Dating in China can be a Nightmare

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  • @harbin88
    @harbin88 Місяць тому +88

    I agree with those who suggested you should learn Chinese. Also you must realize that people dont think you are a young man. You dont look particular young either, please face the realities.

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +5

      @@harbin88 he's getting long in the tooth

    • @harbin88
      @harbin88 24 дні тому +1

      @@MaxAmerica.Freedom😎👍🏻 "Long in the tooth" is a clever idiom! It means someone is getting old. It comes from the idea that as horses age, their gums recede, making their teeth appear longer. Kind of a roundabout way to measure age, don’t you think? But it sure sounds more interesting than just saying "he's getting older." Curious how these quirky expressions come about. Got another idiom you’re wondering about?

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom 24 дні тому

      @harbin88 I never asked. I know what it means. We had a farm/ranch back in the 40s - 60's.

  • @sct4040
    @sct4040 Місяць тому +157

    Oh come on Kirk, no one under 50 is going to look at a 60+ year old man. Except for those looking for a sugar daddy. That’s just the truth.

    • @Jed-pk6zg
      @Jed-pk6zg Місяць тому +14

      Not true. Simply not true. That is just a western thing, it's not that way in many parts of the world.

    • @bobol326
      @bobol326 Місяць тому

      at least in China normal women want men of no more than 5 year older or younger.
      only sugar daddy seekers accept older older men

    • @jameswkyip
      @jameswkyip Місяць тому +8

      My wife is 31 years younger than me n we have 2 kids, 4 and 1 years old

    • @yiplekhong5111
      @yiplekhong5111 Місяць тому +5

      Not true at all.

    • @shittykittyification
      @shittykittyification Місяць тому

      Seems like a good move cos the poorer the country the easier the women😂

  • @CrzyD-cv8xz
    @CrzyD-cv8xz Місяць тому +107

    The truth is China is more developed now so the women are more picky. It's not the same China as the time you met WeiFong back in the day. You're gonna need a big wallet nowadays. When a Chinese young woman sees you being old she thinks you're old and gross. That's the simple truth. A Filipina young woman will also think that inside about you, make no mistake and don't fool yourself to think they don't see age. 😂. but since they're poor they see you being at deaths door as a way they can get at all your inheritance faster 😂. You do what you need to do. It's a typical story that plays out this way throughout South East Asia.

    • @harbin88
      @harbin88 Місяць тому +22

      Brutal truth.

    • @gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655
      @gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655 Місяць тому

      Is it your experience or some TV reports in your country?

    • @CrzyD-cv8xz
      @CrzyD-cv8xz Місяць тому +12

      ​@@gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655 common sense. 😂

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +17

      Yes , I agree, they see us elder gentleman having one foot in the grave. 😂. Their gold diggers but I don't blame them. Love is blind when looking for a wife.

    • @notchit3542
      @notchit3542 Місяць тому +14

      💯agree. My experiences n South East Asian taught me many lessons. I have always thought those poor beautiful woman were victims, but the truth is that foreign man are the biggest victim, or else you wouldn't be that far looking for happiness. Asian woman r very smart, tricky & good at keeping secrets, especially young looking for old foreigners. they r not looking for age, but financial success. not to say all r like this. but lot's of them are. . Believe me when they all poor they don't know poor. only a outsider rich person can tell. But if ur OK with it . than go for it. Yes. lot's of them will even have kids with you to secure the deal.

  • @MM-sr6fw
    @MM-sr6fw Місяць тому +39

    The honest truth is someone in their 30s will not want to date 60+ yr old guy unless they are interested in your money(a lot of it). Remember picking a mate( with desirable traits and certain characteristics/specifications goes both ways).

    • @raycomeau6866
      @raycomeau6866 Місяць тому

      Exactly. Here we are talking "princess" class. Expect entitlement, with desire to have fun.

  • @sootuckchoong7077
    @sootuckchoong7077 Місяць тому +30

    At 60 plus, no point thinking of marrying. Have more freedom when alone actually.

  • @johnhg_myaus
    @johnhg_myaus Місяць тому +42

    the locals doesn't need to speak English, you need to learn Chinese, very quickly..

    • @EmperorMingg
      @EmperorMingg 6 днів тому

      This is such a fact. Guy boasts over 20 years in China and can barely ask for the time

  • @bobol326
    @bobol326 Місяць тому +49

    if you want to find a wife in China, just
    1. Learn mandarin
    2. be realistic, seek a mate of your own age
    if you want a young sugar baby, go to thailand or philippines

    • @glennw.4570
      @glennw.4570 Місяць тому +9

      Don't think he's interested in marriage. Just sack-time. That's the problem.

    • @supersmartan
      @supersmartan Місяць тому +1

      Dancing aunties hmm

    • @Miketrungqoct
      @Miketrungqoct Місяць тому +1

      he told in his videothat he doesn't want to get married again and after his family (from weifong marriage)visa inquiry.he have to apply for normal visa.that is short visa. also Chinese lady don't want marriage if not meet a better situations guy. nowadays,there are lots of choices for ladies.the No. 1 key words is financial,second is handsome and young

    • @FallenLeavesReturnToRoots
      @FallenLeavesReturnToRoots Місяць тому

      ​@@glennw.4570that's not a chinese thing especially for women in his age group.

