What's up everyone! This week I wanted to just talk about my top 10 biggest turn offs for people in general. I definitely am not perfect & am some of these things as times BUT I try my best not to be :) What's your biggest turn off and why? If you agree with me & enjoy this video - click the like button & let's try to get 100k likes by tomorrow! Enjoy your week everyone x
please keep in mind that some people have anxiety and its extremely hard to talk to people out of fear of being judged or coming off weird. we may come off as a boring or a shy person but its probably because were not comfortable with you or feel intimidated. its really hard for me to make a conversation, and that's something im really insecure about.
Connor: *hears sirens * Oh I hope everyone is okay Dan: *hears sirens * can you please go get killed somewhere else ? Phil: *hears sirens* another baby is born
My lack of ability to have a good conversation is really what repels people from me. I have horrible social anxiety, so every time someone tries to talk to me, I freak out and end up giving stupid and/or completely uninteresting responses and never ask anything about them (even though I reallllly want to). And nobody ever really gives me a chance to get over my anxiety with them, therefore I end up having no friends. Ugh I need help.
bulldog521521 It's kind of ironic that your profile picture is Mr. Noisy :P But yeah I'm exactly like this too. I want to talk to people but I feel like I don't have anything that interesting to say. And when I do talk I feel like they don't understand what I'm saying because I make no sense when I talk. Like I'm so awkward. I'm the queen of awkward silences, haha. Plus, my voice is pretty quiet so a lot of times I have to basically shout at people if I want to be heard, even in completely quiet settings. It's just, when someone's talking to me, it's like my entire brain turns off and I only know how to say simple phrases like "yeah" and "okay". Like I don't even remember my opinions anymore haha (although I'm very opinionated). I DO want open up though. What do we dooo?? :/
The bad communicator thing really made me feel bad because I'm really shy and my close friends know I talk a lot and that I'm funny but when it comes to new people I just can't. I get so scared and nervous and it's really a struggle.
Like he said in the video, take what he said lightly. I'm sure if he knew someone was depressed, he would understand their lack of passion but I think he's just referring to people who just don't have any energy or goals concerning their life :)
***** They are right. I understand that point like when you invite someone to walk to place or do something, and they are like "nah, I don't want to, later, not this time". They don't want to do anything!
that's like saying if someone has bad hygiene then it could just maybe be because they are sick so you shouldn't judge them. having a lack of ambition and depression are to completely different things.
Saying that you have to let people live their lives and then judging people because they're "simple" and don't have enough ambition is a bit hypocrite, I think. I know I obviously shouldn't look into this so much, but I'm critical and I don't like it when people who earn lots of money and can do soooo much stuff you normally wouldn't be able to do because you're in the entertainment industry, tell other people that they should be more complex. You can't expect everyone to be like all of the people you meet in your life. Because those people are the ones living in LA, living the dream, writing books about themselves because their life is apparantly that interesting, making movies. Not everyone has those possibilities. So living a simple life isn't a bad thing. This is just coming from someone living in a very small insignificant country.
Josie B I don't think he means complex in what you do but in who you are. I personally like people who have mystery about them and aren't easily figured out, basically when I get to know someone I want there to be more to them than what you got when you first met them. I like a person who has depth to their character, someone you can get personal with and share opinions, who will give you advice and insight, inspire you and help you grow and be a better person. You don't have to live an extraordinary life to achieve this!
Yeh I agree with most of these but the whole "be more complex and ambitious" thing isn't as easy as it seems- especially for young adults who most likely don't know what they want out of life but are trying to figure it out. The first one I didn't really agree with to an extent either- if someone is a bad communicator then don't count them out, especially if they are new to you and/or shy. Some people have social anxiety or just incredibly shy so its not like they are doing it on purpose, if you try talk to someone and they intentionally ignore you or give you a half-assed response THEN thats just being rude and should be categorised as such, not "bad communicators" :/
Samantha Gaviria i used to be (or still kind of am) the same, but try to work on it :) i'm very shy, but lately i've been trying to talk more :) i spoke to strangers and just told them to have a nice day or that i like their clothes or something nice, at first it will be very scary but after a while it will become fun because you'll make other people smile (and no one is going to hate you for being nice ;) ) and maybe make a bucket list :) you can find a lot of ideas online if you have no inspiration :) try to make everything as good as possible and believe in yourself :)
To all of you in the comments saying Connor hates you because you're shy, I promise that's not what he meant at all. He meant people who aren't communicators, aka people who are arrogant, rude, on their phones constantly, or just bad at communicating because they don't make an effort to try. I am very shy, and I know that definitely wasn't the point he was trying to get across. Connor loves you, he loves all of us. I agree he said it in a context that could have been taken very wrongly, but he didn't mean that e hates any of his fans who are shy or introverted or non ambitious. If you want to meet Connor, that's an ambition. If you want to go somewhere in life, that's ambition. I promise none of you are non ambitious like you say you are. So be happy about this video, not upset. It's connor, he's the sweetest guy and if he knew how much he offended you by saying things in the wrong way he would give you a huge hug and apologize. You are all great, lovely, unique, amazing people.
Also, by simple, he means people that aren't themselves. Everyone is unique, so if you don't pretend to fit into the world and not be yourself you don't fit this description. Be you and you will never be simple.
EVERYONE STOP BEING RUDE TO CONNOR. HE IS PERFECT AND AMAZING AND HE EVEN ADMITTED HE HAS THINGS HE NEEDS TO WORK ON AT THE END OF THE VIDEO. HE KNOWS HE ISNT PERFECT. STOP BEING FAKE FANS. IF YOU LOVE CONNOR YOU WONT CALL HIM A HYPOCRITE AND TELL HIM HES WRONG. ITS OK TO HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS BUT ITS NOT OK TO MAKE SOMEONE FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES FOR THEIR OPINONS. SO STOP. Sorry for the all caps and the three comments but everyone is just making me so upset. You are not a fan of Connor if you are being rude to him like just leave if you don't like the content.
MultiFandoms ™ OMG YES I LOVE THE 100!! I had to change my profile pic since I used this account to send resumes for work :( But I am so glad people in this comment section finally understand that Connor didn't mean to be offensive. People get offended so easily these days when there really is no reason to be.
My biggest turn off are people with high egos. I just can't deal with that. I want down to earth people that I can talk about anything with. It's all about being genuine & having passion ✌🏻️
I suffer from anxiety too and it can be very hard to be social.. Start with really close friends and family try having a normal conversation about yours or their day with someone, if they just answer "good" then ask them questions like what they did and branch off that. Then you will eventually develop skills and confidence to interact with others... it's funny because my best friend suffers from anxiety too and when we met we would say hi and sit together but that was it then after 4 months we found out we both suffer from anxiety so neither of us had the confidence to start a real conversation and keep it going. Some advice i got from someone I consider family and has stuck with me is to take a deep breath and don't let anxiety control you, you need to control it and you can, you're in charge of it. :)
About the conversation thing- it is something i'm looking for too, and I want to be good at it myself but it is so hard for me. I get stressed out when it's someone I don't really know and I run out of topics to talk about. Sometimes I even like forget words or things that I do want to say. Basically you said that it's a "turn off" and it is, even for me, but I am one like this and i'm trying to change that, but it is extremely hard for me.
mt i have the problem that i have like one or two big passionate topics i can rant about forever but as soon as they run out i have nothing. also im always scared i annoy the other person with staying on the same subject for too long
Same because I'm sooooo shy! Like everyone I talk to people my parents included my face gets so beat red and it gets more embarrassing because their like why is your face red I'm like ohh I'm just hot or its hot in here and I hate that because I want to be able to talk and enjoy conversation!
