I really respect you doing this video, my son is now 3.5 and has a severe speech delay. My health visitor was useless, I had to sort referrals out myself when he was 2.5. My son has a lot of sensory issues, and with both things put together we thought it could be autism. It isn't he went to a panel in febuary. Your doing all the right things and honestly your a fantastic mom. It's normal to want a brake, and sometimes I think we do lose ourselves, we just become mom. You will feel a lot better when she is in nursery and look forward to picking her up hearing about her day. Nursery will really help her with speech and I bet she will love it. Phoebe is such a lovely little girl and a credit to you. I know the group's can be daunting I'm not really a fan either, it's just taking that step to getting in there once you arrive and the more times you go you will be fine. Xx
Thankyou lovely. Sorry to hear you had such a bad time with yours, such a shame :( Thanks so much, once we take that initial step with nursery I think it will be alot better :) Hope you have a nice weekend! xxx
Didn’t want to watch and run, but just wanted to say your so positive and brave. Don’t listen to what people say, listen to health professionals. So many people think they know everything she’s got this that the next thing, pheobe is gorgeous and your doing an amazing job. Xxx
I've always loved how raw and honest you are, it's like you're speaking my mind! I'm glad you're open about struggling with P cos I feel bad for thinking this sometimes and I really shouldn't if it's the truth. I'm now a single mum so Eloise gets the funding and it's amazing how much she's changed! P will come so far once she starts, especially her speech. As someone who suffers crippling anxiety too, I get what you mean about the groups. I forced myself when she was a baby cos I knew if I didn't break the habit of not going early, I never will. I feel like this is the reason she's so confident and she got 100% for communication in her check this week. I honestly understand how hard it is but maybe try going with Neil and you'll be so proud of yourself! Xx
I really do just turn on the camera and waffle away, probably over share a bit too much, but don't have anyone else to talk too haha! Well done for pushing yourself an going to groups, I really wish I did with P, maybe with the next one?! Haha. Thankyou lovely, hope your having a nice weekend!
Just watched till the end, am glad you are getting answers and referrals don’t stop till you get the answers you need. I have 3 under 3 10 months between them and I feel you, it’s so hard daddy gets all the fun times when he’s in from work and am just moaning and stressing constant and can’t wait for bedtime, some days and good others are not. It does get better my two oldest are now on Nursery 15 hours a week and it’s taken some weight of my shoulders. Sending you a huge hug xxx
+Laura-louise Paton I will keep being persistent, will be a long wait, roughly 2 months to see someone at the hospital 😑 yep it's sooo hard, bed time is never long enough 😂 thankyou 💛💛 xxx
Well done for saying you need time apart! That’s so normal I work part time at the min and this makes me enjoy our girls days so much more, nursery will be great for her and you so good your thinking about that but yeah the cost of it is terrible, I hope you make it to the Salt session and your not to anxious xxxx
+Rachael KP thankyou! It's horrible to say it because it makes you feel like you can't cope as a parent (I can't 😂) but it's rare to actually hear/see it online! xxx
Jess this is exactly why I'm subscribed to your channel. You're doing so well as a mum. It's tough being a mum especially without family. I hope all gets sorted out soon for P. Xx
I love how honest you are . It makes you very relatable . My health visitor also gave me the dame advice about not asking questions but saying statements and thats what speech language will also tell you if you have to go down that road . Its great you have got things in place . Hope the doctors goes ok on saturday ( today ) xx
Thankyou lovely! Its a hard habit to get out of, asking questions, but we are getting there! In this past week she's learnt to say juice & shoes, all be it very similar, but I understand her! xxx
Don't feel bad for needing some time apart. My son has gone to preschool from 9-1 a few mornings a week since he was two. It's good for him and me, he gets to play with his friends whilst I get to do my chores and do what I want. It makes me appreciate him more when he comes home. Hope you get your answers about P x
Thats exactly what I need, I'm so anxious about it all, & I'm worried for P. But I'm sure once we're in a new routine it will be better than ever - I hope! xxx
Well done for talking about it and try not to worry about any of it, easier said than done I know. I’m glad you feel happier about the situation now and you had a nice heath visitor. And you never look rough 😊 x
