Alejandro Cordero Womens are exactly like the smartmarks wrestling fans and vice-versa they like to cheer for the heels the bad guys and the antihero and boo every single clean cut babyface who's here to save the day once again
Depends on age. Under 30 they like the bad boy, the badder the better. She's trying to break away from her parents. At 30 she realizes she needs an ATM card. She finds a simp that she can exploit, then divorce. Many times she'll rob this guy of his assets in that divorce to return to bad boy land. She works a job, gives him that money, bails him out of jail, lends him money that the simp is paying in child support. As a guy, you have to ask yourself why do we need this crap. Answer is we don't.
I'm a genuinely nice man. No act, not a "put-on" or fake. And yes - whenever I meet a woman, I seem to immediately take up residence in the "friend zone:. I once inquired a female co-worker about my dilemma. She told me that I'm actually TOO nice, and women don't go for that. You know what? I am who I am, and I should not have to compromise my personality, values, beliefs, etc., in order to get with a woman.If they can't accept me as I am, fuck them.
I'm 46 years old and since the age of 17 have had 8 sex partners.. there are some decent women out there who don't spread them for every guy who comes along.. If you're a nice guy, stop chasing nasty bitches then complain about it.. Some of us have and always will have good values..
Actually, it make perfect sense. Women are offered dick all day everyday. Its the dummy button nature installed in men. When a women is not getting that attention she gets from every guy something in her brain goes off asking the question why. So, to get the question answered, she must go on a journey. The digest questions are asked first. "Is he gay? Is he involved? Was he proccupied?" If each once is a resounding no, then her "Is it me" alarm goes off. Since most women have nothing going on other than sex, their ego gets involved and is why the asshole/jerk/dick approach works. Its up to us to figure out how to play it.
Every time one of these discussions come up there's always a group of women who respond with "Oh that's not true...I like nice guys!" Problem is that we never see these women who supposedly like nice guys in real life. These women are like Bigfoot: There's always people saying it exists but no one knows anybody who's actually seen it.
Plus I think women's & men's definitions of "Nice guy" are totally different. Being a nice guy doesn't have to mean he's boring/a doormat/too clingy, etc. But some girls seem to think that & won't even take the time of day to see that's not always the case. At the end of the day, whether man or woman, I say that if you can't appreciate a good person then you don't really deserve them in the first place..
Being 100% honest. There is a difference from being a nice guy and a nice-needy-unconfident-pedestal putting-... guy Women usually don't like "nice-needy guys" because of the lack of confidence. Nothing wrong about being a nice guy as long as you're confident about it. Women are attracted to exciting emotions, and the nice guy does not give that to her, because nice guys are usually needy, which makes him gross and then what she feels when she sees him is .... gross = not an attractive emotion. So to get out of the whole friend zone thing is simple, stop treating every girl like she is the only one in the world. Nice-needy guys usually just give and give and give but expect nothing in return, a valuable lesson in life is "Only give as much as you get".
Dude let me tell I was in that same boat being the nice guy in high school, even when I graduated and gotten in the real world, all those girls that got with thugs or dope boys ended up with babies on welfare system, but the funny then is the same girls would be like hey sowing so I haven't seen you since high school what been up to? With their three or four kids and three different baby daddies. They want holla at you but you don't want damage goods you feel me.
To be perfectly honest, I agreed with everything you said in this video. I'm sorry if my agreement has offended any female viewers but it's the truth. My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago and I'm still not really over it. I don't understand why this happened. I was always there when she needed support and I tried to buy her everything she had eyes on (and no she she didn't ask me to, and I'm also not saying that's a reason for someone to like you) but I felt used and thrown away. I also had a girl friend zone me because she wanted to date a drug dealer once. I just don't understand with everyone in my life saying that I'm this polite young man and everything, and I can't even get the girl. My mom once told me that one day I would be pushing away flocks of girls, but I'm starting to see that that was a lie. No girl wants me. It's the truth. Girls these days don't want a nice guy. I always had this sort of dream to get married and start a family one day, but with every breakup I have, I'm starting to see that that's impossible.
+Corbin Stuckey I tell my female friends most guys want to find the love of their life early, settle down, marry and have kids. But once they see this shit is a lie many guys change for the worse.
+Corbin Stuckey I know how u feel man, I've never been in a relationship, but I don't know how girls are gonna like me because I try to be a nice guy. One girl I had a crusht on thought I was being a creep because I was being 'too friendly'.
What this guy says is so top notch, I don't even know where to begin. I'm a fairly attractive spanish guy, I have a lot of girl friends (friends i just hang out with) and I'm a really nice, funny, smart person. I've tried to try to be more then friends with atleast 3 of them, and each of them turned me down because "I'm to nice" or "But i like you as a friend" and then 3 weeks later they're hooking up with a total douche who is making them cry and complaining to me with texts saying "Why can't i find any nice guys :( :'(" or "Why are they such assholes" and then I'm like "I'm sure you'll find the right guy for you, just keep looking harder" and then they'll be like (this is extremely accurate) "Aww thank you :) you're so sweet and yes i will". Like, I would say 1 in every 3 women have a good looking guy who is cool, nice, funny, polite, smart in their friendzone that they could grab at any given moment, but they complain that they can't find any nice guys. I can never be a douche, I believe all human beings should be treated with respect and love its just how I am so I'm going to be single for a long ass time. Personally I don't really care, but when they say "Why are there no nice guys" to a guy who would love them with all their heart and is pretty annoying as hell. Ladies, look into your friend zones and then you can never say that bullshit ever again. Like, the bullshit in that statement is so goddamn intolerable it irritates me to no end (Again not mad at girls or anything, just sick of hearing that statement) because it makes absolutely no sense its basically like complaining that there is no food in the house when there is a fridge full of food downstairs.
