at as silly.
I will never understand ppl who are like “I’m only friends with boys bc girls are too much drama 🙄🤸♂️🚆” as if I’m friends with other women BECAUSE they are women?? No sir I’m friends with them cause they’re cool ass people who make me laugh.
Not to mention that boys are drama too. Emotional unbalance is ubiquitous among the gender spectrum.
@@sonyxa1957 exactly! Being dramatic or emotional is not exclusive to one gender
Straight up. If you can’t be friends with a specific gender, that’s a you issue, not a them issue.
It always just comes off as incredibly sexist to me when I hear people say that... Like that is internalized misogyny right there.
Omg I'm friends w all guys and I'm trying so hard to escape its actual hell n girls are so nice
The whole not like other girls thing just reminds me of that margaret atwood quote where she says “even pretending you aren’t catering to a male fantasy is a male fantasy”
Oh god, you are absolutely right, also this quote is going to haunt me until the day I die. I'm just copying it here in case anyone would like to read it in context:
“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”
Damn Margy A needs to shuttup lol she's making too much sense
No, it's not. Margaret Atwood is the ultimate NLOG girl.
it makes me so uncomfortable when people say “other females” instead of women or girls.
Dehumanising fr
That's your opinion, I personally don't really think there is anything wrong with it
@@No-zp5mv that is indeed my opinion. Using it as an adjective is perfectly fine to me I don’t care it’s the correct way of using it but when it’s used as a noun it just feels dehumanising, woman is the human term for a female human like you would call a female lion a lioness or a female deer a doe not just female... it doesn’t make grammatical sense.
@@Aj01110 Oh yeah, I should have said a bit more, I meant if they used it as an adjective I didn't mind. I also get kind of uncomfortable when they say it like a noun.
I get that, although I do prefer the use of "females" medically since I'm not a woman. An ex tried saying "I thought females were evil" in an attempt to manipulate me the other day however, and knowing he wasn't doing it to affirm my gender it just really grossed me out that he viewed chicks in that way.
I went through a “not like other girls” phase around late elementary school, turns out I was right though, I’m not like other girls because I’m actually a guy.
That's awesome dude
Congratulations on getting out of that phase
Hey congrats
lmao are you me?
Same!!
I'm not like other girls. I'm a guy
Aw man I was gonna say that-
I love this comment.
@@jungkookjuice3157 Lmao. Sorry for taking your joke, lol
@@tinniesealjiji Aw. Thank you so much
I’m not like other girls I’m non-binary
“Anything a woman enjoys comes with some kind of baggage.”
Wow, this is so true. 😔
Yup
Ikr...
That statement hit harder than literally anything else in the video. 😭
Seriously though women get made fun of for having any interests
That sentence is actually going to live in my head forever. Wow.
I wish people spoke more honestly about their “I’m not like other girls” phase 😭 like we definitely all had one... I feel like speaking about it is one of the keys to overcoming self esteem issues & creating real genuine friendships.
I agree with you! It would be great to normalize these kinds of conversations even though I know that yes it can be embarrassing looking back but it’s so important to. Specially to realize how we all fell victim to the same ideals and self hate as young vulnerable girls and seeing how we overcame or perhaps didn’t. To be there for each other and realize we aren’t alone and to help each other.
I talk about mine bc everyone acts like it’s this cookie cutter experience of internalized misogyny and hating other women. But in my case it was caused by a lot of bullying and exclusion in elementary school because I had bad social skills and by the time I got to sixth grade I kinda made my personality being “weird” and “different”. Everyone acts like this is always caused by internalized misogyny or even to impress guys when it’s not. I think more women who had this phase for reasons other than internalized misogyny need to talk about it more. I’ve also heard women who are lgbt or neurodivergent(mostly autistic) talk about how they had this phase bc of their respective identities, not bc of internalized misogyny.
@@janicehuang7208 img same ! I genuinely had no friends and was bullied so hated “other girls” legitimately said “girls are too much drama”.... while not having any guy friends either 😂
Yes! Like I talk about these things with my (two) friends and I’ll never have any more real friends than them
@@janicehuang7208 I feel like that the issue is not some "internalized misogyny", but simply the need to feel different.
No wonder so many people go through a phase where they think they're a mermaid, vampire, demigod, whatever. Because they want to be unique.
When I was younger, I had a “not like other girls” phase. This was largely brought on by my feeling of isolation caused by my autism. In that way, I really was different from the other girls. However, now that I am older and can use the internet more, I’ve found communities of girls and women who are also on the autism spectrum. It really puts into perspective how big the world is, and just how un-special I really am in the grand scheme of things. I realized that being “different” made me no better or worse than anyone else, and that’s ok.
This is exactly my experience!! I never really had a "Not Like Other Girls" phase, it was more like "Why Am I Not Like Other People?" phase. But as an Autistic person, things finally clicked and I am at least able to appreciate and accept myself now. I'm still different from other people, but I've met so many wonderful Autistics on the internet who share the same struggles with me.
i taste banana
I am not autistic but I can relate to your experience. I grow up feeling like I'm not like other girls and I don't fully know why. Being an NLOG girl made me feel understood at that time.
are you me?
I don't think my "not like other girls" phase ever truly went away, to be honest. Even in adulthood, there's some kind of curtain between me and my peers, or even my sisters. Our interests and styles were always so different and any attempt to copy them to fit in wasn't to their liking. Of course, I'm not one to be pretentious about it, it's something I related to just in life, not simply because it's a trend.
I hate that e “introduce yourself as why girls hate you" trend so much. And they'll say "because I'm prettier than they are" like no you're just a pick me
Right?? Like why would I hate you for being pretty? Good for you if you’re pretty!! I just don’t like you because you’re putting down other women and are arrogant 😂
@@Wallflowerzizme exactly, if anything I'll probably just want to be you if you're that pretty
@@Wallflowerzizme I'd love it if someone went "introduce yourself as why girls hate you" "I'm mean to girls and arrogant"
Introduce yourself as whY other gIrls hate yOU
I won’t shut the fuck up and will get too attached to you
Exactly not every "other" girl hates another pretty girl that's just some bullshit that is probably in movies ,books or shit infact I also find someone more pretty than me I just admire them not like be jealous and find ways to break her up or put earth green color in her shampoo bottle
years of reading books that reinforced all the “not like other girls” stereotypes is why it took me forever to realize that I like fashion. bruh I’m still embarrassed about it but I enjoy it so much! ughhh
Don't be embarrassed, fashion is expression! Something that's uniquely you. You can be whoever you want with fashion.
I used to wear men clothes because I was so insecure and couldnt fit in with other girls but once I started maturing, I realized that I actually liked feminine clothing and that there are more open minded women nowadays
literally same, also i felt like i was too ugly for makeup or fashion that i stayed away from both when it's something I actually really enjoy. And I still catch myself thinking some stupid not like other girls shit because I was deep into that phase for so long. And I highly agree with Casey that movies and books where a major reason for my way of thinking
Don’t be. Without you guys we’d probably still be wearing leaves...
