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Listening to your FFI and SFI Playlist is slowly helping my anxiety. I understand you're not a doctor but as someone who's done research I would love your opinion. Long story short: im 25. my partner cheated on me in June causing major issues to my sleeping habits such as anxiety attacks preventing sleep leading to insomnia and then self fulfilling prophecy. Its now October. After a triggering episode last Thursday I've endured immense waves of anxiety feeding insomnia leading to fragmented sleep. As I type this I'm awake after not being able to sleep at ALL. Is this rapid worsening insomnia SFI or FFI or am I just going through a crummy period in my life? Note: My grandfather passed away in 2016 at age 67 of CJD and not a single main issue of his was sleep save for when he finally went into a coma. Any advice would be sincerely appreciated
Hi Roman, To me, anyone who has the capacity to imagine that they may have SFI is functioning at at level that would be impossible for someone with symptomatic SFI… hang in there and glad the content has been helpful
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Hello Daniel, Thank you so much for the fast reply. I ended up going to the ER due to worsening anxiety attacks and a deteriorating mental state. Not to get too personal but my anxiety got so bad I had convinced myself I was dying whilst severely sleep deprived, dealing with feelings of confusion and such thinking my mental facilities were decaying in real time. They ran a chest xray and a CT and multiple blood work done and came to the conclusion that I was physically fine, and then proceeded to give me 2mg of Antivan to help me relax. I was unable to sleep immediately but it seemed to help bring me out of this weird stupor I was in. They told me if I was still unable to sleep to please come back the next day. I went home, took a warm relaxing shower, put something calm on the TV, ate some food, popped 5mg melatonin and let the two meds work. Instead of my previous sleep where it was fragmented /I felt I was awake the whole time, I woke up. I have no memory of any dreams but this time I was positive I actually slept. Still feel a little daze and confused and my balance seems to be not the best but I'm sincerely hoping it'll go away as the day progresses.
So glad Robert to read these lines, and you know I have actually wondered why we don’t have more subscribers, what I believe today: there aren’t that many people in a given moment who has the courage to take that deep look inside. But when someone is ready, they’ll find us 😊
I love this!! So good. I feel like when we have the surfers window idea, we are focused so much on the time and this itself puts us into a hyperaroused state. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and we keep acquiring evidence for it the less and less we find easeful sleep after the window. Thank you!!
This is me, if I don’t fall asleep before midnight forget it. I try not to look at the time. But you kinda get a sense of time the longer u lay there in bed. There’s been the rare occasion I fell asleep after midnight. My sleepy feeling almost never appears after midnight thou.
Hi Daniel, I believe that I am the person who brought this topic up in the comments of #513. This video was an extraordinary explanation of the phenomenon that I was referring to in my prior comment. I think it makes so much sense and is why it seems to resonate with so many people. Thank you for taking the time to make this video.
Daniel, you are spot on ! it happened to me very often and this video will be helpful, I will save this video as for the future reminder. Truly appreciate for sharing your knowledge and wisdom !
This is the reason why sleep restriction is so difficult: there is so much pressure to fall asleep at a certain time. I used to be very sleepy on the couch but as soon as my sleep window started sleepiness had disappeared.
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 This is exactly my problem when I do sleep restriction. I’m very sleepy and have to fight against the sleepiness before the prescribed bedtime but as soon as the sleep time started I’m wide awake. Now I am trying open sleep window with flexible bedtime and strict waking time. I don’t look at the watch after 10pm and go to sleep when I feel sleepy and it’s time. But then I always wake up earlier, around 5am. My sleep period is 5-5.5 hours and I can’t extend it more. What’s your suggestion in my case?
@thanhhai1734 so sorry that has been a problem but glad you found your way here. If you look at your message, there are several mentions of clock time. This is very normal, of course, but often times when things become more fuzzy, that can really really help.