+ZTPDrake7Kid Bro I hear you I have had the same problems. And yes I do get tired of hearing "why can't I find a nice guy" statement. Unfortunately, looks like I will have to die single and at least happy. I am not looking for a perfect girl I am looking for a perfect girl for me. Oh well. Good luck guys.
see this is the thing how many of us guys were brought up with the belief that women like 'nice guys' respectful, generous, moral, and loyal, because we kept hearing that women are sick of all the bad men treating them so badly, then what happens when we get old enough to date? we realize that women are actually attracted to the exact opposite we were conditioned to be. so of course we become bitter would you blame us? good guys became good guys for your benefit only to get rejected for every criminal around, so we naturally become resentful because our eyes have opened up to the truth and we dont like what we see that criminals get women for free because he has a rep, and good guys have to have money only to get used for it.
I am glad i stopped being nice and caring it did more damage and caused more regret than it could ever help me as a man. Face it women like who they like if its not u then move on even if u never get the one u want get money thats the only reason they would stick around
Sigh* sadly I'm a boring nice guy been single for soo long.Every girl I talk to end up in the friendzone. Am I supposed to change or something? Then I wouldn't be true to myself.
Just be who you are, don't try to be someone you aren't, if a girl friend zones you then she isn't attracted to you and she isn't the right one for you. If a woman wants to be friends with you, just be friends, just because you are attracted to them doesn't mean they should or are attracted to you.
Women with daddy issues go for the bad boys xD A well educated, well brought up woman from a nice neighborhood with both parents are the women you should look for ;)
Why is everyone having these pointless debates over nice guys and bad boys? It's all simple, really. Girls like the guys who have an edge. That's it. Women hate to be bored. Just take lead and don't be a pushover, that's all there is to it.
You hit the nail on the head. No one yet made that connection: boredom. It has nothing to do with nice guys. We men would be bored with a nice girl. In this age of easy shelter and well-stocked food, time-saving devices, automated technology, all we have is sheer, unremitting, painful boredom. Do we want political consciousness for breakfast? Do we want spiritual enlightened meditation? Nope! This isn't a classroom or church. We want the phat ass in yoga pants, the sandy-haired debonair in a suit, the alcohol, the sex. Everything is all about the show, the pyrotechnics, the display. So we leave the scientist in the lab and novelist in coffeeshop, and watch the slick talker, the athlete, the crude comedian get the girl! O what brave new world that has such people in it.
Some men are the same. They go after women in relationships, or trashy girls then get mad instead of appreciating good girls. Nice guys are good, but they should be assertive. My exs were nice and respectable. Circumstantially, the relationships didn't work, but it is what it is. I dated 2 jerks my entire life, and don't prefer them. Can't speak for every woman, but this is my experience. Confidence and having a bit of exciting edge is also key.
Thank you for replying. I think that is rather selfish, not giving the nice guy a chance and then later giving him a chance, once he earns a lot of money etc. The best thing to do is let them get hurt, because they enjoy it :-)
It is 2018 and I just stumbled onto this video. I feel cheated. You are EXCELLENT in your breakdown of the facts man. So honest and tactical. No one can argue with these points. You address the women and the men. Balance and Fairness. Good stuff. Grown Man Sp[eech.
Oh, the friendzone. What a successful cliché. Let me say something: From my experience and that of all of my female friends, there is no such thing as a guy who's too nice. When we say that to someone, it usually means something else. It means: "You are nice. But despite you being technically perfect, I just don't find you attractive/ interesting/ insert real reason here." I am married to a genuinely nice guy I find attractive. I would never leave him for being too nice, why should I? The fact that he's nice is extremely attractive. But if being nice had been his only quality, if he didn't have brains and interests and didn't fit with me in terms of chemistry, then it would not have been enough. So if a lady tells you you are too nice, it means she is not sexually attracted to you, or she finds you a bit boring, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. "Too nice" is not a thing, it's code for something else she doesn't want to say because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It's kind of like in a job interview when you are asked for your worst character trait and you come up with something that's secretly positive, so you don't have to get into the real shit. That's what "too nice" is. So when a guy says: "I used to do everything but only when I became part dick it worked", I say: If you just cater to her and treat her like a goddess, you are boring. She alread knows herself. She wants to know you. She wants to know there is a brain and a life and interests beyond her. She doesn't want her kids' DNA from a guy who's life consists of adoring her. Unless she's a psycho narcissist, someone who wants nothing but kiss her hand is a big bore. So no, you don't have to be a dick. You can be perfectly lovely. Just have a life beyond her so you don't bore her socks off when you meet and she doesn't have to feel guilty about having her own things, either. That'll do. Sorry for the long post :-).