  • @andreashauschild7757
    @andreashauschild7757 Місяць тому +39

    My Chinese wife is 1 year younger then me, 59. She does not speak English because I always planned to retire in China so she never saw the need to learn. I did take 1 year of Chinese in South West University in Chongqing. It gives me enough skill to talk to her with her. After 13 years we kind of adopted our communication to each other.

    • @leondxut
      @leondxut Місяць тому +7

      I'm in the same boat, after 15 years of living with my wife here in China her English has gone ahead in leaps and bounds while my Chinese is minimal. However, after all these years we are able to communicate very well. You develop a sort of personal communication language.

    • @williamlewandowski129
      @williamlewandowski129 Місяць тому +6

      @@leondxut Same here, my Mandarin sucks, but my wife English, after living in the US 15 years, is very sufficient, but certainly not fluent. Using an AI translator on our phones still comes in handy sometimes for the complicated conversations. But now that I have retired to China, I need to up my game in learning some more useful Chinese, but my translator is always at the ready. Good luck out there to my fellow expats trying their best to crack the code on this difficult language.

    • @andreashauschild7757
      @andreashauschild7757 Місяць тому +3

      @@leondxut Fully agree, its funny. One of our friends is a Chinese English teacher. When we go to dinner he is always amazed. He says he is fluent in English and chinese, but when me and my wife talk he often has no clue what we saying. We have developed our own grammar and dialect.

    • @teflerchina.2987
      @teflerchina.2987 Місяць тому +7

      My Chinese wife and me have been married for 18 years. She is 13 years younger than me and a Nanning native.
      Her English is poor but she knows enough to communicate with me. Most times we use Wechat to communicate when needed. Her pronunciation is poor but I can understand what she is saying as I have got so used to it.
      She uses the local dialect more when talking to others. That is far too difficult for me to learn.
      My Mandarin is enough to pass and get by and I am learning more each day. I learned what I know by myself and teaching in schools also helped me as I used Pinyin to get some points across during teaching.

    • @biglance
      @biglance Місяць тому

      Good man.

  • @michelbourgeois6067
    @michelbourgeois6067 Місяць тому +9

    Dating after you are 60 years old is difficult not only in China but worldwide! It is what it is. we all want the best for us but do not forget that the girls also!

  • @coyote1651
    @coyote1651 Місяць тому +121

    You live in China so should learn Chinese

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +14

      Exactly! I always learn the language of the country I visit.

    • @SpicyShorts-s5n
      @SpicyShorts-s5n Місяць тому +14

      Learning the basics is a minimum.

    • @StanLee-xe7vr
      @StanLee-xe7vr Місяць тому +17

      Kirk won’t learn Chinese. He claims it’s too difficult and his this vs that videos or china vs America video is all he can do.

    • @EdwardDouglas-rb2mn
      @EdwardDouglas-rb2mn Місяць тому +1

      If you haven't learnt to spoke Chinese and been living there for more than ten years... that's just complete laziness and shows that you don't really have respect for China.
      You also went prowling within the six months after your wife passed away, that just creepy.
      You're a womaniser plain and simple!!!

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +7

      @Spicy-n2y Exactly! At least learn, "Where's the bathroom?". It wouldn't be so bad, but I heard he's been there 20 years. I think he just drinks in his spare time. Oh well. We all have vices.

  • @rosalynnchow5057
    @rosalynnchow5057 Місяць тому +36

    Kirk, it's fate. I didn't have any dates in my youthful 20s - totally none. Why don't you focus on some other hobby? Or develop new interests? I like to be alone. No noise, no demands, no expectations, no additional expenses. It's totally freedom!

  • @SagittarianArrows
    @SagittarianArrows Місяць тому +16

    I'm Sagittarian so I will be direct, I'm also about your age. Beer will be your main obstacle! Most mature Chinese women are profoundly into healthy, not going to be an ageing man's carer - NO WAY! Look at Robert Kiyosaki, Kim left when she was 60 & he was 77 (10 years difference). Wai Fong met you when younger & you had a business to build. Will your new partner just be a drinking partner with benefits?
    Philippines are happily ignorant if they choose a 60+ guy. They are young and have time to live & get re-married, plus you will be supporting their family too. Well most older men get what they deserve - life's dramas with young women without worldly experience. You may want to watch White guys who had relationships with lower educated/poorer Filipinos to know the reality.

  • @kennedy6618
    @kennedy6618 Місяць тому +25

    Kirk, 30 plus years, is too big of the gap. In Canada, you are dirty old man!
    Filipinas love ATM man... So age is not an issue there but more likely you will have to support the whole family.
    Be careful, don't lose your pants and shirt for a piece of tail. They can take half of your assets in a blink an eye! I know many retirees been taken for a ride. Good luck!