Aloha Daniel, First of all thank you so much for sharing your infinite insomnia knowledge! You are an answer to many prayers. I recently found your channel after dealing with sudden sleep struggles over the last couple of months. Wow, just hearing other people's relatable stories and videos have brought me so much peace of mind within a couple of days. This surfer window is exactly what I've been dealing with...if I'm not asleep before 11 I only sleep for a couple hours at sunrise. Despite watching this last night I still had the same issue. The difference is it didn't bother me as much knowing what was happening. I'm not letting the sleeplessness spiral into anxiety and depression like it has in the past. This is the first morning I didn't wake up and start crying about lack of sleep! Of course I'd prefer to sleep well again 🤣 and am really considering signing up for your app. The information on your site and your compassionate approach has been immensely helpful. Thank you! Brittany
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Our way of looking at this is actually very similar to mainstream psychology and the cognitive model: emotions are produced by thoughts. Unless we habitually think of something that makes us feel a certain way at a certain time, a time itself won’t make us feel any predictable way. Similarly, although many organs have a circadian rhythm to their functions, this in itself has little impact on sleep.
Daniel, there is a subtitle option to auto-translate your video to Bahasa Indonesia. I am so happy!!! I want to tell the people in Indonesia about your channel. I start making tiktok videos about how to face insomnia in my language, and I want to refer the audiences to your videos like about Gas and Brake concept, because it is so good 👍👍👍.
Oh wow this made me so glad to read 😊!! Thanks so much for spreading the word in Indonesia, just the thought that someone will find things get easier in a different part of the world makes me so glad!! Let me know how things go 👍
This is literally me. I remember those times when I didn't used to look at the clock at all 😂 aah. I hope that can be me again some day. This surfer's window is really messing with me especially if happen to go out. Not even super late but if i don't have like 2 hours of no pressure wind down I could get hyper-aroused if I'm not very tired :/ I may have to keep my sleep restricted more until i build up the confidence... if I'm not super sleepy by my 'sleep time' It becomes harder.. I can't just chill normally without feeling pressure to get sleepy...
Hi Daniel. This is Carlos, we had a chat a couple of weeks ago. I have just joined BedTyme. As somebody said up there this is a great video and it resonates completely. Everything makes so much sense.
Carlos! I was just thinking about you as I’m getting ready for the calls this week. So glad the video makes sense, thanks for letting me know. And so glad you’re in BedTyme, hope it will help much 😊
Hello Daniel. So does are microbiome have an impact on sleep? Leaky gut? Because %90 of our seretonin is produced in our gut right? If we do not have enough of it due to an imbalance then it can interrupt sleep.
I would be surprised if it didn’t! But - to me this has nothing to do with insomnia. This is exactly why I believe this video is key; You WANT to know THIS! (Insomnia insight #513) ua-cam.com/video/i-g8Gp7LO8M/v-deo.html
Hi Daniel, I think what you are saying here is great, but the reality is somehow one would have to completely disregard time when one was feeling time is of the essence because the wave is rapidly approaching, and actually thinking about it, this is certainly an issue with me because many times I get myself in a hurry to go to bed, brushing teeth, etc, because I know the wave is coming and many times I miss it which does result in poor sleep(sometimes not, though). But thanks for bringing this to light. I can see how this would work if I didn’t know what time it was, or also very important, sometimes I ‘push’ myself past a place where I am almost too tired-trying to get as much out of every day I can, which is crazy, I know. This is insightful!
Thanks for the great tips Daniel, your work has been immensely useful for me! I have two questions I'd be super grateful for some help on: 1. Any advice on how to approach and accept sleeplessness with a newborn? Our first child will be born very soon, and I'm getting a little anxious about the stories I hear from new parents about lack of sleep, and am thinking of how this might resurface my past issues with sleeplessness. 2. Any tips for how to deal with a snoring partner? I know from past videos sleeping on the couch is something you advise against, but am not sure what to do when it gets particularly loud. Thanks!
Hi Daniel, hope you are doing well. I am in a state of confusion and was hoping to gain a little bit of clarity. My sleep has improved and things were going great until a week ago, I had a speedbump which caused hyperarousal and then I caught a cold and somehow lost my sense of smell, now I can't stop stressing about my smell and it's giving me alot of hyperarousal and I feel like it's affecting my sleep. I feel when I go to bed all I can think about is my sense of smell and how that is stressing me and causing hyperarousal and then I start thinking about how all of this is making me struggle to sleep. I feel like I am in some sort of vicious cycle, where my sense of smell is on my mind all the time and my brain is telling me because it's on my mind I won't sleep. I know that I should probably just allow my self to stress if I need to because trying to stop will probably cause more struggle. But I am really struggling with applying this. I think my question is how do I deal with stresses in life eg. My sense of smell being gone without worrying about whether it will affect my sleep. Looking forward to your response.