is it me only or does anyone else notice that the left side of Connor's upper lip quirks up a bit more than the other side..it's like he's doing a smirk, while talking..lol it's so cute
I am definetly 1, 2, and 7. Sorrrrrryyyy. 1- I'm a bad a communicator. Very bad. While I often try very, very hard to communicate well, I just find it very hard to. I just can't communicate. But, I do make in effort to communicate. I will always like talk, its not like I will ignore anyone but I am just nottt the greatest communicator. 2- while I am extremely passionate, I am not ambitious. I care about many things, but for whatever reason, not really myself or my future. I try not to think about the future because quite frankly, it scares me. I am quite optimistic about many things but ambitions aren't one of them for whatever reason. 7- I'm externally simple and bland, internally complex but inside and out Im not really a fun person. It depends. But, usually I enjoy very simple things to do and have quite simple interests, except for like music and books and shows (I will talk about those for hours) This goes hand in hand with one, without communication I won't exactly like expressing complex things. I am extremely complex but in a way I cannot get anyone to understand, ha ha. I'm on and off between simple and complex, but compared to others I'm boring. Oh well. This was therapeutic.
lol and looking back at everything I just said about myself i'm prob narcissistic, unintentionally. i was kinda just hoping someone else works the same way and just kind of show the opposing side to the discussion. oops. sorry connorrr
Aww babe i totally get you 😙💛 i think those 3 points and how you explained them completly fit me as well (and i don't know if that's a good thing or not? 😂)
People think I'm bland cause I don't like trying new foods. I'm to scared that's all. And the many times I was forced to eat something and didnt like it is the majority. 😰
"People who have nothing to say" People, do you even know the viscous cycle? It goes like his: I have nothing to talk about because I never do anything interesting I never get to do anything interesting because I have no friends to do it with I don't have any friends because I can't start conversations I can't start conversations because I have nothing to talk about.
I hate people who say things like "You ain't shit if you're not going anywhere" Like no. If I'm happy and content in my life, I'm not gonna push to be something else just to be something else.
1. *No sense of humour.* Pretty self-explanatory. 2. *When they think they're smarter than you.* This chick I know will not bother with anyone who gets lower marks then her, and gets competitive/jealous of those who are. No one likes her lol. 3. *People who get offended easily.* So pretty much the internet. But seriously, I can't stand people who overanalyse everything and get offended by anything. If I have to watch my wording to avoid using a word or expression that will offend you, you need to fix your self-esteem issues, because your ego is weak and you will be slaughtered in the real world. 4. *People who act nice to you even thought they don't like you.* (I mean dislike as a person, not 'like' as in a crush). If I don't like someone, I don't bother. If I know someone doesn't like me, it makes me cringe when they try to make conversation with me when no one else is there for them to talk to. I'd rather stand alone with this person and do my own thing, than engage in petty talk with someone who doesn't like me/I don't like.
Mandy T I'd say it depends. If this person doesn't like me and I know it, they can ask someone else for help lol. But if I'm the only one with a problem, then I may as well get over myself and give em a hand.
Diversity should be embraced, we should all love each other EQUALLY. Loving one another is the best thing you can do for yourself and others, thanks Connor for speaking out about these things.
Oh my god I'm a horrible conversationalist, but it's not my fault. I always want to talk to people about any of everything, but I just have really bad social anxiety and it keeps me from saying so much, doing so much, and being myself. I can talk through text for hours, but the minute you ask me to speak I get nervous and trip over my words, start to blush, get really quiet, and sometimes can't even talk. So yeah, me and conversations are not friends
I see what you're getting at but he's saying things that he personally doesn't find appealing about a person. Being judgmental implies thinking that a certain type of person is worse than another - he never said that. In the beginning of the video he says "Things that I've decided that I don't like if a person is like this - don't particularly enjoy it. [....] By now means am I a perfect person. I definitely am one to do some of these things sometimes. [...] Not really about it, just saying." So I definitely understand what you meant by your comment, but I think you just got it wrong! He was harmlessly expressing his opinion, not saying that these type of people are somehow worse than others :)
Mr. Franta I've been watching a bunch of your videos and you are becoming infinitely more likable and pleasant. Thank you for being thoughtful and kind.
Yes Connor! I would also add a #11 Turning Off: Ponys that do not Gallup nice. I mean seriousli Ponys, it is your only Job, to Gallup, so please do it nice! #RealsTalk
Can I just say that I think his videos are so creative and amazing and his book was great. I also just think that he's grown so much as an awesome youtube channel and person and I REALLY hope he reads this
So glad you're back to the themed videos! A little tip/ my opinion, ever since you became *SUPER SUCCESSFUL*, you've been really professional in your videos. You're still being silly, but I wish you'd just let completely loose and you didn't feel like you have to be so politically correct. I know that you're still sincere, it's just your videos are too clean and perfect lol. Saying this from the bottom of my heart, love you
I don't get how people don't cover their mouths! It's literally a reflex for me. Once I was literally about to slip and to stop myself I had to hold on to something but I felt a couch coming on and I chose to cover my mouth instead of holding on and as a result I fell lmao
Those people that you think are "simple" are more complex than you think ,so you should take the time to get to know people that are "simple." They just someone like you to open their mind to new things and find joy in life.
i love you connor but i slightly feel like you were belittling people who do things you don't like. i mean i do agree with most of the list but for example people that are simple, we don't know whats going through their heads, we don't know if they are sitting inside all day because of a disorder or no friends or they live in a tiny town with no adventurous things to do. i dunno maybe i seem whack and i'm not trying to be rude at all, i adore you but i feel like sometimes you've gotta put yourself in someone else shoes.
he means it all very light-heartedly and its not meant in that way, its just his personal opinion, but its not meant in the way a lot of people are taking it. I think he just simply means his personal view is that in people, he likes to hang out with a different type of person. Like, you probably have a friend who has a trait that makes you like to hang around them, but you don't necessarily hate people who don't have that trait. I'm definitely boring and its pretty hard for me to physically show complexity but I promise Connor doesn't intend it in the way you think
Nikki Oliphant I know, its just he doesn't have to censor himself everytime he expresses an opinion. I think it's clear that he means no harm and I understand your point actually because first seeing this video I was like "well, I mean, i am simple for a different reason" but this is a meaningless video in which he just babbles to the camera. And, all of us love when he does that, right? he isn't specifically directing anything to any person and he's not saying that people who carry these traits are instantly horrible people and if you're this way he'd never speak to you. No, its a little discussion about general things, and without that specification you're left to assume, but in reality this couldn't be more of a light hearted video and I would never say that this video is like belittling and I say all of this with the utmost respect to you and your point of view, its just I kinda disagree
I know he didn't mean it like this but it makes me worried that if I ever meet him he won't like me as I have issues getting my words out (stutter/lisp/anxiety therefore I can't fucking speak to people) and I often don't answer questions very well due to the panic of OMG it's Connor Franta and I know this is not how he meant it, it just worries me.
Don't ever think that! he seems like a genuinely nice person and I think he meant people in the sense that like to have a good time and such. but just because you have these communications issues doesnt make u any less fun or anything! the only opinion that should matter about urself is your own opinion about you 😄
+Aimee Padilla Haha thanks. And I know he didn't mean it like that and I like him and he seems like a really nice person I just don't know. It made me a bit more aware of these things.
+ThisIsNotMe I feel you. When the first thing he said was that he doesn't like people who have communication issues I was like "Boy you do NOT know the struggle." I appreciate a comfortable silence and random small talk is not my forte. Not that I hate random conversation, I just cannot carry it. But sadly, if one like myself cannot mesh with Connor, then so be it. Those who are more socially awkward find solace in each other.
