A few months I found out, after 27 years in the dark, that I had ADHD - something I'd been thinking about for a long time, but dismissed due to the exact misconceptions discussed in this video. This was very well done!
Was 29 years old myself. It's a surreal experience to have so much of what you've gone through in your life suddenly make sense. Glad to hear you are on the path ❤👍
I have never sought a diagnosis. I think that perhaps I should speak with someone though. When I was a child my mother explained to me she thought I was add or adhd, but said that she felt that the medication would hurt me and refuses to take me for a diagnosis. She spent the rest of my youth angry at me not being able to focus. It’s been hell on me for years, but I’d spent so many years hearing how bad it would be to see a doc over this I’ve become reluctant. Now when I think I should I have a hard time setting aside time to legitimately look into seeing someone. This content has helped me consider trying to look into this more.
"Jim does not participate in class, and he displays very little interest in socializing, but at least he's quiet." An actual quote, on an actual report card, from an actual teacher, after getting one of her students put on Adderal.
There’s a widespread belief about people being over medicated for ADD but unfortunately that has created a reluctance to seek treatment which has very negative social ramifications.
Getting diagnosed was like a weight lifting off of my shoulders. It took a long time to properly accept and get over the "he must be using it as an excuse" line which I really didn't want to hear. I *still* can't get over my own perceived laziness and mountain of failures stacked up behind me. The phrase "an action is worth a thousand words" is the bane of my existence. I sit there and anxiously think about all the things I need to do, yet simultaneously find myself unable to do them. That was extremely relatable on my end, when you mentioned something like that.
I get it's hard, but you gotta just think of the positives if you get stuff done. I've got ADD and physical disabilities. I'd rather just never move if I can help it, but I will be disabled and have ADD all my life. So, I get up and do stuff. I work, I just re-did/painted my whole house interior (even if it did take over a year), and have been doing a Low FODMAP diet for my IBS. Keep people who support you around and remember not to be hard on yourself.
I always did things last minute. I remember a Ted talk about how the "panic monster" to do tasks doesn't arrive until the deadline to an assignment gets closer
Same, there were nights through out all fo schooling since Elementary for me I would wake up from sleeping and start the assignment in the early am hours. I KNEW I should do them earlier, and heck sometimes I wanted to, but I just physically couldn't bring myself to touch and assignment or project sometimes until the last possible minute.
I would say personally the worst part of ADD is how it makes long term relationships so difficult. Statistically people with ADD have much harder keeping relationships. Constantly forgetting the things I said I would do or not be able to focus on cleaning, organizing or the other day to day things that keep relationships going has been our biggest struggle as a couple.
This so perfectly describes the struggles I’ve had before, but particularly with my most recent relationship because I really did love the girl and tried my best. There were other issues between us both but a large amount came from both my practical and internal struggles. In hindsight I think I potentially dodged a bullet, but I’ll always be thankful because she pointed out that that might be what I have and I’ve now been able to start the process for assessment and diagnosis
I'd also like to mention that ADD/ADHD also can effect the "high performers" as well as the "low performers". In my case, this led to my diagnosis in the middle of high school, when the workloads from advanced courses became consistently demanding and time consuming. You can only stay up past 2am for so many days in a week before you're falling asleep in class, handing assignments in late, and falling behind in the work, even if you can manage to keep up with the theoretical content. On a side note, I never considered the impact this condition had on relationships, but in hindsight, the signs are there. Thanks for making this vid, OP.
i used to always be among the top students because i could easily memorise most of the lectures during class, but i could never be the best because i'd regularly forget textbooks, school supplies, homework and heck, sometimes i'd show up to school without having studied for a major exam because i either forgot about it or straight up didn't hear the announcement. my parents, teachers and classmates would always point out how i was only "scatterbrained", "forgetful" and "clumsy" and how i ought to grow out of it soon fast forward a couple of years later, and i can't pass a single class in college because we're doing remote learning and every single problem i had in high school and before has snowballed out of control
@@chekhovs_gundam I ' m sorry if i ' m a bit insensitive, but you can write down if you didn ' t trust your memory right? Because when i didn ' t trust my memory (i don ' t have any of the conditions, it ' s because i ' m kinda dumb) i write it down, so that if you forget something, you can find it in the wrote down place.
@@jovan-noble-guy749here's the thing: i don't have problems with **memory**, i have problems with **attention** i can memorise an hour long lecture about the effect that ww2 had on different economic fields without even trying, but i'll miss teacher saying the exam date near the end of class because i started looking at a random cat through the window the moment he stopped talking about the lecture itself. or alternatively, i will write down a reminder but i'll either forget that i have it or i'll forget to look at it (it happened way too many times, trust me) (also don't worry, i'm sure your suggestion came from a good place)
I think the best way ADHD was accurately described for neurotipical people was simply put: "Have you ever experienced something so boring it was painful? Have you ever been so bored that time slowed to a crawl and it was all you could do to abandon or ignore whatever was boring you? ADHD is feeling like that all the time for almost everything. Everything is excruciatingly boring. You are desperate to find something, ANYTHING to make the pain of that boredom go away, 24/7, 7 days a week. You want us to pay attention in class? Then don't be boring."
This is so funny because I always thought I hated math until I entered uni, where I had a fantastic professor who used more visual examples and who was very obviously passionate about maths AND teaching it. I had no trouble focusing during his three hour lectures, even looked forward to them, and got a really good grade. I later wrote him an email to let him know that he had changed my perspective on maths
I got diagnosed with ADD last year and suddently EVERYTHING made sence. I used to think I was stupid and diffrent/wierd. Sometimes having ADD is awesome since you can day dream away from stressful situations. But it SUCKS when you can't focus.
I've been diagnosed with ADD when I was a young kid that I always thought I was weird and stupid because of it. Having it awesome? I don't really see that, but you are right when saying you can daydream anything away. The focusing is the hardest part.
Katt Williams told a joke about one of his kids having ADHD and how he gave him Ritalin and he didn't move for about 3 hours. Katt "you've been sittin there for 3 hours, what are you thinking about?" Son "Runnin!" Katt "well, go ahead and run then"
@@artvulture456 it is great parenting, the Drs gave the boy drugs so strong it stopped him from moving, they say ADHD was unhealthy well so is over medication.
But one thing I give the Percy Jackson films credit for was they didn’t play up ADD as something for laughs. The books explain it as seeing too much all at once not too little. Though at first I was misdiagnosed as ADHD as a kid I would play with my hair and constantly tap my fingers or do things out of nervousness. But as it turned out that wasn’t the case. It was ADD and Asperger’s syndrome (high functioning autism) because the Aspergers made me sensitive to sensory and finer motive issues. If anything, ADD would leave me exhausted in the classroom if I were forced to sit in a long classroom lecture. Aspergers attributes to my “impulsivity” if you will and it can at times make me very temperamental and my perception can be a little twisted at times to make me take things a little too personally
@@artvulture456 ADHD-PI is not more descriptive than ADD. I don't get why they even bothered with such a menial name change. The name "Attention Deficit (Hyperactive) Disorder" doesn't even almost encompass the reality of the diagnosis.
Just an update but aspergers isn't a thing, it's ASD (autism spectrum disorder) as the high/ low functioning autism labels are harmful since the whole point of autism is that its a spectrum that fluctuates. This has been updated and aspergers is no longer a diagnosis because of this
You ever get that feeling when someone publishes a video so applicable to you, that you feel like it was tailor-made for you? THIS is it. (Obviously, I know otherwise.) Mac’s videos always hit it out of the park, and the timing of this one was serendipitous to events in my own life (since I’m going to get a referral for a ADD/ADHD diagnosis this week.) I love his videos, but this one was particularly helpful, and clearly articulated everything that’s been on my mind for the past 6 months.
LOOOVE the criticism of the school system's relationship to neurodivergence diagnoses. a lot of people going down the same train of thought put the blame on the cogs in the machine rather than the machine itself, so to speak
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, my parents never told me. I thought I was stupid. It effected me more than I realized. While I never took meds for it , I did have to find ways to focus navigate through world. While I feel knowing I had it would have helped my development I am also thankful I wasn’t just drugged up and was able to find ways to focus my energy in helpful ways...
I’m ADD and I’m glad you did this. If I can criticize Percy Jackson and the Olympians the Lightning Thief the movie for ONE thing, is that Logan Lerman’s Percy was said to be ADHD, but he most surely wasn’t showing signs of hyperactivity if anything his Percy was more ADD.
To be fair, that movie took everything awesome about the books (e.g. fairly great ADHD representation, the acknowledgement in 2008 that dyslexia does NOT make you stupid, creative interpretatation of Greek mythology, etc.) and decided to discard everything in favour of mediocrity. The actual book series helped me reconcile with & recognize my own ADHD symptoms, and allowed me to stop seeing myself so negatively.
ADD and ADHD are under the same hat. The prominent symptoms vary between people. I have been diagnosed with ADHD even though I am able to sit still and be quiet. I have a tabletennis match between my right and left hemisphere going on while I am doing said sitting though… If an object is placed in the wrong place it is lost forever (or until I buy a replacement for it). If there are more than two people talking at once you can drop all expectations of me absorbing any information. I am ADHD and using stimulant medication calms my mind and reduces my impulsivity (that is not manifested in me jumping of buildings or similar but rather in not thinking things through before making decisions)
@@heterotardigrada well I enjoy the films for what they are as a piece of art but as much as I like the Percy Jackson movies because I see so much of myself in it I’m not above criticizing it and seeing how badly flawed the films are in regards to taking from the source material but I blame the writer of that first movie (who wasn’t even Chris Colombus if Colombus wrote that film it would’ve been completely different or if a different writer wrote the movie) but the film coming out when I was in sixth grade and at a time where I realized why I was in a special Ed classroom watching it made me feel like not much of a freak. But I’m excited for what the show is going to potentially do I think the show will be sick
@@DC-MarvelGirl1997 I agree with what you said, though at the time the first movie came out I was still 5 or 6, overtime I started to realize that I have Adhd once my mom told me about my diagnosis. I thought I was a bit of a weirdo being put in special ed groups and whatnot. Now I’m kinda glad I read those books to make me feel like I wasn’t alone.
YES! I’ve been waiting for this! As an ADHD person myself, it always feels weird how when talking about misrepresented mental disorders adhd rarely shows up despite there being some inaccurate traits being shown.
"I found myself sitting on the couch not able to start anything while panicking about everything that needed to be done" This is a pretty common problem for many people with ADD such as myself
This was really helpful. As a teen another boy at church had pretty severe ADHD. He would be my friend one moment, mercilessly tease me the next, and become violent soon after. For more than a decade he is one of two people I hope has a miserable life. While I don't think his ADHD is an excuse for the abuse he did to me and others, I can see now that it must have been very difficult for him. A family member updated me recently that his fiance left him and he lost his job. I can imagine the exact behaviours that would have led to that, but now I can also imagine the internal turmoil he must have gone through to end up there. Thank you.
As a kid I would always get jealous of my brother for being able to just sit down and play video games for hours straight. This video is extremely accurate, it's just great to realize that there's other people like me. Doing chores like laundry or repetitive tasks/memorization isn't hard for me. My office job on the other hand is really tough. Officially diagnosed with ADHD at 23.
