Hello, Matt. I have dealt with pornography in the past. With the help from our Lord Jesus Christ I have managed to overcome it. Now Im trying to spread hope and encouragement that there is freedom from porn in my country. I have followed your work during this long and hard journey to chastity and masculinity. Happy to see you persistent and dedicated to the topic. I respect your stamina. God bless you, Greetings from Lithuania 🇱🇹 Emilis.
In a culture where masculinity is often measured by how effective we are at objectifying and using women, you are a much needed voice of reason. Thank you Matt for reminding us what true masculinity is. It's easy to feel emasculated in our culture when trying to live a pure, truly masculine life.
Effeminacy is something I struggle with. I fell last night and this morning, and I know the coward is still present. Please pray for all who are struggling and those who are just giving in.
I'm finding that it comes in clusters. While I'm sober, it's much much easier staying away from pornography. But if I'm a bit careless when going out for "payday pints" - a bit of tradition over here - and have a couple of drinks too many, then I very well might slip up once I'm back home... To stay sober, I've found having a regular gym routine is good. Because workmates won't accept "No, I won't join you for drinks because if I do, I'll watch porn when I get home", but they're fine with "Yeah, but only for 2 pints, because I have early gym session tomorrow, and I don't want to squat while hungover". (In fact, if I told them about the pornography, they'd just suggest I'd "have a go" with some random woman I'd pick up at the bar, and that's just as unhelpful.) Thank you for your videos, both here and over on Pints.
"I'm sorry, stop saying you're struggling with pornography...just say you're giving in because you're weak and you're a coward because you expect life to be easy." This....this right here. The true struggle is measured in the reflecting will of the individual. If I am to struggle, I want to struggle and overcome...to struggle for a moment, and then immediately fall is not good enough anymore (if it EVER WAS). But, if we fall and get up every time to seek forgiveness of the Lord, and find ourselves rejuvenated in Him, that is the moment in which we must look the sin in the eyes and say "I'm done giving into you, wretched vile thing." Then, you must move forward with Christ. No more giving in...stop giving in. I gave in the other day, and I had nightmares of the world engulfed by Satan's evils...I awoke, prayed fervently, because I felt evil in my midst again. I was sweating profusely and my heart was racing with fear...I grabbed my rosary and prayed a full sorrowful mystery...and that went away immediately. I realized that Christ wants just this....and how simple it is to just *_PRAY THE ROSARY._* As Padre Pio said (and I'm paraphrasing): "The rosary is our best weapon against the devil's tricks." It wasn't just an issue of struggling w/ pornography...it was an issue of giving into weakness and desire, temptation and pleasures. That is not addiction, that is weakness. I seek nothing more than to be STRONG. I am done being weak. I pray to the good Lord that I never fall into this sinfulness again, and have already taken such actions against it...but I am realistic too, if I fall again, may I hit every edge, rock, tree and crag on the way down...because I want to struggle with that...I will not give in willingly anymore. I must not, for Our Lord's sake. You should too, men and women struggling with lust...stop giving in. You aren't part of the frontlines in battle, you are the people in the town hypocritically calling the king be overthrown for your kins' bloodshed, yet do *_NOTHING._* Stop this nonsense. Cheers. Needed to hear this, Matt. Peace be with you and your wonderful family.
disagree, this quote is classic faux tough guy talk and ultimately very unhelpful. people use porn for a ton of reasons. fundamentally, they are filling a void. if they find a better way to fill this void, the porn will stop over time (ditto drugs, alcohol, other problem behaviors). the solution is not to call yourself a weak coward. it's the opposite. it's having a positive self image, filling your life with joy, hobbies, friends, family, etc. I am sick of seeing matt and people like him employ this stupid language to shame men (never women). at the end of the day, matt is a..... youtuber? professional internet catholic? idk man not exactly the most masculine thing in the world....
We always need God's grace to avoid sin, especially those sins that stem from our deepest needs and weaknesses. Even the most manly among us must go into battle protected by the armor of grace and armed with the weapon of prayer. God bless you as you fight and win this battle.
@@johnsposato5632 I don't know any soliders, policemen, firemen etc who go to their job every day calling themselves a weak coward. Why do so spiritually?
@@jimmysheehan5496 if you can find where I used the words "weak coward," please show me I simply said that the strongest of us need God's grace to avoid sin especially for those sins to which we are the most prone. That's just Catholic theology, as I understand it. That said, avoiding sin is nothing like operating within the sphere of one's profession, no matter how dangerous. Is it possible you were commenting on the original post in the thread and directed it to me in error?
I agree with much of what you're saying, but why not address women in this conversation too? Women never seem to be included in these conversations, It's seems that it's always just men being called out.
People who use the term "toxic masculinity" are not saying that masculinity itself is bad, but that certain men approach masculinity in a toxic manner. Lots of people expect men to be perverted though. "He's a guy. Of course he's going to want sex or look at porn. Men can't help themselves." Some say men can't be sexually objectified or that it's acceptable for women to sexually objectify men.
Hello, Matt. I have dealt with pornography in the past. With the help from our Lord Jesus Christ I have managed to overcome it.