Hey hunni, good on u & keep fighting to get answers for your gorgeous wee girlie. Totally understand where u are coming from when u say u need a break as i am with my boys 24/7 all the time & we live in a village around a hour away from family & friends & i don't drive & without much of public transport so its bloody hard as much as i love them to death. My 2nd son Harrison has had speech delay his now 4 and goes to S&L appointments as well as pre-school & his come on amazing so she'll get there hun. Wishing u all all the best xx
Hello! It is sooo hard isn't it. Especially with this awful weather, makes me feel SO claustrophobic! Aww thankyou, hoping we will get something out of this initial drop in but we shall see! xxx
Such a relatable video. I have a 2 and 3 year old and my 3 year old had speech delays and nursery and being around other kids really helped. I also went to a playgroup for 2 days a week. Your doing a fab job just keep doing what your doing amazing parenting xxx
Coming from a mother who’s both children have had speech delays putting them in nursery was they one think that I believe helped a lot. I’m glad you have have a good Heath visitor relationship because she will be a god send to helping you out xx
Just wanted to say I have been following you for a while and love how honest and real your videos are. I always worry if I am doing enough as a mum, I always doubt myself and I struggle too and I work part time. Am always thinking am I doing it right, and I doing enough etc etc. It's what a lot of us mum's do but you do feel like the only one who feels like that! Thank you for being so honest 😊x
Awww thanks so much, your not the only one that thinks that trust me, although I have the same thoughts daily! Of course, always honest! Keep going lovely! xxx
Thank you for making this video. I’ve got my little girl’s health visit next week. I’ve felt stressed about what they’ll ask, and I feel like I don’t pay enough attention to what she’s doing or not doing. I also can totally relate to needing my girl to go to nursery. I hope everything comes back ok with Phoebe xxx
For god sake please stop apologising for your appearance 😂🙈 you are bloody gorgeous and none of us care if you have any make up on or not 😊 Have you got anyone that you could take along with you to a stay and play group (bounce and rhyme or whatever is in your area)? It's alot better going with someone you know rather than going in on your own. I really hope my health visitor is this lovely at my little mans 2 year check up. He's nearly 22 months so probably got a little while yet xxx
+Mrs Smith x hahaha, I can't help it, the majority of vloggers l watch are always dolled up 🙈 I hadn't thought about that, I might see if I can get someone to come along with me! P is 2.5 years, so we got it on the later scale 😘 xxx
Phoebe & Me your alot more relatable (for me anyway) than those vloggers because you don't get dolled up just to go to the shops or to sit around the house lol. Not that there's anything wrong with making an effort obviously lol. I just hate to see you put yourself down! Xx
And definately give it a go if u can find someone to go with. It really does make a difference. Toddler groups are bloody scary lmao but walking in to one with a friend makes it so much easier and less awkward. You won't stand out either if your with a friend as aposed to standing there on your tod lol xx
I'm glad you're talking about some of the issues because as mothers there's a lot to take in about our kids and I feel like being more open and connecting to other mothers makes it easier. Also I wish they would do our well visits in the states the way they do yours I hate going to the doctors every few months and then once a year. My daughter absolutely hates people and I think she would do so much better if she was home then just screaming at a doctor's office because they are people talking to her lol
Also my daughter is whole clothes out for a little bit. You know I'm not going into in-depth description but it's sealed itself shut , most likely from getting irritated from a wet diaper that just closed up. And I was so freaked out and I'm actually did open I was giving medicine but I decided not to use it
+Betty Fangs I'm like an open book 🙈 probably share too much haha! I do think the American system is a lot better than ours, grass is always greener 😋 xxx
It does sounds like you had a fantastic health visitor :) I have qualified in Speech and Language Therapy and she has given all the right advice which is quite rare! Please please don't worry about the drop in appointment. You will most likely be given the same advice and reassurance. It will be a nice, calm environment with lots of toys for P to play with! They might demonstrate some examples a bit more, like when your health visitor talked about asking questions. It is really hard to stop asking questions in day to day life so don't be kick yourself for doing it but do set aside some time for it. Just take 5 minutes of your day with P and think about it as giving a running commentary. You don't need to do anything special! "Ooh, I'm just putting these bananas in the trolley", "Mummy is drinking coffee" etc. Do some repeating of some of the words P might have a bit of difficulty with, i.e "yes, you do have a biscuit" and as the Health visitor said try not to highlight her 'errors' as P won't really be noticing them herself at her age. It can feel a bit daft to do, especially at first. A