How true and how bad, when you own something you want to control it, That has been my life, sadhu Ajahn Brahm, this teaching has helped me tremendously.
I've been living in Vietnam for a while and I go to meditation sessions at various pagodas. At one pagoda I asked an English speaking monk, "what can I do for you? I'm gaining a lot of wisdom from these meditation sessions and I would like to give something back. How can I help you? I always leave a little money in the box but what else can I do"? He shook his hand in a very Vietnamese way and said, "No no no". So the next time I was there I was about to put money in the box when he came up, snatched the money out of my hand, handed me back 80% of it and put the rest in the box while nodding his head and shaking his hand. "Enough, enough", he said. I said, "I'm happy to donate the money. It's what I can afford". But, "no no no. Enough, enough".
It seems to me the most difficult thing for humans to do is to learn how to lessen the ownership to I, me , mine, my body, my mind, my family, my wealth, my views, more self more suffering, all of this self stuff, borrowed rentals, we take none of this with us when we die..Once I came close to losing my life all I could think was it is fine if I die within the next few moments I have learnt lessons from my life I have changed for better, thoughts of good things I have done came to my mind I was peaceful watching what was happening with full awareness. I think I managed to act accordingly from a place of peace not anger to stay alive. with Metta wishing Peace for all living beings
Great part: >>Do you think anger gives people more energy than being at peace? Can that negative energy from anger be addictive and reason for ill-will?>We've got the right cause. This shouldn't happen we shouldn't be destroying our environment. We should be looking after it for our kids and for our future. They shouldn't do this!
I will give you the truth: The civilization is evolved enough, right now, to develop interstellar space and time travel, but the delusion of the self is preventing it. The delusion of the self is all the social conditioning such as marriage, jobs, career, marketing, money and anything to do with the Ego. This statement is 100% true.
The Buddha has said to not accept his teachings blindly, to check things out for oneself. One should do that with Ajahn Brahm as well, should one not? His very broad teachings have meant a lot to me, are helping me to find a larger, more relaxed, more self-caring, compassionate perspective on life; I've watched a hundred and more videos, and consider him to be highly skilled in communicating Buddhist philosophy, both in example and in words. He has communicated with me in the night to give me a new mantra (custom-suited to my situation), though I live thousands of miles from Australia, an unexpected act of grace I consider an invaluable 'forever' gift. . . . However, in the video above, I would not automatically accept what he says on the subject of human emotion. He says he never cried when his father died when he was sixteen years old, and has never cried about it since. "It was just like a concert being over," he says, and required no grieving, rather only celebrating what had occurred between them. Ajahn Brahm also says above that he has searched and has found no use for anger in this world. He also says, quite strongly, that "the body knows how to heal itself," as in the example of the man with head-to-toe psoriasis condition who got rid of it during a nine-day meditation retreat; that is a powerful story. . . .Yet, if he knows that the body knows how to heal itself, why has he recently been carrying 50 extra pounds on his own body AND, in the video above, making defensive jokes about falling off the roof and being saved from injury by "bouncing on his belly"? . . . Why is he even climbing up on a roof at his age and condition? . . . Something seems not right here. Something unconscious seems to be happening, in someone whose life is dedicated to raising consciousness. I've researched wellness and body healing for several decades, in response to my own childhood trauma issues and resulting chronic pain. Generally it is said that the body may put on weight as 'a layer of protection' against the world, a layer that it thinks will make it feel safer. (Remember, "the body knows," as Ajahn Brahm says above, so what it does is serving some purpose, whether we know that purpose or not.) . . . How does emotion get involved here? Anger (or, more accurately, 'the capacity for anger') actually has some use: it is to know one has the capacity to protect oneself from harm or threat -- perhaps from unconscious people who don't know they are creating harm. It is also a life energy seeking to express itself (as in: "I want to change the world!"; or, "I want a better life!"). To build our unique path of self-expression in the world transforms the anger (which is the fuel) into useful life energy -- a purposeful path, which is the answer to many of life's problems (rather than acting it out in endless protests). Is Ajahn Brahm teaching passivity (don't cry, don't get angry . . . ever?), and yet his own body's evidence could be telling him that he is not in touch with his own feeling nature? Is climbing up ladders and onto roofs at his age not perhaps 'teenage antics' that it is time to relinquish -- and would have already been relinquished if one were to properly grieve one's adolescent losses? . . . I don't know for sure, but this kind of question needs to be asked when a Buddhist teacher of Ajahn Brahm's reputation and trust is making seemingly categorical statements about there being no need for grieving or anger emotions. I, for