Habits for Happiness Jan 25 Live Q&A Session

In this video, Dr Victoria Stakelum discusses the Habits for Happiness Challenge and Answers questions from participants.
How to Engage with the Challenge (00:12:32)
You can simply watch the videos without taking further action, and you'll still gain valuable insights. If you want to go deeper, engage in personal reflections as you watch. The more you put into this experience, the more you'll get out of it. For those who enjoy winning prizes, you can post your daily reflections in the Facebook group. Not only for a chance to win, but also because you'll connect with others on a similar journey and gain insights from their experiences. If you are not in Facebook, send your daily reflections to [e-mail] to still be in with a chance to win.
How do the prizes work? (00:14:12)
Participating in the challenge offers daily prizes. To be eligible for these, you need to post about your daily tasks in the designated thread for that day before the draw occurs. There’s also a grand prize at the end of the week. To enter for this grand prize, you must have posted in each of the five daily threads, but it doesn’t have to be done on that specific day. This gives everyone a fair chance to engage, even if you’re catching up later.
How can I be in with a chance to win the grand prize? (00:58:22)
To be in with a chance to win the grand prize, which includes access to the fabulous new Reality Reboot programme, make sure you’ve in all daily threads by the end of the challenge. You don’t need to do it all at once or on the same day. If you’re unable to use Facebook for posting, you can still send your daily tasks to hello@,thesuccesssmith.com to be included in the grand prize draw.
Stay engaged and share your insights, as this not only boosts your chances of winning but also enriches your experience throughout the challenge!
Q&A
Is there a way to bring more things into your control? (00:21:23.98)
Dr Victoria explores how we can expand what we can influence while minimizing our concern for things we can’t control. The speaker mentioned that sometimes, we categorize issues as outside our control (the neither column) when, with a closer look, we might have more influence than we think. By being accountable and seeking support, we can often find ways to address concerns we thought were beyond our reach. Recognizing and acting on our emotion regulation and preferred outcomes can help us bring a greater sense of control to our lives.
Can you help me understand how to maintain composure instead of getting overwhelmed by emotions? (00:33:5.29)
The speaker highlighted that achieving composure doesn’t mean completely suppressing emotions. Instead, it's about recognizing our feelings and understanding their purpose. The aim is to experience emotions fully enough to learn from them, but not to get stuck in them. Each emotion serves a purpose, helping us identify needs for action. When we feel overwhelmed, it's important to pause, allow the emotion to settle, and then respond thoughtfully, leading to more productive conversations, especially in relationships.
How can I increase my influence over situations that feel beyond my control? (00:23:38.58)
The discussion focused on increasing influence by first recognizing what is genuinely within our control. Dr Victoria illustrated that influence can often be about our response to circumstances rather than the situations themselves. They stressed the importance of self-mastery and learning how to respond constructively, suggesting that with practice, we can feel more empowered in situations that previously felt overwhelming. The key takeaway is to differentiate between what we can control and what we can influence and then increasing our capacity both to influence things and also to manage how we relate to those things we cannot influence.
What should I do if I still feel annoyances after keeping my composure? ( 00:39:2.06)
When managing emotions like annoyance, Dr Victoria suggests reflecting on whether further actions can be taken to align with our needs. They explained that sometimes, persistent feelings indicate that we haven't fully addressed a concern. It’s worthwhile to evaluate the situation, identify potential next steps, and utilize tools like the Sedona method to process emotions effectively. This approach helps release ongoing tensions and enables clearer communication with others.
Is it okay to change your intentions based on how you feel that day? (00:54:32.19)
Absolutely! Dr Victoria affirmed that it’s perfectly fine to adjust your intentions based on your emotional state. They explained that intentions should feel authentic and manageable. If setting a particular intention feels overwhelming on a given day, it’s better to choose a more fitting one, such as focusing on self-care instead of forcing positivity. The flexibility in intentions can help maintain a healthier mental space, aiding in emotional resilience.