The Root of Sorrow is Attachment by Anthony De Mello

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  • Опубліковано 12 кві 2021
  • Can you imagine how liberating it would be to never be disillusioned again, never be disappointed again, never feel let down again? Want to wake up, come alive, and be free? Anthony De Mello’s Stop Fixing Yourself is the answer you have been looking for.

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  • @girlyguidetolife
    @girlyguidetolife 4 місяці тому +14

    Where was this guy my whole life?

  • @OfCourseICan
    @OfCourseICan 2 роки тому +102

    I have read and listened to hundreds of books. This Man is the most profound thinker I have come across, and his book/ audiobook is not to be overlooked!

    • @priusuguusiii3633
      @priusuguusiii3633 2 роки тому

      What book would you start with

    • @stevefowler8095
      @stevefowler8095 2 роки тому +1

      @@priusuguusiii3633 the way to love. Life changer

    • @priusuguusiii3633
      @priusuguusiii3633 2 роки тому +1

      @@stevefowler8095 thank you

    • @Gaurav.P0
      @Gaurav.P0 Рік тому

      @@stevefowler8095 Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.

    • @BrianBroughten
      @BrianBroughten Рік тому

      Eckhart to my knowledge never directly addresses attachments, i could be wrong i only read one of his.

  • @bobhope5114
    @bobhope5114 Рік тому +43

    This man saved my life!

    • @keralytekid
      @keralytekid Рік тому +3

      Same!

    • @deskreverse
      @deskreverse 3 місяці тому +1

      Me too

    • @aug.jam.1
      @aug.jam.1 15 днів тому

      I'm happy u guys are still here ❤ alan watts saved me but Anthony is absolutely great too

  • @bobtyrell6718
    @bobtyrell6718 Рік тому +22

    Anthony was a true Mystic. Awareness was a masterpiece.

  • @reycfd7753
    @reycfd7753 2 роки тому +60

    He was a master of spirituality, a mystic, though restrained by the Catholic Church hierarchy for putting all religions and religious teachers in equal footing.

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 2 роки тому

      Yes, as usual the intelligent, liberated ones are "stopped" by the elite and psychopaths.

    • @backINdaROOM
      @backINdaROOM 2 роки тому

      They probably bumped him off.

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 2 роки тому

      @@backINdaROOM Yes

    • @keenfit30
      @keenfit30 Рік тому +1

      Could not agree with u more. I think he was murdered

    • @reycfd7753
      @reycfd7753 Рік тому

      He suffered a heart attack, not murdered.

  • @vrindaandparas3654
    @vrindaandparas3654 3 роки тому +27

    Happiness through Materialistic stuff was so conflicting to me until now. I needed this. Thanks.

  • @beatereich5466
    @beatereich5466 2 роки тому +33

    The biggest Relief for me was not to feel anymore SORRY for myself! Changed a lot. Blessings.

    • @murielleleblanc4377
      @murielleleblanc4377 Рік тому

      Abandoned yourself to God . Let go of self surrender . God is in charge he is our Father , our director , the spirit of the universe .

  • @michaelkraft218
    @michaelkraft218 Рік тому +11

    Mindfulness is really desirelessness. It's the therapy in vogue to reduce your suffering by changing your thoughts and beliefs. I love the mental exercise of not even judging thoughts. We have inordinate desires to control everything, to get one's way, to win, and to analyze.

    • @hado8272
      @hado8272 Рік тому +1

      If you don't judge your thoughts, you are not attached to your thoughts. Aware of thoughts but not being attached to them!

  • @bobtyrell6718
    @bobtyrell6718 Рік тому +10

    He did trancend. I truly believe that.

  • @victorjcano
    @victorjcano 3 роки тому +47

    I tend to watch a lot of these kinds of videos. What I noticed here is that unlike so many of the other teachers there are no flowers behind him. Just his message. interesting

    • @Gaurav.P0
      @Gaurav.P0 Рік тому

      Hey, what is the difference between Eckhart's teachings and Anthony de Mello teachings ? I am curious.