***** You are right. But it's the kind of lie we always tell in everyday life. If we're polite, we say it's ok when someone apologizes for stomping on our foot, even when we secretly think they are a clumsy elephant. If someone we love feels bad we assure them that they'll feel better although we don't know that for sure and they might actually die. If our new boss asks for our chief weakness, we don't tell him we sometimes have a screaming attack or bite our nails or fail under pressure or whatever, we say something harmless. And if someone we really like, but are not attracted to, tells us they love us, we don't want to blurt out "I find you unattractive/unexciting/...!", so we call them "too nice". Yep, it's a lie. But it's been used so often, people should know what it really means (kind of like in "It's not you, it's me" or "I am not looking for a relationship right now" - like anyone ever said no to someone they were truly in love with, just because they weren't looking for a relationship!). The truth is, life is full of these types of lies, and they are kind of see-through, which is why I called them code. But you are right: they are lies all the same. The question is just if the world were better without them.
uclmu2008 I understand what you have said, but at the end of the day its still a lie. You don't think after working with your boss, he or she will not figure out your weakness? Telling someone that you love that they will feel better is not really a lie because sometimes encouraging them may be what they need. And not all bad circumstances are forever. Maybe they just needed someone to talk to at the time and help them through their difficult period in life. Plus it is not a premeditated bending of the truth since you don't know what the other person will do. Now all scenarios are different. But telling someone that they are too nice as a way of rejection is really silly. Anyone can be honest without being disrespectful. Coding what you really mean is not an effective way of communication. There are better things to say like "let's just be friends" . But I do understand your point of view. But the misnomer is just because those coded lies may seem harmless, does not always mean that it is.
GODSLAWBIBLESLIDES I see your point. And yes, like I said, I am aware that it's still a lie. And I am aware that it might not be harmless. I was just saying that it is actually well-meant. I fear that in most cases, the call for honesty only works in theory. Being honest and telling a guy you find very nice that you don't find him attractive or interesting? I have done that once, very gently and respectfully, and let me tell you, it backfired in the worst possible way. I have talked about this to my girlfriends, and most have tried the honest approach at one point or another, and really ended up hurting the other person. None of them said the truth rudely, or disrespectfully, none of them said bluntly, "You are unattractive/boring" or something, but even broken gently, the news was still too harsh to be well-received. The reality is, a person who is into you does not want to hear no. If you tell them a silly lie, they will be peeved at the stupidity of women and resent you. If you gently break the truth, they will be very hurt and resent you and themselves. But at least it won't be a lie. So is that better? You know, I have no answer for that. Maybe. But it's no clear case.
uclmu2008 Yes its better to know the truth, then being lied to for a long time. 1. If I know the truth it might hurt me, but at least I know what is wrong with me so I can fix it. So knowing the truth helps a person to grow as a person. 2. Knowing the truth will allow the man to revaluate his ideal relationship, and allow him to move on to other girls that might better mesh with him.
Hmmmm.... I just might have to! He hasn't pissed me off to the point were I've felt I've had to, but I think its coming real soon! Thanks for the extra nudge man!
Bro u are so right with this!!!! I relate to u bro Im in high school right now Im a nice smart guy nothing wrong but it seems as if these girls all want the thugs and guys that r gonna do them wrong it's crazy!
Up to a point yes,we don't want a pushover. We need to know you can handle a situation, including standing up for yourself, including telling us if we are taking the piss, so we know you can 'protect' us, which means you need to grow some balls and not be afraid of rejection. Then we know you are a secure person. We need to know we can rely on your steady character when the shit hits the fan, which it will at some point in life.
fam cool vid. touched some great points. when ya pay attention to them they feel you are needy. when all it you are looking for is that lifetime together.
Part of the thing about women going for bad boys has to do with their age. Young women are trying out their allure, looking to see what/who they like, find it easier to be with someone with a good patter. As a good woman matures, she will turn to good men, for sure. I love a cute geek, myself. I look for clean, decently dressed, articulate, educated (college or self) with life interests and ambitions.
Women DO like nice guys. But, the point is, he's not only nice but also self-disciplined, has high morals and values, always do things with purpose and direction, and able to accept challenges which happen in life very often, so we, women, can rely on him. He don't have to cook meals or open a freaking door for us, just don't sit and eat only. If you date at a club, for sure you'll end up with a wh***. Women can go wild if you want her to. Just be patient to teach her how to. The key is, LISTEN.
Lol u have a good point. Girls don't like the nice guy cuz they think they're too easy and not challenging, just like guys seem to chase girls who are harder to get, particularly the ones who don't like them. That's why it's so hard for a girl to like a guy who likes her back. nice job with the vid and I love the maturity and story there :) it's never wrong to be a nice guy. Be sweet to girls and flirt, that always makes them smile :)
what doesn't make sense about the "friend zone" is that you want to be with your best friend. The relationship starts with friendship then it develops. So the friends zone thing is confusing.
I think it's just hard for some ppl to find the right guy or girl because chances are the perfect person for one individual isn't going to be within just a few miles of them, some ppl are harder to match with , and some are not. Some people want ppl they can relate to, feel comfortable with, or just be able to communicate and understand one another. That isn't easy to find, some people are just lucky to find someone like that. Plus we have sharks swimming with salmon, fake people, snakes, liar
Thats true bro I hate that shit because they leave all guys in the friend zone. Us nice guys can't even get a chance to go out with the girl just because were not jerks to them.