For me it was my mom who made me feel like liking makeup or fashion means im stupid and annoying (she s asian idk if that s got to do anything w it but i think she wasn't taken seriously back then) Im so happy for you tho, i hope you can pursue your passion freely in the future 🥰
Also everyone always celebrates girls liking “guy stuff” like being Into cars and video games and girls who like girlier things get shamed cuz things that men like are Automatically related with having taste
i never understood why video games are a boy thing, like yeah there are game more suitable for boys but there also a lot more suitable for girls, and all the ones that i played are for both
When a girl wears a suit it's fine and professional, but when a guy wears a dress, people still make fun of him, imo it all boils down to feminine things being seen as inferior and embarrassing to do and that's not okay
even girls who like games get shamed like constantly i like video games but i don’t hate on girls who don’t or anything but some guys swear up and down that i only like them for male attention, girls really can’t win lmfaoooooo
Yes! It's the thing where "man" stuff is better than "woman" stuff
I'm starting to see that people are valuing male opinions over women's more and more, including other women. Like if a guy shames someone, then everyone shames that person. Its kinda sad
Lily Truscott from Hannah Montana, I think was the best well-written character "I'm not like other girls." She was a tomboy and act like one of the guys but wasn't aggressive. She was also boy crazy and never shamed Miley for being girly. They even bond over fashion and boys. She excels in sports that may be considered male-dominated sports and activities like skateboarding, football, and hockey. However, she also excels in "girly" sports like cheerleading and gymnastic. Lastly, she may not be the type of girl who spends hours behind the mirror. She usually wears a hat and does not care about helmet hair. However, she loves shopping for cute clothes as much as she loves going to the skate park. She wouldn't miss a chance to shop around the Hannah closet, which was filled with designer clothes. She also cared sometimes about her appearance like the episode when she didn't want to wear her glasses since it made her look like a nerd. She was a tomboy but she had feminine traits. She wasn't ashamed of being a tomboy or being like "other girls."
This is amazing and true
Well put.
Hannah Montana is WAY more progressive than people make it out to be. The characters got development and the whole conflict with Jake and Miley was an example of Hannah Montana being a good show for young girls or kids in general. When Jake cheated on Miley, she immediately broke things off. Other shows at the time would've jumped to the conclusion of "oh but _ has changed. I'll give _ another chance *proceeds to have a toxic ass relationship for the entire show*" . Meanwhile, girls who watched Hannah Montana could have learned not to tolerate bullshit. Top tier show lol.
@Randompersonontheinternet174 I'm not gonna lie. I was very pissed off when Jake cheated on Miley. I always felt it was very OCD and all the development with Jake was thrown in the garbage. Miley and Jake were very popular ship. Plus didn't Miley also cheated on Jake. There was emotionally cheating with the situation with Jessie.
I do agreed like how Miley didn't gave him second chance, unlike Spencer and Teddy. Spencer cheating was way worse than Jake cheating since Spencer wasn't just fling, he was in a relationship with Skylar and made Teddy feel like crazy when she suspected Spencer was cheating. She had great relationship with Beau but she ended up with Spencer
@@sailorsister211we have VERY different views lol. I saw Jake as an arrogant celebrity. Sure he got "development" but I saw his development as Jake saying "I like your face so much that I'll change, promise" to Miley. AND he was set up to be "the one", which was a realistic portrayal of what young girls feel when they meet their first bf. And when he cheated on her, the "perfect first love" illusion was shattered.
It's also so interesting that the "I'm Not Like Other Girls" movie character trope is always shaming very-feminine girls whilst being pretty feminine themselves. This media gives the message that 'if you are *too* feminine, you're vapid, BUT you still need to be preforming femininity at *some* level.' Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Basically T.T
@@DorkieBebie was just about to say that!!
literally, it's like, "be feminine ! no not like that !!!!"
Yes there's always been this narrative in media of a "bit is okay but not too much". Like it's okay to be a bit feminine but not TOO much, don't go TOO far. And the main character in these stories is always framed as being JUST right in terms of femininity while the "other girl" is "over the top" when she's really just hyper feminine but instead of it being treated as a choice of style or expression like with the MC, its presented as a reason to dislike her and that it somehow corelates with her personality e.g. "hyper" feminine (i.e likes the colour pink) = vindictive manstealer or ditsy. We need more positive portrayals of the "other girl" archetype because contrary to what this media is trying to push, the other girls are pretty great!
Not TOO feminine but not too manly so that you still attract men. Remember, our only role is to be desirable to men 😬
I somehow hate this new trend more than the original “I’m not like other girls”
YESS I think it’s because the message they were trying to convey was very obvious before. But now, the new trend is conveying the exact same message in a less obvious/snarky way. And also the girls doing the trend believe that they are so different/special that everyone is constantly thinking of them. The way that they think their living in everyone’s head rent free is what’s annoying tbh.
@@f9054 yeah. tbh when I was younger I saw the "Im not like other girls" trend, at least the ones about self-image, they helped me realize I don't have to be that ideal female because I felt like the ugly one and I'm not alone in feeling that way. I never related to the ones about being friends with boys anyways because i was terrified of boys lmao. the ones that were less putting down other women and more self deprecating made more sense to me. the vast majority of them were kind of cringey.
Same. I think it’s because they’re more like ‘everyone hates me cause they’re jealous’ rather than ‘I don’t fit in with others cause I’m different’. At least, it’s that for me.
I do too, I think the whole "pick me girl" situation is way more toxic. The "I'm not like other girls" actually had some kind of basis to it because of girls who shamed feminine traits. But now anyone who is different is called a "pick me girl".
@@f9054 it’s rejecting feminine stereotypes which people still live in media and praise as feminist even though it’s anti-feminist af to shame other women just because their stereotypical feminine. The pickmesha is different for sure, but both are still harmful, in my opinion.
they should change the trend to "introduce yourself as why girls/ppl love you" and then say something positive about yourself. How wholesome would that be?
I was just thinking that! Cuz if I did the “introduce yourself as the reason why other girls hate you”, I would’ve literally said “nothing”. I had a lot of confidence issues in high school, but my old best friend reassured me that people really liked me in high school, and I love her and value her opinion, so I’ll believe her :) it would be so much nicer to make it into something positive!
Omg I love that 🥺
I’ve actually seen videos like that. You just have to get on the good side of tik tok
@@nahla8328 who cares what others think if it’s a good message of self love
Tiktok is too toxic for that
I had a NLOG phase in high school that I am quite embarrassed of. After analyzing it from an adult perspective, I've found that it stemmed from my desire to not be seen as vapid and shallow, the way women with stereotypically feminine interests are. I wanted to be seen as an individual person who was real and had real interests. And like I said, I am embarrassed by it, but I think the real villain is the way society and pop culture treat women who are stereotypically feminine. Now I'm proud to say that I AM like other girls, because other women are smart, and strong, and capable, and beautiful. I hope more media comes out that celebrates women in every form, be they more feminine, more masculine, or anything in between.
This right here! The analysis in your comment describes the issue perfectly!
My teenage daughter is definitely going through this phase. I'm trying to guide her along gently. When she starts spouting off all the ways she's "different" I'll remind her that having a different interest or taste is just being human, which is normal. Everyone is different in a way, but also the same in many ways. You just have to find yourself and realize that there are plenty of people like you, same as there are many who are different from you. That's the beauty of life. It makes you both relatable and interesting at the same time. Just do your thing, and be happy.
i’m NOT like other girls, i put other women down for the sake of male approval/validation and shame them for liking stereotypical girly things even though there is nothing wrong with that 😏
Yup. Hate to break it to these NLOG’s but hating other women isn’t a personality trait
Mhm…give it to em straight!
you missed the whole point of the video. The issue is that we SHOULD NOT blame the women that fall into the INLOG trap because society has literally pushed them to individualize themselves by generalizing others, and now look at you, generalizing all the "im not like other girls" girls, and making fun of them.