  • @changhongdahei
    @changhongdahei Місяць тому +23

    China have passed the date when it was very poor 30 years ago that some young girls were willing to marry to old white people just for migrating to any western countries (like some current southeast Asia countries, such as Philippines). Chinese women nowadays are picky and don't think foreigner men are better than Chinese men or Western countries are better than China. You have to be wealthy, or good looking, and love Chinese culture and language to be able to attract them.

    • @supersmartan
      @supersmartan Місяць тому

      Spot on.....Kirk is of with the pixies they want his money.......nothing else in exchange for sex and dentists

    • @starnight1209
      @starnight1209 Місяць тому

      Those old virgins have not seen a white banana yet, they will change their mind after fighting with a super white banana, they do not know what they're missing.

  • @nitsujnaej
    @nitsujnaej Місяць тому +22

    You've been in China for more than 20-years Gweilo. why haven't you learned Chinese, or should I say Mandarin?

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +9

      Wow! That long? He should be ashamed. I always thought he knew Chinese. 😕

  • @randalowens8589
    @randalowens8589 Місяць тому +7

    All I can say is that you and I are about the same age. The woman I married is Chinese and is in her early 50s. Very compatible and no generational shock.

  • @Jeff-sm8of
    @Jeff-sm8of Місяць тому +14

    You can be cocksure pinays who go with western men have already serviced the entire Yankee navy.... More than once. Another one is no big deal.

  • @rdzhang
    @rdzhang Місяць тому +7

    Be honest, how many women who are 40s or younger are willing to date you??? Perhaps even less opportunities. If you are wealthy it is a different story. Money talks across the world land and sea. Not too much to do with culture or language.

  • @nomoreyt00
    @nomoreyt00 18 днів тому +4

    Watching someone who is so critical of the aging of the opposite sex, yet is looking rather aged is nausiating. A healthy person adapts to the situation and knows their own limitations. 60 something going on 70, chasing 20 year olds. You will not fit in well in a family oriented community that has practiced Confusian, Daoist, and Buhuddist humility for hundreds of years.

  • @laifamily7804
    @laifamily7804 Місяць тому +11

    40s women still find 50 year old men attractive, once you start looking like grandpa, it's not gonna happen. just find one in se asia. be prepared to be a sugar daddy or don't dream about it. Enjoy life, you understand the culture already, learn some basic mandarin to help you get around. Hire a hooker when you want to get laid.

  • @peterjol
    @peterjol Місяць тому +6

    If I had had a successful relationship and grown old WITH someone, I think it would be different, but as a single OLD man I have the problem that I just don't really feel any attraction for someone who is the RIGHT age for me and I am quite sure any female who IS at an age where I can still feel that kind of attraction would only feel absolutely revolted at the thought of even kissing someone as old as me. I just accept and content myself with being a SINGLE, old man, wishing I could be young again.

  • @roblue2647
    @roblue2647 Місяць тому +7

    64 and looking for ??
    “PIE IN THE SKY!”
    The WOMEN all over has CHANGED!
    It is MORE ABOUT $$SECURITY and “WHAT’s LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?”

  • @s.vortex
    @s.vortex Місяць тому +11

    Most 30s or 40s yo Chinese women are already educated and established in their career. They won't need sugar daddies. I think you'd have much better luck in less affluent SE Asian countries if you're after those age range. Many Vietnamese and Thai girls are beautiful IMO. Not sure why you would prefer PH over VN. Is it the language barrier?

    • @jt6231
      @jt6231 Місяць тому +3

      Because Filipina speak English. That’s the biggest draw for older men who don’t want to learn a new language.

  • @tt3760
    @tt3760 Місяць тому +28

    My advice is learn to speak Mandarin. Am sure you find the right one. Good luck mister 🤞

    • @notchit3542
      @notchit3542 Місяць тому +1

      Yeah imagine if Geillo was studying Chinese in a night school or library. he b a star over night.

  • @condocord7544
    @condocord7544 Місяць тому +32

    Look for women 90 and older

  • @suntzu2ya358
    @suntzu2ya358 Місяць тому +17

    Don't be so hard on yourself. Live the present moment. You'll find what you are looking for. Saint Francis of Asisi's quote "be patient with everyone, but most of all be patient with yourself"

  • @fongchong6136
    @fongchong6136 Місяць тому +15

    Hi Kirk, you are an intelligent person. I think you will be more attracted to Chinese educated women. You need to try different channels to find them. Chinese dating services, overseas Chinese dating services, attending different social functions in China based on your own interests. These are just some of the strategies you can take. A lot of Chinese women at 50 are still very attractive. It’s the internal attraction that is important. Youth and beauty will fade away with age. But internal beauty never fades away. You are a good person that deserves a good companion. Good luck!

  • @PattayaReality-ms5hv
    @PattayaReality-ms5hv Місяць тому +13

    Come on. You should have mastered the chinese language by now, you had a chinese wife and living in China for decades.