I think it's really wonderful that someone like you exists! Unfortunately, you and others like you are very rare exceptions to the rule! Most of the time, kind, caring, respectful nice guys are rejected by women just like the video says!
I like 'nice guys', but I'm the kind of person that needs space (fine...call me introverted). Meaning that..no...I don't want a guy worshiping everything about me buying me all types of gifts and calling every hour on the hour. I feel that that kind of behavior makes one seem too available to me, and then I'll feel like the guy is smothering me; that may cause me to get sick of him real quick.
I think youre thinking of an extreme form of "nice guy". I just would love a boyfriend who is assertive with his opinions and doesnt let me do all the planning or smothering me. I simply want him to have his own opionions and a back bone. Nice is good ! But TOO Nice does make women feel like the man in the relationship. We need a balance of power. And these Nice Guys give to much power to the women which is terms makes them walk all over their boyfriend.
Okay, women say they want this but they're contradicting themselves with feminism, they're turning men into metrosexual simps who don't have a backbone, and then cry when they don't have manly men around
Everyone is different after all. It's a shame that more and more people feel like they need to fit into set stereotypes in order to get into a relationship (something that we told we have all the time, by the media) it shouldn't be about being bad or nice, it should just about being yourself. That being said, we have enough bad people in the world, I wish more people would just be nice.
I don't think all women are completely mindless. My boyfriend is a really great guy, kind and generous, and has never been rude to me or disrespectful. I definitely lucked out when I met him. We have been dating going on 4 years and I couldn't be happier. He really is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn't have him any other way. Nice guys really can get the girl, it just takes time to find the right person.
I've been pursuing a 'nice guy' for an eternity and he has yet to respond at all, instead opting for much worse women who have treated him awfully. I think it goes either way.
its funny, when I started ignoring women, that had an effect. sounds ridiculous but if u don't pay them any attention, they seem to want u more,crazy rt. but I found this to be true especially if she's knockout gorgeous. go figure !
Yea women always ask where the good guys are. I say their in the friend zone where you put them.
True I hate that crap. Alot would say that "all men, are jerks" but why do you go with them and not good men like myself and you. Hypocritical.......
Well hears your answer lol beauty isn't everything lol. That's why I dont approach women like that lol!!
Alejandro Cordero Womens are exactly like the smartmarks wrestling fans and vice-versa they like to cheer for the heels the bad guys and the antihero and boo every single clean cut babyface who's here to save the day once again
@@Acord718 Never believe a woman when it comes to that.
That made me feel better thanks man
Depends on age. Under 30 they like the bad boy, the badder the better. She's trying to break away from her parents. At 30 she realizes she needs an ATM card. She finds a simp that she can exploit, then divorce. Many times she'll rob this guy of his assets in that divorce to return to bad boy land. She works a job, gives him that money, bails him out of jail, lends him money that the simp is paying in child support. As a guy, you have to ask yourself why do we need this crap. Answer is we don't.
8 likes? really? you make it sound like it's a common scenario.
Misogynistic much? Not all women are like this. This isn’t a common scenario- get your head out of your ass
@@jerrysilverman8484 👿
@@navyblue1878 This is super common, baby girl. What world you living in?
@@navyblue1878 - Not misogynism but this is TRUTH. Not all women but a large majority are like this.
I'm a genuinely nice man. No act, not a "put-on" or fake. And yes - whenever I meet a woman, I seem to immediately take up residence in the "friend zone:. I once inquired a female co-worker about my dilemma. She told me that I'm actually TOO nice, and women don't go for that. You know what? I am who I am, and I should not have to compromise my personality, values, beliefs, etc., in order to get with a woman.If they can't accept me as I am, fuck them.
I'm 46 years old and since the age of 17 have had 8 sex partners.. there are some decent women out there who don't spread them for every guy who comes along.. If you're a nice guy, stop chasing nasty bitches then complain about it.. Some of us have and always will have good values..
sactiger well make sure you aren't letting people treat you like crap. Nice but savage.
it's not about being a nice or bad guy. It's the guy who don't speak up finish last. No woman don't like a guy who is their door mat
A-Fuckin'-MEN. You damn right brother!
good man!
It's kind of silly that in order to get a girl you are interested in you have to act as though you are not interested in her at all.
Actually, it make perfect sense. Women are offered dick all day everyday. Its the dummy button nature installed in men. When a women is not getting that attention she gets from every guy something in her brain goes off asking the question why. So, to get the question answered, she must go on a journey. The digest questions are asked first. "Is he gay? Is he involved? Was he proccupied?" If each once is a resounding no, then her "Is it me" alarm goes off. Since most women have nothing going on other than sex, their ego gets involved and is why the asshole/jerk/dick approach works.
Its up to us to figure out how to play it.
I understand it, I just think it's silly.
We are talking about women, right? What do they do that we really understand, lol.
Scott L yeah
Gary Lamb thats not true at all
Every time one of these discussions come up there's always a group of women who respond with "Oh that's not true...I like nice guys!" Problem is that we never see these women who supposedly like nice guys in real life. These women are like Bigfoot: There's always people saying it exists but no one knows anybody who's actually seen it.
Plus I think women's & men's definitions of "Nice guy" are totally different. Being a nice guy doesn't have to mean he's boring/a doormat/too clingy, etc. But some girls seem to think that & won't even take the time of day to see that's not always the case. At the end of the day, whether man or woman, I say that if you can't appreciate a good person then you don't really deserve them in the first place..
lol totally true! They just try to vindicate themselves on youtube so someone can hit them up
ebbowman -Say it!!!!!!!!!!!