The thing I like about Connor is that he can control a topic. Any video with his opinion in it he can control and not offend anyone. I respect him a lot :)
Okay so I am a BIG. FRIGGIN. KNOW-IT-ALL. I always feel the need to correct my friends or give unnecassary information about subjects I think I am really good at, while in reality, I'm kinda just average. I find this absolutely horrendous and if you guys have some tips on how to lessen this, would you mind sharing some? Thank youu (ALSO, I INTERRUPT PEOPLE. LIKE, EVERYTIME THEY SPEAK. HELP ME)
***** What might work is asking them questions about what they have just said, which is strategicly designed to ultimately lead them to realize that their previous statement was incorrect. It would require you to really know the subject, but it might work. I really do not know if there is a best way to do it. I am a bit of a know-it-all at times myself, but this is what I try to do.
***** I am one too and I hate it! But sometimes is just PAINFUL to see how bad some mistakes are, like: You know, she lives in Ecuador...I don't know how she can live in a line that's drew on the map, but ok. Like, can someone hand me a gun? To kill myself for hearing that and then shoot me again for correcting it? I just can't...and with orthography too! T.T
I love Connor and everything but I disagreed with a lot of what he said. People with self love shouldn't be ashamed that they understand how amazing they are. They should be able to appreciate their beauty without coming across as big headed or conceited. Also people with anxiety or similar conditions find it incredibly hard to talk to people before you get to know them and they might come across as "simple"
Growing up it always made me feel bad that people wouldn't like me because I don't talk much. I realize it's a bit boring and it makes being friends with me hard, but it's just the way I am. Even though I try to change it and improve, I'm probably always the one who listens more than speaks about personal matters, because that's the way I am. I don't tell people who talk a lot to shut up, because I understand that's the way they are. So yeah, it made me feel a bit bad I guess; not because it is you, but because I know you're not the only one who thinks like that Anyway I supose the intention of the video was good, you're just expressing yourself and that's alright, but extroverted people need (not all of them) to stop putting so much pressure on introverts and quiet people because they don't speak as much; it only makes them end up feeling bad and like they are not useful. I've heard people saying "she's too quiet" or "how boring is he" and it does not feel good. You said not to judge people but yet you really make a distintion on this topic. And I it is okay because this is YOUR video and all, and I really am a follower of you, I'm just trying to make you (or people who are reading this because I doubt you do) understand that it is not easy for everybody to have ambitions and to talk all the time, neither to stay positive. I know it's better for personal growth and all, but you can't expect everyone to be talkative, at least at first... This is just my opinion though. Sorry if I ofended anybody. Edit: And I can assure you that if an introvert is friends with you and is really willing to share their life with you and make boundaries, they will try to open up and talk more about their stuff, even though it's hard. At the beggining it may seem impossible, and some people are introverts because they have been through a bad experience not because they are like day since they were born, but with time and dedication (from both sides) they will open up.
Yes, I know exactly what you are saying. People always say comments about me like "why are always so quiet" or "can you please say something??" even when I got nothing to say to them. And it hurts me because I'm sensitive and people say they don't mean to hurt :(
I'm not a really quiet person and I can't fully understand and feel you but I understand where you are coming from. But I think having a quiet friend is actually very nice because my close group of friends consist of people who are outgoing and people who are very quiet. It is very easy to talk to my quiet friend knowing that she won't judge or respond because at times I just need someone to listen to me, even if she doesn't understand me, it's just nice that she is there for me.
One thing I try to live by is,"I don't care what any does with their bodies and life. As long as they aren't hurting themselves, others, and are not breaking the law. Do what you want. Your body and life are here for you not everyone else."
Ok I usually try to avoid leaving negative comments, but I Gotta be honest Connor, I feel like some of these are really judgmental. E.g bad communicators? Really? Some people are shy, some people have social anxiety, maybe they stutter, maybe they have an intellectual disability that prevents them from being able to communicate the same way others do. And all of that is ok. Also, 'simple' people? Idek what u mean by that but not everyone can be the life of the party all the time, once again it's ok to be shy and quiet, it doesn't make them boring or simple. Everyone is interesting, everyone has a unique and complex brain and hopes and desires and dreams. As long as they're not hurting anyone, they should be free to be themselves - regardless of how they communicate or whether or not you find them 'boring'. Frankly, if you don't like them, that's your problem - not theirs. They don't need to change a thing
Amanda Banks ya but how is it supposed to make people with anxiety and depression feel? Like he wouldn't like them because of something that isn't their fault
I literally agree 100% with you! I hate people with lack of ambition 'cause when I tell them my ambitions they look at me like "It's not going to happen!" or "You're crazy!"...
My biggest turn off: people who don't like narcissistic people. Yeah. I mean, you Connor love coffee and photography and talk about them all the time. P.S: Coffee and photography are not all that matters. Someone else loves mountains and hikes all the time. Another loves fishing and wants to drag you along all the time. But I love how I look, put much effort into looks and you give me a name? Narcissist? Well, no. It turns me off too. No labels.
Connor: I don't enjoy people that are that simple. Me: pauses video gets up off the floor goes downstairs and says come on guys lets go do something fun why don't we go build a flying amusement park in the backyard!
My biggest turn off is when I'm speaking to someone and the person isn't paying attention and not looking at me directly. *Grabs persons face* Look at me while I'm having a conversation, biatch! XD Connor's so adorable in this video btw
*6 Things That I Find Insensitive & Strange In This Video* 1. You *HATE* bad communicators. It sounded like you thought that bad communicators just choose to not put effort into conversing with you. This is a very insensitive generalization and is an insecurity that millions of people struggle with. Social anxiety is the most common mental disorder. 2. *Lack of ambition* is linked with apathy. It's also a mental disorder per say but we don't need to get into that. Your audience is predominantly teenagers. Teens don't have everything figured out yet and comparing their small (not already made up) goals to your expectations does not help. 3. Not being *CLEAN* totally makes sense. You say that *you don't like people* that aren't clean but rephrasing it with *you don't like it when people are not clean* is more appropriate. 4. *Narcissism is a personality disorder* and you should cut those people out of your life if you "love them" but you hate when they talk about themselves *a lot* 5. People that are *too* simple are linked with numbers 1 and 2 listed above. 6. People that are *"know-it-alls"* are linked to number 4 listed above. Yes, of course "there are ways to tell people that they are wrong nicely" but people who are deemed as "know-it-alls" have psychological issues and are insecure. I enjoy your videos. I just wasn't a fan of this one. I think that this was overall not the right message to send to your younger audience. I seriously wrote all of this because I'm strengthening my writing skills. But I was also passionate about this video.
CONNOR IF YOU ANSWER TO THIS COMMENT I'LL CRACK AN EGG ON MY HEAD AND SHOW YOU THE PROOF ON TWITTER. EDIT: Guys he did say that I could do it or not. I'm glad he answered but I can't. You know, parents. Ugh. ConnorFranta
*me on a date* (like that'll ever happen) me: my biggest inspiration is Connor Franta date: who's Connor Franta me: *throws breadsticks from purse at him*
That passion/ambition thing really made me feel bad about myself. Finding what you truly love in life doesn't just come so easy for everyone, especially if you don't have much exposure to all life has to offer and basically if you don't have all that motivation that someone like Connor has. Considering skills, resources and limited experiences, having a passion and going after that passion is easier said than done for most. And life isn't as easy as just up and deciding to move to LA or somewhere else at the ripe age of 18 for a lot of people I mean I wish but in the real world that only really works out for like a small fraction of people
Hao it's not your fault if you lack passion. Passion is a gift to people it isn't who you are. If you have depression or are sad or struggling in general it's hard to find motivation and passion. I believe someone will see you for more than that. Love is much more deeper than these lists someone will love you more than the world one day and I hope you love yourself too❤️
What's up everyone! This week I wanted to just talk about my top 10 biggest turn offs for people in general. I definitely am not perfect & am some of these things as times BUT I try my best not to be :) What's your biggest turn off and why?