It absolutely sucks that when you have ADD or ADHD it's become very easy for people to just say that you don't and that your just lazy or that you aren't trying hard enough when you've been trying to do something for a while but get so distracted that you eventually forget what it was you had to/wanted to do. Thank you for making this video, I'm glad people can get educated on these kinds of things
"She doesnt have adhd all kids rather be outside playing than doing school work!" 6 year old me, who cant play outside at recess because I have fucking socks on:
I have always wondered if I have ADD but just undiagnosed. Im not "self diagnosing" by any means, but ive always had issues focusing and with memory for a long time, and especially over the last decade. Two of my best friends were just diagnosed recently with ADD as well, and they are in their early 30s. This is such a great video, just like your essay calling out mental anguish, like how its depicted in awful media like 13 reasons why. It is so relieving to have someone point out its not as over-dramaitized as media makes it seem. Or god forbid, romanticized (again like depression, etc from your previous essay). It's a great way to educate and lessen the stigma and taboo behind mental and emotional disorders.
I have ADHD diagnosis. To me the TV analogy works differently. I have TV. I don't have remote. The channel rarely changes. So if I'm focused on something, I'm focused on that. You can argue passionately I should focus on something else, and I'd agree. I'd fail to actually change the channel though.
I know a guy who cant read through a sentence without forgetting the first few words in the sentence. He went in for counselling but they decided his condition was not severe enough for medication. He dropped out in grade 10 and still has the same problems 10 years later. He said lots of teachers thought he was faking it or just not serious about school and it really demotivated him. I have a hard time holding a conversation with him because he will constantly be distracted by his phone, random noises, shiny objects, or random thoughts in his head.
For the bipolar episode, you should check out the King of the Hill episode Just Another Manic Kahn-Day because it formally diagnoses one of the characters as having bipolar and shows what happens when he goes off his medication. It's not a perfect depiction of bipolar since it romanticizes the manic side of bipolar, but it still shows the danger of convincing someone to get off their medication without consulting a doctor first.
Man I was one of the ones misdiagnosed as a child. I wasn't very good in school and to be frank the school system is outdated anyway. After being prescribed I started to get depressed and really injured my mental health. I managed to get off of them and been doing great for a whole year but a misdiagnosis is serious and doctors need to be careful about who they give there medication too.
I'm currently being evaluated for ADD, but before this I was always seen as lazy, unhelpful and undisciplined. I genuinely thought something was wrong with my intelligence and discipline until I learned about the diagnosis. And hearing other people's stories really helps me not to look down upon myself and recognise myself in other people. Great video!
Funnily enough, my adhd has forced me to be better at time management. I still have plenty of days where I’m working last minute on something, but I have my fair share where I’ve finished ahead of time
honestly, this is me with OCD. I was so surprised when my therapist came up with OCD to describe my symptoms. never in my life would I think that I have OCD because it's not the "typical OCD behavior" usually shown in movies or other media. great video, keep up the good work, man. this is gonna be a great series
This is a major reason why people with mental health issues and disabilities need to get more of a platform and chance in major media and need to be boosted more on social media. (Also because a lot of the time when they talk about their issues on social media their platforms try to push it down)
> (Also because a lot of the time when they talk about their issues on social media their platforms try to push it down) SHUSH, the neurotics don't exist, the 6 families, or whatever number you want to allocate to them forbid you tagging them as entities that exisst.
Excellent examination of the topic. It very much applies to me: it never occurred to me I might have ADD because I assumed ADD was only about kids bouncing off the walls. Then I heard a story on NPR when I was about 35 that described adult ADD and the description fit me perfectly. I always knew I experienced intense anxiety and shame, but suddenly I realized that ADD was intertwined with those other problems. I took concerta for a few years, and it helped a lot, but I never fully obtained the help I need. At the moment I just use kratom, but I want to get therapy again. Making and implementing a plan to do that seems harder than climbing a mountain though... because ADD.
How ironic is it that i kept zoning out while watching this video, having to rewatch certain moments desperately clinging to my lacking attention. I've never been diagnosed, though I strongly suspect I might have A.D.D. because focusing is fucking impossible like 90% of the time, which served as a huge detriment a number of times in my life. Honestly this video served as a push to seek professional help, hopefuly it's good enough in my country for me to finally recieve proper medication and get my shit together. Thank you, Macabre!
Shoutout from someone who also has to pause and rewind segments of videos all the time (including this one) because my focus drifts so often, and I love video essays, but I still can't sustain my focus on them even for all that long. It's the same with watching television. I can get really engrossed in a show I really love, but it takes so much focus to let myself get into something. So with most television or movies I have to pause and take short "breaks" every 15 -20 minutes because I just get so incredibly bored and wound up trying to just sit there and mindlessly watch TV. :P
This video has me in tears. I never thought I'd be able to verbally express the torture I put myself through. But I'm shedding tears of happiness because I feel seen. I live in an area and in a family that belittles this condition and disregards proper medication and help to get patterns right. Thank you so much.
I'm happy you are doing this series. As someone who was diagnosed with two personality disorders and other disorders, so much of Hollywood has made it difficult to understand my diagnosis in my early years. Don't get me even started on loved ones.
I hate the misconceptions of us taking the meds to be on legal meth. I can't function at normal tasks without the meds but I actually hate being on them because they make me feel like a robot so it's a constant struggle of convincing myself to take them to get things done despite not enjoying it like someone on meth would enjoy their stim. Got diagnosed a few years ago in university while failing at university as an adult (I had actually gone in because of depression lol). Still in university because of how far behind I am.
I knew I had it, I was already diegnosed as a little kid and because of that I don’t think I fully understand what it was. My dad said it’s not really a disorder when I was a kid, which made me think “well what the fucks the point of saying it’s a thing then? Just say I don’t focus as well, right?” And so I’d notice people and teachers treat me like a little kid once they found out I had it, I’d always remain in the special ed class and feel ashamed because of it. I even remember being put there in 8th grade when I moved to a different city and realized I might not know everything they’re working on, but instead of teaching me and catching me up, they always took me out of the class in front of everyone as soon as they were about to start the lesson, giving me an entirely different assignment and lesson... I mean I get their intentions, and the teacher who helped me was my friend’s mom but that still didn’t change how everyone treated me like I was a helpless idiot. I think because of that I gained an insecurity on my intelligence and now don’t think I’m smart despite what some people tell me... I don’t know, thanks for this man.
Dang, sorry that happened to you. The way people deal with kids with disorders is abysmal. I suspect I might have it too, but because I was extremely shy and behaved pretty well, no one ever really thought it was a possibility. Especially since other kids in my class who were diagnosed with ADHD tended to be disruptive and had behavioral issues.
I just want to point out too, even people with ADHD are not taking stimulants without consequences. Stimulants can damage your heart over time and lead to heart attacks later in life. It also can, for some people, lead to increased mood swings and lower creativity. It's just a trade-off you have to consider when the alternative is not being able to function at your job/school/whatever.
Absolutely wild the direction this channel has taken since the GOT rewrites, and I am 100% here for it. Keep up the great work dude, always a pleasure when one of your vids pops up.
I literally zoned out whilst you were explaining zoning out... and yeah, fear and anxiety should not be your only source of motivation. Learned that one the hard way
I think this video was what I needed to make a plan on getting help (again). It explained concepts to me and now that I thought about my personal mental health history, my family's, and about my time in school (which I'm still stuck in), I have a theory and will hopefully quickly get into contact with my therapist (again) and get all the diagnoses so that I can get the appropriate treatment and medication. Who knows, maybe I won't even fail the final form for a second time. You helped many people, including me. Thank you.
I'm gonna have to keep mi cool on this one. The mischaracterisation of mental disorders and nerological conditions in media is rife. I've been working in mental health for the last 20 years, I provide CBT interventions for poeple with Depression, anxiety, GAD, OCD self-harm, PTSD amongst other mental health issues. I've had experience with people with Schizophrenia, psychosis, bi-polar disorder and cyclothymia. I have children who are diagnosed with ASD and ADHD and have dyslexia myself. The level of bad portrayals of the above conditions is shocking not to mention the inability of many professionals to be able to effectively diagnosis many mental health and neurological conditions. It's a shit show. There was a big push in the 90s to address poor information and raise awareness. There has recently been another big push in the last 10 years or so. I think the use of celebrities and the 'bandwagon' effect of social media and overdiagnosis is a massive issue leaving those who actually do struggle with real mental health issues and neurological disorders/conditions in a difficult position. Dont even get me started on how the DSM or ICD are compiled and the ever-growing subcategories of mental disorders and neurological disorders/conditions. I'll keep an eye on this series, good job starting the conversation.
@@timothywilliamson9831 Hi, I'm by no means an expert on dyslexia. The answer to your question is, it depends on how your dyslexia affects you personally. The impact of dyslexia differs bettween individuals and isnt generally limited to reading and writing. People often struggle with organisation memory recall, information proccessing ect. Basic support aids generally come in the form of coloured overlays for reading in order for text to be clearly seen by the user and text to speech programs to aid with typing on a computer. Time management aids in the form of lists and timetables. I would advise that you search for your countries National dyslexia Charity for further info. It may be helpful to inform your employer or educational provider that you are dyslexic this may help you to get further support in those areas if needed. Im currently using Grammerly on my phone (the free version) which helps me to correct spelling. The British Dyslexia Association has some brief information on the wide range of impacts that dyslexia can have may be useful for you to read through that. If you can give a clear indication of the areas where you have difficulty its much easier to find effective aids and support, though I understand clearly identifying your difficulties can be challenging.
Hey, I’d just like to say thank you For making this video. As someone who has been struggling with ADD for as long as I can remember, This video has helped a lot, primarily by giving me a way to put into words What having ADD is like, something I have always struggled to do, an experience that has honestly made it feel like my struggles with basic management or attention spam are purely my fault, and that my Add was just a little section of it. Not that you should feel sorry about this, I’ve gotten very lucky in terms of how I could learn to deal with this, having an early diagnosis and being surrounded by plenty of caring, helpful people.However, I do have a question related to Add medication. For a while, I’ve felt that this medication is having an adverse effect on my personality. I feel like I’m more isolated, irritable, and less pleasant when I’m on it, something that I really do dislike as I really want to be a more friendly, open person, but when I feel like I’m ticked off by the slightest noise or annoyance it’s hard. I’ve tried taking smaller doses or none at all, but every time That happens my academic and organizational abilities collapse almost instantly. I was curious if any of you knew about ways around these feelings, and whether there’s was any history of add medicine affecting the personality of those it was created for. Again, thank you for creating the video, it was amazing, and you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to!
My perception was warped by the "naughty" kids at school. (edit: I was constantly surrounded by them due to being placed in bottom set all the time... a real self esteem killer) However I really suspect that I have ADD or something else as poor attention(among other things) has made a massive impact on my education and interaction with people throughout my life.
I was similar to you in high school (Australia), being surrounded by the more active and disruptive kids made me never consider the thought of having adhd. Main reasons: 1. They were really loud and hyperactive 2. They seemed really dumb and immature 3. I didn't want to associate myself with them around my friends.
