My 16 yr old autistic son has some of those same characteristics. His hyperfocus is Star Wars and Cloverfield. Everything anything Star Wars he knows dates, actors etc.
@@lannyqualls9428 I didn't see any spark between them. I think he was just being himself and she saw him as a nice guy, but that's all. Doing anything differently might have come off as insincere.
@@lannyqualls9428 he was a nice guy that's why he got friendzone. Women don't feel attraction to nice guys so they put them in the friendzone as you seem in that clip.
@@pneron2032 We shouldn't infantilize autistic people so they never face disappointment. She was treating him as an adult, they had a nice time, but she never said she was romantically interested. THAT would be leading him on.
The focus on their holding hands made me naturally assume that they were already a (romantic) couple. Sigh! Another one bites the dust! Will true love ever triumph in the end? I need my vicarious romantic fix!
That was definitely a red flag for her. Google says an intimate relationship where one of the partners is diagnosed with Asbergers would be very difficult and trying. She would've known that. A dysfunctional relationship is a distraction a medical student would probably avoid.
Agreed. It's not fair on her and it's not her responsibility. To be honest, who wants to marry a patient? No one. In the big picture it could mean her kids having autism and who knows what else. I think he has quite a nerve expecting a relationship with her. @@lannyqualls9428
@@poshniall that’s not helpful, is it? Educate people, if you have something to add. To me, it looked like people were trying to understand, but I see your point as well
This how alot of guys get friendzone. Too much plantonic conversation, he didnt know how to flirt. The girl liked him initially, she was flirting with him, but he didnt get the cue to escalate or flirt back, and he failed to create sexual chemistry. This is how plenty of men end up in the friendzone. Men can learn from this
@@samsongomah1318 then you will be forever stuck in the friendzone. Girls like guys that take risks. It will showcase confidence. If you care about what she thinks or how you come across then you have nice guy mentality. It's about what you want. Focus on that
CJ was has a lovely personality, & is extremely good-looking! One thinks the only reason Sonia could have rejected him is because he used the f-a- word in polite conversation. Otherwise one is baffled that she rejected him. One would have thought that, being a medical student, she could see past any perceived limitation, & see how wonderful he is!
Well...Does your neurotypicalness gonna mess up a date? Come on...The headline?..How to keep stereotypes and ableism alive. Just get to know people and keep an open mind. Both ways. It's not that difficult you know.
So tired of people being surprised that someone on the spectrum is a lovely person. I personally find they are more socially aware and caring than “neurotypical”
He is extremely charming, straight forward, funny, chivalrous and handsome! I find her very cute and outgoing but i think she just wanted a free meal tbh, she led him on. Poor guy. Anyyyyyway, I wish them the best of luck.
How did she lead him on? If he innitiated the hand holding it would be awkaward to pull away. We didn't see how she dealt with him paying, he may have insisted.
I really wish women on this show (speaking as a woman) would pay for their own half, especially when they don’t want to see them again! Come on, we’re in 2023! Pay your way!
ADHD and Asperger's sometimes overlap in symptoms, but they are entirely different disorders. You may want to change your description to "....a form of Autism called Asperger's." Thought the holding hands indicated a for sure that they would go on a second date. 😕
A very mature date, they both treated each other with respect and kindness. He was an absolute sweetheart. Wish them both the best.
They’re both so cute. I adore his personality. Charming, attractive and funny. I wish them both well. 🥰
This guy seems like the most normal, charismatic, talented, intelligent and real date'ee i've ever seen on this show.
She lost a real catch there.
My 16 yr old autistic son has some of those same characteristics. His hyperfocus is Star Wars and Cloverfield. Everything anything Star Wars he knows dates, actors etc.
Maybe you should talk to him abt it and get a diagnosis? I got diagnosed at 28 and i would have appreciated more understanding in my life
holding hands then deciding on going the friendzone path? 😅😅
I think he initiated that
@@JamesCraigWhoop she was being nice nd gave him hopes so sad..
She was leading him to the Friendzone.
Why do some people take this so seriously? Two young people meeting up and having a nice time should be enough. Both were nice, no villains here.
@@lannyqualls9428 I didn't see any spark between them. I think he was just being himself and she saw him as a nice guy, but that's all. Doing anything differently might have come off as insincere.
@@lannyqualls9428 he was a nice guy that's why he got friendzone. Women don't feel attraction to nice guys so they put them in the friendzone as you seem in that clip.
Because she was holding his hand (literally leading him on). With autistic guys, that could do him some real emotional damage.
@@pneron2032 We shouldn't infantilize autistic people so they never face disappointment. She was treating him as an adult, they had a nice time, but she never said she was romantically interested. THAT would be leading him on.
@@Skeezer66 Holding his hand is leading
Why did she hold his hand if she thought just as friends
Exactly, same thought I had!
That's what I was thinking!
She is leading him on . Probably to the friendzone island. This is how guys get friendzoned. You can learn a few things from his mistakes
He has made plenty of mistakes
The booze!
Watching their date made me smile. Love and blessings to CJ and Sonia.
She took me by surprise. So gentle and careful.