Someone called me basic cause I liked makeup, dresses, pink. And cause I know how to cook, clean, and take care of kids. Like what? 😭😭
I'm not like other girls, I am a literal bag of beans
I love the trend where it’s like a guy tells you “you’re not like other girls” and you’re like no, actually I am the amalgamation of every girl I’ve ever thought was cool
I love the trend where a guy says "you're not like other girls" and the girl says "no" then turns around and slaps him with a dinosaur tail because she's a dinosaur.
I love the trend where a guy says you're not like other girls, and the girl turns around and says "no, I'm Chiraj Gupta" and slowly turns into cosmic dust so she can be one with the Oxygen Donke breathes in....
this is a mood
THIS LITERALLY HAPPENED WITH ME, a guy who liked me (i didnt know it tht time) told me that im kinda weird nd not like other girls... im unique! nd i was like... i really wanna tell him to shut up but his feelings wud get hurt..(hes very fragile nd gets hurt at the smallest things nd all like🥺🥺🥺 whenever smthing mildly mocks him) nd it was supposed to be a compliment so i was like ok... then he told me he loved me nd asked me to be his 'life partner' with a ring emoji nd i was like O_O what.(also ppl in school were teasing us so i just clarified with him incase he thinks i like him tht i only think of him as a friend nd he was like yes we friends, HI SISTER, nd labeled himself my 'brother' even tho our friendship was nothing sibling like nd i was like wutever stops him from thinking i like him but it for sure didnt stop him from thinking he likes me...) i was 12. nd then we stopped talking cus he cudnt be friends with me nd i was like suit urself. nd then he apologised nd we started talking to me again nd he told me how im so diff from all the girls in school cus im so weird nd hes never seen a girl as weird nd fun as me nd im like...😂😂😂😂😂 my personality is literally every girl, person, post, quote, comment, character i ever found cool put into a vat nd melted down. im an amalgamation of every girl i ever found mildly osum.
If a guy say that from the start its a red flag
Just wanna say that the movie "mean girls" is much more different than other films because it actually criticizes how girls put each other down even if you are popular or not. Like in the film all the girls, were mean girls. You don't see that in movies that often that even the main character and the less popular characters notice that they themselves are mean.
Absolutely! Mean Girls was a great critique and analysis of feminine misogyny. The same can somewhat go to Legally Blonde, in a way. Too bad there aren't more movies like this.
totally, like as much as cady turned into a mean girl, janis also acted like a total mean girl too!
yes!
@siân diann no both regina and janis were both the mean girls in the story. the movie was about how ANYONE can be mean regardless of how popular they were
I used to do the whole “I’m not like other girls, I don’t need a boy friend 💅🏼” and now I’m aro/ace so…
Ooh, same! Realizing I didn't like guys and rather, was aro-ace (gay-oriented, but still - I only had tertiary attractions and not romantic/sexual attraction) was the first step for me as well!
Thought I was different for not liking male love interests in books… also aroace
same, I used to be MAD homophobic and "not like the other girls" until I came to terms with my aro/ace-ness. Now I just regret seeing any part of my past self involving those topics cause it honestly sucked
same but I'm also a sapphic lol
I did the same thing and it took finding a boyfriend to realize I need a boyfriend... I'm demi.
This is why I love Elle Woods so much. She is traditionally feminine, but it is not portrayed as a bad thing. She does not bring other women down, is confident in herself, and cares about more people than just the main dude.
Whilst I kinda agree with u wdym by "traditionally feminine"
@@minati3341 she had qualities that society have exclusively associated with the female gender .
Yesssss!!!
@@exhater7820 Isn't that a bit of an old saying tho...?
@@minati3341 true . I just think that this is what the comment meant
yesderday my friend said she liked hanging out w guys since girls are too much drama.. which is odd considering shes the only one bringing drama into our own friendgroup smh
Well... Maybe you can give her a mirror?
People who like to go on about how much they hate ‘drama’ are often the instigators of it, in my experience.
Ironic
Girl drama is less illegal anyway
a girl like that goes to my school and she literally made fun of me for DOING NOTHING. LITERALLY NOTHING. i have social anxiety and I don’t really talk so her and her “guy friends” made fun of me and called me a freak. 🙄 she also made fun of other girls for not knowing many video games and stuff. she’s so basic it’s funny.
That's one thing I liked about The Princess And The Frog - Tiana's and her rich white friend were clearly set up along "I'm not like other girls" lines, but then the friend proved to be a pure delight, someone who could be airheaded or self-centered but was a true supportive friend when it counted most. You were primed to think she was an evil stepsister rivalizing with Tiana for male attention but then it turns out that no, she's just a girl who has different tastes and goals than Tiana but she isn't evil, and her role in the story resolves as being "Tiana's friend and ally" instead of "Tiana's rival or foil". OK there are racial dynamics at play (like, yeah, the one time you'll show the "other girls" as fine is when you're trying to avoid painting the white rich people as evil in segregation-era Louisiana, this is great...) but it still works as a subversion.
Right? She was legit happy for Tiana.
lottie was amazing and i loved her, princess and the frog it’s my fav disney movie
I'm glad that Charlotte was a good and supportive friend to Tiana, but I agree that they should've at least acknowledged the racism a little more instead of hiding it. Obviously not every single white person thought the same way or agreed with the notion that black people were inferior back in the day, but for the movie to not have a single racist character in a movie that is set in 1920s New Orleans and has a black woman as the protagonist is a bit ridiculous. Disney has (and still does) tackle dark subjects in their movies, so they could've given a small taste of the racism Tiana would've faced at that time in a kid friendly way. I'm not saying Charlotte should've been racist just because she's white, in fact I'm glad she's not, but that there could've been other characters who were racist towards Tiana in the movie.
Working on trying to incorporate that more rather than the other way around for my tomboy protagonists.
Yes!! I love princess and the frog and Charlotte
The biggest implication of “im not like other girls” cringe is Wattpad 😭 the way they characterize women who basically just care about their diet, and appearance as villains is almost amazing. But in a bad way.
When Mulan said, “I wanna be like other girls” she really was ahead of her time
edit: ahh it was actually the three princesses who said it (from Mulan 2)! thanks to everyone who corrected me lol.
I think it was only the three princesses that said that in their song but yes they did change the game.
I mean, neither is good. We all need some personality
@@cosmiclovetravelagency Yes. And if we all have personality, we are all like each other in that aspect. „Like other girls“ doesn‘t have to mean „we are all the same“. It can also mean „we are all individuals, with cool interests and personalities, and we are alike in that way, so there‘s no need to group all other girls together to try and make yourself stand out.“
@@samiraansari5686 I was going to say that🥰
@@cosmiclovetravelagency the other girls have a personality too, you dont need to have the same one ffs
I was one of those “I’m not like other girls” girls as a kid.