really small amount of time with less expectation to talk does make it really easy for a child to give more of their to attention hearing words and language. It draws them to looking at the mouth and how it needs to move to make the right sounds that make up the word as well as all the meanings the word might have. An SLT may also think about hearing too and if any temporary ear problems (regular infections, glue ear etc) or hearing loss could have an impact to speech and language, so they might ask you a question about that. It is really common for an SLT to refer to an audiologist for a hearing test and in most cases all is normal but is key to rule out. A delay in speech and language is incredibly common and can resolve very quickly on its own - which is why they often watch and wait. Any advice that is given is only to make tiny tweaks that may help speed up language in the instance of being a little delayed and not because you are doing something wrong! From a Mummy point of view - I completely agree. I have a 20 month old son and enjoy working with children so thought I would always LOVE the idea of being a stay at home mum. I am still waiting to find my first SLT job since going back to finish my degree last year. Being a stay a stay at home Mum is, hands down, the hardest thing I have ever done. I find its a bit of a cycle I can get out of. When you feel so unlike yourself, lost and unable to cope at times as a Mum that you dont have the confidence to apply for a job or do something new. Thank you so much for being so open and honest about it in your video - I have those same feelings, word for word! Wow, sorry for the long comment. Hope some of it is useful. Ashleigh xx
Thankyou for all of your advice etc, much appreciated! I will film my experience going to the group & see how I get on with it all! Really appreciate you taking time out of your day to write such a lovely message, thankyou!
I always say it but you are hands down my favourite “mum” UA-camr as you’re so honest and relatable. Glad you had such a positive meet up with your health visitor. It’s so good they came to your house, I had to go to a group type session and was told off for still giving my girl a bottle of milk in the evening 🙄 was told she would end up having teeth extracted! Your lady sounded much nicer! So glad you’re getting somewhere with answers for your little P xxx
+Sarah Henderson so nice of you to say so! 😘💗 OMG that sounds absolutely horrific, I would have hated that! And they wonder why they have such a bad stigma around them! 😫 xxx
This is such a fab and honest video! So many vloggers will only talk about how they're exceeding in all areas, far too advanced in all areas blah blah and it's not real life! My son is 18m and only says 5 words so far, he's just not interested in talking so got some great pointers to work with him! Also if you're thinking of nursery anyways, could you not look for one or two days work a week and put phoebe in nursery then? I'm leaving work soon as got made redundant and although I can't wait to spend time with my son I know I'm going to miss that adult time where I am just me x
When I go to the speech group I'll let you know of any tips I have for you, hopefully it will help a bit. I am actually going to be working weekends soon, so won't be working in the week, but I'll chat about that in another vlog :) Sorry to hear about redundancy, such an awful thing to go through, hope you enjoy your time with him though!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve had similar concerns regarding speech for my two who have just turned two. We have our two year review soon and I’m really anxious about it x
I think it's hard when it's your first and you have no friends with baby's! She will come along don't worry.my son couldn't speak much at 3 and then one day it all just clicked!nursery helps heaps x
I have friends with children, but I was the one to do it first, so I experience it all & they have no understanding what its like etc, it is really hard! Alot of people are saying it just clicks, so waiting for that click ahha! xxx
I found this so interesting lovely! I wish I had done a video for Thea’s! Seems like ages ago now 😂 Thea starts nursery next month because I work 20 hours she gets 20 hours free (instead of the 30 hours because we are keeping her in all year round - no school holidays) I feel like she really needs it too but I’m so nervous! I’m just putting her in the days I work though haha xx
+Kayleigh - My Thea Grace I'm so nervous too! Just contacting the nurserys give me anxiety haha! Still got to look around them and then decide where to send her! If I end up working in the week il defo send her one day when I'm not so I can catch up with stuff 😂😂 xxx
hey, i work in a nursery and theres a little girl in my nursery who 'stimulates' against the floor and as soon as we notice her doing it we just distract her with an activity or something to play with and over time she has stopped doing it! xxx
+aimee louisex omg really?! You have no idea how nice it is to hear of another experience! Is it common do you find?! I'd never heard of it before & find it sooo bizarre! xxx