Hi Leha, Sorry about the struggles but glad you’re here. I wish I could remember who but I’ve heard this before, the loss of smell. And I think what helps is to look at meaning, we could lose our sense of smell and would not be very worried if we thought “of course, I’m having a cold so that’s why”, but when we think it means that something is wrong, that’s when it can really scare us. Seeing that it’s not the circumstances but our inner narrative about the circumstances that dictates how we feel, this can help much
Hi Daniel I struggle with insomnia and found your UA-cam channel with your perfect videos. Would it be possible to automatically add subtitles translation into Slovak or Czech language to the videos? Because automatic subtitles are only available for a few selected languages and I don't understand any of them and unfortunately neither does English. And I would really like to watch the videos where you teach how to fight insomnia. Well thank you Martin B
Hi Martin, I would think Google adds more and more languages, but this said, I think you’re in luck because we have a great Slovak coach! www.naucena-nespavost.sk/
Isn’t the power of our mind amazing? The power of suggestion can have such incredible physical manifestation. I’m never surprised at the havoc my mind can wreak.
hello daniel ! found your videos not that long ago, i have been struggling with insomnia for a little bit less than month , (started one random day with 0 sleep and then anxiety and hyper arousal fuelled it up obviously and i get a lot of 0-3 hours sleep days ( i did have insomnia for some months 4 years ago after coming out some medication). reading your first book and watching your videos help me a lot ! i got some good stretches of good sleep but now im back again on very poor sleep. strangely enough i dont really feel extremely tired, but i do feel anxious, i still go on about my days, go dirt biking , go work, go run, walk the dog, watch tv. one thing that im struggling with is not feeling frustrated in bed when not sleeping. ive tried listening to podcasts or stuff like that but i tend to close it off after 30 minutes and become frustrated again in bed. would it be a good idea for me to maybe get out the bed and listen to podcasts/watch tv etc/ ? havent tried this one yet as getting out seem strange to me.
Hi Daniel. I have a question- sometimes I will have a speed bump when I'm very tired. I'll be falling asleep but wake up from hyperarousal. But I'm still groggy and tired, just not able to fall asleep, and I don't feel like watching any tv either. In this scenario, should I force myself to watch something, or can I keep trying to sleep even though I keep waking?
Hi Jenny, I’d say it’s the path of least resistance that helps so much. Befriending wakefulness is anything that isn’t trying to force sleep, and if we force ourselves to watch tv so that we no longer are afraid so that we sleep… we are trying to force sleep. On the other hand, when we do whatever feel easier, resting, listening to a podcast, cleaning, whatever is the opposite of trying to force sleep… that really helps 🙂
Do you like our way of teaching? Would you like to unpause your life, sleep well and feel like yourself again?
We can help!
For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you.
We look forward to seeing you on the inside!
Listening to your FFI and SFI Playlist is slowly helping my anxiety. I understand you're not a doctor but as someone who's done research I would love your opinion. Long story short: im 25. my partner cheated on me in June causing major issues to my sleeping habits such as anxiety attacks preventing sleep leading to insomnia and then self fulfilling prophecy. Its now October. After a triggering episode last Thursday I've endured immense waves of anxiety feeding insomnia leading to fragmented sleep. As I type this I'm awake after not being able to sleep at ALL. Is this rapid worsening insomnia SFI or FFI or am I just going through a crummy period in my life? Note: My grandfather passed away in 2016 at age 67 of CJD and not a single main issue of his was sleep save for when he finally went into a coma. Any advice would be sincerely appreciated
Hi Roman,
To me, anyone who has the capacity to imagine that they may have SFI is functioning at at level that would be impossible for someone with symptomatic SFI… hang in there and glad the content has been helpful
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Hello Daniel,
Thank you so much for the fast reply. I ended up going to the ER due to worsening anxiety attacks and a deteriorating mental state. Not to get too personal but my anxiety got so bad I had convinced myself I was dying whilst severely sleep deprived, dealing with feelings of confusion and such thinking my mental facilities were decaying in real time. They ran a chest xray and a CT and multiple blood work done and came to the conclusion that I was physically fine, and then proceeded to give me 2mg of Antivan to help me relax. I was unable to sleep immediately but it seemed to help bring me out of this weird stupor I was in. They told me if I was still unable to sleep to please come back the next day. I went home, took a warm relaxing shower, put something calm on the TV, ate some food, popped 5mg melatonin and let the two meds work. Instead of my previous sleep where it was fragmented /I felt I was awake the whole time, I woke up. I have no memory of any dreams but this time I was positive I actually slept. Still feel a little daze and confused and my balance seems to be not the best but I'm sincerely hoping it'll go away as the day progresses.