one, don't accept this kind of teaching unthinkingly. Many years ago I lost a life partner, and ended up grieving almost daily for three months. The event triggered childhood losses which needed to be grieved as well, so I could live a better life with a future partner. I was involved with a spiritual teacher at the time, someone of Ajahn Brahm's calibre, who, on the etheric level, guided me through the experience. When my grieving ended, I was filled with light by an experience of my teacher's presence -- something that I believe would not have happened without having undergone that process of clearing out pain from the body/mind (through grieving); sometimes it is very old pain; even from past lives. My point is, if we don't take care of our personal emotional world, if we remain unconscious about what we are feeling, or in denial about the need for human self-expression, we may end up endlessly acting out our earlier life, making jokes about things that aren't funny, or perhaps 'just eating' (I know that one too), in an attempt to build up a layer of protection for our vulnerable younger self. Thus I would question Ajahn Brahm's teaching about human emotion in the above video.
Minute 12.50 was him talking to you lol. He s never claimed the body will always heal itself he s just claimed that somtimes it can through lots of stillness as stress can be the cause to many of the body s Ill health. And as for his body weight he does nt look overly fat to me. I think it's just his natural build. I bet if u saw him in non loose clothing your perspective may change alittle. Ajahn is very enlightened imo. He s not fully enlightened like the buddha but he s never claimed to be. Each monk has their own strength s and weakness s just like every human after all they are still just humans. I think ajahn brahm must ve had good karma in his previous life to lead him on the path to which his current life has panned out. Everyone grieves in different ways. The concert analogy is a great analogy on how to look at someone passing away wether u disagree with it or not. I think through tons of true meditation and being kind to your mind possesing a thorough understanding of buddha s true powerful wisdom u can learn to not attach to grief but let it go during your meditation. This takes a certain level of wisdom that not many have been exposed too though. The buddha said that which arises in the mind is impermanent and eventually ceases to be. As u said though which I agree with. This is to be tested by yourself and not to just take anyones word for it
@@craig7715 Thank you for taking the time to respond. On the subject of Ajahn Brahm's weight, you could look at his videos from five years ago and earlier (they're all dated), and see almost a different person: his 'natural build' was leaner then.
@@neallcalvert I'm no dietician but I really don t see how how his weight is relevant or has anything to do with his teachings?? And he s always wearing loose clothes I.e robes so no one ever see s his true weight. If you truly believe the weight of a teacher of the Buddhist teachings is such an issue then I believe that to be an issue/problem that only exists in your mind and not others. Remmember the fat laughing chinese buddha?? I really can t see the issue or what your trying to get at here lol
@@craig7715 Hello: I'm saying that those who teach that the very human emotions such as anger and grieving don't matter, or are 'unnecessary', *could be* people who are in denial of their own emotional needs, and that people who are in denial about their own emotional needs or expression often eat beyond what they need to maintain the body, in an (unconscious) attempt to 'stuff down' or 'keep down' uncomfortable emotions -- things they don't want to feel, or cannot give themselves permission to feel, such as grief or anger -- feelings that may have been suppressed for decades. This is well-known in psychological and trauma-healing circles. I'm also saying that those who teach people to be humble, or passive, _before_ they have found their passion in life -- i.e., 'the fire in the belly' -- may be doing a disservice to those students; it suppresses them from living more fully; it enslaves them to 'external religious authority', rather than teaching them to find their own authority within themselves, and a fully-lived life, with access to all their feelings, if and when necessary. But I am a survivor of childhood religious abuse, and realize that not everyone needs or wants to understand such things. As such, I am cautious about trusting people who say things as Ajahn Brahm does in this video, that awareness of feelings is not needed, that "I never found a use for anger"; or, "grieving is unnecessary" -- and then their actions (climbing up on a roof; putting themselves in danger) and physical health (sudden weight gain) gives indication that they are out of touch with their own feeling nature. I hope that is clear. [Here is a deep discussion by two intelligent, emotionally-aware, mature men on the power of acknowledging the need to grieve (and including the need to be outraged, or outrageous, as well) and the gifts that derive from that). ua-cam.com/video/FbsASclTX4g/v-deo.html]
@@neallcalvert Grieving and anger can be useful and relatively healthy for someone when they still hold onto the ownership assumption. When you let the ownership go, the anger evaporates. But not everyone can do that deep-level letting go, therefore they may still need anger and grieving for them to heal or recover. As to Ajahn Brahm's weight gain, I vaguely remember it may be related to his medication. Personally, i think it can also be related to stress or overwork. He has a lot of things to care for.