Those women are imaginary they can only exist in your head or after they turn 30
You're definitely right about that. Certain guys are so nice, that women don't feel safe when they're with them.
Being 100% honest.
There is a difference from being a nice guy and a nice-needy-unconfident-pedestal putting-... guy
Women usually don't like "nice-needy guys" because of the lack of confidence. Nothing wrong about being a nice guy as long as you're confident about it. Women are attracted to exciting emotions, and the nice guy does not give that to her, because nice guys are usually needy, which makes him gross and then what she feels when she sees him is .... gross = not an attractive emotion.
So to get out of the whole friend zone thing is simple, stop treating every girl like she is the only one in the world.
Nice-needy guys usually just give and give and give but expect nothing in return, a valuable lesson in life is "Only give as much as you get".
Sistas chase the dog. If you ain't a womanizer your not select
Dude let me tell I was in that same boat being the nice guy in high school, even when I graduated and gotten in the real world, all those girls that got with thugs or dope boys ended up with babies on welfare system, but the funny then is the same girls would be like hey sowing so I haven't seen you since high school what been up to? With their three or four kids and three different baby daddies. They want holla at you but you don't want damage goods you feel me.
miguelblack79 york FACTS lmao they always want the nice guys after the "bad boys" done got em pregnant an left they pathetic asses with kids😂
miguelblack79 york Yes sir!!!!!!!!!!
miguelblack79 york then they get mad when you don’t wanna be bothered.
To be perfectly honest, I agreed with everything you said in this video. I'm sorry if my agreement has offended any female viewers but it's the truth. My girlfriend broke up with me two months ago and I'm still not really over it. I don't understand why this happened. I was always there when she needed support and I tried to buy her everything she had eyes on (and no she she didn't ask me to, and I'm also not saying that's a reason for someone to like you) but I felt used and thrown away. I also had a girl friend zone me because she wanted to date a drug dealer once. I just don't understand with everyone in my life saying that I'm this polite young man and everything, and I can't even get the girl. My mom once told me that one day I would be pushing away flocks of girls, but I'm starting to see that that was a lie. No girl wants me. It's the truth. Girls these days don't want a nice guy. I always had this sort of dream to get married and start a family one day, but with every breakup I have, I'm starting to see that that's impossible.
Corbin Stuckey You aint the only one man same here :/
+Corbin Stuckey I tell my female friends most guys want to find the love of their life early, settle down, marry and have kids. But once they see this shit is a lie many guys change for the worse.
+Corbin Stuckey I know how u feel man, I've never been in a relationship, but I don't know how girls are gonna like me because I try to be a nice guy. One girl I had a crusht on thought I was being a creep because I was being 'too friendly'.
Nagaserpent Killer What does 'mgtow' mean? lol
Nagaserpent Killer Oh ok lol
You've been rejected every so often and yet you've managed to keep your humanity? I guess this makes your advice valuable.
This is why i stay single i have no problems
I’m always single
mixture of prince charming .. and BATMAN ? lol .. for some reason i find this line hilarious
Did this NOGGA say "Frolic with ya in the Meadows" I almost FARTED laughing. I am subscribing right now my dude. Good stuff.
Lol Glad I could help brotha! Make sure you share it!
What this guy says is so top notch, I don't even know where to begin.
I'm a fairly attractive spanish guy, I have a lot of girl friends (friends i just hang out with) and I'm a really nice, funny, smart person. I've tried to try to be more then friends with atleast 3 of them, and each of them turned me down because "I'm to nice" or "But i like you as a friend" and then 3 weeks later they're hooking up with a total douche who is making them cry and complaining to me with texts saying "Why can't i find any nice guys :( :'(" or "Why are they such assholes" and then I'm like "I'm sure you'll find the right guy for you, just keep looking harder" and then they'll be like (this is extremely accurate) "Aww thank you :) you're so sweet and yes i will". Like, I would say 1 in every 3 women have a good looking guy who is cool, nice, funny, polite, smart in their friendzone that they could grab at any given moment, but they complain that they can't find any nice guys.
I can never be a douche, I believe all human beings should be treated with respect and love its just how I am so I'm going to be single for a long ass time.
Personally I don't really care, but when they say "Why are there no nice guys" to a guy who would love them with all their heart and is pretty annoying as hell.
Ladies, look into your friend zones and then you can never say that bullshit ever again. Like, the bullshit in that statement is so goddamn intolerable it irritates me to no end (Again not mad at girls or anything, just sick of hearing that statement) because it makes absolutely no sense its basically like complaining that there is no food in the house when there is a fridge full of food downstairs.
+ZTPDrake7Kid Bro I hear you I have had the same problems. And yes I do get tired of hearing "why can't I find a nice guy" statement. Unfortunately, looks like I will have to die single and at least happy. I am not looking for a perfect girl I am looking for a perfect girl for me. Oh well. Good luck guys.
see this is the thing how many of us guys were brought up with the belief that women like 'nice guys' respectful, generous, moral, and loyal, because we kept hearing that women are sick of all the bad men treating them so badly, then what happens when we get old enough to date? we realize that women are actually attracted to the exact opposite we were conditioned to be. so of course we become bitter would you blame us? good guys became good guys for your benefit only to get rejected for every criminal around, so we naturally become resentful because our eyes have opened up to the truth and we dont like what we see that criminals get women for free because he has a rep, and good guys have to have money only to get used for it.
