I beg to differ brother[s]. When my mom was slowly dying from Lymphoma she told me "life's too short kid, make the best of the time you've been given". Due to that painful life lesson I life a of forgiveness and simply walk away from situations that don't benefit me anymore. If a girl who's affection I'm trying to gain looks me w/ disdain, I consider that her problem not mine.
That’s why you should always establish boundaries from the jump! Without caring if they afterwards will still fw you. Respect over being liked first by always putting your wants and needs first before others. Forgive but never forget and never allow people that did you wrong in the past to come back in your life. What will stop them from doing the disrespectful thing again. Don’t seek validation and acceptance from others just be yourself naturally (not the perfect version of you the good and the bad/flaws) and be cool on your own. Whether people will fw you or not you don’t care because you are the only one got. With this mentality you show that you are self reliant which is a trait people respect because it shows that you don’t need something from others. It makes you look less needy because you don’t need anything from anyone. No validation, no intimacy, no acceptance. This mentality also ensures that nobody can take anything from you you have total control over things and you are the only one with that control. For example instead of caring what people think care only about what you think how you feel about something. That way you ensure consistency which is important to avoid wasting your time and energy which trying to achieve goalposts that keep chaning and moving as soon as you are making progress towards it. such as being liked or caring what others think of you. Lastly with this IDF mentality you appear more as thrustworthy since you make it clear that you don't need anything from anyone. You're good on your own you don't need people to achieve what you want in life. Self care (through exercising, going to the spa, etc…) and self respect will give you that cold mentality of not being needy or caring what others think of you. Treating yourself good once in a while and self reflecting on your life, the past 3-6 months. Where you stand with your personal goals, how much progress you have made, things that went well and things that could go better. What you have to change to progress better. Have some base in your voice stop talking like a bitch that needs something from his master. Most importantly never tolerate BS! People are not stupid especially when they are adults. They know what they are doing so call them out on their Bs and if they continue to do it again. You exit and never make contact again with them or you fight.
Thanks, I'm naturally carefree and enthusiastic but when focussed on my own stuff (or with animals or kids of close friends) instead of directing it toward other people in general. I need to take some notes from this one, very informative.
Your timing is impeccable, what the heck!! This was exactly what I need to hear. I was just talking to a girl! I’m in a dilemma. When an unbelievable synchronicity like this happens, can't really tell if it’s a coincidence or something bigger! I want to believe there’s something bigger, like the law of attraction, but it could also be an insane coincidence.
Alex you can forgive but still keep your dignity. To forgive simply means to let go. It doesn't necessarily mean you still trust the person or you'll be fooled again.
People who test boundaries just to try get a reprimand just so they can say "on he doesnt take my bs" are literal trash. If I have to put you in your place to be a normal human being, you are not worthy of me. I cannot like you after I have to put you in your place. Im happy go lucky for a reason, O enjoy peace and simple reciprocity, period.
Facts. Some people are positive externally but full of negativity internally. You never know why someone carries themselves a certain way, it could be for any reason. Trying to knock someone down a peg is a sign of insecurity and misery with your own life.
Is this not counter intuitive with what you were saying about practicing stoicism. Wouldn’t losing your cool, and being offended, angry, butt hurt also lose respect? Genuine question.
I lose respect when a guy plays games - you gotta know who you're dealing with. Some girls are simple you like em you tell them you guys have chemistry and its great
Nah, if you tell them you like them they figure they can do better and start looking around for a better option. For whatever reason it’s a turn off and pretty much dooms the situation.
I beg to differ brother[s]. When my mom was slowly dying from Lymphoma she told me "life's too short kid, make the best of the time you've been given". Due to that painful life lesson I life a of forgiveness and simply walk away from situations that don't benefit me anymore. If a girl who's affection I'm trying to gain looks me w/ disdain, I consider that her problem not mine.
Unfortunately you have to play the game. Because when you don’t theyll just control and play with you and you will not know
@@someone7773 You're absolutely right!
Yes, don't waist time be ruthless, because there will be someone who loves your attention.
When you apologize too.much makes you look very weak around people especially around chicks
That’s why you should always establish boundaries from the jump! Without caring if they afterwards will still fw you. Respect over being liked first by always putting your wants and needs first before others. Forgive but never forget and never allow people that did you wrong in the past to come back in your life. What will stop them from doing the disrespectful thing again.
Don’t seek validation and acceptance from others just be yourself naturally (not the perfect version of you the good and the bad/flaws) and be cool on your own. Whether people will fw you or not you don’t care because you are the only one got. With this mentality you show that you are self reliant which is a trait people respect because it shows that you don’t need something from others. It makes you look less needy because you don’t need anything from anyone. No validation, no intimacy, no acceptance. This mentality also ensures that nobody can take anything from you you have total control over things and you are the only one with that control. For example instead of caring what people think care only about what you think how you feel about something. That way you ensure consistency which is important to avoid wasting your time and energy which trying to achieve goalposts that keep chaning and moving as soon as you are making progress towards it. such as being liked or caring what others think of you. Lastly with this IDF mentality you appear more as thrustworthy since you make it clear that you don't need anything from anyone. You're good on your own you don't need people to achieve what you want in life.
Self care (through exercising, going to the spa, etc…) and self respect will give you that cold mentality of not being needy or caring what others think of you. Treating yourself good once in a while and self reflecting on your life, the past 3-6 months. Where you stand with your personal goals, how much progress you have made, things that went well and things that could go better. What you have to change to progress better.
Have some base in your voice stop talking like a bitch that needs something from his master.
Most importantly never tolerate BS! People are not stupid especially when they are adults. They know what they are doing so call them out on their Bs and if they continue to do it again. You exit and never make contact again with them or you fight.
I hope you get the recognition you deserve
Thanks, I'm naturally carefree and enthusiastic but when focussed on my own stuff (or with animals or kids of close friends) instead of directing it toward other people in general.
I need to take some notes from this one, very informative.
Your timing is impeccable, what the heck!! This was exactly what I need to hear. I was just talking to a girl! I’m in a dilemma. When an unbelievable synchronicity like this happens, can't really tell if it’s a coincidence or something bigger! I want to believe there’s something bigger, like the law of attraction, but it could also be an insane coincidence.
i know righht
Alex you can forgive but still keep your dignity. To forgive simply means to let go. It doesn't necessarily mean you still trust the person or you'll be fooled again.
People who test boundaries just to try get a reprimand just so they can say "on he doesnt take my bs" are literal trash. If I have to put you in your place to be a normal human being, you are not worthy of me. I cannot like you after I have to put you in your place. Im happy go lucky for a reason, O enjoy peace and simple reciprocity, period.
Facts. Some people are positive externally but full of negativity internally. You never know why someone carries themselves a certain way, it could be for any reason. Trying to knock someone down a peg is a sign of insecurity and misery with your own life.
Is this not counter intuitive with what you were saying about practicing stoicism. Wouldn’t losing your cool, and being offended, angry, butt hurt also lose respect? Genuine question.
Nice question
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I lose respect when a guy plays games - you gotta know who you're dealing with. Some girls are simple you like em you tell them you guys have chemistry and its great
Nah, if you tell them you like them they figure they can do better and start looking around for a better option. For whatever reason it’s a turn off and pretty much dooms the situation.
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