  • @leericky2620
    @leericky2620 Місяць тому +5

    I'm a Malaysian Chinese from Kuala Lumpuar about your age, I guess you should try your luck in rural areas and of if you can speak Mandarin help a lot.And also I think you're financially well off it should be a problem (no money no honey) good luck 🙏

  • @ymaster8719
    @ymaster8719 Місяць тому +5

    64 year old and wants to date a 30 year in China !? Didn't you know women in their 30s in China were born in the one child policy era, they are mostly highly educated and are very choosy, even women in their 60s grew up in the freedom era where they could choose whom they wanted to marry, maybe you should look at women in the 90s where they grew up in the arranged marriage era. 😅

    • @FallenLeavesReturnToRoots
      @FallenLeavesReturnToRoots Місяць тому +1

      That's cruel 😂. But I have to agree that he has just about zero chance finding a chinese woman in her 30s or 40s.

  • @thetruthinquirer
    @thetruthinquirer Місяць тому +3

    In China, there are plenty of pretty gals apparently looking to match make to find their love ones. Young ones or mature ones they are all waiting to meet the right ones. The formula is simple, you have to go to the right places to find them or give them a chance to find you. Just like in philippines there are streetfull of them.

  • @Way827
    @Way827 Місяць тому +12

    Since I'm past 50 something, I realise I'm lucky to have my girlfriend. I do look back with envy at my past when I had younger, hotter girls, but I was much younger then. The reality is what hot young woman is going to want an old man? Enjoy peace and nature when you get old first and foremost. China has beautiful nature and temples etc. It's still a great place to be old. Maybe you can find a middle aged woman who can speak English.

  • @Jerry.L
    @Jerry.L Місяць тому +2

    Gweilo 60 you can also give dating app a shot in China. This way you open up to English speaking ladies outside Nanning while still enjoy benefits staying in China. China is huge there must be someone who can speak decent English.
    At the same time travel to see what you can find outside China

  • @Jeff-sm8of
    @Jeff-sm8of Місяць тому +6

    Dragon females are well off so many for love. Pinays that go for old western men are poor so pressured by family to marry for money walking atm.

  • @lukawong8921
    @lukawong8921 Місяць тому +13

    Finding a great partner is as difficult to winning lottery, it’s in fact to finding a prefect sole mate it’s more than like winning a lottery.

    • @bobol326
      @bobol326 Місяць тому +2

      soul mate? this old boy is looking for a woman 30 years younger than him, obviously he is not looking for a soul mate

    • @lukawong8921
      @lukawong8921 Місяць тому +1

      @@bobol326 - age again make no difference, it’s between two individuals and it’s nothing to do with anyone else!

    • @notchit3542
      @notchit3542 Місяць тому

      Some day you gonna have it all. but not all at the same time. ur racing horse, breeding horse, show horse, etc.

  • @peterwilliams7335
    @peterwilliams7335 Місяць тому +1

    I have an American friend who went to Singapore and he did not get any attention from the local people even local people speak English. Then he went to Vietnam then he got all kinds attention so he decided to stay in Vietnam instead of Singapore even English is not widely spoken by locals in Vietnam. I think Kirt is experiencing the same thing. China is at the same level as Japan, South Korea, Taiwan, Singapore and Hong Kong in Asia. Kirt needs to go to South East Asian countries where economic standards are lower and people don’t mind old white guys even with language barriers.

  • @danstenis660
    @danstenis660 Місяць тому +16

    What about the large Chinese population in Vancouver, Canada? Bring one back to China. Get on a dating app for Vancouver.

  • @kenson9334
    @kenson9334 Місяць тому +3

    Never ever rush into a relations unless you're hoping to end up in regrets.

  • @gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655
    @gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655 Місяць тому +7

    Because you are asking: I've lived in China for a couple of years and can confirm your experience with Chinese women. I dated some and will never forget the scanner look to check how expensive my cloths were, the questions about my business, my banking account... They are very materialistic. I speak Chinese so it helped me a lot to understand them quicker. Then I went to the Phlippines for a 3 weeks vacation. This was 16 years ago. Met a 27 years younger girl just for the purpose of travelling together - we are married since, have two beautiful daughters, live in a gorgious place facing the sea. If you are careful about women and don't loose your mind you can find here the most beautiful, serious, loving, caring and faithful wives. But take it slowly, avoid bars, go to the countryside. And be careful with foreigners here, not all of them are good. There are many thousands of Expats living here around, but I don't hang around with them so much.

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +3

      All true! Love the remark, "scanner look" 😂

    • @KonglengLee-t6l
      @KonglengLee-t6l Місяць тому

      Anglo saxon is a goldmine to pinoys girl until they found out you r a poor whiteman

    • @CrzyD-cv8xz
      @CrzyD-cv8xz Місяць тому +2

      @@gutzuwissen-derstandderdin8655 if you have a business and looking for a partner that can help you run it, having a Chinese woman is the best kind of mate for that. All other requirements probably look elsewhere. 😂

    • @williamlewandowski129
      @williamlewandowski129 Місяць тому +1

      @@MaxAmerica.Freedom Loved the watch out for sketchy Ex Pats too (which doesn't apply to us, of course).