My friends little girl used to do the same thing and would giggle the entire time. We distracted her and ignored it for as much as possible and it naturally stopped xx
+Rachel hurley P doesn't giggle, she just zoned out, which is why I think the doc wants to rule out epilepsy just incase! I hope she does just grow out of it though! Thanks for the comments girls 😘 xxx
How about seeing if your friend with the younger baby who you went to the caravan with wld go to Bounce and Rhyme with you because I think that is suitable for all ages, even babies who can not even walk but can just push up and down on Mummy's knee can go. Her speech is slow but another vloggers little boy was not saying any words at all at P's age, but I think he is 3 next month and over the last couple of months he has come on amazingly and is not far off forming sentences. So you never know what the next few months cld bring. Please don't take offence by this but a lot of Mums are guilty of asking a ? and then in the same breath answering it for example we might say "What's the matter, would you like a snack, yes, come on then let's go and choose something" so even though they understand everything you are saying they do not have to try to respond because you are doing it for them. Plus remember there is no right or wrong age for them to do things, they all do it in their own time.
I think it will just suddenly develop, over the past week she is coming on so well, so just seeing how we go! I do always wait for P to answer the questions I ask her, I see her brain working & she figures out the answer she wants to give! :) xxx
Pleased you've got a referral now for the things you're concerned about-I'm sure she'll be fine 😘 you've done so well to be a full time mum for 2.5 years there's no shame in saying you can't do it anymore. Isabella has been at nursery/pre school for 2 days since I went back to work November 2016 but I've just had to increase my days to 3 because I couldn't cope with her for so many days in a row 🤣 but she loves it there anyway. She incessantly whines at home but they say she's so happy at nursery-probably because it's free flow play and she can be outside all day or doing messy play all day if she wants to but it's not like that at home 😬 think P will really enjoy nursery-I just contacted my local ones and arranged an appointment to look around. I can't wait for the free hours when they turn 3 🙌🏻 we'll still top up as she goes to breakfast club and out of school club but it'll be so much cheaper xx
+Charlotte M I honestly don't know how I keep doing it haha! It's good she enjoys it, I'm dreading the whole process, but I know she needs it, & I do too! Will defo make me appreciate the time I have with her more! Going to start approaching some soon, ahh! 🙈😭 xxx
I really respect you doing this video, my son is now 3.5 and has a severe speech delay. My health visitor was useless, I had to sort referrals out myself when he was 2.5. My son has a lot of sensory issues, and with both things put together we thought it could be autism. It isn't he went to a panel in febuary. Your doing all the right things and honestly your a fantastic mom. It's normal to want a brake, and sometimes I think we do lose ourselves, we just become mom. You will feel a lot better when she is in nursery and look forward to picking her up hearing about her day. Nursery will really help her with speech and I bet she will love it. Phoebe is such a lovely little girl and a credit to you. I know the group's can be daunting I'm not really a fan either, it's just taking that step to getting in there once you arrive and the more times you go you will be fine. Xx
Thankyou lovely. Sorry to hear you had such a bad time with yours, such a shame :( Thanks so much, once we take that initial step with nursery I think it will be alot better :) Hope you have a nice weekend! xxx
Didn’t want to watch and run, but just wanted to say your so positive and brave. Don’t listen to what people say, listen to health professionals. So many people think they know everything she’s got this that the next thing, pheobe is gorgeous and your doing an amazing job. Xxx
+Laura-louise Paton 😘😘 you are so lovely, thankyou! 💜 xxx
I've always loved how raw and honest you are, it's like you're speaking my mind! I'm glad you're open about struggling with P cos I feel bad for thinking this sometimes and I really shouldn't if it's the truth. I'm now a single mum so Eloise gets the funding and it's amazing how much she's changed! P will come so far once she starts, especially her speech. As someone who suffers crippling anxiety too, I get what you mean about the groups. I forced myself when she was a baby cos I knew if I didn't break the habit of not going early, I never will. I feel like this is the reason she's so confident and she got 100% for communication in her check this week. I honestly understand how hard it is but maybe try going with Neil and you'll be so proud of yourself! Xx
I really do just turn on the camera and waffle away, probably over share a bit too much, but don't have anyone else to talk too haha! Well done for pushing yourself an going to groups, I really wish I did with P, maybe with the next one?! Haha. Thankyou lovely, hope your having a nice weekend!