If you agree with me & enjoy this video - click the like button & let's try to get 100k likes by tomorrow! Enjoy your week everyone x
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ConnorFranta Love you Connor :) You are a very big inspiration to me x
please keep in mind that some people have anxiety and its extremely hard to talk to people out of fear of being judged or coming off weird. we may come off as a boring or a shy person but its probably because were not comfortable with you or feel intimidated. its really hard for me to make a conversation, and that's something im really insecure about.
True
Very true
Same 😓 it sucks!
Same here :/
Very very true that's how I am
"I just think everyone needs to calm down and be nice to people."
Never heard anything more true than that!
so true, people can be so mean to each other especially online
***** it's so easy, come on people
Very basic.
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*sirens*
Connor: There's siren, I hope everyone is okay
Dan: Can you please get murdered on another road, I'm trying to FILM
HE'S SO CUTE
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Connor: *hears sirens * Oh I hope everyone is okay
Dan: *hears sirens * can you please go get killed somewhere else ?
Phil: *hears sirens* another baby is born
Lol your comment just made my day 😂❤️
Electra heart True True
You just made me laugh so hard my mom yelled at me to shut up😂😂
😂so true
That literally went through my head right when the sirens came 😂😂😂😂
My lack of ability to have a good conversation is really what repels people from me. I have horrible social anxiety, so every time someone tries to talk to me, I freak out and end up giving stupid and/or completely uninteresting responses and never ask anything about them (even though I reallllly want to). And nobody ever really gives me a chance to get over my anxiety with them, therefore I end up having no friends. Ugh I need help.
bulldog521521 It's kind of ironic that your profile picture is Mr. Noisy :P
But yeah I'm exactly like this too. I want to talk to people but I feel like I don't have anything that interesting to say. And when I do talk I feel like they don't understand what I'm saying because I make no sense when I talk. Like I'm so awkward. I'm the queen of awkward silences, haha. Plus, my voice is pretty quiet so a lot of times I have to basically shout at people if I want to be heard, even in completely quiet settings. It's just, when someone's talking to me, it's like my entire brain turns off and I only know how to say simple phrases like "yeah" and "okay". Like I don't even remember my opinions anymore haha (although I'm very opinionated). I DO want open up though. What do we dooo?? :/
"Everyone needs to calm down and be nice to people" *PREACH*
When he said "be nice to people", i inmediately thought of Josh Evans😂 Was it just me?
^^^^
Yadira Gaibor Nope! I was also thinking that!! I thought Connor got "be nice to people from Josh! XD
Kathryn Moran thank goodness! Hahaha
I said the same thing when he said that! 😁🙌🏽
The bad communicator thing really made me feel bad because I'm really shy and my close friends know I talk a lot and that I'm funny but when it comes to new people I just can't. I get so scared and nervous and it's really a struggle.
My face turns really red when I talk to people I don't know well! I'm so shy, I wish I wasn't.
Don't let a UA-camr affect your happiness.
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+lilangelique99 agree i sometimes stutter when i talk so thats one reason I'm shy. so i agree with chu (:
same here
No.2 could be depression. When you're depressed it's hard to be so ambitious and passionate. I don't think you should judge someone based on that.
You do know connor has had much experience with depression?
Like he said in the video, take what he said lightly. I'm sure if he knew someone was depressed, he would understand their lack of passion but I think he's just referring to people who just don't have any energy or goals concerning their life :)
***** They are right. I understand that point like when you invite someone to walk to place or do something, and they are like "nah, I don't want to, later, not this time". They don't want to do anything!
that's like saying if someone has bad hygiene then it could just maybe be because they are sick so you shouldn't judge them. having a lack of ambition and depression are to completely different things.
Thanks for posting that!
I felt kinda bad when he said that 😣
Saying that you have to let people live their lives and then judging people because they're "simple" and don't have enough ambition is a bit hypocrite, I think. I know I obviously shouldn't look into this so much, but I'm critical and I don't like it when people who earn lots of money and can do soooo much stuff you normally wouldn't be able to do because you're in the entertainment industry, tell other people that they should be more complex. You can't expect everyone to be like all of the people you meet in your life. Because those people are the ones living in LA, living the dream, writing books about themselves because their life is apparantly that interesting, making movies. Not everyone has those possibilities. So living a simple life isn't a bad thing. This is just coming from someone living in a very small insignificant country.
Though I want to add: I agree with most of these. If people stopped being mean and making rude comments all the time, the world would be better off.
Preach
Josie B I don't think he means complex in what you do but in who you are. I personally like people who have mystery about them and aren't easily figured out, basically when I get to know someone I want there to be more to them than what you got when you first met them. I like a person who has depth to their character, someone you can get personal with and share opinions, who will give you advice and insight, inspire you and help you grow and be a better person. You don't have to live an extraordinary life to achieve this!
Yeh I agree with most of these but the whole "be more complex and ambitious" thing isn't as easy as it seems- especially for young adults who most likely don't know what they want out of life but are trying to figure it out. The first one I didn't really agree with to an extent either- if someone is a bad communicator then don't count them out, especially if they are new to you and/or shy. Some people have social anxiety or just incredibly shy so its not like they are doing it on purpose, if you try talk to someone and they intentionally ignore you or give you a half-assed response THEN thats just being rude and should be categorised as such, not "bad communicators" :/
Totally agree! He said that he doesn't like people that don't do much or simple, then he said that he hates when people judge :/
im lazy, shy, have bad socializing skills, don't really have set-goals or ambitions in life. yeah you definitely wouldn't like me lol.
same 😩😂
same :/
Same^
Samantha Gaviria same
Samantha Gaviria i used to be (or still kind of am) the same, but try to work on it :) i'm very shy, but lately i've been trying to talk more :) i spoke to strangers and just told them to have a nice day or that i like their clothes or something nice, at first it will be very scary but after a while it will become fun because you'll make other people smile (and no one is going to hate you for being nice ;) ) and maybe make a bucket list :) you can find a lot of ideas online if you have no inspiration :) try to make everything as good as possible and believe in yourself :)
To all of you in the comments saying Connor hates you because you're shy, I promise that's not what he meant at all. He meant people who aren't communicators, aka people who are arrogant, rude, on their phones constantly, or just bad at communicating because they don't make an effort to try. I am very shy, and I know that definitely wasn't the point he was trying to get across. Connor loves you, he loves all of us. I agree he said it in a context that could have been taken very wrongly, but he didn't mean that e hates any of his fans who are shy or introverted or non ambitious. If you want to meet Connor, that's an ambition. If you want to go somewhere in life, that's ambition. I promise none of you are non ambitious like you say you are. So be happy about this video, not upset. It's connor, he's the sweetest guy and if he knew how much he offended you by saying things in the wrong way he would give you a huge hug and apologize. You are all great, lovely, unique, amazing people.
Also, by simple, he means people that aren't themselves. Everyone is unique, so if you don't pretend to fit into the world and not be yourself you don't fit this description. Be you and you will never be simple.