@@elijahfordsidioticvarietys8770seeing as you have a Minecraft pfp you’re probably a kid so things may have changed but back when I was young it was far from heaven.
This is such a high-quality channel, loving these long form videos. Informative and really entertaining, your editing is super solid. Keep up the good work my dude!
Naming my ADD was a great first step in learning how to use it to my advantage and mitigating the negative aspects of it. This video is great and i thank you for focusing on it for 8 hours to get it to me.
I still don't know whether I have ADD or not, I have considered it a few times in the past but my parents and peers have denied that I have it. But I feel like I exhibit symptoms of it mostly on being distracted with something else, having a lot of involuntary movements in a classroom setting, pursuing a lot of interests without committing to a single one, and having problems with keeping long-term relationships. I do want to know for sure whether I'm afflicted or not but I'm afraid that I might be just making a big deal out of nothing and making a fool of myself if I try going to a professional
Fuck. That’s exactly what I feel right now. Either I am just being an idiot and this whole thing doesn’t have anything to do with me, or I have been struggling with this or something like it for years, and it’s been destroying me from the inside. Sad thing is I don’t have access to a professional at the moment to talk to (to put it in simple terms) so I have no idea what to do now. Do I ignore this and keep going? Or keep it at the back of my mind and chew on it a little more? Well at least it’s nice to know that I am not alone in feeling this way. Hope you are doing well.
@@450nc It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who's afraid that I might just be exaggerating, it would feel dumb to go to a professional only to find out its a false positive. Hope you're also doing well man
@@andyrajendra3103 If you have the opportunity to go to a professional then do it. You only stand to gain from it . Either you learn that it’s nothing and then you can finally put this inner conflict to rest and get on with your life, OR you learn that you actually have a special condition in which case you can finally be sure of it and get help. It’s your decision though so I wholeheartedly encourage you to seek more and different perspectives on this instead of mine (some random stranger on the internet). Just be honest and fair with yourself and keep hope.
I have no diagnosis for ADD or ADHD but when you were describing ADD, I felt really creeped out because that was a perfect description of what my life often feels like. I find it nearly impossible to listen to for a long period of time, I get distracted easily falling down mental rabbit holes but when I'm under pressure like I have an essay due for tomorrow or I'm in an exam I'm hyperfocused. I'm not disruptive in the classroom but that's because I'm usually lost in my own thoughts for 95% of the lesson. So, I think I'm going to go and see if I can be diagnosed soon. Thank you for this video
The weirdest book I’ve ever read with ADHD is a book called “Joey Pigza Swallowed the Key” in middle school in like, 2007. And even then I thought it was kind of weird and not accurate. I’ve since read a lot of reviews that say it’s a pretty harmful depiction.
I seriously do not cook anymore. I am 64 and literally cannot do what I used to do, circle. I could manage the drifting attention by having things I wanted to do "in a metaphorical circle" and go from one to the other of THOSE instead of just randomly. Including cooking in the kitchen. Clean the sink while listening to the cooking item. Stir it. Put items away from the dishwasher. Go back and stir. I cannot do that anymore I walk out of the kitchen and burn things. Or cannot look back in a timely way. SO my son bought me an instapot. That works, but I have such anxiety using it I mostly eat salads. I bought at the store. To someone who is not depressed over this that might sound funny.
So, when I was extremely young, my mother left my biological father for my step father. My biological father cut contact, and then my parents, (mom and step-dad) had there own child. I was first diagnosed with ADD, and depression, and giving all kinds of different drugs to combat it, non of them working, some of them having scary and intense withdrawal, up untill high school when I started to refuse taking them. On the side, I'm In Canada and weed is legal now, I believe the legal age is 19, same as booze, but I'm 32 and it doesn't matter so I'm not sure lol. There are tons of notices saying "your brain stops developing around 25, introducing THC to a developing brain will have permanent effects, please dont smoke untill 25" And I just think, what about the pharmaceuticals? To this day I'm an extremely miserable and lonely person, I have near nothing to show for. I've had next to little support outside for 'take your drugs' I've been addicted to alcohol, cigarettes, and THC. It's important to find who your true friends and family are, and this doesnt come down to biology. If your mom seems like she doesn't care about you, it's tough, but you need to accept it and try and move on, dont focus on it. People that care about you will show you, not tell you.
A few things I do to manage it: dumb things down (example - keys and wallet leashed to belt, avoid clutter); embrace disordered multi-tasking (counterintuitive, but works); strong caffeine (don’t do the ADD meds); idiot proof work and home environment; noise cancelling headphones + music. The anxiety part is actually the only thing where meds help.
Also been around ADHD people and the one think I notice is that they tend to interrupt conversations quite a bit, and tend to traverse subjects in conversation a lot without closing out the first to its end. Feels like a conversational wrestling match to keep stuff linear with them lol
So in the 3rd grade I didn’t like being in school. I was bullied, there was too much homework, no one listened to me about how heavy my book bag was. So I just stopped doing homework. Cause I didn’t want to do all the extra work assigned because the teacher got mad and because I didn’t want to bring every textbook home and back every day. I was put in a room and some lady wanted me to do more school work(kinda like the South Park clip) and I was like “can I play with those toys?” She had a Barbie dream house in that room! My mom wouldn’t let me have toys! I wanted to play, obviously. The lady was annoyed I just didn’t want to do work. Then I was “diagnosed” as having adhd and put into a group that needed extra help. I hated the group because the others in that group actually struggled so I got bored and rushed through the reading/work. Even though I was showing I could do the work I got yelled at for rushing ahead. Then I had a strong medication prescribed to me(maybe Ritalin but idk) that made me lay down and feel sick all the time. It took until high school to convince people I didn’t need any of this! I could have been placed in advance English and history classes but the school wouldn’t allow me to take them because I needed to go to the class for extra help. How did that make sense to anyone?! Then the teacher in the extra help class was awful. Every time I tried to talk to her about getting out the class, or just a regular question, she’d go on about how I didn’t know what I needed. So I got mad and yelled at her and she called the police and tried to have me arrested for “verbal abuse”. I got ISS instead and holy shit was school the worst. I saw her years later when I was working in a department store around Christmas and she went to security to say that I was a “dangerous person” that threatened her baby. Security didn’t buy it because they actually knew me. That’s my abridged story of my fun filled years of being misdiagnosed.
11:00 I resonate with this SO much, it’s always frustrates me so much that whenever i got a crap ton to do I just cannot seem to get myself to do anything and just sit their starting into space. I’ve never heard anyone talk about that kind of experience (beyond discussing writer’s block) and it is genuinely great to know that I’m not the only one struggling with it and that there are ways out there that can help me deal with it
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I got diagnosed at 27, and it’s been a lifesaver. I finally got the help I needed. I regulate my emotions better, I’m understanding things clearer, and I can communicate better. This video emphasizes a lot on the good and negative with the portrayal in the media as well as the science behind it. Thank you
I'm on the road to a diagnosis now at 35, and it's remarkable how I had to be told I had it, by somebody else with it, and that I too was dismissive about it because of my own media warped perspective. It's only when I read into it and saw the other traits that it made sense, and that there's multiple different forms it can take.
I think there’s a lot of confusion stemming also from the fact that every person experiences a degree of the symptoms that are present in many of these disorders. But people misunderstand how life altering it is to have these symptoms to the degree and consistency of mental disorder.
It’s so frustrating to hear about these inattentive add symptoms and how they so aptly described my entire education career and NOT ONE teacher or adult in my life recognized the signs. I got diagnosed in Spring of 2021 after asking my doctor about it.
This is even worse when a person when a person with ADHD is your parent and believes ADHD to be a quirk or a joke. If you couldn't tell. I have it rough.
When I was diagnosed with ADD (now ADHD due to name changes) I was a middle schooler and I felt so broken. Looking back it is because the media I consumed said people with ADD were stupid, annoying, hyperactive, and just not fun to be around.
Not me being very invested in this video and enjoying it very much but simultaneously beginning to scroll and finding a number of other videos I'm also interested in and thus putting this on 2x speed so that I can still see it to the end without loosing focus;-;
You know, I've never been diagnosed, so far I've just had my lapses in attention, memory, and judgement pointed out to me a lot But considering your analogy with the stimulants - I realized that my own lapses tended to happen more when I lacked sleep the night before or generally just had brain fog
10/10 work Mac. I agree with basically everything you said. Since getting diagnosed around 2 years ago, I've passed 2 full years of community college classes with a 3.0 gpa, bringing me to like 2.2 overall after failing my first attempt due to ADHD. It took 3 more years than it should have, but I have the credits for a associate's degree. Getting one more semester of cheaper classes before I'll have to transfer to a 4-year. I'm also considering just graduating after the autumn and finding work as a lab tech/ecology tech. I never would have expected to say that before starting treatment. Thank you for making this, for spreading awareness. Hopefully it can help someone who needs it. Tangent, I wish psychologists would just refuse to diagnose children with ADHD until a certain age. It would address the problems with misdiagnosis, though it may cause it's own issues. A better solution would be changing the education system, but we all know that'll never happen. I swear, if I ever have kids I'm moving to Finland or somewhere where the public schools aren't hopeless.
I always end up binging a bunch of your episodes all at once. Once again glad to see you taking a look at this stuff as we do mostly get all our info about mental illness from media
21:55 This. Note: I switched from a college prep school to a public school Senior year. I hated it cuz not only was there books that I had already read freshmen year I had to read them again Senior year. Did I actually read them? No. I remember walking in and being particularly peeved about home life and there was discussions about social implications and commentary from Fahrenheit 451 and I lashed out in what started as sarcasm to straight up outbursts about police brutality controversy. My silence the rest of the period, I believe scared people. Another Note: my school life was really stressful to the point that I never want to go to school again. I hope to home school my children should I have any
Very interesting stuff, though I’ve always wondered about the line between a disorder and a natural human flaw. Is everything short of peak human functionality a “disorder?” Who decides where the normal ends and where the abnormal begins? If I wanted, I could take a pill to make myself happier, sadder, sleepier, etc. It’s kind of terrifying to think that our personalities, something we practically regard as spiritual, can be molded so easily by chemicals. The line is hard to draw and I can see why there’s so much confusion.
If you haven't already, I would suggest that you look deeper into neurodiversity. A big focus of the movement is that there isn't one "correct" neurotype. The garden doesn't have to be just roses...there is room for petunias, tulips, dahlias, daffodils, etc.
I've always have a problem focusing on one thing, staying still, controlling my emotions and I'm completely scattered and disorganized. I have trouble finishing projects and keeping up with deadlines for school, my assignments keep piling up. Worst part is how I usually can't hold one thought in my brain, I start brainstorming about how I'm going to achieve a task and seconds later I'm thinking about the last Marvel movie. Not to mention how easily I tend to forget things......I don't know if I personally have a problem but these things have always held me back as a student, and a human being in general. Or maybe I'm just reading too much into it
I'm inattentive as well, but I certainly have the occasional bout or maybe even traits of the hyperactive "symptoms" as well. Besides basically leaning more the hyperactive side in my childhood years (as most ADHD kids), while also being inattentive/closed off in many ways. Thank you for covering the subject, I so hate how the masses get their "knowledge" about sooo many sensitive and important things, such as mental health, through that rot called corporate media. And someone covering ADHD (particularly a guy), the predominantly INATTENTIVE type hits home so hard. Again, thank you.