Just watched till the end, am glad you are getting answers and referrals don’t stop till you get the answers you need. I have 3 under 3 10 months between them and I feel you, it’s so hard daddy gets all the fun times when he’s in from work and am just moaning and stressing constant and can’t wait for bedtime, some days and good others are not. It does get better my two oldest are now on Nursery 15 hours a week and it’s taken some weight of my shoulders. Sending you a huge hug xxx
+Laura-louise Paton I will keep being persistent, will be a long wait, roughly 2 months to see someone at the hospital 😑 yep it's sooo hard, bed time is never long enough 😂 thankyou 💛💛 xxx
Well done for saying you need time apart! That’s so normal I work part time at the min and this makes me enjoy our girls days so much more, nursery will be great for her and you so good your thinking about that but yeah the cost of it is terrible, I hope you make it to the Salt session and your not to anxious xxxx
+Rachael KP thankyou! It's horrible to say it because it makes you feel like you can't cope as a parent (I can't 😂) but it's rare to actually hear/see it online! xxx
Phoebe & Me well after watching your vlogs your doing great but all need a night off from time to time! Xxx
Jess this is exactly why I'm subscribed to your channel. You're doing so well as a mum. It's tough being a mum especially without family. I hope all gets sorted out soon for P. Xx
+Ordained Hypocrite thanks so much for the support 💛💗 xxx
I love how honest you are . It makes you very relatable . My health visitor also gave me the dame advice about not asking questions but saying statements and thats what speech language will also tell you if you have to go down that road . Its great you have got things in place . Hope the doctors goes ok on saturday ( today ) xx
Thankyou lovely! Its a hard habit to get out of, asking questions, but we are getting there! In this past week she's learnt to say juice & shoes, all be it very similar, but I understand her! xxx
Don't feel bad for needing some time apart. My son has gone to preschool from 9-1 a few mornings a week since he was two. It's good for him and me, he gets to play with his friends whilst I get to do my chores and do what I want. It makes me appreciate him more when he comes home. Hope you get your answers about P x
Thats exactly what I need, I'm so anxious about it all, & I'm worried for P. But I'm sure once we're in a new routine it will be better than ever - I hope! xxx
Well done for talking about it and try not to worry about any of it, easier said than done I know. I’m glad you feel
happier about the situation now and you had a nice heath visitor. And you never look rough 😊 x
+Kirsty Wootton aww thankyou! 💛 it's going to be a long wait to see someone at the hosp, but I'm glad we're going ahead with it! xxx
Hey hunni, good on u & keep fighting to get answers for your gorgeous wee girlie. Totally understand where u are coming from when u say u need a break as i am with my boys 24/7 all the time & we live in a village around a hour away from family & friends & i don't drive & without much of public transport so its bloody hard as much as i love them to death. My 2nd son Harrison has had speech delay his now 4 and goes to S&L appointments as well as pre-school & his come on amazing so she'll get there hun. Wishing u all all the best xx
Hello! It is sooo hard isn't it. Especially with this awful weather, makes me feel SO claustrophobic! Aww thankyou, hoping we will get something out of this initial drop in but we shall see! xxx
Such a relatable video. I have a 2 and 3 year old and my 3 year old had speech delays and nursery and being around other kids really helped. I also went to a playgroup for 2 days a week. Your doing a fab job just keep doing what your doing amazing parenting xxx
Thankyou
Coming from a mother who’s both children have had speech delays putting them in nursery was they one think that I believe helped a lot. I’m glad you have have a good Heath visitor relationship because she will be a god send to helping you out xx
+alison tarr I defo think it will help, cutting out her dummy has improved it as well which is crazy, considering she didn't have it much! xxx
Just wanted to say I have been following you for a while and love how honest and real your videos are. I always worry if I am doing enough as a mum, I always doubt myself and I struggle too and I work part time. Am always thinking am I doing it right, and I doing enough etc etc. It's what a lot of us mum's do but you do feel like the only one who feels like that! Thank you for being so honest 😊x
Awww thanks so much, your not the only one that thinks that trust me, although I have the same thoughts daily! Of course, always honest! Keep going lovely! xxx
Did you teach your daughter to use sign language?