EVERYONE STOP BEING RUDE TO CONNOR. HE IS PERFECT AND AMAZING AND HE EVEN ADMITTED HE HAS THINGS HE NEEDS TO WORK ON AT THE END OF THE VIDEO. HE KNOWS HE ISNT PERFECT. STOP BEING FAKE FANS. IF YOU LOVE CONNOR YOU WONT CALL HIM A HYPOCRITE AND TELL HIM HES WRONG. ITS OK TO HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS BUT ITS NOT OK TO MAKE SOMEONE FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES FOR THEIR OPINONS. SO STOP. Sorry for the all caps and the three comments but everyone is just making me so upset. You are not a fan of Connor if you are being rude to him like just leave if you don't like the content.
THE 100 AND I AGREE WITH YOU!
see someone understands me
MultiFandoms ™ OMG YES I LOVE THE 100!! I had to change my profile pic since I used this account to send resumes for work :( But I am so glad people in this comment section finally understand that Connor didn't mean to be offensive. People get offended so easily these days when there really is no reason to be.
My biggest turn off are people with high egos. I just can't deal with that.
I want down to earth people that I can talk about anything with. It's all about being genuine & having passion ✌🏻️
I SHIP MOE AND CONNOR. We can call you guys Monnor!
You guys need to collab like asap
*Connor is so freaking adorable omg*
Anna Bradshaw :)
Yea
With severe anxiety...kinda hard to do number 1.
Yeah same
I suffer from anxiety too and it can be very hard to be social.. Start with really close friends and family try having a normal conversation about yours or their day with someone, if they just answer "good" then ask them questions like what they did and branch off that. Then you will eventually develop skills and confidence to interact with others... it's funny because my best friend suffers from anxiety too and when we met we would say hi and sit together but that was it then after 4 months we found out we both suffer from anxiety so neither of us had the confidence to start a real conversation and keep it going. Some advice i got from someone I consider family and has stuck with me is to take a deep breath and don't let anxiety control you, you need to control it and you can, you're in charge of it. :)
Same :( we're all in this together :D
On what a relief I thought i was the only one
Same here :/
"I'm a living art piece" YUP TRUE EXACTLY FINALLY YOU GET IT
EXACTLY
Amy Stella OMG HE IS SO AESTHETIC!!!
About the conversation thing- it is something i'm looking for too, and I want to be good at it myself but it is so hard for me. I get stressed out when it's someone I don't really know and I run out of topics to talk about. Sometimes I even like forget words or things that I do want to say. Basically you said that it's a "turn off" and it is, even for me, but I am one like this and i'm trying to change that, but it is extremely hard for me.
mt i have the problem that i have like one or two big passionate topics i can rant about forever but as soon as they run out i have nothing. also im always scared i annoy the other person with staying on the same subject for too long
Same
it's hard for me too. ever since I've spent more time on my phone I feel like I can't carry a conversation
Same with me, and it sucks :(
Same because I'm sooooo shy! Like everyone I talk to people my parents included my face gets so beat red and it gets more embarrassing because their like why is your face red I'm like ohh I'm just hot or its hot in here and I hate that because I want to be able to talk and enjoy conversation!
YESS PREACH CONNOR! i dont like it when people are so mean and rude to others. We need to spread positivity and negativity :)
I agree!
And negativity? I'm guessing you meant to put not negativity😂
Infinite Stars LOL yeah i meant to put that oops
Seth Joseph Agreed!!!!! :-)
Turn off: LOUD EATERS!
Who else agrees?
YAS! It's disgusting!
***** Omg my dad too
It's Katie that's my #1 pet peeve eww
YAS!
My mom thinks I'm like mental that it bothers me BUT CLEARLY IM NOT THE ONLY ONE thank you for justifying my sanity 😂
a lot of these are hard to do if you have crippling depression
Mixed Munchies me irl
"Be nice to people"- Joshua David Evans XD (where are all of my dingleberries??)
Am here
Me!!!!
Yass
Me!!! I just looked through the comments to see if anyone else thought josh 😂
yasss
I hate it when I don't feel included or just plain ignored. It's the worst.
That means Connor won't like me because I get sassy😧 BUT ITS ONLY WHEN PEOPLE ARE RUDE TO ME. I stand up for myself.
It's ok to be sassy or stand up for yourself when people deserve it. But not literally everytime.
Henry Ballester yeah I know that, sometimes I just ignore or walk away from the person
Well that makes sense cuz when people be mean to me or my friends and family it like playing with fire the get burned
Biggest Turn Off: A lightswitch
Haha 😆
Really
😂😂
Get back to jacksfilms
Lena Hurtubise lol
Yes, yes, YES to everything in this video PREACH CONNOR PREACH
Basking In The Ambiance GURL YOU ARE EVERYWHERE!
Where have I seen you before??
Amy Kennedy On every amazing youtubers video.
sTartDongErs2K15 true.
is it me only or does anyone else notice that the left side of Connor's upper lip quirks up a bit more than the other side..it's like he's doing a smirk, while talking..lol it's so cute
Yes! I know it's adorable uwu
phan girl ikr!! lol
I noticed it too!!!! It's so cute!! ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏼😍
I noticed as well lol
I am definetly 1, 2, and 7. Sorrrrrryyyy.
1- I'm a bad a communicator. Very bad. While I often try very, very hard to communicate well, I just find it very hard to. I just can't communicate. But, I do make in effort to communicate. I will always like talk, its not like I will ignore anyone but I am just nottt the greatest communicator.
2- while I am extremely passionate, I am not ambitious. I care about many things, but for whatever reason, not really myself or my future. I try not to think about the future because quite frankly, it scares me. I am quite optimistic about many things but ambitions aren't one of them for whatever reason.
7- I'm externally simple and bland, internally complex but inside and out Im not really a fun person. It depends. But, usually I enjoy very simple things to do and have quite simple interests, except for like music and books and shows (I will talk about those for hours) This goes hand in hand with one, without communication I won't exactly like expressing complex things. I am extremely complex but in a way I cannot get anyone to understand, ha ha. I'm on and off between simple and complex, but compared to others I'm boring. Oh well.
This was therapeutic.
lol and looking back at everything I just said about myself i'm prob narcissistic, unintentionally. i was kinda just hoping someone else works the same way and just kind of show the opposing side to the discussion. oops. sorry connorrr
Aww babe i totally get you 😙💛
i think those 3 points and how you explained them completly fit me as well (and i don't know if that's a good thing or not? 😂)
I'm exactly the same with one and two
Yes me too
People think I'm bland cause I don't like trying new foods. I'm to scared that's all. And the many times I was forced to eat something and didnt like it is the majority. 😰
"People who have nothing to say"
People, do you even know the viscous cycle?
It goes like his:
I have nothing to talk about because I never do anything interesting
I never get to do anything interesting because I have no friends to do it with
I don't have any friends because I can't start conversations
I can't start conversations because I have nothing to talk about.
You don't need friends to do interesting things..
+Sollux Captor oh shit i almost never misspell things like that D:
this is exactly me.
That's me
Same
I hate people who say things like "You ain't shit if you're not going anywhere" Like no. If I'm happy and content in my life, I'm not gonna push to be something else just to be something else.
Connor seems so freaking happy now 😭💓
I know! I am so so happy for him!
Kanita R Everyone would be happy if they were in a relationship with Troye Sivan.
music95 I SHREIKED
music95 omfg literally what o wad thinking
Yes!!❤️❤️❤️ he does seem a lot happier
People chewing with their mouths open when eating. Like that's not cute close your damn mouth. 😐
Exactly!
Yes! And also people who clean their teeth with their tongue after they eat and make a ton of irritating noises with it.
"Hemmings Hood Irwin-Clifford"😂 same
Especially when your on a date!