Now Im trying to spread hope and encouragement that there is freedom from porn in my country.
I have followed your work during this long and hard journey to chastity and masculinity. Happy to see you persistent and dedicated to the topic. I respect your stamina.
God bless you,
Greetings from Lithuania 🇱🇹
Emilis.
In a culture where masculinity is often measured by how effective we are at objectifying and using women, you are a much needed voice of reason. Thank you Matt for reminding us what true masculinity is. It's easy to feel emasculated in our culture when trying to live a pure, truly masculine life.
Love your content Matt. Also in Pints with Aquinas. God bless.
Effeminacy is something I struggle with. I fell last night and this morning, and I know the coward is still present.
Please pray for all who are struggling and those who are just giving in.
For even more discussion around these subjects, listening to Christopher West's podcasts can be helpful as well.
Thanks Matt for the video!
I'm finding that it comes in clusters. While I'm sober, it's much much easier staying away from pornography. But if I'm a bit careless when going out for "payday pints" - a bit of tradition over here - and have a couple of drinks too many, then I very well might slip up once I'm back home...
To stay sober, I've found having a regular gym routine is good. Because workmates won't accept "No, I won't join you for drinks because if I do, I'll watch porn when I get home", but they're fine with "Yeah, but only for 2 pints, because I have early gym session tomorrow, and I don't want to squat while hungover". (In fact, if I told them about the pornography, they'd just suggest I'd "have a go" with some random woman I'd pick up at the bar, and that's just as unhelpful.)
Thank you for your videos, both here and over on Pints.
"I'm sorry, stop saying you're struggling with pornography...just say you're giving in because you're weak and you're a coward because you expect life to be easy."
This....this right here.
The true struggle is measured in the reflecting will of the individual. If I am to struggle, I want to struggle and overcome...to struggle for a moment, and then immediately fall is not good enough anymore (if it EVER WAS).
But, if we fall and get up every time to seek forgiveness of the Lord, and find ourselves rejuvenated in Him, that is the moment in which we must look the sin in the eyes and say "I'm done giving into you, wretched vile thing."
Then, you must move forward with Christ. No more giving in...stop giving in.
I gave in the other day, and I had nightmares of the world engulfed by Satan's evils...I awoke, prayed fervently, because I felt evil in my midst again. I was sweating profusely and my heart was racing with fear...I grabbed my rosary and prayed a full sorrowful mystery...and that went away immediately. I realized that Christ wants just this....and how simple it is to just *_PRAY THE ROSARY._*
As Padre Pio said (and I'm paraphrasing): "The rosary is our best weapon against the devil's tricks."
It wasn't just an issue of struggling w/ pornography...it was an issue of giving into weakness and desire, temptation and pleasures. That is not addiction, that is weakness. I seek nothing more than to be STRONG.
I am done being weak. I pray to the good Lord that I never fall into this sinfulness again, and have already taken such actions against it...but I am realistic too, if I fall again, may I hit every edge, rock, tree and crag on the way down...because I want to struggle with that...I will not give in willingly anymore. I must not, for Our Lord's sake.
You should too, men and women struggling with lust...stop giving in. You aren't part of the frontlines in battle, you are the people in the town hypocritically calling the king be overthrown for your kins' bloodshed, yet do *_NOTHING._*
Stop this nonsense.
Cheers. Needed to hear this, Matt. Peace be with you and your wonderful family.
disagree, this quote is classic faux tough guy talk and ultimately very unhelpful. people use porn for a ton of reasons. fundamentally, they are filling a void. if they find a better way to fill this void, the porn will stop over time (ditto drugs, alcohol, other problem behaviors). the solution is not to call yourself a weak coward. it's the opposite. it's having a positive self image, filling your life with joy, hobbies, friends, family, etc. I am sick of seeing matt and people like him employ this stupid language to shame men (never women). at the end of the day, matt is a..... youtuber? professional internet catholic? idk man not exactly the most masculine thing in the world....
We always need God's grace to avoid sin, especially those sins that stem from our deepest needs and weaknesses. Even the most manly among us must go into battle protected by the armor of grace and armed with the weapon of prayer. God bless you as you fight and win this battle.
@@johnsposato5632 I don't know any soliders, policemen, firemen etc who go to their job every day calling themselves a weak coward. Why do so spiritually?
@@jimmysheehan5496 if you can find where I used the words "weak coward," please show me
I simply said that the strongest of us need God's grace to avoid sin especially for those sins to which we are the most prone. That's just Catholic theology, as I understand it. That said, avoiding sin is nothing like operating within the sphere of one's profession, no matter how dangerous. Is it possible you were commenting on the original post in the thread and directed it to me in error?
100% correct.
I agree with much of what you're saying, but why not address women in this conversation too? Women never seem to be included in these conversations, It's seems that it's always just men being called out.
People who use the term "toxic masculinity" are not saying that masculinity itself is bad, but that certain men approach masculinity in a toxic manner. Lots of people expect men to be perverted though. "He's a guy. Of course he's going to want sex or look at porn. Men can't help themselves." Some say men can't be sexually objectified or that it's acceptable for women to sexually objectify men.