I really don't know how this channel doesn't have millions of subscribers. Its one of the most knowledge valuable channels out there.
So glad Robert to read these lines, and you know I have actually wondered why we don’t have more subscribers, what I believe today: there aren’t that many people in a given moment who has the courage to take that deep look inside.
But when someone is ready, they’ll find us 😊
OH MY GOODNESS! This makes so much sense and such a revelation for me!
Soo glad you found this 😊!
Your explanation makes a lot os sense. I am not missing the wave, I am simply increasing sleep drive helps to avoid arousal.
I love this!! So good. I feel like when we have the surfers window idea, we are focused so much on the time and this itself puts us into a hyperaroused state. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and we keep acquiring evidence for it the less and less we find easeful sleep after the window. Thank you!!
So glad you found it Emma 😊! And what you said here - spot on imho!
This is me, if I don’t fall asleep before midnight forget it. I try not to look at the time. But you kinda get a sense of time the longer u lay there in bed. There’s been the rare occasion I fell asleep after midnight. My sleepy feeling almost never appears after midnight thou.
Hi Angela,
Sorry this has been happening, but glad you found this video, just understanding alone can help so much
Hi Daniel, I believe that I am the person who brought this topic up in the comments of #513. This video was an extraordinary explanation of the phenomenon that I was referring to in my prior comment. I think it makes so much sense and is why it seems to resonate with so many people. Thank you for taking the time to make this video.
Daniel, you are spot on ! it happened to me very often and this video will be helpful, I will save this video as for the future reminder. Truly appreciate for sharing your knowledge and wisdom !
So so glad it made sense Michelle, and thanks for all your support 🙂🙏
This is the reason why sleep restriction is so difficult: there is so much pressure to fall asleep at a certain time. I used to be very sleepy on the couch but as soon as my sleep window started sleepiness had disappeared.
100%! I believe exactly this to be so true, thanks for sharing this connection which I hadn’t made 😊
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 This is exactly my problem when I do sleep restriction. I’m very sleepy and have to fight against the sleepiness before the prescribed bedtime but as soon as the sleep time started I’m wide awake. Now I am trying open sleep window with flexible bedtime and strict waking time. I don’t look at the watch after 10pm and go to sleep when I feel sleepy and it’s time. But then I always wake up earlier, around 5am. My sleep period is 5-5.5 hours and I can’t extend it more. What’s your suggestion in my case?
@thanhhai1734 so sorry that has been a problem but glad you found your way here. If you look at your message, there are several mentions of clock time. This is very normal, of course, but often times when things become more fuzzy, that can really really help.
Aloha Daniel,
First of all thank you so much for sharing your infinite insomnia knowledge! You are an answer to many prayers. I recently found your channel after dealing with sudden sleep struggles over the last couple of months. Wow, just hearing other people's relatable stories and videos have brought me so much peace of mind within a couple of days. This surfer window is exactly what I've been dealing with...if I'm not asleep before 11 I only sleep for a couple hours at sunrise. Despite watching this last night I still had the same issue. The difference is it didn't bother me as much knowing what was happening. I'm not letting the sleeplessness spiral into anxiety and depression like it has in the past. This is the first morning I didn't wake up and start crying about lack of sleep! Of course I'd prefer to sleep well again 🤣 and am really considering signing up for your app. The information on your site and your compassionate approach has been immensely helpful. Thank you!