Manda Hemmings Hood Irwin- Clifford LMAO WHEN U CANT PICK UR FAV "hemmings hood irwin-clifford"
Disclaimer: No trees were harmed during the making of this video.
1. *No sense of humour.*
Pretty self-explanatory.
2. *When they think they're smarter than you.*
This chick I know will not bother with anyone who gets lower marks then her, and gets competitive/jealous of those who are. No one likes her lol.
3. *People who get offended easily.*
So pretty much the internet. But seriously, I can't stand people who overanalyse everything and get offended by anything. If I have to watch my wording to avoid using a word or expression that will offend you, you need to fix your self-esteem issues, because your ego is weak and you will be slaughtered in the real world.
4. *People who act nice to you even thought they don't like you.* (I mean dislike as a person, not 'like' as in a crush).
If I don't like someone, I don't bother. If I know someone doesn't like me, it makes me cringe when they try to make conversation with me when no one else is there for them to talk to. I'd rather stand alone with this person and do my own thing, than engage in petty talk with someone who doesn't like me/I don't like.
Lol this turned more into 'things I don't like' instead of 'turn offs' haha
Stephanie Smith but if someone i dislike come up to me and asks for help, i would still help them oops
Mandy T I'd say it depends. If this person doesn't like me and I know it, they can ask someone else for help lol. But if I'm the only one with a problem, then I may as well get over myself and give em a hand.
Stephanie Smith I'm offended by your list!
Sorry, had to do it. :D
I agree with this
LOVING your hair lately!
Jordan Doww ship name Condan opps sounds like condom
^ew LOL
Cuz looks like yours Jordan Doww XD
Same
RIGHT SO HAWT haha
Diversity should be embraced, we should all love each other EQUALLY. Loving one another is the best thing you can do for yourself and others, thanks Connor for speaking out about these things.
Oh my god I'm a horrible conversationalist, but it's not my fault. I always want to talk to people about any of everything, but I just have really bad social anxiety and it keeps me from saying so much, doing so much, and being myself. I can talk through text for hours, but the minute you ask me to speak I get nervous and trip over my words, start to blush, get really quiet, and sometimes can't even talk. So yeah, me and conversations are not friends
Sarah Morgan probably one of the most relatable things I’ve ever read. Thank you for putting this into words.
Connor will be a future leader!
Who votes for Connor in the Future!
In The Presidential Election in the Future!
Videosbi no, please dont. stop this.
YESSSSSS GO FRANTA
king franta turning into president franta? that sounds cool af
ConnorFranta OMG IM LAUGHING SO HARD RN IDK WHY
YAS FRANTA FOR PRESIDENT
Connor while hearing sirens: "I hope everyone is okay"
Dan while hearing sirens: "Please get murdered in another street"
Do you mean Dean?
Jet De weert Haha, I had the exact same thought when he said that! Dan was like "Guess the crime" ;)
I literally thought the exact same thing. 😂😂
Caitlin England omg this made me laugh so much 😂😂
Jet De weert When he said that my mind immediately went to Dan!
"Be nice to people" Connor says while hitting the camera with a branch, that's not nice Connor, cameras have feelings too
"I don't like people that are judgemental!"
*doesn't like people that don't do much or don't say much without knowing the reason*
Your point?
Celia Soto
in one sentence? He is judgemental.
I see what you're getting at but he's saying things that he personally doesn't find appealing about a person. Being judgmental implies thinking that a certain type of person is worse than another - he never said that. In the beginning of the video he says "Things that I've decided that I don't like if a person is like this - don't particularly enjoy it. [....] By now means am I a perfect person. I definitely am one to do some of these things sometimes. [...] Not really about it, just saying." So I definitely understand what you meant by your comment, but I think you just got it wrong! He was harmlessly expressing his opinion, not saying that these type of people are somehow worse than others :)
i hate the fact that i actually am some of connors turn off KDHFKLDSJFDKLAS
my chances of dating connor are slowly drifting away. and the fact that I'm from england. and considering I'm a minor. (dammit)
dude your life sucks 😂😂 just kidding
George Braithwaite At least you are a guy!
SpongeBob_ BiggestFan ACTUALLY THAT IS TRUE I HAVE HOPE THEN LOL
lmao I'm like all of them eXCEpT the hygiene one
the background music sounds like the sims music when you're building a house
I love your videos and your user and your profile pic and everything!!!1
Holy crap I thought I was going crazy.I couldn't remember where I knew this music
Dan made me listen to the sims all the time hELP
dil.
*backs into shadows*
Connor: there's sirens! I hope everyone's ok!
Dan: can you please get murdered on a different street? I'm trying to film!
OMG Hahahah
So true
Phil:*something along the lines of 'a baby is born'*
Same
Did you copy this I saw this on tumblr like 3 hours ago
Mr. Franta I've been watching a bunch of your videos and you are becoming infinitely more likable and pleasant. Thank you for being thoughtful and kind.
Yes Connor! I would also add a #11 Turning Off: Ponys that do not Gallup nice. I mean seriousli Ponys, it is your only Job, to Gallup, so please do it nice! #RealsTalk
I know right? So annoying.. :/
I was wondering why it wasn't on his list tbh
F you ponies
Flula hahaha yas. I was riding earlier and the horse I lease (Chyna :D) wouldn't trot in a rhythmmmm it was so annoying :(
Wtf
your hair seems different than normal. can't really tell what it is though.
I think it's shorter on the sides
Nadja Walch that might be it! cheers dear :)
Yeahnick Fromfield your hair doe
T
Faiz Toefy I'll take it as a compliment :p
My biggest turn off of *ALL TIME* is:
Not being Connor Franta
JamesWronaVlogs lmao same
Yuzzzzzzzz
I feel
Bahahaha trueeee!!!
JamesWronaVlogs I can relate to this :p
"You don't need to talk about yourself all the time."
- Connor Franta, vlogger
Videos outside are the best ones!
Can I just say that I think his videos are so creative and amazing and his book was great. I also just think that he's grown so much as an awesome youtube channel and person and I REALLY hope he reads this
DOES ANYONE FEEL LIKE CONNOR WOULD HATE THEM?
sfgrgfsf212 haha stop i wouldn't - like i said, i do these things from time to time too. we all do! i just try my best not to, you know? :)
Ya, I'm hella lazy, messy, too shy to communicate properly, and don't really have any ambitions right now. So, you're not alone, don't worry about it.
Yea, I have never ending flaws 😕
Yeah, exactly the same..
I understand his reasoning but I am a lot of those things
We need more people like you in this world.
Breanna Billups Agreed!
Breanna Billups the world would be a better place
and of course one of the first turn offs was a perfect example of my social anxiety ::cries in a corner::
So glad you're back to the themed videos!
A little tip/ my opinion, ever since you became
*SUPER SUCCESSFUL*, you've been really professional in your videos.
You're still being silly, but I wish you'd just let completely loose
and you didn't feel like you have to be so politically correct.
I know that you're still sincere, it's just your videos are too clean and perfect lol.
Saying this from the bottom of my heart, love you
Lack of ambition YESSSS agreed with so many of these!
Hannah Renée ME TOO!
I HATE people with no ambition!!
Sameee!! P.s love you hannnn💖
Alexandra Rainbow Do you not think it's a little judgmental saying that?
Lots of succesful people didn't know what they wanted to do until a late/middle age
People who cough without covering their mouths :/ I want to slap them
I don't get how people don't cover their mouths! It's literally a reflex for me. Once I was literally about to slip and to stop myself I had to hold on to something but I felt a couch coming on and I chose to cover my mouth instead of holding on and as a result I fell lmao
*cough
thats a pet peeve tho
Those people that you think are "simple" are more complex than you think ,so you should take the time to get to know people that are "simple." They just someone like you to open their mind to new things and find joy in life.