Now I’m not even a girl. Upgrades people
HAHA this is the best one
You're definitely "not like other girls" anymore
You've *a s c e n d e d*
Exactly, I'm agender now
SAME
That escalated FAST lol 😂
I hate the “introduce yourself as why girls hate you” trend because it absolutely stinks like take your internalised misogyny elsewhere
I bet 90% of girls have better things to do with their time than to think about the things they hate about other girls anyway 💀
@@dc9067 exactly we got essays, deadlines, jobs, babies, families, self-care & skincare routine, cooking gourmet food, cleaning our house and sprucing it up, looking after our pets, looking after family members, spending time with our SO, binge watching Netflix shit or watching UA-cam videos, drawing, learning a language, working out, reading or doing fuck all😂
We aint got time to be hating on anybody, especially the 10% of girls with internalised misogyny 😭😭
@@lotussight you described my whole life there ✋👑
Like can't we just have a trend about how cute girls are like be gay?? Have cute friends???
@@yukiandkanamekuran exactly
I think this is why I love monster high so much. All the girls have their own different and similar interests (a lot being stereotypical girly stuff like fashion and shopping), despite all this they all love and support each other :) Each character is portrayed as strong and worthy
omg same i love monster high❤
Girls who have problems with making friends or social anxiety are extremely susceptible to this mentally. I remember being like that as a way to cope with my inability to form friendships. It was just easier to put down other girls to get validation rather than actually talking to people. The only thing it did was isolate me more 🙃👍🏼
Edit: yes not every girl with social anxiety does this. I was trying to say that some girls with social anxiety use the "im not like the other girls" as a way to cope with their anxiety.
This! I had really bad social anxiety as a teen and so I went to tumblr (circa 2012 smh) as an escape and there I was told that the problem was everyone else and not me. I had trouble communicating b/c I was too different and they were all boring and basic. Looking back I think I could've made way more friends if I had worked on my anxiety earlier instead of just shielding myself by saying "I'm not like most girls"
Lmfao same.
For me it’s a way to cope with bullying :
I had socail anxeity but this comment is bullshit lmao
But not everyone with Social Anxiety does this
Luckily for me, my "I'm not like other girls" phase was short-lived coz of some guy that said this to me when I told him I hate makeup: "lemme guess, you also only hang out with guys, hate pink, wear baggy clothes, and eat sloppily coz you're not like other girls? Like literally every other girl?". I felt belittled coz I really thought I was superior to other girls prior to that incident.
While he was right, that seems like a pretty rude way of putting it 😳
I’m glad that it did get you thinking though
Tough love that's the best you gonna get
This is proof that guys see pass this trope as well, so while girls are trying to be different from other women, men will always fine a way to belittle you know no matter what. It doesn’t matter. If you’re actually different than that’s fine but thinking you’re better because if it is where the issue comes from.
I’m happy that it had such a positive impact on the way you think, and maybe I’m overthinking this, but I can’t help but think we’re just going in a circle. Can girls not like makeup without being “Not like the other girls?” Can we not express our interests without immediately being put into a box? Is this not the type of profiling that created INLOGs in the first place? It kinda seems like we just can’t win lmao
but that's problematic too... let's say u ACTUALLY didn't like wearing makeup and dresses, does that mean you're doing it for male attention and that you hate feminine girls??? No. That conclusion is inherently sexist as men think you're acting like that for their attention.
If your mindset is "I'm not like other girls", it automatically makes me think you associate "other girls"with negative stereotypes you want to distance yourself from, and that's not good. Listen to the song Most Girls by Hailee Steinfeld.
Most girls are strong, confident, capable, smart, etc. I would love to be like most girls and be associated with "other" girls. Enough with the internalized sexism. We don't need to tear women down to make ourselves feel better.
Not always the case. The "I'm not like other girls" phenomenon was partially fueled by the relentless bullying a lot of girls receive for being tomboys, un-feminine, or just socially awkward. It came to a point where we realized that confidence was the best remedy. Instead of feeling ashamed for being emo or for being boyish, girls decided to rise up and start taking pride in these things. This doesn't give anyone the right to shame femininity, of course. But I've seldom seen "quirky girls" who actually shame feminine women. They're mostly just saying that it's okay to be the way they are.
@TvT I already said that it doesn't give anyone the right to shame femininity. What I'm talking about is people feeling okay with whoe they are after decades of bullying.
I was literally thinking of Hailee's song! It's so strong and empowering
@TvT As a tomboy and my personal experience, I've been bullied all my life by others so that just goes to show it's different for everyone anywhere, at the end of the day just be yourself, whether you're feminine or not, etc. etc. can't please everyone, and if someone really does have the need to bully anyone for whatever reason, they're just unhappy with their own life
@Miranda cutie animations Taylor Swift said it best when she said I want to be able to like glitter and pink and wear makeup but still tell you my opinions on politics and be taken seriously. Those two things should not cancel each other out.
Went through my "not like other girls" phase in middle school. The popular girls spread rumors about me being a lesbian because I wore t-shirts and jeans that were comfortable to me. After I got through college, I stopped caring what people thought of me and just live my best life. I then found out as I got older that there are women that don't judge me and are cool to hang out with. I just didn't go to school with most of them. That being said, we mature as we get older.
Did you turn out to be a lesbian? And t shirts and jeans are normals, what did those popular girls wear?
Character development is when you start liking the color pink
It is! (I don't like the color pink, i think it's unfair to the other shades. But i'm a lot like other girls in more aspects then I'm not, and that realisation was character development for me.)
When i was little i dislike pink because... Idk i forgot, But i have a reason. then i started to like pink (baby pink and purplish pink specifically). But now... I watch a serial animation where the killer's main color is pink and she killed almost all of my favorite characters. After that, i came back to my old-self mind. Dislike pink 😀
@@ApequH I love that, unfair to other shades
When I was younger I was the biggest tomboy ever. Hated pink, dressed, skirts, anything thats girly and now I’m 21 and love all those things yo! I did have some character development 😌
YES exactly i used to "HaTe" pink because i thought it made me different and QUirKy, but i realized that not only is pink a nice and pretty color, but that its okay to like something that is stereotypically what "other girls" do
“She wears short skirts, I wear T-shirts, she’s cheer captain and I am on the bleachers” lol
SO YOU COULD SEE THAT I'M THE ONE WHO UNDERSTANDS YOU
@@ps1hagrid786 BEEN HERE ALL ALONG SO WHY CANT YOU SEeeEeeeE
@@lauren1724 YOU BELONG WITH mEEEEeEeeEEeeeee
I remember how much I used to like that song but now I really fucking hate it tbh it's annoying
I'm a huge Swiftie but that song... yikes. And Better Than Revenge. I'm glad she outgrew that mindset.
it’s funny how all these movies with that “i’m not like other girls mentality” are written by men
the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing is so polarizing. we try so hard to break free from the box of traditional femininity that we end up caging ourselves in yet another box. everyone's trying to be the "girl who supports all other girls unconditionally :))))" woman, which means you're not allowed to criticize a woman or criticize a cultural trend among women because if you do, you're labelled a pick-me. in the end, women, once again, become a monolith who aren't allowed to have separate opinions on things without it having to do with male attention in the general public's eyes.
if one man says he personally doesn't vibe with the "soft boy uwu" aesthetic and another man says he personally loves playing around with makeup because it's liberating, then those are two men expressing their opinions. if one girl says she doesn't understand the appeal of cosmetic surgery and another girl says she's getting her nose surgically altered, then that's a "pick-me-who-tries-too-hard-to-get-male-attention" and a "dumb-hedonistic-airhead-who-quite-literally-can't-see-past-her-own-nose" because for some reason, we REFUSE to see women as individuals, as people who can't be put into categories and not a monolith.
also note how my (and literally everyone in the comment section's) first instinct was to call women "girls" but call men "men".