You are doing such an amazing job! Phoebe is so adorable and it’s great your on the right path with the referrals :) xx
+Amy Whish-wilson aww thanks so much 😘💗 xxx
Thank you for making this video. I’ve got my little girl’s health visit next week. I’ve felt stressed about what they’ll ask, and I feel like I don’t pay enough attention to what she’s doing or not doing. I also can totally relate to needing my girl to go to nursery. I hope everything comes back ok with Phoebe xxx
+Victoria Lilian Dickinson ohh don't stress, I completely understand what you mean, I'm the same! Someone says something & I'm like, really?! 😂 thankyou! Hope your visit goes well 💗 xxx
For god sake please stop apologising for your appearance 😂🙈 you are bloody gorgeous and none of us care if you have any make up on or not 😊
Have you got anyone that you could take along with you to a stay and play group (bounce and rhyme or whatever is in your area)? It's alot better going with someone you know rather than going in on your own. I really hope my health visitor is this lovely at my little mans 2 year check up. He's nearly 22 months so probably got a little while yet xxx
+Mrs Smith x hahaha, I can't help it, the majority of vloggers l watch are always dolled up 🙈 I hadn't thought about that, I might see if I can get someone to come along with me! P is 2.5 years, so we got it on the later scale 😘 xxx
Phoebe & Me your alot more relatable (for me anyway) than those vloggers because you don't get dolled up just to go to the shops or to sit around the house lol. Not that there's anything wrong with making an effort obviously lol. I just hate to see you put yourself down! Xx
And definately give it a go if u can find someone to go with. It really does make a difference. Toddler groups are bloody scary lmao but walking in to one with a friend makes it so much easier and less awkward. You won't stand out either if your with a friend as aposed to standing there on your tod lol xx
And breathe! You're a great mum Jess x
+Caitlin Howes thankyou lovely, don't feel it at times 😂😘 xxx
I'm glad you're talking about some of the issues because as mothers there's a lot to take in about our kids and I feel like being more open and connecting to other mothers makes it easier. Also I wish they would do our well visits in the states the way they do yours I hate going to the doctors every few months and then once a year. My daughter absolutely hates people and I think she would do so much better if she was home then just screaming at a doctor's office because they are people talking to her lol
Also my daughter is whole clothes out for a little bit. You know I'm not going into in-depth description but it's sealed itself shut , most likely from getting irritated from a wet diaper that just closed up. And I was so freaked out and I'm actually did open I was giving medicine but I decided not to use it
+Betty Fangs I'm like an open book 🙈 probably share too much haha! I do think the American system is a lot better than ours, grass is always greener 😋 xxx
+Betty Fangs oooh interesting! Maybe that might be the case for P?! Hope so! xxx
It does sounds like you had a fantastic health visitor :) I have qualified in Speech and Language Therapy and she has given all the right advice which is quite rare!