SO MANY PEOPLE NEED TO SEE THIS
That's the harsh reality in this dysfunctional world man good comment.
And women wonder why there single moms
I tried to date a girl she said I was too nice I was like ok let me switch from nice guy to goku black type
I know for a fact women hate decent men being a gentlemen is considered LAME
I am glad i stopped being nice and caring it did more damage and caused more regret than it could ever help me as a man. Face it women like who they like if its not u then move on even if u never get the one u want get money thats the only reason they would stick around
Or just make a bunch of money, see what happens when they pop up and if they do... Don't even bother lmfao.
HCW/MWI Wrestling 518 so that mean they be a gold digger if you had money or a sport car now that i understand
That's exactly what I'm saying
Thankfully someone understood and not took it as a negative approach
Terell Moore -Well said!
man you are speaking directly to me in this one. Definitley describes me in a nutshell, especially the "friend zone" comment. That is me %1000
same... Many of my crushes are my friend now for no reason lol
Sigh* sadly I'm a boring nice guy been single for soo long.Every girl I talk to end up in the friendzone.
Am I supposed to change or something?
Then I wouldn't be true to myself.
You must strat now, they getting more hard to get because of social media
Thanks man, you're definitely right.
Women can be really silly sometimes, that's a fact!
Yes Naruto
They have this whole dating thing fucked up. We men are supposed to be the pursuers! 😣
Zookeet and men can’t?
Zookeet Sometimes?
Just be who you are, don't try to be someone you aren't, if a girl friend zones you then she isn't attracted to you and she isn't the right one for you.
If a woman wants to be friends with you, just be friends, just because you are attracted to them doesn't mean they should or are attracted to you.
Women with daddy issues go for the bad boys xD A well educated, well brought up woman from a nice neighborhood with both parents are the women you should look for ;)
this is the realest sh*t ive heard in a long time
This video is very true... It drives me insane why girls go for the jerk and not the very good guy(me being one)
Jacob Dunbar well, they might not be attracted to you mentally or physically.
@@mossybricks8682 because they're attracted to Lamar down the street with face tattoos and 3 felonies.
Same
I’m raised and still sort of in the Religion you were. No girl ever looked twice at me. Gets a bit painful after 46 years.
Thanks man!
Why is everyone having these pointless debates over nice guys and bad boys? It's all simple, really. Girls like the guys who have an edge. That's it. Women hate to be bored. Just take lead and don't be a pushover, that's all there is to it.
You hit the nail on the head. No one yet made that connection: boredom. It has nothing to do with nice guys. We men would be bored with a nice girl. In this age of easy shelter and well-stocked food, time-saving devices, automated technology, all we have is sheer, unremitting, painful boredom. Do we want political consciousness for breakfast? Do we want spiritual enlightened meditation? Nope! This isn't a classroom or church. We want the phat ass in yoga pants, the sandy-haired debonair in a suit, the alcohol, the sex. Everything is all about the show, the pyrotechnics, the display. So we leave the scientist in the lab and novelist in coffeeshop, and watch the slick talker, the athlete, the crude comedian get the girl! O what brave new world that has such people in it.
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LOL easier said than done my friend
***** bad guys??....what are you a superhero O__O
***** LOl ok then
Amen Brother!
Some men are the same. They go after women in relationships, or trashy girls then get mad instead of appreciating good girls. Nice guys are good, but they should be assertive. My exs were nice and respectable. Circumstantially, the relationships didn't work, but it is what it is. I dated 2 jerks my entire life, and don't prefer them. Can't speak for every woman, but this is my experience. Confidence and having a bit of exciting edge is also key.
I also think women should be realistic in dating and know what they want. This helps to keep a stable perspective in relationships.
Krystina fine ass
LMFAO!!! Had to sub you're too much.
Lol Thanks man!
Thank you for replying. I think that is rather selfish, not giving the nice guy a chance and then later giving him a chance, once he earns a lot of money etc. The best thing to do is let them get hurt, because they enjoy it :-)
It is 2018 and I just stumbled onto this video. I feel cheated. You are EXCELLENT in your breakdown of the facts man. So honest and tactical. No one can argue with these points. You address the women and the men. Balance and Fairness. Good stuff. Grown Man Sp[eech.
that is completely thruth, Good explanation!
Damn right man!
Oh, the friendzone. What a successful cliché. Let me say something: From my experience and that of all of my female friends, there is no such thing as a guy who's too nice. When we say that to someone, it usually means something else. It means: "You are nice. But despite you being technically perfect, I just don't find you attractive/ interesting/ insert real reason here."
I am married to a genuinely nice guy I find attractive. I would never leave him for being too nice, why should I? The fact that he's nice is extremely attractive. But if being nice had been his only quality, if he didn't have brains and interests and didn't fit with me in terms of chemistry, then it would not have been enough. So if a lady tells you you are too nice, it means she is not sexually attracted to you, or she finds you a bit boring, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. "Too nice" is not a thing, it's code for something else she doesn't want to say because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. It's kind of like in a job interview when you are asked for your worst character trait and you come up with something that's secretly positive, so you don't have to get into the real shit. That's what "too nice" is.