  • @scionstill3016
    @scionstill3016 Місяць тому +2

    Chinese women are very intelligent, industrious,picky women aside from it there parents don't allow or against poor people to marry but prefer to marry rich people. In Philippines, Colombia, Indonesia, Malaysia it's easy to married young woman they can understand basic English. That's why many British, Americans, expats community prefer to marry Filipina because they have beautiful daughters like Phoebe Cates even though there parents are not good looking figures. Philippines are preferred no. 1 destinations by many foreigners, travelers, tourist, expats because it's easy to find young beautiful women here than China culture because of strict standard by parents needs

  • @murphy628
    @murphy628 17 днів тому +2

    Nowadays, many people will "stalk" the other to a degree to make sure the other is not playing, after all, you do look like a former handsome man.

    • @Gweilo60
      @Gweilo60  17 днів тому

      What do you mean former?

    • @murphy628
      @murphy628 17 днів тому +1

      @@Gweilo60 during your younger days. Good video!

  • @atlasx5947
    @atlasx5947 Місяць тому +5

    Maybe you should go back Canada,there are many Indian immigrants,it’s a chance

  • @fischman26-China
    @fischman26-China Місяць тому +9

    I know many divorced and widowed women in China where I will visit in two weeks, not for me to date but to hang out with. If I run across Gueilo 60, I will introduce him to some of them. You never know! 👍

  • @englishpedant
    @englishpedant Місяць тому +4

    Another thing you could do is sit in that park and offer English practice for free. Could be a good way to meet someone the old fashioned way instead of going on the apps.

  • @ahpong
    @ahpong Місяць тому +3

    At this age, not easy to find a serious partner in Thailand either unless she's a gold digger.

  • @tyronelowe7090
    @tyronelowe7090 Місяць тому +2

    Good luck desparado....whatever happens is probably going to be you choosing your destiny.
    As the Eagles said go for the queen of hearts...

  • @teofilol2666
    @teofilol2666 Місяць тому +3

    Take a closer look at divorced or widowed women around 30 to 40s (even in the Philippines), is only fair. Many hidden gems among them!

    • @jt6231
      @jt6231 Місяць тому

      Wait - I think he may not want to date single mom???

  • @iam_bitty
    @iam_bitty Годину тому

    Yeah not all of ‘em, but nowadays it’s very difficult to find that genuine and unique one. I got scammed twice before meeting my lifetime Filipina.

  • @ms767210
    @ms767210 Місяць тому +3

    There's lots of girls keen to date you when you stay in hotels there. They even have cards with their pictures on they slip under your hotel door. 😂

  • @Miketrungqoct
    @Miketrungqoct Місяць тому

    he told in his vide before that he doesn't want to get married again and after his family visa(from weifong marriage) will inquiry.he has to apply for normal visa.that is a short visa.nowdays most of Chinese ladies don't want marriage if not meet a better situations guy.nowadays,there are lots of choices for Chinese ladies.the No.1 key words found is financial,second is citizen Country, third id handsome and young, fourth is region, language ,culture,and .......

  • @CraigSalmonowicz
    @CraigSalmonowicz Місяць тому +1

    You need to be looking in a tier one city. English is much more common even with older people.
    Learning some Chinese will always help your game too.

  • @yvonwheel4943
    @yvonwheel4943 Місяць тому +5

    Gweilo, like local Chinese, make a sign with your resume and post it in the park, see whether some woman can pick you up😊😊😊 Your mind is like a monkey, restless! Maybe you should consider going to the Shaolin temple to calm it down!

  • @cosmicdancer
    @cosmicdancer Місяць тому +17

    Learn Chinese!

    • @suntzu2ya358
      @suntzu2ya358 Місяць тому +3

      Learn Mandarin and get an instant translator at the same time

  • @chinwahyin3154
    @chinwahyin3154 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks for your personal update. Understand your position. I agree with you that language is indeed a problem in China if you only speak English. Unless for us as an overseas Chinese, we too have a problem communicating with them except we can overcome that a bit by speaking a Chinese Dialect to them such as Cantonese or Hakka. Yes, I like Philippines because they all have no problem with English. People there are friendly but be careful of their friendliness too. Wishing you good luck and blessings finding a perfect partner. Be single is still a good option as there is no attachment. Freedom of thoughts and movement are important.

  • @KonglengLee-t6l
    @KonglengLee-t6l Місяць тому +2

    I have a hunch you will be moving to philippines after this no?

  • @cchu319
    @cchu319 Місяць тому +1

    I’m certain you will have better success in the Philippines.

  • @Jeff-sm8of
    @Jeff-sm8of Місяць тому +13

    Dragon girls and women have very high standards in men.

  • @masterblaster2626
    @masterblaster2626 Місяць тому +2

    Find yourself a nice 50-something Chinese lady that you can have a real relationship with. You'll have to learn some Chinese but you two can work on that and it'll help to create a real bond. Forget the Philippines ... it's too sketchy and dangerous. I can just see some guys taking you hostage and demanding a couple hundred thousand for your release ... who's gonna help you? Inside, you know that the Philippines is the wrong move. Also, 1,000 Frenchmen can't be wrong, as the saying goes.