Replace what 'I' said with 'awareness' and see what it says: 'Awareness' will give you the truth: The civilization is evolved enough, right now, to develop interstellar space and time travel, but the delusion of the self is preventing it. The delusion of the self is all the social conditioning such as marriage, jobs, career, marketing, money and anything to do with the Ego. This statement is 100% true.
Example: Found dad’s old Marine Band harmonica. I think I’ll learn to play it. Replace the word 'I' with what humans are, awareness, and see what happens: Found Dad's old Marine Band harmonica. 'Awareness' think 'awareness' will learn to play it.
@@Andrea-r1o3h Ok, the explanation will be given, understand or don't. There is no self. The entire world believes there is a self. The entire world is delusional. Every human that ever lived was delusional. Now proceed from there, repeating that there is, 'No Self, No Problem.' If you take offense to these instructions, repeat again. Then ask again. Is there a self anywhere in the universe? There never was, there never will be, nobody is here or ever was or ever will be in any universe. If you feel any resistance to this, repeat: There is No Self.
@@samjeffery1956 Look in the mirror. There is no self. If you believe there is, understand that the self-image is a bundle of thoughts. Understand or don't.
@@samjeffery1956 A world of unconscious people doing very silly things. All living creatures are fields of awareness. In those fields of awareness are sense objects. These are physical objects, bodies of living creatures and thoughts.
@@samjeffery1956 Ask yourself if all the silly things humans are doing are biologically correct. They are not. Money doesn't have to exist. Clothes do not have to exist. Killing people for no reason doesn't have to exist. These things are the result of social conditioning. Physical reality is here. The unconscious mind added all the silliness that people do.
No, it is not. Human activity on this planet is fixable. But, it would take a different direction for our so-called civilization. COVID has taught us that you cannot play around nature. COVID, is a result, of our greed and consumerism.
Robe doesn't means anything brother ..earlydays in india,dead bodys coverd with white colour kerchief ..budhist monks washed those things and made robes after seasoning.then the colour changed in to yellow or meroon..when someone wearing a robe,demarcation of the body is not visible..it is for the betterment of the others..thank you brother
My favorite monk! Been a sincere friend of Ajahn's for years. Many sincere thanks
Hello. I struggle to liive in Poland with 16 years old daughter. Become our family. We're lonely, poor. Please❤❤
Thank you for that wonderful talk today! A gift! Every word! Aussie Lady West Aussie Lady
Love, light, long life and blessings to my brothers and sisters all around the world.
+a big hug! ❤️
@@timeanica4937 hug for you too. ❤🈴
Tony Williams Sādhu Sādhu Sādhu
How true and how bad, when you own something you want to control it, That has been my life, sadhu Ajahn Brahm, this teaching has helped me tremendously.
Love you ajahn brahm!! Excellent stress reducer!
I've been living in Vietnam for a while and I go to meditation sessions at various pagodas. At one pagoda I asked an English speaking monk, "what can I do for you? I'm gaining a lot of wisdom from these meditation sessions and I would like to give something back. How can I help you? I always leave a little money in the box but what else can I do"?
He shook his hand in a very Vietnamese way and said, "No no no".
So the next time I was there I was about to put money in the box when he came up, snatched the money out of my hand, handed me back 80% of it and put the rest in the box while nodding his head and shaking his hand. "Enough, enough", he said.
I said, "I'm happy to donate the money. It's what I can afford".