So when a guy says: "I used to do everything but only when I became part dick it worked", I say: If you just cater to her and treat her like a goddess, you are boring. She alread knows herself. She wants to know you. She wants to know there is a brain and a life and interests beyond her. She doesn't want her kids' DNA from a guy who's life consists of adoring her. Unless she's a psycho narcissist, someone who wants nothing but kiss her hand is a big bore. So no, you don't have to be a dick. You can be perfectly lovely. Just have a life beyond her so you don't bore her socks off when you meet and she doesn't have to feel guilty about having her own things, either. That'll do.
Sorry for the long post :-).
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You are right.
But it's the kind of lie we always tell in everyday life. If we're polite, we say it's ok when someone apologizes for stomping on our foot, even when we secretly think they are a clumsy elephant. If someone we love feels bad we assure them that they'll feel better although we don't know that for sure and they might actually die. If our new boss asks for our chief weakness, we don't tell him we sometimes have a screaming attack or bite our nails or fail under pressure or whatever, we say something harmless. And if someone we really like, but are not attracted to, tells us they love us, we don't want to blurt out "I find you unattractive/unexciting/...!", so we call them "too nice". Yep, it's a lie. But it's been used so often, people should know what it really means (kind of like in "It's not you, it's me" or "I am not looking for a relationship right now" - like anyone ever said no to someone they were truly in love with, just because they weren't looking for a relationship!). The truth is, life is full of these types of lies, and they are kind of see-through, which is why I called them code. But you are right: they are lies all the same. The question is just if the world were better without them.
uclmu2008 I understand what you have said, but at the end of the day its still a lie. You don't think after working with your boss, he or she will not figure out your weakness? Telling someone that you love that they will feel better is not really a lie because sometimes encouraging them may be what they need. And not all bad circumstances are forever. Maybe they just needed someone to talk to at the time and help them through their difficult period in life. Plus it is not a premeditated bending of the truth since you don't know what the other person will do. Now all scenarios are different. But telling someone that they are too nice as a way of rejection is really silly. Anyone can be honest without being disrespectful. Coding what you really mean is not an effective way of communication. There are better things to say like "let's just be friends" . But I do understand your point of view. But the misnomer is just because those coded lies may seem harmless, does not always mean that it is.
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I see your point. And yes, like I said, I am aware that it's still a lie. And I am aware that it might not be harmless. I was just saying that it is actually well-meant.
I fear that in most cases, the call for honesty only works in theory. Being honest and telling a guy you find very nice that you don't find him attractive or interesting? I have done that once, very gently and respectfully, and let me tell you, it backfired in the worst possible way. I have talked about this to my girlfriends, and most have tried the honest approach at one point or another, and really ended up hurting the other person. None of them said the truth rudely, or disrespectfully, none of them said bluntly, "You are unattractive/boring" or something, but even broken gently, the news was still too harsh to be well-received. The reality is, a person who is into you does not want to hear no. If you tell them a silly lie, they will be peeved at the stupidity of women and resent you. If you gently break the truth, they will be very hurt and resent you and themselves. But at least it won't be a lie. So is that better? You know, I have no answer for that. Maybe. But it's no clear case.
*honest choice is no*- Typo in the last sentence
uclmu2008 Yes its better to know the truth, then being lied to for a long time. 1. If I know the truth it might hurt me, but at least I know what is wrong with me so I can fix it. So knowing the truth helps a person to grow as a person.
2. Knowing the truth will allow the man to revaluate his ideal relationship, and allow him to move on to other girls that might better mesh with him.
Tyrone brother, every word that came out your mouth was 100% true. good work
Awww Thank you!
This Is my inspiration for a new song I'ma write bout
PREACH! Great video man
You are so right dude. We overshoot.
And, it can also be that women don't know what they want.
Hmmmm.... I just might have to! He hasn't pissed me off to the point were I've felt I've had to, but I think its coming real soon! Thanks for the extra nudge man!
Such a great and true video tyrone .
Bro u are so right with this!!!! I relate to u bro Im in high school right now Im a nice smart guy nothing wrong but it seems as if these girls all want the thugs and guys that r gonna do them wrong it's crazy!
Thanks!
Up to a point yes,we don't want a pushover. We need to know you can handle a situation, including standing up for yourself, including telling us if we are taking the piss, so we know you can 'protect' us, which means you need to grow some balls and not be afraid of rejection. Then we know you are a secure person. We need to know we can rely on your steady character when the shit hits the fan, which it will at some point in life.
I struggle with the same problem But soon as I was a little mean. A girl came right to me. Great video.
Tyrone I didn’t know you had vids like this more respect to you brother,do more videos like this
Why thank you! :)
You are speaking the good old truth Bro.
thanks man, I needed that
thanks for the advice man,
fam cool vid. touched some great points. when ya pay attention to them they feel you are needy. when all it you are looking for is that lifetime together.
Thank you so much! I'm hoping for the best too :)
Lol man I hear you on that friend zone. All it took was one time for me to learn
tyrone do these advice videos again man !!!! theyre dopee
Dude, like this video, funny, entertaining, and so very true, keep up the good work.
I am sorry if it did happen to you. Remember do not change for anyone be yourself. If the girl is excited to get hurt, let her.