    • @ooohlaa13
      @ooohlaa13 5 місяців тому

      style of delivery ,,,,, eckhart is very subtle and this guy us bombastic .... message fundamentally same@@Gaurav.P0

    • @jeanniebeneanie3752
      @jeanniebeneanie3752 4 місяці тому

      LoL... obviously the flowers... first person I thought of when the flowers were mentioned was Eckhart Tolle, and then your comment confirmed "great minds think alike" 😊❤ love to all🎉

  • @Tonymcd274
    @Tonymcd274 5 місяців тому +4

    This is so deep and a lot will fly over surface level peoples heads

  • @hsheean
    @hsheean 2 роки тому +10

    I have an attachment to those glasses!

  • @hichamdaki3932
    @hichamdaki3932 6 місяців тому +4

    I love this man ...May he be blessed ✨

  • @murielleleblanc4377
    @murielleleblanc4377 Рік тому +4

    No attachment no fears

  • @adaptupon
    @adaptupon Рік тому +5

    This helped me realise how attached I was to succeeding in my current Masters program. Thank you.

  • @lisamarie5680
    @lisamarie5680 2 роки тому +5

    “Is we don’t get that we are going to be miserable, that’s called attachment”

    • @lisamarie5680
      @lisamarie5680 2 роки тому +4

      “The root of sorrow is attachment-desire”

  • @sinethembadyoki
    @sinethembadyoki 2 роки тому +12

    Thank you so much Mr De Mello 🙏
    You have open my eyes and I'm very much awake now 😊

  • @deskreverse
    @deskreverse 3 місяці тому

    I owe my happiness today to Tony's teachings of spirituality. I was introduced to his book about 15 years ago. Only in the past few years has it truly started to sink in. Grateful for this.

    • @katrinetroelsen
      @katrinetroelsen 3 місяці тому +1

      at 23 i was in a crisis after having been attacked and then forgotten by the "justice system". i found De Mello by chance. bought a book. Changed my life.

  • @RickBaldwin
    @RickBaldwin 3 місяці тому

    DeMello was one of my earliest spiritual influencers and I love seeing him here. His books have a light like few others. If you can find his book on meditation, it is perhaps the best book ever written on the subject.

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel49 2 роки тому +5

    An attachment is a "have to have", a dependency.

    • @dragicrade
      @dragicrade 2 роки тому +3

      addiction, drug, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling... that's the physical mirror when we depend on certain things or people or believes... We judge people who use too much alcohol or drugs, but we are not different from them.

  • @budwilmott3151
    @budwilmott3151 2 роки тому +2

    I had to see this.I am grateful

  • @rahmasamir909
    @rahmasamir909 6 місяців тому

    Amazing and true ❤

  • @deepakarya3085
    @deepakarya3085 Рік тому +4

    Majestic 💐💐💐

  • @billyquinsey5361
    @billyquinsey5361 2 роки тому +2

    Talks straight up

  • @tobysmith1490
    @tobysmith1490 2 роки тому +2

    Very interesting video on attachment🥰

  • @g.abzilla7665
    @g.abzilla7665 10 місяців тому +1

    Although this video is quite old, the message is more relevant now than ever before. Thank you!

  • @_Christopher_Williams
    @_Christopher_Williams Місяць тому

    The woman at 7:11 has no attachment to staying conscious 😊 Jokes aside, the book "Awareness" by Anthony De Mello changed my life. It may be my favorite book of all time. I read it every year. God bless you all! ❤️🙏

  • @createa.googleaccount713
    @createa.googleaccount713 3 місяці тому

    My HERO!!! ❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙌🙌🙌🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @LadyBug-fs8gz
    @LadyBug-fs8gz 9 місяців тому

    Brilliant mind

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel49 2 роки тому +6

    You need 'a reason' to be unhappy

  • @egymenez4809
    @egymenez4809 Рік тому

    Thank you

  • @PezhvakIMV
    @PezhvakIMV 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks

  • @buctwn
    @buctwn Рік тому +1

    "Depression at loss of something" wicked

  • @dfheezy
    @dfheezy Рік тому +4

    This guy is the OG Double-Deepak Chopra

  • @crisaunt
    @crisaunt Рік тому +7

    yes, and when you believe in jesus christ, you no longer struggle with these attachments. this is all reiteration, read the bible! 🥰

    • @AL_THOMAS_777
      @AL_THOMAS_777 Рік тому

      W O W ! ! ! That must mean something . . .