On the first episode of the second season of The Simpsons actually represents what having ADHD truly feels like, as Bart tries to study to pass fourth year but at the end his struggle to study doesn't pay off and ends up failing again, and it's truly sad and heartbreaking
I think it's also really important to talk about the comorbidity of ADD and depression. I've had to battle with severe depression, to the point of multiple suicide attempts, and it was only when I was in college that I was informed by a doctor that one of the likely causes of it was a knock on effect of my ADD, and that really put more of a face to the problem and highlighted an aspect of the disorder that I didn't even know about before that
I was diagnosed early on but I never had issues with school or boring topics. I still get distracted but it is internal, I can sit alone for hours both reading and thinking about random stuff. My issues relate more to getting bored and distracted with social interactions. Small talk just makes me drift off right away.
I recently saw a youtuber going through her journey of being diagnosed with ADD, and for the first time in my life things made sense to me. I had never heard of ADD before but for the first time in my life my own behavior started making sense to me. Now I’m planning my own journey to get property diagnosed. Faithful representation is important and now I understand that more than ever
I was diagnosed with ADD as well by a psychiatrist after I went to him to get tested for autism, as an aunt was sure I had that, (and my parents have books about the condition and I wondered if it was about me, so in the end it turned out I don't have that but my diagnosis explains some of my past and current behavior I was wondering about) and I still get confused about the exact differences between that condition and ADHD in general so this video helped, that metaphor in the beginning was spot on for me and it's probably one of the reasons why I'm terrified of fucking up whatever job I may have, especially if it's the corporate kind. It takes ages for me to finish most books I want to read and if I'm watching a movie at home I can't watch it most of the times without pausing at some point, for example. When writing anything I sometimes miss the spellings and typos and that's why I may spend a bit of time editing my comments for example.
I found this very intriguing. Thank you for that. I'm 40 years old now but I can recall in high school I had a horrible time reading books for English class cause I simply wasn't interested. I couldn't finish a paragraph without my brain trailing off about whatever. Same thing when working for my dad on his farm. He would be talking to me explaining what I needed to do....but my brain would trail off and out of fear of making him upset and having to explain all over again, I would just go do whatever and hope for the best. But back then, these things weren't really talked about, or not that I remember. So I just got stressed out , keeping possible real problems to myself.
I have ADHD I was diagnosed young cause it runs in my family but I remember meeting a girl at work who kept insisting she had ADD and ADHD and I was just like you have one or the other because they are the same thing only difference is ADD comes without hyperactivity and ADHD does and she kept insisting no they are completely different things i had to google the acronyms to show her they where the same thing and she got angry ate and huffed away. In my ADHD brain seeking knowlage even if its random is important and I like it when people correct me and let me know when Im wrong about something so I can be more informed but to others I come off as a know it all and full of myself and it kinda sucks. I do think sometimes selfdiagnosis is important if you are unable to see a specialist but alot of people diagnose based off the surface level tv depictions and dont actually look into it properly we have the internet its quite easy to find out but most people dont
My personal favorite depiction of adhd is horizon from apex legends, she focuses on different things all at once. Often forcing on her work over everything else. She writes on her hands, constantly talking about random things that pop into her head and can't stand still for long. Dispite that she is a fucking genius and her adhd helps with her work alot. Often the random ideas lead to something amazing. I can relate to that alot.
Looking forward to the video on Bipolar disorder! I have close relationships with people who have been diagnosed with it, and that stuff is no joke! Great work as always!
This is the exact problem I’m having trying to help my boyfriend understand my brain. He thinks that in order to have ADD or ADHD you have to be hyper. And I just don’t fit the stereotypes he’s been fed through media his whole life.
Recently with me getting a full time job and thus decent medical insurance, I’ve finally taken the time to look into a diagnosis. I never thought I had ADD as a child, my sister was diagnosed with ADHD and she was the quirky hyper types you see on tv. We’re complete opposites. While she struggled with schooling, I excelled…. Except when homework was involved. I also pushed essays to the last minute because even the fast passed work was better than a majority of my peers. It’s not healthy and I still struggle with it in university (had to get an extension for a class due to my mothers passing in April and I haven’t touched the work I need to do since may, it’s now mid October and everything needs to be done by the 4th). But I have a lot of friends and even my partner has an ADHD/ADD diagnosis and I relate heavily to their struggles, and it’s how I even learned of executive dysfunction and realized how much it lined up with things I have problems with. If I didn’t have to postpone my exam appointment (because I initially scheduled it on an important date for work I forgot about and couldn’t miss) I may have an idea about myself now.
Was diagnosed with ADHD after years of struggling and problems with family, holding down work, a disastrous relationship. I'm much more on the attention deficit/ executive function/ memory problems side though. I was quiet in class, very nervous, but constantly forgetting things, spacing out, falling asleep. Took me until I was in my late twenties to get diagnosed. SO angry that I spent years hating myself because my condition was never picked up, despite all the major warning signs. I'm gradually putting my life together with the help of a beautiful, caring, patient woman. Best of luck out there guys. If you have good reason to suspect you have ADHD, GET DIAGNOSED. It can change your life, and start the healing.
I was diagnosed with ADHD despite being lethargic as heck. However, I still find it to be an accurate description. My mind is hyperactive, jumping from one thing to another and constantly badgering me to be productive no matter how burnt out or tired I am. If I'm not "doing something" every waking hour of the day, I'm understimulated and unsatisfied. I stay up at ungodly hours because I get distracted and lose track of time. The same thing led me to losing weight because I would forget to eat something.
I agree, doctors can misdiagnosed or just assume something about their patients. For example, I have had tongue cancer and had it removed in 2019. I also lost part of my throat, leaving me on a feeding tube. Now that I’m considered “better” (I’ve gained weight, I can somewhat get out, blah blah blah), I’ve noticed not only I have less time visiting them, but they don’t treat me like I’m the same person. Compared to when I went to them back in 2019, I seen them only a few months (which for 2020, I wasn’t too bad), but now I have new problems they aren’t cared for. I lost a ton of weight and I lost my appetite, but I’m on a vegan feed, I’ve gained a bit back, which leaves me hungry. So I barely have time to go out or anything, because I get sick feeling when I don’t eat enough. I’ve even fainted a few times. With that, I have to sit in a certain position to feel comfortable eating, but in turn, I’m in a position that puts pressure on my back. I also have Kippel-Feil syndrome (vertebrates fused together (same thing Big Ed has, just different type from his), which causes pain how I sit. But with how drug abuse goes, I can’t just get my medicine fixed to help with said pain. Many times I expressed my pain and how I needed help, but my pain clinic doctors really don’t take me seriously. And just one more thing, I’m 28, and when a doctor looks at me, they don’t see the issues I have, they see my age. One doctor had a last minute scheduling to seem me (I live three hours away and I was seeing another doctor) and I got there before and I waited over an hour to get called back. Which is odd, since I’m on a feeding tube, we had three hours to drive, and the hotel we were in had a checkout time around the same time I was going to leave. The not only pissed me off, but it was crazy because I was in there less than five (maybe even 3) minutes. And I understand doctors are not superheroes. But when a patient has many problems and they don’t even try to step out of their way to help someone or even listen to them, this is why they can mess up on someone’s health. And, pain clinics actually cause addicts and overdosing. Many of the doctors/nurses ask you questions (what’s your pain level, where’s the pain, that crap), but they never ask you does it work or is there something that really helps (they ask if there is anything else that helps, but nothing that really goes in depth). I actually was talking to my mom and we both agree these doctors don’t do anything. Honestly, if they were able to listen (the law is a big issue in it too), I personally think they could give better doses and fix it better (like bipolar drugs), so said person isn’t struggling to make do it medicine. I take liquid version of mine with my feeding tube, but I find crushing a actual pill and splitting it up works best. And at one time, I did, but the pill was so small and a small amount (which you don’t need a ton, but mine was smaller/as big as a tictac), I could handle it. And then I got a higher dosage, they put it back to liquid, because they guess that would help me…… Doctors don’t really keeps good files of this too and I’ll even say (my pain doctors) had lied and said I had a pill change one time, when that never happened and had said it was only a few months before. Honestly, the medical community should be held more accountable for their patients and to follow the rules and their patients regards, not just one.
I'm growing increasingly sure I have similar ADD as you. Not being able to start a big project, being overwhelmed, and not being able to do an easy task (like the mail to order soap), resembles me a lot. I'm hoping to soon get a diagnosis and treatment. Otherwise, I've been trying strategies to cope. Take your example of the short mail you need to write: for me, if I do it right away (even if there are other more important things to do), at least it's done and it won't join the pile of 'things I'm going to forget/ignore until a deadline or annoyed boss/coworker/friend reminds me'. When that pile gets too big, nothing gets done, because it all becomes too overwhelming. With me, I'll either impulsively do something right away (focused by the stimulation of having a new task) or it gets done at the last possible moment.
A few months I found out, after 27 years in the dark, that I had ADHD - something I'd been thinking about for a long time, but dismissed due to the exact misconceptions discussed in this video. This was very well done!
Was 29 years old myself. It's a surreal experience to have so much of what you've gone through in your life suddenly make sense. Glad to hear you are on the path ❤👍
Hype for your comeback Jack
I have never sought a diagnosis. I think that perhaps I should speak with someone though. When I was a child my mother explained to me she thought I was add or adhd, but said that she felt that the medication would hurt me and refuses to take me for a diagnosis. She spent the rest of my youth angry at me not being able to focus. It’s been hell on me for years, but I’d spent so many years hearing how bad it would be to see a doc over this I’ve become reluctant. Now when I think I should I have a hard time setting aside time to legitimately look into seeing someone. This content has helped me consider trying to look into this more.
Make more funny communism Disney movie videos😡!!!
@@rdeal8912 give Jack time
"Jim does not participate in class, and he displays very little interest in socializing, but at least he's quiet." An actual quote, on an actual report card, from an actual teacher, after getting one of her students put on Adderal.
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Totally relatable. Dyslexic students don't need drugs. We behave like we're on them all ready.
There’s a widespread belief about people being over medicated for ADD but unfortunately that has created a reluctance to seek treatment which has very negative social ramifications.
Ah, you've watched the TedTalk too
Society doesn't need thinkers, it needs sedated and docile customers
Getting diagnosed was like a weight lifting off of my shoulders. It took a long time to properly accept and get over the "he must be using it as an excuse" line which I really didn't want to hear. I *still* can't get over my own perceived laziness and mountain of failures stacked up behind me. The phrase "an action is worth a thousand words" is the bane of my existence.
I sit there and anxiously think about all the things I need to do, yet simultaneously find myself unable to do them. That was extremely relatable on my end, when you mentioned something like that.
And here I always thought that there was the combination of anxiety and depression, which I was diagnosed...
2 minute rule helps me start new tasks.