Connor: Be nice to people.
Me: Hello JoshuaDTV reference
THANK YOU! I was looking for a comment saying this!
Haha someone had to say it 😂
I was about to comment that😂
Lol
I just commented that without seeing that you commented this
I'm lazy
I stutter
Don't hate me Connor.
I was literally thinking that throughout the entire video
i love you connor but i slightly feel like you were belittling people who do things you don't like. i mean i do agree with most of the list but for example people that are simple, we don't know whats going through their heads, we don't know if they are sitting inside all day because of a disorder or no friends or they live in a tiny town with no adventurous things to do. i dunno maybe i seem whack and i'm not trying to be rude at all, i adore you but i feel like sometimes you've gotta put yourself in someone else shoes.
he means it all very light-heartedly and its not meant in that way, its just his personal opinion, but its not meant in the way a lot of people are taking it. I think he just simply means his personal view is that in people, he likes to hang out with a different type of person. Like, you probably have a friend who has a trait that makes you like to hang around them, but you don't necessarily hate people who don't have that trait. I'm definitely boring and its pretty hard for me to physically show complexity but I promise Connor doesn't intend it in the way you think
I know i completely understand, i feel the same way you too but im saying i guess the way it was worded some people might see it like that you know?
Nikki Oliphant I know, its just he doesn't have to censor himself everytime he expresses an opinion. I think it's clear that he means no harm and I understand your point actually because first seeing this video I was like "well, I mean, i am simple for a different reason" but this is a meaningless video in which he just babbles to the camera. And, all of us love when he does that, right? he isn't specifically directing anything to any person and he's not saying that people who carry these traits are instantly horrible people and if you're this way he'd never speak to you. No, its a little discussion about general things, and without that specification you're left to assume, but in reality this couldn't be more of a light hearted video and I would never say that this video is like belittling and I say all of this with the utmost respect to you and your point of view, its just I kinda disagree
He actually said on snapchat that I do all these things sometimes and I still like you guys I think it went that way
Preach 🙌🏼
I know he didn't mean it like this but it makes me worried that if I ever meet him he won't like me as I have issues getting my words out (stutter/lisp/anxiety therefore I can't fucking speak to people) and I often don't answer questions very well due to the panic of OMG it's Connor Franta and I know this is not how he meant it, it just worries me.
Don't ever think that! he seems like a genuinely nice person and I think he meant people in the sense that like to have a good time and such. but just because you have these communications issues doesnt make u any less fun or anything! the only opinion that should matter about urself is your own opinion about you 😄
+Aimee Padilla Haha thanks. And I know he didn't mean it like that and I like him and he seems like a really nice person I just don't know. It made me a bit more aware of these things.
+ThisIsNotMe I feel you. When the first thing he said was that he doesn't like people who have communication issues I was like "Boy you do NOT know the struggle." I appreciate a comfortable silence and random small talk is not my forte. Not that I hate random conversation, I just cannot carry it. But sadly, if one like myself cannot mesh with Connor, then so be it. Those who are more socially awkward find solace in each other.
kayzaac Yeah! We don't need him. We have each other to awkwardly sit next to.
+kayzaac he seto take this video lightheartedly. don't take it seriously.
YESSSS agreed with so many of these! 😂😂😂
Benjamin Bigger
HAHA I KNOW!! 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Benjamin Bigger omg yes! connor you just know me so well!
I feel like Connor wouldn't really like me too too much... xD
Same
The thing I like about Connor is that he can control a topic. Any video with his opinion in it he can control and not offend anyone. I respect him a lot :)
It turns me off when people say "Literally" to be emphatic. It turns me off when people say literally too much and think they sound articulate.
Troye: *aggressively takes notes*
Okay so I am a BIG. FRIGGIN. KNOW-IT-ALL. I always feel the need to correct my friends or give unnecassary information about subjects I think I am really good at, while in reality, I'm kinda just average. I find this absolutely horrendous and if you guys have some tips on how to lessen this, would you mind sharing some? Thank youu
(ALSO, I INTERRUPT PEOPLE. LIKE, EVERYTIME THEY SPEAK. HELP ME)
Just don't say anything. It's hard at first, but after you ignore something for the first time ever, it feels so empowering.
***** make sure it's duct tape ;)
Just try to listen, and keep comments until a good point in the conversation 😊 and if u can c the other person wants to talk let em talk
***** What might work is asking them questions about what they have just said, which is strategicly designed to ultimately lead them to realize that their previous statement was incorrect. It would require you to really know the subject, but it might work.
I really do not know if there is a best way to do it. I am a bit of a know-it-all at times myself, but this is what I try to do.
***** I am one too and I hate it! But sometimes is just PAINFUL to see how bad some mistakes are, like: You know, she lives in Ecuador...I don't know how she can live in a line that's drew on the map, but ok. Like, can someone hand me a gun? To kill myself for hearing that and then shoot me again for correcting it? I just can't...and with orthography too! T.T
I love Connor and everything but I disagreed with a lot of what he said. People with self love shouldn't be ashamed that they understand how amazing they are. They should be able to appreciate their beauty without coming across as big headed or conceited. Also people with anxiety or similar conditions find it incredibly hard to talk to people before you get to know them and they might come across as "simple"
Totally agree. Great advice. Be ambitious. I have a ton of things I want to achieve too. Time is totally a limiting factor.
Growing up it always made me feel bad that people wouldn't like me because I don't talk much. I realize it's a bit boring and it makes being friends with me hard, but it's just the way I am. Even though I try to change it and improve, I'm probably always the one who listens more than speaks about personal matters, because that's the way I am. I don't tell people who talk a lot to shut up, because I understand that's the way they are. So yeah, it made me feel a bit bad I guess; not because it is you, but because I know you're not the only one who thinks like that Anyway I supose the intention of the video was good, you're just expressing yourself and that's alright, but extroverted people need (not all of them) to stop putting so much pressure on introverts and quiet people because they don't speak as much; it only makes them end up feeling bad and like they are not useful. I've heard people saying "she's too quiet" or "how boring is he" and it does not feel good. You said not to judge people but yet you really make a distintion on this topic. And I it is okay because this is YOUR video and all, and I really am a follower of you, I'm just trying to make you (or people who are reading this because I doubt you do) understand that it is not easy for everybody to have ambitions and to talk all the time, neither to stay positive. I know it's better for personal growth and all, but you can't expect everyone to be talkative, at least at first... This is just my opinion though. Sorry if I ofended anybody.
Edit: And I can assure you that if an introvert is friends with you and is really willing to share their life with you and make boundaries, they will try to open up and talk more about their stuff, even though it's hard. At the beggining it may seem impossible, and some people are introverts because they have been through a bad experience not because they are like day since they were born, but with time and dedication (from both sides) they will open up.
Yes, I know exactly what you are saying. People always say comments about me like "why are always so quiet" or "can you please say something??" even when I got nothing to say to them. And it hurts me because I'm sensitive and people say they don't mean to hurt :(
Same😳
I'm very Shy...🙈
Same here😔
Nali Rivera yes yes thank you so much for this
I'm not a really quiet person and I can't fully understand and feel you but I understand where you are coming from. But I think having a quiet friend is actually very nice because my close group of friends consist of people who are outgoing and people who are very quiet. It is very easy to talk to my quiet friend knowing that she won't judge or respond because at times I just need someone to listen to me, even if she doesn't understand me, it's just nice that she is there for me.
One thing I try to live by is,"I don't care what any does with their bodies and life. As long as they aren't hurting themselves, others, and are not breaking the law. Do what you want. Your body and life are here for you not everyone else."