But, "no no no. Enough, enough".
He was trying to tell you something about where the focus should be
Hello. I strugglu to survive inPoland with 16 years old daughter. Become our family. We're lonely, poor, please❤❤❤❤
It seems to me the most difficult thing for humans to do is to learn how to lessen the ownership to I, me , mine, my body, my mind, my family, my wealth, my views, more self more suffering, all of this self stuff, borrowed rentals, we take none of this with us when we die..Once I came close to losing my life all I could think was it is fine if I die within the next few moments I have learnt lessons from my life I have changed for better, thoughts of good things I have done came to my mind I was peaceful watching what was happening with full awareness. I think I managed to act accordingly from a place of peace not anger to stay alive. with Metta wishing Peace for all living beings
Love the way Ajahn Brahm responds to Eddie’s questions LOL 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Powerful teaching. Need to contemplate concept of ownership more. Thank you. Sadhu. Sadhu. Sadhu. 🙏🙏🙏
Sadhu!Sadhu!Sadhu!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Great part: >>Do you think anger gives people more energy than being at peace? Can that negative energy from anger be addictive and reason for ill-will?>We've got the right cause. This shouldn't happen we shouldn't be destroying our environment. We should be looking after it for our kids and for our future. They shouldn't do this!
I will give you the truth: The civilization is evolved enough, right now, to develop interstellar space and time travel, but the delusion of the self is preventing it. The delusion of the self is all the social conditioning such as marriage, jobs, career, marketing, money and anything to do with the Ego. This statement is 100% true.
Dude the earth is flat so think you might need to rethink your entire statement and perhaps life
🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏻
The prayer chanted at the end, what does it mean? What di the words mean? Is there a version in English? Thank you 🙏 Venerable Teacher.
Sahdu!
The Buddha has said to not accept his teachings blindly, to check things out for oneself. One should do that with Ajahn Brahm as well, should one not? His very broad teachings have meant a lot to me, are helping me to find a larger, more relaxed, more self-caring, compassionate perspective on life; I've watched a hundred and more videos, and consider him to be highly skilled in communicating Buddhist philosophy, both in example and in words. He has communicated with me in the night to give me a new mantra (custom-suited to my situation), though I live thousands of miles from Australia, an unexpected act of grace I consider an invaluable 'forever' gift. . . . However, in the video above, I would not automatically accept what he says on the subject of human emotion.
He says he never cried when his father died when he was sixteen years old, and has never cried about it since. "It was just like a concert being over," he says, and required no grieving, rather only celebrating what had occurred between them. Ajahn Brahm also says above that he has searched and has found no use for anger in this world. He also says, quite strongly, that "the body knows how to heal itself," as in the example of the man with head-to-toe psoriasis condition who got rid of it during a nine-day meditation retreat; that is a powerful story. . . .Yet, if he knows that the body knows how to heal itself, why has he recently been carrying 50 extra pounds on his own body AND, in the video above, making defensive jokes about falling off the roof and being saved from injury by "bouncing on his belly"? . . . Why is he even climbing up on a roof at his age and condition? . . . Something seems not right here. Something unconscious seems to be happening, in someone whose life is dedicated to raising consciousness.
I've researched wellness and body healing for several decades, in response to my own childhood trauma issues and resulting chronic pain. Generally it is said that the body may put on weight as 'a layer of protection' against the world, a layer that it thinks will make it feel safer. (Remember, "the body knows," as Ajahn Brahm says above, so what it does is serving some purpose, whether we know that purpose or not.) . . . How does emotion get involved here? Anger (or, more accurately, 'the capacity for anger') actually has some use: it is to know one has the capacity to protect oneself from harm or threat -- perhaps from unconscious people who don't know they are creating harm. It is also a life energy seeking to express itself (as in: "I want to change the world!"; or, "I want a better life!"). To build our unique path of self-expression in the world transforms the anger (which is the fuel) into useful life energy -- a purposeful path, which is the answer to many of life's problems (rather than acting it out in endless protests).