  • @Jed-pk6zg
    @Jed-pk6zg Місяць тому +6

    I agree with you. We are close to the same age and in a similar situation. Dating Chinese women can be tough nowadays. Don't despair there are lots of other cultures close to you there. It will work out for you I'm sure.

    • @notchit3542
      @notchit3542 Місяць тому +1

      Philippines....bc rest of the South East Asia countries R moving fast. Last time I was in Thailand 2017 the price almost doubled from 2015, even Cambodia was building a skytrain. Philippines best bet.

    • @glennw.4570
      @glennw.4570 Місяць тому +1

      People our age in China do not casually date. They announce their intention to get married again, find a life partner, and do it.

    • @williamlewandowski129
      @williamlewandowski129 Місяць тому

      @@glennw.4570 When I found my Chinese wife online it was certainly like that, we were both looking for a spouse, and we got lucky (me luckier than her). But if you live in the country where you are looking for a mate, it certainly is much easier to date around first. Good luck!

    • @glennw.4570
      @glennw.4570 Місяць тому

      @@williamlewandowski129 Your story is mine, also. My old Chinese wife and I are well into our second decade of marriage, and retired now in her hometown. It is truthfully the best and most peaceful period of my entire seventy years on the planet. Safe environment, wonderful and fresh food, a homogeneous culture (even the glorious minority groups are Chinese), and the museums of my dreams! While I do believe that 'diversity' is not actually a good thing for a country, I am happy to report that where we are I never even get a second glance, and people who do recognize that I am foreign treat me with kindness and dignity.
      My wife says that one big reason for our success is the fact that I am childless, and there is no friction on that front. My only loyalty is to her...

    • @williamlewandowski129
      @williamlewandowski129 Місяць тому

      @@glennw.4570 I understand exactly your success. The only conflicts I have ever had with my wife is when it comes to my children. Divided loyalties are definitely a land mine. Fortunately, now that I have retired to China, those issues have mostly dissolved. Continued good luck to you.

  • @ChrisHereToday
    @ChrisHereToday Місяць тому +4

    Stay put. I'll set you up with my wife's sister from Yunnan. She is in her early forties

  • @masterwong5568
    @masterwong5568 Місяць тому +1

    In fact, Thailand is another direction to consider. I just met one recently. I think Thai girls are relatively less vain.

  • @veekm5905
    @veekm5905 17 днів тому

    it's not easy being lonely and old gweilo, and it's only going to get worse - my sympathies and I don't have a solution (i'm in a similar situation and I'm touching 50) the only thing one can do is band together to stave off loneliness but it's so difficult to trust people at that age. At least you have children back home in canada.

  • @pbworld7858
    @pbworld7858 Місяць тому +2

    Beware of gold diggers. One of my friends lost a lot. But then again, he was very naive. And love is blind.

  • @goldriverbank6647
    @goldriverbank6647 Місяць тому +27

    You are not young not handsome, and not rich. No nice woman young or old will stick with you.😂

  • @awen777
    @awen777 Місяць тому

    I knew what you were going to say before you said it. I concur 100%! Truth is I have a school mate who is 72yrs and happily married to a Filipino girl in her mid 30's now. They have been together for more than a decade and very happy the whole time. Girls in Asia often have village roots and understand life. They can be very good at never degrading you as they believe degrading their husband degrades themself. Of course they want security but usually an older guy has very visible assets.

  • @glennw.4570
    @glennw.4570 Місяць тому +9

    People our age in China do not casually date. They announce their intention to get married again, find a life partner, and do it. You know that.

  • @Zhengc
    @Zhengc Місяць тому +3

    I enjoy your channel. No offense, but when you are 60+, don’t speak Chinese, and want to date 30 to 40 years old…that just seem
    A little out of reach.

    • @Gweilo60
      @Gweilo60  Місяць тому

      Keep watching. I will show you how it is possible.

  • @bobsmith3983
    @bobsmith3983 Місяць тому +6

    You're going to be married to a Filipino family.

  • @presimirmikic9016
    @presimirmikic9016 Місяць тому +1

    Suggest to look for Chinese descendents in Malaysia, Indonesia, and Singapore region. Many of them would like to immigrate back to China.

  • @ILOVEHKTV
    @ILOVEHKTV 10 днів тому

    Good evening from Tokyo. An interesting video you developed.

  • @farmerboy8659
    @farmerboy8659 Місяць тому

    Gweilo being honest . This is why I always tune in . I think if you find your love that her family comes along . This is normal , helping out her parents and siblings . Be safe and be happy . Thanks , your an good man . Old Cat always likes his young mouse

  • @112313
    @112313 Місяць тому +1

    Kirk, bettwr for u to rent a place in malaysia... you've been here. U love it here.

    • @Gweilo60
      @Gweilo60  Місяць тому

      Malsysia is a great place and i will be traveling there soon enough.

  • @flyhighseeall8271
    @flyhighseeall8271 Місяць тому +3

    China is no longer a poor country, many young Chinese women are highly educated these days, even young educated Chinese men find it hard to find a decent wife. Thailand or Philippine might have a better chance ,. just sayin.