    • @AR-jo5vv
      @AR-jo5vv Рік тому

      Of course it is! There is nothing new in Christianity - it’s only 2000 years old!

    • @ariseppa7444
      @ariseppa7444 11 місяців тому

      But aren’t you attached to jesus christ then?

    • @crisaunt
      @crisaunt 11 місяців тому

      @@ariseppa7444 yeah that’s kind of the whole point of the bible, ur not supposed to be detached from everything? don’t you see how dangerous that is?

    • @crisaunt
      @crisaunt 11 місяців тому

      @@ariseppa7444 buddha wouldn’t stop a rape because he’d interfere with the karmic cycle. jesus would save you, jesus hates evil. buddha accepts it as part of life, it’s not. holiness and life without sin is real. me and you are tainted with evil, jesus shows u this.

  • @malves64
    @malves64 13 днів тому

    Incrível.

  • @Zer00805
    @Zer00805 Рік тому +1

    Anthony holds the keys

  • @KevCraven
    @KevCraven Рік тому +1

    He taught us how to make fire! I have a giant poster of him on the wall 😜

  • @Squickycleaners
    @Squickycleaners 3 місяці тому

    Anthony Démelo so funny, but so real❤

  • @ZooDinghy
    @ZooDinghy 9 місяців тому +3

    I think I have the opposite problem. I don't feel much attachment. Neither do I feel much sorrow. I enjoy being around others, have fun with them, etc. but I don't have the urge to have a relationship. To live together with someone else. The thing is, I am actually quite happy being by myself. I just wonder whether this is healthy.

    • @mangelwurzel476
      @mangelwurzel476 9 місяців тому +1

      It sounds very healthy to me. We are all unfortunately conditioned to believe that we have to fit into society in a ‘one size fits all’ way to be happy. That’s a lie. Go your own way, be free and enjoy!

    • @ooohlaa13
      @ooohlaa13 5 місяців тому

      well I am like you, I have no sense of loneliness or desire for relationships but I always feel something is wrong with me and I do think ultimately I am attached to my privacy and my freewheeling lifestyle. What say you about this comment?

    • @ZooDinghy
      @ZooDinghy 5 місяців тому

      @@ooohlaa13 Sounds totally like me! 😅 What I find stange about myself is that I often think I do not care enough for things - but at the same time I am a highly curious person. At one point, I spoke to a psychiatrist and she thought I might have autism or something. But I am highly empathic and can feel high empathic distress. Often to the point that I cannot watch certain films. I also have a very good judgement when it comes to social norms. So the autism hypothesis doesn't make sense. I guess everyone is unique in their own way.

    • @ooohlaa13
      @ooohlaa13 5 місяців тому

      once again same ... I have very deep empathy for animals and for the pain their deaths and loss of them as family members incurs. When I am around others empathically I can feel their pain and it can stay with me for days so I avoid at all costs because all my life this has been totally disruptive. I have recovered from alcohol addiction and bulimia and from marrying my psychiatrist who turned out to be a narcissist puerile man who had a "loving" persona that fooled many.@@ZooDinghy

    • @jeanniebeneanie3752
      @jeanniebeneanie3752 4 місяці тому

      Sounds peaceful...

  • @Shaun023
    @Shaun023 5 місяців тому +1

    This was beautiful! But please do yourselves a favour and have a giggle at 7:11 😂😂❤

  • @jobelle5470
    @jobelle5470 2 роки тому

    💛

  • @claudelebel49
    @claudelebel49 2 роки тому +2

    "Achieved is the end of craving"
    anonymous

  • @FreshnessStudio1
    @FreshnessStudio1 3 роки тому +6

    What is it called when somebody lives in such a way that his/her soul purpose is to dedicate their life to enlighten other human beings to the Art of heart seeing, happiness, Love?