Brittany
Thank you for your heartfelt comment! We want to assure you that your comments are seen and deeply appreciated. We're grateful that the message resonated with you and that it's contributing to a meaningful conversation. Your support means a lot, and we're glad it made sense to you. 💙
Great video Daniel! Very much insightful as usual!
Thanks so much for the encouragement 🙏
Great video. I experienced this a lot back when I had terrible insomnia.
So glad it made sense 🙂 and also to see the past tense 😊
What about accupunture/TCM and other areas that claim that emotions and organs can get flared up during specific time frames and wake you up?
Our way of looking at this is actually very similar to mainstream psychology and the cognitive model: emotions are produced by thoughts. Unless we habitually think of something that makes us feel a certain way at a certain time, a time itself won’t make us feel any predictable way. Similarly, although many organs have a circadian rhythm to their functions, this in itself has little impact on sleep.
Daniel, there is a subtitle option to auto-translate your video to Bahasa Indonesia. I am so happy!!! I want to tell the people in Indonesia about your channel. I start making tiktok videos about how to face insomnia in my language, and I want to refer the audiences to your videos like about Gas and Brake concept, because it is so good 👍👍👍.
Oh wow this made me so glad to read 😊!! Thanks so much for spreading the word in Indonesia, just the thought that someone will find things get easier in a different part of the world makes me so glad!! Let me know how things go 👍
This is literally me. I remember those times when I didn't used to look at the clock at all 😂 aah. I hope that can be me again some day. This surfer's window is really messing with me especially if happen to go out. Not even super late but if i don't have like 2 hours of no pressure wind down I could get hyper-aroused if I'm not very tired :/ I may have to keep my sleep restricted more until i build up the confidence... if I'm not super sleepy by my 'sleep time' It becomes harder.. I can't just chill normally without feeling pressure to get sleepy...
Spot on!! So true
Frima! It’s been a while, thanks for being in touch 😊 And so glad this made sense!
Hi Daniel. This is Carlos, we had a chat a couple of weeks ago. I have just joined BedTyme. As somebody said up there this is a great video and it resonates completely. Everything makes so much sense.
Carlos! I was just thinking about you as I’m getting ready for the calls this week. So glad the video makes sense, thanks for letting me know. And so glad you’re in BedTyme, hope it will help much 😊
Hello Daniel. So does are microbiome have an impact on sleep? Leaky gut? Because %90 of our seretonin is produced in our gut right? If we do not have enough of it due to an imbalance then it can interrupt sleep.
I would be surprised if it didn’t! But - to me this has nothing to do with insomnia.
This is exactly why I believe this video is key;
You WANT to know THIS! (Insomnia insight #513)
ua-cam.com/video/i-g8Gp7LO8M/v-deo.html
Thank you so much for your insight. I had a reasonable sleep last night but feel very fatigued today. Why?
@musclezetherapies6133 anytime! We often feel tired when they hyperarousal fades and then our fatigue is unmasked. Check insomnia insight 396 for more
Hi Daniel, I think what you are saying here is great, but the reality is somehow one would have to completely disregard time when one was feeling time is of the essence because the wave is rapidly approaching, and actually thinking about it, this is certainly an issue with me because many times I get myself in a hurry to go to bed, brushing teeth, etc, because I know the wave is coming and many times I miss it which does result in poor sleep(sometimes not, though). But thanks for bringing this to light. I can see how this would work if I didn’t know what time it was, or also very important, sometimes I ‘push’ myself past a place where I am almost too tired-trying to get as much out of every day I can, which is crazy, I know. This is insightful!
So glad it made sense 😊! Many thanks for the support 🙏🙏
Thanks for the great tips Daniel, your work has been immensely useful for me! I have two questions I'd be super grateful for some help on:
1. Any advice on how to approach and accept sleeplessness with a newborn? Our first child will be born very soon, and I'm getting a little anxious about the stories I hear from new parents about lack of sleep, and am thinking of how this might resurface my past issues with sleeplessness.