Ok I usually try to avoid leaving negative comments, but I Gotta be honest Connor, I feel like some of these are really judgmental. E.g bad communicators? Really? Some people are shy, some people have social anxiety, maybe they stutter, maybe they have an intellectual disability that prevents them from being able to communicate the same way others do. And all of that is ok. Also, 'simple' people? Idek what u mean by that but not everyone can be the life of the party all the time, once again it's ok to be shy and quiet, it doesn't make them boring or simple. Everyone is interesting, everyone has a unique and complex brain and hopes and desires and dreams. As long as they're not hurting anyone, they should be free to be themselves - regardless of how they communicate or whether or not you find them 'boring'. Frankly, if you don't like them, that's your problem - not theirs. They don't need to change a thing
Wow, can't believe he just insinuated that I'm not a prefect person, I'm honestly disgusted
how is connor so damn perfect i hate him he makes me feel inadequate just kidding i love him i don't know how to feel hey connor
Same
I wish Connor was my best friend
Who doesn't?
I wish Connor was my bestfriend, he and I could be bestfriends.💛💙 I act way too much like him, its almost horrible. 👑😂
He wasn't talking about people with depression or anxiety. There are grey areas in life people calm down. Also... I wish he was my best friend
Amanda Banks ya but how is it supposed to make people with anxiety and depression feel? Like he wouldn't like them because of something that isn't their fault
"Don't be judgmental" - as you give us a list of a lot of, mostly insignificant, things that are gonna make you dislike people.
We really need to be friends :)
Marky! My two faves :)
Esha Cindy aw :)
Hey Mark! Fancy seeing you here 😝
I hate when people respond to their own comment to get the top comment
mina maria :)
im crying omg 😂😭
😂😂😂👌
😂😂👏👏
mina maria X3 what if it's you and some other person is that okay?
I'm the worse when it comes to cleaning 😂 like I hate when people mess up my rug and it don't even be that serious 😭😂
A turn off for me is when people judge you by what you look like before they even meet you
No one cares but today's my birthday.
Happy birthday! I hope you have a great day!💗
happy birthday! ^-^
Happy birthday!!
Happy birthday!🎉🎉
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
I literally agree 100% with you! I hate people with lack of ambition 'cause when I tell them my ambitions they look at me like "It's not going to happen!" or "You're crazy!"...
I STOPPED READING FANFICTION TO WATCH THIS I THINK THAT PROVES HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU
Shelby Murtha LOL
But the real question is what fanfiction it was
oH MY GOD YOU REPLIED IM NOT OKAY (I PROMISE) OH MY GOD IM SO I CANT I JUST
ME TOO AND GUESS WHAT IT WAS ABOUT CONNOR
Yep. He'd hate me. I'm extremely intellectually arrogant. I'm really lazy. I'm too complex. I have ambition. However, I lack motivation.
Biggest turn off: someone smell like a fish
Connor's book is fucking amazing! I finished it in like, four hours!!
Amarah Gonzales lol.
Henry Evan haha what? it was good
Amarah Gonzales i dont know. i cant judge cause i did not read it yet :)
Henry Evan it was amazing! best book ever read! lol
Can't relate to any of them more enough!! My thoughts remind me of one of your slightly older videos "relatable"
Omg this comment is so relatable luke!
OMG throwback haha
LukeVlogs I loved that one!!
if everyone thought like connor, the world would be such an amazing place :)
What I got from this video:
-Connor Grants hates me
-Everyone hates me
-Lowered self esteem
Who else is ready for him to post his Top 10 biggest turns ons
Connor is a good example of a UA-camr than you can just listen to for hours on end and never get bored.
My biggest turn off: people who don't like narcissistic people. Yeah. I mean, you Connor love coffee and photography and talk about them all the time. P.S: Coffee and photography are not all that matters. Someone else loves mountains and hikes all the time. Another loves fishing and wants to drag you along all the time. But I love how I look, put much effort into looks and you give me a name? Narcissist? Well, no. It turns me off too. No labels.
Frank Acheampong Gh there's a difference between wanting to look good and being narcissistic. It's not good to be too full of yourself.
KnightRaymund It's not good to be too full of anything else, not just looks. People have different obsessions, and that's ok.
KnightRaymund agree
Mrs Brightside i love other people all right ;)
2:03 oh my god that is the cutest thing ever
no more like 2:05
Connor: I don't enjoy people that are that simple.
Me: pauses video gets up off the floor goes downstairs and says come on guys lets go do something fun why don't we go build a flying amusement park in the backyard!
My biggest turn off is when I'm speaking to someone and the person isn't paying attention and not looking at me directly. *Grabs persons face*
Look at me while I'm having a conversation, biatch! XD
Connor's so adorable in this video btw
😂😂 i slap them if they dont listen 😭😂😭😂
*6 Things That I Find Insensitive & Strange In This Video*
1. You *HATE* bad communicators. It sounded like you thought that bad communicators just choose to not put effort into conversing with you. This is a very insensitive generalization and is an insecurity that millions of people struggle with. Social anxiety is the most common mental disorder.
2. *Lack of ambition* is linked with apathy. It's also a mental disorder per say but we don't need to get into that. Your audience is predominantly teenagers. Teens don't have everything figured out yet and comparing their small (not already made up) goals to your expectations does not help.
3. Not being *CLEAN* totally makes sense. You say that *you don't like people* that aren't clean but rephrasing it with *you don't like it when people are not clean* is more appropriate.
4. *Narcissism is a personality disorder* and you should cut those people out of your life if you "love them" but you hate when they talk about themselves *a lot*
5. People that are *too* simple are linked with numbers 1 and 2 listed above.
6. People that are *"know-it-alls"* are linked to number 4 listed above. Yes, of course "there are ways to tell people that they are wrong nicely" but people who are deemed as "know-it-alls" have psychological issues and are insecure.
I enjoy your videos. I just wasn't a fan of this one. I think that this was overall not the right message to send to your younger audience. I seriously wrote all of this because I'm strengthening my writing skills. But I was also passionate about this video.
"The fact that we are all unique and different is incredibly beautiful and we need to appreciate that more often". -Conner.
Love this 💕
CONNOR IF YOU ANSWER TO THIS COMMENT I'LL CRACK AN EGG ON MY HEAD AND SHOW YOU THE PROOF ON TWITTER. EDIT: Guys he did say that I could do it or not. I'm glad he answered but I can't. You know, parents. Ugh. ConnorFranta
I wish Connor would see this
Daria Nastasia ConnorFranta oh pleaseee i want to see that
I Will see that
Daria Nastasia hi. egg plz.
ConnorFranta or don't haha - whatever works lol
i admire your smile wrinkles
*me on a date* (like that'll ever happen)
me: my biggest inspiration is Connor Franta
date: who's Connor Franta
me: *throws breadsticks from purse at him*
Exactly.
That passion/ambition thing really made me feel bad about myself. Finding what you truly love in life doesn't just come so easy for everyone, especially if you don't have much exposure to all life has to offer and basically if you don't have all that motivation that someone like Connor has. Considering skills, resources and limited experiences, having a passion and going after that passion is easier said than done for most. And life isn't as easy as just up and deciding to move to LA or somewhere else at the ripe age of 18 for a lot of people I mean I wish but in the real world that only really works out for like a small fraction of people
Hao it's not your fault if you lack passion. Passion is a gift to people it isn't who you are. If you have depression or are sad or struggling in general it's hard to find motivation and passion. I believe someone will see you for more than that. Love is much more deeper than these lists someone will love you more than the world one day and I hope you love yourself too❤️