Is Ajahn Brahm teaching passivity (don't cry, don't get angry . . . ever?), and yet his own body's evidence could be telling him that he is not in touch with his own feeling nature? Is climbing up ladders and onto roofs at his age not perhaps 'teenage antics' that it is time to relinquish -- and would have already been relinquished if one were to properly grieve one's adolescent losses? . . . I don't know for sure, but this kind of question needs to be asked when a Buddhist teacher of Ajahn Brahm's reputation and trust is making seemingly categorical statements about there being no need for grieving or anger emotions. I, for one, don't accept this kind of teaching unthinkingly.
Many years ago I lost a life partner, and ended up grieving almost daily for three months. The event triggered childhood losses which needed to be grieved as well, so I could live a better life with a future partner. I was involved with a spiritual teacher at the time, someone of Ajahn Brahm's calibre, who, on the etheric level, guided me through the experience. When my grieving ended, I was filled with light by an experience of my teacher's presence -- something that I believe would not have happened without having undergone that process of clearing out pain from the body/mind (through grieving); sometimes it is very old pain; even from past lives.
My point is, if we don't take care of our personal emotional world, if we remain unconscious about what we are feeling, or in denial about the need for human self-expression, we may end up endlessly acting out our earlier life, making jokes about things that aren't funny, or perhaps 'just eating' (I know that one too), in an attempt to build up a layer of protection for our vulnerable younger self. Thus I would question Ajahn Brahm's teaching about human emotion in the above video.
Minute 12.50 was him talking to you lol. He s never claimed the body will always heal itself he s just claimed that somtimes it can through lots of stillness as stress can be the cause to many of the body s Ill health. And as for his body weight he does nt look overly fat to me. I think it's just his natural build. I bet if u saw him in non loose clothing your perspective may change alittle.
Ajahn is very enlightened imo. He s not fully enlightened like the buddha but he s never claimed to be.
Each monk has their own strength s and weakness s just like every human after all they are still just humans. I think ajahn brahm must ve had good karma in his previous life to lead him on the path to which his current life has panned out. Everyone grieves in different ways. The concert analogy is a great analogy on how to look at someone passing away wether u disagree with it or not. I think through tons of true meditation and being kind to your mind possesing a thorough understanding of buddha s true powerful wisdom u can learn to not attach to grief but let it go during your meditation.
This takes a certain level of wisdom that not many have been exposed too though.
The buddha said that which arises in the mind is impermanent and eventually ceases to be. As u said though which I agree with. This is to be tested by yourself and not to just take anyones word for it
@@craig7715 Thank you for taking the time to respond. On the subject of Ajahn Brahm's weight, you could look at his videos from five years ago and earlier (they're all dated), and see almost a different person: his 'natural build' was leaner then.
@@neallcalvert I'm no dietician but I really don t see how how his weight is relevant or has anything to do with his teachings??
And he s always wearing loose clothes I.e robes so no one ever see s his true weight. If you truly believe the weight of a teacher of the Buddhist teachings is such an issue then I believe that to be an issue/problem that only exists in your mind and not others. Remmember the fat laughing chinese buddha??
I really can t see the issue or what your trying to get at here lol
@@craig7715 Hello: I'm saying that those who teach that the very human emotions such as anger and grieving don't matter, or are 'unnecessary', *could be* people who are in denial of their own emotional needs, and that people who are in denial about their own emotional needs or expression often eat beyond what they need to maintain the body, in an (unconscious) attempt to 'stuff down' or 'keep down' uncomfortable emotions -- things they don't want to feel, or cannot give themselves permission to feel, such as grief or anger -- feelings that may have been suppressed for decades. This is well-known in psychological and trauma-healing circles.
I'm also saying that those who teach people to be humble, or passive, _before_ they have found their passion in life -- i.e., 'the fire in the belly' -- may be doing a disservice to those students; it suppresses them from living more fully; it enslaves them to 'external religious authority', rather than teaching them to find their own authority within themselves, and a fully-lived life, with access to all their feelings, if and when necessary.
But I am a survivor of childhood religious abuse, and realize that not everyone needs or wants to understand such things. As such, I am cautious about trusting people who say things as Ajahn Brahm does in this video, that awareness of feelings is not needed, that "I never found a use for anger"; or, "grieving is unnecessary" -- and then their actions (climbing up on a roof; putting themselves in danger) and physical health (sudden weight gain) gives indication that they are out of touch with their own feeling nature.