I get it's hard, but you gotta just think of the positives if you get stuff done. I've got ADD and physical disabilities. I'd rather just never move if I can help it, but I will be disabled and have ADD all my life. So, I get up and do stuff. I work, I just re-did/painted my whole house interior (even if it did take over a year), and have been doing a Low FODMAP diet for my IBS. Keep people who support you around and remember not to be hard on yourself.
Totally relate - and it took ages for me to be treated also. almost 20 years.
I always did things last minute. I remember a Ted talk about how the "panic monster" to do tasks doesn't arrive until the deadline to an assignment gets closer
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Same, there were nights through out all fo schooling since Elementary for me I would wake up from sleeping and start the assignment in the early am hours. I KNEW I should do them earlier, and heck sometimes I wanted to, but I just physically couldn't bring myself to touch and assignment or project sometimes until the last possible minute.
How I got my masters. Everything being last minute
@@sheadoherty7434The worst part is that I didn't assume something was up since my grades were fine. Same with my teachers and rents.
@@MacabreStorytelling exact same thing with me. I wasn't failing or causing problems so it was overlooked it
I would say personally the worst part of ADD is how it makes long term relationships so difficult. Statistically people with ADD have much harder keeping relationships. Constantly forgetting the things I said I would do or not be able to focus on cleaning, organizing or the other day to day things that keep relationships going has been our biggest struggle as a couple.
Same
That actually explains a lot... holy shit, I’m trying reeeally hard on this relationship I have now but man... yeah that makes sense
Wow this hits me hard.
This so perfectly describes the struggles I’ve had before, but particularly with my most recent relationship because I really did love the girl and tried my best. There were other issues between us both but a large amount came from both my practical and internal struggles.
In hindsight I think I potentially dodged a bullet, but I’ll always be thankful because she pointed out that that might be what I have and I’ve now been able to start the process for assessment and diagnosis
Same here Dude.
I'd also like to mention that ADD/ADHD also can effect the "high performers" as well as the "low performers". In my case, this led to my diagnosis in the middle of high school, when the workloads from advanced courses became consistently demanding and time consuming. You can only stay up past 2am for so many days in a week before you're falling asleep in class, handing assignments in late, and falling behind in the work, even if you can manage to keep up with the theoretical content.
On a side note, I never considered the impact this condition had on relationships, but in hindsight, the signs are there. Thanks for making this vid, OP.
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i used to always be among the top students because i could easily memorise most of the lectures during class, but i could never be the best because i'd regularly forget textbooks, school supplies, homework and heck, sometimes i'd show up to school without having studied for a major exam because i either forgot about it or straight up didn't hear the announcement. my parents, teachers and classmates would always point out how i was only "scatterbrained", "forgetful" and "clumsy" and how i ought to grow out of it soon
fast forward a couple of years later, and i can't pass a single class in college because we're doing remote learning and every single problem i had in high school and before has snowballed out of control
Is this like burnout but you keep going?
@@chekhovs_gundam I ' m sorry if i ' m a bit insensitive, but you can write down if you didn ' t trust your memory right? Because when i didn ' t trust my memory (i don ' t have any of the conditions, it ' s because i ' m kinda dumb) i write it down, so that if you forget something, you can find it in the wrote down place.
@@jovan-noble-guy749here's the thing: i don't have problems with **memory**, i have problems with **attention**
i can memorise an hour long lecture about the effect that ww2 had on different economic fields without even trying, but i'll miss teacher saying the exam date near the end of class because i started looking at a random cat through the window the moment he stopped talking about the lecture itself. or alternatively, i will write down a reminder but i'll either forget that i have it or i'll forget to look at it (it happened way too many times, trust me)
(also don't worry, i'm sure your suggestion came from a good place)
I think the best way ADHD was accurately described for neurotipical people was simply put: "Have you ever experienced something so boring it was painful? Have you ever been so bored that time slowed to a crawl and it was all you could do to abandon or ignore whatever was boring you? ADHD is feeling like that all the time for almost everything. Everything is excruciatingly boring. You are desperate to find something, ANYTHING to make the pain of that boredom go away, 24/7, 7 days a week. You want us to pay attention in class? Then don't be boring."
At 28, that still doesn't go away.
This is so funny because I always thought I hated math until I entered uni, where I had a fantastic professor who used more visual examples and who was very obviously passionate about maths AND teaching it. I had no trouble focusing during his three hour lectures, even looked forward to them, and got a really good grade. I later wrote him an email to let him know that he had changed my perspective on maths
@@DiegoKaiser I had a VERY similar experience! I don't know how regular people can be so ok with the flat, sad, joyless way math is usually taught
I got diagnosed with ADD last year and suddently EVERYTHING made sence. I used to think I was stupid and diffrent/wierd. Sometimes having ADD is awesome since you can day dream away from stressful situations. But it SUCKS when you can't focus.
I've been diagnosed with ADD when I was a young kid that I always thought I was weird and stupid because of it. Having it awesome? I don't really see that, but you are right when saying you can daydream anything away. The focusing is the hardest part.
Katt Williams told a joke about one of his kids having ADHD and how he gave him Ritalin and he didn't move for about 3 hours.
Katt "you've been sittin there for 3 hours, what are you thinking about?"
Son "Runnin!"
Katt "well, go ahead and run then"
another sad example of hidden brain damage that such drugs can cause when given incorrectly.
It’s taking alllll my self control to continue watching this video, instead of looking for the Katt Williams video. Thanks ADHD 😅
@@jackimo22 you're welcome.👍🏾
Wow great parenting :|
@@artvulture456 it is great parenting, the Drs gave the boy drugs so strong it stopped him from moving, they say ADHD was unhealthy well so is over medication.
But one thing I give the Percy Jackson films credit for was they didn’t play up ADD as something for laughs. The books explain it as seeing too much all at once not too little. Though at first I was misdiagnosed as ADHD as a kid I would play with my hair and constantly tap my fingers or do things out of nervousness. But as it turned out that wasn’t the case. It was ADD and Asperger’s syndrome (high functioning autism) because the Aspergers made me sensitive to sensory and finer motive issues. If anything, ADD would leave me exhausted in the classroom if I were forced to sit in a long classroom lecture. Aspergers attributes to my “impulsivity” if you will and it can at times make me very temperamental and my perception can be a little twisted at times to make me take things a little too personally
Yeah I do the same things and thankfully wasn't misdiagnosed with ADHD
Thats cool and all but why are you using outdated labels as a criticism?
Actually, ADD is now type two ADHD :)
@@artvulture456 ADHD-PI is not more descriptive than ADD. I don't get why they even bothered with such a menial name change. The name "Attention Deficit (Hyperactive) Disorder" doesn't even almost encompass the reality of the diagnosis.
Just an update but aspergers isn't a thing, it's ASD (autism spectrum disorder) as the high/ low functioning autism labels are harmful since the whole point of autism is that its a spectrum that fluctuates. This has been updated and aspergers is no longer a diagnosis because of this
For everyone in the comments: ADD and ADHD are now considered the same thing, because the causes are the same, but there are various symptoms
Yeah i read in a book that "ADD" is a dated term
And yes this comment was written before 10:25
You ever get that feeling when someone publishes a video so applicable to you, that you feel like it was tailor-made for you? THIS is it. (Obviously, I know otherwise.)
Mac’s videos always hit it out of the park, and the timing of this one was serendipitous to events in my own life (since I’m going to get a referral for a ADD/ADHD diagnosis this week.)
I love his videos, but this one was particularly helpful, and clearly articulated everything that’s been on my mind for the past 6 months.
LOOOVE the criticism of the school system's relationship to neurodivergence diagnoses. a lot of people going down the same train of thought put the blame on the cogs in the machine rather than the machine itself, so to speak
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, my parents never told me. I thought I was stupid. It effected me more than I realized. While I never took meds for it , I did have to find ways to focus navigate through world. While I feel knowing I had it would have helped my development I am also thankful I wasn’t just drugged up and was able to find ways to focus my energy in helpful ways...
I’m ADD and I’m glad you did this. If I can criticize Percy Jackson and the Olympians the Lightning Thief the movie for ONE thing, is that Logan Lerman’s Percy was said to be ADHD, but he most surely wasn’t showing signs of hyperactivity if anything his Percy was more ADD.
To be fair, that movie took everything awesome about the books (e.g. fairly great ADHD representation, the acknowledgement in 2008 that dyslexia does NOT make you stupid, creative interpretatation of Greek mythology, etc.) and decided to discard everything in favour of mediocrity. The actual book series helped me reconcile with & recognize my own ADHD symptoms, and allowed me to stop seeing myself so negatively.
ADD and ADHD are under the same hat. The prominent symptoms vary between people. I have been diagnosed with ADHD even though I am able to sit still and be quiet. I have a tabletennis match between my right and left hemisphere going on while I am doing said sitting though…
If an object is placed in the wrong place it is lost forever (or until I buy a replacement for it). If there are more than two people talking at once you can drop all expectations of me absorbing any information.
I am ADHD and using stimulant medication calms my mind and reduces my impulsivity (that is not manifested in me jumping of buildings or similar but rather in not thinking things through before making decisions)
Magnus Chase is also a great representation of ADHD as well.
@@heterotardigrada well I enjoy the films for what they are as a piece of art but as much as I like the Percy Jackson movies because I see so much of myself in it I’m not above criticizing it and seeing how badly flawed the films are in regards to taking from the source material but I blame the writer of that first movie (who wasn’t even Chris Colombus if Colombus wrote that film it would’ve been completely different or if a different writer wrote the movie) but the film coming out when I was in sixth grade and at a time where I realized why I was in a special Ed classroom watching it made me feel like not much of a freak. But I’m excited for what the show is going to potentially do I think the show will be sick
@@DC-MarvelGirl1997 I agree with what you said, though at the time the first movie came out I was still 5 or 6, overtime I started to realize that I have Adhd once my mom told me about my diagnosis. I thought I was a bit of a weirdo being put in special ed groups and whatnot. Now I’m kinda glad I read those books to make me feel like I wasn’t alone.
YES! I’ve been waiting for this! As an ADHD person myself, it always feels weird how when talking about misrepresented mental disorders adhd rarely shows up despite there being some inaccurate traits being shown.
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"I found myself sitting on the couch not able to start anything while panicking about everything that needed to be done"
This is a pretty common problem for many people with ADD such as myself
Exactly how I feel
This was really helpful. As a teen another boy at church had pretty severe ADHD. He would be my friend one moment, mercilessly tease me the next, and become violent soon after. For more than a decade he is one of two people I hope has a miserable life. While I don't think his ADHD is an excuse for the abuse he did to me and others, I can see now that it must have been very difficult for him. A family member updated me recently that his fiance left him and he lost his job. I can imagine the exact behaviours that would have led to that, but now I can also imagine the internal turmoil he must have gone through to end up there. Thank you.
As a kid I would always get jealous of my brother for being able to just sit down and play video games for hours straight.
This video is extremely accurate, it's just great to realize that there's other people like me.
Doing chores like laundry or repetitive tasks/memorization isn't hard for me. My office job on the other hand is really tough.
Officially diagnosed with ADHD at 23.