  • @onetapmindset
    @onetapmindset 19 днів тому

    If you were not actively engaged in making your life miserable, you would be happy 😂 Anthony Demello

  • @user-nn8cu5ql4t
    @user-nn8cu5ql4t Рік тому +1

    👍

  • @aadilmanzoor5178
    @aadilmanzoor5178 7 днів тому

    Abdullah bin `Umar said, "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler." The sub-narrator added: Ibn `Umar used to say, "If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death.
    Allah said, narrating upon a believer at the time of Fir’awn that he said:
    “O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]

  • @scottsheffield6474
    @scottsheffield6474 2 роки тому +2

    Haha, this was wonderful to hear!
    If only it was true...

  • @starbros1947
    @starbros1947 11 місяців тому +1

    BUT - don't get attached to "getting unattached" - sometimes "IT" rains and sometime not.

  • @dabrupro
    @dabrupro 2 роки тому +2

    😆 @6:45 "So here it is. The world is full of sorrow. The root of sorrow is attachment desire. The uprooting of sorrow is the dropping of attachment. How does one drop it? One only looks and sees that it is based on a false belief. The belief that without this I cannot be happy. That's false." 
    From Nisargadatta:
    "All chaos is due to a concept: I am the body. The affairs of the world are going on by the strength of a concept. Do not renounce anything; you have only to understand....Pure consciousness is called Naryana. Beings do not know it; hence they suffer misery. Those who have recognized that consciousness is without quality - guna - get tired of staying on in the world....Simply remember that your form is like space.
    "Our behavior through body consciousness is like the condition of a patient in hospital. During sickness one feels the need for oneself. So long as there is sickness, one has to look after oneself very carefully. Sickness means beingness.
    "You might not understand this but it is important to understand just the same - identification with the body is like a sickness; therefore, it needs to be taken care of throughout the day....You look after yourself so that this experience of sickness should not pass away. Since the experience itself is that of sickness, it will come to an end....Why do we do japa and meditation? Is it not in order to protect the consciousness? However, this quality itself is of material origin. It is created through the essence of the body essence of food. Because of body consciousness it has expectations, desires and passions.
    "...the gnani has no use of his self-realization. With such discrimination one goes beyond consciousness. Every being is protecting that which can never be protected in spite of all efforts. All that is desirous of protection will not last.
    "....You aspire to get physical and spiritual well being through your body consciousness, but the body is not your true nature....Body consciousness takes all the responsibility and pride. As a result it becomes a source of misery. The one who is forever awake is the satguru. He gives you wakefulness. Take that wakefulness and be awakened. Then you will get the true nature of the satguru. One who follows the guru word does not have to make much effort.
    "....After listening to this, you will understand that your consciousness is the quality of the vital life force. It is not you. Only see how consciousness has come over you. Leave all the rest. All complications have started with consciousness. That which has to experience consciousness has no name or form; hence, it has identified itself with the body. Consciousness depends upon food.
    "....Until you get the full understanding, observe how consciousness has arisen....How long will it take for us to get realization? Until such times as when your concepts come to an end.
    "Wakefulness is the primordial illusion."

  • @victorjcano
    @victorjcano 3 роки тому +11

    Can these lessons be taught to children? Does a child with limited life experience have the capacity to comprehend ? It sure would be interesting

    • @CommuneRecords
      @CommuneRecords 3 роки тому +3

      He talks about this! They may not need to comprehend it per se, but they are already living the life moment to moment, involved in what they are doing. Look for more ADM talks (I always look for his own voice, not people reading it which never works for me). There's a bunch of them here, including #74 which talks about schools and bringing up children: www.demellospirituality.com/the-happiness-podcast/

    • @CommuneRecords
      @CommuneRecords 3 роки тому +1

      Or his brother's website is great too: www.tonydemello.com/

    • @s4nj0k
      @s4nj0k 2 роки тому

      @@CommuneRecords those 2 pages are gold, thanks brother (or sister)

    • @lollipopsaresmelly
      @lollipopsaresmelly 2 роки тому

      A child doesn't think about its limitations until we make them reflect on it

    • @suju3056
      @suju3056 2 роки тому

      It would be traumatising to them

  • @ginovilla4104
    @ginovilla4104 2 роки тому

    Well if you work for Tesla,
    u can’t do propaganda for Lucid.
    At the end of he’s life he recognized
    Who had all in all. In he’s book ;
    “The way to love”.