Don't listen to them. Be your own person with your own opinions. You don't have to support other women in any case at all. Make sure your opinions are your own, and aren't a direct result of outside influence.
I know this is late, but thank you SO MUCH for saying this. It’s exactly how I’ve felt for so long and you articulated it perfectly. To me what’s most empowering is viewing woman as humans; all unique individuals with unique experiences, and you are so right that we constantly get put into boxes.
I actually had this argument with someone who called Bella from Twilight "A not like other girl" but like she never once puts anyone down for their interests and just doesn't care about girly stuff.
NAH THESE DAYS MEN WHO WORE MAKEUP WOULD BE CALLED GAY 😭 like shut upppp let him do what he wantss
this is my struggle. i was huge in the "supporting all women" thing, still am, but after living with +30 women for 2 years i realize that we're all such different fully fleshed out complex HUMAN beings. i definitely wasn't like some of them, and some of them weren't like me. i do not like all of them and won't support them all either, i looked down upon some things they did, they did the same for me, at the end we were still sisters in a way and i'd never leave them alone in a room full of men, but that's it. women are all insanely different, it's impossible to put us in boxes or shove us into always-supporting sisterhoods, and that's fine!!!
The wlw's took over the trend saying, "introduce yourself as the reason girls hate you,,,,,, they don't 😎😎👅👅🏳️🌈🏳️🌈" and I love it so much lolll
Yesssss!!!!!!🥰🥰🥰
Sorry I think I just had an epiphany... Does wlw stand for woman loves woman? Because I always throught it was a slash like woman/woman, w/w, with the same meaning. It never occurred to me that that's an L 😳😳😳
@@user-th5gl1st6m Yes it does! its an umbrella term for all women who love women! same goes for mlm:)
@@sydjques2703 I feel like my 3rd eye has opened 😂 I had figured the meaning but L actually standing for love makes so much more sense! Thank you
@@user-th5gl1st6m yeah! it took me forever to figure out on my own so i'm happy i got to help u out haha😭😭
As a former "I'm not like other girls" veteran, another reason girls do this is mainly out of insecurity and internalized misogyny.
Where I grew up I wasn't the beauty standard at all, which was blonde, blue eyed, fake tan, and skinny. I was none of those things and for so long I was bullied for it. I tried so hard to be like them but I never could and it made me so insecure.
When I picked up the "I'm not like other girls" philosophy I felt like I was important for once and in a way taking revenge on those girls who seemingly had it all. To compensate for my insecurities I would trash other girls who remotely liked ANY shade of pink or pop music. Doesn't help that I was enabled by a bunch of toxic emos that haunted my school everyday.
Now that's I've matured I realized how shitty of a mentality that was and how sexist I was. Secretly I've always liked pink, makeup, and other girly frilly things. But my mentality won't let me like those things. While I'm still working with my insecurities and loving myself, I'm glad I got outta that.
Super interesting thanks for sharing!😯❤️
Love this comment it hits so hard dude.
I went to a predominantly white private school on financial aid from 4th -12th grade and it fucked me up for a whole when I was one of the only Hispanics back in the early days and most of the girls were all light, skinny or athletic , blonde, and were generally considered desirable to other kids our age in middle school.
Needless to say, I never had not one shred of confidence and spiraled into tumblr and fandoms, dressing in flannels and graphic tees, and tried to over compensate with my 'unique' personality and interests to make up for the fact that I didn't like myself at all and felt so awful comparing myself to girls in my grade.
I have obviously grown a lot since then and I switched from violently hating pink and all things 'girly' to having pink hair for 5 years and dressing however I wanted /expressing myself through makeup and accessories for the past 2.5 years
Middle school was a dark time
Tbh hating a group of people because they treat you like shit until it stops happening isnt misogynistic IMO
@@verybarebones You're right, is not. I think the problem is when people value traditionally masculine traits and interests as higher or better than traditionally femenine traits or interests.
I was the same way, I was scared to wear skirts and pink clothes but I love them so much. Now I don’t give a shit and wear what I want
"introduce yourself as why girls hate you"
ironic thanos voice: i dont even know who you are
Lmao😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
you will
😂
“I’m a bitch”
I’m late to the party, but Kat in 10 Things I Hate About You was not one of those “I’m not like other girls” girls. She was a normal girl who was just like other girls, who experienced trauma and developed certain habits and personality traits as a response. She derided girls and boys alike, rather than differentiating herself to gain male attention. She didn’t start out that way and she didn’t end that way.
She hated everyone ! Many of the other kids were mean , shallow and nasty. She became lame when she got a boyfriend
Best scene was when she crashed that car from the douche dude
I thought about leaving this comment and I’m glad I looked to see if someone else did first because you put it far better than I did. People often forget that an essential “ingredient” of being a pickme/NLOG type is the desire for external validation, but Kat didn’t want to deal with anyone. She just developed trust issues and outward aggression due to trauma and her father smothering her.
Also 10 Things I Hate About You is the worst example for a “pickme movie” because yeah, it’s a romcom but honestly at the end of the day it’s more about Kat and Bianca’s sisterly relationship than it is about any of the men in their lives.
"hi im dating my boyfriend" i still dont understand what she was trying to say
I think it's because the other girls want to date her boyfriend but she's dating him so they hate her.
It's like that one meme "every sixty seconds in africa a minute passes" lmao
I feel like it implies that all other girls are whores who cheat on their boyfriends or are dating like 10 other guys at the same time. So they hate her because she is like aCtUaLLy lOyAL and a dEcEnT pERsOn or something? That’s what I got from it, it might not be accurate, but still yikes...
@@riz7855 this went dark...
@@a.j.w9992 I don’t know lmao, that’s just what I got from it. It might be something else and I deadass just made it super dark out of nothing oof 💀
This isn't talked about as much, but the gays have a strong "I'm not like other gays" mentality too. Because most people are brought up with some sense of negativity towards gay stereotypes, internalized homophobia is really prominent in a lot of male gay people. A big reason gays go for straight guys is the feeling of being special, and not like the other gay guys, because you're the special exception. I think this is very similar to the pick me girl mentality.
@Pingo There are videos about it. I can recommend the video “internalized homophobia SUCKS” by Matt Bernstein (ua-cam.com/video/tasPGGPR4Ww/v-deo.html). It’s on point. And I can tell you from personal experience that internalised homophobia is a thing, and does indeed suck.
@Pingo that makes me really happy :)
But doesn't gays going for cis guys violate the cis' personal preference? Y' know, because they don't like guys?
@@skrrtskrrt2410 again with the stereotype that gays are predatory, it is not violating anyone to go for people as long as you're respectful, understand boundaries, and back down once yk they're not interested.
assuming you meant straight instead of cis bc that's a whole other thing i didn't even meantion.
@@user-qv5om2oe1i I think they meant straight, cis wouldnt make sense since they can be gay too but idk I am just trying to give them the benefit of the doubt.
the harmful and regressive body shaming of some of those tiktoks... "i'm not like other girls because i have CURVES." "your boyfriends like me better because of my BODY." that's so upsetting.
you're worth more than your body shape. we all are. it's wonderful that you love your body, but it's awful to put down those who don't look like you.