Please please don't worry about the drop in appointment. You will most likely be given the same advice and reassurance. It will be a nice, calm environment with lots of toys for P to play with! They might demonstrate some examples a bit more, like when your health visitor talked about asking questions. It is really hard to stop asking questions in day to day life so don't be kick yourself for doing it but do set aside some time for it. Just take 5 minutes of your day with P and think about it as giving a running commentary. You don't need to do anything special! "Ooh, I'm just putting these bananas in the trolley", "Mummy is drinking coffee" etc. Do some repeating of some of the words P might have a bit of difficulty with, i.e "yes, you do have a biscuit" and as the Health visitor said try not to highlight her 'errors' as P won't really be noticing them herself at her age. It can feel a bit daft to do, especially at first. A really small amount of time with less expectation to talk does make it really easy for a child to give more of their to attention hearing words and language. It draws them to looking at the mouth and how it needs to move to make the right sounds that make up the word as well as all the meanings the word might have.
An SLT may also think about hearing too and if any temporary ear problems (regular infections, glue ear etc) or hearing loss could have an impact to speech and language, so they might ask you a question about that. It is really common for an SLT to refer to an audiologist for a hearing test and in most cases all is normal but is key to rule out.
A delay in speech and language is incredibly common and can resolve very quickly on its own - which is why they often watch and wait. Any advice that is given is only to make tiny tweaks that may help speed up language in the instance of being a little delayed and not because you are doing something wrong!
From a Mummy point of view - I completely agree. I have a 20 month old son and enjoy working with children so thought I would always LOVE the idea of being a stay at home mum. I am still waiting to find my first SLT job since going back to finish my degree last year. Being a stay a stay at home Mum is, hands down, the hardest thing I have ever done. I find its a bit of a cycle I can get out of. When you feel so unlike yourself, lost and unable to cope at times as a Mum that you dont have the confidence to apply for a job or do something new. Thank you so much for being so open and honest about it in your video - I have those same feelings, word for word!
Wow, sorry for the long comment. Hope some of it is useful. Ashleigh xx
Thankyou for all of your advice etc, much appreciated! I will film my experience going to the group & see how I get on with it all! Really appreciate you taking time out of your day to write such a lovely message, thankyou!
I always say it but you are hands down my favourite “mum” UA-camr as you’re so honest and relatable. Glad you had such a positive meet up with your health visitor. It’s so good they came to your house, I had to go to a group type session and was told off for still giving my girl a bottle of milk in the evening 🙄 was told she would end up having teeth extracted! Your lady sounded much nicer! So glad you’re getting somewhere with answers for your little P xxx
+Sarah Henderson so nice of you to say so! 😘💗 OMG that sounds absolutely horrific, I would have hated that! And they wonder why they have such a bad stigma around them! 😫 xxx
This is such a fab and honest video! So many vloggers will only talk about how they're exceeding in all areas, far too advanced in all areas blah blah and it's not real life! My son is 18m and only says 5 words so far, he's just not interested in talking so got some great pointers to work with him!
Also if you're thinking of nursery anyways, could you not look for one or two days work a week and put phoebe in nursery then? I'm leaving work soon as got made redundant and although I can't wait to spend time with my son I know I'm going to miss that adult time where I am just me x
When I go to the speech group I'll let you know of any tips I have for you, hopefully it will help a bit. I am actually going to be working weekends soon, so won't be working in the week, but I'll chat about that in another vlog :) Sorry to hear about redundancy, such an awful thing to go through, hope you enjoy your time with him though!