  • @plaw9188
    @plaw9188 Місяць тому +3

    Most Filipinas speak English, and many don’t mind a 64 years old guy!

  • @firstlast-pt5pp
    @firstlast-pt5pp Місяць тому +1

    start a business there- export dried mangoes for for example - very expensive in Canada ( I think the market is captured) - attract better ladies as a working businessman and help out some of the people there - win win

  • @bobbyus
    @bobbyus Місяць тому +1

    I always found it easy to date in china. At one point i was going out almost every single day. Lost 8 kg 😅. Patience sir

  • @bangfi1865
    @bangfi1865 14 днів тому

    I would recommend just taking time for yourself. Trying to replace what you lost is something we all do, but it ain't healthy. Particularly for your wallet. Do a class in something. Painting.music. acting. Language . Sailing. Whatever seems good to you. I got lucky 15 years ago but smartphones have changed people forever. A lady I found just don't exist anymore. If she up @ left I wouldn't give it another go from what I see now. Live long@prosper.

  • @raycomeau6866
    @raycomeau6866 Місяць тому

    I will add more feedback. I have lived in China for over 15 years and travelled here since 2000. I have been many places. (1) Where and how you search makes a huge difference in the qualities of women. This is no difference to women raised in California compared to Mississippi. (2) What is their education level or employment. (3) Raised in the city vs rural. (4) Loner vs socially active. All women can and will learn English if they are not stupid.
    If you live someplace where they speak a local dialect, you will have a difficult time learning it.
    I live in Chongqing and part of a group of a dozen English speaking ex-pats & immigrants. All married to local women most speak decent levels of English, but none were speakers before they married. It takes about a year for them to reach a decent level if you talk a lot and they do not work. But if they have a full time job, it will take more time.
    Each Asian culture can be very different, so do expect their values to be the same.
    Don't make the mistake of thinking with the wrong head. At a certain age consider if you get sick in future and need help, where are they.

  • @bpm1965
    @bpm1965 Місяць тому

    Hey Kirk I'm so sorry to hear what happened. What did happen? Is that why you stop doing your video podcasting?

  • @v2v7g9
    @v2v7g9 Місяць тому +1

    Kirk, what you need to do is to take things one step at a time, but the first thing needed is for you to get Mandarin classes and get started with basic spoken Chinese. It will help in your understanding of Chinese culture too. It is going to take some time but if you like living in China that is going to be your best investment. It’s also the best tool that will help you achieve happiness in China. When the Chinese lady sees that you are honestly learning the language and the culture there will be a certain amount of respect you’ll get from them. I stand to be corrected but I believe you are living your life with the wrong Circle of people. Sorry but I bet that you going to the Philippines and looking for love there will be disastrous for you. The Philippines will not have the infrastructure that you have enjoyed in China and have gotten so used to. Why get a young Filipino girl when there are so many beautiful single Chinese women that are still available? If you can’t find them, you're looking in the wrong city, try to get out of your comfort zone and look for Chinese ladies in more developed cities like Beijing, Shanghai and perhaps even Dalian. It seems that you are quite set on girls between 30 to 40 years old. In my opinion I believe that somebody between the age of 40 to 45 is more suited for you. I'm 58 years old and my wife who is from China is 40 years old.
    If I’m single again, the 1st place I’ll hit is the Ballroom dance classes. I was in a dance class with 20 young beautiful Chinese ladies and I was the only male student.

  • @teflerchina.2987
    @teflerchina.2987 Місяць тому

    Doesn't get that cold in Nanning during the winter months. Last winter was quite warm compared to previous. I didn't even need to use the electric blanket or heater . But then as I am from England it makes me kinda used to the winter weather.
    The summer months are the worst and my A.C or fan is always on.

    • @williamlewandowski129
      @williamlewandowski129 Місяць тому

      I am living on the coast of Shandong where the weather is fairly comparable to the Seattle area where I am from. So my Chinese wife and I have found our spot where the climate is relatively temperate and the cost of living affordable. But lots of wonderful places to live in China, choose wisely. But I also enjoy learning about the PI, as it is quite the contrast. So keep up the good work Gweilo, I will be following your excellent adventure.

  • @RoyFJ65
    @RoyFJ65 Місяць тому +7

    Youe wife just passed away, not even been a year. In her memory, shouldn't you try and wait and curtail your needs for now?

    • @manfredurl6031
      @manfredurl6031 Місяць тому +1

      no need to wait if you do not want to wait

    • @RoyFJ65
      @RoyFJ65 Місяць тому

      no need for marriage either.

  • @englishpedant
    @englishpedant Місяць тому +3

    You are in quite a small city. It will be unlikely for you to find someone there with a decent level of English. If I was your age and in your situation, I wouldn't bother with dating. I would just enjoy my hobbies, my peace and quiet, and just go for massages from time to time. Also download one of the language apps and learn more Chinese.

  • @bsc524
    @bsc524 Місяць тому +4

    Gweilo, I would suggest you enrol for a Chinese class. There's a good chance to get to know some reasonable Chinese women. Wish you luck from Malaysia.