Nothing says "I love myself" like measuring your self-worth entirely by what some imaginary boyfriends might think 😂
👏👏👏👏👏
Mark my words, after a period of a few years or a decade Tik Tok gonna have the same vibe as tumblr in 2021 as in suprisingly chill with blogs cringing at their past behaviour
Being curvy still isn’t the beauty standard. I hate having them
@@iLikeCok Sorry you hate your body, but being curvy is 100% a beauty standard right now.
yep tiktok is the most hypocritical EVER! they make fun of 'pick me girls' for acting this way and STILL does the same thing
your jughead was SPOT ON
it really was
Oh my gosh, I love your videos monika!!!🥰🥰
omg hi Monika!!
ong monika!!!
I’m not like other girls, i am, in fact, a whole ass guy
Edit: yeah so um fun fact two years later, I literally just said this for the joke I am in-fact a whole ass girl
Sometimes I wish I was male just so I could say that
@@avocadoemmy4961 I wish I was an octopus so I could use that
This suggests the existence of half ass guys and I love it
@@ApequH i'd like to be an octopus too. They have great eyesight
lol imagine 😩🤚
The part in the video about how we don't let women enjoy things and we judge each other and are judged for the things that we enjoy as being tryhards resonated SO much. This is a really great video, entertaining and also important commentary. I love when the youtube algorithm does me right, thank you Casey :)
Love you Leeor! 😍🐘
Exactly! I feel like participating in the "I'm not like other girls" trend just shines a light on insecurities you need to work on. (Which is FINE, we all have insecurities, we just dont show it in the same way). I just think it's unbelievable that people don't realize they are putting other people down to make themselves feel better.
OMG LEEOR HI
I think the same too. And I also think that's why I when I had my phase, I avoided any and everything that was labelled "girly" even the "chicklits" and "chick flicks" cuz it was just too 'girly' and midle schooler me did NOT wanna be associated with that.
I feel like this is literally what happens everytime a new trend occurs. We just feel the need to pigeonhole. "She's a vsco girl" "She's an e-girl"
We honestly need more girl-friends in media/stories.
The impact the friendship of Inej and Nina in Crooked Kingdom had on me, an adult, is insane. It nearly moved me to tears to witness an authentic friendship between female (main) characters in a book.
i’m just here to say i wanna see a romcom where the villain is not a stereotypical feminine girl but a i’m not like other girls girl i think it would really turn that trope on its head
Same indid notice in that tall girl movie that her tiny beauty pageant sister was actually really sweet to her just super feminine and petite so it made her still seem icky but in reality the pretty sister was really sweet and loving I liked that but didn't think much of it till now.
That's why I LOVE legally blonde lol
Elle is a "girly girl sorority queen" but she's portrait as sweet, kind, smart and a fucking bad ass. And what i love even more about the movie is that Elle and Vivian end up best friends instead of trying to "take down" each other bcs of the garbage dude. I also love how Elle's friends are not the stereotypical "fake backstabber bimbos", they actually liked and encouraged her during her Harvard journey 🖤
I am on my way to write that. Just need a laptop. It’s about two girls. One is the usual non-descript plain, NLOG main character like Bella Swan and every YA female lead ever. The other is a Regina George. Both of them are transported to a magical realm and when Bella thinks she is the MC bec of her NLOGgyness, surprise, the chosen one is Regina and Bella now plots on stealing everything from Regina
@@hitcherooney i’m sold i would read
“Mean Girls” sorta. Janis was a villain. Both Regina George AND Janis were pretty much different sides of the same coin.
She wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts she’s cheer captain and I am the dark lord Satan
This is beautiful :')
I laughed thank you
Thank you tumblr
Hahaha
I used to fucking love this song. And I’m a spoopy gay so same.
Definitely had a “I’m not like other girls” phase, mainly b/c I didn’t have a lot of friends growing up and I thought I could make myself feel less lonely by acting like I was just too quirky for friends lol
We’ve all been there; it sucks that so many of us had that phase because it’s not even our fault for thinking that phase was cool... because it was cool-it was cool to not be cool (be that lonely, quirky girl 😜)!
It’s so backwards and it’s at no fault of ours for being naive... gotta love internalized societal misogyny!
omg my phase was just like that too. it sucks that we all have this toxic shit in us. But I’m really glad that a lot of our generation realized how toxic that mindset was, and it makes me feel better that you had the same experience that I did, even thought I wish neither of us would have had it lol
same :(
ohhhh this!! My two best friends grew up quicker than me when we all turned 13 (I was a late bloomer), so I used INLOG as my safety blanket to assure myself that it was something wrong with THEM, not me, because I was Not Like them! But turns out, there was nothing wrong with any of us... it was just a hard age.
@@kelseyspolejourney5417 seriously!! Being 13 sucks so much... one of the worst years in like all of existence.
what annoys me the most is that these tiktokers always wanna poke fun at "pick me girls" but they're literally all pick me girls
This is exactly it. It’s the bullying part that’s the issue-and it happens on both sides of the argument. I don’t understand why people think girls need to like specific things and dislike other things. It’s so dumb. People should be free to enjoy what they want without judgement.
For example, I got called a “pick me girl” online once for saying I don’t like Taylor Swift. But I never shamed anyone who does like her music because that’s perfectly fine. Lots of people like her and they are free to do so. But because I don’t even like pop music and mostly listen to funk and jazz, I’m now somehow a “pick me girl”? Like…it’s just my musical preferences. It’s not that deep.
Now, had I gone after people that like Taylor Swift and told them their opinions on music were horrible, that would be a different story. That’s the part that’s not okay. And it’s not okay because it’s basically raining on someone else’s parade, you know?
And that’s my essay on why I think both the “I’m not like other girls” and the “pick me” girls trends are dumb. You do you, boo. Let’s not bully people for have passion about their genuine interests.
anyone else think the one girl that was like "hehe im all natural" feel not only othering but almost... body shaming? like haha you only hate me bc ur body isnt like mine. lmk if im just reading too deep into it but it just felt more bullying like than the other examples given??
Yeah it literally just triggered my ED lmao
Absolutely. That can be read as transphobic, ableist and just general body shaming. She sees her body type as the only acceptable kind for women to have.
@@Aster_Risk false. I have a body similar to hers and got labeled a slut by OTHER GIRLS, simply because my natural curves looked different in our school uniform than theirs did. They made my life hell just because of my body.. skinny girls aren’t always out to hurt everyone, we get picked on too.
@@SynterraSteen yes, not all girls are out to get each other for their bodies, but this one was and it is harmful. If you got it, flaunt it, but don’t put other women down in the meantime.
@@SynterraSteen that’s awful that that happened to you, but that’s still no reason to put other women down and it can still be taken as very ableist, transphobic, and body shamey.
My favorite trend to come from the “not like other girls “ trend, is the trend where they take the drawings and take the “other girl” and the “me” and make them girlfriends
Its so fun and wholesome
@@nadiehtje10 i think there is also a subreddit but i forgot it :/
@@thegoldenpolarbear5936 r/gatekeepingyuri
@@nadiehtje10 r/gatekeepingyuri
Yes i saw this on Pinterest and it was awesome like finally we acknowledge it now ^^
Y e s
i AM like other girls i base my personality off of every girl i've ever thought was cool
Yikes
This is me but I base my personailty on the main character of any moive/tv series or book i like and think is cool
@@zizi6538 SAME i wanted to be katniss everdeen so bad in middle school
And how could you not , girls are so swag
I had a ton of internalized misogyny growing up because I was always taught feminine =bad. It took me wayyy to long to accept that I like pink. Because pink is feminine and therefore bad. I'm still working on correcting it too.