Part of the thing about women going for bad boys has to do with their age. Young women are trying out their allure, looking to see what/who they like, find it easier to be with someone with a good patter. As a good woman matures, she will turn to good men, for sure. I love a cute geek, myself. I look for clean, decently dressed, articulate, educated (college or self) with life interests and ambitions.
im going to show my guy this video because hes a good guy but women arent intrested in him. thanls tyrone
Lol Yea!
Great video my man!!! Keep it up
Women DO like nice guys. But, the point is, he's not only nice but also self-disciplined, has high morals and values, always do things with purpose and direction, and able to accept challenges which happen in life very often, so we, women, can rely on him. He don't have to cook meals or open a freaking door for us, just don't sit and eat only.
If you date at a club, for sure you'll end up with a wh***. Women can go wild if you want her to. Just be patient to teach her how to. The key is, LISTEN.
I love how it's all about what YOU want and none about what you have to offer
Women, it is your fault. Tyrone, I salute you.
I didn't know you did these kind of videos lol. Keep it 💯
Ahh haha!! I like your videos man!
Lol u have a good point. Girls don't like the nice guy cuz they think they're too easy and not challenging, just like guys seem to chase girls who are harder to get, particularly the ones who don't like them. That's why it's so hard for a girl to like a guy who likes her back. nice job with the vid and I love the maturity and story there :) it's never wrong to be a nice guy. Be sweet to girls and flirt, that always makes them smile :)
Ya dam straight right my brotha.
I'm sick of this shit.
You girls told us to be nice, now deal with it!!
what doesn't make sense about the "friend zone" is that you want to be with your best friend. The relationship starts with friendship then it develops. So the friends zone thing is confusing.
I think it's just hard for some ppl to find the right guy or girl because chances are the perfect person for one individual isn't going to be within just a few miles of them, some ppl are harder to match with , and some are not. Some people want ppl they can relate to, feel comfortable with, or just be able to communicate and understand one another. That isn't easy to find, some people are just lucky to find someone like that. Plus we have sharks swimming with salmon, fake people, snakes, liar
U spot on wit the fairy tale man thing lol
Woman just weird asf nowadays
Thats true bro I hate that shit because they leave all guys in the friend zone. Us nice guys can't even get a chance to go out with the girl just because were not jerks to them.
I think it's really wonderful that someone like you exists! Unfortunately, you and others like you are very rare exceptions to the rule! Most of the time, kind, caring, respectful nice guys are rejected by women just like the video says!
As a female this is terrible but you're absolutely right. I don't understand it either TBH
Oh I think it's cause we want fun. Like there needs to be a balance of bad boy and nice. Nice guys are boring
I like 'nice guys', but I'm the kind of person that needs space (fine...call me introverted). Meaning that..no...I don't want a guy worshiping everything about me buying me all types of gifts and calling every hour on the hour. I feel that that kind of behavior makes one seem too available to me, and then I'll feel like the guy is smothering me; that may cause me to get sick of him real quick.
Intelligent video. Well done.
Yea that's true lol
I think youre thinking of an extreme form of "nice guy". I just would love a boyfriend who is assertive with his opinions and doesnt let me do all the planning or smothering me. I simply want him to have his own opionions and a back bone. Nice is good ! But TOO Nice does make women feel like the man in the relationship. We need a balance of power. And these Nice Guys give to much power to the women which is terms makes them walk all over their boyfriend.
Okay, women say they want this but they're contradicting themselves with feminism, they're turning men into metrosexual simps who don't have a backbone, and then cry when they don't have manly men around
Tropic Mix I don’t understand them either, I’m a nice guy and all but that doesn’t mean I’m going to be less of a man
Preach! that Truth!!!! Black Man!.........
A Sista from the BK (Bed-Sty) Brooklyn N.Y.
So I have to treat girls like a in order to like me? Hell ya! It suits me.
speak the truth brother
Everyone is different after all. It's a shame that more and more people feel like they need to fit into set stereotypes in order to get into a relationship (something that we told we have all the time, by the media) it shouldn't be about being bad or nice, it should just about being yourself. That being said, we have enough bad people in the world, I wish more people would just be nice.
I don't think all women are completely mindless. My boyfriend is a really great guy, kind and generous, and has never been rude to me or disrespectful. I definitely lucked out when I met him. We have been dating going on 4 years and I couldn't be happier. He really is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I wouldn't have him any other way. Nice guys really can get the girl, it just takes time to find the right person.
I agree with you bro.
This is truth. If u nice act mean
On point.
I AGREE with you Get one Magnus
lol u got a point dude
lol Good video man.
Truth be told!
Would it be too much to ask to see your friend? I'm kind of interested after your description of him...
I've been pursuing a 'nice guy' for an eternity and he has yet to respond at all, instead opting for much worse women who have treated him awfully. I think it goes either way.
He's a sweet guy, but he lets his girlfriends walk all over him. :// I'd like to think i'm over him now but that's not really true.
Inspector Antoine Good point! It goes both ways.I know from personal experience.
Facts man 😂😂
Some women don,t know what they want these days
good vid! i agree :) + you have a nice voice
its funny, when I started ignoring women, that had an effect. sounds ridiculous but if u don't pay them any attention, they seem to want u more,crazy rt. but I found this to be true especially if she's knockout gorgeous. go figure !