It absolutely sucks that when you have ADD or ADHD it's become very easy for people to just say that you don't and that your just lazy or that you aren't trying hard enough when you've been trying to do something for a while but get so distracted that you eventually forget what it was you had to/wanted to do.
Thank you for making this video, I'm glad people can get educated on these kinds of things
"She doesnt have adhd all kids rather be outside playing than doing school work!"
6 year old me, who cant play outside at recess because I have fucking socks on:
@@thepinkestpigglet7529 I feel that in my soul
I have always wondered if I have ADD but just undiagnosed. Im not "self diagnosing" by any means, but ive always had issues focusing and with memory for a long time, and especially over the last decade. Two of my best friends were just diagnosed recently with ADD as well, and they are in their early 30s.
This is such a great video, just like your essay calling out mental anguish, like how its depicted in awful media like 13 reasons why. It is so relieving to have someone point out its not as over-dramaitized as media makes it seem. Or god forbid, romanticized (again like depression, etc from your previous essay). It's a great way to educate and lessen the stigma and taboo behind mental and emotional disorders.
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I have ADHD diagnosis.
To me the TV analogy works differently. I have TV. I don't have remote. The channel rarely changes. So if I'm focused on something, I'm focused on that. You can argue passionately I should focus on something else, and I'd agree. I'd fail to actually change the channel though.
I know a guy who cant read through a sentence without forgetting the first few words in the sentence. He went in for counselling but they decided his condition was not severe enough for medication. He dropped out in grade 10 and still has the same problems 10 years later. He said lots of teachers thought he was faking it or just not serious about school and it really demotivated him. I have a hard time holding a conversation with him because he will constantly be distracted by his phone, random noises, shiny objects, or random thoughts in his head.
For the bipolar episode, you should check out the King of the Hill episode Just Another Manic Kahn-Day because it formally diagnoses one of the characters as having bipolar and shows what happens when he goes off his medication.
It's not a perfect depiction of bipolar since it romanticizes the manic side of bipolar, but it still shows the danger of convincing someone to get off their medication without consulting a doctor first.
Man I was one of the ones misdiagnosed as a child. I wasn't very good in school and to be frank the school system is outdated anyway. After being prescribed I started to get depressed and really injured my mental health. I managed to get off of them and been doing great for a whole year but a misdiagnosis is serious and doctors need to be careful about who they give there medication too.
I'm currently being evaluated for ADD, but before this I was always seen as lazy, unhelpful and undisciplined. I genuinely thought something was wrong with my intelligence and discipline until I learned about the diagnosis. And hearing other people's stories really helps me not to look down upon myself and recognise myself in other people. Great video!
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Funnily enough, my adhd has forced me to be better at time management. I still have plenty of days where I’m working last minute on something, but I have my fair share where I’ve finished ahead of time
honestly, this is me with OCD. I was so surprised when my therapist came up with OCD to describe my symptoms. never in my life would I think that I have OCD because it's not the "typical OCD behavior" usually shown in movies or other media.
great video, keep up the good work, man. this is gonna be a great series
This is a major reason why people with mental health issues and disabilities need to get more of a platform and chance in major media and need to be boosted more on social media.
(Also because a lot of the time when they talk about their issues on social media their platforms try to push it down)
> (Also because a lot of the time when they talk about their issues on social media their platforms try to push it down)
SHUSH, the neurotics don't exist, the 6 families, or whatever number you want to allocate to them forbid you tagging them as entities that exisst.
This video made me literally call and make an appointment with a therapist... right now. So thank you
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That means you had your focus set on that one thing and accomplished it. Congratulations and I hope it helps you.
Excellent examination of the topic. It very much applies to me: it never occurred to me I might have ADD because I assumed ADD was only about kids bouncing off the walls. Then I heard a story on NPR when I was about 35 that described adult ADD and the description fit me perfectly. I always knew I experienced intense anxiety and shame, but suddenly I realized that ADD was intertwined with those other problems. I took concerta for a few years, and it helped a lot, but I never fully obtained the help I need. At the moment I just use kratom, but I want to get therapy again. Making and implementing a plan to do that seems harder than climbing a mountain though... because ADD.
Nothing gets me going more than that shame stimulant, I can panic through any task once it kicks in. 🙃
How ironic is it that i kept zoning out while watching this video, having to rewatch certain moments desperately clinging to my lacking attention. I've never been diagnosed, though I strongly suspect I might have A.D.D. because focusing is fucking impossible like 90% of the time, which served as a huge detriment a number of times in my life. Honestly this video served as a push to seek professional help, hopefuly it's good enough in my country for me to finally recieve proper medication and get my shit together. Thank you, Macabre!
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Shoutout from someone who also has to pause and rewind segments of videos all the time (including this one) because my focus drifts so often, and I love video essays, but I still can't sustain my focus on them even for all that long. It's the same with watching television. I can get really engrossed in a show I really love, but it takes so much focus to let myself get into something. So with most television or movies I have to pause and take short "breaks" every 15 -20 minutes because I just get so incredibly bored and wound up trying to just sit there and mindlessly watch TV. :P
good luck, from someone who's scrolling the comments while listening to the video in order to keep my brain properly stimulated
This video has me in tears. I never thought I'd be able to verbally express the torture I put myself through.
But I'm shedding tears of happiness because I feel seen. I live in an area and in a family that belittles this condition and disregards proper medication and help to get patterns right.
Thank you so much.
I'm happy you are doing this series. As someone who was diagnosed with two personality disorders and other disorders, so much of Hollywood has made it difficult to understand my diagnosis in my early years. Don't get me even started on loved ones.
I hate the misconceptions of us taking the meds to be on legal meth. I can't function at normal tasks without the meds but I actually hate being on them because they make me feel like a robot so it's a constant struggle of convincing myself to take them to get things done despite not enjoying it like someone on meth would enjoy their stim.
Got diagnosed a few years ago in university while failing at university as an adult (I had actually gone in because of depression lol). Still in university because of how far behind I am.
I knew I had it, I was already diegnosed as a little kid and because of that I don’t think I fully understand what it was. My dad said it’s not really a disorder when I was a kid, which made me think “well what the fucks the point of saying it’s a thing then? Just say I don’t focus as well, right?” And so I’d notice people and teachers treat me like a little kid once they found out I had it, I’d always remain in the special ed class and feel ashamed because of it. I even remember being put there in 8th grade when I moved to a different city and realized I might not know everything they’re working on, but instead of teaching me and catching me up, they always took me out of the class in front of everyone as soon as they were about to start the lesson, giving me an entirely different assignment and lesson... I mean I get their intentions, and the teacher who helped me was my friend’s mom but that still didn’t change how everyone treated me like I was a helpless idiot. I think because of that I gained an insecurity on my intelligence and now don’t think I’m smart despite what some people tell me... I don’t know, thanks for this man.
Dang, sorry that happened to you. The way people deal with kids with disorders is abysmal. I suspect I might have it too, but because I was extremely shy and behaved pretty well, no one ever really thought it was a possibility. Especially since other kids in my class who were diagnosed with ADHD tended to be disruptive and had behavioral issues.
I just want to point out too, even people with ADHD are not taking stimulants without consequences. Stimulants can damage your heart over time and lead to heart attacks later in life. It also can, for some people, lead to increased mood swings and lower creativity. It's just a trade-off you have to consider when the alternative is not being able to function at your job/school/whatever.
As someone who has ADD this is helpful.
Absolutely wild the direction this channel has taken since the GOT rewrites, and I am 100% here for it. Keep up the great work dude, always a pleasure when one of your vids pops up.
I literally zoned out whilst you were explaining zoning out... and yeah, fear and anxiety should not be your only source of motivation. Learned that one the hard way
I think this video was what I needed to make a plan on getting help (again). It explained concepts to me and now that I thought about my personal mental health history, my family's, and about my time in school (which I'm still stuck in), I have a theory and will hopefully quickly get into contact with my therapist (again) and get all the diagnoses so that I can get the appropriate treatment and medication. Who knows, maybe I won't even fail the final form for a second time. You helped many people, including me. Thank you.
I'm gonna have to keep mi cool on this one.
The mischaracterisation of mental disorders and nerological conditions in media is rife. I've been working in mental health for the last 20 years, I provide CBT interventions for poeple with Depression, anxiety, GAD, OCD self-harm, PTSD amongst other mental health issues. I've had experience with people with Schizophrenia, psychosis, bi-polar disorder and cyclothymia.
I have children who are diagnosed with ASD and ADHD and have dyslexia myself.
The level of bad portrayals of the above conditions is shocking not to mention the inability of many professionals to be able to effectively diagnosis many mental health and neurological conditions. It's a shit show. There was a big push in the 90s to address poor information and raise awareness. There has recently been another big push in the last 10 years or so. I think the use of celebrities and the 'bandwagon' effect of social media and overdiagnosis is a massive issue leaving those who actually do struggle with real mental health issues and neurological disorders/conditions in a difficult position. Dont even get me started on how the DSM or ICD are compiled and the ever-growing subcategories of mental disorders and neurological disorders/conditions. I'll keep an eye on this series, good job starting the conversation.
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So if I wanted help better understanding how to deal with my dyslexia, what would you recommend for an online resource?
@@timothywilliamson9831 Hi, I'm by no means an expert on dyslexia. The answer to your question is, it depends on how your dyslexia affects you personally. The impact of dyslexia differs bettween individuals and isnt generally limited to reading and writing. People often struggle with organisation memory recall, information proccessing ect. Basic support aids generally come in the form of coloured overlays for reading in order for text to be clearly seen by the user and text to speech programs to aid with typing on a computer. Time management aids in the form of lists and timetables. I would advise that you search for your countries National dyslexia Charity for further info. It may be helpful to inform your employer or educational provider that you are dyslexic this may help you to get further support in those areas if needed. Im currently using Grammerly on my phone (the free version) which helps me to correct spelling. The British Dyslexia Association has some brief information on the wide range of impacts that dyslexia can have may be useful for you to read through that. If you can give a clear indication of the areas where you have difficulty its much easier to find effective aids and support, though I understand clearly identifying your difficulties can be challenging.
Hey, I’d just like to say thank you For making this video. As someone who has been struggling with ADD for as long as I can remember, This video has helped a lot, primarily by giving me a way to put into words What having ADD is like, something I have always struggled to do, an experience that has honestly made it feel like my struggles with basic management or attention spam are purely my fault, and that my Add was just a little section of it. Not that you should feel sorry about this, I’ve gotten very lucky in terms of how I could learn to deal with this, having an early diagnosis and being surrounded by plenty of caring, helpful people.However, I do have a question related to Add medication. For a while, I’ve felt that this medication is having an adverse effect on my personality. I feel like I’m more isolated, irritable, and less pleasant when I’m on it, something that I really do dislike as I really want to be a more friendly, open person, but when I feel like I’m ticked off by the slightest noise or annoyance it’s hard. I’ve tried taking smaller doses or none at all, but every time That happens my academic and organizational abilities collapse almost instantly. I was curious if any of you knew about ways around these feelings, and whether there’s was any history of add medicine affecting the personality of those it was created for. Again, thank you for creating the video, it was amazing, and you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to!
this may be a indicator of over medication you should bring this up with your pyscholigist
My perception was warped by the "naughty" kids at school. (edit: I was constantly surrounded by them due to being placed in bottom set all the time... a real self esteem killer)
However I really suspect that I have ADD or something else as poor attention(among other things) has made a massive impact on my education and interaction with people throughout my life.