Eleanor Roosevelt began the whole "pink is for girls" thing. Before that, it was a more "masculine" colour because it was so vibrant and noticeable...
I love pink. It's one of my most used colours now. It's happy and lovely. It's strong and dominant. Judge me all you want, but it's a damn good colour.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk...
ah thanks luv !! there’s no such thing as too much pick me girl discourse
THIS^^^^^
i needa collab like yesterday!
@@sheepladybaa same!!
Yes spread awareness save the next generation of women from falling into this !!!
I wish someone would of made this when I was 12,13, jeeze life would of been better !!
oh, in high school I thought I was "not like other girls" because I didn't obsess over boys. turns out I was asexual all along lol
Bruh same just turns out I’m a lesbian lmfao
Same
Ok
Nice. Ace gang.
Lmoa mood
I’ve been a “not like other girls” girl and sometimes i still catch myself thinking some dumb shit. internalized misogyny is so gross and im embarrassed that i have and sometimes still do feed into it.
I do it all the time, and im so sorry that you experienced life in a way that now makes you feel this way. Its terrible. Dont be embarrassed, a lot of us girls have internalized misogyny. Because of life, bad experiences with men, and all kinds of media that cause us to feel this way. I hope you find happiness and can put the negative feelings/emotions aside, to rather remember that girls should just try to be good to eachother. ❤️
Don’t feel bad we were raised in that kind of environment that turns girls against girls... recognizing it is when they will no longer be able to bring us down as we unite and become stronger
awareness and acceptance is a good thing tho!
Same :(
I was ostracized from girls my age in middle school so I developed the "not like other girls" mentality and the guys I was friends with encouraged it and put down women in a way that just seemed like lifting me up so I didnt see the issue. But also to them I was "too girly" at times and would separate me and invalidate me due to "you're a girl"
Then once we hit high school I became a resource for nudes so that wasnt fun
How does one become a source for nudes? Did you send them a lot? Did they ask for them all the time?
Mine was definitely being a black girl who liked “white girl stuff”. “I’m not like other girls, I like the Jonas Brothers”🙄
LMAOO YESSS. I feel like that is a HUGE difference when it comes to white and black girl and the “faze”. I though I was cooler cuz I didn’t fit those stereotypes lmao. Crazy.
ABSOLUTELY! it was so hard to be a black girl and have a "thing". It didn't stick with other people for some reason even though you know that you enjoy it. Like, you couldn't be alt, indie, a weeb or just anything
pleaseeee 😭 i used to think i was the only freaking black person who likes paramore, i’m SCREAMING
I didn’t think about how this might affect other people because for me it’s kind of the opposite, I feel ashamed for liking things that aren’t a part of black culture. Like I’m some how betraying my race :/
PLEASE I felt this so hard 😭 so embarrassed
the “introduce yourself as why girls hate you” trend is so dumb LMFAOOOO like i’ve only ever had one instance where a girl disliked me for no reason. and the videos are always like “hi i’m pretty” like ma’am??? have u met girls??? we fucking LOVE pretty girls, clearly u did something
i used to be a pick me back in middle school and i WISH i could take that shit back. now i just embrace my femininity and do whatever i want bc ik i can’t please everyone lolz
At first I thought the trend was like something that they might not be proud off or things that that just pisses people off like "I'm short tempered" or "I'm arrogant" but the trend is really toxic, way too toxic
girl: other girls don't like me because im pretty!!
wlw: 😬
Right like please stfu.
I was reading this so seriously like, "yeah, of course, she's right." then I got to "clearly you did something" and just busted out laughing.
My favorite part about the “I’m not other girls” trend is that the “weird” and “quirky” and “strange” things they like/like to do are things that in fact, most everyone does..
Yeah, the food ones are the best. Yes nlog, you're so special because you like to eat, it's so unique, defo not a physiological need every human fulfills.
In middle school I went through a "I'm not like other girls" phase and what finally got me out of it was slowly realizing that most of my classmates also liked the things that I thought made me so unique and special.
I remember those memes about liking pizza and “being a potato 🤪”. It was so strange
WHAT?!? you like chicken nuggets!?!? AND YOU'RE A GIRL!?!? Impossible....
ikr! They are like im so "weird" and im like: this is insulting to someone who has been bullied for being "weird"
OMG yes!!! I've been questioning how toxic TikTok comments section are. It's actually really embarrassing because you can tell it was written by teenagers who think being rude or sassy is a good personality trait.
I hate that on Tik tok a girl can wear a t shirt, ripped jeans, and white air forces and are called “basic”? Like why can’t people just wear what they want to wear?!
Right! Especially since those articles of clothing are meant to be basic anyway so what's the big deal with them. When you draw a person on paper, most of the time it's jeans and a basic T...
At one point in time someone put way to much meaning into clothes and it's been fucking with us all since
I just want to wear clothes without being labeled :(
What's wrong with being basic tho lol
@@sisitmae There's nothing wrong with being basic, but the word is still used as an insult. I mean there are billions of us on this earth, somebody's gonna be basic.
11-13 year old me was on a TRIP with the whole “I’m not like other girls” ideal, it’s kinda sad to think about how easy it was for so many people my age at that time to fall into that trap and hating other women for no reason just because they felt outcasted
I think it can also be a time of some hitting puberty while other aren’t, and the bullying between girls that may come out of it. So at time, I think I used this mental trap as a self preservation method i.e. maybe there’s nothing I’m doing, girls are just mean. Which was an overgeneralisation on multiple fronts...
Same. I went to the NLOG phase when I was like in 5th and 6th grade. Because I though that being NLOG makes me superior to others but now that I think of it, it doesnt.
I've just realised that a lot of books promote the idea of 'not like other girls'. Like whenever they describe or introduce the main a female character, they describe her in a way that opposes the 'stereotypical' girl and they make sure to point that out.
Very true. Ya novels really need more feminine characters that are also full real people. And you cant even blame male authors, bc many women do this too
Extra career I’m picking up now: author, watch for my books yall im going to make good girl main characters 🥰
@@marzipan2555 I was just about to write this exact thing. A lot of the authors that write these types of characters are just projecting themselves. "I'm not like other girls, I write books."
first thing that came to my mind was the 50 shades book and after, in both books both anna and tessa are strong with the “im not like kate / the slim blonde employees working at grey inc / molly / stef” energy. and one of them is about to graduate college too 🥴
I really hate the "I'm not like other girls" trend, but I also really hate being called a "pick me" literally any time I ever acknowledge men's issues, like male DV victims being shamed into silence or male SA victims being told they should be happy that they got some action. As if the only reason a woman should care about the wellbeing of men is because she's desperate for male attention? It gives me the same energy as when men just show really basic respect to women and treat then like humans, and then a bunch of incels come around and say "wow, what a simp!" Like the only reason a guy should care about the wellbeing of women is because he's desperate to have sex with her?
It's so silly. It's one of many reasons I got rid of tiktok. People are so deep into whatever ideologies they have that they no longer see other human beings as people.
Thank you for this. We need more women like you.