I hope that is clear. [Here is a deep discussion by two intelligent, emotionally-aware, mature men on the power of acknowledging the need to grieve (and including the need to be outraged, or outrageous, as well) and the gifts that derive from that). ua-cam.com/video/FbsASclTX4g/v-deo.html]
@@neallcalvert Grieving and anger can be useful and relatively healthy for someone when they still hold onto the ownership assumption. When you let the ownership go, the anger evaporates. But not everyone can do that deep-level letting go, therefore they may still need anger and grieving for them to heal or recover.
As to Ajahn Brahm's weight gain, I vaguely remember it may be related to his medication. Personally, i think it can also be related to stress or overwork. He has a lot of things to care for.
Replace what 'I' said with 'awareness' and see what it says: 'Awareness' will give you the truth: The civilization is evolved enough, right now, to develop interstellar space and time travel, but the delusion of the self is preventing it. The delusion of the self is all the social conditioning such as marriage, jobs, career, marketing, money and anything to do with the Ego. This statement is 100% true.
to live a good Buddhist life we need to live without money, and possessions and ego.
As along as it doesn't add to our suffering . . .
I believe anger is a byproduct of philosophy and religious indoctrination (or culture ).
Ajahn brahm says anger mainly arise s from a tired unpeaceful mind. I think I believe his perception over yours sorry
@@craig7715 I meant anger toward other races,creeds,sex,gender etc not one's own I should have put it in the social context
one own= ourselves
Example: Found dad’s old Marine Band harmonica. I think I’ll learn to play it. Replace the word 'I' with what humans are, awareness, and see what happens: Found Dad's old Marine Band harmonica. 'Awareness' think 'awareness' will learn to play it.
I'm only a visitor
You should talk about enlightenment.
This is the first talk that AB did not tell a joke!!! What’s going on?? Maybe I missed it, but I don’t think I did.
He actually made a lot 😂
I am Buddhist
I wonder if anybody has tried meditation to heal their cystic acne?
'You' said 'I' don't have assets, but there is no self not to own assets.
@@Andrea-r1o3h Ok, the explanation will be given, understand or don't. There is no self. The entire world believes there is a self. The entire world is delusional. Every human that ever lived was delusional. Now proceed from there, repeating that there is, 'No Self, No Problem.' If you take offense to these instructions, repeat again. Then ask again. Is there a self anywhere in the universe? There never was, there never will be, nobody is here or ever was or ever will be in any universe. If you feel any resistance to this, repeat: There is No Self.
@@Andrea-r1o3h Physical awareness and realizations will start to appear, but the process isn't quick.
The question is 'who' is angry? The answer is no one.
Show me 'no one'!
@@samjeffery1956 Look in the mirror. There is no self. If you believe there is, understand that the self-image is a bundle of thoughts. Understand or don't.
@@leslieboross3551 what does no self look like?
@@samjeffery1956 A world of unconscious people doing very silly things. All living creatures are fields of awareness. In those fields of awareness are sense objects. These are physical objects, bodies of living creatures and thoughts.
@@samjeffery1956 Ask yourself if all the silly things humans are doing are biologically correct. They are not. Money doesn't have to exist. Clothes do not have to exist. Killing people for no reason doesn't have to exist. These things are the result of social conditioning. Physical reality is here. The unconscious mind added all the silliness that people do.
Shama Lama ding dong
The delusion is everywhere. Ask yourself, is this human activity correct for a civilization that can solve all problems right now?
No, it is not. Human activity on this planet is fixable. But, it would take a different direction for our so-called civilization.
COVID has taught us that you cannot play around nature. COVID, is a result, of our greed and consumerism.
this eddie guy sure is annoying
Why is 'he' dressed like that? The highest realization is no self, no problem, not robe = enlightenment.
Leslie Boross not robe is not enlightment
Robe doesn't means anything brother ..earlydays in india,dead bodys coverd with white colour kerchief ..budhist monks washed those things and made robes after seasoning.then the colour changed in to yellow or meroon..when someone wearing a robe,demarcation of the body is not visible..it is for the betterment of the others..thank you brother