I was similar to you in high school (Australia), being surrounded by the more active and disruptive kids made me never consider the thought of having adhd.
Main reasons:
1. They were really loud and hyperactive
2. They seemed really dumb and immature
3. I didn't want to associate myself with them around my friends.
“I was constantly surrounded by them due to being placed in bottom set all the time”
Sounds like heaven to me.
@@elijahfordsidioticvarietys8770seeing as you have a Minecraft pfp you’re probably a kid so things may have changed but back when I was young it was far from heaven.
@@theeternalgus9119 who the fuck likes the not naughty kids?
This is such a high-quality channel, loving these long form videos. Informative and really entertaining, your editing is super solid. Keep up the good work my dude!
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Naming my ADD was a great first step in learning how to use it to my advantage and mitigating the negative aspects of it. This video is great and i thank you for focusing on it for 8 hours to get it to me.
i was diagnosed with adhd (combined type) earlier this year, and it put so much of my struggles into perspective
Damn dude, almost every single video you make feels like it was made for me I love your channel
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I still don't know whether I have ADD or not, I have considered it a few times in the past but my parents and peers have denied that I have it. But I feel like I exhibit symptoms of it mostly on being distracted with something else, having a lot of involuntary movements in a classroom setting, pursuing a lot of interests without committing to a single one, and having problems with keeping long-term relationships. I do want to know for sure whether I'm afflicted or not but I'm afraid that I might be just making a big deal out of nothing and making a fool of myself if I try going to a professional
Fuck. That’s exactly what I feel right now. Either I am just being an idiot and this whole thing doesn’t have anything to do with me, or I have been struggling with this or something like it for years, and it’s been destroying me from the inside. Sad thing is I don’t have access to a professional at the moment to talk to (to put it in simple terms) so I have no idea what to do now. Do I ignore this and keep going? Or keep it at the back of my mind and chew on it a little more? Well at least it’s nice to know that I am not alone in feeling this way.
Hope you are doing well.
@@450nc It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who's afraid that I might just be exaggerating, it would feel dumb to go to a professional only to find out its a false positive. Hope you're also doing well man
@@andyrajendra3103 If you have the opportunity to go to a professional then do it. You only stand to gain from it . Either you learn that it’s nothing and then you can finally put this inner conflict to rest and get on with your life, OR you learn that you actually have a special condition in which case you can finally be sure of it and get help. It’s your decision though so I wholeheartedly encourage you to seek more and different perspectives on this instead of mine (some random stranger on the internet). Just be honest and fair with yourself and keep hope.
I have no diagnosis for ADD or ADHD but when you were describing ADD, I felt really creeped out because that was a perfect description of what my life often feels like. I find it nearly impossible to listen to for a long period of time, I get distracted easily falling down mental rabbit holes but when I'm under pressure like I have an essay due for tomorrow or I'm in an exam I'm hyperfocused. I'm not disruptive in the classroom but that's because I'm usually lost in my own thoughts for 95% of the lesson.
So, I think I'm going to go and see if I can be diagnosed soon.
Thank you for this video
The weirdest book I’ve ever read with ADHD is a book called “Joey Pigza Swallowed the Key” in middle school in like, 2007. And even then I thought it was kind of weird and not accurate. I’ve since read a lot of reviews that say it’s a pretty harmful depiction.
I seriously do not cook anymore. I am 64 and literally cannot do what I used to do, circle. I could manage the drifting attention by having things I wanted to do "in a metaphorical circle" and go from one to the other of THOSE instead of just randomly. Including cooking in the kitchen. Clean the sink while listening to the cooking item. Stir it. Put items away from the dishwasher. Go back and stir. I cannot do that anymore I walk out of the kitchen and burn things. Or cannot look back in a timely way. SO my son bought me an instapot. That works, but I have such anxiety using it I mostly eat salads. I bought at the store. To someone who is not depressed over this that might sound funny.
When I tell people I'm bi polar they think I have multiple personalities or I talk to people who aren't there. Thanx Hollywood
So, when I was extremely young, my mother left my biological father for my step father. My biological father cut contact, and then my parents, (mom and step-dad) had there own child. I was first diagnosed with ADD, and depression, and giving all kinds of different drugs to combat it, non of them working, some of them having scary and intense withdrawal, up untill high school when I started to refuse taking them.
On the side, I'm In Canada and weed is legal now, I believe the legal age is 19, same as booze, but I'm 32 and it doesn't matter so I'm not sure lol.
There are tons of notices saying "your brain stops developing around 25, introducing THC to a developing brain will have permanent effects, please dont smoke untill 25"
And I just think, what about the pharmaceuticals?
To this day I'm an extremely miserable and lonely person, I have near nothing to show for. I've had next to little support outside for 'take your drugs'
I've been addicted to alcohol, cigarettes, and THC.
It's important to find who your true friends and family are, and this doesnt come down to biology. If your mom seems like she doesn't care about you, it's tough, but you need to accept it and try and move on, dont focus on it. People that care about you will show you, not tell you.
A few things I do to manage it: dumb things down (example - keys and wallet leashed to belt, avoid clutter); embrace disordered multi-tasking (counterintuitive, but works); strong caffeine (don’t do the ADD meds); idiot proof work and home environment; noise cancelling headphones + music. The anxiety part is actually the only thing where meds help.
Also been around ADHD people and the one think I notice is that they tend to interrupt conversations quite a bit, and tend to traverse subjects in conversation a lot without closing out the first to its end. Feels like a conversational wrestling match to keep stuff linear with them lol
So in the 3rd grade I didn’t like being in school. I was bullied, there was too much homework, no one listened to me about how heavy my book bag was. So I just stopped doing homework. Cause I didn’t want to do all the extra work assigned because the teacher got mad and because I didn’t want to bring every textbook home and back every day. I was put in a room and some lady wanted me to do more school work(kinda like the South Park clip) and I was like “can I play with those toys?” She had a Barbie dream house in that room! My mom wouldn’t let me have toys! I wanted to play, obviously. The lady was annoyed I just didn’t want to do work.
Then I was “diagnosed” as having adhd and put into a group that needed extra help. I hated the group because the others in that group actually struggled so I got bored and rushed through the reading/work. Even though I was showing I could do the work I got yelled at for rushing ahead.
Then I had a strong medication prescribed to me(maybe Ritalin but idk) that made me lay down and feel sick all the time. It took until high school to convince people I didn’t need any of this! I could have been placed in advance English and history classes but the school wouldn’t allow me to take them because I needed to go to the class for extra help. How did that make sense to anyone?!
Then the teacher in the extra help class was awful. Every time I tried to talk to her about getting out the class, or just a regular question, she’d go on about how I didn’t know what I needed. So I got mad and yelled at her and she called the police and tried to have me arrested for “verbal abuse”. I got ISS instead and holy shit was school the worst. I saw her years later when I was working in a department store around Christmas and she went to security to say that I was a “dangerous person” that threatened her baby. Security didn’t buy it because they actually knew me.
That’s my abridged story of my fun filled years of being misdiagnosed.
11:00 I resonate with this SO much, it’s always frustrates me so much that whenever i got a crap ton to do I just cannot seem to get myself to do anything and just sit their starting into space. I’ve never heard anyone talk about that kind of experience (beyond discussing writer’s block) and it is genuinely great to know that I’m not the only one struggling with it and that there are ways out there that can help me deal with it
I recently got diagnosed with ADD, and I I gotta say, this is a really good video! Keep up the good work man!
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I got diagnosed at 27, and it’s been a lifesaver. I finally got the help I needed. I regulate my emotions better, I’m understanding things clearer, and I can communicate better. This video emphasizes a lot on the good and negative with the portrayal in the media as well as the science behind it. Thank you
I'm on the road to a diagnosis now at 35, and it's remarkable how I had to be told I had it, by somebody else with it, and that I too was dismissive about it because of my own media warped perspective. It's only when I read into it and saw the other traits that it made sense, and that there's multiple different forms it can take.
Another great series; can't wait for the next installment. You do such a great job presenting how/ why depictions work or don't.
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I think there’s a lot of confusion stemming also from the fact that every person experiences a degree of the symptoms that are present in many of these disorders. But people misunderstand how life altering it is to have these symptoms to the degree and consistency of mental disorder.
It’s so frustrating to hear about these inattentive add symptoms and how they so aptly described my entire education career and NOT ONE teacher or adult in my life recognized the signs. I got diagnosed in Spring of 2021 after asking my doctor about it.
This is even worse when a person when a person with ADHD is your parent and believes ADHD to be a quirk or a joke.
If you couldn't tell. I have it rough.
When I was diagnosed with ADD (now ADHD due to name changes) I was a middle schooler and I felt so broken. Looking back it is because the media I consumed said people with ADD were stupid, annoying, hyperactive, and just not fun to be around.
Man that Simpsons episode where Bart fails the test always get me. It's how my entire school life has been
Not me being very invested in this video and enjoying it very much but simultaneously beginning to scroll and finding a number of other videos I'm also interested in and thus putting this on 2x speed so that I can still see it to the end without loosing focus;-;
You know, I've never been diagnosed, so far I've just had my lapses in attention, memory, and judgement pointed out to me a lot
But considering your analogy with the stimulants - I realized that my own lapses tended to happen more when I lacked sleep the night before or generally just had brain fog
10/10 work Mac. I agree with basically everything you said. Since getting diagnosed around 2 years ago, I've passed 2 full years of community college classes with a 3.0 gpa, bringing me to like 2.2 overall after failing my first attempt due to ADHD. It took 3 more years than it should have, but I have the credits for a associate's degree. Getting one more semester of cheaper classes before I'll have to transfer to a 4-year. I'm also considering just graduating after the autumn and finding work as a lab tech/ecology tech. I never would have expected to say that before starting treatment. Thank you for making this, for spreading awareness. Hopefully it can help someone who needs it.
Tangent, I wish psychologists would just refuse to diagnose children with ADHD until a certain age. It would address the problems with misdiagnosis, though it may cause it's own issues. A better solution would be changing the education system, but we all know that'll never happen. I swear, if I ever have kids I'm moving to Finland or somewhere where the public schools aren't hopeless.
I always end up binging a bunch of your episodes all at once. Once again glad to see you taking a look at this stuff as we do mostly get all our info about mental illness from media
21:55 This.
Note: I switched from a college prep school to a public school Senior year. I hated it cuz not only was there books that I had already read freshmen year I had to read them again Senior year. Did I actually read them? No. I remember walking in and being particularly peeved about home life and there was discussions about social implications and commentary from Fahrenheit 451 and I lashed out in what started as sarcasm to straight up outbursts about police brutality controversy. My silence the rest of the period, I believe scared people.
Another Note: my school life was really stressful to the point that I never want to go to school again. I hope to home school my children should I have any
Very interesting stuff, though I’ve always wondered about the line between a disorder and a natural human flaw. Is everything short of peak human functionality a “disorder?” Who decides where the normal ends and where the abnormal begins? If I wanted, I could take a pill to make myself happier, sadder, sleepier, etc. It’s kind of terrifying to think that our personalities, something we practically regard as spiritual, can be molded so easily by chemicals. The line is hard to draw and I can see why there’s so much confusion.