2. Any tips for how to deal with a snoring partner? I know from past videos sleeping on the couch is something you advise against, but am not sure what to do when it gets particularly loud. Thanks!
Anytime! And you know, I picked this comment for a full reply on Friday in our Mining the comments series. Let me know if the reply made sense!
It did, thank you so much for the reply!@@thesleepcoachschool8192
Hi Daniel, hope you are doing well.
I am in a state of confusion and was hoping to gain a little bit of clarity.
My sleep has improved and things were going great until a week ago, I had a speedbump which caused hyperarousal and then I caught a cold and somehow lost my sense of smell, now I can't stop stressing about my smell and it's giving me alot of hyperarousal and I feel like it's affecting my sleep. I feel when I go to bed all I can think about is my sense of smell and how that is stressing me and causing hyperarousal and then I start thinking about how all of this is making me struggle to sleep. I feel like I am in some sort of vicious cycle, where my sense of smell is on my mind all the time and my brain is telling me because it's on my mind I won't sleep.
I know that I should probably just allow my self to stress if I need to because trying to stop will probably cause more struggle.
But I am really struggling with applying this.
I think my question is how do I deal with stresses in life eg. My sense of smell being gone without worrying about whether it will affect my sleep.
Looking forward to your response.
Hi Leha,
Sorry about the struggles but glad you’re here. I wish I could remember who but I’ve heard this before, the loss of smell. And I think what helps is to look at meaning, we could lose our sense of smell and would not be very worried if we thought “of course, I’m having a cold so that’s why”, but when we think it means that something is wrong, that’s when it can really scare us.
Seeing that it’s not the circumstances but our inner narrative about the circumstances that dictates how we feel, this can help much
Hi Daniel
I struggle with insomnia and found your UA-cam channel with your perfect videos.
Would it be possible to automatically add subtitles translation into Slovak or Czech language to the videos? Because automatic subtitles are only available for a few selected languages and I don't understand any of them and unfortunately neither does English. And I would really like to watch the videos where you teach how to fight insomnia. Well thank you
Martin B
Hi Martin,
I would think Google adds more and more languages, but this said, I think you’re in luck because we have a great Slovak coach!
www.naucena-nespavost.sk/
Isn’t the power of our mind amazing? The power of suggestion can have such incredible physical manifestation. I’m never surprised at the havoc my mind can wreak.
Indeed it is, it’s remarkable. Now not being surprised, that can keep us out of many rabbit holes 🙂
hello daniel ! found your videos not that long ago, i have been struggling with insomnia for a little bit less than month , (started one random day with 0 sleep and then anxiety and hyper arousal fuelled it up obviously and i get a lot of 0-3 hours sleep days ( i did have insomnia for some months 4 years ago after coming out some medication). reading your first book and watching your videos help me a lot ! i got some good stretches of good sleep but now im back again on very poor sleep. strangely enough i dont really feel extremely tired, but i do feel anxious, i still go on about my days, go dirt biking , go work, go run, walk the dog, watch tv. one thing that im struggling with is not feeling frustrated in bed when not sleeping. ive tried listening to podcasts or stuff like that but i tend to close it off after 30 minutes and become frustrated again in bed. would it be a good idea for me to maybe get out the bed and listen to podcasts/watch tv etc/ ? havent tried this one yet as getting out seem strange to me.
So glad you found it Emerik and check Insomnia insight 376 on this topic, I think it will answer the questions 🙂
Hi Daniel. I have a question- sometimes I will have a speed bump when I'm very tired. I'll be falling asleep but wake up from hyperarousal. But I'm still groggy and tired, just not able to fall asleep, and I don't feel like watching any tv either. In this scenario, should I force myself to watch something, or can I keep trying to sleep even though I keep waking?
Hi Jenny,
I’d say it’s the path of least resistance that helps so much. Befriending wakefulness is anything that isn’t trying to force sleep, and if we force ourselves to watch tv so that we no longer are afraid so that we sleep… we are trying to force sleep.
On the other hand, when we do whatever feel easier, resting, listening to a podcast, cleaning, whatever is the opposite of trying to force sleep… that really helps 🙂
How do you know your clock time?
There’s only one way, checking a clock!