  • @talalztube
    @talalztube 2 роки тому +1

    where do you think Love comes from?

    • @lollipopsaresmelly
      @lollipopsaresmelly 2 роки тому +1

      Love with attachment is love with conditions.
      We should fall in love, not fall in dependence

  • @svspirit4999
    @svspirit4999 3 місяці тому

    Girl in the middle at 7:12 is attached to the inside of her eyelids.

  • @liron_feldman
    @liron_feldman Місяць тому

    But don't you think it gives you higher chance of success if you have an all or nothing mentality? Like wouldn't persona A (puts his success as condition to be happy) have higher chance of succeeding to get what he wants, and person B (is happy even if not achieving set thing) less chance, since less pressure?

  • @gracesanity6314
    @gracesanity6314 4 місяці тому +3

    I feel so relieved that their is less in front of me than behind. At 64....l can't wait to go home to source. I have never known happyness on Earth. I got it all wrong.

    • @YouDroolIRULE
      @YouDroolIRULE Місяць тому +2

      I wish you the best if you are truly seeking but it doesn’t sound like you are going back to “source” with the attitude that your message conveys. There is so much work to be done here and now with feet ground, so your tone sounds defeated and nihilistic in literally the best time ever to be alive especially for free access to unlimited spiritual teachings.
      Best of luck. My hunch, like how the Buddha said is that most people think they are returning to “source”, when in reality they get sent back here for another rebirth. The samsara merry go round from heII! 🎪 🤡 Go for higher rebirth!! 🙏🏼 🌬️

  • @MichaelKlena
    @MichaelKlena 9 місяців тому

    He probably lived in the very comfortable Jesuit Residence at Fordham where somebody else paid the bills to keep a really nice roof over his head. And it's likely that staff made his meals. Most people I know are busy working to pay for a residence. Most people I know are attached to their significant others and children and relatives and friends. Everybody I know would be very sad if their wife and kids drove over a cliff and died. If they weren't grieving, I would judge them to be sick, or it would be very suspicious. Did the residents of Lahaina, HI bring their misery on by being attached to their loved ones, their homes, their businesses? Only somebody who doesn't understand what it is to work for things, or to be in a loving relationship can be so cavalier about blaming people for their unhappiness about loss because of attachment. I'd rather be attached to my spouse and be a human, than to some kind of near-sociopath who says "easy come, easy go" when his wife and kids drive over a cliff and die. The superiority of Fr. De Mello to suggest that people choose unhappiness by pursuing normal lives in a capitalist consumer culture is typical of Roman Catholic clergy. Why not sell Vatican City give the proceeds to India's poor and do Catholic ministry from a tent?

    • @ooohlaa13
      @ooohlaa13 5 місяців тому

      your comment is the kind I would make normally when filled with bitterness, envy and resentment. It's a trap to kill the messenger and ignore the message that attachment to the earth plane culture is a living hell! and it shows up in many forms, some more severe than others like attachment to a substance or contemplating suicide because of betrayal. It's sneaky and subtle and the quality you call sociopathic is just a loud wake up call to how sneaky and life sucking attachment is. A Course in Miracles calls out special relationships as a key disturbance in our peace. We make some people more special than others, or some conditions more important than others = attachment and addictions that govern our lives and rob us of inner peace. That's my take. Many teachers are ruthless in their presentations to wake us up from sleepwalking thru our lives. Don't kill the messenger is my opinion.

  • @an7440
    @an7440 27 днів тому

    How is this different from Buddhism

  • @ralf547
    @ralf547 Місяць тому

    This guy is silly.

  • @Anniemax1
    @Anniemax1 Місяць тому +1

    Thx @mrlocario for referring me to this guy

    • @eduardo_guzman11
      @eduardo_guzman11 Місяць тому

      You watch Locario to?
      I watch @THEMANMINDSET a bunch to