Internet personas are highly performative (intentionally or not). I think it makes it difficult to trust that someone is honest about their positions. When I talk with someone they have no time to think through and self-cenzor their response. You can easily edit anything ~problematic~ out of your video tho
It doesn't mean there're no honest creators out there but they always make me question whether they say something I like because they agree with me or because they want to sell mi something
Thank you, honestly it's beyond me how self professed feminists don't realize that calling someone a "Pick Me" in this context reveals their own internalized misogyny, it's essentially saying that the only reason a woman might have an opinion different to that of the "group" is wanting male sexual attention. How 'progressive'.
The comparison with incels is brilliant by the way, it is exactly the same mindset and it's bewildering more people (especially those in these camps) don't recognize the irony.
@@lurkmoar9066 so glad to know I'm not the only one who sees it! It's literally the exact same mentality, just with the genders swapped.
And yes, as a conservative Christian woman, I cannot tell you how many times feminists have berated me and treated me like absolute garbage and told me I have "internalized misogyny" for being a conservative or a Christian. It's insane to me that they don't see how misogynistic it is for them to believe that the ONLY ideology women are allowed to have is the mainstream leftist ideology of modern feminism, and that if any woman ever disagrees with any part of that ideology, they must be brainwashed by a man.
No joke, someone recently *literally* told me I have STOCKHOLM SYNDROME because I'm a conservative Christian, and said that I am "siding with my oppressors."
I told them I'm not sure who they're referring to, because nobody is oppressing me, so I don't know who they are claiming my "oppressors" are. Smh.
It's wild to me that they don't see how misogynistic that mentality is. Apparently women can't possibly think for themselves and go against what is expected of them in modern society. No, no, the only way that's possible is if they're just too stupid and easily manipulated by the men in their life. 🙄 such great feminist empowerment.
It disgusts me. It's straight up cult-mentality, and that should be concerning to anyone who is a part of that ideology. If the minute you step outside of perfect alignment, they turn on you, hate you, bash you, call you stupid, call you brainwashed, etc... you just might be in a cult.
Actually it’s not JUST more women, we need more PEOPLE like you
Add another layer for WOC. When we don't perform within our “race”, we are seen as white-washed, wanting to be white, or overall weird 😕. Me likeing indie music doesn't changes my racial identity.
it’s basically people disguising racism as a “compliment”. me not using aave doesn’t suddenly mean i’m trying to be yt, i’m just existing and like you, copying the accent i grew up around
@@trees____383 100%, I'm proud of being black and my culture. But it's not a personality trait and doesn't fully define who I am as a person. And the fact that speaking proper English, is seen as speaking white is so problematic.
@@niyalove7001 yes, there is a over million ways to be black (or any poc) and all of them are correct. i’m hoping that eventually we’ll stop getting the “i thought you were yt” or “you _______ so well for a ______ girl” soon. there is no standard, only many different examples
Thank you!!! I’m very proud to be black but saying that I shouldn’t speak proper English because I’m black is ignorant/racist as heck. So basically what you’re saying is as a black person I can’t be proper whilst resting in my blackness 🙄. The funny thing is most people of all races don’t speak proper English. Accents exist but just because someone is white that doesn’t make them automatically proper and just because someone is black that doesn’t make them illiterate.
OMG YES. I remember my dad literally just told me that I "talk white" and I was also bullied in school for listening to kpop and other music that isn't trap, trap rock, or tik tok music
“Introduce yourself as the reason other girls hate you”
T-they don’t? I literally... would be sad if other women hated me, and if they do, I’d like to speak with them about why, maybe learn a bit and improve myself, if possible!
But I’m an adult and I’m thinking more broadly than I used to. I’ll admit it, I had my fair share of “not like other girls” thoughts when I was a teen, too. xD
It also can be than people are insecure and unhappy, so when they notice someone who is different in some kind of way, is better/has something better than themselves, they will start mocking them in order to feel better about themselves
People don't like me cause I'm really straightforward which isn't the best thing. If someone asked me if they look nice and I think they don't I will straight up say no and wouldn't think twice about how they felt at the time
girls usually “hate” me bc the guy they like is interested in me and i hate it lmao like i wanna be friends w/ you but you don’t 🥲
If it was
"introduce yourself with the reasons you think people hate you"
I could make a list with all the things I think people may hate me for and I'm consious about
I can't see why only one gender and not the other would hate you? (haven't started the video yet)
Did anyone else have a “I’m not like other girls who aren’t like other girls” phase. Like having a hatred for blue because the “not like other girls” loved it. Idk if that made sense.
kinda. i never hated blue but I remember picking pink as my favorite color in middle school because everyone was starting to say it was for babies/girly girls
Mine was like the opposite cause when i was like 7 or 8 and only now have i realised how i was so easily influenced by this "im not like other girls" thing. I remember me and my two other friends just collectively decided to hate pink because it was 'too girly' and we wanted to be different yk? It probably happened because i remembered a boy in my class said something along the lines of pink is disgusting and girly so me and my friends hated the colour for a long time to appeal as more likable towards boys which is cringey now that i think about it 🤡🤢
No not really I just embraced the fact that I am the other girl slowly but surely for about 3 years now
@@c.sqrqhh what I ment was that there were girls like what u said at my school who refused to associate with femininity but they were so toxic about it that I ended up hating things (like the colour blue) because “other girls” liked them. But the “other girls” were actually “not like other girls” girls. It was a circle of wanting to be different.
lol. my sister.
I feel happy that i'm now secure with myself. During middle school I felt like a weirdo because I identified a lot with more "masculine things". I used to also be bullied for it and for being physically larger and stronger than most girls at my school ( genetics).
I felt bad cuz I would often be compared to guys, sometimes even as a compliment :/ made me doubt myself and feel less feminine, causing me to adapt the NLOG shit.
Today i'm still not very traditionally feminine but i'm happy, and respect all kinds of women and my traditionally feminine friends without bias.
Everyone who’s assigned female at birth goes through the “I’m not like other girls” phase cuz everything girls like is criticized. Taking pride in being “different” is like a defense mechanism to protect yourself from the criticism that bombards girls and women every single day. Like when you’re 15 and some dude is like “i bet you’re obsessed with Starbucks and makeup” in an attempt to insult you it feels like you’re defending yourself when you tell him “actually I hate Starbucks and makeup, that’s for basic bitches” even tho there’s nothing wrong with liking those things
Omg, thats soo true thanks for putting it into words!
Yep didn’t admit my favorite color was pink until literally I was in my 20s
haha, i actually never went through the "I'm not like other girls" phase, because i was extremely insecure and always wanted to fit in, so i thought being like "everyone else" was automatically a good thing. 😎
for a while i actually thought the "not like other girl" trend was just girls being insecure about HOW they aren't like other girls, not that it's a good thing to not be like them.
YES
you put this perfectly
I just read a book written by a woman in which the guy is in love with the protagonist because "she is not like other girls". he even goes so far as calling her a UNICORN because she drinks beer, I just couldn't
so it’s wild for women to drink alcohol now? jesus
I want to know the authors thought process. Like is this main character the only women in the world who drinks beer......cause that's not true and it's dumb to think you're special because you're a women who drinks beer. Get outta here with that nonsense
Lmao i cant with guys who think drinking is a personality trait
It also perpetues the idea that men can only like manly man drinks like beer. God forbid they order a cocktail 🙄
@@leilapittman5805 according to the author, she is also a "mythical creature" because she is a "no-drama woman who swears"
I feel like we do this every year
See y’all next year 🥰✌️
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