    • @MaxAmerica.Freedom
      @MaxAmerica.Freedom Місяць тому +2

      Chinese is really not that difficult. It's learning to read it that's difficult. They have real time earplug translators now anyway

    • @bobsmith3983
      @bobsmith3983 Місяць тому +1

      @@MaxAmerica.Freedom Time Kettle.

  • @stevesenick
    @stevesenick Місяць тому +6

    Can't help wondering how beautiful life would be now for the Filipinos if they had been friends with China all these years, instead of being under control of U.S. militarism.

  • @williamwilliam
    @williamwilliam Місяць тому +4

    100% the mindset of the young (below 30 years old) sweet young women in the Philippines, Thailand, and a few more countries are: No money, no honey baby!
    Most young Chinese women might consider an older man (above 60 years old) if the financial benefits are substantial.
    Gwelo60, you obviously belong in the Philippines where most people speak some English, and love can be readily bought & available with money. Spread your wealth to help out some young sweet and accommodating young Filipinas. Nobody would raise an eyebrow seeing a 60-80-year-old man with an 18-25-year-old local girl which I think is what you would like.
    I am very sure you enjoy your personal life much more in the Philippines than in China and you have absolutely no need to justify how you spend the rest of your life.

  • @marianceciliaestrella2196
    @marianceciliaestrella2196 Місяць тому +1

    Come to Cebu Mr. Gwello and will introduce you to really nice beautiful people. Life is too short so do whatever it is that makes you happy. Enjoy life.

  • @KENICUSONE
    @KENICUSONE 12 днів тому

    Kirk is finally realizing a few things about life at 64. Women in their 30's and 40's are not looking for an old looking 64 year old man. it is what it is. An old man with cash to spend can find a younger woman in the Philippines.

  • @axelschroeder6657
    @axelschroeder6657 Місяць тому +1

    Maybe you can combine the "best of both Worlds". According to Wikipedia about 20 % of the Filippino population are of
    Chinese descent. Usually the more active and business minded people. You probably have a higher chance to find ladies
    in that group that speak English. Good luck my friend !!!

  • @lenniezhang5609
    @lenniezhang5609 Місяць тому

    Just have some fun, don't take it too deep too fast. Take it or leave it is a good way for a lot of people.

  • @lovehumanityearthlove280
    @lovehumanityearthlove280 Місяць тому

    My neighbor in the US went to the Philippines on holiday and he died there on the first day. Now his wife and mistress are fighting over whether the mistress is entitled to some money from his estate. Now his wife is selling off his rental properties.

  • @louisel4839
    @louisel4839 Місяць тому +3

    Most Chinese are ambitious and always work hard to get ahead, men or women. Why a Chinese woman at 30 marry a 60+guy? Either they could have same educational background and share similar interest , in other words a soul mate; or Chinese women who are not too exposed to the world and still have the illusion that Western men are richer, or maybe to get a foreign passport. Women at 30-40 in China these days are mostly educated or highly educated. They may marry an old man if they adore him for his wisdom, knowledge and education. Otherwise, may marry simply the guy is rich enough to provide not only security but comfortable lives.

  • @polibm6510
    @polibm6510 Місяць тому +1

    Dating anywhere IS a Nightmare.

    • @Gweilo60
      @Gweilo60  Місяць тому

      Yes but if it works out the nightmare could turn into a good dream.

  • @TheJosline00
    @TheJosline00 Місяць тому +4

    Sorry to hear your experience. Dating with the wrong person is a nightmare in any part of the world indeed. Each good relationship is a blessing but it may get harder to start a new romance when we get older. I got two friends married to tourist guides during their holiday trips. I'm not making any suggestions here but sometimes you need to look a bit farther away.

  • @donbanh9165
    @donbanh9165 Місяць тому +1

    How is that different than in Canada?

  • @GordoGambler
    @GordoGambler Місяць тому

    Phills just got whacked by a typhoon.
    Nanning is cold?? LOL. Maybe for a bad week. It's only 110 miles north of Hanoi. You should be happy for a month respite from 35C.
    Sure as hell warmer than Nanaimo in Dec.

    • @Gweilo60
      @Gweilo60  Місяць тому

      Yes they did. The family house I was in last trip where I was helping fix teeth no longer exists. It was blown away in the typhoon. Also talked to Eden today and she was helping clean up after a tropical storm that just passed Palo so two big ones in a week.

  • @WANDERER0070
    @WANDERER0070 Місяць тому +4

    Most younger women see you as dady big bucks,,mind you there are RICH women who might be perfect mate. Keep lookin and ye shall find.

  • @choifayue9848
    @choifayue9848 Місяць тому

    Kirk if all else fail, just try going to the park on the weekend to check on the dating scene, don't be picky, as long as she is a good nice lady and you 2 can get along and happy thats the point PEACE

  • @eagerdip8086
    @eagerdip8086 7 днів тому

    So sorry to hear Wei's death😭😭rip

  • @alvino2211
    @alvino2211 Місяць тому +10

    Yo Kirk philippine economy needs you man. Perhaps the only country where no one give a sh*t you have teen gf so long your atm works. 😂