The focus on their holding hands made me naturally assume that they were already a (romantic) couple. Sigh! Another one bites the dust! Will true love ever triumph in the end? I need my vicarious romantic fix!
😆
Some People just like holding hands ☺️😅
The student doctor didn't want to get stuck with a patient. As soon as he mentioned his medical history he was toast.
That was definitely a red flag for her. Google says an intimate relationship where one of the partners is diagnosed with Asbergers would be very difficult and trying. She would've known that. A dysfunctional relationship is a distraction a medical student would probably avoid.
Agreed. It's not fair on her and it's not her responsibility. To be honest, who wants to marry a patient? No one. In the big picture it could mean her kids having autism and who knows what else. I think he has quite a nerve expecting a relationship with her. @@lannyqualls9428
Yes I saw that too. He wasn't that autistic I think he could of saved that info for another date easily
this whole comment thread is ignorant and has ableist tones
@@poshniall that’s not helpful, is it? Educate people, if you have something to add.
To me, it looked like people were trying to understand, but I see your point as well
I work with pre-schoolers on the spectrum and they are the best kiddos!
Teach your students not be a nice guy
He seems like a good gentleman and she is nice but not a match
Why
Both so nice
This how alot of guys get friendzone. Too much plantonic conversation, he didnt know how to flirt. The girl liked him initially, she was flirting with him, but he didnt get the cue to escalate or flirt back, and he failed to create sexual chemistry. This is how plenty of men end up in the friendzone. Men can learn from this
So, basically, you are saying men should be bad boys. Thank you for confirming what all guys know.
@@samsongomah1318 No he's saying that dudes should try to actually flirt instead of pointless conversation
@@zacmirza6498 Unless the woman is interested, and she usually knows almost right away, flirting itself will come across as creepy or rude.
Hey, us autists don't know how to flirt
@@samsongomah1318 then you will be forever stuck in the friendzone. Girls like guys that take risks. It will showcase confidence. If you care about what she thinks or how you come across then you have nice guy mentality. It's about what you want. Focus on that
🥲 thought they were sweet together
He messed up. He didn't create sexual attraction. Too much plantonic. She lost interest and put him in the friendzone
Sonia is absolutely adorable.
CJ was has a lovely personality, & is extremely good-looking! One thinks the only reason Sonia could have rejected him is because he used the f-a- word in polite conversation. Otherwise one is baffled that she rejected him. One would have thought that, being a medical student, she could see past any perceived limitation, & see how wonderful he is!
They're both 20, no need for any serious romance, especially if he wants to do standup and she's going to medical school.
What’s the f-a word?
She has a good demeanor 😊
They both seem lovely people. Love people that happy in themselves.👍👍👍👍👍👍
That's what happens to nice guys they end up in the friendzone
Probably because he didn’t pay the full tab😅
Well...Does your neurotypicalness gonna mess up a date? Come on...The headline?..How to keep stereotypes and ableism alive. Just get to know people and keep an open mind. Both ways. It's not that difficult you know.
sooooo no titles?
Stopping on the side of the road to look at a butterfly is how you get robbed, brother.
I love you 😂
So tired of people being surprised that someone on the spectrum is a lovely person. I personally find they are more socially aware and caring than “neurotypical”
Gen Z are so sweet
Did anyone spot the Nichols Cage lookalike
He's atractive
She rejected him because as a future doctor, she wants to date someone from the same field. Female hypergamy.
Appallingly ableist title.
He is extremely charming, straight forward, funny, chivalrous and handsome!
I find her very cute and outgoing but i think she just wanted a free meal tbh, she led him on. Poor guy.
Anyyyyyway, I wish them the best of luck.
How did she lead him on? If he innitiated the hand holding it would be awkaward to pull away. We didn't see how she dealt with him paying, he may have insisted.
I actually noticed them both putting receipts in their respective wallets. Maybe she didn’t like the Dutch payment.
He looks like a younger, more handsome andrew tate.
Its almost impossible to have a relationship with someone who has so many disorders. You live in two different realities .
Again: Nonsense. Educate yourself please.
@@Vliegenmepper2377 oh you must be educated then ? There is no way you can put up with someone like that . I dare you to give it a go ?
I really wish women on this show (speaking as a woman) would pay for their own half, especially when they don’t want to see them again! Come on, we’re in 2023! Pay your way!
Thank you!
YES!!! Thank you. It’s so annoying whenever it happens for real.
I couldn’t tell whether they both paid or not. It looked as though they both had receipts and wallets out.
rule number 1 on going on a first date: Don't disclose any of your mental illnesses lol
ADHD and Asperger's sometimes overlap in symptoms, but they are entirely different disorders. You may want to change your description to "....a form of Autism called Asperger's." Thought the holding hands indicated a for sure that they would go on a second date. 😕
Not really, there’s medication for adhd not autism
She’s a gold digger
She was leading him on the friendzone. This is how guys get friendzone
She's becoming a doctor and ppl usually date ppl similar to them...
And at best 2/10. Not all that good looking.
I actually didn’t catch whether they paid separately or not. It looked as though they both were putting away receipts in their respective wallets.
@@samsongomah1318At best, he is a 1.5.
That bowtie isnt helping
Aww cute.