I'm writing this with tears down my cheeks, thank you so much Tabitha:´) I´m not able to thank you enough for how much you have helped me and I'm sure others too. Everything comes back in life, so be prepared for a beautiful life full of positive things!
I'm so glad she answered your question! A dream job that costs you your health isn't really a dream job - get fully recovered and that will open the door to your dream life. You will always look your best when you are fully healthy and recovered. Any agency who disagrees is not right for you!
Hi Matthew, I'm re-watching this video and just want to ask how you're doing. Judging by your question, you are smart and insightful and I so very much hope you are doing well and kicking some ED-ass!
I was on an edu which was attached to a bpd unit and after Ed treatment lots of people transferred to the bpd unit and I know for sure everyone still had to be weighed weekly. Whether they had a history of Ed or not and again people encouraged to be a 'healthy weight' not over or under a bmi of around 20 and still had controlled portion sizes. Craaaazy!! Talk about keeping people in their Ed or even interfering with the people who had no previous Ed and creating an 'issue' that wasn't there before 🤔🤷🤦
Is that the answer? To give oneself the permission to do what is needed to be done to get better. How does one rewire the pathways, may a video be made to discuss/reiterate this topic area in more details? Thank you
Matthew PLEASE prioritise recovery. Modelling will keep you trapped in your eating disorder and keep you at a surpressed body weight. Modelling is maybe your dream now but you won't fulfil your potential whilst your ill. Xxx
I'm really thinking about it, and I´ve realized that wanting to model can be one of the most ED driven things in my life, I mean, wanting to be appreciated just because my physical beauty? Anyway, thank you so much for caring, I really appreciate your comment!!
What do I do if my therapist and mum are telling me not to respond to extreme and mental hunger but I really want to??? I’m only 13 and my mum is controlling what I eat so I can’t eat more than she gives me. I’m so hungry it makes me cry everyday. I’ve begged my therapist to let me respond to extreme hunger and she still said no :( they don’t want me to gain weight too fast. I’m eating between 2400-2800 calories a day but burning 300-500 off.
Can you ask your mum to see another therapist ? At least once, to have a different point of view on your situation ? And, with your current therapist, have you ever talked about Tabitha Farrar's videos ? Just to explain to them why you think you should eat more when you feel hungry ? Maybe your problem is just communication : show them why you think what you think and don't be afraid to do so, even if adults sometimes seem impressive and more knowledgeable than you : stand for yourself in a calm and constructive way, communicate with them
Claire D. I’m from the UK and go to cahms, I can’t get another therapist. My mum knows I watch Tabitha and I talk to her about what she says but it’s still the same :/
I’m assuming you’re doing the maudsley method? If so that’s tough but maybe you could ask why they’re afraid of you gaining too fast, is it because of the risk of refeeding syndrome for example? I was with camhs years ago and it was absolutely sh*t but there are some good therapists and some bad ones, just like with everything. On another note, congratulations on acknowledging and wanting to act on your increased appetite, that’s really great, regardless of whether or not you’re able to fully realise it at the moment.
yes, cahms does maudsley, which is stupid tbh when the child doesn’t want to get better. Luckily after years of shit I do, but before it was pretty shit
I'm writing this with tears down my cheeks, thank you so much Tabitha:´) I´m not able to thank you enough for how much you have helped me and I'm sure others too. Everything comes back in life, so be prepared for a beautiful life full of positive things!
I'm so glad she answered your question! A dream job that costs you your health isn't really a dream job - get fully recovered and that will open the door to your dream life. You will always look your best when you are fully healthy and recovered. Any agency who disagrees is not right for you!
Hi Matthew, I'm re-watching this video and just want to ask how you're doing. Judging by your question, you are smart and insightful and I so very much hope you are doing well and kicking some ED-ass!
Thank you so much for you videos... My go to for good real advice
I was on an edu which was attached to a bpd unit and after Ed treatment lots of people transferred to the bpd unit and I know for sure everyone still had to be weighed weekly. Whether they had a history of Ed or not and again people encouraged to be a 'healthy weight' not over or under a bmi of around 20 and still had controlled portion sizes. Craaaazy!! Talk about keeping people in their Ed or even interfering with the people who had no previous Ed and creating an 'issue' that wasn't there before 🤔🤷🤦
Tabitha, you are funny... You're right... Its fucking rediculous. Thank you for making me laugh about it... Xx
Is that the answer? To give oneself the permission to do what is needed to be done to get better. How does one rewire the pathways, may a video be made to discuss/reiterate this topic area in more details? Thank you
Matthew PLEASE prioritise recovery. Modelling will keep you trapped in your eating disorder and keep you at a surpressed body weight. Modelling is maybe your dream now but you won't fulfil your potential whilst your ill. Xxx
I'm really thinking about it, and I´ve realized that wanting to model can be one of the most ED driven things in my life, I mean, wanting to be appreciated just because my physical beauty? Anyway, thank you so much for caring, I really appreciate your comment!!
What do I do if my therapist and mum are telling me not to respond to extreme and mental hunger but I really want to??? I’m only 13 and my mum is controlling what I eat so I can’t eat more than she gives me. I’m so hungry it makes me cry everyday. I’ve begged my therapist to let me respond to extreme hunger and she still said no :( they don’t want me to gain weight too fast. I’m eating between 2400-2800 calories a day but burning 300-500 off.
Can you ask your mum to see another therapist ? At least once, to have a different point of view on your situation ?
And, with your current therapist, have you ever talked about Tabitha Farrar's videos ? Just to explain to them why you think you should eat more when you feel hungry ?
Maybe your problem is just communication : show them why you think what you think and don't be afraid to do so, even if adults sometimes seem impressive and more knowledgeable than you : stand for yourself in a calm and constructive way, communicate with them
Claire D. I’m from the UK and go to cahms, I can’t get another therapist. My mum knows I watch Tabitha and I talk to her about what she says but it’s still the same :/
I’m assuming you’re doing the maudsley method? If so that’s tough but maybe you could ask why they’re afraid of you gaining too fast, is it because of the risk of refeeding syndrome for example? I was with camhs years ago and it was absolutely sh*t but there are some good therapists and some bad ones, just like with everything. On another note, congratulations on acknowledging and wanting to act on your increased appetite, that’s really great, regardless of whether or not you’re able to fully realise it at the moment.
yes, cahms does maudsley, which is stupid tbh when the child doesn’t want to get better. Luckily after years of shit I do, but before it was pretty shit