If you haven't already, I would suggest that you look deeper into neurodiversity. A big focus of the movement is that there isn't one "correct" neurotype. The garden doesn't have to be just roses...there is room for petunias, tulips, dahlias, daffodils, etc.
Your videos are really well made, nuanced and well researched. I hope your subs increase tenfold over the next year. You deserve it
Thank you! Every comment and share helps so I appreciate it!
I've always have a problem focusing on one thing, staying still, controlling my emotions and I'm completely scattered and disorganized. I have trouble finishing projects and keeping up with deadlines for school, my assignments keep piling up. Worst part is how I usually can't hold one thought in my brain, I start brainstorming about how I'm going to achieve a task and seconds later I'm thinking about the last Marvel movie. Not to mention how easily I tend to forget things......I don't know if I personally have a problem but these things have always held me back as a student, and a human being in general. Or maybe I'm just reading too much into it
I'm inattentive as well, but I certainly have the occasional bout or maybe even traits of the hyperactive "symptoms" as well. Besides basically leaning more the hyperactive side in my childhood years (as most ADHD kids), while also being inattentive/closed off in many ways. Thank you for covering the subject, I so hate how the masses get their "knowledge" about sooo many sensitive and important things, such as mental health, through that rot called corporate media. And someone covering ADHD (particularly a guy), the predominantly INATTENTIVE type hits home so hard. Again, thank you.
boy I respect you, you have hit a fundamental theme! Congratulations, a greeting from Italy!
On the first episode of the second season of The Simpsons actually represents what having ADHD truly feels like, as Bart tries to study to pass fourth year but at the end his struggle to study doesn't pay off and ends up failing again, and it's truly sad and heartbreaking
I truly love that you put Spinner in the thumbnail for this video!
I think it's also really important to talk about the comorbidity of ADD and depression. I've had to battle with severe depression, to the point of multiple suicide attempts, and it was only when I was in college that I was informed by a doctor that one of the likely causes of it was a knock on effect of my ADD, and that really put more of a face to the problem and highlighted an aspect of the disorder that I didn't even know about before that
I was diagnosed early on but I never had issues with school or boring topics. I still get distracted but it is internal, I can sit alone for hours both reading and thinking about random stuff. My issues relate more to getting bored and distracted with social interactions. Small talk just makes me drift off right away.
My social battery has been dwindling ever since I was in my early 20s lulz
That sneak attack to the Educational System was really funny imo.
Amazing video, as always.
I recently saw a youtuber going through her journey of being diagnosed with ADD, and for the first time in my life things made sense to me. I had never heard of ADD before but for the first time in my life my own behavior started making sense to me. Now I’m planning my own journey to get property diagnosed. Faithful representation is important and now I understand that more than ever
I was diagnosed with ADD as well by a psychiatrist after I went to him to get tested for autism, as an aunt was sure I had that, (and my parents have books about the condition and I wondered if it was about me, so in the end it turned out I don't have that but my diagnosis explains some of my past and current behavior I was wondering about) and I still get confused about the exact differences between that condition and ADHD in general so this video helped, that metaphor in the beginning was spot on for me and it's probably one of the reasons why I'm terrified of fucking up whatever job I may have, especially if it's the corporate kind.
It takes ages for me to finish most books I want to read and if I'm watching a movie at home I can't watch it most of the times without pausing at some point, for example. When writing anything I sometimes miss the spellings and typos and that's why I may spend a bit of time editing my comments for example.
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I found this very intriguing. Thank you for that. I'm 40 years old now but I can recall in high school I had a horrible time reading books for English class cause I simply wasn't interested. I couldn't finish a paragraph without my brain trailing off about whatever. Same thing when working for my dad on his farm. He would be talking to me explaining what I needed to do....but my brain would trail off and out of fear of making him upset and having to explain all over again, I would just go do whatever and hope for the best. But back then, these things weren't really talked about, or not that I remember. So I just got stressed out , keeping possible real problems to myself.
I have ADHD I was diagnosed young cause it runs in my family but I remember meeting a girl at work who kept insisting she had ADD and ADHD and I was just like you have one or the other because they are the same thing only difference is ADD comes without hyperactivity and ADHD does and she kept insisting no they are completely different things i had to google the acronyms to show her they where the same thing and she got angry ate and huffed away. In my ADHD brain seeking knowlage even if its random is important and I like it when people correct me and let me know when Im wrong about something so I can be more informed but to others I come off as a know it all and full of myself and it kinda sucks. I do think sometimes selfdiagnosis is important if you are unable to see a specialist but alot of people diagnose based off the surface level tv depictions and dont actually look into it properly we have the internet its quite easy to find out but most people dont
My personal favorite depiction of adhd is horizon from apex legends, she focuses on different things all at once. Often forcing on her work over everything else. She writes on her hands, constantly talking about random things that pop into her head and can't stand still for long.
Dispite that she is a fucking genius and her adhd helps with her work alot. Often the random ideas lead to something amazing. I can relate to that alot.
Looking forward to the video on Bipolar disorder! I have close relationships with people who have been diagnosed with it, and that stuff is no joke!
Great work as always!
This is the exact problem I’m having trying to help my boyfriend understand my brain. He thinks that in order to have ADD or ADHD you have to be hyper. And I just don’t fit the stereotypes he’s been fed through media his whole life.
Recently with me getting a full time job and thus decent medical insurance, I’ve finally taken the time to look into a diagnosis. I never thought I had ADD as a child, my sister was diagnosed with ADHD and she was the quirky hyper types you see on tv. We’re complete opposites. While she struggled with schooling, I excelled…. Except when homework was involved. I also pushed essays to the last minute because even the fast passed work was better than a majority of my peers. It’s not healthy and I still struggle with it in university (had to get an extension for a class due to my mothers passing in April and I haven’t touched the work I need to do since may, it’s now mid October and everything needs to be done by the 4th). But I have a lot of friends and even my partner has an ADHD/ADD diagnosis and I relate heavily to their struggles, and it’s how I even learned of executive dysfunction and realized how much it lined up with things I have problems with. If I didn’t have to postpone my exam appointment (because I initially scheduled it on an important date for work I forgot about and couldn’t miss) I may have an idea about myself now.
"It is a very flexible and ongoing process" is a very nice way to say they are just winging it and don't know any better.
Not really. This is just dumb.
Was diagnosed with ADHD after years of struggling and problems with family, holding down work, a disastrous relationship. I'm much more on the attention deficit/ executive function/ memory problems side though. I was quiet in class, very nervous, but constantly forgetting things, spacing out, falling asleep.
Took me until I was in my late twenties to get diagnosed. SO angry that I spent years hating myself because my condition was never picked up, despite all the major warning signs.
I'm gradually putting my life together with the help of a beautiful, caring, patient woman.
Best of luck out there guys. If you have good reason to suspect you have ADHD, GET DIAGNOSED. It can change your life, and start the healing.
I was diagnosed with ADHD despite being lethargic as heck. However, I still find it to be an accurate description. My mind is hyperactive, jumping from one thing to another and constantly badgering me to be productive no matter how burnt out or tired I am. If I'm not "doing something" every waking hour of the day, I'm understimulated and unsatisfied. I stay up at ungodly hours because I get distracted and lose track of time. The same thing led me to losing weight because I would forget to eat something.
On most medication a side effect is not feeling hunger, maybe something to look into.
it took me 60 min to watch this, great content
I'm really excited to see more of these!!!
I agree, doctors can misdiagnosed or just assume something about their patients.
For example, I have had tongue cancer and had it removed in 2019. I also lost part of my throat, leaving me on a feeding tube.
Now that I’m considered “better” (I’ve gained weight, I can somewhat get out, blah blah blah), I’ve noticed not only I have less time visiting them, but they don’t treat me like I’m the same person. Compared to when I went to them back in 2019, I seen them only a few months (which for 2020, I wasn’t too bad), but now I have new problems they aren’t cared for.
I lost a ton of weight and I lost my appetite, but I’m on a vegan feed, I’ve gained a bit back, which leaves me hungry. So I barely have time to go out or anything, because I get sick feeling when I don’t eat enough. I’ve even fainted a few times.
With that, I have to sit in a certain position to feel comfortable eating, but in turn, I’m in a position that puts pressure on my back. I also have Kippel-Feil syndrome (vertebrates fused together (same thing Big Ed has, just different type from his), which causes pain how I sit. But with how drug abuse goes, I can’t just get my medicine fixed to help with said pain. Many times I expressed my pain and how I needed help, but my pain clinic doctors really don’t take me seriously.
And just one more thing, I’m 28, and when a doctor looks at me, they don’t see the issues I have, they see my age. One doctor had a last minute scheduling to seem me (I live three hours away and I was seeing another doctor) and I got there before and I waited over an hour to get called back. Which is odd, since I’m on a feeding tube, we had three hours to drive, and the hotel we were in had a checkout time around the same time I was going to leave.
The not only pissed me off, but it was crazy because I was in there less than five (maybe even 3) minutes.
And I understand doctors are not superheroes. But when a patient has many problems and they don’t even try to step out of their way to help someone or even listen to them, this is why they can mess up on someone’s health.
And, pain clinics actually cause addicts and overdosing. Many of the doctors/nurses ask you questions (what’s your pain level, where’s the pain, that crap), but they never ask you does it work or is there something that really helps (they ask if there is anything else that helps, but nothing that really goes in depth). I actually was talking to my mom and we both agree these doctors don’t do anything. Honestly, if they were able to listen (the law is a big issue in it too), I personally think they could give better doses and fix it better (like bipolar drugs), so said person isn’t struggling to make do it medicine. I take liquid version of mine with my feeding tube, but I find crushing a actual pill and splitting it up works best. And at one time, I did, but the pill was so small and a small amount (which you don’t need a ton, but mine was smaller/as big as a tictac), I could handle it. And then I got a higher dosage, they put it back to liquid, because they guess that would help me……
Doctors don’t really keeps good files of this too and I’ll even say (my pain doctors) had lied and said I had a pill change one time, when that never happened and had said it was only a few months before.
Honestly, the medical community should be held more accountable for their patients and to follow the rules and their patients regards, not just one.
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your channel is brilliant and beyond underrated keep up the great stuff!
A very informative and well researched video about adhd in media for once. Thank you :)
I'm growing increasingly sure I have similar ADD as you. Not being able to start a big project, being overwhelmed, and not being able to do an easy task (like the mail to order soap), resembles me a lot.
I'm hoping to soon get a diagnosis and treatment.
Otherwise, I've been trying strategies to cope. Take your example of the short mail you need to write: for me, if I do it right away (even if there are other more important things to do), at least it's done and it won't join the pile of 'things I'm going to forget/ignore until a deadline or annoyed boss/coworker/friend reminds me'. When that pile gets too big, nothing gets done, because it all becomes too overwhelming. With me, I'll either impulsively do something right away (focused by the stimulation of having a new task) or it gets done at the last possible moment.