Your such a brilliant mum! Keep doing what your doing 💜
Thankyou!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve had similar concerns regarding speech for my two who have just turned two. We have our two year review soon and I’m really anxious about it x
+thelifeofaaliyah don't worry lovely, just say whatever you need too, they are there to support you! I'm so glad I voiced my concerns 😘 xxx
You feel exactly the same way as I do. . My son is 2 also and I never have a break or time for myself
It's so hard isn't it! xxx
I think it's hard when it's your first and you have no friends with baby's! She will come along don't worry.my son couldn't speak much at 3 and then one day it all just clicked!nursery helps heaps x
I have friends with children, but I was the one to do it first, so I experience it all & they have no understanding what its like etc, it is really hard! Alot of people are saying it just clicks, so waiting for that click ahha! xxx
I found this so interesting lovely! I wish I had done a video for Thea’s! Seems like ages ago now 😂 Thea starts nursery next month because I work 20 hours she gets 20 hours free (instead of the 30 hours because we are keeping her in all year round - no school holidays) I feel like she really needs it too but I’m so nervous! I’m just putting her in the days I work though haha xx
+Kayleigh - My Thea Grace I'm so nervous too! Just contacting the nurserys give me anxiety haha! Still got to look around them and then decide where to send her! If I end up working in the week il defo send her one day when I'm not so I can catch up with stuff 😂😂 xxx
I have ASD, my brother had a fit
hey, i work in a nursery and theres a little girl in my nursery who 'stimulates' against the floor and as soon as we notice her doing it we just distract her with an activity or something to play with and over time she has stopped doing it! xxx
+aimee louisex omg really?! You have no idea how nice it is to hear of another experience! Is it common do you find?! I'd never heard of it before & find it sooo bizarre! xxx
Phoebe & Me we've had a few children who have done it, but i think that they just eventually get out of the habit of doing it xxx
My friends little girl used to do the same thing and would giggle the entire time. We distracted her and ignored it for as much as possible and it naturally stopped xx
+Rachel hurley P doesn't giggle, she just zoned out, which is why I think the doc wants to rule out epilepsy just incase! I hope she does just grow out of it though! Thanks for the comments girls 😘 xxx
You should download an EYFS. Its the developmental guidelines for 0-5 year olds. Its really helpful xxx
+lifeofrileymummyofthree thanks for the tip! Will have a little research later tonight 😘💗 xxx
Look into the tax-free childcare scheme, it helps me with the cost of nursery! X
+Gina Southworth is anyone entitled?! Will have a browse online, thankyou! xxx
Phoebe & Me I think so, but yeah definitely worth a look! Anything’s better than nothing! Xx
You are so pretty .
+Alice Trueman too kind 💗💜 xxx
How about seeing if your friend with the younger baby who you went to the caravan with wld go to Bounce and Rhyme with you because I think that is suitable for all ages, even babies who can not even walk but can just push up and down on Mummy's knee can go.
Her speech is slow but another vloggers little boy was not saying any words at all at P's age, but I think he is 3 next month and over the last couple of months he has come on amazingly and is not far off forming sentences. So you never know what the next few months cld bring. Please don't take offence by this but a lot of Mums are guilty of asking a ? and then in the same breath answering it for example we might say "What's the matter, would you like a snack, yes, come on then let's go and choose something" so even though they understand everything you are saying they do not have to try to respond because you are doing it for them. Plus remember there is no right or wrong age for them to do things, they all do it in their own time.
I think it will just suddenly develop, over the past week she is coming on so well, so just seeing how we go! I do always wait for P to answer the questions I ask her, I see her brain working & she figures out the answer she wants to give! :) xxx
Pleased you've got a referral now for the things you're concerned about-I'm sure she'll be fine 😘 you've done so well to be a full time mum for 2.5 years there's no shame in saying you can't do it anymore. Isabella has been at nursery/pre school for 2 days since I went back to work November 2016 but I've just had to increase my days to 3 because I couldn't cope with her for so many days in a row 🤣 but she loves it there anyway. She incessantly whines at home but they say she's so happy at nursery-probably because it's free flow play and she can be outside all day or doing messy play all day if she wants to but it's not like that at home 😬 think P will really enjoy nursery-I just contacted my local ones and arranged an appointment to look around. I can't wait for the free hours when they turn 3 🙌🏻 we'll still top up as she goes to breakfast club and out of school club but it'll be so much cheaper xx
+Charlotte M I honestly don't know how I keep doing it haha! It's good she enjoys it, I'm dreading the whole process, but I know she needs it, & I do too! Will defo make me appreciate the time I have with her more! Going to start approaching some soon, ahh! 🙈😭 xxx